Unoffendable
Session 2 – What Humans Are Like
Welcome
◼ God knows me better than I know myself, and still wants to be with me.
◼ Discuss:
o What is a key insight or takeaway from last week that you would like to share with the group?
o In a typical week, how often do you feel shocked or scandalized by the behavior of other people? Explain your response.
Video (Feel free to take notes)
◼ Understanding who humans actually are – who we have been since the very beginning – is core to living an unoffendable life and practicing radical forgiveness.
o We have to quit being in constant shock when people do things or say things that we do not approve of. This is just the way humans are…deep in their hearts.
o Jesus understood the human heart. In one place in Scripture, it actually says that no one had to tell him what humans are like, because he knew their thoughts (John 2:25).
o This is not intended to be a guilt trip but just an acknowledgement of reality so that we can stop being shocked at what people say and do.
Notes:
◼ Once we acknowledge that people are messed up, we can start to make friends with them, because we understand that they are going to be broken.
o When we adopt this point of view, people will actually want to hang around with us, because we will be the least judgmental people they know.
o The apostle Paul wrote that we are not a good judge of other people’s intentions because we can’t even judge our own motives (I Corinthians 4:1-4).
o When we choose not to be offended by others – to not be scandalized by their behavior – it leads to us hanging in with them for the long haul.
Notes:
◼ Jesus is giving us a better and lighter way to live when it comes to dealing with others
o Forgiveness is genius, radical, and excruciating It requires us to deny ourselves and choose not to hold our anger against other people.
o We choose to forgive others because it is not about what they did to us but what God did for us.
Notes:
◼ Repentance is key to living this life of radical forgiveness – being able to admit when we are wrong
o There is a proverb that says the first to testify always seems right until he is crossexamined. The first to testify in our own heads is us.
o Jesus constantly tells us to humble ourselves so we can entertain the thought that we just might be wrong about something.
o We can go into the day knowing that people are going to do all the messed-up things that they are capable of doing. We can practice forgiving them when they do.
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Discuss:
o In your experience, what are some things that our culture believes to be true about followers of Jesus?
o Judging someone or being judgmental is looked down upon in today’s culture. But judging others and being judgmental is also something all of us do pretty much every day. In your mind, what does it mean to judge another person?
o In this week’s teaching, you were given several examples of Christians who were compelling in their communities because they chose to not be shocked by others – to be unoffendable. Who in your life has made following Jesus seem positive and attractional? Why?
o Self-righteousness can be defined as the inability to admit when you’re wrong. How have you been burned by self-righteousness in your experiences with others? In your own life?
o Human sinfulness should be an undisputed reality in our world because the evidence is plastered everywhere we look – the news, social media, gossip around the water cooler. Where have you seen evidence recently that confirms people are messed up?
o Now consider that same question for yourself. When have you been confronted recently with the reality that you are messed up – that you have issues that need to be dealt with?
o How easy or difficult is it for you to admit that you are wrong about something?
o Humility is a key ingredient to being unoffendable. How would you define humility in your own words? What does it look like in your day-to-day life?
25 When they found him on the other side of the lake, they asked him, “Rabbi, when did you get here?”
26 Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, you are looking for me, not because you saw the signs I performed but because you ate the loaves and had your fill. 27 Do not work for food that spoils, but for food that endures to eternal life, which the Son of Man will give you. For on him God the Father has placed his seal of approval.”
28 Then they asked him, “What must we do to do the works God requires?”
30 Jesus answered, “The work of God is this: to believe in the one he has sent.”
30 So they asked him, “What sign then will you give that we may see it and believe you? What will you do? 31 Our ancestors ate the manna in the wilderness; as it is written: ‘He gave them bread from heaven to eat.’”
32Jesus said to them, “Very truly I tell you, it is not Moses who has given you the bread from heaven, but it is my Father who gives you the true bread from heaven. 33 For the bread of God is the bread that comes down from heaven and gives life to the world.”
34“Sir,” they said, “always give us this bread.”
35 Then Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty. 36 But as I told you, you have seen me and still you do not believe. 37 All those the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away. 38 For I have come down from heaven not to do my will but to do the will of him who sent me.
39 And this is the will of him who sent me, that I shall lose none of all those he has given me but raise them up at the last day. 40 For my Father’s will is that everyone who looks to the Son and believes in him shall have eternal life, and I will raise them up at the last day.”
41 At this the Jews there began to grumble about him because he said, “I am the bread that came down from heaven.” 42 They said, “Is this not Jesus, the son of Joseph, whose father and mother we know? How can he now say, ‘I came down from heaven’?”
o What motivations were driving these people and their interactions with Jesus?
o Based on the above passage, what can we learn about Jesus’ priorities and values? What does he want for His followers?
o Recognizing our own brokenness is one of the key steps we can take toward becoming unoffendable. What actions can you take this week to jumpstart that process?
◼ If you are reading the book:
o Read chapters 9, 10, 12, and 14 before next week.