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By Judy Smith e are doing a study in my Sunday School class that is titled “Extreme Makeover”. When you hear that we think about the reality shows on TV that has the same themes. Some of them are about home makeovers and some are about bodily makeovers. I asked my class why were we so drawn to these type’s of shows. There were various answers like curiosity, how they do it or why they do it. Other answers were that we like to see good things happen to people who deserve it. Another answer was that we always want change in ourselves. When we see it happening to others than maybe there is hope for us. I think that falls along the same line as “New Years Resolutions”. We honestly don’t make them with the intention of breaking them. I usually do break mine though and that keeps me from making them. But if I am honest, I would love to make them and know that I would keep them. Why? Because there is always something about me that I want to improve. I want to get better control of my time, I want to be better organized, etc., etc., and yes, I want to lose weight. I know better than to put that one down. Those are the outward things though and as you can imagine, that is not what we are talking about in Sunday school. It is who we are inside. There are several articles in this issue that I hope affects you outwardly and inwardly. But the most important thing is how do we make things around us better? I believe it is by being a better person ourselves. Can you imagine how much better things would be if we all lived by that standard. Not just by being a person who thinks me, me, me; but a person who considers others most of the time. My husband and I went to the movies for date-night and saw the movie “Blind Side”. The movie was packed and by listening to the many conversations as we were leaving, many people were touched by it. The reason, I think, is it shows us how we do impact others lives. We impact others lives everyday by the way we speak, the way we act even sometimes, just with our attitudes. I want to be a positive influence and not the other way around. Isn’t that what you really want yourself? Maybe I am just a very naïve person, but I believe it is. Let’s put it to the test. I know we can’t always do it right every single time, but even when we don’t, let’s not throw in the towel. Let’s ask forgiveness and let’s try again. Let’s try to not let this be just another resolution that we give up on after a few days. Thank you for reading Sophie Woman’s Magazine and please feel free to submit articles that you think would touch someones life.
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By Leanne Ely CNC
It occurred to me as I was thinking about menu planning that not planning is choosing to live in an unprepared state. Think about what that means for a minute. Being unprepared means chaos, confusion and regret. Living life in a state of perpetual unpreparedness is highly stressful. Why do we do this to ourselves? In the kitchen and in the food department of life, being unprepared translates to not having the food you need to cook and feed your family and yourself well. Unprepared means unhealthy, expensive and wanting in nutrition. And when you consider that 70% of all disease is lifestyle-induced (by making poor choices in food, drink, not exercising, smoking and being stressed out), it’s astounding that we are surprised when handed a less than healthy diagnosis from our doctors. We have got to take responsibility!! Here’s the thing, menu planning isn’t sexy and glamorous. However, it’s necessary and one of the easiest ways to get a grip on your health. The simple art of menu planning is too often passed up by adventure seekers living on adrenaline and the thrill of the hunt. You know what I mean, right? Hunting for something to throw together for dinner at the very last minute. Hunting for a fast food place to get your whining children and cranky spouse fed. Hunting for a place to park at the grocery store at rush hour, hoping to score an already cooked rotisserie chicken to feed your family. This kind of hunting is not feeding your family the way you want to. It’s stressing you out, neglecting your health and not helping you with the body clutter you may be sitting on. Instead of being hunters, we need to be gatherers. Gatherers always have food because they have a plan. They use menus. They make grocery lists. They gather their groceries, they chop, they cook and they feed. It’s deliberate preparedness that gives them a sense of calm and peace. Yes, preparedness is that powerful and when applied to all things food-related, it will revolutionize your health, your well-being, your finances and that of your family’s as well. The beginning place is a menu plan for the week. Pull recipes as necessary, make a list for the grocery store and then implement your plan. It’s that simple. Don’t put this off. There’s too much at stake to be so capricious with your health. Do it today. For more help putting dinner on your table check out Leanne?s website www.SavingDinner.com or her Saving Dinner Book series (Ballantine) and her New York Times Best Selling book Body Clutter (Fireside). Copyright 2009 Leanne Ely. Used by permission in this publication.
by Mandy Thomas
or whatever reason, this seems to be the year of the doctor for me. Every time I turn around I’m heading back to the doctor’s office. Recently, I’ve started running again, only this time with a goal in mind. I’m aiming to do a half marathon (thirteen miles) by March of next year. I’m up to six miles per day but I can’t seem to run the whole time. I’m choosing to blame my inability to run more than two miles on all of the Mississippi wildlife, though. I mean, who can run enthusiastically when you’re chugging down the road and glance over to see a wild boar with a half-eaten carcass?? Suddenly, I started feeling queasy as images of my own body, picked at and feasted upon by a pack of rabid boars waltzed through my brain........ My most recent trek to the doctor’s office was the direct result of a running injury. I’ll let you think I was injured due to hardcore running and I just overexerted myself; not because I tripped in a pothole and rolled down a hill or anything like that. After the initial pain started, I figured it was nothing and continued on. But after a few days had passed and I could barely pick up my hairbrush without screaming I realized the inevitability of a doctor’s visit and made an appointment. Once I had gotten to the doctor’s office, took twenty minutes to hobble across the small parking lot and was seated to wait for the doctor, topless save for that ungodly sheet, I felt the worst was over. And then, I met the doctor..... He came into the room, a huge, toothy smile plastered to his face and said “So, your back, is it?” He wasn’t elderly, but certainly senior to me. He had his grayish blonde hair swept over to the side and his spectacles perched atop his
long nose. But his teeth!! Oh his teeth! Large and disproportionate to his thin lips, he flashed them proudly with every word he spoke. “Um,” I answered, ever so articulately. “Why don’t we just have a look-see, okay?” (Let me interject here that I didn’t think that doctors were allowed to say this anymore..) And with that, he cupped his hand, creepily soft, around my neck and laid me back on the bed. “So,” he said conversationally, “How did you do this?” “I was running.” I mumbled, hypnotized by that ridiculous, donkey grin. He began poking me in the lower back area, pausing when I would jump. “I am so proud of you!” he said. Stupidly, I was flattered. “Oh, yes sir! I’ve gotten up to six miles!” I didn’t even get a smile from that. “Alright,” he said moving to my legs. And then, it went very, very wrong. “Don’t resist me,” he said, and began to push my leg up over my head, “Do NOT resist me!” It was like every doctor fantasy I’d ever had gone totally and utterly wrong. There I lay, half naked and screaming with my legs up over my head, but instead of a young, hot physician I was stuck with Dr. Teeth. He pulled me back up and began to poke at my back, refusing to stop when I would yell. “I’m going to send you up to get an x-ray, and then I’ll see you back here.” And he was gone, without so much as an “I’ll call you.” The nurse came in then, and handed me a few papers before directing me to the floor where the x-rays were taken. Ten minutes later, undressed and in yet another compromising position, two women hovered over me, talking to each other about me like I wasn’t even there. “Now, put her arms beside her nose,” said the elderly, obviously more experienced one. The younger nurse complied, taking my wrists and delicately clasping them together in front of my face. “HUN,” yelled the older one to me, as if I couldn’t hear her in her regular voice, “NOW TRY NOT TO MOVE YOUR HIPS, OKAY?” “If she moves her hips then we’ll have to start over,” she said to the other nurse, assuming, I can only hope, that she was whispering. And to me she yelled, “I’M GONNA GO AND TAKE THIS X-RAY NOW, OKAY?” I didn’t even bother to answer. “ALRIGHT MISS,” she said when it was over, “YOU CAN GO BACK NOW.” She handed me copies of the x-rays and sent me limping back to Dr. Teeth. He glanced over the sheet and said, “Well, you’ve got a beautiful spine!” Um, thanks? I guess that’s the only compliment I was going to get from our encounter, but at least he prescribed me some lovely narcotics to help with my back.Now I’ve just got to find another doctor.. Sophie Woman’s Magazine / Jan 2010 / pg 7
Unlikely Mentors by Kim Fletcher, Life Coach, Author, Speaker
What Influences Your M
y vision behind Unlikely Mentors was born out of the same part of my heart that loves using the tools of Life Coaching and Speaking to encourage individuals to make their lives count. As we move forward in life, I believe we need to consider who we allow to influence us, how we impact those around us, and who/what shapes our life decisions. As I consider how quick our culture is to value those (and want to be like those) who drive BMWâ€™s and carry the designer brief case, I have come to realize that my greatest influences and mentors were not necessarily those you would expect. As a physical therapist, my greatest influences were often my patients who were struggling to surviveâ€Ś. not the highly decorated professionals I worked alongside of. Today, as a Life Coach and Urban Missionary, my greatest influences are individuals who would be overlooked by many: my cousin who has reshaped her life to follow Christ, a mother currently being served by Life Compass who lives in poverty yet possess great gratitude, my young friend who just walked away from the bad boyfriend because she knows that the cost of careless and selfish living is great in the end when we lose sight of our impact. Who has shaped and influenced you in the past year? Perhaps more important, who have you influenced and how? One person who has continued to shape my life is also one of my dearest friends. She is a successful Business Strategies Consultant who would rather be indentified as a Champion of Abused and Abandoned Youth. Her name is Maryanna Young of Boise, Idaho. Maryannna and I both love equipping World Changers, those who long to leave their world better by their presence. While talking ear-
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lier today, she shared two powerful strategies that she had prepared to pass along to a group of individuals serving the youth of their community. She encouraged me to pass them along to you. First of all, true World Changers will be influenced more by the Word of God and Jesus’ teaching than by our culture. Secondly, they will make and encourage others to make decisions that move them closer to Christ rather than closer to our culture. As human beings created by God in His image, we are hardwired to make a difference with our lives. But as Maryanna and I have both observed while coaching people across the nation, when questioned about their life impact and legacy, most people will give responses such as… 1. 2. 3.
When I retire from being the CEO of my company, I am going to use my influence to build wells in Africa. When my kids are raised, I am going to help children. If I could only make enough money, I would give to those in need.
Maryanna ran a calculation recently that is mind boggling. She added up the number of hours she has taken away from her thriving business over the past few years and multiplied those hours by her hourly rate as a professional. She found that it ‘costs her’ $21,000.00 per year to make the sacrifice of time, investing in the lives of abused and abandoned young women in her community. Even her accountant calls her crazy. Well, perhaps we have to become a bit crazy to make great life decisions. In his new book, Crazy Love, author Frances Chan notes: “On the average day, we get caught up in ourselves. On the average day, we don’t consider God very much. On the average day, we forget that our life is merely a vapor.” Those of you who work full time spend an average of 1,920 hours annually with your co-workers. When was the last time you stopped to think about how you impact your co-workers? When was the last time you made the sacrifice to invest time outside of the office in the lives of those entrusted to you, whether your own teenagers, your neighbor who is lonely, or your friend who is raising a child with a disability? As you press into 2010, I hope you do so with the expectation of having your best year to date. I also pray that you will take time to survey who has influenced you in 2009, how you have influenced those around you, and how you can go to the next level in making life decisions that are grounded in all that Jesus modeled with His life… decisions that move you and those around you closer to Christ rather than closer to a culture that promotes selfish living and shallow decisions. Every decision you make alters the course of your life and the lives of those entrusted to you. Make every decision count! In doing so, you will make your own life count for great impact. ***** Kim Fletcher is the Director of Life Compass, a cutting-edge Life Coaching and Speaking Outreach dedicated to equipping every day individuals to have extraordinary impact. To bring Maryanna Young and/or Kim Fletcher in to coach or speak to your group, visit: LifeCompassInternational.org/speaking. To purchase the DVD series from our recent conference (featuring Maryanna, Kim and three other powerful speakers), email or call us today. To learn how a coaching relationship with Kim can alter the course of your entire life, contact her today: kimﬂetchercoach@aol.com/ 828 327 6702. Sophie Woman’s Magazine / Jan 2010 / pg 9
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Crocheting enthusiasts at St. Stephens Branch Library are making a big difference this season. More than 120 hats have been made by members of the Hooks with Books reading/needlework group. Donna Fox, library services specialist, organized the group more than a year ago and this fall, they decided to work on a charitable project. Once a month, the dozen or so crocheters gather at the branch to discuss books and to work on their yarn projects. “We’re really pleased with what we’ve been able to produce,” Fox said. Most of the colorful headgear is on display at the library branch until the hats are given away. The group has already donated 25 warm toboggans to a soup kitchen held at First Baptist Church in Hickory. The rest of the hats are destined for Greater Hickory Cooperative Christian Ministry, the Hickory Soup Kitchen, Exodus Homes and the local Christmas Bureau. Fox said that anyone who would like to help crochet more hats
to distribute to the needy may wish to use the pattern accompanying this article. Knitters are welcome as well. Hooks with Books will continue their hat project through the winter months and as always, knitters are welcome as well. Their next session is 6:30 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 26. Finished hats may be brought to Fox at the St. Stephens Branch. Those wishing to learn how to crochet may sign up for a free beginner’s class scheduled at 6:30 p.m. Tuesday, Jan. 5, at the St. Stephens. Participants should bring a skein of 4-ply worsted and a size F or G crochet hook. Please pre-register by calling 256-3030.
EASY PATTERN FOR CROCHETED HAT Size: One size (about 18 inches in circumference) will stretch to fit a range of sizes. Gauge: 12 single crochet + 15 rows = 4 inches. Hook size J-10 Need: 1 large-eye blunt needle and one skein of 4-ply yarn Directions: Leaving a long tail, chain 55. Row 1: Single crochet in 2nd chain from hook and each chain across for 54 stitches Row 2: Chain 1, turn, single crochet in each stitch across. Repeat row 2 until piece measures nine inches from beginning. Fasten off, leaving long tail. Finishing: Thread needle, then sew in and out along last row. Pull (like drawstring) to gather top of hat and knit. Sew seam. Weave in ends.
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You never know how your life can touch the lives of others. by The FlyLady, Marla Cilley
When I got organized in 1999 it was because I didn’t want my fellow Transylvania County Commissioners to find out my dirty little secret that I could not keep house. This all started because I didn’t want anyone to know that I was a messy person. Fear is a funny thing! It can empower or it can paralyze. We have all heard about the mother who can pick up a car when her child’s life is endangered. Most of us know that “deer in the headlights” feeling of being overwhelmed and not having a clue what to do first! I was tired of feeling defeated before I ever got stared! That’s when I made my last two New Year’s Resolutions. One was to keep my kitchen sink clean and shiny and the other one was to be nice to me! I made these two simple resolutions because every year I always broke the one big one; to “Get Organized”! 1999 was the year I figured it out for myself! It was also the year that I started helping others. One person asked for my help and I set up an email group to stay in touch with her. I never dreamed that so much more would happen. A few weeks ago I received a testimonial from a sixteen year old senior in high school named Chrissie. She had posted her message on our FlyLady forum and one of our members made sure that I saw it. Chrissie’s mother had died two months earlier. This precious mother was in the prime of her life when she had to leave her five children. Chrissie was the oldest girl and determined to help her father with her younger siblings. Her testimonial was about how she was using her mother’s FlyLady Control Journal and how it had helped her with the Halloween preparations. She was looking forward to planning her first Thanksgiving meal for the whole family and Christmas. Let me tell you her testimonial has had us all in tears for a couple of weeks now. I did a little searching in my computer to find out if I had ever gotten an email from Chrissie’s Mom. I did not find one from her mom but one from Chrissie’s Grandmother. This message was from two and a half years earlier. She had asked if I would mention her daughter in a speech I was giving. Her daughter was undergoing chemotherapy and was not up to attending the event. I had not seen it then but that did not stop me from making a speech that was just for her. I like to call those moments God Breezes! That morning we had a Memorial Breakfast in honor of all the mothers who had died the previous year. This set the tone for my talk. I never know what I am going to talk about until I get up
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to speak. My speech was about leaving a legacy for your family, setting the example and getting your home in order to make the most of your life! Chrissie’s mom was not able to join us that day but six months later she downloaded that speech from our website. This speech was just for her. We had recorded my speech and it was the first time we ever offered it as a download. My sister had not wanted me to put that sad speech on our website. She said that I had cried a lot and that it was melancholy. I told her that I had never given a speech quite like that and there had to be a reason for it. It had to go up! Now we know the reason! FLYing had prepared Chrissie’s Mom to leave her children with a legacy of peace and joy. She was determined to get her home in order. They have great memories of a mom who loved like there was no tomorrow. You never know whose life you will touch but rest assured, people are watching and you can make a difference. I am humbled by Chrissie’s testimonial and the picture of her mother’s headstone with the FlyLady logo above these words; SHE TOUCHED EVERYONE WITH HER SPECIAL LOVE AND KINDNESS. I am thankful that I had eliminated my clutter so I could follow the God Breezes as they came my way. Do you have your sails up? For more help getting rid of your CHAOS; check out her website and join her free mentoring group at www.FlyLady.net or her book, Sink Reﬂections published by Bantam and her New York Times Best Selling book, Body Clutter published by Fireside. Copyright 2007 Marla Cilley Used by permission in this publication.
Your Next Right Step By Nicole Greer, PPCC Professional Path Certified Path Coach Your life will change when, you create more choices to do the things you want to do. There is a primary process of choice that results in making the RIGHT choice. This right choice process, followed diligently, can help you have a broader range of choice accompanied by a more vibrant life. Choice is created when you are paying attention to your life. Knowing the right choices to make and actually making them consciously and purposely in conjunction with positive actions is the key to success in 2010. Utilizing a life and business coach to design and meet your goals for the New Year is an ideal venture for making next right choices.
A relationship with a life and business coach provides you a unique opportunity to fill your life with more of what you want than what may simply appear. A coach is focused on four distinct areas of transformation that will impact and influence every aspect of your life. The first right step with a coach involves finding a focus and deep meaning for your future. Focus coaching is all about letting you discover yourself in terms of where you are today, the influences at work in all parts of your life, and the possibilities that you have for living the full measure of your creation.
Second, a coaching relationship will help you find balance. An elusive state, balance is understanding how to be stable in an unstable world. Inside the coaching relationship, the coach and client, discover together how choices made with a longer view of life will bring order and balance to living. Choice is at the heart of balance. Making next right choices require imagination, the ability to generate new perspectives, and incorporating tools like mind mapping. Coaches are trained to use these tools that move you into a place where you can begin to see the possibilities and own the outcomes of your decisions.
Third, a coach takes their client’s focus around their future, the newfound possibilities and begins to expand the client’s potential by providing accountability. Productivity is the result of the coach holding the client accountable for knowing what to do and actually doing it. Clients begin to create and apply their energy to produce the life they want.
Finally, coaches are companions for life’s journey. Your coach will help you see beyond your success. A coach helps you find joy and celebration in your life and work. At this stage, you as a coaching client have made a shift and are experiencing the thrill of overcoming challenges, maintaining integrity, and viewing life as an opportu-
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& BEAUTY by Teresa Pope, Aesthetician
Question: My eyebrows are so bushy and my sister’s are extremely thin. How can we get that “model” brow with an arch that we see in all the fashion magazines?
Answer: First of all may I suggest that this is not a do it yourself project. The brow shape is so important to your over all appearance that it should be done strictly by a professional. And by professional, I mean someone who will take the time to consult with you and explain why you need a specific shape. Someone who will measure, precisely shape and offer advice on brow products that will help you maintain your new look. NOT someone who will just rip out the hair. Esthetician’s and Cosmetologist are licensed to do this. Nail techs are not. Our brows can literally change our appearance, for better or worse, so having the right shape for your eye and face shape is essential. Many of my clients call my brow shaping the mini-face lift. A true professional will have a consultation and measure before ever removing any hair. If she doesn’t than this is a sign of bad things to come. Once you have found your professional, this is what she should do for you. If you have bushy brows, this is great! It gives us lots of hair to work with so we can create any shape we want. I start by measuring the brow using your nose as a guide. Using a straight
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edge instrument such as a brow pencil or an eyebrow comb, hold the comb at the side of the tip of the nose, straight up to the eye, this will show you where your brow should start. Then hold the comb from the corner of your nose to corner of the eye, this will show you where it should stop. The arch is a bit trickier, hold a comb from the corner of the nose to the center of the pupil, this is where the arch should be. (usually) However, there are exceptions to this rule and I would have to see you to be precise as to where the arch should be. For your extremely thin sister, she would be measured the exact same way, however, she would need to let her brows grow back in several areas for us to achieve that model look. The professional should teach her how to use a pencil to camouflage the fact that she doesn’t have hair. A lot of people think their brow hair will not grow back, but it has been my experience that if you keep them away from their tweezers in between visits, they will grow back a few hairs, if not all of them. And with brow shaping, a few hairs are better than none. After allowing them to grow for 1 year without tweezing, if they haven’t grown in, they probably won’t. Again, I stress not to do this yourself. I see so many home jobs, that are so difficult to fix and most people make common mistakes, such as making the brow too thin, or placing the arch too close to the nose. If you doubt the importance of the brow shape in our appearance than might I remind you of that person you know ( we all know someone) who perhaps shaves off their brow completely and then draws it in. The woman who has such pencil thin brows that you can’t see them. The sweet elder lady who has beautiful silver hair, but pencils her brows jet black, and last but not least, the naturalist, whom has never touch her brows. Yes, we have all seen them, and thought to ourselves, “What is she thinking? Didn’t she look in the mirror? No offense, to anyone, but sometimes we need a professional to help us in areas, where we are a little stuck, because our friends and family love us to much to say anything. There are several different methods, your brow stylist may choose to remove the hair. Hard wax, strip wax, threading, tweezing are all appropriate methods of hair removal. And in the end, it’s not how they do it, but your end result.
Please submit questions to Teresa Pope @ A Caring Touch, 1626 Tate Blvd. S.E. Hickory, NC 28601.
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You never know what the New Year will bring. So, whether or not you’re planning to have a baby this year, you can start the new year with habits that will help give a baby a healthy start in life. January 4-10 is Folic Acid Awareness Week and a great time to start taking a multivitamin with 400 mcg of folic acid every day. Starting before pregnancy is an important way to reduce the risk of birth defects of the brain or spine called neural tube defects (NTD) by up to 70 percent. NTDs occur in the first weeks of fetal development, often before a woman even knows she is pregnant. What is folic acid and why do you need it? Think you are getting all of the vitamins you need from your diet alone? Think again. Most people don’t know that it is hard to get certain vitamins from food alone. Many believe they don’t need to take multivitamins because they eat healthy foods. Multivitamins help fill
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in those nutrition gaps in the diet, especially when it comes to getting enough folic acid. Folic acid is an essential B vitamin; therefore, everyone needs it to stay in good health. Folic acid helps build DNA and your body uses it for cell growth and reproduction, fundamental building block processing, and genetic material production. Folic acid is water soluble; therefore it passes through your body very quickly. Taking folic acid every day ensures that you always have it in your system. For women in their childbearing years, it is particularly important to consume 400 mcg of folic acid daily. It has been shown to reduce the risk of neural tube defects (NTDs) in developing babies by up to 70 percent. Since 50 percent of pregnancies are unplanned, it’s important to take folic acid every day even if you’re not planning to get pregnant. Neural tube defects are birth defects of the brain and spine. The most common are spina bifida and anencephaly. In North Carolina there is one child born with a neural tube defect (NTD) for every 1,160 live births, according to the State Center for Health Statistics’ Birth Defects Monitoring Program. Provisional data from the Birth Defects Monitoring Program show that the rate of NTDs declined approximately 40 percent between 1995/1996 and 2004/2005. Spina bifida rates dropped by an estimated 45 percent during that same time span. In Western North Carolina, where the Folic Acid Campaign has been active the longest, NTDs have decreased by more than 70 percent. Folic acid is the synthetic form of the naturally occurring folate. Folate is found in foods such as leafy green vegetables, beans, liver and some fruit. The synthetic version, folic acid, is found in multivitamins and fortified foods like breakfast cereal, pasta and bread. Scientists don’t know exactly why, but folic acid is easier for your body to absorb than folate. Plus folate loses its potency easily and is hard to get in large amounts. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the U.S. Public Health Service recommend that all women of childbearing age take 400 mcg of folic acid every day. The best and most reliable way to get that amount is to take a multivitamin, B vitamin complex pill or folic acid pill. The North Carolina Folic Acid Campaign recommends taking a multivitamin so that you can be sure to get consistent amounts of other vitamins and minerals like A, C, B6, E, Iron and Calcium. Eating a healthy diet and exercising are recommended in addition to taking a multivitamin every day. The North Carolina Folic Acid Campaign and the March of Dimes work to educate consumers and health care providers about the benefits and uses of folic acid. Through the Office Champion Program, which educates health care providers; the Community Ambassador Program, a lay health education program; and a multi-faceted media campaign in English and Spanish, the campaign spreads its message throughout the entire state.
People who are interested in joining the effort should contact Megan Fazekas at 919-424-2151 or by e-mail at mfazekas@marchofdimes. com. For more information about the North Carolina Folic Acid Campaign or folic acid visit www.getfolic.com or call 1-800-6627030.
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Come join us for an educational presentation at: Golden Corral, 1053 Lenoir-Rhyne Blvd, Hickory, NC Tuesday, January 19th at 6:00PM Thursday, January 21st at 6:00PM Tuesday, January 26th at 11:30AM This program and meal are provided by: David Hudson, CEP, RFC and Master’s Estate and Financial Services 260 1st. Ave. Hickory, N.C. Please call 322-6554 for your reservation as soon as possible!
N e w Ye a r ’s R e s o l u t i o n
By David Hudson, CEP, RFC
ll New Years resolutions have one thing in common, they are born of good intentions. Most have something else in common, they don’t last very long. What if you could make a new years resolution that has tremendous value, takes little time, and last far longer than your lifespan? I am talking about a resolution to protect yourself and your loved ones by preparing an estate plan. Don’t stop reading yet! At least let me bring some light to the misconceptions concerning the subject. Many people believe estate planning is only for people that are very wealthy and therefore must be very expensive. Others believe merely having a will prepared is estate planning. In my opinion neither extreme covers the realm of good estate planning. To me estate planning entails protecting what you value during life, and passing them on as smoothly as possible at death. Therefore if you have anything you value, an estate plan can be appropriate for you. For me those valuables fall into three categories. The most important valuables I have are my relationships. Do you have children or others you love? Do you have causes you care about? Do you value those relationships? Do you want to protect them? How many of our readers haven’t provided the simplest plans to protect those they love? A simple will can be a huge improvement over no plan at all. Category number two would be my freedom. What would happen if you became severely disabled, and couldn’t make decisions for yourself? Who would make those decisions for you? Your spouse or next of kin, you say. In North Carolina without the proper powers of attorney it may not happen that way. Even if it does, that person’s freedom of choices may be severely restricted and they may incur unnecessary expenses. The process is called guardianship, and I believe it’s one of the worst nightmares a family can suffer through. With the proper estate documents it may be avoided. My final category would be my positions. I value them because I worked for what I have. I spent time away from those I loved to obtain them. I traded a portion of my life to obtain those investments and positions. On my last day on earth what would I pay to have some of those hours back? I won’t be able to make that trade, but I can do my best to protect the things I have while I’m living. I can have some say about what happens to that investment of my life when I die. Do you think having a will and/or a trust might better your chances of doing that, rather than having no plan at all? Over the years I have seen many families deal with tragedies, some were older, but some were young. I assure you, if you or your family is forced to deal with an untimely disability or death a proper estate plan will say “I care about you and love you” in ways nothing else can. Many people are completely intimidated by the process, please don’t be. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for information, and that includes cost.
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There is a new shop on Falls Ave. in Granite Falls called Shoppes on Falls.
Many people’s memories of this charming 2 story red brick home are about the lady, Miss Molly Dalton, (Known as “Miss Molly” to most) who built the home at the end of the 1930’s. Miss Molly was a school teacher in the area and opened her home many times for meals and parties. I have even been told that weddings were held in her back yard. Many who visit the shop come in and reminisce of a time gone by. I never met “Miss Molly” but I wish I had. Some who knew her have even posed the question “What would Miss Molly think of her house now? Would she be pleased?” Many have even answered the question with “They think she would”. Even though I never knew her I do hope she would be pleased. I feel truly blessed to own her home now and to have a fulfillment of a life-long dream to open a shop. My husband and I had the privilege of making this home our residence for several years. After we purchased another home (also on Falls Ave) my husband moved his business into the upstairs and the downstairs has been empty for almost 4 ½ years. Like most women I have always loved decorating my home and probably for more than 20 years I have had a desire in my heart to open a shop. To me the atmosphere in a shop was always important in my vision. I wanted to create a place where it would almost be like a ministry to your soul. Thru all those years I continued to pray about it, but that door of opportunity never opened until now. I have always had the support of my family, but always lacked the confidence to do it. Then one day my daughter in law (Wendy) called and was encouraging me to do it. She kept saying to me you can do it! So, I told her if she would help me we would do it. Knowing that to get to the point of actually opening the door for business would absolutely be a step of faith. So with her beside me we took the first step getting my business license. The rest of the story is history. I always told my husband if I ever opened a shop I would just try to make it have the same atmosphere as my home and “Miss Molly’s” house lends itself perfectly to that. If you come in the shop you will hear the same music that I would play at my home. We always have on a pot of hot apple cider, which makes the home smell wonderful. (So come in and get a cup of hot apple cider.) My daughter Angela has even commented when she is at the shop that she feels like she is at home. (Mission Accomplished.) We have the house full of decorating items for the home like furniture, lamps, rugs and accessories. When I talked to my friend Verlane, who is also helping at the shop, about the disadvantages of opening a shop at a time when everyone is hurting financially her answer was “yes, but women are always going to decorate their homes”. We have a collection of both new and used (Vintage of course!) items. We are striving to keep our prices very affordable. Children are welcome here and if you come in you might even run into one of my 7 grandchildren. My oldest granddaughter, Ashley might even be the one waiting on you. I am so blessed to have the support of my whole family and friends. This truly has been a dream come true and they all are pitching in and helping me.
Sally Perry, Proprietress of Shoppes on Falls
My encouragement to others who have prayed and waited for an answer, is to never give up on their dreams that God has put in your hearts no matter what it is. You never know when or in what form the answer will be. I do know the God we serve says in Eph 3:20 “Unto Him who is able to do exceedingly, abundantly above all we can think, ask or imagine.” What a God we serve and I give Him all the praise! So if you have already visited our shop we thank you and hope you will continue to visit and to those who haven’t visited us yet we invite you to come in!
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Today’s Truth “But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” 2 Corinthians 4:7-9
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My husband and I are in a waiting period. His company has recently gone through a merger and is collapsing positions and territories, which leaves his employment in jeopardy. We’ll know soon if Brad will be looking for another job. In the mean time, God is bidding me to trust Him. Choosing to trust God is so daily, isn’t it? When I only look at the “what-ifs” of this situation - the possible unemployment, the grueling process of job hunting, the financial strain and the uncertainty of the economy - my faith and God-confidence shakes and wanes. Fear and doubt knock on my heart, suitcases in hand, wanting to move in and take up residence. On the other hand, when I fix my eyes on God, look at His character and at the ways He has brought us through hard times in the past, my faith is strengthened. Courage, confidence and joy knock on my heart! They’re much better residents! The Old Testament book of Ruth features the heart-warming story of Ruth and Naomi: two women who faced difficult circumstances and an uncertain future. Following the death of her husband and sons, Naomi decided to move back to her homeland of Israel. Though she freed her daughters-in-law to stay in their home country of Moab and re-marry, Ruth refused to leave Naomi’s side. Determined and loyal, Ruth held tightly to the woman she loved deeply. Though our natural tendency in hard times is often to try to go it alone, I’ve learned from Ruth, and from my own experience, that in turbulent times it’s vital that we hold fast to our faithful God and to the ones we love. Not only did Ruth cling to Naomi, she held tight to Naomi’s God, the One true God of Israel. “Look,” said Naomi, “your sister-in-law is going back to her people and her gods. Go back with her.” But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if anything but death separates you and me.” When Naomi realized that Ruth was determined to go with her, she stopped urging her” (vv. 15-18). God breathed hope into the souls of Naomi and Ruth through their kinsman-redeemer, Boaz. The book of Ruth goes on to tell a fascinating story of how God lovingly cared for and blessed Naomi
as He used the faithful friendship and kindness of Ruth to “renew her life and sustain her” (4:15). She went back to Bethlehem as a broken, hopeless widow and was restored by the loving hand of God. Like Naomi, when I experience difficult times - like the one Brad and I are facing now - I must choose to trust God. Some days I choose well. Some days I don’t. I’ve found that my courage to trust is bolstered by playing praise music, meditating on God’s goodness, reading Scripture, and praying. Those things collectively renew my mind and strengthen my faith. No matter what challenges you face today, take comfort that God knows every issue on your heart and is able to shoulder your burdens. Hold fast to the faithful One. Your challenges do not fall outside the scope of God’s ability to intervene. God is mysterious, He’s powerful, and He’s able! When you lift your eyes from your situation and fix them on your Savior, you will find peace in the pain and strength in the struggle. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).
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Holy Father, You know exactly where I am right now and You know the circumstance of my life. Please give me the courage to be gracious in my relationships, and help me to trust You today. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
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Go back and read the book of Ruth. (It’s only 4 chapters!) Look for the ways that Ruth and Naomi held fast to God and to each other through trying circumstances. List three difficult times that God has brought you through. Examine your heart to see if there is any fear or doubt hanging around.
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I love the saying, “When we work, we work...but when we pray, God works.” It seems crazy that God would invite us into His mysterious work through prayer...but He does. I’d love to pray for you today. Please visit my FACEBOOK PAGE and leave a prayer request on my wall. GiGs from all over the world will see your post and join us in prayer. NEED ENCOURAGEMENT and INSPIRATION? Portions of this devotion are taken from Gwen’s book, Broken Into Beautiful. Order a copy or two as Christmas gifts! LOVE TO WORSHIP? Download Gwen’s live worship CD, Unsearchable, from iTunes, or order the CD from the store on her website.
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graystone-eye.com (828) 304-6611 pg 24 / Jan 2010 / Sophie Woman’s Magazine
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by Judy Smith
There is an Old Danish saying that says “Advice after mischief is like medicine after death”. Now that makes complete sense to me. I can’t say that about some of the “wise old sayings”. Just think about it. If you died of something you had been to the Dr. for and your family comes in and finds all the medicine that was prescribed for you sitting on the counter unopened, what are they going to think? “If only they had taken their medicine we would not be having a funeral.” What if they could ask the deceased person why didn’t you take the medicine? Would the answer be that they were saving it till they needed it! So what about the mischief and advice part? It is really the same thing. Then why do we turn away from advice that could keep us out of a lot of mischief? More importantly is why do loved ones that I give advice to just ignore me? I declare, that is just a mystery to me. I don’t give advice just to hear myself talk, even though my husband says I love to talk. But that is not the point. When I give advice, it is to help a loved one not to suffer consequences from a wrong call. After all, I have probably already made that mistake in my past and I know first hand about the consequences. Like the time I went to the beach after graduation against my fathers direction. Now don’t jump to conclusions right away. You do know the old saying about “assuming” don’t you? My mother told me I could go and we planned this elaborate scheme behind my dad’s back. Even though I thought it was all planned out, it turned out to be a BIG mistake. One of my friend’s boyfriends was going to drive us down; we were going to meet up with another one of my friends whose family said we could spend the night with them and then ride the bus back home the next day. Now that sounds like a good plan. We get to the beach, go to the bus station, get our ticket to ride the bus home the next day, and then go to the Pavilion where we were to meet my friend. Everything was going exactly to plan. There is an old saying that says “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch”. Guess who wasn’t there! Yep....my friend was no where to be found. Then to make matters worse, my other friend disappeared. Panic started to set in. Images of my father telling me I couldn’t go were giving me a headache. Now that I think about it...it could have been the loud music. I finally did find the boyfriend of the friend who I was to stay with and he knew where she was staying. Thankfully, he drove me to her place. She had car trouble and couldn’t get to the pavilion. Whew, that was really close. You know the old saying “too close for comfort”. Ask me if I had fun at the Pavilion that night....go ahead, ask me. I did get to sleep some that night but the adventure only continued the next day. You are dying to know what happened, aren’t you? Sorry, it is just too much for one time so I will tell you like Paul Harvey always says “The Rest of the Story” the next time. You do know the old saying “Same time, same channel” don’t you? Same thing, only this is not a channel. Thank you so much for reading The Front Porch. We will see if I learned from my mistakes. It may just be that the “handwriting is on the wall”! That is an old saying.
Sophie Woman’s Magazine / Jan 2010 / pg 25
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If you were ever going to get it together, this is the time of year to do it! Professional Organizers around the country are putting on of events -- workshops, volunteer projects, community education -- to increase awareness about the importance of getting ORGANIZED. Sometimes the hardest part of organizing is just getting started. It’s often easy to make progress once you can just get over the hump of setting aside time and digging in. But where do you BEGIN? What’s your first step? What part of your life needs the most help? Why don’t we focus this month on creating a PLAN for getting your home or office in order. Some Practical Organizing Tips... Start with one SMALL area at a time. If you try to organize your entire home or office at once, you will only get overwhelmed and give up. And that doesn’t have to mean “one room” -- it could be a closet or cabinet or drawer -- whatever is manageable. Go into the project prepared to get RID of things. While organizing is more than just cleaning out, you need to be willing to give something up if it’s broken, obsolete, hasn’t been used in years, or serves no purpose in your life. It’s very freeing! If you have a hard time making decisions, bring in an objective THIRD party -- not your nosy mother-in-law or best friend who will tell you to keep it all. But someone who can honestly say, “Why are you keeping that?” -- like a Professional Organizer!
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Can Someone Help? My name is Glenda Lawson. I am originally from the mountains of Eastern Kentucky. I have been in North Carolina for the last nine years. My Mother was born in Boone, North Carolina and I always said if I ever relocated I would move to this beautiful state and I did just that in 2000. I was awarded permanent custody of my great niece and nephew in February 2008. I was living in Davidson County at the time. They were removed from their home in June 2006 when Jada was six and Dustin twelve. They are now nine and fifteen. When I heard I immediately tried to get them. They were placed in a Foster Home and I obtained an attorney in Kentucky to begin the custody process. Jada and Dustin were moved from foster home to foster home over 20 months while my attorney and I fought to get them. They were not happy in the foster homes and suffered greatly in that particular setting. After eighteen months I was awarded permanent custody. So, here I was a parent at fifty three. What an experience. It was a battle but one I would do again in a heartbeat. I have never regretted my decision and the custody battle my attorney and I fought. Jada and Dustin are happy they say for the first time in their young lives. They will also say that they feel like they have a home for the first time. Dustin is socially and emotionally delayed and his sister suffers from post-traumatic distress. We often read such stories or watch stories similar to theirs on TV but we never think this will happen to us or in our family. It’s not that we don’t know it can happen; it’s that we don’t want to imagine it happening in our family. It’s hard to fathom but believe me it can happen to all of us. I have watched Jada and Dustin struggle with their past but I have also been witness to the tremendous progress they have made. As we all know the Economy began to plummet in 2008. I was a pre-school teacher at a day care at the time. I was laid off from my job in June 2008 and with the fall of the Economy jobs were impossible to find in my town. I had a friend in Morganton who encouraged me to relocate. I moved here in June of this year. The Unemployment rate didn’t seem to be as high as Davidson County so I made the move. Of course just as I got here the Unemployment rate rose and the job possibilities were scarce, not impossible but scarce. I applied for every job I could possibly find. I applied to every online job link I could find but I cannot find employment. I have been told by several people in this area that I need connections in this area to find a job. How can I have connections when I am new to the area? I have a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and am currently working on a Master’s degree in Counseling. I want to work. I have so much to offer but getting my foot in the door has been impossible.I realize that I am but only one of millions in our Country who are without employment and looking for a job. I have two beautiful children to care for. I want a better life for them. They have suffered so much and experienced so much stress in their lives. They deserve more. I have made a commitment to give them a better life, a happy life, a life that children, especially children who have suffered so much, deserve. If you know of anything that is open that Glenda could apply for or if you have any connections please email her at lawson7785@ yahoo.com.
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