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FEATURES 32 | Travel Rethinking the family vacation 34 | Cover Flying high with Kristi Hemric 38 | Travel Jetsetting to the TWA Hotel

FAMILY FUN 36 | Calendar All the fun events and activities for January

STORIES & COLUMNS

GUIDE TO SCHOOLS

4 | Editor’s Letter

16 | Education Benefits of a New York education

6 | Mom Stories One mom’s toddler tonsillectomy success story 8 | Ask the Expert TikTok and your kids’ social media spending

18 | Education Changing a school mid-year 20 | Education Considering an NYC Catholic School 22 | Education Directory

10 | Activities Picking extracurriculars, activities, and sports 12 | Ask The Expert Raising sex-positive kids

28 | School Leaders Guide

DIRECTORIES 11 | Activities Guide

30 | Travel New York Family share nearby family getaways

15 | Education Guide

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EDITOR’S NOTE

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January Adventures It is here, 2024 when New York is humming with energy and resolutions like a new school, fun winter classes for the kids, and travel (see our cover theme) may also be on the ticket.

Here is a resolution: if you have a (page 8) TikTok-obsessed tween/Teen starting to spend money via the platform, we have tips on curbing this habit.

Our Ultimate Guide to Schools (page 15) will support you with School information broken down by Charter, Catholic, and Independent schools, Tips on Changing a School Mid-Year (page 18), and more helpful articles. And don't forget our Camp Fairs

(page 2), check out when our next one is coming up!

Circling back to New Year goals- an expert shares insights on Rethinking the Family Vacation (page 32), and our cover mom, Kristi Hemric (page 34), photographer and travel expert, shares on wanderlust solo travels, her journey as a mom of four, pro travel tips for families, work-life balance advice, and her favorite family-friendly travel destinations.

Happy New Year!

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mom stories

From Tears to Cheers One mom’s toddler tonsillectomy success story

By Drew IsserlIs Kramer

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o one needs tonsils. Like the appendix, the two fleshy lumps on both sides of the throat are a vestigial organ, useless body parts of a bygone era. While no longer necessary for human survival, it is thought that the tonsils help the immune system protect the body from infections. According to the National Library of Medicine, in the early 1900s through the midcentury, a tonsillectomy was the most frequently performed surgery in the United States. The driving reason for its popularity was the theory that the tonsils were a “portal of infection.” Ambiguous evidence existed to support this thesis, but the treatment persisted, becoming almost a right of passage for American baby boomer children until medical experts abandoned those theories in the 1970 and 80s.

Today, the tonsillectomy is trending again. The shift in prevalence came after the American Academy of OtolaryngologyHead and Neck Surgery updated its recommendations for the procedure. The guidelines support removal of tonsils if a child has had 7 episodes of throat infection in one year. The guidelines also advise removal of the tonsils for children experiencing sleep disruptions due to breathing conditions like sleep apnea in children that satisfy the criteria for that disorder.

Thanks to a 2022-2023 winter season of rampant strep throat, many children like my now three year old experienced chronic infection and the tell tale inflamed tonsils that result. After months of antibiotics, his enlarged tonsils impaired his breathing and caused sleep disruptions that resulted in extreme threenager cranky behavior. After consulting our pediatrician and the referred ENT, we scheduled a date for mid-October and braced ourselves for a post-op toddler.

In advance of the surgery, my brethren of

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mom friends who have been there and done that armed me with reassurance that we will spend the weekend eating ice cream and send him back into school on Monday. In contrast, the doctor warned that he might be out of school for a full two weeks. My well-meaning friends experienced the aftermath of a tonsil shaving. My little man left the OR without a trace of tonsil. His adenoids were shaved for good measure. The doctor let us know that his tonsils were in rough shape, huge and pocketed with telltale signs of constant infection. We felt validated in the decision to remove, but also intimidated by the new task of caring for this grumpy little man that didn’t truly understand what was in store for him.

It has been one week since surgery. As we head into the colder months, I know many other families about to make the same decision. All will face the same questions of whether to remove, shave or wait and see. For me, I go with the advice of the professionals and trust in science.

If you’ve made the choice to slice and suffer in the short term for long term

wellness, below is my wisdom for how to manage a post-op preschooler.

Before Surgery: I debated when to introduce the idea that we would be removing his tonsils. After several visits to the ENT to discuss his condition and cure the chronic infection with antibiotics, he was smart enough to know he had a problem. The night before the procedure, I read the book Goodbye Tonsils, to prepare him for the big day. It came with an adorable get well bear, which seemed to amuse his brother more than the patient. It is hard to read whether the book had a tremendous impact on his mental health, but it made me feel better knowing the steps we would experience together, and that it would all be better soon.

What to Bring: The night before the big day, I packed a duffel of too many things.

Although he’s been potty trained for a year, I brought some pull ups in case he needed them for after or during surgery. Since he didn’t drink or eat anything the night before, he went into surgery in his paw patrol undies and did not have an accident. I also brought a change of pajamas to go home in, so the

hospital icks didn’t snuggle onto the couch when we returned. I brought books, the get well bear, and a few favorite toys to amuse him for the four hours we would have to wait at the hospital after surgery. The Goo Jit Zu action figure saved the day, providing a sensory something to work out the jitters before and after the procedure.

In the Recovery Room: I’ve experienced the pleasure of surgical recovery as a patient, but never as a witness. In spite of all my preparations, I didn’t anticipate the irritability and arm flailing that happens when one comes out of general anesthesia.

My advice for parents coming into this scene is to remember that your child is OK. This is all a part of the process. In the moment, my instinct guided me to get in the bed with him, holding him close and telling him I was there. Eventually, he fell asleep, waking up a half hour later confused, but calmed by the intravenous painkillers administered through the tube in his arm. The kind nurses at the hospital set him in front of a computer with Paw Patrol on repeat. Savor this moment of snuggly calm.

We felt validated in the decision to remove, but also intimidated by the new task of caring for this grumpy little man that didn’t truly understand what was in store for him.

The First Three Days: After the haze of the IV medications fade, the reality sets in for everyone. Perhaps your child is a mellow, easy going character who does as he is told in the best and worst of times. Or perhaps your child copes like mine. Upon wake up on day 2, nothing was right. No food or drink would pass his lips–not even my homemade rice pudding. No pain medication would enter his body. His breath was foul from wound recovery, no matter how often we brushed.

He chose to lay motionless in the fetal position watching Paw Patrol for the next three days.

With the Benefit of Hindsight: Apparently there is an alternate route to take pain killers that does not involve the mouth.

After consultation with my pediatrician, I learned that in desperate times, I could use a suppository. It wasn’t great for either of us,

but it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.

Once medicated, he resumed playing and regulated his emotions. I wish I had gone in this direction sooner.

It has been a week. He is still not going to school. He’s still not eating or drinking much.

He’s lost three pounds. He requires a lot of sleep to recover. He’s just a little boy. While I pride myself as a mother who is capable of tough love and teaching a man to fish, now I feel I must give him grace. When he wanders into my bed at night, I don’t walk him back.

I don’t have a script for this recovery process, but I am leaning into my instincts and letting him lead. I worry that he’ll have a hard time readjusting to school separation. I worry that he’s not eating and drinking enough. I worry that I’m losing my marbles from lack of sleep or personal space. But I take comfort in knowing that this, too, shall pass.

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ask the expert

TikTok and Your Kids’ Social Media Spending Tips for curbing this new habit

By BarBara russo

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arents of tweens and teens are probably experiencing thier children spending more than 90 minutes daily on TikTok. Adding more to their digital footprint, the platform has proven to influence these young users to spend. New Consumer found that 27% of users were prompted to purchase a new product because they saw it on TikTok. Unsurprisingly, parents are footing the bill: according to Piper Sandler’s biannual survey, 62% of teens admitted that their parents contribute to their social media spending.

So, as we enter a new year, how can parents steer kids away from buying products they don’t need on TikTok – and teach them responsible spending and saving habits instead?

We spoke with Jennifer Seitz, CFEI and Director of Education at Greenlight (and a mom of three teens), who can provide actionable advice for parents and kids.

TikTok is ripe with products that—more often than not—people just don’t need.

How do you tell your kids not to get caught up in all the glitzy promotion of things on TikTok? The social media algorithm is filling our social feeds with ads for what they know we like — and likely want to buy. This brings an opportunity to have an open and honest conversation with your kids about responsible spending before a pattern of impulse buys becomes the norm. This means prioritizing needs over wants, adhering to a budget for future goals, and making informed purchase decisions based on thorough research and comparison.

Encourage them to think critically about

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whether a product serves a genuine purpose or if it’s simply another passing trend. As you shop with your kids or give them permission to shop, contextualize the qualities of responsible spending. Instead of giving them a “yes” or “no” answer, use this framework to help them come to a wise conclusion themselves.

Help them cultivate a habit of setting future financial goals and saving for them – from buying concert tickets to purchasing their first car or saving up for a graduation trip. A dollar saved now is a dollar preserved for future enjoyment.

Is it helpful to talk to kids about their social media spending and how it is impacting their personal finances? If so, how does a

parent approach the issue?

Certainly! Discussing their social media spending — and spending in general — creates an opportunity for you to guide their understanding about how money works. Earning, spending, and saving are all connected.

Educate them about the potential pitfalls associated with recurring subscriptions or inapp purchases, as those can really drain their allowance unnoticed. You can also raise some potential consequences of impulse spending in the real world, such as snowballing credit card debt or falling short of paying rent and bills. The goal is not to scare them away from all spending but to foster a sense of responsibility of maintaining healthy personal finances.

How does a parent limit or set guardrails on screen time and social media spending?

Start by establishing clear guidelines around both screen time and spending allowance. You can begin by setting specific daily or weekly caps for certain activities on their phones or computers and enforce that with parental control settings on the devices.

Encourage alternative activities, such as outdoor time, reading, sports, games, family time, and more, to balance out screen time.

Limited device usage can limit exposure to social media spending. The next step in limited or setting guardrails on social media spending is educating your kids about the potential risks of online purchases (e.g. scams, privacy violations) and the slippery slope of overspending.

Consider setting up separate pre-paid cards or online payment accounts with limited funds and purchase alerts for their use. Sit down with them each month to go over their shopping history and compare their actual spending to the budget. And remember to reiterate your previous conversations with them on discerning needs

“The goal is not to scare them away from all spending but to foster a sense of responsibility of maintaining healthy personal finances.” vs. wants and now vs. later. This process will not only help you identify overspending but also help them learn from any mistakes they might make.

Discuss situations where your permission is required for purchase, so you can discuss their thought process. These conversations are meant to create a supportive environment so that they feel safe to practice, learn, and foster better spending habits for the long run.

Teaching kids about wants vs. needs—that’s important when it comes to limiting social media spending, or any spending. How can a parent get kids to think critically before clicking that quick link to buy something?

Parents can talk to their kids about the difference between needs and wants starting at a young age — as soon as they have wants that aren’t needs. Both can have a place in a budget, and balance is the key! Show them how to categorize their prior spending and create a plan for how they choose to spend and save going forward. That’s a budget!

Typically, adults have the primary responsibility for basic needs, such as food, clothes, and a safe place to live. However, you can prepare your kids to live independently in the future by teaching them how to prioritize and make trade-offs now. Spending in one category will mean less in another category. If they ever overspend on TikTok shopping, ask them how that affects spending on something they might want even more in the future.

Have analytical discussions to turn their money mistakes into teachable moments.

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activities

Picking Extracurriculars, Sports, and Activities

coming for your child (or you!), then less is more. One meaningful activity is more than enough.

If one day a week or a few hours each is sufficient, it will work for your child and, most importantly, the family.

By Stacey eBert

There is an activity, class, or sport out there for every child In families with more than one kid, you may run around and do different activities for your children, as only all of your kids will want to do the same sport or class.

So, lead them to what they will thrive in or take a mild interest and turn it into a full-on hobby. For example, If your child has an ear for languages, steer them towards an international culture or language club.

If they’re pulled towards teams, leadership, and exercise, see what types of sports or club teams are out there for them. If they crave connection and want to learn creative pursuits, consider opening their world towards what’s possible in arts, community service, or learning something new. They want to practice swimming midwinter, there’s a club for that. They want to learn chess and build their interpersonal skills simultaneously; there’s a class for that. They want to learn marketing, debate, and business skills – there’s an organization for that. They want to learn survival skills and embrace the goals of scouts and leadership; there’s a space for that.

Give them a safe, non-judgemental space to share their interests and thrive.

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s a kid, I loved after-school extracurricular classes. Whether summer camp, gymnastics, or high school clubs – regardless of the time of year- I embraced the energy that came with all activities. As a young adult, I led youth groups, ran after-school classes at the local community center, and taught many kids to swim. I felt lucky to have teachers and counselors who chose to share their time, energy, expertise, and talents.

As the season shifts towards winter, it’s time to ensure those young minds have extracurricular classes, activities, or sports to engage, foster, and energize their spirits. Parents should know something exists for all kids – it might take time, effort, trial and error, thinking outside the box, recruiting experts, and listening to your child’s voice. It might mean investments in energy, money, community, and heart. However long it takes to find the thing that lights them up – it’s worth it.

Here are 4 tips to help find an engaging winter extracurricular, class or activity for your child.

Listen actively Kids have a way of sharing their thoughts. Young

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children might not have the words yet, but they know how they feel. Those with the words might not have the meaning flushed out, and some kids may be shy and might need coaxing to try something new. Listen to what seems to interest them and provide options, give them the tools to research, keep an open line of communication, remind them they’ve got a support system, encourage giving it a try, and help them see that the nervous excitement of expanding that comfort zone is worth both the risk and joy.

Know your child There is something for everyone in New York – offering many enriching activities encompassing diverse arts, including painting, sculpting, dancing, drawing, poetry, writing, music, theater, and more. Engaging in the arts fosters talent and expands your child’s understanding of the world, nurturing a heightened sense of self-awareness. For those passionate about sports, tailor-made winter classes are available after school or on weekends, providing the ideal outlet for children to expend their boundless energy.

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raising Sex-Positive Kids and why it’s so important!

By Jeannine Cintron

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will never forget the time I found my eightyear-old watching porn. I was in shock at first and had no idea how to handle it, but I swallowed my inhibitions and used the opportunity to open the lines of communication around sex, which went really well.

Unfortunately, many parents are not as likely to do the same. It’s just the world we live in. But that needs to change.

There are few topics as stigmatized as sex.

By extension, the term “sex positive” is highly misunderstood. So what does sex positive mean? It is merely what it sounds like: having a positive attitude toward anything relating to sex. It’s a simple enough concept, yet most fail to grasp it. In fact, if you mention anything remotely sexual in a conversation, people will often laugh, get uncomfortable, feel awkward and usually make jokes. But it’s no laughing matter.

When there are teenagers going to jail for throwing babies in trash cans and dumpsters to avoid admitting to their parents they had sex and got pregnant, it’s not funny.

When there are young members of the LGBTQ+ community who would rather take their own lives than face another day of bullying, it’s not funny.

When there are children expelled, suspended, even arrested, for sharing explicit images of their “peers” on social media, it’s not funny.

When the young people in those images are cyberbullied and slut-shamed to the point of contemplating suicide, it is not funny.

We are living in a society where many still cling to yesterday’s toxic, close-minded ideals. The outdated school of thought behind everything from female anatomy to gender identity is simply not going away fast enough.

So what do we do? It’s up to us as parents to break the cycle and teach our children how to think openly, be accepting, respectful and understanding of others, and to make the right decisions for themselves and their own sexual health.

I sat down with Melissa Pintor Carnagey, sexuality educator, licensed social worker and

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founder of Sex Positive Families, an organization that helps foster healthy attitudes toward sex in young people. Melissa believes that all children deserve holistic, comprehensive, and shame-free sexuality education so they can live informed, empowered, and safer lives. Her website is a wealth of knowledge for families, with information on a wide array of topics and tips on everything from puberty to pornography. She also hosts interactive virtual workshops for tweens, teens and their trusted adults.

I reached out to Melissa to learn how parents can begin to break the generational taboos and misconceptions around sexuality. She broke it all down for us with the points below.

Sex positivity is not sexualization.

Me: Can you define the term “sex positive”?

Melissa: There’s a misconception about what sex positivity even means or is, and some people can think that it just means being completely permissive about sex or not having limits or boundaries about sex, or that it’s about being very sexual or very erotic, partially because a lot of our media is about sexualizing and erotisizing bodies and sex.

Sex positivity really is about having an open, shame free, honest way of looking at bodies, sex, relationships, all these very human things, and taking away the taboo around it. Being sex positive doesn’t mean that you’re just having lots of sex and that that’s what defines your sex positivity. It’s not just about a person’s sex life. It’s really about making sense of your own choices and your own decisions and also respecting those of other people as well.

these messages, we also understand that we’re creating the constructs of all of these things in our homes, in our families, and in our communities. It’s to our benefit to recognize the influence that we have and that it’s early.

And then we can just get intentional about what we want to help foster with our children and that it really can be a collaboration.

It’s so important that we normalize talking about periods, about where babies come from, and not just, staying in taboo and promoting fear around sex or seeing these things as inappropriate. Sex is how most of us get here. And kids at a young age often wonder, Where do babies come from? They see their teacher or family members that are pregnant and they have questions about that.

That’s an opportunity to plant the seed that ultimately helps to foster comfortable talks about sex so that as they develop and their worldview starts to change and evolve.

But if you keep it silent, if you say, don’t ask that, that’s for adults, or you’re not supposed to talk about that, you’re not supposed to know about that, or if they can see you’re visibly uncomfortable, you shut down and you don’t open that back up to them. That’s a learned taboo. They learn, oh, I’m not allowed to talk about that. I don’t know why. But now I’m not going to ask and I’m not going to be curious. Then when you try later on, when you realize there’s a situation that comes up, and they’re like 13 or 14, and you’re trying to talk to them, they’re going to be uncomfortable because every other message that was sent, either direct or indirect, up to that point, told them that this is not okay to talk about. So they may find other unhealthy ways to learn about it.

Start young. It’s not The Talk; it’s many talks.

Me: When should you have “the talk” with your kids?

Melissa: A lot of parents might think you need to discuss it all at once, but no. It’s definitely a series of conversations, a lot of teachable moments that happen over time.

We are sending our kids messages about bodies, about identity, about relationships, about consent or lack of consent, gender identity literally from the time they’re born.

So when we realize that we’re sending them

It’s not just about sex. Early conversations should include bodily autonomy.

Me Where do you even start?

Melissa: So from the beginning parents can ask themselves, how can I be intentional or just aware of what messages I’m sending?

What are my kids observing? And that it isn’t just something that’s hormones and puberty and teenage years – hopefully by then we’ve already sent them a whole lot of messages.

If we want to help foster openness around sex, then the talks might start early with

consent, helping young people understand their own bodies, giving them accurate names for their body parts, especially the genitals. Help them understand safe and unsafe touch, and who is allowed to help them when they may still need help. Whether it’s going to the bathroom or bathing or changing their clothes, or at their medical appointments; these are some of those teachable moments. When they’re greeting others in the family or even in your own home, are those interactions forced, or are we inviting or asking? Are we giving options as opposed to saying go give your grandma a hug, even if they don’t want to. Bodily autonomy is a foundational aspect that ultimately will support their understanding of sex and healthy sexuality.

It’s important for parents to break the cycle instead of passing it on.

Me: How do parents overcome their own issues stemming from being raised in a nonsex positive world?

Melissa: So many of us weren’t taught these things. They weren’t modeled to us.

And so we may have been confused as we were experimenting with sex or relationships along our own journey. We may have actually had experiences that are abuse or trauma as

opposed to sex, because sex should always involve consent. And that consent should be ongoing and clear. There are many of us that have had interactions that were not consensual, or that were coerced in different ways. And so a lot of that that is taking a look at our own understanding of these topics, how well do we know our own bodies, especially people that have vulvas, people that have vaginas and uteruses because our education system is so patriarchal and taboo and stigmatized when it comes to anything related to sexual health. There are so many of us that didn’t get the education that we needed and deserved to understand how our bodies actually work.

It’s never too late to start the conversation.

Me: What if your kids are already tweens or teens and you’ve never talked about sex with them or you weren’t as open to begin with?

Melissa: We’ve got to take the brave steps to be vulnerable and be honest and so that could sound like ‘I realized that I have not been as open as I could have been with you about bodies, about sex, about puberty, about relationships, whatever it is that you want to talk about and that’s on me. But it’s

important that we learn about these things and that you know who you can turn to. So I want to change that. I would love for us to start having conversations or start you know, talking more openly about these things.’

And then that little piece opens up empathy. For many of us, it can just sound like, ‘when I was growing up, I didn’t have anyone that I could talk to about this. It wasn’t normal for us when I was your age, so then I didn’t know how to handle it as you’ve been growing up. But I’m learning.

I’m learning a lot of things now and I want to make sure you have support. I want to do that differently for you. It might feel awkward, it might feel uncomfortable. That’s okay. This is something that we can work on together.’

And then you just kind of weave it into everyday moments. It isn’t about staring your kid face to face in a confrontational, high pressure kind of way. Maybe you make time to go on a walk together or you build something together or you go have an ice cream date together something that says, this is time for us. And then in the midst of that time, you naturally kind of move into something. And the more you have those one-on-one times, especially when you have more than one kid that’s really important because then they can feel special. The more January 2024 | Brooklyn Family

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that you have that you integrate that, the more you might notice that they bring up things about what’s going on in their worlds.

Self-exploration is encouraged for all genders.

Me: How do you approach the topic of masturbation with your kids, and how important is it?

Melissa: One thing that I teach about when we talk about masturbation, and particularly when we talk about the clitoris, is that we need to help our kids understand and normalize what may feel good to them.

This is so that they can know what does not – which ultimately helps keep them safer before they invite anyone else to play with their body. It’s important for them to understand for themselves, and that helps them establish their own boundaries, their own limits.

Unfortunately, that didn’t happen for so many of us. There are so many people with a clitoris as adults that are deep in their adulthood and still never have experienced orgasm. We can trace that back to a major lack of body literacy. There’s been no foundational understanding. But interestingly, people with penises don’t seem to have that same problem. Why do you think that is? It was 1998 when scientists discovered the full body of the clitoris. Wow, why did it take them so long to realize that this is a full body part and not just this little tip? So this is all a part of us changing this narrative on a broader level, and it starts with these conversations that we can have with our young people so that they know yes, that’s your clitoris, and yes it can feel good because it has thousands of nerve endings. Just like the penis has thousands of nerve endings.

Those two body parts are homologous which means that they are made of similar structure. Just like you might explain why the heart beats or how hearing works or all the things that they learn about in school – but these things that are so vital to their safety and their well being as humans, are conveniently left out of the conversation.

You might say to your child ‘I love that you’re getting to know your body. And this is not something that we do in the living room while people are around or at the dinner table or at the grocery store. That’s something that we do in private so that you can get to know your body. These parts are really sensitive.

That’s why we were clothed to cover them so that they stay protected. And no one else is allowed to touch your clitoris, your penis, your anus.’ All of that can happen in these

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“A lot of parents might think you need to discuss it all at once, but no. It’s definitely a series of conversations, a lot of teachable moments that happen over time.” little teachable moments.

So it’s just us getting comfortable with a new way of helping them understand – helping a new generation understand – their bodies and their rights to their own bodies.

Never punish or demean. It’s okay to be curious!

Me: I caught my child watching porn at a young age and it was stressful. How do parents handle this situation?

Melissa: The world places a lot of responsibility on us as parents, like, don’t raise a perpetrator, don’t raise a victim, all of these messages about how perfect we need to create our children’s lives. And there are going to be things that are going to happen that we may not be able to prevent – like our children finding easily-accessible porn on the internet.

I avoid words, like ‘catch them’, because then that sends that message that like oh, I caught you doing something bad. So if we find out our young person has come across porn or has been shown porn, or has been actively searching, we need to recognize that our children are not bad, they’re not demons, they’re not scarred forever. This is really an opportunity, not a threat. We can get a better understanding of what happened in the situation, not from a well ‘Why were you looking at that?’ stance. It’s important that our reaction isn’t shame-based or accusatory or punishment oriented. It’s our job as a family to help keep all of us safer. We know porn is not for children or education. It’s made for adult entertainment. So we say to them ‘It’s okay to be curious. It’s okay to be curious about bodies. It’s okay to be curious about sex. When you have questions about these things. Here’s what you can do, instead of going to Google or looking at porn, we can talk about it. You

can ask me any questions you want.’ And then that goes back to whether you are truly creating a space that feels safe for them to ask, because kids will go to Google or porn or friends if they’re curious when the home isn’t feeling safe from punishment or shame.

If you simply say ‘Don’t watch porn’ it’s likely to just push them back towards it. We need to be more thoughtful and smarter about treating our young people like the whole humans that they are. Give them more credit than sometimes they’re given. They’re more likely to listen to what we have to say if they feel respected, and if they feel heard. And they know that we’re on their team, that we’re not just looking for an opportunity to punish them next. So you can say ‘ I want to make sure that you have reliable information about bodies and about sex because you deserve that. One day you’re going to make choices about sex. And I want you to feel ready when that time comes. Watching porn can send confusing, unsafe and mixed messages.. So what questions do you have about sex? How can I help you understand these things? It’s okay to be curious.’

Understand that others might have different perspectives.

Me: What do you do if your child’s other parent has a different attitude toward sex that is not as positive?

Melissa: There is often the reality that there’s a whole other person we can’t control, someone who has whole separate values, triggers, traumas related to all this stuff. It’s healthy for our kids to see and know that there are different perspectives. What you can control is, when they are curious with you, how you show up for those curiosities.

Never approach them with negativity or blame or shame. You can acknowledge it like ‘you might hear some different things about a topic, so tell me what you’ve heard about that? That’s interesting. What do you think?’

Because sharing your perspective is helping them to shape their understanding of their perspective.

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arents know that education plays a pivotal role in shaping the minds and lives of our children. Thankfully, New York is wellknown for its excellent educational institutions, both public and private, offering a wealth of resources and opportunities to students .

As parents, we are lucky to have access to cutting-edge academic programs and innovative teaching methods, from prestigious private schools to top-notch charter and public schools. Our kids benefit from exposure to groundbreaking research, state-of-the-art facilities, and extracurricular activities that nurture their passions and talents.

We broke down an easy go to outline on your educational options, check them out!

Nursery, Daycares, and Preschools When it comes to your child’s first school experience, which can start as early as a newborn, New York has the best early childcare choices for parents. From enrolling before the birth of your little one to being available on a schedule that supports your busy life, your family’s mental well-being, and your sense of community, there is truly an early education care option that will work within your budget and life.

Bilingual Education Bilingual education in New York offers numerous benefits to students. Bilingual

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education enhances cognitive abilities, such as problem-solving skills and critical thinking, as students are exposed to different language structures and cultural perspectives. New York is a diverse melting pot, and bilingual education fosters crosscultural understanding, empathy, and tolerance, promoting social cohesion among students from various backgrounds.

Charter Schools A charter school education benefits students, families, and the community through innovation, personalized learning, strong community connections, and increased educational opportunities for students. Charter schools provide a unique and creative educational experience. Many charter schools promote smaller classes, enabling more individualized attention and personalized student learning plans. This customized approach fosters academic growth and helps students reach their full potential. A huge plus- charter schools employ highly qualified and passionate educators committed to providing their students with a high-quality education.

Catholic Schools Catholic school education provides a solid academic foundation, emphasizing discipline, critical thinking, and a rigorous curriculum. The commitment to academic excellence is coupled with a focus on moral and ethical values, instilling virtues such as compassion, integrity,

and respect in students. Catholic schools often have smaller class sizes, allowing individualized attention and fostering a supportive learning environment. If you are looking for a strong school community, Catholic schools promote belonging and foster strong relationships among students, parents, and teachers. Integrating faith and spirituality in daily activities and teachings encourages students to understand their beliefs and values better.

High School By the time your child is ready for High School, you have an idea of what sort of school will be a good fit for best them. High school students can attend one of the many public school offerings (via a lottery), a High School Charter School, a Catholic school, or private. New York high schools are so good they have more of a collegiate vibe, with many high school programs in New York often having access to internships, mentorship programs, and apprenticeships, enabling them to gain real-world experience and establish valuable connections early on.

When it comes to living in New York and your child’s education in vibrant and diverse New York, parents have endless opportunities and the privilege of mapping out their dream education plan from nursery school to high school. Visit newyorkfamily.com for our helpful guides and articles to support you in your child’s school journey.

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Changing a School Mid-year What to keep in mind when switching your child’s school

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e’re nearly at the mid-term of the school year, and it’s time to take stock of how things might be going for your little one. While your child might be blissfully happy, it can also be the case that sometimes their school isn’t working, and you may be considering a mid-year jump to a new school.

Figure Out What Isn’t Working The first step is to write out or ask yourself why you want your child to move to another school. Listing what isn’t working will help you assess the kind of school that will fit better for your child. Whether you physically write it down or verbally work them out, list the pros and cons of staying or moving to a new school. There doesn’t have to be any finger-pointing or negativity; this is about what your family and child need in their schooling. No one or one thing has to be the bad guy; sometimes, it just isn’t working. In many ways, parents learn a lot in these early years of education on what type of school path their child needs.

What are some criteria to look for when deciding to move to another school mid-year?

• School Curriculum • Teacher certification • Staff turnover • Genuine and sincere staff • Children appear happy when you visit the school • Location • Cost Talk to Your Child’s Teacher or School Principal Reach out to your child’s class teacher or school principal to schedule a meeting or a time for a phone call. Be honest that you’re

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considering a change of environment and bring up your concerns about the school.

Keep in mind that you only see one side of the story as a parent and that they might have valuable insights to share about your child’s life at school. Once you’ve laid out your concerns, listen carefully to their response and ask them whether they have any suggestions for improving the situation.

If you aren’t convinced that change will be possible and still have the same desire to make a move, ask what the process for leaving mid-year might be.

Research, Research, Research It’s time to spring into action. Talk to friends, contact a school’s expert, call interested schools’ admissions departments, and arrange visits whenever possible. Consider academics, travel time, curriculum, cost, and pastoral approach. Most importantly, have an honest discussion with parent coordinators, teachers, and directors about the probability they will have a space for your child. Don’t necessarily take an initial “no” as a final answer, but probe to understand whether there are circumstances in which spots might open up or perhaps get on a waiting list.

Once a new school has been chosen,

mentally prepare your child for the move.

Alicia Sharpe, a New York City-based Education Consultant, says, “Mental preparation starts at home. Speak with your child about this new transition; they will understand even if they are too young to communicate with you verbally. If possible, bring your child to visit the new school, meet the teachers, and introduce them to their new classroom before the start of the new school term.”

Sharpe adds “If you have an older child, help them understand that moving schools is an exciting, fresh start. Reassure them that it’s possible to maintain friendships even when they’re at a new school, and consider how you can help them participate in activities that current friends join in.”

More Tips What behaviors should you address that would lead to a move to a new school?

• Negative social and emotional behaviors • Academic challenges or academic boredom • If your child expresses they don’t feel safe • Lack of support with special needs • Overcrowded classrooms • Poor relationship with the teacher • Likelihood of admittance

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Considering a New York City Catholic School

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t’s hard to imagine a decision that impacts your child’s present and future more than the decision of which school they will attend.

Academics, community, relationships, location, guiding principles—all of these are sure to influence your family’s school choice.

While considering the overwhelming number of options, it’s important for parents to understand the benefits of a Catholic school education in New York City- Manhattan, Bronx, Brooklyn, Queens and Staten Island.

For more than 200 years, Catholic schools in New York City have provided an education that is both academically rigorous and firmly rooted in the Catholic faith. Today, thousands of students in grades pre-K through twelve are served by the Catholic Schools of the Archdiocese of New York and The Catholic Schools of Brooklyn and Queens. The Catholic Schools of the Archdiocese of New York describe their mission as follows: “To ensure our schools are Christ-centered, academically excellent, and welcoming communities that teach students to be life-long learners and leaders energized by fidelity to Christ, the Church, and one another.” But students need not be Catholic to attend a Catholic school; children of all faiths are welcome to experience the benefits of a Catholic school education.

The success of Catholic school students Each year, 99 percent of high school seniors from the Archdiocese of Catholic Schools will graduate, and the vast majority of these students will go on to college. When comparing scores on state tests of English Language Arts (ELA) and Mathematics, Catholic school students outperform New York State and City public school students, as well as most charter school students.

The Archdiocese insists that it is the Catholic approach that leads to high success rates for its students. By seeing each student as a child of God with individual needs, while simultaneously encouraging students to embrace that they are part of a larger, global

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community, the “stewardship of the whole person” is prioritized. In other words, students are guided to understand their talents, find meaning in their lives, build upon their strengths, and develop self-discipline and confidence. They are not only expected but prepared and encouraged to become compassionate leaders of society. The Archdiocese reminds parents that “the Catholic school experience is an unparalleled opportunity to develop a child’s mind, heart and soul.”

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In addition to students of all faiths being welcome to experience a Catholic school education, students of all social class backgrounds are welcome as well, as needbased scholarships are available for students and families. Students with special needs are also welcome to attend Catholic schools, and the Catholic teachings surrounding one-on-one nurturing ensure a supportive environment for students of all abilities.

Religion and academics go handin-hand What exactly do the religion classes and the traditional academic courses look like at Catholic schools in New York City? The Archdiocese ensures that the ideals of the Gospel support the “substance and structure” of all lessons in Catholic schools. These students proudly share their faith through daily prayer, regular mass as a school community, and participating in Christian service.

At the same time, traditional academics at Catholic schools are grounded in the skills necessary to prepare students for success outside of school and church. These skills vary between school communities, as each group of students requires an individualized approach to reach their fullest potential. In all schools, the curricula are forward-focused and aim to make students competitive in our increasingly complex world. To do so, they incorporate technology, advanced math, hands-on science, foreign language study, and

What sets Catholic schools apart from the rest?

Ultimately, the values of a Catholic education work to develop a person intellectually, socially, and morally. School choice is pivotal for families, as students can sometimes spend more time with their school communities than with parents or siblings. When choosing what community will help raise their child, parents will inevitably wonder about the values of that community and how their child will soar within it. The Catholic Schools of the Archdiocese of New York aim to provide “academic excellence in a safe, nurturing environment for all [their] students, enabling them to become productive citizens for today’s society.” The unique environment offered by the Catholic Schools of the Archdiocese of New York and The Catholic Schools of Brooklyn and Queens should certainly be considered by any parent deciding what kind of education they want for their child.

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Rebecca School 40 E 30th St. 212-810-4120 rebeccaschool.org eoshea@rebeccaschool.org Rebecca School is a school for neurodiverse students aged 3-21 and offers a nurturing environment where students are supported and challenged. Following the DIRFloortime® model, the school emphasizes individualized learning and social-emotional development. Classrooms are tailored to sensory, symbolic, and semi-structured learning, aligning with each student’s unique needs and interests.

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Located in Gowanus, Brooklyn, Rivendell Preschool is an ‘amplified’ Montessori program for children ages 2 – 5. At Rivendell teachers know that learning to get along with a wide range of friends and respecting their similarities and differences has lasting benefits for each student! Visit Rivendell for an inperson tour of our classrooms, rooftop play yard and backyard Growing Connections greenhouse where children and teachers work and play together. Email Kara.pereira@rivendellnyc.org to join an in-person weekday morning tour.

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hey say it takes a village to raise a child, and we agree! A large part of that “village” is, of course, the people your child meets throughout their educational journey. Each new school a child attends comes with new staff, new friends, new experiences and new opportunities for growth and development. That’s why it’s up to each school’s leader to ensure that every student they enroll is flourishing to the best of their abilities. The education professionals below serve as exemplary leaders in their respective school communities. They each work tirelessly to ensure not only the academic success of their students, but the social and emotional success as well. That’s what sets a great leader apart, after all! Learn all about the person who might be at the forefront of your child’s next educational adventure below.

Broome Street Academy Charter High School

Guidepost Montessori at Brooklyn Heights Moshe Shack, Head of School

Moshe Schack earned his bachelor’s degree in English Lit, Religion and Philosophy from Louisiana State University. While Mr. Moshe holds Montessori Lower Elementary certification, his initial training was in Montessori Primary education. Moshe Schack has been starting schools, teaching and leading for over 15 years in both Chicago, IL and Brooklyn, NY. Together with his wife, Rivkah, he has been working in Montessori Education from the beginning of his teaching career.

Guidepost Montessori Williamsburg Michelle Ahern, Head of School

Lynnette Ford, Head of School

Lynnette Ford is a lifelong New Yorker and a proud product of NYC public schools. Ms. Ford is committed to the belief that every young person deserves high-quality instruction within a nurturing and supportive environment. She holds a Licensed Master of Social Work degree and dedicated 26 years to the nonprofit sector. In this role, she engages with BSA stakeholders, forging collaborations to ensure that students have access to services offered by The Door.

Elite Minds Montessori Laurie Torres, Owner

Michelle is a Montessori educator working in the field for seven years. Michelle earned her B.Sc from The University of Limerick in Digital Media Design. She explored a career in Early Childhood Education in Asia and then completed her Montessori AMI 3-6 certification at Montessori Northwest. Michelle obtained her M.Ed in Early Childhood Education and Special Education while leading classrooms in NYC and helped Montessori guides-in-training as a mentor. She now leads the Williamsburg campus.

Hannah Senesh Community Day School Nicole Nash, Head of School

Laurie Torres and Natania BlumenkehlCortijo are the owners of Elite Minds Montessori in Carroll Gardens, Brooklyn.

They are entrepreneurs and local moms with a background in education and healthcare. Their school offers a nurturing multilingual (English, French and Spanish) environment where children can develop their unique skills and potential by engaging their minds in art, music and play in a traditional Montessori setting. They are now enrolling students in their new infant/toddler program at 295 Columbia Street.

In her role as Head of School, Nicole Nash guides her educational team to infuse Jewish values throughout the Senesh curriculum. Nicole is a passionate educator who prioritizes the social and emotional well-being of students as well as ensuring diversity, equity, and belonging in the Jewish day school setting. Nicole is a respected leader, training other heads of schools as well as receiving the 2023 Covenant Award for her outstanding contributions to the field.

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The IDEAL School of Manhattan

Rebecca Skinner, Head of School

Janet Wolfe, Head of School

Rebecca joined the Gillen Brewer community as Head of School in July 2021, bringing with her over 18 years of experience building and leading mission-driven independent schools in New York City and Dubai at International School of Brooklyn, Blue School and Dwight School Dubai. Rebecca is happiest when visiting a classroom, engaging in professional development work, or sharing anecdotes about GBS with the community. She holds an M.Ed. in International Education from Endicott College.

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Janet Wolfe joined IDEAL in February 2016. She led the expansion of the K-8 school into a fully accredited K-12, then adding a postsecondary program. Ms. Wolfe led the development and expansion of a wide range of inclusive programs, all differentiated and individualized to meet each student’s needs. She also led the school through its relocation from two buildings on the Upper West Side to a single in the Financial District designed for its students.

LearningSpring School Margaret Poggi, Head of School

St. Joseph the Worker Catholic Academy Stephanie-Ann Germann, Principal

Margaret Poggi is Head of School at LearningSpring School. Margaret has been at LearningSpring since its inception and is a strong advocate for autistic students and their educational opportunities. She began her career as a speech/ language pathologist working in early intervention and preschool special education, which eventually led her to working with schoolage students on the spectrum. In addition to her Master’s Degree in Speech/Language Pathology, she has her Master’s Degree in School Building Leadership.

Petits Poussins Daycares & Preschools

Stephanie is an experienced Catholic school educator and has served as the Principal for the last four years. Stephanie holds a BA in both Childhood Education and Psychology and a MA in both Special Education and Middle Childhood Education at Brooklyn College, her MSEd in Leadership and Supervision with an Advanced Certificate in District Leadership at Fordham University, and has completed her Ed.S. in Instructional Technology at the American College of Education.

Williamsburg Charter High School Valerie Jacobson, Interim Head of School

Vanessa Handal-Ghenania, President

Vanessa Handal-Ghenania, founder of VHG Group Inc. and bilingual French daycares and preschools, “Petits Poussins” is an educator with over 18 years of expertise in childhood development. She holds two Masters’ degrees from Columbia University in Bilingual Education and School Building Administration. She embodies a profound passion for early childhood education and demonstrates it through her commitment to her communities of parents and her continuous expansion of her top-notch bilingual daycares across NYC.

Valerie Jacobson, Interim Head of School, at Williamsburg Charter High School is an accomplished educator with 20+ years experience in finance, operations, and teaching. She joined Charter in 2009 and holds degrees from Yale, Fordham and Hunter College. Scholars at WCHS benefit from a modern facility, upcoming sports addition, and a broad curriculum attracting top teaching talent.

Rebecca School Tina McCourt, Program Director

Tina McCourt, MSW, LCSW, MS Ed, SAS, SDA, is the Program Director at Rebecca School, a role that capitalizes on her extensive experience in special education and social work. Her multifaceted expertise, encompassing a Master’s in Social Work, Education, and School Administration, enables her to lead with a unique blend of compassion and educational innovation. Dedicated to nurturing and advancing the school’s specialized programs, Tina is committed to fostering an inclusive, supportive learning environment for every student.

Rivendell School Katy Hill, Executive Director

Since 1999, Katy Hill has held a variety of positions at Rivendell School including classroom teacher, SEIT and Preschool Director, leaving her well prepared when she became Executive Director in 2014. Educated at Brooklyn College, Teachers College and Columbia University, Katy is committed to Rivendell’s mission in support of the very best inclusive education for her preschool students. Parents agree, she provides expert developmental guidance and oversees a warm, welcoming environment for children and families!

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TRAVEL

Winter Getaways Nearby retreats — with the kids or solo — from New York Family partners

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hether you’re a family seeking a brief escape or a mom (or dad!) eager to discover the hidden gems beyond the city limits, New York’s surrounding towns and nearby states offer many enchanting destinations, from charming small towns to breathtaking natural wonders that extend far beyond our iconic skyline.

Catskills This iconic destination’s esteemed ski resorts and charming nearby villages beckon those seeking a respite. Hunter Mountain offers a pristine powdery escape that promises a weeklong stay that’s nothing short of a winter utopia. Windham Mountain Club’s awardwinning ski school and variety of terrain has an unsurpassed reputation as the idyllic family-friendly destination! The mountain towns of Windham and Hunter are truly thriving. From bopping along Main Street to refueling at a local restaurant to unwinding with a soothing massage, there’s no wrong way to après-ski in the Great Northern Catskills.

Gore Mountain Are you looking for a family-friendly ski resort? Gore Mountain is the perfect choice!

Gore Mountain is the ideal destination for an unforgettable family adventure with incredible value, catering to all skill levels and providing everything you need to get started in a snow sport. Plus, it’s only 25 minutes off I-87, making your drive to the mountain enjoyable.

Massachusetts Experience Central Massachusetts’ winter wonder with family-friendly indoor activities and ideal solo getaways. Explore history at the American Heritage Museum or enjoy a day of luxury bowling and arcade games at Apex Entertainment.

Discover science at the EcoTarium, delve into industrial history at the Samuel Slater Experience, and explore art at the Worcester Art Museum whether solo at Beechwood Hotel or with family at Sturbridge Host

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Hotel, Central MA offers a mix of indoor delights and cozy getaways.

Mountain Creek Mountain Creek, located in the snowy Vernon Valley, is the closest major ski resort to NYC. Located just 47 miles outside Manhattan, Mountain Creek offers skiing, snowboarding, SNO-GO ski biking, and a brand-new snow tubing hill for this winter. If you’re looking to get your little ones started on snow, check out their Kids Camp lesson

programs, and if you’re looking to make a vacation out of it, they even offer slopeside accommodations right at the resort.

New York, NY, Kimpton Hotel Eventi The high-end boutique hotel located at the nexus of the NoMad and Chelsea neighborhoods, has launched a bookable Winter Lodge Suite experience, offering guests a whimsical wintry getaway in the city, available until the very last day of winter, March 19, 2024.

Rhode Island Free your family from the traffic and travel of larger cities and spend more time on Rhode Island’s beaches and bike paths, at ice cream stands and kid-friendly restaurants, or at award-winning attractions such as the Providence Children’s Museum, Roger Williams Park Zoo, and the Biomes Marine Biology Center. Hop on a ferry to Block Island and take in spectacular natural sights and some of the country’s most pristine white sand beaches.

Rochester Rochester, NY beckons visitors to rediscover their inner child, making it an ideal destination for both family vacations and solo mom getaways. Families can watch their kids’ eyes light up as they discover the world’s largest collection of toys, dolls, and games at The Strong National Museum of Play, while moms can embrace their sense of wonder by exploring the city’s vibrant arts and cultural scene. Indulgence is an easy add-on by visiting the newly renovated Spa Elan at Woodcliff Hotel and Spa or Ape

& Canary. And don’t forget the many craft breweries, cideries, distilleries, and wineries!

Rockland County, NY For a perfect family road trip, visit Rockland County – just 30 miles north of NYC. Situated along the majestic Hudson River, and nestled among thousands of acres of untouched parkland, you will find lots of outdoor fun including hiking trails, mountain vistas, ice skating and scenic views. The Palisades Center offers family entertainment with a bowling alley, the worlds tallest indoor ropes course, themed restaurants and much more. Rockland County also offers exquisite waterfront villages that feature world-class restaurants, art galleries, theatres, shopping and historic sites.

Smugglers’ Notch Winter Nestled in the heart of the stunning Green Mountains of Vermont, Smugglers’ Notch Resort is excited to announce its winter season offerings, promising visitors an unforgettable winter wonderland adventure.

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Westchester County Situated between the Hudson River and Long Island Sound, Westchester County offers an enchanting winter getaway.

Just 30 miles north of Manhattan, and easily reachable by MTA and Amtrak, this destination promises a magical winter wonderland experience. Visitors can enjoy a variety of indoor and outdoor activities throughout the season, including activities like ice skating, exploring the wonders of Westchester Children’s Museum, immersing themselves in the historic charm of Lyndhurst Mansion, unwinding at The Opus Spa, and savoring exquisite cuisine at premier dining establishments. With these captivating offerings, Westchester stands out as the perfect destination for a winter retreat.

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travel

Rethinking the

Family vacation Discover intentional travel — a new kind of family travel

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hat is a family vacation for?

Is it to rest on a beach next to the ocean? Is it to not have to think about cooking or cleaning? Is it to see the world? Is it to create memories, like in Disneyworld… or maybe to find space to love yourself, your partner, and your kids in ways your everyday life doesn’t allow? Hmm. You didn’t see that one coming, did you?

When we are in the grind of our day-to-day lives, we have places to be and things to do. So, we demand a lot—a lot of ourselves, our partners if we have one, and our children. I’m guilty of this as well! Pick that up, fix this, do that, go here, ah, not that! Commands and demands.

After some intense time of demand, how often do you think, “What just happened? Wow, that whole interaction felt crappy.” But it’s not your fault, well, not entirely. Society has helped us create a world without time to do what needs to get done. And even less time to share the love that we so deeply want. You want to express love for your family and yourself because it fuels you. It’s what makes some vacations so addicting.

What if there was a way to plan travel so you intentionally made space to love yourself, your partner, and your family more? Getting that feeling of love that makes vacation what we need. That nourishes us. So, that euphoric feeling of being loved is not just a happy accident but thoughtfully planned and curated with some beautiful happenstance. That is the new kind of family travel that I’m talking about.

Intentional travel and love on tap. Corny, maybe, but so much better than whatever else you’re tapping into.

So, let’s bring this back down to earth again. Often, we love vacation because it opens up space for the love we don’t have time to feel in our lives. And we love ‘love’ because of the chemicals it creates in our bodies. When we feel loved, oxytocin, the love chemical, floods our body, accompanied by dopamine (the drug replaced with social media), mixed with some

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serotonin and endorphins. All that good stuff.

So, how do we craft a family vacation to help us feel all those awesome natural drugs? Here are my cliff notes on the steps to take!

Step One Tapping into that love you desire requires the right setting and mindset. Unfortunately, some of us are too wound up and stressed, and our vacation is another manifestation of that angst. So, feeling that love doesn’t happen. However, there is a chance it still can. That’s why intentional vacations require some pre-travel work, like working with a travel coach who can help you think through some questions or by going through them yourself. Those questions include: What would you enjoy doing on a family vacation?

How do you make sure you can get that enjoyment from the trip? What would get in the way of the trip being enjoyable for you?

What lessons or experiences would you like to bring home with you? Wait, wait, wait.

Maybe you’re thinking, More work to plan a family vacation!? Even if I wanted to, I didn’t have time for that. This new way of planning a family trip may sound like a lot of work.

However, there are people who help create these trips, like me. Also, when planning a family trip, you know you will finally enjoy and get nourishment- the planning process can surprisingly fill you up with.

Step Two The most significant phase is planning. It’s us planning the trip intentionally to create more space to do what you desire. This helps us make sure the trip is not just catered to your partner, kids, family, etc. Knowing your desires from step one, the location becomes easier. If we want to be immersed in nature and trees and spend time alone listening to the wild, then we know we want to be by the mountains or in the jungle. So, we start by doing some research there. If we know it is essential to have childcare for our children, then that becomes a focal point.

Also, childcare can come from a kids club, local schooling group, or a local The last two options are a more culturally immersive way of child care and your view of education and travel might just change as well. If this sounds like too much, use those hotel kids’ campsuse what works for you.

When planning intentional trips I like to focus on four different activity types.

Rest: • Genuine rest, not phone-scrolling or day drinking.

• Essential for fully enjoying family vacations.

• Focus on being rested and restored for a fulfilling experience.

Adventure/Comfort Zone: • Pushing boundaries enhances the trip’s impact. Example: Challenging hikes and cliff jumping create lasting memories.

• Embrace your version of pushing comfort zones.

Serving Others: • Acknowledge traveling on others’ lands; aim to give back.

• Simple acts like beach cleanup foster a connection with the local community.

• Serving local populations, such as indigenous groups, contributes positively.

• Cultivate empathy in children through meaningful service experiences.

Eating: • Food can transform parenting styles and enhance cultural experiences.

• Learn from Anthony Bourdain: Food is a gateway to culture.

• Choose intentionally—whether in local spots, fine dining, or all-inclusive settings.

• Allow flexibility, knowing plans can evolve based on family preferences.

Step Three To enjoy your intentional family vacation, there are three points to remember when traveling.

Be flexible: Things change, and if we’ve done some pre-work of working through our anxiety around travel, this part may be a bit easier.

Don’t forget yourself: You or an expert has planned the family trip so that you can enjoy it and feel the love you crave. So, ensure that all that work doesn’t fall apart and that you’re not putting others before yourself.

Be kind to yourself, and make the shift to making your happiness a priority.

Intervention: If this trip feels like all other trips, you may need a trip shake-up.

Have a friend or family member who is

either on the trip with you or on speed dial at home. They know the plan pre-trip and can be a good person to call to vent to and think through ways to make the trip enjoyable.

You have a travel planner/coach who has helped you plan this intentional trip and is there to help you experience the trip you desire and deserve. That coach will have some awesome emotion-regulating tools and ideas to help.

Step Four This step is the post-trip integration. Integration what? I just went on vacation and have to get the kids ready for school, catch up with work, and return to life? See now that is part of the problem! We want to vacate our life to recharge, but then we come back home, and that relaxation we felt and the connection we cultivated evaporates in one second. So, how do we hold onto it productively? It’s similar to what my meditation teacher always tells us.

That when we leave the meditation cushion to take that love and feeling we’ve cultivated and hold it in our hearts as long as possible. It will eventually diminish, but that spark that we carried with us for however long impacted us and the people we came into contact with.

So, here are a few ways to integrate your trip: Give yourself a day or two of padding

before you have to go back to work or school.

That may be planning your trip to end on a Thursday so you can travel back home and get settled.

Plan some activities to do with your family and by yourself when you arrive home such as writing down the experiences you took away from the trip. Or talk about the moments you enjoyed, what the feelings were in the moment that made you love them, and how you can cultivate those feelings at home Print some pictures from the trip. Print out some pictures of moments where love was present for you and your family. Create a spot at home with those pictures so you and your family can visit to remind you of the feelings you had and to bring those into your everyday life.

This entire idea of the family vacation that I’m sharing is based on extreme privilege. I include this not to make guilt the primary feeling but to share awareness. It’s also to use the awareness of our privilege to allow travel to become a tool for personal and family growth and to positively impact the people and cultures we come into contact with. That is what being intentional is all about gratitude for what we have and knowing that we can and will serve ourselves, our family, and the world. This new way of family travel is a tool to tap into that. And while these may be lofty goals. Remember to do what feels good for you, your family, and your nervous system. It may just be one point from each step, or you just tackle one step entirely. Whatever it is, do what feels good and right.

My name Is Evan Freed. I am a parent and partner dedicated to living a life full of joy, adventure, and healing. In 2012 I lost my mother to ovarian cancer, which changed the trajectory of my life. I realized that I wanted to live by my terms, and the way to do so was through deep meditation, self-discovery, and self-love.

In 2021 I took a month-long trip to Costa Rica with my wife and daughters, then three and five. During that trip, we felt freedom, love, and a deep connection that we had not yet experienced as a family. It was similar to the feeling I had with my parent’s brother right before my mom passed. I realized that travel brings up similar feelings of appreciation for life as death does. So during that trip, I decided to bring that feeling of awe and love for this life to other families to help them heal, connect and grow.

I now lead group and private retreats worldwide (Familyjourney.co) with families ready to explore a different way of connecting and living.

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Flying High

Kristi Hemric @khemric on solo travels, her journey as a mom of four, and expert tips for traveling with young kids

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ravel can be a beautiful experience, opening up our eyes to new worlds and shaping new memories. But traveling with young kids? That’s another story. And I got to hear all about it from Kristi Hemric, travel photographer and mother of four little ones in New York City.

You may have seen Kristi’s many adventures both in and outside of the city on her popular Instagram account where she shares about work, family, and travels with over 400K followers. But what you don’t see is the behind-the-scenes that we all can relate to as NYC parents: Kristi and her husband calming their sons down in the airport with their favorite blanket. Prepping for a trip with kids by treating the NYC subway like the airport chaos. Coordinating schedules ahead of big solo trips. Learning, changing and revising constantly to find the right balance that works for the whole family.

Yet what I learned about Kristi through our conversation is that she’s creative. Her creative energy powers her photography, but it also inspires other parts of her life.

She’s able to see things others can’t, turning random ads around the city in art, bringing her kids’ wishes to life and finding the special moments in each trip. So when it comes to parenting four kids all under the age of 3 on the Upper East Side, Kristi’s got it because she finds creative ways to make it work and enjoy every second along the way.

Read on for Kristi’s pro travel tips for families, work-life balance advice, and her favorite family-friendly travel destinations!

Tell us more about your passion for traveling. What interests you about it?

I love new things and I really love learning. You can learn so much about a country

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or a place just by getting lost in it. Obviously now, with the news and social media, it makes the world feel a little bit smaller. But we’re only given a small glimpse of what that place is like, or what social media wants us to think that place is like. You can only understand a place and the people by spending time there.

I’m going to India at the end of January, I’ll probably be there for three weeks. That’s one of my longer trips because I do have a lot of kids and I want to be home with them. I know people think it’s a little bit crazy that I travel often, but I try to be positive. I used to be in an office from nine to five and had work trips on top of that. So I just look at it as I take these seven-day kicks where I do a ton of work.

And then when I’m home, I have the rest of the month to be very present with my children.

Speaking of, you’re a photographer and a mom of 4 young kids. How do you balance work and life?

I have to give a lot of credit to my husband. I have a very supportive husband who encourages me and knows that traveling makes me me. He loves me, so he wants me to continue doing it.

We also live by a schedule, and it doesn’t work for everybody, but we really don’t flex that schedule with our children unless it’s a special occasion. Our kids wake up at 7:30am or 8am, and they go to bed at 6:30pm.

They are obviously tired because they run around all day ragged and go to sleep right away. But that gives us so much time from 6:30pm to when we go to bed at 11pm. That’s almost 4 and a half hours that my husband and I can be together.

You mentioned you’re a creative person.

Where do you draw your inspiration from?

I’d say everything. My ideas come at the most random of times. I’m out and about all

the time in the city, just taking in things. I’ll be on the train and see something, and be like, whoa, that would be a great Apple ad.

Also sometimes my kids will say the funniest things. For example, on Halloween, I asked my son what he wanted to be, and he said he wanted to be a candy farmer. We made that whole thing into something– a candy farmer, how genius; why couldn’t you farm candy? We literally bought a tractor and put it outside of our townhouse with candy. It was hilarious.

Ultimately, I think it’s just having our eyes and ears open, just being present with people. I know that sounds silly, but I don’t get most of my ideas from other social media.

I’ve grown a large Instagram following, but I don’t know if you’ve noticed I never really post stories. I know that stories are something that you’re supposed to do in the moment, but I don’t have my phone out recording it all the time. If that means I’m being more present with people, and I don’t get to story it for my audience, I think that’s almost better.

Have you ever traveled with your kids?

Yes. I don’t take them on huge work trips because I don’t know how my kids would do with jet lag, or how I could actually work. But we do shorter trips. This summer, after I had the twins, we went to the Dominican Republic, and I just took the boys, who are ages 3 and 1. It was a big adjustment for them with the twins, and I’m very conscious of making sure they all have individual time and special memories. That’s really important to me.

I’ve also traveled with the boys all over the States, like Boston, Florida, Texas. This year we’ve put a pause on it because I have 4 kids under age 3. I think it’ll be more enjoyable for the whole family if we wait.

Based on the travel that you did do with your two boys, do you have any tips for

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traveling with kids?

Yeah, have a plan. Before we did a big trip with the boys, we did small trips through the city. We’d go on the train and make the subway a big deal so it’s almost like a crash course for the chaos of the airport. We’re not big on screen time, but the older one will get an iPad for maybe 20-minute shows. We also have their favorite snacks, and we’ll buy 3 or 4 new, tiny toys that’ll distract them in a meltdown situation. The other things are just basics.

Have whatever soothes your child. For us, it’s a Lovey. We bring the Lovey everywhere because it soothes our boys in any situation.

That’s great. Finally, can you tell us why you love living in NYC? I love NYC for so many reasons. I come

from a small town outside of Dallas, and there’s not much diversity. My kids are going to get to see all different kinds of cultures, people, and walks of life. That’s honestly one of the best gifts I can give my kids. There’s a lot going on in the world that’s not necessarily great, but I think we all have a common goal, and sometimes that gets lost with people’s differences.

Living in NYC is also so convenient. I know people are like, oh my gosh, the spaces are too small. But think about it. Our doctor’s office is a block away. Our dry cleaner is on this block. Our coffee shop is on the same block.

If we get a blizzard tomorrow, everything we need is most likely at a 4-block radius. And how convenient is that as a mom? Also, on the Upper East Side, there are so many parks

for kids and free activities for kids. When it’s raining, you just take the bus to the Natural History Museum, and it’s free– one of the best museums in the world! Kids have this wider understanding of the world because they have access to many different experiences, people, and stories.

It also pushes you to go outside all the time and be more active. As New Yorkers, we might not go to the gym every day, but we don’t need to, because we’re walking around constantly.

At my child’s Jewish preschool, they have this cute saying– “There is no such thing as bad weather, only bad clothes.” Our kids go outside every day, no matter the weather.

This story has been edited for brevity and clarity; for the full story, go to newyorkfamily.com.

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BY SHARA LEVINE

BROOKLYN

New Year’s Day Super Hike WHEN: Jan. 1, 12 – 2 pm WHERE: Prospect Park, Parkside Ave. and South Lake Drive, Prospect Lefferts Gardens AGES: All WHAT: If your New Year’s resolution is to get healthy, join the Urban Park Rangers on a lengthy hike where you’ll explore nature, discover our city’s urban forests, and unplug from the world.

WANT TO GO?: Free. nycgovparks.org

Little Red Riding Hood WHEN: Jan. 6 & 7, 12:30 pm & 2:30 pm.

WHERE: Puppetworks Inc., 338 6th Ave., Park Slope AGES: 2 and older WHAT: See the classic story of Little Red Riding Hood, this time set in Louisiana Cajun country.

WANT TO GO?: $11; $10 children. puppetworks.org

The Rock and Roll Playhouse Plays the Music of David Bowie + More for Kids – Bowie Birthday Celebration WHEN: Jan. 7, 12-1pm WHERE: Brooklyn Bowl, 61 Wythe Avenue, Williamsburg AGES: 0-10 WHAT: Let’s Dance to the music of rock legend Davie Bowie.

WANT TO GO?: $16.

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Brooklyn Nets Kids Games WHEN: Jan. 7, 3 pm; Jan. 27, 6 pm.

WHERE: Barclays Center, 620 Atlantic Ave., Prospect Heights AGES: All

Disney On Ice: Find Your Hero glides into the Barclays Center this month.

WHAT: These special games offer fun giveaways and exciting halftime entertainment for the youngest fans.

WANT TO GO?: Tickets start at $41. nba.com

Disney On Ice: Find Your Hero WHEN: Jan. 18-21, See website for complete schedule WHERE: Barclays Center, 620 Atlantic Avenue, Prospect Heights AGES: 3 and up WHAT: Experience world-class ice skating, iconic music, and stunning costumes featuring some of your favorite Disney characters.

WANT TO GO?: Tickets start at $40. barclayscenter.com

Rolie Polie Guacamole’s Album Release Party for Kids & Families WHEN: Jan. 21, 10:30 – 11:30 am

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WHERE: ShapeShifter Lab, 837 Union Street, Park Slope AGES: All WHAT: Brooklyn’s awardwinning titans of kindie music throw a full-band album release party celebrating their newest album, Diggin’ in the Dirt, and more.

WANT TO GO?: $15. $45 family pack of 4 tickets. (646) 820– 9452, shapeshifterplus.org

Fintastic Families: Famous Fish WHEN: Jan. 21, 2 – 4 pm WHERE: New York Aquarium, 602 Surf Ave., Coney Island AGES: 3 – 9 WHAT: Explore the underwater aquarium world, go behind the scenes, and meet a small ocean animal up close.

WANT TO GO?: $30; $24 members. nyaquarium.com

MANHATTAN 47th Annual Three Kings Day Parade and Celebration WHEN: Jan. 5, 11am-3pm WHERE: Parade begins at 106th Street and Park Avenue, East Harlem AGES: All WHAT: Celebrate Three Kings Day with a parade featuring camels, floats, live music, and hundreds of participants. After, head to El Museo del Barrio for a live musical performance.

WANT TO GO?: Free. elmuseo. org

The Thunderbird American Indian Dancers in Concert WHEN: Jan. 12-21, Fridays and Saturdays, 8pm, Saturdays and Sundays, 3pm WHERE: Theater for the New City, 155 First Avenue, East

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Village AGES: All WHAT: Learn about the philosophy and beauty of Native cultures through dances, stories and traditional music.

WANT TO GO?: $15.

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WANT TO GO?: $20. (718) 793–8080, kupferbergcenter. org

Little New-Yorkers: Let Freedom Sing

WHEN: Jan. 6 & 7, 10 am – 1 pm.

WHERE: Wave Hill, 4900 Independence Ave., Bronx AGES: All WHAT: Explore the stars and planets visible at this time of year and make your own light box full of constellations.

WANT TO GO?: Included with admission: $4-$10. wavehill.org

WHEN: Jan. 19, 3:30 – 4:30 pm WHERE: New-York Historical Society, 170 Central Park West, Upper West Side AGES: 3 – 6 WHAT: Celebrate Dr. King with a reading of Let Freedom Sing.

After, create a dove paper airplane with a special message to share MLK’s words of love and hope.

WANT TO GO?: Included with admission: $6-$24; free for children younger than 5. nyhistory.org

AKC Meet the Breeds New York WHEN: Jan. 27-28, Saturday and Sunday, 9am-4pm WHERE: Javits Center, 429 11th Ave., Hell’s Kitchen AGES: All WHAT: Play with more than 130 different dog breeds, see dog sports in action, and participate in games, art activities and photo ops for the whole family in the Kids Zone.

WANT TO GO?: $35; $10 children younger than 12. akc. org

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BRONX Family Art Project: Starry Night Sky

Creative Art Family Edition

The Brooklyn Nets hold special Kids Games at the Barclays Center on January 7 and 27.

76th Ave., Oakland Gardens AGES: 8 – 12 WHAT: Learn why the air we breathe is so important to life on earth and build a device that masters the power of air!

WANT TO GO?: $30. (718) 229–4000, alleypond.org

Kids Pajama Party WHEN: Jan. 27, 6:30 – 9 pm.

WHERE: JCC Chabad LIC, 10-29 48th Ave. Long Island City AGES: 7 – 12 WHAT: Kids will enjoy popcorn, crafts, and fun while parents have a night out.

WANT TO GO?: $25. (347) 218–2927, jewishlic.com

Lunar New Year: Celebrating the Year of the Dragon WHEN: Jan. 27 & 28, 3 pm.

WHERE: Kupferberg Center for the Arts at Queens College, 153-49 Reeves Avenue, Flushing AGES: All WHAT: Enjoy spellbinding family dance performance while embracing the spirit of the Year of the Dragon through the power and beauty of dance.

WHEN: Wednesdays – Sundays, 10 am – 5 pm.

WHERE: New York Hall of Science, 4701 111th St., Corona AGES: 5 – 8 WHAT: This rink made of ecofriendly plastic is perfect for beginners and still fun for the pros.

WANT TO GO?: $22; $19 children, students, seniors + $10 or $8 for members. nysci. org

The Ballet of Cinderella WHEN: Jan. 19, 7:30 pm WHERE: Lehman Center for the Performing Arts, 250 Bedford Park Blvd W., Bronx AGES: All WHAT: The State Ballet Theatre of Ukraine returns to the United States to present their captivating two-act performance of Cinderella, one of the most beloved stories of all time.

WANT TO GO?: $43-$83.

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Children’s Book Author Signing: Bronx Bound Books & Janelle Harper

Air Time WHEN: Jan. 14, 10:30 am – 12 pm WHERE: Alley Pond Environmental Center, 224-65

WHEN: Jan. 7, noon – 1:30 pm WHERE: Williamsbridge Oval Recreation Center, 3225 Reservoir Oval E., Bronx AGES: All WHAT: Explore the arts through different mediums including collage, painting, and drawing.

WANT TO GO?: Free. nycgovparks.org

Meet Famous Fish at the New York Aquarium on January 21

WHEN: Jan. 20, 11 am – 1 pm WHERE: The BxArts Factory, 240 East 153rd St., Bronx AGES: All WHAT: Meet Janelle Harper when she shares her wonderful stories and signs copies of her books, including My Block Looks Like.

WANT TO GO?: Free; $22.10 optional book purchase. eventbrite.com

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TWA Hotel

Jetsetting at the Iconic TWA Hotel

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ocals and travelers to New York love the NYC experience. This is why we landed at the TWA Hotel, the only on-airport hotel at JFK International Airport in New York City when it came to our January cover with mom and world traveler Kristi Hemric.

It’s easy to understand why visitors around the globe stay at this retro-chic hotel; whether before a flight or post-trip, a stay here is not only a vibe, it’s a whole experience.

Once you walk in, you haven’t time traveled; you have entered one of late famed FinnishAmerican architect Eero Saarinen’s landmark designs, which once served as a Trans World Airlines Flight Center. And for us parents, the TWA Hotel also serves as a staycation with the kids any day of the year. No car necessary!

Our subway and AirTran journey to the hotel from the city took a little over an hour, doorto-door (although drivers are welcome; there is parking at the hotel).

Why We Love It Guests can enjoy expansive rooms with cool views. No time for an overnight stay? Families can book a Daytripper stay for four hours from 6 AM to 8 PM ET for a minimum of four hours and a maximum of 12 hours. And no judgment here when you make yourself at home in this 1960s iconic structure and enjoy its modern amenities, order a martini, lounge in the iconic Sunken Lounge while an authentic Solari split flap departures board clicks about.

One of our favorite amenities is the food; a

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few standouts we loved were the Intelligentsia Coffee (for the adults), Vinny’s Panini for the family, and The Paris Café by Jean-Georges for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

Why The Kids Will Love It Kids will forget about their electronics as they busy themselves exploring charming pockets like immersive museum exhibits and the Sweet’N Glow hair salon- where they can relax under the vintage beehive hair dryer and then have some twisty fun in the Twister room. For more enjoyment, the hotel includes

an observation deck that supplies panoramic views of the airport runways — perfect for kids fascinated by airplanes and aviation. On the hotel’s tarmac, a 1958 Lockheed Constellation “Connie” transformed into a cocktail lounge (for the adults, obviously) welcomes visitors amid seasonal activations such as a curling rink and the piece de resistance, the rooftop heated pool with a view.

TWA Hotel at JFK Airport One Idlewild Drive New York, NY 11430

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