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(JTA)—Mel Brooks’ new HBO special is a departure from the comedian’s typical belly-laugh fare. In place of the slapstick gallows humor—though there’s plenty of that, too, in Mel Brooks Unwrapped—is a more introspective, documentary-style reminiscence of his nearly 60-year career. “You got it right on the nose,” Brooks says in a phone interview. “It is kind of a walk through my life, a memoir. Some of it is funny, and some of it is moving and touching. It’s a very different kind of behind-the-camera look at me.” Now 93, could it be that his advancing age accounts for the change of tone? “It probably does,” he says, adding quickly, “But I’m not as old as Carl Reiner.” Originally a BBC production, Mel Brooks Unwrapped is the work of Alan Yentob, the British network’s former creative director. Brooks is more wizened than in the earlier clips, but still physically active and mentally as sharp as ever. He even drives. Yentob’s camera shows him driving to the supermarket, picking up some fixings and heading to Reiner’s house to cook dinner. Reiner, 97, is Brooks’ longtime collaborator and comedic partner, and Brooks says they visit once or twice a week. But cooking dinner isn’t a regular thing. Normally it’s Reiner’s housekeeper who makes the food. Brooks claims to be there only for the free meal. Brooks himself needs no introduction. He is one of only 15 people to earn an EGOT—an Emmy, Grammy, Oscar and Tony. Over the course of his decades in showbiz, his work—including the 1974 classic Blazing Saddles, the various incarnations of The Producers, and dozens of other films, television shows and comedy albums—has won him countless honors. In 2016, he won a National Medal of the Arts from President Barack Obama. But Brooks isn’t just a veteran of show business, he’s also an old hand at the interviews that go along with the trade. He insists he never gets bored answering

the same questions again and again. “I couldn’t be who I am if I didn’t love the questions and making up answers and lying about my life,” Brooks says. “When you’re a comic in the Mountains, you have to be prepared for anything.” The mountains, of course, are the Catskills, where thousands of New York City Jews used to escape the summer heat. Brooks, a Brooklyn native, got a job as a dishwasher at a Catskills resort as a teenager. Later he was allowed to perform some routines he had written. Brooks and Reiner achieved early acclaim in the 1950s writing and performing on Sid Caesar’s Your Show of Shows and its follow-up, Caesar’s Hour. Success after success followed, including the spy spoof Get Smart that Brooks co-created with Buck Henry. You can take the boy out of Brooklyn, you can’t take Brooklyn out of the boy. When the subject of his early years in the borough comes up, you can almost hear Brooks break out in a smile as he recounts his childhood memories. “I remember my mother washed the floors,” he says. “Then she’d spread the newspaper down, the [Yiddish daily papers] Freiheit or the Forverts, to help the floor dry. Once my brother Irving came in and walked on the papers. I was about 5 and I yelled at Irving, ‘You’re cursed. God is going to kill you.’ I thought because the papers were written in Hebrew Yiddish, I thought the words were sacred.” Brooks’ trademark Borscht Belt style owes everything to his childhood growing up in the heavily Jewish tenements of Brooklyn. “I didn’t know any other life,” Brooks says. “When you grew up in Williamsburg and somebody goes by you who’s not Jewish, you feel sorry for them. I thought the whole world was Jewish—until I got into the Army.” “What you’re doing will work out,” Brooks says. “You always worry that you’re gonna fail. I got news for you: You didn’t fail.”


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BRIEFS New woman’s leadership award named for Ruth Bader Ginsburg A woman’s leadership award has been established in the name of Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who will personally present the first one. The Dwight D. Opperman Foundation announced the new Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg Woman of Leadership Award in honor of Ginsburg’s “exemplary career and life,” the foundation said in a statement. The award will “recognize an extraordinary woman who has exercised a positive and notable influence on society and served as exemplary role model in both principles and practice.” Ginsburg will present the award to its first recipient at a ceremony in February at the Library of Congress in Washington, D.C. “Justice Ginsburg is a hero of our time. Her influence is felt far beyond the corridors of power, and she is an inspiration to women and girls around the world,” foundation chair Julie Opperman said in a statement. Before his death in 2013, Dwight Opperman donated more than $150 million to various legal causes. (JTA) Immigration to Israel should pass last year’s numbers The number of immigrants to Israel this year is on the way to topping the 2018 figures, according to the government. Some 27,300 people have made aliyah through October, according to figures released by the Central Bureau of Statistics, the Times of Israel reported. In all of 2018, more than 28,000 olim moved to Israel, an increase over the previous year. However, 2018 also marked the first time in Israel’s history that Jewish immigrants to Israel were outnumbered by non-Jewish immigrants. Such immigrants, hailing largely from the former Soviet Union and Baltic states, count Jewish ancestry, but are ineligible to marry as Jews, for example, under the state-controlled rabbinic court system. According to a report on the Israeli news website Ynet, 3.3 million people have immigrated to Israel since 1948. Around 44 percent of them have come since 1990.

In the same 1990-2017 period, 574,000 Israelis moved abroad and only about half returned. (JTA)

Boris Johnson to push anti-BDS agenda British Prime Minister Boris Johnson is expected to pursue an anti-Israel boycott policy after winning this month’s general election. The Times of Israel reported, citing a report in the British daily newspaper, that the Conservative Party leader included the issue among those he presented to the queen to cite during her speech when she opened the session of Parliament after the election. The platform of the ruling Conservatives endorsed legislation that would “ban public bodies from imposing their own direct or indirect boycotts, disinvestment or sanctions campaigns against foreign countries” because such policies “undermine community cohesion.” Johnson’s Conservatives handily defeated the opposition Labour Party led by Jeremy Corbyn, gaining 365 of the 650 seats in Parliament to some 202 for Labour. The Conservatives gained 48 seats from the 2017 general election and Labour lost 60 in its worst showing since 1935. Corbyn, a fierce critic of Israel, had promised to recognize Palestine and cease arms sales to Israel if elected. Under Corbyn, anti-Israel and anti-Semitic attitude has proliferated in Labour ranks, placing the party under scrutiny in the Parliament, the media and in a probe by the Equality and Human Rights Commission, a government watchdog. (JTA) Trump introduces Robert Jeffress, pastor who says Jews are going to hell, at White House Hanukkah party Robert Jeffress, a pastor who has said Jews and other non-Christians were destined for hell, was a guest at President Donald Trump’s Hanukkah party. Jeffress, who is pro-Israel, was invited to Trump’s signing of an executive order on Wednesday, Dec.11 that would withhold funds from schools that allow anti-Semitism on their campuses, including some forms of anti-Israel activity. The

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White House Hanukkah parties were on the same day. “Robert Jeffress, I see you right here,” Trump said at the first of two parties. “And what a tremendous faith leader you are and a tremendous man you are. Pastor, thank you for being here so much, also. We appreciate it.” Jeffress has preached for years that non-Christians (which includes Mormons, according to his theology) may be good people, but nothing but the acceptance of Jesus as God saves one from an eternity in hell. “Not only do religions like Mormonism, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism, not only do they lead people away from the true God, they lead people to an eternity of separation from God in hell,” he said in 2009. Sen. Mitt Romney, R-Utah, called out the Trump administration last year for inviting Jeffress to give the convocation at the opening of the U.S. Embassy in Jerusalem. In his defense at the time, Jeffress said his views were commonplace among evangelical Christians. Jeffress posed for a photo at the party with Alan Dershowitz, a leading pro-Israel advocate and prominent attorney. Trump is thinking of adding Dershowitz to his impeachment defense team. (JTA)

Netanyahu can keep prime minister’s post despite indictments Benjamin Netanyahu may remain prime minister of Israel despite his indictment on corruption charges. Responding to a lawsuit seeking Netanyahu’s ouster, Israel’s Supreme Court said it was not practical to rule on the issue because a prime minister’s resignation would bring about new elections, which are already scheduled. During the run-up to the election, the court noted, the outgoing prime minister remains in his job. Also Thursday, Dec. 12, Netanyahu told the high court that he would resign his other ministerial posts by Jan. 1. He also serves as minister of agriculture, Diaspora affairs, health and welfare. Attorney General Avichai Mendelblit said he would force Netanyahu to resign

the ministerial positions if he did not voluntarily. Under Israeli law, a sitting prime minister charged with a crime is not required to step down. Resigning from other ministerial posts became requisite in 1993 when the Supreme Court ruled that then-Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin needed to fire minister Aryeh Deri after Deri was accused of taking bribes and having an indictment filed against him. (JTA)

Website that called impeachment inquiry a ‘Jew coup’ covered AIPAC conference The two Jewish Democrats who want to know how TruNews got into a 2018 news conference with President Donald Trump might also want to give AIPAC a call. After the Jewish Telegraphic Agency reported Tuesday, Dec. 10 that Reps. Ted Deutch of Florida and Elaine Luria of Virginia were calling on the White House to condemn and shun TruNews, its founder, Florida pastor Rick Wiles, wrote to suggest that JTA ask AIPAC why it had granted the site press credentials. Wiles last month called the impeachment inquiry against Trump a “Jew coup” and is known for his anti-Semitic conspiracy theories. JTA asked the American Israel Public Affairs Committee, and sure enough, TruNews was accredited to the powerhouse pro-Israel lobby’s 2018 annual conference. “Among the hundreds of media outlets that received credentials last year, this outlet received them,” an AIPAC official told JTA. “However, this outlet will not receive press credentials in the future.” In a video posted to the TruNews YouTube channel on Nov. 22, Wiles made the “Jew coup” comment and said that Jews also will “kill millions of Christians” after they overthrow Trump. At the news conference last year, TruNews asked Trump about the IsraeliPalestinian conflict. A White House spokesman, responding to a JTA inquiry, said that TruNews was not permanently credentialed to the White House and would not comment as to whether it would be allowed in going forward. (JTA)

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We need to thank the unsung heroes keeping American synagogues safe Jason D. Greenblatt

WASHINGTON (JTA)—When I was about 19 years old, I took my first trip to Europe. I marveled at its beauty, its culture, its history and its architecture. On this trip and many others that followed, I shed many tears as I visited the numerous synagogues, Jewish museums, and areas of historical importance which commemorated the horrors and evil that were perpetrated upon the Jewish people in so many parts of the continent during the Holocaust. That initial trip to Europe and each of my many subsequent trips—first with friends, then my wife, and then with my wife and six children—mostly were wonderful experiences. Yet it was inevitable that each trip had its dark, gloomy and mournful parts. I was also disconcerted by the police or private security presence at so many of the synagogues I visited. I was sad, confounded and upset to see that such a presence was needed on a continent on which 6 million Jews were brutally slaughtered. How is it possible, I wondered, that in cities and countries where the land is so stained with Jewish blood after a targeted, systematic attempted annihilation of the Jewish people that European synagogues would need such protection? I took comfort, naively it would appear, that in my own country, there was no need for such security measures. I grew up in New York City, and other than the occasional rough anti-Semitic comment here or there, I was fortunate to have personally experienced virtually no anti-Semitism. The synagogues I attended had little to no visible security protocols in place. The large and extremely serious security challenges and danger we face today did not exist. Of course, we are not alone in experiencing these challenges and danger. In the last number of years, churches, mosques and synagogues around the world— including in our great country—have been attacked. An analysis of why this is happening would take volumes. My purpose in

writing is instead to express deep appreciation. Thank you to the men and women of our law enforcement, who each day put their lives at risk to protect us in our homes, our schools, our communities and, as has been the case in Europe for many years, our synagogues. And of course, we must all express our deep gratitude to our friends and neighbors who volunteer for the Community Security Service and Secure Community Network, organizations that train and watch over us in our synagogues so that we can pray safely and connect with God. Last Shabbat when I arrived at my synagogue, I greeted our CSS volunteers and one of them pointed out that in the wake of the horrific attack in Jersey City days earlier, they were now wearing bulletproof vests. Let that sink in a moment. These volunteers not only watch over us, but the risk to them has grown so much that they must now wear bulletproof vests to protect themselves while they protect us. We can spend countless hours speaking about hate and anti-Semitism, and we should. We must expose this pernicious hatred and fight it with all our might. But as important, we should spend time thanking our brave and wonderful law enforcement and the volunteers from our own communities who have taken this holy task upon themselves to protect us, our loved ones and our synagogues from harm and danger. Now more than ever they deserve our gratitude, respect and prayers for their safety and well-being. To my friends and neighbors who volunteer for CSS, and to all CSS and SCN volunteers across the country, may God keep you and your families safe and healthy, and may God bless you for your efforts. Thank you for your service. You are all heroes! Jason Dov Greenblatt is assistant to President Donald Trump and Special Representative for International Negotiations. The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of JTA or its parent company, 70 Faces Media.

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The Tell: Executive order disorder Ron Kampeas

WASHINGTON (JTA)—’Tis the season for so much news! In addition to another deadly attack on U.S. Jews, a much-anticipated British election and the announcement that Israel is going to have a third election in less than a year, President Trump issued an executive order on anti-Semitism. Let’s break down that last one.

Defining Jews, defining anti-Semitism President Donald Trump issued an executive order on Wednesday, Dec. 11—in time for his annual Hanukkah parties— directing “robust” enforcement of existing civil rights protections for Jews on campus. Trump cites Title VI of the 1964 Civil Rights Act, which prohibits federal funding

for discriminatory programs. He says “students, in particular, continue to face anti-Semitic harassment in schools and on university and college campuses.” The order represents a significant change in policy, having to do with how one defines anti-Semitism and how anti-Israel activism plays a role. But that change isn’t what initially dominated the news cycle: The order was leaked the previous day to the New York Times, which mangled it and said it would define Jews as a nationality. The order does not define Jews in any way. Rather it says that attackers target Jews because they perceive them to be a race or having a shared national identity. “While Title VI does not cover discrimination based on religion, individuals who face discrimination on the basis of race, color, or national origin do not lose

protection under Title VI for also being a member of a group that shares common religious practices,” it says. Why wouldn’t a religion alone be subject to protections? Because of the thorny establishment clause issues that could come up—a campus that allows proselytizing, for instance, could conceivably be targeted for sanctions. “On the basis of” does not mean the perception of Jews as a race matches reality. The Obama administration’s Education Department did a better job of making this clear in 2010 when it covered similar territory in a letter to universities. “While Title VI does not cover discrimination based solely on religion, groups that face discrimination on the basis of actual or perceived shared ancestry or ethnic characteristics may not be denied protection under Title VI on the

ground that they also share a common faith,” the letter said. Still, read closely, it is clear that Trump’s executive order did not advance a new definition of “Jew.” It’s the social media age when you have to push out your opinion before you get the facts, so there was an explosion of Jewish anxiety on Twitter about what the designation of Jews as a “nationality” would mean. While the initial reports misread the executive order, it still means a significant change for U.S. policy. Unlike the 2010 Obama administration directive, the Trump order refers to an outside source for its definition of anti-Semitism: The one adopted in 2016 by the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance. The IHRA definition includes certain forms of anti-Israel activity as

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nation anti-Semitism and also makes clear that criticism of Israel is not in and of itself anti-Semitic. Trump’s order alludes to these, instructing officials to consult the section of the IHRA definition that includes them. “Contemporary Examples of Anti-Semitism,” “to the extent that any examples might be useful as evidence of discriminatory intent.” So, will it change anything? Almost as soon as Trump signed the order, Rep. Denver Riggleman, a Republican from a district in Virginia covering Charlottesville, wrote to Education Secretary Betsy DeVos asking her to review federal funding for Georgetown University’s Center for Contemporary Arab Studies. Riggleman, who ran a hard-fought race against Leslie Cockburn, whom Republicans had accused of being anti-Semitic for a book she wrote in the 1990s questioning the U.S.-Israel relationship, does not directly cite Trump’s order, and

refers to Title VI of a separate law, the National Defense Education Act of 1958, which allocates federal funds to universities for the study of foreign languages and cultures. But nearly all of his complaints in the five-page letter have to do with anti-Israel activity. “To remedy this unacceptable situation, I urge the Department of Education to undertake a thorough review of CCAS’s activities to determine how Title VI funds are spent on such undertakings, and whether or not they are in accordance with statutory mandates,” he wrote. Were DeVos to take up Riggleman’s request, the Trump administration would likely face First Amendment challenges: The offenses Riggleman cites, based on research by the conservative Middle East Forum, seem entirely based on Georgetown staffers’ speech outside the confines of the classroom, signing petitions and letters. It’s not clear how that would create a hostile environment inside

the classroom. The same goes for the presence on the center’s board of several officials of Persian Gulf states that are close U.S. allies. In one case, Riggleman slams a center official for defending Hanan Ashrawi, a Palestinian Authority official. The Trump administration’s former chief peace negotiator, Jason Greenblatt, has chided Ashrawi for not speaking with U.S. officials, something a Georgetown lawyer would likely raise. As weak as Riggleman’s letter may be, it underscores how Trump’s executive order may be used going forward and the vexing issues it will inevitably raise. Critics of using the IHRA definition as law (rather than simply as a tool to understand anti-Semitism) cite one of its examples of anti-Semitism involving Israel as too vague to meet any legal standard: “Applying double standards by requiring of it a behavior not expected or demanded of any other democratic nation.”

In Other News Season of lights: It’s Hanukkah, which means parties in Washington. Trump held two on Wednesday, Dec. 11 and included, intuitively, Jewish supporters like Robert Kraft, who owns the New England Patriots, and Austin Polonsky, a charming 12-year-old Trump supporter from San Francisco who sported, to the president’s delight, a red Trump yarmulke. Also present was Alan Dershowitz, the civil rights lawyer and pro-Israel icon who is rumored to be joining Trump’s anti-impeachment team. Less intuitively, Robert Jeffress, the pastor who once condemned Jews, Mormons and others to hell, was there as well and posing on Twitter with Dershowitz. We’re sure the Harvard law prof and big-time Israel defender was not asking directions. Other guests included three Jewish Democrats from districts that traditionally continued on page 8

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December 22, the first night of Hanukkah, was also the 40th year that American Friends of Lubavitch (Chabad) lead the lighting of the “national menorah” on the ellipse. Rabbi Levi Shemtov, the group’s executive vice president, marvels at how universal the practice is now. Menorah lightings once drew the ire of Jewish civil liberties groups. In the 1980s, Bernie Sanders as mayor of Burlington, fought the ACLU to keep a menorah near City Hall. (You read that right.) But now they are so commonplace, a nondenominational Havurah on Capitol Hill is also running a public menorah lighting, and in 2012, the Reform movement’s Religious Action Center asked for (and got) tickets to the Chabad menorah lighting for a group of high schoolers in Washington for a conference. “The Jewish community in the 40 years since the national menorah has been lit has now internalized and practically implemented on a universal basis the concept of pride and celebration of the miracle of Hanukkah,” Shemtov says. Snowbirds beware: Greg Steube, the Republican who represents Florida’s 17th District (covering Tampa) in Congress, does not like New Yorkers, and suggested his fellow Floridians were also not thrilled with the breed. At impeachment hearings on Monday,Dec. 9, Steube assailed Democrats on the Judiciary Committee for letting Barry Berke, a staff counsel, to lead question of witnesses. He mentioned Berke’s hometown three times in two minutes. “Mr. Berke is an unelected New York lawyer…Mr. Berke is a white-collar criminal defense lawyer who brags on his website of getting New York financial brokers deferred prosecution for tax fraud… My fellow Americans and Floridians watching this charade, this is who is sitting on top of the dais next to the chairman acting like a member of this committee, a

partisan New York lawyer.” Rep. Ted Deutch, a Jewish Democrat and also a Floridian, asked for a point of order to ask Steube why he thought it was so important that Steube was from New York. Jerry Nadler, the committee chairman, would not allow the point of order. Asked if his question had to do with Berke being Jewish, Deutch says It did. “Given the spike in anti-Semitism, I wanted to give my colleague the chance to clarify why he chose those words because I know how they can be understood by others,” Deutch said in an email. Steube says that was ridiculous. “It’s ridiculous to think my comments were anything but aimed at liberal Democrats who will stop at nothing to impeach this President,” he said in an email. Not helping the optics was the GOP chairwoman, Ronna McDaniel, who posted on Twitter a photo of Speaker Nancy Pelosi and the five chairmen of committees leading the impeachment, deriding them as “3 liberals from California, 3 from New York, and 1 from Massachusetts.” Another way to describe them would be three women, including an African-American, and three Jews. What’s in a name: The dead suspect in a shooting attack on a kosher market in Jersey City was a Black Hebrew Israelite— but that term covers a range of views and beliefs, from black supremacist and anti-Semitic to Judeophilic. Less confusing is the Groypers, a movement that is all-anti-Semitic and hoping to remake conservatism in its image. Worth a Look Danny Zaken, a journalist at Kan Israel Radio, writes in Al-Monitor about how popular Israeli Mizrahi recording artists are (unwittingly in some cases) becoming a bridge between Israel and its Arab neighbors, thanks in part to Palestinians who spread their music. Share your thoughts on The Tell, or suggest a topic. Connect with Ron Kampeas on Twitter at @kampeas or email him at

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Open a Donor Advised Fund Use this “bunching” strategy to claim the charitable deductions in 2019 and spread distributions to charities over several years, on your own timeline. If you make regular and recurring charitable gifts each year, it’s a great time to establish a Donor Advised Fund (DAF) with Tidewater Jewish Foundation (TJF). For a limited time, when creating a new DAF through TJF with at least $7,500, TJF will match your gift with an additional $2,500 for a total fund balance of $10,000 or more—which means your investment goes even further. A DAF allows you to make charitable contributions to your fund at any time AND retain the ability to make distributions to charitable organizations of your choice ( Jewish or non-Jewish). (foundation. open-a-donor-advised-fund) The process is now easier than ever with TJF’s new online Donor Advised Fund Application/Agreement. Invest in Charitable Insurance Thanks to matching funds, TJF donors are turning a $25,560 “investment” in tax-deductible insurance premiums (annual gifts of $2,556 paid over 10 years) into $250,000 for the Jewish community. Charitable Insurance can be used to make a significant philanthropic impact in the community for future generations. Tidewater Jewish Foundation currently offers a 35% match of premiums for specific types of policies. This is an excellent way for donors to endow their Annual Campaign gift. A DAF may be used to fund charitable

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securities with unrealized gains (meaning they were purchased more than one year ago and have a current value greater than their original cost), may be donated to a public charity (such as TJF) and you get a tax deduction for the full fair market value of the securities—up to 30% of your adjusted gross income. Any publicly traded appreciated securities may be gifted directly into an existing or newly established TJF fund, including a Donor Advised Fund. Since the securities are donated rather than sold, capital gains taxes from selling those

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Year in review

Jewish Tidewater 2019 Terri Denison and Lisa Richmon


he final year of the decade witnessed another robust year for Tidewater’s Jewish community—one filled with elation, intellectual stimulation, fun, and grief. A few highlights, as well as low points, for the community follows.


attend the talk at the Sandler Center on Thursday, January 31. As part of its 100th Anniversary Giving Campaign, Kaufman & Canoles donates $500 to Jewish Family Service of Tidewater.

FEBRUARY 2019 Artist-in-Residence Hillel Smith leads workshops and discussions on contemporary Judaica.

Heading Home: The Tale of Team Israel

The once fledgling Team Israel’s transformative journey that led to competing in the World Baseball Classic is celebrated in the film, Heading Home: The Tale of Team Israel. The film opens for the 26th Annual Festival of Jewish Film. Seth Kramer, director, and Ty Kelly, Team Israel and New York Mets player, speaks at the opening night event. Inclusive minds prevail when Hands United Building Bridges’ (HUBB) brings the Tidewater community together with Summit Against Hate on Monday, January 14. The summit offers many opportunities for the interfaith community to speak candidly, gain new perspectives, champion hate with inclusivity, and take time to learn from each other. In a first ever joint event, the Norfolk and Virginia Beach Forums along with the Holocaust C o m m i s s io n , Father Patrick Desbois. brings the powerful message of Father Patrick Desbois to Tidewater. Nearly 750 fortunate people

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Forty delegates from Tidewater travel to Richmond on February 6 for Virginia’s annual Jewish Advocacy Day.

MARCH 2019 In a speech on the House Floor on Thursday, March 7, Con g r e s s wo m a n Elaine Luria (VA02), a 20-year Navy veteran, speaks in Elaine Luria support of a House resolution condemning anti-Semitism and other forms of bigotry. The resolution passes later that day, 407–23. The groundbreaking for Norfolk’s Mikvah expansion takes place on Sunday, March 10 with a commitment to ensure the updated Mikvah has state-of-the-art design and is handicap accessible. The campaign’s goal is $400K. New York Times bestselling author, also known as ‘America’s Rabbi,’ Rabbi Joseph Telushkin brings a special message to the community on how to build relationships,

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with his book, Words That Hurt, Words That Heal. Rabbi Telushkin’s visit is part of the Milton “Mickey” Kramer Scholar-inResidence Tidewater Together. Patricia Wainger receives a Virginia Center for Inclusive Communities award at the Tidewater Chapter’s 55th A nnual Humanitarian Awards.

ethically produced pieces in our closets, combat abuses, use fewer resources, and dump less into landfills.”

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Armed Forces Shabbat takes place on Friday, May 17 at Ohef Sholom Temple. Congresswoman Elaine Luria is the guest speaker.

Armed Forces Shabbat Patricia Wainger

Israel Fest takes place at the Simon Family JCC on Sunday, May 19.

Tidewater Jewish Foundation honors its community partners and donors at the 2nd annual Life & Legacy® event, marking 450 commitments and $17-million in future gifts.

APRIL 2019 Seniors celebrate Passover at the Simon Family JCC with songs and a beautiful rendition of The Four Questions by Chloe Zuckerman.

Kids enjoying a camel ride at Israel Fest.

Temple Israel holds its first Women’s Seder on April 24. More than 90 reservations are made to attend.

Jewish Family Service’s Spring Into Healthy Living includes a program on organ donation.

UFJT hosts American Joint Distribution Committee (JDC) CEO, David Schizer, on April 30.

JUNE 2019 World-w ide attention is thr ust on Virginia Beach on Friday, May 31, when a shooting at the Municipal Center results in 13 deaths. In the days following the shooting, United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Community Relations Council plays a significant role in assisting in the organization of VB Remembers, a community gathering to begin the healing process.

MAY 2019 Faith White is awarded the Stein Family College Scholarship from Tidewater Jewish Foundation. White’s mission is to change Faith Rose White the way people view clothing and impact the environment, “have fewer, more meaningful and

Year in review Amy Moss Levy is installed as United Jewish Federation of Tidewater president at the 2019 Biennial meeting on June 13.

off with an original dance presentation by the Elbert Watson Dance Company.

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In a special Shabbat service on June 15, Congregation Beth El honors and wishes Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz and his family a fond farewell. Rabbi Arnowitz served Rabbi Jeffrey Arnowitz. as rabbi for eight years, fostering new programs and educational experiences. He was also active in the general community where he helped to form the interfaith and intercultural HUBB, Hands United Building Bridges. Toras Chaim holds its Annual Dinner, honoring Amy and Kevin Lefcoe. Michelle Aronoff and Ruth Cohen also receive an award. Ellen Rosenblum is installed as Jewish Family Service president on June 17. “One Night” with James Beard award-winning chef Alon Shaya at Baker’s Crust in Virginia Beach, delights donors and raises significant funds for Be A Reader (BeAR), the literacy program conceived 20 years ago by Untied Jewish Federation of Tidewater volunteers.

John Stein, Alon Shaya, and Jodi Klebanoff.

JULY 2019 Holocaust Commission holds its bi-annual Educators Conference, July 30–August 1. The conference kicks

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Rabbi Murray Ezring joins Congregation Beth El as interim Rabbi on July 15. Eight courts are dedicated to Pickleball play at the Simon Family JCC. AUGUST 2019 “One Night” with James Beard award-winning chef Alon Shaya at Baker’s Crust in Virginia Beach, delights donors and raises significant funds for Be A Reader (BeAR), the literacy program conceived 20 years ago by Untied Jewish Federation of Tidewater volunteers. A heartbreaking event brings area Jews together. The body of late Rabbi Reuven Bauman, who swam to rescue a student in distress, was found six days later. Rabbi Bauman was eulogized by his father Rabbi Mark Bauman at B’nai Israel in Norfolk. The senior Rabbi Bauman opened the eulogy with gratitude to the many who volunteered in the search effort and many more who prayed and offered support to the family during their time of hardship.

SEPTEMBER 2019 31st Annual Strelitz International Academy Golf Tournament takes place at Bayville Golf Club. Eighty-four golfers play and many more attend. Michael Coles meets with United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Society of Professionals on September 18. Coles is the cofounder of the Great American Cookie Company and the former CEO of Caribou Coffee. He is in Tidewater through the Jewish Book Council. Former U.S. Ambassador to Romania, presidential advisor and current U.N. Watch Chairman, Alfred Moses, is the featured

speaker at IGNITE 2020! the launch of the Community 2020 Campaign and the Lee & Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival. The event takes place on September 26.

The annual Janet Gordon Mah Jongg Day of Play, Tournament and luncheon at Beth Sholom Village is sold out with more than 100 guests on November 3.

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Tidewater Chavurah and Congregation Beth Chaverim hold joint High Holiday services at Old Donation Episcopal Church’s Parish Hall in Virginia Beach.

Eileen Filler-Corn wins the race to become Virginia’s first woman and first Jewish Speaker of the House for the Commonwealth of Virginia.

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Cantor Elihu Flax is elected the new president of the Board of Rabbis and Cantors. After reaching capacity, Strelitz International Academy announces that it will open a new class for two-year-olds in January 2020.

Amy Levy and Stephanie Calliott.

Super Sunday takes place on Sunday, November 17. The annual phone-a-thon, raises approximately $170,000 and connected with close to 300 community members.

OCTOBER 2019 Old Dominion AZA holds a reunion where nearly 150 fellow alumni, spouses, and significant others celebrate and pay tribute to an organization that played an important role in their lives as Jewish teens in Tidewater. The event is held on October 19 at the Hilton in Virginia Beach. A series of Community Forums are held to begin formulating questions for Jewish Tidewater: A survey for the community’s future.

NOVEMBER 2019 Virginia Beach Police Department visits the Virginia Holocaust Museum on November 1.

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Simon Family JCC announces J Day. A Sunday Only membership.

DECEMBER 2019 Dave Barry, Adam Mansbach and Alan Zweibel entertain a sold-out crowd on December 4. Billed as A Night of Laughs!, the trio does not disappoint. A Milton “Mickey” Kramer Scholar-in-Residence Tidewater Together event. Sarah Hurwitz, Michelle Obama’s speechwriter, visits Virginia Beach to talk about her book, Here All Along. She speaks at Temple Emanuel Sarah Hurwitz on December 8. A Milton “Mickey” Kramer Scholar-inResidence Tidewater Together event. Latkepalooza is held at the Simon Family JCC. Latkes, three children’s authors, crafts, and camp activities entertain families on Sunday, December 15. | December 23, 2019 | Jewish News | 11


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s an International Baccalaureate Primary Years Program candidate school, Strelitz International Academy provides a global and inquiry-based education with a mission to nurture active, compassionate lifelong learners grounded by intercultural understanding and respect. SIA students don’t just learn geography, math, or art, they connect the subjects to meaningful concepts in a reallife way. Recently, for example, second graders were studying regions in the United States. While learning about the regions, they investigated various Tzedakah projects that correlated to each area. When the four-year-old class learned about ways to express themselves through art, they created beautiful artwork inspired by Picasso, Pollack, and others—generating their own art museum to show their parents and grandparents. They also learned about the Dreaming Zebra Museum in Portland, Oregon which helps fund resources to those who don’t have the means to express themselves through art. In third grade, to bring an economics and supply lesson into meaningful context, students created their own online ‘Kids Outlet Mall.’ Students used math, technology, innovation, and language arts to bring their businesses to life. Every lesson taught at SIA is tethered to core Jewish values: Kavod (respect), Kehillah (community), Tikkun Olam (repairing the world), and Torah Lisma (love of learning). Strelitz International Academy’s leadership believes the school’s greatest strength is its ability to offer an innovative and transdisciplinary approach connected to these core values. This distinction casts SIA as an elevated education option for all area children, from threeyears old to fifth graders. “Our goal is to prepare our students

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it serves only kosher food, and holds some form of religious observance for holidays. Feigenbaum is taking an anti-Semitism lit class. At Washington and Lee, she feels safe. “Hillel is a safe space on campus and is openly accepting to all walks of life, which I believe is most telling of Jewish culture in my mind,” says Feigenbaum. “For a more conservative school, Hillel has also been successful hosting speakers on a range of topics.

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bby Feigenbaum is a sophomore at Washington and Lee in Lexington, Virginia. She initially chose the smaller school in a rural community for its strong academics and D3 soccer. As a Camp Mont Shenandoah summer camper, the Virginia countryside was familiar territory. She liked Lexington’s educated culture in relation to other small towns. Cultural diversity, however, is not the area’s strong point. While various Christian churches exist in downtown Lexington, there is no synagogue. “Hillel is the most Jewish culture we have on campus,” says Feigenbabaum. Closed on Saturdays and High Holidays,

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he Hampton Roads Community Foundation is accepting scholarship applications for the 2020-21 academic year. The Foundation administers more than 80 undergraduate scholarships for local students including the Edwin J. Rosenbaum Scholarship for Jewish students from South Hampton Roads. Students who will be attending college in Fall 2020 and are in need of financial assistance may visit http:// to view the list of available scholarships and follow the steps for applying through the online application. Applications are due on March 1, 2020.

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Newsweek: Norfolk Academy ranks among nation’s elite schools in STEM education

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fter an examination of both public and independent schools from across America, Newsweek released a report this month ranking schools that offered students the best experience in STEM, while also preparing them for life after graduation. The publication worked with STEM. org to determine the rankings. Norfolk Academy was the lone Hampton Roads-area school on the national top-500 list. Across Virginia, only Thomas Jefferson High School for Science and Technology in Alexandria and Maggie L. Walker Governor’s School in Richmond ranked better; both of those are public magnet schools. STEM is a focus on science, technology, engineering, and math, subjects Norfolk Academy teaches through an array of distinctive programs. Norfolk Academy offers engineering, design, and innovation classes to Lower School students (grades 1–6), developing their problem-solving skills. Upper School students can apply to be EDI Fellows, who learn hands-on by studying infrastructure problems facing vulnerable populations in Hampton Roads and elsewhere. In the Upper School, Norfolk Academy offers advanced biology, chemistry, and physics, as well as a range of challenging electives, including advanced anatomy and physiology; advanced inorganic and organic chemistry; and ecosystem dynamics. Nearly all seniors complete a math sequence through calculus. Norfolk Academy has also won several Best in State awards in TEAMS (Tests of engineering, aptitude, math, andscience), a competition for middle school and high school students in which they apply their knowledge in STEM to global issues. NA also has a robotics team that has been successful in local, regional, and state competitions. “With high-profile institutions in big urban areas and small, but strong programs across the nation, America’s future in science, technology, engineering


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Where there’s life, there’s legacy Lisa Richmon


hat connection ran deep, milestone after milestone, family after family. “As a rabbinical family, we were so privileged to be part of people’s lives,” says Miriam Brunn Ruberg. “When a baby was born, we got the call. When that child grew up, Arthur was the rabbi for the Bar or Bat Mitzvah. He wrote letters of recommendation for colleges, and later, he often performed their weddings. We were, and still are, deeply connected to many families in this community.” Rabbi Arthur Ruberg didn’t grow up with the yearning to be a rabbi. In fact, he wasn’t raised in a very religious family. He experienced an awakening when he was a senior in college, studying political science and international relations. The realization that his most meaningful experiences to that point had been in his religious life at Jewish summer camp put him on the path to becoming a rabbi. As a young single rabbi in Philadelphia, Ruberg made another major life decision

when he met a new teacher who had just received her master’s degree in Jewish Education at Brandeis University. “We wanted to keep it quiet when we first started seeing each other,” says Miriam Brunn Ruberg. “Our plan was foiled when we were spotted out on a date right away.” From their first date, and throughout almost 42 years of marriage, the Rubergs have shared a love for Jewish education, life, and culture. “We felt that our job was to help Jews stay Jewish. And not just to stay Jewish, but to feel good about being Jewish— and to experience it more fully,” says Rabbi Ruberg. “We counseled supportive spouses of Jews, and worked with those who were in the process of becoming Jewish, to help integrate Judaism into their lives.” Being a rabbi’s wife was a natural role for the Jewish educator. As a mother of young children, Brunn Ruberg worked at United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and later served as principal of United


Hebrew School. She then became a professional educator at the Jewish Community Center, where she initiated, directed, and taught the Florence Melton School of Adult Jewish Learning. At milestone events and services at the synagogue, Miriam Brunn Ruberg often saw “really The Ruberg family. intelligent wonderful people who were lost. If they could at least follow the Hebrew, it could make the time in synagogue more meaningful, and they would feel a part of the service, and the community,” she says. In her quest to fill that void, she taught adult Hebrew. The Ruberg family also led congregational trips to Israel. “We wanted other people to have an opportunity to feel the connection we felt to Israel,” says Brunn Ruberg. “Experiencing Israel with our congregational family allowed us to

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deepen our connection to Israel and pass on that powerful experience to others.” The Ruberg’s children, Jeremy and Adina, now have children of their own and Jeremy is a rabbi in northern New Jersey. The Rubergs say that their grandparent status complements their lifelong commitment to Jewish values and education. Today, the ‘technically’ retired couple continues to serve Congregation Beth El, with Rabbi Ruberg filling in as needed during its leadership transition. By committing to Tidewater Jewish Foundation’s Life & Legacy ® program, the Rubergs enjoys a new source of personal fulfillment. “What we love about this program is that it’s community-wide. Together, we can make a difference for future generations,” says Brunn Ruberg. “We are also quite excited to work with the Harold Grinspoon Foundation. That organization awarded scholarship money to Jeremy and supported his rabbinical studies some years go. He was a Grinspoon Fellow at the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York.” The Rubergs say they also appreciate that Life & Legacy ® embraces all donors, and treats them with equal regard and respect. “It’s about building and sustaining a community of people who think about the next generation, and the one after that,” says Rabbi Ruberg. “It’s important for philanthropy to be inter-generational. “Tell your kids where you give and why you give!”

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Columbia and Tel Aviv U will offer a dual degree program J ERUSA L EM ( JTA) — Columbia University in New York and Tel Aviv University in Israel will offer a dual degree program. Students will spend their first two years at Tel Aviv University and their third and fourth year attending Columbia’s School of General Studies. Upon completion of the four-year program, graduates earn two bachelor’s degrees, one from each institution. Columbia has dual degree and joint degree programs at Sciences Po in France, Trinity College Dublin, City University of Hong Kong and List College of the Jewish Theological Seminary. Created in

1954, the joint program with JTS was the first program of its kind to be established at Columbia. “By giving students the opportunity to study full time at a top-tier university in the Middle East before bringing them to study in the Ivy League, they will not only benefit from being immersed in a wide range of cultures and experiences, but will also make an immense contribution to the Columbia undergraduate classroom,” says Lisa Rosen-Metsch, dean of Columbia University School of General Studies. The program’s inaugural class will start in fall 2020.

Tufts to remove Sackler name from buildings and programs


ufts University will remove the Sackler name from several buildings and programs on its medical campus. The decision came after an independent report slammed the school for taking gifts from the family. Tufts commissioned the study earlier this year after a lawsuit was filed against the Sacklers and Purdue Pharma, the private held pharmaceutical company owned by the family. The Sacklers have come under fire for their central role in the opioid crisis that has led to hundreds of thousands of American deaths. Purdue is the manufacturer of OxyContin, one of the leading opioids on the market. Several major cultural institutions— ncluding the Tate museum in England, Britain’s National Portrait Gallery and the Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum in New York—have said they will no longer accept Sackler money.

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The Sackler family gave Tufts $15 million over more than 30 years and its name is attached to its School of Graduate Biomedical Sciences, the Arthur M. Sackler Center for Medical Education, as well as on laboratories and research funds. This is the first time Tufts has removed a donor name from a building, according to the Boston Globe. “Our students find it objectionable to walk into a building that says Sackler on it when they come in here to get their medical education,” Dr. Harris Berman, dean of the medical school, told the New York Times. The university will not be returning any of the donated money. Sackler family attorney Daniel Connolly said he will work to reverse the decision, the Times reported, calling it “particularly disturbing and intellectually dishonest.” (JTA)

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Jewish Family Service receives and distributes warmth for the holidays


hen a local Catholic church asked Jewish Family Service of Tidewater, “do you have people you want to help?” the question undoubtedly resulted in a community partnership full of good will and good cheer. Such was the case for JFS and Catholic Church of St. Stephen in Chesapeake. Dorothy Salomonsky, Personal Affairs Management (PAM) program director worked with Carol Ebert from St.

Stephens to present 384 wrapped and donated items for clients, (necessities among them) at the annual JFS holiday party. The lunch took place at Outback Kemps River Crossing, was sponsored by Altmeyer Funeral Home, and hosted 100 JFS clients. The JCC Knitters Club donated hats, scarves, and lap blankets as well. “The knitting club is in its seventh year,” says Jody Laibstain. “All the yarn is donated to

the club. The knitters who come to chat and hand-knit items that bring comfort and warmth, consisting of scarves, lap blankets, hats and gloves.” Each year, Ohef Sholom Temple’s Tzedakah Quilt Group makes and donates quilts to JFS to be given to clients. This

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Tasty Hanukkah twists and turns Lisa Richmon


veryone loves latkes. Making them is another story. Is buying frozen potato pancakes or working with a mix the way to go? Some say, ‘most definitely,’ others, reply ‘No Way!’ This is the second article (of two) featuring serious cooks who ‘play with their food’ and riff on the universally revered potato pancake. The first installment appeared in the December 9 issue of Jewish News.

Marcy Mostofsky—Latkes for Love arcy Mostofsky doesn’t prepare fried food for her family. Unless it’s Danny Jason with granddaughters Ilana and Hanukkah. And that dedication to oil only Devorah Peck. lasts one night. That’s when she cranks up her Cuisinart and makes peace with her inner-fryer. “It’s a big deal around here,” says Mostosfsky. Her extended family had a rough year and she wants to make her 87-year-old father Danny, who lost a daughter, a best friend, and a brother, happy. If making latkes can do that, she’s all in. “My father is so disciplined,” says Mostofsky. “He can have all the latkes he wants. Now, Michael is another story. My husband can eat his weight in latkes! He’ll be cooking burgers or chicken on the grill and every time he walks by the plate of Mark Lipton and Kenny Weinstein. latkes, he’ll grab one. I have to cut him off or there will be nothing left for our guests.” Mostofsky may not be a fan of frying, but she loves celebrating with and feeding her revolving door of nieces and nephews, and other friends and family who come to light the menorah. This year, during Hanukkah however, she will drive her father to Florida for a much-needed break. “I’ll have my one night here to fry latkes, and then I’m done. No frying in Florida.”


Mark Lipton—He makes the latkes. Barb Gelb brings the party. ark Lipton has known Kenny Weinstein since college, but they didn’t become good buds until about 12 years ago. “I was just separated from my wife,” says Lipton. “Kenny showed up at my door with a bottle of whiskey and said, ‘hey, you want a drink?’” In 2012, Barb Gelb was Weinstein’s long-distance girlfriend. On one of her visits from California, she started a tradition at Weinstein’s home. She brought the Hanukkah party to Virginia

Beach. Lipton didn’t just show up. He showed up ready to make his homemade latkes. “When I met Mark,” says Gelb, “I knew I had no choice but to pass the latke making baton to him.” “There are two schools on latkes,” says Lipton. “Pureed mush that’s fried, and batter that’s grated almost like hash browns. Mine are from The American Jewish Cookbook and belong to the second category. “Kenny’s always been very inclusive,” says Lipton. “He keeps up with people he’s known a long time, and he also has a way of making people feel as if they are part of his family. When I think about loving kindness, I think of Kenny.”

Beer-laced latkes he recipe for a Happy Hanukkah is anything that brings Ronnie Jacobs Cohen together with her three sisters, Babbi Jacobs Bangel, Francie Jacobs Segal, and Marcy Jacobs Forster. “I know some people are not close to their sisters and I consider myself so lucky to have them in my life,” says Cohen. “Our mother made latkes every year for Hanukkah and I carry on her tradition with her recipe,” she says. “What makes it special is that it calls for a little beer, which we might drink while we’re cooking. Yes, they are a lot of work but I would never NOT make my latkes from scratch.”


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Ronnie Jacobs Cohen, Babbi Jacobs Bangel, Francie Jacobs Segal, and Marcy Jacobs Forster.

it’s a Wrap BINA High School’s Annual Thanksgiving Bake Sale raises funds and treats


repared with hundreds of pies, dozens of cookies, and breads, BINA girl’s high school held their annual Thanksgiving bake sale on Tuesday, November 26 at Dominion Tower to raise crucial operating funds. A second location at the World Trade Center allowed more customers the opportunity to purchase bake sale favorites such as gingersnap cookies, pumpkin pies, and zucchini bread. “They were peeking in the boxes before I even had a chance to display our goodies,” says Chava Goldberg, famous for her pecan pies and the parent of both a current ninth grader and a recent BINA graduate. “By the time the bake sale started, a line

had already formed!” Parents, students, and community volunteers worked at the bake sale and also purchased holiday treats for themselves. “The bake sale wouldn’t be possible if not for the amazing community of bakers who volunteer their time and ingredients to bake for our girls,” says Marcy Mostofsky. Bake Sale coordinator and parent to two BINA alumni. “It’s nice to see our repeat customers every year and to promote the great education BINA provides for its students.” To learn more about BINA High school, visit

Marcy Mostofsky and Amy Brooke (both parents of BINA alumni) sell baked goods at Dominion Towers.


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Infectious Greatness: Catch what Kevin Lefcoe contracted from Charlie Harary, author of Unlocking Greatness Wednesday, January 8, 7:30 pm, Sandler Family Campus Lisa Richmon


harlie Harary thinks you’re great. Harary wrote Unlocking Greatness as a tool to help you reveal the gift to yourself and the people who matter most. When Harary speaks around the world, he brings an electrifying combination of science, personal growth, spirituality, and relatablity to fuel each person’s greatness. Harary doesn’t believe that MIT grads working in Silicon Valley are the only people destined to innovate and prosper. ‘Everyday innovator’ reflects his belief that anyone can change the world. All one needs is the desire of a three-yearold who lets nothing get in the way of what they want—and the courage of a wounded adult willing to ‘face the filter’ and practice daily self-checking.


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Kevin Lefcoe met Harary in 2015 when he attended the men’s counterpart mission to the Jewish Women’s Renaissance Project. Harary was the mission leader. “My whole purpose has to do with Jewish values and sharing the experiences and people that connect us all together in a unified way,” says Lefcoe. “When we unify, we’re unstoppable. I want people to get the full Charlie Harary experience.” “They (the audience) will walk away with two or three things to help them break through barriers, but more than

that, people won’t forget how he made them feel,” says Lefcoe. Though Harary’s resume reads like a Who’s Who of business executives and thought leaders, and he receives endorsements by experts from across multiple industries, Harary isn’t immune to self-doubt. “Humility in the face of stardom is his greatest gift,” says Lefcoe.

FACE THE FILTER In an online video interview with Susan Baroncini-Moe of 2 Questions.TV, Harary shares a humbling story about his daily struggle with self-doubt, illustrating the internal work necessary to access personal greatness. “We put an inordinate amount of effort into trying to fix the world around us, and not enough effort into fixing us, and how we see the world around us,” says Harary. “At the very least, just the recognition that what I’m seeing and what I’m feeling may not be what’s happening, and may be what I perceive through my filter. Just in the knowledge there is a filter is critical and allows us to work on our minds. “For example, so many times in my day, I’ll go through something and I’ll just feel disempowered. I’ll either be talking to someone, or think of something, or see an e-mail and I’ll just feel that…you know… that feeling like you’re frustrated or anxious or nervous and then I would keep on going. Now, what I do is stop. And I pause. ‘Why did I just feel disempowered? What

The Babka Bake Thursday, January 9, 7:30 pm, B’nai Israel A lively step-by-step chocolate babka baking class in B’nai Israel’s Richels Hall. $10 for B’nai Israel Sisterhood members; $15 for non-members. Reservations required by Thursday, January 2 at

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was I doing? Wait. It was this e-mail or this person threatens me. Oh, it’s because… just that analysis alone starts to enable us before anything changes. There’s such a critical amount of work we don’t do enough of, and maybe that work is even more important than trying to fix the world around us.” “Charlie is a star because he is relatable and humble,” says Lefcoe. “There are universal challenges we all face: parenting, health, self-doubt, finances. Whether you’re soliciting support for a campaign, trying to maintain a synagogue, or having personal financial trouble and trying to get a return call from someone important. Charlie in one hour is going to discuss the blocks we all face and help break them down while you’re laughing so hard, because it’s so real and relevant. He has a way of peeling away the mindset of ‘I can’t.’” Presented by the Milton “Mickey” Kramer Scholar-in-Residence Fund’s Tidewater Together series in partnership with the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Society of Professionals, the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival and the Jewish Book Council. To RSVP and to learn more about Tidewater Together, visit TidewaterTogether, or contact Sierra Lautman, director of Jewish Innovation, at 757-965-6107 or

what’s happening Date with the State Wednesday, February 5, 7 am–4 pm


eet Virginia’s State Senators and Delegates to discuss issues that impact the Jewish community on Jewish Advocacy Day. The Governor, L i e u t e n a n t Governor, and Attorney General are all invited. Travel with the Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater and meet Jewish friends from across the Commonwealth at this annual day in Richmond. Topics of importance to the Jewish community including health, social services and community institutions serving the elderly and impoverished, the Virginia-Israel Advisory Board, and others will be discussed. $36 per person covers kosher lunch and defrays cost of transportation. RSVP (REQUIRED by January 29) at Bus departs from the Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus. For more information, contact Megan Zuckerman, CRC director, at

When School’s out, Kids Connection’s in Winter Camp: Monday, December 23–Tuesday, December 31 6:30 am–6 pm (closed Dec. 25) Sarah Cooper


ids Connection is a Before and After-School Care Program for elementary aged children that attend Strelitz and Virginia Beach Public Schools.* The enrichment program includes weekly swim lessons, arts and crafts activities, science experiments, sports and games, and homework help in a safe, positive environment. When school is closed, Kids Connection is open. Winter Camp will include a field trip to the Children’s Museum on Friday, December 27, where the children will have fun sock skating. Winter Camp is open to all children regardless of school. To register for the program or Winter Camp, visit childcare-options/kids-connection-before-after-school-enrichment/ or contact Sarah Cooper at 757-321-2306, *Kids Connection currently serves the following Virginia Beach Public Schools: Arrowhead, Kempsville, Point of View, Indian Lakes, Providence, Kings Grant, Kingston, and Malibu.

Renegade Women in Film & TV: Elizabeth Weitzman Lunch, Leon Family Gallery tour and discussion with the author Wednesday, February 6, 12 pm Sandler Family Campus, Free


lizabeth Weitzman’s Renegade Women in Film & TV blends stunning illustrations, fascinating biographical profiles, and exclusive interviews with icons such as Barbra Streisand, Rita Moreno, and Siqourney Weaver to celebrate the accomplishments of 50 extraordinary women throughout the history of entertainment. Renegade Women honors the women who succeeded against all odds, changing their industry in front of the camera and behind the scenes. When Weitzman visits Tidewater in February as part of the Lee and Bernard Jaffe Family Jewish Book Festival, through the Jewish Book Council, she will conduct a tour of illustrations from the book that are on display in the Simon Family JCC’s Leon Family Gallery, as well as lead a community discussion at a luncheon. The illustrations from Renegade Women will be on exhibit in the Leon Family Gallery throughout January and February, leading up to the 27th annual Virginia Festival of Jewish Film. The luncheon and gallery tour are free and open to the community with RSVP. For more information, or to RSVP

(required), go to or call Patty Shelanski, Arts + Ideas manager, at 452-3184.

To Life! Works by Lorraine Fink January 11–February 23, ODU


orraine Fink creates art that bears witness to a life rich in experiences of discovery, joy, celebration, and at times, sadness. Her latest two- and three-dimensional works will be on display at the Baron and Ellen Gordon Art Galleries, located in Old Dominion University’s

University Village. Now in her 10th decade, Fink’s expressive energy personifies the wellknown toast, L’Chaim! To Life! For information go to or call 757-683-6271. | December 23, 2019 | Jewish News | 25

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ne of the world’s greenest buildings is right here in Virginia Beach. The Brock Environmental Center was built in 2014 and is an international model for energy saving and water efficiency. ] An exclusive tour of the Center is planned for Simon Family JCC members with Lynnhaven River NOW, a local environmental nonprofit, leading the tour and engaging activities for all ages. Learn how to be part of a green, clean, and resilient Virginia Beach. All ages welcome. RSVP by Wednesday, January 8 at The Brock Environmental Center is located at 3663 Marlin Bay Drive in Virginia Beach.

Panel discussion to focus on how laws have led to racism Tuesday, January 21, 7 pm, L. Douglas Wilder Performing Arts Center at Norfolk State University


n honor of the National Day of Racial Healing, the Hampton Roads Community Foundation will sponsor a civil rights panel to discuss how laws have led to racism. It will feature descendants of plaintiffs and judges in the Dred Scott and Plessy v. Ferguson U.S. Supreme Court cases. Panelists will discuss the U.S. legal system’s history of racial bias, offer opportunities for healing and understanding, and explain how they work together to fight racism. This Understanding Hampton Roads forum is sponsored by the community foundation in partnership with Norfolk State University, Old Dominion University, and Virginians for Reconciliation. Admission is free, but advance registration is required at 757-622-7951 or Learn more at

Calendar December 29, Sunday Brith Sholom will hold its annual Pre-New Year’s Eve Party at Beth Sholom Village. Enjoy a three-course meal and live entertainment from Fond Memories and Frank Sings Frank. 5:30 pm. $15 per member or $30 per guest. For more information or to RSVP, contact LeeAnne Mallory at 757-461-1150 or


January 5, Sunday Brith Sholom general membership meeting with Shannon Brill from the FBI speaking about cybersecurity at 11 am followed by brunch. Board meeting at 10 am. Beth Sholom Village. $5 per member; $7 at the door; $10 per guest; and free to anyone exploring membership. For more information, contact LeeAnne Mallory at 757-461-1150 or January 8, Wednesday Charlie Harary speaks about his book, Unlocking Greatness. The best-selling author believes that everyone has the extraordinary capacity to transform their life. 7:30 pm. Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus. Free and open to the community. Presented by the Milton “Mickey” Kramer Scholar-in-Residence Fund’s Tidewater Together series and Lee & Bernard Jaffe Jewish Book Festival. For more information or to RSVP (required), visit tidewatertogether. See page 24. January 10, Friday Tidewater Chavurah’s Second Friday Shabbat Service. Home of Hal and Elaine in Virginia Beach’s Great Neck Meadows area. A “congregation without walls,” events are held in members’ homes or at other locations. Rabbi Ellen Jaffe-Gill leads the service. An Oneg follows. For event information and location address, email or call 4993660. Check out or Tidewater Chavurah Facebook page. Thursday, January 16 Lunch with Michael Roizen as he discusses his book, What to Eat When, A Strategic Plan to Improve Your Health & Life Through Food. 12 pm. Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus. $12 lunch/$31 lunch and book. Bundled registration for lunch and a signed book closes January 9. In partnership with Simon Family JCC’s JFIT, United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Society of Professionals, and Jewish Family Service of Tidewater. For more information or to RSVP (required), visit JANUARY 20, MONDAY Strange Fruit, a documentary, explores the history and legacy of the eerie, controversial jazz classic, in honor of Martin Luther King Jr. Day. 6 pm. Susan B. Goode Fine and Performing Arts Center, VWU. FREE and open to the community with RSVP required (limited seating). Presented as a part of the 27th Virginia Festival of Jewish Film presented by Patricia & Avraham Ashkenazi and Alma & Howard Laderberg in partnership with the Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater, Hands United Building Bridges (HUBB), and Center for the Study of Religious Freedom at Virginia Wesleyan University. For more information or to reserve tickets, visit JANUARY 27, MONDAY Author Ariel Burger discusses his book, Witness, Lessons from Elie Wiesel’s Classroom, and takes readers and audiences into Elie Wiesel’s classroom, where the art of listening and storytelling conspire to keep memory. 7:30 pm. Congregation Beth El. FREE and open to the community. Presented by the Milton “Mickey” Kramer Scholar-in-Residence Fund’s Tidewater Together Series in partnership with the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Holocaust commission, in honor of International Holocaust Remembrance Day. For more information or to RSVP (required), visit FEBRUARY 5, WEDNESDAY Date with the State. The Community Relations Council of the United Jewish Federation of Tidewater travels to Richmond for the annual Virginia Jewish Advocacy Day. 7 am-4 pm; leave from the Sandler Family Campus. $36 includes kosher lunch and helps defray the cost of transportation. RSVP (REQUIRED) at For more information, contact Megan Zuckerman, CRC director, at or 757-965-6112. FEBRUARY 6, THURSDAY Celebrate the accomplishments of 50 extraordinary women throughout the history of entertainment with Elizabeth Weitzman, author of Renegade Women in Film & TV through a gallery tour and discussion. Lunch provided. 12 pm. Reba and Sam Sandler Family Campus. FREE with RSVP (required). For more information or to RSVP visit Send submissions for calendar to Be sure to note “calendar” in the subject. Include date, event name, sponsor, address, time, cost and phone. | December 23, 2019 | Jewish News | 27

Obituaries Dame Mary Sigillo Barraco Virginia Beach—Dame Mary Sigillo Barraco, 96, died peacefully in her home on December 6, 2019. She was a native of Lawrence, Massachusetts, and a resident of Virginia Beach since 1950. She was the daughter of the late Fortunato (Fred) and Leona Colpaert Sigillo McAvoy, and was preceded in death by her loving husband, Joseph John Barraco. Mary was a graduate of Verhaeren School, Santa Maria College, Renaix, Belgium, National Conservatory of Music and Drama, Renaix, Belgium, college Business, English, Mathematics, Rapid Reading, Norfolk, Va. At the age of seven, she moved to Belgium with her mother, and at the age of 17, became a freedom fighter and joined the resistance with World War II on the horizon. She attained the rank of Captain and was a liaison officer for two Canadian regiments. She aided paratroopers in reaching safety and their units. She helped Jewish people to escape from the Nazis. She was engaged to another resistance fighter, Arthur Libre and both were later captured in France and jailed by the Nazis. Arthur was executed in 1943 while Mary remained in prison. Mary was moved to a number of prisons where she experienced torture, beatings, sterilization, and confinement. She was most proud of the inscription she wrote on every wall of each prison, “It is only after you have lost your freedom that you appreciate its value.” She was decorated by

Prince Charles of Belgium in 1946 for her service in the war. Mary returned to the United States in 1946 and was protected daily by the F.B.I. after being threatened by the Nazis. Mary was determined that her mission in life was to speak out about the tyranny of war. She spoke to thousands of schools and college students, numerous military groups, service and community organizations, church groups, and political organizations. In 2004, Mary was Knighted in the Order of the Crown by order of King Albert II of Belgium and was awarded the title of Dame. She became involved in politics in Virginia working for the campaigns of Senator A. Joseph Canada, Senator John Warner, Congressman G. William Whitehurst, and Congressman Paul Trible. Mary was a devote Roman Catholic and was a member of Star of the Sea Catholic Church. She is survived by her grandson, Leon I. Smith V, of Virginia Beach and several cousins, nephews, and nieces. The Mass of Christian Burial was celebrated in Star of the Sea Catholic Church by the Reverend Father Esteban DeLeon. Entombment was in Princess Anne Memorial Park. Memorial donations to Children’s Hospital of The Kings Daughters or the charity of the donor’s choice. Online condolences may be sent to the family at

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Rabbi Chaim Yehuda Brashevitzky Crown Heights, N.Y.—R’ Chaim Brashevitzky, longtime Crown Heights resident, passed away on Friday night, 9 Kislev, 5780. He was 87. He is survived by his children, Avremel Brashevitzky, of Doral, Fla.; Shmuly Brashevitzky, of Crown Heights; Levi Brashevitzky, of Norfolk; Chanie Lipkind, Meir Brashevitzky, Yisrolik Brashevitzky, Gutey Engel, and Rozy Spiegel, all of Crown Heights. The Levaya took place at Old Montefiore Cemetery. Joel Brandon Cooper Chevy Chase, Md.—Joel Brandon Cooper, age 88, died on November 3, 2019. He was born on November 13, 1930 in the Norfolk Protestant Hospital (predecessor of Sentara Norfolk General) to Dudley and Mary Cooper. Joel attended Taylor Elementary School, Blair Junior High School, and Maury High School in Norfolk. He then matriculated at Washington and Lee University where he earned recognition in a national leadership fraternity, Phi Delta Phi, and was the editor of the school humor magazine. He did his postgraduate work at the University of Virginia for his law degree and at New York University, where he was awarded a Master’s Degree in taxation. He worked in New York City as an Internal Revenue Agent and in the tax division of a large Manhattan law firm before returning to Virginia. In Norfolk, he opened his own law office. Although he specialized in franchise tax law, his first major case was before the Federal Communications Commission. A group headed by Joel’s father, Dudley Cooper, had been awarded Norfolk’s second television channel by the FCC Hearing Officer, but had been overruled through in the intersession of Senator Joe B. McCarthy of Wisconsin. Joel took over a legal battle to win part of the ownership of WAVY, Channel 10. Joel was joined in his law practice by his brother, Charles Cooper, and the firm grew into Cooper, Kalfus and Nachman.

During this period, Joel was active with the Democratic Party “Young Turks” who unseated the Byrd Machine representatives in the House of Delegates and the State Senate with progressives such as Tom Moss, Stanley Sacks, Henry Howell, and Stanley Walker. He managed the successful Norfolk Mayoral campaign of Irvine B. Hill. His interest in television led him to join with Gene Loving in founding WTVZ, Channel 33, expanding to 16 television stations and licenses. Joel then co-founded a music company, Whisper Concerts, which presented nationally known rock and roll bands in concert at theaters and auditoriums, including a theater his family owned, now the Roper Theater. Joel was part of a group that brought the Virginia Squires ABA basketball team, with stars such as Julius (“Dr. J.”) Irving and George Irvin to large audiences in Scope and other Hampton Roads basketball arenas. Finally, he became the publisher of Metro Magazine, the area arts magazine. After all of this activity, he concentrated his energies on traveling. He is survived by his former wife, Elaine P. Cooper of Virginia Beach, and his adult children, Wendy Cooper of Virginia Beach (daughter, Sarah), John M. Cooper of Norfolk (wife, Monica and children, Matthew and twin daughters, Camille and Leah), and Catherine “Kate” Augus of Berkeley, California (husband, Barry and children, Lily and Max). He is also survived by his brother, Charles N. Cooper, of Norfolk and Joel’s fiance and loving companion of many years, Shelby Willcox of Naples, Florida. Funeral arrangements were handled by Joseph Gower’s Sons, LLC. Phyllis Friedman Virginia Beach—Phyllis N. Friedman, 76, passed away Thursday, December 23 in Virginia Beach. Phyllis is the daughter of Lawrence L. and Mildred Newfield. She was predeceased by her sister Barbara Newfield and her beloved husband, Melvin Friedman. Phyllis graduated from Old Dominion University and William and Mary University, receiving a PhD in Early

Obituaries Childhood Development. She worked as an educator for more than 50 years, mainly in the Williamsburg School System. She was instrumental in integration of the school system in 1966. She also assisted in organizing The Head Start Program, and worked diligently with the Cheatem Annex to assist men up to the age of 65 who were economically disadvantaged. She also worked with individual cases of children with learning disabilities in private practice. Surviving family members are Alan and Julia Dail; grandchildren Ariana and Ava Dail, Erin and Laura Friedman; Caroline and Lillian Friedman, Jonathan, and Steven Friedman. Phyllis’ passions in life were her grandchildren, her beloved Melvin, and her students. Donations to the organization of your choice or the American Cancer Society. A graveside service was held at Forest Lawn Cemetery. A reception followed interment at Altmeyer Funeral Home. Robert Mansell Moses Nashville, Tenn.—It is with a profound sense of loss that we announce the passing of Robert “Bob” Mansell Moses on December 4, 2019, but with a deep sense of gratitude for his 71 years of life. He was born in Cleveland, Ohio to Harold and Alice Moses, as the eldest child of four and the only boy among three sisters. Bob learned early on about eternal love, utmost respect, and important family values which he maintained throughout his life. Bob received an Engineering degree from Vanderbilt University, a Master’s degree in Business Administration from Tulane University, and a Juris Doctor degree from the Nashville School of Law. He was an accomplished pianist. He played piano at O’Charley’s Restaurant during college and later was president of a sound studio, Sound Media, in his early career. After business graduate school, he moved back to Nashville and joined Manuel Morton Eskind in the wholesale liquor and wine distribution business, Capitol Distributing Company. He later began his own liquor and wine distribution business with his brother-in-law,

Seth Eskind, forming Best Brands, Inc. Bob is survived by his loving and devoted wife of 47 years, Marlene Eskind Moses; his adoring children, Marissa Moses Russ (Manuel Benjamin Russ), Caroline Moses Sprouse (Lee Michael Sprouse) and Ryan Manuel Moses (Katherine Wood Moses). He is also survived by his three sisters, Cathy Moses Laderberg, Nancy Moses Mendelson, and Amy Moses Singer. Bob’s six beloved and treasured grandchildren are Eli Eskind Russ, Miriam Alice Russ, Hal Daniel Sprouse, Emilia Clark Sprouse, Hadley Shepherd Moses, and Reid Meyer Moses. Bob was active and involved in his community. He was president of the Tennessee Wine and Spirits Wholesalers of Tennessee, a board member of both the Temple and the West End Synagogue, president of the Harding Academy board of directors, president of the American Jewish Committee Nashville Branch, a member of the Zoning Board of Belle

Meade, a member of the Keynote Board of Blair School of Music at Vanderbilt University, a member of the Tulane University President’s Council and Parent’s Council, a member of the Democratic Executive Committee for Davidson County, and a Nashville Rotary Club member for three decades. Bob’s love of life and people were a

true gift to all who knew him. He maintained a smile, which conveyed warmth and compassion even to strangers. There were no favors too large or too small that Bob would not do for others. He delighted in sharing life’s joys with his family and friends. He will be greatly missed by all continued on page 30

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Obituaries In partnership with Simon Family JCC’s JFit, United Jewish Federation of Tidewater’s Society of Professionals, and Jewish Family Service of Tidewater LEARN A STRATEGIC PLAN FOR

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who loved him. A celebration of Bob’s life took place at The Temple Congregation Ohabai Sholom. The family requests that donations be made in memory of Bob to Abe’s Garden, Harding Academy or W.O. Smith Music School. Richard Leonard “Dick” Staub Virginia Beach—Richard Leonard “Dick” Staub, 91, died December 11, 2019. Dick was born in Portsmouth, Virginia to the late Meyer and Lillian Land Staub. He fondly recalls his upbringing in New York City, where he lived until the age of 15, when he and his family moved to Suffolk, Virginia. After attending Suffolk High School, Dick graduated from the University of Virginia, where he was a proud member of Phi Epsilon fraternity. Dick served in the U.S. Coast Guard during the Korean War. Upon his return home, Dick ran his family’s clothing business, The College Shop, and later changed careers to become a Real Estate Broker. Dick was a renaissance man. He was passionate about the arts, reading, and sports. He enjoyed cheering for his Virginia Cavaliers and rarely missed a game. A lifelong runner, Dick also loved traveling the world and his winters spent in Palm Beach. A warm, kind-spirited man, Dick had a wonderful sense of humor and was a great conversationalist. Left to cherish his memory are his loving children, Michael Staub (Loura) of Chapel Hill, North Carolina.; Stephen Staub (Annette) of Columbus, Ohio; Brian Staub (Liz) of Virginia Beach; and Francie Staub (Tony) of McClean, Virginia. He also leaves behind his loving partner of 23 years, Ina Levy of Virginia Beach, her children, Leslie and Steven, as well as numerous grandchildren, great grandchildren, and a host of other family and friends. Thanks to the staff at Beth Sholom Village, and Freda H. Gordon Hospice and Palliative Care. A memorial service was held at Ohef Sholom Temple. Memorial donations in his name to the Virginia Opera, Beth Sholom Village, or the Cleveland Clinic. Express condolences to the family at

Mark Harris Tabakin Virginia Beach—Mark Harris Tabakin, 73, of Virginia Beach, died December 5, 2019. Born in Norfolk, he was the son of the late Raymond J. Tabakin, d. 1968 and Jessie R. Tabakin, d. 2011. Mark was preceded in death by his brother Stephen L. Tabakin, d. 2012. Survivors include his loving wife of 46 years, Rebecca M. Tabakin nee Masters; his favorite son, David and his wife, Erin, and their children Franklin and Casey; his favorite daughter Rachel; sister, Sally and her husband H. Joel Weintraub; his nieces, Ellen J. Weintraub and her husband Aaron Beck, and Sara E. Weintraub; his brother Edward; as well as his brotherin-law, Mark Masters and partner Marla Angermeier, and his son Alexander. Mark graduated as a valedictorian from Granby High School in 1964. From there, Mark received several science-related scholarships and attended the Columbia University School of Engineering, from which he graduated with a Bachelor of Science in 1968. Following the untimely death of his father, Mark returned to Norfolk and commenced working in the family furniture store, the Meyers and Tabakin Furniture Company, growing the business significantly, managing the Virginia Beach location and serving as company treasurer. Mark parted ways with M&T in 2002. During his 72 years in the community, Mark played an active role at Temple Israel and United Hebrew School, as a board member for many years. During his retirement he worked as a Virginia Beach Election Official. He was a lifelong Yankee’s fan, and an avid UN stamp collector. He loved the music of Cole Porter, doo-wop, and had many other widely esoteric interests. A graveside service was conducted at Forest Lawn Cemetery in Norfolk by Rabbi Michael Panitz. Donations to Temple Israel or other charities of the donor’s choice. Online condolences may be shared with the family at






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