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here was a beautiful initiative for the community to learn and finish all of Nach and Gemara together, in the merit of a yeshua in Israel, with a siyum culminating the learning this past Sunday night. While I was unable to make it to the siyum, which I heard was extremely meaningful, I did have the chance to learn toward its completion. I knew I wanted to learn nach, and randomly chose some perakim in Sefer Yeshaya. According to the Abarbanel, Yeshaya is chosen as the first sefer in the Nevi’im Achronim for a few reasons. The nevuot (prophecies) of Yeshaya came first chronologically, they had a high level of importance, and Yeshaya’s level of nevuah was above many of the other nevi’im and was much more clear. Most importantly, Yeshaya’s nevuah has the most comfort and speaks about the future geulah (redemption), prophecies for the final redemption (Moshiach), and ways for us to achieve our utmost purpose and potential. Although there were thousands of neviim, only those who had prophecies that were relevant to all future generations were recorded. Therefore, we must look at each nevuah as being relevant to us today. Many in Sefer Yeshaya speak of future geulahs and the ultimate redemption which is Moshiach. Of the perakim that I learned, Perek 11 is known as one of the most poetic prophecies, which describes the world after Moshiach arrives. “The wolf will lie down with the sheep; the leopard with the goat” and “The bear and the cow will graze together.” In Perek 12, Yeshaya praises Hashem for being angry and causing exile. “I praise you Hashem for You have been angry with (exiled) me.” Why thank Hashem for this? Because we need to thank Hashem for the good and the bad experiences, because they come from the same source. Exile and redemption are intertwined; we must go through one to get to the other. Then follows the pesukim that we sing every week at Havdalah: ‫ֽיׁשּוָֽעֽה׃‬ � �‫ֽי־ׇע �ִּ֤ז֤י ְְוִזְִמ ְָָר ֙֙ת �ָ֣יּ֣ה ְי ְֹה ֹ �ָ֔ו֔ה ַֽו� ְֽיְִהִי־ִ֖ל� ֖י ִֽל‬ ‫ִִה �ֵּ֨֨נה �ֵ֧א֧ל ְי ְׁשּוָעִָ֛ת� ֛י ֶֶאְב � ְַ֖֖טח ְוְֹ֣ל֣ א ֶֶאְפ � ְָ֑֑חד ִּֽכ� ׇ‬ “Behold the God who gives me triumph! I am confident, un-

afraid; For G-d is my strength and might and has been my deliverance.” ‫ְׁשּוָֽעֽה׃‬ � ‫ָּׂשׂׂ֑שֹון ִִמַּמ ַַּעְי ְ �ֵ֖נ֖י ַַהְי‬ ֑ ‫ּוְׁשַׁאְבְֶּתּם־ַ֖מ� ֖ ִי ִם ְּב‬ “Joyfully shall you draw water from the fountains of triumph” At the end of this week’s Parsha Veyeitzei, Yaakov finally leaves the house of Lavan, after many years of hard work and manipulation, and arrives in the land of Canaan that will one day become Eretz Yisroel. This is our patriarch arriving in Israel. This is proof, this is our land, our ancestral home. What we are living through now is definitely galus. We “knew” that for decades on a superficial level, but today we really feel it and we really know it. We see the world at large, all of society, collectively losing their moral compass (and their sanity). If we look back at our long history, if we look at Sefer Yeshaya to bring us some kind of comfort, it’s that this galus will lead to the next geulah, hopefully the final redemption of Mashiach. The story has been written. Now we wait for the next chapter. Wishing you a prayer-filled Shabbos,

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Yavneh Middle School Boys Enjoy an Epic Shabbaton in Huntington Beach!

he middle school boys of Yeshivat Yavneh had an incredible shabbaton that they won’t soon forget! Led by Rabbi Shmuel Levy and Rabbi Dovid Morris, and joined by many other Rebbeim, the boys enjoyed their first two-night shabbaton in many years, and were charged with bringing the shabbaton theme of ‘Am Yisrael Chai’, alive. Before heading to the shabbaton, the boys were divided into four teams: Achdus, Tefila, Tzedaka, and Limud. Each of the teams were captained by 8th grade leaders, and much preparation was done in school to create Divrei Torah, a team song, and a team skit, all of which were presented over Shabbos. The boys departed school for Westminster lanes, in their brand-new blue and white shabbaton kippot that marked the shabbaton theme of Am Yisrael Chai! Following bowling, the students traveled to Hebrew Academy of Huntington Beach, the site of the shabbaton, and after unpacking and davening maariv, enjoyed an incredible evening together. From a huge BBQ, to a kumzitz with Rebbeim around a bonfire, not to mention

roasted marshmallows, students stood arm in arm, singing together as one. The evening ended with a night-swimming session in the huge Hebrew Academy pool! On Friday morning, after tefilla and breakfast, the students spent the day at Knott’s Berry Farm, walking the park and riding the roller coasters together. Upon their return, they prepared for Shabbos and met in the Shul for Kabbalas Shabbos, led by Yonah Mandelbaum and many of our 8th grade mezamrim. The singing continued throughout the night, including the seudah, oneg, and fabrengen. Shabbos day was highlighted by the beautiful tefilla, and incredibly creative team songs and skits, and concluded with an achdus-filled havdalah. It was only appropriate that after the scores were tallied, and the Motzei Shabbos hockey tournament complete, that team Achdus claimed victory. The team, along with all 8th grade captains, were treated to a BBQ in school for their hard work and victory. Can’t wait until next year’s shabbaton!

YULA Students Show Up at DC’s March for Israel

ast Monday night, a delegation of 30 YULA High School seniors and faculty met at LAX to head off to DC for the March for Israel, coordinated by JFNA and other national Jewish organizations. Our momentous Tuesday in DC kicked off with a lively Shacharit and a musical Hallel graciously hosted by Chabad of George Washington University. Then, armed with banners, Israeli flags and student- designed pro-Israel t-shirts and banners, we marched with 290,000 Israel supporters at the nation’s capital. Before our 10pm flight home, we were able to squeeze in a meeting with former Congressman and former White House Chief of Staff Mark Meadows. Mr. Meadows shared with us his deep personal drive to strengthen the America-Israel relationship and talked to us about his work on moving the US Embassy to Jerusalem in 2017. As a proud Modern Orthodox & Zionist high school, it was essential that we participate in this rally. What we could not have anticipated was the profound effect the rally would have on us. As one student aptly stated “I cannot put my exact emotions into words, but I am a changed person.” The sheer number of Israel supporters, the inspiring and moving speakers, the uplifting music, camaraderie, and unity of the crowd showed us that we have much to be proud of, and yet there is still much more work to do. We all came home with a sense of purpose and a renewed passion for our brothers and sisters on the front lines in Israel.

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A Time For Dance Hosts Israel Unity Dance Party

n Motzei Shabbos, November 11, A Time for Dance students got together for an Israel Unity Dance Party! Students from all the community studio locations came together for a night of unity and solidarity for Israel. The girls created thoughtful and colorful cards for the IDF soldiers. They recited tehillim together and had a brachot party in the zchut of Eretz Yisroel. The evening commenced with an upbeat and fun dance party, led by A Time for Dance alumni. The girls had a blast coming together and connecting with each other in a positive uplifting way. In lieu of an entrance fee, students brought donations to help provide scholarships for Geulah Dance studio in Jerusalem. Geulah Dance is working to provide dance and positivity to students in Israel during this challenging time. To donate to their gofundme: https://www.gofundme.com/f/ activities-for-jerusalem-youth-in-timeof-war.

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Celebration of Talmud Milestone

ver 150 participants from Daf Yomi programs in the Los Angeles Community gathered together at Congregation Kehillas Yaakov to celebrate the Siyum, or completion of Talmud Tractate Kiddushin, marking the completion of collection of tractates known as Seder Nashim, and the halfway point of the entire Babylonian Talmud. Daf Yomi is the practice of studying one double-sided page of the Talmud every day, started by Rabbi Meir Shapiro in 1923. It is currently in its 14th cycle, and several hundred thousand worldwide participants study the same page of the Talmud, taking about 7 1/2 years to complete all 63 tractates and 2,711 double-sided pages. The celebration began with the recitation of Tehillim, praying for the injured, the release of the hostages and the safety and security of Jews in Israel and worldwide, followed by a prayer for the success of the IDF and a memorial prayer for those murdered in Israel on Simchas Torah. Rabbi Nechemia Langer, Rabbi of Congregation Shaarei Torah, expressed words of blessing to the participants and described the merits of daily Torah study, and how the lessons of the Talmud are not just theoretical, but should guide us in our daily lives and make us into better people. All of the participants learned together the last few lines of the tractate, followed by a hearty Mazel Tov to all, with spontaneous singing, dancing and a festive meal.

L to R: Rabbi Moshe Meir Weiss, Rabbi Elan Segelman, Rabbi Nechamai Langer, Barry Kohn (standing)

The highlight of the evening was the keynote speech by Rabbi Moshe Meir Weiss, Rabbi of congregation Agudath Yisroel in Lakewood, NJ. Rabbi Weiss spoke of the devotion of those who commit to teaching and studying daf yomi, arranging their schedules day in and day out to accommodate learning the daily daf, despite many other activities and events competing for their time. Rabbi Weiss further complemented the dedication of their wives and families, who are full partners in successful daily Torah study. He captivated those present with anecdotes of teaching Daf Yomi for 7 cycles (50 years), and described how studying the give and take of the various discussions in the Talmud can train you to think in a straight and logical manner, and impact our lives. Rabbi Weiss recommended saying the words of the talmud rather than just reading them and spoke about how learning Torah and

honoring Torah can protect us. The celebrants included over 150 participants from Daf Yomi programs in Los Angeles, and was organized by Barry Kohn.

Shalhevet Stands with Israel

his past Tuesday, Shalhevet took 18 high school students to the March for Israel in Washington DC. We joined together with other students and parents who made the trip as well as alumni. Below are some reflections from their unforgettable experience. “I figured it would feel historical, but the sheer number of people was mind-boggling. The feeling of unity between Jews of all stripes was palpable, and the performers tied it all together beautifully. It was an experience I’ll remember forever.” - Max Messinger ‘24 “Flying across the country for 14 hours seemed crazy but looking back, having a front row seat to a historical event was indescribable. My favorite moment was when Ishay Ribo, Omer Adam and the ZAKA search and rescue volunteers came together to sing “‫”והיא שעמדה‬. This song honored the groups that came to help when it was most needed. I am grateful to have gone on this trip because I got to unite with fellow Americans and Zionists in a peaceful and powerful way which I will never forget.” - Eliana Wainberg ‘24 “In a time where it feels like we can’t do anything, this [trip] provided me

with a sense of purpose and agency. This experience strengthened my connection to Israel, and I can’t wait for December when I’ll be flying there to volunteer to help our country recover from the atrocities.” - Ezra Helfand ‘24 “Every second of this experience was cherished. Being enveloped by the collective spirit and hearing our allies express their compassion and dedication to Israel created a profound sense of unity. Our strength of solidarity is a force capable of shaping our community and the world at large, and I was more than pleased to be a part of it.” - Naomi Rose ‘22 NOVEMBER 23, 2023 | The LA Jewish Home ●

Bingo and Burgers with the Boys – Emek’s Mother/Son Event

ast week, the Emek PTA put together a fun and interactive event for our mothers and sons. This inaugural occasion featured our very own Mrs. Seema Gersten, renowned as both a charismatic Bingo Caller and an engaging Master of Ceremonies. Anticipation for this gathering ran so high that a waitlist quickly formed, totaling over 340 eager participants. The event not only featured mouthwatering cuisine from Made by Tomer Events, but also highlighted the special

bond between mothers and sons. Attendees were treated to a delectable dinner, delicious desserts, and the chance to win exciting prizes through rounds of thrilling bingo. The night became a testament to the power of family connections and the joy that can be found in shared experiences. We want to thank Mrs. Dorit Warner, PTA President, for spearheading this event, and our parent volunteers for stepping up to make the evening a huge success.

The Orthodox Union and Partners Host Unprecedented City Eruv Conference for Industry Professionals

arrying objects and pushing a stroller or wheelchair on Shabbos are abilities many frum Jews take for granted. While the community values the conveniences afforded by eruvin, the complex halachos and physical work involved in erecting and maintaining them are rarely considered. “There’s a common misconception that eruvin are easy to construct, and that they’re good for 25 years,” says OU Director of Halacha Initiatives Rabbi Ezra Sarna. “People don’t appreciate how hard it is to build an eruv properly and the effort needed to maintain it from week to week.

The conference created awareness of the scope involved in city eruvin and the special people that take care of them.” The two-day event, organized by Rabbi Sarna and the National Eruv Initiative’s Rabbi Baruch Gore, drew over 60 eruv professionals across the religious spectrum from 35 cities in 10 states including California, Oregon, Illinois, Ohio, and Michigan, as well as Canada. Participants heard from leading poskim, learned about new technological advancements in the field, and gained insights from others on how to approach the difficult tasks that are involved with

OU Director of Halacha Initiatives Rabbi Ezra Sarna showcases the new eruv software developed by the OU

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maintaining a city eruv in modern times. The conference also marked the unveiling of the OU’s new, free software developed for eruv administrators. The software takes thorough inventory of all of the components and details of a community eruv, and tracks issues and repairs in real time, enabling the entire eruv maintenance team to communicate quickly and effectively. Eruv poskim are experts in Hilchos Eruvin who assess the feasibility of building community eruvin. They work with eruv builders and supervisors who construct, oversee, and maintain an eruv’s myriad points and installations.

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Yachad LA & Harkham Hillel Kumzitz and Bonfire

achad Los Angeles, a division of the Orthodox Union that provides social and recreational programming for adults with disabilities, teamed up with Harkham Hillel Middle School students for a beautiful and moving Kumzitz. Led by Rabbi JJ of Hillel, we began with Havdala, heard words of inspiration, and sang our hearts out in the merit of Israel’s safety! It was such a beautiful sight seeing everyone arm in arm. We hope that our joy sticks with us through this war. Looking forward to our next event! If you’d like to get involved with Yachad, please visit www.yachad. org/losangeles.

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Hallel in Unity: A Harmony of Voices and Community Spirit

he enchanting sounds of Hallel reverberated through the halls of Nessah Synagogue on Rosh Chodesh Kislev during the recent community event, aptly named “Hallel in Unity.” Approximately 250 women, hailing from Tarzana, Brentwood, Westwood, Pico, and La Brea, representing diverse religious affiliations, joined in the celebration of unity and Rosh Chodesh. Mrs. Rachel Rose, led the Hallel, Rabanit Netaneli led Tehillim, Rebetzin Batyah Brander & Rebetzin Devorah Leah Wagshul, the event’s emcees, eloquently spoke on the importance of Jewish unity and embracing Ahavat Yisrael before prayer. A standout part was Mrs. Bella Gottesman’s keynote address, passionately highlighting the power of the Jewish Soul. Following the collective recitation of Hallel, the atmosphere transformed into one of jubilant celebration. Mrs. Rose, accompanied by the rhythmic beats of drumming and flute, led the attendees in song and impromptu breakout dance. Participants reveled in the special opportunity to connect with Jewish ladies from varied religious backgrounds. In a heartwarming display of communal support, all proceeds from the event, totaling $2,000, were dedicated to aiding terror victims. Organizers found out just before the event that Rabbi Abraham of Mogen David happened to be on an Israel Solidarity mission. It was arranged that he distribute the funds, as the event was transpiring in real-time, to families in need during his Israel mis-

sion, emphasizing the immediate impact of the gathering. This remarkable event was solely organized by volunteers, with no specific organization taking credit. The venue was graciously provided by Nessah Synagogue and funding for other expenses was provided by an anonymous donor. In retrospect, “Hallel in Unity” not only encapsulated the power of collective prayer but also exemplified the strength found in diversity within the Jewish community. As the echoes of Hallel lingered, the promise of future gatherings and continued unity painted a hopeful picture for the community.

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Mrs. Rachel Rose leads the singing

Rz’ Batyah Brander and Rz’ Shira Rowshanshad welcoming Rabbanit Netaneli to the event.

Impromptu Dancing to “Thank You Hashem” Sung by Mrs Rachel Rose accompanied by Flue and Drums in background.

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Through the Parsha

Psychosocial Insights Vision and Purpose

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I Have A Headache Elan Javanfard

arshat Vayeitzei we embark on the profound journey of Yaakov Avinu, a path that not only traverses physical landscapes but provides depth into the human psyche. At the heart of the Parsha lies the theme of vision and purpose, two psychological concepts that guide Yaakov’s path and offer timeless lessons for ours. Helen Keller once wrote, “The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.” Everyone needs a vision. We all need a purpose to give us direction and inspiration in life. Life can’t just be about surviving. It has to be about the goals and the aspirations and the big picture that we are striving for. There are too many challenges and opportunities in the path of life not to have clarity of vision. As Yaakov Avinu flees his brother on his journey to Haran, he is given a gift from Hashem that sustained him throughout his life – the gift of purpose. Yaakov Avinu lays down to rest and has the prophetic vision of a ladder (‘Jacob’s Ladder’) reaching into the heavens with angels ascending and descending. Hashem appears to him and promises to look over him on his journey ahead and return him back to Israel, back to his heritage. Rashi describes that the key message for Yaakov was that we don’t venture out into the world alone. Angels accompany us and Hashem is looking after us each step of the way. In the realm of psychology, having a vision serves as a compass for our actions and decisions. It provides a roadmap, guiding us through the uncertainties of

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life. However, vision alone is not enough; purpose must accompany it. In the field of positive psychology, purpose is considered a fundamental component of human flourishing. Having a sense of purpose gives our lives meaning and direction, contributing to overall well-being. Friedrich Nietzsche wrote, “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” Yaakov Avinu experienced tremendous pain and hardship through the course of his life, and yet through this vision and purpose provided by Hashem, sustained him and gave him the strength to withstand all the difficulties and challenges that lay ahead. As we all continue to grapple with life after the brutality of October 7th in Israel, this is one of the great miracles of human history. No other nation in history has endured as much hardship through exile, dispersion and persecution as the Jewish people. Yet, what has sustained us throughout is this vision of ‘Jacob’s Ladder’ – Hashem’s pledge that He would be with us, always. As we reflect on Parshat Vayeitzei, let us consider the vision and purpose that propel us forward in our daily endeavors. May we ascend the ladder of our aspirations, anchored by a strong sense of purpose, and find fulfillment in walking our path guided by Hashem. __________________________________

Elan Javanfard, M.A., L.M.F.T. is a Consulting Psychotherapist focused on behavioral health redesign, a Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University, & a lecturer related to Mindfulness, Evidence Based Practices, and Suicide Prevention. Elan is the author of Psycho-Spiritual Insights: Exploring Parasha & Psychology, a weekly blog. He lives in the Los Angeles Pico Robertson community with his wife and two children and can be reached at Elan.Javanfard@gmail.com.

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Rabbi Chama’s Great Surprise

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Rabbi Mordechai Dubin Rabbi Chama was a farmer. He plowed the field, he planted, and picked the crops. He milked the cows, as well as taking care of the sheep, goats and horses. Rabbi Chama would wake up early every morning to learn Torah and to Daven before he would start his work day. He loved learning Torah. Whenever he could find a free moment he would grab a Sefer and learn. He often daydreamed about the time when he would be able to sit undisturbed for hours and learn Torah the way he did in his younger years. But of course this was not possible. He had a family to support and the farm required his attention. Rabbi Chama’s son, Oshiya, was a very good helper. Although he was just a boy, he was a very hard worker and extremely helpful to his father. But soon Oshiya would be leaving for Yeshiva and Rabbi Chama would be doing the work on his own. The day arrived for Oshiya to leave for Yeshiva. His family said goodbye amongst tears and hugs, and wished him success in his learning. He would be away for more than a year. Although Oshiya was a very good boy with exceptional Middos, he was never a successful student. His parents prayed that this time would be different. When Oshiya returned from Yeshiva one year later, it was clear to his parents that he did not accomplish as much as they had hoped. Rabbi Chama and his wife decided that it would be best for Oshiya to remain home and work on the farm. Every day after a long day of work in the field, Oshiya went directly to the Bet Medrash to daven and to learn a little before returning home for supper. Oshiya was a very good worker and was able to manage the daily farm work on his own. Rabbi Chama and his wife decided that now would be a good time for Rabbi Chama to go away to Yeshiva and learn since Oshiya could handle the farm work on his own. Rabbi Chama said goodbye to his family and was away for 12 years. Twelve years later when he returned from the yeshiva, he stopped in the Bet Medrash of his town and asked someone to please go to his house to inform his family that he was back in town and would be returning home soon. A short time later a young man with a beard entered the Bet Medrash and approached Rabbi Chama and began to discuss Torah with him. Rabbi Chama was extremely impressed with the tremendous knowledge that this young man exhibited. As they were speaking a feeling

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of sadness overcame Rabbi Chama. His own son Oshiya would be about the same age as this young man but would never be a Talmid Chacham like this young man. Of course he loved Oshiya and respected him for his kindness and his good middos, but he felt sad that Oshiya would never have the ability to enjoy the true pleasure that comes from learning Torah in depth. Rabbi Chama finished his discussion with the young Talmid Chacham and then went home. It was a wonderful reunion for the family. While the family was sitting and chatting, the young Talmid Chacham from the Bet Medrash entered the house and approached Rabbi Chama. Rabbi Chama stood up in honor of the young Talmid Chacham thinking that he had come to discuss another issue of halacha. Rabbi Chama’s wife looked surprisingly at her husband and said, “Since when does a father need to stand up for his own son?” Rabbi Chama could not believe that the young Talmid Chacham was his own son Oshiya! This story is found in Kesubos 62B

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Why did Rabbi Chama send someone to his house to let them know he would be home soon? Why do you think that Rabbi Chama stood up for the young Talmid Chacham? Why did Rabbi Chama not recognize his own son? Why was Rabbi Chama so amazed that Oshiya became such a great Talmid Chacham? How do you think that Oshiya became such a great Talmid Chacham?

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Rabbi Mordechai Dubin is a Rebbe at Gindi Maimonides Academy. He is the author of three illustrated children’s books, I’ll Never Forget Yerushalayim, I Believe, and I Know 6; and has produced four Musical CD’s for children, I Made This World For you, Let My People Go, Al Shelosha Devarim, and Hashem is Always With Me.

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In this week’s Parsha, Yaakov goes to the house of Lavan, and eventually finds not one wife, but two!

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The Greater Achievements of the March For Israel Rally in D.C.

n November 14, 2023, over 290,000 people attended a pro-Israel rally in Washington D.C. which made it the largest pro-Israel gathering in United States history. The fact that the producers, the Jewish Federation of North America and the Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations were able to organize such a large-scale event in just a few days was nothing short of remarkable. It is currently on YouTube in case you didn’t get a chance to see it. The media gave it appropriate coverage and highlighted the number of people that were in attendance along with the speakers that reinforced the demand for the return of the hostages and to put a stop to anti-Semitism. But there were deeper and more meaningful takeaways from the rally that warrant recognition. The manner in which the attendees conducted themselves was exemplary. They were standing arm to arm waving United States of America flags and Israel flags, seeing songs of peace, hope, and unity with Omer Adam, Ishai Ribo and the Maccabeats. There was no chanting of death or violence. The camaraderie and demonstration of the long-lasting partnership that Israel and the United States have served as a strong reminder to the viewers that Israel represents the good, and Hamas represents the evil. The Bipartisan representation of government leaders that spoke in support of Israel was very impactful because these days it is rare to find both sides agreeing on anything. They included Senate Majority Leader Chuck Schumer, a Democrat, House Speaker Mike Johnson, a Louisiana Republican, House Democratic Leader Hakeem Jeffries of New York and Senator Joni Ernst, an Iowa Republican who is the fourth-highest ranking member of her caucus. Their clear and convincing unified support for Israel sent the message that there is no question who to stand with in the Israel-Hamas War. One of the final and most articulate speakers was Anila Ali, a Paki-

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stani-American Muslim and women’s rights activist. She said that she was affirming to her Abrahamic brothers and sisters that they are not alone and stated that Islam prohibits all the horrific acts Hamas committed on October 7. She concluded with “Am Yisrael Chai.” It’s one thing for the world to see a Jew in religious garb publicly support Israel, but to see a Muslim woman wearing a headscarf do so with such confidence and conviction is another. Lastly, and perhaps most importantly was the visible message of support that it sent to Israel - its government, the residents living in the constant fear of attack, and the IDF who are on the front lines risking their lives while venturing into 300 miles of tunnels to try and save the hostages and prevent this type of massacre from ever repeating. The overwhelming financial support that has been pouring into Israel from all its supporters is something to marvel at. The Jewish Federations of North America raised $638 million among its network of local Jewish community chests. The UJA-Federation allocated more than $38 million for work on the ground in Israel. Israel Bonds said it sold more than $200 million worth of bonds in the week following the Hamas attacks. But over the past month, the people of Israel unfortunately witnessed several rallies in support of Hamas and heard offensive and hurtful chants about Israel. It was time for them to see the overwhelming worldwide support that is behind them. Seeing is believing and it could not have come at a better time. The challenge now before us is to figure out creative ways to maintain the messages, momentum, and moral clarity of this rally. That is the best thing we can do abroad, for our brothers and sisters in Israel who are currently at war. ___________________________________ Lou Shapiro is a criminal defense attorney-certified specialist and legal analyst, but most importantly, makes the end-of-shul announcements at Adas Torah. He can be reached at LouisJShapiro@gmail.com.

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Yesterday's the past, tomorrow's the future, but today is a gift. That's why it's called the present. Bil Keane

You don't choose your family. They are God's gift to you, as you are to them. Desmond Tutu The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away. Pablo Picasso

Your talent is God's gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God. Leo Buscaglia

The best of all gifts: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other. Bill Vaughan

I think, at a child's birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift should be curiosity. Eleanor Roosevelt

Mankind must remember that peace is not God's gift to his creatures; peace is our gift to each other. Elie Wiesel

If I were given the opportunity to present a gift to the next generation, it would be the ability for each individual to learn to laugh at himself. Charles M. Schulz

The gift of fantasy has meant more to me than my talent for absorbing positive knowledge. Albert Einstein

We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give Winston Churchill

My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.

Always give without remembering and always receive without forgetting. Brian Tracy

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A book is a gift you can open again and again. Garrison Keillor

The greatest gift of life is friendship, and I have received it. Hubert H. Humphrey

THIS CHANUKAH

RABBI YEHOSHUA DOVID PORTOWICZ Unlock the profound insights of Targum Onkelos with this illuminating guide to the nuances and depth found in every parashah.

COMING SOON

RABBI ZEV SCHOSTAK “A comprehensive … encyclopedic sourcebook for all who wish to expand their understanding [and] enhance and intensify [their] emotional connection to the prayer experience.” — Rabbi Tzvi Hersh Weinreb

RABBI YONASON GOLDSON Rediscover Jewish holidays and learn how to approach them with fresh perspectives and renewed enthusiasm.

RABBI IMMANUEL BERNSTEIN A deep and profound understanding of Chanukah that uncovers its core messages of national identity and destiny, illuminating the festival itself — and the entire year.

REBBETZIN FEIGE TWERSKI Rich with heartwarming reflections and anecdotes, readers will draw lasting lessons from the Rebbetzin’s wise and poignant insights into every stage of life.

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The Missing Piece Yeshiva Ketana of Los Angeles

ince opening its doors in 2012, Yeshiva Ketana of Los Angeles has grown from 20 students in Preschool to over 315 students in 22 classes, grades Nursery through 8th. During this time, the Yeshiva has successfully purchased three properties, a strategic plan that ensures the long term stability and security of the school. For the last two years, the Yeshiva’s administration has been working on purchasing the property adjacent to the Yeshiva, located on the prime corner of Burbank Boulevard and Laurel Canyon Avenue. This property, currently a one-story strip mall, is directly south of the Yeshiva’s current girls’ building and west of the boys’ building. This valuable real estate would square off the Yeshiva’s entire campus, and would give the Yeshiva over an acre of contiguous space. This acquisition is literally The Missing Piece that would complete the school’s entire campus.

When asked why this purchase is so important for the Yeshiva, Rabbi Rubenstein explained: “This property is much more than just a real estate acquisition. This is a vital component of the Yeshiva’s long-term growth, allowing us to fully develop the campus in the future.” Even more importantly, acquiring this property protects the Yeshiva from having a developer purchase the property and build a multi-story building overlooking our campus. Rabbi Rubenstein added, “A multi-story building of this nature, many of which are currently in the works throughout the Los Angeles community, would be tremendously concerning to the Yeshiva from a security standpoint.” “Given the current political climate and rise in antisemitism, it is more important than ever that all Jewish institutions, especially schools and shuls, take long-term measures to ensure their viability and physical security,” added Tamarah Yuz, the Yeshiva’s Executive Administrator.

In a powerful letter to the parent body announcing that the Yeshiva will be embarking on this exciting acquisition, Rabbi Rubenstein and Rabbi Aryeh Davidowitz, the Yeshiva’s co-Menahel, poignantly wrote, “Klal Yisroel is going through a challenging time, as we all know, especially with the matzav in Eretz Yisroel. We must follow the example of the Ponevezher Rav ztz”l, who planted the seeds of Torah in Bnei Brak at the height of World War II. Our answer to those who try to stop us, is by building and spreading the Ohr HaTorah.” The Yeshiva’s educational philosophy is built on learning Torah, loving Torah, and living Torah in an environment that is consistent with those ideals. Rabbi Davidowitz expressed: “The only way for the Yeshiva to live up to those ideals is by continuing to build Torah. Now more than ever, we must fight darkness with light. This is an opportunity to spread the Ohr HaTorah during a dark time in our nation’s history.” Rabbi Davidowitz continued, “During the time of Chanukah, the Chashmonaim succeeded against the Yevanim by recommitting to their ideals. It is now our time to further strengthen our commitment to Harbatzas HaTorah.” The Yeshiva is very excited about its long term plans for this project. While the details are still not public, the hope is that the property will ultimately be built out in a way that would tremendously benefit both the Yeshiva and the larger Los Angeles community. “It is with tremendous Siyada D’shmaya that we have been given this opportunity. Securing this investment would give us endless opportunities to utilize the space both for our needs and the needs of the community,” said Rabbi Rubenstein. The Yeshiva would like to thank the Valley Village community for entrusting them with the chinuch of their children. Furthermore, they thank the entire Los Angeles community for being so tremendously supportive of the institution and helping to enable its unprecedented growth. As they embark on a $1 Million Charidy Campaign at the end of the month, they once again look forward to reaching that goal with the communities continued and unwavering support. For more information about the Yeshiva or The Missing Piece campaign, please contact Tamarah Yuz at tyuz@ykla.org or 818-766-7610 X6 or Rabbi Rubenstein at RR@ykla.org.

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What's The New Norm? TR

Tikva Braum and Rena Kohengadol editor@thelajewishhome.com

The Jewish Community of Los Angeles Hello LA, Do you remember us? We used to contribute a hack column in this newspaper. But we’ve been absent lately.. Emotionally absent. Mentally absent. Psychologically absent. How can we continue to create mundane content, both digitally on our Instagram and in print here, when we are all waiting with bated breath for the soldiers to return safely with all the innocent hostages? We can’t. So we didn’t. While the world was posting content on their social media platforms showcasing victorious soldiers, political debates, invites to local rallies, and lots of inspiration, we took the time to feel the feelings. We needed a moment to digest all of it. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Once we found our balance, we posted a “stand for Israel” video suggesting to our digital followers to take a break from watching and sharing content and utilizing this time for prayer instead. But that wasn’t enough. We were still very lost and heavy in thoughts all day long. That’s when we decided to be the voice of many moms here in LA by creating a sketch that will surely resonate. Here, we set the scene: It’s Monday morning. You get your kids off and ready for school. You pack their lunches, hurry them into the car, kiss and hug them goodbye. A little harder. A little longer. Your thoughts are on the seven year old boy who was forced to brutally watch Hamas murder his parents before his own eyes and then get taken hostage. Alone. On your drive to school you pass by the large kidnap posters. Your kids ask from the back seat if any of these people that have become familiar faces have been found. You weakly answer “I hope so, but keep davening” your car turns silent for the rest of the drive. You come home, change your baby’s diaper, make a bottle, your mind begins to roam to the babies that are being held hostage. Who is taking care of their basic needs? What have they been eating? Do they have normal cribs to sleep in? blankets? Are they cold? Confused? The trauma. Unbearable. We begin our day. But first, Tefillah, so you pull out your siddur. Your phone pings. You glance at it, tempted to check the latest news. Your siddur is starting back at you. You wonder why you started to form this intense love/hate relationship with your phone. Why is it so hard to disconnect? And why are we so easily distracted? Maybe it’s because we’ve already seen too much. We know too much. So we take a moment to stop and reframe. We have all seen personal pleas from soldiers on the front line begging for us to make Tehillim our weapon for their protection and safety. We reach for the Siddur. We daven harder, with more feeling and more purpose, visualizing the safe return of our

dear brothers and sisters. We shed some tears. The day starts. For each of us that looks different. For some of us it’s going to work. For others taking a toddler on an errand. We make some calls. Talk about more of the latest updates. Squeeze in some Tehillim, prepare dinner. Rinse, wash and repeat, day after day until we feel the intensity slightly less than the day before. Life carries on. Carpools, dinners, bath time, simchas… We smile, we give, and we move on because of the reality of life. So we wonder. Will it ever be the same? The voices in our heads are so conflicting and so loud. Does my little prayer even make a difference? What about the portion of Tehillim I have been saying daily? Who cares if I skip it today? I didn’t have time, life is so hectic. Stockings are uncomfortable and hard to wear. What’s the purpose? Why did I bother taking that on?? Nobody even notices. Loshon Hora is justified; there are bigger issues in the world right now. And the list goes on… Does this resonate with any of you? That’s what we have been deeply feeling until yesterday. Today we heard the amazing Bella Gottesman talk about this inner conflict. Our Physical actions are certainly tangible. We can see direct results. But what about our spiritual actions? Nope. We don’t see it and unfortunately many times we don’t even feel it. But we all know that every spiritual moment we have down here sends direct real results to the safety there in Gaza. Sounds fluffly, right? But it’s not. It’s real. We just need to tap into it. Mrs. Gottesman taught us to visualize a spiritual act we engage in (ie; upgrading our mode of dress to be more tznius) and how to directly visualize this mitzvah being sent as “spiritual data” up to Hashem. Ultimately, when we do the will of Hashem, we add power to Hashem’s control of the world and the outcome to the soldiers in Gaza. And if G-d forbid we slip and fall spiritually, we are directly weakening Hashem’s control. Wow. Deep. The weight of the responsibility is lying on our soldiers. Definitely not easy. This morning as I was schmoozing with my friend I was about to cross boundaries and share some info that would have been Loshon Horah. Suddenly I hear myself telling her: “Listen, I would tell you but I’m literally seeing a soldier staring back at me. His success depends on me. It may still sound “fluffy”, but I know if I am risking this “fluffy” attitude for the possibility of DIRECTLY protecting a soldier, I’m totally willing to do that.” So I continue to act “fluffy” as much as possible throughout the day while visualizing all those soldiers who are silently thanking me and I suddenly feel a deep sense of pride. Pride to be a Jew, pride at my self- sacrifice, and pride for the new “fluffy” me.

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is so relevant and yet complex at the same time. We are living in a digital age, and while we know that allows for many conveniences, it challenges our youth on a whole new level. I believe it’s a separate question from how to have your children develop a love for reading and learning, and this is why I feel the question you pose is complex. You did not divulge the ages of your children, so I am going to write about a couple of different ages. This will cover any possibilities and it may help others who are reading this response. A love for reading comes from being read to from an early age. Of my three grandchildren, one being a newborn, I see how much they soak up reading, because they are constantly being read to. My two-year-old grandson is constantly bringing his mother books to read. It is something he not only enjoys but asks about on his own. They even pack books to take with them to come visit me. That same grandson loves nothing more than to have his parent’s phone if given the chance. I went to grandparent’s day in his school and when I took my phone out to take a picture, the first thing he asked for was to watch Coco Melon on my phone. So yes, the two-year-old is smack in the digital age and asking for it, but the answer most of the time, is a resounding no! It’s saved for extreme times such as on a plane or a very long car ride, and even then, music is played rather than the iPad, iPhone etc. If a parent puts the emphasis on reading, a love for reading develops. It has to start at a young age. My five-year-old grandson is no different, and again I can see the trajectory of how reading is important in his life. It’s always a struggle. I would be misleading if I told you otherwise, but raising children in

children more than others, some generations more than others. I give you my grandchildren first as an example because my own children, the youngest being twenty-one, lived in a different time, and yet we had challenges as well. A love for learning also requires a parent to show their child the excitement of learning. Do you take your children to a science museum? Do you take them to a farm to see how animals live and thrive? These trips, which I know many parents would rather not go to, are teaching moments with your children. Doing chesed, dropping off food for Bikur Cholim, and baking a cake for a new mother or Shalom Zachor can also be teaching moments, if you teach your children while you’re doing it. I emphasize this because children are always learning! The question is who is teaching them and what are they learning? If they see you on your digital gadgets, they are learning how that is the norm. But if you’re calling all your children to the kitchen and saying today this is what we are doing, or for the next hour we are doing this because of that, then you are the teacher and you are teaching the right things. The word “develops” insinuates over time, meaning it doesn’t happen in a day. I am not sure a library is a thing anymore, these days here in Los Angeles, it isn’t looking that safe to go to a library. But there are bookstores, and I know it costs money you may not want to spend, a good bookstore is sometimes the ticket to getting your children to read and learn. Besides the fact that it’s a good trip to go on, walk through the bookstore and see what peaks their interests. My children are very artistic, one more than the others. At age ten, she picked out a book about face painting, or she loved cooking (still

does) and the next thing I knew she was reading cookbooks, and learning how to make baby shoes out of fondant. Then somehow, we were off to the cake decorating store to buy the materials, but it gave her hours of developing her skills and nowhere near a video or TV (or maybe iPad at the time, I can’t remember). Reading can lead to so many good things, even if it’s not a traditional book. You may want to offer your children the opportunity to get a book about something they are passionate about. I don’t have boys, but my nephews could tell you all the stats on any sports team, because that’s what they loved to read. From teenagers, (in my opinion that is age ten to eighteen these days) you will encounter the argument that they can see or watch it just the same, and that’s where the real work of your strength needs to shine.

You are in charge; you are the parent. If I asked you to cut off your right thumb, would you give it to me? No, you would not, so don’t give away your power as the person who is in charge of raising these children. They don’t need that from you. They need a mother or father who can help them develop the right way with the right tools, stay strong, and teach them there is a whole world out there to explore outside of a screen.

__________________________________ Adina (Dini) Gres is a wife, mother of 4 adult daughters, business owner, writer, speaker, and certified life coach. Through her role as owner of Financial Concierge LLC and coach for personal and financial clients, Adina recognizes that trying to get ahead without managing a healthy mentality is the primary reason blocking individuals from success. When working with her clients, Dini helps them understand how they themselves can change the narrative of their lives. You can hear more from Adina by listening to her podcast titled “Things I think you should know.” Adina also shares on her Instagram page @financialconcierge. For submissions to the “Dear Dini” column, please send your questions to editor@thelajewishhome.com

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I like the longer nights indoors. I have always been a homebody, which I find to be a funny term because it means your body is at home, and you never hear about anyone who likes to go out being referred to as an "away body." "He's a real awaybody! Always going away with that body!" I find the most fun can be had for less money and more comfort. Add in the fact that if you're blessed enough to have a spouse and kids, and they are at home as well, then you're

surrounded by your favorite people in your favorite environment that you customized and tailor-made for you. What could be better than that? I like to read graphic novels at home, cook, listen to podcasts, watch YouTube videos, and make small home improvements. The only thing that doesn't make me a complete homebody is that I haven't started baking my own bread, but that could still happen. Stay tuned.

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When daylight savings ends, and it gets dark early, our evenings are mostly the same. But when it comes to Shabbos, our routine takes a twist. First, we can enjoy the early Shabbos seuda and not have to pause the meal to put little ones to sleep - they get to stay up till dessert! The extra time after our meal allows time for reading or chazara, and

for a great family game such as Ticket to Ride, Azul, Code Names, and more. We also like to work on puzzles that can take a few weeks to complete (pro-tip: we hide it under the tablecloth on the dining room table so it can stay safe between puzzle sessions!). And needless to say, we also love catching up on z’s with an extra long shluff Friday evenings!

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Noun: A Danish Concept that embodies a feeling of coziness, contentment, and wellbeing through simple pleasures and sense of togetherness. The word derives from an old Norwegian term “hugga” which means “to comfort” and sounds a lot like “hug”. It is a mindset that has helped sustain the people of Denmark through long chilly winters.

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Directions

• 8 oz unsalted margarine cut into 1/2 inch pieces • 2 cups of coarsely chopped chocolate • 4 eggs • 2 1/4 cups of sugar • 1 tbsp of pure vanilla extract • 1 tsp salt • 1 1/2 cups of flour • 1 cup of cocoa powder • 1 1/2 cup of coarsely chopped pecans • 1 bag of mini marshmallows • 10 graham cracker squares

• Set the oven to 350 fahrenheit and grease a 9x13 pan. • Melt margarine and chopped chocolate together then set aside. • Whip the eggs and sugar until they are white and fluffy and ribbon like. • Combine the melted chocolate, egg mixture, and vanilla together. • In a separate bowl, combine all dry ingredients (flour, salt, and sifted cocoa powder). • Combine the dry and wet ingredients. • Add pecans. • Put brownies into the oven for about 25-28 minutes. For the last 3 minutes of baking, turn on the broiler and add mini marshmallows and little pieces of graham crackers on top of brownies

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Personal Perspectives Impressions from a Rally-Goer

astily planned out of painful ne-cessity, the March for Israel, was, simply put, amazing. The logistics were daunting: Planning was fast and furious, rumors swirling, updates forwarded across WhatsApp groups, angst bubbling about wristbands, and the list goes on. And yet. Nearly 300,000 Jews from across the religious and political spectrum converged on Washington, DC’s National Mall this past Tuesday to proclaim our most basic and primal cry as a nation: Am Yisrael Chai. We arrived as a group with one purpose: to raise our voices and show up for our people. We made our way to the gates (with the wristbands—don’t worry!) and then to the stage. We wore our “Shalhevet Stands with Israel” sweatshirts with pride, representing our families, friends and colleagues in LA as we blended into the beautiful blue and white sea of schools, shuls and communities from across the country. And for the next 6 hours we listened together, prayed together, cried together, and danced and sang together. The speeches were long and many, and the schedule ran late—but the electricity of the crowd was so palpable, the occasion so moving, that we forgot about our tired feet and let ourselves feel the moment, so in tune with Klal Yisrael

and all its diverse members. We chanted endlessly—“Never Again,” “No Ceasefire,” “Bring them Home Now,” “We Support Israel.” We stood shoulder to shoulder with Jews of all ages from across this great land to speak up and show up to support Israel, to bring the hostages home and to fight against vitriolic anti-semitism rising around the world and in our own backyards. As we heard from our political leaders, we felt the support of, and pride in, our nation. Wrapped in an Israeli flag to lead us in Hatikvah, Omer Adam gave us heavy emotion and connection to our homeland. Hollywood actors bearing the mantle defending the Jewish people gave us encouragement to continue in our holy work of fighting anti-semitism and advocating for Israel in person and online. Matisyahu led the crowd in his anthem of hope that we will one day live without war and bloodshed, and he gave us a future to believe in. Families of hostages shared heart-wrenching stories and made us feel the collective anger and fury that the world has ignored our brothers and sisters in captivity, alongside a tremendous love for our larger Jewish family as we all prayed as one for their safe return. It is hard to pinpoint one piece of the March as the most moving or im-

pactful, but it just may have been when Ishay Ribo and Omer Adam sang ‫והיא‬ ‫ שעמדה‬with three holy members of Zaka—the volunteer organization tasked with finding human remains to assure that Jewish victims of terror receive proper and respectful Jewish burials. This song, from the Pesach Haggadah, recounts the story of the Jewish people, our survival despite the enemies that try to destroy us in every generation. And in every generation and with every enemy, G-d saves us and keeps us alive as a nation. We are resilient, we are survivors of so much in our past, and we are here—showing up and speaking out together with hundreds of thousands of our brothers and sisters. We brought 18 high school seniors with us—in the midst of their college application season, trying to wrap their heads around the new world order that seems to have descended upon us since the horrific October 7. These teens, whom we have raised and educated to believe that they can—and should—do anything, and that they can—and will— accomplish everything, now must reckon with a new reality where it feels the world of college campuses is against them. And oh, did they show up on Tuesday. Fiercely and passionately, listening and praying, screaming and

chanting, singing and dancing—they took their place as the next generation of strong and proud Jews standing up for our people in Israel and the diaspora. I was proud to be there and privileged to be there with them. It’s been a very long 42 days. As a people, across the world, we have raised extraordinary amounts of money, launched countless chesed initiatives, brought the plight of fellow Jews into our daily lives, prayed for peace and taken on many mitzvot in the merit of those we have lost hy”d and those whom we are missing. May we continue to feel an absolute connection with all our fellow Jews, with no hesitation or concern for differing opinions or practices. May we continue to pray together as one, to bring joy to God that His children are united. May we find the light in this month of Kislev and may we see the safe return of our soldiers doing their holy work in Gaza and the safe and speedy return of our hostages. To quote Ishay Ribo on Tuesday ‫ איש אחד בלב אחד לנצח‬- May we merit to be unified as one with one heart forever. __________________________________ Sarah Emerson is the Chief Operating Officer at Shalhevet High School. She lives in LA with her husband and four children.

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