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21 PARENTING 24 TRENDING 31 CALENDAR 36 CULTURE 39 BOOKSHELF 40 HEALTH 44 HUMOR 47 THINGS I’VE LEARNED

18 EDUCATION Worried your child may be falling behind in school?

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21 PARENTING Born in the late ’80s, Together for Children is making a resurgence serving Central Oregon families once again.

26 FEATURE Attitude is everything! Check out these super kids pursuing their dreams in various extracurricular activities.

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blink of an eye and summer is gone. For many families, back-to-school relieves the stress of occupying the kids all day, but for others, the alarm and fire drill of leaving the house on time sends the blood pressure skyrocketing.

Getting back to the routine is bittersweet. Fall is time to focus on education, both in and out of the classroom.

This issue, we have a great feature for you, highlighting some very positive kid role models all pursuing their dreams.

Why not take a moment to see what interests your child, then support them in their quest? Kids who love what they’re doing are shown to advance and excel in learning.

Alternately, if your child is struggling to keep up in the classroom, it may be that they need a little outside help. See how you can support them get up to speed with a tutor in Education.

Studies show that important learning happens at a very young age. In Parenting, Edie Jones, former director of Together for Children, recounts the history of this outstanding organization and shares exciting news that this popular group is making a resurgence.

Meaningful learning also happens outside the classroom, especially in the outdoors. I recently had the pleasure of

venturing out to Prineville to meet an inspiring animal lover at her exotic petting zoo. Her mission? To give all children the opportunity to hold and pet animals, giving them confidence along the way. Why not take the whole family to enjoy this hands-on learning experience (See Outdoors)?

In this transitioning of seasons, maybe you have noticed that your child has become a teenager. In Health, local pediatrician, Dr. Nix explains why it’s important to schedule a teen check-up and what that entails.

And lastly, we are excited to introduce Michele Gardemann, bus driver extraordinaire. Not just the woman behind the wheel, she is a friend and mentor to many. In Things I’ve Learned, she shares her priceless wisdom.

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My son has diarrhea quite often and sometimes complains of a stomach ache. Our pediatrician does not seem to be too concerned, but a friend recently suggested that it could be celiac disease. How can we find out?

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Yes, it certainly could be that your son has celiac disease. However, a more common cause of these symptoms is lactose intolerance. Before undergoing blood work, I would recommend a two-week challenge of a strict dairy-free diet followed by gradual re-introduction of dairy. If his symptoms resolve during the challenge and then return when you allow him to eat dairy again, then that is the most likely diagnosis. There is not a reliable lab test to diagnose lactose intolerance in kids. If there are no changes in his symptoms with the dairy-free diet, then it would be perfectly reasonable to test him for celiac disease with a simple blood test.

If the blood work is abnormal, then the diagnosis is confirmed with a biopsy via esophagogastroduodenoscopy (a.k.a.

EGD).

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At soccer practice, my 8-year-old daughter caught an elbow in the face and now has a black eye.

How long will it last and should I be concerned that there may be damage to her eye?

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A black eye will typically begin to fade within a few days and is often completely resolved at one to two weeks. Symptoms of damage to the eye itself or the bones around the eye include vision changes, persistent tearing or failure of the bruising and swelling to begin resolving within the first few days.

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My teenage son missed a lot of days this past school year due to fatigue and just feeling plain sick. We had him tested for mono, but his physician said they were not sure if he had mono, even though he tested positive for the Epstein-Barr virus. What is the relationship of the virus to the illness – I am confused.

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Mononucleosis (a.k.a Mono) is caused by two different viruses; Cytomegalovirus and Epstein-Barr virus. While there are a couple of different tests for Mono, the most accurate way to confirm the diagnosis is to test the titers (levels of antibodies against the virus) in the blood. There are certain types of antibodies that indicate a previous infection with CMV or EBV and other types that indicate a current infection. In other words, while we can tell if your son is currently infected with EBV/CMV or if he has been infected

with EBV/CMV in the past, we cannot tell you the timeframe of a previous infection.

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I have noticed that there is quite a bit of swelling around my baby’s belly button. It does not look infected but is protruding. Will this go away with time or is there something abnormal going on?

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Based on your description, this is likely an umbilical hernia. This is a very common issue during infancy, estimated to affect up to 20 percent of infants.

Most umbilical hernias will close on their own before a child is one year of age. Unless it is a very large umbilical hernia, we do not typically recommend surgical correction until approximately five years old, at which point it is very unlikely to close on its own. The concern, while rare, is that pieces of fat, intestine, etc. from the abdomen can become stuck outside of the body in the hernia. If that happens, there is a risk that the tissue will lose its blood supply and die. This is a surgical emergency. You want to notify your doctor as soon as possible or go to the emergency room if the hernia becomes purple/deep red and/or is not able to be pushed back into the abdomen.

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BREAKFAST | LUNCH | DINNER

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Check out these global education fun facts!

The students in China receive the most

homework in the world. On average, teenagers do a whopping 14 hours of homework per week.

The world’s oldest school is in Canterbury, England. The King’s School, as it is named, was founded in 597 AD.

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Back to School

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France has the shortest school year from August to June and also the longest school day.

Source: highereducation.frenchculture.org

In Brazil, having meals with family is an important part of the culture, which is why schools start at 7 am and are over by noon so that the kids can have lunch with their parents.

Source: en.wikipedia.org

Children in Germany receive a special cone called Schultüte, which is filled with pens, pencils, books and snacks. The catch is that they can only open it when they start school.

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In Kenya, it is not mandatory for children to go to school, but most children do attend at some point.

Source: povertyactionlab.org

Iran is one country where girls and boys are educated separately until the time they reach college.

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Pakistan does not give children a legal right to free education. Only children between the ages of 5 and 9 are entitled to compulsory education.

Source: psa.sch.ae

Kids in Japan are the most independent of students. They travel to school alone, clean their own classrooms and even carry their own lunches.

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The world’s highest school is situated in Phumachangtang, Tibet, at a height of 17,600 feet above sea level.

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The City Montessori School in Lucknow, India, is the largest school in the world in terms of number of students, with more than 32,000 in attendance.

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NEST NEWS Camp Fire Central Oregon and Workshops with Purpose Raise Global Awareness with New BRIDGES Program Camp Fire Central Oregon is partnering with Workshops with Purpose to pilot a new program for Central Oregon teens and adults focused on increasing global awareness, building tolerance and creating a community of empathetic leaders.

The 8-month program includes an international travel adventure and pre- and post-trip workshops where adults and teens work together as equal participants. “We’ve designed a collaborative program that empowers teens to explore in a learning environment that also strengthens their relationships with adults,” says Beth Babicz, Teen Program Manager of Camp Fire Central Oregon. The interactive curriculum incorporates photography, videography and creative writing.

The program’s inaugural BRIDGES: Thailand trip will take 12 teens and 10 adults on a 10-day adventure to Thailand this November. Participants will attend workshops before and after their travel to cultivate creative sparks, learn about Thai culture and delve into issues such as human trafficking and environmental conservationism.

To ensure the program is accessible to anyone interested in participating, the two organizations have designed BRIDGES with a critical fundraising effort to cover virtually all program costs. According to Babicz, “Inclusivity is a top priority for all Camp Fire programs. We never want cost to be a barrier for participation. Of course, the added benefit of fundraising is that it helps the teens develop a strong work ethic, gain leadership confidence and try out their entrepreneurial skills.”

The partnership between the two organizations was inspired by a Workshops with Purpose program in Thailand last year, led by Co-founder Kevin Kubota. “As someone who has led international travel workshops for years,” says Kubota, “I am excited about getting young people involved in compassionate travel. It is a powerful way to change the world for the better.”

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A Step Toward Safety

By Hannah Williford Entering Bend’s High Lakes Elementary School, it may look like nothing has changed: the arch over the entrance has the same gold lettering and trees shade either side. Students, however, have probably noticed one small difference: the presence of a secure lobby, one of 12 Bend-La Pine schools to receive the system thus far.

The secure lobbies function as an important way to keep students safe. After school hours start, doors are locked, and visitors enter through a glass vestibule before proceeding into the main part of the building. There they check in with the attendance office and gain a badge before being buzzed into the school.

Secure lobbies were already in place at six schools in the Bend-La Pine School district before the end of the last school year, including Pacific Crest Middle School, Silver Rail, Juniper, Highland, RE Jewell and Buckingham Elementary Schools. Along with High Lakes, Lava Ridge, Ponderosa, Pine Ridge, William E. Miller Elementary Schools and Sky View Middle School have secure lobbies in place for this school year. All other Bend-La Pine schools will have systems in place by early 2020. “[The lobbies will have] glass doors so that the staff can see if people are coming into the schools, will have a good line of sight, and… there will be at least one additional camera in each entryway,” said Scott Bojanowski, school safety coordinator.

This is not Bend-La Pine’s first swing at safe schools; many schools are already equipped with cameras and tools such as First Step, an app on students’ iPads that allows them to reach out for help with safety concerns or counseling.

The push for increased safety came from Superintendent Shay Mikalson. Following the Parkland, Fla. shooting in February, Mikalson outlined plans for secure lobby systems.

Funds for the lobbies come through the May 2017 school bond measure.

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EDUCATION Signs your child needs help Most kids aren’t eager to sit down and do homework after a day spent in the classroom. It’s not uncommon for arguments to ensue when asked to hit the books at home — so how does a parent know when their child is in need of some extra support? Audra Bohn, Sylvan Learning Center of Bend’s director of education says, “The purpose of tutoring is to teach children efficient learning skills and techniques. It’s important that parents take action early and seek supplemental services that develop these skills for success.”

She shares the following signs parents can look for when determining their student’s learning needs.

Opening Doors:

Finding the Right Tutor

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child’s school years are vital to their life-long success. From the first day of preschool until they walk down the aisle at graduation, an endless number of hours are spent learning everything from counting to 10 to fluently speaking a foreign language. While keeping learning fun and stress-free is a top priority, there is an underlying reality that weighs on most parents’ minds:

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grades make a difference.

From college admissions to scholarship money, a child’s success or failure in the classroom—especially during their high school years—both opens and closes doors. While most parents are eager to offer their kids help with homework, sometimes the knowledge they’ve retained from their school days and their own skills just aren’t enough. If you think your young student might need extra support, hiring a tutor is a good solution.

• Grades start slipping. This especially applies to students who were once strong in the subject in which they are currently struggling.

• Your child stops turning in homework.

• Homework time becomes frustrating and involves a lot of arguing in order to accomplish anything.

• There is a visible struggle with the organization of assignments.

• You notice an inability to focus on tasks for a long period of time.

Finding the right tutor Once you have determined that your child could benefit from additional educational support, determining the right tutor for their unique situation is important. There are steps parents can take to ensure they find the right fit. Bohn says the first step to getting a tutor for your child is, “Do your research!”

Meeting with your child’s teacher will help you better determine their specific

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needs. They have valuable insight into your student’s struggles and where and how they experience the most success.

Make sure to ask for recommendations on the type of tutoring and setting they think would be best.

Common types of tutors to consider are peer tutors, personal instructors and supplemental education companies. A peer tutor is typically a child in the same or a higher grade level who is proficient in the subject in which your child is struggling. They pair up and work together during or after school. A personal instructor is an individual who can come to your house or meet for sessions in an environment of your choosing. A supplemental education company—like Sylvan— provides the space, evaluations and tutors.

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• Determine which setting is best for your child: home, library, school or tutoring center.

• Get recommendations from family, friends and teachers.

• Interview prospective instructors and make sure they are licensed or certified.

• Most tutors should offer a free consultation or free session. Take advantage of this opportunity to get a better feel for whether the situation is right for your child.

• Request an assessment to gauge your child’s current academic level.

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According to Bohn, whichever tutor you choose for your child, they should be willing to work with you and your child’s teachers in order to create the best personal learning program. Ask in advance, so there are no surprises along the way. And before your child’s sessions begin, define the desired goals and make sure everyone is clear about what they are.

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PARENTING

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he high school was packed. A beloved teacher in Sisters had recently passed away. As the crowd hushed, a longtime friend addressed the assembly, reminiscing about the time their families met. “We connected when our two sons were in Together For Children and became fast friends,” she said. Their boys and the families had remained very close throughout the years, thanks to a parenting and play group program that created a strong community and lifelong bonds. There were many other families in the audience that day that shared memories of their time together when their children were toddlers in TFC. TFC is a parent participation program that offers interactive play, children’s activities, parent education and family networking for those with children from ages birth through 3. Patterned after the Missouri-based program, “Parents as Teachers,” the program initially provided weekly group time and monthly home visits conducted by early childhood/parent educators with the mission of helping parents develop skills, understand child development and learn appropriate behavior and activities for their children. Although the last 10 years has tested the program with a drastic loss of funding and even a two-year hiatus, the exciting news is that TFC will once again open its doors this fall to provide a much-needed service for families of Central Oregon who are navigating the oft-uncertain waters of parenting.

In 1989, Carol Stiles, Theresa Hogue and Dina Boswell of Bend envisioned a Pre-Head Start opportunity. With the help of Oregon state senators, Neil Bryant and Bev Clarno, they obtained a biannual grant of $324,000. The program began as a pilot project serving 150 families annually throughout Central Oregon. Additional funding was provided through grants from the Oregon Community Foundation, The Shelk Foundation and the Deschutes Commission on Children and Families.

For 14 years TFC was part of a consortium of family services, administered by Central Oregon Community College. Although independently funded, the agencies worked closely together to provide a continuum of early childhood services.

Unfortunately, in 2001, legislative funds were diminishing and COCC discontinued their support of the consortium. The administration of TFC transferred to the High Desert Education Service District, Lynette Patterson, the original director, left the program and Edie Jones became the head.

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PARENTING

Interactive play at TFC creates strong bonds.

In 2003 TFC lost all state funding, in spite of glowing tributes from parents and solid positive results. To remain in operation, they became a nonprofit tax-exempt corporation, created a Board of Directors, and went from 13 staff members to four part-timers. Tuition was charged, services were reduced from 36 to 27 weeks and home visits were eliminated. The year started with a budget of $37,000, gained through fees, grants, and diligent fund-raising efforts — a huge decrease from the 2001 budget of $210,000. By 2005 TFC operated completely independently of HDESD. Over the next 10 years groups continued, however, due to lack of funds, the breadth of the program diminished. In 2016 TFC began a two-year hiatus to re-evaluate the current needs of families with young children in Central Oregon.

Fortunately, today, in 2018, a rebirth is taking place. The mission of the program, to enhance the lives of children by strengthening families, remains the same. However, the main focus is on ways to connect families in a healthy, helpful, supportive environment current with today’s society. Two overwhelming needs have been identified: •P arents of young children often feel isolated and alone.

•T he impact of social media has brought on a barrage of criticism on different styles of parenting.

TFC’s present emphasis will be to build a community that eliminates that isolation and focuses on a non-judgmental environment.

Goals for the program are to help parents understand and enhance their child’s early development (ages birth through 3 years) through parent participation groups. In addition, TFC will: •P repare children for emotional, social and school readiness.

•P rovide a research-based program on parenting methods in order to increase knowledge and skills.

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• Offer opportunities for networking with other families, as well as with community agencies and public schools.

• Decrease stress by providing tools for use immediately.

Parents with children in the birth through 3-year-old range should keep their eyes and ears open for membership opportunities, play group experiences, discounts at local businesses and opportunities to learn and practice the many skills needed to raise young children through the new website together-for-children.org.

The philosophy hasn’t changed — only some of the ways the program will be implemented, making it an even better resource to help with the most difficult job anyone will ever have: that of raising a child.

An annual TFC tradition, this September 19, families with young children will once again enjoy the fun of building a giant sand pile and climbing on huge machinery at the Big Rig Celebration, sponsored by Knife River and TFC. This will be the first of events coming later in the year, geared especially for the youngest residents, with the goal of building connections with parents.

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BEFORE- & AFTERSCHOOL ACTIVITIES: Enrichment Wednesdays, Technology, KIDS INC., RecZone, Martial Arts, Swim Team, Basketball, Science & Nature, Soccer, Ice Skating & Hockey, Volleyball, Arts & Crafts, Music & Voice, Performing Arts NO-SCHOOL DAY PROGRAMS: Ice Skating, Recreation Swim, Basketball, All Sports Camps, Volleyball, Operation Recreation, Clay Arts, Science & Technology, Skateboarding, Multimedia Arts, Learning Workshops

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TRENDING

A Message of Acceptance: Supporting Local Trans Youth

By Annette Benedetti

B

renda Ferns lives in Bend and is a mother to five children including Levi—her 14-year-old trans son. She remembers how around the age of five he would come to her and confide that he wanted to be a boy. “At that point, I wasn’t educated on (the transgender experience)…I hadn’t even really heard of it,” she recalls. “So I said, ‘you can’t be a boy, but you can wear boys’ clothes.’”

Looking back, Ferns wishes she had known then what she knows now, and had followed her son’s lead.

Ferns is not alone. Many parents are like she was in her son’s early years: undereducated about trans youth. The term “transgender” alone is largely new to many people—especially those living in smaller, more conservative locations where access to resources and information are limited.

According to Jamie Bowman, the president of the Human Dignity Coalition in Bend, residents are likely to be surprised by the size of the local transgender population. “The trans community in Central Oregon is much larger than folks know about,” says Bowman. “There are at least a couple hundred trans folks...”

The Human Dignity Coalition hosts two support groups for trans adults that meet twice a month. They also have a Queer Youth Space for LGBTQ+ teens between the ages of 13 and 20 that is largely

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attended by trans members. Additionally, Bowman says the HDC offers a junior version of the adult support group for kids 12 and under. She estimates the age range of the trans community runs from three to 70.

It wasn’t until Levi began going through puberty, between the ages of 11 and 12, that Ferns realized her son was trans. “He cut his hair short, dyed it black and began wearing masculine clothing,” she explains. “Then, he was at the park and was bullied for looking like a boy and so he started overcompensating and being more feminine.” Levi began dressing and acting in ways that his mother recognized were out of character for the child she knew and loved.

According to Ferns, there were many things that led her son to the decision that he had to be his true self, but the most important was meeting other children who shared his experience and helped him put a name to what he was feeling. By that time, she knew more about the transgender experience and had close friends who had transitioned or were in the process. “I thought, ‘OK, now this all makes sense. I just wish I had listened to you when you were 5.’”

Educating Parents With more information and support available than ever before, parents can

educate themselves about what to look for and what to do if they think their child may be transgender.

The Human Rights Campaign Foundation, the American Academy of Pediatrics and the American College of Osteopathic Pediatricians partnered to produce Supporting & Caring for Transgender Children*, a groundbreaking resource that helps families support transgender youth. It provides parents with a handbook on the basics including the various definitions involved in gender identity, the associated vocabulary, guidance for determining whether or not a child is trans and common steps in social transition.

Determining Whether Your Child is Trans According to the HRC, most children engage in behaviors associated with different genders: the classic example being girls who play with trucks and boys who play with dolls. It’s important to note that engaging in gender nonconforming behavior does not mean your child is necessarily trans.

According to the HRC, a child is likely transgender if they are consistent, insistent and persistent about their gender identity being different from the one they were assigned at birth.

Levi first revealed that he knew he was

Local Resources for Trans Youth and Their Families Human Dignity Coalition humandignitycoalition.org PFLAG Central Oregon Provides support for families, allies and people who are LGBTQ pflagcentraloregon.webs.com OUT Central Oregon A Meetup that schedules outings and gatherings for LGBTQ Central Oregonians and their families. meetup.com/OUTCentralOregonLGBTQ/ Big Brothers Big Sisters of Central Oregon Bowman suggests using this resource to find mentors for your trans teen. bbbsco.org Your School’s Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) Support clubs held at schools for LBGTQ students and allies. *The guide, Supporting & Caring for Transgender Children, is available for free download on the HRC website: hrc.org/resources/supporting-caring-for-transgender-children

a boy at age 5. Both his words and behaviors consistently reaffirmed and confirmed his belief over time. Ferns advises parents to listen to their children and follow their lead. She says, “Don’t worry about if it’s a phase or not because that just muddies the waters. It’s irrelevant and it makes them feel devalued, diminished and not important.”

Finding Support It is important to note that trans youth are at a higher risk for depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts and attempts than their non-transgender peers. Finding a community that accepts and supports them is key to keeping them safe and healthy.

The HRC suggests the following ways to support trans youth: • Use the child’s preferred gender pronouns and name.

• Advocate for your child and demand that others respect their identity.

• Educate yourself.

• Assure your child they have unconditional love and support.

Fern’s best advice to parents with trans youth? “Just honor them and celebrate them because community is really important especially when (they are) dealing with depression and… fear of being themselves,” she says. Then she shares a simple reminder—something that is the cornerstone to every child’s happiness and mental health, “When we are surrounded by a community of people that loves us and supports us, we feel safe.”

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FEATURE

Engaged minds make learning fun

By Kelsey Claspell Photos by Natalie Stephenson

W

hat holds a child’s interest?

New studies explore the power of interest and recognize

that a child will continue to learn if the subject is engaging. The world presents a wonderful amalgam of

ways to spend time. Why not make it personal? Here we interview several focused local kids who are hooked on their thing.

“You can feel the music when you listen to Bach. It’s strong and intense, and it really moves with me.”

— Bram Crocker

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Bram Crocker Piano Every morning while his family makes breakfast, Bram Crocker, 10, starts his day by making music. Bram was raised around the color and rhythm of song. During his early childhood, his mom, who also sings and plays the violin, would play the piano at home. As he grew older, Bram started to sit down and play too. At just 6 years of age, he started to pursue the piano more formally. Currently, he takes hour-long lessons once a week, but plays just for fun at least 20 minutes each day.

“I’ve been playing a traditional Japanese song called Sakura a lot,” says Bram, pointing happily to the sheet music perched on the well-loved piano in his family’s living room. “I really like how it flows as I play it.” It is easy to see just how important music is to Bram within just a few minutes of meeting him. He lights up as he talks about his favorite pianist.

“You can feel the music when you listen to Bach. It’s strong and intense, and it really moves with me.”

Regarding the challenge of playing an instrument, Bram shares, “The hardest thing that I struggle with even now is reading sheet music, especially while trying to look at the notes and the keys at the same time.” He mentions that it’s always been easier for him to play music by ear by listening to a song and memorizing the keys. Although reading sheet music has been a challenge for Bram, he works hard to get better at it with the help of his musically inclined mom. He also has some advice to give to other kiddos (and to anyone facing a challenge): “If you get stuck, you can always work through it, and it feels great when you finally do. You get better at a song every time you play.”

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FEATURE Cooper Stephenson Fly Fishing Two years ago, 13-year-old Cooper Stephenson discovered

just how much fun fly fishing could be. As a young kid, Cooper would go on line fishing trips with his dad and loved every minute of it. His dad eventually introduced Cooper to fly fishing as he got older. “Learning a

new and completely different kind of fishing than what I was used to was really fun, and I really liked making flies with my dad,” says Cooper.

It’s probably a safe bet to say that Cooper was quickly hooked!

Lucky for Cooper that he lives

in one of the premier spots for fly

“I think fly fishing is something I’ll continue to do throughout my life.”

— Cooper Stephenson

fishing with some world class rivers

in his backyard. He loves to fly fish on the beautiful Metolius River in warmer weather whenever he gets the chance. “It’s

a really nice atmosphere to fish in, and I usually go with my dad and my grandpa,” says Cooper. “I think fly fishing is something I’ll continue to do throughout my life.”

“This is a difficult one,” he says, visibly wracking his brain

to figure out the most difficult part of his favorite outdoor

activity. “I think it would have to be getting used to casting differently than how you do in line fishing. Fly fishing is

definitely more difficult and complex. In regular line fishing, you can just toss your line into the water, but in fly fishing

there’s a lot more strategy and thought involved.” Cooper adds that although challenging to get the hang of, it was a natural transition because he already loved line fish-

ing. “It’s something that takes a lot of patience, but also teaches a lot of patience.”

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Travis Griffiths Taekwondo

“If you want to get good at it, don’t miss too many days of training because you’ll get rusty.”

— Travis Griffiths

At the tender age of 12, Travis Griffiths proudly holds a second-degree black belt, something which took him six years of hard work and determination to achieve. “Getting to a black belt has been a big challenge for me. Even when I got tired, it was something I persevered at every day.” He explains the process of climbing the ranks of Taekwondo belts, and just how difficult it is to move up. “You can’t earn stripes or move on to another belt unless you know how to do everything at that level, which means you have to practice a lot.” Travis’ passion to excel in what he loves drives him to keep working hard at it.

Regarding advice for other kids interested in getting into Taekwondo, Travis says, “If you want to get good at it, don’t miss too many days of training because you’ll get rusty.” Aside from practicing, Travis filled me in on the hidden secrets of what will really make you stand out in Taekwondo: “Our master always tells us that if we want to stay, we have to get good grades. Doing well in school will actually help you in Taekwondo. Also, it’s important to be very respectful and never give up. Taekwondo teaches you a lot about respect, and also that courtesy will win you a lot more fights than the actual fighting.”

Travis practices Taekwondo at High Desert Martial Arts at least five times a week, sometimes six. He spends anywhere from two to five hours each day on his skills, depending on if school is in session and what he’s practicing. One of the most rewarding parts of Taekwondo in Travis’ eyes? Being able to learn, but also being able to teach. “Even if you’re not a black belt, you can still teach other kids and help them learn at any level. It’s something that you constantly get to learn more about, but you also get to teach at the same time, which is really cool.”

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FEATURE Miya Corpstein Acting Miya Corpstein, 15, shines when she talks about her

love for the theater. Her dream job is performing on

Broadway. “Just being on Broadway, no matter what the show is or what the role is would be absolutely

amazing,” she says. When she graduates from high

school in a few years, she dreams of going to college at The American Musical and Dramatic Academy in New York City, right in the hub of musical theater. “[Broadway is] so inclusive of everyone and is a

venue where you can really focus on storytelling and connecting with the audience. That’s something that movies can’t do.”

Wondering if she ever gets stage fright, Miya

responds, “Oh yeah! I get nervous really easily; a lot of younger actors ask this question.” Miya chuckles,

“But once you get on stage it

“Just being on Broadway,

all goes away. Just take deep breaths and remember what

no matter what the show is

you have to do. Everyone gets

or what the role is would be

another, so don’t worry if it hap-

absolutely amazing.”

—Miya Corpstein

stage fright at one point or

pens to you.” Miya also adds

that she usually tries to get into character before she goes on

stage, which helps to ease her jitters as well. This past sum-

mer, Miya had the opportunity

to perform in a children’s choir at the famous Sydney Opera House in Sydney, Australia.

When asked how she got into acting, Miya recalls,

“My brother did theater before I got into it. When I was 8, I saw one of his plays and wanted to do

it too.” Miya’s first role was in a non-musical play,

“Stefanie Hero” with Bend Experimental Art Theater.

She had always loved to sing but didn’t think she

would pursue musical theater specifically until 2nd

Street Theater in Bend asked her to be in the musical production, “Tommy.”

“That’s what made me fall in love with musical the-

ater, and I haven’t stopped since.” During the school year, Miya is also an active member of Summit High

School’s theater program and will be in their production of “White Christmas” this winter.

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CALENDAR September - November

Kid’s Taekwondo

MARTIAL ARTS — Is your child interested in martial arts? Taekwondo is the perfect intro into this fascinating world. Classes at High Desert Martial Arts are a great way to practice discipline and focus at a young age. More information online.

High Desert Martial Arts • Prices vary

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September - November

Bouncing Off the Wall

PLAY — Bouncing Off the Wall is an indoor gym filled with bounce houses and other fun activities. As the months get colder escape the chill with some indoor playtime for the kids.

Bouncing Off the Wall • $9 General Admission, 3+ years bouncingoffthewallbend.com

September – November

Sun Mountain Fun Center PLAY — Arcade, mini golf, and bowling are all waiting for you at Sun Mountain Fun Center.

Play at the arcade for tickets to win cool prizes or set up a night of bowling for the whole family.

Located near Shopko.

Sun Mountain Fun Center • $3.75 for a game of bowling sunmountainfun.com

Bring the kids to the Discover Nature Festival Sept. 9.

September 17 - December 23

2nd Saturday of the Month

SWIM — Juniper Swim & Fitness hosts a tyke-friendly swim session for parents and children.

If your child is under 6 bring them to Juniper for a fun night of parent and child swimming.

8-9pm.

SWIM — Free family night at Juniper Swim and Fitness takes place every second Saturday.

It’s a great way to have some fun with the whole family. Features include a large swimming pool and two diving boards.

Parent Child Swim

Juniper Swim and Fitness • Basic Pass or Drop in Fee bendparksandrec.org

Free Family Swim Night

Juniper Swim and Fitness • Free bendparksandrec.org

September 7

Bend Bike Film Festival

FILM — The Bend Endurance Academy is hosting a film festival for young teens and adults to showcase their biking skills.

Watch Bend riders’ creations and see the talent and love for the sport that inspires so many to get outside and ride.

Tower Theater • $11 towertheater.org

September 7

High Desert Museum New Exhibit Opening

EDUCATION — The High Desert Museum is opening its new exhibit featuring an exploration of the way animals navigate the world around them. Enjoy family-friendly activities and hear from Donald M. Kerr Curator of Natural History, Louise Shirley, about the inspiration and curation of this new exhibit.

High Desert Museum • $15 Adults/$9 Kids highdesertmuseum.org

September 7 - 9

Sisters Folk Festival

MUSIC — The Sisters Folk Festival is an annual three-day roots music festival held in Sisters featuring musicians from Central Oregon and beyond.

The 11 venues turn Sisters into a bustling music festival.

Sisters • Prices vary

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CALENDAR

Kids will love the arts and crafts at Bend Fall Festival Oct. 5-7 Photo by Jill Rosell Photography

Fridays, Sept. 7 - Oct. 5

Outdoor Movie Night

MOVIE — LOGE Entrada is hosting its outdoor movie night once again. Don’t miss all of the best outdoor documentaries, sports action flicks, and blockbuster adventure classics! Come see your favorite mountain bike shred film or surf the big waves with the classics! This event is child and dog friendly. 8pm.

Loge Entrada • Free logecamps.com

September 7 – Nov 10

First Friday Art Walk

ART — Every first Friday of the month local artists and musicians come together for a special night downtown filled with music food and good people. Bring the whole family!

5:30-10pm.

Downtown Bend • Free downtownbend.org

September 9

Discover Nature Festival

NATURE — This FREE event will feature over 35 nature education, outdoor recreation and health and wellness activities for families to enjoy. Partners include Bend Park and Recreation District and Deschutes

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National Forest.

Riverbend Park • Free childrensforestco.org

September 9

Duck Race

RACE — The Duck Race is an ongoing annual fundraiser organized by all four Bend area Rotary clubs. The race has generated over $1 million for Central Oregon charities, all supporting children and families in need.

Bring the whole family and join in the fun on race day for food, live music and festivities, plus jump and plays and prizes for the kids!

Creek Kayak takes you on an adventure through the changing colors and crisp fall weather on the Deschutes river. Tuesday and Friday, 10am-2pm.

Tumalo Creek Kayak & Canoe • $65 tumalocreek.com

September 12 - October 17

Theater with Miss Lovely

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THEATER — Explore the world of theater with Miss Lisa Lovely.

Perfect for elementary schoolers looking for a chance to shine on stage. A performance of skits or a short play for family and friends will be held on the last day of each session to showcase talents.

September 11

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Drake Park • $5/duck

Toddlin’ Tales

READING — Toddlin’ Tales is an interactive storytime reading for your blossoming child. Open for ages 18 – 36 months featuring stories, rhymes and songs.

Downtown Bend Library • Free deschuteslibrary.org

September 11 – October 2

Fall Foliage Tour

KAYAK — As fall begins to set in, the leaves on the Deschutes are a sight to behold. Tumalo

cast from Thoroughly Modern Productions in this Broadway musical.

Tower Theater • Reserved Seating $27, $37, $42 towertheater.org

September 15

Latino Fest

FESTIVAL — Come experience live music, dance and food from different Latin American cultures, including fun activities for the kids. 10am – 6pm. For more information call: 541-325-6837

Sahalee Park, Madras • Free latinocommunityassociation. org

Bear Creek Elementary • $80

September 15

September 14 – 16 & 20 – 22

STORYTIME — Come to Roundabout Books for a special storytime, featuring the book, “Look What Kate Can Do: One Hand Works as Well as Two” by Paul and Katie Leatherwood.

Kate was born with symbrachydactyly, a big word for upper limb differences. How does a little girl feel about growing up with one hand? How does she answer people’s questions? All ages welcome! 11am

CATS

THEATER — CATS is one of the longest-running, most revered and influential shows in musical theatre history. Based on T. S. Eliot’s Old Possum’s Book of Practical Cats, CATS is set in a larger-than-life junkyard playground alive with feline characters, including Rum Tum Tugger, Mr. Mistoffelee, Macavity, Jennyanydots, Old Deuteronomy, Grizabella and Skimbleshanks. Join the bubbly

Roundabout Storytime

Roundabout Books • Free roundaboutbookshop.com

Together for Children and Knife River are hosting the annual

September 18

September 26 - October 17

CRAFTS — Preschool Parade is a mix of arts, crafts and songs to develop early literacy skills. A great way to start your child on his or her journey into the arts.

ART — Use different techniques to create sculptures and pots with clay. Hands on techniques are great to build creative skill. Class takes place at the Art Station and is perfect for ages 6 – 12.

Preschool Parade

Downtown Bend Library • Free deschuteslibrary.org

Kids & Clay

CONCERT — The Head and the Heart is coming to the Les Schwab Ampitheater. Bring chairs and blankets and enjoy a beautiful performance from the indie folk legends. Special guest Blind Pilot.

READ — The East Bend Library is hosting a children’s party for ages 0-5 years. Bring all your young children for a storytime that offers books for babies, toddlers and preschoolers.

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September 19 - December 19

Soak & Float

SWIM — Parent night! Take a little break and come to the Juniper soak and float. Float in the pool or relax in the hot tub and sauna. Water pilates & water yoga featured monthly.

Juniper Swim & Fitness • Basic Pass or Drop in Fee bendparksandrec.org

September 20

Fun with Food!

COOKING — Fun with food!

Our mini chefs will learn basic food prep and how to safely use kitchen equipment while making delicious treats and exploring new tastes.

Harmon Park Hobby Hut • $34 bendparksandrec.org

September 21 & 22

Oktoberfest

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in Tumalo

Bring your trucks and sand toys, climb in the huge dirt pile and climb and play on the Big Rigs

$5 per mobile

Saturday Stories

First 100 children get in

FREE!

child under 12

courtesy of Knife River

All others (Parents and Grandparents, etc!) are free

All proceeds go to TFC to provide parent support, community and education for young families in Central Oregon

East Bend Library • Free deschuteslibrary.org

September 29

Far Out

FILM — Teton Gravity Research is back with a fulllength feature film about skiing and the great outdoors. Bring your child to experience the magic of winter at one of the three showings. There will be a ton of prizes from sponsors, plus everyone in attendance will have a shot at the tour grand prizes.

You can help us by Donating & Shopping

Tower Theater • Free for ages 10 and under, $15 for adults towertheater.org

October 2-3

New Chinese Acrobats

SHOW — Mixing new techniques and acts with ancient traditions, The New Chinese Acrobats present the opportunity to view the best of China’s ancient folk art, mixed with the style and virtuosity of today’s

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FESTIVAL — Bend’s own Oktoberfest celebrates the coming of Fall in the most German way possible.

Come to downtown Bend for wiener dog races, German cuisine and lots of fun.

Oh, and don’t forget about the beer for the grown-ups.

Downtown Bend • Free

at the Knife River Complex

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September 29

Les Schwab Ampitheater • $39.50 + Fees

Saturday, Sept 29 10 a.m. to 2 p.m.

The Art Station • $75

September 19

The Head and the Heart

Big Rig Celebration

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New Chinese Acrobats at the Tower Oct. 2-3. Photo by Liu Baomin

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CALENDAR generation. With performers selected from across China for their high-level acrobatic skills and innovative staging, the show includes award-winning acts from prestigious circus festivals.

High Desert Museum • Free with museum admission

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FILM — The festival celebrates 15 years of bringing independent film and new ways of thinking to Bend. The town will be transformed from a recreational haven into a small town fascinated by the film industry’s soul. Downtown theaters, lecture sites, music rooms and party venues will all feature something for everyone in this fun-filled film festival.

Tower Theatre • $27-$47

October 3

Animal Adventures with the High Desert Museum

LEARN — High Desert Museum staff visit local libraries, bringing Animal Adventures to kids ages 3 to 5! See live animals, hear stories and do a craft project.

Downtown Bend Library • Free highdesertmuseum.org

October 5 - 7

Bend Fall Festival

FESTIVAL — Bend’s Fall Festival is a wonderful celebration of autumn. Enjoy pumpkin carving, gourmet food and wine, the Harvest Market, Family Fun Street, live music and more! Do a little holiday shopping in the unique marketplace! Bring your whole family and celebrate with art, games and an array of colorful vendors.

Downtown Bend • Free bendfallfestival.com

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Harvest Festival

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October 11-14

Bend Film Festival

Locations vary • Prices vary bendfilm.org

October 13

Lego Block Party

BUILD — Kids, Legos and lots of fun. Head to the Redmond Library and build to your heart’s content with over 1000 Legos.

Legos are supplied by the Library.

Redmond Library • Free deschuteslibrary.org

October 16

Soweto Gospel Choir

SING — Soweto Gospel Choir was formed to celebrate the unique and inspirational power of African Gospel music. The choir draws on the best talent from the many churches in and around Soweto. The choir is dedicated to sharing the joy of faith through music with audiences around the world.

Tower Theatre • $32-$57 towertheatre.org

October 22 – Early April

Cheap Skates

SKATE — Tuesday night is cheap skates at The Pavilion. Everyone ice skates for $6 and includes skate rentals.

The Pavilion • $6 entry, skates included bendparksandrec.org

October 24 - 26

Recyclable Art & Fall Clay Creations

ART — Half the day, turn recyclables into masterpieces! Use your creativity and imagination to turn disposable items into beautiful landscapes and amazing animals.

Instructors Kathy Schoderbek & Amanda Krammes will guide students through the process.

The Art Station • $195 bendparksandrec.org

October 27

Learn How to Draw Manga

ART — Kids with an interest in Japanese animation, superheroes, comics and cartoons, this is the class for you! Learn about the

history of manga and create your own cartoon masterpiece.

The Art Station • $49 bendparksandrec.org

October 31 - December 19

Creative Computer Coding COMPUTERS — Storyboard, brainstorm and discuss how to bring ideas to life. Get your child started early on the fastest-growing profession in the world. Coding can be a fun and challenging way to stimulate your child’s young brain.

Highland Elementary • $80 bendparkandrec.org

November 3

Happy Girls Sisters

RUN — Run with your daughter, mother or sister in this fun and empowering running race that takes place in Sisters, Ore. Choose your distance: half marathon trail race or 5k race through town. This is the third race in the Happy Girls series and proceeds help the Sisters Recreation District. Bring the whole family!

Sisters Oregon • Prices vary happygirlsrun.com

Don’t miss Moscow Ballet’s Great Russian Nutcracker Nov. 4.

November 4

at $54

THEATER — Christmas is coming and so is the one and only Moscow Ballet’s Great Russian Nutcracker, presenting world class Russian artists, hand-painted sets, Russian Snow Maidens and jubilant Nesting Dolls. Experience the Dove of Peace Tour, spreading goodwill in over 100 cities across North America. Get seats now for the whole family and make memories for a lifetime.

November 12, 19, 20 & 21

The Nutcracker

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Skate & Splash Day Camp

SKATE/SWIM — It’s the polar bear lifestyle! The first part of the camp will take place on the skating rink then it’s off to the pool for some swimming. This is a brand new camp from Parks and Rec and it’s gonna be a splash!

The Pavilion and Juniper Swim & Fitness • $45 bendparksandrec.org

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CULTURE

s r a t S k Roc Young Musicians Get a

d e t n a W "For those about to rock, we salute you."

–AC/DC

Chance to Live the Dream

I

have come to a quiet residential street near the edge of southeast Bend on a warm summer night to witness the future of rock ‘n’ roll. It’s an unlikely location, but as I approach the outside of Rod DeGeorge’s home studio, the muted tones of what sounds like an Iron Maiden cover band drift slowly toward the front lawn.

NEEDLESS TO SAY, I HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT HOUSE.

By Howard Leff

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DeGeorge is Bend’s resident guitar god, having played for nearly three decades with musicians like Paul Stanley of Kiss, as well as members of Foreigner, Bad Company and 38 Special. Tonight, he’s in teacher mode—hard at work with three teenagers—all members of CROCK, short for Cascades Rock Ensemble. It’s a performance-based music program made up of young, local musi-

cians. The idea is to take kids through 10 weeks of rehearsal and then get them up onstage at a local club playing live in front of an audience.

DeGeorge, CROCK’s music director, came to Bend in 2014 where he eventually met the project’s founder and producer Jean George, who had just launched CROCK a year or two earlier. George’s three sons had taken part in a similar program at the School of Rock Austin when the family lived in Texas. “Kids got on stage and it was like magic,” he says.

It’s that live performance aspect that separates CROCK from standard music lessons—which George recommends as well.

“That’s all great. All kids should take lessons. I encourage it—incredibly. But having that anxiety that builds to an event is what really causes somebody to flourish. They build the anxiety up and then they let it go onstage—and when it succeeds—it’s just huge. Their parents

Young musicians jam at a CROCK rehearsal Photos by Jean George

light up, the kids light up, we light up. It’s so much fun.”

It’s also an emotional experience. “You kind of get teary eyed,” says DeGeorge. “For me it’s about teaching younger kids and seeing them introverted at first. Then they do a couple performances and you see them come out—and then you see how they carry themselves differently. You see how they interact differently.”

Back inside the studio, it’s the first night that these three musicians have played together. Still, they have an easy chemistry that makes them seem like a seasoned band. It’s actually a five-piece group, but two members couldn’t make rehearsal that night. That’s why bass player and singer Emily Wing has stepped in to do the lead vocals on the Guns N’ Roses classic,

“Sweet Child O’ Mine,” with Steven George (Jean’s son) on drums and Brandon Hilton on guitar.

“She’s got a smile it seems to me Reminds me of childhood memories Where everything Was as fresh as the bright blue sky” Wing, who claims to be “99.999 percent” sure she wants to be a professional musician, says her parents are generally supportive. “My dad’s a musician,” she says. “He plays guitar.

Music has been ingrained in me since I was very small. Being onstage is an excuse to be weird in front of other people. It’s super fun. I can’t really see myself doing anything else.” As for Mom and Dad? “They think it’s great,” she says. “But they’re working on having me become more well-rounded. Anything in the arts is great.”

Both Hilton and Steven George note the benefits of learning to play live. “It really helps you advance as a musician,” says George. “It’s a lot of fun too—just being on stage in front of a bunch of people playing music.” Hilton, who just moved to Bend, agrees: “I was wanting to play live shows again,” he says. He especially likes “the adrenaline of just being up onstage in front of people, and the fun of performing.”

While previous performance time isn’t required to join CROCK, George recommends that participants do have a few years of experience playing their instrument. The rewards are endless—and not just in terms of music. George’s advice for parents? “Get kids involved in music under any circumstances, even if they’re not intent on becoming a musician,” he says.

“The whole experience just opens them up in a way that’s really hard to get.

“I’ve seen these kids after a show. They’re like kites. They fly out of the place. It’s something you don’t see often.”

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HEALTH

Spotlight on Teen Health What do you need to know?

By Kristi Nix MD, FAAP High Lakes Healthcare

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he American Academy of Pediatrics, along with most physicians, recommends an annual well child check for all kids. As our babies become teenagers, that annual well check gets harder to schedule. Our teens have a newfound sense of independence and their schedules are full of school, work and friends.

Why should you take the time out of busy schedules, especially when you can drop into an urgent care for a $35 sports physical every other year and satisfy the local school requirements? Why is an annual well child check so important?

The first and foremost reason is that you want your child to learn to be comfortable advocating for their health in the medical environment. As much as we want physicians to be able to sort out health issues and detect health problems before they become serious, physicians often “miss the boat” if our patient isn’t used to remembering symptoms or clearly stating their biggest concern. Sit down with your teen for a few minutes before going to the appointment. Write down questions or topics that you want to cover in the visit and then allow your child to ask the questions. I spend many days talking to kids about their health. It is common for me to spend an entire visit with the patient telling me “Everything is fine” only to have their mom call later to explain that their child has missed two weeks of school over abdominal pain or anxiety.

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go through puberty while social relationships become much more complex.

Teens often don’t tell their parents what is happening—maybe because of their new sense of independence or fear of disappointing their parents. That $35 sports physical covers a physical exam and a screening questionnaire specifically aimed at detecting risk of injury or death

Teens often don’t tell their parents what is happening—maybe because of their new sense of independence or fear of disappointing their parents. from playing sports. It doesn’t screen for risky behaviors such as substance abuse or for mood disorders such as anxiety or depression. Your teen is much more likely to be hurt in a car accident involving alcohol or marijuana or to suffer injury or death from suicide than to die on the playing field. You don’t want to miss those warning signs. As we all know, if we don’t

ask, kids don’t necessarily tell.

All teen visits should include a discussion of mood and its effect on physical health, as well as specific questions around feelings of suicide. I also include a brief discussion on what to do if a friend discloses feelings of suicide.

What should you expect at a teen visit?

Screens! Your doctor should be doing a mood questionnaire and a substance abuse questionnaire starting at the age of 11. It feels crazy to ask 5th graders about alcohol use, but it sets the tone early that a visit to the doctor is about more than the body; it will include behavior and mood questions. You should also expect the physician to gather immunization records.

It is really helpful if you have a vaccine record available, especially if you are meeting a doctor for the first time. Parents and other caregivers should come to the visit.

We really like to meet the whole family.

At age 11, the doctor will start asking for a short period of time alone with your child. This is to establish trust and ask if there are any sensitive issues your child would like to discuss. Your doctor will check growth, including height and weight. I often use the review of growth to discuss nutrition and exercise, emphasiz-

ing the need to avoid large At age 11, the doctor will amounts of sugar and eat plenty of vegetables. start asking for a short Finally, you want your child period of time alone to be comfortable talking about sexual health. Children with your child. This is to have the right to confidentiestablish trust and ask ality regarding sexual health as adolescents. A well child if there are any sensitive check should include a issues your child would discussion of puberty, healthy like to discuss. relationships and the opportunity for your child to ask the provider questions. This can be done with a parent in the room, though many teens are more comfortable asking these questions in private. Your doctor may be comfortable prescribing birth control or doing testing for STDs and pregnancy at the request of a teen patient. I encourage teens to discuss these issues with their parents, though they are not required to do so.

Guiding your child through adolescence can be tricky.

Helping them prepare for their check-up is a rewarding and informative way to help them launch into the world.

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OUTDOORS

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Linda Rose Forney and her pet macaw, Cosmo

Exotic Extravaganza Peter, a friendly Patagonia cavy, sniffs and greets us, while checking out the van. We have just arrived at Gramma Rose’s Keeper of Peepers a few miles outside of Prineville, where the owner of this large South American rodent runs an exotic animal farm and petting zoo.

Originally from Molalla, Linda Rose Forney and her husband, Dave, moved to Prineville four years ago to build their dream animal farm. “We moved here for some breathing space and for the beauty,” Rose says. “Here in Juniper Canyon, people live the way they want to.” Realizing that it could take years for her vision to come to life, Rose recently decided to open her doors and welcome interested families to her unique animal farm. Animals who live here are from all over the world—some are rescued, some endangered, but all are loved deeply.

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Welcome to Gramma Rose’s Keeper of Peepers

By Angela Switzer Photos By Kyle Switzer

Rose owns hundreds of animals, and while there are definitely some favorites, all are family. Speaking of favorites, Charlotte, a young red kangaroo stands off a bit in the distance but is keeping a close eye on us. With a short hello and then one quick lunge, Rose has the furry friend in a sling, which makes it easy for us to hold her. Rose not only has an impressive collection of exotics, but is

extremely knowledgeable about each and every one of them. While holding Charlotte (I had never held a kangaroo before), I listen as Rose shares some interesting marsupial facts.

Nearby and among Rose’s newest acquisitions are a gaggle of nene, an endangered species of goose from Hawaii, who are crowding together to get a closer look. In the forefront, a dusty large tortoise inhabits a kid’s swimming pool.

“I want to focus on wholesome fun for children,” Rose explains, “Especially for those who don’t have access to this type of fun. For kids who are nervous around animals or are afraid for some reason, I want them to leave here with more confidence than they came with.” Rose tailors the visit to what works for each family.

She is especially interested in working with special needs children and already

At Gramma Rose’s, kids interact with goats, alpacas and black swans.

age, the swans are beautiful to watch as denied access to a pet. Later, I began raishas had some success with introducing they practice their synchronized swimming. ing doves and donating them to children.” autistic kids to horseback riding.

Peter, the cavy, who has accompanied us On the farm, the enclosures are clean The petting zoo is now open to the public, on the tour, taunts them. They strike back, and fresh-smelling; water in the pond is and unlike being at a zoo, children interact hissing and pecking at the rodent causing crystal clear. We are soon treated to a up close with the animals. We enjoyed quite a show. visual and auditory smorgasbord of colors, snuggling ducklings, holding a squirming As the tour winds down, we are finally feathers and songs as we move along and rat, petting sheep and so much more. Rose introduced to Daisy, a Meishan pig from peek in the aviary. Rose points out nesting recently trained her horse to pull a cart so China and her buddy, Sasha, a mini Lapairs of doves in baskets and even lets us that even little ones can go for a ride. mancha goat who both welcome us in their hold their eggs.

Throughout the property, charming enpen with snorts, kisses and nibbles.

Directly behind the aviary, her black closures, hutches and ponds dot the land.

Rose’s hospitality is unmatched. She swans are swimming on the pond.

Moving along the cool shaded hosts all kinds of families and even urges Originally from Australia, with their pathways, we come to a them to bring a picnic and stay awhile. elegant necks and shiny plumperch where Cosmo, Rose’s pet macaw, calls out and even talks to us. Rose holds the large Gramma Rose’s Family Day Reserve your visit colorful bird. “His Keeper of Peepers No reservations required Anytime plumage is usu13737 SE Shawnee Rd. Sat., Sept. 8 Call Linda Rose to reserve: ally much more Prineville, Ore. 10am-5pm 503-460-7908 vibrant,” Rose 97754 $4/person $8/person Charlotte, explains, “But he is a red kangaroo molting right now.”

Rose’s first love is 5-year-old, Skye, with the birds. Here on her enjoys some time farm, she breeds and raises all sorts, from with a gosling. ducks to swans, pheasants and guineas, she has several varieties of pigeons, exotic chickens and even a pair of black swans.

They are all her pets, including one feisty bantam named Monster.

Rose traces her love for birds back to her childhood when she lived at Christie School for Girls in Marylhurst. “There I could keep two parakeets as pets. I earned money for the cage and took care of them.” Rose says, “When I was adopted, though, I was not allowed to have any animals. I made a decision that I didn’t ever want a child to be

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HUMOR

DEATH BY CHILDREN Itsy Bitsy All Consuming Fear of Spiders Bull Garlington My son is sasquatchian.

His shoes are collections of remarkable biodiversity.

Our doorways all have an arch worn into the lintel where his head knocks the wood away. When he was a baby, we called him BAM BAM for his chimp-like strength, which hasn’t waned in the least. He can palm a watermelon. He’s strong. He’s tall. He’s afraid of spiders.

I worry that it’s my fault. Well, sort of. All kids are born with a nascent fear of the micro- and the multi-legged.

They are genetically predisposed to run wildly away from anything squirmy and squishable because those things are poisony. This fear diminishes by half as soon as any self-respecting kid discovers a magnifying glass or a flyswatter. They suddenly have dominion over an entire class of organisms; a dominion they gleefully demonstrate through garden-hose-ant-hill-tsunami-disaster-modeling.

Only a handful of species remain on the short list of things that make kids go AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA and run flailing away: little spiders, regular spiders and really, really big spiders.

My son’s fear of spiders comes from his fascination with them. As soon as he could read, he shut himself up inside a chair fort in the kids’ section of the library and read every book about spiders they had.

I expected him to emerge with a healthy respect and scholarly delight in our arachnid friends. Instead, he crawled out pale and concerned.

Dad: What’s wrong, kiddo?

Kiddo: Did you know there are more spiders than people?

Dad: Yeah, sure.

Kiddo: That if you put them all together they would fill up nine football stadiums?

Dad: Gross.

Kiddo: That no matter where you are, you’re always within 10 feet of a 100 spiders?

Dad: I did not know that.

Kiddo: Neither did I. Until now.

And thus, a completely normal fascination morphed into a neurosis. I enrolled him into Boy Scouts to assuage his fear and teach him The Outdoors. This was a mistake. We arrived at Camp Stranglehold in the middle of summer when the heat and the rain had driven the insects into an orgiastic frenzy. The air was tumescent with nine bajillion varieties of OH MY GOD WHAT IS THAT?!

Fear walked, crawled, wriggled and leaped on six legs in a writhing, seething, buzzing, visible mass throughout our campsite. About 3 in the afternoon of the first day, the boy tries to ask for more pants when something soft, pale, and prehistoric lands in his open mouth.

He spit it out and it flew away like nothing had happened.

And here, friends, cohorts, fellow bad parents, is where you may recognize how my peculiar humor does not serve my progeny well.

Instead of handing him my bottle of warm Kool-Aid, instead of patting him on the shoulder while offering a comforting chuckle, I said: It’s ok, it’s just laying eggs.

And it did not get better. Late that night, after hours of carefully wrapping him in a cocoon of mosquito netting, after talking him down off the ledge into a doze, I laid my own head down on my cot and began to drift away. Just as I shifted into REM, the kid whispers across the tent, fully Blair Witched, Dad, I have to pee.

Now please understand I am exhausted. I’m extricating myself from a deep sleep and I’m just not thinking. I open the mosquito netting, unmummify the boy in the dark, help him get his shoes on, click on the flashlight, slowly open the tent flaps, hand the light to the kid and gently push him out.

Into screaming.

In the dancing circle of torchlight, the bugs crawling across the ground were so thick it looked like migrating wigs. Roon stopped screaming long enough to tell me he was peeing in the tent. I didn’t stop him.

Today he was getting ready for school when I realized he’d been in the shower a long time.

Dad: You ok?

Son: [silence] Dad: Son!?

Son: I’m trapped.

Dad: Whattaya mean?

Son: There’s a spider. I saw it on the windowsill but now it’s gone.

Dad: Son, come out.

Son: I DON’T KNOW WHERE IT IS! Dad: It’s ok, it’s probably looking for water.

Son: Get away from the door! [crash].

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THINGS I’VE LEARNED

Meet Michele Gardemann Bend-La Pine Schools Bus Driver

For 13 years, Michele has been the friendly smile behind the wheel of the big yellow school bus. Initially, she started driving because her family needed insurance, but never planned to be a longtimer. She loves working with kids (except after Halloween when they are on sugar overload) and has four children and five grandchildren of her own.

What is the single best thing you have learned as a bus driver?

As a bus driver, my ‘job’ is to get children to and from school safely. I took that VERY seriously when I first started, especially on icy roads. My personal view of my ‘job’ is to care about each child under my stewardship. I care about their safety in transportation, their feelings, their heartaches and fears. Sometimes it’s hard to sense and express my concern for 50 children while strapped into my seat at 35 mph! But you’d be amazed at what I observe in a rearview mirror.

What do you hope children learn from you?

I hope children learn from me that they matter—each one of them. I’ve learned that they are all just like me, wanting to be understood and to connect with people.

What superhero power do you wish you had when working with kids?

If I had to choose my own superpower, I would want to see into each child’s heart. What’s in their hearts may be SO different from what they show on the outside.

How are kids today different than when you were a kid?

Kids today have a much stronger will and determination to learn by trying rather than being told what to do. As I have watched my own daughters parent their children, I see that they are teaching

their children many of the same things I taught but in much more creative, handson ways. I am inspired as I watch today’s kids look at the world with excitement.

Do you have a role model?

As cliche’ as it sounds, my mother is my first choice. She always gave us kids the last bite of pie on her plate and the lemonade always tasted better from her glass. She listened to us day or night as we were struggling with life. She was the best example of a nurturer in my life. In her later years she spent a lot of time caring for elderly people. When I become an empty-nester I hope to become a hospice volunteer.

What do you think the next generation has in store for us?

I love to watch the creativity of today’s kids as well as their thirst for knowledge and discovery. Science, medicine, technology—everything is advancing so fast.

I can’t even fathom what this generation has in store for us, but I can’t wait to see!

In response to the question, “ask not what your kids can do for you but what you can do for your kids” what would you say?

Learn to say “NO!” With the intensity of the personalities I see in kids, this is important. Kids want boundaries. When that guidance is absent, kids don’t know which way to go, how far to go, whom to go with, and they are overwhelmed by the choices available to them. Loving them means guiding them.

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