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Here at Transformation Academy we are excited to announce our April’s IMPACT Coaching Spotlight – Arnela Karat!
Our goal with this initiative is to recognize and celebrate members of the IMPACT Coaching Collective who demonstrate the heart, leadership and service it takes to be an impactful coach. IMPACT is a community of likeminded, heart-centered life coaches who come together to learn, practice and grow.
This article is a modified transcript of an interview between Kimberly Rich, host of The Profitable Coach Podcast, and guest Arnela Karat.
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ABOUT LENNY:
Arnela Karat, Nova Gorica, Slovenia https://www.youtube.com/@Arnela-Karat https://www.linkedin.com/in/arnela-karat/
Arnela Karat is a trailblazing Authentic Niche Coach & Mentor and Purpose-Driven Business Expert with over a decade of experience in leadership, marketing, sales, brand management and public relations. She has become a sought-after guide for purpose-driven entrepreneurs and coaches striving to unlock their full potential and apply it to their businesses.
Combining her skills and passion for spirituality, the law of attraction and Artificial Intelligence (AI), she has already helped 40-plus coaches and entrepreneurs uncover their authentic niche, align with their true selves, define ideal clients, and craft magnetic marketing messages for their purpose-driven businesses. From impactful volunteer projects to roles in the private sector and the European Parliament, Arnela’s transformative career journey fuels her mission to inspire youth and adults to embrace authentic
living and create a positive impact in the world for a brighter, better future.
LET’S START WITH THE BASICS. WHAT LED YOU TO COACHING, AND WHAT WAS YOUR JOURNEY LIKE?
My journey into coaching was anything but linear. I started in the corporate world, climbing the traditional ladder, but something always felt missing. I was successful on paper, yet I lacked a sense of fulfillment. It wasn’t until I went through my own personal transformation—exploring mindfulness, leadership development and personal growth—that I realized my true passion was helping others navigate their own journeys. I pursued certifications, worked with mentors, and gradually transitioned from my corporate role to full-time coaching.
One of the pivotal moments for me was working with my first few clients. I saw firsthand how coaching could unlock potential, shift perspectives and drive real, lasting change. The more I helped others, the more I realized that this work wasn’t just about strategy or mindset—it was about helping people reconnect with themselves and find clarity in their purpose. That realization solidified my commitment to coaching. Witnessing those transformations reaffirmed that I was on the right path. It became evident to me that coaching was more than just guidance—it was a way to help people align their actions with their deeper values and aspirations.
The journey wasn’t without challenges. Building a practice, especially in the early stages, required patience, marketing savvy and a deep understanding of human behavior. I had to learn how to balance my passion with the business side of coaching. But over time, I found my rhythm, developed a niche, and created a system that allowed me to support clients in
a meaningful way, while also growing a sustainable business. Every step reinforced my belief that coaching was my calling, and I’ve never looked back.
YOU MENTIONED FINDING A NICHE. HOW DID YOU NARROW DOWN YOUR FOCUS, AND WHY IS THAT IMPORTANT FOR COACHES?
Finding my niche was one of the most critical steps in my coaching career. When I first started, I wanted to help everyone—I was afraid that narrowing my focus would limit my opportunities. But I quickly learned that having a broad approach actually made it harder to attract the right clients. People resonate with specialists. They want someone who understands their unique challenges and can offer targeted guidance. The clearer I became about my audience, the more effective I was in speaking directly to their needs.
I began by reflecting on my own experiences and strengths. What kind of people naturally sought my advice? What problems was I uniquely equipped to solve? Through coaching and feedback, I realized that my sweet spot was helping high-achievers who felt stuck—people who had outward success but inward dissatisfaction. That clarity allowed me to tailor my messaging, refine my offers and attract clients who truly benefited from my approach. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by trying to help everyone, I was able to deepen my expertise and make a stronger impact.
Beyond just attracting clients, having a niche helped me stand out in a crowded industry. It gave me a specific voice, a recognizable brand and a deeper level of expertise. Coaches often hesitate to niche down, fearing they’ll lose potential clients. But in reality, specificity breeds connection, and connection leads to a thriving practice. By truly understanding my ideal client’s pain points, aspirations and
motivations, I could create solutions that genuinely resonated, which ultimately led to more fulfilling work and better results for both myself and my clients.
AI AND AUTOMATION ARE INCREASINGLY SHAPING INDUSTRIES. HOW DO YOU SEE THEM IMPACTING COACHING?
AI is definitely making its way into coaching, and it’s fascinating to see how it can enhance the field. From automated scheduling and CRM systems to AI-driven insights, technology is streamlining many of the operational aspects of coaching. That means coaches can spend more time focusing on their clients instead of administrative tasks. This efficiency allows coaches to operate at a higher level and provide more value in each session.
Beyond logistics, AI is also influencing client interactions. AI-powered chatbots, for example, can provide initial assessments or offer simple coaching prompts between sessions. Some platforms even analyze speech patterns and emotions to provide feedback on communication styles. While these tools don’t replace human intuition and deep connection, they do offer valuable support, making coaching more accessible and data-driven. Coaches can use these insights to refine their strategies and better understand client progress in ways that weren’t previously possible. However, coaching is deeply personal work. While AI can assist, the human-to-human connection remains irreplaceable. The real magic happens in the nuances—the pauses, the emotional intelligence, the ability to sense what’s not being said. AI might enhance the process, but coaching at its core will always require empathy, trust and a deep understanding of human behavior. No algorithm can truly replicate the intuition and presence that a skilled coach brings to the table. The key is to use AI as a complement, not a substitute, for the transformative work that coaching provides.
THERE’S A LOT OF DISCUSSION ABOUT
AI REPLACING JOBS. DO YOU SEE THAT HAPPENING WITH COACHING?
I don’t see AI replacing coaching, but I do see it reshaping the industry. AI is great at pattern recognition, data analysis and even some level of interactive engagement. But coaching is about transformation, not just information. It’s about helping clients uncover blind spots, shift deeply ingrained beliefs, and take meaningful action—things that require emotional depth and human connection. While AI can analyze data, it can’t replace the human experience of growth and self-discovery. What I do think will happen is an evolution. Coaches who integrate AI effectively will be able to enhance their practice, offer more personalized experiences and possibly scale in new ways. AI might handle pre-session assessments, track progress, or provide supplemental exercises, but the actual breakthroughs— those “aha” moments—will still happen in human-tohuman conversations. The role of the coach will shift toward deeper, more meaningful interactions, as AI takes over the more surface-level tasks.
If anything, AI is pushing coaches to elevate their game. The more automated systems handle surface-level coaching, the more we, as coaches, need to focus on what makes us truly valuable: deep empathy, adaptability and the ability to facilitate profound change. Instead of fearing AI, I see it as an opportunity to refine our craft and deliver even more impactful coaching experiences. The future of coaching isn’t about replacement—it’s about enhancement and evolution.
WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR NEW COACHES TRYING TO ESTABLISH THEMSELVES IN A COMPETITIVE SPACE?
First and foremost, clarity is key. Too many new coaches try to be everything to everyone, which makes it difficult to build traction. Get crystal clear on whom you serve, what problem you solve and how you uniquely do it. That clarity not only attracts the right clients but also makes your marketing efforts far more effective. Without a clear message, it’s easy to get lost in the noise of the industry, but specificity helps you connect with those who truly need your help.
Second, invest in relationships. Coaching is a trust-based business. People work with coaches they feel connected to, so focus on building genuine relationships rather than just chasing sales. Show up consistently—whether through content, networking or offering free workshops—to provide value and build credibility. Authenticity and presence go a long way in creating a strong client base.
Lastly, don’t neglect the business side. Coaching is a passion, but it’s also a profession. Learn about sales,
marketing and systems that support growth. Many talented coaches struggle simply because they don’t have a sustainable business model. Find mentors, take courses and treat your practice like a business from day one. The combination of passion, expertise and business acumen is what creates long-term success.
WHAT’S NEXT FOR YOU AND YOUR COACHING PRACTICE?
I’m always evolving my approach to ensure I’m serving my clients in the best possible way. Right now, I’m focused on refining my coaching programs, integrating more data-driven insights and expanding my reach through online workshops and courses. I’m also exploring how to leverage AI in a way that complements, rather than replaces, the deeply human aspects of coaching.
Beyond that, my goal is to continue making a meaningful impact. Coaching isn’t just a job for me—it’s a calling. Every client breakthrough, every transformation I witness, fuels my passion for this work. I’m excited to see where the next chapter leads and how I can continue helping people unlock their full potential.
WHAT IS THE MOST FULFILLING PART OF BEING A COACH FOR YOU?
The most fulfilling part of being a coach is witnessing my clients’ transformation. There’s a specific moment when they go from confusion to clarity, and you can almost see the light bulbs turning on above their heads. That moment when they realize, “I know what I need to do now and how to succeed,” is incredibly rewarding. It’s not just that I did something well, but that they gained clarity, which empowers them to move forward in their journey. These moments reaffirm that I’m doing the right thing and making a meaningful impact.
AS AN ENTREPRENEUR, WHAT CHALLENGES HAVE YOU FACED, AND HOW HAVE YOU OVERCOME THEM?
Challenges are inevitable, especially as a solopreneur, but I've learned to embrace them as opportunities for growth. One of the biggest challenges I faced was managing all aspects of the business. From handling accounting and marketing to building my website and creating new offers, the workload can feel overwhelming. However, I’ve always considered myself a lifelong learner, and this mindset has helped me navigate the hurdles. I realized that every challenge was a chance to learn something new that I could eventually share with my clients. By continuing to educate myself, I’ve been able to build the foundation for success and grow along with my clients.
CAN YOU SHARE A SPECIFIC CLIENT STORY THAT HAS STOOD OUT TO YOU AND WHY?
I had a client who shared a deeply personal journey. She had always been good at certain things but never recognized these as her true gifts. When I pointed out that her passion and skill were unique and valuable, everything clicked for her. She suddenly realized that what she loved to do wasn’t just a hobby—it was a gift she could share with the world. This moment was incredibly inspiring for me, too, because it reminded me that my role as a coach isn’t just to help clients succeed but to uncover their potential and guide them toward their purpose. It reaffirmed why I do this work and made me appreciate the unique gift of coaching.
WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR NEW COACHES WHO MAY FEEL OVERWHELMED OR LOST IN THE EARLY STAGES OF THEIR JOURNEY?
In the early stages, it’s easy to get bogged down by all the things you think you need to do to grow your business. But it’s crucial to remember why you started in the first place—because you want to make a difference in people’s lives. The entrepreneurial journey can be a rollercoaster, but it’s these transformative moments with clients that remind you of the bigger picture. It’s also important to surround yourself with a community, like IMPACT, where you can find motivation and inspiration. Those moments—when you see the change in a client or receive a heartfelt testimonial—are the fuel that keeps you going. It’s easy to get caught in the day-to-day struggles, but when you keep the vision of those transformational moments in your mind, you remember why it’s all worth it.
HOW HAS BEING PART OF A COMMUNITY HELPED YOU AS A COACH?
Joining the IMPACT community was a gamechanger for me. When I first heard about it, I was excited at the opportunity to practice my coaching skills, but what I didn’t expect was how it would help me refine my niche. Initially, I thought I was going to help professional women turn their life purpose into business ideas. But as I coached other coaches, I realized that my true calling was helping coaches monetize their passions. The community provided not only a space to practice and improve my skills, but also the clarity I needed to define my niche. The more I coached, the more I found my passion and purpose in this work, and it has helped me grow exponentially as both a coach and a mentor.
WHAT DO YOU WISH YOU HAD KNOWN WHEN YOU FIRST STARTED YOUR COACHING JOURNEY?
If I could go back, I’d tell myself not to worry so much. Everything will be fine. The path won’t always be clear, but trust that it’s leading you where you need to go. I’ve learned to reaffirm to myself that I am supported, and everything is working out for my highest good. The uncertainties and challenges that arise are part of the journey, but as long as you stay true to your purpose, they are all part of your growth. I’ve also realized that your niche is not set in stone—it can evolve, and that’s okay. You can change and grow as your journey unfolds.
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO COACHES WHO ARE STILL FIGURING OUT THEIR NICHE?
If you’re still figuring out your niche, just remember: action breeds clarity. It’s okay to not have everything figured out right away. The best way to find out what resonates with you is to dive in and start serving people. You might choose a niche at first, but as you work with clients and gain experience, you’ll naturally refine it. It’s important to be flexible and open to change because you’ll likely discover that your true calling is different from what you first imagined. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your initial niche—it’s not a prison. Allow yourself the freedom to evolve.
HOW CAN COACHES STAY MOTIVATED WHEN THINGS GET TOUGH?
One of the best ways to stay motivated is to connect with a community that shares your values and vision. Being surrounded by like-minded individuals can provide support when you feel isolated or unsure. For me, the IMPACT community has been instrumental in providing that support. When you see others struggling and succeeding alongside you, it’s reassuring and motivating. And when you witness those moments of transformation with your clients, it serves as a reminder of the impact you’re making. It’s not always easy, but staying connected to your purpose and those transformational moments will keep you motivated to continue pushing forward.
WHERE CAN PEOPLE FIND YOU AND LEARN MORE ABOUT YOUR WORK?
You can connect with me on LinkedIn under Carat. Additionally, I’m in the process of launching a YouTube channel called “Unapologetically Authentic with Ab Carat,” where I’ll be sharing valuable insights and content soon. Stay tuned for more updates!
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A little-known yet profound spiritual refuge where there is no dogma, ritual or commercialism.
By Anthony Talmage
We live in an age of instant gratification, where mindfulness has become a corporate buzzword, spirituality is marketed like a fitness program, and enlightenment is promised in “three easy steps.” We are beset by spiritual consumerism—where meditation courses come with price tags and gurus build social media empires.
Yet, beneath all the noise, there is a quiet and profound spiritual refuge where there is no marketing, no evangelizing, no books promising instant transformation. It spreads only by word of mouth, or articles like this one, attracting those who are ready for a direct experience of the Divine, without dogma, ritual or commercialism.
What is this seemingly miraculous portal to spiritual fulfilment? It’s called Subud, which is a Sanskrit acronym symbolising “Right living according to the highest that is possible for man in submission to God’s will.” For practitioners it offers a profound counterbalance to the 21st century addiction to speed and superficiality. In a world that teaches us to chase, strive and acquire, Subud whispers a different message: surrender, trust, receive.
The movement was founded in Indonesia 100 years ago by a humble clerk called Muhammad Subuh Sumohadiwidjojo, who talked of an extraordinary experience while out for a walk to get some air one humid night. Just in front of a hospital under construction, called the Centrale
Burgerlijke Ziekenhuis, a brilliant light in the sky descended and enveloped him, he said. He began shaking and trembling violently, and he thought he was having some kind of heart attack. He was only about 300 metres from where he lived, so he hurried home and threw himself on his bed. He noticed that the light was now inside his body, and he was filled with some kind of radiance. He was then guided by a supernatural energy to stand and walk about, his body shaking and vibrating. This phenomenon, he recalled, went on night after night until finally it petered out. He realised the experience seemed to have had a cleansing effect on his life, physically, mentally and spiritually.
He later discovered he could pass this energy onto others. All he had to do was stand in quiet contemplation while people gathered around him. And those who “received” the energy found they, in turn, could communicate it to others. And so a global spiritual movement was born. As one candle will light another, gradually thousands around the world received the power. Recipients are of all faiths (or none). Many practitioners remain Christians, Muslims, Buddhists or followers of other traditions.
One Subud follower is Rachman Mitchell, a medical doctor who recounts his transformative experience: “After a deep sleep I was suddenly very wide awake and became aware of a ball of bright light above the French doors in front of me. It moved
first into my head and then filled the whole of my body. It was accompanied by an intense, blissful happiness and a feeling of being in my real home.”
Like many in the movement, Dr. Mitchell received the power through practicing, in the company of others, a spiritual exercise known in Indonesian as the latihan kejiwaan, or inner training. This amounts to getting in the right frame of mind, letting go and then allowing the energy to move your body in any way it deems fit.
Husein Rofé, an English linguist living in Indonesia, was the first non-Indonesian to be initiated into Subud. He told friends that his experience with the latihan was transformative. “It gave me a sense of inner peace and spiritual guidance that I’d been looking for all my life.”
Hussein Rawlings, from New Zealand, recalls a deeply moving experience when he introduced his father to Subud. He performed the latihan in the older man’s presence, and he was “opened.” When it happened, his parent said that he finally understood the meaning of the biblical phrase “peace which passeth all understanding.” Shortly before his death, he told Hussein that he had spent his life looking outward for meaning, but now he knew to surrender to the power he felt within.
Subud’s founder, who became affectionately known as Bapak, remained humble at heart throughout the rest of his life, insisting that he was nothing special, and that the power
was a gift from God to cleanse and guide the human heart. Not long before he died in 1987, Muhammad Subuh startled his followers by telling them that the world was populated by invisible entities, far greater in number than people. And that these energies were continuously seeking “soul mates” with whom to combine. Mankind’s actions, he said, are therefore influenced by whatever spirits they invite in. This, Bapak taught, could lead to misery
blotting out other, higher forces, and setting up sicknesses in mind and body. Conversely, he reassured followers that they could overcome this contamination by tuning into higher forces that would eject lower orders. This higher power would intervene to the extent of a person’s need and capacity to receive. If a person allows the High Life Force to flow into him or her, it would not only be that person’s protection but would also flow
from them to others and from them to more still until an immense power gathered strength.
This is the essence of Subud. There are no mantras, no meditations, no teachings to memorize—just the pure, personal experience of divine grace working within.
Author’s Note: You can find more information about Subud here: https://www.whatissubud.net/whatissubud/about.html
Anthony Talmage is author of five books in his Psychic Mind series: Dowse Your Way to Psychic Power, In Tune with The Infinite Mind, Unlock the Psychic Powers of Your Unconscious Mind, How to Crack the Cosmic Code and Mindfulness and The Pendulum all available in Kindle, printed and audio versions from Amazon and all good online bookshops. You also can check out his free podcast at: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1742930
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Pathways to Connecting:
Deck 1 Easing In – playful questions to break the ice & have fun!
Deck 2 Getting Closer – thought-provoking questions to get to know each other better . . . including ourselves.
Deck 3 Deepening Conversation – Insightful questions that invite sharing experiences and reflections on life and relationships.
Deck 4 Daring to Divulge – Provocative questions that spark deeper conversations and encourage meaningful connections.
The key to understanding the construction of the conscious universe is the concept of “Object-Oriented Reality.”
By Owen Waters
The 1999 movie The Matrix presented some thought-provoking concepts to an audience ready for deeper awareness.
In the movie, humans existed in liquid-filled pods while experiencing a simulated version of reality. Their illusion of life was fed to them by a massive computer which was plugged into their brains, replacing the feed of information which would have normally come from their five senses. The computer made them think that they were acting out their lives in an exterior physical world, when it was all just happening inside their brains.
This movie subjected the audience to the shocking idea that life could be simulated—faked up—by a massive computer. Bear in mind, however, that the details of many movie plots do not stand up to close examination. This one, too, fails to explain how an electronic computer could create any of the emotional aspects of human life. Nor could it create the higher, above-sensory facets of human consciousness. For example, imagination, curiosity, creativity and the drive to evolve back to Source would not be products of an electronic computer simulation.
However, the concept hit a resonant nerve with the viewing public because, unconsciously, they know that it has parallels in the truth about life. The physical world really is a simulation, a stage upon which we gain experience and grow. It appears solid but, really, it consists of nothing more than 100 percent non-solid consciousness
We know that the atoms comprising “solid” matter consist of various forms of energy: The different types of energy in this universe are different types of compressed Creator consciousness.
Each object in the universe is a field of consciousness with a set of properties which describe its
nature, its location and its position on a timeline. If you move a chair from one side of a room to the other, its location property will change. If someone else then walks into the room, they will perceive the chair object in its new location.
Physical reality is a construct in consciousness. When you, in your idea of having a physical body, walk into the room and see that chair, you are seeing the idea of the chair as its properties declare it to be. Even the room itself is just another set of properties perceived in consciousness in a way that makes sense to a person who sees it as a room in a physical world.
The entire universe is a giant construct in consciousness where each object is in its right place, courtesy of its own set of properties. The universe is a giant repository of consciousness and information in a constant state of change. It is a living source of information where every object knows its place, and everyone can build their reality by accessing the shared information.
Life is a projection that reflects back at you, the observer, within your field of consciousness. The projection is created by your soul or superconscious mind. It is for this reason that some people refer to the soul realm as the causal realm, because it is the root cause of what appears to be your physical environment. Your soul faithfully provides the scenery and works with the other actors on the theatrical stage of life so that you are free to act in the best way you see fit. It is your conscious mind’s free will that gives you the opportunity to make decisions and learn from the consequent experiences.
We are souls dreaming that we live in a physical world. Once the rules of the dream are understood, life overflows with infinite possibilities. Your soul “walks” through the dream, affecting objects and communicating with other souls while gaining experience.
Every change affecting people and objects is instantly available as information to all concerned. The giant database of universal consciousness refreshes itself at an incredible rate—some billions of times per second.
OBJECT-ORIENTED REALITY IN A CONSCIOUS UNIVERSE
There is a theory going around today that the universe only exists when you are observing it and, therefore, that each person must be creating their entire universe. Yes, you do create your personal version of the universe, but it is readily apparent that the universe goes on doing what it does regardless of whether any particular individual is watching it. For example, you don’t create the stars in the night sky the moment you look up at them. You see them already in existence, in the positions they were in hundreds of lightyears ago when their light began its journey from their location to your location.
The key to understanding the construction of the conscious universe is something I call Object-Oriented
Reality. The universe consists entirely of consciousness, and physical objects are projections of consciousness within the illusions of time and space. Objects maintain their own independent properties defining their nature and location.
Each subatomic particle is an independent object unto itself. Being constructed from consciousness, they also have their own basic sense of conscious awareness. A particle has properties, a whole list of them. It has momentum, a position in space and time, a frequency and density of consciousness that form its very nature, it has an electrical charge, and so on.
Because the choice of Creation is to produce infinite variety, every single subatomic particle in the universe is unique. Every subatomic particle has a distinct signature tone. Like most things in Creation, each unique signature tone has three primary aspects to it— thought, feeling and frequency.
When the conscious entity that we call a subatomic particle is combined with other particles to form an atom, an object of a higher order is formed. At that point, many particles come together to form a larger object, one with its own consciousness, which is greater than the sum of its parts. It is greater than the sum of its parts because, in addition to its parts, it is also a new, larger entity.
That atom may then become attached to other atoms to form a molecule, which is yet another higher order of functionality, also with its own unique combination of properties. That molecule may become part of a tree growing in nature, which then becomes shaped into one component of a wooden chair. Now, we have an object called a chair, consisting of a hierarchy of conscious components which now share the one, integrated set of properties called a chair.
An object is therefore comprised of a functional hierarchy of smaller components, each of which is composed of consciousness, and each of which has its own sense of awareness.
If someone moves your chair when you are away, its location property will have been changed, and you will see it in its new location when you return. The chair was moved independent of your awareness, without you being the one who moved it. As an independent, conscious entity, it retains its own set of properties, including its location. These properties are part of the universal information available to everyone.
Everything in the world is a conscious entity and has awareness, even the things that we have been taught to view as inanimate. Your house feels more like home when you express love toward it. Because the house is a conscious entity, it feels your love and reciprocates your empathetic feeling. Your car works better and becomes more reliable when you love it and appreciate it for the work that
it does. Your pets are fully aware of your thoughts, even if they don’t yet entirely understand thought patterns that include logic, like phrases that may contain the words, “if you” and “or else!”
Within the theater of life, each object maintains its own set of properties and exists within what is often called the conscious universe. It is the massive field of fundamental consciousness which is our world’s version of the awareness of Infinite Being, the all-present consciousness behind all things. The idea that objects are “out there” in space, external to us, is just an idea that is achieved by projection of consciousness. It’s a viewpoint, an entertaining illusion, somewhat similar to the illusion of watching a movie on a big screen.
The universe is one huge field of consciousness containing an infinite variety of objects, each of which manages itself according to its design and the set of properties that defines it. As human beings, we are a part of this universal map of consciousness—this Conscious Matrix and interact with it.
When you see another person, you are seeing a different expression of the same underlying reality of Infinite Being as you. That person is experiencing life from a different viewpoint of the one reality. That is why, even though you maintain the appearance of being different, you and the other person are, deep down, really one.
Now, here is another surprising fact of reality that dwellers in the illusion of our dense 3D find just as hard to get their heads around:
We each create our own unique experience of reality, so when another person is standing in a room with you, it isn’t literally that other person. It is your created version of that person!
(This information comes from beings who reside in higher densities, and they live in full knowledge of it, even if it may be difficult for us in 3D to digest.)
Your soul or superconscious mind is the part of you doing the main work in creating everything, and it is
in constant contact with the other person’s soul, filtering their actions and reactions through your created version of them—through that actor on the theater stage in your unique version of life.
We each create our own unique version of reality. Your reality is one of an infinite number of viewpoints of the original One, just as Infinite Being intended. The constantly updated information in the conscious universe makes this possible, as does the cooperation of other souls at the causal level of our souls.
IN CONCLUSION
Yes, the whole conscious universe matrix concept is mind-blowing, especially the part about versions of other people. It is something that we could just file away in the back of our minds but, before we do that, let’s see what doors of opportunity it opens.
Even though your soul creates the scenery on this theatrical stage of life, it is the actors who ultimately decide on the script. Whenever we are faced with a choice, we use our free will and our souls must then run along with us, updating the scenery to keep the play going as the plot of the next act develops and unfolds.
This means that life is far more plastic and changeable than we ever imagined.
We live within constraints imposed by societal conditioning, by our own fears, and our own self-imposed limitations, all of which are constructs that can be given less importance than we have granted them in the past. We do have soul-level agreements, which are of primary importance, but the underlying truth is that most of us limit ourselves far too much in this life.
We live in a universe that was created by consciousness, and, yet, our minds appear to have limited power to affect our environment in daily life. But, ask yourself this… Could we really be great creators just waiting to discover our true abilities?
iNFINITE BEING
with Owen K. Waters
Owen Waters is author of the Indie award-winning book, Spirituality Made Simple and a cofounder of the Spiritual Dynamics Academy and InfiniteBeing.com, where a where a free spiritual growth newsletter awaits you at https:// www.InfiniteBeing.com. He is an international spiritual teacher who has helped hundreds of thousands of spiritual seekers to understand better the nature of their spiritual potential. Owen’s life has been focused upon gaining spiritual insights through extensive research and the development of his inner vision. He has written a spiritual metaphysics newsletter since 2004 which empowers people to discover their own new vistas of inspiration, love and creativity. Spiritual seekers enjoy his writings for their clarity and deep insights. Contact Owen via email News@InfiniteBeing.com
The Creative Spark
T HE CREATIVE SPARK T HE CREATIVE SPARK
How to access higher sources of creative guidance.
By Spencer Rouse
Fostering creativity is one of the main reasons we have chosen to have a physical existence on Earth: to discover new ways, find solutions, and advance humanity. It begins with a problem that wants resolution. And, when a solution is found, it can have an impact that expands our personal consciousness and then ripples out into the world.
Fortunately, we have plenty of unexpected day-to-day events to get the wheels turning. Why fortunately? Everything that happens outside our “normal”—and our belief systems—calls us to use our God-given creativity for ourselves and others. We work with different energy frequencies according to our interests, training and fluctuating emotions.
We make mistakes. We try again. If we wallow in self-pity or discouragement, we tend to attract more of what caused us to suffer. The discomfort intensifies until we feel a push to take action. We can move forward based on our core values and, at the same time, we can break free from limiting belief systems. However, if we let only our intellect guide us, we can miss inspiration from higher sources.
So how do we access these “higher sources” of creative guidance? We tune into compassion, respect, foresight, best timing, and other high-frequency
channels that elevate the value of our decisions. When we do this, our inner light expands as we benefit from successful solutions, and our personal frequency elevates a notch.
Relaxing the conscious mind and ego until we reach a still point gives high-frequency inspiration and guidance the space needed to enter our consciousness. If we do not integrate this a regular practice, there will be a tendency make more shallow decisions based only on our intellect and societal belief systems, and the results will be less than satisfying. For example, many people focus on material success, money and power over others. As a result, the rewards of creativity are short-lived, and inner peace is rare. In this scenario, greed, limited trust and lack of respect prevail.
At the end of the day, what is our higher purpose? It is to use our creativity to complement our intellect, core values and skills through attunement to a Higher Power. As we focus on unity and the highest good for all, we will be directed to the right thoughts and actions at the right times.
A Higher Power will guide us. Faith and Trust will help us persevere. We will automatically attract the like-minded. We will be joined by the heavenly hosts. The real power to make significant changes— the creative spark—sits first with the individual, and this is where the creative process begins.
Elemental Wisdom
with Spencer Rouse
Spencer Rouse has been a professional psychic and intuitive reader, energy healer, life coach, and lecture/workshop facilitator for more than 20 years, working one-on-one in counseling sessions, in groups, and at psychic fairs and other events. She works primarily through the gifts of claircognizance—an inner knowing—and clairsentience—the ability to sense information through feelings and emotions. Spencer also connects with the different layers of the human energy field (the aura) using color and sound to help balance and invigorate life force energy. Visit her online at http://www.SpencerRouse.com or email PsychicSpencer.com
How to develop discernment in your relationships and then focus on the ones that will sustain you through life’s storms.
By Stéphane Narcis
Friendships are among the most valuable relationships in life, but not all friendships are built to last. Some people come into our lives briefly, others stay a little longer—and a rare few become our foundation.
Recently, I had a thought-provoking discussion with my friend Anne-Marie. We reflected on friendship, loyalty, and what it truly means to have real friends. That conversation made me reevaluate my relationships—who was truly there for me? Who were my genuine friends, and who were around out of convenience?
Not long after that discussion, something interesting happened. I opened Instagram and saw a video of Tyler Perry, shared by Angela
Schellenberg. In it, Perry explained how not all friends are the same—some come and go with the seasons, while only a few stay through life’s storms. That moment reminded me of something powerful: When you actively seek answers, the universe finds a way to deliver them. This is how the Law of Attraction works—what you focus on expands. When I spent time evaluating my friendships, life opened three different windows of experience: 1) Spark Friends: They come on so strong and blurry that they seem just like a roller coaster ride. They are filled with excitement and passion, but the flip side is that they die very fast. You know the type—everything seems electric initially, but before you know it, they just fade away.
2) Flickering Light Friends: They bring warmth but cannot endure much pressure. They are easy to find. These friends will go out with you, have a drink or two and chat, but they disappear when life gets challenging.
3) Steady Beam Friends: These are the ones that shine constantly, guiding you through the darkest of times.
One of life’s most important discernments is knowing in which category your friendships lie. Following are three examples that fall into the categories of Spark Friends and/or Flickering Light Friends.
Example 1: A friend who vanished after finding love. I had a friend whom I considered one of my closest companions. We spent years building our bond—sharing secrets, lifting each other during hard times, and being present for one another.
Then, she met someone.
At first, I was happy for her. But slowly, the messages became less frequent, the calls stopped, and invitations were no longer extended. It was as if I had never existed in her life. There was no fight, no fallout—just silence. Months passed, then years. To this day, I have never heard from her again.
Lesson: Some friendships end abruptly. It can occur when someone moves into their life as if it were a new chapter. True friends will never leave you for another relationship. They will know how to prioritize and life balance.
Example 2: The friend who “could never afford anything.”
Another “friend” always claimed she was struggling financially. Whenever we made plans—whether for coffee, a meal or a small outing—she’d say, “I can’t afford it.” Because I cared about our friendship, I often covered her costs.
But then I noticed something strange: She could afford expensive meals, nights out and designer items when spending time with other people. That’s when it hit me; it was never about money. It was about me. She didn’t want to spend her money when she knew I would step in. But when she was with others, she made the effort.
Lesson: If a friend only values your presence when you’re giving them something, it’s not a real friendship—it’s a one-sided exchange. A genuine connection should never be based on expectation or personal gain.
Example 3: The moment I said, “No” they disappeared! For a long time, I said “yes” to everything—buying friends drinks, paying for cinema tickets, driving them around. I never questioned it because I believed in generosity and supporting my friends.
But the moment I set boundaries and said, “I can’t this time,” everything changed.
• They got annoyed.
• They stopped calling.
• They acted like I was the problem. That’s when I realized that some people only value you for what they can get from you. The moment you stop being their source of convenience, they lose interest.
Lesson: A true friend respects your limits. If a relationship is based on what you can give rather than mutual care, then it’s not a friendship—it’s a transaction.
Photo by Joel Muniz on Unsplash.
RESILIENCE: ACCEPTING FRIENDSHIP LOSS WITHOUT BITTERNESS
Losing a friendship—especially one that meant a lot to you—can be painful. But true emotional resilience comes from learning to let go without resentment.
• Stop chasing people who no longer prioritize you.
• Reframe the situation—every loss is an opportunity for growth.
• Let go with love. Holding onto anger only keeps you stuck.
LIFE COACHING TIPS: HOW TO STAY STRONG WHEN FRIENDSHIPS FADE
1) Acknowledge your emotions—It’s okay to feel hurt but don’t let it define you.
2) Find support in other relationships—Shift your energy towards those genuinely caring.
3) Build self-sufficiency—Find happiness within yourself rather than relying on others.
4) Stay open to new connections—Not everyone will stay, but new, more meaningful friendships will come.
STEADY BEAM FRIENDS: THE ONES WHO STAY
Now ask yourself: Who was there when you struggled?
When my friend fell into depression, many other people left him—but I was there. When I went through tough times, certain people distanced themselves—but others stood by my side. And when another friend needed just one person to listen, most people turned their backs on her—but I listened and stayed engaged.
Lesson: If you want to know your true friends, look at who was still there when everything fell apart.
HOW TO RECOGNISE A STEADY BEAM FRIEND:
• They stand by you even when you have nothing to offer.
• They listen without judgment.
• They celebrate your wins without jealousy.
• They remain present when everyone else leaves.
FINAL REFLECTIONS: THE LAW OF ATTRACTION AND FRIENDSHIP
Like everything else, friendships are shaped by the energy you put into the world. When I started questioning my friendships, the universe immediately sent me an answer through a conversation with my friend Anne-Marie, an Instagram video and my reflections. It is the Law of Attraction at work:
• What you focus on expands.
• What you seek, you will find.
• When you ask for truth, life will reveal it to you.
CALL TO ACTION: SELFREFLECTION QUESTIONS
Take a moment to reflect on your friendships and ask yourself:
1) Who was truly there when I struggled?
2) Who only came to me when they needed something?
3) Who celebrated my wins wholeheartedly?
4) Am I being a good friend to those who deserve it?
True friendship is about mutual support, not convenience. Choose wisely, let go of what no longer serves you, and be the kind of friend you wish to have. True friendship is sharing the trials of life, not running to one another for convenience. Choose wisely, let go of the rest, and be the kind of friend you want to have.
Find your Steady Beam Friends, cherish them—and be one in return.
Stéphane Narcis DProfQAHE, PhD, Dr. h.c. is a distinguished academic, researcher and educator specializing in film studies, intercultural communication and psychological analysis. His work focuses on media representation, nonverbal communication and narcissistic personality disorder. Holding a PhD in Film Studies, and aDoctor of Letters & PostDoctor of Letters (DLitt & PDLitt), he has received multiple awards for his academic contributions.
As a certified expert in body language and lie detection, he provides professional training to leaders and educators. His research has gained international recognition, offering insights into toxic relationship dynamics, workplace conflicts and societal structures. Stéphane aims to bridge academic research with real-world application, empowering individuals through education, cultural awareness, and psychological resilience. Connect with Stéphane: https://www. instagram.com/stephane_narcis
The Power of Analog in a Digital World
T HE POWER OF ANALOG IN A DIGITAL WORLD T HE POWER OF ANALOG IN A DIGITAL WORLD
Engaging with information through non-digital, hands-on techniques promotes active involvement from the learner, boosting comprehension and memory retention.
By Jowanna Daley
We often think of stress as something to avoid, but when it comes to learning, stress isn’t just inevitable—it’s necessary. When we challenge our brains with new information, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. But what if I told you that this kind of stress is beneficial?
I know this firsthand.
As a child, I struggled with staying organized, completing homework and focusing. I wasn’t seen as someone with potential—I was just the kid with a messy desk who couldn’t sit still. But in eighth grade, my science teacher announced that someone in the class had scored surprisingly high on an IQ test. The whole class turned and looked at me—the feral kid in the back. That moment changed everything.
I had been accused of a lot of things up until then, but smart was not one of them. I realized I needed a way to structure my thoughts and focus my energy. I needed a way to keep those squirrels in my head contained!
Writing became my tool for learning—it slowed my thoughts and forced me to focus, helped me process ideas, and made complex information easier to absorb. The physical act of putting pen to paper allowed me to engage with what I was learning in a way that passive reading never could.
But over the years, I drifted away from those methods. Manual techniques helped me master the digital landscape, and I became a digital efficiency queen. I could summarize, automate and streamline, but over time I struggled with learning.
What I didn’t realize was that I was losing something crucial: the productive struggle that makes learning stick.
WHY STRESS IS A NATURAL PART OF LEARNING
In a world that is more cognizant of the importance of mental health and self-care, it’s easy to see stress as something to be avoided at all costs. Many of us have learned to prioritize emotional well-being, setting boundaries to protect ourselves from unnecessary strain. However, there is an unintended consequence to this mindset. When faced with the initial discomfort of learning something new, we may mistake that discomfort for harm and abandon the process too soon.
Instead of pushing through the challenge, we retreat, believing that struggle is a sign we’re not cut out for what we’re
trying to learn. But what if that very discomfort is the signal that real learning is happening?
THE SCIENCE BEHIND LEARNING DISCOMFORT
From a neuroscience perspective, learning isn’t supposed to be effortless. When we encounter new information, our brains go through a process called cognitive dissonance—a state of mental discomfort that forces us to make sense of something unfamiliar. This discomfort is a sign that our brain is building new neural pathways. (And yes, it can also be the cause of a few notso-pretty meltdowns as you figure things out.)
The stress and discomfort are real, but they exist for legitimate reasons:
• Mild stress enhances memory formation. When we engage in effortful learning, our brains release norepinephrine, a neurotransmitter that strengthens connections between neurons (Friedman, 2014).
• Struggle signals that learning is happening. If something feels too easy, chances are that you are not retaining it. The challenge of recalling, organizing and applying knowledge helps reinforce it in long-term memory (Fiorella & Mayer, 2016).
• Deep learning requires discomfort. The reason you remember skills like riding a bike isn’t because it was easy— it’s because your brain worked hard to master them.
The key is to embrace the right kind of stress—enough to stimulate growth, but not so much that it leads to frustration or burnout, blocking the ability to absorb new material. Instead of seeing struggle as a stop sign, we should recognize it as a natural and necessary part of deep learning.
WHAT IS ANALOG LEARNING?
Analog learning involves engaging with information through non-digital, hands-on techniques. Rather than typing notes, viewing videos, or utilizing AI tools for content summarization, it emphasizes manual, interactive activities such as handwriting, drawing, verbalizing or physically arranging information. These techniques require active involvement from the learner, boosting comprehension and memory retention. In contrast to digital tools that frequently promote passive consumption, analog learning compels the brain to decelerate, sift through
information, and engage in deep cognitive processing. This intentional effort is what makes learning more effective and long-lasting (Wammes, Meade, & Fernandes, 2016).
WHY ANALOG METHODS IMPROVE LEARNING
In an age where digital tools promise faster and more efficient learning, why would we return to analog methods? The answer lies in how the brain processes and retains information. Analog methods—such as handwriting, drawing and verbalizing concepts—create multi-sensory engagement, which strengthens neural pathways and deepens understanding.
When I started writing everything down as a teenager— taking notes in class, rewriting them at home, jotting things down as I read, and even explaining concepts to others—I was unknowingly forging powerful neural connections. I thought I was just trying to keep those squirrels in my head contained, but, in reality, I was strengthening my ability to recall and apply knowledge. Each time I wrote something out, it wasn’t just a repetition—it was an active process of filtering, organizing and engaging with the material in a way that helped it stick.
When you physically write or sketch ideas, your brain must do more than passively absorb—it has to process, structure and make meaning of the information. Unlike typing, which often encourages mindless transcription, analog learning slows the process down, requiring deeper cognitive effort, stronger mental connections, and, ultimately, better retention (Farrand, Hussain, & Hennessy, 2002).
FOUR ANALOG METHODS FOR DEEP LEARNING
The key to retaining information is engagement and processing, not passive absorption. Below are some analog methods that can help deepen learning by actively engaging the brain at different levels.
1) Handwriting Notes. Writing by hand engages the brain more deeply than typing. It forces you to slow down, process information actively, and decide what’s truly important. Unlike typing, which often leads to transcribing verbatim, handwriting encourages summarization and synthesis. This process strengthens neural connections and improves long-term retention (Friedman, 2014).
2) Mind mapping. Mind mapping is a visual way to structure thoughts and ideas. By creating a web of related concepts, you give your brain a clear, visual representation of how different ideas connect. This technique is particularly useful for breaking down complex subjects, brainstorming new ideas, or reviewing material in a way that mirrors the way your brain naturally organizes information. Studies have shown that mind mapping can enhance memory recall and understanding (Farrand, Hussain, & Hennessy, 2002).
3) Sketchnoting. Sketchnoting combines words with simple drawings to help reinforce key ideas. By engaging both verbal and visual memory, it makes concepts more
memorable. Even if you’re not an artist, simple doodles, symbols and diagrams can help capture the essence of what you’re learning and make it easier to recall later. This technique leverages the picture-superiority effect, where images are better-remembered than words (Wammes, Meade, & Fernandes, 2016).
4) Rewriting and summarizing. One of the best ways to reinforce learning is to rewrite and summarize key points in your own words. This process forces you to engage deeply with the material, ensuring that you understand it rather than just memorizing it. A good technique is to write a summary as if you were explaining the concept to a friend who knows nothing about it. Research suggests that summarization and self-explanation improve comprehension and retention (Fiorella & Mayer, 2016).
HOW ANALOG LEARNING CAN STRENGTHEN YOUR PROFESSIONAL PROCESS
Incorporating analog learning isn’t just for personal development—it can be a powerful tool in your coaching practice Whether you’re designing a new program, enhancing your own skill set, or guiding clients through their own learning journeys, analog methods can deepen engagement and retention. Here are some ways to integrate these techniques into different aspects of your professional work:
1) Researching and developing coaching programs. When crafting a new program or refining an existing one, analog techniques can help you organize your thoughts, generate new ideas and create a clear structure. Consider using:
• Mind Mapping—Visually map out the key components of your program and how they connect.
• Handwritten Note-taking—Summarize key insights from books, research papers and case studies to process information deeply.
• Sticky Notes or Index Cards—Arrange and rearrange ideas to find the best flow for your program.
2) Skills development and training. When expanding your own knowledge or undergoing professional development, analog learning can reinforce new concepts and make them stick. Try:
• Rewriting and Summarizing—After attending a workshop or webinar, write a one-page summary in your own words.
• Sketchnoting—Combine doodles, keywords and symbols to capture big ideas from training sessions.
• Creating Flashcards—When learning new frameworks, coaching models or techniques, use flashcards for recall practice.
3) Using analog learning in your coaching practice. Clients often struggle with absorbing new insights or following through with action steps. Encourage them to engage with analog methods to enhance their progress and self-awareness:
• Journaling—Ask clients to reflect on their growth, setbacks and insights between sessions.
• Manual Goal Setting—Instead of using digital planners, encourage clients to handwrite their action steps, reinforcing commitment.
• Gratitude Lists or Daily Check-ins—Writing down small wins and reflections can help clients develop resilience and mindfulness.
• Letter Writing—Have clients write a letter to their future selves or to an obstacle they need to overcome, reinforcing mindset shifts.
By incorporating these analog techniques, you can help both yourself and your clients retain information, process experiences and make meaningful progress
THE BALANCE BETWEEN ANALOG AND DIGITAL LEARNING
Learning isn’t supposed to be effortless. The struggle, the stress and the discomfort—these are signals that growth is happening. Instead of avoiding them, we should lean in and use techniques that make the process more effective.
While analog learning provides deep cognitive engagement, digital tools have their place in enhancing efficiency, accessibility and collaboration. The key is knowing when to use each approach.
• Use analog learning when you need to slow down, retain information deeply, and make sense of complex ideas. Writing, drawing and physically organizing thoughts help build stronger neural connections and improve recall.
• Use digital tools for tasks that require speed, automation and accessibility. Cloud storage, transcription tools and online collaboration platforms make it easier to organize and share information efficiently.
For coaches, this means striking a strategic balance: encouraging clients to write and reflect on their progress, while leveraging digital systems for scheduling, automation and resources.
By incorporating both analog and digital methods, we can create deeper connections with knowledge, streamline workflows,
and help clients embrace the natural stress of learning—without unnecessary friction.
How can you start applying this balance in your coaching practice today?
References
• Farrand, P., Hussain, F., & Hennessy, E. (2002). The efficacy of the mind map study technique. Medical Education, 36(5), 426-431.
• Fiorella, L., & Mayer, R. E. (2016). Eight ways to promote generative learning. Educational Psychology Review, 28(4), 717-741.
• Friedman, M. (2014). The role of stress in learning and memory. Neuroscience and Biobehavioral Reviews, 37(9), 1898-1908.
• Wammes, J. D., Meade, M. E., & Fernandes, M. A. (2016). The drawing effect: Evidence for reliable and robust memory benefits in free recall. The Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology, 69(9), 1752-1776.
The Daley Word
with Jowanna Daley
Jowanna is a business and personal coach, consultant, freelance blogger, and personal brand photographer. Jowanna uses her 20-plus years of business, information technology, business analysis, and project management experience to serve solopreneurs, microbusinesses, and professionals through consulting, coaching, training, and workshops. She is also a freelance blogger who serves corporate and non-corporate clients. Visit her website at https://www.jowannadaley.com/about/
Cleared for Landing
C LEARED FOR L ANDING C LEARED FOR L ANDING
The top seven reasons to use online landing pages.
By Christine Morse
Landing pages are crucial for increasing sales and enhancing communication with potential customers. They provide a targeted platform where coaches can present specific products or services, directly addressing the needs and interests of visitors. By focusing on a single call to action and minimizing distractions, standalone Internet landing pages streamline the customer journey, making it easier for users to make a decision and act on it. This direct approach not only improves the user experience but also significantly boosts conversion rates—leading to more effective marketing campaigns and better customer engagement. Here are the top seven reasons you should be using landing pages for your business:
1) Targeted Messaging: Landing pages are designed to focus on specific campaigns, services, events or messages, making it easier to connect with the audience’s specific interests and needs.
2) Improved Conversion Rates: By eliminating distractions and providing a clear call to action (CTA), landing pages guide visitors towards desired actions, such as signing up for a newsletter, downloading a resource or making a donation.
3) Data Collection: Landing pages often include forms to capture visitor information, which can be used for building email lists, personalizing future outreach, and nurturing leads through targeted follow-ups.
4) Enhanced Analytics: They allow organizations to track the performance of specific campaigns more accurately, providing insights into visitor behavior, conversion rates, and the effectiveness of different outreach strategies.
5) SEO Benefits: Well-optimized landing pages can rank high in search engine results, driving more organic traffic to the organization’s website and increasing visibility.
6) Cost-Effective Advertising: When used in conjunction with paid advertising, landing pages ensure that the traffic driven by ads is directed to a page that maximizes the chances of conversion, thus providing better returns on advertising spend.
7) Focused User Experience: They offer a streamlined experience tailored to the visitor’s needs and interests, increasing the likelihood of engagement and action.
By leveraging landing pages, coaches and entrepreneurs can enhance their outreach efforts, engage more effectively with their audience, and achieve their goals more efficiently.
Christine Morse has over 20 years of experience in marketing, team leadership, client relations and sales with companies such as Herman Miller, Amway International, Spectrum Health, Avid Marketing, Wyoming Kentwood Chamber of Commerce, and several disability network nonprofits. She formed Avid Alliance in 2009, which is focused on helping people to understand how beneficial it is to use free and low-cost tools for excellent branding and business expansion. Christine excels at providing strategic counsel and is a business growth implementor with a focus on marketing and sales. She has helped thousands of people to learn about identifying their ideal client and competitors, realizing their strengths and weaknesses to determine which tactics will work best for quick business growth. She also donates her time and energy towards many nonprofit organizations which contribute to the sustainability of this community. Visit her website at https://www.avidmarketingalliance.com.
We all get invited to the spiritual path party. Recognize what’s being asked of you and, if you
RSVP, “Yes,” know that nothing will ever be the same.
By Jo Mooy
You’re planning a party that’s scheduled about six weeks out. You notify friends to save the date and to RSVP. Most respond positively and say that they’re coming. Their responses read: Great; Love to see everyone; Thanks for the invite: What can I bring? There are a few responses like: I’m not sure, or I’ll have to let you know. More intriguing, one says: That’s six weeks away. I don’t know what I’m doing on that day! (How about putting the party on your calendar?)
Some respondents read the invite and make a commitment to attend the party. A few who didn’t commit are either waiting for a calendar entry to clear or hoping a better offer comes along. The last one is clearly averse to committing and, without saying the words, is telling you that your party is probably not that important.
The party invitation could be an analogy for when another invitation arrives—the one that asks you in a most subtle way to follow a spiritual life path. Responses generally follow the same as the party invite. You’re excited to meet others like you and say yes. Others aren’t too sure of what’s going to be required to follow this path, so they
hedge on the answer. And a few may blow it off entirely.
A long-time friend once told me that the awareness of the spiritual path was like going to a spiritual party store. She said that when the invite arrived, she became a “spiritual energizer bunny.” She attended every class that came along. She began reading dozens of metaphysical books and listening to chant music. She sat in front of numerous teachers—too many to name. Then one day she finally settled down and began to sift through all she’d experienced, read and been taught. She culled through the teachings settling on only what worked for her. Many who get the invite and embark on the spiritual journey know about that devotion to the studies that she describes. But what about the others who hesitate?
There’s a legendary Grand Master named Yoda who led the Jedi Order in the Star Wars movies. The Jedi were warrior-monks who were powerful guardians of order and justice. They went through rigorous training and intensive self-discipline to keep harmony and a moral order in the empire of planets. They avoided using violence but were able to wield a supernatural power
known as The Force, which allowed them to perform incredible feats of strength, move objects, and connect to the thoughts of others. They followed a creed similar to Taoism that focused on compassion for others, mindfulness meditation, and non-attachment. They saw fear as the root of all suffering, so they engaged in activities that fostered harmony and peace.
When a candidate was selected to join the order, they were trained in the Taoist arts by the Master Yoda. When an aspirant faltered in their training or grumbled about it, Yoda’s standard reply was rooted in mindfulness and non-attachment to the outcome. He said, “Do, or do not. There is no try.” What he meant was, the individual should commit to the action by giving it their complete effort. They should not try halfheartedly. Essentially, they were to do something with full dedication to the task, or should not do it all. Because “trying” implied a lack of conviction, or a hesitation to fully attend to the calling, the discipline, or the task at hand. The spiritual party invitation demands a similar commitment. The path requires a firm YES. There is no trying, or you will not be successful on this path. Trying means a lack of confidence in your ability to succeed. Trying
always roots out the ones committed to the path from the ones who are simply voyeurs and not yet ready to commit. There’s no middle ground of “I’ll let you know” when this invitation occurs. That’s because it requires a strong commitment to the disciplines
Conscious Living with Jo Mooy
that must be followed that will result in dramatic personal life changes.
The invite comes to everyone. For some, it arrives early in life; some in later years. When it arrives, you’ll feel and know the subtleness of the calling. Study it well before you answer
the call. Recognize what’s being asked of you and remember there is no try. If you RSVP yes, know that nothing will ever be the same for you. But isn’t that the spiritual party we all get invited to sooner or later? The choice is: attend or decline. There is no try.
Jo Mooy has studied with many spiritual traditions over the past 40 years. The wide diversity of this training allows her to develop spiritual seminars and retreats that explore inspirational concepts, give purpose and guidance to students, and present esoteric teachings in an understandable manner. Along with Patricia Cockerill, she has guided the Women’s Meditation Circle since January 2006 where it has been honored for five years in a row as the “Favorite Meditation” group in Sarasota, FL, by Natural Awakenings Magazine. Teaching and using Sound as a retreat healing practice, Jo was certified as a Sound Healer through Jonathan Goldman’s Sound Healing Association. She writes and publishes a monthly internationally distributed e-newsletter called Spiritual Connections and is a staff writer for Spirit of Maat magazine in Sedona. For more information go to http://www.starsoundings.com or email jomooy@gmail.com
How to stay balanced in a world gone upside down.
By Mary Boutieller
How do we, as individuals, as groups, continue to move forward putting one foot in front of the other when so many of us are feeling despair these days? The political tone and decisions of the current U.S. government have me at a loss for words. I’m experiencing so many mixed emotions that I sometimes hardly know what to think. Although I try to write about more positive things, if I’m being honest, and I always try to be, I’m struggling to stay balanced in a world gone upside down.
Yet, each day I wake up, get dressed, work out, talk to family or friends, check emails...day-to-day events that both keep us moored and somewhat distracted from the bigger things. I take time to notice the blue sky, the pollen forming on the trees. I take time to be present, to smile, even to feel happy. If we were always focused on the worries of the world, I think our lives would fall apart.
Anger is one of many emotions we humans experience; one we are often not comfortable with. In my early life, I saw how anger could destroy homes and relationships, and I know that anger isn’t the answer to most problems. We cannot meet hardness with hardness. It would be like banging our heads against a wall.
The great Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.”
Instead of lashing out, we soften, we try to understand, we put our best selves forward in an attempt to make it okay, even when it isn’t.
So what do we do with all this distress? William Arthur Ward said, “It is wise to direct your anger towards problems, not people; to focus your energies on answers, not excuses.”
If you are feeling frustrated, disillusioned or angry, channel that into positive action. If it’s political, call, write, donate or protest. If it is personal, be willing to speak your truth. Whatever you do, don’t wallow in it, for to stay in the throes of anger only eats away at our souls. Remember, too, that moving our bodies helps us to dissipate energy—so sing, scream, walk in nature, jump rope, dance, make love. We are sentient beings being flooded with an enormous amount of negativity. We can pretend all is well, hide under the covers, or we can take good care of ourselves and work together to forge a path forward.
I’m reminded of one of Margaret Mead’s quotes, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
Don’t give up. Hang in there. To paraphrase a quote I once heard: It will all be okay in the end, and if it isn’t okay, it isn’t the end.
The Yoga of Life
with Mary Boutieller
Mary Boutieller is a Registered Yoga Teacher through Yoga Alliance. She has been teaching yoga since 2005. Her work experience includes 22 years as a firefighter/paramedic and 10 years as a Licensed Massage Therapist. Mary’s knowledge and experience give her a well-rounded understanding of anatomy, alignment, health and movement in the body. She is passionate about the benefits of yoga and the ability to heal at all levels through awareness, compassion, and a willingness to explore. She can be reached at: SimplyogaOm@gmail.com
What if the answer is in the questions?
By Christina Stäudle
When was the last time your gut feeling told you something was not right about what someone had just shared?
Maybe it was a bold claim from a thought leader, a statement that didn’t sit well with your personal experience, or a belief you had held for years but suddenly felt uncertain about. In that moment, a quiet but insistent voice within you whispered: “Is this really true?”
Doubt is often framed as a problem—something to overcome, suppress or fear. In many circles, questioning beliefs, especially those that have shaped identity, can feel destabilizing or even rebellious. But what if doubt isn’t the enemy? What if, instead of seeing it as a force that disrupts, we recognize its potential as a refining agent—one that clarifies, aligns and ultimately deepens what is truly authentic?
Doubt has the power to either paralyze or transform. It can dismantle or rebuild. It can keep you stuck in fear or push you toward clarity. The key is learning to discern its source and intention.
THE REFINING POWER OF DOUBT
Some of the most significant transformations in life begin with doubt. When we start questioning long-held beliefs about ourselves, our values or our identity, we make space for something deeper and more authentic to emerge.
Often, what we initially fear as “losing faith” or “losing certainty” is actually the beginning of refining faith and clarity.
REBUILDING FAITH AFTER SPIRITUAL ABUSE
I remember when my husband and I came out from an abusive and highly manipulative church/ministry setting over 20 years ago.
I had been brainwashed to deeply distrust my own perception. So, after the emotional breakdown, I had to rebuild my mental health and my faith.
Which I did by inviting doubt. I decided to doubt everything I thought I knew about myself and God. Especially all the negative representations of His nature I had been bombarded with in that abusive setting.
There was one verse I held onto, which stated, “God is light, and there is no shadow in Him.” So this was the base from which I moved.
It was hard work, it was painful, it was infuriating, it was an utterly vulnerable place to be. But it helped me to truly heal. And rebuild my life on a solid foundation.
✔ Key Takeaway: Wrestling with doubt wasn’t destruction—it was transformation.
The key difference between transformative and disruptive doubt is its source and intention. Where is this doubt coming
from? Does it stem from a person or system that seeks to disrupt, control, or keep you small? Or is it coming from a place that challenges you to refine, expand and sift for truth? When we discern the origin and purpose of doubt, we can determine whether it is a force that will keep us stuck or a tool that will lead us into greater clarity.
THE CHRYSALIS: DOUBT AS A TOOL FOR GROWTH
Sophie walked beside Lydia, the soft crunch of leaves underfoot punctuating their quiet steps through the forest. Sunlight filtered through the trees, casting dappled patterns on the ground. She inhaled deeply, feeling the crisp air settle in her lungs.
“I just don’t know who I am without these beliefs,” Sophie admitted, her voice carrying a mix of frustration and fear. “I’ve held onto them for so long. If I let go, what’s left?”
Lydia smiled gently but said nothing. Instead, she slowed her pace, drawing Sophie’s attention to a small branch hanging low over their path. Nestled among its twigs was a chrysalis, motionless yet full of quiet transformation.
“Do you know what happens inside there?” Lydia asked, tilting her head toward the cocoon. Sophie shrugged. “The caterpillar turns into a butterfly.”
“Yes, but before that…” Lydia’s voice softened. “Before it can become anything new, it first completely dissolves. Inside that chrysalis, the caterpillar doesn’t just grow wings—it undoes itself. Its entire structure breaks down into a kind of organic soup. The old form must be dismantled before the new one can emerge.”
Sophie frowned, crossing her arms. “That sounds...intense.” Lydia nodded. “It is. And that’s what real transformation feels like sometimes. It’s not destruction—it’s refinement. It’s not chaos; it’s the process of letting go of what no longer serves so that something truer, something fully aligned, can take shape.”
Sophie let out a slow breath, her gaze lingering on the chrysalis. “So, doubt isn’t the enemy?”
“Not at all,” Lydia said. “It’s the catalyst. Doubt is the undoing that makes space for becoming. The mistake most people make is seeing doubt as a force that tears things apart. But what if it’s actually the force that clears the way for clarity? For authenticity?”
Sophie swallowed. “But what if I don’t recognize myself after?”
Lydia smiled knowingly. “You won’t. Not entirely. But you also won’t be lost. You’ll be free. Free from old structures that no longer fit. Free to choose what aligns. Free to emerge as the person you were always meant to be.”
Sophie reached out, running her fingers lightly over the rough bark of the tree where the chrysalis clung. For the first time, she didn’t just see the undoing. She saw the becoming.
✔ Key Takeaway: Doubt undoes us in order to rebuild us.
WHEN DOUBT BECOMES DISRUPTIVE
Doubt is a powerful force, much like fire. When harnessed well, fire refines, purifies and transforms. It melts away impurities and brings clarity to what is valuable. But fire can also be unpredictable, consuming everything in its path if left unchecked. The same is true for doubt. It has the power to refine, but it also has the power to paralyze, fragment and erode trust—both in ourselves and in the world around us.
One of the most destructive ways doubt manifests is through paralyzing indecision. When a person finds themselves caught in an endless cycle of questioning, unable to land on a conclusion, doubt no longer serves as a refining tool but becomes a trap that prevents movement.
Doubt can also erode self-trust, leading to dependence on external validation. If doubt tears down without rebuilding, it creates an internal vacuum, leaving a person feeling lost. Others may use doubt as a way to avoid growth, questioning everything to delay action. When doubt hardens into cynicism, it becomes a consuming force, leaving nothing but distrust in its wake.
Doubt, when aligned with a pursuit of truth, has the power to reveal what is strong and lasting. But when it spirals into indecision, self-distrust, fragmentation, avoidance or cynicism, it no longer serves us. It simply keeps us stuck, afraid of either holding on or letting go.
NAVIGATING DOUBT INTENTIONALLY
• Self-Reflection Questions
1) Is this doubt leading me toward deeper truth, or keeping me stuck?
2) Am I using doubt as a tool for growth or avoidance?
3) What belief is this doubt asking me to reassess, refine or release?
• Coaching Strategies
1) Use body awareness: Does doubt feel expansive or restrictive?
2) Shift from “What’s True?” to “What’s Aligned?”
3) Encourage action-based testing: “What’s a small action you can take to test whether this doubt is real or just fear?”
CONCLUSION: THE GIFT OF DOUBT
Doubt can either refine or destroy, clarify or confuse it depends on its source and purpose. Instead of resisting doubt, what if you explored what it’s inviting you into?
Final question: Where is doubt asking you to step into greater clarity today?
Christina Stäudle is a trauma-informed psychotherapy practitioner, TA Master Transformation Coach, and founder of Mission Transformation International. Known as Mrs. Antifragility, she equips individuals to break free from toxic cycles, build authentic purpose, and grow through adversity with grace and strength. Her work blends self-leadership, resilience, and soul-deep transformation—empowering emerging leaders to move from survival into sustainable impact. Christina is based in Germany and East Africa. You can connect with her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-stäudle-mt
