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HAPPY LONGEVITY p62

HER MAYDAY MISSION p.6

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PARTY DIFFERENTLY p.36

FIND LOVE p.18

Calm Your Pet p.54

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GO MED-FREE

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Step into Her Shoes p.10

Beauty Tricks A Quick Clean

Her Fashion Obsession

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TRAVEL IDEAS p.49

A Date Night Dinner p.44

THINGS TO KNOW

COULD YOU DO THIS?

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THE UPDATED BAR

REACH FOR IT p.26

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She Kicks It Sweetly p.20

Let Stress Go p.22

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JUST ASK JOYCE

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DISCOVER

YOUR CRAFTY SIDE

A DELIGHTFUL HOME

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A Must-Read p.64


Pump Up

THE PARTY

MAY 2016 • VOL. 26 / NO. 6

By Tiffany White

PUBLISHER Cathy S. Zion publisher@todayspublications.com EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Anita Oldham editor@todayspublications.com EDITOR Tiffany White tiffany@todayspublications.com CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Lucy M. Pritchett Miranda G. Popp miranda@todayspublications.com PHOTOGRAPHER/FOOD WRITER/ PHOTO EDITOR Melissa Donald melissa@todayspublications.com ASSISTANT EDITOR/DESIGNER Jessica Alyea jessica@todayspublications.com OFFICE ADMINISTRATOR Amanda Peyton officeadmin@todayspublications.com ADVERTISING DIRECTOR Susan Allen susan@todayspublications.com

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hat or who are you celebrating this month? Maybe you’re celebrating Mother’s Day (Reminder: it’s the day after Derby), planning a graduation party, or brainstorming about ideas for your friend’s upcoming bridal shower. No matter the occasion, celebrations bring happiness, but in

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this issue, we want to give you some clever ideas on amping up your party. Turn a special occasion into something that supersedes the balloons, cake, and good food. In our Party Differently feature (page 36), you’ll read about three women who thought of unconventional and creative party ideas that made their loved ones

feel special. Or find out how Today’s Woman is celebrating their momentous occasion on page 12. (We’re inviting you to be part of the celebration too!). The extra effort you invest will not go unnoticed and your friend or family member will have memories they can cherish for a lifetime.

Teri Hickerson teri@todayspublications.com Suzy Hillebrand suzy@todayspublications.com Joyce Inman joyce@todayspublications.com GRAPHIC DESIGNERS April H. Allman april@todayspublications.com Kathy Bolger kathyb@todayspublications.com STYLIST Alissa Hicks alissa@todayspublications.com CIRCULATION MANAGER W. Earl Zion EDITORIAL INTERN Anna Patterson

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Mimi Sims never wonders what she’ll be wearing to the next big party — whether it’s indoors or outdoors. Turn to page 12 to find out how she pulls together eye-catching outfits for every occasion. Photo Melissa Donald; Makeup Denise Cardwell, Blades Salon & Spa; Styling Alissa Hicks MIMI IS WEARING: Dress available at Liv Boutique, 3704 Lexington Rd,

502.654.7337, $408; Shoes available at Modern Elegance, 3921 Chenoweth Square, 502.883.4721, $118; Earrings available at Liv Boutique, $84; Bracelet available at Apricot Lane, Westport Village, 301 Herr Ln #170, 502.708.2823, $20.

Today’s Woman is published monthly by: Zion Publications, LLC 9750 Ormsby Station Road, Suite 307 Louisville, KY 40223 Phone: 502.327.8855 todayswomannow.com The opinions expressed herein are exclusively those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect the position of the publisher. Today’s Woman magazine does not endorse or guarantee any advertiser’s product or service. Copyright 2016 by Zion Publications LLC, all rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or graphic content in any manner is prohibited without permission from Zion Publications LLC.

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MY MAYDAY MISSION

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By Cathy Zion, publisher of Today’s Woman

wenty years ago May 1, I bought the then-fledgling Today’s Woman, leaving a 21-year banking career behind me. I stepped away from a corner office with a staff of 62 employees to a 500-square-foot space that I shared with an office manager, two parttime sales employees, and a part-time editor. I called it my May Day…my day of celebrating the freedom to do my own thing and create my own footprint. My vision was for Today’s Woman to become a needed resource for women in our community. As the months went by, the publication evolved. Under the visionary direction of Editor Anita Oldham (who was then about to quit this part-time job, but thankfully, is still here), the caliber of writers improved, as did the content: We published articles focusing on power, wellness, style, and connections. With the addition of sales director Susan (Considine) Allen as my first hire (who is still with us), we began building a diversified advertiser base. Over the years, we hired account representatives and more advertisers saw the advantage of targeting women to build their businesses. The publication soon grew into a fullfledged magazine. Other employees were hired, and more women — real women, not models — were featured every month. With our focus on health, we launched sister magazine Today’s Transitions 12 years ago to help readers navigate the maze of senior services and facilities in the area. The need was obvious as it quickly became the go-to publication for people looking for everything from retirement to rehab. To complete the “cradle-tograve” cycle, we added Today’s Family magazine eight years ago with a focus on helping young families deal with the issues they face daily. Along the way, we added robust websites and engaging social media. And our publications have won not only regional awards but national awards for excellence.

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While these milestones are significant, the most powerful memories of the last 20 years are the words spoken and written by you, our readers. You have… ….Stopped me in the halls of Norton Hospital to tell me how our breast cancer supplement in Today’s Woman saved your life by revealing a new treatment regimen that you followed. ….Jumped with joy when you first saw your photo on the cover, exclaiming that you never thought of yourself as cover-worthy. ….Described reading Today’s Woman as being with your best friend. ….Contacted me to tell me your wife read my article about the value of low-dose CT scans to detect lung cancer. She insisted you get scanned, resulting in early detection of your lung cancer, and you are now cancer-free. In the end, life is not about a corner office or a large staff. It’s about how many people you touch and help along the way. It’s about how my vision transformed into my mission. Thanks to my amazingly talented staff, dedicated advertisers, and loyal readers for making it possible.


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A FASHION EXPERT

SEARCH: Kelly Salat

By Keri Foy Photo Sunni Wigginton

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s the food and beverage director at Aloft Louisville Downtown, Kelly Salat’s sense of style reflects the modernity of her employer. Tracking with the trends, Kelly wears rompers to work, follows the blog of Juliet Angus (the star of Bravo’s Ladies of London) and unleashes her spending on websites such as Neiman Marcus, Shopbop, and Nordstrom. “The UPS truck stops at my house every day,” Kelly admits. “I also have an

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obsession for all things Kate Middleton, so I lean to her favorite designers like Beulah London for statement scarves.” She favors J. Crew for staples and the Frye Melissa Button short boot for long days on her feet. “I tracked 30,000 steps the night Madonna was in the hotel,” Kelly says. “I’m on my feet all day, so for shoes, it’s a balance of comfort, longevity, and style.”

BEAUTY PRODUCT SHE’S LOVING:

“I am in love with Bye Bye Redness by It Cosmetics at Ulta. It is a lovely base that evens out my skin color. I wear it under my makeup — which you will never catch me without!” — Andrea Gabhart, owner and operator of Woodswear by Andrea.

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STEPPING INTO HER SHOES: At 3:30pm on a Wednesday

By Yelena Sapin Photos Patti Hartog

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ou usually work until about 6 o’clock, but because it’s Wednesday, you’re leaving early and heading to the YMCA. The Y’s 10-weeklong Metro Youth Advocates (MYA) program is in session, and you’ve been an MYA facilitator since the program’s inception, helping youth develop leadership and community advocacy skills. You love working with the high school kids, especially with those who haven’t found their voice yet. As an introvert yourself — albeit a social one who can talk a mile a minute — you know that people who listen more than they speak tend to have the smartest things to say. You seek out the quieter kids at the table and try to pull them into the conversation. And when you see their faces and postures change as they realize they’re being heard, you know that this is just the beginning for them — that they’re going to keep asking questions, keep standing up and saying, “I have something to contribute.”

oSha Shireman, communications and development specialist at Seed Capital KY, focuses on the West Louisville FoodPort project.

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— Caroline Heine via TodaysWomanNow.com

So very proud of this young lady!! knew in elementary school she would make a difference in the world. — Cynthia Ellison via TodaysWomanNow.com

SEARCH: oSha

What She’s Listening To Like many former English majors, Latisha Reynolds, 44, has a passion for literature. She’s long had a soft spot for thrillers, poetry, and the work of African-American writers such as Toni Morrison. She still proudly displays her gargantuan Shakespeare anthology on the bookshelf of her Old Louisville home as a nod to her undergrad years.

We are so proud — and lucky! — to have oSha on the Seed Capital KY team, helping us bring the FoodPort to life, and brightening our days with her creativity, generous spirit and many talents!

We also wanted to know about her playlist — Latisha says she is the product of a jazz-loving father and the MTV generation, and therefore she loves anything and everything (especially if it reminds her of Prince). Her recent favorites on her playlist are from Janet Jackson’s new album Unbreakable, Adele’s 25, and Alabama Shakes.

Payneville Pride!

— Cynthia Ellison, Intermediate teacher Payneville Elementary via TodaysWomanNow.com

SEARCH: Latisha Reynolds As any mother and professional knows, life tends to get in the way of reading for pleasure. So now, this mother and University of Louisville librarian reads what tends to teach her something in her (not so frequent) spare time (“like cookbooks, books on jewelrymaking or AfricanAmerican history — much more nonfiction. I want to read something that will inspire me.” )


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SEARCH: Elizabeth Baughman Lewis

TURNING POINT

GUIDING PEOPLE TO LOVE By Lucy M. Pritchett Photo Patti Hartog

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lizabeth Baughman Lewis went from helping schoolchildren learn their ABCs to helping single adults learn the ABCs of dating. After 25 years of teaching, she was looking toward retirement. “I checked what my benefits would be two years before I was eligible to retire,” she says. “When I saw what the bottom line was, I thought, ‘Oh, no, I can’t afford to retire.’ I was a widow and raising two children on my own. But a month later, it occurred to me that in two years, I would only be 49, and I could retire from teaching with full benefits and start a whole new career. I just didn’t know what that career would be.” So Elizabeth sat down and brainstormed a list of possible careers ranging from flight attendant to manager of a medical office to life coach.

Elizabeth has personally helped me navigate through single life by posing questions that I would have never thought of. Being married 28 years and feeling “thrown” into the single world, she and so many others have helped me find my way and I feel strong again. She is an amazing Life Coach and I recommend trying just one session with her and just notice how she takes a personal interest in you!! — Anonymous via TodaysWomanNow.com

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Life coach won out. Elizabeth got her certification in 2014 from the Coaches Training Institute in Chicago. “At the institute, they encouraged me to find a niche,” she says. “Prior to this, in 2011, I had founded Singles Meet Singles LLC to connect and support other singles, so I combined my life coaching skills and dating consultant skills.” She launched her second career with Love and Laughter Life Coaching. Elizabeth holds one-on-one sessions with clients covering areas such as setting and achieving goals, moving through life’s transitions, and personal development — always with the focus on positive change. She also holds weekly group classes. Elizabeth has hosted a call-in radio show and is planning on writing a book, with the working title Dating 911. She continues to host events for Singles Meet Singles. And, she recently had the opportunity to serve as a motivational speaker on a singles cruise. “It focused on keeping positive and approaching life with a good attitude,” she says. “I am grateful that I am living out my passion. I wake up each morning eager to find out what this new day will bring.”


SHE KICKS IT! By Anna Patterson Photo Melissa Donald

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er advice to new teachers: Go in with high expectations, and hold your students to those expectations. “That’s where teachers fall short,” Angela Ghafoori says. “Kids will only do what you allow them to do. My students know I am strict, but I love them. Everything I do is in their best interest.” Angela works with Stewart Middle School’s Transition Center and is also head of the Language Arts department and mentors new teachers. (She also loves cupcakes.)

“My personal goal is to aspire to inspire people to be better versions of themselves,” says Maddie Richards, trainer at Anytime Fitness in Floyds Knobs. “I’m helping my clients meet physical goals, but the mental change is the best part. — Maddie develops classes tailored to her clients’ fitness levels. (By Brigid Morrissey)


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“A lot of people think that if you just string moves together, then you’ll have a good performance. But that’s not the case. Performing has taught me variance and move sequence.” — Ashley Wallace, faculty member at Suspend, adjunct professor at Indiana University Southeast, StageOne Family Theatre education associate. (By Brigid Morrissey)

SEARCH: Ashley Wallace

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This means you can read more about Ashley at TodaysWomanNow.com

Relieving Stress Through Hobbies SEARCH: Amy Smalley

By Carrie Vittitoe Photo Patti Hartog

A creative outlet for Amy Smalley is pottery-making. She took advantage of a Groupon for a class in 2014 at Payne Street Pottery. “I never thought of myself as being an artsy person, but for the first time, I felt like I could be artsy,” she says. She enjoys working with her hands and finds it soothing. “When I’m there, I’m not thinking about other stuff,” she adds. Amy’s enjoyment of pottery-making has led her to help friends on their own selfexploratory journeys. She invites them to take pottery sessions with her in an effort to share what she loves with people who might not otherwise consider playing in clay as a stressreducing endeavor. She also owns an etsy shop called Bourbon Ball Vintage which allows her to shop and “hunt” without glutting her home with items she doesn’t really need.

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Amy Smalley enjoys working with her hands and finds it soothing.


FIGHTING WITHOUT MEDS By Mary Ellen Bianco Photos Patti Hartog

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hree years ago, Kathy McDonald saw a local internist who uses a holistic approach to health treatments. Tests showed that she is highly allergic to eggs and also has sensitivities to dairy, gluten, and rye. “After consultations with a nurse practitioner and a dietician, I started eating natural, clean foods such as fruit, salads, and vegetables,” Kathy says. “Hopefully it will continue to work, but if I had some really bad symptoms, I would go back on my MS medication.” Daily vitamin and mineral supplements are included in Kathy’s regimen, as well as

exercising, trying to get six to eight hours of sleep each night, and avoiding stress, which exacerbates her symptoms. “I focus on prayer and try to avoid worry, which is a negative,” she says. “I don’t fear — a lot of it is also my mental and spiritual attitude.” Fatigue is a challenging symptom for Kathy, who enjoys spending time with her family, including her five grandchildren. She also volunteers at church and in community activities. “I’m very grateful to God that I can help,” Kathy says. “The MS has not progressed to making me debilitated.

…I started eating clean in 2015 after trying to do it for a year in 2014. When I stopped and went back to eating meat & processed foods, I had my first relapse in FOUR YEARS. That proved to me I had to go back & eat clean. I started again in Jan. 2015 & haven’t looked back. I have been able to do things for the first time in years that I haven’t been able to do & I hope & pray that your story and my words that it does work will help those who are looking for an answer! — Shoshaunna Gragg via TodaysWomanNow.com

Kathy used a book about antiinflammatory diets: Meals that Heal Inflammation: Embrace Healthy Living and Eliminate Pain, One Meal at a Time by Julie Daniluk

Kathy McDonald has learned how to live a quality life in spite of her multiple sclerosis.

“Find a doctor who treats the whole, not just each individual symptom. I also learned that negative self-talk makes you sicker. I needed to change how I think and what I say.” — Andie Moore, 26, is living with multiple autoimmune disorders that most will not face in a lifetime. (By Mary Ellen Bianco)

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SEARCH: Kathy McDonald


Her Combos! By Megan Seckman Photo Sunni Wigginton

Wendy Saladino, professional interior designer at Tassels, attributes her sense of style to her Southern roots. “I like things feminine with a lot of color and pattern,” she says. “That’s my personality. Feminine with a touch of masculine, like this cat-patterned dress combined with a leather jacket or pink patterned wallpaper with an oil painting of a soldier. In my own home and in my closet — well, closets,” she says with a laugh, “you won’t see a neutral. Pink is my neutral. I don’t own khaki.”

SURVIVAL SKILLS

SUCCESS WITHOUT LIMITS By Marie Bradby Photo Melissa Donald

SEARCH: Bergmeister

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ow did she get involved in business? “It’s all about relationships,” says Suzanne Bergmeister, 54, who is retired from the Air Force Reserve and is Entrepreneur in Residence at the University of Louisville College of Business.

SEARCH: Wendy Saladino

“I was an engineer for the first 13 years of my career. Then I got an MBA and went into venture capital and was recruited to Louisville. A few years later, I got to know a number of professors in the Entrepreneurship Department, and they asked me to be a guest speaker, then teach a class, then teach part-time, then full-time about a year ago. “Engineering training helps because engineers are taught to think critically and solve problems.” One of her survival skills? “You need to have thick skin. People might tell you it’s a stupid idea for a business and that it won’t work. You have to have the fortitude to say, ‘Thank you for your advice, but I am going on anyway.’ You also have to have passion because you are going to have setbacks and be told ‘No,’ and you have to push forward.”

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MY DAUGHTER IS DATING A DUD

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“Our 18-year-old daughter has been involved with someone for almost three years, and we really don’t approve of him. She is strikingly beautiful. She’s also academically proficient and has been offered a full-ride scholarship to college. The young man she’s seeing is almost 22, obtained his GED last month, has never had a job — ever, sits on the couch and plays video games all day and has anxiety issues. His parents enable his laziness. Anytime he calls, regardless of the hour, our daughter drops what she’s doing and runs to his aid. His dad has now offered her a job with the company he plans to start for his son. We have tried everything to make our daughter realize this man is not a good fit for her. Now she is considering turning down her scholarship because he doesn’t want her to leave the area. Her dad and I feel hopeless. Can you give us any advice?

By Joyce Oglesby SEARCH: Dating a dud

“A good place to begin is for Dad to ‘date’ his daughter and have heart-to-heart conversations about the definition of what true love looks like.”

JOYCE: Love can do more than blind a soul; it often leaves one oblivious and voiceless.

Hindsight is a tough teacher. Your golden opportunity for redirecting your daughter’s attraction to this man was when she was 15 and allowed to date someone who was 19. To a young, impressionable girl, being swept off her feet by a “real man” is a winsome thought. She was not capable of those kinds of decisions at such a tender age. Now, what to do with this seemingly hopeless situation? Your options are greatly limited since she is “of age” and completely free to make her own choices in life. The obstacles that continue to impede her clear vision are one, if not all, of three things: control, her nurturing nature, and/or her heart for people. Your daughter has obviously confused love with infatuation. Therefore, a good place to begin is for Dad to ‘date’ his daughter and have heart-to-heart conversations about the definition of what true love looks like. She’s smart and will catch on to what is happening if he presents the description, so allow her to express what her depiction of that means. The approach is going to be to join in on her “love” for this man — let’s call him Tim. You have tried everything else, so you must lead her to the trough and let her get a taste of the Kool-Aid. 1) “Honey, you really love Tim. I’ve always loved your caring and attentive heart, and I’m sure Tim does, too. Your mom and I might have been unfair in our assessment of him. We see one side of this picture of love. You see another. Share with me what attracted you to him. What are some of Tim’s best qualities?”

2) “If Tim is going to be a part of your life, then we want to partner up with you to make you two a healthy couple, because a healthy couple is a happy couple. What couple in our circle of friends have you come to admire and why? What qualities do they possess that you feel has made them a successful couple?” Hopefully, she will recognize that there’s giveand-take, no control/manipulation, responsibility is taken in working, and that the two are happy for each other’s success and are not threatened if one outgrows the other. After she’s made her assessment, Dad might have to craftily point out the attributes he admires regarding this couple. 3) “Let me share with you a few of our deepest concerns about Tim. Then, let’s get a plan for how we all can help get him better. Because we want to love him, too.” 4) You and Dad do your homework about the mental and emotional effects of video games. This might not have caused the onset of Tim’s anxiety, but it is definitely adding to it. Suggest that because she loves Tim, she could talk privately to his parents, present the studies, and then everyone can agree to get Tim help in order to wean him off of his “addiction.” (It is exactly that.) 5) After she’s on board with the three of you helping this young man, if she should get any pushback or non-cooperation from Tim or his parents, the light should begin to come on for her—i.e., he’s content to be where he is and she will fight a lifelong battle trying to change him. There is hope. At least Tim got his GED. The strategy could work and is definitely worth the attempt at restoring your daughter’s 20/20 vision. But remember, it took hindsight to remove your blinders.

Joyce Oglesby, Family Life FIX-IT Pro at justaskjoyce@gmail.com and find a solution for life. Listen to The Just Ask Joyce Show M-F from 3-5pm on WFIA 94.7fm/900am.

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HOW I MADE THE DECISION

TO PUT MY CHILD ON MEDICATION By Carrie Vittitoe

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ne of the biggest challenges of being a mom is that you don’t deal with just your problems anymore. Your kids’ problems cause you much more worry than your own. I’ve written and spoken about my obsessive-compulsive and generalized anxiety disorders for a long time now, but I’ve recently entered all new territory while holding my middle child’s hand. We’re trying to navigate this terrain together. Graeme is a smart, funny, empathetic 8-year-old, but for a couple years, my husband and I have been seeking answers to explain behaviors that we haven’t fully understood and definitely haven’t liked. Toddler-style hitting, kicking, and screaming tantrums were unpleasant when he was 2 but grew increasingly worrisome as he began elementary school. We couldn’t understand why putting on socks or a winter coat caused so much upheaval. We’ve been trying everything we could think of that might help Graeme (and us) cope better and lessen his tantrums: cognitive behavioral therapy for a time; ongoing occupational therapy; a full psychological and cognitive evaluation to rule out learning disabilities, autism, and ADHD. I chalked Graeme’s repetitive prebedtime ritual to typical childhood bedtime avoidance. But when he began throwing tantrums whenever I moved accessories in the house, and when he started repeating phrases during the daytime, it was no longer an idiosyncrasy. This was becoming a pattern. As much as I worried about taking antidepressant medication myself in 2004, it was nothing compared to the internal wrangling I’ve done at the thought of putting my child on an antidepressant. I hated the idea of giving Graeme anything

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that I thought might prevent his brain from developing “normally.” I tolerated four years of his every-night, multipletimes-a-night wakings (from ages 3 to 7) before I finally talked to his pediatrician about trying melatonin, an over-thecounter supplement. When I consulted with the pediatrician and later the child psychiatrist about Graeme’s obsessive/compulsive behaviors, it occurred to me that his brain wasn’t developing “normally” without psychotropic medication. A child who weeps and screams because I move a flower arrangement from the dining room to the living room is not functioning at his best. An 8-year-old boy shouldn’t even notice that I rearranged tchotchkes, and if he does, he shouldn’t care. In helping Graeme deal with his mental health issues by putting him on a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), I’ve had to stay much more on top of my own mental health challenges. Through blogging, I’m keeping my own worries in check and “talking myself down” as warranted. I’m paying greater attention to my physical needs of sleep and exercise. I’m hoping to set a good example to my son that one’s mental health is equally important as one’s physical health. I’m letting Graeme know that his mom understands and has his back.

The mental health of your family is as important as physical health. SEARCH: Vittitoe


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SMOOTHING OUT THE WRINKLES

— on the face and body By Alissa Hicks Photos Melissa Donald

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hat is one thing that all women should invest in for any occasion where they might be wearing something a little extra fancy? The Answer: Shapewear… Spanx, control-top pantyhose, any version you prefer. Here’s what you need to know about shapewear before you buy. A lot of people have the misconception that shapewear is for overweight people who want to fit into a smaller dress. Wrong. Shapewear is to smooth, tighten, lift, and conceal. Regardless of your size or weight, we all need a little help smoothing things out at times.

Buy the Right Size

Do not buy shapewear that’s too big or too small. Many women think that the smaller the shapewear, the skinnier they will look. The truth is that when shapewear is too small, it will not provide much support and may not be able to hold up, therefore creating more rolls and bulges than before. As for sizing up in shapewear, people think that the larger the shapewear, the more comfy it will be. If you get shapewear bigger than your size, it won’t be effective in slimming and smoothing, defeating the whole purpose. Keep it sexy. Shop around and find something that makes you feel good. If it is uncomfortable, you’ll look it and will most likely defeat the purpose of the shapewear.

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SEARCH: Shapewear

Your Botox Questions Answered

Jennifer used Botox to soften the lines on the forehead, Gabella lines, crows feet, bunny lines (lines on either side of the bridge of the nose), chin, and lips. She also used fillers in her lips to add volume.

In the cosmetic world, Botox is used to smooth lines and wrinkles caused by constant movement SEARCH: (not wrinkles caused by Botox sun or gravity). If you’ve been toying with the idea of Botox — a popular treatment these days among both women and men — you’ll want to hear what spa lead nurse Tina Carroll, RN, CPSN of Calospa Rejuvenation Center has to share.

What are the most common uses for Botox?

Tina: “People do Botox for either a one-time event or on a regular basis to ensure that lines don’t get deeper as more of a preventative measure. The most common reason women (and men) use Botox is to fix the “elevens” between the brows, lines across the forehead, and crow’s feet [on the outer corners of the eyes].”

How exactly does it work?

Tina: “Botox is injected into the muscle [to temporarily reduce muscle activity]. You definitely want to go to someone who is a certified injector with lots of experience. If it’s your first time, allow extra minutes to discuss what you are looking to fix. Everyone is different. There is no cookie-cutter Botox treatment, so it’s very tailored to each patient. Those who use Botox on a regular basis will see improvement in lines and wrinkles because if the lines aren’t there (due to Botox injections), they cannot deepen and become worse.”

How long does it take to work, and how long will it last?

Tina: “Everyone is different. In some people, in can take up to 10 days to show results. The FDA says three to four weeks is about how long the average Botox treatment results will last, but those who keep up with regular injections can get a longer effect time.”


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COOKING UP THE PERFECT DATE NIGHT

SEARCH: Steak and Tiramisu

STEAK AND TIRAMISU

Story and Photos by Paige Rhodes

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ate nights are an important part of any relationship, and sometimes you might want to forego reservations and set up shop at home. However, just because you’re staying in doesn’t mean you have to skimp on the menu. These recipes mixed with your hard work are sure to impress your love.

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New York Strip Steak with Bourbon Peppercorn Cream Sauce Yield: 2 Servings Ingredients

Time: 1 hr

2 -12 oz New York strip steak 1 clove of garlic 1 tbsp kosher salt 3 tbsp black peppercorns 1 tbsp vegetable oil 1 tbsp butter 1 shallot, minced 3 tbsp bourbon 1 /4 cup beef stock 2 /3 cup heavy cream chopped parsley to finish

Instructions

Ten minutes prior to cooking, remove your steaks from the fridge and let them come to room temperature. Pat steaks dry with a paper towel. Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Peel your garlic clove and cut in half horizontally. Rub the entire surface of the steak with the garlic and coat both sides liberally with salt. In a bowl or plastic bag, crush the peppercorns, keeping them coarse. Coat the steaks in the crushed pepper and heat a cast iron skillet with oil on high heat. You don’t want the skillet to smoke, but almost. When skillet is hot, sear the steaks 5 minutes on each side and transfer them to a foil lined baking sheet. Finish cooking the steaks in the oven, 5-10 more minutes depending on your desired level of doneness. Remove the steaks from the oven and let rest, covered with foil for 10 minutes to let the juices redistribute throughout the meat. While the steaks are resting, start the sauce. Place the pan you used to sear the steaks back on medium heat (do NOT clean out the pan first. You want all of that yummy flavor!) Melt the butter and add the shallot. Sauté for 1 minute and add the bourbon, scraping the bottom of the pan to release all of the bits on the bottom. Let that reduce for one minute and add the beef stock, reduce 1 minute further. While at a simmer, add the cream and swirl furiously to combine. Let that simmer for 1 more minute and finish with about a tablespoon of fresh chopped parsley. Top your steak with the bourbon peppercorn cream sauce and serve immediately.


THE PERFECT DATE NIGHT DESSERT BOURBON TIRAMISU

Story and Photos by Paige Rhodes

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hat better way to end a meal than with an indulgent tiramisu? The layers of fluffy ladyfinger cookies soaked in a mixture of bourbon and espresso and topped with ultra-creamy mascarpone cream and a dusting of chocolate are perfect treat material, indeed.

BourbonTiramisu Ingredients

3 large eggs, separated 3/4 cup sugar 1 8-ounce container mascarpone cheese 1 /2 cup chilled heavy cream 2 cups espresso, cooled to room temperature 2 tablespoons bourbon 18 ladyfinger cookies 2 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder for dusting

Instructions

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Beat together yolks and 1/2 cup of the sugar in a large bowl with an electric mixer at medium speed until thick and pale, about 2 minutes. Beat in mascarpone until just combined. Beat whites with a pinch of salt in another bowl with cleaned beaters until they just hold soft peaks. Add remaining 1/4 cup sugar a little at a time, beating, then continue to beat whites until they just hold stiff peaks. Beat cream in another bowl with cleaned beaters until it just holds soft peaks. Fold cream into mascarpone mixture gently but thoroughly, then fold in whites. Stir together coffee and bourbon in a shallow bowl. Dip 1 ladyfinger in coffee mixture, soaking it for just a couple seconds on each side, and transfer to an 8-inch baking dish. Repeat with 8 more ladyfingers and arrange in bottom of dish, trimming as needed to fit snugly. Spread half of mascarpone mixture evenly over ladyfingers. Make another layer in same manner with remaining ladyfingers and mascarpone mixture. Chill tiramisu, covered, at least 6 hours. Dust with cocoa powder prior to serving.


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TRAVEL RECOMMENDATIONS For the Family By Torie Temple

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fter a few trips to Mexico exploring the coast lined with turquoise water, Crestwood resident Tammy Temple drifted into a familyfriendly find that excludes no one from a dream Mexico vacation. Her third trip to Cancun brought Tammy and her family to the Oasis Palm Resort, an allinclusive resort that offers a spa, amenities, entertainment, and delicacies that appeal to the entire family. “What makes this a great family resort is the entertainment that is geared toward kids,” Tammy says. “My 5-year-old grandson was able to enjoy the pools, pirate-themed activities, and baby sea turtles.” SEARCH: Oasis Palm Resort

The Best Spa

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wning her own business, Lippay Way, allows Laurel Lippay to travel more than 10 times a year. Asheville, North Carolina, is her favorite destination. Not only does she love the great food and endless activities, she enjoys the Louisvillelike ambiance and the short five-hour drive. With each trip to Asheville, Laurel seeks out historical places to stay such as the Grove Park Inn. “It was bought by the Omni Hotel system but still has the old-time feel,” she says. “The spa is the best spa I have been to in the United States. It’s literally where I go in my mind when I meditate. Words are hard to find for this heaven on earth.” The Grove Park Inn has been treating guests to a heavenly retreat for 102 years and has played host to many presidents along with other dignitaries and noteworthy people. The Inn is surrounded by the Blue Ridge Mountains and continues the nature theme in its spa with cavern-like areas, rock walls, and therapeutic water. The Inn offers events throughout the year and activities such as golfing, swimming, and a history tour that covers the construction and early years of the resort. TODAY’S WOMAN / MAY 2016

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THE UPDATED BAR Story and Photos by Anna Patterson

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athy Bauer and her husband, Mike, have lived in the home they built for more than 23 years. They are in constant search of their next project. Their most recent renovation was the bar area downstairs. While searching for materials for another project, Cathy stumbled upon a line of beautiful rustic tile. Mike installed the tile behind the bar, but the couple didn’t stop there. They updated the lighting, built a set of floating shelves, and put in a concrete countertop. Although Cathy loves the countertop, she says she would hesitate to do it again indoors. “It’s cost effective, but very messy,” she says. “You have to sand and buff it and cover everything in plastic — including yourself.” The floating shelves are a favorite of Cathy’s and are another one of Mike’s personal creations. “We needed something to display the bottles,” Cathy says. “We didn’t want anything to look purchased. We wanted it to be different, and Mike knew he could make it work. They have an older look to them, which sets the mood.”

Stop moping. Wrap up your griefs and troubles in a neat little bundle and leave them by the road. Better yet, see yourself dropping them off a bridge so they’ll float away on the stream and never come back.

Cathy says it took 10 years for she and Mike to achieve the type of look they wanted for their basement. SEARCH: Hostess Cave

Cathy is a big fan of color and tries to add it whenever possible — the flowers are one way she does it.

Get out from under! You can’t be yourself. It is impossible to make the right impression on others, to attract good things to you, when you are staggering under a load of things that have already happened that can no longer be helped and that cannot be cured by moping about. — One of Bob Mueller’s 6 Steps to Getting a Backbone and making changes in your life. SEARCH: Bob Mueller

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AN OPEN HOME FOR AN ACTIVE FAMILY

By Anna Patterson Photos Melissa Donald

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enny Love, owner of Penny Love — Design, Build, Renovate, has made a career of bringing homes to life. Penny’s career began with interior design and staging, working with both private clients as well as Homearama. Eventually she decided to give the building business a go. Penny fully expected this to last no more than five years. Now, 21 years later, she is still building homes. “It’s because I never lost my passion,” says Penny. “[Building] is an exciting process for me. I wake up, excited to go to my job.” This home, owned by Sol and George Clahane, is a particular favorite of Penny’s. “This house is the way of the world,” says Penny, “They’ve gotten rid of living rooms and the formality of it all and gone to something more livable.” For those considering building or renovating, Penny highly recommends investing in a good designer. If the cost seems too much, ask your builder for suggestions. “Every time you paint a

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The kitchen in particular stands out for Penny. She says it is both beautiful and efficient. The granite island combined with leather seats is functional, especially with kids running around, yet stylish. The kitchen opens up into a sitting area with couches and a study off to the side. The space is inviting. Not a cramped corner to be found.

room a bad color, you have to paint it again,” says Penny. “You want to have someone with vision to help you along the way to save you money and make good choices. If you have help at the beginning, you can avoid mistakes later.”

SEARCH: Penny Love


LOVE AND PETS

By Alissa Hicks Photos by Light Life Love Celia and Ryan Arnett with their three dogs, Lola Belle, Mika, and Moose. SEARCH: Ask the Vet

Spaying/ Neutering Can Help Your Pet’s Behavior By Alissa Hicks

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elia Arnett, owner/ lead coordinator of Celia Ann Events and owner of three playful pups, chats about pet ownership and the joy these “furbabies” bring to her life. Celia and her husband Ryan have three dogs — Lola Belle, Mika, and Moose. Lola Belle is a 9-yearold Dachshund, Mika is a 9-year-old Akita, and Moose is a 6-year-old Great Pyrenees mix. Celia and Ryan adopted all three from shelters as puppies.

What is the story behind each of your pets?

They are all pound puppies. We didn’t go to the shelter looking for a particular breed, but when we saw each of them we just knew that they were ours! With a little discipline and a lot of love, I think they all turned out to be the best companions we could have hoped for. Celia and Ryan love their pets so much, they made a special appearance on their wedding cake! Cake by Josh Moore at Volare.

Do you crate your dogs?

Absolutely. I feel much safer when I’m gone knowing that my dogs are cuddled up in their home and not getting into something that could hurt them.

With so many dogs, how do you deal with pet hair in your house? Ha! It’s everywhere. We own a Dyson vacuum cleaner, but there is only so much you can do when the pets outnumber the humans.

Dr. Theenda L. Greer, DVM with Breckenridge Animal Hospital, offers the pros of spaying or neutering your pet.

• It can help decrease and prevent overpopulation of feral cats and stray dogs. • It can help with behavioral issues. For example, it can help calm hyper puppies and keep cats from urinating in unwanted places or going through heat cycles, which can be difficult for owners to deal with. Spaying and neutering can also help cut down on aggression in some animals and ultimately lead to a longer lifespan. • It can help prevent medical diseases in pets, including pyometra, a serious infection of a female animal’s uterus, and mammary cancer; and in male animals, testicular prostate cancer or enlarged prostate glands, which can make it difficult to defecate and cause urinary tract infections. SEARCH: Ask the Vet

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PASSING ON THE NEEDLE By Brigid Morrissey Photo Melissa Donald SEARCH: Marilou Jacob

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y the time Marilou Jacob retired from interior decorating in 2013, she decided it was time to teach some classes herself. That was the main motivation for her business venture. “I kept thinking, ‘It’s a shame to me that I can do all these things and I’m not sharing them with other people,’” she says. “I need to keep them going. It’s an ancient art, and if we don’t teach these skills, they die.” For Marilou, the name of her business, Needle Arts Center, was an attempt to encompass everything she teaches. She

has contracted out to three other teachers who instruct on a multitude of skills including crochet, knitting, and tatting (a method of knotting lace primarily used for trimming), among others. “Our motto is ‘Discover handmade.’ It’s so satisfying making things. It’s more precious, and you can feel the sense of accomplishment when you do it yourself.” Or, in Marilou’s case, when teaching others to make things themselves, “Life doesn’t end when you retire. Our purpose here is to preserve needle arts, one person at a time.”

Quilting

Marilou is working on a Quilt of Valor she’ll give to her son at a ceremony in recognition of his military service in three tours overseas.

Crochet

Tatting

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WHAT WORKS

A QUICK CLEAN By Lucy M. Pritchett Photos Patti Hartog

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n my day, teachers of Home Ec classes instructed us on how to broil half a grapefruit (a tasty appetizer?) and how to hem an A-line skirt (of which I had many). Today, Home Ec has been renamed Family and Consumer Sciences, and Laura Spiegelhalter is readying students at duPont Manual High School in life skills such as nutrition, relationships, parenting, fashion, and interior design. In fact, she is doing such a good job of guiding her students in these areas that in November, she was named the 2015 winner of the Pride Award by the National Association of Teachers of Family and Consumer Sciences at the organization’s annual meeting in New Orleans.

Hoover Windtunnel Bagless Upright Vacuum

“I vacuum every day. It is my meditation. My husband bought me a multi-hundreddollar vacuum, but it was very heavy, and it just didn’t work for me. So he bought me the Hoover Windtunnel (which is the brand I had before), and I love it. It is lightweight, and I use the attachment hose on the baseboards and area rugs.”

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Laura, 36, uses many of her classroom talents in running her own household, which consists of husband Joe, 5-year-old daughter Caroline, and 11/2-yearold twins, son JT and daughter Laney. Oh, yes, and there are a dog and a cat added to the family mix as well. Not surprisingly, one of the items that works for her is her trusty vacuum cleaner.

Blend All-Natural Body Balm

“This is a thick, all-natural moisturizer and is my favorite product in the house. My 5-year-old has eczema in winter, and she keeps a jar of it by her bed. I tried it as a treatment on my son’s cradle cap, and it cleared up in two days.”


We are looking for women who did not wait to make a difference — whether at work, at play, or in the community. You want to tell her Way to Go, Woman! If you know of a young woman (under age 40) who has done something everyone should know about, nominate her to be featured in this special issue. Entries should be postmarked by June 30, 2016 (you can also nominate online at TodaysWomanNow.com). We will be featuring the five winners of each category in our September issue of Today’s Woman.

OUR 2015 WAY TO GO WOMEN

Jennifer Corum PROFESSIONAL

Jessica C. Taylor ENTREPRENEUR

Angie L. Banet LEADERSHIP

Aleksandra Stone OVERCAME BARRIERS

Whitney Trowbridge COMMUNITY

WAY TO GO WOMAN NOMINATION Name: _____________________________________________________________ Age: _________________ (20-40) Address (will not be published): ______________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________________ Phone numbers: _______________________________ Email address:_____________________________________

Category:

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THE PERFECT SNACK

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ou just know that a woman who buys for and manages the garden shop at Yew Dell Gardens is going to have a terrific assortment of things that work for her. Louisville native Madge MacBeath Huecker is never one to pass up a chance to support a local business, and she isn’t shy about singing the praises of the spicy pecans that help get her through a busy day.

By Lucy M. Pritchett Photo Patti Hartog

Spiced Pecans by The Cheddar Box “I love these nuts! They are a mix of sweet and spicy but with no heavy sugar coating. They make any salad wonderful. I break them up and put them in a roasted Brussels sprouts and butternut squash dish. They are great with sweet potatoes. They are a convenient snack, and, of course, I would eat them by the handful if

I am not careful. The Cheddar Box sells them by the pound, and there are usually some available, but I have learned that if I want some for a special occasion to call in advance. I am not the only one who has discovered them! I don’t know how much they cost. I just close my eyes and hand them my charge card!”

Pamela Satterly worked as a Pamela never forgot the young summer staffer boy who inspired in the computer her years of service. lab at Cabbage She saw him again Patch Settlement recently — with his House during the mother — and was delighted to find summer of 2008. him doing well. Kids came into the lab to practice math facts, get treats, and play learning games on the computers. A 6-year-old boy came in every day wanting to play “the spelling game” and talk to Pamela. One day, he told Pamela he wanted a hug. With tears in his eyes, he said he was really looking forward to hugs from his mom when she got out of jail.

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PHOTO: MELISSA DONALD

“I describe my work as a transient evanescence,” Izzi says. “My tattoos will decay over time, and they will die with you. They tell your life story. It’s a timeless art.” (By Brigid Morrissey)

Giving Out Hugs By Megan Wilman

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— Izzi Echo, a tattoo artist at her own studio, Blackout Studios.

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Pamela was hooked: kids like this boy are the reason she has stayed at Cabbage Patch. Today, Pamela works as the program volunteer coordinator at Cabbage Patch, where she continues to serve the young boys and girls who come through its doors. To volunteer, contact Pamela at psatterly@cabbagepatch.org or 502.753.4457, or visit cabbagepatch.org.


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HAPPY LONGEVITY By Marie Bradby Photo Melissa Donald SEARCH: Meeks

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f you want to maintain good mental health for yourself and your elderly loved ones, you might want to heed the advice of psychologist and professor Dr. Suzanne Meeks. “I sometimes talk about it as a bank account,” Suzanne says.“Keep a balance of positive experiences over negative, because when the bank account gets empty, you can get depressed. Draw on positive activities and experiences when things go bad. People who are resilient keep a big bank account of positive engagements.” For the past 15 years, Suzanne, chair of the Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Louisville, has been researching mental health of the elderly in nursing homes. The residents are more at risk for mental health problems because they have chronic diseases, disabilities, and cognitive impairments, she says. “And, it’s not an environment that’s particularly good for getting un-depressed.” Suzanne has helped develop an intervention program called Be-Activ, which is a collaboration with a mental health provider and nursing home staff, particularly the activities staff. The focus is to develop opportunities for residents to increase their enjoyment in life with things that are meaningful and enjoyable. A therapist helps a resident build a repertoire of activities as simple as getting coffee each morning, going out to dinner with a relative, singing or listening to music, drawing in coloring books, going outside and sitting in the sun, or looking at magazines. The following items are some things you can do for yourself to age well.

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• Keep a positive balance. Create occasions for joy and laughter, and find and savor small pleasures such as 10 minutes with a loved one, a bar of chocolate, your favorite tea in your favorite mug, comfort food (pancakes for dinner), appreciating something of beauty.

• Exercise, exercise, exercise. Exercise is an

evidence-based treatment for depression that keeps your joints working, keeps the extra weight off, protects your heart, and makes you feel good after you do it.

•E  at less and eat right.

I see the ravages of chronic diseases like diabetes and heart disease every day in nursing homes. Many of these diseases are influenced by lifestyle patterns that can be changed, and often those changes begin with diet. It’s really hard to change what you eat, so get help if you need it.


“IT ONLY TAKES ONE YES” By Anna Patterson Photo Melissa Donald

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hannon Higgins’ story is an incredible journey of abandonment, imprisonment, homelessness, motivation, courage, and overcoming. Now 33, Shannon is a social worker for Minor Daniels Academy. She also tours as a motivational speaker. She always tells her audience, “Never let somebody tell you that you can’t be anything. You can be anything you set your mind to. Don’t worry about people who reject you and close the door on you. There could be four or five people who don’t want you, and 150 people who will accept you. It only takes one yes from God.” Shannon’s book, I Have A Beautiful Life Because My Ugly Past Didn’t Win, was just released in April.

Wonderful, uplifting article. Bravo, Shannon! — DoveNative via TodaysWomanNow.com

Go, Shannon! So brave of you to share your story, but it’s truly inspiring. Doing things God’s way will always bring blessings. Much love from the Higgins Family! — Candice Higgins via TodaysWomanNow.com SEARCH: Higgins

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