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Antoinette L. Beeks Embracing Being An Anomaly
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Antoinette L. Beeks is the Season 3 winner of the Androgynous Model Contest. The show was filmed in Charlotte, NC and created, produced, and directed by Carolina native Nikki Eason.
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"Things don’t go away because you don’t want to deal with it" Coach Gwen The Greek definition of trauma as “WOUND” which we will translate to emotional, physical, and or psychological.
Trauma is the result of a negative event (s). It occurs when you feel emotionally or mentally hurt by something that has happened, and it may lead to post-traumatic stress disorder, which is commonly referred to as PTSD.
As we enter into TUV Magazine’s 7th year I can recall writing countless articles about trauma, pain, healing, relationships, selfcare, wellness, mental health, family, and transparently my own pain. Nevertheless, 2021 reignited a dire need
It’s Healing Time ON THE COVER: Meet Antoinette L. Beeks the Season
3 winner of The Androgynous Model
Contest. “The Androgynous Model” is
an intentional, non-scripted, modeling
competition show that encourages others
to be brave in their journey to authenticity.
Gwendolyn D. Clemons MBA, MSM, PRC
Editor in Chief of TUV Media @coachingwithgwen @coachgwenclem_
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for me to take some of my own advice by dipping into
my trauma-informed care toolbox. The loss of family and friends has taken a mental toll on my coping skills which
made me realize the importance of healing from my grief. Marvin Gaye once sang that there are three things fo’ sho’:
taxes, death, and trouble. 2021 provided me with too much of all three, LOL! I have learned that sigma and shame live
in your hiding, and I refuse to give those two words power over me. The good thing about talking openly about your
challenges is that you take control over the narrative and
somehow in telling your story you’ll find someone dealing
with a situation like yours or similar. I have found my happy place in talking daily and having mental check-ins with my
spouse and close social circle. We’ve been through a lot in such a short time but guess what? We are Still here!
It's Healing Time ya’ll because we deserve to live out fully
from traumatic pain and memories. There is hope and there are options available to you as opposed to living in Chronic Trauma! It is my hope that mental wellness, self-care, and
self-awareness become your top 5 priorities going forward. This may look like a temporary priority or a lifelong way of living, either way you will benefit from doing the work.
In this issue we are giving a plethora of advice to guide
you toward healing. As you read each article, we know that something written will reach you. How do we know? We know because we are speaking it into existence!
What I want to share with you this
always trying to control what
Bible and without bragging, as one
to the end. What do you do in a state
May/June TUV edition begins in the who has matriculated twice from seminary, once with a Master of
Divinity degree and then secondly, with a Doctorate In Ministry, it is
imperative that I must give truth to the text, as I preach to you in
this edition. I want you to trust the process because trust is allowing what IS to be what it Is because if
you would learn to trust the process then you would discover that
process does have a happy ending. Trust can be defined as a means of letting go of control and
expectations. It means being relaxed enough at any moment to take
effective action when needed or do nothing when that is most helpful. Trust is an awareness that there’s
no need for anxiety about whatever happens because it’s all part of the journey of life. But in order to get to the end of the story one must
understand the between the dash
of your beginning and ending story because as Chris Bolgiano argues, “Unlike wolves, who seem in some
subtle way to choose their prey for pursuit, cougars wait in hiding to
make a short rush at any animal that happens by.” And so, this article is
for you to understand and consider this word called process.
Trust the Process Dr. Davin D. Clemons DMin
The process doesn’t mean it’s easy. Trusting the process will make you laugh. It will make you cry. It will make you cuss. It will make you
fuss and sometimes it will make you act a damn fool! Excuse my tongue but trusting the process is hard ass HELL!
But when you are hungry for an
expected end, you’ll gain a more
prosperous, fuller experience by allowing life to happen without
happens in between in order to get hunger and frustration, negativity, bad attitudes, inconsistencies, rumors, disruptive behaviors, sicknesses, poverty, eviction
notices, unforeseen pandemics,
police reform, race critical theories and don’t say gay tension that’s in the middle of your beginning and ending while you wait on God? While you are in the middle of
tension, at the spark of negativity,
God is trying to get you to shift your mindset, give you power to trust in knowing as that great theologian by the name of Paul once said in
Romans 8:28, “And we know that all
things work together for the good to
who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”
In times of distress and trouble, the human side of you wants to
control the process. You want to
rush through everything. You want to push the process forward because
you’re angry and frustrated. You want to stop while being in it because of
indecision and inaction; have it your way, insisting that there is a better
way out or second guessing where and what God has you in.
Whether you believe in God, a
Higher Power, or something else
that gives you hope. You can lean
on Faith to move you through to the other side. For me, I believe God uses this life as a way to help us
draw ever closer to Her, whether if
she opens or shuts doors in our life, we owe our faith in Her. Even when you’re in a sticky situation with no
“process map,” you have to believe that God has a strategy and a plan
to handle every obstacle or detour. So, Trust the Process!
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Meet Antoinette L. Beeks
THE WINNER OF THE ANDROGYNOUS MODEL CONTEST! Meet the Season 3 winner of The Androgynous Model Contest,
created, produced, and directed by Carolina native Nikki Eason. “The Androgynous Model” is an intentional, non-scripted,
modeling competition show that
encourages others to be brave in their journey to authenticity.
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Q: Who are you? Tell us about yourself. A: My Mother would describe me as “Her
special child.” One who humbly stands out, is empathetic, creative, and an outgoing
introvert. I am a lover of God, strengthened
by the courage and energy He places on my
path. A native of Greenville SC, I was born into a close and loving family. My secret love is
playing the drums and composing beats. I’m a Biology graduate of Charleston Southern University. I’m also a nature enthusiast,
revitalized in the presence of any scenic beach, waterfall, pool or lake.
This love of nature and science fuels my passion to help others eat whole and mindfully. This led me to become a
Certified Health Coach at the Institute
of Integrative Nutrition. My book “After
the Nest: The Culinary Edition” is a tool
to help jumpstart your cooking journey,
while achieving health and financial goals. It is available at afterthenestbook.com, Amazon, and Barnes & Noble.
My most recent accomplishment is becoming Season 3 winner of The Androgynous Model, a reality show that encourages others to be brave in their journey to true self.
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Somebody somewhere needs to know your testimony for their own survival. Celebrate you as you stand out. Be a proud anomaly!
Q: Why did you want to be a contestant on The Androgynous Model? I love all things fashion! But it was something different about The Androgynous Model. I saw myself in the contestants. I began
to accept that I was an anomaly and that
there were women that looked and dressed like me, with both masculine and feminine energies. I was sold!
I am moved by the selfless love and tireless dedication Nikki Eason (Producer, Creator)
Model showed me how to celebrate me and appreciate my journey. In hindsight, it also
taught me how to not miss the lesson in the
challenges of life. To not go around or under a challenge, but through it because that’s where the victory awaits.
Q: As winner of The Androgynous Model what is next for you?
has in showing androgynous people that they
What isn’t next? I’m an open vessel, ready to
The show is the epitome of self-reflection
Model to complete what God has placed on
are unique, loved and belong in any industry. and the blueprint to empowering the
Androgynous individual to unapologetically stand out and be celebrated.
Q: What did you learn most about yourself during the competition? I learned how to WIN! My mindset was that it was okay to just be okay, and not make any ripples when I did win. The Androgynous
use what I’ve learned from The Androgynous my path. I am excited to use my platform
to bridge overall feel-good wellness with
modeling. Becoming the top Androgynous
model in the fashion industry and having my own cooking show is on the horizon.
Q: What advice would you give other androgynous women? I want them to know that we no longer
have to accept what people just hand us.
That we deserve excellence. That we can forge our own paths. Be courageous in STAY CONNECTED @wellcoachbeeks @theandromodeltv @wellcoachbeeks antoinette.beeks.7 Book: After the Nest:
The Culinary Edition
Available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble
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sharing your journey. Somebody somewhere needs to know your testimony for their
own survival. Celebrate you as you stand out. Be a proud anomaly
After Pain Comes
HEALING By Dr. Umieca N. Hankton
and the pain my body felt each time my
knee or elbow hit the asphalt. For the life of me, I could not understand why my mother removed the training wheels from my
unicorn bike or why she would not put them
back on after witnessing my pain. Like many of you, I can remember my first heartbreak and believing I would never get over the
lost love. And sadly, I also recall the pain of giving the doctors permission to remove
my mother from life support. Each of these experiences reinforced my understanding that pain was inevitable. Asking for the
return of the training wheels so that I would stop falling (AVOIDANCE), petitioning for a second chance at a failed relationship (AVOIDANCE), and asking to sustain my mother on life support a little longer
(AVOIDANCE) were all instances in which I attempted to escape the coming of pain.
and flow of the ocean, we cannot control the
arrival of pain. Pain is certain. Accepting that pain will happen shapes how we respond
when it inevitably and inconveniently shows up. When we ready our minds to accept
changes and shifts, we prepare our minds to take ownership and initiation of our healing.
Embracing the reality that we cannot control when or how physical, psychological, or
spiritual pain makes its presence known in
our lives allows us to focus on what we can
control, which is how we respond. Avoidance of pain leads to suffering and suffering is a choice. However, just as suffering is a
choice, so is healing. Viewing life from a
drain you of your emotional,
how do we begin to heal?
especially the “if I were you” folks.
experiencing life from the lens of hurt. So, Start with these simple tips: 1. DO NOT deny the presence of pain.
Pretending things are okay or that you are okay when you are not will not make the pain disappear. Avoidance of pain does not lead to growth and healing.
2. DO NOT hurt in silence, isolation, or dark spaces because shame, hopelessness, and apathy grow in those conditions.
3. DO NOT stay in distressing environments. Get out of spaces and away from people who flourish due to your pain. Misery
loves miserable company and narcissists need someone to gaslight.
4. DO acknowledge your wounds to yourself and others. We cannot heal that which we
spiritual, and financial resources, 8. DO prioritize your health and
needs over the needs of others. Ensuring your needs are met is
not a selfish action. Putting YOU
first is an invaluable gift you offer to yourself that will also benefit others. A vehicle without fuel
cannot travel, nor can you pour into others from an empty cup.
9. DO extend grace and forgiveness to yourself for the ways you had
to survive that may not have been most helpful. You are human,
deserving of forgiveness, kindness, and compassion. May you offer these gifts to yourself first.
do not acknowledge.
5. DO seek support as soon as you can. There’s no need to wait until the pain
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becomes suffering or interferes with quality of life. We would not wait to seek medical attention for a broken bone. Therefore,
we should not wait to seek mental health treatment for an emotional injury.
6. DO connect with a mental health provider, which permits healing to occur sooner
Dr. Hankton is a licensed clinical psychologist and the executive director of UNH Counseling
Services. UNH Counseling Services
than later. Early intervention is vital.
is a private behavioral health agency
7. DO strengthen your boundaries. After
wellness of Black women, LGBTQ+,
an emotional or physical injury, the body needs time and space to rest and regain
strength. Limit the access of people who
that focuses on the health and
clergy, and college students. Dr.
Hankton provides clinical services to those located in TN, LA, TX, GA, WI, AL, D.C., IL, MN, & KY.
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LOVING OUR
Mother’s Day Message of Love & Support By Gwendolyn D. Clemons, Publisher/Editor-in-Chief
I
n his new HBO comedy special,
Rothaniel, Jerrod Carmichael comes
out as gay and talks about how the
news has caused a riff within his family
especially his mother. Carmichael further explains that he and his mother has a
“God Size Wall” between them because
of her deeply held religious views about
homosexuality. Furthermore, Carmichael shared about living in the closet for
years and how much self-hate he held because he has denied himself from
living authentically for so long. This is the importance of publishing stories about mothers who take a different stance
for loving their children irrespective of who they love or how they identify. *At
the time of this publishing, 14 year old
Giovanni Melton's father was sentenced
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to life in prison for his senseless murder
the world about what acceptance and
because he found out he was GAY! Rest in
irrespective of being LGBTQIA+. It is
in 2018. This monster killed this baby
peace Giovanni. You didn't deserve this! We all know that on Mother’s Day, the
media gives considerable attention to mothers, our sisters, our daughters,
and our grandmothers, by highlighting the contributions these women make
love should look like for one’s children widely known how harrowing the stories
from the opposite side are, from parents
rejecting their kids, to kicking them out of their homes, to even resorting to murder, all because of their children’s sexual
orientation or how they self- identity.
to their families and communities.
The pictures of the love captured within
transgender parents and their families
shared between these parents and their
The lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual and are often absent in Mother’s Day
coverage since print and electronic press reports often focus solely on heteronormative parenting.
This is our 7th year highlighting Black Momma’s with loving messages to
these pages illustrate the authentic bond children. To all the mothers out there
who give their LGBTQIA+ children the
unconditional love they deserve, we all say:
THANK YOU & Happy Mother’s Day!
The pictures of the love captured within these pages illustrate the authentic bond shared between these parents and their children.
"
When I was pregnant with Andre’ I wanted
a girl, but GOD blessed me with a boy. GOD knew what I needed when he gave me
Andre’. When I found out that he was gay I was initially shocked, hurt, confused, and
depressed. One day I was talking to GOD, and I asked why my son was gay and why was this happening to me. Then I heard
a little voice in my head saying, “Why not
you?” From that point on I accepted my son and everything about him. This taught me
unconditional love! My husband and I have a lot of health problems and Andre’ takes
very good care of us. He is at every doctor’s appointment, cleans, cooks, and handles all our business affairs. GOD gave me exactly
what I needed: a loving, beautiful, fantastic, nurturing and brilliant son! My advice is
to step back and let GOD be your guide always. I love my son very very much!!!"
−Janice Wilson
Kimberly Branch & Mother Althea Burks
"
I am honored to share a few words about my daughter Kimberly Vernice Branch. She was born March 16, 1982, at 7:12pm, weighing 7lbs and 12 ounces. Such an astounding
coincidence for an astounding human being.
She is a true testament to what unconditional love, happiness, joy, and peace, along with success looks like. She is the owner of
Pamper Me Nails and First Impressions. Truly walking in her purpose and passion.
As a soldier on the front-line of her life, with
experience as her weapon. She is surrounded and protected by elevating energy that drives her, all the while, making fruitful relationships
Virginia Hannah & Mother Vivian Jones
with family, friends, and clients. Loyalty is
"
huge for her. “You are the average sum of
at least five individuals you associate with,”
her circle is small so that she can support all
Most people say if their child come out
those who may need her too and vice versa.
to be gay, they wouldn’t be upset. Well,
when Virginia told me she was gay I was
As her mother I have had the greatest
I was disappointed the life I dreamed for
her. I’m “Mama Peaches” to all her LGBTQ
overwhelmed with emotions but mostly
pleasure of experiencing her journey with
her wasn’t going to come true. I admit I
friends. I love them and they love me. This
was being selfish and didn’t realize my
planet earth is just a little bit brighter with
child was about to embark on a journey
Kimberly being here. Continue to let your
that would change her life dramatically.
light shine Kim and always remember dearest
Of course, I eventually realized no matter
daughter, “A mother is your first friend, your
what, I loved my child and I raised her to be
best friend, and your forever friend.” I love
herself no matter the price. The love you
you and pray for God's blessings on your
have for your child is unconditional".
−Vivian Jones
life’s journey on this planet". Andrew & Mother Janice Wilson
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new release climbing the charts
entitled, ‘Grace of God’ that can be downloaded and streamed on all digital platforms.
Photographer: Dru Phillips
“We’re called to all people… Especially the LGBTQIA+ community.”
− B. Chase Williams
B. Chase & Shabach also has a
COMMUNITY CHOIRS ARE ABOUT COMMUNITY NOT RELIGION
B. Chase & Shabach has been known for their incredible voices and powerful messages
and are no strangers to philanthropy work.
“This story drives home for me
Jill Scott, Bobby Brown, and more! Also,
‘B. Chase & Shabach’ I was homeless here
major headlines as one of the most soulful
personally because before there was a
in Atlanta. I know the struggle, I’ve slept in shelters and on park benches, and I never forgot that. I remember that being one of
the most difficult periods of my life, and if
I can help someone who is currently there, then it will have all been worth it…” -B. Chase Williams
W
illiams has worked with some of the
music industry’s biggest names who
include Tasha Cobbs-Leonard (Billboard’s Top Gospel Artist of the Decade), Chrissy Collins (toured with Beyoncé as one of three background singers for several years) and band members who have
gone on to play for Justin Timberlake,
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last year, the choir went VIRAL and made renditions of the “Happy Birthday Song” ever with OVER 2 MILLION VIEWS on
TikTok. However, in spite of the success of
his choir members, Williams is committed to making a direct impact on one of the city’s
most marginalized communities and provide resources to people who need it most.
Williams, along with a staff inclusive of
choir members, has created Mellie’s Pride, a 501(c)3 to provide housing to Atlanta’s LGBT youth. The foundation’s motto,
H.O.P.E. (Helping Our People Elevate)
was birthed to encourage anyone that encounters the organization and find
“HOPE” in often “hope-less” situations.
“We’ve sang in prisons, nursing homes,
shelters, retirement communities, you name it, we’ve been there because it’s important
that we reach people where they are and not the other way around…”
B. Chase & Shabach will be hosting a free
event, entitled “Choirs Rock” on May 29 in Atlanta where attendees are encouraged to bring supplies to help the youth of
Mellie’s Pride. They are seeking donations of clothes, non-perishable food, toiletries, new underwear and more in order to give the community’s youth the items they need but may not have access to.
They are seeking donations of clothes, non-perishable food, toiletries, new
underwear and more in order to give
the community’s youth the items they need but may not have access to.
IF YOU WANT A SINGING CAREER, STAY AWAY FROM SECONDHAND SMOKE.
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Ellie’s severe asthma attacks were triggered by secondhand smoke at work. She and her partner have to live with its effects forever. If you or someone you know wants free help to quit smoking, call 1-800-QUIT-NOW. #CDCTips
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Healing Wounds with Proper Care By Beth Trouy
I
work in a hospital. As a clinical
in acknowledging another’s
wound specialist, I see wounds
suffering. The soul receives
every day. I’ve had my hands
healing when we invest in one
inside the deepest of wounds
another – all the time. It’s a
and I’ve been amazed at how the
100% guarantee that when
body can heal itself over time. I
love for another is freely given,
consider myself a gardener of
healing will be achieved. We just
sorts, of skin and tissue. Like
may never “see” the healing,
soil, a wound needs a moist,
but it’s there. We sometimes
fertile environment, free of
need to let go of our agenda
weedy contaminants. If you
and just be present.
can figure out what the wound
Jesus said, “Go and do as I have
lacks, you can usually nurture it
done.” We are all commanded
back to health. One of my most
to go out and be healers for one
satisfying rewards is seeing a
another. We don’t have to be
patient for the last time with
experts; we just have to be willing.
newly restored skin and a closed
We also don’t need to be well or
wound. We’ve often been seeing
even whole ourselves. In fact,
each other for months, 2-3 days a week and to finally reach that
sometimes it’s more effective
final goal together, is gratifying.
(physically, mentally or
with the potential to be made well
song and give them a hug as they
be our first question too. You
more frustrating to be unable
I sometimes hum the graduation
leave. Sometimes there are tears
too. When they try to give me the credit, I remind them there were many involved in the process
and I was just one team member. It takes collaboration of the
patient, family, caregivers and
certainly some prayer too. Mostly though, it takes compliance on
the part of the patient. They need to believe they can heal.
Jesus asked, “Do you wish to be healed?” I’ve seen many
wounds fail to heal because
spiritually), this should always see, we can’t help those who
do not wish to be helped. It may seem strange that a person
would choose to stay wounded but we all know people who have wounds, visible and
invisible ones, they choose to
keep. I don’t ask why anymore. It’s too complicated of an
answer and I respect their
wishes, however baffling to
me. I pray they have a change
of heart and then I move on to
someone who desires my help.
of the non-compliance of the
In my 31 years as a wound
someone who is wounded
wounds that did not heal. It’s a
patient. When trying to help
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therapist, I remember most of the helpless feeling seeing someone
but lacking the desire. It’s even to help those who do follow
every recommendation and
still do not get well. Sometimes, regardless of our efforts, some wounds will never heal. I’m
speaking also of the unseen
ones: the psychological, spiritual and emotional wounds that,
in spite of our efforts, remain
raw and painful. I used to think the whole investment of time,
resources and labor was a waste
when we allow others to see
our own wounds we carry. This
communion of shared suffering can provide a space for shared
healing. What one cannot do for oneself, together, the power to
be made well is multiplied. What I have not expected in my years
of caring for others is the healing I have received in return. Some of the most afflicted patients have humbled me with their
serenity and acceptance of their circumstances. Their positivity was palpable and contagious.
but now I feel very differently.
The unexpected gift of helping
the walking with someone in
The ministry of healing can be as
You see, the journey together, their suffering is healing in itself even if the outcome we seek
is not achieved. There is value
others is that we too are helped.
rewarding for the minister as it is for the ministered. The hands of healing belong to all of us.
Healing A Broken Heart
After a Break-Up By Brodderick D. Roary
B
reak up, saying goodbye to the person you were once
close with and deeply in love with. We have all been there and we all know how that feels.
We have all had our hearts
broken. When it happens to you personally, it’s devastating and while people can relate, they
aren’t in that moment. The pain is there and it’s real for you.
Sometimes it feels like you’re
completely helpless and you’ll never get past the suffering. The important things to
remember are that there are
people there for you and that there is always a light at the
end of the tunnel and ways to help you get there. You must
understand that getting over a breakup seems unachievable but it’s just about a matter
of time. Here are a few ways
to assist you on your road to peace and happiness again. CUT ALL THE CONTACT. This honestly is rule #1 in a
breakup. Keep your distance and don’t text, email, meet
in person or call. You should probably take them off your
Facebook or any other social
Healing from a broken heart is as much a physical process as it is an emotional one. networks while you’re at
it. This doesn’t have to be
permanent but while you’re
vulnerable to any mean or, in contrast – loving words, it’s
best not to have their voice in your head. The risk of getting back into a relationship when it wasn’t working is high. You
will naturally feel some negative
intentionally look at pictures
or hard your breakup was.
from him or her. It’s now about
emotions no matter how easy
Honor your feelings and know that they will get less intense
the more that you let them out. It helps you move past them!
Cry, sob your eyes out, scream
grateful to them for that, but
UNDERSTAND THE BEAUTY
Now is your chance to
DON’T RUSH INTO ANOTHER
can be fun. This is one of the
Don’t bounce into another
embrace it! Maybe you let go
that you’re okay. It is probably
of yourself in the relationship.
OF BEING SINGLE AND
find yourself again and this
RELATIONSHIP.
positives to your breakup, so
relationship too quickly, thinking
of a hobby you used to love to do or stopped taking time out for yourself. There are a lot of
personal things that made you
special, you just must find them again and get the feeling back. Alternatively, you may have
grown in the relationship which means you can discover new things about yourself.
don’t even have time to just sit
LET YOUR EMOTIONS OUT.
you are today, and you can be
Chances are, you lost a piece
anxiety. Cutting the ties for a faster path to healing.
Your ex is a part of the person
the chapter with them is gone.
The journey to finding yourself
good when it’s over puts you on
you and your present moments.
FIND YOURSELF
may also end up in a war of
words causing further hurt and
or look at old texts you got
is hard because most of us
down and think about what we want. It can be a long journey, but you can take your time to
do so because it’s so worth it!
and yell. If it doesn’t hurt you
PAY ATTENTION TO
the best quick fix out there but at the same time, you never
really get over your ex. In the long run, you haven’t gotten
over your ex and when your next relationship ends, you’ll have
two exes to get over. You’re just prolonging the inevitable pain. A breakup is an ending, not
a rejection. It might not feel like that initially, but it’s an
important thing to remember. When your heart has been
broken, it can take a while to find your way back to being
whole, but you will get there.
Healing from a broken heart is
as much a physical process as
or anybody else, find ways to
YOUR THOUGHTS
it is an emotional one.
release and let go of the pain you may be feeling. When
As you look to move forward in
Above all else, remember that
people kindly and humorously
your life, don’t deny or grasp on to your ex’s memory. They may
were beautiful, strong, vibrant,
tell you all breakups are hard,
it’s because they are. Don’t take this part of the healing process away from yourself or it will
grow and fester within you. You
pop into your mind as a memory of a moment when you were
happy (or not). Acknowledge it,
smile, or cry. Let the memory go instead of clinging to it. Don’t
there were things about you that and extraordinary before
the relationship. Nothing has
changed. You’re not ALONE…
Let your tribe love and support you on your healing journey.
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Healing Justice The Power of Personal Autonomy By Rodnisha Ford talent, or passion that when fully
expressed, creates space to thrive and encourages that life be lived fully and authentically. It is truly
I
a disservice to the world to keep
n a world where access to health and wellness is often presented
as a luxury, it can be a challenge to find and connect with spaces of
rejuvenation and healing. Though the distress of such obstacles are
real, it still remains that everyone deserves a right to heal. I invite you to consider these 5 ways to focus on healing by taking back your power in your health. While the healthcare system will fight to keep your money by keeping you sick and generally unwell, let me remind you that the
power to reclaim personal autonomy of your health, life, and overall well being is yours. May these words provide a sacred reminder that true
healing starts from within and can be cultivated by choosing to play an active role in facilitating personal healing, growth, and wholeness.
Cultivate the Spirit. Although it is a vital component of healing, spiritual health is often overlooked and
neglected. Many have only known
spirit to exist within the context of of cultivating spirit, it is not the only way. It is ok to cultivate a personal
path to connection with the Divine in ways that best serve and are in
What lights you up and brings you Nourish the Body. The body is
Rest the Mind. Mental stimulation
joy? Whose presence refills your
has an incredible ability to heal
attempt to stake claims on
mind in such reflection, try going
distractions grow exponentially
way to remind the individual spirit
intentional stillness into your
far larger than self.
and restore itself. This natural
phenomena is facilitated through receiving proper nourishment, adequate hydration, ample
movement, and plenty of rest. These foundational principles of health are more than mere
guidelines to follow, rather a way of life that centers vitality and physical well-being. Consider
what foods rejuvenate your body? How can you add more movement
into your day? Remember that you are in control and can have fun
abounds as numerous distractions
energy? If nothing comes to
your attention. Although these
outside to connect with Earth as a
by the day, choose to incorporate
of an existence within something
mind. Practice various forms of meditation, take thinking and
Express Creativity. As the
just be. Give yourself permission
creativity is often the first to be
to release stress and calm mental tension by redirecting mental
energy to a space of rest. You, and your mind, deserve it.
when you invite these special and creative parts out into the world?
Invite Play. Playfulness is easily lost in the hustle and bustle of adult life. Oppressive systems
have convinced us that fun and
play are things of the past, mere
childhood fantasies that now only exist as nostalgia. This simply is
not true. Humans are curious by
nature, and this curiosity is best explored in spaces of freedom
and fun. Since play is actualized
differently for everyone, make a
list of activities that bring you light excitement and joy, and then get out and do them. Give yourself permission to have a little fun.
abandoned and cast aside. In
Although these 5 reminders may
remember that self expression
work comes in sustaining them
these moments, it's important to and personal creation of any
kind are tremendously helpful in Inside everyone is a unique gift,
to sustain the body.
Rodnisha Ford
demands of life fight for attention,
fostering health and wholeness.
trying and exploring new ways
suppressing? What does it look like
and fill you with a sense of childlike
content breaks, or even carve out 5 minutes a day to simply sit and
What unique gifts have you been
religion, and while this is one way
alignment with personal values.
a powerful force of nature that
such awesomeness hidden inside.
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seem simple to understand, the
as practices in your daily life. It is
passive work to read these words and agree with the sentiment, however, the challenge is in
being an active participant by
doing the work. How will you do
the work of cultivating health and wellness in your life today?
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who is stee moglie? By Monick Monell, TUV New York Correspondent
D
id you know music can
be used and looked upon
in many ways? Music can be
used as a way to lower anxiety,
depression, trauma, psychosis, and stress. It’s expressive,
emotional nature can help you become more self-aware and
bring about emotions you might be suppressing. It can help with memory, lower blood pressure, improve coping, reduce stress,
improve self-esteem and more. So, with all the meaning of what
music can do we introduce “STEE MOGLIE” from LONDON, UK.
Because of her unique range of
sound and lyrics are so distinctive
she is TUV Magazine 2022 “One to Watch” artist for May-June 2022. I came across Stee Moglie video on an Instagram page which is
owned by King Julestee who also is an amazing person to behold. Stee Moglie is virtuoso in many musical instruments such as
the guitar, bass, and drums. In
addition, she writes her own lyrics along with her live band. You can find her name in so many links
such as TED Talks London, Black Music Movement, Brixton Black
Lives Matter music and the list can go on. I describe her as being an
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architect who proves you can have many gifts to fulfill your passions. During our interview, she shared how she engages in inner power
meditation and exercise of calming the mind for a few minutes to
connect with the present moment. She spoke about her love for
sports, art, anime and competition, especially if you want to play a
game of chess with her and table tennis. Traveling is important to her because she loves finding
hidden places to travel to, that
excites her visual outlook in life. Despite the Coronavirus pausing life as we know it, Stee Moglie
spoke about working on a music
video for the future. However, you don’t have to wait too long. Stee Moglie is currently performing
live at all your favorite places in
London. I know she is at the studio right now putting her pen to paper all the while giving us that raw
emotion she expresses through
her music and lyrics. Make sure you grab a seat and have her
sign an autograph for you, if you
happen to meet her because she is the “One to Watch.”
rawmusicmedia.co.uk
A New Healing Dr. Liz L. West, Ph.D.
W
e have all come to the conclusion
that we, as a society, need healing.
We have also come to the conclusion that the healing that we once knew is
not working for us. So, how and where
do we start? We start by seeking a new type of healing first (since the old one
isn’t serving us well), and given the fact that emotions are at the seat of the
soul, let’s start there. There are many emotional issues, but I will discuss
society’s number one emotional issue— uncontrolled anger. Yes, uncontrolled
anger has become society’s number one emotional issue. Allow me to point out
that “anger” is not society’s number one emotional issue, “uncontrolled anger” is society’s number one emotional issue.
Anger is not number one because anger is not a bad emotion. The negative
response to anger is what is unfavorable for everyone involved. It is at this point where crime usually comes into play.
We have been unwilling to accept the
fact that violence, as a result of anger,
is everyone’s individual responsibility.
Instead of taking on the responsibility,
we have sought scapegoats in minority cultures, racial groups, the mentally ill,
as well as subcultures. Look at the crime we see in the news. Instead of taking
responsibility, we result to committing crimes. Crime is at an all-time high
and is, unfortunately, becoming more
and more bazaar. People are dropping babies off bridges, adults are abusing children, filming it and putting it
on social media, as well as parents
“Anger” is not society’s number one emotional issue, “uncontrolled anger” is society’s number one emotional issue.
beating children to their deaths. We’re
are abusing women, children, and animals,
Pay attention the next time you go to a game
molestation, bombings, and suicide/
shootings, mall shootings, drive-by
game, I’m always intrigued by the action
becoming more aware of rape, child
homicide attempts and commitments. Not to mention sports figures who
mass shootings, school shootings, theater shootings, and even church shootings. The
underlying issue here is uncontrolled anger.
or any crowded stadium. When at a football of the fans. Observe the next time you’re
in the stands, and you will notice irrational
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We have been unwilling to accept the fact that violence, as a result of anger,is everyone’s individual responsibility. fits of anger, uncontrolled frustration
oozing from people that masquerade
under the facade of excitement or “team drunkenness, fights in the stands, and
begin the healing journey). I can’t tell you
“team loyalty”. These people are trying
you how to begin the healing journey, then
unrestrained selfishness in the name of desperately to release tension from
within because these are not people who are at peace with themselves, they are
secretly angry. I’ve long stopped looking at the news, but if you still do so, watch and observe the amount of anger and rage that is exhibited by people who
are featured in the news. Listen to the lyrics of the most popular songs that
are playing today. People also exhibit
anger, rage, frustration, discontent, and to accept that the problem is within
ourselves and when we are willing to
I will share five tips to recognize that healing
would be beneficial. I will also share 5 tips that
will guide you in beginning the healing journey.
requires honest communication to that
someone has offended you.
Tip 3: When it is difficult to let go of past trauma.
activities, gestures, etc.
Tip 5: When there is no sense of fulfillment. How to begin your healing journey? Tip 1: Realize, admit, and determine that you
A New Healing” is the name of an
Tip 2: Connect with a mental health
intervention that I often use to
approach healing from a psychological and spiritual aspect. Healing is not
an event; it is a journey, an evolution.
Just as we are always learning, we are
also always healing (once we decide to
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z L. We i L r.
emotionally to stimuli such as words, images,
mental health professional, as well as a commitment to the healing journey.
judgment, and I wish you well.
Tip 2: When you want to get revenge after
music, videos, smells, memories, thoughts,
mental health professional, it also
“A New Healing” with honor instead of
or someone else.
cycle of anger, end the suffering, and
begins with the connection to a licensed
or destination. So, begin your journey to
Tip 1: When it is difficult to forgive yourself
Tip 4: If you become triggered and respond
begin the healing process. This process
Remember, this is a journey, not an event
How do I know I need healing?
heal both psychologically and spiritually, then and only then can we approach the
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you take it from there.
the journey and do the self-work.
st
stress in inequalities. When we are ready
how to get healed, I can only share with
Tip 5: Make the commitment to begin
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spirit”. Notice the booing, catcalls,
will begin your healing journey. professional
Tip 3: Connect with a spiritual advisor, mentor, or guide
Tip 4: Communicate openly and honestly with mental health professionals.
Dr. Liz L. West, Ph.D., LPC, NCC,
CCBT, CART. Dr Liz West is a clinical
psychotherapist and founder of A New Healing Inc “Healing For The Culture”.
Dr West can be found on all social media platforms @anewhealinginc
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