Today's Woman July 2019

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spotlight 6 CURRENT OBSESSIONS Meet Today’s Woman through her current obsessions

8 WORK WARDROBE Angella Wilson’s classic

22 THE EDUCATION PROFESSIONALS

Two women helping students succeed in higher education

24 27 THINGS

and modern style

18 TRAVEL A single woman offers tips for traveling alone to Key West

Happenings, news, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month

42 FOND OF LOUISVILLE Enjoy this color-changing cocktail that’s easy to mix.

20 JUST ASK JOYCE

Marriage advice for two situations

Read full stories online at TodaysWomanNow.com Search with the person’s name in the story.

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10 Wet your Whistle with these Summer Drinks 28 Home — Outdoor Living Sleek and creative outdoor spaces.

36 Home — Outdoor Eating Three great spots for good food and cocktails.

45 Today’s Family — Caring for Your Whole Family

This section shares about new experiences for your kids, how to capture personality in your family photos, gives you information on how to help aging loved ones, and more.

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CURRENT OBSESSIONS OF THIS LOVER OF ALL THINGS FRENCH

By Lucy M. Pritchett Photos Patti Hartog

What better way to get to know Today’s Woman than through her Current Obsessions? This month we meet a woman who is obsessed with all things French, children’s films, and lists, lists, lists.

Louisvillian Martha Nichols-Pecceu graduated from Centre College with a degree in French and history and has a Ph.D. from Duke University. She lived in Paris for a year while she worked on her dissertation, and in order to pay the bills, sold microwave popcorn — maybe the popcorn thing explains her passion for film. She’s married to Eric Pecceu, who is French (although they met in America), and they have two children Henri and Charlotte. She has lived and taught French at the university level in Florida, Texas, and Rhode Island. In Louisville she has taught French at Alliance Français and West End School. Two years ago she founded the Louisville Children’s Film Festival.

LOUISVILLE CHILDREN’S FILM FESTIVAL I’m obsessed with children’s film.

They can be very uplifting and simple and give positive messages for kids.

They can show real problems and how kids have responded to those problems with resilience and hope.

At this year’s festival, 15 countries were represented with 20 films and shorts. We had entries from Russia, Iran, Japan, and France.

m From top to bottom: A depiction of Martha’s love of France, painted for her by a French painter. The map shows her path through France; Martha Nichols-Pecceu; and her Angry Mama microwave cleaner.

BECOMING BY MICHELLE OBAMA It is very inspiring with its messages of when they go low, we go high, stay true to your goals, and, especially for girls, education as empowerment. I also read A Grand Success, about the creative work environment of Aardman Studio, a pioneer in stop-action animation such as its Wallace & Gromit series.

FRANCE I think the language is beautiful. I love its culture, literature, food, artists, history, and its joie de vivre. We go to Provence as a family every other year, and we stay

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in a stable converted into a house with a homing pigeon tower outside.

LISTS Where would I be without my lists?

STORM LARGE I was introduced to this singer recently at the Louisville Orchestra Pops Love, Lust + Rock ‘n’ Roll concert. She sang a Led Zeppelin song Thank You, and it was stunning.

ANGRY MAMA This is a microwave oven cleaner.

You put a vinegar and water solution in the body, put it in the microwave, turn it on, and the solution shoots out of her head. Clean oven!

WHAT’S INSIDE This is the YouTube channel of a father and his 12-year-old son who cut things open: golf balls, lava lamps, rubber band balls.

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WHAT WARDROBE BRINGS HER SUCCESS? Photo by Erika Doll

By Marie Bradby

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The Gabrielle Union line at New York & Company is Angella’s favorite clothing label.

Her go-to is a structured blazer. “I dress for how I want to be perceived every day,” Angella says. “I am 80 percent of the time in a suit jacket. They go with a great pair of slacks, a skirt, even with a nice pair of curvy slim jeans.”

Dress to enhance your shape. Curvy and tall at 5 foot 11, she says, “You can dress for your body style and bring in trendy items with a purse and jewelry.”

She loves statement accessories. “I have a set of chunky pearls, and it has about 10 strands. I wore those with a denim shirt and slim fitting jeans, and it took that outfit to the next level without it being like a frumpy jean outfit.”

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ngella Wilson wears lots of hats.

She’s a management executive, a college teacher, a businesswoman, and a wife and mother.

As program director for KentuckianaWorks, the workforce development board for this seven-county area, she provides strategic guidance on contracts, budgets, and also helps job seekers find jobs and good careers, education, and training. She helps employers meet their workforce needs by connecting them with skilled, qualified employees.

“I absolutely love workforce,” says Angella, 41, whose name is pronounced ann-GEL-lah. “I have a chance to provide strategic guidance so that people have a great experience when they come through the door and get the help they need,” she says. “How can we best help this population? We recently received grant money to hire a consultant to provide basic computer training. Not everybody is computer literate.”

As an adjunct teacher at Jefferson Community and Technical College, she teaches Achieving Academic Success, a course for first-time college students. “We cover a variety of subjects to make them ready for their college and career experience,” Angella says, including researching salaries, looking at possible jobs one can get with a certain degree, and addressing financial literacy.

Angella still operates the Clark Consulting Group, which she started in 2012 to provide financial literacy and career counseling as a consultant for KentuckianaWorks. “I started that out of passion,” she says. “It was an opportunity to help people on a one-on-one level. I counsel individuals who are in some type of career transition. It’s about learning how to network in a successful way, how to utilize their resources, which could be the people that they already know,” says Angella, who with her husband Troy, has two daughters, ages 21 and two years old.

Angella’s dressing philosophy is as strategically measured as her work. “For me, it’s about creating a wardrobe that is my signature style — classic with a little bit of modern,” she says. “I like to wear one item that represents how I feel about myself that day. For example, I will wear a black suit with a leopard print shirt.

It’s business and professional, but the leopard print makes a powerful statement. Or I will wear a blouse in a bold red. That shows just a little bit of personality for that day.”

I’ll Just Have Water By: Aimee Paul, MD

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he drink aisle has surpassed the cereal aisle with its overwhelming plethora of choices, but all our bodies really crave and need is water. It is one of the few things that we truly need to survive. Water comprises 60-70% of our bodies, essential for every process down to the cellular level. Without it even for a few days, we could perish. And we don’t need designer water; tap water is a good choice and better for the environment with no plastic bottle to discard. There are sources of water in foods we eat and other beverages, but often ingredients in foods and beverages, especially if highly processed, can deplete stores of water in our bodies.

The media often touts the benefits of water for a clear complexion, younger skin, weight management, you name it, but we may neglect the very real benefit of good hydration: it is essential for us to operate most efficiently.

Even mild dehydration can affect mood and cognitive function. It can impair concentration, alertness and short-term memory. We are quick to grab a soda or specialty drink to combat these things throughout the day, but our bodies may be telling us we need more water. More significant dehydration triggers a thirst sensation, but people that are more chronically dehydrated may have a suppressed sensation of thirst.

So how much water should we drink on a daily basis?

As an OB-GYN I talk about good hydration with my pregnant patients. A recommended daily amount varies per person, depending on overall activity level, diet, climate, health conditions and medications, and other considerations.

However, a good rule of thumb is we should feel the need to go to the bathroom every 2-3 hours and our urine should be light in color with a good volume and without a lot of odor.

Voiding only a few times a day with dark, strong urine in smaller volumes can be a sign of dehydration. Another good rule of thumb: any time we feel thirsty we probably need to catch up on water, and, anytime we feel sluggish, we should try 8-12 ounces of water before we grab that energy drink.

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DRINKS OF

By Tiffany White Photos by Melissa Donald

ou don’t have to venture far to get a good, authentic drink. Whether you’re in the mood for spirits or crave something sweet and indulgent, we’ve featured some locally made drinks that will satisfy every type of thirst and palate.

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PEERLESS KENTUCKY STRAIGHT RYE WHISKEY The first sip leads with a sharp orange spice and cream, followed by chocolate and tobacco. The second sip is spicy, touching on oak and rye, before returning to an earthy sweetness.

Kentucky Peerless, kentuckypeerless.com

STARLIGHT SEVENTEEN NINETY-FOUR GIN This gin is produced in an American Dry Gin style, which accentuates the 13 different botanical blend soaks that give the gin a citrus flavor.

Huber’s Starlight Distillery, huberwinery.com

LUNAZUL BLANCO TEQUILA This small-batch liquor is double distilled in traditional cognac stills and aged in Heaven Hill bourbon barrels.

Heaven Hill Distillery, heavenhill.com

FINLANDIA VODKA OF FINLAND The vodka is made from Golden Suomi barley and pure glacial spring water, which gives it a clean, crisp, smooth taste.

Brown-Forman, brown-forman.com

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sips RIVULET ARTISAN PECAN LIQUEUR This flavor combination includes maple syrup, toasted pecans, butter, orange zest, honey, and baking spice.

C88 Holdings, LLC, rivulet.com

RABBIT HOLE STRAIGHT BOURBON WHISKEY FINISHED IN PX SHERRY CASKS You’ll taste raisins, currants, and cherries with a hint of almond, and an impressive explosion of Sherry with a touch of vanilla and oak.

Rabbit Hole Distillery, rabbitholedistillery.com

COPPER & KINGS AMERICAN CRAFT BRANDY The brandy is matured in Kentucky bourbon whiskey and medium-char American white oak barrels.

Copper and Kings, copperandkings.com

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NOT JUST

the basics HOLI GIN It’s a new spin on gin. This spirit is made using traditional botanicals, juniper, and masala chai.

Distillery America, DistilleryAmerica.com

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THE HISTORY OF LOVERS This flavored gin is a delightful combination of crushed juniper berries, rose hips, rose water, sweet orange, tangerine, and other fruity and floral ingredients. It is macerated in apple brandy low-wine, and redistilled together with vapor distilled rose hips and grapefruit peels in the gin basket.

Copper and Kings, copperandkings.com

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WOMEN IN

DANA HUBER FOCUSES

WINE & SPIRITS ON FAMILY BRAND

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s vice president for distribution and public relations at Huber Winery/Starlight Distillery, Dana Huber is focused on the branding of the family wine & spirits.

and 50 acres are heirloom corn varietals — the source for Huber’s now fouryear-old bourbon, Carl T, named after the 4th generation family member and grandfather of Greg and Ted Huber.

She uses daily the marketing and project management skills she honed over almost a dozen years in her other corporate jobs. But, says Dana — IU Kelley School of Business graduate (and Today’s Woman 2019 Most Admired Woman in Food and Entertainment) — her role in the business is multi-faceted.

The family brand is fully harvested, mashed, and distilled on the premises, and visitors can book tours to see the whole process. As statewide leaders in the Indiana wine and distillery industry, Dana says Huber’s is positioned to provide outstanding products both on the farm and in the regional market.

Huber Winery/Starlight Distillery, a diversified family operation, greets thousands of guests to Starlight, Indiana, each year. “We have something for everyone to enjoy!” Dana says.

You can find Huber wine & spirits brands in Indiana, Kentucky, and eight other states throughout the Midwest and East Coast. Distribution is now a primary focus for Huber’s and, Dana says, “When you see our brand in the market, it’s going to be the same quality that you taste here.”

With the farm’s 650 acres, Huber’s commitment to agriculture is clear. Over 80 acres are planted with vineyards,

Dana Huber, vice president for distribution and public relations at Huber Winery/Starlight Distillery.

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812.923.9463 Winery

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Drink Your

vegetables LOADED BLOODY MARY MIXER Chef Anthony Lamas of Seviche partnered with American Beverage Marketers to create four different Bloody Mary mixers, which are sold nationally. This drink is infused with the flavors of cucumbers, horseradish, cracked black pepper, dice jalapeĂąos, and scratch Worcestershire sauce.

Sevicherestaurant.com and Boldflavoradventure.com Drink styled by Aaron Graves

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ROOT BEER FLOAT Pick up a growler of root beer from Bluegrass Brewing Company and ice cream from Erhler’s Ice Cream to make this traditional summer treat. You can buy the ice cream at their store (201 E. Main Street) or from any of the Derby City Pizza locations. Also, check their site to find out when the Erhler’s ice cream truck will be in your neighborhood. erhlers.com, bbcbrew.com

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Photos submitted by Jennifer Harned From l to r, an ocean view of a sailboat, seen from Sunset Pier; Harpoon Harry’s Restaurant, which offers breakfast all day; and Jennifer posing in the faux “shower area” at The Blue Heaven.

DON’T WAIT ON OTHERS...

Discover Key West

By Megan M. Seckman

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ennifer Harned was tired of waiting on her friends’ busy schedules to travel. The girl needed a beach and she needed it now. So, 12 years ago, Jenn made a decision that changed her life: She wasn’t going to wait on anyone to travel — she could do it by all by herself!

Jenn’s first solo travel experiences involved cruises throughout the Caribbean, but on her second cruise, Jenn found her home away from home: Key West. Since then, she has traveled to the U.S.’ southernmost point a whopping nine times.

“I went to Key West with my family when I was 14, but when I got off the cruise ship 12 years ago, I had this feeling...this is my place! There is a bumper sticker there that says ‘Wonderfully Weird’ and that about sums it up. There’s a guy who dresses up as Spiderman and plays the sitar, there’s a local named Max who walks around naked except for these giant butterfly wings and a bunny tail (I don’t know where he adheres that thing).

Everyone is so welcoming and open, no one discriminates, I feel comfortable traveling alone. I can walk all day and never run out of things to see,” Jenn says.

Key West has sparked Jenn’s love for photography. The iconic architecture, the copious tropical flowers, the constant parade of street performers, panhandlers, and glorious freaks — it is a voyeur’s dream. Could there be a better place to observe?

Ernest Hemingway, Tennessee Williams, and countless others have found inspiration from this magical four-by-two mile archipelago, and so too has Jenn.

“You never know what you will see: a gaudy chandelier hanging from a front porch on one side of the street, and a gutted-out airplane that the neighbors use as a camper on the other side, old bicycles, land pirates, gorgeous sunsets, and shutters.

“It is a judgment-free getaway. It is just a bunch of misfits, artists, and street musicians coming together to have a great time.”

No wonder Jenn has found her place in Key West. A quick jaunt from Louisville and a sanctuary from judgment, this colorful city knows no dull days.

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THINKING OF A VISIT? HERE ARE JENN’S TIPS: WHERE TO STAY If traveling alone, Jenn recommends staying on the second floor of a place a good distance from Duval Street. That way, the nights are quiet and you can admire the chirping frogs.

Use bikes, scooters, or walk to the action, but finding a friend with a golf cart is a bonus.

March through May is the best time to visit as the summer months are extremely hot and humid and prone to hurricanes. However, October is great for Fantasy Fest, where body-painted folks parade the streets.

Jenn’s favorite place to stay as of late is the Albury Court Hotel, one of several historic inns on the island. Flight and lodging are pricey (around $250-350 per night), but expenses on the island are minimal.

WHAT TO PACK

As musician Erykah Badu sings in Bag Lady, “pack light!”

• Shorts and tank tops • Swimsuit • Comfortable sandals and no socks (Jenn says, “No one in Key West wears socks!”)

• Adhesive bandages and sunblock • Water pills (the sun and drinking make you swell)

WHERE TO EAT (AND DRINK, OF COURSE)

• The Blue Heaven is lodged in an old house among a grove of banyan trees. You can play ping-pong, listen to live music, sip a mimosa at breakfast, or even take an outdoor shower there (the sign claims “$1 for a shower, $2 to watch”).

• The Saint Hotel is Jenn’s favorite dinner spot. A native New York Italian, Jenn has quite the discerning palate when it comes to pasta, but she claims this to be the best she’s ever had.

• Harpoon Harry’s is a New York-style diner that serves breakfast all-day.

• The Sunset Pier is a great place to have a sunset cocktail on the pier.

• The Salty Angler features delicious adult milkshakes.

• 801 Bourbon Bar for a drag show.

• Eat “The Pinks” (Key West shrimp), conch fritters, and Key Lime Pie.

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How will I know when I’m suitable for someone else to love?

By Joyce Oglesby

HELP MY MARRIAGE Q:

“I am confused about what my husband wants from me. He wants me to work, but he doesn’t want me away from the home. He wants me to dress up, but then he’s jealous when I do. He wants me to monitor the kids closely, but then he says I smother them. When I try to talk to him about the issues, he makes me feel like I’m imagining things.

I love him, but it’s hard to love him, if that makes any sense. What can I do?”

JOYCE: One should never depend on someone else to bring contentment.

The distribution of weight in your home would cause any wife to become unsteady on her feet. I am, however, not nearly as convinced that the problem belongs to you as much as it does to your husband.

It brings several questions to mind: Has he always been this way, or is this a new occurrence? Is he easily angered, and if so, are you afraid of his reaction to you? Is there constant arguing in the home or only when you fail to meet one of his “expectations”?

Is intimacy a demand upon you, or is it something you look forward to?

My sense is your home life is more like a prison. If it is for you, it could likely be for your children, as well. Whereas that could be stretched speculation, I certainly would venture to say it appears to be less enjoyable than it should be, at least for one — you.

Attitudes of anger, resentment, and/or frustration serve issues poorly. Keeping things positive around your home is, obviously, going to be the biggest challenge you face.

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Q: “I recently got divorced and want to get back into a relationship, but I’m not sure I would be a good partner for anyone. My self-esteem was very damaged in my 15-year marriage. I know everything wasn’t my fault, but I am one of those people who tends to take on all the blame. I wish I was anyone else but me. How will I know when I’m suitable for someone else to love?”

JOYCE: Until you learn to love the girl in the mirror, no one else will love her either.

Marriage was never intended to be an institution of blame, ridicule, or annihilation. Oftentimes, however, when one party accepts all the accountability for its failures, the other party willingly transfers it. I’m encouraged, however, in your awareness of character traits you need to work on before entering in yet another round of love. Here are a few exercises you could put into place first.

1. Stop saying I’m sorry. Now, that’s not forever and always, of course.

My intuition tells me that you likely apologize for everything—from a bona fide mistake to the weather. The next time you find yourself feeling guilty for something you don’t own, stop yourself before offering contrition. The best way to break an unbecoming and/or unhealthy habit is simply to cease doing it. Breaking these sorts of routine behaviors will not happen overnight.

But if you make a daily pledge to yourself to work on this, you will soon find yourself free of something that keeps you encumbered.

2. Love who you are. You can wish your life away, but you will always be uniquely you. It’s a good time to reflect on the part you played in the failures of your marriage. I tend to believe a person knows his/her flaws without them having to be pointed out. I will concede, though, that one might not understand how irritating a flaw can become to someone else. Take some time to analyze those flaws you possess that contributed to the demise of your marriage. Then, make a plan to change those behaviors. It’s time to polish those positive qualities you possess and allow them to personify who you really are.

3. Raise the bar. Examine the aspects of your ex-husband that seemed to rob you of your valuable self-esteem. Make a list of the things you will no longer tolerate from a person who wins your heart. The best way to gain respect is to expect it. Set your standards higher than what you settled for during this past 15+-year relationship. You deserve to be loved and admired.

When you are, confidence and self-worth never shrink.

4. Don’t rush into things. Your recently-divorced status gives me pause.

I realize you’ve been devoid of love even before the marriage was over, but charging in for another “trial” relationship too soon is not advisable. Work on you first. Get a healthier opinion of yourself. Learn to accept only your shortcomings and not take on the guilt of the world around you. Decide you love yourself enough to expect to be treated kindly and respectfully. When your head is ready for love, your heart will be less likely to get trampled on.

Love and marriage should be fulfilling in every way. Neither is always perfect simply because imperfect people are involved. Both work best when the parties involved respect themselves and each other.

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The Education

PROFESSIONALS

By Kelly Vetter Photos Patti Hartog

Meet a seasoned professional and an up-and-coming Dr. Lilly Massa-McKinley earned her bachelor’s degree in sociology from Wake Forest University, a master’s in student affairs administration from Indiana University, and her doctorate in higher education leadership and policy from Vanderbilt University. While she has held a variety of positions during her career, she has always had a passion for working with students through counseling and activism. Now serving as the director of career development at Bellarmine University, she works with the 55,000 Degrees organization as the collaboration coordinator, helping to address barriers in accessible and retainable education. As a mother of three who is just finishing her fourth academic year in her role at Bellarmine, Lilly is using her experience and devotion to guide her students through career development.

THE MASTER: DR. LILLY MASSA-MCKINLEY, ED.D. What drew you to your current position?

“I was an activist and an idealist who wanted to help others but wasn’t sure exactly how to do it. I was passionate about a variety of social justice issues and found my first professional job at the University of Montana as a crisis counselor and advocate for survivors of sexual assault and relationship violence. It was during this wonderful professional opportunity that I realized there was a whole field dedicated to supporting students through their college experiences, and I wanted to be a part of it.”

Did you always plan on education?

“Education has been a consistent theme in my personal and professional life. Since middle school I’ve worked and volunteered as a Vacation Bible School teacher, camp counselor, and summer school teacher. But I never would have guessed that I’d be the director of a career center at a university!”

What is your favorite part about your job?

“My favorite week of the year is commencement week. As a university we celebrate with students after years of hard work, we hear about their exciting plans for what lies ahead, and we share with them in reminiscing about their incredible experiences as a student. It is the culmination of so much hard work on behalf of the students and on behalf of the Career Development Center.”

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What advice would you give to young women who want to succeed in your field?

“I have a lot of mantras which help me figure out where to spend my time and energy. ‘Start small, think big, aim high’ inspires me to take the first step even when the goal seems far away.”

professional in the world of higher learning.

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“As the career development coordinator at Spalding University, Kimberly Palmore found joy in assisting students with the last step of their college career: career advising. After earning her bachelor’s degree in psychology and a Master of Education in mental health counseling from the University of Louisville, Palmore found herself working at Jefferson Community and Technical College as the advising coordinator. While working in advising and teaching at the same time earning her degrees, she developed a passion for assisting students with researching career options and writing resumes. She never expected to be in the higher education field, but fate brought her to Spalding, and she looks forward to a flourishing career in higher education and career development.

THE NEXT: KIMBERLY PALMORE Are you surprised at your career?

“Being a first generation college student I didn’t even know that an academic advisor or counselor was a career option until I was in college and needing the guidance and direction myself. I often say I stumbled into it, but it really is a great fit for my particular set of counseling skills and people skills. I remember being in my master’s program and taking a career counseling class. All of my classmates thought it was nowhere near as interesting as diagnosis and treatment, but I loved it. That should have been my first clue that I probably wasn’t going to end up practicing as a therapist.”

What are your long-term professional goals?

“Long term, I would love to grow the office of career development at Spalding. Currently I am the only person solely dedicated to career development here, and I would like the demand for services to grow so much that we need more employees and a bigger space. I want to grow internship programs here with more partnerships and easier access for students. I think eventually, several years down the road, I would like to create my own career service consulting business.”

What is your favorite part about your job?

“My favorite part of my job is to see the stress

melt away from students who have been struggling. They leave a little lighter and a little more confident about their process. Then I’ll get a call or email from them telling me they have interviews or just accepted a position.

Knowing I was part of the process and helped them to get there is very rewarding.”

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27 THINGS (Why 27? Because we are 27 years old!)

Happenings, news, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month

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By Anita Oldham

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When we went searching for outdoor spaces, we found Adam Arrington, president and general manager of Jefferson Animal Hospitals, who lives in a two-bedroom apartment in the Omni Hotel downtown.

A NEW WAY TO GET AROUND TOWN We found a new fun way to discover the city — three different city tours are available from the Bourbon City Cruisers and last 2.5 to 3 hours. Each tour also includes a wristband that unlocks perks, discounts, and specialty drinks at partner locations around Louisville.

The wall of windows covering the majority of his living room provides a spacious, open atmosphere whether he’s sitting on the couch or cooking a meal in the connecting kitchen.

His bedroom and living room share a long balcony that faces the waterfront. Whether he is watching a storm brewing in the distance, getting a live update of the traffic, or enjoying the fireworks from Louisville Slugger Field, Adam is constantly surrounded by exciting entertainment. “It’s my wallpaper,” he says.

— Quinn Fitzgerald

k 3. The Omni also has a rooftop pool on the 16th floor, which is accompanied by a gas fireplace, dining both indoors and outdoors, and abundant space for residents to enjoy.

The common space can be reserved by residents wanting to plan events for friends, family, and colleagues.

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NEW PLACES TO GO Attend Opening Night of the new Old Forester’s Paristown Hall in the Paristown neighborhood of Louisville on July 23.

You will see Trombone Shorty & Orleans Avenue with Pilobolus, Mucca Pazza and Ben Sollee, $60 at Kentuckycenter.org.

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Or buy tickets for July 25 LUCERO WITH LYDIA LOVELESS General Admission in advance $25

A premium ticket includes express entry into venue and access to balcony lounge with private bathroom and full bar service.

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6-16. HEAD TO THE FAIRGROUNDS FOR THE KENTUCKY STATE FAIR CONCERT SERIES (presented by GenCanna and Texas Roadhouse)

August 15 M ontgomery Gentry featuring Eddie Montgomery with special guests Exile and Layla Spring August 16 Sheila E with special guest The Gap Experience August 17 B lack Stone Cherry, Tyler Bryant & The Shakedown and The Josephines August 18 T he Oak Ridge Boys with special guest Lee Greenwood August 19 KING & COUNTRY with special guest Young Escape August 20 H erman’s Hermits starring Peter Noone with special guests Gary Lewis and the Playboys, and Mitch Ryder August 21 G ranger Smith featuring Earl Dibbles Jr. with special guest Brandon Lay August 22 lovelytheband with special guest The Mowgli’s August 23 D ylan Scott and Mitchell Tenpenny with special guest Jake Rose August 24 Vince Neil of Mötley Crüe with special guest KIX August 25 Lauren Daigle with special guest AHI

HANG OUT IN AN ALLEY 17-18. ARE YOU LOOKING FOR SOMEWHERE NEW TO EXPLORE? Check out how some local alleyways are turning into courtyard-type areas.

m We found another alley in New Albany that also houses Quill’s Coffee Shop.

m Our cover photo of Angella Wilson was taken at the alley along Mercury Ballroom and painted by the artist group Often Seen Rarely Spoken.

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27 THINGS BOURBON WOMEN! In connection 19 with this issue’s drinks feature, we spoke with Sara Barnes, Bourbon Women Association’s new managing director. Bourbon Women Association is the nation’s first female-focused, bourbonlovers organization, and Sara is already fulfilling her plans to grow its name and mission of educating people about bourbon and empowering women along the way.

TW: What made you take on this position?

Sara: I had been in the craft distilling world for a little over three years, and I’ve always been active in Bourbon Women. I loved that we can do things and let our membership have experiences that normal groups and clubs don’t always have access to.

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TW: Why should people participate in your annual SIPosium conference?

Sara: I remember my first time, and for me it’s the feeling of going somewhere where everyone who is there has the same like mindedness, the same love and hunger for more information and education on all things bourbon. For me, there is no other greater place than Louisville to do that. Our distillery partners are fantastic.

I really think that if somebody is an expert in bourbon or a complete novice and wants to learn, everything there is for everyone.

20. You can join in on the SIPosium Conference at the Seelbach Hilton Hotel, August 23-25. For more information on the SIPosium Conference, visit: bourbonwomen.org — Quinn Fitzgerald

22. A Beer from Against the Grain has a crisp, dry, and refreshing taste with citrus aromatics. Pair it with fried foods, grilled meats, and hot dogs.

Atgbrewery.com 23. Sandy and Jim Wight, owners of Wight-Meyer Vineyards and Winery, make Kentucky Diamond Wine, a light, crisp, fruity wine. Pair it with a salad, fruit, or other lightweight food. “The wine tastes like grapes freshly picked from the vine,” Sandy says. https://wight-meyervineyards.com/

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Gather your girlfriends and head to the third annual Misters for MS event for a night of dancing on July 20, 6:30pm at The Marriott Downtown Louisville. As part of the event, 10 handsome bachelors will present some auction items, which include VIP bourbon experiences and a halter worn

by Triple-Crown winner Justify. After the silent auction, stay for the after-party featuring music from The Decades, an 8-piece classic rock, soul and R&B band.

Proceeds from the event will benefit the Tickets $65 Contact MistersforMS.org Kentucky-Southeast Indiana Chapter of the Multiple Sclerosis Society.

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TW: What values or aspects of BWA attracted you the most?

Sara: It is important to me to empower women and network

with women in the industry, not in the industry, and in our own backyard. To have a voice for women in the industry and for the love of bourbon.

In an issue where we focus on drinks, many of them alcoholic, we want to mention The Mocktail Project (themocktailproject.com), a local non-profit that works to create safer, more inclusive social spaces where mocktails and cocktails co-exist.

Join us at the Derby City Jazz Festival on August 9-10 at Churchill Downs.

This year, the festival will also focus on creating awareness in personal health and wellness by focusing on how to achieve a high quality of life after age 50. A special panel discussion will feature national speaker Donna Richardson.

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Because of a story Today’s Woman wrote about Melissa Draut two years ago, she was put in contact with a Gilda’s Club support group. That group was determined to bring a sarcoma race to Louisville. So on August 17, the city of Louisville is hosting The Race to Cure Sarcoma – Louisville 5K Walk/Run and fundraiser in partnership with the Sarcoma Foundation of America.

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OUTDOOR Living Photos by Melissa Donald

Move outside and live in the present moment of summer. We found some local inspiration to help you create a lovely, outdoor oasis.

Read more about the Omniâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s residential space on page 24.

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Find more inspiration from our home advisors: Bliss Home: blisshomefurniture.com (p. 41) Digs Home & Garden: digshomeandgarden.com (p.31) Eleet Stone Countertops: eleetstone.com (p.39) Watson’s: watsons.com (p. 35) W•R Realtors: wrrealtors.com (p. 37)

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Get the look: Red pillows, Wendy Jane by Summer Classics; wicker chair by Kingsley Bate Furniture; blue chairs by Lane Venture; table and wood chair by Summer Classics; rug by Company C. Available at Digs Home and Garden.

INSPIRATION FOR AN OUTDOOR OASIS Photos by Melissa Donald

olorful pillows, sleek furniture, and a little creativity can go a long way toward creating an outdoor space you and your friends will love. We turned to the experts at Digs Home and Garden in St. Matthews to find some inspiration.

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Living Beautifully IN A NOT-SO-SECRET GARDEN

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From her perch just beyond the tree canopy of Cherokee Road, you might find Wendy Sirchio and her family quietly observing the happenings of their community. While birds chatter and squirrels devise plans to siege the bird feeder’s bounty that hangs from a massive magnolia, Wendy watches mothers push strollers, young lovers hold hands, and life happen.

Just a block from the bustle of Bardstown Road, this urban oasis provides a sanctuary amidst the cacophony of the city — a not-so-secret “Secret Garden” where the family can simultaneously retreat from and be immersed in the interconnectivity of their community.

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“If you aren’t really looking, you wouldn’t even know we are here”, Wendy Sirchio says.

<<PAGE 33 This is a front yard garden, meant to provide protection and peace for the Sirchios, a space where the family can relax. But no fences partition off the beauty — this space is meant to be shared with those who stroll by.

“I wanted a place that lets you be part of the community and protected from the goings-on. Before, there were two skinny sidewalks and a lot of bad grass.

We wanted to create an environment full of plants conducive to all types of lighting. Something that would look neat but be natural and diverse — a place that would welcome bees and butterflies. It benefits our surrounding community, not just us,” Wendy says, sitting beneath a towering willow oak.

“There is something so beautiful and so simple about green,” Wendy says about her preference for plants over flowers.

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close to the soil with their dark, rounded juniper-colored leaves. Varieties of ferns, with their wispy fronds, flash their copper-green colors as the wind blows.

Emerald-hued hostas stretch out their waxy plumage, showing the bed who is boss. The giant magnolia looks over the copper beech and Japanese maple — a monochromatic masterpiece.

The beds are bordered by limestone — a material used 120 years ago to frame parts of the home. So although the grounds are new, they flow seamlessly with the historical aesthetics of the neighborhood.

Wendy’s idea of living beautifully can be symbolized in this space: support the community and nature, leave things better than you found them, and do what you can to make a quiet impact. As co-founder of WE Day Kentucky, Wendy has worked with countless youth across the city, since 2012, to organize service learning projects. Each April, all students that have given back to the community earn a ticket to a celebration at the Kentucky Center for the Arts. This past

April, service brought more than 400 schools around the state together for WE Day. “The WE Day movement is all about if you want to make a change, you have to start with yourself. We help young people help the community.”

Before WE Day, Wendy was a foreign diplomat for 13 years and had the chance to live and work in places like Nairobi. However, sitting beneath the tree in her urban oasis, you would never know of her feats. Flash and arrogance are not welcome here — there exudes an ambiance of understated taste, of humility, of community. In fact, that detail only arose because she said she liked rocks (something like, “I like rocks.

When I came back from Kenya, I had a suitcase full of rocks I collected…”).

This not-so-secret front garden is where Wendy and her clan like to live beautifully. “We are a fairly quiet family.

You can walk by and enjoy the plants and trees from the sidewalk, but if you aren’t really looking, you wouldn’t even know we are here.”

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By Bobbe Ann Crouch Photos by Melissa Donald

It shouldn’t be a secret to anyone that Louisville and Southern Indiana offer an abundance of outstanding local places to dine outdoors.

Whether in the mood

ROMANTIC Napa River Grill 1211 Herr Lane Louisville

Step onto the patio of Napa River Grill, and the California wine country inspiration is evident. The charm starts with a thriving vineyard, beautiful sculpture, and loads of umbrella-covered seating.

(In chilly weather, there are heaters, comfy blankets, and fire tables to provide warmth and additional ambiance).

Strings of lights crisscross the patio and the area feels relaxed yet upscale, which is a perfect setting for a romantic evening.

The menu is Northern California meets Pacific-Rim, and dishes are made with local and regional seasonal ingredients. To make the flavors pop even more, enjoy a glass of champagne or Fumé Blanc. Also try the Baked Goat Cheese, which comes fresh from the grill with two huge hunks of sliced housemade country wheat bread.

for a romantic evening, a fun night out, or a quirky, other-worldly experience in alfresco dining, Kentuckiana’s got you covered.

The bread is also the perfect host for the warm savory goat cheese topped with diced Brunoise pepperoni and tomato powder and for the fresh basil pesto. Ask your server to suggest a wine to pair with your choices, as Napa River Grill (which is located in Westfront Village in Louisville) has one of Louisville’s largest awardwinning wine offerings. We found the Baked Goat Cheese to be delicious with a glass of Sonoma Cutrer Chardonnay.

The seasonal dinner menu is vast and offers something for everyone, from fresh seafood to pasta, vegetable pad Thai (add shrimp if you like), and the indulgent Blackhawk American Wagyu Steak.

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The Ahi Nachos are shareable bites of diced Ahi tuna, cucumber slaw, sesame soy vinaigrette, and wasabi aioli all atop fresh house-made wonton chips.

FUN FACT: When you eat at Napa River Grill, the table is served a small cast iron skillet of fresh cornbread topped with melting butter. It’s a delicious alternative to the traditional bread basket.

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The Exchange Pub & Kitchen 118 W. Main St. New Albany Originally built in 1875 as Shrader Stable and Livery, The Exchange Pub & Kitchen in New Albany came to life in 2012 as an inviting, casual neighborhood gastropub with an array of dining options. Included is an 85-seat indoor/outdoor courtyard and patio bar.

The courtyard decor is industrial chic with exposed brick, black wrought iron gates, and lots of high-end outdoor seating. The perimeter is lined with four-top tables with umbrellas to shield the sun. A retractable awning spans the center, covering the inviting L-shaped couches, complete with end tables and a round fire pit in the center — perfect seating for a friends’ night out. Adjacent to the outdoor bar are high-topped tables, also with umbrellas. White string lights add another level of warmth and hospitality, but it’s the view across Main Street that steals the show.

It’s easy to see why this place was selected the best New Albany restaurant in 2017 and 2018 — everything is locally sourced, and scratch ingredients are the focus.

A popular starter is the Goat Cheese Fritters, a blend of goat cheese, Panko, bacon date aioli, and smoked honey. Pair this with the specialty cocktail, “The Grocery,” a cucumber-infused vodka with blackberry puree, and you have a perfect patio combination. For dinner, try the New Albany Hot Brown, which features fried chicken, corn cakes, fried green tomato, and Benton’s bacon cheddar Mornay sauce. Enjoy it with a Falls City Exchange Rate, a brown ale brewed especially for the restaurant.

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FUN FACT: It took over eight months to rehab this space.

Repurposing with original and salvaged materials was the focus of the construction. The owners hope you take the time to walk inside to look around and see all of the architectural elements, especially the original steel beam trusses that span the length of the building. Plans are in the works to expand outward and upward.

Live music starts at 7 pm, and on Sunday there is music all day. The patio is also dog friendly, and The Exchange sometimes hosts dog-related events.

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The outside courtyard, “The Gralegarten,” is flanked on one side with a living wall of growing vines that insulate it from the outside world. On another side, stacked rows of plants and herbs climb up the side of the building. A third wall houses backlit stained glass windows poised over a fireplace and other religious icons that have been transformed into beautiful planters.

Holy Grale 1034 Bardstown Road Louisville

In the category of “quirky other worldly experiences” lives Holy Grale, the Bardstown Road pub that in 1905 was a Unitarian church. Here you can taste a heavenly variety of everchanging beers from all over the world. At the same time dine on Southern-styled, classic European dishes made with seasonal local ingredients. It’s a craft beer bar with a tiny selection of wines and ciders and an ever-changing menu.

If craft beer is your idol, this is the definitive place to worship with a four-page menu of nothing but choices. With 27 craft beers on tap and 80+ bottled beers, including some ciders, Holy Grale offers every beer you’ve ever wanted to try and tons you’ve never heard of. Voted Best Beer Bar in America

by Draft Magazine, the staff is knowledgeable and happy to help with suggestions and pairings.

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of frietjes, which are hand-cut double fried potatoes that come with a choice of nine sauces. Did you know that the sweetness of the potato is enhanced by the malts in beer? Try the Ola Dubh 12-Year Special Reserve (it’s on tap right now) and see what you think.

FUN FACT: Every Wednesday and Thursday through September 27, the Gralegarten hosts “Hot Sünner Nights,” which is a celebration of Cologne, Germany. Sünner, the first brewer of Kölsch, is served in authentic trays and glassware observing the Cologne tradition of bottomless glasses. Check its website for further details.

The Monks Feast, which is basically a charcuterie platter featuring local meats, cheeses, house pickles, and accoutrements, is also a great shareable starter. This pairs well with many of the beers, but try the Taras Boulba, which is also on tap.

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THE CAMBODIAN BREEZE To start, you simply make tea. For every 8 oz of boiling water, add 1 teaspoon of dried pea flowers and 1 tablespoon of honey.

Stir well and allow to steep for about 20 minutes. Remove the flowers and chill the tea until it’s ice cold.

Once your tea is chilled, pour 3/4 of a cup into a glass with ice, preferably one large cube so that it melts slowly and doesn’t dilute your drink. Add 1.5 oz. of vodka or gin.

Now for the fun, stir in 3 tablespoons of fresh lime juice and watch the color change! k For Madeleine’s cocktail creation, Melanie Miller, co-owner of Hyland Glass, provided their HiBall glass, Weighted Rocks Glass, and their Mix n’Pitch pitcher. To watch this cocktail being prepared, check out the July episode of Easy Elegance on YouTube.

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vibrantly-colored tea. Now that I’m home, I order mine from Amazon so I can prepare magical drinks, including my creation The Cambodian Breeze.

Kick back with your exotic refreshment. It’s simple, elegant, and no one has to know how easy it was.

Madeleine Dee (AKA The Seasoned Cynic) is the resident chef of Logan Street Market and the owner of Fond, Fond Originals, and Bold Bird Productions.

Melanie Miller co-owns Hyland Glass with her husband, Casey.

They offer pieces of art, custom sculptures, classes, and private events in Butchertown. Melanie is a contemporary artist, currently working with glass, plastic, and mixed resins. This fall the Millers will be opening a Hyland Glass (HylandGlass.com) retail space next to their studio at 721 East Washington St.

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WHY SHE THINKS YOGA CAN CHANGE YOUR FAMILY

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estled in the often from parents heart of St. after they’ve done yoga Matthews in with their kids is that the back corner of after months of not a beautiful, naturecommunicating with filled office park lives more than one word an oasis of peace and answers, the kids open understanding for up and actually talk all Louisville’s youth and the way home!” families.

OMies Yoga Studio OMies Yoga Studio opened its doors to the is the brainchild of public in October 2018.

Rachel Story. She In addition to Rachel, never set out to there are 12 instructors own and operate teaching kid classes, Louisville’s first and teen classes, prenatal only youth- and classes, family classes, family-centered workshops, and camps. yoga studio, yet it’s “The name ‘OMies’ growing, thriving, came from my kids,” and creating Rachel says, “We liked empowerment daily. it because we say ‘OM’ Seven years ago, before and after each a child she knew class. It’s a form of and loved was unity. ‘OM’ is symbolic experiencing internal of all of the sounds of troubles that needed the universe. In yoga, attention. Rachel we come from a variety wasn’t comfortable of places, talents and hearing about the beliefs, but we all generalized diagnosis come together for one that suggested practice.” medication. “We really Inside the studio are such a ‘quickwritten in large letters fix-it America,’” she across the blackboard says. Instead, Rachel is a saying that speaks researched, studied, to this: “Come as you and learned that yoga are, not as you think and mindfulness could you should be.” Rachel Photo by Patti Hartog OMies Yoga is Louisville’s first youth- and family-centered yoga studio. possibly help. “I ended Story didn’t set out to up traveling to New York become a Yogi or a yoga at different nonprofits such as to help calm anxiety, improve where I became certified in studio owner. The fact that she Gilda’s Club and Home of the concentration, and gain teaching yoga to children. In my wasn’t attached to an idea of Innocents,” she says. “The confidence. “Medication is first class I didn’t even know all what her life was supposed to whole time I was still working over-prescribed as a quick fix the poses, but I loved it! Before be like enabled her to change my regular job, and my kids when often children and youth long I was certified to teach courses in order to fulfill what each participated in other just need to learn to selfyoga to special needs children, she now knows is an important activities as well.” regulate. Yoga can provide autistic children, ADHD need. “It’s work that doesn’t Over time, Rachel started these tools,” says Rachel, who children — all children.” feel like work,” she says. to see positive changes in received positive feedback After Rachel became “A child who learns yoga, the people she was teaching from parents and teachers of certified, she held mindfulness, and relaxation regularly, especially the her students. neighborhood yoga classes will be developing essential child who prompted it all.

“I was seeing such positive in her driveway on Saturday skills for a lifetime of health She realized that through changes all around, especially mornings. “At night, I would and wellness in mind, body, practicing yoga the children in the case of family yoga. One take my kids and go teach yoga and spirit.” were developing natural tools of the comments I hear most

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TO LISTEN OR NOT TO LISTEN focus, and selective attention it’s going to take,” he says.

There are studies exploring how classical music could be an his is the question puzzling researchers wanting to exception because it doesn’t contain lyrics. “If you’re focusing on know whether music improves concentration. For Grant the lyrics and what’s going on in the song, you’re probably not as Gohmann, the proof is in his playlist. focused on the words you’re studying or whatever you’re trying Californication by the Red Hot Chili Peppers, Day and Night by Kid to prepare for,” Chad says. “The problem is most students, when Cudi, and Earthquake by Tyler, the Creator are just a few songs you they listen to music, that’s not the type of music they’re listening can find on Grant’s studying playlist. to when they’re trying to study.”

Grant uses music to study about three hours a week and says it’s Ben Taylor, a music teacher at Western High School, great for tasks like filling out reading guides for AP U.S. history — recommends music without lyrics. The words, he says, pull assignments that require less focus. attention away when trying to concentrate. “The less Considering he will be a senior in high school, Grant distractions you have, the better,” he says.

“IF YOU’RE knows a thing or two about how to study, which is why But when Grant is listening to his alternative rock he knows when to hit pause on his music. Grant FOCUSING ON or downbeat hip hop music, especially while he’s says he never has music on while studying for studying, he’s not listening to the lyrics. “It’s THE LYRICS . . . YOU’RE quizzes or tests. “Music takes my concentration more about the feel of the song and the beat,” PROBABLY NOT AS away from the information I’m studying, so I he says.

FOCUSED ON THE WORDS don’t find it beneficial for large tests,” he says.

Because of how generations are changing and YOU’RE STUDYING OR Playing music is simply a way to keep Grant becoming more technology-driven, Chad would WHATEVER YOU’RE from getting bored. “When you’re going to be like to see more research on music and its effects TRYING TO bored, then yes, it does increase productivity.” on concentration.

PREPARE FOR.” Some research, however, suggests listening to “I think we’re seeing more and more kids attempt music while trying to concentrate is actually not a good to study with music,” Chad says. “Music, social media, idea. Chad Clunie, AP psychology teacher at Floyd Central and technology are such a big part of kids’ lives today. It’s High School, says one reason is selective attention: focusing on not to say the current research does not support it. There may one thing over another. On one hand, selective attention allows very well be nuances of it. There may be examples where music people to tune out other conversations while paying attention to is very beneficial to study. We just don’t know it yet because it’s a the conversation they are having. On the other hand, it’s also the relatively new trend in education and in our society.” reason people can miss certain things happening around them, Proven negative studying habits Ben and Chad recommend or, like in Grant’s case, become distracted by the important task in students avoid are cramming the night before an exam and studying front of them. in a room with lots of noise and distractions. Instead, Grant Whether music helps a person concentrate, Chad says, depends suggests students reinforce the learned material several nights on how challenging the material is. “The more difficult something before the test and complete their homework as soon as possible. is to prepare for, the more complex it is, and the more cognition, “Doing things last minute, that’s what doesn’t help learning.”

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CALMING THE (FAMILY LAW) STORM

By A. Holland Houston

THE SITUATION: You probably know a couple like this: the individual partners are fun, charming, and easygoing on their own, but together they mix like a match and gasoline.

ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES (ACES) (an incomplete and surface summary): A child who experiences parental alcoholism, drug and other addiction, his, her, or their child abuse or sexual abuse and/or domestic violence, and a child who grows up with parents engaged in high conflict, will carry the experience into their teenage years and adulthood and engage in destructive patterns of relationships. Teen pregnancy, a repetition of a parent’s violent intimate relationships, or their own abuse, academic difficulty, job instability, and drug and alcohol addiction are likely outcomes for people who had ACEs. High conflict parenting is the single greatest predictor of children who exhibit their own destructive behavior, according to a 2016 article in Family Law Quarterly.

The drama and chaos may include domestic violence, spiteful calls to the police for “well checks” when the kids are with the other parent, social media commentary about how terrible and defective the partner or ex partner is, and endless complaints to family and friends about the other’s faults. The sturm and drang these partners generate is generally accompanied by zero action to change themselves or their situation for the better.

THE ANSWER: I tell clients who are immersed in these dramatic living situations that they can choose to be their own best friend or their own worst enemy. The law can provide rules, structure, and consequences for parties stuck in destructive patterns of engagement, but it can’t live with you and monitor your relationships. If you cringe from dread each time you have to engage with your ex partner, that might be a good indication it’s time to seek a more beneficial way to communicate.

Unfortunately, choosing not to communicate at all isn’t an option for co-parents.

The good news is lawyers, counselors, and coaches can probably suggest boundaries for communication, as well as methods to foster more peaceful and cooperative engagement.

What you have to decide is that your present and future sanity and peace of mind are more important to you than making your partner or ex suffer. When you ponder that decision, by yourself, with a trusted other or even in prayer, think about the impact of high conflict parenting on kids (see ACE sidebar) and the inflammation anger and resentment trigger in your body. Know that you can make a different choice.

Holland Houston is a local family court lawyer and a mediator with more than 20 years of experience.

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WHY FAMILY TIME AT KENTUCKY SHAKESPEARE IS OUR THING

By Tonilyn Hornung

“...my son is glued to his seat for every emotional moment...”

You can check out the free SHAKESPEARE FESTIVAL IN CENTRAL PARK this summer through August 4. The season features seven different productions. For more information, go to kyshakespeare.com.

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he lightning bugs are blinking through the trees, but on this lovely summer evening my 5-year-old isn’t chasing fireflies. He has barely noticed the scenery around him because he’s too riveted by the scenery in front of him. The Kentucky Shakespeare Festival plays to everyone in the house, bringing free comedy and tragedy to Old Louisville’s Central Park, and my son is glued to his seat for every emotional moment.

“The themes we’re performing in these plays are timeless,” says Matt Wallace, the producing artistic director of Kentucky Shakespeare. Love, friendship, and loyalty are just a few topics that kept my 5-year-old motionless on the bench between his dad and me. He watched with an attention so fierce that I thought he might jump on stage and save the heroine himself.

“Timeless characters make it all understandable to watch and absorb,” Matt says.

When my family and I first arrived, we were greeted by friendly ushers and the promise of ice cream at intermission. I figured if my son (or his dad) needed to stretch his legs we could take a quick stroll around the park. “The beauty of Central Park is there, and you can go for a walk and still watch the show,” Matt says. Then I started to understand that even though my kid may not understand the heightened language of a 400-year-old Shakespeare play, the feelings in the story need no translation.

His heart quickly connected to the identifiable emotions with which Shakespeare imbues his characters.

“Live theater is interactive,” Matt says.”It’s where anything can happen. Being able to see yourself up on the stage and learning from what happens are all ways theater can help a child develop empathy.” I sometimes find it tricky explaining all those complex feelings in a way a kid can grasp, and live theater connected my kid to his own emotional makeup, so he could see aspects of himself in the characters on stage. What a great way for him to expand his world—and all from the safely of his own seat!

After the show, our family discussed the play and talked about each character’s feelings. I loved hearing my son’s thoughts about why characters made the choices they did as he searched his own emotions to come up with answers. Admittedly, it was much deeper than we’d ever gone while watching Paw Patrol.

I’m always on the lookout for unique ways to spend time together with my family, and Kentucky Shakespeare gives us that memorable experience. “We try to make it accessible with child specific arts activities, and also it’s free — and fun!” Matt says.

Kentucky Shakespeare has been performing since 1960. “It’s amazing how many families I’ve seen grow up at Kentucky Shakespeare,” Matt says, and we hope to be one of them. There’s a magic that’s achieved by the alchemy of a lovely setting and great performances, with all of this made merry by the creativity of the master himself: William Shakespeare.

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ON THE COVER (page 45): For his senior session, Noah Ruzanka wanted to showcase his personality through a unique skill not many have seen or share. He lake surfs. “For this photo, we went out to the lake and I photographed him from the boat,” says Photographer Tammy Howell. “Having him wear the suit added yet another creative element!”

Photographer Tammy Howell likes to capture students such as Gabe Lawrence, pictured here, in photos themed after the activities they enjoy.

Photo by Tammy Howell

A PHOTO FINISH Photo by Kerri Richardson-Cheng

By Malia Jacobson

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arenthood’s days are long, but its years are short. These days, both seem shorter than ever.

Today’s families juggle so much that weeks — even years — can slip past in a blur of playdates, soccer games, and school events, says Family Coach Susan Smith Kuczmarski, author of Becoming a Happy Family. With our brains in a near-constant state of information overload, sweet moments you want to remember — kids running down the stairs on Christmas morning, a child’s pride after a stellar piano recital — can quickly become buried in a landslide of emails, updates, and social media posts.

We can’t stop time, of course. But modern parents can be intentional about creating and preserving family memories, not only for themselves, but for their children, even future grandchildren. Make capturing memories part of your everyday routine, and your future self will thank you.

When Mallory Cheng (5) was a toddler, her aggressive way of eating became a source of amusement for her parents, Kerri and Eric. “We thought it was just a phase, but when it continued on, we decided to start documenting it,” Kerri says. Knowing that relatives are often inundated with family photos, the Chengs opted to create a “Mallory Eats” calendar, which highlights the best (and funniest) photos each year. “At first we just did it for family, but it’s so entertaining that now we are getting requests from others!” Photo coordination and captions by Bobbe Crouch

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EARLY YEARS 0-5 Photo finish Long-term memory of events and scenes develops later in childhood, around age 7 or beyond, according to researchers from Emory University. While babies are building those brain cells, help build a stockpile of treasured memories — one that won’t get lost in your social media photo feed. To capture the remarkable growth in the early weeks of life, try taking a photo in the same spot each day for a month, then creating a collage or video with your phone’s editing software.

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Jaime Brown of J.A. Brown Studios (jabrownstudios.com) in Simpsonville, Kentucky, says, “A project such as a family session is always a collaboration between photographer and client. In this case, Esther Foster wanted something new, so she made all three of her girls these adorable white outfits.

After we talked about location ideas, we made it come to life. I think the biggest tip I can give when wanting creative photos is communication. Be thorough in communicating your ideas and your vision with your photographer.”

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newborn babies change so quickly, capturing the itty-bitty stage means scheduling photos in the first two weeks of life. That means the best time to schedule a photo session is during pregnancy, says Becca Robinson, a newborn and family photographer in Raleigh, North Carolina. But if you never got around to scheduling, check with local photographers for last-minute availability. Most newborn photographers love brand-new babies (no big surprise!) and will often try to fit yours in.

ELEMENTARY YEARS 6-12 Tammy Howell of Tammy Howell Seniors (tammyhowellseniors.com) offers a package called “Rep Team,” where she provides multiple photo sessions and themes throughout a student’s senior year.n“This gives a really nice cross reference of the entire senior year,” Tammy says. “I incorporate more traditional photos in addition to the aspirations and activities the student wants to focus on.”

Pictured is Sydney Colvin.

Photo by Tammy Howell

TEEN YEARS 13-18 Artfully yours Your teen’s phone is probably full of selfies, but what about keepsakes of a more artistic variety? Teens’ budding sense of self-expression can fuel a surge of creativity that begs to be captured in the form of tangible artwork. Spend an hour or two at a local pottery painting store creating colorful, useful pieces you’ll keep for years. Or pick up a large blank canvas or two along with inexpensive acrylic paint and brushes at a local art supply store and ask your teen to create some new artwork for the family room or dining room.

For family fun with beautiful (or at least, amusing) results, give the popular “paint and sip” parties a family-style makeover: appoint the most creative family member as the instructor, tasked with leading the rest of the family in creating individual masterpieces step-by-step while “sipping” hot chocolate or cider. Soak in the memories as the creativity flows — and snap a few photos for posterity.

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Pen pals Photos aren’t the only meaningful mementos from childhood. Letters, cards, and school assignments can help capture kids’ written words, providing a treasured window into their developing personalities. Hand-written letters are trending as families rediscover written letters to stay connected.

Favorite characters or fictional icons make great pen pals, too. Asking kids to post letters to fabled characters like the Tooth Fairy or Santa — which caregivers can then spirit away for storage — captures kids’ earliest wishes and wonderings on paper. And encouraging a habit of regular journaling, whether in a spiralbound sketch pad or a locked diary, helps kids learn to preserve their own memories for their own enjoyment and recollection. Setting aside around 15 minutes a few times each week for “reflections” lets kids preserve the small daily moments from their own unique perspective.

Malia Jacobson is a health and parenting journalist and mom of three.

WHY I LOVE MY SCHOOL alking into Assumption’s doors for the first time was just as exciting as it was nervewracking. Surrounded by so many new people, I was excited for the change high school would bring but I was also afraid of the unknown: Would I be liked? Would I be accepted? Would I find my place?

I look back on my first day at Assumption, at my insecure freshman-self, and feel a spark of warmth in my heart. So innocent, she knew not what was to come.

She did not know that in just four short years she would be transformed into the strong, driven girl that she had always envisioned herself to be.

Assumption was the guiding hand that enabled me to transform into the girl that I am today and for this I am forever grateful. This place, this school, this home on 2170 Tyler Lane, is where teachers become not only your role models but your friends, where girls are taught that nothing is impossible, and where being “weird” is not only accepted but encouraged. It is this place that I can say has inspired “happy tears.” For it is here I have been able to become an AP student, a world traveler, a passionate, driven athlete, a friend, a light, a rose: the girl I aspired to be.

I am certain that if I had gone to any other school, I would not recognize the girl I see in the mirror every single day. The girl who loves waking up to see her

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BY SOFIA CLEMENTS | ASSUMPTION HIGH SCHOOL classmates, the girl who has a passion for culture, the girl who strives to be the light in the room, the girl who knows that her beauty is not her currency, and that she is more than enough just the way she is. Without Assumption, the girl I see when I look in the mirror every day would yet to be seen — still hiding behind insecurity and the fear of not being enough. Assumption has helped me to discover my worth. At Assumption I know that my successes will be celebrated and I’ll be lent a hand when I may fail.

Assumption teaches excellence within the classroom and so much more. Every person who walks in Assumption’s doors makes up a beautiful community that has taught me to do the best for myself and others, to go the extra mile, and to find that there are no limits.

Now, reflecting upon my time at Assumption, I find the ways that I have grown almost unbelievable. I have been able to achieve so much and have found family at Assumption High School. As my time at Assumption comes to an end, I am broken-hearted to say goodbye to my second home. But I cannot help but feel a sense of pride for all that Assumption is and all that it stands for.

I leave reassured, knowing that the lucky girls who still have time left at Assumption will continue its legacy of empowering young women and that I will always have a home in the halls of Assumption High School.

Why I Love My School Essay Winner Sofia Clements

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By Carrie Vittitoe Photos by Erika Doll

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Time to Move For some people, the idea of moving into a retirement community evokes memories from childhood of visiting a sick grandparent in a nursing home. The images our brains conjure may be dark or shadowy. We may remember hospital-type beds and a disinfectant aroma. It is for this reason that seniors may be hesitant to even consider the possibility of moving into a retirement community.

Being a senior in the 21st century doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t look like what it did in the 1960s and â&#x20AC;&#x2122;70s, nor do the places where seniors are now choosing to live. Being an older adult can be the most freeing and fun time of our lives. Independent living retirement communities, including Brownsboro Park, Lake Forest Village, and The Forum at Brookside, are structured to satisfy the needs of modern seniors who are focused on independence and engagement.

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our experts

“We offer all levels of care, which is valuable to couples who don’t want to be on separate campuses.”

KATHY EMBRY Sales Director The Forum at Brookside

“Our welcoming committee of residents is incredible, and they aren’t even an official group. They take new residents under their wings to show them the ropes, ask them to dinner, or give them a tutorial on the washing machines.”

KELLI TYLER Executive Director Brownsboro Park

“We have a community store run by Prospect Pharmacy as well as a salon. All of these resources are under one roof as [residents] age in place.”

DALE MOWERY Live-in Manager Lake Forest Village

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WHY MOVE? The reasons for moving into an independent living community are as varied as the people who live in them. Some people move because they have lost a spouse. “Many people desire socialization. Often their social circle has diminished, and they find themselves lonely and isolated,” says Kathy Embry, sales director at The Forum at Brookside.

Some seniors move because they are physically unable to do home maintenance and lawn care, while others move because they no longer want to deal with these responsibilities.

“Here at Lake Forest Village, we have created a lifestyle where you can spend your time doing the things you want to do and not spend your time with all of the things you feel you have to do like cooking, cleaning, yard work, and paying bills,” says Dale Mowery, live-in manager at Lake Forest Village.

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Independent Living communities are for those who need no services and are totally independent.

Special services are provided, such as meals in a central dining area. Most people drive, but some transportation is usually offered.

These communities offer no health care services and are not required to be licensed or certified.

Brownsboro Park Retirement Community 2960 Goose Creek, Louisville, KY 40241 (502) 429-7700 brownsboropark.com

Units in facility: 134 Cost per person per month: studio $2075, 1 BR $2550-$2850, 2 BR $2950-$3400 Minimum age: 62 Special services: Family owned & operated since 1986, several spacious floor plans, located on 14 beautiful acres with a park, walking trail and fishing pond. Warm, friendly residents, spacious apartments with great closets, activities to keep your mind entertained and your body in shape, housekeeping, extensive shuttle program that runs 7 days a week and excellent chef-prepared meals. Allinclusive pricing (includes all utilites, phone, cable, internet & personal alert pendant). Owner: Bunker Hill Assoc. III, LLC Payment Accepted: private

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Brownsboro Park Executive Director Kelli Tyler (center) enjoys some social time with residents Jessie Romine (left) and Nancy Quinley.

Thriving residents Ritchey Bodine and her husband, William “Bo,” lived in Brownsboro Park together until Bo’s health concerns made it necessary for him to move to a situation that offered a higher level of care. Her friends and staff at Brownsboro Park “held her hand through months of decision-making, consoled her when she was scared or tearful, and offered as much support as possible,” says Kelli Tyler. While no longer a caregiver to her husband, Ritchey has become the librarian at Brownsboro Park, which fills her with much joy. She is able to visit her husband daily, but is also able to put her caregiving abilities into use by organizing books and keeping the library up-to-date.

BROWNSBORO PARK is an independent living community located at 2960 Goose Creek Road in Louisville. It offers six floor plans, transportation seven days a week, a game room, and a library with computers.

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Kelli Tyler, executive director of Brownsboro Park, says, “Moving to an independent living community allows a person to remain independent. Sometimes at home, housekeeping, cooking, and driving become more difficult, and we can take care of those things, which keeps you independent.” If anything, moving to an independent living apartment or villa might bring about a sense of liberation.

AMENITIES Once the decision has been made to move, a senior may feel overwhelmed with the variety of independent living communities in Louisville. While they share many similarities, such as offering housekeeping and providing meals, they also do things a little differently from each other to set themselves apart.

Kelli thinks being privately owned and operated for over three decades makes Brownsboro Park stand out. “This community runs like a family, not a business. What this means for our residents is stability and quick resolutions to suggestions and ideas,” she says.

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LAKE FOREST VILLAGE is a 55+ luxurious independent living community at 2400 Arnold Palmer Boulevard in Louisville, which offers studio, one-, two-, and three-bedroom apartments.

Residents are able to utilize Park Community Credit Union’s on-site office or Motion PT’s on-site suite for physical, occupational, or speech therapy. Lake Forest Village has a partnership with Right at Home, which gives residents the convenience of aging in place if they need additional help.

Forest Springs Health Campus

4120 Wooded Acre Ln Louisville, KY 40245 (502) 243-1643 forestspringshc.com Units in facility: 34 Cost per person per month: starting at $2860 Minimum age: 55 Special services: Steps away from our full-continuum of care, villa patio homes offer housekeeping; lawn maintenance; fitness center and clubhouse; a full calendar of activities and excursions; Villa Lifestyle Director; pet-friendly.

Owner: Trilogy Health Services, LLC Payment Accepted: private

Thriving residents Ron Fox, a senior at Lake Forest Village, enjoys Happy Hour and the food. He works out at the fitness center every morning and says, “It has the right amount of equipment; the weights and machines are just right for me.” He says he thoroughly enjoys the camaraderie and fellowship with other residents.

From l to r: Lake Forest Village residents Jan, Damian (in wheelchair), Ron, Lake Forest Village Live-In Manager Dale Mowery, and resident Connie.

The Forum at Brookside 200 Brookside Dr Louisville, KY 40243 (502) 245-3048 theforumatbrookside.com

Units in facility: 240 Cost per person per month: studio $2920; 1 BR $3870; 2 BR $4850 Minimum age: 60 Special services: Gorgeous patio homes and apartments, gated community, 24 hr security, indoor heated pool, exercise room, chef prepared meals, flexible dining plan, recreational activities, pet friendly, a great staff and management team, full continuum of care.

Owner: Five Star Senior Living, Inc. Payment Accepted: private

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The Grand Senior Living 9300 Civic Way Prospect, KY 40059 (502) 310-1542 thegrand-sl.com

Units in facility: 91 Cost per person per month: $3250-$5450 Minimum age: 55 Special services: Weekly housekeeping, laundry service, concierge service, pet sitting, dog walking, salon, fitness center, indoor pool, boccee ball, art gallery, theater, cocktail lounge, chef prepared meals, Signature Passion Program.

Owner: Management, Civitas Senior Living Payment Accepted: private

executive director Sara Shaw has been in various departments for 30 years. Many of the department managers and even hourly employees have been employed with The Forum for 10, 15, and 20 years,” she says.

Dale says the upscale and all-inclusive nature of Lake Forest Village is what sets it apart.

Some high-end resort-type communities have a buy-in fee, but Lake Forest Village differs.

“We are a month-to-month lease community,” he says. If a resident finds the Lake Forest Village is not for him or her, a 30-day notice is all that is needed to void the lease.

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Lake Forest Village Retirement Community

2400 Arnold Palmer Blvd Louisville, KY 40245 (502) 340-1909 lakeforestvillageretirement.com Units in facility: 128 Cost per person per month: starts at $2900 Minimum age: 55 Special services: All apartments have full kitchens, washer/dryer hookups.

Our all-inclusive rates cover meals, weekly housekeeping, scheduled transportation, complementary valet services, all utilities, and a 24/7 medical alert system. Room service, concierge service, 150-seat movie theater, happy hours, and resident travel program.

No buy-in fees. Live-in Managers.

Pet friendly with no additional fees for pets. Owner: Resort Lifestyle Communities Payment Accepted: private

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From l to r: Al and Myra Earley, The Forum at Brookside Sales Director Kathy Embry, Joyce White, and Jimmy York. All of these residents are on The Forum’s hospitality committee, who welcomes prospective and new residents to The Forum.

Thriving residents Myra Earley and her husband, Al, moved to The Forum at Brookside over three years ago and says, “We haven’t looked back for a single second.”

Both especially love the grounds at The Forum. “It is filled with beautiful grown trees and lots of land,” she says, and the best part is that while they can enjoy the shade during the walks, they don’t have to worry about picking up leaves in autumn. Myra and Al are able to enjoy the beautifully presented meals and the wide variety of activities at The Forum. “If there is a fun thing to do, we’re going to do it,” she says.

FORUM AT BROOKSIDE is a gated continuing care community that offers independent living, personal care, skilled care, and rehabilitation at 200 Brookside Drive in Louisville. It utilizes the Lifestyle360 approach to meeting seniors’ emotional, physical, social, spiritual, and intellectual needs.

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residents but not push them into doing social activities they don’t wish to do. “You can be as busy as you want to be or as private as you want to be,” Kathy says. Introverts don’t have to fear that they will be forced to participate when they have no desire to do so.

Independent living communities offer many social activities, but they are certainly not required. “We’re not going to keep harping on people to join in, but we’re always going to greet them with a smile to let them know we’re glad they’re here,” Dale says.

Most activities directors meet with new seniors to get a sense of who they are, whether they are extroverted or introverted, and where their interests lie. “We pair each new resident with someone who has the same interests to help get them involved and meet people,” says Kelli, which is nice for individuals who don’t feel comfortable in large groups.

Part of building relationships means offering residents varied opportunities to socialize and be engaged. Brownsboro Park, Lake Forest Village, and The Forum at Brookside offer activities and events that would put cruise ships to shame.

“We’ve got a wine club that travels around the state to different wineries for tastings, which has been so much fun. We also have a gourmet food club,” Kelli says. Brownsboro Park also offers a science class once a month, as well as a watercolor class taught by an artistresident.

“We do happy hour twice a week, and with us being in Kentucky and the bourbon world, that’s a big event for us,” Dale says. Lake Forest Village also has a 150-seat theater, which shows a midday matinee and an evening movie.

The Forum at Brookside offers lectures three times a week on some pretty heady topics, such as marine mammal intelligence and the Renaissance. “A heated indoor pool with Aqua Fitness classes is also popular,” Kathy says.

“I have made a rule about such things, which I commend to you . . . : As soon as you feel too old to do a thing, DO IT.”

— Margaret Deland, ASSISTANCE/HELP American author Seniors may wonder whether an independent from The Awakening living community is a good idea because they of Helena Richie don’t know what the future holds for their physical health. All three communities have procedures and resources in place to help residents who begin to experience temporary or permanent declines. Home Instead Senior Care works closely with Brownsboro Park to help with assisted living services. Kelli says some residents have had Hosparus Health in during their last days. If a resident ends up needing more specialized care, Kelli works with the families to navigate that process.

The Forum at Brookside works closely with Helping Hands to offer bathing, dressing, medication reminders, escorts, and even dog-walking services, although a resident can choose whichever care service company he or she wishes. Right At Home has an office in the Lake Forest Village complex to assist residents who need a little extra attention, although Lake Forest Village also works with Caretenders, Kindred at Home, and others.

Treyton Oak Towers 211 W. Oak St Louisville, KY 40203 (502) 589-3211 treytonoaktowers.com

Units in facility: 160 Cost per person per month: 1 BR $3167-$3680, 2 BR $4061$6260 Minimum age: 62 Special services: Serving Louisvillians for 34 years.

AFFORDABLE spacious 1 and 2 bedroom apartments. Rooftop deck, greenhouse, art studio, fitness center, masseuse; Fleur de Lis dining room. On site dentist, bank, and salon. All in a safe secure continuum of care community.

2018 Deficiency Free State Survey.

Owner: Third and Oak Corporation Payment Accepted: Medicare, Medicaid, private, private ins., LTCi

The Villages at Historic Silvercrest One Silvercrest Dr New Albany, IN 47150 (812) 542-6720 villagesatsilvercrest.com

Units in facility: 37 Cost per person per month: $1418-$2363 Minimum age: 55 Special services: Steps away from our full-continuum of care, villa patio homes offer housekeeping; lawn maintenance; fitness center and clubhouse; a full calendar of activities and excursions; Villa Lifestyle Director; pet-friendly.

Owner: Trilogy Health Services, LLC Payment Accepted: private

OUTDOOR LIVING Because Lake Forest Village opened so recently (in November 2018), its landscaping hasn’t had an opportunity to mature, but it offers a patio area with a fire pit, tables, chairs, and a sound system. Its proximity to Lake Forest means residents can easily enjoy a neighborhood-feel while biking or walking. Brownsboro Park’s 14 acres includes a fishing pond, where an annual fishing tournament is held. Its campus is also the site of Art in the Park, which will celebrate its 10th year in the fall. The Forum at Brookside sits on a 40-acre campus, which includes a walking trail and gazebo.

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CELEBRATIONS Photos by Photo LuLu, Trina Whalin

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ride Kassie (Casper) Estes created a romantic, elegant wedding when she married her college sweetheart, Deven Estes in Sellersburg, Indiana. Kassie’s favorite memory was their first look.

“It was the day we’ve been looking forward to for almost six years, so seeing him all dressed up and so excited to see me was just perfect,” she says.

The couple appreciates special touches such as Kassie’s engagement ring, which was custom designed to incorporate diamonds from one of Deven’s grandmother’s rings.

Another special memory was a picnic basket, gifted by Kassie’s mom and dad, and filled with leftovers from their reception. “Since we were so excited to see everyone and talk with our family and friends, we didn’t sit down long enough to eat. We were hungry after dancing the night away.”

SEARCH: Celebration

THE DETAILS Wedding Style romantic, elegant Color Palette plum and gold shimmer Must Haves comfortable shoes Ceremony Site St. John Paul II Catholic Church-St. Joe Hill Campus, Sellersburg, IN Reception Site Private Residence, Floyds Knobs, IN Photographer Trina Whalin, Photo Lulu Videographer Matt Graf, Pixel Puppy Productions Coordinator Brian Nance, Nance’s Events Flowers Nance Floral Shoppe Dress Bridal and Formal, Cincinnati, OH Bridesmaid Dresses Rebecca’s Wedding Boutique, Louisville Tuxes Men’s Wearhouse Catering/Food All About Taste Catering, Andres Sisters Drinks Fireside Bar and Catering Cake Sweets by Morgan, Jeffersonville, IN Ceremony Music Vocalists JoEtta Storms and Karen Gutman (family friends), Organist/Pianist Janet Hamilton Reception Music Steven with Entertainment Essentials Décor Brian Nance, Nance’s Events Rings Jared Jewelers Stationery Etsy (print your own) Makeup Caitlin Sacasas, Rebel Heart Beauty Hair Amy Britt, Bei Capelli Salon & Spa, New Albany, IN Honeymoon Secrets St. James Montego Bay

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