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NST 9/11 Memorial By Michael Kohn
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esidents of North Shore towers gathered on Saturday, September 11th at the flagpole in the central garden to memorialize the 20th Anniversary of the attack on the Twin Towers. Event organizer and emcee Dr. Stanley J. Goldsmith said, “The intent of the ceremony was to give the North Shore Towers community the opportunity to gather together to remember those whose lives were lost in the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and to pay tribute to the first responders who risked their health and lives during the period that followed to rescue, recover and rebuild. I believe that we accomplished that.” Goldsmith, the Vice President of the NST Bd. of Directors and Chairman of the Special Events Committee, said he was pleased with the turnout. North Shore Towers retired first responders were represented at the event by resident firefighter Tom Lyons, NYPD Detective Todd Heiman, and NYPD Sargent Ivan Ko. “Out of the ashes of the tragedy of September 11th, however, many American heroes emerged, the first responders, who spontaneously stepped up and stepped forward to rescue whomever could be saved,” Goldsmith said. NST Bd. of Directors President Ed Phelan also spoke at the event. “The new test for 9/11 is with our younger Americans because 9/11 is no longer an experience lived,
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A moment of silence in memory of the 9/11 victims with Dr. Stanley Goldsmith and Phyllis Hoffman.
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Bd. Pres. Ed Phelan and State Senator John Liu.
but rather history learned,” he said. “It’s important that the memorial presentations will continue to ensure that a new generation understands the capacity within each of us to stand together and fulfill our promise to never forget.” Local officials attending included State Senator John Liu, State Assemblyman Ed Braunstein, NYC Councilman Barry Grodenchik, and NY State Assemblyman David Weprin, represented by Anthony Lemma. “I am always honored to participate in the 9/11 ceremony at North Shore Towers,” said Grodenchik. “This year’s 20th anniversary commemoration was a meaningful and moving tribute.” Braunstein added, “On the 20th anniversary of the 9/11 terrorist attacks, New Yorkers united to remember the innocent victims who lost their lives on that dark day, as well honor those brave first responders who sacrificed everything to save others. It was an honor to attend the North Shore Towers’ 9/11 Ceremony and to join together as a community to renew our solemn vow to never forget.” The benediction was given by Lake Success Jewish Center Rabbi Michael Hoffman. Musical interludes were led and sung by Phyllis Hoffman, an ordained Cantor, and a high school music teacher. She is the wife of the former Rabbi at Lake Success Jewish Center.
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Peter Steinberg teaching the game of Bridge online with a virtual bridge table.
games. They all agree that learning together has made it even more fun and enriching. No one is more surprised than Jill, who said, “Becoming a bridge player was the last thing on my mind, but a few minutes into the lesson, Peter said the class would learn by playing, not by memorizing, and my ears perked up. By the end of the class, I had played my first hand on the virtual bridge table and was hooked.” There are weekly themed lessons on conventions, bidding and play strategy, along with written class notes, bidding practice exercises, quizzes, homework, and fun. Steinberg weaves humor and perspective into his teaching and often says, “I love bridge, and the only thing I love more than bridge, is teaching bridge.” There are also virtual practice hands available outside of class. Go down? Just click on the solution and watch the hand played by an expert. There are two separate tracks, Beginner and Clubking membership. The beginner course is a progressive series of eight sessions, focusing on the early fundamentals of bidding and play. True to Steinberg’s philosophy, there is little memorization and much playing, and the cost is $75. The second track is Clubking membership at $49.95 per month. It consists of two levels of play. The first level
is for the novice advanced beginner to almost intermediate player, and the second is for the more seasoned intermediate to advanced player. Each level has a weekly dedicated play session using the virtual table and weekly interactive lesson. Clubking members may take any, or all, of these 15-20 classes each month. This learning system is so effective that Edwin Kantar, a two-time world champion, called it an, “amazing teaching system. I wish I’d written it.” With the fall upon us and the long winter approaching, Steinberg invites all North Shore Towers friends and family to sign up for free classes at www.clubkinginc.com. Monday, Oct. 4th free supervised play session (using the virtual board). Wednesday, Oct. 6th free lesson on play strategy (without the virtual board). Monday, Oct. 11th and Wednesday, October 13th free beginner lesson (the first in the series). After enjoying the free classes, Clubking invites new students to use coupon code NSTBridge for a 30 percent discount on the beginner course, or 30 percent off on your first month’s Clubking membership (prorated from the day you join). Email info@clubkinginc.com for more information.
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ast year, when COVID shut down social life at North Shore Towers, resourceful residents bravely ventured into uncharted territory, learning to stream, Zoom, and join social media. Suddenly their world was again populated with the arts, entertainment, family get-togethers, exercise classes, and more– only now in the virtual world. But bridge players were not as lucky to find bridge classes online, and many worried about keeping their skills sharp. They missed the mental challenge and excitement of the game, and they missed their friends. Master bridge teacher Peter Steinberg has been teaching full-time for over 45 years. Since publishing his first book in 1978, “Play Bridge in Four Hours,” Steinberg has been a sought-after instructor at the Beverly, Colony, and Honors Bridge clubs, as well as many country clubs and resorts in the tri-state area. Some North Shore Towers residents may remember Steinberg running programs and teaching at many well-known golf communities in southern Florida, such as Boca West, The Hamlet, Hunter’s Run, and many others. Oswald Jacoby, of Jacoby Transfer fame, was an early fan of Steinberg’s teaching methods and said, “A lot of people can teach someone to play bridge, but Peter Steinberg teaches you to be a bridge player.” Steinberg has honed his craft, teaching over 70,000 students, and has modeled his teaching on the belief that a student learns bridge best by playing. Necessity is the mother of invention, and during the pandemic Steinberg had a “Eureka” moment. If students couldn’t come to in-person classes, he would go to them online. He envisioned a new teaching platform featuring a highly interactive multimedia learning system, and launched it on his new website, www.clubkinginc.com. Its cornerstone is a virtual bridge table, seen on the screen of every student’s desktop, laptop, or tablet and compatible with both Mac and Windows operating systems. Students see identical hands in class and bid, plan, and play the hands-on on their screen. In a well-orchestrated and carefully constructed learning experience, students bid on a hand and then learn the rationale for the optimum contract. Then they play that hand as South and the Dummy just as they would in a real-world game. The computer plays their opponents, East and West. When the game is over, Steinberg explains the strategy and techniques employed to make the contract, and then the students watch how the hand should be played on their screen. NST resident Pat Tulchin, an intermediate bridge player and one of Steinberg’s early online students, raved about his teaching methods and personality. Friends and neighbors Jane, Sheila, and Jill tried a free beginner lesson and were so impressed they all signed up for the course. All four ladies learn the new Standard American Bridge and augment their virtual classes with in-person bridge
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Women’s Club: Chickie...by Vicki By Vicki Mazel
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nyone who knows Chickie Kaufman as a friend, a mentor, a hostess, etc. is fortunate indeed. Kaufman comes by her strong leadership qualities as a legacy from her background. Growing up in Ellenville, New York, Kaufman’s family were pillars of the community. In her own words: “My grandfather was one of the founders of the synagogue, and my father was one of the cemetery’s founders. My mother was president of the sisterhood and National Council of Jewish Women, etc. I, too, felt that wherever I lived, I had to give back. It must have been in the genes. When the Women’s Club was formed, I was asked to be on the board, and that was it. I was hooked.” Active for the past six years as membership chairperson, and now, in addition, as co-president with Gloria Beck, much of the club’s growth is due to their efforts. Kaufman has stated that during busy membership sign-up periods, she often works until after 11:00 pm. The new annual year has recently started, and the club claims 265 members and growing.
Women’s Club needs a little extra attention, a sunshine committee is ready to send a kind word. Contact Marilyn Davidson at (347) 502-7223 with the information. Pod Program On Thursday, August 27, the Women’s Club held a welcoming “Pod “meeting for new residents and others who want to participate in programs and form new friendships. At Towers on the Green, a dessert table welcomed the guests. Opening remarks were made by past-President Bobby Gould, who explained the focus of the Women’s Club and what activities were available. Small discussion pods could be formed for new members on various mutual topics. She also spoke about Women’s s Club South, which were winter Florida residents that wished to continue programs while they were away. Anyone interested in Women’s Club South should contact Bobby Gould at (561) 445-3019. Judy Paris, program co-chairperson, spoke and gave Zoom information to the audience. In offering Zoom assistance, Paris gave her email address. If you’re stumped and need assistance, email her at judyparis@twc.om. She also mentioned that there would be a list of clubs online for those women who were interested. Calendar information would be found in mailrooms, on posters, and in the Women’s Club column in Towers newspapers, screen in lobbies, and on the entrance door of the Towers restaurant as well. Cinema Club “Shtisel,” Monday, October 25th, Channel 995, 4:00 pm, Netflix. The October movie review is the Israeli series “Shtisel.” Produced by Gloria Beck, with reviewers Vicki Mazel and Dr. Nuriet Israeli who will address the 2013 Israeli television drama about an ultra-orthodox family living in Jerusalem and the challenges and relationships of their daily lives. Released on Netflix in 2018, the series deals with marriage, friends, family and is an up-close look at their life behind closed doors. Whether you watch one episode or several, this review is an opportunity to gain different perspectives of the religious and commercial aspects of the Israeli film and TV industry. Calendar Please note that all programs are subject to health guidelines on the current date. Masks, social distancing, and proof of vaccination are necessary for all live programs and may be canceled and replaced by a Zoom presentation if necessary. Programs will be in the large card room at 7:15 pm if
presented live. Wednesday, October 20, Mel Haber “Gotta Sing, Gotta Dance,” Hollywood musicals from 1927 to 1958, 7:15 pm. Wednesday, November 3, John Kendrick, Zero Mostel. Program Chairperson Gloria Beck is developing the John Coll lecture series, which will be four sessions. Dates and times to be announced.. Watch for speaker Philip Harwood in the future as well. It’s Dues to Us $25 is all you need to become a member of the Women’s Club. Now, more than ever, we need your support to help us all through these trying times. Make your check out to North Shore Towers Women’s Club, and include your apartment number and email address. Leave check with the concierge at Building Three, addressed to Chickie Kaufman 1T.
Verse By Vicki Busy Babes
We’re busy in the Women’s Club. Like to plan activities, Speakers on various topics, And holiday festivities. Busy ladies in the Women’s Club, Survive any kind of disaster. Forgin’ ahead with fun and games, Like Bridge, Mah Jong, and Canasta. Busy ladies in the Women’s Club We keep up with all the news. Watching lots of Netflix, To give you movie reviews. Busy ladies in the Women’s Club, Always ready for a munch. Planning for comraderies, Sponsoring the Lunch Bunch. Busy ladies in the Women’s Club, Like to give our members tips. Soon we’re off to a museum, And planning other trips. Busy ladies in the Women’s Club, Always ready for conjectures, Got Cole, Haber, and Kendrick too. To give us many a great lecture. Busy ladies in the Women’s Club. Keeping up with all the news. Everyone has lots of fun, But remember to pay your dues!
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Chickie Kaufman.
“I feel we do an important service giving our members a way of meeting other women, and enjoying all the wonderful events that are planned throughout the year,” Kaufman said. “It is most satisfying when a member calls to say how happy we make them and thanking us for all that we do.” With a positive attitude like that, no wonder she is so important to the Women’s Club and the North Shore Towers community. After growing up in Ellenville, NY, Kaufman graduated from Drexel University with a B.S. degree. Teaching Home Economics, she has put that skill to great use and is a fabulous hostess and cook. Her table arrangements are beautiful, and she has provided outstanding atmospheres to all the Women’s Club social programs. Everything from centerpieces, menu choices, color schemes, and holiday atmosphere come to have her touch, along with other talented club members. She is one of the points of pride of the Women’s Club. Wright’s Field raised her family in East Hills, Roslyn, a path one of her sons also followed alongside her physician husband. Her daughter has a managerial position, and her other son runs the Imaging Center in Forest Hills for Long Island Langone Hospital. Kaufman lived a short time in Manhasset and then moved to the Towers with her family grown and on their own. She describes it as “a superb move.” She considers her wonderful friends an addition to her family and claims any loneliness can be cured by taking a walk in the Arcade and meeting up with people. She is open to ideas from members as to what they would like the Women’s Club to undertake. So the dynamic duo of Chickie Kaufman and Gloria Beck as co-presidents serve the women of the Towers superbly and are the reason for its continuing success. Games for Dames Are you looking for a bridge, canasta, or mah-jong game? Need a fourth? An offshoot of the Lunch Bunch luncheon is a roster of members looking for people to play with. Selma Baumgarten organized the list under the leadership of Eva Kessner and Marilyn Goldberg. Call the card game coordinator Phyllis Bieber at (516) 448-6676 (available until the winter months). The other contact is Judy Paris, who can be reached at judyparis@twc.com, and is available year-round. Need A Little TLC? If you or someone you know in the
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Breakfast at Buffy’s Songs of Summer P By Howard Arkin
assing by Buffy’s restaurant on a summer day in 2017, I happened to notice a group of men seated at a long table. Attempting to join them, I was told by then club president Arnie Rabinowitz that I had to be a North Shore Towers Men’s Club member. Being that the qualifications to join were virtually non-existent, I was accepted and started coming down to the breakfasts held three times a week. At one time, I counted as many as 26 men at the breakfasts. Unfortunately, over the past few months, less than a dozen have been showing up. This most likely is attributed to the pandemic. At last Friday’s breakfast, some very important topics came up, including the remnants of Hurricane Ida that hit the northeast, the Supreme Court’s ruling on the Texas abortion case, and the never-ending saga on whether to wear or not wear a mask. It was just a matter of time before we got to the things that interested us the most. Yale Kessler told us that as a child, he and Martin Gottfried, the noted New York Times art and drama critic, lived in the same Brooklyn apartment house. Someone
misheard the name Martin Gottfried for Arthur Godfrey. This enabled us to do a few minutes on Arthur. I took this opportunity to tell everyone assembled that I had never purchased bottled water or dog food. Concerning the dog food, Jerry Siegel concluded that I have never purchased dog food because I have never owned a dog. These people with Ph. D.s seem to have all the answers. Ron Levin’s description of the pain he endured after getting a shingles shot had me thinking to settle on the booster alone. Lauren Bacall’s name came up, and we were informed that she lived in the Dakota on West 72nd Street in Manhattan. Another wise guy wanted to know if a person got into an elevator with a support or service horse during the pandemic crises, would the horse be counted as just one person? Unfortunately, with fewer people coming down to the breakfasts, we might very well be in the twilight days of Breakfast at Buffy’s. If this is the case I want to thank the doctors, dentists, stock market experts and all of the others that have given me so much advice and invaluable information over the past few years. I might have even learned something from the character at the table who has this obsession with baseball statistics.
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The Vic Vincent Band performed “Songs of Summer” poolside at the Towers Country Club on Friday, September 10th.
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Museum’s Hall of Minerals & Gems By Lorraine Bertan Cultural Affairs Committee The Allison and Roberto Mignone Hall of Minerals and Gems at the American Museum of Natural History has all the drama of a stage production and a narrative that explains the role of the gorgeous inanimate mineral characters that seem to come alive in their setting. Like plants and animals, minerals evolve, and their environment plays a formative role in their evolution. The earth has evolved from a molten mass into layers determined by density. Plate tectonics affects how minerals form. The environments which influence the formation of minerals are hydrothermal, metamorphic, igneous, pegmatite and weathering. Minerals that form in hydrothermal environments are dissolved in hot water and can travel through fissures and veins in rocks depositing
Reptile jewelery at mineral and gem exhibit.
precious metals like gold. Minerals which crystallize slowly in igneous structures will be quite large and are known as pegmatites. Pegmatites are the source of gemstones and other valuable minerals. Heat and pressure affect the chemical composition of minerals. The New York State mineral is garnet and is a result of intense heat and pressure associated with mountain building, a metamorphic environment. The schist formation in Central Park contained garnets, and the excavations for the Manhattan subways yielded garnets. An impressive garnet-bearing rock, amphibolite, from Gore Mountain is featured in the exhibit. Weathering from wind, water, ice, and plant action breaks down rocks and minerals. Weathering is considered a destructive force compared to plate tectonics which is a constructive force. The minerals formed in the early days of the planet are quite different from the minerals formed after the introduction of life. Approximately three billion years ago, photosynthetic bacteria appeared on the oceans’ surface and introduced oxygen into the oceans and atmosphere, producing the vivid colors of minerals. Life on earth has produced minerals that are unique to our planet. Carrying out the theme of evolution, minerals are grouped into species to show how scientists classify them, and humans use them. Minerals like salt and gypsum will evaporate from surface water and are known as evaporites. Minerals have a definite chemical composition and will form crystals, which have a unique structure. Rocks are a mixture of minerals. Visitors can touch the large topaz crystal in the exhibit, along with other examples of minerals. The gemstones exemplify the beauty of crystal structure, especially the octahedron diamond, which allows for total internal reflection of light, unique to the brilliance of the diamond. Mineral inclusions, like rutile, are responsible for the “star” in the Star of India sapphire, the largest in the world, 563 carats, with stars on both sides of the stone.
Star sapphires and star rubies are cut into cabochon shape rather than brilliant faceted cuts to emphasize the star and depth of color. Sapphires and rubies have the same chemical composition: corundum and aluminum oxide, an extremely hard substance used for grinding. Amethysts are members of the quartz family, with the same chemical composition as sand and glass, silicon dioxide, but contain trace amounts of iron which provides the purple color. It is always pleasurable to look at beautiful jewelry, and knowing about the science of minerals enhances the experience. The beauty of nature and the eye and hand of the artist come together in this exhibit. The jewels exhibited are from ateliers like Cartier, Bulgari, and Tiffany. Jade, which contains the minerals jadeite or nephrite, is a result of metamorphic processes. The swirling patterns and inclusions in jade stones reveal earth processes like subduction and mountain building, a type of time capsule. The beauty of jade carving is the presence of various inclusions which affect the color of the jade. Areas of the world that are sources of jade are Myanmar, Guatemala, and Australia. An interesting green jade carving in the exhibit contains malachite, a copper mineral. The swirling pattern of the mineral is prized for carvings and furnishings. The Russian Czars used malachite for tabletops, vases, ceremonial objects, which are displayed at the St. Petersburg Hermitage Museum. Lapis, a royal blue mineral containing golden flecks of iron pyrites, is the source of ultramarine blue, so precious that it was ground into paint pigment for religious paintings. Giant colorful amethyst geodes and blue-green malachite and azurite specimens welcome visitors in a brightly lit 11,000 square foot hall with 25-foot ceilings. To appreciate the beauty, complexity, and science explained in the exhibit, watch the short video near the entrance before you tour the hall
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Do You Feel Guilty When You Say No? By Marian Nemetsky Bra-burning, consciousness-raising groups, Women’s Lib, Betty Friedan, and Gloria Steinem, were all at the forefront of the feminist movement. It should have targeted me, too; College-educated, married with family, and stayat-home mom. However, I felt it had no bearing on my life. Then, in 1975, our book club selection was “When I say no, I Feel Guilty,” by Manuel Smith. I haven’t been the same since. It was billed as a bestseller in assertive training. “Did I really need that?” I didn’t think so, but I always read our book club selection from cover to cover. I dove in, and much to my surprise, swallowed it whole. It conjured up a memory of having a new granite kitchen counter installed in our home. When the task was completed, there was a chunk missing, right in the front. I paid the bill but complained. “Oh, I’ll send someone to fix it with some putty. You’ll never even notice it.” Guess what? For the next 15 years, that missing chunk was an eyesore, and I always noticed it. After reading this
book, I vowed to never again allow anything like that to happen. After taking voluminous notes and memorizing them, I thought I might be ready. The two “assertive rights” that struck home were; Always ask to speak to a supervisor and repeat your request, politely but firmly. I was ready to do battle. The first opportunity presented itself in the form of a two-piece sectional couch that I had ordered. I loved the style but chose the material, beige suede, from a small swatch, which I wasn’t even allowed to take home. When it was delivered, I immediately saw that it was all wrong. The front and back material didn’t match the pillows. The pillows, in turn, didn’t even match each other. It felt rough and bumpy instead of soft and silky. “Here, sign this receipt,” the delivery man said grumpily. “No, I can’t,” I said. “Call the store,” was the reply. So, I called the salesman who sold the couch to me. He basically said that since I had seen the swatch, I knew what I was getting, and tough luck. I went into action.
“Let me speak to your supervisor, please,” I said. After some hemming and hawing, I finally spoke to the store manager, who basically said the same thing. And I said the same thing. “Let me speak to your supervisor, please.” This kept going on until, believe it or not, I spoke to the company’s president, who manufactured the couch. He was darling. “Tell the men to order you a new couch in whatever color and material you want,” he said. Sure enough, three weeks later, I had a new white couch, everything matched, and they gave me two extra throw pillows for all my trouble. It worked! Now, 46 years later, I have used and modified this technique with salespeople, doctors, service providers, and many others. When I returned to the workplace as a teacher, I used it with unruly students, colleagues, and even administrators. The results were always satisfying. In fact, at this point, I think I could write a sequel, “When I Say No, I Don’t Ever Feel Guilty, Anymore.”
Pages From Our Past OCTOBER 2012 9/11 Remembered, 11 Years Later The Towers community gathered at the American flag flying at half mast in front of their apartment buildings, as Taps was played by a uniformed Sergeant of the NY Army National Guard, Tuesday, Sept. 11th. The co-op’s annual memorial service paid tribute to the victims and heroes of the 9/11 attacks. Hall Lighting, Replacement Generator Plans Updated Installation of new, brighter, more energy-efficient hallway lighting was nearing completion, and co-op officials were finalizing plans for ordering multi-million dollar replacements for the power plant’s generators in the coming year. Capital Improvements Committee Chairperson Herb Cooper said that the reaction from residents to the upgraded lighting in the corridors already completed in building one and almost finished in building two has been positive and enthusiastic. “It’s been fantastic,” Cooper said. “People are sending me e-mails asking how come we didn’t do this sooner.” The 1,850 fixtures in the three building’s corridors were fairly expensive 25 years earlier and were still considered a top-of-the-line, according to Cooper. Hoffmans Make TV Debut with Son Charlie and Gail Hoffman of Building Three made their television acting debut, playing the parents of their real-life son in the USA network’s series, “Suits.”
Labor Day Weekend This year, to accommodate all the NST residents who were interested in attending a Labor Day bash, there were two parties scheduled, back to back, in the VIP Room. The menus were different, as was the entertainment. On Saturday, September 1st, “White Wedding,” a popular local cover band, provided the music for dancing as well as a spectacular show featuring the vocalists of the 1980s. The audience loved them. OCTOBER 2016 Art Exhibition A Success The talented artists of North Shore Towers confirmed their talent by proudly displaying it at the Sunday, August 28th art exhibition, giving those viewing their work pleasure by doing so. The community welcomed the Art Exhibition back to North Shore Towers after several years of its absence. It was interesting to view the work of talented neighbors and to discuss their creations with them. Obituary : Bd. President Mort Gitter Bd. President Mort Gitter, who served as a director for over 18 years, died Friday, August 26th. A full-time resident of NST for over 28 years, Gitter chaired virtually all of the committees and was corporate Treasurer for six years. He earned reelection to the board more times than any other member in the history of NST. Short Film Festival Wows Audience Nearly 400 NST residents streamed into the NST Movie Theater on Tuesday, September 13th. There was a sense
of excitement in the air as many recalled the previous Short Film Festivals at the co-op, this being the fourth. Residents were furnished with a ballot on which they could check the film they liked best. These were tallied by the committee, and the fifth film, “Dad in Mum,” a French film with English titles, garnered the most votes. The lucky filmmakers will now be able to promote their film with the NST seal of approval, in the form of a handsome certificate featuring the co-op’s logo.
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EXPERIENCE the MAGIC of NORTH SHORE TOWERS with unlimited and endless opportunities beyond your expectations! Explore NORTH SHORE TOWERS and Country Club, located on 110 acres, with its own lushly manicured private 18-hole, par-72 golf course. This extraordinary award-winning 24-hour gated community, with doormen and concierge services, has a prime location on the border of Queens and Nassau County, just 16 miles east of Manhattan! The TOWERS will afford you a unique luxurious unparalleled residence with incredible views!
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NORTH SHORE TOWERS offers a sought-after first-class residential destination with a spectacular combination of exceptional amenities. PRIVATE 18 HOLE GOLF COURSE, 5 LIT HAR TRU TENNIS COURTS, CARD ROOMS, CLUBS, STATEOF-THE-ART GYM AND HEALTH SPA WITH AEROBICS CLASSES, HOT TUB, SUANA, STEAM ROOMS, INDOOR AND OUTDOOR POOLS, AND CHILDREN’S PLAYGROUND.
Enjoy an indoor arcade mall that features a large variety of shops, including restaurants, Chase Bank, movie theatre, pharmacy, supermarket, fruit and vegetable store, and beauty salon. Additionally, enjoy the peace of mind of FULL-TIME GENERATORS–NEVER BE WITHOUT POWER. Only at NORTH SHORE TOWERS can residents have a resort lifestyle with all the comforts of home! Both a courtesy bus to local shopping and an express MTA bus to Manhattan stop at your front door. Be surrounded by amazing amenities and a dedicated professional service-oriented staff! If you seek a unique blend of city and country club living, to discover this hidden gem, please call ANNETTE KROLL, the only resale broker with 35 YEARS OF EXPERIENCE, SPECIALIZING in apartment sales at NORTH SHORE TOWERS! Your dream lifestyle awaits! A whole new world is only a phone call away, (718) 631-8867 when you call for a personal tour to have ANNETTE help you find the home of your dreams!