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Volume 21 • Number 6

october november 2012


Cathy S. Zion EDITOR


Elaine Rooker Jack



Cheryl Suhr account executives

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April H. Allman






Melissa Donald BLOG EDITOR

Miranda Popp



Kim Kerby


4 Introduction


6 12 Giveaways of Christmas 8 Family Challenge #6: Can We Lower Our Noise Level? By Terri Lee Skipworth

10 Entice Your Family with Fall Food By Megan Seckman

14 Parent Perspectives: Healthy Living 18 Does Your Marriage Need a Check-up? By Carrie Vittitoe

22 Strong, Calm, Happy, Proud By Megan Seckman

26 Making Sense of Wellness Checks and Vaccines By Yelena Sapin

Published bi-monthly by: Zion Publications LLC 9750 Ormsby Station Road, Suite 307 Louisville, KY 40223 Phone (502) 327-8855 Fax (502) 327-8861

28 Violence in the Home: Find a Way Out By Stacie L. Martin

30 Opportunities for Teens: Governor’s Scholar By Ursula Robertson-Moore

32 My Family, Your Family: Healthy Eating By Carrie Vittitoe

36 Throw a Halloween Party By Amy Baskin

Subscriptions are available by sending $15 to the above address for 6 bi-monthly issues.

Today’s Family magazine is published bi-monthly by Zion Publications LLC and distributed free to the people of metropolitan Louisville and Southern Indiana. Circulation 33,000. The opinions expressed herein are exclusively those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect the position of the publisher. Today’s Family magazine does not endorse or guarantee any advertiser’s product or service. Copyright 2012 by Zion Publications LLC with all rights reserved. Reproduction or use of editorial or graphic content in any manner is prohibited without permission from Zion Publications LLC. MEMBER Greater Louisville, Inc., Metro Chamber of Commerce, Area Chambers of Commerce, Better Business Bureau.

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Happy October!

It’s a big month at Today’s Family. We are celebrating the one-year anniversary of our online site, With that anniversary, we are introducing several new fun contests (see page 40): • A costume contest (can you do better than Kalem, at right, so cute as a bunch of grapes?) • A holiday family photo makeover • Giveaways for 12 fun, holiday-related prizes.

This issue is packed with different ways to take your family to a healthier place — in ways beyond the physical. Hopefully you will find some practical and inspirational ideas to take another step toward wellness.

Have a GRAPE month!

on the cover Costumed Kiddos Jewell Summerlin, 6, is wearing a wild cat costume using a cute, winter coat from Target topped off with ears and tail from a lion kit. We had to keep teasing her beautiful, silky hair to try to make it wild because it just wanted to smooth out to its perfect natural state. Her parents are Crystal and David Summerlin. Kalem State, 6, is dressed in a grape costume he says he won’t be wearing this Halloween (he’s really thinking about being a zombie), but how cute is he?! To make this costume, start with a purple long-sleeve shirt and use safety pins to attach purple balloons, add a felt or other kind of leaf on top, and your healthy fruit is ready to go. His parents are Makenzie and John Michael State. PhotoS: Melissa Donald 4

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Weekly drawings beginning Oct. 3 - Dec. 19 at PROMOTION

WIN: A family membership to Frazier International History Museum and a pair of tickets to “Diana: A Celebration.”

WIN: $1000 trip to Gaylord Opryland’s A Country Christmas show plus an overnight stay.

WIN: A family of 4 visit to Christmas at the Galt House Hotel,

featuring the spectacular “KaLightoscope Attraction,” including the NEW Peppermint Express Kiddie Train Ride through the Candy Cane Forest with “Sugar Pine” the Talking Tree. The experience is Nov. 17-Jan. 2.

WIN: 4 Louisville

Zoo Adventure Tickets, which includes

zoo admission, unlimited carousel rides, the ZooTram Shuttle, and a ticket to the Zoo’s new 4-D theater, a DVD about Qannik, the Zoo’s polar bear cub, and two small plush animals.


Family photo session, which

includes an 11” x 14” mounted print from Little Face Photography. Not valid on newborn or senior sessions.

WIN: A three-night stay for a dog

in one of the luxury suites at the Kentucky Humane Society’s Eastpoint Pet Resort.

WIN: A State Park Travel package including:

WIN: Yum! Family Series Program The National Circus of the People’s Republic of China performing Cirque Chinois

Sunday, Nov. 25 at 7pm at The Brown Theatre on Broadway.

WIN: A FREE Private Party (up to 15 guests) at Pinot’s Palette

Bring your friends, enjoy a bottle of wine and be inspired by a local artist who will guide you step by step through your chosen painting.

A Two-night stay at Carter Caves State Resort Park: • 2 nights lodging • 2 adult and 2 child tickets for the Cascade Cave System AND… A two-night stay at Cumberland Falls State Resort Park: • 2 nights lodging • 2 adult tickets for admission to the Gem Mining Sluice Both packages must be redeemed between Nov. 1-April 30, 2013.

WIN: 4 tickets to StageOne Family Theatre’s The Best Christmas Pageant Ever! Package includes 4 tickets to the

Dec. 15, 2 pm show of The Best Christmas Pageant Ever, one autographed poster signed by the cast, reserved seating, and a private meet-and-greet with the show’s director after the production.

WIN: 2 tickets for dinner and a show

to see the timeless holiday musical Irving Berlin’s White Christmas at Derby Dinner Playhouse.

WIN: 8 tickets to one of the

Christmas trains at the Kentucky Railway Museum. (Tickets can be used in sets of 4.)

Go to to enter to win!

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F a m i ly C h a l l e n g e # 6 :

Can We Lower Our




ave you ever asked yourself, “If I were on an episode of Supernanny, what would people say about me?” The Skipworth Family I think of those the dog for a walk without a single moments as argument. Toward the end of the day, I out-of-body experiences, simply had to remind them of our chaland I’m a train wreck right lenge for them to listen to each other. out of the pages of Great day overall! Day 2: The honeymoon is over. Bad Parenting.

Lately, my family has been experiencing moments of chaos, where my out-ofbody self sees me waving my hands around like a lunatic, trying to yell over my three children’s arguing voices. My family challenge was to transform my household from chaos to quiet. I wanted to teach my children how to behave and respond to each other in a way that does not require raising their voices. The Rules We started with a family meeting to decide on the rules of our challenge. The challenge would take place Monday through Friday, and we decided to use a reward chart for every person. We would receive a sticker for making it through a day without raising our voices. Warnings could be given as a reminder. We would count it a success if each person had only one day of not receiving a sticker. Our reward for success? My children decided on a trip to Puzzle’s Fun Dome. Day 1: Wow, why have I not done this sooner?! My children are speaking civilly to each other, even helping each other without asking. We took a trip to the playground and took 8 October/November 2012

Did I mention we are trying to move? I desperately needed to get some boxes packed, which left my children to their own devices. I had to give myself a warning and take some deep breaths. I think this challenge is going to be just as hard on us parents! My middle son also ended up not getting a sticker over raising his voice with his brother. Day 3: I put them to work! I knew this challenge was not going to work with us busy and the kids playing on their own, so I decided to have them help us. We put the kids on toy-androom duty, and later they helped us pack boxes. We ended the day with only a few reminders; overall, it was a good day. Day 4: Part of being a parent is multitasking the separate issues of each child. My 4-year-old has started his attitude phase where each response is one of defiance. After a couple of reminders, he ends the day without a sticker. My stress level is high, and my husband and I both needed reminders today. Day 5: We decide to get out of the house today and run a few errands. Shopping with three kids is always a challenge! We usually start each


shopping trip with a reminder of the rules, so this fit with our ongoing challenge. We made it through the day with only one minor argument in the car over the rules of “Punch Buggy” and a few reminders of behavior. Overall, another good day. With 23 out of the 25 possible stickers on our chart (and a few reminders along the way), we were headed to Puzzle’s Fun Dome! And when we got there, my husband and I had just as much fun as the kids. What I have taken away from this experience is: 1) I am a firm believer in reward systems for children as well as parents; and 2) we are never going to be perfectly quiet all the time. And I would not expect us to be. My main purpose was for us to realize that we can settle differences without a yelling match. For my husband and me, trying to be louder than our children just to get them to hear us is not the answer. As a parent, there is a time for a stern voice and for saying “no,” but talking about issues and working through problems is the ideal solution. In the end, although we are still a work in progress, my children are learning a necessary life skill in communicating with others. And I am enjoying a little more quiet. Terri Lee Skipworth lives in Louisville with her husband Brandon and their kids Christina (9), Charlie (7), and Ben (4).

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ENTICING your children with Fall Food



ating vegetables is always a priority but also a begrudged battle at our family table. I’ve spent countless nights watching my children pick through every morsel of couscous, searching for a camouflaged mushroom they are convinced I hid there. Their taste buds are sometimes more stringent than airport security. But following suit with the French philosophy in the book French Kids Eat Everything, my children must always taste everything at our family meals. Fall makes this process easy. Unlike their flashier cousins that ripen in summer, the vegetables of fall are sweeter and more subtle. A palette of oranges, purples, and dark greens can lure children to the table, but the heady aromas of roasted sweetness, slathered in cinnamon, will keep them there. For instance, the sweet potatoes in the following recipe will spark the most picky eater’s curiosity, but toss in a little real maple syrup and you appeal to a child’s natural proclivity for sweetness, despite the low glycemic index of this orange root (about half that of a white potato). Packed with cancer-fighting beta-carotene, fiber, vitamin C, calcium, continued on page 12


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folate, potassium, and 769 percent the daily allowance of vitamin A — the vitamin we most need for beautiful skin — this is a perfect autumnal choice. The recipes below are simple and straightforward. With the exception of the soup, your children will learn the distinct flavors of each vegetable, which is an integral part in quality food education according to the French. No fake-cheese coverage here; these recipes celebrate the authentic vegetable flavor. The kale chips may resemble snack food, but they actually contain some of the highest levels of cancer-fighting antioxidants, help protect your eyes from UV rays, and are a great source of calcium. The beets may be the tough sell, because they do kinda taste like dirt, but what other vegetable can you paint with, huh? My daughter loves these purple roots, but my son will eat them because he gets to act like a vampire with red saliva trailing from his mouth. I put them in a dish and let them stab them, paint with them, and ultimately devour them. Still need convincing? For you: beets detoxify the body, prevent varicose veins, and restore the nervous system. For them: if you eat enough beets, they turn your poo red. Pretty cool. As for the soup, nothing says fall louder than the color orange. This orange goodness is a comforting, cinnamonscented meal paired with some fresh bread for dipping. By using the butternut squash, your family will benefit from antioxidants and a host of vitamins. Use the pumpkin (unsweetened, canned) and the nutritional punch intensifies. Megan M. Seckman lives, cooks, and eats in Louisville with her husband Billy and their kids Will (7) and Nadine (4). She is a frequent contributor to Today’s Family magazine.

Maple Roasted SWEET Potatoes 4 peeled sweet potatoes (cut into cubes) 1/4 cup olive oil or coconut oil for a sweeter punch Real maple syrup (to taste) Sea salt and fresh ground pepper (to taste) Grown-up option: add a dash of smoky chili powder and pecans

Simple Beets (and rockin’ purple juice) 1 bunch beets Olive oil Salt and pepper Toothpicks or other impaling utensil

Cut beets into fourths. Boil in medium pan until tender. Let cool, then pour off the juice for painting, sipping, or dyeing. Cut the beets into bite-sized cubes, drizzle with oil, sprinkle with salt and pepper. Show off your purple tongue, pretend like you are a vampire with your new crimson smile; dare them to try. It is almost irresistible. 12 October/November 2012

Preheat oven to 375.° Arrange sweet potatoes in a single layer so they can keep their texture. Drizzle with oil, and a tad of maple syrup, dash with salt and pepper. Bake for 25-30 minutes or until tender, drizzle extra oil if needed.

Creamy Butternut Squash Soup 2 tablespoons olive oil 2 large, diced carrots 1 medium onion 1 large, diced celery stalk 1 large, cubed butternut squash 4-6 cups chicken broth or vegetable stock 1/2 teaspoon thyme Dash of ground clove or nutmeg (optional) Sea salt and ground black pepper to taste Cinnamon as garnish Grown-up option: Garnish with cinnamon and curry powder

Heat oil in a large soup pot. Add carrot, celery, and onion; cook until onion is translucent. Add squash, stirring the vegetables a few times, then add the thyme. Add chicken or vegetable broth, season with salt and pepper. Bring to a boil, then reduce to a simmer until all vegetables are tender. Add nutmeg and clove to taste (optional). Puree in a blender or hand-held immersion blender, which is also a great investment for sneaking in vegetables! Garnish with ground cinnamon. Serve with some warm bread for dipping. Also great with canned pumpkin in lieu of the squash.

Kale Chips 1 bunch kale Olive oil Sea salt

Remove the center ribs from the kale (can’t chew those). Tear into two inch pieces. Toss with olive oil, sprinkle with sea salt. Bake at 275 degrees for about 20 minutes or until crunchy. It tastes just like a potato chip, honest. 4 4 4 4 4 /todaysfamily 4 4 4 @todaysfamilynow

ParentPerspectives Finding Ways to Get Healthy SPECIAL FOCUS:

Modeling a Positive Attitude I remember crying to my mom about how unfair it was that I was being pulled from my current school, away from all my friends, to attend a special needs school across town. Of course I got a healthy dose of her positive thinking wisdom with one of her favorite sayings, “Honey, always remember, success is an inside job and the true winners of the world learn to play with the hand they’ve been dealt.” Of course this made no sense to me for I had no idea what poker was at that age, but I figured it must be important for she was always saying it. It often made me wonder, what could this woman, who was riddled with chronic illness, possibly know about raising healthy kids? She Knew Everything. She knew that a positive attitude and a winning mindset were the greatest gifts she could pass on to her offspring. Mom battled terminal cancer in the late 60’s with brutal radiation treatments and experimental drugs that drove her to the brink of exhaustion, all while raising four children as a single mom during an economic environment similar to today. When she feared death was looming, she opened an art studio in St. Matthews against sound business advice, and she attacked the venture like Jeannie C. Riley in Harper Valley PTA, ignoring the stiff suits who tried to put her down. After winning Best of Show at St. James, Cherokee Triangle, and many other prominent art fairs, she died a millionaire with a decade-long waiting list to take lessons from her. I can still hear her as if I were on her lap, “Remember, most points in a football game are scored in the fourth quarter. Make every second count!” That is the kind of healthy mind-set I am constantly trying to instill in my children. I don’t know if they’re hearing me, but I am bombarding them with positive thinking all the same. I’m not sure when I actually heard my mom, but I know it was always there on some level. After all, this piece was written by a guy with dyslexia who couldn’t read until he was 12. — John G. Warren

Veggie Week! Several years ago my husband and I tried a vegetarian experiment with disastrous results. Always up for a challenge, we thought that by eating only vegetarian meals for a week, we might discover some meatless recipes to add to our regular meal rotation and to help lower our high cholesterol. The first meal of the week, Kidney Bean, Barley, and Sweet Potato Stew, was tasty, and the next meal, Grilled Vegetable Quesadillas, was even more delicious. We were off to a terrific meatless start, and on Day 3, we would eat the most-anticipated meal of the week: Eggplant Parmigiana, complete with a layer of tofu. (Tofu! No one could say we were amateur vegetarians now.) After spending hours cooking my eggplant masterpiece, we eagerly dug in to the most disgusting thing we’d ever tasted. The tofu layer tasted nothing like cheese, the

eggplant was a squishy, juicy mess, and our gag reflexes were working overtime. The next day, my husband, pushed over the edge by the leftover tofu for lunch, revolted against Vegetarian Week and took us to Olive Garden for a big bowl of Italian sausage. Since that dreadful week, I’ve grown in my culinary skills, expanding my repertoire of healthy and meatless meals to include a variety of Indian curries and a spicy West African beans and rice. Admittedly, my kids don’t always love the vegetarian meals that we eat at least once a week. They say things like, “I don’t LIKE beans!” or “What IS that stuff?” or “Do I HAVE to eat the quinoa?” I like to think that one day, though, when their lives are full of steak and pizza, and they’re trying to lower their cholesterol, they will look back and appreciate my efforts at fixing healthy food. Yes, kids, you do have to eat the quinoa. After all, Dad and I had to eat the tofu. — SANDI HAUSTEIN

Have You Checked His Eyes? I didn’t know he couldn’t see. I knew that my youngest child always sat close to the television and constantly held the remote control. I thought it was just a power thing between him and his older brother. When I took him to the optometrist — after being referred by his kindergarten — he said my child could not see very well. I felt guilty. He had never complained about his vision; he had always seen the world through those eyes and he did not know what he was missing. I had always taken my children to the doctor for well-baby check-ups, shots, and illness visits in a timely manner. With five children, that was not always easily done, but I got it done. Maintaining a healthy body was important because an illness had the potential to spread throughout the group and to sideline all family activities for a while. As a mom, I learned that day that I did not have all of the immediate answers for my child’s every need, and that there would be times when I would have to depend on more learned professionals in certain areas in order to make beneficial decisions for him. The doctor advised that I buy two pair of glasses for him. He predicted that my son would destroy the first pair and would need a spare pair as he made the adjustment to wearing glasses. He was right; the first pair was destroyed the first week. I was grateful for having followed his advice.


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ParentPerspectives Continued

Meal Plan That Works When it comes to feeding dinner to my family of five, sometimes it’s easiest to roll through the drive-thru for hamburgers or a $ 5 pizza. But by planning our meals one week at a time, I save my family money, provide healthier meals, and eliminate the 5 o’clock “What’s For Dinner? ” dilemma that parents frequently face. I follow a few tips for making a weekly menu: 1) Make a list of what I have available in the fridge, freezer, and pantry. 2) Take a quick look at the grocery ads to see what’s on sale. 3) Search through my cookbooks and favorite websites to find recipes using my on-hand and on-sale ingredients. 4) Look at my calendar to see which nights I should plan quick meals or when I have time for more labor-intensive cooking. 5) Make a list of all of the ingredients I need to buy and go shopping. This week my freezer and pantry search yields tilapia, Italian sausage, and black beans, and I see that pork tenderloin is on sale at Kroger. I do a quick search on and try to plan meals with a main dish, a starch, and at least one vegetable-based side. Now I’ll make my grocery list and head to the store.

Chez Haustein: This Week’s Menu

Monday — Broiled Parmesan Tilapia, Quinoa, Roasted Broccoli Tuesday — Black Bean & Corn Quesadillas, Sour Cream & Salsa, Fruit Wednesday — Crockpot Spaghetti Sauce, Pasta, Salad Thursday — Leftovers Friday — Pita Pizzas, Carrots with Ranch, Fruit Saturday — Teriyaki Pork Loin, Brown Rice, Roasted Vegetables, Chocolate Cake Sunday — Stir-fry with Leftover Pork & Veggies, Rice With our meals planned and our grocery shopping done, I’m ready for whatever our week brings. Now, if anyone asks “What’s for dinner?” I’ve got it covered. — SANDI HAUSTEIN

Health Responsibility of Being Mom My adrenaline is pumping. I have hung up the phone with a hospital rep who wanted to pre-register me for a second mammogram. The first x-ray was not clear enough to read with certainty. Despite phoning ahead to the insurance company for confirmation I will not be victim to a large invoice, the hospital rep told me the opposite. His voice has little sympathy. Out of frustration I cancelled the appointment, and now I feel guilty. Starting with New Year’s Eve, my health has been a challenge this year. I have had kidney stones — pain more severe than childbirth — and visits to the ER and dye pushed through my veins to scan various areas of my body. I have cried in doctor offices because I was 16 October/November 2012

Changed Diet, Changed Son When my son Alex was 13, he started coming home from school and crying for 2 or 3 hours. He is non-verbal and cannot tell me about illnesses or pain. I had to become a detective and try to figure out why my son was unhappy. First I took him to doctors to rule out any dental problems or underlying health issues. Next I started reading messages posted in an online support group about kids that had out of control behavior caused by food allergies. In March of 2008, with the help of Dr. Elizabeth Mumper, a doctor with Defeat Autism Now (DAN), I switched my son’s diet to a gluten-free and casein-free diet. That means he doesn’t eat any wheat (gluten) or milk, milk proteins or milk sugars (casein). Just three weeks into this diet we saw changes in my son’s behaviors. Not only did he stop crying, he also started noticing the world around him. After being on the diet for four months he was doing things that pre-diet he would not have been capable of doing. For example, I went to Virginia to live with Alex to get help starting this diet plan. The night we arrived at our accommodations the door slammed behind me, locking Alex inside and me outside the house. I yelled at my son to walk to the door and open it. My son — who pre-diet could not listen or follow simple directions — stood up, walked to the door, and opened it. I pinched myself to see if I was dreaming, and then I praised Alex. Never did I think that changing his diet would make such a huge difference in his behavior or abilities. — CYNDI BURNS

blindsided by the planned tests, giving in to them to rule out cancer. I have gone in to receive help for one issue only to be told I may have another problem in addition to the first. It is hard not to be angry: at the tests, at the uncertain doctors, at my body. I want nothing more than to cancel every doctor appointment and listen to my gut, which tells me nothing is wrong. But I can’t cancel because my family relies on me to be healthy. I made a promise to support them. While I may not be able to control what the tests conclude, I can make sure they happen. If my husband were in my position, wouldn’t I make him go? I cannot bear the thought of disappointing my

family because I didn’t address a health condition that I could have prevented from worsening. I fight for them by fighting for me. I pick up the phone to dial back the hospital rep and reschedule my appointment. After all, I am “Mom.” — LORIE GANT LEITNER

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MARRIAGE Need a “In every marriage

more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage.” (Source: Robert Anderson)


any of us often think about how our fitness routines (or lack of them) impact our health, but our married relationships are likely way down on the list of things that we consider as part of overall wellness. While most of us will seek out a physician for a physical complaint and not consider ourselves failures because we couldn’t beat a kidney infection without an antibiotic, we’re hesitant to seek the assistance of a couples’ counselor to help make our marriages healthier. The challenge of married life is the proverbial elephant in the room. When a couple stands before the altar or judge, they can’t foresee the difficulties life will throw at them: the job changes, the illnesses, the deaths of parents, the stress of children, the changes that simply happen within us over time. Newlyweds want to share their lives, but they have no idea what that means on a daily basis. Annie and Mark Baker were in their early twenties when they married, and Annie admits that she idealized marriage. She says, “I didn’t realize what the happily ever after is full of.” Within three years of their vows, Annie and Mark had three children, and Mark worked 50-60 hours a week, all of which put considerable stress on their relationship and led to miscommunications and arguments. Neither partner wanted to grow so far apart from each other that divorce was inevitable so they began couples’ counseling. Initially Mark was skeptical about counseling and had his guard up. Still, he says, “Within two or three sessions, it was becoming useful.” The couple made a list of their expectations of each other, and their counselor reminded them of the importance of doing little things to show love and affection, such as greeting each other at the door. At the prompting of their counselor, Annie and Mark began discussing issues that they wouldn’t normally discuss. They began sharing things with each other that deepened their marriage, things they wanted to reveal about themselves but were too scared to do prior to therapy. Susan and Thomas Wobbe


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within the marriage to protect the relationship (from attractions to others and other forces that could pull a couple apart), and the need for politeness within the married relationship. One of the first things she addresses with her clients is their general health. Weight gain, lack of sleep, and individual mental health issues might be impacting the marriage. Just as every physical ailment doesn’t result in death if a doctor is not consulted, not every marital difficulty ends in divorce if the couple doesn’t pursue counseling. Following the birth of Gail and Eric Raderer’s first child in 2004, Gail experienced a worsening of her degenerative disk disease, making her unable to move at four months postpartum. The Raderers hired a nanny to care for their son while Gail sought help at a pain clinic, which, unfortunately, led to a dependence on oxycontin and morphine. Realizing she was pretty messed up, Gail asked Eric to leave her. He refused. While they were both open to counseling, they managed to get through Gail’s health crisis without seeing a therapist. Gail detoxed in Florida at her parents’ home under the guidance of a new doctor. Married since 1999, they are now the parents of two sons and a daughter. Having both come from families with low divorce rates, Gail says she and Eric have, since before marrying, looked at their marriage as a business. She says, “It’s not romantic, and it’s not easy. Love is a choice.” Gail says in addition to thinking of themselves as a team, they take a short trip alone every year to reconnect as friends and do thoughtful things for each other, such as when Eric brings her an iced tea from McDonald’s on his way home from a business trip just because he knows she likes it. Iced tea. A note on the dashboard. Filling up the gas tank without being asked. Expressing thanks when one’s spouse is helpful. Taking 10 minutes a day to listen to each other’s frustrations and accomplishments. These little considerations, so easily pushed aside by the stresses of children, jobs, physical illness, and fatigue, are critical to keeping a marriage healthy. The most happily married couples understand that, “In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage.” (Source: Robert Anderson)

Annie says marriage counseling helped her develop a realistic picture of marriage. She says, “Cinderella is crammed down kids’ throats and only tells the love story leading up to marriage. There is no Disney wife and mother falling back in love with her husband.” Susan and Thomas Wobbe think marriage counseling is as important as visiting the dentist twice a year or the doctor for an annual physical. The couple began counseling in late 2004 when Susan considered leaving her job to become a full-time mom. Both she and Thomas had concerns about what this life change would mean for them. In addition to helping them negotiate Susan’s employment status, counseling helped them understand each other for who they truly are at their core. Susan and Thomas call it appreciating and respecting each other’s “grain of wood,” the fixed pattern of their personalities. Over the years, Susan and Thomas have utilized counseling to help them work through various issues such as scheduling, pressures on their children, intimacy, and money. Thomas says, “The benefit of couples’ counseling is that I know what makes my wife tick, and this is a great opportunity. When we have issues, I know how to approach her in a certain way so that she will listen.” “Cathie” and her husband sought the help of a marriage counselor over whether or not to move away from Kentucky. While Cathie was perfectly happy in the Louisville suburbs, her husband wanted a change. Their discussions had left them annoyed with each other, and these negative feelings were spilling out into other areas of their lives. The guidance of a couples’ counselor helped them communicate better with each other and resolve their dilemma. Cathie says going to counseling forced them to spend time alone, away from their children and the mundane demands of life, where they were able to talk about more than what they were going to fix for dinner. Leah Brymer, a licensed marriage and family therapist with Co-Therapy Counseling Solutions of Louisville, says couples’ counseling isn’t as taboo as it once was, but some people are hesitant to do it because they are afraid of what will happen. She says, “There is anxiety about what their partner will say or do in the confines of the therapy session.” Men often worry about looking inadequate as husbands, providers, and lovers and aren’t eager to open themselves up. Sometimes couples begin marriage Carrie Vittitoe lives in Louisville with her counseling as an husband, Dean Langford, off-shoot of family and their children Norah counseling for their (8), Graeme (5), and Miles (3). They go out to dinner at children’s behavior McDonalds — without the problems; they realize kids — on the proceeds from that negativity within the her frequent features for marriage is having an impact Today’s Family magazine. on the entire “system of the family.” Susan and Thomas Some of the issues Brymer Wobbe have used marriage counseling discusses with her clients to aid them in working are expectations of what a through several issues committed relationship should in their marriage be, setting up boundaries and lives. 4 4 4 4 4 /todaysfamily 4 4 4 @todaysfamilynow 20 October/November 2012

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Strong. Calm. Happy. Proud. By Megan M. Seckman


n the morning I took my kids to our first family yoga experience, my son Will (7) had a meltdown of epic proportions. The dreaded summer math practice had triggered it: his face was distorted from bestial screams, and his tiny heart was racing. Attempting to stay calm in the eye of the storm, I habitually reminded myself: breathe, long breath in through nose, pause at the top, out through mouth. Stand strong, relax jaw, ohm.

Lillianne Berfield stretches as she takes part in a family yoga class.

My son and I are cut from the same intense cloth. Years of yoga practice and teaching middle school students has armed me with this coping mechanism, but what tools did my 7-year-old have to assuage his ferocious anxiety, anger, and frustration? None. It was time to learn some strategies in handling stress. Family Yoga, here we come. Will’s still-hiccupy breath subsided as he unrolled his mat, forming a circle alongside his more zen-like sister, Nadine (4), and the six other moms and children ages six months to eight years. continued on page 24


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Young Yoga Offerings • Owltree Yoga: Mom and Baby Yoga (6 weeks to crawling) Mondays 11 a.m.-Noon at Mama’s Hip • Yoga East: Yoga Kids (ages 7 and up, including children with special needs, $5) Tuesdays and Thursdays 6-7:15 p.m. at the Kentucky Street studio, or Yoga, Stories and Games (4-12 years olds, $5) at the Holiday Manor location

Will Kennedy-Jones tries different poses in yoga class. continued from page 22

Heather Collins Molina, owner of Owltree Yoga, greeted us with a warm smile, the gracious host of this free family yoga class in Cherokee Park. Class began with a sing-song greeting that helped establish a fun, familial environment for the young yogis, then transitioned into some breathing exercises. We took birthday candle breaths, where we had to fill our rib cage with as much air as possible, then blow out imaginary candles in the center of the circle. As the kiddos released their final deep breath, I could sense relief. My son relaxed; another boy, too shy to show his face, unfurled himself from his mother’s lap and sat on his own mat; a reluctant straggler playing with some nearby clover decided to join the group. And they were quiet. Calm, even. Focused. Class transitioned through some simple sun salutations and into various animal poses. Each child chose a

Lillianne Berfield reaches for the sky with baby Emma Moline.


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favorite animal, and Molina led the group in a pose that emulated each, stretching our limbs and reinforcing the importance of posture. Molina contrasted what a slumped, comma-shaped spine and what a strong, erect posture says to the world: “We look happy and bright like this. We need to keep ourselves happy and bright even when we aren’t. When we feel bored or angry, we can try to take some breaths and stand up straight.” Tiny spines straightened in response. In the car on the way home, there were no more pouty lips and no more “He’s looking at me!” I actually had two calm, centered, joyful littles in the backseat. To my surprise, Will poignantly said, “Mom, I felt so stressed and mad when we left the house. Now I feel relaxed.” Molina has seen the benefits of yoga for children firsthand. She teaches kids, through body awareness, that they can identify the onset of anger or anxiety and practice various breathing exercises to curb the stress, as higher oxygen levels from deep breathing naturally produce a calming effect. Through quiet, mindful balancing poses such as the “airplane” or “tree,” they can focus their ever-fleeting attention spans. Jennifer Oates, a former special education teacher, left the classroom in order to teach yoga to special needs and school-aged children. “Yoga offers better interventions to help kids cope with difficult environments than I could offer in the classroom,” she says. “Not only do kids benefit from the physical aspects of yoga (kids’ hips are a lot tighter than I thought), but I also want to incorporate the other limbs of yoga including breath control, meditation, relaxation, and the moral codes and restraints that yoga teaches us.” Yoga has been proven to calm the parasympathetic nervous system, offsetting feelings of anger and

Will does a pose with his mother.

disappointment. Oates has spearheaded a youth yoga program at Yoga East, where she teaches school-aged children (no parents allowed in this class). I sat in on one of her classes and was amazed at the possibilities yoga can offer children. Beginning with a clear overview of the expectations, Oates’ structured yoga class was a lot like public school, but cooler. Through various breathing exercises, she would explain the purpose behind each: This pose is good for allergies. This one is for headaches or when you are angry. A boy shooting another with a finger gun was reminded of yoga’s dedication to Ahimsa, the practice of non-violence. When Oates taught a particularly challenging bow pose, she reminded the kids, “There is no competition in yoga. You cheat in yoga, you cheat your body. This isn’t basketball.” I watched my daughter, struggling to one-up the girl next to her, relax and be herself. In order to bring awareness to the mind/body connection, Oates had several stations where children practiced a certain pose, then wrote the feeling they experienced while contorted in it. Nadine, 4 years old and the youngest in the class by far, yelled across the room, “Mom, how do you spell proud?!” When I walked up to the warrior pose sheet, covered in kids’ scrawl, I read the words: Strong. Calm. Happy. Proud. Megan M. Seckman lives in Louisville with her husband Billy and their kids Will (7) and Nadine (4). She is a frequent contributor to Today’s Family magazine.

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Today’s Family Wellness Advisory Group Sounds Off:

Q: What do you think about wellness checks and vaccines? “I spend my days teaching the importance of preventive care, healthy diet and exercise, avoiding injuries, CAROTHERS as well as treating disease. I have seen lots of problems that could have been prevented if people had seen their physician earlier or more regularly.” – BECKY CAROTHERS, Pediatrician at UofL Pediatrics Children & Youth Clinic

“More research needs to be done on vaccines. As more children are diagnosed with various allergies, MCCLAIN researchers should return to the labs to develop vaccines that will not trigger allergic reactions. In addition to that, parents should be aware of and knowledgeable about their family histories of allergic reactions to different substances and foods.” – VEDA MCCLAIN, founder, Veda McClain Consulting

“I have three children and have followed the recommended vaccination schedule for all of them. I feel BREISCHAFT the long-term protection against diseases outweighs the possible side effects.”

– Rhonda Breischaft, mom


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Making Sense

of Wellness Checks and Vaccines By YELENA SAPIN


he frequency of wellness checks and vaccines, especially for the youngest patients, can leave parents confused. Why should we take our children to the doctor when they’re healthy? And do they really need all those shots? To get some answers, we spoke with Dr. Stephen Church, pediatrician at East Louisville Pediatrics and clinical professor of Pediatrics at University of Louisville. The Purpose of Wellness Checks Wellness checks (also called well-care or preventive care visits) provide an opportunity to monitor a child’s health, discuss age-appropriate topics, and address parents’ concerns, which can be difficult to do on a sick-child visit, explains Church. Because children go through intense growth and development in their first three years, this schedule can catch problems as they arise. Kids can stay with their pediatrician until they graduate from high school, establishing a medical home for continuity of care.

What to Expect at the Visit The visit will include weighing, measuring, checking vital signs, age-appropriate screenings and assessments, and immunizations as needed. The doctor will also answer questions and talk about what to expect as children grow. With parents of infants, Church discusses safety, nutrition, and stimulation. As children approach school, pediatricians are on the lookout for signs of learning difficulties or concerns that might interfere with academic performance. By the time they’re heading for college, “the health check might be done with the parents not in the room and will include conversation about self-care and more mature subjects,” Church says.

Preparing Yourself and Your Child Parents are encouraged to arrive with a list of questions. “I really enjoy it when parents come in well-prepared,” Church says. For parents who aren’t sure what’s normal, Church

recommends the books What to Expect the First Year and What to Expect the Second Year, as well as, a website run by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

The Importance of Vaccines To cut through confusing and conflicting information on vaccines, Church advocates parents educate themselves about the benefits of immunizations and the risks — both to the individual child and to the general public — of vaccine refusal. Recent outbreaks of whooping cough and measles, which according to Church are partly due to people who have refused vaccines, illustrate how failure to vaccinate lowers herd immunity and increases the chances of contagious diseases. “Parents don’t see the illnesses [we are now immunized against], so they sometimes wonder about the value of the vaccine,” Church says, “but these illnesses are out there, and it’s important that we remain vigilant and keep up our immunizations.”

Optional Vaccines Vaccines that are recommended but not required for entry into child care or school are considered optional. Depending on your state of residence, these may include the meningococcal, hepatitis A, and Gardasil vaccines, which protect against potentially serious illnesses and are strongly encouraged. As with everything concerning children’s health, Church advises parents to do their research and speak to the pediatrician about which vaccines are right for their children.

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Find a Way Out By Stacie L. Martin


ctober is National Domestic Violence Awareness month. According to statistics from the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, more than 1 in 3 women in the United States have experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetimes. Leigh Barnes (name changed for safety) is one of those women.

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Leigh met her now ex-husband, John, through friends. They dated for nearly two years before deciding to get married. While they were dating, Leigh says, “John treated me like a princess, put me on a pedestal, not one cross word to me. We made other people sick because we were the perfect couple.” That all changed six months into the marriage. Leigh was three months pregnant with their first child when the abuse first started to occur. While she can’t remember what made John so angry that first time, Leigh recalls that he had been drinking and began to call her names and push her around. The second incident occurred innocently enough when Leigh and John stopped at a gas station. Leigh wasn’t aware there was even a problem until about 2 a.m. that night when she woke up literally hitting the wall. According to John, a man in the gas station parking lot had looked at her, and it was all her fault. And it was not the last time Leigh would be awakened in the middle of night by being thrown against a wall. Another night, John woke Leigh up around 1 a.m. He forced her to sit in a chair. Every time Leigh blinked, John punched her. He repeatedly told her that her mother, who had died when she was only five, hated her. Leigh’s face was so bruised and beaten in the morning that she had to wear sunglasses to church. From that point on, when John drank heavily, he took out his anger on Leigh. As the abuse continued through the years, Leigh was able to predict when John would hit her because he would get a “stonecold devil look” in his eyes. In the mornings after he had beaten her, John asked Leigh what happened to her face as

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if he didn’t know what had occurred. Leigh recalls many mornings where she felt as if she had “eggs on her head” due to the knots John’s hits had caused. The incidents progressed during their 6 1/2 year marriage to the point that one night Leigh carried a cast-iron skillet in her hand for defense, and she was ready to use it. Leigh says the unbelievable thing is that if you met John when he was sober, you would love him. And when he wasn’t drinking, he was always helpful around the house, didn’t argue with her, and didn’t have a jealous bone in his body. The final incident of their marriage occurred late one night when Leigh was sitting on the couch. She knew she needed to get away from John. But her Catholic upbringing — which frowned on divorce — and her guilt over breaking up the relationship she had built with his family were keeping her from leaving. She was financially dependent on John and didn’t want to impose on others. She looked at the ceiling and asked God for strength. Her desperate prayer was answered later that evening when John stumbled into the house. In a stupor, John told Leigh he had run his car through the fence of a horse farm, causing all the horses to run free. He had also taken an enormous, mean dog from the farm when he crashed into the fence and brought it back to their tiny house. Leigh was terrified that this dog would bite her young children and was shocked John would put their children in danger. She also didn’t know what to do — she knew someone out there had severe property damage, horses running free, and a stolen dog, but John couldn’t remember where the farm was or who the owner was. That was the night Leigh decided it was over. In the morning, she called an attorney who advised her not to leave the house if she wanted to keep it. So she dug in her heels, told John it was over, and said she wasn’t going anywhere. Unfortunately, John decided he wasn’t leaving either because he didn’t believe she would divorce him. For the next several weeks, they lived together in awkward silence — only speaking to each other when necessary. Leigh spent as much time as possible away from the house with the kids. After a few weeks, John realized Leigh was indeed serious and left. Although their two children never actually witnessed the abuse, they still feel the effects of it. Leigh has spent her life covering for John when he was on a drinking binge. And he is frequently verbally abusive to his now-adult children when he is drunk. She feels guilty to this day for putting her children in a position of having to deal with John as a father and for providing her son with such a poor male role model. Leigh has this advice for women in a violent situation: know that from the first signs, it will always progress. Get help immediately and get away from the situation. Most important of all: take care of you!

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Opportunities for Teens:

Governor’s Scholars By Ursula Robertson-Moore

calling it “a great opportunity for kids to get outside their comfort zones and meet kids who have the same kind of goals and drive.” ast summer, Chaucey Slagel picked Tates Creek senior Chaucey Slagel was equally impressed. up trash at Land Between the Lakes. Between water balloon and pillow fights, she studied political and legal issues at Murray State University. Growing up in Lexington, Amanda Jack volunteered at a Slagel confessed she did not know much about her home state. nursing home in Danville. And Will Downer Now she says she has learned Kentucky is a wonderful place. worked with Habitat for Humanity Statistics indicate that GSP graduates think Kentucky is also a wonderful place for college. According to Cedeño, 69 percent of building a home in Louisville. This might them attended Kentucky colleges in the late 1980s, but now the not sound like a typical summer for number is between 80-82 percent. teenagers, but these are not typical teens — Will Downer is a Ballard High School senior who studied journalism and mass media at Bellarmine University. He calls GSP “a they are Kentucky Governor’s Scholars. life-changing experience that surpassed all expectations.” Before This year marks the 30th anniversary of the Kentucky Governor’s attending the program, he was not inclined to attend college in Scholars Program (GSP), a five-week residential program for outKentucky, but now he’s reconsidering. standing high school students. Its goal, according to Executive Generous scholarship offers from Kentucky colleges and uniDirector Aris Cedeño, is “to enhance Kentucky’s next generation of versities sweeten the deal. The GSP website lists 22 institutions civic and economic leaders.” While the inaugural GSP class consisted that offer scholarships to GSP graduates who meet additional of 250 students at Centre College, this year’s crop boasted 1,073 risacademic requirements. ing seniors distributed among three college campuses. Such impresAs a 2006 GSP scholar who studied visual art, Marla Moore sive numbers explain why Kentucky’s program is top in the nation. took advantage of the Presidential Scholarship that Murray State GSP is free to scholars and guarantees student representation University offered her. Now a graphic designer in Seattle, Moore from all 120 Kentucky counties. While many states have discontinsays, “The open-minded attitude and relaxed approach to art ued their programs because of lack of funding, Cedeño says GSP that I learned at GSP has had more influsucceeds because of support from the public ence on my career than anything else.” and private sectors and because the program High school juniors should see their Kentucky has another jewel in its crown guidance counselors for applications continues to be based on merit. with the Governor’s School for the Arts ASAP; school deadlines vary, Merit is a big factor in the rigorous (GSA). This three-week residential program but many are in October. application process. GSP is highly competiconcentrates on nine art disciplines and is tive, and prospective scholars must first be also free to students. Each summer, more than 200 high school nominated by their schools. High school juniors complete lengthy sophomores and juniors attend classes at Transylvania University. written applications that are judged on GPAs, difficulty of course Recent GSA grad Ellen Emerson of Oldham County High School load, standardized test scores, and teacher recommendations. called the program “life-changing,” adding, “I now have a much Extracurricular and volunteer activities are also important. Finally, better idea of what I want to do with the rest of my life.” an original essay is required. As Director of Guidance at OCHS for the past 11 years, Matt The process generally runs from early October to the middle of Steedley has helped Emerson, as well as many other students, November. Students submit their applications, which are judged successfully apply for GSA and GSP. “I think that GSP and GSA at the school and district levels before moving on to state. By late are wonderful programs,” he says. “They give students the January, all applications are due at the GSP office in Frankfort. opportunity to experience a residential learning experience away This year, 1,919 applications were submitted, with 65 percent from home before they leave high school. The students build a accepted. social network of other high-achieving friends from all around the In mid-April, students receive letters notifying them of their status. state. The programs also nurture leadership qualities in the attendThose chosen for GSP learn their campus assignments and focus ees, and the students are encouraged to take these skills back to areas — or “majors” — by late May. Then the real fun begins. their schools to make their schools better places.” Amanda Jack reported to Centre College in Danville last June Kentucky is undoubtedly a better place too, thanks to the to study cultural anthropology. Outside of class, she watched flahomegrown leaders of GSP and GSA. menco dance performances, listened to guest speakers such as Ursula Robertson-Moore lives in Crestwood with her husband Tom Moore. Tori Murden McClure, and performed in a student showcase with They have three GSP alumni daughters. She is co-owner of UPPERCASES new friends. The North Oldham High School senior enjoyed GSP, LLC and is a frequent contributor to Today’s Family magazine.



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Libby and her children Chloe and Ben prepare fresh ingredients.

How different families deal with similar situations Meat-Eating, ‘Real’ Food Family

Recipe ideas? Libby enjoys looking at Pinterest for recipe ideas. She also finds recipes at and Typical meals in their home: Breakfast is usually oatmeal cooked with almond milk with berries added in or homemade waffles. Lunch is wraps or sandwiches made with hummus, tuna, peanut or almond butter, or pita pizzas. If they eat meat at all during the day, dinner is when they have it. A typical dinner would include a meat, such as grilled chicken or wild salmon; a vegetable, such as roasted broccoli or sweet potato fries; and some kind of whole grain, such as a brown rice pilaf.

Libby and Matt*; Chloe (6), Ben (4), and Amelia (9 months) This is why we do it: Libby explains, “I feel that as a parent, it is my job to teach my children the right way to eat by buying and preparing healthy food for them so that they will do the same when they’re adults.” She is concerned with how food has changed since she was a child, especially with unstudied dyes, additives, and genetically modified organisms. So what exactly do you eat? Libby says, “I would say real food would describe our way of eating. We try and avoid processed foods. We only eat organic meat. We don’t buy produce on the dirty dozen list.” Weekly food prep: On the weekends, Libby tries to prepare at least one big batch of something for the following week’s meals, such as meatballs or chicken nuggets, which she freezes in gallon-sized bags. She says, “On the weekends, I always cook some dried beans or quinoa and cut up a bunch of fruits and veggies to have on hand during the week.” 32

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What to do with picky eaters? Ben is the picky eater in the family since he doesn’t like his foods mixed together. Libby tries to offer him a variety of foods separately or allows him to add toppings, which seems to make it easier for him to eat. Ben loves balsamic dressing, so Libby makes a batch for him to dip whatever he wants into it. Favorite indulgences and treats: Libby’s special indulgences are ice cream, especially vanilla with pumpkin oil, or a glass of red wine with figs and goat cheese. The kids enjoy homemade ice cream or popcorn and, according to Libby, Matt loves anything. She says, “I try and keep crunchy stuff like chips out of the house because we will both overindulge.” * Name withheld.

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(Mostly) Vegan Family Nedda and Scott Johnson; Campbell (7), Margaret (3), and Malcolm (1) This is why we do it: Nedda and Scott did a “28-day challenge” through Whole Foods Market, where Scott works. Around the same time, Nedda learned she had high cholesterol despite eating lean meats and skim dairy products. Nedda says, “I told my doctor I would go vegan before I would start taking a statin drug every day at 34 years old.” Within two months of adopting a vegan diet, Nedda’s cholesterol was 90 points lower and in the normal range. She says, “I knew that it was going to be my new lifestyle. I was going to have to choose life over cheese.” So what exactly do you eat? The Johnsons do not eat meat, although they will give it to their children if they request it. No one in the family drinks milk, and Nedda and Scott avoid all dairy products. The children have cheese occasionally, and Margaret and Malcolm eat yogurt regularly. The Johnsons rarely eat out and never eat fast food. Staples kept in the pantry: Nedda keeps brown rice, black beans, garbanzo beans, frozen veggies, fresh fruits, whole wheat bread, and wheat pitas on hand at all times. Recipe ideas? Nedda’s favorite vegan cookbook is Clean Food by Terry Walters. She also utilizes the Whole Foods Market website and She says, “Friends with similar food choices are always a great resource.” Typical meals in the Johnson home: Breakfast is often steel cut oats or cereal with almond milk. Lunch may be vegetables with hummus or peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with fresh fruit. Dinners consist of beans and whole grains (like brown rice or quinoa). Some favorite meals are “Mommy doba” (black beans, brown rice, and veggies in a burrito) or hummus pizza (wheat flat bread, hummus, kale, fresh tomatoes, herbs, and rice cheese). During the winter months, they make lots of vegetable and bean soups with homemade bread. Changes as a result of the lifestyle diet: Scott dropped 30 pounds after becoming a vegan. Nedda had to focus on not losing weight since she had a body mass index (BMI) of 18 when she adopted a vegan lifestyle.

FAR LEFT: Campbell selects carrots. ABOVE: Three-year-old Margaret takes a bite out of an apple. LEFT: Malcolm, 1, is fascinated by the hanging bananas.

Glossary • Vegan — A strict vegetarian who consumes no animal food or dairy products. • Dirty Dozen — The 12 most pesticide-contaminated fruits and vegetables found in America. The Environmental Working Group (EWG) advises that consumers purchase and eat organic versions of apples, celery, sweet bell peppers, peaches, strawberries, imported nectarines, grapes, spinach, lettuce, cucumbers, domestic blueberries, and potatoes.

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Pa r t y Pl ac e s Throw a Halloween Party by Amy Baskin


oes the thought of hosting a Halloween party send shivers down your spine? Relax. Try these ideas.

Invisible Invitations On letter-sized white paper, draw a pumpkin outline in black marker. Add large triangle eyes, nose, and a bananashaped mouth. Write the party details in black marker — including date, time, location, and host’s name — in the pumpkin face features and photocopy the page. If you like, dress up your pumpkin with markers, paint, or stickers. Now, cover the eyes, nose, and mouth with black crayon. Include instructions so your guests can scrape off the black with a coin and read the secret message. Spooktacular Centerpieces For great ghosts, cut cheesecloth (from the grocery store) into 16-inch squares. Place them in a bowl with 3 tablespoons white glue mixed with equal parts water. For a ghost body, place a plastic cup (approximately 4 inches long) upside down on a table. For the head, crumple a 12inch square of tin foil and tape it on top of the upside down cup. For arms, cut two 5-by-3-inch tinfoil rectangles and gently press each into a log shape. Tape the tinfoil arms, reaching up, on either side of the cup, beside the head. Now place the cup-foil figure on a cookie sheet covered

in wax paper. Squeeze out the glue and water from the cheesecloth and drape it over the cup-foil shape. Let dry overnight, and carefully lift off the cheesecloth. Cut out black construction paper circles and glue on ghostie eyes and mouths. Try using different cups, yogurt containers, and so on to make a ghost family of all shapes and sizes. Homemade Makeup In a small container, stir a few drops of food coloring into 1 teaspoon of cold cream. Make red, blue, and yellow. Set out a mirror at child level and let them dip their fingers into the mixtures and paint their faces. For the more sensitive, test the paint on a small area of skin first. To remove the makeup, wipe off with tissues. Cute Cupcake Cones Disguise cupcakes as ice cream cones for Halloween. First prepare the batter by following the directions on any cake mix. Pour the batter into flat-bottomed ice cream cones until they’re three-quarters full and place in muffin tin compartments. Bake in a preheated oven, according to the mix directions for cupcakes. Let cool, and top them with canned vanilla frosting. Set out bowls of mini Smarties, chocolate chips, and sprinkles and get decorating.



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A Mother’s Touch offers a party room for both boys and girls ages 5 & up. Enjoy a theme or beading party. You can also use our room for classes, meetings, wedding or baby showers, or a fun girls night out. Prices start at $10 per person or a room fee. Reservations and deposit required. We can help make your event fun and memorable. Call 502.253.9477 with any questions and availability. Kentucky Science Center, the State Science Center of Kentucky, offers birthday parties unlike any other! From Mummies to K’Nex, Super Genius party themes offer something for every young scientist. After all, what’s a birthday party without liquid nitrogen ice cream? Parties are best suited for children 4-10 years. Party packages start at $210 and include admission, a liquid nitrogen ice cream demonstration, birthday cake, and more. Multiple themes available. The Y has several great ways to celebrate birthdays with fun-filled activities! Options vary at Y locations and include pool, Calypso Cove, Hawaiian luau, Wii play, rock climbing, party art, pirate, Disney princess, Twilight, Justin Bieber, Toy Story and more! Come and celebrate with the Y; your party will be a blast!

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ave you ever followed a water droplet or made ice cream out of liquid nitrogen? Well, that’s just what Claire Carrico did for her 5th birthday celebration at the Kentucky Science Center, formerly the Louisville Science Center, the State Science Center of Kentucky. “We attended another party here and liked the different themed party options,” says Claire’s father, Patrick Carrico. “We also like that the Science Center is in charge of set up and clean up, and we have access to the Science Center for the rest of the day.” Birthday Girl Claire Carrico and Claire chose the SplashScience Center’s Jason Potts mak e themed birthday party, liquid nitrogen ice cream. and she and her friends were designated Water Droplets. Their activities included making bracelets from different colored beads representing various areas where water can be found. Next, Claire assisted in a liquid nitrogen demonstration, which includes making ice cream. The ice cream went perfectly with the cake which is part of the package provided by the Science Center. The Science Center allows you to also bring in food, and there’s plenty of time for opening gifts. Once the themed festivities end, the party is just beginning. Each guest is given a wristband to explore the museum for the rest of the day.

Happy Birthday, Claire! What a great way to start your 5th year.

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CALENDAR of events

Halloween Tea

American Girl Fashion Show

A Victorian Tea with the Queen of Halloween! Enjoy an afternoon of whimsy and frighteningly good treats as you partake of “finger” foods. Wear your costumes and add to the atmosphere. WHEN~ Oct. 14, 2-4pm WHERE~ Culbertson Mansion State Historic Site in New Albany along Ohio River COST~ $15 per adult; $8 per child 3 – 8; under 3 free CONTACT~ 812.944.9600,

The World’s Largest Halloween Party

An evening of not-too-scary Halloween fun at the Louisville Zoo with costumed characters and larger-than-life storybook scenes throughout the zoo. Plus kids 11 and under can trick-or-treat. Don’t forget to dress up and bring your treat bag. WHEN~ October 5-7, 11-14, 18-21 & 25-28, enter from 5-8:30 p.m. WHERE~ Louisville Zoo COST~ $8 per person. Tickets can be purchased at the zoo gates, online, or at a local Meijer store. CONTACT~ halloween/faq.htm

Flight of the Butterflies

Based on true events, Flight of the Butterflies follows the epic journey of the iconic monarch butterfly in one of the most incredible migrations on Earth, and the determined scientist, Dr. Fred Urquhart, who spent 40 years trying to discover the mysteries surrounding their journey and secret winter hideaway. WHEN~ Opens October 7 WHERE~ The Louisville Science Center COST~ General admission: adults-$13, children-$11. IMAX tickets are $5 & $7 for non-members. CONTACT~ For tickets and show times:

Caufield’s Halloween Parade

Come out and watch the funny family parade. Trick-or-treat stations will be set up along route. Costumes are welcome. WHEN~ October 12, 7pm WHERE~ Begins at Bardstown Road and ends at Baxter Avenue Morgue CONTACT~ or 502.292.3033



The sixth annual American Girl Fashion Show to benefit Kosair Children’s Hospital will showcase historical and contemporary fashions for girls and their dolls. WHEN~ October 13 & 14, noon-2 p.m. and 4-6 p.m. WHERE~ Seelbach Hilton Louisville COST~ $35 per person CONTACT~, 502.629.5437

Captain Louie

Young Louie takes an imaginary journey full of tricks and treats on Halloween night. This new musical, by WICKED composer Stephen Schwartz, is all about the ability to make new friends and the importance of olds ones. WHEN~ October 13, 20, 27, November 3, 10, 17 WHERE~ Derby Dinner Playhouse COST~ $35-$44 CONTACT~ or 812.288.8281

The Legend of the Lost Train

Board the train (if you dare!) for a ghostly ride through the Hoosier National Forest filled with goblins and into the haunted Burton Tunnel. This is a one-hour-long journey. WHEN~ Every Friday & Saturday in October, Departs at 7:30 p.m. or 9:15 p.m. WHERE~ French Lick Scenic Railway in French Lick, Indiana COST~ Prices vary. Tickets:, by phone, or in person CONTACT~ lost_train.html or 1.800.748.7246

Touring Gymnastics Champions

The Kellogs Tour of Gymnastics Champions features every member of the gold-medal winning U.S. Women’s Gymnastics team, along with members of the men and women’s 2011 World Championships and 2012 Olympic teams, and past Olympians. WHEN~ October 25, 7:30 pm WHERE~ KFC YUM! Center COST~ Tickets start at $28 CONTACT~ KFC Yum! Center Ticket Office, Ticketmaster outlets,, and by phone 1.800.745.3000

Princess Tea Party

Wear royal attire and experience a formal tea service and afternoon of activities, including a tea etiquette lesson, making fascinators, crown-shaped sugar cookie decoration, photo opportunities, and more. You can also see the Princess Di exhibition between 3-4 p.m. that day. WHEN~ October 28, Nov 25, & Dec 30 @ 2 pm WHERE~ Frazier History Museum COST~ $45 per person. Advance purchase recommended. CONTACT~ or 502.753.5663

Congratulations to Laurel Peyton (7/8 category), Elisabeth Goodin (9/10 category), and Annalee Vaccaro (11/12 category) for being selected as winners of our Today’s Girl Essay contest. They will receive tickets to the American Girl Fashion Show on October 13-14.


October/November 2012

Christmas Story

The play based on the movie – All about Little Ralphie’s Christmas. Recommended for ages 7 and up. WHEN~ November 7–25, times vary WHERE~ Actors Theatre of Louisville COST~ Varies CONTACT~, 502.584.1205

Festival of Trees & Lights

Hundreds of beautifully decorated trees, wreaths, and assorted greenery of all sizes adorn the corridors of Louisville Slugger Field. Dickens night features Dickens-era characters and carolers, Santa Claus, Old-English food, and fireworks. WHEN~ November 9-11, Fri.10am-5pm, Sat-Sun, 10 am-6 pm; Dickens Family Night is Nov 9 @ 6-9 pm. WHERE~ Louisville Slugger Field COST~ Children 12 & under $5, Adults $8, Families of 4 or more $25 CONTACT~

KaLightoscope Christmas at the Galt House

The KaLightoscope attraction returns to Christmas at the Galt House Hotel, bringing with it a massive landscape of larger-than-life lighted interactive holiday luminaries. New this year is the Peppermint Express Kiddie Train. WHEN~ Nov 17-January 2, Mon-Sat: 10 am-8 pm; Sundays and Holidays: Noon-8 pm WHERE~ Galt House Hotel COST~ Adults: $18.99, free child ticket per purchase of an adult ticket, additional child 12 & under: $9.99 CONTACT~ or 502.584.7777

Train Ride to the North Pole

North Pole Express train travels to the North Pole to pick up Santa as one of Kentucky Railway’s special Christmas train rides.

WHEN~ November 30-December 22, 2pm Saturday & Sunday; 7pm Friday WHERE~ New Haven, KY COST~ $20.50-25.50 CONTACT~ 800.272.0152,

The Best Christmas Pageant Ever! StageOne Family Theatre’s The Best Christmas Pageant Ever! Recommended for ages 8 and up. WHEN~ November 24, December 8, 15, 20 WHERE~ The Kentucky Center, Bomhard Theater COST~ $19.75 CONTACT~

Laurel Peyton

Elisabeth Goodin

Annalee Vaccaro

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Kentucky Science Center

The Kentucky Science Center, formerly known as the Louisville Science Center, the State Science Center of Kentucky, is perfect for all ages. With three floors of interactive exhibits and a four-story IMAX Theatre, you’ll never be bored. Visit now through Jan. 1 to experience a whole new way to play in the custom-built exhibit, Science in Play. An amazing science play space created for young visitors, Science in Play will delight the senses, inspire imagination, and tickle curious minds. Hands-on everyday science experiences come to life in six activity zones that encourage children ages 3-7 and their caregivers to build, test and engineer new science activities through experimental play. Every visit is a different adventure with unlimited possibilities. Visiting the Science Center couldn’t be easier with affordable membership plans and the new monthly Play Pass, granting unlimited weekday admission for one adult and up to four children ages 7 and under. Super-Science the fun with School’s Out Science Camps, Super Genius Birthday Parties, special events, family reunion packages, Scout programs, and more! Kentucky Science Center • 727 W. Main St. Louisville, KY 40202 • 502-561-6100 •

Little Treasures Kid’s Sale

Area’s most anticipated kid’s consignment event held every March and August. Parents can earn money on the things their kids have outgrown and save up to 90% on new and delicately used brand name items. For more information about the sale, visit 502.541.4446 •

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Floyd Memorial’s Birthing Center offers spacious labor and delivery suites, state-of-the-art surgical suites for emergency and scheduled c-sections, an expanded nursery and remodeled post-partum rooms. Moms and babies come first at Floyd Memorial, which is why we promote mother/baby skin-to-skin kangaroo care and quiet time on our unit. We also offer a wide array of natural childbirth options, including birthing tubs, birthing balls, remote fetal monitoring, acceptance of birthing plans, and doula-assisted births. Childbirth Classes: We offer classes covering pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and c-sections as well as classes for new siblings, infant health and CPR and infant massage. Breastfeeding Support: We are one of only two hospitals in the region to be recognized as a “breastfeeding-friendly hospital” by the International Board of Lactation Consultants. Our certified lactation consultants offer a 24-hour breastfeeding support hotline, as well as unlimited follow-up care and advice. Floyd Memorial Hospital Birthing Center 1850 State St., New Albany, IN 47150 1.800.4.SOURCE,

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The Family Birth Place offers expectant parents a personalized birth experience. With spacious labor and delivery suites, in-room waiting areas, and garden tubs, the Family Birth Place has the ambience of a luxury hotel. Providing quality care to mom and baby is of utmost importance, that’s why the Family Birth Place promotes Kangaroo Care, the practice of a mother holding her baby skin-to-skin, and Quiet Time. Clark Memorial is also the only hospital in the area to have two Certified Nurse Midwives on staff and an on-site Breastfeeding Center staffed by a Certified Lactation Consultant. Childbirth Classes – Prepared Childbirth, Lamaze, Breastfeeding, Brothers and Sisters To Be, Infant CPR and Safety, and Doula Night. A complete class schedule is on our website. Breastfeeding Center – Breastfeeding supplies including bras, pads, and pumps for purchase. Breast pump rental, free weight checks for baby, and individual consultations. Hours: 10 a.m. – 2 p.m. Monday – Saturday. Phone: 812.283.2901


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What’s Happening on We have so much fun for you these next two months. Become part of the Today’s Family by participating in our contests and prizes.


Halloween Costume Contest

Do you have a photo of a cute Halloween costume? Send us a photo featuring your child or even you as a child dressed up for Halloween. Deadline is October 15. Photos should feature children under age 18 and should either be yourself or your child if you are their parent or guardian. All photos become property of Today’s Family magazine and Zion Publications LLC.

WIN A PRIZE PACKAGE from Caufield’s Novelty worth $100! ($50 in gift card and $50 in gifts/décor) Presented by:


Our Gift Guide

Amy Holley makes great gift suggestions on our website. Starting in November, we will feature her local and special gift ideas every Thursday.


Holiday Card Makeover

Do you have a Holiday Card photo that is less than perfect? Would you like to have a beautiful photo customized for your family that you can send out this year? Send us your worst family photo by November 2, and see if you can win this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. (All entries become property of Zion Publications, LLC).

WIN A PRIZE PACKAGE from CaféPress! Photo taken and styled by Today’s Family photographer. CaféPress will make your photo into 40 notecards, 2 custom photo mugs and 1 phone case. 40

October/November 2012


12 Gifts of Christmas

The holidays start now at! Every Wednesday you have a chance to win one of our 12 holiday gifts. See page 6 for details.

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