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LOCK THE DOOR JUST ONCE
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THINKING YOU’RE A GOOD MOTHER
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(Re: Worth a Thousand Words, Issue 520)
Your article on drawing analysis was fascinating! My daughter and I read it together and had a good time with it. I wish this could be a weekly column. I asked my daughter to draw the three pictures (a house, a tree and a person), and I noticed that she drew each picture close to the top of the page. What does that mean? Also, while her tree and house were simple drawings, for the person she drew only the person’s head. It was an extremely detailed drawing and very well done. Does that mean anything?
FAIGY FLIEGMAN RESPONDS:
Thank you for your feedback! Of course, I’d need to see the full picture and know the artist’s age to answer properly, but I’ll try my best.
Any drawing placed on the upper part of the page could show a few things. It could point to someone’s great imagination, and describe someone who isn’t too grounded. It could also point to an artist who is very smart, or someone who’s more secluded and introverted.
Regarding the picture of the person, this depends on the age of the child, but from age four and up, a child generally includes the body when drawing a person. When a child above age five only draws the head, it may sometimes indicate a physical problem or a low self-image. A well-drawn, distinct and clear face, however, shows that the person is doing well socially and knows how to develop relationships with others. Usually this is seen by girls at or above age six (and boys at or above age seven or eight).
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THIS ONE IS MINE
(Re: Mine, Issue 520)
The diary serial titled Mine is brand-new and already my favorite serial. Thank you so much for printing it, and thank you to the writer who is sharing herself in such a deep and frank way. I know you have a lot of fiction lovers, but I feel that diary serials like this one are so much more meaningful, as there’s a real person and real feelings behind it.
The writer’s experiences are so touching, and even though I’m aware that everyone in this situation feels differently and reacts differently, it’s eye-opening to see the experience through her eyes. Everyone has that one column that they turn to as soon as they open the magazine. Well, this one is Mine.
THE VIEW FROM THE OTHER SIDE
(Re: In Session, Issue 519)
Dear Therapist,
Thank you for publishing the question about the Sukkos family get-together, as well as your insightful answer.
I’m writing to share the perspective from the other side of the equation — the parent of a large family at varying ages and stages, who would like to enjoy having the family get together occasionally.
While most of my children are aware of the Torah’s expectations for hilchos
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kibbud av v’eim, some of them are not. Every family gathering leaves me in tears of helplessness and frustration as I observe all the dysfunctional attitudes you described: “If something is uncomfortable for me, I’m out.” “My mental health comes first” (and literally everything seems to threaten their mental health). Also, the idea that it’s acceptable to simply cut family members out of your life.
How I wish my children would take your advice to see the “shades of gray” and “have a gentle conversation” with their parents!
The contemporary prevailing attitude ascribes to the “freedom” of disrespecting your parents, and it’s all backed by therapists. My children state with confidence that their therapist told them that their parents were wrong and that however they decide to behave is okay.
These (adult) children need mussar Who will give it to them? Who will warn them that causing pain to their parents means they are playing with fire?
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WORDS MATTER
For all business owners, graphic designers, marketers, influencers and shoppers, I want to bring to your attention common advertising terminology that you may not realize is disturbing to many in our community. A few years ago, the frum community picked up the term “AW” to refer to the autumn-winter season (in terms of clothing shopping). The corresponding spring and summer season is referred to as “SS.”
I realize these terms are in wider use in the worldwide clothing industry, but in our
community, established mainly by Holocaust survivors, the term “SS” has a very different meaning. It’s disturbing to turn the pages of a frum magazine designed for our community and encounter this term again and again.
I realize that advertisers perceive this term as a chic and up-to-date way of referring to their spring and summer line. But we need to be sensitive to our history and realize that for us, this term represents the monstrous Nazi SS. My contemporaries, children of Holocaust survivors, share my view. Although the younger generation may not have the same associations to this term, it’s important to exhibit respect and sensitivity to the devastation experienced by our nation.
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SUGAR HIGH
It’s now after Yom Tov, and I have finally confiscated the candy. You know which candy I mean — the candy my kids got in shul on Simchas Torah. Mind you, a lot of it has already been consumed, but even just the amount that remained is outrageous.
We have an entire year to figure out a solution to this junk craze. As for some ideas, I have heard of shuls that give out pekelach instead of all this candy, or distribute small prizes instead. Let’s change things up.
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A Yiddishe Mama
WHAT’S YOUR TAKE ON SURPRISE GUESTS? HAVE YOU EVER HAD
ONE?
Yes. I love surprise guests!
I prefer a little heads-up, but strangely, it’s often easier when things are slightly more last-minute than when they’re planned way ahead. Once, when I was living in Eretz Yisroel, my visiting niece and her grandmother got locked out of their rental apartment and ended up in my spare bedroom at the last minute for Shabbos. My two sisters, who were visiting and supposed to sleep in that room, slept on the floor in the (thankfully big!) dining room. We had a beautiful Shabbos!
I never have surprise guests, and honestly, I don’t think I would handle it. I don’t cook more than my family needs, so scraping together food for my guest would be stressful.
I don’t appreciate surprise guests. I like to make sure my house is in top order when guests come, and no, my house is not always in perfect shape.
If my house is presentable and clean, then great — bring the guests on. If not, I let my surprise guest feel good that they’re so much more organized than I am!
I go with the flow when surprise guests show up at Shabbos meals. I usually have enough food; otherwise, I work it out. For instance, I’ll cut up the fish into smaller pieces and put them on a bed of lettuce so we can have enough to go around. I even once served apple juice instead of chicken soup to my own children, because I simply didn’t have enough soup to go around that week. We laugh about it to this day. I would prefer to know in advance, but life happens.
We love having surprise guests over. I always have a ton of frozen dough in my freezer, and whenever guests appear at the door, I have fresh cookies or even rugelach ready within minutes. I also have a stock of cooked meats in the freezer so that I can offer my surprise guests a good dinner in no time. Additionally, we try to have a spare room or two ready for guests at all times.
Surprise guests? Not something I do to others. But if someone else does it to me, then, as a child of Avraham Avinu, I try to remember that hosting is a tremendous mitzvah, and I grin and bear it. When I was young and my house was always in perfect shape, I loved it when friends and family surprised me with a visit. Hopefully, when my little ones are all married and out of the house, I’ll be thrilled with every einikel who pops in. Now, at this stage in life, PLEASE DON’T walk in without prior notice.
I don’t like surprises in general, especially not surprise visitors.
I don’t like surprise guests, unless it’s unavoidable. Otherwise, I want clean linen on the beds and enough fish in the pot.
Here and there, I’m thrilled to get notice on Friday afternoon that we’ll be having guests on Shabbos. And if the guest room is in decent shape, Shabbos guests are more than welcome to stay with us. Eating-only guests are always welcome to drop in — we’re more than thrilled.
I’m easy with last-minute guests, but don’t appreciate surprises. That’s not only with guests; I prefer to know what’s coming my way.
We love guests. I usually make sure to cook generously, so if a surprise guest arrives, we manage. It doesn’t happen super often, but we’re always ready! Guests: Just be advised that if you’re surprising me at home, you’re welcome to pitch in. This is a household of healthy children, baruch Hashem
My surprise guests are usually several men knocking on my door to collect tzedakah for their yeshiva or kollel. They often want to come in and sit down with my husband in the dining room. I wish they would call my husband to schedule a time to meet, instead of just showing up, especially after 9:30 p.m.
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PARSHAS LECH LECHA
Spilling Over
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The Midrash describes that Avraham Avinu — known at the time as Avram Ha’Ivri — stood alone on one side of the world while all of civilization stood on the other side. (The term “ivri” is from the root “ever” — side.)
Avraham was unique in his strong belief in Hakadosh Baruch Hu, and he was alone in his goal to spread His name throughout the world. The rest of the world was united in their service of idolatry, but that did not deter Avraham from preaching in the large cities, bringing proofs from creation that Hashem created the world and continues to run it. He debated skeptics and even broke idols. One might think that these conditions would not make him all that popular, but Avraham was tremendously successful ( Bereishis Rabbah 42:8).
Why did Avraham Avinu merit having such a great impact on his generation? What was the secret to his success?
RAV MOSHE STERNBUCH, SHLIT”A, once traveled by boat from Eretz Yisroel to Italy. Rav Dovid Moshe of Kretchnev, zt”l, was on the ship too, and the Rebbe told Rav Moshe that he heard that a world-famous professor was due to speak that evening in the lobby. His topic would be the dangers of smoking. The Rebbe said it was worth attending the lecture for the sake of v’nishmartem me’od l’nafshoseichem
The professor began to speak. He described the negative side-effects of smoking and the impact it has on overall health. He shared statistics and an-
nounced, “Smoking is proven to shorten one’s lifespan!”
Several hours later, Rav Moshe was walking along the deck and saw the professor from afar. Then he came closer and looked again. He couldn’t believe his eyes! The professor was holding a cigarette to his mouth!
Rav Moshe could not contain himself and walked over. “How can you smoke?” he demanded. “You explained in such a clear and certain way that smoking is dangerous!”
“I don’t understand your argument,” the professor replied. “Did I say that one is not allowed to smoke? No. I just enlightened the public to the dangers. Does that obligate me to quit smoking?” He lowered his voice and admitted, “Personally, I’d rather give up ten years of my life and continue to smoke. Without it, I have no life…”
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Rav Eliyahu Dessler, zt”l, had an interesting practice. Before giving a shmuess, he always reviewed it with his wife. His wife, a descendant of Rav Yisroel Salanter and the Vilna Gaon and a rebbetzin in her own right, always offered her critique. She had a sharp mind and vast knowledge, and often had wise ways of
“Did I say that one is not allowed to smoke? No. I just enlightened the public to the dangers”
“Who am I to say mussar to bochurim who learn all day? I must improve myself and work on living the things I say
honing and refining Rav Dessler’s message.
Once, Rav Dessler told an entire shmuess to his wife. When he was done, she turned to him and asked, “Are you sure you’re already on this level?”
Rav Dessler stopped to think for a moment, and had to agree. He immediately scratched the shmuess and began to prepare a new one.
Rav Dessler said of himself that he typically spent about twelve hours preparing a single shmuess for his talmidim But this time he abandoned the shmuess he had invested so much in. “Who am I to say mussar to bochurim who learn all day? I must improve myself and work on living the things I say, so I should be connected to my message and passionate about giving it over.”
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The Dubno Maggid once asked the Vilna Gaon for the best way to be mashpia the public. The Gaon replied with a mashal. Picture a bottle of wine with many empty glasses around it. When you fill the bottle to the brim and continue to pour, the overflow will spill over on all sides, and the glasses surrounding the bottle will automatically become filled. Likewise, when one wants to influence yiras Shamayim and middos tovos on those around him, he must first fill himself with these values. Once he himself is all filled up, the overflow will automatically occur. At the same time, the Gaon cautioned, if one doesn’t fill himself first, it’s certain that his words will fall on deaf ears.
The first person to use this method was Avraham Avinu. Before presenting his emunah and proofs in the Creator to others, he filled himself to the brim. He spent entire days and nights contemplating Who created the world and continues to coordinate everything that happens. Only after spending years of instilling emunah deep within his own heart did he begin to share it with others. (Those were the years between ages three and 40 — two different versions in Chazal and Rishonim regarding when Avraham recognized Hashem.)
It’s no wonder, then, that Avraham Avinu was able to influence the masses to the point where he became known as av hamon goyim — the father of many nations. He worked on himself and purified his heart until he reached the pinnacle of emunah. Then his inner convictions automatically spilled over — directly into the hearts of his generation.
If we would like to share our values with others in a manner that allows it to actually have an effect, no long speech or mussar is necessary. We must simply work on ourselves, and through perfecting our own middos and values, will be able to have an influence on our children, students and those around us.
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Cruz Comes to Monsey in Support of Lawler
It was a packed house in the lobby of the newly constructed Downtown 33 office building on Route 59, with hundreds turning out to hear from Senator Ted Cruz, who came to Monsey to show his support for Congressman Mike Lawler.
Lawler is facing a tough fight in the 2026 elections, as he looks to win a second term in Congress. As one of the tightest races in the country in 2024, his election made national headlines. There are currently eight Democrats facing off in a June primary for the chance to unseat him next year.
Pic of Abandoned Baby a Hoax, Say Police
A photograph of a baby girl who was reportedly abandoned by her parents has, thankfully, turned out to be nothing more than a hoax.
The picture showing a baby girl in a car seat with an ivory bow headband surfaced on social media on October 22. A sticky note placed on the baby’s pink blanket described her as Jewish girl named Malky, and asked that someone take care of her because her parents were unable to care for her. According to the social media post, the baby was discovered in Monsey, and police were conducting an investigation.
The October 23 event kicked off with Shmueli Ungar singing the national anthem and continued with Lawler thanking Cruz for taking the time to come to his district. Cruz praised the congressman for serving as a ferocious fighter for New Yorkers, crediting him as being the driving force behind the effort to quadruple the federal SALT deduction cap, while also acknowledging how private citizens can have a tremendous impact on national policy.
“We delivered an historic win on July 4 of this year, as part of the One Big Beautiful Bill, as each of you know,” said Cruz. “We passed, together, the biggest federal school choice that has ever been enacted. That is a direct result of the blood, sweat and tears of a lot of men and women in this room who fought tirelessly, who were in Washington fighting for your kids, fighting for your grandkids.”
Cruz also spoke about the dangers of rising antisemitism, calling it a real threat, and vowing to denounce it and fight against it whenever it appears.
That information turned out to be blatantly false. The Ramapo Police Department said that a careful review showed nothing to substantiate the social media post, which was later retracted. Police are continuing to monitor the story for any related information.
County Officials: School Bus Stop Arm Cameras Are Saving Kids’ Lives
Gray skies and light rain did nothing to undermine the good news as county officials gathered in New City to announce that Rockland kids are safer than ever, thanks to cameras mounted onto their school bus’s swinging stop arms.
County Executive Ed Day, Sheriff Louis Falco, and Bus Patrol Senior Vice President Ryan Monell stood with representatives of the County Attorney’s Office to announce that the number of violations issued for passing stopped school buses has gone down 30% since the cameras were installed throughout Rockland. The cameras were installed at no cost to taxpayers in a partnership launched between the county and Bus Patrol in 2023. As previously reported in The Monsey View, all five of Rockland’s school districts have opted into the program.
“No parent should ever have to fear for their child’s safety getting on and off the school bus,” said Day, standing in front of a Chestnut Ridge school bus. Day noted that during his tenure as a police officer in Manhattan, he saw a child struck by a driver who failed to yield to a school bus with flashing red lights. It was a moment, Day said, that still haunts him decades later.
A whopping 41,000 violations have been reported to the Rockland County Sheriff’s Office since the swing-arm cameras were turned on, resulting in 19,500 summonses. While that
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“They got the message,” said Day. “They paid the fine. They obeyed the law.”
Ramapo PD Issues Coyote Warning
Recent coyote sightings in the area have had the Ramapo Police Department warning residents to be on the alert.
While no actual incidents involving coyotes have been reported in Ramapo, multiple stories have emerged from nearby Bergen County in recent weeks. According to CBS News, an eight-pound dog was killed after being attacked by a coyote at a family home in Ho-Ho-Kus, while two Saddle River residents were attacked by coyotes, one of which tested positive for rabies. In Woodcliff Lake, a woman and a golden retriever were both attacked by a coyote while out in their backyard.
According to the New York State Department of Environmental Conservation, coyotes are native to New York, and while they typically avoid humans, steps should be taken to avoid them. Residents are encouraged to eliminate any potential food sources, including bird feeders, which can attract coyotes; secure their garbage cans; and supervise their children and pets at all times while outdoors. Those who encounter coyotes should keep their distance, raise their arms and wave them to look larger and more menacing, throw sticks or stones, and make loud noises.
Any coyote that does not flee when facing humans should be treated as dangerous and reported to the police and the DEC’s regional office at 845-364-2670.
Early Introduction Has Peanut Allergies
Plummeting, Says Study
Peanut allergies have dropped a whopping 43% in households that introduced peanuts into their babies’ diets at sur-
prisingly young ages.
Doctors had long advised not giving children peanuts until they were at least three years old, but those guidelines were revised many years ago, reported ABC News. In 2015, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommended introducing common allergens to infants between four and six months of age to prevent possible allergies. Two years later, the recommendation was revised to include all infants, although those with a family history of allergic reactions or eczema are urged to consult with their doctors before giving their baby peanut products.
A study published by the journal Pediatrics surveyed health data for 40,000 children and reported the significant drop in peanut allergies since the 2017 recommendations were made.
The best way to introduce babies to peanuts? While some doctors recommend thinning a small amount of peanut butter with water, a 1010 News report recommended using small bits of Bamba, which melt easily in an infant’s mouth and require no chewing. The low prevalence of peanut allergies in Israel, where babies consume Bamba at a young age, is well known, and it prompted a pediatric allergist to launch a study to understand that phenomenon in 2000, which ultimately sparked the current recommendations.
Allergist and pediatrician Dr. Inderpal Randhawa told Parents magazine that the evidence has shown what has long been suspected — that training the immune system to accept certain proteins can sidestep an allergic response, although the allergen in question should be offered several times a week to preserve immunity.
“The immune system is teachable,” said Dr. Randhawa. “If you present food antigens early, consistently and safely, the immune system learns tolerance instead of launching a defensive allergic response.”
Parents whose children experience hives, vomiting, facial swelling, or difficulty breathing after consuming peanut products are advised to call Hatzoloh or 911, or to take their child to the emergency room immediately.
While early introduction may ward off peanut allergies, introducing babies to eggs at an early age did not produce the same results. With peanut allergies on the decline, egg allergies are now the most common childhood allergy.
Responding to Numerous Blowouts, Repaving Underway at Harlem River–GWB Ramp
Repaving and milling are currently ongoing on the elevated roadway that links Harlem River Drive with the George Washington Bridge.
The Trans-Manhattan Expressway, as the angled stretch of highway is commonly known, has multiple potholes which have blown out many a tire, leaving unsuspecting drivers frustrated and inconvenienced. Chaverim of Brooklyn members who have been called to the area on many occasions, particularly on rainy days when the potholes can be difficult to
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see, have been pushing for the area to be repaved.
Paving on the southbound lanes began on October 27 and is scheduled to run through October 31, with the northbound lanes addressed from November 3 to November 7. During those times, both lanes will be closed to all traffic from 11 p.m. to 5 a.m.
Chaverim credited Assemblyman Simcha Eichenstein, Department of Transportation Director of Public Engagement Pinny Ringel, and New York City Emergency Management Department Assistant Commissioner for External Affairs and Strategic Partnerships Ira Tenenbaum for their efforts, which brought this project to fruition.
Major State Capital Investment to Bring Transformative Health Benefits at Good Sam
Better health care is on the way at Good Samaritan Hospital, which was chosen by Governor Kathy Hochul as one of six partner health facilities that will share in $2.6 billion in capital and operating dollars.
According to Hochul, the infusion of resources will improve the quality of care at safety net hospitals, giving even more New Yorkers access to affordable, high-quality health care.
“The strength of our hospitals is a reflection of the strength of our communities, and safety net hospitals play a critical role in providing quality health care to vulnerable populations,” said the governor.
Under the partnership, the Bon Secours Charity Health
System, which includes Good Samaritan Hospital in Suffern and Health Alliance of the Hudson Valley, will both be integrated into Westchester Medical Center. That move will allow WMC to unify its electronic medical record system, expand its residency program, and improve access to behavioral health, pediatric, maternal and ambulatory care services.
Hochul had previously announced similar partnerships at eight other hospitals throughout the state. Senate Majority Leader Andrea Stewart-Cousins praised the recent proliferation of partnerships for improving healthcare outcomes for millions of New Yorkers.
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Two weeks after being indicted on bank fraud and making
false statements to a financial institution, New York Attorney General Letitia James appeared in a Virginia courtroom and pled her innocence in federal court.
James was released on her own recognizance, reported NBC News. She is due back in court for her trial on January 26, which is estimated to take approximately five days.
Lawyers for James have said that the case should be thrown out, categorizing it as selective and vindictive prosecution. President Donald Trump, who had been previously sued by James, had urged United States Attorney General Pam Bondi to investigate James.
“This is not about me,” James told supporters as she left the courthouse. “This is about all of us, and a justice system which has been weaponized… [and] used as a tool of revenge.”
James is one of three presidential adversaries who have been brought up on federal criminal charges in recent weeks. Both James Comey, the former director of the FBI, and John Bolton, the former national security advisor, were indicted by Lindsay Halligan, who was sworn in as acting U.S. attorney for the Eastern District of Virginia last month. Halligan, who had no former prosecutorial experience, also signed James’ indictment.
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A national certification program for those who handle 911 emergency phone calls will be coming to Rockland County this summer, providing 40 hours of rigorous training that is rarely offered in New York.
The National Emergency Number Association course will be hosted by the communications division of the Rockland County Sheriff’s Office on August 17 through 21 at the Fire Training Center in Pomona. It is aimed at current and prospective Public Safety Answering Points (known as PSAPs), which handle 911 calls, at a cost of $1,325, with a discounted rate of $1,115 available for members of the National Emergency Number Association.
A statement released by the sheriff’s office stated, “This selective educational program is offered at only a few sites throughout the United States each year, and we are very proud and excited to announce that the Rockland County Sheriff’s Office has been chosen as a CMCP course host in 2026.”
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Dear Therapist,
Three years ago, my son married a wonderful girl from a wonderful family. Before the shidduch, we heard only praise — that she’s a leader, confident, warm and respectful. Baruch Hashem, we see all those qualities. She sends pictures and messages and is always polite.
What bothers me is that my son and daughter-in-law rarely spend time with us. Even when they’re nearby for Shabbos, they end up spending most of their time at her parents’ home (they live in the same area as we do). I’m happy she’s close to her family, but I feel like we haven’t built our own connection.
I’m grateful that my son is happily married, but I wish I had more of a relationship with his new wife. What can I do?
— A Mother Who Wants Connection
Dear Mother,
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt letter. It’s clear from your words that you are a loving, thoughtful parent who is deeply grateful for your blessings, even as you’re longing for a closer connection with your son and daughter-in-law. These two emotions — gratitude and longing — can sit side by side, and many mothers-in-law quietly struggle with the same tension you describe. Your letter gives voice to something many feel but hesitate to say.
Let’s explore your situation step by step and consider some perspectives that may help guide you toward building a stronger bond with your daughter-in-law.
1. Communication and assumptions
One of the most common challenges in family dynamics is that each side assumes they are doing the other a favor, without realizing that their assumption may be creating distance instead of closeness.
For example, your daughter-in-law might think that your home is busy with other children or grandchildren, and that she would be “bothering” you by spending more time there. She may believe she is respecting your space. Or she might think that your daughters — her sisters-inlaw — are naturally closer to you, and that you would prefer spending your extra time with them. In her mind, she may be stepping aside out of consideration, or thinking that it isn’t her place to be more a part of things.
Another possibility comes from family upbringing. In some families, daughters naturally spend much of their time in their mother’s home, while the husband’s family is visited less. Your daughter-in-law may simply be following the pattern she grew up with. It may not be a rejection of you, but rather what feels normal and familiar to her.
What helps most in such cases is clarity. A simple, warm statement such as, “I love when you come for Shabbos — it means so much to me,” can clear up unspoken assumptions. In some families, the mother-in-law will say, “We’re always happy to have you for Shabbos, just call me by Wednesday.” But some daughters-in-law may need a full, explicit invitation each time to feel welcome. They may not assume that “always open” applies to them. This gentle clarification can make a big difference.
2. Speak to your son first
When navigating in-law relationships, it’s usually most effective to begin the conversation with your own child. Sit down with your son in a calm and positive moment and share openly: “I really enjoy when you and your wife come over, and I would love it if we could have more time together. I would love it if you’d spend time at our house when you come to us for Shabbos. Is there anything I can do to make it easier for you?”
By framing it in this way, you show that you’re not demanding or criticizing; you’re inviting. You’re expressing your desire while also giving him the chance to share any obstacles that may be making visiting difficult. This keeps the conversation constructive rather than defensive.
3. Reflect on your nature and style
Another factor to consider is personality style. Some mothers-in-law naturally have a strong presence. They speak directly, say what is on their minds, and don’t hesitate to express their opinions. This can be a tremendous strength in life; it creates clarity, honesty and leadership. But like any strength, this can also be a disadvantage.
A daughter-in-law, especially a new one, may feel intimidated by strong comments — even small ones — about clothing, housekeeping, parenting styles, career choices or even the way she speaks to her husband. What feels to you like a passing comment or lighthearted advice may
land for her as criticism or judgment. And because of the natural difference in age and the mitzvah of kibbud av v’eim, she will likely not feel comfortable speaking up or answering back. Instead, she may simply retreat, quietly pulling back her presence from your home. This doesn’t mean you have done something “wrong.” It means that sometimes the way our words land is different from how we intend. If your son ever does share with you that his wife has felt hurt, the most effective response is not to defend yourself, but to ask, “Can you tell me how she felt? What did I do that came across hurtful?” If there is truth to it, acknowledge it gently: “I didn’t realize that could hurt her. I’ll try to be more careful.” This humility and openness will go a long way in building connections.
4. Including daughtersin-law in conversations
Another important piece is to consciously include your daughterin-law in family conversations. Daughters and mothers often have a lifetime of shared language, private jokes and natural closeness, but a new daughter-in-law is still learning her place in the family circle. Even two or three years into marriage, she may benefit from warm, deliberate gestures: inviting her into the conversation, asking for her opinion, seating her near you at the Shabbos table, or asking her to help with something meaningful rather than just routine chores. These small signals tell her, you belong here too. When a daughter-in-law feels genuinely welcomed, rather than just tolerated, her desire to come more often usually grows naturally.
5. Relationships take time to develop
Sometimes we think of connection as an all-or-nothing proposition: Either we have the same level of closeness as the other side of the family, or we feel rejected. In reality, closeness often grows in layers and at its own pace. Your daughter-in-law may always feel a stronger pull toward her parents; that’s natural. But that doesn’t mean you can’t build a deep, meaningful connection of your own, one that will look different but still be precious.
Every family has its unique rhythm. Some young couples split Shabbosos evenly, and others gravitate more toward one side. Some change the pattern as children are born and life circumstances shift. Recognizing this ebb and flow allows you to see progress in shades of gray, not only black and white.
6. A practical path forward
Express appreciation for your daughter-in-law’s positive qualities (which you already do so beautifully).
Invite her and your son more directly and warmly, even explicitly each time.
Have a private, calm conversation with your son about your desire for more connection and how you can make it easier for them.
If concerns about her feeling
For daughters-in-law reading this, it is also important to note: If your mother-in-law has a strong nature, the best approach is not avoidance. Show up. Be present. Learn how to navigate her style while maintaining your own voice. Develop resilience, and if you need to create some space for your own well-being, do so thoughtfully and with guidance from a trusted rav. Learning to function around people with strong natures is a vital skill in life.
Those who pull back and don’t develop “antibodies” to strong people get hurt and run away from life’s challenges. Healthy families thrive when both sides take responsibility for their part in the relationship.
uncomfortable ever come up, listen first and avoid selfdefense. Show a willingness to grow.
Include her in conversations and family dynamics in ways that show her she truly belongs.
Stay consistent, warm and patient — relationships take time to deepen.
The fact that you’re reflecting, asking questions and seeking guidance shows that you really want to build this relationship with care. That itself is a tremendous merit. With gentle clarity, open communication and a willingness to adjust, you can create the connection you long for — one that honors both your role as a mother and your daughterin-law’s place as a new wife and partner.
With patience and understanding, such a relationship can grow into something deeply rewarding.
Mordechai Weinberger, LCSW is the Executive Director of Serenity Center Clinic in Monsey, where he leads a team of 40+ therapists treating children, teenagers and adults. The clinic provides care for depression, anxiety, OCD, marriage challenges, addiction and more. For more information, call 845-286-2210 or visit serenityctr.com.
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After decades in this field, I thought I had seen it all - until one case reminded me how surprising and inspiring this work can be.
A bright yeshivah bochur came to me crushed by severe OCD, his obsessive thoughts dragging him into despair so deep that he spoke of not wanting to live. I brought every tool - ERP, CBT, DBT - yet week after week he insisted nothing helped. The hopelessness was draining.
Then came a Telehealth session from camp. He delivered his most painful litany yet, almost mocking our work: “All you’re teaching me is to ignore and fight these thoughts.”
At that moment, I tried one last approach - the paradoxical method. “Yossi,” I said, “you’ve convinced me. Your case is unique. No therapy can help you.”
He cut in immediately: “Hey, I didn’t say I’m not better! That’s not what I need you for.”
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Our kids absorb the Down syndrome diagnosis. We name our daughter Malky.
CHAPTER 3 IN THIS STROLLER LIES A BABY
“Afew days in Aishes Chayil or a Doona stroller?”
“What?”
Hersh covered the mouthpiece of his cellphone and grinned at me. “Someone wants to gift you a few days in Aishes Chayil or a Doona stroller. Which one do you want?”
I grinned. “Both.”
I was usually pretty reserved, satisfied with what I had and happy to pay my own way through life, but the drama of the last few days was getting to me, creating a sudden ravenous appetite to be wined and dined and showered with gifts.
“Who’s offering?” I asked Hersh. Malky was our fourth child, a stage where we would typically be lucky to receive a stretchy or a toy. This offer was a substantial gift worthy of a first baby.
Hersh hesitated. “It’s supposed to be a surprise.”
GITTI BEILIS
“Oh, come on, I won’t tell. Who is it?”
“Your siblings.”
A powerful wave of love flowed over me. My siblings were all young couples struggling to stabilize financially, some still in learning and some just starting off in business. This gift was a sacrifice, every dollar earned with sweat and toil. It warmed me like nothing else could.
As a rule, my twelve siblings and I didn’t talk much about feelings. We could make a lot of noise, and conversations would meander from politics to nutrition to school placement with verve and passion. But when it came to showing support and being there for each other, action took the place of words. By nature or nurture, it worked for me. The Doona arrived the next day, and I lovingly placed a swaddled Queen Malka in it and kvelled at how perfect she looked, tiny nose peeking out of layers of blanket.
Completely absorbed in my nachas, I was oblivious to the reaction of Tillie, who was standing at my side.
Tillie grabbed the Doona and gave it a solid push. In sickening slow motion, the stroller toppled over and Malky fell to the floor, the Doona on top of her.
There was no sound from Malky.
I shrieked and lunged for my baby. I yanked the stroller off her and turned Malky over to face me. Malky locked her eyes with mine and let out an annoyed and angry shriek.
One shriek.
It was the first sound I had heard from her since she’d cried at birth, and it melted my heart. Her eye contact and clear annoyance spoke of a dynamic and determined personality. Malky had a mind of her own and would not be pushed around by anyone, least of all her siblings.
BUT ONE QUESTION SUCCEEDED IN PENETRATING. IT WAS THE ONE ASKED OVER AND OVER AGAIN. “IS SHE HOME?”
Moments like these reassured me that everything would be just fine. I distracted Tillie with her new doll stroller and took my own little doll and the Doona for a test run. As I gripped the handlebar, I felt the love and support of my siblings. I had my troops backing me, supporting me; a quiet engine that would propel me forward.
Extended family was a whole different story. The phone calls didn’t stop, as various aunts and cousins felt a burning need to offer their two cents and opinions.
“Shefele! How aaaare you? How did the kinderlach take it?”
“The whole family is so tzubruchen. I’ve been crying non-stop.”
“Mama’la! I’m so, so sorry… Oy, the tzaaros we see nowadays. Moshiach has to come already.”
I tried hard not to burst out laughing in the face of such pain, but stroking Malky’s soft cheeks and observing her peaceful countenance as she lay sleeping created an incredulous detachment from the hysteria and distress.
But one question succeeded in penetrating. It was the one asked over and over again.
“Is she home?”
Bobby Rosenthal was the first to ask the question. The first time, I was confused. Home? Why not? Was Bobby worried about an extended hospital stay?
“Yes, baruch Hashem! At first, they thought Malky would have to be in the NICU for a couple of weeks, but her heart is better than expected, and they allowed us to come home right away.”
A moment of silence.
“Gittele, zeeskeit, I meant to ask if she’s homehome.”
“Home-home?” I asked. “You mean, like a rehab?” Malky had a heart defect that would likely need serious surgery in a few months, but for now she was a healthy, rosy-cheeked baby. Despite the common feeding struggles in many babies with Down syndrome, Malky had a strong suck and a hearty appetite. Why wouldn’t she be home?
Bobby cleared her throat and lowered her voice. “You know, home with you. Is she home with you? Or is she with someone else? You will consider giving her up, won’t you?”
What?!
I was shocked into silence.
My silence must have delivered the message. Im-
mediately, Bobby changed gears.
“Listen, Gittele, you’re the mother here. You know best. Forget I said anything. Zeidy and I support you in whatever you do. You’ll see, you’ll have so much nachas from her.”
This was a reaction I would witness over and over again. People took their cue from us. When we projected strength and conviction in our ability to rise to the challenge, the world responded in kind, backing off and giving us space to raise our precious daughter.
I was scanning the room for Hersh, wondering how much of the conversation he had overheard, when it hit me. How much of this had he gone through in the last couple of days? While I had the luxury of staying in the privacy of my home and getting to know my princess, he spent his entire day in shul and kollel, surrounded by curious crowds. Was he facing pressure? Getting unwanted and unasked for advice?
I finally found him leaning against the seforim shank with closed eyes, clutching a thin sefer. I came closer and peered at the spine. Pele Yoetz
“Hersh? What are you reading?”
Hersh startled out of his reverie, straightened his back and started reading out loud.
“Pele Yoetz, os beis, perek of ‘bas, a daughter.’” He began to read.
There are some among the masses who, when a daughter is born, avoid going to the beis medrash or among their friends, out of fear of mockery or ridicule... Woe to them on the Day of Judgment — how great is their sin! Was it in their hands to choose a son or a daughter? And what wrong or sin has the daughter committed (that her parents should be ashamed of her existence)?
They do not understand that everything is from Hashem, and all is for the good. It is not within a person’s power to choose what will be born… What occurs is only what Hashem, in His wisdom, has decreed.
“What?” I demanded. I’d heard of this mentality in ancient Greek culture, but Yidden? “Yidden were embarrassed to have daughters?”
“Unfortunately, in the times of the Peleh Yoetz, this was a reality.”
“Okay,” I said, “but why are you reading this now? This isn’t relevant in this day and age.”
I FINALLY FOUND HIM LEANING AGAINST THE SEFORIM SHANK WITH CLOSED EYES, CLUTCHING A THIN SEFER
Hersh gave me the sefer. “Read it again, but do this. Every time the sefer says ‘son,’ replace it with ‘typical child’ and every time he says ‘daughter,’ replace it with the term ‘child with Down syndrome.’”
I took the sefer gingerly, afraid but curious. I started reading, doing the mental replacement my husband had suggested.
“There are some among the masses who, when a child with Down syndrome is born, avoid going to the beis medrash or among their friends, out of fear of mockery or ridicule... Woe to them on the Day of Judgment — how great is their sin! Was it in their hands to choose a typical child or a child with Down syndrome? And what wrong or sin has the child with Down syndrome committed (that her parents should be ashamed of her existence?)
“They do not understand that everything is from Hashem, blessed be He, and all is for the good. It is not within a person’s power to choose what will be born… What occurs is only what Hashem, in His wisdom, has decreed.”
I took a deep breath and continued reading.
“And one must know that sometimes a child with Down syndrome can bring greater merit than a typical child. Therefore, a person should accept Hashem’s decree with joy, and invest in the righteous upbringing of his child with Down syndrome. She will merit the World to Come, and he, the father, will share in that... and merit everlasting reward.”
The words were piercing, simple and resonated deeply. I understood. Hersh had faced the world, faced the scoffers and the naysayers, but he had the words of the Pele Yoetz to strengthen him. (A while later I had the zechus to share Hersh’s insight with an adam gadol. Tears flowed down his weathered face and he whispered, “Gerecht, gerecht. This is truth, this is truth.”)
Buoyed by the strength of these words, I was able to take the next round of calls with equanimity and confidence, establishing our attitude and respectful requests.
From a classmate: “You had a Downy! Wow, I love Downies.”
Me: “She’s not a Downy. Her name is Malky, and she has Down syndrome. Please call her by her name.”
From a neighbor down the street: “Kids with Down syndrome are so cute. They make their families sooo happy.”
Me: “Baruch Hashem, I had a beautiful baby girl. She is very cute. She will make us very happy. Please treat her as a person.”
From kids and adults: “Will she go to Hamaspik or HASC?”
Music Lessons for Boys
TEARS FLOWED DOWN HIS WEATHERED FACE AND HE WHISPERED, “GERECHT, GERECHT. THIS IS TRUTH, THIS IS TRUTH”
Me: “She’s still a tiny baby. Im yirtzeh Hashem, she’ll grow and show us what she can do, and then we’ll find an appropriate school for her. Maybe she’ll be in the same class as your baby!”
And so it went, and so it still goes. Advocating for her to exist as an individual human being, and standing up to judgement and eye rolling. Answering once again why I am so adamant about proper and respectful language, why I insist on seeing her as a human being first, and only after that, dealing with her challenges.
To those who are sincerely interested, I explain more, leading to some wonderful and deep friendships. For those who aren’t receptive to my perspective, I respect their position but remain firm in mine, hoping they can respect that too.
And when I’m too tired to repeat my speeches, when I want to throw in the towel and just acquiesce to the “They, them, Downy, Hamaspik, HASC” crowd, I reach for the Pele Yoetz and do the mental adjustments. “Therefore, a person should accept Hashem’s decree with joy, and invest in the righteous upbringing of his child with Down syndrome. In doing so, he will merit everlasting reward.”
Time and again, I’ve shared these powerful words with new mothers. The timeless words have become my personal source of comfort.
COMING NEXT WEEK: THE MEETING OF THE ELEPHANTS AND THE SKELETONS.
Names and identifying details have been changed. This serial reflects the author’s personal experiences. Every child with Down syndrome is unique, and so are their families. Halacha, hashkafah, developmental and medical decisions should be referred to the appropriate rabbanim and professionals.
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Jacob meets the other men in his mess. Rebecca offers Judith help in the kitchen, but Judith turns her away.
Jacob
The evening air carries a most welcome breeze. They sit around the small fire that Uriah has started, and Israel stands over the kettle.
“You are lucky to have your first dinner in the army tonight, when it is Simon’s turn at the kettle. Last night was Israel’s turn, and my stomach still has not forgiven it.” Uriah laughs roundly, as do the others.
Jacob stands and walks over to Israel. “What is it you are making?”
“Peas.” The lad’s voice comes out as a squeak, and he clears his voice and starts again. “It will be soup when I am through with it.”
“Soup?” Uriah scoffs. “He humbles himself. It will be a most agreeable stew of beef and peas.”
“Beef?” Jacob looks between them, trying to understand their meaning. Surely they would not —
“It is kosher meat.” Judah says. “The parnas of the beis knesses sees to it that the Jewish soldiers are supplied with beef or fish while at camp, if possible. And there is salted beef, too.”
Jacob is glad to hear it. Rebecca had sent him off with
some provisions of his own; he did not know what to expect living among gentiles. He has salted fish in his haversack, but he is glad he will not need to eat of his own supplies.
“When we head out on campaign, that is when it will be more difficult.” Judah says. “The beans and peas grow tiresome rather quickly.”
“I’d rather tire my jawbone by eating beans and peas than having it do without any exercise at all!” Simon says.
“But it doesn’t matter. We would be hungry regardless of our kosher diet’s limitations. Though the soldiers are promised daily rations of beef or pork, it is rare indeed that they receive it. We are their fellow sufferers of hunger.”
Judah nods his agreement, and Israel too. Uriah is silent, however, his gaze fixed on the kettle.
Soon Israel announces the soup’s — nay, stew’s — completion, and they all gather around the kettle. Jacob had not realized how hungry he was, and the scent of a good meal so close to him is enough to make his hands tremble. His fingers still burn from the dreadful training of the morning, and his whole body aches, but it is enough to know that soon his stomach will no longer rumble.
He washes his hands and recites the blessing. Warm,
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“It is very tasty!” Jacob calls to Israel, who nods with a smile but says nothing. Jacob cannot tell if the lad is quiet because that is his nature, or if he fears a repeat episode of throat-squeaks. He smiles in return, and a comfortable silence settles over the mess.
So the men speak of hunger. He was prepared enough for hardship when he decided on this journey; surely he will be able to withstand some hunger, if it comes to be. It is his current feelings of inadequacy that worry him more. He must learn well, and quickly, how to handle a musket.
He saw it on the other soldiers’ faces earlier that day, the smirks and eyes of laughter. He is one of ten new recruits in the company, but he is the slowest of them all. His mouth twists into a grimace, and he swallows the bitterness that rises in his throat at the memory of the day’s training. Again and again, the lieutenant had called the orders, and the soldiers had responded with smooth maneuvers. All but Jacob. There was a heaviness to his movements, a hesitancy. He looked at the others before positioning his musket, before marching in form, while the others looked ahead at the lieutenant with clear and steady eyes.
He does not know why it has always been like this. It is as if he worries that he shall not succeed, and so he doesn’t. His heart starts to make its beating known in his chest, a warmth spreading over his face.
It is maddening, truly it is. Why can he not set his mind to success and reach it? He is no less of a man than the other soldiers, than his brothers. There is a tightness to him, a tightness of mind. He has always thought he was destined for simplicity, but perhaps it is he who made it so.
He looks at the fire, watches it jump and leap toward the night sky. Again and again the flames rise, trying to catch the stars, but then they fall back. The fire is held down, confined to the small circle
of stones they have set around it. Perhaps he is the same. Perhaps he has been the fire all his life, and he only has to break through the ring of stones that surround him. Mother, with her eyes that have always looked down on him, no matter how tall he grew. And Father, with ears only for the accomplishments of his elder brothers.
Stones, indeed.
There is nothing like the darkness of night to make a soldier suddenly miss those he left behind
“Jacob, what troubles you? You seem lost in thoughts of gloom.” Uriah speaks to him from across the fire.
His gaze stirs from the fire before him, and he looks up at the rest of his mess. “It is nothing really. I am only thinking of my family.”
“Ah, indeed. There is nothing like the darkness of night to make a soldier suddenly miss those he left behind.”
Jacob smiles, but does not respond. He was not thinking warmly of his family.
“My youngest will have his second birthday next week.” Uriah says. “Phillip. He looks like me, they say, though I don’t think there is any resemblance between us but the redness of our hair.” He is silent for a moment as he looks at the fire, then smiles. “He is like me in character, though. He has long tired out his nursemaid, and his poor mother, too! Every letter from my wife tells me of the boy’s latest scrapes, and though I know she writes for my sympathy, I cannot help but laugh at the boy’s antics.”
“Is he your only son?”
“Yes. The first after four daughters.”
Jacob looks at Uriah. Funny, he had thought him to be much young-
er; not so young as the other lads in their mess, but younger, still.
“My eldest is not two months old. I daresay there is not too much to him yet, but when I return he will be a completely different creature.” He turns to the rest of the men. “I don’t suppose any of you lads are married?”
Simon and Judah laugh, and Israel reddens. “Our friend Israel is but fifteen!”
“Fifteen?” Jacob looks at Israel for confirmation. The lad nods, reddening even more. “How did your parents ever agree to your joining the army?”
“As I am one child out of eleven, I daresay they were relieved.” His voice warbles in the middle of his words, and he clears his throat. “One less mouth to feed. And they greatly appreciate the extra income from my salary.”
Jacob startles, but keeps his face composed. What must it feel like, to be so young, and know so solemnly of his burden on the family? The boy must be afraid. Judah and Simon have been laughing and speaking merrily with Uriah this whole evening, but Israel has been quiet. He does not view the Continental Army as an adventure as the others do. He must think it an obligation — no, a sacrifice.
When at last their meal finishes and they have put out the fire, when they have prayed a hushed Maariv together under the stars, they retire to the thin cots of the tent. The others talk among themselves, quiet banter and plans for the morrow, but Jacob is silent.
Fifteen is too young to think his only worth is the paltry salary sent homeward as payment for his sacrificing life and limb
Of two things he is resolute: The first is that he will look after young Israel during their time together. There is something in the boy’s eyes that reminds him of himself — a worry, perhaps, of all his fears of irrelevance being shown to be true. Fifteen is too young to think his only worth is the paltry salary sent homeward as payment for his sacrificing life and limb.
The second resolution he knows not how he will accomplish, but he is determined nonetheless: He will succeed as a soldier. The other soldiers do not know him as Jacob Solomon, the tailor’s apprentice and fourth son. They will form an opinion of him solely on his merits as a soldier. He will not give them the opportunity to laugh at him again. This time, he will succeed.
TO BE CONTINUED...
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VEGETABLE SOUP Hearty
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INGREDIENTS
1 large onion
2 large zucchinis, unpeeled
1 small sweet potato
1 medium parsnip
1 stalk celery or medium knob celery
6 carrots
2 T. oil
1 T. dried dill weed or a bunch of fresh dill or 3 frozen dill cubes
2 T. parsley flakes or a bunch of fresh parsley
5 tsp. salt, to taste Black pepper, to taste Dash of cayenne pepper
1 cup pearl barley
DIRECTIONS
1. Finely chop or dice all vegetables.
2. Saute vegetables in oil until soft, approximately 10 to 15 minutes.
3. Add the herbs, spices and barley, then fill the pot with water until it is three-quarters full. It will appear very watery, but the barley will absorb a significant amount of water.
4. Let the soup come to a boil, then reduce the heat to a simmer for a few hours; the longer, the better. Stir the soup intermittently to prevent the barley from sticking.
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The perfect soup for when you don’t have the time or patience to chop vegetables — but don’t want to give up on flavor.
INGREDIENTS
2 T. oil
1 large onion, diced
2 frozen garlic cubes
1 (24 oz.) bag frozen cauliflower
1 stalk celery, diced
1 small squash, diced
Small daikon radish (or a piece of a big one), whole
4 tsp. salt, to taste
Black pepper, to taste
2 tsp. garlic powder
DIRECTIONS
1. Saute the onion until translucent.
2. Add garlic cubes and vegetables. Saute for a few minutes.
3. Add 7 cups of water as well as spices.
4. Let the soup come to a boil. Cook until the water has thickened (about 45 to 60 minutes).
5. When the soup is ready, discard the daikon radish, and blend the soup to your desired consistency.
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INGREDIENTS
3 mini mezonos bagels, chopped
Salt, to taste
Garlic powder, to taste
Parsley flakes, to taste
Olive oil or oil spray
DIRECTIONS
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2. Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper. Lay the bagel pieces in an even layer on the cookie sheet.
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INGREDIENTS
2 T. margarine or oil
1 large onion
4 medium zucchinis, unpeeled and diced
1 stalk celery, diced
1 small potato, peeled and diced
3 cups chicken broth or ¼ cup consommé in 3 cups of water
5 tsp. salt, to taste Black pepper, to taste
2 frozen dill cubes or a few sprigs of fresh dill
8 cups water
DIRECTIONS
1. Saute all vegetables in margarine for at least 10 minutes.
2. Add chicken broth, salt, pepper and dill to the pot. Add approximately 8 cups of water.
3. Bring to a boil, then simmer for 30 minutes.
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Jewish mothers’ guilt is a famous reality. We never hear about Jewish fathers’ guilt, or Chinese mothers’ guilt. But as a group, mothers seem universally vulnerable to guilt. A little healthy guilt is nothing to be ashamed of.
“As opposed to some theories in secular psychology, which would have us believe that guilt is a negative emotion best eradicated, the Torah attitude is that guilt comes from a good place,” says Rivka Levitansky of Positive Parenting.
A Jewish mother views her family as her life’s calling, wants to do what’s right, and will constantly review what she’s done, thinking, planning and improving. We’re works in progress, and that’s a good thing.
Too Much Guilt?
In proper proportion, guilt can be the impetus to improve our behavior. Instead of demanding that our children “shape up already,” and reacting angrily when they misbehave or make poor choices, taking responsibility for our mistakes helps us recognize that we’re also imperfect.
But unlimited guilt is unhealthy. When people get stuck, wallowing in guilt, ruminating and beating themselves up, that’s unproductive.
“Charatah is only beneficial when it leads to action,” explains Mrs. Levitansky. If guilt is a catalyst to improve, to have that tough conversation, to make amends — then it has a place, albeit a limited one.
“The yetzer hara wants us to wallow in guilt,” she says. The greatest mission we have is raising the next generation of Klal Yisroel, and one of the most effective tools of the yetzer hara is to mire us in guilt, goading us to beat ourselves up and feel bad about ourselves, instead of tackling our next steps with joy and confidence.
In one extreme manifestation, the yetzer hara persuades us to feel guilty even about things out of our control — the toll illness is taking on a family, a child’s difficulties in school, or the family’s financial straits — even though we know we did nothing to cause the problem.
The antidote to this illogical guilt, says Mrs. Levitansky, is a strong connection to Hashem. Speaking to Hashem through tefillah or informally, focusing on the meaning of a bracha, or learning about bitachon all help to create and strengthen that bond. She recommends doing something specific to strengthen bitachon constantly, even if you already consider yourself a baalas bitachon. The more we feel Him in our lives on a daily basis, the more we will be able to focus on the ever-present chesed in our lives, and the more confidence we’ll have that our children’s lives are playing out exactly according to the plan Hashem has for them. That’s not to say we won’t ever hurt. Life can be painful, even devastating, but we can take comfort in the awareness that challenging circumstances are designed to help us complete our missions.
Fitting It All In
Mother’s guilt is universal, but we also seem to be feeling guilty about the same things. In researching this article, it became clear that many, if not most, mothers feel guilty for not giving their kids the individual time and attention they believe they need. However, everyone’s resources are limited. What’s the proper perspective on this conflict? And how can mothers maximize the amount of focused attention they give each child?
“Everyone knows intellectually that Hashem is the third partner in the creation of a child,” says Mrs. Levitansky, “but we tend to forget about Him. When the demands of life seem overwhelming, and we feel that we simply don’t
have the resources to give our kids what they need, bring Hashem in. ‘I can’t deal with this tantrum any longer, Hashem,’ a mother can say, or, ‘Help this teen finally feel satisfied.’
We don’t even have to wait until we feel overwhelmed to bring Hashem into the picture. Being connected daily brings great menuchas hanefesh into our lives.
“The more we concretize the idea that Hashem is here with us, and that He has provided us with exactly the tools we need, the calmer we can feel about what we are able to provide, and even about our limitations.”
Working within your limitations, recognize that even small things are great. You may not have time for as many ice cream dates as your kids would want, but how you parent in general will help them get past their temporary disappointment. A loving mother who gives lots of smiles, quick hugs, private winks, encouragement and acceptance, sending positive vibes that she thinks her kids are great (yes, even and especially the challenging ones!), is giving
Why I Feel Guilty
The things we feel guilty about are surprisingly universal — and contradictory. Seems we can feel guilty about anything, and we do! Here’s a list of common mother’s guilt-inducers. Do they look familiar?
I don’t read enough to my kids.
I don’t arrange enough playdates for my kids.
I should put more effort into cultivating proper eating habits instead of relying on the dual excuses of “I can’t fight community culture” and “There’s just too much going on.”
I make eating habits and nosh consumption too much of an issue.
Tznius seems rule-based to my daughter, not like a special privilege.
I didn’t stand up for my son when a rebbi mishandled a situation.
I’m not the one my preteen daughter confides in. She always turns to her friends first.
I don’t give the “good, easy” kids enough attention when I’m busy with therapies and prizes and incentives with the harder kids.
I can’t keep my phone in the drawer where it belongs for more than a few minutes.
Whatever I do, I can’t get supper on the table before the kids are home.
My kids fight too much and never want to eat what I make for supper.
Bedtime is always a struggle and leaves me feeling like I wasn’t my best self.
her children something more precious than a single, occasional block of uninterrupted time.
As kids get older, they do have a greater need for focused one-on-one attention. Still, aim for realistic and sustainable. You may not get to give each kid fifteen minutes every night, but can you give everyone ten minutes a couple of times a week?
And when you can’t, you can’t. Remind yourself that Hashem apportions our circumstances, so you can work on accepting our limitations with equanimity. It’s crucial to be aware of what you’re doing with your time (are you getting lost on the phone or computer?) but in cases of genuine inability, you can feel confident that you’re not required to do the impossible. A mother can only use the tools she has. At different stages of life, the resources at her disposal will be different. Optimal functioning for a just-back-towork kimpeturin will be very
YOU MAY NOT HAVE TIME FOR AS MANY ICE CREAM DATES AS YOUR KIDS WOULD WANT, BUT YOU CAN GIVE A WARM SMILE WHEN YOUR EYES
MEET ACROSS THE ROOM
different from a stay-at-home mother whose youngest is nine, and that’s fine.
All we are expected to do is the best we can, and then we don’t need to feel responsible for things that don’t work out as we’d hoped.
Sometimes, a mother’s toolkit will expand with age and experience, as she learns more about developmentally appropriate expectations, or that certain things are just a passing stage. She can also proactively expand her toolkit by taking a parenting class, or speaking to a rebbetzin, coach, or older, more experienced mother. When you know what to do, you’re less likely to engage in guilt or second guessing.
“But All the Good Mothers Let!”
Many mothers feel guilt related to the logistics and routines of parenting: not scheduling enough playdates, not allowing paint and glitter in the house, not getting their kids swimming/music/art lessons, not having supper on the table when the kids walk in, being too harried at bedtime. Some mothers feel guilty for not teaching healthy eating, and others feel guilty for stressing it too much; some feel guilty for being too strict, and others feel guilty for
SOME MOTHERS FEEL GUILTY FOR NOT TEACHING HEALTHY EATING, AND OTHERS FEEL GUILTY FOR STRESSING IT TOO MUCH; SOME FEEL GUILTY FOR BEING TOO STRICT, AND OTHERS FEEL GUILTY FOR BEING UNINVOLVED IN THEIR KIDS’ LIVES
being uninvolved in their kids’ lives.
What does that say about the way we think about parenting or about our expectations of ourselves?
According to Mrs. Levitansky, we give ourselves, and our choices, too much power. The Chofetz Chaim said that raising children is 100% siyata d’Shmaya The prohibition of glitter or the
allowance of junk food does not actually affect the outcome.
So does that mean that what I do doesn’t matter? No. It matters in the sense that a Yid always needs to make the best choices in the moment. We need to try our best, invest in hishtadlus, and push ourselves where we can, but ultimately, the success of our efforts depends on Hashem. Keeping this thought
top of mind can help us feel less frantic; we don’t have to be perfect. Our judgment doesn’t need to be right 100% of the time, and it’s okay to make mistakes. Mrs. Levitansky also reminds mothers that Hashem made kids resilient. Kids don’t fall apart from mistakes (unless they are overwhelmingly harsh, humiliating or frightening).
Let’s get this out there right now: You won’t do everything the way your kids want. Yes, they’ll complain. But it’s still okay to say no within reason. It’s important to recognize that limits and boundaries are among the greatest gifts we can give our children, though they may be unhappy temporarily. How will children learn to deal with
life’s disappointments if they never have practice?
Constructive guilt can only come from an internal realization that we can do better. Your kids’ attempts to guilt trip you are not a reliable barometer of when you’ve made a mistake.
But I Really Messed Up
Sometimes guilt is about things that are real, significant and have caused irreversible damage. There’s the mother who was afraid to stand up to a bullying rebbi, with the result being that her child abandoned Yiddishkeit, or the mother who missed the signs of a learning disability, which meant her child suffered for many years. How can a mother who made serious mistakes with grave repercussions keep herself from falling into the trap of unproductive guilt?
“We all make mistakes; it’s
“THE MOURNING INVOLVED IN RECOGNIZING OUR FAILINGS BECOMES TRULY MEANINGFUL WHEN WE USE THOSE EMOTIONS AS A SPRINGBOARD FOR REAL INTROSPECTION AND GROWTH”
called being human,” says Mrs. Levitansky.
When we’ve made mistakes, even serious ones, it’s important to remember that there’s still hashgacha at work. People have bechirah, Hashem has a Master plan, and we are responsible for our efforts, but not the outcome. Even when the outcomes seem like the worst imaginable, hope is never lost. If a child has strayed, the mother can always work on repairing the relationship. She can reach out, express love and apologize, if warranted. Just as Hashem loves us despite the aveiros we do every day, we can show love and acceptance even when we are pained by a child’s choices.
In the throes of guilt and regret, remember to return that pain to its source. Don’t
just daven for things to improve with your child, your parnassah and your health; include someone else’s child, parnassah and health. And most important of all, daven for the geulah sheleimah, the end to all pain. We don’t just want a better, more comfortable galus; we want an end to all our suffering. Daven for a time when we’ll understand why all the pain was necessary.
Daven for a time when the entire world will recognize Hakadosh Baruch Hu, our lives will be filled with unimaginable joy, and there will be no more tzaar in raising children.
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GITTY NEUMAN
Sunday rhymes with Funday, yet for some girl-families, Sundays can feel like anything but fun. Lacking structure and routine, the hours drag by slowly while the house goes topsy-turvy. With meals and snacks overlapping to combat the hunger-slash-boredom, crumbs of aggravation and annoyance sprinkle the day that never seems to end.
Yet in some households, even the adults look forward to Sunday, enjoying the reprieve from having to make early buses and from running tight schedules. Let’s hear from a sampling of mothers.
LEAH TESSLER
YES, I love Sundays
Tell us more about why you like Sundays.
After I got married, I lived in Eretz Yisroel, where Sunday is a school day like every other day. I would hear my friends and siblings back home talk about how much they dreaded their Sundays, and I was idealistic. “I would never let that become my attitude,” I promised myself. Teachers spend so much time with our children; why all this attitude about Sunday? When I moved back to America, I remembered my commitment and decided to make my Sundays a day of bonding with my children, not a countdown to Monday morning.
Do you do anything special on Sundays to keep time moving?
I plan an activity in advance and include all the supplies we’ll need in the previous week’s grocery order, such as Elmer’s glue, colorful Cheerios and modeling clay. Davening is not a rushed affair. I make a nice “Sunday Specials” breakfast, taking custom orders from my kids (sunny-side-up or scrambled, waffles or pancakes). Then we do an activity or craft. At approximately 2 p.m., Tatty comes home for lunch, and they show off their crafts. An hour later, the day feels like it’s starting to wind down, and that’s when we do homework and any school projects.
Any
cleanup tips you can share?
Honestly, there’s no point in doing much cleaning on Sunday. I try to do a basic cleanup on Motzei Shabbos and encourage my children to clean their bedrooms on Sunday morning so the mess stays contained. My cleaning help is scheduled for Monday at 8 a.m. That way, I’m calmer about the mess all Sunday.
What happens when the children whine, “I don’t know what to do”?
Hashem is really good to me. My kids are great at entertaining each other.
TZIVI MANDEL
NO, I do not like Sundays
Tell us more about why you don’t like Sundays.
Sunday is not a real day of the week. I try not to think about it during the rest of the week. In short, it’s a day that drags by very slowly, but then it’s suddenly 5 p.m., and I have no supper plans, no ingredients and a houseful of hungry children.
Do you do anything special on Sundays to keep time moving?
No, but I’m more than happy to hear any ideas. Whatever I’ve done in the past has backfired. At a certain point, we were big on inviting friends over, but my children weren’t keen on sharing their toys. Sharing the playroom was another issue, so we stopped that. For a while, we had a little day camp at our house, but we outgrew it eventually. I’ve sent some children to clubs and dance classes, but it was never very successful, and the kids who stayed home were resentful that they weren’t going. I never found the perfect formula.
Any cleanup tips you can share?
I prefer to have cleaning help on Sunday morning so that I can start the day with a clear mind. But then she comes back on Monday morning, because… well, Sunday happened in between.
What happens when the children whine, “I don’t know what to do”?
I try not to yell. I count to ten. I hide in my bedroom. I practice my breathing. I do all the things that parenting class taught me to do (and other things I’m not proud of, but that’s that).
SURY HASS
YES, I love Sundays
Tell us more about why you like Sundays.
I work during the week, and I’m too tired to spend quality time with my children after school. Plus, weeknights are for homework, and my children go to sleep pretty early, so the bedtime routine starts at 6 p.m. Sunday feels more like a fun day to me. We can do interesting activities, I can choose when to wake up, and there are no urgent phone calls that I have to make.
Do you do anything special on Sundays to keep time moving?
For my oldest daughter, I subscribed to the Bake Box, so once a month, she does a structured baking activity, most of which she can do independently. The rest of the time, we just make the day work for us. We don’t invite friends over; it’s just me and my children. As I make beds and do some laundry, the children hang out around me, squabbling or helping, as children usually do. We schmooze, we laugh and I try not to mussar them too much. So, to answer your question, the special thing I do is that I let things go, rather than being my more structured, workday self.
Any cleanup tips you can share?
No. Can you give me some? Cleanup is just one of the sad realities of life, similar to dirty diapers and ear infections. Mothers deal with cleanup on Sunday just like they do on other days. But I do try to leave the bulk of the cleanup for Sunday evening, rather than nagging the children to clean up all day long.
What happens when the children whine, “I don’t know what to do”?
Interestingly, they don’t say it as much on Sunday as they do on other days. I think it’s because I’m tuned in to them and spending time with them, one-on-one, so they don’t need to beg me to stop and look at them. My eight-year-old son comes home from cheder at 2:50 p.m., and when he comes home, there’s less fighting than usual. The kids who’ve been home with me all day are more emotionally satiated and don’t need me as much as they usually do, and that’s when I can focus on him.
RAIZY WEG
NO, I do not like Sundays
Tell us more about why you don’t like Sundays.
Sunday is a day when the clock feels like it’s moving backward. My children are early risers, and if I try to put them to sleep later on Motzei Shabbos, it backfires and results in an even earlier wake-up. So I’m stressed on Motzei Shabbos getting my children to bed on time, and then they wake me up with some sort of crisis or another early Sunday
FRIMMY KLEIN
YES, I love Sundays
Tell us more about why you like Sundays.
I’m not sure I love Sundays, but I definitely try to enjoy them.
I’ve accepted the fact that I won’t be moving mountains on Sunday. Sometimes, I won’t even manage to clear the breakfast table before suppertime. And that’s fine. Instead, I’ll just be on Sundays. I try to entertain my children; when I do, the day goes by faster. Also, I know that on Sunday nights I tend to be exhausted, so I do what I could
morning anyway. And it’s downhill from there. They’re bored, cranky and out of routine. It’s a loooong day.
Do you do anything special on Sundays to keep time moving?
I try to be a good mother, and I sometimes bake with them, but it usually ends with a huge mess, a million fights and all-around resentment. Sometimes we invite a friend over, but that doesn’t always work out either. It’s a risk. I’ve had kids’ friends asking to go home fifteen minutes after they’ve arrived. If I take my children out to the supermarket without any tantrums, that’s an accomplishment. All week long, my children are pretty decently behaved; they’re just not themselves on Sunday. Every Sunday.
Any cleanup tips you can share?
I wish! I can give you cleanup horror stories, not tips. My two-year-old is the best cleanup helper; he loves to
to make it work. Sunday suppers usually consist of sandwiches.
Do you do anything special on Sundays to keep time moving?
Initially, we tried doing courses like baking or dance classes, but these things only filled an hour of the day, so it wasn’t worth it.
My sister, who lives down the block, has four girls home on Sundays. For a while, the two “big girls” (mine and hers) ran a day camp every Sunday for their six younger siblings/cousins. They named it Camp Rainbow, and they composed a camp song with full-on choreography. The girls planned the program throughout the week and asked us to buy their supplies in advance.
The camp alternated between the two houses. While it officially was a two-hour activity, it typically lasted for three to four hours. That took away a big chunk of the day. Besides, the big kids felt like a million bucks, and the younger children had a blast. Once every few months, if they needed something extra, we would go on an outing, such as to the ice cream store or a local petting zoo. But
spritz water on every available surface. I should probably say: Don’t ask your kids for help with cleanup; you’re just begging for more fighting. Just do it yourself.
What happens when the children whine, “I don’t know what to do”?
On occasion, I whine with them. Except that I say, “I have so much to do.” Sometimes I tell them, “You can put away your toys,” but that doesn’t go over very well. I’ve learned to say, “What do you think you can do?” because if I offer suggestions, my kids will shoot them down, one by one.
“You can color.”
“No.”
“You can play with Legos.”
“N-o-o.”
“What about reading books?”
“I don’t want to.”
Then, when bedtime finally arrives, they say, “I want to color, play Legos and read books. You said I could!”
like all good ventures, this day camp eventually wound down.
Any cleanup tips you can share?
Usually, at least one camp activity involved food. They often used the Betty Crocker or decorated cookies. The big girls were officially in charge of cleanup, but we didn’t make a big deal if they didn’t do a thorough job. It was worth it, even if they left the mess.
Regarding house cleaning, I feel that cleaning help on Sunday is like shoveling snow while it’s still snowing. I have cleaning help on Monday morning.
What happens when the children whine, “I don’t know what to do”?
I smile and say, “It’s okay to be bored.” But deep down, I sometimes think that Sundays should be deleted from the calendar. Every Sunday feels like Isru Chag! Since I’m the mother, I do try to entertain them, even if it exhausts me. If I’m going to sit on the couch or do some laundry, they’re going to kvetch, and that doesn’t make things any easier.
ZELDY SCHWIMMER
YES, I love Sundays
Tell us more about why you like Sundays.
We’re a girl family, and we love our girls dearly. But it’s hard for me to pull off the morning scramble every single day. On Sunday, there are no buses to catch, no rushing to arrive at the school building before the bell rings. There’s a slower, easier mood in the house, and I love it. On school mornings, if my children sing while they brush their hair, I’ll tell them, ‘Remember to hurry!’ but on Sunday, I’ll sing along.
Also, school nights are a jumble of homework, assignments and projects. Sunday is long enough to feel like a day, even if my kids do some schoolwork at some point.
Do you do anything special on Sundays to keep time moving?
No, but I do a lot of shopping then. With a houseful of girls, there’s always something that we need, whether it’s accessories (lost hair bows), shoes (torn slippers), stockings (they disappear!), another black skirt, a robe, a brush, or whatever. Anyone can join me, and we get things done while passing the time.
Any cleanup tips you can share?
We don’t do any special cleanup on Sunday besides when it’s pre-Pesach season, which, coincidentally, starts at the beginning of Shevat. So that takes away a quarter of the year’s Sundays.
What
happens when the children whine, “I don’t know what to do”?
I offer suggestions. Sometimes we call a neighbor, and sometimes we send the bored child to play with a cousin the same age. For the most part, my children are content just to be. They lounge around the house, relax, talk on the phone and putter around the snack cabinet.
There you have it — many different opinions and attitudes. Rest assured, there’s someone who regards Sundays the same way you do. Nevertheless, we can all learn something from those who do things differently.
Happy Sunday! And maybe one day soon you’ll be able to call it Funday, too.
TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 4
DAVID WANOUNOUYEHUDA WEISSMANDL Town Council Town Council
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MICHAEL
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DAVID WANOUNOU Town Council
Do you ever have reactions that seem to come from nowhere? Someone makes a casual remark, and you blow up. Or maybe an innocuous gesture triggers a sense of defensiveness. Your reaction doesn’t seem to match the situation, and the people around you — or even yourself — are left thinking, “Where did that come from?”
Or maybe you can relate to the feeling of having not one inner voice, but many — and they all seem to contradict each other. A part of you says, “My diet starts now,” but then another part says, “Let me just have this cake.” Your conscience reminds you to be patient with your kids, but another part of you bypasses that thought, opens your mouth and hollers, “Would everyone stop yelling already?”
You’re not imagining it. You’ve got parts. A whole family of them.
Welcome to your IFS — your Internal Family System.
Your Internal Family
Having all these parts makes life feel complicated. Part of you wants one thing, but other parts want other things! But there’s good news: When you understand your parts, you can work with them. Instead of being full of conflicting feelings, you’ll feel a sense of inner calm that will allow you to navigate your life with serenity and act in ways that align with your highest values. It might sound intimidating, but don’t worry. Even when it feels like you’ve got whole armies of parts buzzing inside of you, they all fit into one of three categories: Exiles, Managers and Firefighters.
Exiles
As a little girl, Sara was bright, easygoing and good-natured. Despite her charm, Sara perceived that her younger sister Gittel attracted much more attention from her parents than she did. They exclaimed over her accomplishments and took a lot of interest in her life. In general, they gave her a lot of time and attention. Sara longed for that same
interest and esteem, but she never felt like she got it. She grew up feeling overlooked and unvalued.
As an adult, Sara has created a meaningful life for herself, but there’s a part inside of her that is still that unseen child. Since Sara, subconsciously, is determined to never again experience the pain of being unseen and unvalued,
her system exiled that feeling.
These parts called EXILES carry old pain that you couldn’t handle at the time, including feelings like shame, helplessness, hopelessness and the sense of being not good enough. How will her system make sure not to feel this pain every again? With the help of other parts, called MANAGERS
Managers
Managers are the boots on the ground. Their job is to protect you from feeling pain that was Exiled, and they take that job very seriously. They’ll triple-check every word you say so you don’t “sound stupid.” They’ll work overtime pleasing the people around you so you don’t get rejected. They’ll deter you from taking risks because it’s “safer that way.” They might even saddle you with chronic headaches so you’ll be too preoccupied to focus on your loneliness or fear.
Sara’s Managers are determined to make sure she won’t ever feel like she isn’t worthy. Her inner Managers implement the following strategies:
Avoiding rejection. Sara’s Managers accomplish this with an “I’m not capable” attitude. If anyone asks Sara’s opinion, she says, “I don’t know, ask someone else.” If she never shares of herself, she’ll never be rejected.
Self-criticism. Sara’s Managers constantly remind her that she wasn’t enough. If she remembers that, she’ll never be let down when others don’t value her.
Self-denial. Sara’s Managers maintain that she doesn’t have any needs. That way she can’t be hurt by others who don’t see or fulfill her needs.
These Managers mean well. And in the moment, they’re effective. They protect Sara. Yet by managing her this way, they create more of what they fear — leaving her feeling unseen.
Except that they also don’t allow her to grow, accomplish, flourish and live her best life.
Firefighters
Those Managers would faithfully do their job forever, but it doesn’t work. Inevitably, the painful feelings they’re trying so hard to prevent are triggered.
After a long day at work and managing the family, Sara is desperate for some adult company. When her husband finally walks through the door, she turns to greet him — only to see him talking on the phone.
“Hi!” he mouths, pointing apologetically at the phone. “I’ll be off in a second.”
Her warm greeting evaporates, and Sara explodes. “You’re always on the phone!” she snaps. “You never talk to me!”
When the Exiles are triggered, and Managers are not successful at preventing the pain, the Firefighters come charging in, sirens blaring and hoses spraying. Their one mission is to put out the fire of pain. Right now. At all costs.
Firefighters may show up as outbursts of anger or snappishness. Other times they take the form of numbing or distraction: overeating, endless scrolling, excessive shopping or even addictions. And sometimes they turn inward as a harsh inner critic, with shameful thoughts or by shutting down completely.
Sara didn’t explode in reaction to her husband being on the phone. She exploded in reaction to all those feelings held by the Exiles. The old pain of being disregarded rose to the surface. Deep
Their job is to protect you from pain, and they take that job very seriously. They’ll triple-check every word you say so you don’t “sound stupid.” They’ll work overtime pleasing the people around you so you don’t get rejected
No Stopping the Firefighters
One year on Erev Pesach, when my house was spotless and ready for the Seder, something started to burn, and the smoke alarm went off. A family member panicked and dialed 911. We tried canceling the call, but it was too late. No less than six firefighters showed up — their coats and gear dripping wet from the pouring rain, big boots caked in mud. We begged, “Please, maybe just one of you come in and check it out, you’ll see it’s nothing.” But there was no negotiating. They swarmed in, moving things out of the way, stomping through every room, and overturning all the perfect Pesach prep just to make sure everything was “safe.” They left behind a wreck with their rescue. Firefighters are on a mission, and there’s no stopping them.
inside, that little girl is still longing for someone to truly see her.
Firefighters mean well, and they are effective — in the moment. Sara was distracted by her anger, and she didn’t have to face her pain. But the problem hasn’t been solved; on the contrary, Sara ended up with even more of the old pain by creating more damage in her life.
In moments of reflection, Sara realizes that her husband meant nothing personal, and was in fact also looking forward to spending time with her at the end of the day.
Sara doesn’t understand her own reactions. Sometimes she wonders if there is any hope for her.
The answer is yes. There is definitely hope.
Bringing IFS into Practice
In IFS, the goal is for the Self — our calm, compassionate core — to lead our internal system. We want Self to be in the driver’s seat of our life, rather than our protectors who are running the show.
When we notice a behavior taking over — something reactive, avoidant or controlling — it’s a sign that a protector part has moved into the driver’s seat and is not letting us see the situation clearly from Self. When this happens, the first step is to unblend from this protector so we can
see it for what it truly is, with Self once again behind the wheel.
Through a gentle process referred to as F1–F6, we begin by unblending and turning toward these protectors with curiosity and compassion instead of judgment. Rather than fighting them for the effect they have on our lives, we learn to befriend them — recognizing that each one has a positive intention. Every protector is simply trying to keep us safe from the pain of old wounds — the Exiles — that were once too much to bear.
As we get to know these protectors, a few questions can help us understand their role:
“What are you afraid would happen if you didn’t make me do this?”
“How are you trying to help me?”
When these questions are asked with genuine curiosity — without frustration or blame — we know that Self is leading the process.
Once we see what a protector is guarding, we can gently turn toward the deeper pain, shame or fear beneath it with love and compassion. In time, this leads to a profound unburdening, where the old emotional weight is released on a somatic level, and the space it occupied is refilled with what was lost — confidence, connection, courage and playfulness.
As protectors relax and trust the Self’s leadership, we gain the freedom to live with clarity, calm and alignment with our true values.
Self at the Wheel
With IFS, you can learn to create a new reality. Instead of the inner chaos of conflicting parts and hiding feelings, you can live with organized self-direction.
After a long day at work and managing the family, Sara is desperate for some adult company. When her husband finally walks through the door, she turns to greet him — only to see him talking on the phone.
“Hi!” he mouths, pointing apologetically at the phone. “I’ll be off in a second.”
This time, there’s a quiet center inside of her that allows Sara to turn toward her Exile and Firefighter with compassion. Now she can show up for her husband with patience and understanding.
That calm presence is you. The real you we call Self.
When we notice a behavior taking over — something reactive, avoidant or controlling — it’s a sign that a protector part has moved into the driver’s seat and is not letting us see the situation clearly
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An IFS Journey
You and Him
Self doesn’t just open space for your own healing; it opens space for a connection to Hashem.
When your Firefighters are running wild — yelling, numbing, distracting — it’s almost impossible to feel Hashem’s presence. But when Self leads, the noise quiets. The heart softens. You can sense that you’re not alone.
Take a simple example: You’re about to snap at your child for leaving their stuff all over the floor again. Or maybe you’re about to bash yourself for saying or doing something you wish you hadn’t. Or the anxiety starts to spiral, dragging you into every worst-case scenario your mind can find.
But you pause. You notice the part rising. You breathe and work your way through it. And in that moment, you feel empowered — connected, steady. You feel the quiet, magical power of IFS bringing you back home to yourself.
It’s in those Self-led moments that davening feels more real and gratitude flows more naturally. Even everyday conversations become infused with a little more love and patience.
Because the moment you turn inward with calm, compassion and openness, you’re no longer just reacting. You’re present. You’re aware. You’re connected. And in that stillness, you can feel Hashem’s presence more deeply.
Self isn’t just another part; it’s your core. When Self leads, the inner chaos dies down. The Managers put down their clipboards, and the Firefighters put down their hoses. Even the Exiles — those tender parts that have been hidden for so long — begin to peek out, ready to be held by you, because you are now finally ready to face them, hold them and heal them.
Self feels different. It’s calm. Clear. Compassionate. Courageous. Connected. And it gives you something magical: choice.
Instead of being hijacked, you can pause, breathe and make smart choices.
When Self leads, you’re no longer running from pain. Managers and Firefighters work overtime to avoid pain, but Self has the courage to turn toward it. That’s what
makes healing possible. Challenges that felt impossible still feel challenging, but can be faced with courage and clarity and a sense of “I can do this.”
This calm, secure Self is not a fantasy. It’s who you already are and who you’ve always been, before the shame, before the chaos, before the parts had to take over.
Let your Self lead the way into a life of calm, connection and quiet strength.
Rivky Teitelbaum is a licensed IFS practitioner and Mental Health Counselor who also leads supervision groups and runs a referral program. Her 2025–2026 IFS course begins on November 4, 2025, available in person and via Zoom or phone. To listen to a free class or to register, please call 845470-5535.
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Napkins of your choice
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Mod-Podge (or runny Elmer’s glue thinned with a bit of water)
Instructions
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Step 2: Let the surface dry completely.
Step 3: Cut out designs from the napkins of your choice.
Step 4: Position your cutouts on the canvas.
Step 5: Use a paintbrush or your finger to apply Mod-Podge or glue to the back of your napkin cutouts. Place them onto your canvas, then gently brush over the top of the cutouts with more Mod-Podge or glue to seal it and create a beautiful, glossy finish.
Step 7: (Optional) Add some rhinestones for a finishing touch.
Step 8: Let your masterpiece dry, and hang it with pride!
Same fun techniques, more ideas!
Choose your favorite character, and create your own masterpiece.
Add your name to the canvas to make the design more personal.
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• Real Estate Closing Coordinator, full-time, in-office position, coordinate real estate closings, review documents, identify and resolve issues, communicate with clients and lenders, 1-3 years of experience in title coordination, Excellent communication and organizational skills, 75k – 90k, Monsey
• Email Marketing Specialist, for a food service facilities company, Develop and execute targeted email campaigns, create engaging content, manage email blasts, and analyze metrics to optimize performance and drive conversions, full-time position, 75k+, Monsey
• Private Label Manager, for a food service facilities company, Develop and manage private label product lines, conducts market research, collaborates with cross-functional teams, and drives sales and profitability through strategic product management and supplier negotiations. Full-time position, 75k plus commission, Monsey
• Financial Analys, female office, expertise in financial modeling, budgeting, forecasting, cash flow management, reporting, and data visualization.
Key requirements include 1+ year of accounting experience, strong Excel skills, attention to detail, and financial analysis expertise, 70k - 80k plus a comprehensive benefits package, Monsey
• Nursing Home Biller, 2+ yrs relevant medical billing experience required, 70k - 85k, Monsey
• Hands-on Operations Manager, for a Real Estate Service Provider and Compliance Company specializing in building code compliance and violation resolutions, responsibilities include Managing workflows and staff, coordinating violation resolution processes, ensuring regulatory compliance, Communicating with clients and stakeholders, 65k – 100k, Monsey
• Executive Assistant for Real Estate office, 2+ yrs. of executive assistant or administrative experience (real estate, property management, or finance background a plus). Exceptional organizational and multitasking skills. Strong written and verbal communication abilities. Advanced proficiency in Microsoft Office Suite and Google office. Experience with property management software a plus (Apfolio). Ability to work independently, 75k+, Monsey
• Real Estate Survey Liaison/Title Specialist, 2+ years experience with survey reading, title examination, ensuring survey and title accuracy. Strong knowledge of land surveys, title reports, Excellent analytical and communication skills, 60 – 75k, Monsey
• Financial Planning Associate, prepare financial applications, follow up with clients, and develop strong relationships, with opportunities for growth into client consultations –ideal for someone with 1-3 years of experience in financial planning or a related field, 60k+, Monsey
• Nursing Home Accounts Payable Rep, with QuickBooks experience to manage and process accounts payable transactions, ensuring timely payments and maintaining accurate financial records, 60k – 70k, Monsey
• Nursing Home Billing Tracker, manage and optimize billing processes, ensure compliance, and improve revenue cycle efficiency, 60k-70k, Monsey
• Case Manager, Full-time position, guide individuals with social services, assess client needs, provide counseling and support, connect clients with resources, advocate for their interests, and monitor progress. Requirements include experience in case management or social work, strong communication skills, and knowledge of community resources, 60k – 70k, Monsey
• IT Field Tech with 1+ year of IT experience and A+ certification. Responsibilities include on-site technical support, troubleshooting, and hardware maintenance. Must be able to travel to Brooklyn once a week. 50k - 60k, Monsey
• IT Service Coordinator/ Dispatcher, manage and coordinate IT service requests, incidents, and problems. Excellent communication skills, technical knowledge, and ability to
prioritize and manage multiple tasks, work in a fast-paced environment, 50k+, Monsey
• Bookkeeper/ Office Admin, 2+ yrs experience with QuickBooks Online and Microsoft Office, $40/hr. 32-hour work week, Monsey
• Customer Service Lead, deliver exceptional customer experiences in a fast-paced environment. Strong leadership, communication, and customer-focused skills required, fulltime position, $35/hr., Monsey
• FI Coordinator, assist with setting up Self-Direction budgets for eligible individuals, coordinating services, communicating with individuals and parents, and managing staff payments and invoice reimbursements. Key responsibilities include budget setup, service coordination, and ensuring timely payments and reimbursements. 6 hours daily, $30 - $35/hr., Monsey
• Comfort Health Female Care Manager, Provide outreach and enrollment services for children eligible for NY State’s Children’s Health Home program, BA or MA degree, 1 year of office experience, $35/hr. flexible hours, Monsey
• Integrated Health Care Manager, support the client with government eligibility programs, strategizing with family, collaborating with therapists, psychiatrists, and hospital when applicable, and just be there with a kind heart, warm smile, and a message of hope. Experience in mental health and care management required with ability to connect with others from various backgrounds. A car a plus, $35/hr.+, Monsey
• Payroll Coordinator for Homecare agency, ensure that all timekeeping data is accurate and complete, and that payroll is processed in compliance with agency policies and state regulations. Serve as a liaison between field staff and administrative departments to resolve discrepancies, request documentation, and ensure timely, accurate payroll execution. Full-time position, $30/hr., Monsey
• Software Implementation Specialist, female office, implement, support, and document enterprise software solutions. Have technical writing and documentation skills, proficiency in Microsoft Office, strong communication and interpersonal skills, responsibility, and integrity, with database knowledge, full-time position, $30/hr.+, Monsey
• ABA Authorization Secretary, female office, authorization or insurance experience required, to manage authorization requests, insurance verifications, and provider credentialing processes, ensure timely submission of required documentation and maintain compliance with insurance guidelines. 25+ hours weekly, $30/hr.+, Monsey
• Outside Salesman wanted for luxury design bedroom company to work with clients, provide expert advice, and sell custom wood panels, upholstered walls, beds, mirrors, and lighting. 2+ years sales experience in furniture or interior design. Strong design knowledge and communication skills, Competitive base salary plus commission, Monsey
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HELP WANTED
AMAZING OPPORTUNITY!
Looking for a female speech therapist in a great environment with flexible hours. 845 352 3307 ext 119 resumes@ohreducation.org
PART TIME NANNY
Looking for a nanny in the afternoons, please reach out to 845 293 2312 for details.
150+ JOB OPENINGS!
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BCBA POSITION
ABA Riders is looking to hire a BCBA. Well-paid, flexible hours. Contact Rikki 347930-9736/info@abariders. com.
WORK FROM HOME
Great opportunity to manage your own business from home. No experience needed, no computer necessary. Huge potential to grow big. Call: 438.529.1216
THE JOB YOU'RE LOOKING FOR!
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• Free Quotes
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• Specializing in Furniture
WORK FROM HOME
Let your extra time bring you some extra cash. You'll absolutely enjoy it and feel fulfilled! For more about this wonderful business and how it works Call 845-920-ALOE (2563) Hatzlucha!
OFFICE IN SV IS LOOKING TO HIRE
A growing agency is looking to hire lead service coordinators. Lots of potential for the right individual. Send your resume to hr@ccoservices.org
FULL TIME SECRETARY
Local Spring Valley Office
Seeking Female Professional, Motivated And Detail Oriented Full Time Secretary. Must Have Familiarity In Quickbooks & Excel. Very Pleasant & Heimishe Atmosphere. Please Email Resume To Hiringnow259@ Gmail.Com
TITLE PROCESSOR
Busy title company in Monsey seeking an experienced title processor. Must be detailoriented, and organized. Salary up to $100K. Please email a resume to: info@ acqntitle.com
OPEN ROLES!
B&C Industries, a fastgrowing packaging distribution company in Lyndhurst, NJ, is expanding across multiple teamsSales, Customer Service and IT. We offer a dynamic work environment and opportunities for growth. Located just 45 minutes
from Monsey, we're eager to connect with motivated individuals. For more information, please email us at hr@bcpkg.com
MONSEY CPA FIRM
Accounting Firm in the Monsey Area looking to hire a full time in office accounting position. Must have some prior experience in public accounting. email resume to team@oberlanderandco.com
JOB OPPORTUNITY
An office is hiring a fulltime secretary. Office experience is required, along with basic QuickBooks knowledge, strong phone and communication skills. Please send your resume to JobTo12345@gmail.com
CLINICAL COORDINATOR
Join our home care agency as a full-time Clinical Coordinator in the Nursing Department! You’ll serve as a key liaison between the nursing team, caregivers and families as well as be responsible for updating RN documents. Candidates must have some medical office experience and familiarity with medical terminology. We provide training, excellent salary/benefits package and supportive work environment. Send resume to: hiring@hamaspikcare.org
JOBS AVAILABLE
Part-time & Full-time jobs available. Email TopPartTimeJobs@ gmail.com
SCHEDULING COORDINATOR
Growing homecare agency is looking to hire an organized and compassionate individual to coordinate personalized care for individuals in need. Candidates must be available full time, have at least 1 year of office experience, excellent communication skills and strong problem-solving skills. We provide training, excellent salary/benefits package and supportive work environment. Send resume to hiring@hamaspikcare.org
AP ASSOCIATE
Broad Management Group (Montvale, NJ) is seeking a dedicated team member to join our Accounts Payable Department. Efficiently manage the accounts payable process for select properties. Strong attention to detail and organizational skills required; entry-level or some experience welcome. We offer a warm, friendly environment, growth potential, and great benefits. Please submit your resume to Sengel@broadmg.com
PAYROLL/HR SPECIALIST
Nursing home group in Monsey is hiring for a Payroll/HR Specialist. Applicant should be very driven. HR or payroll experience is a plus. Please send resume to jobs@ advancedhealthcs.com
REQUIREMENTS:
Resides in the Tri-State Area
Experience in HR
Familiarity with HR employee relations
GENEROUS PTO PACKAGE
OPPORTUNITY FOR GROWTH
WORK FROM HOME OPTION
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DIRECT SUPPORT
PROFESSIONAL
Day service program seeking a DSP to work one-on-one with highly independent individuals in the greater Monsey area. Experience supporting individuals with developmental disabilities preferred. Driver’s license required. Full-time or parttime. E:cpavel@maaluh.org.
C:845-774-1422 #133
AMAZING OPPORTUNITY!
Are you an office professional with strong leadership ability? Do you have solid experience within the healthcare industry? Is creating systems and making operational changes your specialty? Reach out to hear more about this amazing opportunity! rivky@ theprimestaffing.com
DIRECT SUPPORT
PROFESSIONAL
Seeking a caring and energetic employee to work as a DSP with toddlers in an Early Intervention classroom. High school diploma required. Relevant experience is a plus. Monday – Friday; 9:45 AM - 12:30 PM. Contact: position@ hamaspikrockland.org or 845-503-0209.
ACCOUNTING
Established office in Monsey is seeking a full-time female staff member for accounting position. Willing to train the right candidates. Perfect for someone who loves numbers, is detail-oriented, and eager to grow in a professional environment. Please email resume to monseyjob123@ gmail.com
GREAT OPPORTUNITY
Are you an organized and tech-savvy individual with a knack for effective problem-solving? This might be the opportunity you're looking for! We are seeking a dedicated Dispatcher to join an IT company. reach out to esti@theprimestaffing.com
HELP WANTED
Do you thrive on taking full ownership of your work? We are seeking a confident individual with exceptional communication and delegation skills and a passion for plumbing to join a plumbing company as a Project Manager. reach out to esti@theprimestaffing.com
GREAT OPPORTUNITY
Do you like to get things done? Seeking a strong, capable and very committed candidate with a minimum of 2 years of office experience. reach out today to hear about our opportunities. Email: Esther@theprimestaffing. com
NOW HIRING
Mortgage Company Hiring f/t Loan Processor. Experience required. Candidates must be detail-oriented, organized, and have great communication skills. Email resume to lbreier@ccm.com.
JOB OPPORTUNITY
Girls school seeking a qualified tutor to join our Title I team. This position involves working with middle school students in small math groups. To apply, please call 917-891-7208 or email mklyne@chedermonsey.org
HIRING – PROCESSORS AND LOAN OFFICER ASSISTANTS
Capital M is seeking to recruit experienced mortgage loan processors and loan officer assistants to support our loan processing operations. Join our team for an exciting opportunity to grow in the industry. Apply today: hr@ thecapitalm.com or 845-6373031.
PROPERTY ACQUISITION SPECIALIST
A prominent real estate company is looking for a property acquisition specialist. The right candidate is someone with previous experience in acquiring and negotiating successful deals in a few different states. reach out to hear more about this amazing opportunity! rivky@ theprimestaffing.com
NOW HIRING: LOAN OFFICERS IN TRAINING
Join a Winning Team. Learn from the Best. Build Your Career. We’re growing—and we’re looking for motivated individuals ready to build a long-term career in mortgage lending. This is a unique opportunity to be personally mentored by a top-producing Senior Loan Officer in a supportive, hands-on environment designed to help you succeed—no matter your background or experience level. �� Now Hiring: Loan Officers in Training. What You’ll Get: One-on-one mentorship from experienced industry professionals Practical, results-oriented training Ongoing support from a collaborative team No prior sales or mortgage
experience required—we provide full training Proven systems, modern tools, and strong growth potential. We’re seeking dedicated, hardworking individuals who are serious about developing their skills and achieving success in this field. Email: loanofficersintraining@ gmail.com Your next career move starts here.
JOB OPPORTUNITY
Have HR/recruiting experience? Earn $65K+ parttime & $100k+ for full-time! Email ProRecruiterNY@ gmail.com to apply.
HIRING STYLIST
High-end fashion boutique in Monroe hiring a Stylist. Love fashion and have an eye for fit? Email hiring932@gmail Must have transportation
BROKER FOR OPWDD SELF-DIRECTION
Share 24/7 seeks an experienced female with at least 3 years of office experience for a broker position in our Self Direction program.Training provided. We are looking for someone who is personable, detail oriented, has excellent computer, phone, and communication skills. This is a full-time position, Monday – Friday. For consideration, please send your resume to CJKaplan@chesed247.org or call 845-354-3233 ext. 1120.
HELP WANTED
Looking for a lady/girl from 4:15 pm -5:15 pm to watch a 9 year old boy in his house. (Old Nyack Turnpike area) 845-426-2199 Ext 1676
LOCATION: MONSEY, NY
SALARY: 160K - 200K
JOB DESCRIPTION:
We’re seeking a seasoned Chief Real Estate Officer to drive strategic growth and optimize commercial real estate initiatives, reporting directly to the company owner. You’ll lead commercial real estate operations, development, and management, leveraging your significant commercial real estate management experience, strong analytical and problem-solving skills, and ability to lead cross-functional teams and foster key stakeholder relationships.
JOB REQUIREMENTS:
• 5+ years of significant commercial real estate management experience
• Proven track record of driving strategic growth and optimizing commercial real estate initiatives
Classifieds
COORDINATOR POSITION
Local office in Monsey is looking to hire a part-time/ Full-time Coordinator. Friday is a must. The candidate should have prior office experience. Great salary with lots of potential. Email your resume to Joboffersmonsey58@gmail. com
QA COORDINATOR POSITION
A local Monsey office is seeking a detail-oriented QUALITY ASSURANCE Coordinator to conduct quality audits and organize projects to comply with company policies. 6+ hours a day. This is a fantastic opportunity for a motivated individual to learn and grow with a supportive team. Full training provided. Great pay and benefits. Email your resume to: Myofficejobmonsey@gmail. com
GREAT JOB OPPORTUNITY!
Looking for a full-time girl/ woman for a fast-paced office position to process and submit transactions efficiently. Must be organized, detail oriented and be able to multi-task. Please email resume to jobs@ ezdriveny.com
EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT/ PROCESSOR
Looking for an executive assistant / processor for a life insurance company. Prior experience with life insurance required. License not required. Located in the Monsey area. Well paid. Email monseyjob26@gmail. com
LOGISTICS MANAGER WANTED
Non-profit organization seeks a full-time Logistics Manager to join their predominantly female office. Candidate must be detail-oriented and organized with exceptional communication skills. To apply, please send your resume to monseynonprofit@ gmail.com.
CHILDCARE
BABYSITTER
A Heimishe Women and an Experienced infant Nurse and Babysitter is available for bookings please call 845.637.6642 Ref Available upon request.
Bobby Gross is now accepting toddlers ages 15-22months in the Twin/Laura area. Monday-Friday. Warm atmosphere. Lots of years of experience. 845-659-5437
PLAYGROUP
Starting after Y"T. Care and warmth for your toddler. Breakfast & Lunch provided. Located in S. Monsey area. Call/Text Neshy Brull 845502-0058
TREAT YOUR TODDLER
To the most amazing playgroup! Warm experience
teachers, spacious classrooms (extended hours and transportation available) 3 slots opening after Yom Tov. Call 914-391-3686
SERVICES
FRUM BABY NIGHT NURSE
Baby night nurse available. Many references. 914-4500538
ARROWSMITH
Is your child still in the same place after all that tutoring?Join Arrowsmith, a research based program that strengthens the brain and eliminates learning disabilities. Call Mrs Feuer 914-260-6449
MAKEUP BY BLIMY
10 Years of Beauty Expertise. Offering makeup application courses. Call/Text 347452-5084 Instagram @ makeupbyblimy
MASSAGE THERAPY
--In The Comfort of Home-*Swedish *Deep Tissue *Lymph *Craniosacral Therapy Call Sarah: 845596-1373
EARPIERCING
12 years experience. Wide selection. Call/text: 845-5387986
NEW WEBSITE?
Get your new beautiful website done hassle free! Affordable pricing! Satisfaction guaranteed! Email: sales@ stratadigitalgroup.com
AYIN HORAH
The renowned Rebetzin Aidel Miller from Yerushalayim will remove Ayin Horah over the phone. Call till 5:00 PM: 718.689.1902 or 516.300.1490
ONE MAN BAND
A heimishe geshmakeh one man band available for your sheva bruches/bar mitzva/ etc. please call (845)-828-1378
PETTICOATS FOR RENT!
Complete your look!
Adult & kids petticoats for rent, Beautiful floral wreath & crown headpieces for rent, Adorable kids jewelry, and more! Call 845-5020153 leave msg or 845746-7248
CUSTOM PHOTO ALBUMS
We specialize in custom Photo Albums, Chosson, Wedding, etc. Also professional Photo Editing, many years of experience. Special rate for photographers. Call: 347.563.5153
WHOLESALE FISH
Buy by the case & save. Baby & Regular Salmon. Hashgucha Volove Rav. Free delivery to your home. Call Eli: 516-270-6755
SWIMMING LESSONS/ LIFEGUARD COURSES
Male and female Yiddishspeaking instructors available. Accepting OPWDD Self-Direction 845-578-1888
FREE WEEKLY DRAWING
Win free music lessons for one year! Call hotline 718435-1923
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SUPERPATCH SUPPORT
Want More Energy, Focus, Stress Relief, Pain Management, Better Sleep? Drug Free, Chemical Free, Pregnancy Safe! TESTIMONIALS. INTERVIEWS. CALL 929992-4453 Option 2,2,3. First time customers 25% off. $69 same day pickup
PHOTO EDITING
Professional photo editing, many years of experience. Special rates for photographers. Also specializing in Custom photo albums Chosson, wedding, etc. Photo Dreams 347.563.5153
PHOTO EDITING
Professional photo editing, many years of experience. Special rates for photographers. Also specializing in Custom photo albums Chosson, wedding, etc. Photo Dreams 347.563.5153
SHAIMOS
PROFESSIONAL COACH
Heal your life. Heal your body. Heal your past. Experienced. Successful. Personable. Expertise in anxiety, panic and trauma. Mrs. Esty Frank 7188518636
Unbeatable price, flawless results! Get a full-body laser hair removal session for just $390 at Laser by Tako in Nyack, NY. Don’t just take our word for it—read our glowing reviews! Call/Text 551-2865509
BUILD STRENGTH, GRACE & CONFIDENCE!
Enhance core strength, increase energy levels, and cultivate body awareness with Pilates. Join us to experience the transformative benefits of Pilates for a stronger, more balanced physique. New! Pilates meets weight training for a class that sculpts, energizes, and strengthens every muscle — perfect for all levels! Liebe Nissen 845275-1035
TRUSTED TUTOR
Experienced teacher builds confidence and skills in all elementary subjects. Patient, proven, supportive. Call 845608-0046
STYLE.BYLEAH
For all your hair and wig needs. Call/Text 9735448226 Certified Hair+Blush Academy
SUBSTITUTE
AVAILABLE
Experienced Subsitute And Former Playgroup teacher Now available to sub playgroup and preschool. References available. Please call or text 845-248-9610
MARKETING
Branding | Packaging Design | Shopify Design. UGC Videos | Influencers | META Ads. Email: hi@shapes.nyc
PROFESSIONAL ORGANIZER
Would you like to set up your home well? An organized home makes an organized mind and easy to find! Call 845-445-9136
HIARCUTTING/ HAIRSTYLING
$10 haircuts. $20 styling. Leahle 845-422-2859
GARTLECH
we fix knitted & crochet Gartlech & make beautiful professional fringes. We also teach how to knit & crochet. call: 917-414-3281
ODDS & ENDS
GOITA SHADCHUNIS HOTLINE
Are you looking to place your cleaning lady or are you in need of one? Call the Goita Shadchunis Hotline free of charge 716-623-4762
BEDREST
Support group for women on bedrest. Call to register 718550-8826.
GOWNS
MATERNITY GOWN RENTAL
Georgeous selection of maternity gowns affordable prices all sizes...New! Also accepting gowns on consignment. Please call/ text 646-334-6582
GOWN FOR SALE
Gorgeous silk women's light beige gown for sale. Size 4-6. Call or text 845-659-1848.
KLEINFELD GOWN
All lace size 4 height - 5.1" for sale. Please text 347-768-1894
MECHUTANESTA GOWN
Beautiful Taupe
Gown for sale. size 16. 845.502.6491
GOWNS
3 adorable green velvet handsmoked little girls gowns, one teen green velvet gown, and black ladies size 14 maxi gown. 845-354-6942
CHILDRENS GOWNS
Magnificent custom white kids gowns for sale/rent sizes 3-16, brand new condition. 347-409-8356
4-6~ Black Size 10 ~ Black Size 2 ~ Dark Green Size 0 ~ Green Size 2-4 ~ White/ Green Size 2-4 ~ Grey/ Silver Size 2-4. 845-5026491 (Text Preferred)
LOST
Gold bangle with pink rubies on Main St Oct 22 , 845-5965157
Lost something? Found something? The Daily Return: Call/text: 845-538-0193, Email: monseydailyreturn@gmail. com
Fur shawl on Maple & 306 area 845-662-7055
FOUND
Pandora Ring Breslov shul Simchas Torah 845-662-7055
bracelet at the Butrimovitz/ Sturman wedding, Oct. 20, in Valley Terrace. Call 845356-5988.
License plate on corner Grandview & Union 845-2741142
Red scooter on Nesher Ct 845356-2680
Umbrella, 3 wheel small scooter 845-659-9482
FREE GIVEAWAYS
Brochos cards for Moshiach's arrival at moshiachbrochoscards@ gmail.com. Endorsed by Gedolei Yisroel
China closet Medium brown great condition 845-4260864
LATE ADS
ABA PARA
Looking for an ABA para to work with a 9 year old during the day. Well paid. MUST DRIVE. Contact Pessy 845828-2570, office@abariders. com
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SPEECH THERAPISTS WANTED
Local Monsey health center is looking to hire Yiddish and English-speaking speech therapists! Join our team and make a difference. Flexible hours and great pay. Please send your resume to hr@ cmadc.com
SCULPTED STRENGTH STUDIO
Emsculpt Therapy strengthens amd rebuilds muscles, improves bladder, control. Pain free non invasive. & Diastasis Recti. No side effects. 914-461-7784.
F/T POSITION
2 BEDROOM APT HAVERSTRAW
Large, renovated 2-bedroom apartment available in Haverstraw. Walking distance to multiple shuls. New appliances included! Text/ WhatsApp: 914-523-4308.
FULL-TIME OFFICE
ASSISTANT – AIRMONT, NY
School Administrative office is looking for a full time female worker. Candidate should have minimum 2 years of bookkeeping or accounting experience, excellent communications skills, detail oriented and great management skills. Email resume to schooljobqb@gmail.com.
SAW A YESHUAH
I did the segula of ןב איתמ אנת שרח and saw a yeshua.
TAMPA FLORIDA
Big new 4 bedroom house for rent. Chassidishe community, near shul and kosher food. $2375 a month. Also available for the winter season. Call 845-325-2547
GREAT OPPORTUNITY!
Master Faster has opportunities available for after-school hours! Reach out to c.gross@masterfaster. org or call 845-477-5000 extension 106.
NEWBORN PHOTOGRAPHY
Attention new Mommies! Treat yourself to a relaxing newborn photoshoot. Call S.M. Rosenberg 845-394-4871
Fast-paced building expediting agency in Airmont seeking a full-time office assistant. Candidates must be detail-oriented, reliable, and efficient, with excellent communication and multitasking skills. Confident and efficient verbal communication are essential, as responsibilities include handling administrative hearings by phone. Training provided. Competitive pay commensurate with experience. Full-time, onsite position (not remote). Send resume to hiring@ markhertzco.com
FOR RENT - PARKVIEW, SPRING VALLEY
Spacious 2,200+ sq. ft. freshly painted & scraped, movein ready townhouse-style condo on two floors! Features 4 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms, and numerous upgrades throughout. Prime location close to shopping, and conveniences. Only $3,200/ month. Call Leon Klein at 845-774-9052
NEW HEMPSTEAD (UNION RD) - FOR RENT
Brand New spacious 6 Bedroom Duplex Call Lic RE Broker Joseph Kohn 347−260−8224
NEW HEMPSTEAD (UNION RD) - FOR RENT
Brand New Spacious and Sunny 3 Bedroom Apt. Call Lic RE Broker Joseph Kohn 347−260−8224
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NYS Assemblyman 97th district
Senior advisor to Assemblyman Aron Wieder
Senior advisor to Congressman Mike Lawler
Rockland County Legislature
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