Issue #5

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AUG/SEPT 2020

Q UA RA N T IN E FIT NE SS

2020 Side Hustles

Myah Newman

The Sun Will Shine Again

DEALING WITH DEPRESSION

contributors Aug/Sept 2020

LashantĂŠ Stubbs Bachelor of Science, Biochemistry Bachelor of Medicine Founder of Pearls Empowerment Founder & Editor of Becoming Magazine Medical Student

Myah Newman CPA Makeup Artist Wife

Lucy Wanjiru Blogger Founder of One Grateful Leper

Shanygne Swann

Bachelor of Science, Biochemistry Bachelor of Medicine Medical Student

contributors Aug/Sept 2020

Scharlee Thompson

Christna Stubbs

LLB Blogger

Bachelor of Arts, English Studies Graduate Student Blogger

Dr. Rodesia Wright Medical Doctor

Lyndira Fowler

Interior Architect & Designer Entrepreneur

Andrell Burrows Medical Student

from the editor "At what point are the lines blurred between what is appropriate and what is inappropriate?"

It's time for us to oppose the norm. We must remember that womanhood goes far beyond exposing our bodies and being sexually appealing. It's time for women to celebrate what it truly means to be a woman and I know that this goes far beyond breasts and butts.

LÂ

ately, I've been scrolling on social media and I am so disappointed by what I see. I find that as the years pass, modesty is becoming less of a concern. At what point are the lines blurred between what is appropriate and what is inappropriate? Is this something that we want to pass onto younger women ? Our daughters or nieces? It's time for us to stand up as women and defend our right to be modest.

This issue celebrates refined women.

Women who are strong and wise.

Woman who are steadfast and focused. Women who are amazing role models to their peers and to younger women. It is my prayer that this issue sparks a generation of women who are strong enough to challenge current ideals on what womanhood is. It is my hope that this issue encourages women to celebrate every part of them, not just their physical appearance.

XOXO, L. Stubbs

"...shine like lights in a dark world."

-Philippians 2:15

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Founder, Pearls Empowerment

contents Aug/Sept 2020

for your spirit

Wait on The Lord p.28

Refined: Myah Newman p.51

for your body

Coconut Cream Pancakes p. 31

Quarantine Fitness p. 90

for your soul

Letters From Lucy p. 46

GirlBoss: Lyndira Fowler p. 70

Wanderlust: MĂŠxico p.32

A Refined Woman p. 20

Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path PSALM 119: 105

sacred SISTERHOOD

W

hen I first decided to become a Christian, I realized that a lot of the friends I kept were not the best people to be around all the time.

Don't get me wrong, I love them, but I realized that hanging around them all the time would not help me to become the person that I wanted to be. So, although I still kept in contact with them, I limited the amount of time that I spent with them on a daily basis.

IÂ felt prompted to find friends who would help me to grow. Friends that I could also grow with. I prayed that God would place the right people in my life and not long after I was part of a community of young people who were not only a great encouragement to me, but helped me to grow in so many ways.

It wasn't long though before I realized that a lot of the "Christian women" were very annoying to me. I felt like they were not humble at all and I felt like a lot of them only competed with each other. To me, they were no different from non Christian women.

Being around these woman made me so annoyed that I would often try to avoid them. They always tried to paint this perfect picture of their lives, they spoke about "sinners" like they were the scum of the earth and they always seemed to be preoccupied with marriage or starting some random organization. They were so haughty and seemed above reproach. I wanted my old friends back . I preferred to be around non-Christian women. They (Christian women) all seemed fake to me, even at other churches or in other parts of the world. Was I the problem? Why was I so annoyed by these women?

IÂ took my concerns to a very wise friend, who helped me to work through what I was feeling. Below is what I learned from that friend: (1) Christian women are human too- give them the same grace that you would want given to you. Try to get to know them beyond the surface. Do your best to look at them through God's eyes.

"Christian women were very annoying to me... ... I felt like they were not humble at all and I felt like a lot of them only competed with each other."

(2) Lead by example- If you feel like Christian women aren't living up to the standard, you lead with love. Don't allow the actions of other people to deter you.

You have no control over people, you only have control over yourself.

(3) Pray for them- God can do anything and when in doubt, pray that He would do what needs to be done in both your life and theirs.

Overall I've learned that not all Christian women are the same. We are not perfect.

Some people may not like me, who knows?

So, if you find some women in your circle annoying, don't use it as a measuring stick for all women. When all else fails, love genuinely from the heart. Friendship is a blessing, friendship is sacred. It teaches us about love and sacrifice and looking at other's through heavens eyes.

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M I S S

A ,

I've been dating this guy for about 3 months and he keeps making "smart" comments about the way I dress. He often tells me that I don't show enough skin , that my clothes should "maybe show a little more cleavage" or "be a bit tighter".

I'm not sure what I should say to him, but I'm uncomfortable with him always trying to control the way I dress. Please help!

Excuse me , what? I really need you to say that one more time because I cannot comprehend for the life of me why he is forcing you to "show

"Did he not meet you looking the way you do?"

more skin". Is he not happy with how you look

questions, then maybe it is time to move on.

now? Did he not meet you looking the way

Now, let's get back to why I feel that this is a

you do? Sis, I don't want to get in between

red flag. For starters, you need to question his

anything, but in my opinion this is a major red

motive. Why is he pushing you to wear more

flag. Especially considering the fact that he is

revealing clothing, yet you've only known him

not your husband AND you are only 3 months

for 3 months? Don't look at what it says about

into the relationship.

you, look at what it's telling you about him. If he appreciates you for you, although outward

But, before I go on to tell you why, maybe you

appearance counts for something, it's truly

should ponder these things "What kind of man

what's on the inside that matters and it should

is he?", "Is he truly a godly man?", "Can this

show in his actions and words.

man lead you/be a good husband and a good father to your children?" If you are satisfied

Secondly, I don't care who gets mad, I can't

with your answers to those questions, then I

think of any godly man who would pressure

think you should sit down and have a chat

his significant other to show more skin in

with him about how his comments make you

public. Who gets offended, that's on them.

feel. If you're not happy with the answers to those

Next, it's important for you to know who you are

From woman to woman, there are so many

and be comfortable with who you are. You

other options out there. I think as women, we

should not have to change who you are for

settle for less because we feel that what we

anyone to be comfortable with you. This goes

need and want is out of reach. Trust me, it's

all the way back to high school; you don't

not. Keep desiring high quality godly men

change to please people. The Bible even tells us this, we don't change to be like this worldwe are different and that's just the way it is.

No guy is worth your peace of mind and no guy should have such power that he is able to make you feel that who you really are is not good enough.

So, tell him how you feel about his comments, see what he says about it. Again, try to understand his motive behind the pressuring.

After all is said and done, if he has no real premise, it might be time for you to move on.

No guy is worth your peace of mind.

and don't lower that standard for anyone. OF course, no one is perfect, but if a brother ain't

"Do I trust him to lead me and my houshould?" "Will he be a good father to my kids?" "Can he honestly love me as Christ loves the church?" lining up with what God's word says a godly man should look like, then, I think you should look elsewhere. Overall, know who you are. If you are comfortable with the way you dress, if you feel it's appropriate and attractive and you take care of yourself, why lose sleep over what one guy has to say?

Dear Miss A is written anonymously by someone that we love and trust at the magazine. Submit any questions that you may have for Miss A, and maybe yours will be answered in the next issue. Questions can be submitted via our website; all submissions are anonymous.

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T H E

R E F I N E D woman

scharlee

thompson

"You're a refiner. I wanna be consumed. I wanna be tried by fire, purified. You take whatever you desire, Lord here's my life."

As beautiful as these words are and as lovely as they are to sing, let's be honest, how many of us actually want to be tried by fire? However, this is what sets us apart. All through the word of God, we read stories of women and men who were tried by fire. Below are a few examples of what I believe it means to be a Refined woman: 1. A refined woman self- reflects: What do you see when you look into the mirror? Mirrors are used to see physical things. When you look in the mirror, you see your reflection- a representation of how you look on the outside. What do we use to see the inside of our bodies?

Doctors use CT scans and X-rays for example. However, are there any tools that can be used to evaluate the soul?

The Bible can be used for this. Hebrews 4:12 states that "the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires." In Romans 7:15, Paul says "I do not understand what I do.

For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do." In Psalm 51, David reflected on the mistakes he made in his life and poured out His heart to God in prayer. The Bible does not just expose our thoughts but it provides tools to make us better. It is important to understand that to become a refined woman we must be pruned by the word of God. We must use it to evaluate our actions and our thoughts. We must cling to it, it must be the standard for our lives.

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2. A refined woman allows herself to be used by God: Esther, Queen of Persia was known for putting her life on the line to save her people.

While you may not have the same calling as Esther, there is purpose for your life. Be obedient to God's vision for your life. What talent or resource has God entrusted you with? Are you using it for His glory? What idea has God placed on your heart that you believe aligns with your purpose? I'm sure Esther was extremely nervous when given the task to save her people, but guess what? She did it anyway.

3. A refined woman stays committed to God even in difficult times: Going through difficult times is inevitable, but once we know who is with us, we can handle any difficult thing that is thrown our way.

The three Hebrew boys Shadrach, Mesach and Abednego were tried by fire, literally! When they were told that if they did not to bow down and worship the king they would be thrown into the fiery furnace, they continued to stand up for God. As a result of not bowing down, they were thrown into the fiery furnace, but guess what?

When the men looked down at these THREE Hebrew boys in the fire, they saw FOUR men.

God was with them and as a result, they survived the fire.

They came out untouched.

Not even smelling like smoke.

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A famous quote that I love is "God never said the weapons won't form, He just said they wouldn't prosper." In life, we all go through difficult times, but it's how we handle those difficult times that truly matters.

When we go through rough seasons, we can rest assured that God is always with us and He will help us through. This promise helps us to handle difficult times with poise. This promise helps us to remain committed to God even in the midst of the storm.

If you truly want to be a refined woman, it is important for you to self reflect, allow yourself to be used by God and stay committed to God even in difficult times.

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ON COMPLETING LAW SCHOOL

Scharlee

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dedicated

staff

writer for Becoming Magazine.

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We Believe in you, The Becoming Team

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B y

P e a r l s E m p o w e r m e n t E s t .

2 0 0 9

WAIT O N

T H E

L O R D

Christna Stubbs

If we’re honest, we’d admit that we’re all waiting for something. Some of you may be waiting to accomplish a goal that you’ve been working towards for years. Others may be waiting on the right guy, or waiting for direction from God for your life. The point is that we all know what it’s like to wait, and if we’re honest again, we’d admit that waiting isn’t always easy. In fact, it can be extremely difficult. For the past three years, I’ve been on a journey with God to become a better version of myself. I asked God to make me “whole”- not in a sense that I wanted to be perfect, but I needed Him to heal me of the emotional wounds that I had been nurturing for years. I asked Him to bring healing to the areas of insecurity, inadequacy, self-doubt, discouragement, and so many more that were constantly attacking my peace of mind and happiness. At the time, I had been reading the Word, and I knew that the way I had been thinking about myself and my life up to that point was not what God had called me to, so I prayed an intentional prayer and began my journey with the Lord. I told God that as He

took me on this journey, I wanted to be healed from these things, and truthfully, when I began to walk the path to healing, I didn’t believe that the healing process would happen overnight, but I did believe that it would happen sooner than later.

Fast forward to three years. I’m still on my journey to healing. During this time, there has been tremendous growth. There are areas in my life where I can see the maturity and the healing that God has brought, but can I be honest with you? There is still a lot of growing that I have to do. There are still areas in my life that I struggle with, and although I wish they’d just magically go away overnight, the Holy Spirit always reminds me that the healing that I desire will come, once I continue to remain in Him (John 15:4).

What are you waiting for in your life right now?

What are you relying on the Lord for? Is it to become a better version of yourself like me, and find wholeness and healing? Is it to accomplish

that goal you’ve desperately been working towards? Is it to become a more refined version of yourself? I encourage you to wait on the Lord, and trust that He is with you on the journey.

Most importantly, if you haven’t already, I encourage you to welcome Him into the journey.

He will not only lead you on the right path (Psalm 23:3), but He gives you the strength to finish strong (Philippians 1:6). One thing my own journey has taught me is that God’s ways are not like ours, nor are His thoughts like ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). We may not always understand why He doesn’t allow certain things to happen overnight in our lives, but we do know that He is a good Father and He will not withhold anything good from His children (Matthew 7:11). So, I encourage you to wait on the Lord, be of good courage, and He will surely strengthen your heart as you continue on your journey (Psalm 27:14). Don’t be discouraged. Don’t give up because it seems as though what you’re believing for is taking too long. Continue to trust God; continue to hold fast to His word and His promises. Continue to wait on the Lord.

GOD NOT ONLY LEADS YOU ON THE RIGHT PATH,HE GIVES YOU STRENGTH TO FINISH STRONG.

Ingredients 1 egg 1/2 cups milk 2 tablespoons butter (melted) 1 1/3 cups flour 3 teaspoons baking powder 1 tablespoon sugar 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/4 teaspoon vanilla extract 1/4 teaspoon coconut extract 1/4 cup coconut (shredded) For the Topping: 1/4 cup coconut (toasted) 1 cup powdered sugar 1 to 2 tablespoons whole milk 1/2 teaspoon coconut extract 1/4 teaspoon vanilla

Instructions Gather the ingredients.

Heat a cast iron griddle or pan on medium heat before you begin. Make sure it is nice and hot and then lower the temperature before you begin cooking the pancakes.

Beat together the egg, milk, and melted butter.

Whisk in the vanilla and coconut extracts and shredded coconut.

Whisk together the flour, baking powder, and salt in a separate bowl.

Slowly whisk in the egg and milk mixture. It's okay for the batter to be a little lumpy; be careful not to over mix. Let it sit for about 5 minutes. The batter will puff up. If it is too thick, add a little more milk.

Grease the griddle. Spoon the batter in about a 1/4 cup portions on the griddle and let it cook for a few minutes per side.

Keep the pancakes warm in a 200 degree F oven.

Whisk together the whole milk, powdered sugar, vanilla extract, and coconut extract together.

Drizzle the glaze over the pancakes and top them with the toasted coconut.

coconut

cream pancakes

Adapted from The Spruce Eats

wanderlust: México

BY DR. RODESIA WRIGHT

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The pyramids in Teotihuacan and the buildings in Yautepec, Morelos, Mexico were also a sight to behold.

B

ienvenido a Mexico, is one of the first things I heard when I landed in the Aeropuerto Internacional Benito Juárez. My 6 day vacation had begun and the countdown to my trip had finally come to an end. Over the next few days, I would view the rich architecture, taste delicious foods and enjoy the unique culture that all merged together to give me an authentic Mexican experience. The first thing that struck me about Mexico was the great importance that is placed on its history. During my time there, I went on numerous tours and saw various buildings steeped in Mexico’s Spanish colonial past. The architecture was old, but glorious!

Driving through Mexico City on the way to the Reforma district, where my hotel was located, was surprising. Tall skyscrapers filled the sky line, water fountains dotted the round-abouts and palm trees lined the sidewalks. All of this paled in comparison to the beauty that was seen at the Basilica of Our Lady of Guadalupe which has two churches, the modern and the old. The modern basilica showcased tall ceilings with beautiful lights on the ceiling and the floor was one of immaculate marble tiles.

The ceiling of the old basilica was one that could rival those seen in the Sistine chapel in Italy with paintings dating back to the 16th century.

Unfortunately, the old basilica has evidence of wear and tear as seen by large cracks in the wall from past earthquakes. The building itself is in fact sinking, which is the reason why the new basilica was erected.

The beautiful architecture was not only limited to Mexico City. The pyramids in Teotihuacan and the buildings in Yautepec, Morelos, Mexico were also a sight to behold. The pyramid of the sun and the moon were extremely high with views for thousands of miles. Steps were steep leading up to them, but the climb was worth it!

My stay in Yautepec was at a cute villa called the Hacienda San Carlos. The Hacienda had long, winding vines that climbed by tall walls which surrounded the property. Lush greenery could be seen during the walk through of the old building. Those along with the brick architecture gave an old colonial feel to the building.

Apart from the architecture, Mexico had a lively street food atmosphere. Across from my hotel in Mexico City, the Hilton Reforma, there was a market with various food vendors offering a taste of Mexico. Tortillas, quesadillas, burrito and tortas were filled with various meats and cooked right before my eyes. Prices were cheap and the food was delicious!

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Pepper lovers would fall in love with their spicy red and green salsas. In addition to this, they prepared their plantains in a unique way.

Plantains were diced, fried and placed on a plate.

They were then saturated with mayonnaise, ketchup and condensed milk before being handed over to consumers with a fork. Another popular dish in Mexico was corn. Fun fact: Mexican diet initially consisted of a great deal of corn. This was evident as I passed vendor after vendor selling grilled corn on the cob. Some vendors actually prepared the loose corn kernels in a cup drizzled with mayonnaise, salt, pepper and cream.

The wedding also boasted an authentic Mariachi band playing traditional Mexican music. Wedding attendees danced along as we watched the Mariachi band play and dance while doing so. Overall, Mexico was a great experience. My only regret is that I didn’t see and do more.

The restaurant food was just as delicious as the street food. I ordered steaks that were larger than the plate itself and seasoned to perfection. On the other hand, the menu offered Mexican delicacies such as grasshoppers and cockroaches. I was not brave or daring enough to try these, but my travel companions did. The verdict was that “it was quite chewy”. American favorites such as hamburgers and fries were also on the menu. In addition to the architecture and the food, my favorite thing about Mexico was its strong culture. This was especially seen when I attended a family member’s wedding. Mexican women and men could be seen dressed in gorgeous formal gowns while they danced to salsa music.

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...My only regret about Mexico, is that I didn't see and do more

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THE SUN WILL SHINE AGAIN D E A L I N G

W I T H B Y

S H A N Y G N E

D E P R E S S I O N S W A N N

Talking about mental illness is still taboo, even in the year 2020. On an individual basis, the stigma that shrouds mental illness is perpetuated by a double dose of fear—the fear of seeking help and the fear of public judgement. Fear is a natural occurrence and is essential for our survival— warning and protecting us from danger. By that logic, one can assume that fear is a positive safeguard. However, not in this case.

There is a point where the fear of getting help and the fear of scrutiny, simply put, becomes a problem. Constantly soaking in a bubble bath of blues creates a niche for depression to evolve and thrive. Overtime, depression becomes a constant problematic companion who is difficult to shake, but finds you with ease. Depression blocks full participation in life and manifests in many ways.

Despite what others may think, it is important to find appropriate help, which often includes healthy coping mechanisms. I know, I know… it is easier said than done. Honestly speaking, far too many times, I have ridden my own horse on the tracks of “Despair Drive” with an unwilling, gloomy giddy-up. I missed out on countless opportunities and, for that reason alone, I was eager to chuck up my deuces and offer my faceless frenemy the boot. I make no claims that I am fully off that horse, so I would be remiss if I failed to mention that the sustenance of my mental health takes a lot of effort. More so, maintaining good insight on this journey is imperative.

Depression presents herself as a friend and, I stress this heavily, not a very good one either. She is

very infiltrative and sneaky.

She self-invites herself into your home, obnoxiously takes a self-righteous seat, and undermines your authority in your own space.

Oftentimes, this downlow bully offers her words of “honesty” and, before you know it, the selfabuse rears its ugly head. You start to look at yourself negatively; labeling yourself as pathetic, unlovable, and unworthy. Suddenly, you begin experiencing unexplained aches and pains, you often forget the important stuff, and engage in reckless behaviour. Additionally, depression isolates you from your real friends, bullies you into excessive guilt, lowers your motivation, pushes you to become easily angered, makes you feel drained, promotes unhealthy hygiene, sleeping and eating practices and, unfortunately, may even drive you to self-harm.

In that self-isolation, the problems of the world may seem easier to digest. I can even go as far as saying that you may begin to feel comfortable and safe around this frenemy—avoiding facing the disappointments and hurts that burden you..

Although this remote safety may feel warm, this is risky business that takes courage to combat. Left with no intervention or untreated, depression can become a serious health condition. It is important for me to remind you that the feelings of hopelessness and helplessness are the symptoms that you experience from depression, and it is not the reality of your circumstance.

No matter how great the despair may feel, there is hope in getting and feeling better. As cliché as it may sound, you are never alone. 1 out of 6 people will succumb to depression during their lifetime.

It does not see ethnicity, socioeconomic status, nor gender. Depression does not discriminate, humans do. On a lighter note, with help and proper treatment, many have recovered from the bouts of depression.

During this current COVID-19 climate, it is important to find ways to let depression know that you no longer require her services. With depression, it is easy to fall into darkness and very hard to climb out. As it stands, many of us are still at home practicing social distancing or quarantined. The present events of the world are bleak, and this creates a suitable atmosphere for depression to flourish.

Coping with depression is a task, but before I get into some tips, I would highly recommend that those who have any suicide and/or violent ideations, as well as frequent, recurrent episodes of depression seek proper counsel and treatment from a licensed authority.

Remember that the tips I'm about to provide are not a quick fix, improvement in mood will take place over time: 1) Recognize that you cannot recover on your own.

Yes, it takes effort on your end, but a support system is important. Those who love you, even when you feel unlovable, will always want what is best for you. These are the people who will listen to your thoughts, motivate you, ensure that you know you are loved, push you to seek therapy and, when applicable, will encourage you to take your medication. If possible, they will not allow you self-isolate, but you must let them in.

2) Be realistic about what others can do. Just as your support system will try to be there for you, be mindful that they cannot make recovery efforts on your behalf. Your loved ones can help you decide how to proceed seeking help, they can check on your progress, attend therapy sessions with you, and encourage you. However, they can

only do their best, so do your best to meet them halfway.

3) Track triggers and symptoms. Identifying the signs of depression early on may help to avoid a major depressive episode. This way, you are able to enlist your coping mechanisms swiftly and seek professional help if you notice that your mood has been down for over 14 days. A good way to do this is by using a diary to document important events, mood changes, symptoms, and changes to daily routines. This can also help your doctor, if you are seeing someone professionally.

4) Make a bedtime routine. Symptoms of depression include an increase and decrease in sleep, so the implementation of a bedtime routine and sleep schedule can prove to be helpful. A lack of sleep, especially, can exacerbate other depressive symptoms. Going to bed and waking up at the same time each day can help combat the changes in sleep patterns. A sleep routine can

include scheduling a bedtime, not eating close to your bedtime, taking a night bath, drinking your favorite tea, reading a book, avoiding screen time (phone or TV), cutting off the lights, writing in a journal, and perhaps listening to some background music. Â 5) Get moving. Attempt staying out of your room.

Go outside as much as possible. Take a walk around the corner, walk your dog, or play an outside family game.

Exercise releases endorphins, which are happy chemicals that improve your mood.

6) Recognize the importance of self-care. As simple as having a clean room, taking daily baths, and creating other good hygiene habits can boost your mood. Self-care is essential for good mental and physical health. Engage in activities that help you look after your well-being. These activities can include reading, gardening, going to the gym, painting, or drawing. Do an at-home facial,

practice your makeup skills, or fix your hair— sometimes looking good helps you to feel good.

Relaxing, recharging and connecting with self are the goals of the game. If this means saying no to others and saying yes to yourself a bit more, do so.

medication and bring about some horrible side effects. Other foods such as caffeine and sugar can adversely affect the mood as well. Increasing foods rich in Omega-3 fatty acids can help enhance a good mood.

7) Seek spiritual or religious guidance. When you’re depressed, keeping the faith is hard. Some people find solace in reading their Bible, listening to gospel music, and attending church.

Sometimes, being surrounded by the joy of the Lord places most in better moods.

Depression is more than feeling sad—it is medical condition that affects both mind and body. It is important to know when to seek medical help.

Recovery is different for everyone and may take a while for different people. Treatment outside of medication and therapy include lifestyle changes as well. What is most important is that we are able to recognize depressive symptoms to avoid staying stagnant in the blues. If you’re in The Bahamas, I recommend reaching out to the Community Counselling & Assessment Centre on Collins Avenue or the Sandilands Rehabilitation Centre, especially if you feel as though symptoms are beyond your control.

8) Avoid alcohol and eat a mood boosting diet. I can understand that alcohol may help one feel better in the moment, but it is a depressant that will only make your circumstance even more unbearable. Alcohol helps to trigger episodes and exacerbate your mood. More so, for those on medication, alcohol can interact with your

Letters F R O M

L U C Y

Lucy Wanjiru IS 29 years old and is from Nairobi Kenya. Read about her life experiences in this column or check out her blog @OneGratefulLeper

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ou version bible app has become one of my favorite apps. That is where I get daily Bible verses and above all, I get to read daily devotionals on different topics.The app has been so helpful in building my faith. Just the other day, I was searching for a daily devotional to read. To be specific, I wanted something to do with health. Mainly because I have been experiencing issues with my health lately. I needed something to build me up and give me the boldness to stand strong. In my pursuit of this, I ran into a Bible plan called Hope In The Midst of Suffering ~ The Kara Tippetts Story. I won't go into details of the devotion, but it's about a young woman who struggled with breast cancer and how she maintained a positive attitude throughout her suffering. As I started to read the devotion, I learned that she went on to be with the Lord. But wait, this is not how I wanted it to turn out. I wanted a victorious ending. I wanted a "happy" ending. You know, one where she was able to beat the cancer and is now living her life. But no . That wasn't the case. If I can be honest, I didn't want to continue with the devotional anymore because I felt that that particular devotional wasn't what I needed at that time. I was looking for something more. But you know what? I think I needed it. Sometimes, life can be messy. Sometimes, things don't turn out the way we expect them to.

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How many of you have prayed for something and God didn't give you what you wanted?

Maybe you prayed for a loved one to be healed, only for them to pass on .Maybe you prayed for God to save your marriage, only for it to end up in a divorce. Maybe you're that parent who has tirelessly prayed for your child, only for him/her to continuously make the wrong choices.

Maybe you're the dad who has been praying not be laid off from work, only to meet a termination letter on your desk. Maybe you're the woman who has been praying to conceive and no sooner it happens, you suffered a miscarriage. Maybe you're the unmarried guy/girl who has attended countless weddings only to never have it happen for you. I can go on and on. But through all of this, through the pain, the doubt and the uncertainty, we can choose to be hopeful . We can choose to keep our peace. We can choose to trust God even when we don't understand Him. Even when we don't understand why things happen the way that they do, we can trust that God cares.

Remember the comforting words of John 16:33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” That is one of my favorite Bible verses. It assures us that yes we will pass through pain in this world, but we can rest in the peace that surpasses all understanding. The peace that the world doesn't give. The peace ONLY JESUS ,the PRINCE OF PEACE can give. Maybe this article has found you in a dark season. A season full of pain and so many questions. No matter the situation you are in right now , I want to direct you to the Prince of Peace. I pray that He finds you where you are in your mess, in your pain and in your doubt. I pray that He wraps His arms around you and overwhelms you with His peace. I pray that He breathes into your soul hope and gives you strength to stand once again.

Hugs, Lucy.

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Myah Newman 52 | Oct/ Nov 2019

M

yah caught the attention of members of our team with her makeup page on Instagram. After interviewing her, we grew to love her so much more. Hearing all that she had to say inspired us in ways that we weren’t even prepared for. We salute women like Myah. Women who are real. Women who are not afraid of their stories. Women who although encountered fire, emerged refined.

Myah is an accountant at one of The Bahamas’ top accounting firms. She is also a professional makeup artist and a wife.

Although she is such a revolutionary, Myah admits to enjoying the simple things like a good episode of Grey’s Anatomy and HGTV .

Growing up in Nassau Bahamas, Myah shared with us that at 15 years old, she began playing around with her mother’s makeup. Not long after, people were requesting her talents. Unfortunately, Myah lost her mother. After losing her mother, she shared that she felt she had “lost a degree of spiritual protection”. She further shared, “I started partying a lot more. I also got involved in a number of romantic relationships that I regretted deeply”. Myah admitted that after the death of her mother, she “spiraled more and more out of control”. Then, God intervened. She shared an experience that changed her life forever.

She recalls being in her room and hearing God speak to her. In that moment, Myah states that she was being questioned about where she would spend eternity if she were to lose her life that very night. Myah opened up and explained that, that night marked the beginning of a change of heart for her.

Many years have passed since that night and Myah is still steadfast in her relationship with God. Isn't that amazing?

We wanted to know more about her work as a makeup artist and the challenges she faced in building her brand. Myah mentioned that her biggest challenge is comparison. She shared, “I often struggle quite a bit with comparing myself, my craft and my brand to other makeup artists.

Which, when you think about it, is so pointless because makeup is art!" We related so much to this, as we know comparison is something many women struggle with. Myah went on to share that it was difficult for her to find her own niche in the makeup game. However, she also mentioned that she tries her best to be true to who she is and what she loves. Now, she reminded us that this does not mean that she confidently scrolls down Instagram and Youtube every day without feeling any emotions of ‘inadequacy’; however, she now appreciates that her clientele is shaped by her art. This inspired us a lot. As women, we should always be true to who we are and confident in what we have to offer.

When asked about the past few years of her life , Myah shared that she has been delving into fitness for the past 2 years and is very proud of the weight she’s lost. She admitted that exercising and healthy eating were always a struggle for her; however, she is proud of the discipline that she’s gained in this area.

Myah, who is now 28 is happily married.

When asked about married life she responded, “Boy oh boy, married life haha.

It definitely takes work and intentional action.” She shared with us that she and her husband got married in July of 2017 and has had such an amazing journey thus far. She further explained that the journey is filled with extreme highs and some noteworthy lows. Nevertheless, she thanks God for her husband daily. Myah shared that she thinks

they both stir up growth in each other. She

my busiest days are Saturdays, but my

does admit that sometimes her thoughts

weekdays aren’t shy to compete" . A busy

wonder into a land of “what ifs” but she

Saturday would include her waking up at

quickly snaps back to reality and realizes

about 6:00 a.m. (possibly earlier) for an

that God has perfectly paired them together

early morning client or bridal party for

right where they are and that she’s eager to

makeup applications. The busiest of the

see what the future has for them.

Saturdays would also include her going to spend time with the girls at the home from

Along with being a CPA, a makeup artist

2:00 p.m. -4:00 p.m. She explained that

and a wife, Myah also meets once a month

she'd get home to do some chores, then

at a local children’s home to spend time

wrap up the day by spending time with her

with the girls there. They’ve coined their

husband, which usually includes a trip to

time together “Lilies of the Valley”. She

the movies (his favorite place). During the

shares that “Lilies of The Valley” grew from

week,

her desire to pursue God on a deeper level.

a.m. to get ready for work. She explained

Myah explained,

“I had visited the home

that she fights traffic for about 30-45

once before with a friend to have a movie

minutes. After work, she rushes to the gym

night. I really enjoyed my time there and

for 6:00 p.m. Then, off to freshening up for

being able to pour into the girls in a

play rehearsals at 7/7:30 p.m. Once home at

tangible way. For my birthday of 2017, I

around 9:30 p.m., she prepares food for the

wanted to have a party with the girls at the

following day. She is usually in bed by 11:00

home.

time

p.m. to do it all over again. We are amazed

pursuing

at how well she is able to handle it all. Myah

mentorship (which I wasn’t when I had

inspires us to believe that as busy women,

asked initially). She gave me the forms to

balance is possible!

actually

The

administrator

thought

that

I

at was

the

Myah usually gets up around 6:30

fill out. These forms were more extensive than employment applications! I felt a little

In

hopes of inspiring others, we asked

intimidated and thought I better up my

Myah to give advice to women who might

game. I ended up putting together a full

be feeling lost and confused about a life

curriculum. I called some of my closest

plan. She advises these women to first seek

friends at the time and they agreed to join

God. She further explains, “We’re all lost

me for the journey.”

and confused in life. We’re all broken. The only way to get true clarity and peace is to

When asked about her busy days, she

seek it from the one who created us. Often,

shared “My days vary quite a bit. Typically,

the answers won’t come how we imagine it.

But there is contentment in knowing that

you’ve been reconciled to God, and that no

According to Myah, people remember gifts

matter what happens in this life, you have a

but even more so, they remember how we

hope in the life that is to come" . She

treated them. So, the best way to become

reminded us that by holding on to this

your best self is to die to self, love God and

truth, the stresses of this world becomes less

love others. She reiterated "we can aim to

crippling.

make a million dollars in a year and the next

year

be

diagnosed

with

a

life-

Even further, she explains "sometimes we

threatening illness that eats away all of that

put undue stress and burdens on ourselves

money. Only the people we would have

by trying to set-up this ideal life that is

impacted along life’s way will be the ones to

usually impractical. We look at the lives of

comfort us in our darkest hour.”

others around us and set our hearts on pursuing highlights of the lives of others,

It was amazing having the opportunity to

while ignoring our own". If we're honest,

glean wisdom from Myah. Not only is she a

we'd own up to the fact that this is so true.

success, but she is an inspiration to many.

Myah reminds us to take life one day at a

Myah is currently working with one of her

time, because that’s all we can do. She

friends on an upcoming play. She shared

shared "Seek God, seek His Word and He’ll

that her friend is an awesome writer. Myah

send people in your life to encourage and

will be acting as one of the female leads. In

uplift you.” .

the near future, she also hopes that she and her

husband

are

able

to

become

Similarly, to women who are struggling to

homeowners and in her words, “pop out

become their best self, she commented “I

some babies haha”. She hopes that they can

often struggle with the phrases best self and

also continue being lights in dark places,

best life. I think a certain picture comes into

standing confidently on the Word of God.

people’s minds- a picture of someone who

One day, she also hopes to launch a line of

is perfectly organized in every area of life."

makeup products, as this is something that

Myah quickly reminded us that we are our

she’s been putting off for a while. Myah

best in Christ Jesus. We are our best selves

promises to make up her mind to just

when we seek Him and His will. We are our

do it! We personally hope that it is one day

best selves when we display the fruits of the

very soon!

Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness,

goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-

We had the most amazing time getting to

control. She admonishes that these are the

know Myah. Follow her on Instagram

things that will last. These are the things

@MakeupByMyah_ or visit her website at

that have true meaning.

www.makeupbymyah.com

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B

old and innovative were words that came to

mind after hearing from Lyndira Fowler. This 24-yearold is taking the Bahamas by storm. If you are not familiar with Lyndira, where have you been? She is not only the owner of an online boutique women’s accessory store (The Luxe Jewelry Box), but she is also an interior designer at a local architecture firm in The Bahamas. Lyndira also has her own interior design business, Lyndira Fowler Design. This company is a boutique interior design studio specializing in small

scale

renovations,

interior

styling,

3D

renderings, and home staging.

71| Aug/Sept 2020

Lyndira

explained

that

she

is

an

thinking of a few quick and easy

accountability

interior designer by profession. She

“side hustles.”

being the eldest sibling, has been

shared

people

that

Lyndira

because

Fowler

“putting

her

Design

degree,

of is

that,

just

her

already,

who so

I knew quite a few

were I

selling

decided

to

clothing go

with

experience,

jewelry instead. I am actually in the

and expertise to use outside of her

process of rebranding and ordering

9-5 job".

that

comes

with

one of the main elements that have molded me into being the woman that I am today.

As the eldest of

my siblings, I always felt like I held

new inventory right now."

the responsibility of being a great

We

also

boutique

asked to

about

which

she

her

online

She

explained

that

“As for The Luxe Jewelry Box, well I

attributes brought

a her

lot

of

the

success

traits

to

the

fact that she is the eldest of her

was looking for ways to generate

siblings. She explained “I’d have to

some

say the responsibility and

extra

cash

about

summers ago, so I began

two

role model for my sisters to follow. I appreciate

the fact that they look

up to me. It holds me accountable because I know that they’re always watching me.”

Lyndira brands

shared are

challenged

that

new, to

she

is

increase

media engagement. “social

media

probably

the

her

creating a digital design board and

shows

currently

uploading inspirational posts to her

interaction, as an entrepreneur people

Instagram

are still seeing, watching and admiring

because

She

her

social

explained

engagement

biggest

challenge

is for

me specifically getting social media users to follow, interact, and share my

she

that

or

feed.

She

consistency

is

that

despite

social

media

your work.

important. She is also realizing that doing this helps people to see and

With

feel

presence.

understands that it is important to have

Lyndira however shared that she is

“down-time”. As such, she explains that

not

her

social

obsessing

media

over

social

media

likes and shares.

posts/work”.

However,

story

recognizes

her

all

of

this

on

her

plate,

she

with all the extra time on her hands due to the lockdowns associated with the COVID-19 pandemic, she can do a

shared

that

she

is

overcoming this hurdle by carving out time to work on promoting her interior design brand for example,

She further explains that she’s had

lot

inquiries and referrals from people

reads

more

who have never interacted with her

Obama

social media posts. To her, this

Pastor

reading.

were and

Her

Becoming

most by

Relationship

recent

Michelle Goals

by

Michael

Todd.

However,

if

she

really had to decide, her favorite pastime

would

have

to

be

browsing Pinterest for inspiration to

incorporate

into

her

various

doing her daily morning devotions,

her

having

reporting

Design,

her

down

for

breakfast,

work.

From

and there,

days

company, and

before

bed,

can include a combination of the

shares

following:

site

watching a show.

meetings,

sourcing

visits,

client

can

Lyndira

finally

include

a

Fowler

little

wind

which

she

reading

or

furniture,

interior design projects and DIY's.

finishes,

She

3D renderings and creating digital

business

design packages.

“Start doing the work now, even if

shared

each

“I

save

a

client/project

working

on

lol”.

She

board that

also

for I’m

enjoys

binge-watching Netflix shows.

For

Lyndira,

alike.

no

However,

two her

days busy

would include her getting up,

days

fixtures,

generating

To

women or

seeking

to

brand,

she

start

a

advises

you don’t plan on launching now.

After

work,

workout

look

and

in

she and

tries then

to

get

a

prepare

You must start from somewhere, and the earlier, the better.

There

dinner for her family if it’s her turn

is never a perfect time to start,

to do so. Afterwards, she’d more

and whenever you do, you won’t

than often put in a few hours for

have

everything

all

figured

There’s always room to grow,

out.

learn,

evolve,

and

rebrand.

out

there.

While

social

media

you feel they can or should." She

Unfortunately, you won’t ever be

engagements might play a role in

shared,

able to experience this growth if

the growth and success of your

support of some close family and

you aren’t willing to take the first

business, I wouldn’t stress about it

friends, about 70% of my clients

leap.

too

and

So,

Additionally,

get she

started,

sis!"

explained

won’t always be easy.

"It

You may

much,

or

become

If you get no likes, keep

give up, but don’t.

because

someone

days where you are too tired to

watching and referring.

put in the work, but you must. “

might

not

that’s

okay!"

that

the

who

might

have

the

support

know or have never even met.”

posting

women

that

be

for She

everyone, advises,

right

clients

the

and

new

Lyndira

discouraged

stop posting and putting yourself

friends are not supporting you as

become

family

of

you.

may sound, DON’T GIVE UP! Never

that

Lyndira shares that working at one nation’s

leading

opportunity to constantly work on

struggling she says “As cliché as it

not

my

barely

"Trust

Oh,

do

to

I

architecture firms allows her the

already started but are currently

lastly,

come

that

and

opportunities and

will

is

Also, you

people

have

liking or sharing.

Just know, they

are

do

brands

see you!

To

people

I

discouraged that people are not

have days where you may want to You may have

"While

and

and

currently living

fun

projects.

Fowler

wrapping

and

As

Design,

dining

up

she a

room

project and maintains one

for is

small styling

to two clients per month.

Long-term,

she is looking to establish her very own interior

design

firm.

However,

she

admits that she is quite content with the season that she is in.

She loves

working at her 9-5 job and is grateful for the wealth of knowledge that she has gained thus far.

As for her personal life, she prays that she

continues

to

grow

and

her relationship with God.

develop She also

hopes to be married and start a family within the next 6 years.

Connect

with

Lyndira

on

Instagram

and Facebook @ LyndiraFowlerDesigns and @TheLuxeJewelryBox

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Endometriosis andrelle burrows

Endometriosis is unfortunately seen in many women globally. The average age of diagnosis is twenty-seven.

However, some teens also suffer from this disease. Endometriosis involves the excess growth of uterine tissue in other parts of the body, commonly the reproductive system. Uterine tissue stems from the uterus, which is also known as the womb of a female.

The female reproductive system is made up of many parts such as the uterine tubes, the ovaries, and the cervix. Unfortunately, excess uterine tissue can grow on any of the aforementioned parts leading to pain, discomfort, and infertility in a number of cases.

Endometriosis can also cause painful periods and bleeding between menstrual periods.

Women who have been diagnosed with endometriosis tend to be concerned about their reproductive health. They may experience difficulties becoming pregnant, but it is not impossible. I personally have heard some testimonies of women being able to bear children while having this condition.

For example, Allyson Rowe, a well-known preacher, recently gave birth to a healthy baby boy despite being diagnosed with endometriosis. All hope is not lost, a diagnosis of endometriosis does not mean that you won't ever be able to conceive.

Sometimes, women who are not suffering from any illnesses also struggle with infertility. Luckily, there are some ‘superfoods’ that might help with this issue, such as foods high in monounsaturated fat (healthy fat) like avocados and nuts. Women struggling with infertility should also consume foods that have a low glycemic index, but a high fiber content. For example, whole grains like brown rice, oatmeal, and whole-wheat bread. Getting most of your iron from vegetable sources like chickpeas, kale and beans, instead of meat sources would also be a great idea.

There is no cure for endometriosis; however, if you suspect that you have endometriosis talk to your gynecologist as soon as you can.Â

Side Hustles for 2020

SECURE THE BAG This COVID-19 Pandemic has taken the world by surprise. A lot of small businesses have taken a blow and many persons were laid off from their jobs. As such, the team decided to share 5 creative side hustles that you can pursue to make extra income. Overall, we encourage you to be true to yourself, be true to your talents and to make the best use of the resousrces that you currently have.

Online Tutoring

1

What subjects are you proficient in? What area have you perfected that you can teach to others? Take some time to brainstorm and maybe pursue tutoring online for a fee. Remember that you want to provide a quality service. Don't just do because you can. Do it with excellence.

With this pandemic in place, face to face tutoring more than likely is out of the question. However, there are no rules hindering you from hosting tutoring sessions online.

Host A Masterclass Tutoring not your thing? Host a masterclass instead. Find out what you're good at and teach it to those willing to learn. This can include anything from jewelry making to essay writing. However, be creative and wise about your choices. You'd want to provide a class on something that is in high demand. It doesn't make sense hosting a masterclass on something people care nothing about.

3

2

Set Up An Online Store If you have the capital, why not? Online shopping isn't going anywhere.

Take advantage of sites that offer drop shipping. Again, ensure that the product is a sound investment. The last thing you want is to invest money into something that will reap no returns.

Work As A Virtual

4

Assistant There are entrepreneurs out there who still need help. Reach out to local small businesses and offer paid services as a virtual assistant. Don't shut the idea down before giving it a try. You'd be surprised to know how much you can actually make from this.

Become A Virtual

5

Party Planner Life events are not cancelled. People are still celebrating birthdays, having gender reveal parties and getting married. Help people bring their special moments to life on a virtual platform. Make the events fun by providing virtual games and entertainment. Be creative with your approach.

our reading list AUG/SEPT 2020

Who Switched Off My Brain?

Controlling Toxic Thoughts and Emotions by Dr. Caroline Leaf "In this best-selling book, Dr. Caroline Leaf clearly communicates 13 ways to detox your thought life and live a life of physical, mental, and emotional wholeness."

Books worth reading this month!

Switch on Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health by Dr. Caroline Leaf "We all want to be more at peace, to be happier and healthier, but we often don't know how to go about it.

Everything we try seems to fall short of true change. Dr. Caroline Leaf knows that we cannot change anything until we change our thinking"

The Purpose of Singleness: Are You Whole or Are You Full of Holes

by Joshua Eze "Are you whole or are you full of holes is theme of the book "The Purpose of Singleness". This books aims to help the reader understand the importance of being whole before every new season instead of leaking through them"

Relational Intelligence by Dr. Dharius Daniels "Relationships were God's idea, writes Daniels, and when we understand and apply what God has to say about them we end up avoiding unnecessary relational turmoil, advancing in all areas of our life, and accomplishing our God-given purpose. "

It's Okay Not to Be Okay: Moving Forward One Day at a Time by Sheila Walsh "Walsh helps women overcome the same old rut of struggles and pain by changing the way they think about God, themselves, and their everyday lives. She shares practical, doable, daily strategies that will help women move forward one step at a time knowing God will never let them down."

Conquer the year 6 Tips for a More Fruitful Year

1 Be Grateful It's

so

easy

Challenge

to

complain.

yourself

to

go

against the grain. Be completely grateful.

Each

day,

yourself

of

all

the

reasons

why

you

are

remind amazing happy

to

be alive. Write down about 3-7 things you are grateful for and thank God for them.

2

Journal 2020 has been one of the most mentally draining years to date for many people. Every day can be a fight to keep your sanity.

Release some steam by starting a

2020

late.

journal.

Also,

you

It

is

don't

not have

too to

journal every day. Simply find a book

and

take

some

time

(as

often as you need) to put your thoughts onto paper. You'd be surprised

at

actually helps.

how

much

this

3 Pray Whether or

not,

you believe in prayer it

science

to

something powerful that's

There

prove so

it.

fact.

is

prayer,

Prayer

burdens

in

also

There

mysterious

about

a

relieve

works.

and and

helps

ways

is

to

that

we'd never imagine possible. Go ahead,

instead

of

worrying,

pray. It really is that simple.

4 Take It Easy Gift

yourself

grace.

Alot

is

going on in the world right now and

we

ourselves.

should If

be

you

kind

to

miss

a

deadline, remind yourself that it is okay. If you did not complete all of your daily goals, celebrate the

ones

you

actually

got

to

complete. Take baby steps and be kind to yourself.

5 Take Days Off Rest

is

important.

arguing

over

There's

that.

no

Remember

with all that is going on in the world, rest is still essential. Take time to rest. Put down the work.

Breathe,

reflect,

sleep.

Your

mind and body desires it.

6

Do What You Love Take at least one day out of the week love.

to

indulge

This

something each

in

will to

you

give

look

week.

what

you

forward

Depending

to on

where you live, options might be limited, but be creative. It can be as simple as recreating your favorite meal or dessert. Also, it can

include

watching

a

few

episodes of your favorite show.

Do

something

Moments important.

that

like

you

enjoy.

these

are

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FITNESS 90 | Aug/ Sept 2020

Are those pandemic pounds adding up? If you're one of the lucky few to avoid gaining a little weight in these past few months, well this article is not primarily for you. Just kidding. Well, sort of. Many of us honestly find it hard to be at home all day and not frequent our kitchens. This, coupled with emotional eating, has really taken a toll on the waistlines of many.

However, fear not. Help is here. I am going to give you some practical and easy ways to cut those pounds down before the end of the year.

pandemic pounds adding up?

Before we begin, I just want to remind you that we are in a pandemic and if you've gained a few pounds it is okay. Stop constantly looking in the mirror and criticizing yourself and your body. You are beautiful, give yourself the props you deserve. Second, remember that exercise is not just something we do for weight loss, but for life. You should be exercising weekly to ensure good heart health and exercise is part of a healthy lifestyle! So, I encourage you to not only exercise to lose weight, but to keep off the weight and live a healthy life. Exercise also helps with

stress. Now...for those exercise tips that I promised! Tip number 1 - find an exercise buddy. Never take the power of accountability for granted. There is power in numbers. If you are serious about sticking to your exercise regimen, find someone who will encourage you to keep going on the days you just don't feel like exercising. Tip number 2- keep it simple.

You'd be surprised what 15-25 minutes of daily cardio can do. You don't have to overwhelm yourself with fancy or intense workouts. To start, you just have to get your body moving and get that heart rate up.

You don't have to overwhelm yourself with fancy workouts Tip number 3- if you can't afford a trainer, use YouTube. Yes, I said it! There is nothing wrong with having a personal trainer; however, if you simply cannot afford one why beat yourself up? YouTube has tons of free material from professionals that you can access in less than a minute. All you need is a stable WiFi access. You

don't even need a mat or equipment. You can simply search exercise regimens that do not require equipment. The beauty of YouTube is that you can find workouts that suit your mood. If you're feeling a hip-hop workout, there are many on YouTube. If you're looking for a Pilates workout, again, there are many on YouTube. The choices are all yours to make.

Tip number 4- Be consistent. I know that this is easier said than done, but consistency really is key. Try to be as consistent as possible. Doing 15-20 minute workouts daily trumps working out for an hour 1 day here and there. The little all add up. So, embrace consistency. Keep fighting for consistency. If you missed today, start fresh tomorrow. Don't ever stop working towards your goal.

Lastly, have fun. Love your body. This journey is not one of self-hate, but of self-love. Even though you desire to lose weight, don't hate the body that you currently have. It is yours for the keeping. So, embrace every curve, embrace every stretch mark, embrace every imperfection. No one can love your body like you would! And again, remember to have fun! You've got this!

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