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Hidden faces When a domestic abuse victim escapes their situation, they often live in fear – too scared to even show their face in public. But that doesn’t mean they don’t have a voice. Six brave women share their experiences with re:story
‘It’s like a huge game of hide and seek only it’s not a game.’ Julie* ‘If I see a man who resembles my ex-partner while I’m out, I freeze at first, feel sick to the stomach and feel all colour drain from my face. I go into a panic attack and try to find somewhere to hide until I can get my breath back. Once I am a little calmer, I get home as quickly as I can and lock all the doors and windows. It can take two or three days before I can leave the house again. I rarely go very far. I’m terrified of him finding us, so I’ve mapped out some different escape routes in the area in my head so if he appears somewhere I can get away before he can get to me.’ Lauren*
‘I don’t think I will ever be able to feel completely safe or let my guard down.’ Claire*
‘When I heard my ex was looking for me through different agencies, I decided it would be best to change my name to hide the trail. It was a really strange feeling when it was all official – I felt sad, like I was grieving for the old me. On the other hand, it gave me the opportunity to start again and rebuild my life under another name. I felt a sense of relief because I would be invisible for a while at least.’ Elaine*
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