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TIFFANY HAYWOOD BLACK WOMEN IN BUSINESS DOMONIQUE CLARK

A MOTHER'S LOVE

NESSY SANDERS

QUARANTINE TO DO LIST

TAMARA ZANTELL

RAISING A MOGUL

LETTER FOR MOTHERS +MORE

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Editor's Note

This magazine is for honoring mother's everywhere and acknowledging your strength, dedication, and undying spirt as mother's/ women are the cornerstone behind everything great! WayToParent Magazine has officially hit its 1yr anniversary since our launch. I would like to thank all the mother's on the WTP team and say thank you helping make this possible. I also want to acknowledge my #1 fan, supporter, counselor and best friend my Mother. Without you none of this would exist, from your encouragement for myself to write my first book to it growing into something much bigger that I never foresaw. I couldn't imagine it, but you did. So Thank you for everything mom. Love Blaine Sr.

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CONTENTS

43 Honey To Do List

46 College Or Not College?

50 Black Women In Business

4 Editor's Note 9 Dominique Clark

23 Tiffany Haywood MRSTEE

30 A Letter For Mother's 35 Tamara Zentall Raising A Mogul

Contributing Writers: Mashonda Waddell Jasmine Yates Terri King Hunt Anissa Danille Wright Marla Bautista

16 Nessy Sanders A Mother's Love

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By : Mashonda Waddell Do what you love and never work again in your life, or that’s what they say. Many of us have had the thought of leaving our career to pursue our passion, but something always holds us back. For the majority, it’s the fear of the unknown that keeps us in the same position.

Dominique Clark, wife of Wesley Clark, and mother of two stunning little girls, Zara Rae(4) Zoë Drew (7), pushed past that fear and left her job at Duke University as a Clinical Research Coordinator, to follow her calling and become a Certified Matchmaker and Relationship Coach.

Since then she has added many additional titles to her name including, Digital Strategist, Entertainment Journalist, Radio Host, On-Camera Host, and Author and we can’t leave out child of God, as she attributes most of her success to Him.

WayToParent had the chance to score an exclusive interview with Dominique where she shared her journey and the amazing life experiences she has encountered since making the decision to follow her dreams. Here’s a recap of our interview with the phenomenal Dominique Clark:

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How did you realize what your passion was and what led you to pursue it? A. I always thought I would become a doctor, however I changed my mind while deciding if I should attend PA school after receiving my acceptance letter. I realized I was surrounded by all these incredible medical professionals who had devoted their lives to academics and career success but when it came to love, they sucked. They were socially awkward and didn’t know how to date. They had invested so much time into their career that their social life took a hit.They admired my relationship with my husband and often asked how we were able to maintain our relationship for so many years. They wanted to know how I did that, so I started (just for fun) creating online profiles for them, and connecting some of them on the job. I realized that I was spending more time doing that than the actual job that I was getting paid to do. My boss even commented on how good I was at matchmaking. People started referring me to their colleagues and I was literally at a point where I had to decide whether I was going to pursue this career in relationships or continue to pursue medicine. My mom told me I was gifted and that the gifts and talents God had given me far exceeded the four walls I found myself in. I realized I had way more impact in helping people to see themselves in the way they should be seeing themselves and realizing the value they had to offer someone in a relationship outside of just their careers. I was also very good at connecting people and being able to determine who was appropriately aligned with each other. I knew that I had to be legit if I was going to do this as a career. I became a certified Matchmaker and Relationship Coach at the Matchmaking Institute in NY. I went on to get my MBA where I learned to market my business and scale it.

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What are some of the barriers you faced while pursuing your dreams? A. I started Matchmaking when I was in my early twenties, so I had to really prove myself and get people to trust that I knew what I was talking about. I accomplished this by getting them to see that if I was successful at creating my own healthy love story then I could also do it for other people.Another barrier was dealing with men who were very superficial. I would get a lot of men that would say “I’ll participate if the women look like you,” but that became a problem when I set someone up and they didn’t look like me. I had to get my clients to look beyond what they thought I could bring and just be open to connecting with a person with great integrity and great intentions when it came to love and relationships. I had to be honest with myself about who I wanted to work with, and it wasn’t about the dollar, but the character and integrity of the person and if their intentions were well. It wasn’t about if they could pay well or if they were good looking.

How do you balance being a family woman along with having a job that requires so much of your time? A. I can’t do any of this without the support of my family. They give me the space to do what I feel like God has called me to do. My children and my family are always first, ESPECIALLY my man. I don’t believe in balance per say, whatever needs to take precedence at the time takes precedence.Another thing about me is that I bring my family with me. My husband is my official camera guy, and if I have a set I bring my girls with me. I try to incorporate them in everything that I do so that they know they are a part of the journey and not just witnesses to it. I don’t know about balance but I prioritize and make sure that my family is included in everything I do.

What does a Matchmaking experience with you look like?

What has been the peak of your career so far?

A. When people sign up to work with me, we start with internal coaching. I’m partnered with Nordstrom in different cities, so they will meet with my personal shoppers at Nordstrom and they’ll help to develop an external look that matches who they really want to be. They do the makeup, the hair, and we do professional photo shoots. This is so when I am marketing them I’m presenting them in the best light. The best thing about my team is that they don’t make them look like someone else. I don’t want them to feel like, “Oh my God I have to get a makeup artist to go on this date because I don’t look the same.” They naturally enhance what they already have, and they teach them how to replicate the look themselves.When you sign up with me I’m not just helping you get a man, I’m helping you get over your limited beliefs. I’m helping you tap into your self worth so when you show up in the dating world or in life you’re unapologetic, you’re fearlessly asking for and expecting for what you want, and you see life and love from a place of abundance as opposed to a place of scarcity, because you believe you’re worthy of love.

A. I would have to say the things I’m doing in the media space now. Everything I did as a Matchmaker and Relationship coach led me here. The person who published my book was a radio host, and she said to me “Dominique I feel like you have such a great message and people need to hear it, how do you feel about doing radio?” I don’t have a radio, broadcasting, or communications background but I decided to be flexible and go with it. That’s how I ended up having my own radio show in Atlanta. The experience made me realize I was passionate about something I had no idea I was even good at. It gave me the opportunity to tap into another gift God had given me. It also allowed me to reach more people. It went from the radio to the red carpet, sitting down with celebrities and interviewing them. That is the highlight, realizing that we are multifaceted people and that God didn’t send us here to just do one thing. I’ve only been doing the media part for the last 3 years, but I’ve interviewed some of the most amazing people.

Tell us about your book, “She’s Valuable But Does She Know It.” What inspired you to write this? A. This book was motivated by my relationship and matchmaking business. I realized the women I worked with could tell me about their professional successes, their value and assets from a professional stance but personally they couldn’t do the same. The first question I ask anyone when they consult with me is “Why you, what makes you valuable, and what value do you add to a relationship?” They often struggled to articulate “This is why I’m valuable, this is why I’m worthy.” So I realized I needed to create something, write something as a guide to help women know that not only are you valuable but you matter and you’re enough. This inspired me to write the book, and with it I started leading talks across the country to predominantly women audiences talkin with the theme of self worth, self value, and self love. I host a She’s Valuable College Tour each Fall where I talk to young women at HBCU colleges about understanding their worth because this is the time when they are most susceptible to conforming and trying to figure out who they are and what they want to do in the world, so it’s really important for me to set the foundations and plant those seeds.

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What are some of the Media Outlets you have worked with? A. I started with Sheen Magazine as a journalist and was a cohost for their Kemmi Awards. While working with them I created a relationship column for them that continues today.I’ve also done work for BET AWards and TV One, Boss Magazine, Radio One, American Black Film Festival, just to name a few. I was scheduled to be at the Stellar Awards but it was postponed due to the coronavirus pandemic.

If your career progresses as you’d like, what will be the next step in your career? A. I started with Sheen Magazine as a journalist and was a cohost for their Kemmi Awards. While working with them I created a relationship column for them that continues today.I’ve also done work for BET AWards and TV One, Boss Magazine, Radio One, American Black Film Festival, just to name a few. I was scheduled to be at the Stellar Awards but it was postponed due to the coronavirus pandemic.

What advice would you give women who are trying to figure out what their passion is? A. Even though there are things we may not have experience with, we should show up, because we never know what God has in store for us, or where he wants to take us. It’s about saying yes to being available.

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Dominique's energy was amazing and it’s obvious that she puts her all into her work. If you’re a single woman or man interested in utilizing her services, and finding your perfect mate contact her at : contact@dominiqueclark.com. For those that have already found love but would like to follow her journey, she can be found on social media listed below.

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A MOTHER'S LOVE THE UNBREAKABLE BOND BY: MASHONDA WADDELL

There is nothing on earth that can compare to a mother’s love for her child. It’s one of the most powerful, yet gentle things that exists to mankind. A mother will go extreme lengths to protect this bond, allowing nothing and no one to EVER come between it. Once a child is born, it becomes the most important person in the world to its mother. Not everyone deserves the title “mother” but those who do, wear it oh so gracefully. Single mom, Nessy Sanders is one of those mothers, and she doesn’t have to tell you that she’s a great mother, it’s shown through the nurturing and unwavering support that she displays to her daughter, Phoenix Rose. At a young age the importance of family was instilled in Nessy. She was raised in Columbus, Mississippi, in a 2 parent home, along with her three brothers, where they were taught to always put God first and never let anything come between family.

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How is motherhood different for military moms? A. While pregnant with Phoenix Rose, I decided to convert active duty to Army Reserve. I was 31 when I gave birth. I was not mentally or emotionally prepared to spend countless hours away from her – nor was I willing to miss holidays and special moments. After hearing the regret from battle buddies, I knew I had to “adjust fire” and dedicate my ALL to Phoenix Rose. It was still challenging, driving four hours away, each month, for drill, but it was, certainly, better than being away, daily. I give love and support to all military moms and a special thank you to those who are working long hours and sacrificing memories as they selflessly serve our country.

Who is a person that has been influential in your motherhood journey? What lessons did that person teach you? A. My parents have been the most influential people, in my motherhood journey. Their strength, sacrifice and support has carried us. When my circumstances changed, they reassured Phoenix and I that we are loved and that everything would be okay. My parents have been the pillar that I have leaned on for guidance and support. Our family values reflect who we are and how we parent. My parents taught me love – the love of God, how to love myself, and a real example of what true love is.

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What’s your favorite way to spend quality time with your daughter? A. Quality time is one of the main reasons that I decided to be a stay-athome mom, during the first year of Phoenix Rose’s life. I did not want to look back and wonder, “When did this happen?” or “Where was I?” I did not want to regret missing major milestones and time with her. Anytime spent with my daughter is my favorite time. She is so special, and she is such a blessing. I love my baby girl.

Do you breastfeed, if so what is your breastfeeding goal? A. I am a PROUD breastfeeding mama! Phoenix and I are 13 months strong. I decided to breastfeed for the health benefits for both Phoenix, and me. It has not been an easy journey, but it has been rewarding. My first goal was six months, yet here we are, still going strong. Breastfeeding is a BEAUTIFUL thing! The bond that Phoenix and I have is indescribable, and I would not trade those long nights and pumping sessions for anything. My advice to expecting moms and new moms – JUST DO IT! It is something that only mothers can do, and it is absolutely priceless. For mothers who are unable to breastfeed, do not blame yourself. I hope that you still find comfort in bonding. The trust and love shared with your baby during feeding sessions are amazing!

"Motherhood was my REBIRTH. Phoenix Rose gave me a new sense of purpose and meaning." What advice would you give to other first time mothers? A. Parenting is the easiest thing to have an opinion about; however, it is the hardest thing to do. Do not allow your circumstances to define you or your journey. Being a single mother is the hardest, yet most empowering thing I have ever done. Here are a few tips that I can offer from my journey thus far – put God first, use your support system, believe in yourself, do not compare your journey to others, love your baby, and ALWAYS do what is best for your child. We are all fighting silent battles. If you are a single mother, I encourage you to not let that title define you. You are enough! You matter, and there is someone who cares about you! Kiss your baby and remind him or her that MOM HAS THEIR BACK!

What future plans do you have for yourself and baby Phoenix? A. I recently launched Phoenix’s clothing line, named Rebirth by Rose. She has also been doing some modeling at local fashions shows, and she received a casting call right before the corona outbreak. We hope to pick up with that after all of this is over. Nessa is building an empire not only for herself, but her daughter as well. Phoenix is very lucky to have her as a mother, and we can’t wait to see where they are in the next five years. We are certain that their names will be lights. If you want to keep up with Nessa and Phoenix they can be found on Instagram below.

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As we walk into Mothers Day, we want to celebrate a military wife who not only balances the military lifestyle but also keeps a strong hold on being a mother as well. Tiffany Haywood who is the ‘Tee’ behind TheMrsTee.com had to learn how to make “it” work anywhere she found herself, be it Hawaii, North Carolina or back to her hometown New York.

Tiffany has been acknowledged in magazines and blogs and was recently recognized as a Bunker Labs Roundtable: Military Spouse Founders. Tiffany has dedicated herself to sharing the knowledge she has learned through her blog journey.

Each time she made “it” work for her and her six children, people would inquire as to how she did “it”. So she created TheMrsTee.com her website and brand has become an Award Winning Lifestyle Blog created as a place to share her love of all things Faith, Family, Fashion, Food, Fun, Tech & Travel. She has influenced both the Blogging and Vlogging communities as a Brand Ambassador and has the opportunity to promote and support the brands she loves the most with her unique style and influence.

As a result she has also created a Blog & Brand Consulting company known as TiffanyHaywood.com. She gives easy to use tips and solutions to help others find their true success through their passions. WTP had the opportunity to get a little deeper and find out the secret on how she balances it all.

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“THE EXPERIENCES WE’VE HAD AS A FAMILY HAVE TAUGHT ME TO APPRECIATE THE IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE AND MAKING EACH MOMENT A LASTING MEMORY.”

Jasmine: How do you balance being a mother and a businesswoman? Tiffany: What is this balance you speak of…(laughs). No, but seriously. Finding a balance as a mom comes down to learning how to prioritize and schedule your life as well as the lives of your Kiddies. When I worked from home I was able to allow my children’s schedule to take the lead on when I worked. Yet now that I have added an office job into the mix, creating a schedule that allows for family, my 8-5 job, as well as my businesses, isn’t always easy. Learning to adapt and adjust as needed has helped. I have calendars and reminders set to help keep me on track and I also use a booking system to make sure I don’t accidentally double book myself with my clients or my job. I keep everything in my digital calendar which helps me be everywhere I need to be when I need to be there. Jasmine: When did you know that blogging was a passion of yours? Tiffany: I knew my blog was evolving into more than a hobby when I realized my words had an impact. They made a difference in what people thought on issues, products, events I realized I was establishing my influence and it’s value. Jasmine: What would you tell someone who doesn't quite know what their passion is? Tiffany: If you don’t know what your passion is don’t worry. It will find you. The moment you begin to do something and it starts to be the only thing you can focus on. When it’s growth, expansion and success are your focus regardless of money or outside influence - that is your passion. Don’t force it or try to claim what others do. Be you and do what comes to you naturally. You’ll know when it is more than a hobby. Jasmine: For someone who understands their passion, what are some tips you would give them to help them reach their goals? Tiffany: Don’t be afraid to do something new. There are times when your passion isn’t one that has been mapped out by someone else. You may be the trailblazer - the first of your kind - and that’s okay. It’s more than okay! Use your passion to push you into your goals. My advice to my clients when they begin to feel they need to be like, work like or think like everyone else instead of finding their unique “thing” and make that work for them!While Tiffany is continuing to grow her business she has made it known that whatever you decide to accomplish in your life, make sure it is something you are passionate about. To find balance while being a mother is like finding a needle in a haystack, it can be difficult, frustrating and feel impractical but it is possible. Don’t give up, continue to push yourself and remember that you’re not in it alone.

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A LETTER FOR MOTHER'S! KEEP PUSHING BY: JASMINE YATES

he tiredness you feel each day coming home from work. The

pressure you feel in getting everything done, pretending that you’re okay. Is it healthy? Is it healthy to be this sane when in reality you want to pull every inch of your hair out?

Is it okay to yell at everything that moves because you’re so frustrated with life that the only thing you’re capable of doing is lashing out. Are you so upset that you feel like your life is falling apart and each time you think you have it together something else comes up and makes you forget it all.

It’s the moment you feel like you just want to rest but then your child comes to your bed. What do you do when you want to be alone? Are you happy or depressed? I find these things replaying in my head. I don’t know if I should talk to you or just give you space. If I should ask for advice or keep it in my head. When things get complicated I run to you even when I already know what to do. It is the habit that I’ve built within myself that I always run with.

The ability to grow is what you taught me. I try to achieve and I pressure myself to do my very best because you’ve always shown me what you’re capable of giving me even when you’re tired and upset. You’re a human just like me, you created your own seed. So, I thank you.

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I want you to know that no matter how you’re feeling and the days that you want to give up, don’t. I’m rooting you on and you’ll always have me as your number one fan. So, to all the parents reading this, I want you to know, keep pushing. I know there are days where you no longer want to keep going, where you’re constantly telling yourself that there is no way you can keep this up.

I want you to take this from a daughter who has seen her mother and father go from having nothing at all, to being on top. The pressure will be there, those kids will be annoying at times but it’s the sweet moments when they’re asleep or they accomplish something that makes you want to sit back and just smile. Parenting is hard, it’s stressful and it’s definitely not a task for the weak. No matter where life is taking you, just know your child loves you. There were times growing up that I never quite understood what my parents were meant to teach me and why they did certain things to me, for me. The headaches they gave me, which I’m pretty sure I gave them migraines.

The calmness that they had, I appreciate it now. When we’re younger we don’t value what is being taught to us, we just see the bad. The things that we believe shouldn’t have happened. It’s when we are older that everything starts to make sense, things start falling into place. Now, they didn’t get everything right, there are some things that I had to learn for myself but like I said you’re human too, so I understand.

It’s the foundation that I have, the stern lessons that were embedded in me that made me into the woman I am today. Don’t let those guards down, don’t beat yourself up because you don’t feel like you’re the “best” parent because there’s no such thing. I’m here to tell you that you’re doing an awesome job and I love you. From a child to a parent, I say thank you.

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TAMARA ZANTELL, CEO

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TAMARA ZANTELL June 28, 2019 the doors opened. The music was playing; people were dancing and the energy

was high. Tamara recalls, “As I stepped into the room all I could see was a sea of Parent

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The parents and children in the room were attendees, at the first business conference of its kind and they were all there because one woman chose to do something that had never been done before. “My small team and I had brought all of these parents together, but it was no easy task. Many successful business coaches told me it couldn’t happen and others suggested it was too soon. But I knew it was my time, I knew it was their time [the parents in attendance] and I knew in my heart that it would happen.”

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And happen it did The Raising a Mogul Family Business Summit took place in June of 2019 at a family friendly hotel in Atlanta, Georgia. Over 150 families were in attendance. The significance of this business summit was its focus on helping Parent Managers and their Young Moguls learn to Launch, Scale and Profit from their family businesses. “As I looked around the room and tried to take it all in, tears filled my eyes, because once again, the creator reminded me that my resilience, faith and perseverance allowed yet another one of my dreams come true.”

Tamara Zantell is the CEO and founder of Raising a Mogul, the #1 Parent Manager Community on the planet! Raising A Mogul is a strategic brand management and consulting firm specializing in supporting, coaching, and the mentorship for young mogul brands and small businesses. As the mother of a highly successful Young Mogul herself (Tamara helped to establish her daughter’s Million Dollar business Zandra Beauty in 2009) Tamara is committed to helping parents and their children take their kitchen table hobby and turn it into million dollar brands. It’s an ambitious goal yes, but Zantell is no novice to lofty and ambitious goals.

While her story could easily be told from the perspective of great wins and amazing successes, the true story lies behind the scenes. Hers is a story of perseverance, resilience and strength. It is a story of a woman, a mother and a visionary, who consistently chose progress instead of excuses and continued to “get up” despite the many devastating blows.

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Tamara, who currently lives in Buffalo, New York was born in Boston, MA. She is number 5 of 8 children born to Reverend Dr. James and Zandra Lewis. Her commitment to family was instilled in her by her mother who always put their family first. Tamara has always been a brilliant and creative person, in High School, Tamara was a talented cheerleader, she was president of the national honor society, and was Vice President of the debate club. Mentorship has always been in her blood, she also served as a peer mentor and was also a liberty partnership mentor. She enrolled at the University at Buffalo and fell in love quickly. She married at the age of 22 and had her first son James. James was a beautiful child, however he was tiny and had a lot of health issues. After 2 years her marriage ended in divorce and she was left to care for her son alone. “I was scared. I was young, I was alone and I didn’t know what I was doing. My son was sick and I couldn’t figure out why.” Eventually, it was discovered that James had severe food allergies. “I cried for days, I felt so guilty, I felt like I had literally been killing my child with food. After I cried, I bought every book I could find and we made the adjustments.”

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Tamara often talks candidly about the power of manifesting your dreams; the ability to shift and rebuild. She is able to speak so candidly on the subject because she has had to rebuild numerous times. After her divorce she met James Cunningham, they married and had two children together. Theirs was a blended family and when they married they instantly became a family of 7. There were a lot of challenges, there always are in blended families, but the challenges became too intense for this young couple and they divorced after 4 years. Now Tamara was a single mother of 3. One child had severe food allergies and another had significant learning challenges. “I was managing my home and running a corporate office. I couldn’t find a school for my youngest son because no one knew how to help him so I was homeschooling him under the desk in my corporate office, managing million dollar accounts”

It was around this time that her daughter declared she wanted to be famous. “I am a dreamer and I want my children to know they can accomplish anything they want to accomplish so I became focused on helping her become a famous and successful business owner.” In 2009, she and James reunited and began the process of rebuilding their relationship. “The rebuilding of our relationship took a lot of kindness, forgiveness and patience. But we were committed to the process and the work was worth it. I guess that’s the lesson of life, if you’re willing to put in the work, the result is often worth it.” This truth would prove to be a powerful and important lesson, because in 2015, their family experienced another challenging blow. One that forced them to truly evaluate who they were and tested their faith.

Their son, who at the time was an extremely talented HS football star was wrongly accused of unsportsmanlike conduct. The situation spiraled so out of control that he was stripped of his national title and all of his Division 1 Football and Wrestling offers. The hashtag reinstate58 became so well known that National Public Radio (NPR) ran the story. “As a mother, my whole world was under attack, because my son was under attack. I felt as if we were in the fight of our life, he didn’t want to live and I didn’t know how to help. It felt like everything was crashing down around us.” Again, Zantell did what had become her practice; pray, meditate, and rebuild. “That situation really proved to us that individually we are strong, but as a family we are a force.” Through it all they continued to build Zandra Beauty. “In 2016, I realized there was too much on my plate and I had a decision to make. If we were going to move forward, I was going to have to give Zandra my full attention. In August of 2016, I chose to leave my multiple 6 figure career and consulting firm of 15 years and began to work full time for my 16year-old daughter.” Today Zandra beauty is a family run empire that is worth $2.5 million. Strength, resilience and faith. These are the words that describe the way Tamara Zantell has persevered through her journey. They are also the key elements that have allowed the Raising a Mogul community to become the success it is today. With over 2.5K members it has become a space which has helped hundreds of families launch, scale, and profit in their businesses. “It is the space I craved when we were building Zandra.

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It’s a space that did not exist. It’s a space that empowers parents and constantly reminds them that no matter who says their child is too young to sit at the business table, there is always a way.” The Community continues to grow, it now provides branding services, book launching and publishing services, expert training for parents and most recently a Young Mogul Prep School was launched to help young moguls take ownership of their business. Tamara is often quoted as saying “this is not child’s play, this is business” and that is exactly what she believes. This is why the Family Business Summit was so important to me. I wanted my community to see what was possible. I wanted them to believe that the manifestation of everything they hope for is possible. I wanted them to know that no matter how many times you get knocked down, if you have faith, if you dig deep, you will find that you are much stronger than you realized and much more resilient than you ever imagined.” As parents and entrepreneurs we are grateful that Tamara Zantell is the trailblazer she is. We are proud to honor the wife, the mother, the mentor, the visionary, the WOMAN she is. With women like Tamara Zantell fighting for our children and their legacy the world isn’t prepared for the deep and reverberating impact they are all about to make.

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TIME TO TACKLE THAT HONEY DO LIST by Marla Bautista

emember when you said you’d get to that home project when you had time off from work? Well, my friend, that day has come. Now is the perfect time to tackle those Pinterest projects you’ve been saving.

If you don't have any impending projects, you can use this time to deep clean some things around your home. That Tupperware cabinet isn't going to organize itself.

Dust off those tools and the lumber collecting dust inside your garage, and get to it. First things first. Identify what projects are a priority. Don’t take on new projects, if the towel bar in your bathroom is hanging on for dear life.

Dedicate an hour per day to household chores. Dusting, cleaning baseboards, and shampooing carpets, can all be accomplished between Netflix binges. Speaking of quarantine and chill. Did you know that streaming networks have offered new releases ahead of their times? I mean, even now we could all use a little break, right? Many thanks to the Disney Plus Gods.

Make a list of in-home projects, with the must-do items prioritized. It is important, especially during this time, to complete those pesky tasks that you've left lingering for weeks, months, or even years.

After that break is over let’s spark some joy. You’ve heard of Marie Kondo, right? If you haven’t, go back to the planet you came from. Just kidding. But seriously, Marie Kondo is an expert organizer.

She is an official tidying consultant whose entire purpose is to teach you how to incorporate mindfulness into the way you purchase, store, and accumulate things in your home. Check out her show on Netflix and do the Konmari! It’s a great time to learn new ways to organize your belongings. The show also gives you a chance to dig deeper into why you feel the need to have those things in the first place

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We’ve all been home for at least a couple of weeks now. The anxiety of our lives rapidly going back to normal has seemingly subsided, as we’ve realized our new normal. Use this time to recoup, reorganize, and reinvent things you otherwise wouldn’t have. What better time to do a household purge. Clean out those closets and drawers. Can I tell you a secret? I have over 100 pairs of underwear in my drawer and I wear about 7 of them. I know I'm not the only one, am I? I buy them because they're cute, or they look comfy, only to get home and be hugely disappointed. Do I discard them? Of course not, I keep them and buy more.

So you tell me, what's that one thing you've been collecting in your home that was never meant to be a collector's item? Fast food condiments, underwear, T-shirts, McDonald's toys or DIY materials? Whatever it is, use this time to realize its importance, or toss it. What about those smelly trash cans? How often do you clean them? Your outdoor trash cans attract insects, animals, and mold if not tended to on a regular basis. Every month, if not more often, you should be disinfecting them. With a little bathroom cleaner and a quick scrub, they'll be as good as new. Your indoor trash bins won't require nearly as much elbow grease as the outdoor ones, but they still need a little TLC.

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There are so many ways you can take advantage of this time in your home. Finish those DIY projects, do a little deep cleaning, and tidy up neglected areas in your home. You can do all of these things or none of them. But, however you decide to use this time, make it worth your while.

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Marla is the author of My Thoughts Abandoned, released in January of 2017. She is also a Freelance Writer, Blogger, and Speaker. She has written and been featured in many national publications including; NASCAR, Stars and Stripes, Military Spouse Magazine, and Military Families Magazine. Marla is also the Founder of The Bautista Project Inc. an organization that provides basic living essentials to homeless community members. To learn more about Marla, visit her website www.marlabautista.com.

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College or Not ToCollege? By: Anissa Wright, Family Finance Advocate

That is the question. And unfortunately for many high school juniors and seniors, the answer isn't quite clear. With August right around the corner, big decisions are being pondered by institutions, incoming freshmen, and returning scholars. But without a crystal ball, no one can foresee what the fall semester (or the entire 2020-2021 school year for that matter) will bring.

Some things to consider. First, colleges and universities have decided to cancel onsite visits for incoming students, which usually plays a huge part in how they select the schools they want to attend. While many universities have set up virtual tours, it is not the same; thus making final selections dubious. Also, for those schools looking to reopen in the fall, they may not be able to stay that way if Corona decides to emerge for another climatic performance. Many college professors (those over the age of 60) are amongst the most vulnerable population when it comes to the effects of the virus. Will they be enticed back into the classroom despite the potential health hazard? This makes holding online classes a very real option, and most schools are preparing for this scenario, albeit putting off making a final decision as long as possible.

This means that students who are looking to attend schools away from home may reconsider, possibly attending closer to home, if classes are going to be held remotely. Would the cost outweigh the benefit of attending their school of first choice? Some are even considering taking a gap year. However, with work options limited due to social distancing, an effective use of their time off may be limited.

Which leads to another concern. Money! Even before COVID-19, the cost of college has risen considerably sharper than family income. According to the Princeton Review: For college-bound students and their parents, a whopping 99% of families said financial aid would be necessary to pay for college and 87% said it was â&#x20AC;&#x153;extremely necessary,â&#x20AC;? according to The Princeton Review

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In addition, those students who demonstrate exceptional need can apply for the Supplemental Education Opportunity Grant, which provides additional monies, up to $4000 per student. While not all schools participate, you should check with your school's financial aid office to determine availability. Have your child apply for these resources as soon as possible by completing their FASFA application, if you have not already done so.

What about the admissions process? And while most schools are offering fee waivers for orientations and admissions applications, as well as extending the deadline for admissions and financial aid, this still does little to buffer the impact of tuition costs on the family purse during a pandemic sickened economy.

That being said, there are programs for your students to help cover some of the costs. Under the CARES Act, the Higher Education Emergency Relief Fund (HEERF) provides $7 billion to colleges that are to be specifically designated for emergency financial aid. In order to qualify, students must be a citizen or an eligible noncitizen with a Social Security number and high-school diploma. However, be aware that students enrolled in exclusively online-only programs on March 13, 2020, are not included in this relief package.

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Because students are relegated to finishing their last few months of school online for the Spring 2020 semester, many will be issued a pass or fail grade versus a lettered one. This undoubtedly poses the question of how colleges will view their academic standing when it comes time to apply for admission. Not to mention that SAT and ACT testing dates have been canceled for the summer. Will they be able to test in time to submit their scores? Out of all the concerns outlined in this article, this one has the most silver of linings. According to the majority of institutions surveyed, a pass or fail grading system will not prevent or have an adverse impact on your student's admissions application. However, it may be a good idea to describe how your final grades were calculated. In addition, colleges will look at academic performance prior to the pandemic to determine college readiness, as well as personal statements and essays. And while SATs are postponed, colleges have no plans to forgo their requirements for the 2021 school year. They will, however, take into consideration the availability of testing and determine application requirements as developments are made. Check here for the next SAT and ACT testing dates.

Finally, for those who play sports, NCAA announced changes in the academic requirements for incoming Freshman during the 2020-21 school year. All in all, there are many things you and your student will have to contemplate before making a final decision on how to move forward with college. Just know that you are not the only ones being challenged by this new normal. COVID-19 is an equal opportunity oppressor and its nefarious effects are ongoing. However, admission advisors, counselors and professors are working diligently to make lemonade from spoiled lemons. You should too. Stay informed and encouraged, there is light at the end of this tunnel.

Other resources for you: College Admission Experts video Admission Counselors Cultivating Equity and Peace Today (ACCEPT) Weekly Updates

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BLACK WOMEN IN BUSINESS By: Mashonda, and Jasmine The strength, the fire, the ambition and the ability to still be the best, despite the many obstacles they may face is the reason why we have to honor these women and women in general. WTP Lifestyle Magazine had the privilege of interviewing numerous African American women who not only have their own businesses, but a few of them are also outstanding wives and mothers. We have opened the floor to what many have silenced or are just apprehensive to speak on, the lack of knowledge and the discrimination that may go on with being African American and educated. Although some may not have come into contact with these types of issues, we still wanted to be able to help encourage anyone who is on the verge of building their business or simply continuing it. We asked the women questions pertaining to complications in having a business, the stress that it may cause and just general questions that will allow them tell their stories about being a Black Woman in Business.

“Listen to what God says, listen to the movement that he laid out on your chest. No one else is going to do what you’re here to do but you.”

Dr. Tiffanie L Davis Henry LPC, PhD, MA, ACST Dr. Tiffanie Davis- Henry is a licensed psychotherapist and certified sex therapist. She has participated in media appearances like The Revolution,which she was a co-host for, Daytime talk on NBC, Good Morning America, The View, Dr. Oz and the Chew. She has also been featured in magazines such as Essence, Men’s Health, Shape and Cosmopolitan. Like many of our women she juggles being a mother and businesswoman. Being the first black psychotherapist in Atlanta, Georgia, she learned how to manage her clients by knowing who she can and cannot help. Although she has her own practice, she experienced complications when it came to her appearance while being involved with television. “Her Experience: I worked for a lot of non-profit companies. I was always contemplating on being natural. I didn’t feel as confident as others, and with being on television I knew that it would be different. I knew that there was a certain look that they would go with. While being on television they already had a hairstylist provided for you, I normally would go in with my hair already completed so they wouldn’t have to do much because they didn’t really know how to do my kinky, coily hair. They would always get a weave or a wig and it was extremely damaging to my hair. There was one time when I came in with my hair in twists. The hairdresser that I was provided with was a white woman and she wanted to straighten my hair and told me that this is what they wanted even with having auditioned with my finger coils. As she was about to straighten my hair she proceeded to take a pencil and wrapped my hair around it while she flat ironed. I immediately got up and I called the executive producer to explain to her what happened and that she will never be allowed to touch my hair again. It sucks because in the television industry there aren’t a lot of African American hair stylists or makeup artists so you’re stuck with either doing it at home or taking your chances with someone who isn’t experienced and praying that they don’t damage your hair. You should never feel afraid to advocate for yourself. I was always scared to demand what I needed for my hair but you shouldn’t be.”

Her Advice: “Focus on your internal motivation. You have to want it for yourself. Just as if someone tells someone to quit smoking but then they start it back it's because internally they didn’t want to quit. I once had a business partner and he decided that he no longer wanted to remain in that field. But still with knowing that I had to do it all by myself I didn’t let it stop me. One monkey can’t stop the show. You have to want it for yourself, no one else. Also, you can’t let other people’s fear interfere with what you want to do. There are some people that I like to call “border bullies.” The will speak to you about their fear for what you want to do. They will tell you that you’re unable to reach it because they may not be able to. Listen to what God says, listen to the movement that he’s laid out on your chest. No one else is going to do what you’re here to do but you. So don’t let anyone steer you or place you in fear because they’re scared. Always make sure you’re steady going after your dream.”

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Shanika N. Johnson M.S, LPC Shanika N. Johnson, M.S, LPC, specializes in helping individuals cope with the stressors of balancing work, relationships, family demands and personal life. With five or more years of transforming the lives of children, adolescents and families, she is able to provide successful and effective counseling, coaching, and educational workshops for all individuals. She also serves children and teens ages 7-17 years old who are struggling with social and emotional behaviors such as severe temper-tantrums, teenage-rebellion, outbursts, physical and verbal aggression, ADHD, defiance, sexualized behavior and language.

Her Experience:“I remember having to explain to my supervisor why my attire fit differently from my colleagues, due to my body shape and curves which was uncomfortable and awkward for me but I had to advocate for myself. While I believe in dress code and there being a high level of professionalism displayed in the workplace; I do think that employers sometimes use their dress code to target women with curves and a shape.”

Her Advice: According to Shanika, becoming her own boss was one way to overcome racial injustice and gender bias. She declared, It was the best thing that I ever did, as it came with a lot of benefits including being able to charge my worth. The journey to reaching your goals is a dreadfully tedious one, that can be achieved through consistency and determination. Unlikely things may occur, during your journey, but don’t get discouraged and continue pushing towards your goals. My advice to anyone that experiences any type of discrimination is to always remain professional and advocate for themselves. It is my belief that sometimes we have to teach others how to treat us by educating them on who we are and what we will and will not allow.”

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Neshanta Davis, Expert Stylist NeShanta Davis, expert stylist who has styled women from Cynthia Bailey, Toya Wright, Lisa Raye and so many others, is the name behind Styleisshe.com.. NeShanta has always had a love for fashion and she became her own inspiration when she gave up her career in the US Air force to fulfill her dream as a fashion expert. With a BA in Fashion Marketing, NeShanta has the ability to create a look that best suits who you are. Her goal is to create an image that will leave your self esteem “unshakable” and she doesn’t mind getting her hands a little dirty to clean up your image.

Her Experience: “I’ve had more than my fair share of complications and setbacks while trying to make it in the fashion industry. I’ve dealt with everything from bad business partners to failed ventures. You would think your family and friends would be your biggest supporters, I’ve learned that they will set you up for disappointment. Instead you’ll find your biggest supporters to be total strangers.I allowed my fear to set me back, I didn’t recognize my worth until 2017/2018 and it was then when I began to take bigger risks and they have been paying off ever since.”

“I have created a brand around being true and authentic to whom I am. I realize that what I offer isn’t for everyone and I am perfectly ok with that.” Her Advice: The biggest piece of advice I can give anyone trying to make it is be consistent. No matter what goes on you have to show up and show out. Be transparent and authentic with your audience so they can learn to trust you. Once they trust you, they will support you and your business.

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Crysten Wells, Personal Chef Crysten Wells, also known as the Lipstick Chef, is a 26 year old personal chef who graduated from the Art Institute of Atlanta. Her passion for food has always been a place of peace for her. While working in many restaurants, Crysten decided to step out of her comfort zone and started sharing her dishes with the people. She creates meals for anniversaries, birthday’s or just a day to day meal plan. While wearing all different shades of lipstick, hence the name, Crysten not only makes beautiful meals but she gives people hope in every bite. Her Experience: “I’m a black woman with dreadlocks that have been brown, dirty blonde, and red as well as black and blue. I have seven piercings (all in my ears) and I have one visible tattoo. With all that being said, I don’t think I’ve been affected by my appearance. I’m sure if I have, then there is a reason I don’t work for that company. But because you look before you get a chance to know or hear someone, you just have to make the best impression, every time.”

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“Prayer without work is dead. You can pray & ask for whatever you want from whomever your higher power is but if you don’t put the time in, it won’t work.” Her Advice: “Trust the Process. Write out your short-term & longterm goals & write down the steps to reach each goal. Every month there should be a different goal to reach, either by the end of that month or by the end of the year. Give yourself time to create and organize. Do your research. Research will take up time but if it is something you are truly passionate about, it will be worth it. Don’t forget to drink water & eat at least two times a day (that sounds silly but with all that may be going on in life, eating three to five meals a day can literally seem impossible). Remember your why & let that be your reason to keep moving forward.”

Jemi Moore, Consultant Jemi Moore has many traits whether it’s being the owner of Off The Beaten Path coffee shop, located in Winston-Salem, NC or being a mentor to not just one but many individuals. Jemi is the true definition of an entrepreneur. She is the owner/founder of Alliciant Consultancy Group, A Community Activist, Life Coach, Mentor, Community Strategist, Public Network developer, Public Speaker and in hopes of being a published author. She grew up around women who not only helped create the serial entrepreneur that she is but they helped her understand that not every success will meet society’s expectations. While still climbing her way to the top Jemi Moore has opened eyes in many individuals and continues to do so with every person she connects with. Her experience: In some of my business ventures I am often the only woman or the only person of color—minority—in the room. Not frequently, but at times, this has led to a change in energy; where instead of acknowledging that my cultural difference enhanced the depth and meaning of our collective purpose; people chose to try and force “assimilation,” ignoring those differences. This created the elephant in the room syndrome. Even worse, there have been instances where I felt that because of my gender, age, and appearance I had to prove myself to my counterparts as if my accomplishments and experience were not validation enough. Likewise, people have refused to engage in projects involving me because of their perception based on my appearance. That of course was their loss (shrugs shoulders). I also feel that prior to being a consultant and a business owner, my gender especially affected my pay. My pay was always on pace with women colleagues in similar positions and with similar experience, but not so much with our male counterparts. In my current field of expertise, and the role I play, I am paid according to my skill set, and fairly in comparison to all my colleagues. 57 | WAYTOPARENT MAGAZINE

Her advice: Limitations are a mindset. If you believe you can’t, well then….. you can’t. Not everyone in your space is on your team. Learn to know who is rooting for you to succeed. Anyone that isn’t doesn’t belong in your mix. Surround yourself with successful and success driven people. Never be afraid of a challenge nor a good person who challenges you because this builds resiliency and enhances your critical thinking. “No” is also a mindset and not a perpetual state of existence. It may be a no today and a yes tomorrow; a no over here but a yes over there. I also learned it's ok to walk away. As I mentioned before, I try to never burn bridges but will not overstay my welcome in any situation. I have also learned that money and notoriety are not the keys to success for everyone, all the time. So, by measuring success solely on those premises, we miss out on some pretty amazing people doing some amazing things. WTP Lifestyle Magazine appreciates each woman who was open enough to share their story. We want to say that no matter what road you take, whether it be a sex therapist, mental health specialist, personal chef or a fashion expert that whatever you choose to do in your life that you do it WELL. Don’t let the challenges or the lack of self confidence sway you into negative thoughts or the thoughts of uncertainty. If these ladies haven’t helped you to understand everything one thing is for sure they helped you understand that your passion is your tool. For any business venture, you will have moments where it may feel heavy. The thought of giving up may come into play but to have the ability and strength to continue to push on is where the beauty lies. Your passion and drive is what is going to make your life exactly the way you pictured. So to all my sisters, rise up and continue to be a Black Woman in Business.

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Nakayla Leggett is an inspirational speaker transformational coach and mental health therapist from Elizabethtown, NC. She is a best selling author of, “Mama Why is my Flower Wilting?” and “Unchain Me Mama: The Forgiveness Factor”. Through personal struggles that date back to childhood Nakayla’s path to healing also unlocked a love for uplifting others. One of her specialty populations are millennials due to their struggles navigating societal norms while disrupting generational curses. Nakayla received her graduate degree from North Carolina State University and an undergraduate degree from Winston-Salem State University. She currently works as a Behavioral Wellness Counselor in a medical facility. Nakayla promotes wholehearted healing to individuals and families.Nakayla is married to her high school sweetheart and has three small children.

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