

OUR CULTURE IS NOT SOLELY DEFINED BY OUR ETHNICITY. RATHER, IT IS ROOTED WITHIN A COMBINATION OF THE MANY FACETS OF OUR ASIAN / ASIAN AMERICAN IDENTITIES AND EXPERIENCES, WHICH STEM FROM OUR JOURNEY FROM BIRTH TO THE PRESENT DAY.
At the same time, we are not bound by these cultures. Often framed in the context of tradition, we all may feel differently about the strength of this cultural bond. By our own communities, we have been told we are not connected enough, and by our peers, we have been “othered” for being too connected. As Asian Americans, how have we historically — and how do we presently — build upon our dynamic, evolving culture?
WITHIN THIS MONTH’S PUBLICATION, YOU’LL FIND STORIES ABOUT OUR EXPERIENCES AND RELATIONSHIPS WITH ASIAN AND ASIAN AMERICAN CULTURE THROUGH SEVERAL DIFFERENT LENSES. WHILE WE WANTED TO FOCUS ON OUR OWN PERSONAL JOURNEYS WITH CULTURE, THE POSITIVE AND THE NEGATIVE, WE RECOGNIZE THERE ARE VASTLY DIVERSE EXPERIENCES THAT CANNOT BE CONTAINED IN A SINGLE MAGAZINE ISSUE. DESPITE THIS, WE WANT TO HIGHLIGHT THAT INDIVIDUALLY, WE ALL HAVE A PERSONAL CONNECTION TO OUR CULTURE - AND THAT COLLECTIVELY, WE CAN COME TOGETHER, SHARE, AND CELEBRATE OUR HERITAGE.
Once again, I’m grateful for everybody who made this magazine possible, including your support as a reader. We’ve put a lot of time and love into this publication, so we hope you enjoy it!
Sincerely,
Feel free to contact me at ouaasa gensec@gmail com with any comments, questions, or concerns.
Emma Nguyen
Syeda Sayera
Monday, October 3rd from 5pm 9pm at WingStop (1812 24th Ave NW, Norman)
alpha Kappa Delta Phi | BreastFest: WingStop Benefit Night
Support our philanthropy, Breast Cancer Awareness, and mention "aKDPhi" at checkout!
Monday, October 3rd from 10am 6pm in the AASA Office (Conoco Student Leadership Center) AASA x alpha Kappa Delta Phi | Homecoming: Banner Painting
Join and help us as we paint our banner for Homecoming! Check out our Instagram for more details!
Tuesday, October 4th from 10am 6pm in the AASA Office (Conoco Student Leadership Center) AASA x alpha Kappa Delta Phi | Homecoming: Banner Painting
Join and help us as we paint our banner for Homecoming! Check out our Instagram for more details!
Wednesday, October 5th from 11am 1pm on the South Oval Gamma Beta | Bake Sale
We will be selling Kimchi Fried Rice and Thai Tea for philanthropy to support the Asian Liver Center.
Wednesday, October 5th from 5pm 9pm at Pinkberry (323 W Boyd St, Norman) Vietnamese Student Association | Pinkberry Benefit Night
VSA is hosting our first benefit night this semester! Come out to Pinkberry and enjoy some delicious yogurt! All proceeds will go towards Mission of Hope Vietnam!
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Thursday, October 6th from 10am 2pm in Headington Hall's Bee Healthy Café
Lambda Delta Psi | Bee Healthy Café Benefit Night
Support the ladies of LDPsi and make sure to mention "Lambda Delta Psi" at the register!
Thursday, October 6th from 7pm 9pm in Jim Thorpe Multicultural Center Association of Southeast Asian Nations | Second General Body Meeting
We will be making kites out of paper to celebrate loy krathong & yi peng We will also have free food
Saturday, October 8th hosted Online (Tournament will be streamed via Twitch)
Vietnamese Student Association | TAMU E Lympics Tryouts for UVSA South OU VSA's Team
This tourney will have four games: Minecraft, Tetris, League of Legends, and Valorant
Sunday, October 9th hosted Online (Tournament will be streamed via Twitch)
Vietnamese Student Association | TAMU E Lympics Tryouts for UVSA South OU VSA's Team
This tourney will have four games: Minecraft, Tetris, League of Legends, and Valorant
Tuesday, October 11th from 1pm 3pm on the South Oval AASA x alpha Kappa Delta Phi | Homecoming: Chalk Contest
Join and help us as we participate in Homecoming's Chalk Contest! Check out our Instagram for more details!
Wednesday, October 12th from 7pm 8pm in Oklahoma Memorial Union's Regents Room
alpha Kappa Delta Phi | BreastFest: Educational Event Come learn information about breast cancer, such as causes, symptoms, treatments, and more!
Wednesday, October 12th from 8pm 10pm on the South Oval Pakistani Student Association | Bollywood Movie Night
Thursday, October 13th from 6pm 8pm in the Thurman J White Forum Building
AASA x alpha Kappa Delta Phi | Homecoming: Trivia Night
Join our teams as we participate in Trivia Night for Homecoming! Check out our Instagram for more info!
Friday, October 14th from 7pm 8:30pm in Lawrence G Rawl Engineering Practice Facility's Room 200 Society of Asian Scientists and Engineers | Second General Body Meeting
Join us for our second GBM and learn more about SASE with free food (for members)!
Wednesday, October 19th from 11am 2pm on the South Oval alpha Kappa Delta Phi | BreastFest: Bake Sale
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Thursday, October 20th from 7pm 9:30pm in Oklahoma Memorial Union's Meacham Auditorium alpha Kappa Delta Phi | BreastFest: Mr. Pink Pageant
Attend our annual male pageant to show awareness for men ' s breast cancer!
Come support aKDPhi as we sell spam musubi, kimbap, and a new surprise snack! 2 1
Friday, October 21st from 10am 1pm on the South Oval Tau Kappa Omega | Bake Sale
Come try our famous firecracker snacks, our new hit Mango Tea, or a smooth earl grey milk tea
Friday, October 21st from 6pm 9 pm at Haystack Coffee (1203 Elm Ave, Norman) Vietnamese Student Association | Lunar Moon Festival
This event is free entry and will include performances, boothing, food, Lion Dancing, an Ao Dai Runway, and more! The dress code is semi formal, but we want to encourage people to wear traditional attire if they so choose We are also looking for performers and people for the Ao Dai runway! The links to sign up can be found on our Instagram bio @ouvsa
Saturday, October 22nd from 9am 12pm
Little Event Volunteering with AASA
The Little Event is held each fall, with student groups invited to participate to serve and make an impact!
Saturday, October 22nd at 6pm in Oklahoma Memorial Union's Meacham Auditorium India Student Association | Dhamaka Diwali
This is the biggest event that The India Student Association hosts during the fall semester Diwali is known as the festival of lights and this event is to celebrate this festival by putting on a show with dancing and singing performances that portray the culture
Monday, October 24th from 5pm 9:30pm at Panda Express (3281 Classen Blvd, Norman) alpha Kappa Delta Phi | BreastFest: Panda Express Benefit Night Support our philanthropy, Breast Cancer Awareness., and mention "aKDPhi" at checkout!
Saturday, October 26th at 6pm in TBA South Asian Student Association | Second General Body Meeting Join us for our second GBM! For more information, keep an eye on our social media!
A A S A E V E N T S
Sunday, October 2nd at 11:59pm on Engage AASA's Philanthropy Committee Application Due
Monday, October 3rd at 11:59pm on Engage AASA's Director of Fundraising Application Due
Wednesday, October 5th from 6pm 7pm in Oklahoma Memorial Union OU Asian Royalty Contestant Interest Meeting
Wednesday, October 5th from 7pm 9pm in Jim Thorpe Multicultural Center
AASA's October GBM
Wednesday, October 12th at 11:59pm on Engage
OU Asian Royalty Committee and Contestant Applications Due
Friday, October 14th at 11:59pm on Engage
Little Event Registration
Sign up with AASA's Team under "GROUP NAME" and select "Asian American Student Association"!
Saturday, October 22nd from 9am 12pm
Little Event Volunteering with AASA
The Little Event is held each fall, with student groups invited to participate to serve and make an impact!
acculturation, mental illness, and its stigma within Asian American culture. (TW: mental illness, suicide)
my parents knew it was bad when i got in the closet.
like, literally when i turned off all the lights, hid in that tiny room, and pushed my dresser in front of the door to “lock it”, everyone in my family knew i was going through a bout of … something. we couldn’t call it anxiety or depression or ADHD or anything absolutely shameful like that but it was something worth noting. something that transcended the bounds of Vietnamese responsibility, allowing me to step away from my duties as a daughter to “deal with it” on my own.
i didn’t do much in the closet i would bring a pillow and a blanket and my stuffed animal of choice, i would lay on the floor in the darkness, and i would cry i would cry until i was on the verge of throwing up, and then i would force myself to stop (mostly because throwing up would require leaving the closet) sometimes i would think about everything, sometimes i would think about nothing. sometimes i would beg
whatever spirits were listening to let me stay in the closet forever. but even at twelve years old, i knew better than that there were dishes to clean and math problems to finish so when my parents looked straight through my bloodshot eyes to remind me of those tasks, i would get up, gather my things, and leave.
and nobody ever asked about the closet everybody could hear the screaming then sobbing then nothing at all, but they never mentioned that either. i liked to imagine that nobody heard me, but sometimes (all the time) i wished somebody would. even in adolescence, i wished i didn’t retreat to that closet and i wished it hadn’t become my only refuge of emotion.
because that closet became my dorm at boarding school, then my car, then my apartment bathtub where i begged a god i didn’t believe in to make everything stop.
if i were writing this five years ago, every sentence would have been laden with resentment g
"In the United States, suicide is the leading cause of death for Asians aged 15 to 24. " Center for Disease Control and Prevention
with resentment for the people in my life i could’ve filled every page of this piece with pure hatred.
five years ago, i didn’t remember the therapy sessions or the clinic visits. all i remembered was the pure, unbridled shame i felt on the drives home
“everybody feels this way, bé. i don’t know why you make us pay for this.”
“con, you don’t know what it means to be sad. ba and i have done everything for you.”
“what will you do in the real world, gái? you can’t be like this forever. what will people think of me?”
in most Asian collectivist cultures, mental illness of any kind is regarded this way disability is nothing more than weaponized weakness a child’s troubled mind serves only as a reflection of their parent’s failure. and in a culture so heavily rooted in shame, there’s simply no room to lose face in this way.
and five years ago, i could have wasted away discussing what that did to me. what my parents’ stigma and ridicule did for my adolescent self esteem but how can we ignore what stigma and ridicule did to them first?
to most Asian families, trauma is tradition an entity passed on between parents and children, never addressed because it’s “just a part of life” the pains of poverty and famine and war our ancestors endured never truly left, but remain innate within each new generation today, these wounds show themselves in an (admittedly) more trivial light: in ideals of familial obligation, academic success, & honor. and
"I threatened [my daughter] with no lunch, no dinner … I told her to stop being lazy, cowardly, self-indulgent, & pathetic. "
Amy Chua, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Motherdrawn by Barry Blitt, The New Yorker
and to admit one’s own fragility is to defy all three it becomes more than a failed exam or a missed practice for our parnets g
our parents (and for many of us), to struggle is to deny one’s own culture. and for those who lost everything to survive in this country, culture is all we have left.
to them, every tear that fell from my face reminded them that they were failing. they sacrificed everything for me to succeed they moved 9,000 miles away from home, learned a language they despised, and assimilated to a culture they didn’t understand just for me to have the chance they didn’t.
at fourteen, i didn’t understand the complexity of my parents’ convictions. “if you can’t even get through high school,” they would ask, “how will you provide for your family? for your children? how will you honor those who sacrificed everything for you?”
we often forget that these questions weren’t asked only of us, but of them, too.
my mother, a refugee before age ten and a caregiver to her entire family, didn’t exactly mean to hide behind the motherly perfectionism and ambition that was truly all she knew to live was to endure, and she would be damned if her daughter didn’t think the same.
my father, who left every semblance of his Vietnamese culture so that his family might make a life here, never meant to take out our ancestors’ beliefs on me. to them, the self harm and suicidal ideation wouldn’t have been worth any more than a demerit on a transcript
but i still remember my father’s calls to the boarding school hall phone, raising his voice in concern when i wouldn’t explain what was wrong. i remember my mother’s hesitant suggestion of therapy, however much she dreaded that i might actually say yes. i remember how they g
remember how they looked at me eyes filled with something between disappointment and absolute dread when i threatened suicide to their faces. it wasn’t perfect, but they were trying.
our parents’ ignorance is the result of forced immigration, conflicting cultural traditions, and a sort of assimilation we’ll never have to experience and sometimes that makes it easier to forgive them for the perceptions of mental illness they instilled in us.
at the same time, though, we must remember that recovery is a never ending road hell, i can’t even find it in me to write my own name here despite countless tears shed and conversations shared with my parents, it often feels sinful to speak so freely about my struggles.
and i suppose that’s the whole point of growing up to share in your parents’ experiences and realize that it’s their first time living, too.
"Southeast Asian (SEA) refugees are at an increased risk for PTSD 70% of SEA refugees receiving mental health care were diagnosed with PTSD. " – Health & Human Services
Because of the Vietnam War, America saw a massive influx of Vietnamese immigrants to several prominent cities, creating centralized hubs of Vietnamese culture. These “Little Saigons” served as a home away from home for the local Vietnamese and Vietnamese American communities, especially after their old homes were left war-torn and devastated. Although most would associate them with states like
California and Texas, people often forget that we have a Little Saigon right next-door within Oklahoma City's very own Asian District.
Even though I was born and raised over 100 miles from Oklahoma City, I know the Asian District like the back of my hand.
Once a month, my parents would use the excuse of “visiting our relatives” to take my family up to Oklahoma City to visit the Asian District. For them as immigrants from a ravaged Vietnam, it was a way for them to reconnect with “home.” Although we had stacks of Paris by Night VHS tapes and worn-down Vietnamese magazines scattered around the house, nothing in our hometown could solve how isolated and distant my parents felt from their past. At least, that’s what they tell me.
In my eyes, it felt like another fun road trip. After all, I was in elementary school, and I didn’t know any better. That doesn’t
change the fact that my most prominent childhood memories with my Vietnamese heritage still took place there. It’s the roar of the tanggu drums and the firecrackers of the Lion Dances in front of Cao Nguyen. It’s the visible distaste when my parents tried to sneak vegetables into my phở in various restaurants. It’s the struggle to fit all of the plastic bags of meat, fish, spices, and snacks into the trunk of my mom’s minivan, before munching down on a bánh bao on the drive back.
It's the feeling of pride in my culture, despite trying to bury it to “fit in.”
Now that I’ve grown up a bit, I feel a weird type of poignant nostalgia when I drive through the Asian District. Maybe, when I have my own children, I’ll take them here to visit. After all, there’s no place like this. I hope you never change, Little Saigon. I love you.
at the risk of invoking everyone’s “jump to recipe” urge, i must say food really does speak volumes. the hours spent simmering soup stock, the extra kimchi fridge in the garage, and the trips to Dallas for Asian grocery stock ups all remind us of our cultural roots and the new branches we create together.
but let’s face it: sometimes illegal dorm rice cookers and instant ramen just won’t cut it. we all miss our parents’ pantries, but not every college student can afford the time or cost of a homemade asian meal. that’s where we come in!
this month, we’re featuring our favorite Asian recipes and restaurants - for college students by college students. with simplicity, affordability, and amazing cuisine in mind, we want to bring home back to you. enjoy!
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revisit a bakery staple with this authentic homemade dessert! created by The Woks of Life, these cocktail buns are worth every second the milk bread base, sweetened coconut filling, and beautiful golden color are equal parts nostalgic and delicious.
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prepared by Hebbars Kitchen, this vegetarian street food can be found in every Indian market! from Mumbai to Maharashtra to your own college kitchen, the buttery bread (pav) and sour spicy vegetable mix (bhaji) make for the perfect bite
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just steps away from OKC's
who else can say they brought Mo BBQ to Oklahoma? this historic OKC restaurant carries East Southeast Asian cuisine of all kinds (& an award winning weekend buffet)! we recommend: the whole Vietnamese soup station + the made to order banh xeo!
stationed in OKC's Asian District, this local Vietnamese diner boasts flavor beyond belief its teal blue exterior is even harder to miss than its dishes go give it a try! we recommend: bun bo hue with all the fixings!
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If you are part of the South Asian community, you may have experienced not being considered as Asian. I remember when I had to go to the doctor’s office and on the paperwork filled out, I put Asian as my race. I kid not, the front lady said, “You’re Asian?” a disbelieving and almost mocking
While I do think that the term American” has become more inclusive different Asian regions, we South may not feel that way. South Asians lived and created a rich history here the 1800s, but we're still not considered Asian or American, let alone American, in the eyes of others.
For example, the #StopAsianHate movement started due to an increase violence towards mainly East Southeast Asians. While it's extremely important
important to honor those victims, many forget that South Asians (and also Western Asians) received an increase in violence after the 9/11 attacks, and they’re usually left out of the #StopAsianHate discussion. As a result of 9/11, hate crimes have caused South Asians to be misconstrued as terrorists, and it’s typical for us to go through unnecessary security checks when we’re at the airport. Not only that, a month after the 2021 Atlanta shooting, four Sikhs were murdered at a FedEx center in Indianapolis, but this quickly cycled out of the news.
The fact that these issues are underreported in these movements makes it difficult for hate crimes against South Asians to be brought to light.
South Asians are under represented in the Asian American community, and that’s not necessarily the community’s fault at all.
Many of my South Asian peers may feel unwelcome in the Asian community at OU and may even avoid joining AASA and similar organizations, because they’re worried that they’d be excluded. AASA's welcoming environment may be distorted into a more isolating environment for South Asians due to feeling marginalized.
However, I want my South Asian peers to know that AASA has people who are just like you with similar experiences. As a South Asian myself, I understand the struggle of feeling silenced and underrepresented, particularly within the Asian American community As a result, I hope
hope to help other South Asians feel empowered and proud of our ethnicity and heritage, instead of viewing ourselves as another footnote in Asian American history.
Many forget that foods like falafel, fuchka, paratha, larb, biryani, nasi goreng, etc. all come from Asian countries. As the Asian Food Fair Chair, I want to spread awareness that these foods are also a part of Asian cuisine, and in result, showcase the diversity and beauty of Asia. Ultimately, AASA hopes to represent and raise awareness of the rich culture, history, and traditions that each region of Asia has to offer, and that can’t be done without the help from you all.
The OU Asian Royalty Pageant, formerly known as Mr. & Miss Asian OU, is an annual scholarship pageant organized and sponsored by the Asian American Student Association and Asian American Programs & Services. The pageant takes place annually during the spring semester and contestants compete in several on stage categories and an interview with judges prior to the event. Crowned royalty serve the community for a full academic year. The pageant showcases contestants' passions for scholarship, service, and cultural awareness.
It is a pageant that represents AASA and the Asian American community and showcases our most prominent Asian American Leaders and role models across campus. Contestants are judged based on interview, impromptu question, formal and traditional wear, talent, sponsorship, and professionalism.
Students who still have two or more consecutive semesters left 2.5 or higher overall GPA Be in good standing with your college at the University Saturday, April 2nd at 5pm Contestant will prepare for the Pageant from September to April
The pageant is very important because the contestants are not just running for a crown and a sash, they are running to be leaders that represent AASA and the Asian community across campus. Regardless of whether they are royalty or running contestants, the faces that you see at the pageant are some of the most talented leaders of the Asian community and help to highlight diversity within AASA itself and across other organizations and communities as well. The royalties help organize and aid AASA with many of their events and responsibilities as the umbrella organization for Asian programs and services This is why it’s so important that they are selected on competitive standards and scoring. They bring the talents and charisma they were selected for to AASA and contribute to its standing and mission. They participate in various, important multicultural and campus functions to be a voice not only for AASA but the Asian community as a whole at OU
Complete one community service project
Attend all large scale AASA events
Represent as OU Asian Royalty during OU's Homecoming Week
Return to attend the 2024 OU Asian Royalty's Pageant Serve as an AASA Executive Board Member for the 2023 2024 term
They are able to bring their perspective to AASA as leaders and be one of the most prominent faces of AASA. They will be able to work with various leaders and faculty across OU to implement this perspective not only within AASA but across the community and campus by working with the non profit and implementing their platform into practice. Whether it be representing diversity, identifying problems, or creating solutions, contestants will be able to bring a new voice to the stage.
One of the main reasons I joined AASA as a freshman representative was because I wanted to find a community where I felt truly seen. Due to previously attending a PWI, I was excited for the chance to find others that had the similar experiences and perspectives as me. While I had found the community I wanted, I still wanted to make sure that there was more diversity in AASA. I wanted to make sure that people, both externally and internally, realized that all Asians did not fit into a homogenous category of culture and characteristics Being South Asian, I had grown up being told that I was not Asian because I did not fit into the stereotype of what an Asian looks like. I wanted to break beyond that barrier and showcase that Asia as a whole has a plethora of different cultures and histories. I wanted to integrate my experiences of representing diversity and create more inclusivity within AASA. This year, I’m really looking forward to doing that within the representation and talent that our contestants bring!
alpha Kappa Delta Phi's national philanthropy is Breast Cancer Awareness (BCA) While we spend the entire year working to server our campus and community, our sisters across the nation dedicate the month of October to BCA
Each year, aKDPhi at the University of Oklahoma hosts BreastFest, a month long event dedicated to raising money and awareness for BCA Throughout October, our Chapter hosts educational events, fundraisers (bake sales and benefit nights), and the Mr Pink Pageant (our male pageant)
The Southwest Region of aKDPhi has consistently raised the most amount of money each year, and in 2021, our Chapter alone raised over $12,000 for BCA We look forward to another successful BreastFest for this upcoming Fall and can't wait to share our love and dedication for service with the community!
The Mr Pink Pageant was first introduced here at the University of Oklahoma in our Chapter's efforts to raise awareness for BCA specifically in men The pageant consists of performances by our talented contestants who are students here on campus! You can support them and our philanthropy buy purchasing t-shirts and raffles!
"I ran for Mr Pink, because I wanted to help the sisters of aKDPhi raise awareness for breast cancer awareness My experience in Mr Pink was great, the ladies were very coordinated and communicated well with the contestants The pageant was also great and allowed me, and others, to showcase our talents while helping an amazing cause 10/10 would run again "
Jon Jin, Mr Pink 2021
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BRIAN IS REPRESENTING LAMBDA PHI EPSILON AND IS A SENIOR MAJORING IN MARKETING
Lambda Phi Epsilon works with the Be the Match Foundation, a nonprofit organization, to help save the lives of patients requiring bone marrow transplants. Additionally, the organization promotes awareness for leukemia and other blood disorders Thus, the fraternity aims to register as many committed donors to the cause through local campaigns to increase the chances for patients to find a life saving donor.
In honor of our fallen brother Evan Chen (Stanford University), each Lambda Phi Epsilon chapter works tirelessly to hold marrow typing drives on their campuses and encourages Asians and other racial minorities to register as committed transplant donors. Since the fraternity’s inception, Lambda Phi Epsilon has educated thousands of donors to commit to saving the life of a patient in need. Last fall, the Alpha Phi Chapter of Lambda Phi Epsilon at the University of Oklahoma had raised over $4000 dedicated to leukemia research.
Be the Match is the world’s leading nonprofit organization focused on saving lives through marrow and umbilical cord blood transplantation. Be The Match is committed to improving the outcomes for current and future patients by advancing their mission to provide more cures to more patients when they need them and provide hope to their families and friends. To learn more, visit https://join.bethematch.org/LFE.
Every fall, Lambda Phi Epsilon hosts Shave a Lambda, where you can donate money to watch your favorite Lambdas get their heads shaved! All proceeds go to supporting Be The Match!
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