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Issue 8 / 26 July 2013

From the Head of Junior School Welcome back to school for Term 3 and a warm welcome to the new families. I hope that you were able to take a break and enjoy some time together as a family. While the students were enjoying their holidays and taking a break from the daily pressures of school life, the teachers were involved in an International Baccalaureate workshop. Increasingly schools are being asked to do more and more in the short time that the students are at the school. The workshop gave teachers practical strategies to develop relevant, challenging and engaging curriculum that covers a number of subject areas under the one central idea. We value our teachers at St Andrews and providing professional development helps the teachers to keep up to date with latest best practice in education which ultimately transfers to greater benefits to the students. Last Wednesday the rain held off long enough for us to hold our annual track and field carnival. It was a fantastic day of competition, athletics and fun. The students showed outstanding sportsmanship and there was a great atmosphere around the carnival. It was great to see so many parents, grandparents and friends supporting the children. Congratulations to Gowandi who finished 2 points ahead. Thank you to Mr Manion, the PE department and the maintenance department for all of their work behind the scenes to pull the carnival together.

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Celebrating 20 years 2013

Celebrating 20 Years A Special Thanksgiving Service Sunday 4th August 2013 at 9am Worship Centre


Just a reminder that the A undercroft area is used for the After School Care Program. The time directly after school when the children arrive is the most crucial for the after school hours team to mark the roll and identify the students that will be in their care. Please be aware of the important work that they are doing and try to keep noise to a minimum around that area after school. As part of our 20th Anniversary Celebrations, a whole of College photo will be taken on Thursday. It will be quite an event involving all the students and staff of the College. Details on how to purchase the photo will be sent home at a later date and it will make an excellent memento of your child’s education at St Andrews Lutheran College. Please refer to the note sent home earlier in the week for more information. The students each received an anniversary pin as part of the 20th anniversary celebrations. We encourage them to wear this pin regularly to school. Congratulations to Phil Buddee, Susan Ridley and Julia Boulton who have been nominated for NEiTA Awards for Inspirational Educators. It is very deserving recognition of outstanding work conducted at the College by these three outstanding educators. If you would like to nominate an outstanding teacher please go to http://www.asg.com.au/ neita/ to nominate. Please hurry because nominations close 31st July. We welcome Mrs Corina Sills to the College. She will be working as the College nurse. Corina comes from TSS and is very keen to get to know the students. Mrs Sills will be working out of the JS Admin building until the nurse’s room can be built. All children will still continue to go to the JS office if they are sick. If your child has any medication that needs to be administered during the school day, please make sure that you leave this medication in the JS office with its original label from the chemist.

From the Deputy Head of Junior School & PYP Coordinator Welcome to Term Three! We extend a warm welcome back to all and a very special welcome to the new families that have joined our community. May your time at St Andrews be a blessing. The Junior School teaching staff were recently involved in a two day IB In-School Workshop which focused on transdisciplinary learning. The workshop was presented by two IB trained workshop leaders, one was our very own Year 6 teacher, Mr Eric Sheers. The workshop enabled teaching teams to collaboratively examine how effective concept based central ideas and lines of inquiry can be designed to address curriculum in a way that is relevant, challenging and engaging. Staff also explored ways of how to meet the demands of the Australian Curriculum within the PYP framework. One of the learning engagements for staff was to view a TED Talk (A TED Talk is defined by Wikipedia as being, ”a global set of conferences owned by the private nonprofit Sapling Foundation, under the slogan - Ideas Worth Spreading.” The talks address a wide range of topics, often through storytelling. The speakers are given a maximum of 18 minutes to present their ideas in the most innovative and engaging ways they can. TED Talks had been watched one billion times worldwide in 2012 and this figure continues to grow.) presented by Sir Ken Robinson. (It was a clip that I have shared with the staff previously but it is one that everyone should watch over again.) Sir Ken Robinson is an author, speaker and educator. He challenges the way we are educating our students and he conveys a message that

I came across this weblink recently. http://www.flickspire. com/m/WalkTheTalk/BecauseOurChildrenAreWatching?l sid=976fcb971e29b082398b4cff178077ca It reminded me of how important it is to be a good role model for our children and that they learn more from our actions than our words. Darrin Schumacher Deputy Principal/Head of Junior School

we need to ensure “we cultivate creativity and acknowledge multiple types of intelligence.” This notion resonates harmoniously with the IB Primary Years Program philosophy. In our PYP classrooms we seek to encourage our students to be curious, inquisitive, ask questions, explore and interact with the environment physically, socially and intellectually. One of our aims is to develop students who are creative and divergent thinkers. I encourage you to take the time to view Ken’s clip through the link below. The clip is entitled ‘Changing Education


Paradigms’ and it is presented with the support of animation. I assure you that it will be worth the investment of your time! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zDZFcDGpL4U Thank you to the families that have already returned the student Learning Portfolios. If you have not yet returned your child’s portfolio, could you please do so as soon as possible as students need to be able to access it at school? I know our staff have been working extremely rigorously to develop exciting real world learning for our students. May the term ahead be engaging and challenging for all of our community of learners. I look forward to observing the students demonstrate their ability to be creative thinkers! David also said to Solomon his son, “Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord God, my God, is with you.” 1 Chronicles 28:20 NIV Jacqueline Faulkner Deputy Head of Junior School/PYP Coordinator

Counselling Update This article has been taken from tinabryson.com blog. Common Misconceptions About Parenting There are certain “truths” about parenting that we act on without ever really examining them. Maybe we’ve heard them from someone else, or maybe we’ve just fallen into them over time. Either way, they spell trouble for our understanding of and relationship with our kids. Here are some so-called “truths” about parenting that, when we really think about them, simply aren’t true. It’s all up to me Parents often believe that they are solely responsible for their child’s success and skill building. Of course parents have a huge impact on who their children turn out to be, but many other forces are at work as well. One of the most successful contributors to a child’s socialization is in fact his/her own peers. Some of the behaviors you can’t get him/her to change with months and months of nagging will disappear in one moment if a peer says something about it. Let him/her pick his/her nose once on the playground, and see how long that habit sticks around. So it’s not all on you. Do your best, but know that other teachers, other kids, and other relationships will influence how your child turns out as well. If I mess up I’ll mess up my kids Parents worry that when we yell or lose our tempers a bit, or when we’re not patient, we’re harming our kids. In fact, as long as we’re repairing with them and apologizing and making things right afterwards, small ruptures are actually valuable experiences that teach kids important lessons about how to handle things when conflict arises in a relationship. Abuse is obviously different, but to a huge extent, our mistakes with our kids can teach valuable lessons when they’re a part of an overall loving relationship.

Child development is linear Parents often think that kids grow and develop along a straight line that leads from less mature and capable to more mature and capable. Actually, development usually happens in spurts, with plenty of steps backwards along the way. Just when they learn to tie their shoes, you may see them regress in some other emotional or fine-motor skill. Be patient. Development will happen, it’s just that you can’t expect it to be consistent and predictable. Kids choose when they behave, and when they don’t. By the time a child is four or five, he knows the rules for the most part. For example, when he’s mad, he’s not supposed to hit or call someone “Fart-face Jones.” But he keeps doing it. And we think, “Why in the world would he do that?” The fact is that he does know the rule, but his immature brain prevents him from remaining in control, emotionally, so he’s at least temporarily unable to make good decisions. So it’s not fair for us to expect him to make good decisions all the time. Sometimes he’s actually incapable of behaving the way he should. This means we should be talking to him about his thoughts and feelings that led to the behavior, and not just the behavior itself. This is also just one more reason not to say, “How many times do I have to tell you . . . ?” It’s now or never Avoid fear-based parenting. Just because she’s acting a certain way now doesn’t mean you have to worry that she’ll act that way forever. You don’t have to teach every skill and root out every misbehavior today, or even by the end of the week. Resist the temptation to think, If I don’t nip this in the bud right this second my child will become an ax murderer. You’ll have plenty of opportunities to address behaviors and build skills each and every week of your child’s life. So relax a little. Consistency is the key to good discipline Actually, this isn’t a misconception, but it needs to be reframed. Consistent love and clear expectations are the key to good discipline. But too often, consistency gets confused with rigidity. Be willing to make exceptions at times, and even to cut your kids some slack when necessary. Yes, children need to know the rules and see you enforce them in a predictable manner; but as you do so, be sure to consider the context of a situation, like the child’s age and capability, the time of day, whether someone’s hungry, and so on. I shouldn’t negotiate with my child It doesn’t make you weak to listen to your child’s point of view. You can still maintain your authority in the relationship while remaining flexible and open-minded. Be willing to listen to alternative positions, and to reward your child’s ability to make good arguments to achieve what he wants. If you’re in the right on a position, hold your ground. But if your child can convince you that he’s right in this instance, then how much sense does it make to continue to insist that he’s wrong? You can be a parent or a friend The problem here is the either-or dichotomy. Yes, you need to be an authority figure for your kids. They need that in order to understand how the world works and to feel less chaotic in their lives. But that doesn’t mean that you two can’t also share all the elements of a strong friendship—like sharing your lives, laughing and celebrating


together, and knowing you’ve got each other’s back. When we discipline, we need to explain a lot. I know that sometimes my kids want to scream, “Please stop talking!” Especially when they’re in trouble and already understand what they’ve done wrong. Discipline will be much more effective if we simply address the behavior, along with the child’s state of mind that led to the behavior, then move on. Too much talking quickly becomes completely counter-productive. Mardi Frost School Counselling Team

Prep News The P1 stars used junk materials to create a Bunyip as a closing activity for our current unit of inquiry. This task required them to problem solve and be creative. Through our adult eyes junk boxes aren’t worth much. Through a child’s eyes, the possibilities are endless. One man’s junk is clearly a preppies treasure. Our students had so much fun and enjoyed working with our parent helpers to make their bunyips come alive.

Home Economics Year 3 Cook With Year 10! On Friday 14 June, we were chosen to cook cheese muffins with Year 10 Home Ec students as part of our UOI, How the World Works. It was great fun and we loved working with the Seniors. Thank you to Mrs Bartel for organising it all for us and to her Year 10 students for helping us make a delicious snack to share with our classes. Lilly Barnes, Talia Nicholas, Tim Hornsey, Seth Marshall, Conner Samra-Dardis, Oliver Thackwell, Lucy Hunt, Eadie Finn, Emma Shearer, Viva-Grace Barnes, Hailey Priestner and Sam Collis


Student Achievements Taj Varley competed in the South Queensland BMX Championships in Toowoomba on the 21st and 22nd June and placed 10th for the 9 Years Boys. Taj has only been riding BMX for 4 months so this is a huge achievement. Taj’s most recent achievement was at the Ashmore BMX Race Day on 13th July, placing 1st for the 9 years Boys.

Art News Gold Coast Eisteddfod Dates Eisteddfod dates and times are listed below:

Max Indriawan has been selected in the Queensland School Sport Swimming team to compete at the National Schools Championships in Adelaide in September this year. Awesome achievement Max and we wish you all the best as you represent Queensland and St Andrews.

Golden Clefs - Wednesday 14th August 9.30am Semitones - Thursday 15th August 9.30am MS/SS Choir - Thursday 15th August 2.30pm

Shanae Tillinger - recently competed at the WG Junior Regional Championships and won the Junior Regional Floor Combined & SS Dance Troupes – Friday 16th August 6.30pm Championship. She will compete at the State Championships later this year. Int Concert Band - Tuesday 20th August 12.15pm NetSetGO! Our NetSetGO! program will once again be conducted later this term. Please see Mrs Walker for more details if you have not received a form.

Mini Musos - Wednesday 21st August at 6.30pm MS Dance Troupe - Thursday 29th August 6pm

JS Troupe + Animi - Monday 2nd September 3.30 & 5.30pm Running Club Run Club continues on Monday and Thursday mornings, 20th Anniversary Gala Concert for Years’ 4-12 students, with coaches JK Faulkner and Ms Saturday 3rd August, 7pm Ruth Butler Theatre West. All students selected for District and Inter Lutheran Athletics should attend. You can practice Running and Field As part of our 20th Anniversary celebrations, we are present- Events such as Long Jump, High Jump and Shot Put. ing a Gala Concert featuring performances from current Any student who wishes to do Fosbury Flop at any of the students as well as alumni and staff. representative carnivals will need to attend to get assessed by our accredited High Jump coach, Ms West. Without this Priscilla Scott assessment, students will have to do the Scissors Jump only. Head of Arts If you haven’t been to Run Club yet, you can sign up on the priscillas@salc.qld.edu.au morning or get a form from Mr Manion. District Athletics Any students who wish to be considered for District Athletics should have returned a form to Mr Manion by now. If you haven’t, you need to see him today. Inter Lutheran Athletics Mr Manion will select the team for the Junior and Senior Inter Lutheran Athletics Carnivals very soon.

Sport News Athletics Carnival Thank you all Years 4-6 students who did such an amazing job at the Athletics Carnival last week. It was an awesome day with Gowandi winning by just 2 points from Jubi. Congratulations to all who competed and to our Age Champions.

Andrew Manion Head of Sport andrewm@salc.qld.edu.au

4-6 ATHLETICS Age Champions 2013 1st Girls

Tayla

J

9yr Boys

Benjamin

Johnstone 1st

10yr

Wardrop

W

Sophie

Kenn

J

Tyran

Lang 2nd

G

Molly

House

O'Brien

Flynn

Charters 3rd

House

G

Girls

G

Boys

Girls

Emily

Braid

J

Sarah-­‐Anne

Hornsey

Liam

Grainger

J

Lucas

Nash

Girls

Satine

Masiar

W

Shae

Rees

G

Lucienne

Billett

B

Girls

Boys

Hayden

Anderson

B

Kye

Shields

G

Jack

Mason

G

Boys

Girls

Lili

James

B

Charlotte

Chant

G

Annika

Bergenholtz

J

Girls

Boys

Zac

Micallef

B

Indigo

Spinks

G

William

Shearer

J

Boys

2nd

House

Grace

Catherwood

W

Girls

Haydon

Bru

W

Boys

3rd

House

2nd

House

J

10yr

House

3rd

House

9yr

House

Boys

1st 12yr

W

3rd

House

Caitlin

House

1st 11yr

2nd

House

Lawless

11yr

House

12yr


Year 2 News The Year 2 Mum’s Night Out on the 13 June at Pablo Pablo Palm Beach was a fantastic night with 31 mum’s attending. Everyone thoroughly enjoyed themselves, the food and venue was perfect and it was lovely to see seven new mum’s whom haven’t attended a social function before, come along and see what we get up to. It was a late night with most of us getting home around 11.00pm (a chance to catch-up without children or husband’s was something we all enjoyed)! The second event was our Year 2 Play Date on the 10 July during the school holidays. Despite the pouring rain for the first half hour, we had 45 children come along to Schuster’s Park from 9.30am-12.30pm to enjoy a day packed with activities. Everyone got involved and joined in for sack races, egg & spoon races, tiggy, donut on a string and two massive arts & craft table where the children were asked to create a masterpiece which was judged at the end of the day. All in all it was a hugely successful day with the parents and children so grateful to catch-up in the last week of the school holidays.

Tuckshop News This term see’s us with a new menu and new prices. To obtain your copy please go to the College’s website and download a copy or please come and see us at Tuckshop. We are now Flexi School only for orders! This means NO paper bag orders. If you have not registered with Flexi Schools, go to www.flexischools.com.au Using Flexi School 5 days a week will ensure that there are no lunch orders left in bags, no orders missing and not having to search around for money. Thank you to the volunteers that helped out at the Sports Carnival Stall. Trina Van der Kamp Tuckshop Manager tuckshop@salc.qld.edu.au

Dates to remember July/August Wednesday 31 Year 2 Excursion to Hinze Dam Thursday 1 Whole College Photo Friday 2 Year 4 Bike Centre Excursion Saturday 3 20th Anniversary Gala Concert & Back to St Andrews Weekend Sunday 4 Back to St Andrews Weekend Monday 5 Higashino Japanese Tour Group Welcoming Chapel – 8.30am WC Tuesday 6 Mufti Day – Cambodia Theme JAS Half-Day Japanese Exchange Thursday 8 Volunteers Induction Friday 9 Year 4 Bike Centre Excursion


Parents and Friends Association

St Andrews P & F News Term 3 is already upon us and soon we will be thinking about what to do with the kids for the Christmas holidays. Next term is the AGM for the P & F, so please come along and find out what we are all about and the projects we will be funding over the upcoming year. The meeting will be held Wednesday 6th November at 7pm in the CRC. If you have any agenda items for discussion please email the Secretary at pandf@salc.qld.edu.au by the Friday before. It is a great opportunity to have input into school projects which the P & F fund. Everyone is welcome so please join us for drinks and nibbles and to meet other parents. Welcome We would like to welcome Michelle Brown to the Treasurers position on the P & F, Michelle has been a member of the P & F for many years and we welcome her experience and knowledge. There are a number of integral roles on the subcommittee still vacant, including fund raising and grants officer. If anyone is interested both these roles would be very rewarding and assist in raising funds for improvements around the school. If you would like to find out more information about one of these roles contact Daniel Renneberg (0409729676) or Julieanne Andrews (0421795411). Fete The Fete was very successful with $46,500 being raised to go directly towards projects to the school. This included the donations from P & F sponsors, so please support the businesses which are helping our school.

Sponsors The P & F would like to thank the following sponsors for their continued support of our school. Please show your support for these businesses. Koala Koaches, Outrigger and James Frizelle – Tweed Heads

Funding The P & F has recently funded seating on the Village Green and water coolers. During the September holidays a new Bus Shelter will be built which the P & F has funded. We are looking to fund a major project over the next few years and any suggestions are welcome.

Julieanne Andrews pandf@salc.qld.edu.au


Entertainment Book... LAST CHANCE!!! We will be closing our Entertainment Book sales shortly! Don’t miss out on heaps of savings!! Born to knit campaign 2013 Last year, Save the Children received 4,844 blankets for children in need programs across Australia and overseas. 37 of these blankets were made with love by our St Andrews community. It is time to start knitting again. Thank you to our knitters who continued through the summer; this has provided a head start on the blanket tally for this year. Please enlist your friends, family and neighbours to knit or crochet blankets. Blankets will keep children warm and help to save lives. Save the Children request the size to be 80cm square. Make whole blankets or knit 80cm x 20cm strips. If you require wool, needles or instructions please contact tonib@salc.qld.edu.au

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Wild After School Art Classes Learn to Create Draw and Paint..... Use your imagination it is fun for everyone! Monday 3:00pm - 4:30pm - Meet outside room 12B Most art materials are supplied, Expert tuition artist/teacher and free snacks supplied. Don’t miss out, Book Now! Text/Call - 0402328987 or 55773293 after 7pm

College Fees – Optional Instalment Arrangements Tuition Fees become due at the beginning of each Term. However, we do understand that this may at times present cashflow problems for parents. In 2013, St Andrews Lutheran College has implemented Direct Debit facilities for parents wanting to pay for their children’s tuition fees on a weekly, fortnightly, or monthly basis through a regular deduction from your nominated bank account, credit card, or debit card. Transactions are processed through a secure Westpac facility using the latest 128-bit SSL encrypting technology which is the banking industry standard. If you are interested in this option to help with the family budget, please express your interest to the Business Manager, Mr Stephen Cooke - stephenc@salc.qld.edu.au.


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Celebrating 20 years 2013

YOU ARE INVITED TO THE CELEBRATION WEEKEND OF THE 20TH ANNIVERSARY

A SPECIAL THANKSGIVING SERVICE SUNDAY 4TH AUGUST 2013, 9AM, WORSHIP CENTRE www.standrewslutheran.qld.edu.au


by Michael Grose - No. 1 parenting educator

The language of resilient families Children and adults in resilient families tune into the needs of each other, choosing situation-specific language, rather than simply regurgitating generalised ‘feel-good’ or ‘get-on-with-it’ platitudes. kids who feel overwhelmed; kids who experience rejection; perfectionists The ability to compartmentalise bad events and keep them from affecting all areas of life is a powerful coping skill. Sportspeople, politicians and others who work in the public arena need to be adept at it. When something unpleasant happens during recess, for example, kids need to park their thinking about that event so they can get on with the rest of the day. The ability to compartmentalise thinking is a fantastic life skill kids can learn within their family. 3. “Let’s take a break.” Strategy: distraction Good for: kids experiencing stressful situations; kids who think too much; kids with busy lives. When kids are troubled by events or spend too much time brooding it helps to do something to get their minds off things for a time. Playing games, spending time together, watching some TV, going out – are all good distracters for worried, anxious or stressed kids. Self-distraction is healthy, providing some welcome perspective. It also prevents kids from replaying awful experiences in their heads, blowing them out Resilient families develop their own words and phrases to help each other

of proportion.

get through the inevitable tough times that each person experiences. The 4. “Who have you spoken to about this?” Strategy: seeking help Good for:

language of resilience generally refers to coping strategies such as

kids who experience bullying and social problems; handling all types of

empathy, humour and acceptance.

personal worries. Following are 10 examples of the language of resilience, the coping skills each reflects and the types of situations where they are applicable.

Resilient people seek solace in the company of others when they experience difficulty. That’s why social connection is such a strong

1. “Come on, laugh it off.” Strategy: humour Good for: kids who experience

preventative strategy for young people. The promotion of help-seeking

disappointment, failure and even loss.

behaviours is one of the best coping strategies of all. Even if kids don’t

Humour is a great coping strategy and a powerful tool for resilience as it heightens feelings of control. Some children and young people will naturally crack jokes or make fun of seemingly serious situations. This is

overtly talk about what’s bothering them, it can be immensely reassuring to spend time around others who are empathetic, understanding and willing to listen and help.

a fantastic way to release stress and handle feelings of helplessness. As a

5. “I know it looks bad now but you will get through this.” Strategy: offering

parent you may need to lighten up tense situations by introducing humour

hope Good for: kids experiencing loss, bullying, change or

of your own, which is something that many dads do really well.

extreme disappointment.

2. “Don’t let this spoil everything.” Strategy: containing thinking Good for:

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chins up and encourage them when life doesn’t go their way. Being the

“I can’t stand it” with “I don’t like it”. Realistic language leads to realistic

‘hope’ person can be hard work, that’s why parents need to be supported

thinking, which helps kids handle many ordinary situations that they have

by resilient people and workplaces too. It helps to be mindful that a child

blown out of proportion.

or young person’s resilience is nurtured by the presence of at least one supportive adult. You may have to be that person!

10. “What can we do about this?” Strategy: taking action Good for: kids who mope; who experience disappointment; who feel inadequate.

6. “What can you learn from this so it doesn’t happen next time?” Strategy:

Kids can sometimes feel overwhelmed by events such as constant failure,

positive reframing Good for: kids who make mistakes, let others down

constant rejection or always narrowly missing being picked for a team.

or experience personal disappointment

They can be overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy and helplessness.

One of the common attributes of optimistic people is their ability to find

Action is often the best remedy. Help them take the first step forward.

a learning, or look for a message, in difficult or negative situations.

Set some goals. Make some plans. Identify the first step and hold their

Parents can help kids reframe events to help them see things differently.

hand while they take it. Taking action is a quality shared by resilient

For instance, rather than regarding a public speaking opportunity as

communities, organisations and individuals.

problematic and a chance to look foolish it’s better to reframe it as

Bring resilience into your every day language

a challenge and a chance to shine. It also helps when parents model

Resilient parents focus on building children’s and young people’s strengths

reframing so kids see you changing how you view seemingly negative

for the future, while helping them cope with the present difficulties and

or worrying situations.

challenges they experience.

7. “Don’t worry – relax and see what happens!” Strategy: acceptance

The key to promoting resilience lies in the language that parents use. My

Good for: kids who worry about exams or performing poorly in any

challenge for parents is to make resilience an integral part of your family’s

endeavour; pessimists.

proprietary language. You’ll know you have succeeded if your children as

If you’ve ever been driving to an important event only to be stuck in traffic

adults remind you, when they hear any complaints or whinges from you in

then you would know that there are some situations you just can’t control.

your dotage, to ‘hang in there’, ‘this too will pass’ and ‘find the funny side’.

The only way to cope is to accept what’s happening because worrying and

Granted they may be phrases you don’t want to hear, but at least you know

fretting won’t get you anywhere. Similarly, parents with a resilience

that you’ve drummed into your kids some important core messages that

mindset can help kids understand what’s worth worrying about and what’s

have stayed for life.

not, and that some things won’t change no matter how much kids fret or beat themselves up! 8. “This isn’t the end of the world” Strategy: maintaining perspective Good for: kids who catastrophise or blow things out of proportion. While most of us catastrophise at times, jumping to the worst possible conclusion, it is a habit that only exaggerates anxiety. When kids constantly think the worst case scenario, challenge their views. “Yes, you could end up not knowing anyone at camp but you won’t be the only one. Besides you’ll probably end up making new friends like you generally do.” 9. “You could be right. But have you thought about … ” Strategy: flexible thinking Good for: kids who catastrophise; experience extreme feelings; who exaggerate. Many children and young people talk in extremes – ‘awesome’, ‘the best’, ‘the worst’ and ‘gross’ roll off their tongues easily these days. Unfortunately, their extreme language leads to extreme emotional responses. Develop the habit of winding back their language by introducing shades of grey, rather than black and white. Replace “I’m furious” with “I’m annoyed”. “It’s an absolute disaster” with “It’s a pain”.

Michael will talk more about Resilience and other vital parenting matters in the Very Important Parenting Saturday seminars conducted in 5 Australian capital cities in term 3 this year. Find out more about what’s been called the Parenting Event of the year at parentingideas.com.au

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Junior School Bulletin Issue 8, 26 July 2013  

Junior School Bulletin Issue 8, 26 July 2013