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Beyond the Headlines

Snippets from Israel You Won’t Read About in the News

Talk to Him!

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Dear Readers,

n this week’s parsha, we are forgiven for the Chet Haegel, the sin of the golden calf. Hashem acknowledges his forgiveness and that he wants to be close to us when he commands us to build the Mishkan. “Make me for me a sanctuary, and I will dwell among them.” The mishkan was not just a building, but rather it was a tool for Bnei Yisroel to connect to Hashem. The ananei hakavod, clouds of glory, would come down each time the mishkan was built as a sign that the Shechina was present. Almost half of the mitzvot, as described in the next few parshiot, of the 613 mitzvot describe how to use the mishkan and Beis Hamikdash to connect with Hashem, including those describing the world of the Kohanim. The mishkan traveled with the Jews for 40 years. Today, we don’t have the Mishkan, the Beis Hamikdash, or any other physical building in which we can go to bring korbanos and be close to Hashem. Instead, we have our homes. It is said that the shechina dwells within our homes where there is shalom bayis. Hashem’s shechina likely also dwells on Bnei Yisroel when there is shalom and achdus amongst us. Today, we have to work harder than ever to bring the shechina down into a seemingly dark world. If I could wish for anything from the

time of the Mishkan, I would want the keruvim. The keruvim, known as the cherubs, where the two childlike figures would face each other when the Jews would get along, and would turn away from each other when Bnei Yisroel weren’t getting along. They were a clear sign from Hashem to assess how we were behaving. Today, unfortunately, we need to guess how we are doing. Are we doing enough chesed? Is there enough achdus? Am I working on the hating and judging of others who are different than I am? Do I love my fellow Jew unconditionally? I don’t know. Is there world peace? A rise in antisemitism? Terrorism in Israel? We may look at world events as a sign to how we are doing, or perhaps we look at our own individual personal lives to see - are we being punished? Do we have inner peace? Or turmoil? Do we have tragedy and sickness? Or prosperity? There are countless questions, and no real answers. Just guesses. So when Moshiach arrives, and we build the next Beis Hamikdash, I’m going to want to have keruvim (or something similar). I want a direct sign from Hashem. I don’t want to guess. I don’t want to analyze what signs of war or tragedy or illness mean. I want Hashem to tell us directly how we are doing.

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CONTENTS COMMUNITY AND PEOPLE

Around the Community ..........................................6 A Fellow Jew for Congress .................................12 Beyond the Headlines ..........................................14

JEWISH THOUGHT

Psycho-Spiritual Insights .......................................16 Shalom Bayit - Parshat Terumah ...................... 16 Talk to Him! .......................................................... 20

FEATURE

Chat GPT For Dummies .................................... 22

KIDS

Sudoku Puzzles! ................................................. 26 Blackout Poetry Contest Winner ....................... 26 FYI: Drones ....................................................... 27

LIFESTYLE

Inspiration | The Benefit of the Doubt .............. 28 Politics | Lous’ Views ......................................... 30 Politics | Notable Quotes .................................. 31 Mental Health | Sibling Estrangement ............... 32 Parenting | Parent to Parent ............................... 33 Food | Can a Kitchen Gadget Improve Your Life? ... 34

HUMOR

Caption the Cartoon! ............................................ 35

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| Around the Community

Mrs. Einav Danino, mother of hostage Ori Danino, visits Emek

mek had the privilege of hosting Mrs. Einav Danino, mother of hostage Ori Danino, who generously shared her compelling story. We were both amazed and honored to hear from a woman of such incredible strength, emunah, and bitachon. In a surprise visit, Rabbi Yisroel Majeski accompanied Mrs. Danino to Emek to speak to our Middle School girls. Wednesday was especially auspicious, as it marked Ori’s 25th birthday. Although one objective of Mrs. Danino’s visit was for us to be a source of chizuk to her, the opposite proved true, as she became an incredible source of strength for us. She delved into many wonderful details about Ori’s personality, highlighting his courageous acts on October 7th, when he escaped but then chose to return to the site of the attack to save his friends. The significance of her lecture was to emphasize gratitude to Hashem daily, affirming that Hashem, our Father knows best and does only good for His children. May our tears, Tehillim, and songs storm shamayim, bringing all our brothers and sisters home now. Am Yisroel Chai!

Rabbi Yisroel Majeski, Leah Danino and Mrs. Einav Danino

Gindi Maimonides Academy’s ‫אני וגופי‬ Kindergarten Program

ur kindergarten event, ‫אני וגופי‬, was a culmination of our body unit. Our interactive event was split into three different activities that each helped us appreciate the miracles that Hashem performs in our bodies every day. Kindergarten families joined us as we decorated Netilat Yadim cups and Asher Yatzar posters. We davened together, and explored our fives senses through a scavenger hunt around our yard; using our sense of smell to experience different scents, our eyes to find objects around us, our hands to explore the feel of different items, our mouths to taste some “skeleton” marshmallows, and finally our ears to enjoy some music. Thank you to our amazing staff and parents who helped pull this off!

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ASHER YATZAR: students recited and decorated their own Asher Yatzar posters relfecting about how magical their bodies are

NETILAT YADAYIM: students decoraed their own Negel Vassar cups that they can use each morning while washing their hand

SEE parents and students wore 3-D glasses and used binoculars to view the beauty of Hashem’s world in different ways

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Shalhevet School Wide Shabbaton: A weekend of Achdut

ast Friday, the anticipation was palpable as the entire Shalhevet student body, along with many faculty eagerly boarded the bus for our highly anticipated annual schoolwide Shabbaton in what would be an unforgettable weekend filled with camaraderie, learning, and memories. Centered around the theme of ‫מערב‬ ‫ בסוף ואנכי במזרח לבי‬- “My heart is in the East and I am at the edge of the West,” students had the invaluable opportunity to delve into what it means to be a Jew living outside the land of Israel. Throughout the Shabbaton, learning sessions, discussions, kumzitzes and activities were thoughtfully curated to foster a deeper understanding and connection to what it means to be a Jew, even while residing far from our homeland. Students engaged in meaningful conversation, reflecting on Israel’s significance to both themselves and the broader Jewish community. Delving into questions of identity and heritage, we explored the connection that binds us to Israel, recognizing our responsibilities to Eretz Yisrael, even as we reside outside its borders. Throughout these sessions, students reflected on their personal ties to Israel and explored the ways in which they can actively contribute to the land and our people. There were a number of highlights on the Shabbaton. We welcomed in Shabbat with an electrifying Kabbalat Shabbat, marked with dancing and singing. Dinner was filled with the melodies of zemirot and insightful divrei Torah. The night reached its pinnacle as our incredible senior class took the lead, hosting an unforgettable allnight oneg where students shared stories, special moments with their peers, and words of wisdom that they wanted to impart to their fellow classmates. Shabbat day united the entire school in Tefilla. Our student leaders took center stage, showcasing their remarkable leadership skills as they led the Kehilla in tefilla and took on the roles of chazanim, gabbaim, and layners. After lunch, some hearty chulent, and a well-needed Shabbat Menucha, during which students enjoyed quality time with one another, we gathered for Mincha, paving the way for Seudah Shlishit and our hallmark slow shira, a kumzitz of emotionally uplifting and inspiring songs. The room was filled with the resonating echoes of slow shira, infusing the room with a tangible sense of connection and energy. Seniors Jacob Kilberg and Tali Leibenthal shared words of wisdom, heartfelt personal anecdotes, and valuable insights from their experiences at Shalhevet. We wrapped up Shabbat with a camp-style musical havdalah and a school-wide rendition of Hatikvah that we will never forget! Am Yisrael Chai indeed.

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The Grand Reopening of the Abraham Dayan Mikvah at Chabad of the Valley

n 1995, Chabad in the San Fernando Valley opened the first women’s Mikvah located at the Chabad of the Valley Headquarters in Tarzana. The Mikvah was spacious, beautiful, and wheelchair accessible, enabling women from all walks of life and capacities to enjoy the blessing and spiritual rejuvenation that Mikvah offers. With time and much usage, the Mikvah grew tired and became due for renovation and remodeling. Pioneering with enthusiasm and support, the chairpersons of the Mikvah renovation project, Alex and Elena Reyter, mapped out a plan and strategy for the complete state-of-the-art remodel. As word and excitement spread throughout the Valley communities, many generous supporters got on board and contributed magnanimously to transform the dream into a reality. Daniel and Vardit Aharonoff, long standing members and benefactors of Chabad of the Valley, championed the initiative by becoming the dedicators of the ‘Abraham Dayan Mikvah Renovation and Remodeling Project.’ On Motzei Shabbat January 20, the grand reopening of the Abraham Dayan

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NICK MELVOIN: PERSONAL PROFILE: Name: Nick Melvoin Age: 38 Education: Harvard University (Undergraduate), LMU (Master's in Urban Education), NYU (Law Degree) Marital Status: Married, 2022 Religious Affiliation: Reform Judaism Political Affiliation: Democratic, pragmatic progressive Career History: Attorney, former teacher, and adjunct professor, currently serving as a member of the Los Angeles Unified School District Board of Education Hobbies: Reading; sports, including tennis, soccer, skiing, hiking, and fly fishing; and performing magic as an aspiring amateur magician. Passions: Community service, neighborliness, the environment, family, and Judaism Role Models: My parents, Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, JFK, Golda Meir, and my grandfather Favorite Books: "To Kill a Mockingbird," "A Gentleman in Moscow," "Project Hail Mary," "Startup Nation," "Exodus," and the Harry Potter series Favorite Travel Destinations: London, where my brother lives with his family; Oslo, where my wife is from and where we held our wedding; and Israel, a place I have visited every few years and hope to spend more time in.

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A Fellow Jew for Cong ress By: B. Weiss

In Conversation with Nick Melvoin How did your upbringing and life experiences shape your worldview and political convictions? My parents really set an example for me. My dad was the president of our shul and my mom was the vice president. My mom took her role as the neighborhood's earthquake preparedness captain seriously, making sure everyone was ready in case of an emergency. They showed me that being of service wasn't something special; it was just what you did. After Harvard, I felt this strong need to give back, to be part of something bigger. I joined Teach for America and ended up teaching in Watts. It was eye-opening. I saw firsthand how many kids were getting left behind because of where they lived or the resources they didn’t have. I realized that if I wanted to make a real difference, I needed to get involved in changing the system, not just working within it. That’s why I went into law and eventually ran for election for the Board of Education. For me, it's not about the titles of board members orpoliticiansn; it's about being solution-oriented, effecting necessary change, and being part of the solution. Can you tell us more about your political Ideology? My approach to politics centers around being a pragmatic progressive. This means I focus on practical solutions to problems, aiming to make progress on issues in a way that's effective and grounded in reality. I believe in progressive values like equality, justice, and ensuring everyone has access to opportunities, but I also emphasize the importance of working across the aisle and finding common ground to get things done. This approach makes me unique, especially in today's often polarized political climate, because it shows I'm committed to results over rhetoric. Being solution-oriented and willing to collaborate with others, regardless of their political affiliation, positions me as a bridge-builder who can help navigate and address the complex challenges facing our community. Why would Republicans vote for you? It's clear that the two Republicans in the race, given the demographics and voting patterns of our district, realistically don't stand much of a chance. I represent the option that bridges the divide. While I am a Democrat, my pragmatic progressivism means I prioritize effective governance and practical solutions over partisan labels. For those who might typically vote Republican but are looking for a viable candidate who can win and effectively represent their views, I believe I am that candidate. What are the issues you plan to tackle? How do you intend to solve them? Our political system is broken. Congress has failed to act and meet the urgent challenges that are hurting our communities. The cost of living is skyrocketing, and hardworking families are struggling to keep up. Our schools are not getting the investments they need to provide an education for our students that sets them up for success in today’s world and economy. Our crumbling infrastructure is holding back our economy.

Here's my plan once I'm in Congress: I'll look into ways we can use land to make housing more affordable, so living here doesn't break the bank. I want to get more teachers in our classrooms by setting up a plan that makes it easier to train and hire them in places like Los Angeles, Burbank, Glendale, and Pasadena. I'm also on a mission to get rid of assault weapons and make our schools safer for kids and teachers. And I'll be pushing hard for better public transportation and roads that don't just help us get around easier but also clean up the air by cutting down on pollution. I've spent my time as a lawyer fighting for what's right, especially when it comes to treating everyone fairly. We need folks in charge who aren't afraid to stand up for what we believe in, who'll fight tooth and nail to make sure everyone is treated with respect and dignity. What makes you stand out in this crowded race? I'm about action, not words. Teaching in Watts, fighting for rights with the ACLU, and making real changes on the LAUSD Board of Education—like boosting graduation rates and expanding pre-K—show I get things done. Being the director of Camp Harmony, a camp for homeless kids, is another way I've made a direct impact. My track record proves I'm committed to making a real difference, not just talking about it. Being the youngest candidate in the race, I bring new energy and fresh ideas to tackle old problems. Given that congressmen often hold their seats for decades, being younger is a big advantage, allowing me to commit to the long haul. With regard to the Jewish community, how do you plan to represent us in Washington? As an American Jew, I have an understanding of the unique concerns of our community. Security for Shuls and Jewish schools is a critical concern, highlighted by October 7 and the rising antisemitism across the US. I'm committed to ensuring there's scheduled funding to enhance security measures, so our schools and synagogues don't bear the financial burden alone. I see a pressing need for more federal funding for kids in Jewish schools to address gaps in resources for children in poverty or with disabilities. The lack of sufficient government support is something I plan to change by working across the aisle to secure the necessary funds. Are you the only Jewish candidate in the race? No, there are two other Jewish candidates: Mike Feuer and Laura Friedman. However, I've been the most vocal in supporting Jewish issues, especially in education and against BDS. I've shown that I'm not afraid to stand up for our community. Why Congress, why now? What's driving you? “If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?” This quote from Hillel encapsulates Why me and why now. With Schiff stepping down, I have a rare chance to bring my experience, energy, and passion for service to Congress. I want to be part of the solution.

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Beyond the Headlines

Snippets From Israel You Won’t Read About In The News Sivan Rahav Meir Translated by Yehoshua Siskin

A Different Kind of Report Card

Certificate of Heroism

This is the time of year in Israel when schools give students their mid-year report cards. But this year, many schools in the north and south didn’t know what to do about students who were evacuated from their homes, whose families were seriously impacted by the war, and whose daily routines were upended. At the Ort Yeshiva in Kiryat Shmona, the staff found an original way to give their students a boost. The following is a translation of one student’s certificate: “With a hug and sending strength, we are delighted to award this certificate to our dear student Shimon Cohen for the heroism you displayed in the course of the Iron Swords war. You have demonstrated tremendous resilience in coping with a new, complex situation. You are mature and responsible and have been helpful to your younger siblings, with humor and an optimistic outlook, while also developing new hobbies. We are very proud of you! Your family and the school staff.” May we all complete this test with flying colors, with joy and confidence as we look toward the future.

Shaare Zedek Sets New Record January 2024 saw Shaare Zedek Medical Center in Jerusalem delivering more than just outstanding care; they delivered a record-breaking 1,926 newborns! This blessed “baby boom” is thanks in part to the many families evacuated from the north and south of the country who have been staying in Israel’s capital city, and who also helped set last month’s record of 1,856 births. Record number of births at Shaare Zedek

Meaningful Legacies from Fallen Soldiers, z”l Yaffa Ben Valid is the mother of 33-year-old Barak, z”l, who tragically lost his life in Gaza on the sorrowful day that saw the loss of 24 soldiers. Yaffa shared that during the shiva, hundreds of people came to offer condolences, shedding light on the profound impact Barak had on those around him. Among the visitors was a young man who maintained a quiet presence, observing from afar. When the crowds had thinned somewhat, the young man, I’ll call him Y, recounted a poignant story from 2009, when he and Barak were in basic training together. Y described feeling isolated and overwhelmed, struggling with the competitive atmosphere, and how Barak stood out by recognizing Y’s vulnerability. He offered encouragement, motivation, and demonstrated kindness and sensitivity, making Y feel appreciated and helping him through this most challenging period. Yaffa and her family were deeply moved by the stories shared about Barak, especially that told by Y. “We would like others to take this message to heart,” she said, “and in every situation, to always seek and identify the vulnerable individual who is in need of our kind attention and assistance.” Chana is the widow of Uriel Cohen, z”l, another precious IDF soldier who fell in Gaza. During the funeral, she described Uriel’s defining trait as his radiant countenance, evident in the photos featuring his bright smile, kind eyes and glowing face. “Chazal say that greeting another person with a smile is one of the greatest levels of giving,” she said. “There are times when a smile is even more valuable than money; it can be life-saving. Uriel, as his name suggests, truly lit up the world with his light.” Chana remarked that during a funeral, we don’t just accompany the departed, but we are also called upon to acquire their positive traits. “May we all learn from Uriel and smile more to others,” she said. “I know that during these difficult days, I’m supposed to feel like half a person,” she added. “But since Uriel fell, it’s been hard, but still I feel like one-and-a-half – Uriel’s soul is here, as is our wonderful Am Yisrael, which is surrounding us with love.”

From Poland With Love I recently learned about a Shabbat program organized for the Jewish community in Warsaw. Rabbi Shalom and Dina Stambler, Chabad emissaries in the city, were heartened by the significant turnout. Contrary to expectations that the war in Israel and rising global anti-Semitism might reduce attendance, the opposite proved true. “We witnessed an unprecedented influx of first-time attendees to a Jewish event, drawing Jews from the local community as well as from Lodz, Bialystok, Katowice, and Krakow,” Dina Stambler observed. She also noted a profound awakening among Jews. “There’s a newfound resolve to defend the nation of Israel and Judaism, and to stand against Hamas and anti-Semitism.”

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She told me about various supportive initiatives: contributions to the IDF, individuals learning Hebrew, a young man organizing a major pro-Israel rally, and another expressing his own “one-man demonstration” by placing a mezuzah on his doorpost. A particularly striking story involved two local businessmen, known rivals, who agreed to set aside their differences. They approached the rabbi, united in their eagerness, to aid Israel. Remarking on the activities, a Jewish doctor in the community said, “If Hamas believed their actions would weaken our unity, diminish our connection to Israel, or curb our Jewish identity, they were mistaken. Since October 7th, these feelings have only grown stronger.”

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Psycho-Spiritual Insights: Exploring Parsha and Psychology

Sacred Psychology of Giving P

arshat Terumah presents a profound exploration of the psychology of giving as it unfolds within the construction of the Mishkan. The Parsha details the meticulous instructions for creating a space on Earth to connect with Hashem. The Parsha starts by saying, “V’yikchu Li Terumah – and you should take for yourselves a contribution for me” (Exodus 25:2). This passuk goes beyond the mere physical construction and provides valuable insights into the psychological dimensions of giving. The passuk is interesting, as it should have said ‘V’yitnu – and you shall give’ but instead Hashem provides us a wonderful lesson on the power of giving. Winston Churchill once said, “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” The psychology of giving is complex, involving factors like empathy, altruism, and social connection. Giving can evoke feelings of happiness and satisfaction, creating a sense of purpose and fulfillment. It often strengthens social bonds and contributes to a positive

self-image, fostering a sense of interconnectedness within communities. What we clearly see is that giving from ourselves increases our purpose and connection to others. Furthermore, ‘Terumah’ comes from the root ‘Ram,’ which means ‘uplifted,’ to show us that when we give, we ourselves become uplifted - we elevate our lives through giving. Until this moment, Bnei Yisrael had been exclusively takers. Hashem gave them Man, water, food, security, and shelter. Though at every physical level there was an unparalleled deliverance, the psychological effects were not good. Bnei Yisrael became dependent, expectant, and prone to complaints. However, an additional item provided by Hashem was the opportunity to give. The Rambam (Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Mattenot Aniyim 7:5) writes, “Even a poor person who is dependent on tzedakah (charity) is obligated to give tzedakah to another person.” Giving is not just about what you have, it’s about shaping who you are. It allows us to become reciprocal human beings, not exclusively takers. The

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he first year, your wife was looking forward to your calls. Nowadays she’s actually annoyed by them. What happened and what can you do about it? A lesson can be learned from ‫תרומה‬. Why did God require a tabernacle after having appeared to us in the desert, in the red sea, and in Egypt? Our sages explain that the quality of a conversation between two friends who happen to run into each other in the supermarket is going to be *shallow*. However if they had planned to meet up, the conversation is going to be *deeper*. God wanted the tabernacle, a designated meeting place, to signal to us that now that we are a mature nation, our relationship with him is deeper too. There’s nothing wrong with

calling your wife while driving. The problem is when you call your wife *ONLY* while driving. A doctor finally makes a house call. How come, they ask? He says “I had another patient close by so I thought I’d kill 2 patients with one stone.” Make appointments to make your wife feel special and for your Shalom Bayit.

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psychological concept of reciprocity sheds light on the dynamic exchange embedded in the act of giving. In Parshat Terumah, when provided the opportunity, Bnei Yisrael give generously, and in return, they receive the divine presence within the Mishkan This reciprocal relationship reflects the psychological principle that acts of generosity and kindness create a positive feedback loop, fostering a sense of interconnectedness and shared purpose. In the case of Terumah, the reciprocity extends beyond the immediate contributors to include the entire community benefiting from the sacred space. The more of ourselves that we give, the greater we become. Parshat Terumah serves as a timeless guide, illuminating the psychological intricacies of giving. It asks us to explore the motivations behind our contributions and the transformative power of reciprocity in building harmonious communities. Through understanding the psychology of giving, we can derive enduring lessons that resonate across generations, shaping our individual and collective paths toward greater purpose and connection

Here are some brief tips on how to instill a giving mindset: Practice Gratitude: Cultivating a giving mindset often begins with appreciating what you have. Take time each day to reflect on the positive aspects of your life and express gratitude. Focusing on the good things can shift your perspective and make you more inclined to share with others. Set Giving Goals: Establish specific and achievable giving goals for yourself. Whether it’s money, time, or a cause, having clear goals provides direction and motivation. Regularly review and adjust these goals to challenge yourself to increase your giving over time.

____________________________________________ Elan Javanfard, M.A., L.M.F.T. is a Consulting Psychotherapist focused on behavioral health redesign, a Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University, & a lecturer related to Mindfulness, Evidence Based Practices, and Suicide Prevention. Elan is the author of Psycho-Spiritual Insights: Exploring Parasha & Psychology, a weekly blog. He lives in the Los Angeles Pico Robertson community with his wife and two children and can be reached at Elan.Javanfard@gmail.com.

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had been flown into Monsey to sing at an event. It was a few hours before I was supposed to get on stage when I was told there was no sound system. After making a few unsuccessful attempts to get one on short notice, I began to get anxious. Rain was coming down heavily. I was sitting in my rental car, desperate for a solution, when my good friend Yaakov Gradman called from Israel. I filled him in about my current dilemma and told him I’d have to talk to him later. Before I managed to hang up, he interjected, “Wait! Did you ask HaShem to help you?” That caught me off guard. How did that not occur to me? After that instance, I wanted to infuse HaShem into my day-to-day life as much as possible. I realized that I could handle the same situations significantly more calmly knowing that He’s with me and I could truly ask Him anything, anywhere, anytime. I needed to learn how to tap into that power. That same year, I heard that Rabbi Tauber, a well-known Rav in Los Angeles, was giving a 7:00 AM shiur on Hisbodedus to a few people in his office every morning. I decided to join. They called it a shiur, but quite frankly, it felt more like an interrogation at first. Sometimes, Rabbi Tauber would open a Likutei Moharan and read from it, but every single day he would ask every one of us, “Did you talk to HaShem yesterday?” Such a simple question and oh how it made me squirm! As I continued to learn, I discovered that Hisbodedus, unlike meditation, was about connecting to Hashem specifically through speech. Hisbodedus is building a real relationship with God by speaking to him in my mother tongue. Rabbi Tauber emphasized the importance of starting small and gradually building up the practice. Much like all relationships, the more effort and time we invest, the stronger the bond becomes. The connection we seek doesn’t “just happen,” it needs to be cultivated. I was planning a trip to Israel a few months later. When Yaakov Gradman heard that I was coming, he asked if I had ever done a full hour of Hisbodedus. I had not. ”You need to experience the full hour at

Three (of the many!) Gifts of Hisbodedus

least once. Set aside a night when we could go out together and do it,” he urged. A full hour! It would be a lie to say I was not a little reluctant. Thankfully, I already had an understanding of the value of this practice and a desire to try it. That is how I found myself venturing into the forest behind Ramat Eshkol on a cool summer night. Yaakov and I parted ways after agreeing to meet up again in an hour. No phone, no book, no TV, no chair. Not another soul in sight. One full hour alone with HaShem. I had been learning from Rabbi Tauber, so I knew what to do. That didn’t mean it was easy to get started. First, I said “Hi,” then called, “Abba, Tatte.” Next, I tried talking. I didn’t know what to say and my mind pulled me in a thousand different directions. I brought my attention back to the here and now. It was difficult. I lifted my arms, built confidence, and swayed back and forth urgently. Then I yelled “AAAAAAABBBBBBBBAAAAAAA!!!” I yelled again and again at the top of my lungs. Suddenly, I felt relieved and a little more focused. I really wanted to talk to Him, but still, no words came to mind. Rabbi Tauber had taught us that Rebbe Nachman says when you don’t know what to say, to express that simply. So, I said, “Hashem, I don’t know what to say.” Immediately, I knew that those were the exact words I needed to say. From there, words started flowing and sure enough, I was having a conversation with HaShem. A few minutes later, feeling good about the experience I had, I assumed I was

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done. The clock said otherwise. Only 20 minutes had passed. I forged on and continued to talk, digging deep. At some point, around the 30-minute mark, the tension began to dissipate. Boom! Like a faucet unclogged, it began to flow. A stream of emotions poured out of me. Powerful and pure, this connection penetrated everything that stood in the way and pierced straight through my heart. The floodgates flew open and all of me was there to give itself over to HaShem. Words gushed forth, free and unfiltered. That night I talked to HaShem about matters I have never touched on before. My eyes welled with tears (as they are right now as I write this) and I felt that I could fully lean on HaShem. I was completely heard and held. I could speak truthfully about what was really going on in my life. I could be vulnerable with Him, free from judgment, free to be the real me. This is something I hadn’t been able to achieve with a casual practice of hisbodedus, by trying to talk to HaShem for a few minutes here and there. It is difficult to reach this level of connection unless you work to overcome the internal distractions that come up when there are no external ones. The work is the key. It unlocks the gates to that deep relationship we all crave to have with Hashem. The painstaking avoidance of facing yourself honestly, all alone, by yourself, humbles you. Doing this allows your Chelek Elokai to shine through, leading to the most incredible feeling of oneness with Hashem.

A Relationship with God: Rabbi Tauber always says that every relationship needs work. No two people have a relationship naturally. It’s the same way with G-d. You have to invest consistently to create that intimate connection. When we show up to davening, it often feels robotic. The Yeitzer Hora is standing at the door of the Shul. He knows exactly what time Davening is at. He knows our schedules. He is ready to distract us, haunt us, and knock us down. If you have built this deep real connection, it is more powerful than all those tricks. Davening becomes a time to build upon the foundation you already have. This personal relationship with God will strengthen your Emunah and carry you through the best and worst of times. A Relationship with Yourself: When you engage in conversations with God, you’re essentially opening up to yourself. It’s like having a personal heart-to-heart. It allows you to reflect on your thoughts, experiences, and challenges. Over time, you become more aware of your own feelings, desires, and the kind of person you want to be. Hisbodedus becomes a tool for self-discovery and a deeper relationship with yourself. Living Proactively, Not Reactively: Having a dedicated time for reflection and conversation with God, provides a space to step back and assess things. It acts like a pause button in life. This intentional pause allows you to practice the power of choice. Instead of simply reacting to situations, you can actively decide how to respond. You cultivate a proactive approach to life, making choices that align with your values and intentions.

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You get what you ask for. Enter a basic prompt, you’ll get a bare-bones, encyclopedic-like answer. Do that enough times and you’ll convince yourself that this is just a toy and you can get better results from an Internet search engine. This is a typical novice’s mistake and a primary reason why beginners give up before they fully grasp what ChatGPT is and can do. Understand that your previous experience with keywords and search engines does not apply here. You must think of and use ChatGPT in a different way. ChatGPT’s responses are only as good as your prompt. That’s because the prompt starts a pattern that ChatGPT must then complete. Be intentional about how you present that pattern starter — the prompt.

1. Set the stage and provide context

Writing a ChatGPT prompt is more than just asking a one-sentence question. It often involves providing relevant background information to set the context of the query.

Do you see how you're giving the AI much more information with which to provide you with a more focused and helpful answer?

2. Talk to the AI like you would talk to a person

When talking to a person, it would be natural to expect someone to miss your point initially and require clarification. It would be natural for someone with whom you're speaking to veer away from the topic at hand and need to be wrangled back on topic. It would be natural to fill in the backstory and ask complex questions, and it would also be natural to have to dig in, restating some of those questions based on the answers you got back. ChatGPT works the same way. This is called interactive prompting. Don't be afraid to ask multi-step questions. Ask a question, get a response. Based on that response, ask another question. You’ll get powerful results. You wouldn't just ask one question to a friend and then walk away. You'd have a conversation. Do the same with the AI.

3. Keep ChatGPT on track

As mentioned above, ChatGPT has a tendency to go off the rails, lose track of the discussion, or completely fabricate answers. There are a few techniques you can use to keep it on track and help keep it honest. If you have a fairly long conversation with ChatGPT, you'll start to notice that the AI loses the thread. This is clearly not unique just to AIs. If you have a long discussion with most friends, family, and coworkers, someone is bound to lose the thread. That said, when you're in a conversation with ChatGPT, you can use the same techniques you use with friends. Gently guide the AI back on track, and remind it what the topic is, as well as what you're trying to explore.

4. Don't be afraid to play and experiment

One of the best ways to up your skill at this craft is to play around with what the chatbot can do.Try feeding ChatGPT a variety of interesting prompts to see what it will do with them. Then change them up, and see what happens.

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How good priompting will get desired results

Sample Prompt 1

2. 3.

What would be the best diet for weight gain?

The best diet for weight gain typically involves consuming more calories than your body burns. Focus on nutrient-dense foods like lean proteins, healthy fats, whole grains, fruits, and vegetables. Incorporate calorie-dense foods such as nuts, nut butter, avocados, dried fruits, and whole-fat dairy products. Also, consider increasing your meal frequency and portion sizes to ensure you're consuming enough calories to support weight gain. Consulting with a nutritionist or dietitian can provide personalized guidance based on your speciﬁc needs and health goals.

7. 8.

Sample Prompt 2

Caloric Surplus Calculation: Given your activity level and goal, it's crucial to determine your speciﬁc caloric needs. I recommend using a calorie calculator to estimate your maintenance calories and then add 300-500 calories per day to promote weight gain. Meal Timing and Frequency: Since you're working out four times a week, consider consuming a larger portion of your calories around your workout times to support energy levels and muscle recovery. Protein Intake: Aim for around 1.2-1.5 grams of protein per kilogram of body weight per day to support muscle growth. Since you're already consuming protein shakes, ensure you're getting enough protein from whole food sources as well. Carbohydrate and Fat Distribution: Distribute your carbohydrate and fat intake based on your energy needs and preferences. Carbohydrates are essential for fueling workouts and replenishing glycogen stores, while healthy fats support hormone production and overall health. Meal Variety and Kosher Options: Explore a variety of kosher protein sources such as lean beef, lamb, turkey, and legumes like chickpeas, lentils, and beans. Incorporate different vegetables, grains, and kosher-certiﬁed dairy products to keep your meals diverse and enjoyable. Pre and Post-Workout Nutrition: Consider having a pre-workout snack containing carbohydrates and a small amount of protein to fuel your workouts. After exercise, prioritize a meal or snack rich in protein and carbohydrates to support muscle recovery and growth. Supplementation: If necessary, consider adding a weight gainer supplement or protein powder to your diet to help meet your calorie and protein needs. Consultation with a Registered Dietitian: For personalized guidance tailored to your dietary preferences and goals, consider consulting with a registered dietitian who has experience working with individuals following kosher dietary restrictions.

I hope these insights help provide adequate guidance for your nutrition and fitness journey. If you have any specific concerns or preferences, feel free to share, and I'll adjust the recommendations accordingly. Hi my name is Jacob. I weigh 175 and am 6’2”. I work out 4 times a week and am trying to build more muscle so I look less lanky. No matter how much I eat, I can’t seem to gain weight. What diet would you recommend? You are a nutrition and fitness coach. I am here to consult you. Before you present a solution to my problem, please ask me whatever questions you have so I can give you all the details you need to best answer my question.

Hi Jacob! Thanks for sharing your details. To better understand your situation, here are a few questions: 1. Can you describe your typical workout routine? What types of exercises do you do, and for how long? 2. What does a typical day of eating look like for you? Can you provide an example of your meals and snacks? 3. How long have you been trying to gain weight, and have you noticed any changes in your body composition or energy levels during this time? 4. Do you have any dietary restrictions or preferences, such as vegetarianism or food allergies? 5. How is your overall stress level and quality of sleep? 6. Once I have this information, I'll be able to tailor a diet and nutrition plan to help you reach your goals effectively.

3. 4. 5.

My typical workout routine involves hitting the gym four times a week. I focus on weightlifting exercises like bench press, squats, deadlifts, and rows. Each session lasts about 60-75 minutes, including warm-up and cool-down. For breakfast, I usually have scrambled eggs with toast and a protein shake. Lunch might be grilled chicken with quinoa and veggies, while dinner could include salmon, sweet potatoes, and broccoli. I snack mostly on fruit or nuts throughout the day. I’ve been trying to gain weight for six months. While I’ve certainly built some muscle, I still look too skinny. I am an Orthodox Jew and keep kosher. Within the conﬁnes of Halacha, I'm open to trying different foods to support my goal of gaining weight. My stress level is moderate, and I generally get around 7 hours of sleep per night. It could be better, but I'm working on managing stress and improving my sleep quality.

Thank you for providing detailed information, Jacob. Based on what you've shared, here's a tailored approach to help you build muscle and gain weight:

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1. You want more than plain text responses

GPT-4 is not only stronger than GPT-3.5, but it's also multimodal, and capable of analyzing text, images, and voice. For instance, it can accept an image as part of a prompt and provide an accurate text response, it can generate images, and it can be spoken to and then respond using its voice.

2. You want to use custom GPT bots or plugins

GPT plugins make ChatGPT-4 "smarter". It works by connecting the AI with external services or databases, enabling it to access a wide range of information or perform tasks it couldn't do on its own.

3. You're looking for more nuanced and accurate responses

OpenAI describes GPT-4 as: "10 times more advanced than its predecessor, GPT-3.5. This enhancement enables the model to better understand the context and distinguish nuances, resulting in more accurate and coherent responses."

4. You want up-to-date information

The free version of ChatGPT cannot access the internet, but ChatGPT Plus can. OpenAI integrated a 'Browse with Bing' feature into GPT-4 recently, which means that the AI chatbot can access the internet and provide the most updated information. If you're faced with a last-minute project on a topic you know little about, ChatGPT becomes your quick-research ally, it will browse the web on your behalf until it finds exactly what you told it to look for, saving you hours of sifting through search results.

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Let's look at the glass half full. ChatGPT isn't going to fry our brains. Think about it: when you're chatting with this AI, you're doing two crucial things – prompting and evaluating. That actually forces us to refine our thinking and communication skills. It's not about the AI doing the work for us; it's about us learning to work smarter because of the AI. Prompting is all about asking the right questions in the right way. You can't toss words into a chatbox; you must craft your questions so ChatGPT gets exactly what you're saying. This means you've got to be clear, precise, and thoughtful. It's a mini-test of how well you can communicate your thoughts, which, let's be honest, is a skill a lot of us could improve on. Every time you prompt, you're practicing how to be more effective with your words. Then there's evaluating. You're not blindly accepting whatever ChatGPT throws at you. You're digging in, asking, "Does this make sense? Is it what I wanted? How could it be better?" This is critical thinking in action. You're assessing the quality of information, and that's a muscle that gets stronger the more you use it.

Picture this: You've missed a big deadline and need to email your professor with an "oops, my bad" message. You figure ChatGPT could help craft that apology email. First up, prompting. You lay out what you need in the clearest terms: "Write an apology for missing the deadline, highlighting my accountability, genuine regret, and a commitment to do better. Keep it professional yet personal." You're practicing how to articulate your thoughts in a manner that leaves no room for misinterpretation. Then comes evaluating. ChatGPT hands back your draft, and now it's your turn to dissect it. Does it hit all the marks? Does it sound like you or or is it robot-level polite? Is it respectful yet forthright about your mistake? You're not just skimming; you're critically analyzing every word and phrase to ensure it aligns with your intent. This is where the rubber meets the road. You tweak, adjust, and maybe even rewrite parts until it's not just an apology, but your apology. By the time you hit send, you've not only crafted a message that takes full responsibility for your actions but also sharpened your communication and critical thinking skills. You've been clear, precise, and intentional in your prompting, and thorough, analytical, and discerning in your evaluation.

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No, it’s not a bird. Nope, not Superman either. It’s a drone! The world of drones is as vast as the skies they roam. These high-flying gizmos have zipped their way from sci-fi films straight into our backyards, becoming an integral part of industries, hobbies, and even art.

The Buzz Behind the Name Ever wonder why these gadgets are called drones? They owe their name to the male honeybee, which is also termed a ‘drone.’ Just like male honeybees, who buzz about leading relatively aimless lives (male bees can’t produce honey), drones hover and zoom around, albeit with more purpose. Talk about being inspired by nature in the tech world!

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Eye Opening Discovery Ever wonder why these gadgets are called drones? They owe their name to the male honeybee, which is also termed a ‘drone.’ Just like male honeybees, who buzz about leading relatively aimless lives (male bees can’t produce honey), drones hover and zoom around, albeit with more purpose. Talk about being inspired by nature in the tech world!

Selfies Reach New Heights Dronies: Like selﬁes, but with a drone! The typical dronie lasts between 10 seconds and one minute and starts with the drone hovering near the person who is taking the dronie. The drone then takes ﬂight and gradually moves away from the person, upward toward the sky. By zooming out, the dronie captures a panoramic view of the person's surroundings.

Dry Cleaning Revolution! Tired of the “old school” method of dry cleaning pick-up, Manayunk Cleaners owner Harry Vartanian has turned a four-bladed DJI Phantom quadcopter into a delivery machine that can bring dry cleaning directly to the customer's front door. Beware: strong gusts of wind may wrinkle newly pressed button-downs!

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Created by the geniuses at Darwin Aerospace in California, this nifty drone is changing the game for food delivery. Their plan? Using a special app, order a customized burrito, and the Burrito Bomber springs into action. It zooms straight to your location, guided by your smartphone's location signal. Then, with a ﬂick of technology, the burrito is released and parachutes down to you from the sky! As you dig into your favorite Mexican food, the drone heads back home, leaving you in awe of the delicious magic in the air.

Forget marathons. The real adrenaline-packed race now happens in the skies! Drone racing is zooming into the sports world, turning many heads (both literally and figuratively). Participants control drones equipped with cameras, racing them through obstacle courses at breakneck speeds. And for viewers? They get a first-person view, thanks to VR headsets, making them feel like they’re flying! If you ever doubted that in the future sports might take a turn for the techy, here’s your proof. Ready, set, drone!

The New Fireworks! Drones aren’t just about work; they know how to party! Drone light shows are becoming the new ﬁreworks, minus the noise and smoke. Hundreds, sometimes thousands, of drones are meticulously programmed to ﬂy in sync, creating jaw-dropping visuals and patterns in the night sky!

Prime Air

Amazon, the leader in online shopping, has always been ahead in the race, especially with delivery. Way back in 2013, Amazon's founder, Jeff Bezos, started talking about using drones to deliver packages. And guess what? In 2022, it ﬁnally happened! They launched Prime Air in two cool US cities: Lockeford, California, and College Station, Texas. These drones zip through the sky, bringing your orders super fast! In the future, drones will likely replace delivery trucks. With drones like Prime Air, packages could arrive within minutes, reaching even remote areas easily. It's like living in a sci-ﬁ movie where technology makes everything exciting and convenient. Get ready to see the skies buzzing with drones – the future of delivery is going to be seriously cool! FEBRUARY 15, 2024 | The LA Jewish Home

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The Apex Climb

The Benefit of the Benefit of the Doubt

wicked, however, are never judged favorably, even when performing an altruistic deed. With them, we assume it to be more self-oriented than it seems. Only those whose general morals and behaviors are less defined, their actions may need to be judged, and therefore should be done so with favor and kindness, and not critically. His words are troubling, as they seem to be in direct conflict with the mishnah’s

teachings. The mishnah states that we are to judge ”all men” favorably and not to categorize everyone judgmentally. I believe that Rabeinu Yona comes to his conclusion based on a nuanced and insightful understanding of the mishnah. When we read the words “‫”כל האדם‬ with more scrutiny, we will see that the mishnah doesn’t say “all people,” rather it says “all of the man.” Ha’Adam means “the person,” hence, ‫כל האדם‬, means, all of the person, the entirety of the person - not the action, but the person who performed the action. The upshot of this exceptional observation and interpretation can potentially redefine our perspective of people. When someone’s actions are distressful to us, we tend to judge the action, “Why would they…” But, if we shift our discerning eyes away from the action, and instead focus on the person who performed the action, we can then ask ourselves a poignant question: Would this person intend to hurt me? Let me reassess. And even if the negligence of their action is overwhelming, we should ask ourselves a different question: “Do I want to lose a long and wonderful relationship over this one misconduct?” When you contemplate the hurtful deed, it hurts. When you contemplate the loving person and the history you have together, it hurts less. Two other very relevant lessons can be derived from Rabeinu Yona’s insight. The first is in

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regards to how we “judge” Hashem. Jewish history is filled with millennia of heart-wrenching sufferings, on both national and individual levels. Many tears have been shed, and many cries of anger critical of Hashem’s judgment have been heard. Here too we must apply the lesson of judging the Performer and not the action. It is when we allow ourselves to nurture our faith in Hashem - the entirety of Hashem - and not focus on the painful actions and experiences of His judgments, that we are able to survive with our faith intact in our Omnipresent and Omniscience Creator. Torah hashkafa teaches us that we don’t design our Creator by actions that we like or by the ones that we don’t like. A Jew strives to understand and appreciate the truth of Hashem, the eternity of Him, and therefore can see the larger picture of our miraculous survival as a nation and the individuals who endured. The second lesson is regarding how we judge ourselves. A very common ailment that hinders a person’s self-growth and internal tranquility stems from our strong self-judgment. We are critical of our actions and mistakes to the point that it stymies our growth instead of nurturing it. The difference between healthy introspection versus unhealthy self-judgment is the difference between criticizing and blaming ourselves versus striving to understand our faulty actions. One depresses us, while the other becomes a springboard for self-awareness and growth. Here too, the starting place is to see the entirety of ourselves, our sincere and good selves, who sometimes perform faulty actions. Why ruin a long-lasting relationship because of a mistake or poor judgment? Indeed, there is a great benefit to giving the benefit of the doubt, for if we see ourselves in a healthier and less judgmental light, so too we will see Hashem and our fellow man.

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n February 7, 2024, a standalone bill to provide Israel with more military aid was defeated in the House. It called for about $17.6 billion in military aid for Israel and for the replenishment of U.S. defense systems. About $4 billion would have gone to replenish Israel’s missile defense systems and $1.2 billion to counter shortrange rockets and mortar threats. Those who voted against it felt that the bill also needed to include funding for Ukraine to defend itself against Russia and address the border crisis. House Speaker Mike Johnson said, “We need to stand with Israel right now and we cannot wait any longer.” He also said that, “Leveraging Israel aid as it fights for survival is wrong.” “If you have a bill that has nothing in it except Israel, and it fails, what does that say to the rest of the world?” asked Rep. Brad Sherman (D-Calif.), a veteran Jewish lawmaker who voted for the proposal. “It’s difficult for me not to go along with the president, and I don’t think anybody can accuse him of being anti-Israel,” Rep. Emanuel Cleaver (D-Mo.) said. “But you’ve got some people saying if you don’t do this, it’s saying to our enemies in the Middle East that we’re no longer connected at the hip with Israel. … I walked in there saying I was going to be with the president on this, and I’m getting a headache now. This is not fun.” Even before the vote though, President Biden said he would veto the bill if it were to reach his desk. Several Democrats characterized the vote as a Republican stunt, designed to make Democrats look unsympathetic to Israel. They wrote, “It is a nakedly obvious and cynical attempt by MAGA extremists to undermine the possibility of a comprehensive, bipartisan

funding package that addresses America’s national security challenges in the Middle East, Ukraine, the Indo-Pacific region and throughout the world.” “The time has come for House Republicans to end the political stunts and come together in support of a comprehensive approach to our national security priorities,” Democratic leader Hakeem Jeffries and other members of leadership told colleagues before the vote. There is no question that Ukraine and the border crises are each serious issues and merit focus and assistance. But they are separate and apart from Israel. For U.S. government leaders to make funding to Israel’s national security contingent upon deals for unrelated issues demonstrates a lack of appreciation and understanding of the importance of the longstanding partnership between the United States and Israel. First there are calls for ceasefires without demanding for the return of the hostages. Then there are requests for Israel to consider a two-state solution without demanding for the return of the hostages. Now Israel has to read in the news that their defense funding from the United States is at risk. On October 10, 2023, President Biden proudly proclaimed, “We must be crystal clear: We stand with Israel. We stand with Israel. And we will make sure Israel has what it needs to take care of its citizens, defend itself, and respond to this attack.” If you stand with Israel, then stand with Israel.

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I remember saying, “Guys, what are the chances that dozens of terrorists would get to the border and the IDF wouldn’t have any indication of it? That they wouldn’t be shot down? They’d be killed before they got close, surely.”

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Biden’s strategy is very simple: 1. Get as many illegals in the country as possible. 2. Legalize them to create a permanent majority – a one-party state. That is why they are encouraging so much illegal immigration. Simple, yet effective….. This explains why there are so few deportations, as every deportation is a lost vote. As happened this week, you can literally assault police officers in broad daylight in New York, be released with no bail…and not be deported!!... A few other things you probably don’t know: illegals in America can get bank loans, mortgages, insurance, driver’s licenses, free healthcare (California & New York) and in- state college tuition. What’s the point of being a citizen if an illegal gets all the benefits, but doesn’t pay taxes or do jury duty?... - Tweet by Elon Musk

No military fighting an entrenched enemy in dense urban terrain in an area barely twice the size of Washington, D.C. can avoid all civilian casualties. Reports of over 25,000 Palestinians killed – be they civilians or Hamas – have made headlines. But Israel has taken more measures to avoid needless civilian harm than virtually any other nation that fought an urban war.

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The Chicago City Council on Wednesday passed a resolution calling for a ceasefire in Gaza, and Chicago Mayor Brandon Johnson cast the tiebreaking vote. Skeptics wonder when the mayor will support a ceasefire on the West Side [of Chicago].... Chicago had 617 murders in 2023, and its murder rate is five times that of New York City. On some weekends in the warmer months, dozens of people are killed by gunshots or stabbings… Amid national notice of this mayhem last summer, Mr. Johnson said critics had to live in Chicago before they had the right to criticize. Israel might ask the same of Mr. Johnson. - The Wall Street Journal editorial board

-John Spencer, chair of urban warfare studies at the Modern War Institute (MWI) at West Point, writing in Newsweek

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Prophylactic Parenting to Avoid Sibling Estrangement Rabbi Azriel Hauptman

he topic of sibling estrangement is complex and difficult. No two families are alike and no two relationships are alike. It is very hard to point fingers at any specific person and say that it is his or her fault. Nevertheless, there are ways that parents can foster a healthy relationship amongst their children that will help them weather the storm when a conflict arises. It is commonly said that hurt people hurt people. Therefore, if you raise children who are at peace with themselves and with each other, you are planting the seeds for a wholesome lifelong relationship amongst your children that will persist even after you depart from this earth. One of the fundamentals of emotional development is that in order to achieve mental wellness you must have a sense of selfworth. This is not the same as self-esteem, which is the confidence that you have about your abilities. Self-worth is the sense that you have inherent value from the mere fact that you exist. This feeling usually comes from your parents. If you are fortunate enough to have parents who value your existence regardless of your accomplishments, you are already well along the path of feeling selfworth. Sibling rivalries often have subconscious underpinnings in your stature in the family system. If there is a hierarchy in your

family, competition and resentment can develop which can explode into full-blown estrangement years down the line. If you are imbued with a healthy sense of self-worth and that every member of the family is just as precious as the other, you can avoid a hierarchy and all of the drama that comes along with it. There are many ways that parents can develop this sense of self-worth in their children. This includes finding one-on-one time

with each of your children, giving each of your children personal space to discover who they are, celebrating their differences, and especially not showing any favoritism. However, more than any specific strategy, you have to feel this in your heart. You truly believe and feel in your heart that each of your children has inherent worth regardless of their capabilities or accomplishments. If you find yourself showing favoritism to one of your children, attaching their worth

to their accomplishments, and not simply loving them for being who they are, then you are possibly planting the seeds for toxic relationships amongst your own children. What is the solution to this problem? There is no short answer and no quick fixes. You probably experienced this from your own parents and this mindset is likely seared into your psyche. An experienced therapist can be a vital resource in the journey of self-exploration so that you will feel that sense of self-worth in yourself that you can then convey to your children. You can only be there for your children as long as you are alive. Once you pass away, your child’s sense of family of origin comes from his or her siblings. The power to create a healthy family structure is in your hands. The seeds that you plant can have generational ripples as your children will learn from you and raise their own families in the same way. The stakes are very high and failure is not an option. This is a service of Relief Resources. Relief is an organization that provides mental health referrals, education, and support to the frum community. Rabbi Yisrael Slansky is director of the Balti- more branch of Relief. He can be con- tacted at 410-448-8356 or at yslansky@ reliefhelp.org

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I’m worried about my 8-year-old son’s social life. While my other children receive calls for play dates and plans, he rarely does. Despite his teacher reassuring me that he’s doing fine, I can’t help but feel bad for him. What can I do to support him? Thank you, Concerned Mom Dear Concerned Mom, Thank you for reaching out. Mothers often deeply care about all aspects of their children’s lives, and friendships and social development are no different. You’ve taken a positive step by consulting his teachers, who have the opportunity to observe him during his daily interactions. They should know if there are any problems or social deficiencies. Additionally, observing his behavior at home during social gatherings can provide you with valuable insight. If you notice any social challenges, consider seeking support from social skills therapists. Remember, it’s not uncommon for children to benefit from a bit of guidance in this area. It’s not a big deal. You may even be able to give him some social pointers yourself. However, based on your question, your son doesn’t seem to have social awkwardness. Additionally, it’s good to hear that your son is happy, as affirmed by both his teachers and yourself, BH! So while it’s tough to see him not receiving as many playdate invitations, try not to dwell on this. Feeling sorry for him could inadvertently hold him back socially. The main advice I could give you is don’t feel bad for your child. When a mother feels bad for her child, she is limiting them.

Children sense what you feel, even if you don’t say anything. So a mother who is feeling bad for her child socially is limiting him socially, which is the exact opposite of what you are trying to accomplish. Your feeling bad is coming from a place of love, but it is ultimately harming your child. If your child needs social help then you should get him help, without feeling bad for him. Additionally, focus on proactive steps like initiating playdates yourself. If his friends don’t call him, you can call them! In conclusion, while concerns about our children’s social lives are natural, it’s crucial not to let these worries overshadow our efforts to support them. Seek input from teachers, observe your child’s interactions at home, and be proactive in addressing any challenges he may face. The main point is that it’s essential not to let our own worries limit our children. If necessary, initiate playdates yourself and focus on nurturing his happiness rather than dwelling on perceived shortcomings. Hatzlacha!

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We spend most of our lives in the kitchen. Buy the food, prep & cook the food, serve the food, and then clean it all up. Rinse and repeat. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if there were tools that enhanced our efficiency and got us out faster? These clever gadgets are not only super helpful but also fun to use! All of these items can be purchased on www.Amazon.com

Spaghetti and Meat Sauce in Less than 30 Minutes Meat & Potato Masher, $11

Quickly cook ground beef and turkey with this multifunctional meat chopper. With little effort, it allows meat to cook much quicker. The five-blade design also provides the function of a masher for mashed potatoes or other soft-cooked foods such as bananas, apples, yams, and squash.

SnapN’Strain Silicone Colander, $15

This colander snaps onto the side of the pot so you don’t need to use a separate piece. It takes up less room in your kitchen cabinets than a standing strainer and you can directly pour the water out into the sink while the remaining food stays warm in the pot.

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This carousel holds up to 12 different spices and rotates easily to improve access. You can measure the exact amount that you need to be dispensed with the turn of a dial, saving you from washing spoons and measuring cups.

Wind Down After Kitchen Clean Up Rub-a-Way Bar Stainless Steel Odor Absorber, $10

You’ve finally washed all the dishes and cleaned the kitchen, but now your hands still have a lingering odor of garlic, onion, or other strong smells? Simply rub this stainless steel bar onto your hands as you would with a bar of soap and it removes pungent smells. While it seems like magic, it’s really based on science where the molecules in the steel bind to the sulfur molecules on your hands, transferring the smell to the metal.

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Time to put your feet up and relax! But tonight’s wine might leave you groggy with a headache in the morning. This wine purifier filters out histamines and sulfites from your glass of red, white, or sparkling wine, also helping to reduce wine allergies and sensitivities. Other uses include purifying and aerating a glass of wine in as little as 3 minutes, and restoring an opened oxidized bottle of wine to its natural taste so no more throwing out opened wine bottles.

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Veggie Chopper, $25

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Uncrustables are no longer Kosher . Now you can send your child the same “uncrustable” sandwich with any filling of your choice. Some options besides PB&J are grilled cheese, turkey, or tuna melts. You can also use a variety of breads, which don’t need to be soft, such as whole grains and others. This sandwich cutter and sealer also come in various fun shapes such as circles, squares, or triangles.

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CAPTION THE CARTOON IT’S TIME TO VOTE! CONTEST!

We’ve selected the top 5 finalists, and now it’s your turn to choose the winner.

Scan the WhatsApp QR code to access the voting chat and cast your vote! Don’t forget to share the QR code with friends and family, so they can join in the fun too. Checkmate. - Nachman Kamornick, YAYOE 4th grade. A (hey) I see you - Gluck Family

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Please submit your caption to editor@thelajewishhome.com by February 24, 10:00 PM. The chosen finalists will appear in the February 29 issue and readers will vote for the best one. Disclamier: All internet and AI generated submissions will be disqualified.

Final Winner will appear March 7th issue

Please relax, sir. I’m Arti, official Intelligence agent for Tough Times Tzedakah Tech; my sensors tell me that you might need a hand out. - Elliot Pines

and win a $50

When AI wants to arm wrestle! - Tzvi Katz, 12 Before you lure me into mindless waisted hours, can I at least put on a proper shirt? - S. Ornstein

Final Winner will appear in the Feb. 29 issue

Gift Card at

and win a Meat Board ($100 value)

FINAL WINNERS! S. Kamornick

FIRST PLACE Although the Hamasfish can be easily lured with money, its favorite bait is the scent of blood in the water -Mr. Hill

$100 gift card at Fish Grill SECOND PLACE So look, He's trying to hook a lone shark with money on a sunny day? -Elliot Pines

$50 gift card at Fish Grill

THIRD PLACE Hah I have bigger bills to catch -Tamar Ornstein

$50 gift card at Fish Grill FEBRUARY 15, 2024 | The LA Jewish Home

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