We human beings easily blame others for our mistakes. We do not want to look bad because of our mistakes, and we would rather flee from them. We dump the blame on someone else to avoid that we have to take responsibility for our own faults. Are there any benefit that we may gain from the blame-shifting behaviour? No way. We may escape this time, but we will make other mistakes in the future. So how would we like to solve that? Blame-shifting again? How long? How often? There is a saying “No matter how good a squirrel can jump, it will fall eventually.” In plain language: no matter how good you are at blame-shifting, eventually you will suffer from the consequences of your actions. Instead, we may apply those famous football or basketball players’ attitude, if they are interviewed after they lost in a game. They often say words like: “Yeah, I am sorry, I played badly today, or maybe this is a bad day for us.” “This is a learning experience for us, we need to come together again and practice harder. Hopefully we win in the next season”. They never seem to blame their team members. They admit that they made mistakes, and own the responsibility for their own behaviours or actions. Further, they also evaluate on how to correct the mistakes that they’ve made. If we never own the responsibility for the mistakes that we made, then we may not feel the need to correct it. Ultimately, we will live in this devilish circle forever. Is that what we want? It is a matter of choices. I would like to open those options for you to choose. Choose wisely. (^_^) •
Tribute to Rev. Bill Crowder (Bible Teacher at Our Daily Bread Ministry) for his sermon on King Saul, which has given me inspiration to write this short article. *) Blame Shifting - Definition: • Blame-shifting is an emotionally abusive behaviour or tactic (https://distantspark.wordpress. com/what-is-blame-shifting/) • Blame-shifting is when a person does something wrong or inappropriate, and then dumps the blame on someone else to avoid taking responsibility for their own behavior. (https://www. psychopathfree.com/articles/5-types-of-narcissistic-blame-shifting.388/)
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