Today's Woman Magazine March 2011

MARCH 2011

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March 2011 articles

Contents

*Online issue pagination differs from printed issue

Power I Am Today’s Woman Because… 10

By Lucy Pritchett

About This Issue

By CATHY ZION

On Our Cover

Most Admired Woman Ballot 12 Survival Skills: Be Entrpreneurial 14

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By Anita Oldham

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by Jennifer Thompson

Pick a Project 16

by Jennifer Thompson

19 Things

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By Anita Oldham ThriftStore Therapy: A Spring

Project 28

By Lauren Williams

STYLE

Catch Sight of the Beautiful 30

By Barbara MacDonald

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Project Makeover 32

By Tiffany White

Her 13 Inspirations

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By Holly Gregor

I Love My…38

By Lucy Pritchett

Mariya Tarakanova: Olé, Y’all! 40

by Gioia Patton

WELLNESS

Hunt for the Perfect Salad:

A Caribbean Salad 42

by Melissa Donald

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Good Night! Why Can’t I Sleep? 44

by Cheryl Stuck

What’s Your Legacy? 48

By Bob Mueller

Weight Loss Challenge 2011 50

by Melissa Donald

CONNECTIONS

3 Things Not to Miss 52

by Jennifer Thompson and Gioia Patton

Just Ask Joyce 54

By Joyce Oglesby

Real or Fake 58

by Tiffany White

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* Dating Dilemmas by Caitlin Gaynor * Arts Insider : Michael Bolton by Gioia Patton * 2 More Things Not to Miss by Gioia Patton

Today’s Woman

About This Issue

My Project in Progress 90 Things We Love About Mom, Aunt Jean, and Gammy…

1. S he holds hands with Papa even when nobody appears to be watching.

2. She is always the last one off the dance floor.

3. She’s very charitable — whether time or treasure.

This month,

my mother’s only sister — Aunt Jean — will be 90 years young. She lives in Brentwood, TN, with her husband of 67 years and is in amazing health. We call her the Energizer Bunny of the family — although only 90 pounds she can out-knit, out-read, out-cook, and out-walk any one of us.

For her birthday, I volunteered to compile “90 Things we love about Mom, Aunt Jean, and Gammy” from her six children, four nephews/niece, and 15 grandchildren.

As of this writing, I’m in the process of editing the over 140 insightful and inspiring phrases describing this amazing woman and wondering how I’m ever going to pare them down to only 90!

I’ve just got to share a few with you….

• S he has a letter from the President of Michigan State University congratulating her on “all A’s.”

• S he creates beautiful Christmas stockings, counted cross-stitch pieces, sweaters (especially the light-up Christmas one!), scarves, afghans, and dishcloths she has given to all of us!

• S he’s very charitable — whether time or treasure.

• S he wins the “swimsuit longevity” award — how many years did she have the same swimsuit that never got wet?

• S he holds hands with Papa even when nobody appears to be watching.

• S he brings plants back from the dead.

• S he is always the last one off the dance floor.

• S he keeps the post office alive when the rest of us are communicating via iPhone or Blackberry.

As one of my cousins said, she’s made this project easy for all of us because there’s so much to love about her. Don’t I wish all my projects were this easy!

Enjoy your projects this month.

— Cathy Jean (after my aunt) Zion, Publisher

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Volume 21 8 Number 3

Some recently completed or planned projects by our staff…

I’m writing a book!

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aking her own spring breezes on our March cover is flamenco dancer/ choreographer /instructor Mariya Tarakanova, who in 2007 co-founded the non-profit Academy of Flamenco Arts, Inc. (aka Flamenco Talk: www.flamencotalk.com), a non-profit organization dedicated to the preservation and promotion of Hispanic culture through the art form of flamenco music and dance.

Read more about her on page 40.

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Today’s Woman

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I am Today’s Woman

I am passionate about what I am doing — helping other people succeed by communicating and connecting downtown businesses and residents and creating a sense of community.

STACEY SERVO

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c ommunity outreach coordinator for Louisville Downtown Management District and as an associate project manager for CH2M HILL

Seattle. Since moving here, my husband and I have founded Green Horizon Management, a relocation/property management company specializing in downtown corporate housing.

The Road East:

Downtown retail, year-round indoor farmers market, and people on the streets at all hours. Also Trader Joe’s and Ikea. (Note: Stacey will be happy, because a Trader Joe’s is coming to Louisville.)

I grew up in a small town in Montana. My husband and I were living in Seattle and looking to get out of the rat race. Louisville came up on our list of great places to live based on cost of living, diverse economy, and focus on the arts. We visited the city in 2006 and moved here in 2007.

The Attraction:

Small-town feel, Southern charm, and friendly people.

Louisville is extremely supportive of women entrepreneurs. I would never have started a business in

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Misses from Seattle:

Doesn’t miss:

The traffic. Let me just say that Louisville doesn’t have a traffic problem. We have a traffic hour. Also I don’t miss the high price of everything and the 10-hour work days.

Latest project:

Founding and starting New 2 Lou, a social networking group

Husband Amador Delatorre III; two cats, Tabouleh and Monkey Neighborhood:

Downtown

AGE: 37

by Lucy M. Pritchett / Photo: Melissa donald

Stacey Servo splits a 40-hour work week as community outreach coordinator for Louisville Downtown Management District and as an associate project manager for CH2M HILL, an international environmental engineering firm.

Household:

that introduces newcomers to other newcomers, locals, and local businesses. It is a modernday Welcome Wagon. It hosts regular socials on the second Wednesday of each month.

You can find us on Meet Up, Facebook, and Twitter.

Makes her happy:

Worrier or Free Spirit:

Makes her sad:

I straddle the fence. My mom and grandmother are worriers.

My husband is a free spirit, and he’s pulling me over to that side.

Likes to eat:

We eat out a lot. I like Havana Rumba, Mayan Cafe, Toast, Grape Leaf. Really, any place on Frankfort Avenue. We are so lucky here to have so many locally owned restaurants.

Shapely secret:

It is all about portion control and eating natural foods that are real and local. I am big into farmers markets.

I am passionate about what I am doing — helping other people succeed by communicating and connecting downtown businesses and residents and creating a sense of community.

To see people so set in their ways that they are unwilling to change.

Philosophy:

If you have a positive outlook, it will help you overcome the obstacles in life.

Tells her friends about Louisville:

Living here is an opportunity to be part of the downtown revitalization movement. It has a phenomenal atmosphere to grow a business, to raise kids, to grow yourself.

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2011 Most Admired

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Who do you admire?

It’s your turn to vote for the most admired women in the Louisville/Southern Indiana area. These women were nominated for the ninth Today’s Woman Most Admired Woman Award by the editorial staff of Today’s Woman.

Arts ❒ N ana Yaa Asantewaa

Storyteller and Artist

❒ Leslie Broecker

Broadway Across America

❒ Therese Davis Louisville Chorus

❒ Summer Eliason Jewelry Designer

❒ Paula Hale

Speed Art Museum

❒ Delanor Manson Koi Gallery

❒ Diane Kelton

Milestone Wellness Center

❒ Liz Lewis

Sacred Heart Academy hockey

❒ Joyce Seymour

Girls’ Louisville Invitational Basketball Tournament

❒ Allison Terracio

fax and online voting

❒ LYndIa R. Willis

City, State, __________________________ Zip:_________________________________ Phone number: _____________________ Email address:______________________ Comments about why you voted the way you did or any write-in votes: ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________

BPW Hoosiers girls softball team

Beauty/Fashion

❒ Becky Beanblossom Home Instead Senior Care

❒ D r. Mollie Cartwright

❒ Sheila Day

❒ Charlotte Ipsan

Wesley House Community Services

Mom’s Closet

❒ Jill Doimer

Ovarian Awareness of Kentucky

❒ Cathe Dykstra Family Scholar House

❒ Christine Johnson Leadership Louisville

❒ Anne Byerlein

Heuser Institute Youth Fitness

Health/Healthcare

❒ Dr. Rene’e Campbell

❒ Peggy Heuser

Vote for one person in each category. Vote online www.iamtodayswoman.com or fax or mail (postmarked

by March 21) your choices to Today’s Woman, 9750 Ormsby Station Road, Suite 307, Louisville, KY 40223. Fax: (502) 327-8861.

Address:_____________________________

Community Foundation

Corporate

❒ Letty Walter

Name:_______________________________

❒ Susan BArry

Athletes/Fitness

Infinite Bliss Yoga

Deadline: March 21, NOON

Community/NonProfits

YUM! Brands, Chief People Officer

❒ Laura Douglas

EON, VP Corporate Responsibility

❒ Jennifer Hughes

Deming, Malone, Livesay, Ostroff President

❒ Jill A. Jones

Brown-Forman SVP, Chief Production Officer

❒ Karen Lee

UPS, Director of Airline Safety

❒ Vidya Ravichandran Glowtouch Technologies, President

Women First of Louisville

Kosair Children’s Medical CenterBrownsboro

❒ Deborah Molnar Jewish Hospital & St. Mary’s Healthcare

❒ Kathy Neuner

Clark Memorial Hospital

❒ Vicki Sanders Babyology

Home/Home Style ❒ Lesa Buckler

Details-Fabulous Interiors

❒ Martha Neal Cooke Eyedia

❒ Trish Kaffenberger Thoroughbred Homes

❒ Barbara Popp

Schuler Bauer Real Estate Services

❒ Cindi Sullivan Gardening expert

❒ Amanda Tyler Curtain Exchange

❒ June Bale

Education

Media

❒ D iane CalhounFrench

❒ Pam Brooks

❒ Tina Geary

The Willow Tree

Azure Skin and Wellness

❒ Gin Ho

Glitz by Gin

❒ Mary Beth O’Bryan Luna Boutique

❒ Donna Stone Discoveries

Lyndia Willis Salon

Business Owners ❒ Toni Levy

Toni Levy and Associates

❒ Shirley Ohta Eagle Steel Products

❒ Henrietta Pepper The Pepper Group

❒ Camilla SchroEder Advance Ready Mix

❒ evelyn Strange

Advanced Electrical Systems

❒ Debra Walton

New Seasons Consulting

Jefferson Community & Technical College

❒ D r. Cynthia Crabtree

Sacred Heart Schools

❒ Barbara Fondren

Community Montessori School

❒ Debra Hoffer Junior Achievement

❒ Debbie Wesslund

Jefferson County School Board

❒ Sara York

Westport and Southpark Teenage Parent Program (TAPP)

Food/Entertainment ❒ Summer Auerbach Rainbow Blossom

❒ Erika ChavezGraziano

Cellar Door Chocolates

❒ N ancy Haner Grantz Nancy’s Bagels

❒ Deborah Lowery Ladyfingers Catering

❒ Eileen Moore Horseshoe Casino

LEO and NFocus

❒ Candyce Clifft WDRB-41

❒ Mandy Connell 84WHAS Radio

❒ Lynda Lambert WXMA 102.3-FM

❒ Carissa Lawson WLKY-32

❒ Renee Murphy WHAS-11 TV

Political ❒ Lisa Abramson

Kentucky Supreme Court

❒ Sherry S. Conner Mayor of Shively

❒ P atricia Walker Fitzgerald Family Court Judge

❒ J oan “Toni” Stringer

Retired/Senior Judge status

❒ Tina Ward-Pugh Louisville Councilwoman

❒ Mary Ellen Wiederwohl

MML&K Government Solutions

❒ Joy Perrine

Equus and Jack’s Lounge

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Survival Skills: Be Entrepreneurial

Misty Manzo B

eing your own boss sounds glamorous, right? In a tough economy and in a culture where social media and reality TV can make success into a game of chance, it’s hard to know how to pursue that elusive entrepreneurial spirit. The journey of Misty Manzo and her business, Carmen’s Cupcakes, shows how one woman picked a project during her “maternity leave” and turned it into a new business that has garnered attention from across the country.

Step #1: Be Hard to Please

Long before Carmen’s Cupcakes, when she moved to Louisville, Misty realized she “had to start a business.” When I asked if she meant she had to get a job, she reiterated, “No, I had to start a business. I don’t ever see myself working for someone. Nothing is ever good enough for me; I always push myself.”

For Misty, pushing herself means not relying on others to lead or waiting for others’ approval of her ideas. “People don’t believe in themselves,” she says.

“They put their faith in others around them, but you have to be the one to do something.”

photo: Melissa Donald

Step #2: Get Bored

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The idea for Carmen’s Cupcakes was born shortly before its namesake, Misty’s oldest daughter, Carmen. When she found out she was pregnant with Carmen, Misty put Louisville Laser (the business she owned at the time) up for sale so she could stay home with Carmen for a while before going back to work. Her plan worked a little too quickly, however, when Louisville Laser sold right away, leaving the pregnant entrepreneur at home with nothing to do — a dangerous mix for the tirelessly ambitious Misty.

“I was bored to death,” she says. “I always assumed my husband would stay home with the kids because I made more money, but when we decided I would, I didn’t know what to do with myself.”

Boredom led Misty to dust off her mom’s old recipe for pumpkin rolls and experiment with other baked goods. She soon started selling her pastries on eBay and began receiving orders from as far away as New York. Misty views her pastime-turned-business-venture as a perfectly reasonable step for anyone with an idea and some time to hone a craft.

“It’s not money (that creates success),” she says. “You can have a dollar to start out and buy a cake box. It’s easy.”

Step #3: Prepare to be Rejected

After her success on the Internet, Misty decided to invest a little more than a dollar and started to meet with local “mom and pop” stores to sell her products wholesale. Armed with March

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“So what if you get rejected? There’s always that one person who will say yes,” she says. “There’s nothing better than that feeling. It always gives you butterflies and the feeling you can fly.”

Step #4: Don’t Stop Talking

Owning a business requires a lot of independent thinking and decision making, but sometimes feedback from others is essential.

“I talk about an idea for weeks until I figure out how it will work — or not work,” she says.

“I talk to my mom, to friends, to buyers, to customers to see if something might work. I love taking something that didn’t exist and making it into something that everyone’s talking about.”

And people are talking. After opening Carmen’s Cupcakes retail store in Norton Commons, Misty had special visitors all the way from California who came to the bakery to tell her that they were her “farthest fans.”

Other businesses, too, are taking notice. Recently, Thorntons executives were literally flying around the country to find the perfect cupcake, and word got around about Carmen’s Cupcakes. Once they tried them, they asked to stock the pastries in 10 stores with the possibility of over 100 more to follow in the near future.

Misty is talking to people who can’t afford to fly as well. After donating to the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure and countless other charities, Misty says “sometimes we give away as many cupcakes as we sell.”

Step #5: Actually Do It

Although Misty doesn’t consider herself to be especially more capable than anyone else, she does acknowledge the gap between capability and reality.

“It takes more than setting your mind to it or reading books or even reading this article. You have to start making lists of what you can accomplish that day and then do it.”

Even though Carmen’s Cupcakes (www.carmenscupcakes. net) is thriving, Misty still sticks to her (albeit long) lists and says that her mind “never stops” as she dreams of her next steps.

And as for Carmen herself? At first, Misty said that she would love to see Carmen take over the bakery one day, but then she changed her mind. “Actually, I’d like to see her start her own thing. That’s what I would do.”

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Project Pick a

By Jennifer Thompson Photos by Melissa Donald

How do you get that spring feeling? By doing a project! Here are six Louisvillians who picked projects that fly in the face of comfortable logic, as they took on tasks that were in many ways completely new and potentially overwhelming to them. Unfortunately for the rest of us, their success makes our excuses not to take on something out of our comfort zone, suddenly very flimsy.

photo: DAN DRY

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Tim and Lori Laird moved to Louisville 12 years ago, and they, like anyone in a new city, had the task of making new friends. But rather than wait to be invited over or out, the Lairds chose to bring people in.

“I’ve been entertaining since I was 12 years old when I planned a party for my parents,” Tim says. “We’re trying to tell people to entertain more — to get over the intimidation.”

The Lairds have hosted more parties than they can count, everything from small dinner parties to a house full of people. Their parties have gained national attention, and when I spoke with them, they had recently appeared on ABC about choosing the right champagne for New Years. Some of their ideas are collected in their book, That’s Entertaining.

The key to the Lairds’ parties, however, is simple: have a theme.

“Almost every month there’s something to celebrate,” Tim says.

“For March, you could celebrate welcome back spring, March Madness, St. Patrick’s Day — there are so many different things.”

One of the Lairds’ most popular parties is their grilled pizza parties.

“It’s fun and casual, and it’s outside around the grill. I make the dough fresh, and everyone brings a topping, so you can literally have 100s of types of pizza,” Tim says. “It’s active and fun,” Lori adds. “It’s a good party for people who don’t know each other well because people get involved in cutting.”

About why people don’t throw parties more, Lori says, “People just overthink it and stress themselves out. And they think, ‘If the dish I make isn’t the best ever, it’s going to be a disaster.’” She continues, “Do something you know. You’re not being judged or evaluated. Friends just want to come over and hang out.”

Tim and Lori’s book, That’s Entertaining, is published by Butler Books and is available for the retail price of $35.

Planning a Spring Party h Start with a theme. That sets the stage for everything that follows after. h Think about how many people you want. It could be as small as four or as a large as 40. Lori says, “We always think it’s fun to invite different types of people — friends who don’t know each other.” h Make a signature cocktail that fits the theme (e.g., green for St. Patrick’s Day). Provide with and without alcohol. h Have food items you can spread out and let people serve themselves and get different things. h Put together a timeline — when you want to go shopping, what you want to do a week, a day, and an hour in advance. Get all the cooking done before the guests arrive. h Get people involved. People always ask what they can do, so give them tasks and let them take ownership over things. That way they feel involved, and you have less to do!

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Find a Way to Work Out

a Way to Work Out

Arm and Shoulder Exercise (dips)

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The day before Thanksgiving 2009, former corporate manager Jennifer Cox sat in an airport with other “ho-hum” business people awaiting a flight home. Having spent 10 years in marketing, Jennifer looked over her busy schedule searching for the passion in her life. In that moment she realized the one thing in her week she never wanted to miss was something many of us dread: her workout time.

“For my birthday a couple years ago, I treated myself to some personal training sessions,” Jennifer says. “The first six months we spent undoing bad habits I had been taught.”

Jennifer’s trainer introduced her to exercises that didn’t require complex machinery, such as carrying heavy loads up and down the street outside the gym, and her trainer also became a source of motivation and drive to stick with her desire to stay fit.

“There’s an incredible sense of satisfaction that comes when you realize your body can accomplish something you wouldn’t have thought you could do,” Jennifer says. “When my birthday money ran out, I realized I had to find a way to finance my habit a little further, and I thought, ‘Personal training should be affordable to • Use a heavy chair. You will be moving up and down in front of the chair. Here’s how: everyone.’”

• Support your weight on your palms and let your fingers dangle over the edge of the Jennifer’s passion for affordability, chair. personalization, and good technique • Balance on your heels and bend your knees as if you’re in a sitting position in front of became the cornerstones of Burn the chair.

Personal Fitness Studio, which she • Lower yourself toward the floor and then push yourself back up using your arms only. opened in August 2010. Having grown • To increase difficulty, lift your leg while you’re doing this. up with two entrepreneurial parents, Jennifer knew the demands of owning a business and the potential it had to • This pose looks similar to a pushup and can be done anywhere (home, office, etc.) dictate all one’s waking hours. But as she • Align your hands and shoulders with your hands flat on the ground. met trainers who shared her passion and • Your toes should be supporting your legs. Ideally your legs will be together, but it her vision, she was thrilled to move might be easier to spread them at first. forward.

• Hold your head up and keep your back perfectly straight. This puts the burden on “People see exercise as a ‘have to’ your core. thing, but it doesn’t have to be a ‘have • Maintain this position for about 30 seconds. to,’” Jennifer says. “Our classes have five • How do I know if I’m doing it right? According to Jennifer, “If you’re not shaking, people max, and they become a source you’re not doing it right!” of encouragement to each other. I tell people it’s like turning in your book club “If it’s something on your calendar, you’ll do it,” Jennifer for an exercise club.” explains. “We don’t do new exercises; we just give you a new Burn requires people to make appointments much like a environment to work toward whatever goals you have.” doctor’s office or a hairdresser.

Burn is located at 2004 Frankfort Avenue, 502.899.2505.

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Till a Farm Ben and Lisa Holt moved to Louisville 12 years ago and they found a beautiful preCivil War house in the east end that used to be a working plantation. Although much of the land had been sold off, they were still left with a few acres that they could have let become just a big suburban backyard. But for Lisa, the daughter of two farmers, this was not an option.

“I wanted to preserve the history of the house even in the garden,” Lisa says.

To do this, Lisa spoke with the gardener who had been working on the property all his life, and with local nurseries and the Glenview Garden Club to find out what plants were native to the area and what would work well. She sought non-hybridized heirloom plants and even old breeds of chicken for her coop.

“Having chickens can be tragic,” Lisa laughs. This past Christmas while the Holts were visiting family in Texas, a raccoon got in and killed five chickens, and a few Christmases before that, a dog killed all 14 they had at the time.

Even though she grew up around farming, Lisa is not exempt from the work of any gardener/farmer, new or experienced. She reads catalogs and books, experiments with different plants, and keeps her old seed packets, organized in plastic bags by season, to help her remember what worked and what didn’t. But Lisa says that although farming takes some work, the benefits are well worth the effort.

“It’s so satisfying when your guests eat asparagus for dinner or fresh peaches with ice cream or jelly on their toast and they say, ‘Where do you get this?’ and you can say, ‘I made it!’”

Lisa believes that anyone can start a farm (even you, city reader), but you should be conscious of your schedule.

“Don’t get too carried away with the size of your garden. Plant only what you can enjoy and not burden you,” Lisa says. “One packet of seed that costs a dollar can produce so much, and a couple of tomato plants go a long way. Even if you live in an apartment or townhouse, you can have a container garden. There’s nothing more beautiful than thyme spilling over the side of a pot.”

Redesign a House Downsizing can be an overwhelming project all its own. But that was what Dr. Craig and Lynne Mueller faced at the beginning of 2011. They were moving from a house in Indian Hills that they had lived in for 12 years and raised their two daughters, to a 75-yearold house in Crescent Hill. Fortunately, Lynne recently attained a degree in interior design, and she was more than ready for the challenge.

Preserving the old charm feel of the home while enjoying modern comforts became Lynne’s goal as she began her redesign. Therefore she kept the large windows but replaced the glass and some of the treatment to keep the utility bills low. She also kept some of the tile floors but put heating beneath them. And an outdated garage got an upgrade, but Lynne found and used an outer door that had an older look to it.

Lynn has arranged her bookshelf by color.

Starting Your Garden • Find people to advise you, including nurseries and other gardeners.

• Get a kit to test your soil to find out what type it is.

• Decide what plants you want and what you’re using them for (food, aesthetics, etc.).

• Locate where the sun shines, so you can plant in the right places.

• Compost your soil.

• Protect against pests with pesticide alternatives.

• Water.

• Harvest, enjoy, and share with others.

• Consider joining a farming support group (www.15thousandfarmers.com), a local initiative to get people growing their own food.

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Tips for Redoing a Room • Figure out what you want to keep.

• Figure out your budget. Do you want to • • • •

spend money on lighting, furniture, or wall treatments?

Figure out your timeline, especially if contractors are involved.

Cut out pictures in magazines.

Consider architecture of room (size, scale, etc.) when deciding what furniture or decorations will fit.

If you don’t love it, don’t get it/buy it. You have to live with whatever you have, so make sure it fits your personality.

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Even her closest friends never would have dreamed that Elizabeth McConahy Jenkins would open a boutique. A full-time lawyer and a mom of three boys, she never experimented with clothes through much of college and momhood.

But that changed seven years ago when a friend who owned a boutique set aside some clothes for Elizabeth to try on.

“Some of the clothes were out of my comfort zone,” Elizabeth says. “Women who have children get stuck looking a certain way sometimes because they’re always racing from one place to the next.”

Elizabeth soon started going on buying trips with her friend and getting a vision for a place that would “make it fun and easy for women to get clothes they love.” For someone with a background in math and political science and a practice in law, the fashion field quickly became Elizabeth’s creative outlet.

After experimenting at her friend’s store for a while, she forged ahead on her own to create Boutique Serendipity while still practicing law full time. Some of the ways that Boutique Serendipity makes shopping “fun and easy” is providing toys for kids who don’t share their mothers’ enthusiasm for shoes and dresses and also allowing women with tight schedules to pick up clothes for a 24-hour “try-on” period.

“When we go to buying shows, we buy for our customers,” Elizabeth says. “We take people as they are, whether they just came from tennis practice or are pushing a stroller through the store. It’s not about being a different person but about bringing out the fun inside you through your clothes.”

Boutique Serendipity is located in the Westport Village Shopping Center, 502.423.0058.

Creating a New Spring Outfit Boutique Serendipity employee Susan Lowry shares how to put together a new outfit for spring: • Know your body. Not every fashion works on every body type.

• Consider your event and your age.

• Take something you have and build from it (i.e., a great pair of jeans).

• Pick out an interesting top. Bright colors and blues are great for spring.

• Mix patterns (small with big). A pattern can be a print or a texture.

• Add fun jewelry. Choose one big piece and a few smaller pieces to accent it.

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Lynne’s philosophy for interior design in general is always to use existing pieces and build from there.

“I really believe in recycling things instead of throwing them away,” Lynne says. “You can move things between rooms or rearrange furniture, and it’s suddenly a completely different room.

“I don’t buy ‘expensive’ stuff so I won’t feel bad if I get tired of it,” she continues. “If I spent a lot of money on something, I’d have a hard time putting it in the basement.”

Lynne also believes in bringing out your personality through your house. She says you don’t necessarily have to have what’s in the latest magazines to have a good design; rather, it’s about high­ lighting the things that are important to you in an interesting way. For example, Lynne has a large bookshelf in her new living room, and rather than arranging the books randomly or alphabetically, she has different colors on each shelf so that the books stand out as soon as you walk in the room.

“I like change, and I want my home to be comfortable but fun,” she says. “For me, I want to have an efficient home but keep the old charm feel. But someone else might want something different. It’s so personal.”

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Transform Your Porch Nique Freese didn’t pick her project so much as it picked her. She worked as an accountant for much of her life and raised her children. Then she decided seven years ago that it was time for a change. She started arranging and designing pots full of plants in her own home. A few friends admired her work and hired her to arrange pots of plants and flowers in their gardens, on patios, porches, and decks. Soon word spread, and without even having to advertise, Nique found herself with a business partner and a thriving business.

“We’re just a couple of girls with a couple of trucks,” Nique says. “We come and get a feel for your house, pick up your containers and pots, and transform ‘blah’ to instant garden.”

Her philosophy?

“Your garden is an extension of your house. It’s another room. It’s not disconnected,” Nique says. “So if it looks like us, we didn’t do a good job.”

Nique says that the key to a good container garden is creating an interesting texture and look. “You want people to walk up to it to touch, smell, and look at it.”

Nique’s passion for arranging flowers is like that of a composer for his or her music.

“Once you buy all the flowers, you just see it,” she says, “like an artist sees a painting or a writer hears a sentence. You just know.”

Nique’s business is called Cracked Pots, 502.767.8311.

How to Create a Pot • Don’t put a spike in your pot. It’s boring and overdone.

• If you think you need three plants, use seven.

• Use plants that grow at different rates and change over time. That way your pot will transform throughout the year.

• Don’t be afraid to mix perennials, annuals, and herbs.

• Use high-quality soil bought from a nursery.

• Fertilize regularly and water regularly. The smaller the pot, the more you have to water.

• Remember: If you’re designing your own pot, you can’t go wrong because it’s your pot, so have fun with it!

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— Irish Blessing

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Reverend Dawn Cooley, minister at First Unitarian Church in downtown Louisville, has found a fun stress buster: she plays on the local roller derby team, the Derby City Roller Girls.

“I have always enjoyed skating, but didn’t know about Roller Derby until I watched the movie, Whip It!” The Rev. Cooley will be presenting a service on the subject on March 27, entitled “Life Lessons from Roller Derby.”

Eat the two-millionth egg at Wild Eggs If you get the right egg, you will win breakfast for two for a year. Each location will have a winner.

The rules to participate are simple: stop by any of Wild Eggs’ three locations and order an egg dish.

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Retreat ~ Writers Retreat!

ne of Today’s Woman’s previous beloved columnists, Gwen Mayes, has opened a writing retreat business called Creativity in Plume. “My best writing came when I felt honored, fresh, and alive. Writers who find beauty in their surroundings will find beauty in their words. The goal of each retreat is to provide the individual attention and face-time you get at an author’s retreat with the luxury and hospitality you feel at your favorite inn, spa, or resort.

The first retreat is April 13-17 at the Morrison House in Old Town Alexandria and coincides with the Historic Garden Tour of Virginia and feature two bestselling authors, Laura Fraser and Kaylie Jones. www.creativityinplume.com, or 703.647.6366.

Plate of Support The small business specialty license plate design was created to bring attention to the major role small businesses play in Kentucky’s economy.

“We envision the plates being minibillboards promoting small business on vehicles throughout the state,” says Cathy Zion, chair of the Ky. Commission on Small Business Advocacy and publisher of Today’s Woman magazine.

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rown-Forman just released Collingwood, a new premium Canadian whisky.

Collingwood will be the only Maplewood-mellowed Canadian whisky available on the market. “We believe Collingwood is the smoothest whisky ever made,” said Webb Blevins, Global Creative Director at BrownForman. Available in Florida, Kentucky, Louisiana and Texas initially ($26.99 for a 750ml bottle).

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Writer Spotlight

Bob Mueller

I have had a “Bob Mueller” file on my computer almost since the day I started at Today’s Woman magazine. Bob offers us a spiritual perspective on living everyday life in our wellness section and has been inspiring our readers for more than 17 years. A former priest who is the associate vice president of mission and stewardship at Hosparus, he is very active in the community. During the time he has been at Today’s Woman, he has written three books, holding a collection of essays: Look Forward Hopefully, The Gentle Art of Caring and Create a Better World.

I put Bob on the spot with a few questions.

Q: Where do you get your inspiration for your essays?

My inspiration comes from old sermon thoughts, my diary, and everyday living.

Stay Single or Be in a Relationship:

Read Caitlin Gaynor’s thoughts on page 61 of our online magazine at www.iamtodayswoman.com

Check out a new restaurant: Doc Crow’s Southern Smokehouse and Raw Bar, 127 W. Main St.

Doc Crow’s serves traditional Southern fare, including barbecue and an array of seafood. The restaurant will also focus on bourbon with more than 60 varieties as part of a list of over 100 whiskies from around the world.

Visit www.doccrows.com or call 502.257.7132

Right Answers = Prizes

How sharp is your Most Admired Woman IQ? Check out our Facebook page where we are going to give away a prize a week starting March 1. Go to www.facebook.com/ todayswomanmagazine.

Get a jump on spring and walk Hidden Hill Gardens with Bob Hill on Saturday, March 12, at 1pm. www.hiddenhillnursery.com Want to Ride on a Float in the Pegasus Parade?

Well, you can’t but maybe your kid can. Deadline is March 10, and kids age 6-10 can write an essay about their super hero. See www.todaysfamilymag.com

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I’m a homegrown Louisvillian. I am most inspired by being in the moment.

Q: Six things you cannot live without?

1) My wife, Kathy 2) My dogs, Sadie and Stella 3) Books 4) Baseball 5) The island of Kauai in Hawaii 6) My C-Pap Machine

Q: Articles that you have written and gotten the most feedback about?

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Cook Once, Eat Many Times

Chef Mary Wheatley, owner of Cook with Mary, will be demonstrating how to incorporate variety and nutrition into several different meals using pot roast. In February at our Todays Transitions Cooking event, Chef Mary turned roasted chicken into a series of delicious and healthy meals along with side items like Waldorf salad. Reserve a spot for the next class on Tuesday, April 19, 3-5pm at Wesley Manor Retirement Community.

Cost is $10. Register starting March 17-April 17 at www.todaystransitions.com or call 502.327.8855.

“I see a lot of my core fans at concerts, who know all my music.

But I am also seeing (people) in their 20s who were teenagers when a lot of this music was being played.”

— Michael Bolton

Our own Arts Insider, Gioia Patton, got a chance to speak with Michael Bolton who is appearing at the Brown Theatre on March 13. Read the interview at www.iamtodayswoman.com, page 61.

March: Colon Cancer Awareness Wear Blue on March 4 for National Dress in Blue Day for Colon Cancer Awareness.

For information on Colon Cancer, contact the Kentucky Cancer Program, 502.852.6318

Watch Catching A Killer: Colon Cancer Among Us on March 24 at 10:30 p.m. on KET2.

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STORY AND PHOTOS By LAUREN WILLIAMS

A Vintage Bloom Transforming a winter kitchen into a spring kitchen with a few thrift store finds.

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oaming the thrift store aisles is perhaps one of my favorite pastimes. It’s the unpredictable nature that I find so appealing as I rummage in and out of old “junk” hunting for — oh, nothing in particular. It truly is a quest to find an interesting object both functional and beautiful. As I prepare my kitchen for spring’s arrival, I make sure to include my lovely thrift store finds. A few feminine touches such as floral patterns, decorative details, and soft colors will help transform a winter kitchen into a spring kitchen.

Do-It-Yourself SpringInspired Table Centerpiece Supplies: • Springtime Flowers: Dixie Florist (love them! I used purple agapanthus, yellow tulips, and hydrangeas) • Blue mason jar: The Crazy Daisy Antique Mall • Burlap fabric: White and Sage Green – Hancock Fabrics • Pink floral bowl: Dixie Trading Post • Floral goose dish: Dixie Trading Post • Vintage brass frame: Dixie Trading Post • Antique White paint: Hobby Lobby

STEP1: Separate any backing, glass or photos from the brass photo frame

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Create a horizontal stripe with the sage burlap by centering it on top of the white burlap piece. Apply a drop of hot glue every few inches to fuse the two fabrics together. The outer white burlap stripes are similar in color to the antique white frame, which brings the eye in while the sage stripe elongates the frame.

Use the frame glass as a template for tracing and cutting a piece of white burlap the same size as the inside of the frame. This will be used as the “photo� in the brass frame. Next, cut a piece of sage burlap measuring half the size of the white burlap piece.

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Turn over your freshly painted frame and secure the glass, burlap, and cardboard frame backing in place.

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You will want to play around with the arrangement of the bottles, dishes, and jars that sit on top of the tray to determine what works best. This is the part I enjoy most. Keep in mind that a centerpiece needs to have variety while remaining cohesive. A mixture of shapes, transparencies, textures, and colors will add interest but keep your containers cohesive by choosing colors from a spring color palette. I prefer an off number of vases so the eye can go to a specific center location.

Other Ways To Bring Spring Into Your Kitchen

1. Pack away items that are no longer useful in the spring season such as cookie cutters, tin containers, winter towel sets, etc. Think of produce, flowers, and frequently used items as your main source of spring kitchen decor. Fruit can be used to add lush color to a tabletop while dinner staples such as noodles and rice can be placed in mason jars for easy access, and a sweet tea pitcher can be left on the counter as a useful kitchen accessory.

2. Get rid of winter fabrics such as heavy

tablecloths and curtains. The natural space allows more room for an airy atmosphere.

3. Clean up your refrigerator, on the outside. Holiday cards from your family and co-workers, old to-do lists, and other miscellaneous papers can be thrown away or placed in storage. Provide a clean slate for new springtime recipes and plenty of surface for your important lists.

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k, mtyh c a b e l i fter writing about boosting creativity back in December, A wh rybde this a M d n e it’s amazing how many creative people I’ve met or fri on poste ook come into contact with. They inspire me, and I hope Johsnsher Face.b a status I can pay that forward.

Marybeth had taken this status idea from a friend. I immediately posted it as my status and had five friends sign up within minutes. Get inspired — use this as your status too.

Marybeth’s art consists of prayer bead jewelry that has been featured in O Magazine, and a new line of bracelets with positive thoughts called Innerdialogue (www.mialena.com).

Creative Mom Changing the World One Ponytail at a Time Lisa Whyte of Prospect likes to wear jewelry in her hair. Her long blond locks are usually in a ponytail, and when she dresses up, she wants her ponytail to be posh too.

A few years ago at a gala, Lisa’s ponytail jewelry slipped out of her hair… sending the “jewels” flying and leaving an elastic band at her feet.

She knew there was a better way.

The mom of two set out to find a way to use jewels to decorate her ponytail and after numerous prototypes, she figured it out. Attaching a piece of uniquely shaped metal that fits into the rubber band holding your ponytail together, the metal wrap adorned with jewels or beads won’t slide out of your hair whether your ponytail is the diameter of a dime or much bigger.

Lisa’s daughter Lauren tested the final model by going on all the rides at Universal Studios with her PoshPonytail Wrap in place. It didn’t budge.

Mother and daughter soon started wearing their hair jewelry everywhere.

People started asking about it, wondering where they could find them to buy. Their first retail gig was at the St. James Art Fair a few years ago, where they sold everything they had in the first three hours. Lisa was up all night making more for the next day.

Today there’s a patent pending on the design. Lisa also has rings, headbands, necklaces, and wrist cuffs and all embellishments are interchangeable thanks to strong, yet small magnets. You can take the embellishment from your ponytail and stick it to a ring, wrist cuff, headband, or necklace that Lisa also designs.

Ponytail wraps retail for about $30, and additional embellishments are $25-45.

Necklaces made from semi-precious stones run between $40-60. PoshPonytails are available at various craft and art shows in town, as well as at Two Chicks & Co. in Middletown; Les Filles Boutique in Westport Village; Etcetera in Holiday Manor; and Lady Bug at Norton Commons.

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etween raising two kids and working full time at Seven Counties Services, Inc., Becky Wolf has little time to think about her personal style. “I am very casual, and I don’t spend a lot of time on my appearance. While I care about it and would like to spend more time on my hair and clothing, my priorities are my children and my work because I am a single mom.” Her friend and co-worker Julie Osterwisch helped solve Becky’s dilemma when she nominated her for a makeover, but we were eager to know how we could transform her entire look from head to toe.

Her Hair and Makeup: Brandi Scoggan, hairstylist at Polished Salon (152 Chenoweth Lane, 502.290.3900) gave Becky a dramatic long-layered cut and blew out the hair using a large round brush to emphasize the volume and texture of the cut. Next, Kristen Sipes applied Redken Double Fusion Brown and Blonde hair color to Becky’s hair to accentuate her natural highlights and lowlights. For her makeup, hairstylist and makeup artist Julie Peppler stuck with earth tones in greens and browns but used a bolder lip color to brighten up her face. She filled in her brows using a brow palette cake pigment and applied a wax to keep any stray hairs down.

Her Clothes: Jessica Ray, marketing assistant at Rodes (4938 Brownsboro Road #200, 502.753.7633), found the perfect casual style for Becky with a pop of color. To elongate her body and give her more of a slim fit, Jessica put her in darker jeans that had a boot cut flare, and then paired it with a coral shell and coral striped cardigan.

“Coral is a huge color for spring. It just looked so good with her skin tone.”

The cardigan, says Jessica, was a great piece for Becky because it’s lightweight and didn’t add any extra bulk. Jessica selected a wedge heel for her to wear which added a couple of inches to her height and allowed the hemline of the jeans to fall more perfectly.

BEFORE Becky is wearing: St. John coral shell, $295; St. John white and coral striped cardigan, $595; Vanillia Stonewash Kate jean ,$175; *Cindy Borders gem wrapped circle earring, $115; Cindy Borders crystal gem necklace with gold filigree ball, $385; Stuart Weitzman “Foilage” cork wedge sandal, $355. All from Rodes.

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ust like Kermit the Frog, who says “It’s not easy being green,” visual artist Gaela Erwin says “it’s not easy being an artist.”

“It’s work! I get in there and duke it out.” I didn’t expect that answer: I envisioned a quiet, serene, peaceful environment, with the artist lost in her work. “No. It’s really frustrating. It can be depressing because you don’t know where you’re going. A lot of days it’s just putting your time in.”

With someone of Gaela’s talent, success, and recognition, how can you not know where you’re going? “Each individual piece is its own rocky road,” explains Gaela. “I rarely know when something is a good piece until I’ve gotten some feedback, and often that takes months after it’s completed. It’s scary!”

Contributing to the “scary,” Gaela, like most artists, struggles with the daily rigors of life — paying bills, keeping up with a house, and meeting other work obligations. She works part-time at St. Francis High School as the “Artist in Residence” teaching art to a lucky few. She purposely chose to not have children in order to focus on her art. She lives frugally, has no TV, and buys few new things.

Her commitment to creating art runs deep.

Gaela works in oils and pastels and focuses on self-portraits which she ties back to a fiscal decision. She doesn’t have to pay herself a sitting fee, and she always shows up. Although this decision appears financial and maybe even a little narcissistic, the paintings evoke emotion from the viewer. Her portraits can be intense, painful, sad, and always very realistic. This writer even finds it unnerving. So, there it is: She has forced you to see something in yourself by looking at her.

Gaela’s work can be found in the collections of six museums in the U.S. It may be her exquisite technique that keeps her in the forefront of critics’ minds, rather than the beauty of her work. As her art has advanced, so it will continue, much to the pleasure of her admirers. In the past, Gaela’s talent has won her entry to artist colonies in Ireland, Germany, and France. This spring, Gaela travels to Italy to observe the paintings of Italian artist Caravaggio. This experience, too, she guesses, will inform her work particularly with the idea of adding more figures into her paintings, and the relationship they will have on one another.

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ARTIST GAELA ERWIN 13 Things That Inspire Gaela: 1. Paintings of Caravaggio, ca 1571-1610. His works are from direct observation. He was a perceptual painter. It is a lost art these days. He has tremendous psychological range.

He wanted to see realism in all its glory...whether it’s glorious or not. 2. Spending time at Woodland Farm. This is Laura Lee Brown’s and Steve Wilson’s farm where I ride my horse.

I need a place to go to clear my mind. On occasion I get to ride with Laura Lee, and we have these wonderful conversations!

3. Willy, my horse. He is 30 years old and totally useless, eating all their grain. Yet, Laura Lea and Steve board him for me. I will never be able to thank them enough for that.

4. Mary Ann Currier. Here is a woman who paved the way.

She didn’t have the options you and I have. At 50 she said, “I am going to start exhibiting.” Now, a woman in her 80s, she is at the top of her game. She’s making it happen. She has made a lifetime commitment to her work. She keeps working in a way that is consistent to her vision. She doesn’t care what is “hot” or what is in. 5. Lacey, my Chinese Crested Hairy Hairless dog. In the morning she wakes me up with a smile on her face. I hug her and think, “Who designed this ‘mad’ of a dog with her hair sticking straight up?” And what hair she has, with her little bare belly. Who wouldn’t laugh? If you can get a laugh from something everyday, it’s pretty dog-gone precious! 6. The artwork of my friends and colleagues. Their ongoing commitment, growth, and the conversations we have keep me on my toes. Mainly it is the very high quality of their work — like that of Guinever Smith. 7. The Louvre. I’m interested in pastels now and they have a pretty good size Maurice-Quentin de la Tour collection. He is one of France’s greatest pastelists. I learn by seeing so I go there for a couple of days, and I just soak it up.

8. The creativity of my students. We all have creativity inside of us. All of them strike me occasionally as being amazing. Sometimes I think, “I never would have guessed this person could come up with this.” 9. Skies with clouds. When I look at those colors, it just lifts me up. It’s a visual dessert.

10. Side saddle etchings and original prints from the past. It documents a time when women rode side saddle for pleasure and sport, rarely seen today. I started riding side saddle in my teens and will continue to do so. 11. Watching my 87-year-old mother run down a hill. She doesn’t even look aged when she runs down a hill. I can’t run down that same hill!

12. The operas of Giacomo Puccini. You have drama, theater, music. The combination of those is fun. The costuming and set designs trigger something for me. I also like that it’s in a foreign language. I like to study foreign languages.

13. 21C Museum. I am so grateful that 21C brings the very best of contemporary art to this city. That energizes Louisville!

It’s very egalitarian...there is no fee. They want everyone to have access to interact with this contemporary art.

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I love my

kitchen countertops Before we get to your love affair with your kitchen countertops, tell me a bit about your house.

It was built in 1901 in the Arts and Crafts style.

The exterior is stucco. I have stripped layers of wallpaper and paint down to the original plaster walls. I moved in in January 2008. Before that, it hadn’t been remodeled since 1946.

Among other changes, I turned one bedroom into the kitchen and turned two other bedrooms into a master suite with a steam shower lined with Eastern red cedar.

I wasn’t in the market for a new house, but when I saw this one, I fell in love with it. I bought this house so I could have these countertops.

What’s the story on those?

The countertops are blue Persian Pearl granite that is quarried in India. They say that the rivers run blue when it rains there from the blue dust.

How about the rest of the kitchen?

Sally DiLaura Sallie DiLaura, design consultant Neighborhood: Crescent Hill One-year-old Jack Russell terrier, Bella, and 9-year-old male calico, Mr. W. Soulcat.

The appliances are black. The cabinets are a moss green stain over alder wood. I love base cabinets that are drawers only. You can see everything when you pull them out. I installed the blue-tiled

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backsplash myself. And I put down the sub-floor.

The floor is oak, laid in a herringbone pattern.

You must like cooking here.

Actually, I am not a cook. I don’t like to cook.

(Evidenced by a sign on top of the cabinet that reads: “Screw Home-cooking.”) But with countertops like these, I want to go into my kitchen. Then I start cooking because I want to be there. Having these countertops has enhanced my cooking skills.

Do you ever cook for company?

I had a recent dinner party for seven. I served cabbage and potato soup and gourmet grilled cheese sandwiches. For dessert we had scoops of lemon and raspberry sorbet served with chunks of dark chocolate. It was a simple meal.

Where did you and your guests eat?

We sat around my oak dining room table that has been in my family for five generations.

I pulled it out of my grandparents’ barn. It measures 42 inches by 42 inches but doubles in length with the leaves that store in it. When I saw this house, I thought, “My table is going to look great here.”

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Mariya Tarakanova

Deep Song). The production is a collaboration with the internationally acclaimed flamenco artists — dancer Antonio Granjero, singer Felix de Lola, and guitarist Ricardo Anglada.

Today’s Woman: What reasons “It’s pretty remarkable

By Gioia Patton do your students give for deciding that of all places in the to take flamenco world or even in the ever in my wildest dance lessons?

United States we’re imagination could I have MARIYA TARAKANOVA: First of definitely on the map made up the following scenario: all people think it’s exotic. They’ve about flamenco here in “St. Petersburg, Russia meets heard of it already, maybe having Louisville, Ky.! “ Louisville, Ky. = flamenco dance seen something related to it on TV — Mariya Tarakanova academy, with website visitors or in person during a trip to Spain. of Flamenco Talk from 137 different countries.”

Flamenco offers an opportunity — “It reads like pure fiction,” especially for women — to express I remark to flamenco dancer/ themselves in a very healthy way. Some choreographer/instructor things that we may not necessarily be Mariya Tarakanova, who in able to express in our everyday lives 2007 co-founded the non-profit we can certainly express in flamenco.

Academy of Flamenco Arts, And it goes from a whole range of Inc. (aka Flamenco Talk: www. emotions…from sadness and anger to flamencotalk.com), a non-profit organization dedicated to the happiness. Another reason some people take flamenco lessons is preservation and promotion of Hispanic culture through the art therapy. It turns out that flamenco has a very therapeutic effect form of flamenco music and dance. (i.e., range of hand and arm motion) aside from the whole artistic “I know it does!” laughs the St. Petersburg native, who perspective. immigrated to Louisville with her parents in 1992 to be closer to TW: What feedback do you hear most often from your an uncle who had immigrated to Kentucky in the 1970s. first-time audiences?

“The three of us didn’t speak any English at the time and TARAKANOVA: They really appreciate the freedom of thought it would be a little easier if we were at least in the same expression…the strong, the powerful. They also love the state as a relative,” explains Tarakanova, speaking by phone. complexity of the rhythm, the different sounds of the songs.

Having arrived in Louisville with two years of studies at Those are some of the things that attract people at first. But in St. Petersburg University under her belt, Tarakanova spent her flamenco, dance is really the least important part. Everything first two years in Louisville furthering her education at the comes from the song. The singer is actually the main focus of University of Louisville’s Speed School. a flamenco performance. And he basically lets us accompany “I was also on U of L’s equestrian team as dressage is my other him with dance and music. It’s his job to be authentic flamenco, passion!” she enthuses. and then after that it is the musicians. Especially in the western In 1996, Tarakanova was introduced to the art of flamenco cultures, those who may not be really familiar with flamenco as an after meeting Ballet Español’s Artistic Director Mara Maldonado art form tend not to appreciate the music and song as much as the through an acquaintance. dancers. But let me tell you, without the singing and the music we Afterwards, when the acquaintance remarked, “Why don’t dancers would be nothing! you try taking flamenco dance lessons? It’s a very cool thing!”

TW: What form of dance is the closest relative to Tarakanova responded, “Why not?” flamenco in terms of the “soul” of the music?

Although 1996 marked the year Tarakanova was introduced to TARAKANOVA: I would call American Blues probably the flamenco, it was not her introduction to the world of dance. She closest relative from the soulful perspective, because it’s the was already a seasoned performer, having made her dance debut art form of oppressed people. You can definitely feel a lot of in St. Petersburg at the age of six, performing ballet, modern and the anguish and despair in it. It’s also highly improvisational international dance as part of the professional youth ensemble like flamenco music. Of course they’re not necessarily related in Carusel. rhythm, and there’s no dance necessarily in the “blues,” but that’s During the years leading up to the formation of Flamenco the music I think of.

Talk, Tarakanova was a company member of Ballet Español, TW: What would you say to entice someone to attend a Dos Aguas, and FlamenCorro. And from 2001-2007 she attended flamenco production for the first time?

TARAKANOVA:I can tell you that I’ve never met anyone who the summer intensive program at the National Institute of Flamenco, University of New Mexico in Albuquerque. Today, didn’t like flamenco when they saw it. People may not be able although she remains based in Louisville, to fully appreciate the music right Tarakanova travels throughout Kentucky away, as it’s very unusual and can WHEN: March 19, @ 8pm WHEre: Bomhard Theatre and surrounding states for performances be very difficult to understand. tickets: $22.50-$27.50 CONTACT: The box and educational programming.

But I’ve never seen anyone who’s office in person, or call 502.584.7777. Or visit Mariya Tarakanova is in preparation attended an authentic flamenco www.kentuckycenter.org for Flamenco Talk’s March 19 premiere performance and said afterwards, of Poema del Cante Jondo (Poem of “Nah…it’s not for me.”

Olé y’all!

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2011: The Hunt for the Perfect Salad

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think I can speak for almost everyone when I say, “goodbye, winter — hello, spring!”

Because March does not bring warm breezes every day, I have a fun food solution that will carry your thoughts to sunshine and awaken your palates to a taste of the tropics.

Step right into Cubana, a new restaurant on Frankfort Avenue serving a full menu of traditional Cuban food. As I combed the salad selection, I became instantly fascinated with the Ensalada Caribena. This is not your typical salad. Most people don’t think of placing fruit on a salad, but the Caribena salad is light, full of flavor, protein, and fiber. Served with a generous bed of mixed greens and delicately arranged with alternating pieces of mango, papaya, and avocado, this salad is the epitome of spring. It is also topped with mandarin oranges and sprinkled with caramelized walnuts for additional flavor and crunch. Even on a rainy day, this salad shines and pops with color. The sweet and savory flavors meld together beautifully, and the subtle crunch of the walnuts adds a nice texture and flavor. You have your choice between two homemade salad dressings, either a mango or raisin-based dressing. Both dressings are light and tangy without overpowering the dish.

So, the next time you feel the need for a touch of spring, check out the Ensalada Caribena. It will take you to the tropics!

CUBANA: 2206 Frankfort Avenue; 502.409.4828. Approximate nutritional information including mango dressing: Calories: 435, Fiber: 8g, Protein: 10g, Saturated Fat: 2g

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Good Night!

Why Can’t I Sleep?

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o you have trouble getting a good night’s sleep? Well, if you do, you’re not alone. When Today’s Woman asked our Today’s Woman of Wellness advisory group of 34 women how well they sleep, an overwhelming majority admitted that their sleep patterns were not ideal.

Motherhood, menopause, and stress are the major causes of sleep problems for our advisory group.

How much sleep do you get each night?

Sleep Aids

Your bedroom matters. Pamper yourself. The mattress, covers, bed clothing, and temperature of the bedroom should be comfortable. Registered Nurse Diane Collins knows what works for her. She travels a lot for her job and spends many nights in hotels. “I prefer feather pillows which I usually have to request but are available at most hotel chains. I also require a pillow to hug. One on the right and one on the left,” she says. Sounds cozy.

Do something relaxing before you go to bed. Anything that makes you feel better over 8 hours can work, like a spritz of lavender on your pillow or a nice warm bath.

(3%) “Your bedroom is strictly for sleeping and sex. Nothing more,” says Barbara Rigdon, director of the University Sleep Center at the University of 5-6 hours Louisville Hospital. “Keep your TV out of the bedroom.”

(33%) Rigdon also advises staying away from the computer and television before going to bed. “It’s all about your 24-hour clock. As the sun goes down, the body begins to secrete hormones that cause us to become drowsy. If we sit in front of the TV or computer, the lights arouse us.

“Flip your alarm clock around so if you wake up in the middle of the 7-8 hours night, you’re not watching the clock. If you’re not able to get back to sleep (64%) after 30 to 45 minutes, don’t toss and turn for two or three hours. Get up and read for 20 or 30 minutes and then go back to bed and try to go back to sleep.”

Earplugs may help if you’re a light sleeper, and a sleep mask can keep the light out.

Rigdon says that in some cases, sleeping pills may help short-term “to get you back to where you need to be,” but she warns that they can be habit forming. “(Over-thecounter drugs) Motrin PM and Tylenol PM can help short-term with sleep.”

Maintain a regular bedtime and rise-time schedule.

Schedule your evening meal at least three hours before bedtime and avoid caffeinated drinks for at least five hours before you plan to go to sleep. Alcohol before bed may put you to sleep but then stimulates you and can actually wake you up a few hours later. Avoid strenuous exercise within six hours of going to sleep.

Today’s Woman of Wellness Rigdon says, “Your body secretes melatonin, and that’s what helps you become advisory group provided 33 responses to our poll drowsy at night. Now they have it in an over-the-counter pill form, and some people believe that it helps them sleep.” But Rigdon stresses that at the sleep center, they do not recommend melatonin to their patients because it is an over-the-counter compound and not controlled by the FDA. Some individuals find some success in using melatonin to get to sleep.

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Advisory group members are: Margie Beeler • Susan Boddy • Christie Bollinger • Sherrice Bond • Kim Broecker • Jennifer Brown • Linda Burry • Kimberly Carpenter • Tamella Buss Cassis • Holly Clark • Stacy Cohen • Diane Collins • Pat Cooke • Funmilayo Dixon • Laurie Duesing • Kelly Davis Fleenor • Tanya Franklin • Julie Garrison • Carol Graham • Dawn Hayden • Pam Hayden • Mary Haynes • Gretchen Houchin • Mary Jennings • Alexis Karageorge • Dee Jay Kelly • Tomiko Coates Kiefer • Diane Kissel • Kristi Jedlicki Levenhagen • Melissa Little • Sean Maguire • Geri Manning • Lisa Mattingly • David McArthur • Anne McReynolds • Tara Morris • Maria Munoz • Tina Nuttall • Denise Orwick • Betsy Paulley • Mae Pike • Leesa Richardson • Ticonna Roberts • Cheryl Scanlon • Rhonda Sigler • Burke Stephens • Myrdin Thompson • Deborah Tuggle • Lannette VanderToll • Jessica Walker • Marine Walls • Janie Biagi Watts • Cenia L. Wedekind • Anthony Westmoreland • Cathi Wiley • Kathy Wilkinson • Debbie Williams • Allison Young

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Sleep okay, but tired the next day?

Sometimes, a woman may think she’s getting enough sleep but is still exhausted the next day.

Rigdon says the cause could be sleep apnea, a condition that results in the cessation of breathing or air flow. She explains that as we sleep, our body relaxes and the soft tissue in our throat relaxes and collapses the airway so we’re not moving air. “It either completely or partially obstructs the airway, so you appear to be breathing, your chest rises and falls, but you’re not moving air. As your body is starved for oxygen, your carbon dioxide levels increase, which stimulates you to start breathing again. If you have sleep apnea, you oftentimes hear a loud snort and that’s when the patient begins to move air again. It causes an arousal and that’s why people are so tired during the day, because they awaken so many times during the night.”

In addition to the snorting or a loud snoring problem and excessive daytime sleepiness, symptoms of sleep apnea can be a headache or confusion on awakening in the morning and a dry mouth. If you suspect sleep apnea, your primary care physician can refer you to a sleep center for a sleep study. Or you can refer yourself to the sleep center and a physician there will evaluate you.

A sleep study involves spending the night hooked up to painless electrodes or sensors and being monitored by professionals as you sleep. If sleep apnea is the problem, a CPAP (continuous positive air pressure) machine can change your life. It is a mask with a tube that opens the airway and prevents it from collapsing.

A sleep study can cost $2,500 to $3,200, but health insurance generally covers the cost except for the deductible.

Rigdon says over-the-counter remedies don’t help for sleep apnea, but if you have allergies, Breathe Right strips can help.

“Oftentimes children who snore have large tonsils or adenoids and just getting them removed can get it resolved.” She also says that in some cases of simple snoring, a dentist can make a mouthpiece that works to open the airway.

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progesterone. Progesterone taken in an oral capsule can be very beneficial for sleep, Pfaffenberger says.

These capsules need a prescription from a physician. Bio equivalent hormones are identical to the hormones in the body, so the body recognizes them. Pfaffenberger cautions that a person with a history of breast cancer may not want to use hormones, so it’s important to talk with your physician.

“If a woman is having a hormonal imbalance, typically the symptoms of menopause are night sweats and hot flashes. You’re going to be up at night because you’re uncomfortable.”

Pfaffenberger says that a topical lotion with estrogen and progesterone can help you sleep at night “because you’re getting rid of those bothersome symptoms with the estrogen, and it’s being appropriately balanced with the progesterone which is a hormone that helps us relax and sleep at night.”

Pfaffenberger says that usually within a month, people will notice a difference, but it’s different for everyone. After testing, the combination can be adjusted individually for each woman.

“We have saliva kits to test, and we have nurse practitioners and a physician here.”

According to Pfaffenberger, some women may also have a problem with sleep because the adrenal gland is not functioning properly. An imbalance in cortisol which pumps us up may make you feel “tired but wired. Thyroid hormones are another thing we look at. If one system is off, all three are off.”

“Avoid caffeine after noon. Exercise daily so that your body is tired at night. Relax prior to turning the lights out. It’s difficult to go, go, go, go, go all day and then go to sleep. Our bodies need to have some quiet time before we sleep, for example a warm bath or reading a good book.”

Alexis Karageorge, M.D., Internal Medicine physician

“Try to get into a healthy nightly routine.

Understand how many hours you need each night. I need eight to feel great.”

Tamella Cassis, M.D., Cassis Dermatology and Aesthetics Center

“I finally got my thyroid and my hormones in balance. That helped a lot. I also take calcium and magnesium before going to bed. I always use foam ear plugs.

They are the secret to great sleep. It’s like you are in the womb.”

Anne McReynolds, community volunteer and freelance writer

“I avoid caffeine, alcohol, and heavy foods within a few hours of bedtime, and I try to relax by watching TV or reading before bedtime.”

Kristi Jedlicki Levenhagen, case manager supervisor at St. John Center for Homeless Men.

“A warm bath. Sometimes Valerian tea helps. Also, if I exercise during the day, I sleep better at night.”

Pat Cooke, bookkeeper/artist

Next month, our panel will discuss reaching an exercise goal.

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Your last chapter isn’t something you write by yourself.

Others are also providing content that helps define and validate the life you have lived.

by Bob Mueller

s a pastor, I often wondered if I have made a difference. As a hospice chaplain, I hoped I was spiritually helpful to patients at end of life. As a fundraiser, I encourage individuals to make a plan for their loved ones and for their favorite charities. Making a difference, being helpful, and making a plan are all about leaving a legacy.

One dying gentleman told me that he wanted to be assured that the life he had lived would in some special way have made a difference. I then asked him the question: “When do you think is the best time to plant a tree?”

The look in his eyes told me that he was curious to see where I was headed with this question. He said, “I’d say this coming spring.”

“No,” I replied, “not this coming spring. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. Do you know why?”

After reflecting, he said, “Well, it would be pretty well grown by now.”

“That’s exactly right. I think leaving a legacy is like planting a tree. Your life legacy had its seed planted many years ago, and in the future your friends and family will enjoy the fruit of that legacy. When your friends and family talk to me about you, they speak in loving words that affirm not only the high standards of integrity they’ve witnessed, but also the compassion you have shown for them.”

Then I told him, “So, you see, you’ve already got a legacy, and that is validated in many ways by the relationships you have shared. Think of the people who have stepped forward to assist you and your wife since you began this journey a couple of years ago. Each of them in their own way wants to do whatever they can because they care about you and the friendship they have shared with you through the years. Your last chapter isn’t something you write by yourself. Others are also providing content that helps define and validate the life you have lived.”

Because humility was also part of his legacy, this man showed uneasiness in agreeing with me, but his smile indicated that he appreciated what I said.

His eyes also showed the effects of the morphine he had taken during my visit, so I suggested that we pray together and then I’d leave so he could rest. After we prayed, he thanked me and said, “This chapter is to be continued.”

The chapter was continued for several weeks. He was able to go home.

He even spent one morning back at his office. He included in his last chapter helping his wife find a smaller house in the same general area where she’d be close to her friends.

Everyone appreciates knowing that his or her life has meaning. Those who are dying go though a life review and often need to be reminded of the contributions they have made to their families and communities. This particular individual felt confident enough in our relationship to be direct in asking me how he could be sure he would leave a legacy. Others may not be so direct, but caregivers can be sure that such affirmation will help patients know that their lives have had meaning.

The time it takes to do a life review will depend on the anticipated time available and the willingness of the listener to commit to sharing in it. That’s why I’ve learned that it’s important to review your life regularly. This allows time to process what has been shared and lets you look forward to seriously considering your legacy.

What’s your legacy? No time like the present to begin the process.

Bob Mueller is associate vice president of Mission & Stewardship at Hosparus, the community hospices of Louisville, Southern Indiana, and Central Kentucky. He has three books available: Look Forward Hopefully, The Gentle Art of Caring, and his latest, Create a Better World. Find Bob online at www.bobmueller.org and email him at bobmueller@insightbb.com.

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Read details on Facebook: Tips • struggles • inspiration

full month into our weight loss program and each woman has already seen significant results. Let’s hear how Wetheyareareonedoing, what keeps them going, and how their programs are already changing their lives.

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Schannon Clayton Age: 42 Height: 5’9” Starting Weight: 256 lbs.

Current Weight: 255 lbs.

Goal Weight: to lose at least 30 lbs.

Occupation: Case Manager for Healthy Start Program

ikki Fouch is involved with Mohr Results, an all-women boot camp weight-loss and fitness program. In addition to workout sessions, Nikki also receives daily follow up emails and fitness and health newsletters.

“The daily emails we get from our trainers give a recap about what we did and tell us how tough we are and how well we are doing,” says Nikki. “They sometimes even comment on my Facebook and tell me how I kicked butt! Every single day is different. I know I would be bored with Nikki Fouch just running, and I Age: 24 am thankful that my Height: 5’3” coaches keep it fun and Starting Weight: 225 lbs.

Current Weight: 208 lbs. always change it up.”

Goal Weight: 160 lbs.

My friends and t s lo s Occupation: Apple (computer) Specialist co-workers have been 17 lb the most encouraging.

They constantly ask me how I am doing and are always complementing me on how they notice a difference in my appearance — for the better of course. I am glad to have their support every day.”

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Schannon says, “The women really encourage each other.

They encourage you when you feel like you can’t take another lap, skip another rope, or do another squat. This is a life-altering experience full of challenges, and I thank all the ladies of the six o’clock class challengers along with the trainers.”

Exercise Program: Downtown YMCA ~ Trainer Abbie Richards

Exercise Program: Mohr Results Boot Camp ~ Kara Mohr

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esireé Bush works with personal trainer Merica Koch at Coach’s Fitness. Desiree is starting to feel and see the results from her training sessions. “My thighs are trimming and my pants are getting much looser. I am so excited about that! I also have pretty nice biceps.” Desireé is also enjoying her food. “Today’s dinner was the BEST thus far: Grilled chicken with butternut faro risotto and mixed greens. Go, Home Cuisine!!” What motivates Desireé to keep going is her family.

“I have two little girls to set a good example for and actions speak way louder Desireé Bush than words.” Read Age: 32 Height: 5’11” more about her Starting Weight: 218 lbs. exact workout on Current Weight: 215 lbs.

Goal Weight: 178 lbs. the next page.

Occupation: Teacher and Owner of Grub-n-Scrub in Middletown

Exercise Program: Coach’s Fitness Club ~ Personal Trainer Merica Koch www.coachsfitness.com

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indy Wohl has been working out independently for her cardiovascular segment and three times a week at Pilates Village. Cindy has already lost 10 pounds in this program. With this program, I have the “it takes a village” mentality says Cindy. “What I love about my program is... you-guys. You are the “village” I never had before.

I can’t say enough great things about Pilates. It has helped me see a new me. When I finish (working out), I feel wonderful! Now, who can really say that about exercising? There is peace that settles inside of you — my feel-good glow.” As mentioned in the article on the next page, Cindy was diagnosed with breast cancer about a month into her program.

She has already had Cindy Wohl surgery which successfully Age: 50 removed all of the cancerous Height: 5’5” Starting Weight: 195 lbs. cells. Already, Cindy is Current Weight: 185 lbs. looking forward to getting Goal Weight: 145 lbs.

Occupation: Regional back to Pilates Village, which Manager for KEEPS you can read more about on (Kentucky Energy the next page.

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Exercise Program: Pilates Village ~ Stacy Hunter Celi www.pilatesvillage.com

Mae Pike

All of the food will be provided. Food Provider: Home Cuisine ~ owned by Sandy Pike and Mae Pike. Home Cuisine is providing three meals a day for each participant. Home Cuisine, which specializes in preparing fresh nutritious meals, drops off the meals twice a week at Rainbow Blossom where the participants pick them up. www.homecuisineonline.com

In the Training Room Challenge Participant: Desireé Bush Expert: Coach’s Fitness Club — trainer Merica Koch

The Merica/Desireé team is truly a dynamic duo! Upon shadowing our participant Desireé Bush during her hour-long workout with Merica Koch, I learned that this trainer/trainee match is ideal for Desireé in obtaining her weight-loss goals. The personality match is absolutely electric: This pair is serious about getting the job done and having some fun during the workout.

Desireé’s workout begins by warming up on an elliptical trainer before her intense Tabata sprint session. Tabata is a technique that involves eight repetitions of timed sprints and rest intervals. This technique increases ones VO2 (Volume of Oxygen Squared), which measures the amount of oxygen the body utilizes during a workout.

This training approach is used by Japanese speed skaters during training sessions to increase endurance. This particular technique was chosen for Desireé to help her prepare for the Triple Crown races. “I’m not going to lie to you...I hate this part!” says Desireé as Merica times Coach’s Fitness is located one of her sprints. On her days away from Coach’s Fitness, Merica has at 2250 Taylorsville Road, prepared a running schedule for Desireé to also help her train for the Louisville, KY in the upcoming races this spring.

Highlands — 502.454.5243 or 9207 US Highway 42 East, Strength, flexibility, and performance-enhancing training are also part of Desireé’s workout Prospect, KY in Prospect session. Merica applies both calisthenics and plyometrics to the plan. Calisthenics includes the use of Plaza — 502.228.5250, ones own body weight as resistance to build muscle and increase flexibility, such as push-ups, squats, www.coachsfitness.com and sit-ups. Plyometrics is a series of fast, intense, and powerful movements used to help improve an athlete’s performance. “I chose plyometrics for Desireé because she is young and has no injuries — it’s high-intensity. We do a lot of jumps and throwing medicine balls. The workout is varied each visit, and I will adjust the program based on how Desireé is feeling.”

By the end of Desireé’s workout, she feels good. And, the results have been paying off. Desireé has already lost several inches and her pants are starting to sag around the waist.

Pilates Village; 4160 Westport Road, Suite D; Louisville, KY 40207, www.pilatesvillage.com; 502.380.5538 Challenge Participant: Cindy Wohl Expert: Pilates Village — trainers Stacy Celi and Shannon Spilmon

Co-owner and trainer Stacy Celi, along with trainer Shannon Spilmon of Pilates Village have been working with weight-loss participant Cindy Wohl. Pilates is a developed series of exercises, poses, and breathing techniques that encompasses the body, mind, and spirit for optimal health and well-being.

Cindy’s weight-loss program starts with the use of traditional Pilates devices, such as the Reformer and Cadillac. In addition to Pilates for weight loss and overall good health and wellness, Stacy has developed a cardio program for Cindy to do outside of her scheduled Pilates sessions.

Cindy works out 30 minutes in the morning and 30 minutes in the evening. Stacy stresses the importance of a cardio program to accompany Pilates for weight loss and well-being.

Pilates turns out to be more than a weight-loss aid for Cindy. Just under a month of starting in the program, Cindy was diagnosed with breast cancer. At the time of this report, Cindy has been out of surgery now for four days and is already inquiring about Pilates exercises she can participate in as she recovers. “Movement heals,” says Stacy.

“I have worked with cancer patients before, and modifications of exercises can be made.”

“I love Pilates” says Cindy. “Everyone has been so great and supportive. My clothes feel different, and I can already tell a difference.”

Cindy will continue with our weight-loss program at Pilates Village as she recovers and heals from surgery. She has worked so hard and is already seeing results. She is eager to continue with the program, despite this “bump in the road.”

Many Pilates instructors quote Joseph Pilates on what he found when incorporating Pilates into ones life: “In 10 sessions you will feel the difference, in 20 sessions you will see the difference, and in 30 you will be on your way to having a whole new body.” Cindy is already seeing and feeling the results. And, she has already lost 10 pounds (a month into the program).

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I’m more curious than ever about hearing this artist live in concert after reading some of her eye-catching world-wide Monster Ball Tour reviews, which include: “breathtaking stuff,” “Gaga’s got it, which is why, right now, the whole pop world wants to take a ride on her disco stick,” and “the best live show you will ever see this year.” The tour is in support of her current album The Fame Monster, released in November 2009, which is a follow-up to the Grammy Awardwinning The Fame, which spawned the #1 singles Just Dance and Poker Face. Combined, these two albums have sold over 13.5 million albums worldwide. Gaga’s other current singles are Telephone, Paparazzi, Lovegame, and Bad Romance. Of special note: In the short span of two years since Lady Gaga became an international music superstar, her music videos have received a combined total of over 1 billion views online — making her the first artist to reach that number.

— Gioia Patton When 

Saturday, March 12 @ 8pm Where  KFC Yum! Center tickets  $52.50, $89, & $180 The box office, all Ticketmaster outlets, or 1.800.745.3000, or www.ticketmaster.com

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“Over the past 35 years, the Humana Festival has introduced more than 400 plays into the American theatre repertoire and has established itself as a globally-recognized force in new play production,” wrote Jennifer Bielstein, Actors Theatre’s Managing Director. “The Humana Festival remains a stand-out event in the American theatre, drawing local, national, and international attention and attracting arts professionals and theatre enthusiasts from across the country. And despite the economic challenges we’ve faced in recent times, last year’s festival attracted visitors from 36 states and 8 countries,” she added.

“Humana is all about what comes next.”

— Pittsburgh Post Gazette, April 2010.

— Gioia Patton Thru April 17, various performances Where  Actors Theatre of Louisville Contact  The box office in person for ticket prices, or call 502.584.1205, or www.actorstheatre.org. Something new offered this year is a ‘Humana Pass’ for $99. Contact the box office for audiodescribed and sign-interpreted performance dates.

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Coppélia

Jerry Seinfeld

I’m determined to make it to Seinfeld’s concert this month — having never experienced him “live” before, although always wanting to since he began bringing his stand-up to the Louisville Palace the past few years. Hailed as “the master stand-up comic of his generation” and “the best comedian of our time” in an article by Tom Shales of the Washington Post, Seinfeld is once again hitting the road with his stand-up by popular demand. Television audiences know Jerry Seinfeld best from his Emmy Award-winning NBC sitcom Seinfeld (1989-’98), in which he starred as a fictionalized version of himself. The sitcom, created by Seinfeld and Larry David (of HBO’s Curb Your Enthusiasm fame), was often described as being about “nothing.” Terms coined and popularized during the show’s run include: “no soup for you!” “yada, yada, yada,” and “not that there’s anything wrong with that.” In 1993 Seinfeld released Seinlanguage, an adaptation of his stand-up material, which became a #1 New York Times bestseller.

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The 35th Humana Festival of New American Plays

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Go online to www.iamtodayswoman.com to see the rest of Gioia’s Not to Miss events and her interview with Michael Bolton.

A fantastical story ballet about a mysterious toy maker and his life-size creation — a doll named Coppélia. This comic tale revolves around a case of lovesickness, jealous mischief, and mistaken identity. Based on stories by E.T.A. Hoffman (the writer who created The Nutcracker), Coppélia is a fun, lighthearted comedy that will delight the entire family!

When  March 4-5 Where  Kentucky Center tickets  $25-95 Contact  1.800.775.7777

The Butler Did It

The play is a mystery/comedy that spoofs English mystery plays but with a decidedly American flavor. Miss Maple, a society dowager noted for her “imaginative” weekend parties, invites a group of detective writers to eerie Ravenswood Manor on Turkey Island, where they are to assume the personalities of their fictional characters. When an actual murder takes place, these zany sleuths try to solve the case with hilarious results.

When  March 4-13 Where  Kentucky Center tickets  $16 Contact  1.800.775.7777

Les Miserables

Based on Victor Hugo’s classic novel, Les Miserables is an epic and uplifting story about the survival of the human spirit.

Cameron Mackintosh presents a brand new 25th anniversary production of Boublil & Schönberg’s legendary musical, Les Miserables, with glorious new staging and spectacular reimagined scenery inspired by the paintings of Victor Hugo.

When  March 8-13 Where  Kentucky Center Tickets  $22.50-86.50 Contact  1.800.775.7777

Norman Rockwell: Sports

Louisville Slugger Museum & Factory is hosting the debut of a travelling exhibition entitled Norman Rockwell: Sports. This special show will feature original sports-themed artwork

by Norman Rockwell, the beloved illustrator best known for his iconic Saturday Evening Post covers.

When  March 19-August 14 Where  Louisville Slugger Museum tickets  $10/adults; $5/children 12 and under Contact  1.877.775.8443

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Joyce: I love Jane Sayre’s poem, Boomerang, published in the June 12, 1937, edition of The Saturday Evening Post.

The man I didn’t marry was For years a man to speak of As one who was the model of Perfection, at the peak of All arguments; but now I wish, Alas, I hadn’t carried The matter quite so far! He called — And met the man I married.

There could be a couple of reasons you are having difficulty getting this first love “out of your system,” aside from the fact that you are still feeling a level of attachment.

The intensity of intimacy the two of you shared could have an impact on why you would be struggling with a comparison issue with your husband. Your inner struggle is, obviously, your divided loyalty.

If he was, indeed, your first love, you may always recall him in some fond manner. Three years is a lot of history.

Slicing a chunk of past out of one’s life is not always easy, whether a pleasant or an unpleasant experience. As the years fade, maturity in your marriage develops, and you become the mother of your husband’s children, your recall should take on a different tenor and face.

Here are a couple of exercises designed to help you disconnect:

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1) Identify the qualities you admire and/or reflect on that endear you to your “first love.” Next, list the qualities you love about your husband. It may or may not surprise you to learn they possess some of the same traits.

2) Whenever you think of your old boyfriend in waking hours, immediately think of an endearing moment with you and your husband. Repeating this exercise will train your mind to value the love the two of you share.

3) Don’t fret over dreams. They are a mish-mash of random thoughts. As you train your mind to disengage from the memories and develop more meaningful memories of your husband, you will soon find more peaceful slumber.

4) Soul ties are easily established but hard to break free of, whether physical or emotional. Breaking soul ties is an important step in the process of ridding oneself of a close relationship. Make it a part of your prayer life to sever daunting memories preventing you from developing complete intimacy with your husband. He deserves your whole heart.

Remember that someone can’t “get away” if they really want to stay. Once you decided to move on with your life, your heart became receptive of love, which you accepted.

It’s not uncommon to wonder how different things could have been if only. Just like Jane Sayre’s elegy, I also find much wisdom in Garth Brooks’ song, Unanswered Prayers.

Blessings are often found in mislaid fantasies.

“I want a good argument! While I want peace in my home, I get frustrated because my husband won’t talk things out with me, much less argue. I don’t want a knockdown, drag-out; I just want to flush things out, get everything on the table, and sort through issues. All he does is stare at me while I finish saying my piece, and then he walks away.

His demeanor doesn’t change at all. I get aggravated and storm out of the room. How do I get him to talk with me about issues we have, even if it doesn’t involve arguing?”

Joyce: “Those who guard their mouths and tongues keep themselves from calamity.”

There is much wisdom in that Proverb, but, obviously, a silent tongue can also provoke frustration. Knowing more history of your marriage could explain his tight-mouth behavior. It could be a cowardly response. Perhaps he’s heard the same message repeatedly and closes off receipt of it again. Or, it could be he is sparing you from hurtful remarks that could damage your relationship more.

I do agree it is best to talk about your differences and keep lines of communication open. Changing the tone and approach of your disagreement could be the key to unlocking his mouth and loosening his tongue. You could soon find yourself remembering the good ol’ days of silence when you won every argument.

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“How do you know if you married the wrong person? I dated someone for three years and thought we were soul mates, but things didn’t work out. I felt I was over him, fell in love again, and married two years later. I find myself comparing my husband to the one I let get away. I have recurrent dreams about him and find it disturbing, leaving me distant with my husband for a couple of days. I would never want to hurt him, but many of my thoughts are out of my control. How can I release myself from thinking of someone I am no longer with? It feels so wrong.

“I’m struggling in my sex life. I’m only 34 years old, so menopause is not the problem. I want to be more engaged in the bedroom and feel guilty when I’m not, but I am just uninterested. I love my husband.

What is wrong with me?”

(Go to www.iamtodayswoman.com/justaskjoyce for answers to this question.)

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Gorgeous Nails Real

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Basic manicures and nail enhancements make it easy to have perfect pretty nails.

IF YOU wear your real nails

IF YOU wear gel nails

IF YOU wear solar nails

Suzanne Vigeland used to wear artificial nails in the winter to prevent her real nails from breaking but stopped last year when she heard about the benefits of getting a shellac manicure. “My sister said, ‘You’ve got to try this!” Her search for someone who offered the service led Suzanne to Denise Willinger, owner of Serenity, the Spa in Anchorage (1411 Evergreen Road, 502.245.6484).

“It (shellac) is a gel polish hybrid, so it goes on like a polish but cures like a gel, which means your nails are completely dry the moment you walk out the door,” says Denise. The quick-drying effect of shellac nail polish ensures that clients will not ruin their manicure if they reach into their purse or accidentally bump their nails against something.

Shellac lasts for two to three weeks and can be removed using acetone, says Denise. “What I love about it is that it is just as durable as the artificial nail, but it doesn’t damage the nail bed,” says Suzanne. “I can keep the length of my nails for a longer time, and it rarely chips.” But if you rarely or never get manicures, Denise suggests you follow these simple rules for strong, healthy nails: · Apply Solar Oil ($4-$13) to your cuticles. · Always wear nail polish (apply a base coat followed by two or three coats of polish and a top coat). · File your nails instead of clipping them. “Clippers will make them short, but with a file, you can change the shape of the nail without taking off length.” · File from the outside corner toward the center. · Wear protective gloves. · Don’t use your nails as a tool.

Diana Yates already has strong nails, but, like Suzanne, the winter season causes her nails to crack, peel, split and break. To strengthen them, her manicurist Shonelle Grant, owner of Girlfriends Nail Shoppe (177 Sears Avenue, 502.894.0605) applied a gel nail overlay to her natural nail. Whether you have healthy or unhealthy nails, gel nails can be a good option depending on your needs. The gel, says Shonelle, is semi-permanent and can be used as an overlay on the natural nail. It also can be used with (nail) tips, and nail technicians can sculpt nails with it. A paper form, a disposable form used for sculpting nails, is placed behind the natural nail to lengthen it.

Ruthie Maier began wearing solar nails to enhance the look of her natural nails and prevent them from breaking. Solar nails, which are pink and white, are a form of acrylic nails that look like a French manicure but last much longer than regular polish, says Holly Pham, owner of A Plus Nails & Hair Salon (4155 Shelbyville Road, 502.896.0931). “If the client is wearing their real nails, the polish comes off much faster and they would need to come to the salon every three days to a week to redo their nail polish,” says Holly.

After the gel has been applied to the nails, it is cured under a UV lamp and dries quickly. “It is non-porous, hypoallergenic, thin, light, flexible, and very natural.” says Shonelle. She adds, “It doesn’t expand or shrink in water or come off in salt water, and it can be applied to toenails.” The gel can be used as a basecoat if you want to wear nail color, or you can buy gel polish also referred to as shellac. Shonelle says clients should return for a fillin every two to three weeks depending on how fast the nails grow. In between visits, she suggests that clients apply Solar Oil to their cuticles three times a day. “It keeps the natural nail perfectly hydrated and moisturized so that it stays adhered to the gel.”

Price: $55 for overlay; $65 for sculpting; $35 or $40 for fill-in

Before applying them, she shapes and preps Ruthie’s nails and then applies a pink powder to the nail bed followed with a white powder which is placed on the tip of the natural nail. She continues shaping and smoothing her nails, and then buffs them for shine.

To keep them shiny longer, Holly applies buffing cream, and then finishes with cuticle oil. The durability of solar nails, says Holly, makes them difficult to chip or break. They can be worn with tips, and, unlike acrylic nails, they don’t turn yellow over time.

Their natural look is considered attractive to people like Ruthie who prefer not to wear nail polish. Solar nails require no maintenance in between visits and last from two to four weeks depending on how fast your nails grow.

Price: $35 for set; $30 for fill-in.

Price: $40 for shellac manicure; manicure by Jamica Williams

Win a $75 gift certificate to Girlfriends Nail Shoppe. Go to www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine to find out more!

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t’s a big step for a college girl to decide to put up her single shoes and step into life as a “girlfriend.” It’s easy to think that when you are in a relationship, that the grass is greener on the other side, but sometimes when you find the right one you realize your grass is just as green, if not greener, than for the single girls.

Two of my good girlfriends, as well as myself, have decided to take the serious relationship route, and it is actually working out for us really well.

We were talking about how we knew these guys were worth giving up the single life for (because that’s a big deal).

We came up with a few ideas on how to know who is boyfriend material.

Someone you can just plain have fun with. A boyfriend is someone you can laugh with and be yourself. Whether you’re sitting around watching T.V., Dating or going out together, you are always having fun.

Dilemmas You’re happier with him than without him. Being together makes you feel better, and makes you want to be a better person.

He is sincere. He does the little things to show that he cares. My friend’s yard hadn’t been mowed in weeks, and she came home one day to a freshly cut yard. She knew her guy was something special.

He trusts you. He has enough confidence in himself and you to realize how much you care for him.

By Caitlin Gaynor He doesn’t pick at you for silly things. When a guy can accept you for you, and realize you are human and have flaws, he’s a winner. You also must realize that no one is perfect, and if both of your “hearts are in the right place,” as my friend Megan says, then your relationship will work.

He realizes sometimes girls need their space. It’s nothing against the guys but sometimes we just need a girls’ night out, or some time to just watch T.V. alone for a little bit. He respects how you feel and what you want to do.

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MICHAEL BOLTON

His Time, Love & Tenderness

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his particular Arts Insider will stand out in my memory because, after reading the variety of ‘A-level’ achievements associated with Michael Bolton, I quickly came up with three completely different possible openings. #1) Do I begin in 1987, when the then unknown Bolton (born I see a lot of my core fans at my concerts, who know all my Michael Bolotin in New Haven, Conn. in 1953 to Russian Jewish music. But I’m also seeing (people) in their 20s, who were parents) first rose to fame as the co-writer of the beautiful ballad teenagers when a lot of this music was being played.

How Am I Supposed To Live Without You, which became a hit — Michael Bolton single for the late Laura Branigan? #2) Or do I begin with the cover-version success Bolton’s had was visiting were filled with women — single parents and their with such R&B classics as Sittin’ on the Dock of the Bay, Georgia children, who were there because of violence in their homes.” He on my Mind, When A Man Loves A Woman…not forgetting the admits: “It was shocking to me because I had not been exposed to aria Nessun Dorma, from Puccini’s opera Turandot, which, until it growing up, and was not knowledgeable about it.”

Bolton’s now-signature cover, was most widely associated with the Bolton, who has been divorced for many years, and who grew late tenor Luciano Pavorotti. up one of three children in a divorced household, continues: “My #3) Or, finally, do I begin with the man, who in 1993 established father taught us that you never raised your hand to a woman. the Michael Bolton Foundation (now Michael Bolton Charities), There’s never, ever going to be justification for any violence which assists women and children at risk from the effects of towards a woman in your life. It was just unthinkable in our home.” poverty, as well as emotional, physical and sexual abuse, and who Bolton recalls feeling “outraged!” was the executive producer of the after he began hearing domestic 2005 documentary Terror at Home: WHEN: March 13, @ 7pm WHEre: Brown Theatre violence stories collected from tickets: $45-$75 CONTACT: Kentucky Center box office.

Violence in America. For his dedication Or 502.584.7777 or visit www.kentuckycenter.org Smaga’s visits to the local shelters. to social activism, Bolton has been He continues: “After we honored with several Humanitarian started asking, shelter by shelter, what we could do to help (some awards, including the Martin Luther King Award granted by the needs were as simple as making a donation to add beds, social Congress of Racial Equality (C.O.R.E.), The Lewis Hine Award from workers, or people to answer the hotlines), an amazing amount the National Child Labor Committee, and the Ellis Island Medal of of information came in very quickly, which then pulled the Honor from the National Ethnic Coalition of Organizations. foundation into partnering with the National Coalition Against Ultimately, #3 stood out from the pack, and became the Domestic Violence.” primary focus of this interview. Speaking by phone, Bolton begins Hearing those stories led Bolton to Washington D.C., where he by explaining the catalyst behind his charity becoming associated met with Senators and Congressman about the Violence Against with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Women Act. In 1993, the year Bolton founded his foundation, he was “And so I’ve basically committed myself through the years to already a seasoned music superstar, having recorded such hits as educating and talking about getting men to step forward about Soul Provider, Time, Love & Tenderness and was the winner of a domestic violence because that was the key. Because you’re Grammy Award for his vocal performance of When A Man Loves preaching at a choir when you’re speaking in front of women’s a Woman. groups who are doing this work already, and they’re looking to “I’d learned by then that celebrity in America is a kind of bring men on board.” ‘currency,’ and you can use it to raise money, and bring people and On the subject of Bolton’s music, and what’s behind his decision press attention to the causes that you’re committed to,” begins a to record those aforementioned classics, he reveals, “I followed very friendly Bolton. my instincts, and recorded what I’d liked growing up…what had The focus of his charity in the beginning, he says “was to try to moved me. I never thought about whether it was daunting or not find a way to help people struggling financially, families who were to approach an iconic song. I thought ’it’s your obligation as a at risk, because in my beginning years the ‘starving artist’ cliché singer to do songs that people love, whether you write them or was unfortunately very accurate. And at that time I had a wife and they’re written by Otis Redding or Ray Charles.’ I don’t think about three daughters to support. It was a really, really rough time for Nessun Dorma being done by the last 20 big tenors. I just think quite some time.” about how I’m going to enjoy it and how my audience is going to Bolton recalls in ’93 asking Jackie Smaga, who runs his respond to it. foundation, “to look into struggling families in Connecticut “My audience…those are the voices I listen to mostly, because and see if we could help find a way to get people back on their I’m paying attention to what their experience is.” feet. And what she found out was that a lot of the shelters she GIOIA PATTON IS AN ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT CELEBRITY PROFILER.

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I have a distinct memory of practically never sitting still in my seat during Ivers’ toe-tapping, energetic, yet also, when it warranted, deeply soulful concert the last time she performed in Louisville. The daughter of Irish immigrants, who grew up in the Bronx, New York, was rooted in Irish traditional music since the age of eight — proceeding to win nine All-Ireland fiddle championships, a tenth on tenor banjo and over thirty championship medals, making her one of the most awarded artists ever to compete in these prestigious competitions. Having established herself as the preeminent exponent of the Irish fiddle in the world today, Ivers has played with the likes of the London Symphony Orchestra, the National Symphony Orchestra at the Kennedy Center, and the Boston Pops.

“The future of the Celtic fiddle.”

— The Washington Post — Gioia Patton Thursday, March 10 @ 8pm Where  Bomhard Theater tickets  $25 & $30 Contact  The box office in person, or call 502.584.7777 or visit www.kentuckycenter.org

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Every single year that I’ve attended this particular book sale, I’ve come across at least one deal in a new or ‘gently used’ book. More than 12,000 used, antiquarian, and new books in all categories will be offered. Also there will be a selection of illustrated books, rare books, and sets, priced individually. *On Sundays, most books are half-price, or if you prefer, buy the bag for $10.

— Gioia Patton Friday-Sunday, March 11-13 from 10am-4:30pm.*Members Only Preview: Thursday, March 10 from 5-7pm. Memberships can be purchased at the door Where  Auditorium of Historic Locust Grove, 561 Blankenbaker Lane Contact  For further information call 502.897-9845, or lghh@locustgrove.org All proceeds support the education and preservation programs of Locust Grove.

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