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The Relationship Edition

A home library is a place you lovingly create ...

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Ellen Schmid, reference coordinator at the Geneva Public Library District

Home & Lifestyle 3


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Home Design — Home Library: What

considerations should you make when planning a home library? Ellen Schmid, reference coordinator at the Geneva Public Library District, and Jon Nutt of Southampton Builders of St. Charles share tips for creating the ideal space for your books. Before they were Mr. and Mrs. Hanke, Jim and Jen met online. Today, the Batavia couple is happily married, and experts say that one in every six marriages now start on the Web. Artist Profile: Fawn Clarke-Peterson of Aurora is drawn to sculpture, and the artist not only sells her work, but she teaches others at several area colleges. Cover Inset: Perlman Fine Jewelry is a staple familyowned business in the Geneva community, and its new location puts the store in the heart of downtown. Wine Niche: Vince Balistreri of Niche Restaurant in Geneva explains why grapes should be partnered through the art of blending.

Health 21 22

Lowfat Recipe Of The Month: Pear of Chefs in St.

Charles shares a delightful recipe for chocolate fondue — just in time for Valentine’s Day. For prospective mothers who can’t get pregnant on their own — like Anita and Scott Dickerson of St. Charles and Jacquelyn and Jason Graf of Pingree Grove — fertility clinics may provide the answers. Learn more from doctors at the Center for Reproductive Health in Geneva and Crest Hill and Fertility Centers of Illinois in Hoffman Estates.

Special Wedding Section 28



If you’re planning your wedding and looking for details that will mark your big day as something beyond special, you don’t have to look outside of Kane County. Meet our cover model, Elizabeth Dickerson Machak of Geneva, who was wed Nov. 3, 2012, in a dress she bought from Kathy Lager, owner of Veiled in Elegance in Geneva. Plus, learn about the latest wedding trends from Invitations Etc. in Batavia; Image Awards, Engraving and Creative Keepsakes in Geneva; Elizabeth Wray Design in Geneva; and Maureen Christine of St. Charles. What type of wedding cake will reflect your personal style best — sheet cake, cupcake towers or something else? Learn about five popular wedding cake options and see what strikes your fancy. Relive a momentous wedding that took place in Geneva — the nuptials of Sarah and John Fern on Dec. 12, 2012!

Family 38 42 45

Success Lives Next Door: After more than 50 years of marriage, Barney and Carolyn Lykins of Elburn know a bit about life and love. How can parents protect their children from online threats? Local and state experts share ways to monitor Internet use of youngsters. Write This Down: Fellas, listen up — here’s how Michelle Stien, a stay-at-home mother of two, sees the relationship between men and women: a woman’s level of patience is like a bank account, and each time a man does something to annoy a lady, she deducts money from his account. Find out how to stay in the black!

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What’s new in the arena of fashion rings and bracelets? Representatives from Charming Charlie and Discovery share the latest trends in accessories.

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WOD: Meet Tory Haines of St. Charles who balances a full-time career with volunteer work at Embrace A Family, the St. Charles Public Library and Elderday Center. Artist Showcase: Enjoy two paintings by Ed Cook of Batavia, a highly decorated artist who specializes in miniatures.

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Love & Bliss


y parents aren’t overly affectionate, and I don’t think they’d kill me for saying so (but if you don’t hear from me next month, you’ll know I was wrong). They’re independent people and, while they love each other very much, they just don’t show it outwardly that often by way of a smooch or pinch on the butt.

 I, on the other hand, am a very outwardly loving person — and, wouldn’t you know? — my husband is the same way. We spend many of our evenings cuddled under a blanket on the couch, we always hold hands when we’re out and about and Friday evenings, whenever possible, are meant for dancing in each other’s arms.

 That might sound overly romantic and cheesy, and I’m constantly reminded by my coworkers that I’ve only been married a year and a half — barely past the honeymoon stage. They fully expect things to change in a few years. I don’t. I see us following the path of my in-laws — who still hold hands when they walk down the street.

 To my father’s credit, however, he always brings my mother a card and flower on Valentine’s Day, and he always calls before he leaves the office to let her know he’s on his way home. After 33 years of marriage — which has equated to 33 years of my mother running errands for my father — I figure they know they are loved. And even if I don’t see them hug each other very often, my brother and I get plenty of hugs from both of them whenever we visit. 

 My point is that love is shown, cultivated

and celebrated in many different ways. And this month, we celebrate the relationships we have and share with you some of the lessons Kane County residents have learned in their own lives. 

 Jen and Jim Hanke of Batavia met online before they ever met in person, and today, they’re happily married. While I was surprised to learn that one in six marriages now have roots from a website, according to, I’m sure it’s no surprise to the Hankes (page 12). 

 Barney and Carolyn Lykins of Elburn didn’t meet online, but that’s because the Internet hadn’t been invented when they were young. The couple has been married more than 50 years, and they know a thing or two about getting along (page 38).

 For those who are just beginning to plan for a life of love with their significant other, our special wedding section offers ideas for ways to create lasting memories with local merchants and professionals (page 27). Many of our featured wedding experts offer custom products that won’t be duplicated anywhere else, and they’re located right here in Kane County. 

 Plus, we learn a bit about fertility clinics and how they can help couples like Anita and Scott Dickerson of St. Charles and Jacquelyn and Jason Graf of Pingree Grove who were able to start their own little families (page 22). 

 And make sure to check out the recipe for chocolate fondue, compliments of St. Charles residents Carol Segobiano and Ursula Bulgarellli of Pear of Chefs, who created a low-fat version of the dish specifically to be shared with others (page 21).

 I hope you appreciate all of the relationships you have in your life, and I wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day!

 Amore, — Stephanie N. Grimoldby Editor



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On The Cover Pictured on the cover is Elizabeth Dickerson Machak, 30, of Geneva, who married her husband, John, on Nov. 3, 2012. She is pictured wearing her wedding dress — an Angelina Bridal Couture gown with custom Alfred Sung cap sleeves — inside Veiled in Elegance in Geneva, where she purchased the dress. For our complete wedding section guide, see page 27. Photo by Melissa Emory Hair and makeup by Kathryn and Laura respectively, of Mario Tricoci Hair Salons and Day Spas Geneva

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home & lifestyle / HOMEdesign

6 Ellen and Erich Schmid built their own library at home after purchasing shelves and a ladder that slides from Borders when it was going out of business. Photo by Molly Zacher

BOOK SMART Creating A Comfortable Home Library By AMANDA MARRAZZO


could say that librarian Ellen Schmid brought her work home — literally. Schmid, reference coordinator at the Geneva Public Library District, and her husband, Erich, recently built their own home library. “We bought the shelves from Borders when it was going out of business and a ladder that slides,” says Schmid, who has been a librarian for 12 years and before that owned a children’s bookstore in Arizona. “[Erich] knew I always wanted my own library,” she says. “It took about a year from start to finish to conceive what we were going to do and gather all the books in the house. We had quite a number of books.”

How to display, organize books

Schmid arranged four 9-foot floor-to-ceiling bookshelves, complete with lighting, along one wall in a small, parlor-like room in her Geneva home. Each member of the family — Mom, Dad, daughter Emily, 16, and son Elliot, 9 — has his or her own shelving unit for a personal collection. On holidays, Schmid switches out books on the shelves, and an additional book display

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rack — also snatched up from the now shuttered Borders — displays that holiday’s theme. For example, during Christmas, she displayed Christmas cookbooks and storybooks. For Halloween, she displayed haunting Halloweenthemed books. Schmid is preparing to use pressed letters to run the beginning lines of Edgar Allen Poe’s “The Raven” on a wall across from the bookshelves: “Once upon a midnight dreary while I pondered weak and weary … .” And at the top of the bookshelves themselves she has already pressed black ravens reminiscent of her favorite poem. The cozy, little room is decorated with her favorite things, subtle lighting and two button chairs in a nook with an overhead lamp near a window for reading. When it comes to organizing books in a home library, Schmid says homeowners can make it visually appealing by displaying books based on color and size. Schmid has gleaned many of the ideas for her personal home library’s physical appearance from Internet sites such as Pinterest, Etsy and Houzz. LibraryThing, a full-powered cataloging application, also is useful in organizing a home library, Schmid says. She adds there are many other personal library kits on the market to aid

in organizing and keeping track of books in a home library. She recommends personalizing book titles with personal bookplates as well. “Or, you can always arrange your books, music, photographs — whatever your library consists of — by size, color, group or whatever speaks to you,” Schmid says. “To me, a home library is a place you lovingly create so you can be immersed in the things you love.”

Create a stunning library

Jon Nutt, designer and sales representative for Southampton Builders, a second-generation custom home building company in St. Charles, says libraries — also referred to as dens, studies or offices — are

growing in popularity in new construction and remodels. Nutt, whose father, Greg Nutt, began the construction company 25 years ago, says homeowners today are opting to eliminate a formal living room in lieu of a library. “We are making studies larger,” he says. “A lot of people have in-home businesses ... .” He says that many times, both parents work from home and need larger-sized studies they can share. Thus, remodeling unfinished basement spaces to create large studies to accommodate the entire family’s growing needs is trending right now. Home libraries that take up an entire room of their own are typical in high-end custom homes. When designing a home library, Nutt incorporates gleaming dark, rich, hardwood floors; floor-to-ceiling wood shelves with lighting; ornate carved wood trim and moldings; and sliding ladders that glide across the shelves. He has seen homeowners with custom faux painting and murals painted on the walls in their libraries. One client in St. Charles had a mural of Old World Europe painted in the library with stars marking all the places the family had traveled.   Another client had a mural of the Hawaiian Islands painted on the library walls. 6 Home libraries that take up an entire room of their own are typical in high-end custom homes. Photo provided by Southmapton Builders

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3 The library in the Schmid household features a sliding ladder from Borders. Photo by Molly Zacher

And in an elaborate, two-story library, Nutt recalls floor-to-ceiling shelving climbing up to a 22-foot ceiling with a staircase featuring a “Juliet” balcony halfway up overlooking the library. When choosing a color scheme for a home library, Nutt recommends traditional and elegant dark woods matched with darker, warmer paint colors and faux finishes on the walls. Fireplaces, antique tin ceilings — which can be replicated with wall paper — ambience lighting, lamps, sconces, overhead lighting for reading and vintage chandeliers all can work together to create a warm and cozy library. The room also should have floor outlets for reading lamps. Fixtures would work well in warm, vintage-like finishes such as oil-rubbed bronze and crackled gold. Nutt says he has seen homeowners spend between $10,000 and $40,000 on a library remodel project in which a homeowner takes an underutilized space in their home and makes it a home library. But it can be done for less. “You can spruce up any room pretty economically, turning a living room into a study,” he says. “It can just be putting hardwood down and adding some bookcases. It’s not a huge investment, but the return is very well appreciated by the families.” Lynn Havlicek, owner of Geneva Cabinet Gallery and co-owner of Havlicek Builders in Geneva, says not to forget to make allowances for electronics when designing the home library. “Electronics are a big thing these days,” she says. “There are less file drawers needed; everything is kept electronically.” She says to make sure everything is set up in a “neat, concise” way by considering monitor, outlet and lighting placements when designing a home library. “Take into account the homeowner’s style,” she says. kc

6 Ellen Schmid has made her home library cozy by adding subtle lighting and two button chairs. Photo by Molly Zacher

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3 Jen and Jim Hanke — seen kissing in the reflection on a record clock — met in a music discussion forum on Craigslist. com. Photos by Heather Nelson

DIGITAL Dating Finding A Perfect Match In An Online World


as Nikki Giovanni, once said, “We love because it’s the only true adventure,” the vahicle on this trip sure has changed. Couples are still locking eyes in college and the office, but according to Reuters, of the 54 million singles in the country, 40 million of them have tried meeting Mr. or Ms. Right online. The love train now travels on the tracks of the Internet.

An unconventional first encounter

Love at first byte came to Jen and Jim Hanke of Batavia through a guy named Craig Newmark — at least, through his list. helps users find housing, jobs, cars and, apparently, love, though the Hankes didn’t meet through the “personals” section of the site. “We met in the music discussion forum on Craigslist,” Jen says. “Jim just moved here and was in a band, and we were both looking for people to go to concerts with. We were chatting on the forum and began emailing back and forth. We were both just out of other relationships and were a little new to the idea of meeting someone through the Internet.” After a month and more than 100 email messages, the two decided to get “real” and meet in person. Jen’s friend of five years, Brittany Pawlowski, was duly concerned when Jen was going to meet Jim. “Yes, [I was concerned]

because she met him on Craigslist,” the Aurora resident says. “But I think this concern was in part due to my personal unease with onlinebased relationships. At the time, I felt like meeting someone online meant that they were jumping into something before it could build organically.”

Tips for online dating success

Online dating has altered the organic nature of relationships in a fundamental way, from “meet you, get to know you” to “get to know you, then meet you.” The different process leaves a lot of wiggle room when it comes to being honest about actual physical characteristics and age or whether a paramour-to-be may need a bail bondsman more than a date. Jeannie Assimos, managing editor of’s dating advice forum at www., says of the half million couples who met through the popular online dating service and eventually married,

most shared one characteristic. “The common thing our success couples say is, ‘I was painfully honest with the questionnaire and profile,’” Assimos says. “For the uninitiated, is different from other dating services in that users fill out an extensive relationship questionnaire and personality profile in an effort to match them with those who are compatible on a level deeper than ‘blonde hair, blue eyes and likes long walks on the beach.’ The site claims that the ‘29 Dimensions of Compatibility’ are scientifically proven to predict happier, healthier long-term relationships.” Assimos says since more effort goes into the process — as opposed to just scrolling through hundreds of photos on other sites — users are more likely to find compatibility in many areas like energy level and temperament, too. “One woman realized she was having a bad day the day she filled it out, called us so she could take it again and soon after got matched with the man who became her husband,” Assimos laughs. According to the Harris Poll, Assimos says, an average of 542 people from are married every day.

6 A collection of pictures from the Hanke’s wedding in 2009 sits on a table in their Batavia home.

Happily ever after

Jen, who works in Batavia as a marketing director for a supportive living facility, says that her first face-to-face encounter with Jim went so well because they were honest online. “I liked that I could get to know him through email because you answer all those initial questions you have about each other, and the pressure for small talk was off when we finally met,” she says. It’s no surprise that Jim, who owns an independent public

relations company called Forest Bride PR specializing in press for musicians and bands, concurs. “It gave us a launching pad to get to the next part of the conversation,” he says. “We met at a bar — [called Scotland Yard in St. 4 Online connections of Charles, which has a marital nature are not for since closed] — had everyone, but for the Hankes, a drink, watched a simple communication turned band that was awful into long-term companionship. and had laughs about that, went through my iPod and talked about music. I think we cleared out negatives before we even met.” The couple realized that they lived just a few minutes from each other and shared more than a few acquaintances. “It was eerie in the best possible way,” Jen says. Pawlowski, a producer at New Slate Films in Chicago, was not surprised at the romantic turn of events in her friend’s life. “It didn’t take very long for everyone to see that marriage was definitely in their future, so that wasn’t much of a surprise,” she says. Jen and Jim, who met online in August 2007,

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married in August 2009. Can there be a happily ever after in the online dating lives of others? “You’re in control,“ Jim says, “and you can do things to be safe like background checks. I think nowadays, meeting online is pretty commonplace. If someone sets you up, you feel an obligation to go with them once or twice. This way, you don’t have to if you feel you’re not that compatible.” Jen notes that if you’re shy, it may be easier to meet someone online first. “It’s literally changed everything as far as dating is concerned,” she says. “We just have to go along for the ride.” kc

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A Feel For Art 6 Fawn Clarke-Peterson works on a piece she calls “The Lowest Common Denominator” at Water Street Studios in Batavia.

3 Two of Fawn ClarkePeterson’s platters at Water Street Studios in Batavia.



first glance at Fawn Clarke-Peterson’s sculpture reveals the influence texture and touch has had on the artist’s works. In addition to her sculptures being three-dimensional, the pieces grab the viewer’s attention with their ceremonial and tactile look. The sculptures are complicated, yet simple, and they leave much interpretation up to the viewer. “I consider myself very tactile and enjoy creating pieces that are different,” says ClarkePeterson, who lives in Aurora. “It’s really hard for me not to touch anything — this is one reason why I’m drawn to sculpture.” 4 Fawn Clarke-

Influences According to her artist statement, “…

growing up in a Catholic household, I found magic in the ceremony, in the relics and the artifacts of that culture. That culture also esteemed the ‘sacred object’ — things of magic and mystery that hold the essence of what is true and real. I often see my work as an enduring struggle to define the context of the world in which I exist … .” Clarke-Peterson’s work is divided into two categories — sculptural and functional. Her sculptural work includes various abstract sculptures and wall sculptures made from different materials including porcelain and wood, but the predominant material she uses is clay. “I find clay to be an excellent vehicle for my expression,” she says. “Clay is my medium of choice because it feels good.”

Peterson calls this piece “Walk This Way.”

“My sculpture draws a lot from the viewer and evokes many different ideas,” she continues. “Ten years from now, the sculpture may take on a completely different meaning to the viewer than it does presently. Sometimes it’s like reading a book.” Clarke-Peterson, who has a gallery at Water Street Studios in Batavia, says her work straddles an inter-realism between formal European modernism and Japanese. “There is an edge between them which interests me,” she says. “Much of my sculpture is a metaphor for order and chaos.” Clarke-Peterson’s functional work, such as vases and dinnerware pieces like platters and cups, are just as much sculptural pieces as functional. “I spend as much time with these pieces thinking about the object as a whole,” she says. “For example, regarding some platters I’m currently working on, the way the piece sits on the table is just as important as the side where the food is placed.” “My functional pieces have soul — they are not mass-produced,” she continues. “The pieces still serve a function, such as holding heat [if it’s a mug], but it can also enrich the person over time. The user feels the handle and knows it’s handcrafted. It has a psychological effect upon the user, too. I hope my work gives them some joy and the joy of contemplation.” Power is a theme throughout ClarkePeterson’s work. “Power is an unmistakable and necessary function of social structure,” she says. “I am fascinated by the nature of this relationship and the subtleties involved in its articulation … . It is a tenuous balance between participants, their drives, their interaction and, most significantly, their choices.”

“The Book of Kells and the Middle Ages have always been my favorite periods in art history,” she says. She also has a Bachelor of Arts degree in history and a minor in art from Winona State University. She credits Seymour Byman, a professor at Winona, as having a tremendous influence on her life. “[He made] me who I am now,” she says. “I was privileged enough to have him as a professor.” Clarke-Peterson has taught a variety of art classes, including drawing, ceramics, art history, art appreciation and design at several institutions such as Moraine Valley Community College in Palos Hills; Waubonsee Community College in Sugar Grove; and the Illinois Institute of Art in Schaumburg. “As a teacher, sometimes I have to clarify to my students to continue with their projects — I have taught and have been taught by my students,” Clarke-Peterson says. She has used this insight she receives from students in her own work. “I follow up on my pieces that

I have done in the past,” she says. “Many times, these pieces are experimental. It’s not about the end product, but about the creation process. I follow the material and discover a new way to create the piece.” To view some of Clarke-Peterson’s work or for more information, visit www. kc 3 The back side of a Fawn ClarkePeterson platter.

AnClarke-Peterson Artist’sholdsInsight a Master’s of Fine

Arts degree in ceramics from Northern Illinois University, where she also studied art history.

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home & lifestyle

A Local Gem

Patrick Murphy Custom Ametrine Pendant In Yellow Gold

Perlman Fine Jewelry Finds New Home On Third Street In Geneva

In Charles Garnier Gold Hoop Earrings

Cognac Diamonds In Rose Gold

Geneva, family-owned businesses are vital to keeping intact the smalltown feel that attracts visitors — and homeowners — to its unique and historical offerings. And Perlman Fine Jewelry has been a staple family-owned business in the Geneva community for years. “It’s the kind of store we like to see in Geneva,” says Jean Gaines, president of the Geneva Chamber of Commerce. “[It’s] unique, family-owned, involved in the community, attractive, [provides] good service — all of the things you like to see in a good community retailer.” Founded in 1960 in Elgin by Milt and Dorothy Perlman, this fine jewelry and gift store is now owned and operated by the founder’s son, Corey Perlman, who has embarked on an exciting new chapter in his family’s business. Mere weeks ago, the business moved from its 10-year home in the Geneva Commons to a new prime location at the corner of State and Third streets in downtown Geneva, and Corey Perlman is excited about his new opportunity there.

original solid bronze hardware on the front door. Once inside, large windows give the new showroom a light, airy feel, and Perlman — with help from many talented, local craftsmen — restored the original tin tile ceiling and exposed the brick wall on one side of the store to reveal its authentic architectural elements. The store also received several upgrades, including custom cabinetry, energy-efficient LED lighting and handscraped, hickory hardwood floors, which were installed by Carlson’s Flooring located just down the road. “We also put in quartzite slate with some glass accents in the entryway,” says Lisa Carlson Nelson,

An affection for downtown Geneva

Sterling Silver Designer Earrings By Breuning

The opportunity to move to 301 W. State St. was something Perlman says he simply couldn’t pass up. “It’s the most prominent corner in downtown Geneva, and we were fortunate to have been able to recreate the store’s beautiful environment,” Perlman says. Not only is the location exceptional for both pedestrians and commuters to view as they travel through Geneva, but the storefront itself is ideal for showcasing the exquisite pieces Perlman carries. The historical integrity of the masonry building was something Perlman wanted to preserve, he says. He installed vintageinspired exterior signage to complement the historic downtown area and refinished the

4 Art glass from Murano, Italy, available at Perlman Fine Jewelry. Photo by Jeff Krage

co-owner of the flooring shop, who adds that she enjoyed working on the renovation project. “The recycled glass adds a little bling, just like his jewelry does … . It’s great the way he’s worked the old with the new. He’s done a great job with updating the space.” Victor Erday, landlord to Perlman and president of Erday’s men’s clothing located just behind Perlman’s on Third Street, also notes that the transformation to the corner lot has been eye-catching. Erday says he’s excited to see how things progress for the jewelry store. Perlman, who worked with Geneva’s Historic Preservation Commission, simply says he likes the downtown area and always has. “We have a great affection for downtown Geneva,” Perlman says. “My wife’s family lived on Ford Street, just a few blocks from where our new store is today. She and I also lived in downtown Geneva, and we always loved shopping and dining there. So, I try to keep my business local whenever I can, and I reciprocate with those who do business with me.”

Better quality, better value

While its location may be new, Perlman Fine Jewelry remains dedicated to providing better quality jewelry in all price ranges. “We’re very selective about the jewelry we carry,” Perlman says. “We try to find designers that don’t mass produce, that make unique and wearable styles.”

We have a great affection for downtown Geneva. — Corey Perlman, owner

That includes designers like Charles Garnier, who creates shimmering sterling silver jewelry finished in rhodium, yellow gold and rose gold, and Edward Mirell, who produces innovative titanium jewelry for men and women. Even by offering designer pieces, however, Perlman makes sure to keep things affordable. “We carry two designers that specialize in dichroic glass jewelry,” Perlman says. “It’s beautiful to see, and it’s made in sterling silver, [which] keeps it very affordable … . Sterling silver has allowed people to continue to buy jewelry, even in tough economic times, and we represent several sterling silver designers.” Of course, Perlman carries highly recognizable names as well, including Mikimoto, the originator of cultured pearls, and watch designers such as Victorinox Swiss Army and Rado. Colored stones — especially colored diamonds — are very popular right now, and the store has a large variety of such pieces, including cognac and blue diamond jewelry by De Leo. Perlman even has its own line of hightech ceramic watches that sell incredibly well, Perlman says. The men’s and women’s pieces feature Swiss movements and a two-year warranty, are extremely well-made and can’t be found anywhere else. “Whatever the price range is, it’s going to be fine quality here,” Perlman says. “It’s really disappointing to see people waste their money on low-quality jewelry. In our store, whether your budget is $10 or $10,000, you are getting a good value because you are buying better quality jewelry.” In addition to his jewelry, Perlman also offers specialty gifts, which sets his business apart from many other jewelry stores. In particular, he carries Spanish Lladro porcelain figurines that come in different subject matters that appeal to people celebrating special occasions such as

the birth of a child, Mother’s Day or Christmas. “Not only does Lladro make fine quality collectibles, but they also make artistic statement pieces that people are using in home décor today,” Perlman says. Other gift items include high-end, hardwood jewelry boxes with beautiful finishes and art glass, including pieces from Murano, Italy. “We’ve always tried to have something for every customer,” Perlman says.

Edward Mirell Black Ti Triple Drop Rain Necklace With Sterling Silver And Titanium Chains And Laser-Engraved Patterns

Experience and service

Perlman started working at his father’s jewelry store when he was 14 years old, and he attended the Gemological Institute of America in California to become a graduate gemologist. Today, at the age of 50, he has considerable knowledge in the jewelry industry, and he’s surrounded himself with

Perlman White Ceramic Chronograph With CZ Bezel

Perlman Fine Jewelry

at the corner of State and Third Street, Downtown Geneva 630-262-9090 4 The showroom of Perlman Fine Jewelry in Geneva features the original tin tile ceiling, an exposed brick wall and handscraped hickory hardwood floors. Photo by Jeff Krage

Each member of Perlman’s staff has been in the business for 25 to 35 years. “We are able to offer expertise and advice to our customers that most other stores can’t,” Perlman says. That collaborative experience allows Perlman to offer two more special services to his customers — a fantastic jewelry/watch repair service and the ability to custom design pieces. “We can even take a sketch on a napkin and make it a reality,” Perlman says. “We have an excellent wax carver and two excellent jewelers, and they can create just about anything.” Perlman will host a grand opening ribbon cutting/open house from noon to 6 p.m. Thursday, Feb. 7, with refreshments available to guests and special savings offered to customers. It will be a great opportunity for people to not only see the renovations that have been made to the building, but to ask questions and view first-hand what Perlman offers to the community. He hopes to see many people stop by. “I think it’s great to have a family business located in downtown Geneva, and an established family business that’s been around for a long time,” Nelson says. “I think that we’re more of a smaller community, and it’s important to shop locally. [Perlman] is a great representation for our community. He provides great products and services and has built great relationships with his customers. “And that’s what our community is about.” kc — By Kane County Magazine

Ribbon Cutting Ceremony The public is invited to attend a ribbon cutting ceremony at noon, Thursday, Feb. 7, at Perlman Fine Jewelry, 301 W. State St., in Geneva. The event will be sponsored by the Geneva Chamber of Commerce. Geneva city officials will be on site as well as merchants, Perlman Fine Jewelry staff, family, friends and a special appearance from the founders of the business, Milt and Dorothy Perlman. Special grand opening savings of 30% to 50% off will be offered on most fine jewelry during the store’s week-long celebration from Feb. 7 through 14.

3 A display case showcases Mikimoto pearl jewelry inside Perlman Fine Jewelry. Photo by Jeff Krage

4The historical integrity of the masonry building into which Perlman Fine Jewelry moved was preserved. Photo by Jeff Krage

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home & lifestyle

Blending In

There is not a better way to make wine then through the art of blending. For some purists, it may be frowned upon, but when you break down the facts of making the perfect wine, your odds are better with a blend then a single grape varietal. A single grape can only give you the components that it offers, whereas the blending of multiple grapes can give you the desired taste that you are looking for. Take a very popular grape in the U.S., like the cabernet sauvignon. Cabernet, for the most part, has a very aggressive, strong flavor that can leave your mouth dry and may overpower most foods by itself. But if you blend a softer, more approachable grape varietal with the cabernet

sauvignon grape it will soften the taste of the wine. These blending methods have been used since the development of wine. I really think French wineries are the true masters of the blend as they have been doing it for years. Some of the most expensive wines in the world are from this region and are fetching thousands of dollars per bottle in futures, which are wines that are paid for before the wine is even made. It is almost like playing the stock market. That is what the true art of the blend can bring. There are different laws and guidelines for what you can call your wine in different parts of the world. In the U.S., we have very few guidelines to follow compared to other countries. When we make Bordeaux-style blends, we call them everything from Red Blend, Claret or Meritage or even fun names like Big House Red.

The Rhone blends from France are very nice as well and are one of the only red wines offered that will have a touch of white in them to help create a more desirable wine. There are more varietals to choose from to make a desired blend, but again, there are strict regulations on how much of one particular varietal you can use in the blend depending on what part of the Rhone Valley it is from. The Bordeaux and Rhone blends are just a few examples I really wanted to concentrate on. They have inspired other countries and are available to us at our local stores. But there are so many examples in the entire world to choose from. Remember to give blends a shot. They are a partnership of grapes like a marriage. Wine is alive, and these grapes are going to spend the rest of their lives together to make the world a better place. kc

Wine Niche

with Vince Balistreri • Vince Balistreri is general manager and sommelier at Niche Restaurant in Geneva. He offers his expertise in the wine industry to the Kane County community. Photo by Megan Kelly

20 Kane County Magazine • February 2013

health / low-fat recipe of the month

By Lee Nelson Photos by JEFF KRAGE

Fond Of Fondue What could be more yummy and romantic than making a chocolate fondue to share with your sweetie? And this recipe is low in fat, so you don’t have to feel guilty about indulging with ripe pieces of pineapple, strawberries and other fruit, or chunks of moist and low-fat angel food cake. “It is low fat because we use very little half and half — which is half cream and half milk — and then skim milk,” says Carol Segobiano. “Most fondue recipes call for heavy whipping cream with lots of fat. This cooks up very smooth and creamy.” Segobiano and Ursula Bulgarelli, both of St. Charles, are owners of the personal chef and catering business Pear of Chefs. They came up with this recipe the past holiday season when a mother had ordered a gift basket for her son and his girlfriend living in Washington, D.C. “She asked us to fill a basket for a full dinner,” Segobiano says. “We created the menu for him, provided the recipes, nonperishable items and grocery list in the basket,” Segobiano says. “We thought the fondue was a great date-night dessert.” It takes less than 10 minutes to prepare. Using dark chocolate helps the recipe stay heart healthy, and the small amount of powdered sugar takes the edge off of the bitter chocolate taste. For those who don’t want to add the Grand Marnier, that’s OK.

LOWFAT RECIPE OF THE MONTH This three-month health series will enlist the expertise of Ursala Bulgarelli and Carol Segobiano of St. Charles, co-owners of Pear of Chefs. They will provide a low-fat recipe for Kane County residents to try at home.

“You can skip it or use any of your favorite liqueur such as a raspberry one or mint,” Segobiano says. “It just makes it more full bodied.” Once you have the mixture complete, put it in a small slow cooker or fondue pot. “I like a Crock-Pot better because there is no burning or flame,” Segobiano says. “It heats evenly in a Crock-Pot and can sit longer.”

Chocolate Fondue Ingredients: 1/4 cup half and half 1/3 cup fat-free milk 8 ounces dark chocolate, chopped 1/4 cup powdered sugar, sifted 2 tablespoons Grand Marnier (or your favorite liqueur)   Dipping ideas: 1-inch cubed angel food cake Apples, bananas, strawberries or pineapple   Preparation: Combine the first three ingredients in a medium saucepan. Cook over medium-low heat for 5 minutes or until smooth, stirring constantly. Do

not boil. Stir in the sugar and liqueur. Cook for 5 to 8 minutes or until the mixture is smooth, stirring constantly. Pour mixture into a fondue pot or slow cooker. Keep warm. Serve with angel food cake, and/or suggested fruits. kc 6 This fondue recipe is low in faty and takes less than 10 minutes to prepare.




6 Today, Scarlett Dickerson is almost 4 and her brother, Cannon, is 17 months. Photos provided

From Hope Comes LOVE Anita Dickerson felt emotionally drained when she was went through treatments for infertility. “It’s just exhausting because you feel like all your life, you’ve been waiting to have a baby,” the 34-year-old St. Charles resident says. In the fall of 2007, after two years of marriage, Dickerson and her husband, Scott, sought local help from the Center for Reproductive Health to have a baby.

She started with the fertility drug Clomid to stimulate her ovaries to improve egg production. When that didn’t work, the couple tried intrauterine insemination, the most common type of artificial insemination. This treatment involves taking medication to increase egg production and placing the partner’s sperm in the uterus with a catheter. But the Dickersons didn’t have success with that treatment either. In vitro fertilization was the next option. As part of IVF, a woman takes medication to stimulate her ovaries for egg production.

Then the best eggs and sperm are fertilized in a laboratory and at least one embryo is transferred to the mother’s womb. Dickerson had two embryos implanted and learned in June 2008 that she was pregnant. In March 2009, the couple welcomed their daughter, Scarlett, into the world. Because of their success with IVF, the couple went back to the fertility clinic to conceive another child. Again, two embryos were implanted during the IVF cycle and one resulted in pregnancy. The Dickerson’s son, Cannon, was born in August 2011.

“I ended up having a C-section [for both pregnancies],” Dickerson says. “But other than that, my pregnancies went really well.”

Thoughts from the mothers

Dickerson describes the experience of going through a fertility clinic as time-consuming and emotionally draining, yet well worth it because the clinic gave her a family. “I definitely feel that when you go through the fertility process, you really appreciate what you have,” says Dickerson, who works as a chiropractor while raising her nearly 4-year-old daughter and 17-month-old son. To relieve stress and improve blood flow to the uterus, she went to an acupuncturist during pregnancy. The Center for Reproductive Health, located in Geneva and Crest Hill, works with an acupuncturist and two psychology groups to offer emotional support and stress relief for couples. Fertility clinics often give referrals for holistic and psychotherapy services. Jacquelyn Graf of Pingree Grove also experienced trial and error during treatments for infertility. After trying to have a child for a couple of years, Graf and her husband, Jason,

another child. Although the attempt failed, they used two frozen embryos like before and one was successful. They are expecting a girl in April. “My son is the world. I can’t imagine life without him,” says the 35-year-old mother, who works as the quality team leader for a medical device company. “I just look forward to having another child.”

Thoughts from the experts

Infertility affects 10 to 15 percent of couples in the U.S., according to Mayo Clinic, a nonprofit medical practice that specializes in medical care, research and education. “It’s like a silent disease. People don’t talk about it,” says Dr. Eve Feinberg, who was Graf ’s reproductive endocrinologist at Fertility Centers of Illinois in Hoffman Estates. Couples should feel comfortable with a physician in this “intimate area of medicine,” Feinberg says, and they should do research to find a reputable one. “You’re taking a very personal issue, and you’re bringing it to an office setting,” she says. “So, I think there’s a lot of reluctance to step in the door when coming to a fertility clinic.” Choose a doctororiented clinic rather than one that is run by nurses and technicians, says Dr. Scott Springer, medical director of the Center for Reproductive Health. Springer, who was Dickerson’s reproductive 5The Graf family includes Jacquelyn endocrinologist, also and Jason and their son, Paxton. They suggests talking with are expecting a baby girl in April. people who have used a fertility clinic. He estimates that about 60 percent of his patients use intrauterine went to Fertility Centers of Illinois in 2007 for insemination with fertility medication, 20 artificial insemination. But the treatment was percent just use Clomid or other fertility drugs unsuccessful. and 20 percent need IVF. They took some time off to improve their Fertility drugs and intrauterine insemination financial situation and then went back in 2009 are the most affordable treatments. Medication for IVF. Although Graf became pregnant, she to ovulate more effectively costs between $200 miscarried at 10 weeks. and $1,000, and intrauterine insemination Luckily, two frozen embryos were on reserve ranges from $400 to $1,500, depending on the as a result of IVF. So, both were implanted and type of medicine and degree of monitoring, one resulted in pregnancy. Graf delivered her according to local fertility clinics. son, Paxton, in September 2010. For IVF, the cost is typically $10,000 to The pregnancy went smoothly, Graf says, $12,000, doctors say. although she had high blood pressure during her They advise patients to check with their term. As a result, her son arrived a month early. insurance company to understand their coverage Last year, the couple tried IVF again to have and the stipulations that need to be followed.

5Anita and Scott Dickerson have two children, Scarlett and Cannon.

Although fertility clinics do not have to track their overall success rates, they are required to report IVF rates, which are available at www. In the last decade, implantation and pregnancy rates have increased because of lab advancements, Springer says, such as more efficient incubators and improved culture media where the embryos develop. Other improvements include genetic testing for chromosome problems in embryos and a better freezing process to preserve eggs and embryos, Feinberg says. A major factor affecting success rates is the age of women. For instance, older women tend to have more difficulty getting pregnant and the risk of chromosome abnormalities increases with age. The risk of a chromosome problem, particularly Down syndrome, is fairly low until a woman reaches her 40s, Springer says. kc

FOR MORE INFO Great sources to learn more about fertility options and infertility problems:

• American Fertility Association, www. • American Society for Reproductive Medicine, • Center for Reproductive Health, • Fertility Centers of Illinois, www. • Resolve, a nonprofit organization that promotes reproductive health and provides support groups, • Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology, which provides local success rate reports on in vitro fertilization, www.

February 2013 • Kane County Magazine


Shannon Samuels, D.D.S. • Accepting New Patients • Children Welcome! February is Children’s Dental Health Month. • Easy access for senior citizens, and handicap accessible. Dr. Shannon Samuels graduated from the University of Nebraska Medical Center College of Dentistry in 1987, and completed advanced training in General Practice at Illinois Masonic Medical Center in Chicago. She established Hamilton House Dentistry in the historic “Hamilton House” (established 1907), which is located in downtown Geneva. The cozy office is designed with patient comfort a priority. Dr. Samuels and her staff enjoy learning about you and your family, listening to your dental concerns, and educating you about the importance of restoring and maintaining your oral health. Their goal is to focus on each patient’s individual dental needs, and exceed those needs by providing quality, conservative, evidence based dentistry. On behalf of Dr. Samuels and her staff, welcome to Hamilton House Dentistry.

Hamilton House

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Unique individuals who provide specialized services

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Melissa Ledwidge, DDS Dentist, North Aurora Dental Associates

Ingy Nessim, DDS Dentist, North Aurora Dental Associates

“Their remarkable team ensure their patients’ individual dental needs are taken care of in a calm, relaxing environment.”

A Smile for a Lifetime At North Aurora Dental Associates, patient care and comfort take top priority. Whether patients are experiencing tooth pain or seeking to improve their smiles, Dr. Melissa Ledwidge, Dr. Ingy Nessim and their remarkable team ensure their patients’ individual dental needs are taken care of in a calm, relaxing environment. In their state-of-the-art facility, Dr. Ledwidge, Dr. Nessim and their team utilize the most up-to-date technology and techniques in dentistry to provide the most proficient care possible. North Aurora Dental Associates provides general and restorative dentistry services for the entire family, as well as cosmetic services such as Invisalign, crowns and teeth whitening. Comfort dentistry is also available for patients who experience dental anxiety and fear, including nitrous oxide and oral medication.

By emphasizing preventative and lifetime care, Dr. Ledwidge, Dr. Nessim and their team help patients achieve healthy, attractive smiles that last a lifetime. For patients who hablan Espanol, the office is fluent in Spanish and has a Spanish website available for patient convenience. North Aurora Dental Associates is located at 100 North Lincolnway in North Aurora. For more information or to make an appointment, please call 630-896-3939 or visit www.

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Wedding? Wonderful! Planning a beautiful wedding can be easy when you know where to go, and Kane County residents are fortunate to have some of the Chicago area’s top wedding service providers close to home. What’s new for Bridal Season 2013 and beyond? A few local wedding pros weigh in.

Wonderful Wedding By Elizabeth Harmon Planning a beautiful wedding is easy when you know where to go, and Kane County residents are fortunate to have some of the Chicago area’s top wedding service providers close to home. What’s new for Bridal Season 2013 and beyond? A few local wedding pros weigh in. A Formal Invitation Old world, upscale, crisp and classic are all ways to describe wedding invitations for 2013. “They’re very formal, and there are multiple designs with lots of custom work going into them,” says Steve Almy, who owns Invitations, Etc. of Batavia with his wife, Michele. “The personality of the bride and groom come through in each ensemble.” Pocket invitations, which keep direction cards, itineraries and other essentials organized, are huge, Almy says. Popular colors include browns, light purples and blues. Destination weddings call for less formal invitations in festive shades

By Elizabeth Harmon ij Photos by Melissa Emory

3(Facing page and in center) Veiled in Elegance in Geneva offers rows of dress options for brides, bridesmaids, mothers of the bride and more. All dresses are made of silk. Centered is a lace dress that is part of the "Legends" collection by Romona Kevcza.

A Formal Invitation

Old world, upscale, crisp and classic are all ways to describe wedding invitations for 2013. “They’re very formal, and there are multiple designs with lots of custom work going into them,” says Steve Almy, who owns Invitations, Etc. of Batavia with his wife, Michele. “The personality of the bride and groom come through in each ensemble.” Pocket invitations, which keep direction cards, itineraries and other essentials organized, are huge, Almy says. Popular colors include browns, light purples and blues. Destination weddings call for less formal invitations in festive shades of orange and green, with beach and palm tree graphics. But Almy says that recently, he’s seen fewer destination weddings. “Three years ago, they were all the rage, but I think a lot of people can’t afford to take the time off or can’t afford to go, so we’re seeing more weddings locally,” he says. While online extras like Facebook response pages and guest list management services appeal to some couples, Almy says low response rates are making these new options slow to catch on. “I had one couple try it and found that the invitations got lost in junk mail, so they ended up having to call everyone,” he says. “It turned an elegant occasion into a big headache.”

3 A wide variety of bridal accoutrements are available at Veiled in Elegance. 6 Unique table decorations — such as this wood stump with coral charm peonies — are available from Elizabeth Wray Design. Photo by EB Creative Photography

Invitations, Etc. • 24 N. Batavia, Suite 200 • Batavia • 630-326-9546 • Additional places to look in Kane County *Please note this is not a comprehensive list

The Paper Merchant • 328 S. Third St. • Geneva • 630-232-1880 • Invitations by Design • 1 W. State St., Suite 103 • Geneva • 630-403-8272 •

Gracious Gifts

The bride and groom aren’t the only ones receiving gifts. From flasks to flip flops, wedding couples have plenty of creative options when it comes to choosing gifts for their attendants. “For the guys, flasks, tankards, pocket watches and money clips are probably the most popular; for the girls, it’s charm bracelets, jewelry boxes, wine glasses and picture frames,” says Patty Donahue, owner of Image Awards, Engraving and Creative Keepsakes in Geneva. “People also like flash drives, and for destination weddings, flip flops.” While engraving remains the most popular way to personalize a gift, more couples are opting for photo

But one high tech service has proven extremely popular — digital calligraphy. Almy says the service is a lower-cost alternative to hand calligraphy, with a faster turnaround. “We can match any invitation font and color and turn it around in about a day,” he says. “We offer it when couples order their invitations, and when they pick them up, they’re ready to mail.”

scanning. “People still have more traditional weddings and tend to go with engraved gifts, but I think we’ll see more people start to choose to personalize with a photo,” Donahue says. Couples also order additional engraved items such as toasting glasses, cake knives and serving sets. Donahue says knives and servers often become family heirlooms.

“People bring in a set that their parents or grandparents used to have their names added,” she says. Another trend is a shift away from traditional champagne toasts. “We now see more beer glasses, which I think is cool,” Donahue says. But even couples who prefer Bud Light to Dom Perignon are still willing to spend money to celebrate their weddings in style. “People may start out asking about prices, but if they see something they like, they’ll buy it,” Donahue says.

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Kathy Lager, owner of Veiled in Elegance in Geneva, says romantic, lacey gowns and vintage styles are becoming increasingly popular as brides look for alternatives to the perennially popular strapless wedding gown. “We’re seeing more embellishment at the necklines, beading and illusion looks, which gives brides a few more choices beyond the strapless that’s been so popular,” Lager says. Lace has been popular for several years, and Lager says 2013 promises a greater variety of lace styles and weights. “There are more lighter-weight laces such as organza and more Chantilly lace,” she says. Vintage is influencing accessories as well. Post earrings are returning, as are belts embellished with crystal beads, lace, flowers and feathers. “These are timeless looks,” Lager says. “I feel like brides want to look back in 20 years and see classic, simple lines.” Blushers — over-the-face veils in various lengths — are seeing resurgence, inspired by British royal

3 Pictured is Elizabeth Dickerson Machak, 30, of Geneva, who married her husband, John, on Nov. 3, 2012. She is pictured wearing her wedding dress — an Angelina Bridal Couture gown with custom Alfred Sung cap sleeves — inside Veiled in Elegance in Geneva, where she purchased the dress.

bride Kate Middleton, now Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge. “These can be added to any length veil including the cathedral length, which is still very popular,” Lager says. For bridesmaids, purple, coral, brown and champagne are popular choices,

and Lager says that a few bridal parties for next year have put bridesmaids in different colors or chosen a print for the maid of honor, with coordinating solids for the bridesmaids. “These can be deep shades or pastels that all coordinate,” she says.

6 These flower arrangements were put together by Elizabeth Wray Design. Photo by EyeShutter Photography

Veiled in Elegance • 15 W. State St. • Geneva • 630-208-7133 • www. Additional places to look in Kane County

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Music From The Heart

St. Charles resident Maureen Christine, a vocalist specializing in pop standards and the Great American Songbook, says the wedding couples she works with frequently have musical selections in mind ahead of time. Sometimes, those selections are surprising, such as the couple who wanted “O Canada,” sung in tribute to the groom’s native country, or John Denver’s “Calypso,” a favorite song of the bride’s father. “People are asking for songs that have personal meaning, so it’s very eclectic,” Christine says. Still, perennial wedding favorites such as “Ave Maria,” “Amazing Grace,” Etta James’ “At Last” and Shania Twain’s “From This Moment On” continue to be popular choices. Frequently, couples find Christine online and listen to her audio samples for additional ideas. At the initial meeting, she discusses musical selections with the couple and may recommend additional songs or even musicians to round out the performance. “We can give a mini concert so they get to hear all the songs they’ve chosen,” Christine says.

A return to formal weddings has spurred another trend. Even couples who hire a deejay for the reception are starting to add live music during cocktails and dinner. “It’s the best of both worlds,” Christine says. “You still have the deejay for dancing, but live music really adds a touch of elegance, and it’s a way to include music that may not have fit into the church ceremony.”

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3 Pocket invitations are very popular, says Steve Almy of Invitations Etc. in Batavia. Photo provided by Invitations Etc.

The British royal wedding and the popular British TV series “Downton Abbey” have helped to push the trend of romantic, vintage looks to the forefront, says floral designer Elizabeth Wray, owner of Elizabeth Wray Design in Geneva. Wray says that brides tend to fall into one of three categories: those who want modern takes on classic vintage looks, those who like soft, romantic garden looks and those who prefer edgier, contemporary styles. Vintage brides may veer toward the Hollywood glamour looks of the 1940s and choose roses or calla lilies embellished with


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crystals, lace or brooches. Others take a Victorian approach with roses, peonies tied with lace or containers in muted silver or gold. “It’s very classic and elegant,” Wray says. Another twist on vintage is a more rustic approach incorporating lace into bouquets, burlap and wood and found objects into decorative flowers. With garden looks, the focus is on soft lines and lots of color. “They’re using delphinium, lilies, snap dragons, wildflowers,” Wray says. “The flowers really are the star.” The contemporary look takes the opposite approach. “Usually, it’s one type of flower or maybe several kinds but all in the same color,” Wray says. “Orchids are a popular choice. Table decorations use glass, submerged flowers. It’s simple, pared down, with very clean lines.” For groomsmen, Wray suggests a single bloom dressed up with twigs or berries. Wedding mothers have traded pinned corsages for bracelet style corsages. And one recent bride traded a tradition bouquet for wearable flowers. “We did a garland of stephanotis wrapped around the brides arm and the bridesmaids carried branches with flowers,” Wray says. “It was very unique and beautiful.”

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3 Kathy Lager has owned Veiled in Elegance since 1995. She has been at her current location at 15 W. State St. in Geneva for the last nine years.

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Taking The Cake 5

By GateHouse News Service

The wedding cake is an important element of your special day. It’s a focal point at your reception and will be remembered by your guests for its beauty and taste. Wedding cake styles can range from the traditional stacked cake to a sculpted masterpiece. When choosing your perfect cake, remember to allow your personal style to show in the final design.


Individual cakes

Individual mini-cakes generally look like tiny wedding cakes and are distinguishable from cupcakes. They may be displayed on tiers but often are served on small plates placed at the guests’ tables. When serving individual cakes, you will need a bridal cake for cake-cutting pictures and for your own enjoyment. These personal-sized wedding cakes can be decorated the same as a larger cake, including delicate piping and marzipan decorations, which can be molded into flowers and other tiny shapes and decorations.



The traditional stacked or tiered cake is one of the most recognizable wedding cake styles. The bottom layer is the widest, and

each ascending layer becomes smaller. Traditionally, a stacked cake has at least three levels and each tier is round. However, five and six levels can be stacked with tiers shaped as squares or octagons for visual appeal. Stacked tiers can be set so they appear off-kilter or topsy-turvy as well. This variation can be whimsical or elegant depending on the cake’s decor. In addition, stacked cakes are a blank canvas for decoration. This style supports delicately formed sugar flowers or other decorations such as beading, ribbons or intricate scrollwork.



Sheet cake



Popular Styles

Depending on the size and style of your wedding, a large sheet cake may the perfect choice. A sheet cake can be iced with lush buttercream frosting or even covered with smooth fondant. Buttercream is a light, creamy and versatile frosting. It can be flavored and colored to suit your preferences. Cakes covered in fondant will look smooth and seamless. Sugar flowers or other decorations can be attached to either fondant- or buttercream-frosted cakes. Sheet cakes also may have a layer of cream or fruit filling.

A sculpted cake is one that has been formed into a three-dimensional shape and is a unique way to let your personality shine. A creative wedding cake artisan can shape your cake into a replica of your chapel, an elegant gazebo or even a collection of seashells for a beach wedding.


Cupcake tower

Cupcakes arranged in a tower can have a strong visual impact and allow for versatility. With cupcakes, you can have multiple flavors and various decorations and frostings to complement your bridal colors. From red velvet to mocha and lemon-vanilla cream, the cake flavors for cupcakes are almost endless. A typical cupcake tower will have about six tiers or levels, with the bottom tier being the widest and each ascending tier becoming smaller, similar to a stacked cake. kc

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arah Hamparian and John Fern of Hanover Park won the inaugural free wedding giveaway from Geneva Wedding 12 and were wed Dec. 12, 2012, in downtown Geneva. The two received an all-expense paid wedding valued at more than $40,000 utilizing local vendors for all aspects of their nuptials, including cocktail and reception venues, food, drinks, church, flowers, dresses, hair,

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3 Sarah and John departed from their ceremony in a carrieage provided by Royal Carriage Ltd. in Geneva. Photo by Tom Nicol Photography

3 The reception took place at Riverside Receptions in Geneva. Photo by Tom Nicol Photography

6 The wedding cake was provided by Coca Bean Fine Desserts in Geneva. Photo by Tom Nicol Photography

3 (Far left) The bridal bouquet was designed by Elizabeth Wray Design in Geneva and was customized with the bride’s grandmother’s crystal broach. Photo by Hazelton Photography 3 Sarah Hamparian stands with (from left) her bridesmaid and sister of the groom Jennifer Fern, maid of honor Lindsey Davis and bridesmaid and sister of the groom Elizabeth Berube. Photo by Hazelton Photography

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A Beautiful Life Together I By LEE NELSON I

Barney Lykins saw his future wife walk by him at an Ohio church when they were only teens. He whispered to his two buddies that he was going to marry her some day. His prediction came true six years later after a stint in the military. When they met, Carolyn was 14, and Barney was 17. “When we started dating, his sisters would go with us because my mother didn’t want me to be alone with him,” Carolyn says. “We’d go to the Dairy Queen after church, and that’s where he gave me his class ring. I was just starting high school.”

Love through the ages

After he graduated from high school, Barney couldn’t find a job, so he signed up for the military. He left to go overseas to Japan for two and a half years. “His mother wanted us to get married, but I was only 15 at the time,” Carolyn says. “My family wanted me to graduate from high school first, and so did I.” After being gone so long from his dream girl, Barney wrote Carolyn a “Dear Jane” letter, breaking up with her and telling her not to write him any more letters. “He was lonesome,” Carolyn says. “He told me to date other guys, but I never found anyone quite like him.” Out of the blue, Carolyn made a call to Barney’s parents in November 1960 to see how they were doing. Barney answered the phone. He had returned home two days before. They were engaged by the spring of 1961 and married May 12, 1962. “We didn’t have any money when we got married,” Carolyn says. “We went to Kentucky for our honeymoon, but we couldn’t do anything.” Barney doesn’t even remember proposing to Carolyn. But he’s glad she agreed to marry him. 6Pictured are photos and other mementos from the Lykins’ wedding day.

5 Carolyn and Barney Lykins reminisce about their wedding day. Photos by Heather Nelson

“We renewed our vows after 50 years last spring,” he says. “It was just something I wanted to do, and we had quite a party afterwards. Most of the people there were the people that we spend a lot of time with at church.” The Lykins, who live in Elburn, have been 4Barney Lykins members and volunteers since 2006 at the First kisses Carolyn, his Congregational Church in St. Charles. wife of more than “Their vow renewal was very emotional for 50 years. me, especially since I didn’t know [my dad would] make it this far with all his medical problems,” says the Lykins’ daughter, Amanda Lykins-Kanter of Yorkville. “It was really motivating and inspirational for me because it happened three months before my own wedding.”

Getting through the hard times

When the Lykins first got married, Barney worked three jobs. He eventually used his computer training from the military to work at International Harvester — now Navistar — where his daughter works. Carolyn worked at a finance company until 1965 when their son was born. But for years, Barney’s job transferred him

and his family from Ohio to Indiana then to Illinois. “We only lived four months in one place and then [were] transferred,” Carolyn says. “I kept dragging the baby furniture all over the place.” Fifteen years after their first child, the Lykins had their daughter. It wasn’t easy for Carolyn because her son had been diagnosed with Prader-Willi syndrome. Children with this congenital disease have an intense craving for food and will do almost anything to get it. They also can have other problems along the way. “He’s really not low functioning, but

he can be very manipulative and very stubborn,” Carolyn says. “Families of PraderWilli children have a huge divorce rate. But I’m just plain stubborn and didn’t want my kids not to be around their dad. They say God won’t give you something you can’t handle ... [I] just wish he wouldn’t have trusted me so much.” With Barney traveling so much with his job, Carolyn says she felt overwhelmed at times with dealing with a baby by herself and trying to handle a teenage son who would throw tantrums because of his disease. With great consideration, the couple decided to place their son in a group home when he

5Carolyn looks through old letters Barney sent her when he was traveling.

5The Lykins renewed their wedding vows in the spring of 2012.

was in his early 20s to let him get the care and expertise he needed. Their son now lives in a facility north of Lake Geneva that is renowned for helping those with Prader-Willi. Through the years, Barney has had medical problems. Carolyn believes a lot of it was brought on by the stress of his job. Sometimes, he would be on 13 flights in one week. Besides suffering a heart attack in 1997 and a collapsed lung in 2003, Barney had a stroke Nov. 15 last year. “They said it was a full stroke, but I was lucky,” Barney says. “Three of my fingers on my right hand and a little part above my waist are still numb.” His daughter agrees that he is a very lucky man. “The day he had the stroke didn’t look very promising,” Lykins-Kanter says. “This is amazing how it all came out.” She is now carrying her parents’ first grandchild. Watching them through the years as a couple and as parents has taught her a lot about life and love. “I learned that a parent will do anything for their child,” she says. “And I also learned that if a couple argues, that that is OK. It doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It’s better to get it out instead of letting it fester.” kc

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How to monitor childen’s use of the Internet I By JAMI KUNZER


Kathryn Kuzlik Hoffman’s son gets a daily “electrical allowance.” The second-grader at St. Peter School in Geneva received an iPad mini for Christmas. “We have strict rules on how he uses it,” Kuzlik Hoffman says. Seven-year-old Chase gets 30 minutes a day for either a television program or computer time. He has his own e-mail address, mainly to stay in contact with his grandparents living out of state, Kuzlik Hoffman says, and he also knows how to use Skype. But if he breaks any rules using the technology, he loses his iPad, she says. “There are parental controls, but we have never had to implement the controls,” she says.

The importance of guidelines Rules like these have become a necessity as children spend more time on computers than ever before, experts say. They’re at risk for being exploited, bullied, victimized, threatened and exposed to offensive photographs,

messages and all sorts of inappropriate material. And all too often, parents are unaware of the capabilities of their children’s electronics, including all that they can access, says Detective Keith Smith of the Kane County Sheriff’s Department, who specializes in computer crimes and forensics. Smith has given numerous presentations at area schools on the topic. Law enforcement, unfortunately doesn’t have the finances or means to completely address the problem, which grows annually, he says. So, it must start with parents. “They’re kind of behind the eight ball because there is an ever-evolving technology that kids are growing up with, and parents are just being introduced to it,” he says. “Kids grow up with it, learn about it, use it regularly, see it being used by a lot of their classmates and friends. “They’re exposed to it considerably more than parents nowadays.”

Parents might not even know or consider the potential risks, Smith says. And at times, the technology can become a “digital babysitter,” he says. It’s important for parents to educate themselves and basically “know what’s out there,” he says. Do so before something happens, not as a result of a potentially harmful situation, he says. “It’s like fire that flares up,” Smith says. “It’s left still smoldering. Left unattended, it’s going to flare back up.” For instance, a parent questioned a child’s inappropriate use of the Internet and took away the computer. What the parent didn’t realize is that the child could still access the Internet through her

phone, Smith says. “It’s a portable computer they carry around every day,” he says. Parents often give children cell phones at young ages so they can reach them in an emergency. But in most cases, Smith says, if the child is with a responsible adult or under the appropriate supervision, the child will have access to a phone anyway.

What’s at risk

Among the risks of children being online is cyberbullying, in which hurtful and humiliating messages and photographs are shared with the intent to embarrass, hurt or harm, experts say, noting that cases of it are on the rise. In response to the trend, the Illinois Attorney General’s Office created to provide parents, teachers and students with the latest news and information about cyberbullying. It also features an E-Info Hotline, a phone- and web-based resource staffed by safety specialists to help victims and educate bullies as to the consequences of their action. Online programs can be used positively and responsibly. It just means both children and parents must be educated, experts say. Deciding the age at which a child should be given certain technology is an “individual assessment” a parent must make, Smith says. But when it comes monitoring use of it, parents should have complete access, he says. “If I’m a parent and I want to look at your phone, it’s not going to have anything I can’t get into,” he says. “If you’re uncomfortable with me looking at what you’re doing online, then you don’t need [to do] it. “My feeling is when you’re old enough to sign a lease at your own place, you’re more than welcome to leave and have all the rights and privacy you want.”

3 “If you’re uncomfortable with me looking at what you’re doing online, then you don’t need [to do] it,” says Detective Keith Smith of the Kane County Sheriff Department.

HOW KEEP IT TO SAFE The following information is from the Illinois Child Exploitation Task Force at the Illinois Attorney General’s Office: “It is important that you talk with your kids about their Internet use and let them know they can come to you for help. Setting a good example online is also a great way to show your children how to use the Internet responsibly and stay safe.”

The following are some online safety tips for parents: r Keep the computer in a room — other than the child’s — with frequent foot traffic so all household members can monitor times of use and material viewed. r Set up agreements and guidelines about the use of the computer. r Understand the functions of the software programs your child uses. If you do not understand these functions, ask your child to teach you.

r Be aware of what Internet sites your child is visiting. Investigate blocking or screening services provided by various Internet Service Providers (ISPs) and software programs. r Learn about everyone your child meets online and discuss these relationships with your child. r Spend time online with your child and discuss their online experiences just as you would ask them about their day.

Set a good example for your children with your own Internet use: • Do not respond to any threatening or offensive messages and encourage your child to do the same. • Never give out any personal information and encourage your child to do the same. For more information, visit www. kc

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I don’t mean to brag, but my husband is pretty awesome. I listen to a lot of my girlfriends complain about how their husbands don’t pay much attention to them, how they don’t do anything, they are constantly fighting and generally they just don’t get along on a regular basis. Of course, my husband is certainly not perfect, and I have my fair share of venting sessions with my girlfriends. However, when all is said and done, I am pretty upfront and honest about the areas where he needs improvement, and he does the same for me. I think we can all agree that when it comes to relationships, especially married couples or those in committed relationships, the men usually have an angle. In my experience, guys are usually the most cooperative when there is something specific they are hoping to gain — if you know what I mean, wink, wink. So, since I am an upfront and honest kind of girl, I’m going to share a little secret about women with all of you men, and I’ll explain how the whole game really works. It really is quite simple, and it might just change the way you think … or perhaps it will just cause you to actually stop and think before you do something stupid. So, here’s the secret: our level of patience is like a bank account, and each time you do something to annoy us, we deduct money out of your account. For example: You don’t take out the garbage — debit. You continue to shove things in the garbage even though it is overflowing — service fee. Then, your wife takes the bag out of the garbage can and leaves it next to the garbage so all you have to do is take it out — another fine. She eventually has to take it out herself so the dog doesn’t tear the bag apart — cash withdrawal. You cut your hair or shave just mere hours after she cleans the bathroom, leaving tiny hairs all over the countertop without cleaning them up — debit.

You leave clothes on the floor right in front of the laundry basket — deduction. You leave your laundry basket with clean folded clothes in the hallway until she eventually puts everything away from you — deduction. You don’t pay attention and when you actually do put clothes in a laundry basket, it is on top of clean, folded clothes — service fee for being stupid. Not only do you fail to put dishes in the dishwasher, you leave them in the sink without rinsing them off — debit. That food left on the plate is any kind of cheese — additional debit. You actually put a dish in the dishwasher, leave food caked on it and fail to realize the dishwasher was just run and everything in it is clean — you get slapped with a double service charge because it is your second stupidity offense. When it comes to taking care of the kids, I’ll admit I have put myself in the position to do most of the work. However, there are times when a little common sense in assisting the wife of the house when the family needs to go somewhere would be greatly appreciated. For example, you get yourself all ready while your wife has to get herself and the kids dressed and ready to go. Once you are done, you sit on the couch and watch football instead of at least helping the kids put their shoes on — that’s a debit. My favorite deductions come from the lame attempts at showing affection. I am very fortunate that my husband tells me on a regular basis that I am beautiful and that he loves me, but there are times when he gets a little too grabby and I feel more like I’m being accosted by a teenage boy than a grown man. I swear one day he is going to snap my bra strap. Therefore, fellas, unwanted advances while your wife is cooking dinner, putting on makeup or when the kids are around — debit. At the end of the day, I think it

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goes without saying that there is only so much left in the account. So, chances are if your significant other suddenly has a headache, the reality is you’ve overdrawn your account. That is when you are slapped with the most expensive fee of all — overdraft fee. The good news is that on several occasions, just when the funds are almost dry, my husband will do something like clean the entire house, make dinner and get the kids ready for bed just when I need him to, and he redeems himself and his account is back in the black again. kc

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EMBRACE the funk As winter lingers on, many women may find themselves in a funk — including a fashion funk. One fun and inexpensive way to spruce up a gloomy mood could be to add a pop of color, a fun design, a chunky ring or sparkly bangle. Bracelets and rings are baubles that can define a woman as a true fashionista, fashion experts say. “Whether you’re adding a sweet final touch to an outfit with a dainty bangle or making a statement with a chunky cocktail ring, these jewelry add-ons will send a clear message about your personal style and what being a ‘fashionista’ means to you,” says Lori Vincent, trend director at Charming Charlie. Kim Dimarzio, accessories buyer for Discovery Clothing Co., says if a bracelet or ring — chunky or simple — is right for you, “It speaks to you.” “There is no explanation for it,” she says. “If fashion is what you buy, then style is what you do with it. So, choose the pieces that stand out to you and speak to you in a special way, and style it your own way.” The two experts offer a few easy and fashionable ring and bracelet suggestions to complete most any outfit.

Bring on color Both Vincent and Dimarzio say color will play a large role in the forecasted fashion trends this year. “The year will start off with a palette of pretty, feminine pastels before transitioning into a trend of bold black and white geometric and graphic patterns,” Vincent says. “Leading into summer, we’ll see much livelier colors in brights, with key shades from the orange/persimmon family, royal and inky blues and a range of exotic colors. “Perhaps the biggest color trend of 2013 is the recently announced Pantone Color of the Year, emerald green.” Dimarzio agrees that pastels will be popular. In fact, she says it will be “the biggest trend this year,” specifically listing sorbet pastel colors such as pink, peach and aqua.



She says mint is on track to be the most dominant color emerging in accessories such as rings and bracelets, and adds that spring 2013 also will mark the comeback of rose gold, especially in bracelet and watch embellishment. “It is definitely a hot accessories trend to watch,” she says.

says. Dimarzio says that matching rings and bracelets can be tricky. “We should choose pieces that complement each other while giving the outfit that extra pop instead of competing with what you are wearing,” Dimarzio says. “For example, a statement necklace or bracelet is best for a simple outfit. Since the star of the look is the bracelet, everything else should be kept to a minimum, such as smaller earrings and rings in complementary colors.” Is it OK to wear more than one large chunky ring or bracelet at the same time on the same hand? Vincent says “absolutely.”  “When mixing rings and bracelets, forget the Stack your jewelry ‘less is more’ thinking,” she says. “Nowadays, the more you stack your jewelry, the better. Create When choosing ring and bracelet sets for an your own unique look by stacking different colored outfit, it’s best to either work tonally, with the same bangles and rings in a mix of sizes and metals. Yes, color family of an outfit, or with contrasting colors that will really pop against the outfit, Vincent says.    it is absolutely acceptable to wear more than one chunky ring on one hand, or both.” “The most important thing to remember Dimarzio says it’s all about putting together whenever you’re styling an outfit for yourself is pieces that enhance each other. to wear what you feel comfortable in and let your “There’s no limitation in terms of how many individual personality shine through,” Vincent bracelets or rings you can pair together as long as it is done in a smart way,” she says “One of my favorite trends is to wear multiple metal chunky 3 “A statement necklace bracelets and rings together. The or bracelet is best for a key to mixing is incorporating simple outfit,” says Kim different tones of metal such Dimarzio, accessories buyer as gold rose, bronze, silver and for Discovery Clothing Co. gold — this creates a playful Photo provided by Discovery visual combination. Moreover, this Clothing Co. allows you to create your own look by adding or removing different pieces, creating fresh new looks for every outfit.”

3 The year will start off with a palette of pretty, feminine pastels, says Lori Vincent, trend director at Charming Charlie. Photo provided by Charming Charlie

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says. “Even just a touch of shine will brighten up an ordinary outfit.” Accessories allow women to put a personal touch on their look, which enables them to alter any outfit in a hassle-free and affordable way, Vincent says. “Accessories have the power to translate your mood into your style for the day, whether it be a statement or professional look,” she says. “For instance, you can take an understated outfit of a simple black shift dress and black pumps and instantly amp this up to an edgy look by adding one statement piece such as an oversized turquoise cocktail ring.” Women should just make sure to choose pieces that reflect who they are, Dimarzio says. “A woman should think of what her style is, what makes her feel confident and what she wants to highlight when accessorizing,” Dimarzio says. “A lot of people style themselves based on what is trendy and what everyone else is liking instead of thinking about what works best for them. I think no matter who you are and what you do, you should just find that one trend that matches your personal style and try to make it work. Choose that special bracelet or ring, and build your outfit around that piece. Let your accessories reflect your inner fashionista.” kc


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What are the materials in rings and bracelets for 2013? For spring 2013, plan on seeing quite a few interesting bracelets and rings with plastic finishes. “Plastic even replaces the main component of the piece sometimes like gem stones or beading,” Dimarzio says, adding that combined with spring’s North Aurora — 1610 Orchard Gateway vibrant colors, rings and bracelets made with these Blvd., 630-907-9898 materials “bring a very youthful and whimsical dimension to your accessories.” Vincent also expects to see a variety of clear and Lucite pieces as well as colored stones and gems through the fall, but there are other trends to consider. “Over the summer, there will be more of a Bohemian feel, with beads mixed with woods or leather,” Vincent says. Plus, expect to be wearing rings and bracelets made from metals, such as gold, silver, anthracite and rose gold, she says, and feel confident to mix all of these metals 4 Glittery and sparkly together in different jewelry accessories are — and pieces as well. will always be — any girl's Dimarzio says in fashion best friend, according to accessories, some Dimarzio. Photo provided materials are a mainstay. by Charming Charlie “First of all, glittery and sparkly accessories are — and will always be — any girl’s best friends,” Dimarzio

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LIVINGWELL What makes your organization unique? LivingWell is the only facility of its kind in Kane County, providing free support, education and wellness services for cancer patients and caregivers. Our purpose is to provide compassionate care that empowers, encourages, supports and provides hope to cancer patients and their families. Since opening in 2006, LivingWell has served more than 11,000 individuals completely free of charge, regardless of where they receive medical care. How did your organization get started? Joanne Hansen, a cancer survivor and philanthropist, along with three other community leaders, all of whom had been impacted by cancer, and together with the support of Delnor Hospital founded LivingWell Cancer Resource Center. LivingWell has since grown from its 5,000 square-foot rented space and moved into a 15,600 square-foot purpose-built building in May, 2012. Why do you feel it’s important to provide those services to Kane County? LivingWell fills an unmet need by integrating services that complement standard medical care. LivingWell’s programs and services help support all aspects of the participants’ needs including psychosocial support services, nutrition counseling, stress reduction activities and wellness programs. Is there someone who has used your services you would like to feature? The Livingston family exemplifies the many ways that families can utilize the services at LivingWell. When Joan Livingston passed away from breast cancer at 48, she left behind a spouse, five children, and a sister ---all who were unsure how to face life without her. “Even though we banded together, we needed something outside of each other, an outsider’s perspective to lead us through the grief,” says Joan’s sister, Kathy.

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The Livingston family exemplifies the ways that families can utilize the services at LivingWell. Weeks after Joan’s death, the family turned to LivingWell, where they received group and individual counseling to help process the loss. “What we got from that support was the reassurance that what we were feeling was normal,” says Liz, one of Joan’s daughters. “While the sense of loss never goes away, we learned ways to deal with it. It was a safe place to say what we felt, and not be judged.” The skills that they learned proved to be invaluable when the family was faced with a second challenge when 14-year-old Sarah, the family’s youngest child, was diagnosed with stage II Burkett’s lymphoma. “Even though we banded together, we needed something outside of each other, an outsider’s perspective to lead us through the grief—and to learn how to cope with yet another cancer diagnosis in our family,” says Kathy. “I don’t think that any of

us would be here today without LivingWell. The fact that we have been cared for and received the support that we so desperately needed, and it was all free…has simply been priceless.” The family has advice for others who are dealing with the cancer experience. “Give LivingWell a try. They are there for you and every experience we have had with them has been a benefit to us,” says Jacob. “They have helped our family get through a lot.” If people are interested in finding out more about your organization, how can they reach you? LivingWell Cancer Resource Center is located at 442 Williamsburg Avenue in Geneva. For more information, please go to, or call 630-262-1111.

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Inaugural Winner:

Tory Haines

In October, seven local women were named Kane County Magazine’s inaugural Women of Distinction for being representative role models as leaders in their fields and communities. Each month through May, we will feature one Woman of Distinction and share her story.

Tory Haines


City of residence: St. Charles Organization/company/corporation: Embrace A Family Title: Founder/board member hrough two very personal experiences, Tory Haines learned that there are many single mothers in Kane County who are in need of assistance. First, her own daughter had been a single mom with certain needs. “She had had a rough patch, and we decided that once we had helped her through that, we would try to give back to some of the people who had helped her,” Haines says. Second, as a certified public accountant, Haines volunteered her time at Tri City Family Services and spoke to single mothers there about their taxes, setting up budgets and the financial aspect of divorce. “You simply learn that there is so much need out there for these moms,” the 68-year-old St. Charles resident says. “Many of these women came from an environment where there had been domestic abuse or domestic violence or certainly at least some very serious control issues. [Many were] just told to sign tax returns, but never understood it. They had never been allowed to handle the money.” Haines offered to do some of the mothers’ tax returns for free and was able to sit and consult with some of them, and she soon realized that these mothers had more than financial needs. And that’s how her organization, Embrace A Family, got off the ground, she says. “As I got to know them some more and they got past the whole trauma of the divorce, they [don’t] need counseling services, but they still feel very alone,” Haines says. In particular, these single mothers feel like they don’t fit in anywhere, she says. Even though they’re single, they have children and responsibilities and they don’t have extra cash flow, so they can’t go out with the girls at night or on the weekends. But they also don’t fit in with married couple activities, leaving many of 56 Kane County Magazine • December 2012

them feeling very isolated. “One of the very first moms that I approached about Embrace a Family said, ‘I don’t even know if you can help me, but the fact that you care to means the world to me,’” Haines says. Embrace a Family, which has been in existence for about seven years, is a helping hands, day-today organization that brings together tri-cities single mothers to assist them in various ways. Once a month, the group hosts “Happy Hour” events in which mothers are told to come and relax as they listen to motivational speakers, receive pedicures or simply enjoy a few hours without the stresses of children, exes and other hardships, Haines says. The group also has clothing swaps; puts on fundraisers; and encourages mothers to exchange services with each other, so that a good cook makes a few extra meals in trade for a mother handy with tools to come mow her lawn and fix her porch light. “These moms are not welfare moms,” Haines is quick to point out. “These are moms who do not qualify for help from the Salvation Army … most of them work. They are members of the working poor. They make too much money for food stamps, and because they work full time, they can’t stand in line to wait for handouts from other organizations. “We recognize that they still need a hand.”

For her exemplary service to others, Haines was chosen as the recipient of one of seven inaugural Kane County Magazine Women of Distinction Awards. She was awarded with her fellow winners at a luncheon Oct. 15 at Aquaviva Winery in Maple Park, where nearly 100 people supported their fellow community leaders. “I was very honored,” Haines says of receiving the award. “When people honor you for what you do, it’s difficult because you don’t expect that. It’s not why you’re doing what you’re doing. But to me, the best part of it is that you realize that if people want to honor you, you have made a difference in the community and it can be seen, and that to me is very important.” “She’s a wonderful human being, and I know this from others I talked to at the luncheon [who said], ‘Oh, Tory, don’t you just love her?’” says Nancy Joerg of Geneva, who nominated Haines for the award. “She’s just one of those human beings who’s always trying to help others … . You wish there were more people like Tory in the world. Everything she’s involved with, she brings her lovely personality, character — I’m very grateful to know her.” Haines, who works full-time at ThermalTech, also was chosen to receive a WOD award because of her other volunteer endeavors, including her work as president of the St. Charles Public Library board and as a board member of Elderday Center in Batavia, an adult day care center for those 55 and older. “It’s called having a lot of energy,” Haines laughs. “It’s called having a great support staff everywhere. [Library Director] Diana Brown and her staff are fabulous people to work with … and Elderday is another place that just has my heart. It does so much good for the senior citizens in the community. “And then I have this wonderful angel of a husband of mine,” she continues. “He’ll do anything to help me out in any way … . People laugh at me because they get emails from me at 4:30 in the morning. I manage it because I love it all … I’ve been blessed by God with wonderful help, and I’ve been given so many blessings in my own life that I just believe are meant to be shared.” kc — By Stephanie N. Grimoldby

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Through Feb. 10 — “DeathTrap,” at the Steel Beam Theatre, 111 W. Main St., in St. Charles A writer will go to any lengths to improve his career. Thrilling, chilling and devilishly witty, this mystery is perfect for the chilly winter season. For tickets, show times or more information, call 630-587-8521 or visit www. Through March 17 — “The Art of Murder,” 8 p.m. Fridays and Saturdays and 2 p.m. Saturdays at the Fox Valley Repertory at Pheasant Run Resort, 4051 E. Main St., in St. Charles From the writer of the hit “I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change” comes the award-winning whodunit about a frustrated artist, his wife, their insane art dealer and the odd housekeeper. Nothing is quite as it seems in this comedic game of clue. Rated PG13. Tickets are $32 to $42. For tickets or more information, call 630-584-6342 or visit www. Feb. 2 — Jason Bonham’s Led Zeppelin Experience, 8 p.m. at the Arcada Theatre, 105 E. Main St., in St. Charles The son of original Zep drummer John Bonham brings an amazing band, videos and effects for as close to a real night of Led Zeppelin as you can get. Tickets start at $59. For tickets or more information, visit Feb. 8 — The Security Project, 8 p.m. at the Arcada Theatre, 105 E. Main St., in St. Charles The Security Project, featuring former members of The Peter Gabriel Band plus Fanfare, A Tribute to Emerson, Lake and Palmer, take the stage. Tickets start at $29. For tickets or more information, call 630-962-7000 or visit www. Feb. 16 — The Guess Who, 8 p.m. at the Arcada Theatre, 105 E. Main St., in St. Charles With hits “American Woman,” “These Eyes” and “Share The Land,” the Canadian rockers return to the Arcada. Tickets start at $59. For tickets or more information, call 630-962-7000 or visit Feb. 22 — “Becky’s New Car,” 8 pm. Fridays and Saturdays and 3 p.m. Sundays at the Steel Beam Theatre, at 111 W. Main Street in St. Charles Check out this original comedy with serious overtones as Becky Foster, caught in middle-age, takes the road less traveled. Tickets are $25 for adults and $23 for seniors and students. For tickets and more information, visit www. Feb. 22 — Shirley MacLaine, 8 p.m. at the Arcada Theatre, at 105 E. Main St., in St. Charles Enjoy this evening of memories and behind-the-scenes magic with a Hollywood legend. MacLaine is now starring in the third season of “Downton Abbey.” Tickets start at $49. For more information, visit


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Feb. 1 to 3 — Military History Fest, Noon to 7 p.m. Friday; 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday; and 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Sunday at Pheasant Run Resort, 4051 E. Main St., in St. Charles The event will include books, videos and re-enacting merchandise to 14 interactive encampments (Romans through Vietnam). There will be authentic World War II tanks, heavy weapons, dancing, live music, seminars, workshops and more. The cost is $15 for a one-day pass, $25 for a three-day pass and those 15 and younger are free. Veterans and military personnel will be free on Friday. For more information, call 630-336-2614 or visit www. Feb. 2 — Duct Tape, 2 p.m. at the Batavia Public Library, 10 S. Batavia Avenue, in Batavia Bring a roll of your favorite color duct tape and a pair

of scissors and learn how to create a duct tape treasure. Parents are welcome and encouraged. Registration is required. To register or for more information, call 630-8791393 or visit Feb. 2 — Sunset Snowshoe Hike, 4 p.m. at Primrose Farm, 5N726 Crane Road, in St. Charles Venture out across windswept fields to visit an outof-the-way corner of the farm. Discover native plants and animals that call fence rows and wetlands their winter home. Cost is $5 for residents and $7.50 for nonresidents. To register or for more information, visit www. Feb. 2 — Fish ’n Freeze Ice Fishing Derby, 9 to 11 a.m. at Blackhawk Pond, in South Elgin Blackhawk Pond offers a wide variety of different fish species from blue gill to northern. This pond is stocked on a regular basis. Adults and kids will be competing in separate divisions with winners receiving a trophy and prizes. Volunteers will be available on site to offer tips and help drill holes in the ice. Fishing poles and bait will not be provided. For more information, visit Feb. 3 — 5K Super Bowl Shuffle, 8:45 a.m. at Geneva Middle School South, 1415 Viking Drive, in Geneva Join Geneva Middle School South for their third annual Super Bowl Shuffle 5K! Day of registration is $39. The event will take place snow or shine. For more information, call 630-232-4542 or visit Feb. 6 — Winter Walk, 1 p.m. at the Fabyan Japanese Garden, off of Route 31, north of Fabyan Parkway, in Geneva Preservation Partners staff will lead a guided tour with insight into the garden’s history and what makes the winter season unique in Japanese gardens. As snow-covered ground is necessary, please call the day of the walk to confirm the tour status. The tour will begin at the west garden gate entrance. For more information, call 630-3776424 or visit Feb. 9 — Dancing with the Geneva Stars, 7 p.m. at Eagle Brook Country Club, 2288 Fargo Blvd., in Geneva The popular benefit returns to Eagle Brook Country Club! Featuring a new cast of six local dance teams, every vote – which costs $1 – contributed will benefit the Cultural Arts Commission and the Geneva Academic Foundation. Tickets are $40 for open seating. For more information, visit www. Feb. 10 — Valentine’s Day Craft, 1 p.m. at Gail Borden Public Library, 270 N. Grove Avenue, in Elgin Make heart-shaped, Spanish-style greeting cards for Valentine’s Day with Leticia. Participants will be able to take their cards home at the end of the program. To register or for more information, call 847-742-2411 or visit www. Feb. 10 — Just Dad ‘n Me Dance, 5:30 p.m. at Geneva High School, 416 McKinley Avenue, in Geneva Dads and daughters will enjoy an evening of dancing, entertainment and refreshments. All couples receive a keepsake photograph. The cost is $10 a person for residents and $15 a person for nonresidents. To register or for more information, visit Feb. 16 — “Who Do You Think You Are?” Noon at the Ella Johnson Library, 109 S. State St., in Hampshire Volunteer genealogists will assist those wishing to trace their American Ancestors or Revolutionary War patriots. No registration required. For more information, call 847-6834490 or visit Feb. 17 — The Life and Art of Vincent Van Gogh, 1 p.m. at the Geneva Public Library, 127 James St., in Geneva Join in for this hands-on program and learn what makes Van Gogh’s art so universal and timeless. Finish by choosing one of his paintings to copy for your own small study. This program is open to teens and adults; attendees must preregister. For more information, call 630-232-0780 or visit Feb. 17 — Meet Benjamin Franklin, 2 p.m. at Fox River Valley Public Library District, 555 Barrington Avenue, in East Dundee Meet this historical man of many talents. Carpentersville’s Charles Molenda will make you believe you’re one-on-one with the only man to sign all four documents founding our country. To register or for more information, call 847-4283661 or visit kc

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artist showcase


“Spice Bush”

“Memory Of My Youth” “Anemone hybrid, September Charm”


ED COOK, Batavia


“Anemone hybrid, September Charm” and “Spice Bush” are transparent watercolors done on 11” X 14” paper. Both of these were done during my studies for a Certificate of Botanical Art and Illustration at Morton Arboretum, where I will be teaching two workshops in the spring. “Memory Of My Youth” is an acrylic painting of a scene I saw as a young soldier stationed in England between 1953 and 1955. It is a miniature painting, for which I’m known, and is presently on its way back from an exhibition of miniatures in Moscow, Russia. To submit an entry to Artist Showcase, email artwork, title of piece, name and village of residence of artist, and a two- to three-sentence description of the piece to, subject head “Local Artist Submission.”


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