This is only a brief summary of important information about BIKTARVY® and does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your condition and your treatment.
MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT BIKTARVY
BIKTARVY may cause serious side effects, including:
� Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. Your healthcare provider will test you for HBV. If you have both HIV-1 and HBV, your HBV may suddenly get worse if you stop taking BIKTARVY. Do not stop taking BIKTARVY without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months, and may give you HBV medicine.
ABOUT BIKTARVY
BIKTARVY is a complete, 1-pill, once-a-day prescription medicine used to treat HIV-1 in adults and children who weigh at least 55 pounds. It can either be used in people who have never taken HIV-1 medicines before, or people who are replacing their current HIV-1 medicines and whose healthcare provider determines they meet certain requirements.
BIKTARVY does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. HIV-1 is the virus that causes AIDS.
Do NOT take BIKTARVY if you also take a medicine that contains:
� dofetilide
� rifampin
� any other medicines to treat HIV-1
BEFORE TAKING BIKTARVY
Tell your healthcare provider if you:
� Have or have had any kidney or liver problems, including hepatitis infection.
� Have any other health problems.
� Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. Tell your healthcare provider if you become pregnant while taking BIKTARVY.
� Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Talk to your healthcare provider about the risks of breastfeeding during treatment with BIKTARVY. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take:
� Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-thecounter medicines, antacids, laxatives, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist.
� BIKTARVY and other medicines may affect each other. Ask your healthcare provider and pharmacist about medicines that interact with BIKTARVY, and ask if it is safe to take BIKTARVY with all your other medicines.
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POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF BIKTARVY
BIKTARVY may cause serious side effects, including:
� Those in the “Most Important Information About BIKTARVY” section.
� Changes in your immune system. Your immune system may get stronger and begin to fight infections that may have been hidden in your body. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any new symptoms after you start taking BIKTARVY.
� Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider should do blood and urine tests to check your kidneys. If you develop new or worse kidney problems, they may tell you to stop taking BIKTARVY.
� Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat.
� Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain.
� The most common side effects of BIKTARVY in clinical studies were diarrhea (6%), nausea (6%), and headache (5%).
These are not all the possible side effects of BIKTARVY. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking BIKTARVY. You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit www.FDA.gov/medwatch or call 1-800-FDA-1088.
Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with BIKTARVY.
HOW TO TAKE BIKTARVY
Take BIKTARVY 1 time each day with or without food.
GET MORE INFORMATION
� This is only a brief summary of important information about BIKTARVY. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more.
� Go to BIKTARVY.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5.
� If you need help paying for your medicine, visit BIKTARVY.com for program information.
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Remembering Jewel Clemons: A LEGACY OF LOVE and a CALL FOR CHANGE
As we honor World AIDS Day in this issue, we dedicate these pages to my sister, Jewel Clemons, a vibrant and courageous Black Trans woman whose life was cut short by AIDS in 1990. Jewel’s journey was marked by love and resilience, but also by the heartbreak of a medical system and societal attitudes that failed to offer her the care, respect, and dignity she deserved.
When Jewel received her HIV diagnosis in 1989, our family was placed into a reality we were unprepared for. HIV medical care was severely lacking, with only limited treatment options available, and stigma surrounded every conversation. HIV education was sparse, both for our family and the wider community. Jewel, like so many others at the time, had nowhere to turn for the compassionate care she needed. Instead of support, she faced misunderstanding and isolation—from family, society, and
even the healthcare professionals she trusted with her life.
Within just one year of her diagnosis, Jewel’s health declined rapidly. She passed away, not only from complications of the virus but also, in many ways, from the complications of a broken system. The lack of empathy and specialized support denied Jewel a chance to live with dignity and robbed us of precious time with her.
I vowed then that Jewel’s story would not end with her passing. In her honor, I have dedicated my life to helping other families avoid the pain we endured. Today, through education, advocacy, and relentless determination, we
founded Relationship Unleashed, a 501c3 nonprofit in 2014. Through Relationship Unleashed we have been able to provide valuable education, resources, training for the community and families such as ours. It’s important that we confront stigma and the lack of understanding and compassion for those affected by HIV/AIDS. This commitment is my tribute to Jewel, and I hope it serves as a reminder to families everywhere that we must create spaces of love and support for all our loved ones, no matter their path or the challenges they face.
As we dedicate this November-December issue to Jewel and the countless others we’ve lost, we also dedicate ourselves to the ongoing fight against the HIV virus. May Jewel’s legacy inspires a world where no one faces HIV alone, and where love and compassion fuel our commitment to health and humanity.
ON THE COVER:
La'Deia Joyce, a trailblazing Black woman who has coined the term "modern-day activist" for Black women living with HIV. La'Deia is leading transformative work in Memphis, TN, nationally, and abroad. We are excited to share her powerful story and the impact she is making in the fight against HIV. Her journey reflects resilience, advocacy, and a fierce dedication to change.
This closing highlights the connection between Jewel’s legacy and La'Deia's ongoing work, making it a fitting and powerful dedication for the World AIDS Day issue.
In Solidarity, Gwendolyn
MBA, PRC, Editor-In-Chief
HER VOICE, HER STORY La’Deia Joyce
La'Deia Joyce, MBA, is a Black woman of influence who thrives despite her HIV diagnosis. She is a speaker, writer, advocate, and activist. As the founder of The Positive Experience, her work and words have been featured in USA Today, Cosmopolitan, ABC News, Al Jazeera, The New York Times, and Insider Her Story with Jacque Reid. Joyce has been a featured speaker and panelist at Rolling Out Magazine's Sisters with Superpowers, AHF Sister Talk with Cookie Johnson, and Grow with Google. Currently, she is a contributing writer for WebMD and has completed her essay for *Hood Wellness: Tales of Communal Care from People Who Drowned on Dry Land* by Tamela J. Gordon (Row House Publishing), released on June 18, 2024.
A dedicated member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated, for twenty-five years, La'Deia's educational foundation spans music industry business, communications, and marketing. Her essence is a dynamic blend of Memphis faith, Atlanta flair, and Brooklyn fire. La'Deia's advocacy work, coupled with her personal and professional accomplishments, exemplifies her commitment to empowering marginalized communities and reshaping the narrative around HIV. Her story is one of resilience, courage, and unwavering dedication to making a difference, inspiring others to live authentically and passionately
HOW HAS YOUR PERCEPTION OF LIVING WITH HIV CHANGED SINCE YOUR DIAGNOSIS?
When I first received my diagnosis, HIV felt like a sudden, unrelenting shadow cast over every dream, every relationship,
every future I’d envisioned. It was as if an invisible hand had reached in and rewritten my life story without my consent. I was overcome by fear, weighed down by stigma, and, if I’m honest, by the limitations I believed would define my life from that moment forward. I saw my diagnosis as an invisible barrier to the life I had once pictured life full of ambition, love, and boundless potential. In those early days, HIV seemed like a harsh sentence, one that I would forever carry as a mark of shame and isolation.
But as the years have unfolded, my perspective has shifted in ways I couldn’t have imagined back then. I began to understand that HIV wasn’t the sole definition of my life; it was an experience that could teach me about resilience, compassion, and strength. Living with HIV became less about what I couldn’t do and more about what I could accomplish, not just for myself but for others who feel the weight of the same stigma. I learned to see my diagnosis as a call to action—to advocate, educate, and break down the walls of silence surrounding HIV, particularly for Black women whose stories often go dismissed and ignored.
Over time, I realized that HIV didn’t have to be a limitation but could be a platform from which I could rise, share, and inspire. Through advocacy, connection, and self-love, I’ve reshaped my outlook on what it means to live with HIV. It no longer defines my worth, and it certainly doesn’t restrict my dreams. Instead, I see it as a challenge that has given me the strength to redefine not only my own story but the broader narrative surrounding HIV in
During these dark and difficult times, I realized that life is too precious to live half-heartedly.
our communities. Today, I see living with HIV not as a curse, but as a call to courage—a journey that has expanded my sense of purpose and empowered me to rewrite the narrative. Where I once felt restricted, I now feel unstoppable, living a life that defies old stereotypes and embraces new freedoms. HIV has become not the end of my story, but a powerful chapter that reminds me every day that I am resilient, worthy, and more than capable of thriving.
WHAT DID IT TAKE FOR YOU TO LEARN THAT “BEING POSITIVE ISN’T NEGATIVE”?
First, being positive isn’t negative has been one of the dopest collaborations I've had to date. I partnered with my good sis and soror, Kalilah Wright, CEO and Founder of Mess In A Bottle, for World AIDS Day in 2019.
Learning that being positive isn’t negative wasn’t immediate. It took years, many tears, and moments of questioning my worth. But each low point became a lesson, revealing resilience within me that I hadn’t needed to find before. For a long time, I felt buried under the weight of what society had taught me about being HIV-positive, especially as a Black, cisgender woman. I battled layers of shame and isolation, compounded by societal stigma. Over time, though, I slowly peeled back these layers, realizing that positive could mean so much more than a diagnosis.
Eventually, I discovered that positive means strength, compassion and unrelenting love for myself. By
surrounding myself with people who loved and affirmed me, I began to see that my diagnosis didn’t lessen my value. The real transformation came as I unpacked the truth about HIV—that it was something I could live with and thrive through. With that realization, I went from viewing HIVpositive as a label to embracing it as a powerful testament to my journey. I reclaimed positive, turning it into a word of empowerment rather than something to fear or hide.
WHAT
INSPIRED
YOU
TO CELEBRATE YOUR DIAGNOSIS WITH A "COMING OUT" PARTY INSTEAD OF KEEPING IT PRIVATE?
Moment of Transparency: Friday, September 29, 2017—my one-year seroversary. Up until then, I had only disclosed my status to a select few and absolutely nothing public facing. Planning my "coming out" party was
La'Deia Joyce photographed by Erica Dunlap
Photography | Hair by Kenya Rose | Makeup: Perfectly Painted by Shalisa/Shalisa Grandberry
one of the most emotional and liberating experiences of my life. So many people run from anything that might expose their flaws, but for me, hiding wasn’t an option. That night became my act of reclaiming power and joy in a world that often pressures us to stay silent about things society deems shameful. The morning after my diagnosis, during my prayer time, Spirit told me that I was meant to be exactly what I had been searching for the night before—a voice for Black millennial women facing an HIV diagnosis who were, like me, wondering, I am HIV-positive, now what?
As I planned, I was nervous yet sure of myself. I wanted to challenge the narrative that being HIV-positive is something to be ashamed of. By coming out publicly, I was pushing back against stigma, showing others that we don’t have to live in hiding and that we deserve to celebrate ourselves exactly as we are. I wanted everyone there to see that being HIV-positive didn’t change my worth. Instead of allowing it to be a night of shame or sorrow, I chose to make it a night of liberation and celebration.
I also hoped that, in doing so, others would feel less alone. I wanted to show the world— particularly Black cisgender women who were unexpectedly initiated into this sisterhood— that we can own our stories and still find joy, love, and celebration in them. My coming out party
was my loud, unapologetic way of saying, “Here I am, still whole, still joyful, still pretty, still living my life.” And that message wasn’t just for others; it was for me, too—a reminder that I could stand boldly, just as I am.
SHARE THE ESSENCE OF YOUR “DIE EMPTY”
MANTRA AND THE DEEPER INSPIRATION THAT BROUGHT IT INTO BEING.
The "die empty" mantra is about living life to its fullest, leaving nothing behind, and fully embracing one's purpose and passions. It's not a morbid concept or an acceptance of the inevitable, but rather a commitment to living so completely, authentically, and purposefully that when our time here is up, we have given everything we have—emotionally, creatively, and spiritually. It’s about pouring every bit of ourselves into our dreams, relationships, and goals, ensuring that we don’t take any unrealized potential, unspoken words, or unexpressed love with us.
This mantra encourages a life of courage, self-discovery, and deep introspection. It challenges us to step out of our comfort zones, take risks, face our fears, and truly live—unrestricted by societal expectations or personal limitations. It’s the idea that each of us has unique gifts and contributions to offer the world, and we owe it to ourselves to share those gifts without reservation.
It is inspired by a series of lifechanging events and moments of personal growth and struggle. Facing challenges like breast cancer diagnosis, an HIV diagnosis, job loss, and navigating through the uncertainties brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic brought the importance of living fully into sharp focus. Each
challenge forced introspection, resilience, and a re-evaluation of what truly matters.
During these dark and difficult times, I realized that life is too precious to live half-heartedly. Through personal struggle, I came to understand the value of authenticity, courage, and intentionality. Instead of allowing setbacks to define me, I used them as lessons and fuel to forge ahead with even more passion and purpose. It was in these moments of deep reflection that the mantra "die empty" was born—a declaration to live without holding back, to leave nothing unrealized, and to impact the world in a way that’s meaningful, genuine, and true to my core.
"Die empty" became my commitment to living fully, striving each day to make every moment count, and leaving a legacy of authenticity and purpose. This mantra now serves as a reminder that life is a precious gift, and it’s up to each of us to make the most of it, to live with intention, and to die empty - fulfilled, with nothing left unsaid, undone, or unlived.
WHAT CHALLENGES HAVE YOU FACED BEING OPEN ABOUT A STIGMATIZED ILLNESS, AND HOW HAVE YOU HANDLED THEM?
Being transparent about something as harshly stigmatized as an HIV status has come with its share of challenges. People have reacted in ways that reveal their own fears, biases, and misunderstandings. I’ve had loved ones walk out of my life, people who couldn’t reconcile the truth of who I am with the outdated and narrow views they hold. Some have questioned my character, projected blame, or even cast pity on me, each reaction a reminder of how deeply rooted stigma can be.
Some relationships didn’t change by my choice but because others couldn't fully accept the selffocused, unapologetic, bold woman I was becoming. And while attracting, dating and being in relationship with high-value, top-tier men has never been an issue, dating now is a nuanced experience, with some unable or unwilling to see past their own discomfort. Publicly sharing my story has even drawn criticism from people who know nothing about me but feel entitled to judge and condemn from afar.
In handling these situations, I lean deeply into the strength and purpose that first drove me to share my story. Boundaries are essential; they protect my peace, preserving space for the voices of those who uplift, affirm, and celebrate me. When things feel heavy, I turn to my circle of support, a chosen family who reflects the love, acceptance, and encouragement I deserve. Over time, I’ve come to understand that people’s reactions say more about their own ignorance than they do about my worth. Advocacy and authenticity require resilience, and each challenge reminds me why I chose this path. Transparency is my offering to the world, while vulnerability remains sacred, reserved for those with whom I share true intimacy.
I didn’t come this far just to be silenced by fear or judgment. For every negative reaction, there are countless others who feel seen, understood, and empowered to live openly— and that makes every difficult moment, every loss, every hard conversation, worth it. I am not here to simply exist within the bounds of others' expectations; I’m here to take up space, break down walls, and show that truth, however stigmatized, can be its own revolution.
Thriving with Grief:
EMBRACING HOPE DURING THE HOLIDAYS
The first few years after my mother died, I was committed to being irritable and unbearable. I thought I had to be grief-stricken and in deep mourning as a way to honor my mother’s life and the love we shared. The idea of being in a space where laughter and joy could be experienced felt like an unforgivable betrayal to my mother. I believed an outward display of joy and laughter meant I was not honoring my mother because why should I feel anything other than grief after such a loss?
Thankfully, a friend gently reminded and assured me that both bitter and sweet can pour from the same vessel and simultaneously. I learned to embrace the fact that conflicting emotions, such as heartache and hope, can co-exist. For some of us, when grief shows up, we tend to push certain emotions aside because we convince ourselves we should not feel pleasant emotions if grief is present. We may even feel guilty when happiness, relief, joy, or excitement shows up in the presence of grief. But remember, although our feelings are valid, emotions are fleeting. Emotions will come and go, including grief, which is why we are encouraged to avoid making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. While it took a moment, I learned how to brave
grief differently so that I could accept the sweetness of hope when it arrived.
Embracing hope, despite the heartache of grief, means navigating the complex emotions that arise when celebrating holidays and special occasions in the absence of a loved one. To embrace hope starts with the realization that grief is a natural response to loss and that we can still experience moments of joy, connection, and meaning. Embracing hope means intentionally seeking out or creating moments of hope and happiness.
As we approach the upcoming holiday season, as you create space for heartache, happiness, and hope to co-exist, I offer the following considerations.
GIVE GRIEF A VOICE:
Acknowledge your feelings. Ignoring your feelings will not make the weight of grief vanish. Pause to name what you are feeling, whether it is sadness, confusion, anger, frustration, relief, or hope. What you are feeling is valid and deserves to be named and honored. Allow them to be present without judgment.
SET REALISTIC
EXPECTATIONS: Be patient with yourself during the holidays. Permit yourself to do things differently. Unnecessary pressure to perform at the same speed, duration, or frequency makes the weight of grief feel heavier. It is okay to slow down, but do not stop.
This is not the life you pictured. But here you are. You can still make something beautiful. Grieve. Breathe. Begin Again.
— Dr. Thema Bryant
TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF:
While it might feel easier to devote time and energy to caring for others, time with yourself will allow you to check in and determine what you need for wellness. Consider taking a mental health day. Plan a self-care day for the mind, body, and spirit.
CREATE NEW TRADITIONS:
Creating new traditions does not mean tossing out the old and embracing only the new. Building new traditions allows you to create new memories while also honoring the memories of traditions. Creating new memories may lessen the heaviness of maintaining certain traditions that feel weighty without your loved one. Reflecting on joyful moments and acknowledging the impact of your loved one might provide comfort and a sense of continuity.
SEEKING PURPOSE: Think about causes important to your loved one and volunteer with agencies whose mission aligns with their heart. Engaging in acts of kindness or reflection
CONNECT WITH OTHERS: Be selective with whom you share your time and energy. You do not have to spend time with anyone who causes undue stress, frustration, or anxiety. During difficult seasons, you want to surround yourself with people who will nurture and comfort you.
LIMIT SOCIAL OBLIGATIONS:
You are not obligated to attend any functions, whether curated by family, friends, or colleagues. Part of thriving through grief is giving yourself permission to decline anything and anyone that requires you to exert energy you do not have to give. While you should not isolate yourself during difficult moments, you do not have to subject yourself to anything or everyone.
SEEK PROFESSIONAL SUPPORT: Help is available, especially during the holidays. Consider scheduling a therapy appointment to speak with a trained professional who can offer individualized recommendations and support based on your unique needs. While we all experience grief at some point, how we grieve and why we grieve differs. Several mental health professionals, including myself, offer pro bono grief support groups and workshops during the holidays. Do not grieve in silence. Help is available.
Dr. Umieca Hankton is a licensed clinical psychologist, the founder of UNH Counseling Services, and the author of five wellness journals available on Amazon: “Thriving on Purpose: Reflect. Meditate. Plan. Implement, Thriving Unapologetically & Purposefully, Thriving with Gratitude, Resilience, Intentionality, & Tenacity, B.R.A.V.I.N.G. the Grief, and The Courage to Trust Love Again.” To learn about treatment options and services, please visit unhcounselingservices.com or essenceofselfretreat.com. can instill a sense of purpose, reminding you that love and connection endure beyond loss.
Dr. Umieca N. Hankton
The holiday season is often depicted as a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness.
Yet for many, it can be a painful reminder of loss, making the weeks between Thanksgiving and New Year’s particularly challenging. Grief, a complex and deeply personal experience, can feel even more pronounced during this time.
Brodderick
By
D . Roar y
NAVIGATING GRIEF AND LOSS DURING
the Holidays
Sadness and Loneliness: The absence of a loved one can lead to profound feelings of sadness and loneliness. Traditional gatherings may feel incomplete, leading to a sense of isolation.
UNDERSTANDING GRIEF
DURING THE HOLIDAYS
Grief manifests in various ways, often influenced by the nature of the loss and the individual’s relationship with the deceased. The holidays can trigger a flood of memories, emotions, and rituals that highlight the absence of loved ones. For those who have lost family members, friends, or partners, the empty chair at the dinner table or the absence of familiar traditions can be a stark reminder of their grief.
The holidays, with their societal pressure to feel joyful, can intensify sadness and isolation for those grieving. Grief is not linear; it ebbs and flows, often resurfacing during significant moments like the holidays.
Emotional Challenges
Individuals dealing with grief during the holidays may face a range of emotional challenges, including:
Anger and Frustration: Grief can also manifest as anger—directed at oneself, others, or even the deceased. This frustration can be compounded by the expectations to participate in holiday festivities.
Guilt: Many grieving individuals experience guilt, feeling that they should be able to enjoy the holidays or that they are moving on too quickly. This guilt can create internal conflict during a time that is supposed to be joyous.
Anxiety: Anticipating the holidays can evoke anxiety about how to navigate gatherings, what to say to others, and how to cope with the absence of the loved one.
Coping Strategies
Despite the emotional challenges, there are several strategies individuals can employ to cope with grief during the holiday season:
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s essential to allow yourself to feel and express your emotions.
Suppressing grief can lead to increased pain. Whether through journaling, talking to a trusted friend, or engaging in therapy, acknowledging your feelings can be a crucial first step toward healing.
Create New Traditions: While it may be painful to engage in old traditions, creating new ones can provide fresh perspectives on the holidays. This might involve volunteering in your loved one’s memory, establishing a new ritual, or even celebrating in a different location. New traditions can honor the past while allowing space for healing.
Include Your Loved One in the Celebration: Finding ways to remember and honor the deceased can be comforting. This might include lighting a candle, sharing stories, or preparing a dish that they loved. Including their memory in the celebration can create a sense of connection amidst the absence.
Set Boundaries: It’s important to recognize your limits and set boundaries as needed. If attending certain gatherings feels overwhelming, it’s okay to decline invitations or leave early. Prioritize your well-being and communicate your needs to friends and family.
Reach Out for Support:
Connecting with others who understand your grief can provide comfort. Support groups, whether in person or online, can offer a safe space to share experiences and coping strategies. Surrounding yourself with empathetic individuals can help alleviate feelings of loneliness.
Practice Self-Care: During the holidays, self-care is essential. Engage in activities that promote relaxation and well-being, such as exercise, meditation, or simply taking time to rest. Prioritizing self-care can help manage the emotional toll of grief.
Seek Professional Help: If feelings of grief become overwhelming, seeking support from a mental health professional can be beneficial. Therapists can provide coping strategies, help process emotions, and offer guidance tailored to your experience.
Finding Hope and Healing
Grief during the holidays can feel overwhelming, but healing is possible. Over time, the intensity may ease, allowing for new meanings to emerge. This journey is personal, requiring patience and understanding.
The holidays can be especially challenging after a loss. By acknowledging emotions, creating new traditions, and seeking support, it’s possible to navigate this season with selfcompassion. Though the holidays may feel different, moments of hope and healing can emerge. Honoring loved ones keeps their memories alive, allowing them to remain part of our lives as we move through grief.
CELEBRATE THE HOLIDAYS WITH MIXED CHRISTMAS
A Heartfelt, Joyful New Christmas Film
A Film by B. Danielle Watkins and Onyx Keesha
B.OK Productions, the dynamic team of B. Danielle Watkins and Onyx Keesha, is thrilled to share the holiday spirit with Mixed Christmas, a heartfelt holiday movie that premiered on Tubi on November 1st and will be available on Peacock starting December 1st. With holiday magic, Miami sunshine, and a blend of love, laughter, and surprises, Mixed Christmas offers a unique twist on festive celebrations that everyone can enjoy.
ABOUT THE FILM
Mixed Christmas, written and codirected by B. Danielle Watkins and produced and co-directed by Onyx Keesha, tells the story of a tropical holiday adventure that becomes more than its guests bargained for. Aurora, seeking a warm, memorable Christmas, brings her three closest friends to Miami for a getaway that quickly turns surprising when they find their Airbnb double-booked—with none other than her ex, Grace, and her own entourage. With no options but to share the space, the group embarks on a holiday filled with unexpected reunions, friendships, and shared Christmas memories that remind everyone that sometimes, family is what we create in the moment.
B. Danielle and Onyx, best friends and creative partners, brought this film to life with the spirit of friendship and holiday joy, making it a true “bestie” production.
FROM THE HEART OF B.OK PRODUCTIONS
"Christmas is such a beautiful time of the year," says Mixed Christmas producer Onyx Keesha, who describes herself as a lifelong Christmas enthusiast. "It’s kinda my thing to make Christmas movies that celebrate our community’s traditions and experiences, showing that the holiday spirit is shared, no matter where you come from. We all laugh, love, and celebrate in our own special ways, and that’s what Mixed Christmas is all about.”
At B.OK Productions, co-founded by B. Danielle Watkins and Onyx Keesha, the mission is to bring forward diverse stories and genuine representation. B.OK Productions is committed to stories that uplift, entertain, and reflect the beautiful complexities of our lives. With Mixed Christmas, B.OK aims to celebrate how the holiday season connects us all, showcasing the joy, laughter, and warmth that make Christmas truly unforgettable.
CATCH THE FESTIVE RELEASE
ABOUT B.OK PRODUCTIONS
B.OK Productions is a collaborative venture between creators B. Danielle Watkins and Onyx Keesha. With a focus on authentic, powerful representation, B.OK Productions is dedicated to creating stories that resonate with all audiences, celebrating diversity, resilience, and unity. Whether through film, television, or community-driven projects, B.OK aims to showcase the realities of life while keeping joy, hope, and heart at the forefront.
Mixed Christmas premiered on Tubi on November 1st and is headed to Peacock on December 1st, with additional platform releases to follow, including Amazon, Hoopla, Vudu, Freevee, FuboTV, Google, LG, Mansa, Plex, Roku, Samsung, SlingTV, TCL, TIVO, VIDAA, VIZIO, and XUMO. Don’t miss this holiday celebration that’s bound to become a new classic!
Understanding Project 2025 for
SURVIVAL GUIDE
LGBTQIA+ Folx
Project 2025, designed by the Heritage Foundation, proposes policy changes that could significantly impact LGBTQIA+ individuals by rolling back rights and protections in various areas of life. If enacted, Project 2025 could limit anti-discrimination protections by reinterpreting the landmark Bostock v. Clayton County decision, which previously expanded employment protections based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Project 2025 seeks to restrict Bostock’s scope, potentially allowing workplace discrimination based on LGBTQIA+ status in hiring, firing, and other employment decisions, impacting the security of LGBTQIA+ workers across the board.
In education, Project 2025 advocates for dismantling the Department of Education and removing LGBTQ-inclusive policies. This includes restricting the use of affirming pronouns and names, rolling back protections for LGBTQIA+ students, and excluding diversity, equity, and inclusion programs. It could also impact curricula by eliminating materials supportive of LGBTQIA+ identities, which may foster a less inclusive environment for students and staff alike
The policy proposal would limit healthcare access, especially regarding gender-affirming care. Project 2025 encourages cutting
federal support for genderaffirming care for both minors and adults and proposes that government agencies focus on studying and highlighting what it claims are “negative” effects of such care. Additionally, federal funding for organizations like Planned Parenthood could be eliminated, affecting reproductive health care and services that also benefit LGBTQIA+ individuals
For marriage and family rights, while Project 2025 does not directly propose ending marriage equality, it leans on “biblically based” definitions of family, allowing agencies to prioritize traditional family structures. This could restrict adoption rights for same-sex couples and undermine federal support for marriage equality by interpreting marriage rights in a way that could impact legal recognition and benefits for same-sex couples.
Overall, Project 2025's potential impacts highlight a return to policies that prioritize traditional definitions of family and restrict protections for LGBTQIA+ people across healthcare, employment, education, and family rights, sparking concerns among advocacy groups about its potential reach and consequences.
Know Your Rights. Familiarize Yourself with Legal Protections. Connect with Legal Advocacy Organizations.
Strengthen Employment Security. Seek Employment with LGBTQIA+ Friendly Companies. Maintain Documentation: If discrimination arises, document incidents and keep a record of emails, conversations, or actions that may serve as evidence should legal action be required.
Secure Access to Healthcare. Identify LGBTQIA+ Affirming Healthcare Providers, Establish a Relationship with Local Clinics.
Build a Financial Safety Net. Consider saving a portion of income for unexpected healthcare, relocation, or legal fees, particularly if Project 2025’s policies restrict access to care or impact employment.
Support LGBTQIA+ Focused Financial Services. Some organizations provide financial assistance or grants specifically for LGBTQIA+ individuals, especially those experiencing discrimination.
Use Legal and Privacy Tools. Consult Legal Experts on Wills, Powers of Attorney, and Guardianship: These documents can help LGBTQIA+ individuals protect their relationships, finances, and families, particularly if legal protections are threatened in areas such as marriage and adoption rights.
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A Black Gay Man
Openingly
SHARING HIS HIV JOURNEY
by David Wyley Long
According to HIV.gov, “the first World AIDS Day took place in 1988, providing a platform to raise awareness about HIV and AIDS and honor the lives affected by the epidemic.” While this day is full of emotion, within the epidemic, it is now a late in the year observation, that is overshadowed by the 9 other awareness days to address individual communities most impacted by the virus. While I live as a long-term survivor, and marvel at the many biomedical advances to end the epidemic, I often wonder if we are missing the point of having a dedicated day, to address a problem with small success and plenty of central disagreements and unique problems within the community.
To begin, I marvel at the entire epidemic as a whole. It is a very dynamic and interesting illness that has stymied scientists and doctors with its relentless cell attacks within the body, if not treated. We have seen countless advances over the decades that showcase a relentless spirit to find creative solutions to stop, treat and prevent the virus. Yet, we are constantly acknowledging a simple truth: “We have a long way to go.” Those mere words bring intense cringe within my community, as countless souls across the world have worked to find a cure, to no avail, while the many societal and structural barriers that persist, although everyone is working in tandem to find a way to end the illness. Believe me, I am an eternal optimist who is hopeful of an AIDS free future, complete with no new infections, and the virus finally muted. However, if this mirage is similar to a water fountain in the middle of a desert: You know it isn’t true. Does the community honestly want to end this virus? Does the community truly understand the many beautiful blessings that have arisen within the epidemic, as well as the continual financial support for those most impacted. I truly believe in silver linings within any situation, and the HIV/AIDS epidemic is
no different. While I am quickly hopeful for a cure, I am not waiting, nor not stopping me from living the best life possible. I firmly believe this virus was a small gift, as it red shifted my focus on how I live, move and most importantly: love.
Speaking of love, the search continues, and I am truly hopeful and filled with light and love in waiting for my person to find me, and shower me with the love I need and deserve.
But, back to the subject at hand. Without naming names, I know plenty of leaders who have worked for years to find a solution to this constant issue that plagues us, yet all have failed. We have no cure. We have no quick solutions, when someone becomes HIV positive, and collectively, we have grown so accustomed to new diagnoses, it is not a red flag for most, and many do not struggle after diagnosis. That small progress is worth mentioning, as I recall the many trials and tribulations that confronted me in 2005, when I was first diagnosed. The sound of the doctor's small timid voice, who first informed me of my new health status still rings in my ear, 19 years later. His words, very precise, while filled with emotion, felt blunt, and harsh, but it was needed. The virus was attacking my body, and I needed to act NOW.
19 years later, and here I stand. Smiling. Laughing. Striving, and LIVING. It is truly a beautiful thing. However, I wonder how my life would be without the virus. When an illness becomes your life, and you are still numb from your birth mother passing from complications of the virus, your
hatred of the virus will consume you. But, I learned that being mad at the virus, or mad at myself for acquiring the virus is definitely not needed to thrive with the virus. I have learned to respect the virus, and understand its place in my life. I have learned to embrace the virus, and how it has made my life worth living, and showed to be more roses than thorns. It has been a long road to get here, and I am super thankful for my acceptance, as many do not get to this point.
In conclusion, as we celebrate and honor individuals who we have lost to the virus, I implore to reconsider the impact of the day. Take this day to see the beautiful blessings that have arisen within the epidemic. Take this day to celebrate yourself, and whatever status you currently hold. Use this day to understand the road we have traveled since the first diagnosis to the present day, and write about it. Write the good, the bad, and the middle. But, most of all, take the day to understand, the road is shorter than we think, and all our efforts are not in vain. You are here, I am here, and the BEST IS YET TO COME. This World AIDS Day and all future days!
Take care, and here’s to an epic 2025.
By David WyleyLong
You can reach David Wyley Long, via email at davidwyleylong@gmail.com or find him on Facebook: David Wyley Long.
OUT LOUD Living
Celebrating my 10th Seroversary
by Eddie Wiley
Ten years ago on November 4, 2014, my life changed forever. It was the date I was diagnosed with HIV, a revelation that shook me to my core. It redefined how I saw myself, my health and my future. Now, after a decade, I’m taking this opportunity to reflect on the things I’ve gained, learned and overcome. Things are quite vibrant now but I have to admit – it wasn’t always unicorns, rainbows and glitter.
When I first heard the words “You are HIV positive baby,” I didn’t know what the future held. I felt a flood of emotions: fear,
confusion, embarrassment, but most of all disappointment. Of course, I was disappointed in myself but I was fearful that I had let the community I served down. I felt that way because I had been working in HIV prevention in some capacity since I started with the intervention, 3MV (Many Men, Many Voices). Suddenly, I felt that everything I’d built was at risk.
In all honesty, working in HIV had given me my voice and at the time, what I thought was my identity. I immediately hid my status and didn’t want anyone to know because I had internalized the stigma I spent my entire career fighting. I had even dropped out of care y’all. I wasn’t ready to face it, let alone share it! But I got my ish together and found ways to turn difficulties into opportunities. Those opportunities taught me countless lessons. I’ve learned to really be patient with myself, offer myself grace, take each day as it comes, and to find joy even in the smallest of moments.
One of the most powerful aspects of my journey has always been my tribe and the community I had built around me. I already had everything I needed as someone newly diagnosed – resources. I had mentors living with HIV, wellconnected allies, trusted healthcare providers and the knowledge to know that I would be OK. It was my tribe that walked alongside me, encouraging me to “live out loud” and trust that my story could serve a greater purpose. And I’m so glad I did. The outpouring of love was beyond what I could ever imagine. I had braced myself for the
Seroversary is the date of which one tested positive for HIV.
“you should've known better” conversations, but instead, my community held me up and showed me that I wasn’t alone in this. To my tribe – you’re my family, my strength, my lifeline and you’re deeply appreciated.
Well it’s ten years later, and I’m still out here using my voice and experience to support and uplift the community. I posted on social media that I wanted my 10th seroversary to serve as not only a milestone, but as a reminder that life with HIV is still full of possibilities. I wanted to tell others living with HIV that they are loved, that they can find joy again, that they are more than their HIV status. Every day, we are proof that thriving is possible, and we deserve to live boldly, with love and pride. Now get out here and thrive, baby!
I look forward to the next decades ahead with so much hope. I envision a world where stigma around HIV has faded, where people living with HIV can openly thrive, and where everyone has access to prevention, care, and support. I am committed to doing my part to create that future, for myself and for those who may be facing the same journey I began ten years ago.
HERE’S TO THE NEXT TEN YEARS—AND BEYOND!
WORLD AIDS DAY
HIV FACTS
The Risk is not Knowing
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HIV CAN AFFECT ANYONE
Some group of people are affected by HIV more than others, but it can be passed to anyone.
HIV CAN'T BE PASSED ON THROUGH DAY TO DAY CONTACT
HIV can't be passed on through touching, kissing, sharing food, utensils or glasses. It can be passed through the following:
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PEOPLE ON EFFECTIVE TREATMENT CAN'T PASS IT ON
Effective treatment for HIV supresses the virus that you can't pass it on.
⬤ Sex without condom
⬤ Sharing needles
⬤ Blood transfusion
⬤ Through pregnancy
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PEOPLE WITH HIV CAN LIVE HEALTHY & LONG LIVES
No cure for HIV yet, but there is treatment. If diagnosed in time and through medication one can have a healthy life.
PREVENTIONS
⬤ Regularly get tested for HIV if one is sexually active
⬤ Taking PrEP or PEP (Tablets to prevent HIV before or after exposure)
⬤ Use condoms
⬤ Always use new needles
⬤ Check for any symptoms of virus in blood before transfusion
⬤ Taking medicine even one has HIV
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RESPECT, AFFIRM, & TRANSFORM:
by Dr. Shannon Whittington DNP MSN CCM LGBTQ+
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In a world that’s gradually becoming more aware of the diverse spectrum of gender identities, our approach to care must reflect this understanding. Gender-affirming care is more than just a trend; it’s a necessity for creating a safe and inclusive environment for all individuals. Whether you are a healthcare provider, a business professional, or simply someone who wants to be more inclusive, understanding the core elements of genderaffirming care is key. In this article, I’ll explore three critical aspects: the importance of using correct pronouns, the harm caused by deadnaming and how to recover gracefully if you make a mistake. Together, these principles can help create a respectful and affirming space for everyone.
The Power of Pronouns: A Fundamental Respect Pronouns are more than just words; they are an affirmation of identity and respect. When we use the correct pronouns for someone, we are acknowledging their identity and validating their experience. On the other hand, misgendering someone – that is, using the wrong pronouns – can cause harm, frustration, and even emotional distress. Studies have shown that consistent misgendering is associated with increased anxiety, depression, and a sense of invisibility for transgender and non-binary individuals.
It's important to remember that pronouns aren't optional; they are essential to communicating respectfully. The simple act of asking for someone's pronouns and using them correctly demonstrates empathy and care. It shows that you see and value them for who they truly are. Healthcare professionals, in particular, have a significant role to play in fostering a culture where every individual feels seen and respected. But it's not just about memorizing a list of pronouns – it's about understanding why they matter.
When engaging with someone new, start with an open introduction that includes your own pronouns: "Hi, I’m Alex, and I use they/them pronouns. What about you?" This approach normalizes sharing pronouns and encourages others to do the same. Remember, asking for and correctly using someone’s pronouns isn't just polite; it’s crucial for building trust and respect in any relationship.
Deadnaming: Understanding the Harm and How to Avoid It
Deadnaming – using a transgender or non-binary person’s birth name (or "deadname") instead of their chosen name – can be deeply hurtful. A name is a fundamental part of one's identity, and for many transgender people, their chosen name is a key part of affirming their true self.
Deadnaming dismisses this identity and can serve as a painful reminder of a life and identity that may no longer exist. For many, being deadnamed is like being
pulled back into a time and space where they weren’t seen or accepted for who they are.
It’s essential to make a conscious effort to use a person’s chosen name. This means updating records, informing colleagues, and, if necessary, correcting yourself or others when a mistake is made. The harm caused by deadnaming goes beyond a simple slip of the tongue; it can impact a person’s mental health, causing feelings of invalidation, disrespect, and distress.
Think of a chosen name like a preferred pronoun: it’s not a preference but a necessity for respect. In any setting, whether it's a healthcare environment, a workplace, or even a casual gathering, taking the time to use the correct name is a simple but profound act of care and respect.
How to Recover Gracefully: Acknowledge, Correct, Move On
Mistakes happen. What’s important is how you handle them. If you misgender someone or accidentally use their deadname, the key is to acknowledge the mistake without making it about yourself. Often, when someone is corrected, they feel compelled to apologize profusely. While well-intentioned, this can put the burden on the individual who was misgendered or deadnamed to comfort the person who made the mistake.
Instead of a lengthy apology, a simple, “I didn’t mean to misgender you,” followed by the correct name or pronoun, and then moving on is often the best approach. This acknowledges the mistake, respects the person,
and keeps the conversation focused on them, not on the error. It's crucial to avoid drawing excessive attention to the mistake or making it a prolonged issue, which can make the situation more uncomfortable for everyone involved.
If you're in a position of influence or authority, it's important to model this behavior to others.
Encourage a culture where mistakes are corrected quickly, without blame or drama, and where learning and growth are prioritized. This helps create a safer environment for everyone and demonstrates that everyone is learning and committed to respectful communication.
Gender-affirming care is not just about following protocols; it’s about cultivating a deeper level of respect and understanding. By prioritizing the correct use of pronouns, avoiding deadnaming, and recovering gracefully from mistakes, we can create spaces where everyone feels seen, respected, and valued. Whether you’re a healthcare professional, educator, or simply an ally, these principles are foundational to fostering an inclusive environment. In embracing these practices, we affirm the dignity of every individual and contribute to a world that recognizes and celebrates the full spectrum of human identity.
Dr. Shannon Whittington she/her DNP MSN RN CCM LGBTQ+ Health Virtual Speaker & Author
