La La’s Love Letters Dear LaLa, My husband and I have been married about a year and we are ready to start a family. The truth of the matter is as much as I want children, I’m not really sure I am the “stay at home” type and for the record I make the larger of the two By Lauren Strec incomes. I suggested that my husband consider taking on the full-time parenting role but he’s afraid all his buddies will think less of him. I told him who cares what they think! Am I being insensitive to his needs? If you made more money than your spouse, would you want your spouse to stay home with the kids? Suzy Not So Homemaker Dear Suzy, That just makes sense to me. Your outcome is obviously going to increase, so why would you decrease your income? His buddies are definitely going to give him shit for it, but if they’re really his friends, they’re not going to genuinely lose respect. After all, who wouldn’t want a sugar momma? A lot of the jabs are probably going to stem from envy! Your husband needs to realize that the jokes will eventually subside, and he should cater to logic, instead of pride. Either take the hit and be the subject of some temporary mockery, or take the hit financially, and not be able to live as comfortably or provide as much. Dear LaLa, OMG. I am dating this girl who is smart, funny and smoking hot! After 6 months of total perfection I thought I could really see a future in this relationship. But…a few weeks ago we started staying the night at one another’s place and BAM, there it was! From the minute she wakes up the girl is talking incessantly! If there is nothing I hate worse, it’s when someone starts to make me answer 100 questions the minute I wake up. Was this too good to be true or should I just throw some duct tape over her mouth before she wakes up? Please help! Peaceful Pete Dear Pete, Women do a lot of thinking... about everything. Now that you two have taken a step to be closer, she’s probably reaching out to connect further via conversation, and she feels more comfortable to share all the things in her head. If she’s talking more than the average female, you will have to do a little talking yourself: to simply tell her you need some time to wake up. Just say that you are really incoherent upon waking, and that you need to instill a rule that anything above small talk should take place an hour after you rise. Or you can do what every other guy does, and just space off with an occasional, “Uh-huh,” until she finishes talking about work, what she’s going to eat, animals, the weather, music, family…
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Dear LaLa, My boyfriend doesn’t last very long! I’m lucky if I get 5 minutes out of him. We are in college and we do it a lot in between classes, but the quickies aren’t quite cutting it for me (if you know what I mean). Any ideas on how I can make him last a little longer? Longtime Linda Dear Linda, Practice makes perfect. First thing you must do? SLOW DOWN. When classes are done for the day, and you have more time, have “start and stop” sex. Do it slowly for a minute, then have him stop to kiss your neck or explore other areas. This will not only help him to last longer, but it will bring you two closer. You can also tell him to picture his best friend’s butthole, when he thinks he’s getting closer to the big finish. I don’t believe there’s such a thing as a bad lover, because everyone can be taught. You’ll just have to play teacher for a bit. Dear LaLa, I have been friends with my best girlfriend since we were 6 years old and I love her with all my heart. She has her faults, but as do we all. So, I recently started dating this guy that I really like and I have noticed that whenever I have him around her she is practically throwing herself at him trying to get his attention. I’m really uncomfortable with her behavior and I don’t want her to be upset with me but I really am not cool with this. Is there a way to handle this diplomatically or do I just tell her to “knock the shit off bitch”?! Lucy Dear Lucy, Oh hell naw. That’s not cool, and you need to call her out. You two have been friends a long time, so it should not be a problem to pull her aside, and speak to her candidly to explain what she is doing. It’s possible that she doesn’t realize that she is wearing her emotions on her sleeve. Your guy must be a catch, and while she may not be able to help if she also finds him attractive, she can control her actions, and needs a reality check. Straight out tell her that you feel awkward when she does example A, B, and C. Follow up that you’re not trying to create tension between you two, and are just addressing a fact that needs to change. Afterwards, I would avoid social situation where the three of you are together, at least for a couple weeks.
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