We Are One Part 4 - Relaxed Woman Revolution

issue 8 - We are One / Part 4 Relaxed Woman Revolution

Back From The Brink

5 Steps To A Full Recovery Kylie Mort

THE ROLE OF

BEING A WOMAN Dr Lisa Hartwell

From Social Worker to World Class Retreat Specialist Liesel Albrecht

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Letter from the Editor

Hello beauties, How has your month been?

This last month I have been hitting my glass ceiling hard! In fact, I have been struggling my way through what feels like one after the other, and it is freaking uncomfortable.

Yet, like always it is so worth doing the inner work and sitting with the awareness of what is limiting me and what is scaring me with moving forward and growing within me and my businesses.

the status quo! Women, for too long have been bound by chains of societal expectations, conditioned to be the good girl, the good wife, the good mother. We have limited ourselves to these limiting rules of what it means to be a woman and what we are allowed to do before we go ‘too’ far and become judged for not being normal or doing things the right way.

stick the middle finger to society and consumerism by loving your body, relishing in all of your strengths and weakness. Be the woman who turns her back on the system that tells you; you have to get lots of pieces of paper to say you are now good enough to get x job or start your own business whilst racking up a huge amount of debt, instead follow your heart and design a life you love.

The right way is your way. Be a woman in a way that feels good,

I had a session with an incredible businesswoman Sian Yewdall. I came across her in my inbox. I got an email she sent to me asking about being a contributor, yet I felt there would be more. Within our conversation it hit me and all the hardness I have been feeling lately melted away (because not allowing yourself to grow is more challenging than the actual growth!

Who knows what I am talking about?)

I knew that I had been playing small... Again!

I had yet again stayed in the good girl box, and I was frustrated as f&%k as I couldn’t understand why what I was creating wasn’t reflecting what I truly wanted to share. I didn’t want to ruffle feathers, yes, but more so it would mean sharing more of who I am and the core belief I was too much for people, so I toned it down.

Don’t get me wrong I am proud of what I created, and the space I have been growing with other amazing women. But the truth is, I am a disrupter. I don’t follow the rules; I find my own way, and I vision big this does not equal a ‘good’ woman it’s actually the opposite of what we are taught.

The Mumpreneur Movement Magazine isn’t just a space to empower women to do life, motherhood and business differently... Its to wreak havoc on

Be the feminine, sensual goddess you were born to be! Stop playing small, stop living your life for others and for the love of God stop being the good girl and following the rules!

Much love, Tam x

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contents

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THE ROLE OF BEING A WOMAN Dr. Lisa Hartwell

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SPARK JOY THROUGH SELF-LOVE

WHAT DOES RELAX MEAN TO YOU?

Liesel Albrecht

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ANXIETY AND COVID-19: MISGUIDED FEAR, LOVE AND CONNECTION

PATH TO PEACE

THE HIDDEN CAUSES OF STRESS – COULD YOUR STRESS BE THE RESULT OF HEARING LOSS?

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Melissa McLeod

Sandra Stepan

November 2020, Issue 8 – We are One / Part 4 - Relaxed Woman Revolution Publisher Empowered Publishing Chief Editor & CEO Tammie Pike Creative Director Naida Nunez Advertising 0409 897 133

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BURNOUT: BACK FROM THE BRINK - 5 STEPS TO A FULL RECOVERY Kylie Mort

20 WHY RELAXING WILL NOT HAPPEN WITHOUT SELF-ESTEEM Caroline Bellenger

22 EMBODYING YOUR FEMININE ESSENCE Krystal Alexander-Hille

24 ADDICTION IS NOT A DIRTY WORD Tamala Ridge

26 PRACTICES TO HELP YOU TO OVERCOME ANXIETY 28 BRINGING AMAZING “PERMISSIONS” TO LIFE Bron Roberts

32 RELAXED WOMAN REVOLUTION Tammie Pike

35 WHAT TOOLS/ PRACTICES HELP YOU TO RELAX?

37 PRIORITISING SELF AS AN ACT OF LOVE Radzy Chugh

39 ENERGY AND MOOD BOOSTER: BEET, BLACKBERRY AND CACAO SMOOTHIE Aarika Chilson

41 WHAT I DON’T KNOW ABOUT THE BEAUTY MYTH Danielle Colley

43 BREAKING THE RULES Tammie Pike

45 HOW WRITING MY STORY LED TO MY HEALING Karen Mc Dermott

47 RECOGNISING EMOTIONAL HEALING IN CONVENTIONAL THERAPY Emma Turton

Contributors Dr. Lisa Hartwell Renee McDonald Melissa McLeod Sandra Stepan Kylie Mort Caroline Bellenger Krystal Alexander-Hille Tamala Ridge Bron Roberts Liesel Albrecht Radzy Chugh Aarika Chilson Danielle Colley Karen Mc Dermott Emma Turton

Design Nebojsa Dolovacki

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Woman

The Role of being a

Dr. LISA HARTWELL, PsyD, RN

IF YOU WERE TO ALLOCATE PERCENTAGES TO THE ROLES IN YOUR LIFE, WHAT WOULD YOUR PIE CHART LOOK LIKE? PARTNER? MUM? BUSINESS OWNER? COLLEAGUE? FRIEND? SIBLING? WOMAN? YES. WOMAN.

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oes she deserve a percentage of your life’s pie chart? I like to think of the Woman in me as being the circle encompassing all my roles. Who I am as a human; How we spend our time on earth are the roles we choose. Those

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roles are best served if they are all embraced by this encompassing Woman as a relaxed woman.

Having a base functioning of a relaxed state allows you to think with focused intent, flexible thinking and

Having a base functioning of a relaxed state allows you to think with focused intent, flexible thinking and problem solving with feeling more connection with others.

problem solving with feeling more connection with others. Within the context of being a soulful, relaxed Woman, however, is being human, right?

And humans get anxious. We’re supposed to! Our anxiety is meant to protect us. In our caretaker roles, it serves to protect others also.

How often have you thought about someone constantly when they were sick? My mother recently passed earlier this year, and it wasn’t until after a couple of months, I realized just how anxious I was until I felt relaxed one day. Deep sadness was accepted as I finally fully relaxed.

We were never meant to be in a constant state of anxiety. And yet.

Well, life. Roles. Right? The amazing thing happens when we adopt the viewpoint of having an overarching, encompassing commitment to accepting, acknowledging, and allowing our anxiety to be seen as a

messenger in which to carry out our roles.

I remember when our son was around five years old, and we were at a church holiday party. I must have sounded anxious as I was explaining something about our son’s behaviour to the pastor. She said, “You know it’s all going to be fine, right?” She went on to explain that there are so many behavioural and parenting choices, but the most important role and guidepost was for me to carry the torch as a relaxed parent role.

All tied up in a nice word-gift as “it’s going to be fine”. I actually have this trait deep within my core and yet, as a human, and my many roles, I do have to recalibrate and be intentional about being a relaxed woman, allowing her to encompass and guide the various roles in my life. Being held by Her in this relaxed state is the guidepost for a relaxed life.

Dr Lisa Hartwell Dr. Lisa Hartwell, Anxiety Specialist and author of Bad Apples: How to Feel Good Even When Rotten Things Happen, leads an online course and resilience retreats in Hawaii. She empowers professionals to use brain science & soul essence to finally transform their life & relationships.

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Relax

What does

mean to you?

ROBYN ELLERBOCK

RELAXED IS A BEAUTIFUL STATE OF BEING, WHERE WORRY AND FEAR HAS BEEN REPLACED WITH FAITH AND COMPASSION AND MY WHOLE BODY FEELS SAFE AND REFRESHED.

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assage, touch and hugs quickly sets this state in motion. As this has been proven to lower stress in a woman’s physiology.

Sherrie Erdmann To me relax is a way of being by connecting with myself and asking myself what do I need today to help support me in being relaxed and then go ahead and do that

Sheryl Vickers For me it’s spending the night out bush reading a book with no interruptions.

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Lisa Entwisle - Wellthy Living To me RELAXED means being connected to my internal power source, making choices that are internally referenced and leave me to feel a sense of ease and satisfaction physically, emotionally and mentally.

It’s a state where I accept and respect myself wholeheartedly, in both my brilliance and my mess.

It a place where I appreciate my qualities, align with my values and express myself with clarity and confidence... I am in tune with my own truth and I know and am able to express my limits without fear and needing to manage someone else emotions. When I am relaxed I also laugh more easily.

Shannon Dunn Thrive Factor To relax means to choose to spend my time doing things that nourish all parts of me - my mind so I can choose helpful thoughts and can easily access my wisdom, my spirit so I have energy, my body so I can do what I choose to do, my soul so I can be tuned into my creativity and intuition. When this happens consciously I know I have relaxed

Amanda Stoneham of Amanda Meryle Photography Relaxing to me is the ability to get out of my head and lose myself in the current moment; whether that be watching a movie, reading a book, playing with my daughter or some other activity that stops me thinking of anything else. I tend to be a bit of a control freak and plan everything in advance so relaxing doesn’t come naturally. I find guided meditations or breathing techniques work best as well as reading or writing. My work is also my passion and taking photographs for pleasure is another go to method when it comes to calming my mind.

Georgia Hansen Relaxing to me is a state of being. It is possible to hold a high vibrational feeling state, regardless of external circumstances.

Monique MacKenzie

Daily devotion for me is key to raising and holding a high vibration. Whether it’s meditation, heart congruence, connecting with archetypal guides, intuitive tapping practices, journalling, grounding outside. I use my intuition to guide me as to what I need.

Regardless of whether it’s just 5 minutes or an hour, I am nonnegotiable with spending time daily with the highest version of myself.

Briana Seaton of Briana Seaton Coaching Relax means to me anything that brings me joy, peace, lowers my heart rate and stress levels and grounds me back to my true centre.

I love anything that helps bring me in to a meditative state. This includes power of the breath, journaling, guided meditations, barefoot walking on the earth to ground myself, walking, being around my horses and dogs, cooking, reading, being anywhere warm and cosy, snuggling on the couch with my beautiful family and so much more!

Relax means to honour my soul from a place of love at a level where my nervous system is running from a place of calm grace.

Marilou Coombe of

Orchestrate Coaching with Marilou - Helping families thrive

Being relaxed to me means being present and in the moment.

Coming back into my true essence. Not worrying about the past or future, only this given moment.

Linda Willow Roberts Bringing the energy back to me and grounding myself. Always helps my monkey mind from being scattered.

Our mind has 3 different places it can go.

The past, the future or now in the present moment.

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Anxiety and

COVID-19 Misguided fear, love and connection

by RENÉE McDONALD FEAR. WHAT DOES FEAR HAVE TO DO WITH ANXIETY?

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hen I work with clients with anxiety, concerns and worry, often many people are not aware of what’s underlying anxiety.

Underneath anxiety is often fear and the fight or flight response[1] .

These triggers of anxiety and fear can be so overwhelming that it can create a schism in our minds and get in the way of our ability to connect with others[2]. Yet, it is in these very moments that it is best for us to connect. Oxytocin has significance in these moments, as it is not generally released without connections[3]. In other words, when we’ve been asked to disconnect, by our governments, courtesy of COVID-19, it drives up anxiety responses and limits our ability to connect with others. It essentially becomes a vicious cycle!

As women, we are innately aware about how fear and anxiety has been heightened through our inner compass, where we gain intuitive hits as women – in the sacral areas. We feel fear in our most precious areas in our body and I know, for one, I’ve felt 12

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the fear and anxiety personally in the most obvious ways by way of what I’ve been shown in my body in my menstrual cycle.

So… what’s on the other side of fear?

For starters, the opposite of fear is love. This has been discussed by a number of spiritual writers, with these just being a few examples; Lichtenauer, 2017; Mouzina, 2020 and Perry, n.d..

Where is the love? I’ve looked around the world and there are huge pockets of care, though there is a great deal of loss, anxiety and lack of care and connection. ‘Not being allowed’ to hug, kiss and caress our friends or family members can bring up anxiety within us all – especially as we are sentient beings who are hot-wired for connection[4].

Why is a discussion of fear important – in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic?

COVID-19 has raised up fear inside us and has really honed in, and taken hold as anxiety. Anxiety is what

masks our fear[5]. In addition, we are in the throes of a kind of collective trauma, collective grief and collective anxiety has gripped us all[6]. With so much focus throughout the COVID-19 pandemic being about ‘safety’, it heightens our fear, produces anxiety and takes hold of our unconscious minds.

So, what has COVID-19 left us with?

Overwhelming, what we’re left with, when we discuss ‘safety’ and health, we’re at the mercy of others, we’re stuck with a collective anxiety and limited connecting.

What’s the antidote?

The antidote really is to connect to others, though if we’re unable to

virtually connect, or perhaps seek out support.

What has helped me through this time?

As a therapist, I’ve found support through participating in my own therapy and reaching out to loved ones. In addition, I’m loving meditation and deep breathing techniques.

I’d strongly encourage seeing a therapist, or working out a way forward through some selfdevelopment through this time, as prevention can often be better than cure. socially – depending upon where we live – then it will be important in the coming months and years, that we work hard on connecting to our inner self first. Beyond connecting to ourselves, it will be important to

It’s important that you know that you’re not alone. Reach out if you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or in a low mood.

2020 has been an anxiety-provoking year, so please take care of yourself.

REFERENCES [1], [2], [3], [4], [5] - Porges, S.W. (2011). The polyvagal theory. Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, self-regulation. New York, NY: WW. Norton & Company.

[6] Cherry, K. (2020). Collective trauma from COVID-19. Very Well Mind. Retrieved from https://www. verywellmind.com/collective-trauma-from-covid-19-4844357 Kola, A. (2020). How collective is the trauma of COVID-19?: The pandemic is traumatic for all, but the burden of suffering may be unequal. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www. psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hyphenated/202004/how-collective-is-the-trauma-covid-19 Lichtenauer, J. (2017). Fear as the opposite of love: Time for a reality check. One Esteem. Retrieved from https://oneesteem.com/fear-opposite-love/ Mouzina, A. (2020). Perfect love drives out all fear: Opposite of fear is love! Anastasia Mouzina Coaching Services. Retrieved from https://anastasiamouzina.com/opposite-of-fear-is-love/

Renee McDonald Renée McDonald has been a counsellor and psychotherapist in the field for over 18 years.

She has worked in a variety of roles in the community, along with teaching and training future community workers, counsellors and psychotherapists for over 14 years in a variety of large educational institutions.

For over 10 years, she has practised online. For the last four years, she has trained professionals to transition their practice to the online environment. She is an experienced academic educator, trainer and assessor and runs her own training company, Australian Online Therapy Training (AOTT). Last year, she launched her textbook; Online Therapy: Processes, Tasks, Integration and Energetic Holding, based on her research, practice experience and training in the Online Therapy and Telehealth space.

Perry, R. (n.d.). Why is fear the opposite of love? Circle of Atonement. Retrieved from https:// circleofa.org/library/why-is-fear-the-opposite-of-love/ MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |

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Path to

Peace SO OFTEN WE ARE BUSY ORGANISING PLANNING AND DOING. ATTENDING TO THE NEEDS OF OUR PARTNER, CHILDREN, FAMILIES, FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES.

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erhaps you’ve noticed some tension building up, running around and doing too much.

Maybe you’ve been giving out more of your time or energy to others and forgetting to take care of yourself. This can result in feeling overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, frustrated.

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areas of your life that you need to give attention to, you must first pay attention to your own needs.

Here are some ways that can help you to relax.

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Giving yourself permission to take the time to replenish your mind, body and spirit. So that you are able to experience your life more deeply, from a place of peace and tranquillity.

In order to be able to give to those you love or to the projects and the areas of your life that you need to give attention to, you must first pay attention to your own needs.

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Switch off or silence your phone. Get off of the grid and to go within.

Begin with the breath. Even taking as little as three relaxing breaths can help, but if possible create some time to simply breathe deeply. Placing your hands gently on your lap or one hand placed on your abdomen that rises as you breathe in and one hand on you heart. Practice the art of mindfulness.

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Nurture yourself. Here are some suggestions. Go for a walk-in nature, reading a book, booking a massage or wellbeing treatment, having a bath with candles and a few drops of essential oils. Deep hair conditioning or natural face mask treatment. Or you could self-massage your head, face, hands and feet.

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Self-relaxation or self-hypnosis.

Gently focus on saying calm words to yourself. Such as “I

give myself permission to take the time to deeply relax. As I breathe in and out, I allow my muscles to relax and soften. I choose to let go of any

tension or things that no longer serve me.”

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Gratitude. Time to be grateful for the smallest of things to the larger gifts. If you have been for a walk, perhaps bringing home a leaf, flower, shell or rock as a reminder of slowing down and in gratitude to yourself for all that you do and the beauty of who you are.

Melissa McLeod Melissa McLeod is a Psychotherapist, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Coach, Art Therapist and Artist with over twenty years experience. She is passionate about supporting women to transform anxiety or limiting thinking so that they can live their life in full bloom!

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stress

The hidden causes of

could your stress be the result of hearing loss?

WOMEN AND STRESS – UNFORTUNATELY TOO OFTEN THESE TWO WORDS GO HAND IN HAND. GROWING UP WE’VE FELT THE PRESSURE SOCIETY HAS PUT ON US TO MEET EXPECTATIONS, FULFILL MULTIPLE ROLES, NURTURE THE NEEDS OF OTHERS INSTEAD OF OUR OWN WHILE BEING TOLD TO JUST “DEAL WITH IT”. DEALING WITH IT HOWEVER, OFTEN MEANS OPERATING UNDER HIGH STRESS.

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t’s no secret: women generally tend to suffer higher levels of stress than men. Part of it is our completely different hormonal system that can cause stress to be more intense and emotional.

And part of it is the nature of the roles we tend to take on, like family obligations and caregiving.

Regardless, one thing is for sure - it’s affecting our lives more than we want to admit. Depression, anxiety, heart problems, pregnancy issues and obesity are just a few scenarios women are exposed to due to operating under high levels of stress on a daily basis.

We learn to manage it as best as we can. Between exercising, meditation, hobbies and bubble baths we try it all in an attempt to keep a balanced state of mind and healthy body.

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But sometimes that’s not enough and there might be a hidden reason behind it: undetected hearing loss.

One in eight people in the USA (13 percent or 30 million) have a hearing loss according to the National Institute of Deafness and Other Communication Disorders (NIDCD) and many of them don’t know it. Due to the misconception that hearing loss is synonymous with deafness, adults experiencing a hearing loss pass the symptoms off as regular stress or anxiety.

Something that many don’t realize is that a common sign of hearing loss is in fact, stress. Feeling fatigued, irritable and anxious are all common signs of stress but they can also be an indication that you may have an untreated hearing loss.

Common symptoms of hearing loss: • Difficulty hearing in noisy situations • People’s speech sounds muffled or slurred • Finding men’s voices easier to hear than women’s • Ringing in the ear (tinnitus) that can get worse as hearing deteriorates Hidden/lesser known signs of that look like stress but that could be an indication that you may have hearing loss: • You get fatigued, tired and irritable at the end of the day • Ringing in the year (which can worsen with stress) • Desire to isolate yourself socially • Having feelings of depression and low self esteem For a more comprehensive list of symptoms you can take this online

In a partnership with quiz test on hearinglossblog.com: and speak with an audiologist for a formal diagnosis.

Dealing with hearing loss Untreated hearing loss can link to more stress, anxiety, depression, emotional insecurity and social inactivity that’s why it’s important to catch it and treat it early.

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There is no known cure for hearing loss, however there are many ways to manage it. Hearing aids are the most common devices to manage hearing loss, making sounds clearer and louder while helping diminish the ringing in the ear often accompanying hearing loss.

Hearing aids are available through various mediums, either through your audiologist or hearing centre.

More recently, over the counter hearing devices are becoming a popular choice due to their no frills and low maintenance properties that make them more affordable than traditionally purchased hearing aids.

HearGift is one the largest hearing device suppliers in North America, making it easy to shop for hearing aids online at a fraction of the usual cost.

Untreated hearing loss can link to more stress, anxiety, depression, emotional insecurity and social inactivity...

Sandra Stepan Sandra is a Canadian entrepreneur with a passion for helping people and businesses operate at their fullest potential. She loves dancing, playing with her cat, and travelling to keep her inspired and relaxed. Right now, her main focus is co-owning two ventures: SnapAdvantage, a boutique marketing agency that helps businesses sell more by leveraging the power of digital marketing, and HearGift, a leading hearing device brand that offers the gift of hearing for a tenth of the cost.

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BURNOUT: Back From The Brink

5 Steps To A Full Recovery HE’S GONE. AFTER THE TURMOIL OF THE PRECEDING RUSH, THE SILENCE AND STILLNESS ENVELOPE YOU AND YOU CAN BREATHE. YET, A TROUBLING IMAGE APPEARS, THE BEAUTIFUL BLONDEHAIRED BOY WITH THE INNOCENT EYES DARKENING PAINFULLY AS YOU SNAP.

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ot now! Can’t you see I am busy? That heartbroken face that just needed one moment of your precious time in his own morning hurry. Now, within the tranquillity, you cannot fathom what was so important.

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Your heart tightens and you would give anything to go back, now, with the spaciousness you have found, gathering that precious little human into your arms, listening to his every word. But it is too late, he’s gone. The mummy-guilt cascades down like a

dam burst and the flood engulfs you.

All you can do is promise yourself you will try harder.

Is it a familiar scene? Thinking at the time, ‘I’ll have time later’ but you never do? You could be suffering burnout. For Mumpreneurs, all too often it becomes a way of life.

Something you just deal with.

Burnout is when you are always tired, running on unhealthy bandaid-solutions to bigger issues.

Burnout is when you no longer like the cranky stressed-out person you have become, longing for the motivated woman you remember who had a vision for a better future.

Kylie Mort Kylie Mort is a qualified and registered schoolteacher and yoga teacher studying psychological science.

Burnout is the lack of balance.

Tenaciously so work-focused that you develop tunnel vision and ignore yourself. Such an insidious process that you do not even notice it happening.

The daily exercise becomes weekly.

Healthy lunches collapse into hasty snacks as visibly shaking hands remind you you’ve forgotten to eat again. So focused on managing the day-to-day that you have forgotten that original big-picture. And always so tired…

What if I have burnout? Firstly, there are psychological “rules” that need breaking. Most importantly the “Consistency Rule”; the default positioning of the mind, rooted in the need to be perceived as a reasonable person that says, if I have openly committed, I must follow through. Coincidentally, also a social precedent manipulated by commercial marketing. How to break free? Actively

The 5 steps to a full recovery include recognising where you are, how you got there, what holds you there, taking back control and embracing a new pathway.

analyse the difference between rational and irrational commitments. Recognise that as an empowered, intelligent adult you can re-evaluate your goals at any time. That as an independent, informed woman you can reimagine, redesign, and recreate your world whenever you choose.

How to recover from burnout? Within my studies I came across the 8 limbs of Yoga. Yoga means ‘to yoke’ and where some yogis search for fitness, some search for a sense of peace. What I found astounding was that my academic training crossed over so completely with this ancient study. In short, the 8 limbs refer to: the “not-to-do-list” supporting ethical lifestyles, the “todo-list” encouraging self-discovery, the importance of movement and exercise, the empowerment of the words “I am”, the true power of a non-reactive mind, the harnessing of the psyche through mindfulness, training ourselves to focus without distraction and aspiring towards achieving worthwhile goals.

So how to start? Take back control. Take stock of the world around you, asking: is this where I want to be? List your priorities and write a balanced plan bringing your vision and mission to life.

Understand yourself and you empower yourself. The 5 steps to a full recovery include recognising where you are, how you got there, what holds you there, taking back control and embracing a new pathway.

Humanity perpetuates through passing on core principles to facilitate survival.

I would pass on there is more to life than work and study. There is love and connection. Make the time – because inevitably, you are not the timekeeper.

Her continued research into the human mind supports her holistic focus on the mindbody connection within her career as a performance coach, supporting individuals to be the best possible version of themselves, uniquely and intrinsically.

Kylie is focused on enhancing the mind and its power to empower through reimaging, redesigning, and recreating.

She works with individuals of all ages to embrace, support, and foster the academic mind, self-knowledge, the mind-body connection, inter-personal connections and one’s intrinsic well-being and balance.

Her commitment includes tailored programs supporting academic, physical, and personal betterment and success. Decades of experience in both education and business industries, including 20 years of teaching experience and 15 years of building and overseeing multiple companies, provides a wide context of knowledge from a diverse range of sources.

Kylie is a wordsmith at heart and loves to prioritise her writing, both academically and creatively, to connect with those who seek knowledge and inspiration to be their best selves.

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Why

honouring our personal qualities allow us to optimize our life choices in all areas of family, business, and health.

will not happen without self-esteem

From an incredibly young age I had low self-esteem and as such I was prone to being a people pleaser and always trying to keep everyone else happy even at my expense. The result of this behaviour was twenty years of addiction, depression, and eventually destructive self-hatred. It took a complete change in lifestyle and mindset to overcome this and start developing self-esteem.

relaxing

There were several main factors that helped restore my self-esteem.

CAROLINE BELLENGER AS BUSY WOMEN RELAX IS NOT AN ACTIVITY THAT COMES EASY FOR US! IF YOU ARE NOT BUSY BUILDING AN EMPIRE, YOU ARE CONSUMED WITH RAISING A FAMILY OR BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYONE ELSE’S HAPPINESS.

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nd that can be exhausting.

We hear constantly how taking time out is good for our health, our mindset, and our families, but we do not end up doing it because we never have enough time in our already busy day.

The truth is we do have time we simply believe that every other priority is more important than us. Until you develop healthy selfesteem you will continue the neverending hamster wheel of being busy.

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This inevitably ends with you being thrown off in a heap of overwhelm, guilt or more serious mental health conditions.

Self-Esteem is essentially how we evaluate ourselves and accept ourselves. These negative or positive perceptions have a huge influence on the choices we make and ultimately are responsible for whether we take time out to Relax. Many women think that high self-esteem equates to being selfish, however this in is an incorrect perception. Valuing and

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Lifestyle Changes – getting sober and incorporating exercise into my life was a game changer. The simple act of looking after my physical body created immediate positive changes in my mental attitude and my emotional state. These changes can be as simple as eating healthy, going for a walk, gardening or a more ambitious target of training for a marathon. Everyone will respond to exercise and food different so its important to make changes that also bring you joy.

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Mindset - it was not until much later in my sobriety that I really understood the importance of creating a healthy mind. Through

personal development, neurolinguistic coaching, therapy, and constant self-reflection I discovered techniques and skills to finally say “I am enough” and “I am worthy”.

Two simple phrases that I believe are the most critical to feeling not guilty about relaxing.

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Your WHY – self-awareness and what you value as person is important to define the best choices to make in life. If you understand your “why”

everything you do, including taking time out to relax, will be congruent with your passion and your purpose.

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Gratitude – without gratitude we are nothing. With gratitude we enrich our selfesteem with a sense of joy and fulfillment.

If you can incorporate these four aspects into your life you will start to develop a healthy self-esteem.

Once you start believing in yourself taking time out to Relax will be something your do naturally as you will understand that looking after yourself is the only way to find connection and fulfilment in all other areas of your life.

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Once you start believing in yourself taking time out to Relax will be something your do naturally as you will understand that looking after yourself is the only way to find connection and fulfilment in all other areas of your life.

Caroline Bellenger is a passionate life coach, author, motivational speaker and creator of ‘Be The Impossible’ courses. From childhood sexual abuse to over twenty years of addiction and mental health issues, Caroline got sober in 2009.

Since then Caroline has found success in business, sport and life.

Caroline believes that if she can overcome significant life obstacles, then any woman given support and encouragement can achieve the impossible.

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Embodying your

Feminine Essence THIS YEAR, THE WORLD HAS BEEN THROUGH A WHIRLWIND, DISMANTLING LIFE AS WE’VE KNOWN IT. A CRUMBLING OF THE OLD WAYS, THROWING US INTO AN ABYSS OF THE UNKNOWN, INCLUDING ISOLATION, HOME-SCHOOLING AND FEAR. IT’S EASY TO FEEL OVERWHELMED BY IT ALL.

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s a conscious leader of my own life and community, I always come back to the knowing that I create my own reality. That the world can only reflect back to me that which is within me, be that actualised or suppressed.

We choose what timelines and realities we are a part of. Whilst the outer world is always the outer world, we have the choice at which level we buy into it. When we shift our frequency, we can shift our reality!

In essence, we are sovereign empowered beings. However, most people have been conditioned to forget this. I am passionate in helping my clients and community to remember their true essence. I will share some tools on how you can find your joy, freedom and sovereignty — no matter what the circumstances.

Nurture the feminine It’s easy to neglect our feminine essence in times of crisis. We are conditioned to let the inner masculine take over. To go into survival mode and forget that nurturing our femininity is vital for optimising our wellbeing, avoiding fatigue, insomnia and anxiety.

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The first thing I do every morning while I’m still in bed, is to give myself a loving hug. I smile to my inner child, connect with my heart and say: “I love you. You are amazing!

Follow your body’s natural expression and follow the pleasure.

Expand your essence into your dance to become one with the whole Universe.

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with just a few beautiful breaths. Then I connect through my crown chakra to the cosmic womb, to remember that I am a part of the whole.

I tap back into oneness. I breathe back any parts of myself that I have given away to situations or people. I come back home to myself. If that isn’t enough, I move my body. I begin to gently circle the hips, put a smile on my face and enjoy Let’s have the most beautiful day, today!” amplifying my life-force energy.

Try it. Tweak the words so that they fully resonate with you. Throughout your day, Claim your life force remind yourself to slow down and soften. Life force pulses through us, without it we would be dead. The lower our frequency, This raises your frequency to stay in a the heavier our mind, body and spirit are. state of joy and receptivity.

We can increase that life force by raising Embodiment our frequency. Frequency therapy is one way (connect with me to find out more), When life gets busy, we tend to go into breath and movement are another. our heads, become ungrounded and push the nervous system into overdrive Deepen your breath through fight, flight or freeze responses.

Imagine breathing into your feet to In that state we can’t feel our feelings, enhance the life force in your feet. nor can we be present to our body. We Now amplify it into every part of your turn into walking robots, not awakened body. Begin to move softly. Breathe beings. deeply. Caress yourself gently. Make When I get into that space, which still the movements bigger, more enjoyable. happens sometimes … I pause. I go to Smile. Follow your body’s natural my meditation chair or into the garden. expression and follow the pleasure.

I close my eyes and take some deep Expand your essence into your dance to breaths, put my hands on my womb become one with the whole Universe. and visualise it connecting to the earth womb. I drop from my head into my body Welcome home!

Krystal Alexander-Hille is a Soul Leadership Coach, international tantra teacher and bestselling author. She guides conscious leaders, business people and light workers to embody their soul essence, claim their life force and realise their vision so that they can birth the next version of their multi-dimensional self by raising their frequency, create more meaningful connections, deeper intimacy and greater financial abundance from a place of embodied sovereignty, joy and grace.

Aware of her galactic origins, Krystal comes from a soul lineage of ancient high priestesses, embodying divine feminine codes. She offers initiation journeys to Egypt & Mexico, facilitates tantric in-person and online workshops, and is particularly proud of the Galactic Temple, her membership platform for conscious leaders, birthing a new era.

Krystal holds a BA in English Literature & Theatre, a diploma in Life Coaching and TimeLine Therapy and is a certified Tantra Teacher. With 30 years in leadership and personal development, over the past 12 years, Krystal has contributed her wisdom to many international summits and podcasts, and is the author of ‘She Who Would Be Queen’, ‘In the Womb of the Goddess’, and contributing author numerous to #1 bestselling multi-author books.

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Addiction is not a dirty word FROM ONE ADRENALIN JUNKIE TO ANOTHER – I SEE YOU SISTA.

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he racing thoughts, the endless to-do-lists, the deadlines, the pile of laundry, the melting down kids, the dishes and that never-ending drive to get it all done perfectly…. It’s a rush baby! And we are all hooked!

It’s modern-day slavery – the only difference is that we have become a slave to our own internal stress hormones. Adrenalin and cortisol are more addictive than crack and they are literally on tap 24/7.

We turn it on as soon as we open our eyes, we are like a mobile phone looking for the wifi network. We wake and search for the stories of yesterday to define who we are and then start planning the to-do-lists for the day ahead. Every single negative, fearful or judgemental thought about the past or the future produces a tiny amount of adrenalin or cortisol. We are slowly drip-feeding ourselves stress all day every day, simply through the addiction to our own inner critic.

Imagine how your day would start off differently if, when you woke, you remembered to ask yourself this simple question…. “Who am I?” Imagine remaining present and relaxed as your soul lands back into its physical body after a night of subconscious acrobatics. Imagine connecting in with the depths of who you truly are and releasing yourself from the clutches of your fear craving to kickstart your first hit for the day.

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It is simply a matter of choosing love over fear as much as humanly possible.

Who are you without stress?

Who are you beyond thought?

Addiction is the opposite of connection.

So how can you step off the treadmill and deeply immerse yourself into a relaxed state of being, one that is ruled by a different kind of addiction – an addiction to LOVE instead of fear?

Have you ever tried to wean a baby off the breast? That is one little love addict right there. The pure bliss hormone of oxytocin is flooding every cell of that precious beings’ little body as it snuggles up warm and close to its Mumma, feeling safe, secure, connected and loved.

This is a rush of a different kind.

One that has no come-down and yet still gives us that happy high that we are so desperately seeking. We are hard-wired to become addicted to things, so why not choose love instead.

There are many ways to address our fearful thought addiction: presence,

mindfulness and meditation are ones you have heard of before I’m sure. But did you know that the sacred art of detoxing your physical toxins has a direct relationship to your mental toxins or fearful thoughts?

As a life-long happy high seeker, I have now discovered this sacred and profound practice gives me greater internal highs than any street drug ever did. Detoxing has not only supported me to clear many physical addictions such as wine, cigarettes and processed sugar; but more importantly, it has supported me to over-come my addiction to my own toxic thinking.

As the physical toxins leave the body, so too do the toxic thoughts and BOOM BABY! Hello HAPPINESS, here we come.

Detoxing doesn’t have to be all deprivation and starvation either, a wellrounded nutritious Vegan diet for 3 – 7 days can wipe the slate clean for most people.

The absolute sweet spot after a process like this is that when you ask the question again – “Who am I” when your body, mind and soul are free from the veils of toxicity, you get to connect in with the love that is always present, the love that you truly deserve to feel and the love that will ultimately become your most potent addiction.

It is simply a matter of choosing love over fear as much as humanly possible. Is this a fearful thought or a loving thought? If it is a fearful thought – simply choose again.

Your mind is craving fear Your body is craving sugar Your soul is craving connection and love

Tamala Ridge Tamala Ridge is the Founder and Director of the Institute for Spiritual Companioning. She is an International Best Selling Author, Addictions Specialist and Spiritual Mentor. She empowers divine feminine healers and coaches to release their own limiting and self–sabotaging habits so that they can hold space for themselves and their clients with a greater degree of integrity. She supports other Space Holders to clear their own path to success, abundance and divine sovereignty.

Her mission is to inspire others to experience Heaven on earth through the sacred art of detoxing and Spiritual Companioning. After her own battle with addiction she is now a self -confessed #detoxjunkie and #spaceholdingmentor.

She now gets high on the sobriety of her untainted soul.

She is the coach’s coach, working with, challenging and inspiring Spiritual Entrepreneurs to become more clear, conscious and magnetic in order to increase the potency of the medicine that they bring to the world thereby increasing their income, impact and influence.

Which one will you feed?

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Top Practices to help you to overcome

Anxiety YOUR LIFE AS A WORKING MUM CAN LEAD TO ANXIETY AND YOU DESERVE RELIEF. TRYING ALTERNATIVE METHODS IN CONJUNCTION WITH PROFESSIONAL THERAPY CAN GIVE YOU RESULTS. THE METHODS LISTED BELOW CAN BE EXPLORED ALONE OR WITH A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL.

Meditation/ Visualisations/ Breathing Practices These three approaches involve the same core concept, relaxation, breathing and mental imagery to help you relax. Each technique offers something different but can be used together.

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Both breathing and visualisation can be used in combination with meditation. With breathing exercises, you’re able to regulate your breaths during anxious moments.

By visualizing, you can envision a peaceful environment to calm yourself during anxiety-provoking situations.

Hypnosis Clinical Hypnotherapy offers a treatment option in conjunction with other anxiety treatments. It works by focusing your attention to get you into a hypnotic state.

Then, you are given therapeutic goal-oriented suggestions. Finally, you are gradually awakened by the psychologist. You can find licensed hypnotherapists at the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis.

Emotional Freedom Technique Emotional Freedom is a researchproven approach that uses points on the body to relieve anxiety symptoms. The belief involved in this method is that by tapping meridian points or energy hotspots, you’re able to relieve pain and balance energy. The technique has multiple steps that you can follow yourself or with the assistance of a practitioner.

Alternative and Natural Therapies Speaking with a naturopath, you may discover an underlying condition that contributes to your anxiety symptoms. You might also discover that it’s caused by an underlying condition, which natural therapy tries to address in order to treat your anxiety. These approaches will consist of botanical remedies and clinical nutrition.

Psych K Psych K is a spiritual psychological approach that has been around for 30 years. It incorporates ancient wisdom and modern, researchsupported techniques to help reduce anxiety symptoms and elevate conscious thinking. There are multiple approaches to receiving this treatment, including books, workshops and individual private sessions.

Grounding When you are experiencing a high level of anxiety, you can use the grounding technique to bring you back to the present. To practice this technique, you use your senses to observe the world to help your mind return to a peaceful state. Here is a helpful technique to try from University of Rochester Medical Center Blog.

Move Your Body Research has shown the mental health benefits of fitness and exercise. To use movementto relieve anxiety symptoms, simply add exercises to your day. Here are some simple moves to get started: • Walking during your lunch break • Riding your bike with your family • Dancing around the living room

Gratitude Being thankful and receiving thanks is a positive approach to anxiety

relief. Gratitude improves wellbing by strengthening relationships and in turn, you’ll feel happier and more resilient. With this, you’re able to withstand distressing situations.

You can experience gratitude by writing in a journal, sending a thank you note and being mindful of situations in which you should show thankfulness.

Share It Whether you talk about it or write about you, sharing your anxiety can be calming. Express what’s on your mind with a professional psychologist or trusted confidant..

You can also find a support group to

express your anxious thoughts. You can even start a blog or vlog on the various social media, blogging or video sharing apps or websites.

Outsource It Taking on too many tasks at once can be overwhelming, leading to the possibility of an anxiety attack. If you can outsource some of your tasks, this can help save the energy that might make you anxious.

Anxiety is a common mental health issue with various causes. It can be treated with medication and talk therapy, which if combined has positive outcomes for patients.

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Bringing Amazing

"Permissions" To Life

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I FIRST HEARD LIZ GILBERT SPEAK AT THE ULTIMATE GIRLS WEEK AWAY, AN AMAZING ANNUAL RETREAT, THIS YEAR HELD IN THE STUNNING BEAUTY OF A PRIVATE FIJIAN RESORT.

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ther than being a bestselling author I knew very little about Liz Gilbert. I quickly learned that she’s an impressive woman, someone who speaks with a vulnerability that reflects not only the wisdom but also the humility learned from both success and devastation. Suddenly she gave a quote that etched itself into my memory bank. “The most powerful woman in any situation is the most relaxed woman in the room”. I’ve been teaching mindfulness for over 4 decades, I teach the importance of the relaxed, non-judgemental way of being. I had never considered relaxation as an implement of power.

It would take the words of Liz Gilbert and a worldwide pandemic to teach me that it was.

With Liz as our guide we wrote two long, unapologetic, fact-filled and heart felt letters. Each beginning with “Dear <name>, this is <topic> and I would like to tell you…..”, each to be shared with those around us.

The first topic was fear. I tensed as memories of opportunities lost or spoiled by fear rose from the darkest recesses of my memory and poured onto the page. The sharing was quiet, long held fear laden secrets whispered between new friends. The second letter was from enchantment, or as Liz defined it, love. Time to focus on all the things that bring us heart felt joy, the things that we might not do enough, the things we should do more of and that fear might hold us back from. Fear set aside, this time the sharing filled the

The most powerful woman in any situation is the most relaxed woman in the room.

room with the excitement of joyous potential.

With each letter written and shared, Liz highlighted what we were all beginning to realise. While our enchantments were all so vastly different, fear, despite our various backgrounds, nationalities and ages, was universal, it was, we discovered, variations on very similar and familiar themes.

Liz shared that it is only when we can recognise our fears and face them from a place of relaxation, can we hope to silence them, and it is only in silencing them that we can truly hear the voice of enchantment.

Our final exercise was our permission slip. Beginning with the words “I am the head teacher and I give <name> permission to ………”, we revelled in the amazing things that others were giving themselves permission to do, raising our voices after each offering and joyously shouting ‘Permission Granted’, smiling as the room filled with offers of support that would help bring amazing permissions to life.

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doesn’t matter if your ‘room’ is filled with a thousand people or you are in that room alone, relaxation will always silence the fear, and as Liz so rightfully shared, it is only when the fear is silenced, can we truly hear the call of enchantment.

“The most powerful woman in any situation is the most relaxed woman in the room”. Thankyou Liz Gilbert, I have truly become one of the most relaxed, and most powerful women in my room.

3 weeks after I returned from Fiji the corona-virus blanketed the planet. As difficult as the sudden forced changes were, I smiled in the knowledge that as much as my world was contracting, thanks to technology it was also expanding in ways I’d never considered. One morning, as I was lamenting that the ‘permission’ I’d granted myself in Fiji had been put on hold, I realised the depth of the lesson I had learned

from Liz Gilbert. I had always been taught ‘5 long slow breaths to calm the beast’. I was taught that the beast was the challenge, something separate to myself, something to be faced. As I thought of Liz’s words, I realised that the beast is not something separate, it is something within us all, the real name of the beast is fear. I also realised that the room in Liz’s saying is not a room at all, but a metaphor for life. It

Bron Roberts For almost 20 years Bron has been sharing her passion for positive health and well-being with organisations around Australia and in the USA. As Australia’s only Certified Humour Professional, a Laughter Yoga Wellbeing Master Trainer, Skilful Mind mindfulness instructor, and with a bachelor of Psychological Sciences and a graduate diploma in Humour as a Therapeutic modality, Bron takes her audiences on fun and laughter filled adventures through the worlds of behavioural neuroscience, positive psychology and emotional intelligence, in ways that shed new light on stress reduction, resilience building, increased motivation, connection, celebration and gratitude. Bron is also the Chief Happiness Officer at Let’s Laugh, a social enterprise dedicated to supporting communities in need, runs Australia’s oldest and largest community Laughter Yoga Club, is the mother of 2 wonderful adults, and is owned by a very old and often very grumpy cat.

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Spark Joy through Self-Love

My Journey to becoming a World Class Retreat Specialist I REMEMBER CLEARLY THE MOMENT I ‘STEPPED INTO’ THE WOMEN I WAS HERE TO BE. I WAS IN A HOTEL IN SAPA, VIETNAM, THAT FELT AS IF THE RUSSIAN MAFIA RAN IT. Photography by Tanita Seton Photography

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was on a 3-month pilgrimage after seeing Eat, Pray, Love written by the amazing Elizabeth Gilbert. I left on the day of my 40th birthday with my two sons, who were then 12 and 7. They had been fighting for what seemed like forever, and on this evening, I had had enough. I went into the bathroom and shed all of the pain and trauma from my body, mind and soul. Little did I know (or maybe

I did), that I was stepping onto the path of my destiny and to live a life of passion.

It had been a tough few years, my marriage had broken up due to domestic violence. A few months later my then ex-husband had a horrific work accident that left him with ongoing injuries, including the total loss of his left arm and other related health issues. Because of who I am, I supported him and the children through this. I also had a string of not so healthy relationships throughout this period. So to say I was a little broken is probably a good description.

I was also a social worker, and after 20 years of working in the industry, I was burnt out. I had everyone else’s trauma sitting on my shoulders along with my own. It was on my own pilgrimage, sitting on the bathroom

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floor that day sobbing in that hotel in Vietnam, that I knew things had to change. That something had to be different, and that I could not go on like that. I came home ready to make a difference and a change — but really, I didn’t have a clue what that was.

What was I passionate about? I could only really think of one thing and that was travel. That thrill of going to a new place, seeing new sites, smelling new smells, getting on an aeroplane in one dimension and getting off somewhere totally different. So, I completed a travel agent course, which I hated with a vengeance — so maybe that wasn’t it for me? Then my new love, whom I had known seven years previously asked me, “Why don’t you run retreats full time?” Bingo! That was the answer. Why had I not thought of this before? Retreats were what

in someone’s life. I was transfixed once I put words to this form, and allowed myself the space to imagine what this could be. My eyes and face lit up when I thought and talked about this. For the first time in my life, I had something that I was truly passionate about.

As women we often choose everyone else before ourselves. Sure, we talk about self-care in the sense of dinner with friends, weekends away, massages, getting our hair done. But what do you truly do for yourself that takes more than just a minute in your busy life? What is it that you do that keeps the passion for life alive, that nurtures your soul and keeps that magic sitting in the forefront of your actions?

That is why retreats, in my opinion, are so important because they look after you in a way that is sometimes not possible otherwise. They hold the space for you to clear your head, to give some room to dreaming and not have to think about

I was truly passionate about. I had been running them in some form or another, in youth groups and Girl Guides, since I was about 16 years old.

So an idea was born, something more than time away with other women discussing life in places like Bali and Queensland. These retreats would be about watching layers shed from a person’s soul, that had been plastered on through circumstance and other people’s actions. It was about holding a space of magic that ebbed and flowed to allow a transformation that can be monumental

cleaning the bathroom, cooking dinner or picking up the kids from school. It is time just for you to be you, in every way.

My advice for anyone who does not know what lights them up is to explore, find out, talk about it to others until something is sparked. Do this, so that you know what sparks joy in you. So that your life is filled with a whole string of new possibilities. The possibilities that come after are endless, and who knows you may even find yourself hanging out on a tropical island with an amazing woman like Elizabeth Gilbert.

Liesel Albrecht Liesel Albrecht is more often than not known as The Retreat Queen, her vision is to create extraordinary experiences that give women from around the globe, permission to be themselves while learning about different cultures, connecting with inspiring female leaders, & providing a supportive community that celebrates everything that it means to be woman.

Her core values focus on Culture, Inspiration and Awakening which means that every retreat is built with these in mind, every aspect is carefully crafted by her right down to fresh flowers and welcome gifts on arrival, to special experiences popping up during the retreat.

Liesel is walking towards her big visions and lives and breathes them every day – working with celebrated women in the motivational arena she ran her first Ultimate Girls Week Away with her hero Elizabeth Gilbert as her keynote presenter earlier this year.

Liesel believes that dreams do come true – you just have to work hard and dream big and you will see them sitting there on the horizon getting closer and closer.

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Relaxed Woman Revolution Photography by Tanita Seton Photography

AUTHOR, SPEAKER AND A RELAXED WOMAN, ELIZABETH GILBERT, WHO ONLY A MERE 16 YEARS AGO PROCLAIMED THAT SHE WAS IN A DEEP STATE OF DEPRESSION, ANXIETY AND SHAME.

addictive impulse” which meant that she was continually wavering between abandoning herself and trying to be good, and abandoning herself and acting out for immediate gratification.

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he felt like a failure due to her believing she blew up her marriage and didn’t want to have kids and was sick and suffering. She put herself through hell due to feeling the one person she wanted to love her, rejected her.

Liz openly shared on her Instagram earlier this year about the pivotal changing point in her life that instigated her Eat, Pray, Love journey; It was up until that point in her life, she had been guided only by two forces: People pleasing and

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She then went on to say “But here is what I DID have: A tiny whisp of a thread barely connecting me to a dim, distant sense of God...and I had a weird, faint, illogical idea that I wanted to learn to speak Italian... and I had my work as a writer. (My writing: The one aspect of my life that I had never degraded, and had always nourished and held sacred.)”

She goes on to say “I wrote an email to my editor, who had already published three of my books. The letter was no more than a page long.

I told him what I wanted to do. Where I wanted to travel and why. I told him

that I wanted to write a memoir, even though I had never written about myself before.”

“I don’t remember exactly what I said in that letter, but I remember what he said: “Do it. Go.” And on September 3, 2004, she did it.

She went.

Now sixteen years later, Liz is creating a “relaxed revolution” – it might seem unusual as ‘relaxed’ isn’t a word or state that is common when describing women. Yet, the one thing we all need more of to completely revolutionise our lives is relaxation.

At the Ultimate Girls Week Away in February this year, Liz held one workshop and a keynote that was based on her Relax Revolution which had the room full of women in awe

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this as she says “Priorities become clear in times of tragedy – but don’t want until one hits to work out what yours are” Be Strong with your Boundaries

and fully engaged “Purpose has become an assault weapon for women to hurt themselves with,” the multi-awardwinning and bestselling author shared.

“You have no idea what you’re here for.

No one truly knows what their purpose is.“ How would it feel if we let it all go and live a purposeful life by spending time with the people we love, serving them and relaxing? Her talk has left an impact on all of our lives.

Here are Four ways Liz Shared for you to live a more relaxed life Prioritise your priorities Sounds simple doesn’t it, yet for many who are people, pleasers struggle immensely with this. Choose wisely on who and what you spend your time on.

Be brave in letting go of people, things and situations that aren’t benefiting you and don’t wait until tragedy strikes to do

Create boundaries around your priorities.

A simple yet effective exercise Liz gave us was she told everyone to write down the above priorities (people and things) that they cared about, and draw a circle around it, and to place ourselves in the centre. “You are at the centre of your circle. You need to have boundaries, or else you’ll never be relaxed.” Liz powerfully stated. Making sure that you only have the most important people and things as these take time and energy and you don’t want to spread yourself too thin.

We can not control everything We need to acknowledge that we can not control everything! and that behind the scenes there are larger, benevolent forces at work in the world working on our behalf so whatever we are experiencing “it’s all going to be alright” as her beloved friend who she warmly introduced as Richard from Texas (who was part of her Eat, Pray Love journey) would always say in any situation however big or small.

We need to be brave enough to break the cycle of this fast-paced, anxiety-filled lives we are living and do all that we can to find more relaxation and self-care so we can show up as better humans and create a relaxed revolution that we so desperately need.

"CEO & Creator of Empowered Publishing, Mumpreneur Movement & Loved by Gaia, Tammie has collaborated and worked with the likes of Elizabeth Gilbert, Lisa Messenger, Denise Duffield-Thomas and in March 2021 at the Ultimate Girls Week Away in Vietnam, Gabrielle Bernstein.

Since 2015 Tammie has been inspiring the lives of hundreds of thousands of others from around the world on & offline through her coaching, mentoring, courses, retreats, resources & events.

Tammie believes that the new way to achieve sustainable success is through priortising self-care, self-belief, collaboration and empowering oneself that enables you to climb unimaginable heights whilst staying grounding and positively influencing those around you.

Tammie is here to support others to step into their power by igniting their purpose, awakening their belief and recognising their potential to empower others through sharing their story and lived experiences.

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media posts, in conversations amongst ourselves, and discussions in the UGWA team. We are the ones who are yearning for the new future that began at the beginning of time, and you are the women who are emerging with strong voices who want to be part of a global community.

You are the ones who will step your communities and circles forward.

The Ultimate Girls Week Away is designed for women just like you, so you can just be, rest, laugh, sleep, play and everything in between - designed for women by women who understand.

If you have forgotten who you are - who you were born to be, and what you are here to do, this is for you.

I​ f you often put other people’s priorities before your own. If you care too much, think too long and wonder what else is out there. ​If you yearn to feel deep connections to others. UGWA 2021 is for you, because just like ​Elizabeth Gilbert at UGWA 2020 said “the most powerful woman is a relaxed woman”.

Dear Women of the World, Are you ready for the Ultimate Girls Week Away 2021?

Two years ago, I had a vision for a retreat that would be for women from all around the world, who could come together in a safe place, where we can connect without fear of rejection, isolation, or being judged because of the colour of our skin. Where cultural background, or whom we loved didn’t matter—a safe place for all women. A place for women who want to grow, learn, connect and be inspired; for women who want to have difficult conversations, who want to laugh, cry and be themselves—building a community of nations and cultures, a community of change, that starts with us. UGWA is a feeling, a safe container for all women, no matter what.

family dynamics, health challenges, skillset and more. Our keynotes are none other than Gabrielle Bernstein motivational speaker, life coach, and author and SARK an American author and illustrator of selfhelp books who has sold over two million books worldwide. These women will share their wisdom with us over our time together, both virtually and in person. ​ ur theme is Dream Chasers as during O this time of world instability dreaming is what has gotten many of us through. I hear and see it every day - it is written in social

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With love

​Liesel Albrecht

CEO UGWA and Ultimate Retreat Experiences

I went not knowing a soul and came home with some lifelong connections. It is so wonderful to be with women for a whole week, challenging yourself and growing and learning. Doing this in a beautiful setting was the icing on the cake. I am so proud of myself for taking the leap of faith and going on this retreat. It was life-altering. Thank you to Liesel and her wonderful team.

I​ t is fitting that UGWA starts on International Women’s Day, a perfect way to celebrate being women—together.

Our team are diverse and come from different corners of the earth - Australia, Lebanon, India, United Kingdom, Arab Emirates, Africa, and the USA, and Indigenous Women that we can grow and learn from. Some are keynote speakers, artists, and healers who add diversity to our team and what we do and offer.

They are women of different ages (our youngest member is 25 and oldest 73), culture, background, history, professions,

By committing to this life-changing event you are committing to prioritising yourself. We know there will be questions and some of you will be thinking how are we going to pull this off when the world is just a little bit crazy right now, we have complete faith that it will all flow precisely how it is meant to, it isn’t until March next year after all! So reach out today and let’s have a chat.

​Holly Severson, Portland, Oregon UGWA 2020

Are you craving time out to relax and connect with like-minded women?

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What Practices help you to

relax?

Linda Willow Roberts of bit.ly/2ZWyvxY To bring my mind into the present moment, I close my eyes, breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth a couple of times, then on the breath in I imagine it going into my heart space and voila My mind is clear I can relax.

To ground myself so I’m not all over the place, again I do the above breathing technique, but this time I imagine tree roots coming out of the ground and wrapping around my feet and anchoring me to the earth.

The mind is a very powerful tool, I would do the above method first before trying anything else.

Angelina Skye Lunenburg For me, making art, swimming, music, reading, playing the guitar and singing, sitting near water and trees, and a good massage are relaxing.

Leah PalmerO’malley Daily meditation practice, reminds me to stay present, mindful and therefore relaxed.

Jenny Roberts Ottaway I always thought it was an ‘older person’s thing’ but now I LOVE gardening! Picking weeds, trimming bushes so they grow back bigger and stronger than before, adding fertilizer and watch the plants thrive and grow beautiful abundant flowers, picking mulberries from my tree that is nature’s gift. Gardening and what happens when we tend a garden... is such a lovely metaphor for life!

Lisa Entwisle Wellthy Living Self-knowledge is my key for me to feel more relaxed. I regularly do body scans, adjusting my shoulders, opening my chest, relaxing my jaw. I journal often, asking myself a number of reflective questions as well as noticing and writing about any patterns that are playing out.

Lounge room dancing, creative meditations (doodling), cooking with fun tunes, going on what I can a stroll for the sense and soul and of course connecting with nature are some of my go-to tools to feel more relaxed. I also find debriefing with a trusted friend or mentor really helpful.

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Anna Kristina

Angie Louise

Yoga, yoga and more yoga (preferably in the shade of a beautiful tree) followed by an evening of dinner with friends and a good ‘pass the guitar‘ by the fire.

Music and being creative. I also find things where I can RECEIVE, like being nurturing, healing or massage

Brooke Huggins Penny Guyatt My dog helps a lot. Usually, deep meditation; with the natural noise of the outside world, sounds like the birds, wind, water and even the odd vehicle all becomes one.

A solid gym workout. Something that gets me sweating. Must be a good beat playing behind the workout.

Kelly Maree of kellymareeauthor.com

Going on holidays with my family is my number one, just a weekend away to enjoy some quality time together. I have actually just discovered the complete joy of lying on my back in the pool, watching the trees sway in the breeze and little fluffy bird bums wiggling around trying to keep their balance on the thinnest branches! Every day that brings a smile to my face.

Kelli Troy Mindfulness practice; quite time to self; engaging in enjoyable activities; being around loved ones; time with my horses; so many things really

Osnat Patton Kiralee Vaisey I play my banjo, go lay on the beach, walk through a rainforest.

As long as I am around water it calms me as does the natural world.

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Music always helps. For my brain to relax, I listen to repeated mantras. The perfect place for me to relax is on the beach or near running water. Breathing is a way to relax for me when I’m driving.

Prioritising

Self

as an Act of Love GRAB A CUP OF YOUR FAVOURITE BEVERAGE. FIND A CORNER IN YOUR HOME THAT YOU LOVE. A COMFY SEAT. PERHAPS A FOOT STOOL FOR RESTING YOUR LEGS. YOUR CURRENT BOOK OR MAGAZINE ON YOUR LAP. AND MELT INTO AN AFTERNOON OF SIMPLY BEING WITH YOU. IN EASE AND TOTAL RELAXATION.

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hy is it that as you hear or read the above sentences, you think, “Yep, never going to happen!” As women, relaxation seems so alien to us; so foreign. We offer

space for others to relax. But rarely take time off for ourselves. What is this invisible pressure you and I place on ourselves, that we must forever give, but do not create space to receive?

I live by a golden rule that dictates my life, and today I want to share that with you: Your relationship with everything and everyone outside of you, is the exact reflection of your relationship with yourself.

Today, I invite you to check in with the most intimate relationships you have with people around you and ask if they truly serve and support you in a way that feels best for you right now? Or, are they getting on your nerves? Do you feel burdened by their presence? Is it claustrophobic to spend time with them always? Do you wish they could fix a cup of tea on their own once in a while? Drop the kids off? Make a meal for you? Plan a mini-vacation on the long weekend? Take you off of the mother and wife duties? Or, if nothing, actually just ‘get you’.

You see, sometimes when one gets ruffled about their needs not being met, it’s often time to realise that other people learn to treat you by looking at how you treat yourself. So, ask yourself: Where am I not listening to me? Where am I not giving me time? Where am I not receiving my own energy, presence and love?

The first person we need to learn to receive from is ourselves. When your body feels tired, you need to stop pursuing. When your brain feels fried, you need to find quiet time. When your heart feels achy, you must love on yourself first.

Why do you treat yourself last?

My guess is that maybe it was

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Radzy Chugh how we saw our mothers, aunts and grandmothers treat themselves. Maybe it’s the way women’s roles were defined in society, and continue to be defined today. Maybe your hesitation to place yourself anywhere in the Top 5 priorities of your life, is because a friend once told you, the only way to hold a family together is to always please your partner.

Maybe, you saw older women pass judgement-filled looks to the new mum who asked for help with taking care of her child, so that she could have a nap or do something restful. I could go on about how our cultures, societies and family structures have created How-to-Do-LifeRight blueprints that leave women feeling extremely exhausted and depleted.

The truth is, that in trying to always do things ‘right’ and fit in to these roles, has left women feeling unhappy, stressed, frustrated, angry and alone. This is serving none. So, what if you could begin to create your own rules? Start expressing what you need? Find the courage to believe that you deserve some time to relax and be on your own?

May I ask you to begin with making selftime a non-negotiable with your partner and kids? And to let that be the authority that leads you through your life. Cultivate a knowing that the people around you will learn this new love-language you are speaking to yourself, as they witness you blossom in its sweet embrace.

It’s time. You now need to step into expressing your needs uninhibitedly in your own life and lead yourself to becoming a relaxed woman by offering yourself priority, time, kindness and love.

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And then maybe on an afternoon you canGrab a cup of your favourite beverage.

Find a corner in your home that you love.

A comfy seat. Perhaps a foot stool for resting your legs.

Your current book or magazine on your lap.

And melt into an afternoon of simply being with you. In ease and total relaxation.

Radzy is a Coach, Qoya Movement teacher and leads the #FuelledByJoy rebellion. Radzy has worked with women across the globe leading them to live Joy-Fully.

As a Qoya movement teacher, Radzy has facilitated retreats in India and offered Qoya at retreats in Bali. Radzy received her Masters in Economics degree from New York University in 2013. Allowing Joy to fuel her choices, she chose to honour her Soul’s path and ventured on as an Intuitive healer, Reiki practitioner and crystal enthusiast.

Radzy’s Joy has led her to travel across the globe visiting Costa Rica, Iceland, Australia, Dubai, New Zealand and Bali participating and leading in retreats. Through her work Radzy encourages women to create a strong, transparent and committed relationship with themselves. #FuelledByJoy is a movement driven by the idea that women need to shift their attitude that allows them freedom to be and feel important in their lives.

It is an invitation and opportunity for women to reclaim and empower themselves.

Energy And Mood Booster:

Beet, Blackberry, And Cacao Smoothie INCREASE ENDURANCE AND BOOST YOUR MOOD WITH A DECADENTLY DELICIOUS BEET, BLACKBERRY, AND RAW CACAO SMOOTHIE. THIS IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE GO-TO SMOOTHIES BEFORE LENGTHY WEIGHT-LIFTING SESSIONS.

What are the Health Benefits of Raw Cacao?

• Lowers insulin resistance • Provides minerals, such as zinc, potassium, and iron • Protects your nervous system • Shields nerve cells from damage • Reduces your risk of cardiovascular disease • Protects the body against free radicals • Reduces your risk of stroke • Reduces blood pressure Cacao is also a stellar mood enhancer, as it can increase certain neurotransmitters promoting a sense of well-being. “The same brain chemical that is released when we experience deep feelings of love – phenylethylamine – is found in chocolate” (Food Matters). And who doesn’t want to feel more in love?

Cheers!

What is the Difference Between Cacao and Cocoa?

Raw cacao is made by cold-pressing un-roasted cacao beans. Cocoa may look like cacao, but it is not the same. Cocoa powder is raw cacao that has been roasted at high temperatures which can change the molecular structure of the cacao bean reducing its overall nutritional value. Although cocoa contains many nutritional benefits, raw cacao is more nutrient dense.

It’s nutritious AND super tasty, so adding more raw cacao to your diet is a win win situation.

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Ingredients (serves 1-2):

Directions:

• 1 red beetroot and greens • 1 cup blackberries (frozen or fresh) • 1 banana • 2 tbsp raw cacao powder (add more for a stronger chocolate flavor) • 2 tbsp almond butter • 1 cup almond milk or coconut water (almond milk provides a creamier texture) • dash of cinnamon • 1 tsp vanilla • 1 scoop plant-based unflavored or chocolateflavored protein powder (optional) • maple syrup, honey, or stevia to taste

1. Gently wash the beetroot and beet greens, detaching greens from root. If not using beet greens, add greens of your choice, such as kale, spinach, or chard. Save beet stems to add to soups or create a Quick-Pickled Beet Stems sidedish.

2. Peel beetroot and cut in cubes or quarters.

3. In a high-speed blender, add all ingredients. Pulse until smooth. If using frozen fruit, smoothie will be chilled. Add ice if using fresh fruit and you prefer a chilled smoothie.

Enjoy!

Aarika Chilson A lover of life and everything beets, I am passionate about happy dance foods: healthy foods that invigorate, inspire, and make me want to shimmy with joy! The extraordinary beet is one of my many “happy dance” foods. It is my goal to bring simplicity, joy, and wellness into YOUR life, changing the world one humble beet at a time. When I am not sharing the beet love, I also enjoy traveling, yoga, reading, laughing, volunteering with animal rescues, dancing, hugging trees, and eating.

Yes – I love food!

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What I Don’t Know About The

Beauty Myth AT 22 YEARS OLD, A MILLION MILES FROM WHERE I GREW UP, I BUMPED INTO SOMEONE FROM HIGH SCHOOL. THEY SAID, “WOW, PUBERTY WAS KIND TO YOU.” A COMPLIMENT THAT SUGGESTED I WAS NO LONGER UGLY. I WAS THRILLED. NO TEEN DESIRES TO BE CONSIDERED UGLY, AND TO FEEL UGLY IS EVEN MORE TRAGIC. MY TEENAGE RELATIONSHIP WITH BEAUTY WAS COMPLICATED.

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hen The Beauty Myth Project asked me to sit for a photographic project, photographer Briony Walker asked me for a quote about beauty for the next generation of women. What do I want our daughters to know? I don’t have great wisdom about beauty. For me, it remains complicated to this day.

Three days before Briony shot this black and white image, I had put filler in my lips. When I told my husband I was considering it, he asked me not to. He couldn’t see any issues with my existing lips. They were my lips, lips he loved because they were mine.

Then he hit me with the sucker punch, “What will you tell our daughter when she asks why you did it?”

I asked Dr Beauty for just a teeny bit of filler. A Did she or didn’t she? effect. I thought like a subtle haircut, no one would really notice. I would sneak it past the world, but deepdown I would feel like my lips were now somewhere in the stratosphere of the Jolie smile.

That night, and the following day, they swelled prodigiously. The bruising was nuts. It was less Angelina Jolie and more A few rounds with Mohammad Ali. They hurt. The kids gave me a confused side-eye at dinner. My husband couldn’t look at me. “Your face looks completely different. Your expressions don’t even look like you anymore,” he’d say for weeks after.

Kissing me wasn’t the same. My lips no longer yielded to his with the same softness. I felt it too. I also felt shame for wanting to be more beautiful. I had deep regret. I see images of huge lips that have gone too far, and I wonder how this plump-lip beauty craze even became a thing. I don’t know.

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my daughter’s relationship with her appearance already is. She’s eight.

Kids say stuff. They see the media and compare themselves with one another.

We chat about kindness, smarts, tenacity and humour. Through my own experience and my work as a women’s integrative life coach, I know that how you feel about your inside, profoundly impacts how you feel about your outside. I help my clients to unravel years of stories and beliefs about themselves and their exterior and interior beauty.

deny how tired I look without it; all in the name of holding onto youth and beauty.

Is it empowering? I don’t know. Am I doing it for me or following an ideal?

Again, I don’t know. It’s tangled and complicated, tied up in many twisted knots. I observe how complicated

Being beautiful inside, feeling beautiful inside, is so much more important than what you look like on the outside. Everyone needs to know that.

That’s where you really need the work done. Smoothing, firming, relaxing and plumping your heart and soul. Being beautiful inside, feeling beautiful inside, is so much more important than what you look like on the outside. Everyone needs to know that.

But even as I write this, still remembering that feeling of burning shame and stinging pain, I can’t solemnly swear I won’t do my lips again. Because this beauty business, this folly of vanity and desire, even with everything I know, it is still complicated.

Danielle Colley Danielle Colley is an integrative life coach, mum of two and founder of Your Good Life. She helps successful women who are stuck and dissatisfied with their life to reach their full potential by assisting them to transition from where and who they are now to who they desire to be.

As a former journalist and hustling single mum, Danielle understands the impact that stress and anxiety play on your ability to reach your full potential.

Danielle was a freelance health and wellbeing journalist for many of Australia’s most significant publications, and although her life looked great on paper she was hurtling towards adrenal fatigue and burn out.

The death of her beloved Dad was the last straw.

She realised that the best time to design her life and take charge of her own happiness was now.

She loves showing her kids that following your dreams and doing what you love is achievable for everyone who has the audacity to envisage and then create it, not just a lucky few.

When she’s not coaching, dreaming, or creating, Danielle loves eating ice cream in her underwear.

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Breaking the

Rules

Maybe things have changed since then, however, the underlying need and expectation to be the perfect wife, mother and lover is still embedded in our need to fulfil the ‘good girl’ role we have been programmed to perform.

Many women still don’t feel free or safe to: • Express their thoughts or feelings • Say no • Love who they want to love, man or woman • Not want to be in a relationship • Not want to be a mother • Dress how they want to dress • To be who they truly are

TO BE A WOMAN IS A GIFT TO EXPERIENCE, YET SO MANY WOMEN FEAR THEIR FEMININITY, ARE SCARED OF THEIR SEXUALITY AND ARE REPELLED BY THEIR NATURAL CYCLES.

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eing a woman can sometimes feel like we are trapped in a box of expectations and rigid rules.

How is this still true in 2020? We have come so far in the last 100 years. We have electricity, cars, mobile phones, incredible medical breakthroughs as well as being in the age of personal development, yet how is it we are stuck with the expectations of the 1950’s perfect housewife?.

You know that era where the perfect woman was a married woman who would make it her life’s mission to clean, tidy, have all the meals prepped and ready for when her husband came home, and make sure that there was no mess or noise that would upset him. She would give her husband her undivided attention and submit to his every need and whim without complaint or care for her own wellbeing or needs.

We will never find peace within ourselves, and our world won’t change unless we are willing to be brave and to break the confines of being the good girl.

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Women all around the world, from all walks of life, cultures and backgrounds are waking up to the fact that their role in life is not to please others, rather to live a life that expresses who they truly are.

To share their natural gifts with the world and be of service to others in a way that is fulfilling and sustainable rather than self-sacrificing.

This evolution of women has been happening for centuries yet not without a backlash from men and also other women who believe our role is to submit to others needs and to the higher sex… men.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not a manhater. I love men. I love their strength, courage and abilities that come naturally to them. What I am though is a woman who over her life of 35 years has been physically, sexually, and mentally abused by the opposite sex because I was a woman and nothing was done about it, either because I didn’t know what my rights were or no one thought it bad enough to stop it. At the tender age of 8, I was inappropriately touched by a 13 year old boy. Then as a 16 year old employee who’s senior manager, explicitly told me how he wanted me as his mistress, he was 60! These are just a couple of the numerous experiences. I know women all around the world experience this daily

and worse. Most times women don’t speak up like I didn’t. At the time I didn’t know I could say no, that I could speak up and tell someone what happened without feeling as if those experiences were my fault and the shame that society has conditioned us to feel when do speak up.

I am a mum of 3, 1 boy and 2 girls and I teach my children daily that their needs are a priority, that they can say no and speak up if something is wrong. I am teaching my girls that to be a woman doesn’t mean you need to get married and have kids, or to even love a man, rather it’s about following what feels right for you. Following your heart and intuition and letting it guide you on what your life should be and feel like. That they are not to submit to another’s will just because they are of the opposite sex, or in a so-called ‘higher position’.

I show them by role modelling it. I role model it to others around me by walking my talk. I educate men and women by sharing my knowledge, experience and personal thoughts.

We will never find peace within ourselves, and our world won’t change unless we are willing to be brave and to break the confines of being the good girl.

Tammie Pike "CEO & Creator of Empowered Publishing, Mumpreneur Movement & Loved by Gaia, Tammie has collaborated and worked with the likes of Elizabeth Gilbert, Lisa Messenger, Denise Duffield-Thomas and in March 2021 at the Ultimate Girls Week Away in Vietnam, Gabrielle Bernstein.

Since 2015 Tammie has been inspiring the lives of hundreds of thousands of others from around the world on & offline through her coaching, mentoring, courses, retreats, resources & events.

Tammie believes that the new way to achieve sustainable success is through priortising self-care, self-belief, collaboration and empowering oneself that enables you to climb unimaginable heights whilst staying grounding and positively influencing those around you.

Tammie is here to support others to step into their power by igniting their purpose, awakening their belief and recognising their potential to empower others through sharing their story and lived experiences.

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How writing my story led to my

healing 2007 WAS ONE OF THOSE YEARS, YOU KNOW THE ONES THAT PSYCHOLOGICAL THRILLERS ARE MADE OF. A YEAR I NEVER WANTED TO RELIVE AGAIN. IN HINDSIGHT, IT WAS A YEAR THAT SET ME UP FOR A HUGELY SUCCESSFUL DECADE TO FOLLOW BUT IT DIDN’T FEEL LIKE IT AT THE TIME.

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n brief, I went through a year of PTSD after an incident at my home and then 10 months later to endure a double miscarriage well I thought my world was falling apart. I had the benefit of working in mental health for 4 years so I knew what I needed to do to keep myself managed but it didn’t cure the deep-rooted feeling that I wanted to understand at a very deep level ‘Why Me?’ Fast forward a couple of years and I had emigrated to Australia from Ireland and had 2 more children (4 in total) and was building a lovely life for me and my family. Then it happened, an epiphany moment that would change the trajectory of my life. I was watching The View and Whoopi Goldberg had a reality TV couple on the show who had endured a miscarriage in front of the world, the woman was very fragile about it and Whoopi turned her back to the camera looked at the woman and said “I am going to tell you what MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |

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and started to look forward instead of just trying to get through every day.

You never know where your sharing your story can lead you in life and business...

I tell people who endure this, this was a visitor that came to tell you that you are not on the right track in life and that when you get on the right track your gift will come.’ Well those words floored me!

They were the words my heart longed to hear. I thought back to when I lost my twins and I realised that the year before I miscarried I was numb, numb to feeling anything due to PTSD and when I lost them I woke up again, I began to feel, I cried tears for them, I cried tears for the year I had lost before losing them but most importantly I began to feel again

I wrote a blog about it as I was writing for Building Beautiful Bonds at the time but that wasn’t enough and so when I stumbled across NanoWrimo program two days before it began in 2010 I knew that I had to accept the challenge to write a 50000 word novel in 30 days.

So for 30 days I wrote 1667 words a day on a novel I called The Visitor: a magical understanding of uncertainty. This novel spewed out of me, I don’t know where the story came from all I know is that it flowed out on to the page and for a girl who was not good at English at school there was no one more amazed than me.

The important aspects of my sharing this story with you is because not only did it help me to heal and connect with others it was also a catalyst into my life purpose of helping people share their stories with the world and it was the first step of me founding my publishing empire.

You never know where your sharing your story can lead you in life and business, it will take courage and dedication but I promise you will not only heal yourself, you will help others heal too.

Karen Mc Dermott Multi award-winning publisher, author and advanced Law of Attraction practitioner, Karen McDermott, is a soughtafter publisher, author and speaker who shares her knowledge and wisdom on building publishing empires, establishing yourself as a successful author-publisher and book writing.

Having built a highly successful publishing business from scratch, signing major authors, writing over 20 books and establishing her own credible brand in the market, Karen has developed strategies and techniques based on tapping into the power of knowing to create your dreams. Karen is a gifted teacher who inspires others to make magic happen in their lives through utilising her power of knowing strategies. She mentors multiple new authors through her Everything Publishing Academy.

After working with Karen, you’ll walk away with essential tools and knowhow to write and sell your book, get published or build your own successful publishing business, all in your own way.

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Recognising

Emotional Healing in Conventional Therapy THE FIRST TIME I SAW THE CRACKS IN THE HEALTH SYSTEM WAS WHEN A PATIENT WHO WAS TRAPPED IN AN ABUSIVE MARRIAGE, COULDN’T HEAL HER NECK PAIN THROUGH MAINSTREAM MEDICAL THERAPY.

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wenty years ago, before I left the world of conventional physiotherapy to work as a Medical Intuitive, I worked in the orthopaedic outpatient department of a state hospital. I saw patients with all kinds of musculoskeletal conditions. I treated them, and they usually improved with the work we did together. However, there were a few whose symptoms wouldn’t budge, no matter what I tried.

One patient stands out in my memory to this day. She was a quiet, softly spoken lady in her early 40s. Her neck pain and restriction were the worst I’d seen. Her doctor had decided that physiotherapy was her only way forward. When I placed my hands on her neck and shoulders she started to relax and open up about her life.

A mother of four children, her teenage son was mentally and physically disabled. The load on her body as the main carer for her son, was massive. She had to lift him many times a day for toileting and dressing. All this, and she had three younger children to care for. “My husband goes to work. So it falls to me,” she almost whispered. Her neck pain was so extreme that I asked if he could help out with their son for a week to give her neck a chance to recover.

“No,” she looked down, wringing her hands in her lap. “He gets angry with my son, with me, if I’m not taking care of everything. It’s just better if I do it all myself.” She looked up at me pleadingly, and what I saw in her eyes was fear.

In an instant, I had the clear impression her home-life was a violent one, with a husband who lashed out in anger. She felt trapped.

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belief of her own lack of self-worth.

Unable to communicate her needs to her partner or others out of fear.

The neck is flexible. It enables us to see alternative pathways for our life.

It supports our ability to express our needs and individuality. It’s where the plan we made for our life meets the plan the Universe has in store for us.

When we feel like there’s no way out, our neck or throat can suffer. We feel suffocated by life. Our choices and beliefs hold weight in our physiology.

So, when we stay in a situation that isn’t serving us out of fear, our body tries every way it can to let us know we need to make a new choice. The body speaks to us in symptoms.

I could see in the sad, scared eyes of this beautiful soul that she felt trapped in an abusive marriage. I knew with every fibre of my being that even though I could offer her some relief for her neck pain with physiotherapy, she would never be free of it until she made a new choice for her life. But who was supporting her with this?

Who was looking at the real reasons her severe neck pain had shown up for her?

This was the moment I first started to see the cracks in the health system. No

So, when we stay in a situation that isn’t serving us out of fear, our body tries every way it can to let us know we need to make a new choice.

one was looking at the bigger picture, the soul picture, of a client. They were being treated like simple anatomical beings of muscle, bone, fluids and organs. When, in truth, we are not just the sum of our anatomical parts.

We are so much more beautifully and intricately constructed than that.

It’s time we looked at the whole person. My journey from a conventional health professional to Medical Intuitive followed a long and winding road. But it started the day I looked into that lady’s eyes.

Emma Turton Emma Turton is a leading international Medical Intuitive and founder and director of Medical Intuition School.

A rare combination of both healthscience nerd and intuitive bad-ass, she sinks her teeth into the place where medicine and metaphysics meet. Emma uses her powerful intuitive eye to see inside people, and guides them to heal from within using Medical Intuition as a compass for life and health.

An international #1 bestselling author and award-winning university lecturer with 20+ years of clinical experience as a physiotherapist and nutrition coach under her belt, Emma also teaches a world-class Medical Intuition Practitioner Training course that is set to change the global paradigm for health and spirituality.

Book a chat with Emma to map out your path to using Medical Intuition in your own life here: http://bit.ly/ MedicalIntuitionMap Or visit https://emmaturton.com.au to download her free ebook: What To Do When You’re Craving Dessert

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