Q&A
Do relationships last at school?
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bsolutely. At the college it’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day which makes meet up times quite hard. But being able to balance extra-curriculars, school work and social life is such a useful skill when mastered. Finding ‘meetup spots’ can be awkward during the talking period, not everyone is prepared for the unwanted attention that comes with a dinner or Tim’s date (ahem, rowdy boys cheering across the dining hall). If you’re looking for something inconspicuous, the bench by science, the Dell and the benches outside All Saints near Powell courts and Craig are a go-to. If you’ve been talking a while, you could consider LRC dates or the benches by cloisters (be prepared though, you might be making a statement about your status. Cloisters are still a very much public spot). When initiating the ‘talking stage’ it’s important to ask yourself: Does this person make me happy?
This seems broad but if there are sometimes misunderstandings which often become arguments, maybe reconsider? You don’t have time or energy to spend on over complicating things. Can you talk to this person honestly? Banter and good chat are vital, but what about being able to carry a deep conversation? Is that something you rate?) Will this ruin a friendship? If you’re friends with the person before how do you see your relationship evolving, does this risk your relationship afterwards? Do you have time for this right now? Although someone can make us happy short term, does it just cause extra stress? The main piece of advice I would offer is to remember friends come first. Make sure you balance a new interest within your social life. The last thing you want is for them to lose interest in you and realise your friends aren’t there to support you after you’ve prioritised someone else for the past few months. 14
