issue 13 - Taking The Leap To Take The Lead
From Fear to Fruition
Trust The
Path
By Ashley Klimecki
By Pixie Rose
Kerri Hollingsworth Take the leap with
A High Achievers Body and
Self Care by Monica Alfing
Rest
isn’t lazy By Louise East
10 Top Tips to being a Successful
Start-Up Mumpreneur By Nikki Lane
7 Tips For Building Your Brand For Media Authority By Neferteri Plessy
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FROM FEAR TO FRUITION Ashley Klimecki
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TAKE THE LEAP WITH KERRI HOLLINGSWORTH
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FROM NEGATIVE TO POSITIVE: HOW TO GAIN CONTROL OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND BE HAPPY Sharon Westin
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10 TOP TIPS TO BEING A SUCCESSFUL START-UP MUMPRENEUR By Nikki Lane 4
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MONICA ALFING
September 2021, Issue 13 - Taking The Leap To Take The Lead CEO: Tammie Pike Creative Director: Naida Nunez Editor: Mel Lawrence Design: Nebojsa Dolovacki On the cover: Kerri Hollingsworth Photography: Bill Bates
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A HIGH ACHIEVERS BODY AND SELFCARE
Contributors: Monica Alfing Nyree Johnson Neferteri Plessy Sharon Westin Pixie Rose Emma Money Anissa Papadakos Ashley Klimecki Louise East Nattie Kate Mason Karen Humphries Nikki Lane Brigid Holder
By Monica Alfing
20 EVERYDAY MUM RELEASES FIRST CHILDREN’S BOOK ABOUT FEAR AFTER MIRACULOUS SHIFT IN SON’S SLEEP PATTERN
29 PIXIE ROSE THE INCARNATED FAIRY ON A MISSION
22 HOW TO ACHIEVE GOALS WHILST STILL BEING A MUM A MORE FEMININE WAY (PERSONALLY AND PROFESSIONALLY)
32 PARENTHOOD
By Nyree Johnson
24 KAREN HUMPHRIES THE “CHANGE” FACILITATOR 26 TRAUMA TREASURE
30 TRUST THE PATH By Pixie Rose
By Anissa Papadakos
34 BRIGID HOLDER 36 IT’S TIME TO LOOK AFTER YOU! By Nattie Kate Mason
38 REST ISN’T LAZY By Louise East
By Karen Humphries
40 EMMAH MONEY 27 7 TIPS FOR BUILDING YOUR BRAND FOR MEDIA 42 THE STARTUP CHECKLIST AUTHORITY By Neferteri Plessy
By Naida Nuñez
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Letter from the Editor
HELLO BEAUTIFUL, IT SEEMS SO MUCH LONGER THAN THREE MONTHS SINCE I LAST WROTE TO YOU AND I HAVE TO SAY SO MUCH HAS GONE ON IN BETWEEN. 6
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t is with some sadness that I share with you that this will be the last Mumpreneur Movement Magazine for this year and who knows, possibly forever unless the right woman comes along to continue with this wonderful magazine.
Empowered Publishing and Pike’s Waste Water & Solar Cleaning. I am very excited about what the future holds for us and see how we can implement everything we have learned over the last few years into these businesses.
This will help you to take the next step, regardless of how small or big that step is. Sometimes you will need to rest, go within before you are ready to continue and that is ok. You will get to the point where you move through that fear with more ease.
We have been going since early 2019 and I am so grateful for every woman who shared their story within its pages as well as for those who read them. You all are magnificent beings who I am so very thankful for. I have grown immensely personally and professionally because of what I experienced with running a magazine and I know these skills are priceless.
Which leads me to this month’s issue, taking the leap to take the lead. Whether it’s taking the leap and following a dream, or something you know is right for you, you will experience fear, it’s just part of the process. Fear is a funny thing; when we are fearful, we don’t do things we know we should and do things we never thought we would.
You will grow in confidence and self-belief. It will give you a position of authority whether in your family, community or business; you will be showing and leading the way.
The reason for closing the MMM is that I have other things that are taking priority and have learnt along the way of being a Mumpreneur is not to try and do too many things because it’s a sure fire way to experience burnout. I also need time for me, to focus on my inner world and what I need and right now it’s more time and freedom. I would like to say a massive thankyou to my right hand woman Nadia, who has been with me for a few years now. She is a permanent part of life and businesses. She will be heading up some projects in our other businesses including
This simple yet powerful question has helped me when I get stuck in fear: “What would I do right now if I wasn’t fearful about {insert fear}? And then let myself answer it honestly. See what unfolds.
Whichever way you choose, if it feels good give it a go. This is your one life, be courageous to live it like you mean it. Until next time, Much love, Tam x
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From Fear to Fruition By Ashley Klimecki
WHAT IS FEAR AND HOW DOES IT MANIFEST WITHIN A BUSINESS SETTING? FEAR IS A RESPONSE ACTIVATED BY A PERCEIVED PERIL; EITHER INVOLVING A RISK OF IMMINENT DANGER, A THREAT TO SECURITY, OR AN OVERWHELMING CONCERN FOR A FUTURE EVENT.
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ithin the business world, these threats are more likely to be psychological rather than physical. There’s no denying that fear can be helpful in certain situations and indeed help us in times of danger. However, when it comes to business, how you react can determine your success. Key triggers of fear include fear of failure, fear of risks, fear of financial problems, and fear of the unknown. We are often hesitant to try something new. Why? Well, we’re creatures of habit and routine allows us to experience a sense of control and predictability. Therefore, such changes force us out of our comfort
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zone and into a realm of risk and uncertainty. The key lies in learning to avoid self-sabotaging your business with negative thoughts that often originate from a fear of failure. If you want to succeed, you must be willing to experience failure along the way, as fear and success often exist alongside each other. An element of fear will always exist, however, it’s important to work
on reducing the grip it has on your life and decisions. The remedy for fear is a strong self-belief, as well as establishing strategies to help push you into action, remembering to focus on the very next step. Not all of the upcoming decisions, but that immediate one that needs to be considered above all others. Each step you take will push you that bit closer to your overall vision.
Do one thing every day that scares you. ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something. MORIHEI UESHIBA
• You don’t have to be an expert from the beginning, we’re all on a journey of lifelong learning. • Remember that we have all failed at some stage and experiencing that pain helps us to truly appreciate the exhilarating highs of success. • Learn from your mistakes- allow them to inform future planning. • Try not to focus on any inadequacies and instead build yourself up as you appreciate your proficiency. • Create a business plan complete with goals. A clear vision helps to reduce those feelings of insecurity and uncertainty. • Minimise risks by weighing up the pros and cons of each key step. • Be inspired by successful entrepreneurs.
Over time, I have noticed that as those self-doubts start to creep in, I’m moments from celebrating a big win. I try to be mindful of this cycle and push beyond the fears, forcing myself to focus on the goals ahead. I strongly believe these lessons arose to lead me to this very moment, so I look to the future with overwhelming excitement.
WILL YOU CHOOSE TO PUSH PAST THOSE FEARS AND PURSUE A POSITIVE PATHWAY THROUGHOUT YOUR BUSINESS JOURNEY? Photos by: Ginger + Wild Photography
Tips to overcome fear in business:
Ashley Klimecki Ashley Klimecki is a Freelance Writer and Founder of Stardust Publishing, as well as part owner and Business Manager of Flowright Gutter and Roofing. She is based in the Yarra Valley and is married with four young children. She has a background in Education, Marketing and facilitating various networking groups. She remains passionate about family, travel, nature and writing.
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FROM NEGATIVE TO POSITIVE: HOW TO GAIN CONTROL OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND BE HAPPY
By Sharon Westin
HAVE YOU NOTICED THAT SOME PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS HAPPY AND THINK, ‘SURELY THEY CAN’T BE HAPPY ALL THE TIME’? LIKELY, THEY AREN’T.
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t our core, we are emotional creatures, and sometimes the darkness seeps in. The difference is that the ‘happy’ people use strategies to flip the script and focus on the positive rather than the negative. For the first 40 years of my life, a negative mindset was burying me. Living through various traumas and growing up in a negative home, I never realised that I had the power within me to change how I dealt with life’s ups and downs. It wasn’t until I started talking about my past struggles that my mind began to clear, and I could see a way out. I began by researching various methods and have now built a solid toolbox to help me when I have a low moment. When a thought is consistently negative or positive, your life mirrors that belief. Thoughts manifest into reality. With that in mind, the tips below, when followed routinely, can improve your outlook and life. Here are my top 5 tips to go from negative to positive:
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BREATHE: Breath is our first medicine. Breathing deeply into your abdomen will help relieve your immediate stress. Deep breathing
calms the body’s nervous system by sending extra oxygen to the brain, easing physical symptoms.
Smiling has a physiological effect on your brain, which will then cause the release of hormones such as serotonin and endorphins. SMILE: It sounds simple, right? I do this a lot in the car when I feel my resting bitch face is on point. Mostly though, when I am feeling down, I force myself to smile. Smiling has a physiological effect on your brain, which will then cause the release of hormones such as serotonin and endorphins. These hormones have benefits such as pain relief and can act as the body’s natural antidepressant. CREATE: You don’t have to be an artist to create. The process of creating, whether it be drawing, painting, or simply doodling, can put you in a state of flow (similar to meditation), which can aid in productivity and calmness. MEDITATE: Like creativity, you don’t need to be a guru to meditate, and you don’t need to meditate in the traditional sense. Find something that allows you to free your mind from thought, such as exercise, gardening or painting. I enjoy a 15-30 minute guided meditation that takes my body through the process of relaxation. LISTEN: We all have songs that we love to move to. Put together a playlist of your favourite, upbeat songs and get singing. So good for the soul! Dance like no one is
watching, get the blood pumping and laugh. Remember, consistency is vital in making any changes in your life. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you miss a day here or there, but try your best, knowing that is good enough!
Sharon Westin Sharon is a graphic designer, art teacher, retreat owner and author of Unmasking the Past. She lives in Melbourne, Australia with her two teen boys and an adorable Maltese-Shih Tzu, Buddy. Sharon works out of her home studio and has successfully run Sharon Westin Graphic Design since 2011; Art Classes Australia since 2019; and Artfulness Retreats since 2020. She’s a life-long creative who hustles to get sh*t done to build the life she desires. Recently, Sharon has found a passion for helping others get back to their creative self. Writing her first book was the next exciting stage of her life, and she already has ideas for a second.
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Kerri Hollingsworth Take the leap with
MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO INTERVIEW AN AMAZING ARTIST FROM MELBOURNE, KERRI HOLLINGSWORTH OF ANTIQUATE.
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e’ve seen a lot of busy women, mostly mums, who claim to love what they’re doing, but look overworked and stressed out. While that is most definitely acceptable, speaking with Kerri was refreshing. You see in her a woman full of passion and love for what she does even with the juggling of kids as well as life’s usual demands. No matter how busy she is, she continues to glow. From a carefree, shopaholic Qantas International flight attendant to a thriving upholstery artist enjoying every second doing what she loves, Kerri found her true purpose.
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Kerri’s change of lifestyle was inspired by a friend of hers who opened her eyes to how much the world is in need of healing. She was inspired to look at herself and the effects of even the littlest of things that many don’t know could harm our environment. Even down to an everyday household item such as a little plastic toothbrush. 30 million toothbrushes are thrown out in Australia every year. With an average toothbrush weighing in at 20g, that’s equivalent to 600,000kg of plastics. [1] Having the Upholstery Art idea in mind, Kerri took a workshop to learn the basics of weaving to work
out how to utilise her fabric offcuts, and from that, equipped with more knowledge and skills, she started her own business which blossomed into something more fulfilling, tangible, and at the same time lucrative. Kerri loved flying but she felt a pull to leave her comfort zone, much like a tap on the shoulder, and knew that she should make that change. Like many, like most of us who have gone through big shifts and transitions in life, Kerri recognised that it was time to create a change within her life that would positively impact the planet and she took the leap and did something about it. It wasn’t an easy decision and tears were shed as she let a big part of her life go; something
The root of being is being creative
that no longer served her. A career that was no longer fulfilling.
with her children at the same time. After all, she’s a mum first.
Deep down, she knew she was capable of more. “Give yourself permission to step out of that rule book,” she said. Since then, she didn’t want to go back the other way.
She reinvented her standard upholstery business into a soul fulfilling craft which was now in line with her values, and her ‘Upholstery Art’ has since taken on even greater meaning. The initial goal was to lessen landfill by recycling her textile waste into the upholstered furniture, but now she has seen her art aid in reminding people to slow down, enjoy stillness and allow your mind to wander. Following the textile lines in her work is like looking out into nature with its textures, colours and wonderment. It’s not only upholstered furniture that adorns her art - she also makes framed fibre wall art and fibre art cushions for clients, as well as nature wreaths and head garlands for creative play with her daughter Betty. With the love and support from her family, she has become unstoppable.
She doesn’t see what she’s doing as a business, she sees it as an extension of herself. Work became her metime, an outlet for her creativity that refuels her. She’s able to do something that she loves, and be
Kerri stepped out of her comfort zone. It was a scary time to take the leap of faith. She faced her fears of feeling not being good enough, like she was going in the wrong direction, or even when she felt things were not going to plan. However, she kept going and is reaping the rewards of not giving up. Now, Kerri has opportunities coming to her that she never knew could be a possibility for her to experience. Kerri came to this realisation that things won’t flow naturally if we try to control it. The same way Mothering won’t come naturally. “The root of being is being creative,” she said. She has come to realise just how creative she was as well as resourceful since starting her business. MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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There’s so much magic that we can create within our own lives, if only we are willing to have an open heart and mind as well as continuing to learn and grow in mind, body and spirit.
One decision changed her life completely and for the better. Antiquate became her own unique interpretation of ‘traditional upholstery meets fibre art’. Using her upholstery fabric offcuts with natural and recycled textiles, she’s created soul-nourishing artisan armchairs and more! Embracing the art of slow craft(wo)manship, each handcrafted armchair tells a story and ignites wonder. There’s so much magic that we can create within our own lives, if only we are willing to have an open heart and mind as well as continuing to learn and grow in mind, body and spirit. We have to be brave enough to take the leap of faith to do something much more helpful to our earth and for our future generations as well as it is fulfilling for our soul. Kerri is another empowered Mumpreneur who followed her calling and made it happen; a mum in business creating more pieces of art to add more beauty and positivity during these uncertain times. 14
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Reference: [1] Kimberley Echo - Brush up on recycling https://www.kimberleyecho.com.au/news/the-kimberley-echo/brush-up-on-recycling-ng-b881551281z
10 Top Tips to being a Successful Start-Up Mumpreneur
up. Don’t let these days ruin you. Know they are normal. Be kind to yourself on those days but don’t let it linger. Put your disappointment, sadness (or whatever emotion it is) to bed at the end of that day and wake up renewed and ready to go again the next day.
By Nikki Lane THIS YEAR I STARTED DOWN THE ROAD OF A START-UP BUSINESS OWNER FOR THE 5TH TIME!!! YES, CRAZY I KNOW... BUT THIS TIME IT’S DIFFERENT. THIS TIME I’M DRAWING FROM ALL MY PAST SUCCESSES, FAILURES AND EXPERIENCES AND FINDING THE JOURNEY IS A LOT SMOOTHER AND EASIER.
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ne of the biggest differences for me this time round is that I’m actually passionate about my business, not just doing something I thought I “should” do. Which is, in fact, the whole message of my latest business… bringing self-awareness to women who look at their lives and think “how on earth did I end up here?”. This self-awareness is delivered via characters (or alter egos) who help support you in different areas of your life, so I thought it would be cool to use the Change Journey characters to provide you with my top 10 tips to being a successful start-up mumpreneur.
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FOCUSED FRAN – Don’t let other people distract you from your goals. You know the ones I mean… the people who tell you they can make you an overnight success if you follow their program – trust me they can’t. Save yourself the money and invest it in things that you believe in and feel right for you.
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TRUTHFUL TINA - Don’t ever make promises on things you can’t deliver. The biggest asset in your business will be customers and suppliers that trust you. So many times we are always hunting for the new clients, when in actual fact, the more you look after your existing ones, the more business they will generate for you. Be truthful and ask for referrals from them, if you need to grow your business.
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BRAVE BRIDGET – When starting a business there are going to be situations that scare the hell out of you, but if it feels right… put on your big girl pants, bring in all the courage you can muster and do it anyway.
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RESILIENT RAMONA – There are going to be days where you want to chuck it all in and give
INTUITIVE INGRID – You know your business better than anyone else. When making decisions go with what feels light, what makes your heart sing, what you know deep down in your gut is the right decision for YOU. Because when you do, it will be the right decision (even if it feels scary to do it). MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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yourself and don’t focus on the mistake, they are a part of growth.
Nikki Lane
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PROUD PEARL – Stop and celebrate your wins each and every time they occur, no matter how small. In a start-up business we are always looking forward at how far we have to go, it can be really disheartening. When you turn around and look back on how far you’ve come, it will help you stay positive and motivated.
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PATIENT POLLY – One of the biggest hurdles in start-ups is impatience. You want things to happen “now”. You want to open your doors and have a long line of customers the very next day. Unfortunately it rarely happens like that. Know that building a business takes time and patience, is one of the most treasured skills you can master.
In 2005 Nikki Lane left her marriage for no other reason than she wasn’t happy. She wasn’t being abused, they didn’t fight, and they didn’t hate each other. She just looked at her life one day and wondered, ‘How on earth did I end up here?’ This wasn’t the life she wanted to live and neither was her husband the person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. She decided that living a mediocre life wasn’t enough for her, so she left.
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ACCEPTING ALICE – One of the hardest things in business is when people turn us down or say “no thanks”. Accepting that not everyone is your client/customer is one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself.
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FORGIVING FIONA – When you stuff up and make a mistake (which you will do) use it as a learning curve. What could you do better next time? How will you not make that same mistake again? And always, always, always forgive
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BALANCED BETTY – Create and find a balance between your kids, your partner, your wellbeing and your business. None is more or less important than the other. With good boundaries and routine you can manage to prioritise all of them. But do NOT put your wellbeing at the bottom of the pile. If your cup is empty you won’t be any good to anyone, your business included. Nikki Lane is the author of The Change Journey: A self-awareness guide for women who are thinking, “how on earth did I end up here?”. Her website www.thechangejourney.com.au offers resources and coaching for anyone looking to embark on their own Change Journey.
Turns out, it was the best decision she ever made and since that time, Nikki has travelled on a Change Journey of self-awareness. A journey that has led her to discover who she is and what she wants from life, which has brought joy and happiness into her world, more than she could have ever imagined. Nikki now shares her experiences and teaches her Change Journey learnings to women from all around the world so that they too can gain selfawareness and choose to live a life they love. These teachings are available via The Change journey book, a set of oracle cards and personalised coaching programs.
Monica Alfing MONICA ALFING IS A GOLD MEDAL WINNER ON FITNESS LEVEL, A INSPIRATIONAL PUBLIC SPEAKER ON MANY WOMEN ORIENTATED FESTIVALS. SHE IS A GOAL ACHIEVING AND BALANCE COACH FOR WOMEN, AND MEDITATION TEACHER.
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he is the creator of Her Amazonian Health and Strength, a holistic business that works with the inner strength of women, to find their purpose, helps them with their biggest goals and dreams in Life, Health and or Business. She is known as a life-changing coach with 100% success rate in her clients in one of her online programs or 1:1 calls as she will be your biggest cheerleader and will dedicate her time and energy to get you exactly where you want to be. Originally dutch and now growing into the Australian lifestyle with her family. She is on her way to publishing her first motherhood book in dutch and creating an English kids book and character as an Amazonian warrior for the empowerment for girls. As a Meditation Teacher, you can find her on Insight Timer, YouTube as Modern Hippie and on festivals and events as she loves to connect with others. is a facilitator of retreats with others like Lisa Messenger and Gabby Bernstein. When she is not training in her fitness, she loves to go for walks, go on little adventures, and when she has time to immerses in self-care, she loves to be the barefoot hippie that she is and paints, listen to old music and be in her own little space. Mumpreneur Movement: How has becoming a mum changed the way you do business?
Monica: You know what. my answer would be, it made it far more fun and rewarding.. And so much more focused. God,.. I love being a mum as I love being an entrepreneur! In the morning I am with my toddler and we always are on these little adventures. It fills my heart.. and then in the afternoon I swap with my hubby in our home office and then I work on my other baby, my business and seeing her grow is something that is just so cool. Mumpreneur Movement: What are some of the challenges you have overcome since starting a business and having children? Monica: What a lot of people don't know, is that in my first year in Motherhood I was at the lowest I have ever been, my spirit and the fire in me was gone, I was sleep-deprived and had major postpartum problems that gave me severe pain on a daily basis. I had trouble walking, sitting and even though I breastfed for 20 months, I had constantly blocked milk ducts or mastitis due to stress.. I didn’t even recognize myself anymore.. and then COVID hit and lost our jobs. and the fear of losing our Visas as immigrants was there,
but weirdly enough it was the best that could happen to me, to us, as it gave me a chance to study again and start a business in a country that was my dream to be living in. And so the challenge was before I started.. after everything became easier, cause I was following my soul-purpose and mostly my entrepreneurial heart. Mumpreneur Movement: What helps you to manage life/ motherhood/business? Monica: My mediation and my little self-care and love moments. As a meditation teacher, I have been practising meditation myself for many years and throughout the stressful moments or days, I do little practices that get me into a good state of mind again. That can be moments of stillness, doing some journaling, grounding work or even going for a short walk and just being outside. Or really put on some good music and start dancing!! Mumpreneur Movement: What is your favourite way to recharge away from work and family? Monica: My favourite way to recharge is to paint, with some ‘60 music on in my own little space, candles surrounding me, and just emptying my head and filling just this special bliss in my spirit. Mumpreneur Movement: What are your goals for the next 3 years? Monica: I love setting goals, but I love achieving them even more and so my dedication to my goals is 200%. The biggest goal I am working towards now is to 1, become a successful motivational speaker for women. 2, I would love to grow my business by doing online programs and coaching more. and 3, Publishing 2 more books while I am travelling the world with my family.
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Body and Selfcare By Monica Alfing AS I AM GETTING READY FOR A RUN, WITH MY SPORTS GEAR ALREADY ON, I WALK TO OUR BEDROOM, PAST THE BATHROOM..WHERE I VISUALIZE MYSELF HAVING A BEAUTIFUL BATH SOON.
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get my shoes, and while I am putting on my last running shoe. Resistance is coming over me.. “Nah.. forget it.. I go for a run..” “I will do a bath later..”the voice of my high achiever says “Will I.. will there really be time for it..?” - My mum voice, as it will be dinner time soon too.. bedtime for my little girl.. cleaning up, etc, etc. The thoughts continue for a while, and so does the discussion in my head. But really, if I start to think about it.. “I am tired, really fucking tired..”
... sometimes it is more than ok to ignore the high achiever in yourself and give your body the love it deserves.
I hate to say this as a professional holistic life and health coach.. but I don’t listen to my body that often.(shock, I just said this out loud!) As I love working out and love, LOVE to exercise.. but I also so love my work and doing fun things with my little girl. The result; I do a lot of things with passion and a huge drive to have it all perfect.. And as the title of this article says it all... I am a High Achiever. I am high in energy and my drive and dedication to success is BIG. Every morning I journal, and every morning I set my intentions and my to-do list.. It works.. And even though I feel ok at the end of the day if I did 90% of that list, but somewhere in my mind this voice comes up, with: what could you have done different to make it 100%...? So to do all of this above, I ignore my body more than I should in her tiredness and self-care, and yes that does feel horrible at certain times.. But the thing I never ever ignore my mind, as this is what keeps me in balance and if my body doesn’t have the energy, my mind will get her through… I think I am just lucky with a strong mind like that. I will thank my parents for that :-D Yup, I am a high achiever.. and so that run that I just mentioned,,.? That just needs to happen!
“But..Wait what is happening.. while I put on my last shoe.. my self-care-mind suddenly takes over and thinks “fuck it..” what does my body really need? ”.. a bath.. a bath and girl you need some rest..” I am shocked as I am ignoring my high achiever’s mind and letting the water flow into the bathtub.. I even get a candle out, a mask and some books.. I mean is this really happening..? And since a long time, I listened to my body.. And while I am writing this, I am so happy to tell you I had that time, that bath and just that time for myself to give my body some love. I know many of you are like me.. and yes, you do ignore your body more than you should or want,.. and yes also, nothing is ok about it. But you know what, it happens.. Especially for the high achievers and busy mums under us. With this, I really hope you take my story as a reminder,.. that sometimes it is more than ok to ignore the high achiever in yourself and give your body the love it deserves.
Monica Alfing Monica Alfing is a Gold Medal Winner on Fitness Level, A inspirational Public Speaker on many Women orientated festivals. She is a Goal Achieving and Balance Coach for Women, and Meditation Teacher She is the creator of Her Amazonian Health and Strength, a holistic business that works with the inner strength of women, to find their purpose, helps them with their biggest goals and dreams in Life, Health and or Business. She is known as a life-changing coach with 100% success rate in her clients in one of her online programs or 1:1 calls as she will be your biggest cheerleader and will dedicate her time and energy to get you exactly where you want to be. Originally dutch and now growing into the Australian lifestyle with her family. She is on her way to publishing her first motherhood book in dutch and creating an English kids book and character as an Amazonian warrior for the empowerment for girls. As a Meditation Teacher, you can find her on Insight Timer, YouTube as Modern Hippie and on festivals and events as she loves to connect with others. is a facilitator of retreats with others like Lisa Messenger and Gabby Bernstein. When she is not training in her fitness, she loves to go for walks, go on little adventures, and when she has time to immerses in self-care, she loves to be the barefoot hippie that she is and paints, listen to old music and be in her own little space.
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Everyday Mum Releases First
Children’s Book About Fear
After Miraculous Shift In Son’s Sleep Pattern TOOWOOMBA, QUEENSLAND. TEGAN MARSCHKE IS AUTHORING HER FIRST CHILDREN’S BOOK “FEAR…..DO AS I SAY AND GO AWAY” ABOUT OVERCOMING FEAR AFTER CREATING THE STORY FOR HER SON AND WITNESSING HIS NIGHTTIME SLEEP ISSUES COMPLETELY DISAPPEAR.
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he loving mother created the simple story about taking back your power against fear after her son was suffering from severe bedtime anxiety, when she noticed the instant and permanent change in his demeanour and behaviour, she realised she needed to turn it into a book to help other parents.
wanted to help him and I had tried everything,” Ms Marschke said.
“I realised the impact fear was having on my son, especially at night time, and it was having a ripple effect on the whole family, I desperately
“I wanted to show my sons that it’s possible to take back our power against fear, so I created a simple story and it worked,” she said.
“Many children experience fear, which is a normal part of childhood, but our children are surrounded by an extraordinary amount at the moment and when it becomes overwhelming it can significantly affect their behaviour, sleep and wellbeing,” she said.
Fear…..do as I say and go away is a simple yet powerful book that talks about the common childhood fears and offers solutions in a way that allows the child to look at the fear through a different perspective, and therefore releasing the fear, permanently. “This simple story teaches children that fear is just an emotion and they have the ability to overcome it by tapping into their untapped superpower - self belief.” Ms Marschke said. Starting out as a single mother who felt worthless, Tegan did a lot of personal development to overcome her own anxiety and self-worth and now she desires to help mothers feel empowered and know their worth. “My mission is to create strategies, resources and tools for mothers to parent effectively with less stress, and to help children overcome obstacles and understand their emotions and therefore create harmonious families.” The Illustrator for the book is the Author’s childhood best friend, Kristy Richardson, owner of Kreate It. A lifelong friendship has now turned into a special collaboration, where these two women show friendship and business amongst empowered women works well.
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into the world in a book, it is healing, cathartic and for women in business, it raises their profile to a whole other level.” she said. Tammie Pike, Founder of Empowered Publishing, the independent Queensland based publisher of Fear…..Do as I say and go away shares the mission of her publishing house which helps women share their stories in solo and multi-author books.
“Our desire is to help everyday women to empower themselves by becoming authors and sharing their extraordinary stories,” Mrs Pike said. “We all have a story to tell, and there’s something extremely powerful in putting our story out
Fear…..do as I say and go away will be published on 25th October 2021 and is already gaining popularity amongst it’s beta readers. See the kickstarter link here for pre-launch details.
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How to achieve
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a more feminine way (personally and professionally) By Nyree Johnson
GOALS AND DREAMS DON’T NEED TO SIT ON THE SIDELINE DURING MOTHERHOOD. MOTHERHOOD IS, FOR SOME, A TRIGGER THAT IGNITES AN IMAGINATION TO CREATE A LIFE DESIRED TO SUIT AN INDIVIDUAL FAMILY UNIT.
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f you’re on a merry-go-round and you want to get off, do it. If your head is messy and you don’t know what you want in life or why you’re here, I urge you to do the work to discover and unpack the answers to your questions. This process is easier than you think. Discovering this comes in many forms, and for me, it’s through reflection on lived experiences, practising gratitude, journaling and living an intentional imbalance; the art of knowing which juggling balls to keep in the air and which ones to drop while always ensuring the glass ones are well taken care of. For many years, my husband and I were living a life we didn’t want
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forever. We had a plan though, we knew it was short-lived, and we knew it was to enable our bigger dreams. The mining lifestyle wasn’t for us, but it provided us with our home while allowing me to work flexibly around young children. It secured our financial stability to enable us to be our own boss, own our own business and be together as a family every night. AKA, the dream. When I used to hear the word ‘goal setting’, particularly in a KPI setting environment in a corporate workplace, I’d generally think, ‘ugh, can’t we just get on with the job, stop the woo-woo, and let’s get to it’. Age is a beautiful thing, and with it comes experience and reflection. There is a reason why with every
dream you have that you share, someone is telling you to set goals and work towards them. It sounds overwhelming, and at the start, it can be. In its most straightforward format, though, dreams and goals can be done in reverse. It’s far more manageable this way. Write out exactly what your dream or goal is. It takes less time than you think and provides enhanced clarity. I love to do this on a whiteboard, but a notebook, scrap of paper or anything really will do, as long as it’s handwritten first. There is a power and energy that comes from setting an intention via the handwritten word.
When we teach ourselves the skills to achieve the goals and dreams we aspire, we can share that with our children.
Once you know what the desired outcome is, outline the steps it’ll take to achieve it. Then from each of those steps, break them down even further. Once you’ve captured every single step it’ll take to achieve your goal, pop it on a realistic timeline. Don’t be fooled, though, into thinking you can get more done than physically possible. Your own life isn’t a race, and you do have a family to raise, fun to have and rest to be had. Timeline the steps to your big goals and dreams in the most practical fashion. Set realistic dates for yourself to complete specific actions and ensure it blends with your existing commitments. My 14-year-old daughter was recently muddled when working towards her peak award in Scouts; the Australian Scout Medallion. There was so
much to do, so many gaps not yet achieved, and uncertainty around if it was even possible in the timeframe left in the section (before turning 15, in other words). Together we took to the whiteboard, set what ‘done’ looked like and then articulated every action it would take to achieve. Then each action was broken down even further so that the steps to enable a successful outcome were in bite-sized pieces and planned according to expected duration and time left to complete. When we teach ourselves the skills to achieve the goals and dreams we aspire, we can share that with our children. Imagine a world full of children empowered to succeed, who know themselves, have the skills and resources within at their disposal, and understand what it takes to dream big and work towards a goal. What a phenomenal world it would be! And you created that!
Nyree Johnson Nyree Johnson is a Small Business Owner, a Writer and an Ambassador for women in business and small business. Nyree also works as a Workforce Planning Advisor for an electricity distributor and is passionately committed to her family and her community through volunteer activities which include, Scout Leader. With an intense focus on empowering those around her, supporting her community, and demonstrating the benefits of diversity and equality, Nyree works to instil and inspire confidence, promote resilience and enable success now and into the future.
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Karen Humphries the “Change” Facilitator KAREN HOLDS PROFESSIONAL QUALIFICATIONS AS A KINESIOLOGY PRACTITIONER, WELLNESS COACH, INTUITIVE MEDITATION FACILITATOR. SHE’S LIVED A LIFE JAM PACKED WITH EXPERIENCES!
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rofessionally, she commenced her career in the field of environmental science, compliance and governance, and spent 25 years working in the waste industry. From this, she learnt that people are complex, unique and we all have our own story. Thanks to some wellbeing and health challenges she redirected her passion for science and learning new things, into the field of complementary and alternative medicine with a side dish of spirituality. You might call it woo woo, but for her the energy systems which drive our lives are her jam. She’s drawn to the wonder of our human experience. Naturally curious; she likes to figure out how and what makes us tick. She is passionate to empower people to migrate through their ‘story’ of life experiences to live their best life and shine their light. Mumpreneur Movement: Why did you start a business? Karen: I started my business based on a calling to help people and be of service. I’ve come to learn that the calling was for me to learn and apply the new skills for myself and then lead by example. Mumpreneur Movement: How has becoming a mum changed the way
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you do business? Karen: After 4 miscarriages and being told I’d never have children, the experience of motherhood is an absolute gift. I used the same determination and mindset to create my business and attract clients as I did to call in my child. My business is like my ‘other’ child and I’ve come to learn through my breast cancer chapter that nurturing and investing in this child’s growth requires balance and that I must parent by example-to myself, my own child and then my clients. What I’ve come to learn in assessing my life after losing a breast is that my dharma is to learn how to love myself through experience, and then teach that to the world. It starts with embodying the self love practices to my child, who will one day mother an entirely new generation herself. What better gift could I share with the world than teaching others how to parent themselves?
Mumpreneur Movement: What are some of the challenges you have overcome since starting a business and having children? Karen: Managing the eternal juggle of getting everything done feels hard when you first start out. I found having a great mentor to support me creating streamlined systems for small action processes that can be easily repeated was golden. I also arranged ‘play dates’ with family and friends in blocks of time and smashed out these small repetitive tasks in blocks e.g. social media posts for a month in advance. The struggle of working school hours is real, and I always worked between drop off and pickup of my child. The challenge is when you come home from after school activities and continue working, you’re missing out on those precious moments of connection. My daughter and I have an understanding. We scheduled ‘dates’ every week to check in and debrief the week. I’m eternally grateful that she does fondly discuss our beautiful shared memories. I negotiated from the start that if I was going to run my own business full time then I would pay for someone to come in and fulfill some of the household duties. My business therefore paid for a weekly visit from a cleaner. I also organised lawns getting mowed, trees getting trimmed and sometimes a week’s worth of meals when I was super busy. Recognising you can’t and shouldn’t try and do it all
It doesn’t matter what it is you do for your dollar, what matters is how you spread your love to the world. yourself is key to you not burning out. Believing in your dream and having a schedule of what you need to do keeps you focussed. Mumpreneur Movement: What helps you to manage life/ motherhood/business? Karen: I have a tribe, a collection of strong women in my business network who I can reach out to when I require support. The facebook group is like a modern yellow pages and I can ask questions or put the call out for recommended services. Where possible I start local to keep the dollars in my community. If I can’t source what I’m looking for I put the call out to the tribe. I’m comforted by the fact that when I engage services here I’m helping feed another family. Mumpreneur Movement: What are your goals for the next 3 years? Karen: I’m about to publish my first book. Obviously I’d like to be able to expand my audience through book sales and launch the associated training program that goes with the book. I’m ready to step up my business in a way that can possibly accommodate a different work space and work with external teams as a change consultant - colleagues would be lovely! There’s at least two more books in me waiting to be told! Mumpreneur Movement: What do you love most about being an author/ (whatever is your main profession/career)? Karen: In my clinical practice I get to hold space for others who are brave enough to confront their ‘stuff’ and choose to change. I am privileged to observe their evolution from frazzled to fabulous as they release their stress.
Mumpreneur Movement: What is a must have that’s in your life right now? Karen: I love this question. I’m just returning to work from my recent breast cancer chapter which took me out of the business for 18 months. A year of oncology treatment and six surgeries together with PTSD from entrapment in a mammogram machine have taught me a lot. I’m back with a whole new pace - slow and balanced. My ‘hour of power’ each morning contains a collection of self love service to myself. I can charge up my gratitude battery in a number of ways like watching the sun rise, journalling, meditation or playing with my puppies (cue gigantic chocolate labradors). I’ve learnt to tune in deeply to my needs in the moment. I now charge up and focus on that for the day ahead. It’s an evolution from the hustle and 100 hour weeks I once worked. I guess the answer really is balance. Good sleep, good food, good water, good family time, good friends and good self devotion to achieve balance. Mumpreneur Movement: Is there anything else that you would like to share? Karen: Everyone is so capable of magnificence and shining their light when they aren’t caught up in the external drama of others. When we slow down enough to love ourselves and truly focus on who we are, and our real purpose in life we shine so so brightly. It doesn’t matter what it is you do for your dollar, what matters is how you spread your love to the world. MUMPRENEUR MOVEMENT |
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Trauma
Treasure I ONCE THOUGHT TRAUMA WAS A DIRTY WORD. LET ME ASSURE YOU TRAUMA ISN’T EASY, ESPECIALLY WITH AN INFLEXIBLE MINDSET THAT IS FEAR-BASED. THERE’S A SCALE OF TRAUMA THAT WE ALL EXPERIENCE ON SOME LEVEL.
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t the most basic level, there is the trauma of the juggle for the busy working mother. There’s the trauma of the hustle of wearing all the hats of the small business operator. Constantly juggling a myriad of tasks that we aren’t always an expert in. There’s the trauma of often being the family balancer for others. This often equates to meeting the key selection criteria for employment as a UN hostage negotiator. Working for yourself gifts you the spectrum of experiences, the roller coaster of highs and lows and hopefully a smile that at the end of the financial year when you’ve been successful. The trauma of a cancer diagnosis is also right up there on the Richter scale of stress because it immediately invokes fear of dying, fear of missing out, and even death of your expectations of how you thought your life would pan out. And then there is the trauma of being entrapped within a dysfunctional mammogram biopsy machine for over an hour with failed pain relief.
Here’s the thing, I found the gift in that experience as well, and have been able to invoke change for us all moving forward. The short version of this horrific story was the mammogram biopsy machine experienced a glitch with me in it. The pain relief provided didn’t work and I was stuck in the machine for over an hour. Not a great experience and please let me assure you that due to my subsequent complaint that should never happen again – for anyone. I wrote my complaint to the imaging facility, as a mini gap analysis report. This enabled the service to easily identify areas that could be rapidly changed like forms and procedures. And it identified opportunities for missing traumainformed care. The gift of my entrapment experience, based on the outcome of my dialogue, correspondence, complaint and mediation is this- all
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Victorian-based breast screening services are now undertaken by trauma-informed trained staff accompanied by corresponding procedures and systems. Trauma-informed training has been implemented not just at my local breast screening service, but every single screen facility across Victoria. Recommendations have been made for this new trauma-informed practice to be rolled out nationally. Healing the post traumatic stress that came with this entrapment gifted me with the realisation that my biggest ally is my inner self. That child that whilst she felt broken, I used my tools to uncover a depth of resilience. Sometimes when we embrace that inner child and step up to be the adult and parent her, to guide her along the path, we connect with our own innate wisdom. We activate our own magic medicine. We become our own healers. This is the treasure of the trauma.
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FOR BUILDING YOUR BRAND FOR MEDIA TIPS AUTHORITY
By: Neferteri Plessy, Elevated Strategist BEING AN ENTREPRENEUR OR BUSINESS OWNER IS MORE THAN JUST CREATING A BRAND, OR QUALITY PRODUCT. ONCE YOU HAVE A BRAND OR PRODUCT, THE QUESTION BECOMES: "HOW DO I SELL IT?"
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Many entrepreneurs understand this, but many don’t quite grasp the vital importance of this concept. It’s understandable, but the hard truth is that marketing is essential. Consistently creating effective marketing that leads to long term and stable business opportunities requires a brand that’s built with media presence at its core. Having successfully worked with various brands over the years and overseen their marketing efforts, I want to share seven tips for building your brand through greater media presence that will help you do just that. Keep these tips in mind and apply them consistently in your business and you will build the kind of media awareness your brand needs to achieve success year after year in any niche:
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Create a Signature Talk or Training – The best brands are those that stand out as offering the solution in their particular niche
or area of expertise. A great way to express your unique expertise is by creating a signature talk or training program that clearly establishes your knowledge or that features the unique power of your products. A signature program is a great way to build media awareness for yourself and your brand. Find that unique product or service that you can offer and be the very best at it.
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If you want your brand to be an industry leader, then your brand needs to reflect the highest level of excellence and integrity.
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you need to act like that’s exactly what you are. Neferteri has spearheaded relationships with major brands such as Starbuck, Anastasia of Beverly Hills, iHeartRadio and others. As a business consultant, model, television producer, motivational speaker and CEO of Elevated Strategist, Neferteri Plessy is known for her marketing and business expertise through her work with a wide range of major firms such as New York Life, Free People, LA Clippers, LA Rams, Anastasia of Beverly Hills and others. Besides her business interests, she is also passionate about the plight of single mothers through her non-profit organization Single Moms Planet which provides needed services to scores of under-resourced single moms and their children. For more information, please visit https:// neferteriplessy.com/pr or follow her on Instagram and Facebook.
Neferteri Plessy Neferteri Plessy is a trailblazer for entrepreneurs, business owners and leaders. A sought-after consultant, coach and motivational speaker. She has trained over 5,000 women into helping them launch online businesses, build digital audiences, gain financial freedom and establish wealth-building strategies. Neferteri has spearheaded relationships with major brands such as Starbucks, Anastasia of Beverly Hills, iHeartRadio.
Pixie Rose
the incarnated Fairy on a mission PIXIE ROSE IS AN INCARNATED FAIRY ON A MISSION TO AWAKEN THE FAE. ‘PIXIE STEPS’ WAS BIRTHED IN 2017, AND SINCE THEN, PIXIE HAS CONNECTED WITH HUNDREDS OF MAGICAL PEOPLE, HELPING THEM TO START LIVING THEIR TRUTH IN ALL THEIR WEIRDNESS AND BEAUTY.
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ixie is a psychic & medium, and a level 2 Quantum Healing Hypnosis practitioner. As well as host of Spiritual AF the podcast, that explores spirituality in this human experience.
Mumpreneur Movement: Why did you start a business? Pixie Rose: Pixie steps started in 2017 as psychic and mediumship readings and since then has expanded to; intuition and meditation teacher, QHHT practitioner, podcast host as well as transformational and activating intuitive guidance. Mumpreneur Movement: How has becoming a mum changed the way you do business? Pixie Rose: I was never interested in my own business until I became a mum. But I love being in control of my working hours and ensuring that I can be present with my kids. I also realize now how precious my time is, so doing something that I truly love and am passionate about is essential! Mumpreneur Movement: What systems, programs or courses that you have implemented do you recommend to others? Why? Pixie Rose: I am addicted to personal and spiritual development so I have done so many programs, read books and have done so many workshops. But the one program that I believe EVERYONE would get something major from would be Landmark. This personal and professional development program in particular helped me gain confidence and clarity in moving forward with my business.
Mumpreneur Movement: What is your favourite part of being a mum and business owner? Pixie Rose: I experience a transformational experience becoming a mother. Becoming a mother for me shattered my ego and woke me up to my true self. Once I was responsible for this amazing little human I knew I couldn’t go back to work I was doing before (which was in mental health). I wanted to be able to support myself and contribute financially but I also wanted to spend my time on things that I am passionate about. Things like consciousness, kindness and connection, therefore the birth of Pixie Steps Mumpreneur Movement: So many women in business have struggled over the last year with COVID-19 what advice do you have for them? Pixie Rose: Rejection is redirection. Focus on what you have control over. There is always so much you can do to improve your situation.
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Trust
The Path By Pixie Rose
WHEN I FIRST LAUNCHED MY BUSINESS, I REMEMBER MY SISTER IN-LAW AT THE TIME SAYING TO ME, “THAT’S BRAVE!” AND I THOUGHT, “IS IT?!”
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was given an ultimatum rather than options. I took this rejection as redirection, and I got a taste of what it was like to work for myself. In the beginning, the time that I put in didn’t equal the money that I got out of my business. But I knew the more I put in, the more I would get out, the more success I could have. I knew that I am the creator of my reality, and when I wanted the business, I received it. And when I wanted the break, I would get a lull in sales. Then, I started to feel a lack of connection, in my business set up. I had my daughter in my second year of my business. Two under two, and I had left my husband. I started to feel isolated and I wanted to feel connected again. I received a message to create a new business, very different to the current online store I had set up. A business that was intuitive, alternative, but so close to my heart. And this SCARED me!
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As the saying goes, the cave that you most fear to enter is the one that holds your greatest treasure. I remember wanting to tell people about my new business I was creating, and I couldn’t find the words. But I KNEW this was my path! Nothing made sense at this point, I had to follow the breadcrumbs until I rediscovered the magic. I didn’t blindly leap. I acknowledged my fears and Ego, and I worked with these parts of myself. I connected deeply to my higher self and I trusted where I was being lead. I took little Pixie Steps until suddenly it all made sense.
Pixie Rose Pixie Rose is an incarnated fairy on a mission to awaken the Fae. ‘Pixie Steps’ was birthed in 2017, and since then, Pixie has connected with hundreds of magical people, helping them to start living their truth in all their weirdness and beauty. Pixie is a psychic & medium, and a level 2 Quantum Healing Hypnosis practitioner. As well as host of Spiritual AF the podcast that explores spirituality in this human experience.
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Parenthood By Anissa Papadakos
PARENTHOOD:― INDISPUTABLY THE HARDEST AND MOST DEMANDING JOB IN THE UNIVERSE. FOR SOME IT CAN BRING THE UTMOST JOY AND HAPPINESS.
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this, there must be something wrong with me”. As a result, the mother loses faith in her own maternal instincts and her strength begins to dwindle. For fathers the physical challenge is to have the stamina to keep providing. To hold up the “fort” while pressures keep building. To “Man-up” emotionally and not show the cracks in their armour. “We are boys made from hard men and we do not break”. “We are strong for everyone”.
The books, entitled ‘The Brochure Lied” and ‘Superdad’, are two short, light-hearted and illustrated selfhelp manuals created to address negative issues such as difficulty breastfeeding, sleep deprivation, depression and anxiety, the pressure to provide, to Man-up, fear and the dreaded spotlight. They were created to reassure all mums and dads (new, young and old), within our community that they possess the strength of Wonder Woman and Superman within. And
to reassure them that the emotional turmoil they are experiencing is NORMAL.
aware of how you are functioning and asking for help when you are struggling.
These books remind mums and dads within our community who are suffering in silence, that they are not alone and that being strong is being
By speaking up and asking for help, you are EMPOWERING yourself and changing the stigma within our community.
Anissa Papadakos Anissa Papadakos is an author and artist based in Melbourne, Australia. She lives with her husband and two cheeky children. Her passion is to spread awareness in regards to pre and postnatal depression and anxiety via two books entitled:― The Brochure Lied and Superdad. Due to the current challenges in the world, Anissa spreads positivity via Monday Meme Makeover. A weekly post encouraging people to shift their look upon life and the negativity surrounding them. Her biggest belief is that laughter is the BEST drug of choice and a great way to laugh is to read her comic strip - Chop Suey Mama.
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BRIGID HOLDER IS THE CEO IF THE ART OF GRACE PUBLISHING HOUSE, ON A MISSION TO SHARE THE STORIES OF WOMEN INTERNATIONALLY GRANTING PERMISSION FOR OTHERS TO CHANGE THEIR LIVES.
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uring her successful senior management roles in the corporate world, Brigid and her husband launched their own traditional business that is today a thriving 17 year-old organisation where she holds the role of Company Director. As an USA TODAY and international best-selling author Brigid found the power of storytelling and is passionate to share and showcase this for other women. Brigid operates both businesses alongside her husband and their two teenage boys from a small rural town in Australia. The publishing house has 4 international best selling books within 7 months of launching “Through writing we are creatively releasing past trauma and in doing so, we allow others the permission to do the same.” Brigid Holder Mumpreneur Movement: Why did you start a business? Brigid: I have searched for my passion for the past 20 years and finding publishing has allowed me to not work - but to live my passion of showcasing and sharing women’s stories. I feel so lucky to have found it, even at 47 I never stopped searching. Mumpreneur Movement: How has becoming a mum changed the way you do business? Brigid: I worked smarter and around. I created flexibility in both my jobs and by creating our businesses. Mumpreneur Movement: What are some of the challenges you have overcome since starting a business and having children? Brigid: Time! Overcommitting! Boundaries.
Mumpreneur Movement: What is your favourite part of being a mum and business owner? Brigid: The unconditional love is the best part of being a mum and owning a business allows flexibility around being a mum, wearing all the hats we wear as women! Mumpreneur Movement: So many women in business have struggled over the last year with COVID-19 what advice do you have for them? Brigid: Keep a positive mindset, focus on your goals and ensure you get your exercise and nutrition right and then you will create ease and grace around it... Language to yourself and others is important, listen to your intuition and trust yourself and your choices at this time. Mumpreneur Movement: What is your #1 fear in life/motherhood/business? Brigid: I don’t have any fear in business. Failure is learning. I fear I might muck up my boys’ futures, for lack of finding motherhood easy! Mumpreneur Movement: What do you love most about being an author/ (whatever is your main profession/career)? Brigid: I love sharing women’s stories, I love sharing my story - the ripple effect is endless, we have no idea how far or wide our story can reach and impact a life... I love that books leave a legacy in this world forever. Mumpreneur Movement: What is a piece of advice that you have been given that has served you well in life, love or business? Brigid: If they think you are the smartest person in the room, believe them and go be that person!
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It’s time to look after you!
By Nattie Kate Mason
Photography by HK Photography Perth MENTAL ILLNESS DOESN’T DISCRIMINATE. IT CAN AFFECT ANYONE AND STRIKE AT ANY TIME. 1 IN 5 PEOPLE REPORT EXPERIENCING A MENTAL ILLNESS OR PERIOD OF MENTAL UNWELLNESS, WITH FEMALES REPORTING THE HIGHEST INCIDENCE.
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ur mental health affects every aspect of our lives. It influences our choices, relationships, how we view our self-worth, and the way we feel, think and behave.
A few years ago, I was going through a particularly hard time in my life and my mental health severely declined. Day-to-day life felt almost impossible. It was then that I realized I needed to choose to fight for myself to regain my mental health. It wasn’t easy, it took great inner-strength and support from my family. But for my daughter, my husband and most importantly for me, I needed to make drastic life changes so that I could be the best mum and person that I
could be. I made my own mental and physical health a priority. It was after re-discovering my passion for writing that I began to see the hope and joy in life again. There is a lot of pressure to be the perfect working mum and to juggle family life effortlessly. But sometimes life isn’t perfect and the best thing we can do for our family, is to care for ourselves. What started as a few words on a page, quickly turned into my first novel. My thoughts and feelings laid bare for the world to read, intertwined amongst a fantasy world of my own making. Escapism at its finest. I often say to people that I wrote my first book to heal my heart, the second book to rediscover myself
and my third book was a labor of love for my newly rediscovered passion. These days whilst I still struggle with anxiety at times, I have learnt ways to adapt and manage my symptoms. When early warning signs pop up and I find myself unable to cope, I have learnt to take a step back, re-group and refocus before diving back into life.
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Nattie Kate Mason The Mental Health Foundation in the UK recommends the following steps to look after your mental health: • Talk about it! • Exercise regularly. • Eat a healthy balanced diet. • Limit your alcohol intake. • Stay in touch with your friends and family. Don’t isolate yourself. • Reach out for help. Don’t be afraid to ask for family or professional help. While life seems long, each day is precious, and it is the little moments that make life worth living. So,
• Take a break. Allow yourself time to recharge and refocus. • Do something that brings you joy. • Learn to love yourself. Be proud of who you are and remember that you are special. • Care for others. Caring for others helps to improve our bonds with those that are important to us. Even caring for a pet can improve your mental wellbeing. look after yourself Mums! You are important! Your mental health matters and so do you.
REFERENCES: Department of Health. (2021). About Mental Health. Australian Government Department of Health. Retrieved 27/7/21 from https://www.health.gov.au/health-topics/mental-health-and-suicideprevention/about-mental-health Mental Health Foundation. (2021). How to look after your mental health. Mental Health Foundation United Kingdom. Retrieved 27/7/21 from https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/ publications/how-to-mental-health Australian Institute of Health and Welfare. (2020). Mental Health Snapshot. Australian Institute of Health and Welfare. Retrieved 27/7/21 from https://www.aihw.gov.au/reports/australias-health/ mental-health
Nattie Kate Mason is a proud mum, wife and fantasy author based in Western Australia. As a story-teller, Nattie strives to create complex, relatable characters and unique fantasy worlds throughout the pages of her books. Nattie has a background working in mental health nursing and takes pride in including mental health awareness threads throughout her young adult fantasy novels. Nature and reading help to inspire Nattie’s creative side, so you will often find her reading a good book in the sunshine, enjoying the peace and quiet, whilst drinking endless amounts of tea. Nattie’s Young Adult Fantasy series - The Crowning, has been featured in Amazon Best Sellers Top 100 lists for categories: ‘Epic Fantasy’ and ‘Values and Virtues’. Her debut New Adult Fantasy novel: The Goddess of Blood and Bone, released in August, 2021.
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Rest isn’t lazy By Louise East
FOR SO LONG I FELT MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY AGITATED IF I TRIED TO RELAX. EVEN WATCHING TV WITHOUT MULTITASKING WAS UNCOMFORTABLE. EVERY SPARE MOMENT WAS AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE PRODUCTIVE, HARDWORKING AND TO ACHIEVE THINGS.
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e’re taught from a young age that this is what successful people do. Personally, I looked to my father who worked tirelessly, from early in the morning to late at night, mostly 7 days a week. I regarded him as the smartest and hardest working person I knew. If only I could be like him. I got my wish but it didn’t feel as good as I thought it would. While I was achieving things and earning compliments for my high capacity and driven nature, I was exhausted, stressed and prone to regular emotional collapses due to overwhelm. I’ve come to realise that many women are experiencing this. Just as I was, they are bound to their ever growing to-do lists and constant drive to make the most of every moment. To prove that they used them wisely. No resting or taking it easy for fear of not doing enough, or perhaps, not being enough. Adding motherhood to the mix amplifies this effect. In modern western society, mothers are expected to be the primary carers for
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their children, while also financially contributing to the household. In the majority of households, mothers are still taking on the bulk of domestic duties. The idealised (yet unrealistic) good mother does this all herself, putting everyone else’s needs first and never needs a break because it’s so fulfilling and she’s full of energy. In this context, rest is considered lazy, selfish, weak or evidence that you’re not doing a good enough job. This is why so many women feel guilty for taking a break. But what if this wasn’t true?
It takes a lot of strength and courage to take the rest you need in an achievement and action driven society.
Rest is productive and can help us achieve our goals. It helps us unwind the stress we feel and replenish the energy we expend throughout each day. It improves our mental clarity and resilience and helps us make decisions, focus, solve problems, regulate our emotions and be creative. Rest prevents burnout and can improve our health. It takes a lot of strength and courage to take the rest you need in an achievement and action driven society. It also takes courage to sit with the discomfort of resting until it becomes a more natural thing for you to do.
Louise East Louise is a certified Mindset and Life Coach for mums and Matrescence Facilitator. She works with overwhelmed mums who are ready to release guilt and perfectionism and live calmer, more intentional lives.
A new way to look at rest Rest isn’t just sleep. There are many ways you can unwind stress and replenish your energy. Here are some ideas to experiment with: • Stretch • Go for a gentle walk • Take a break from screens • Listen to music mindfully • Spend time with people who refresh you • Authentically express your feelings to a trusted person or in a journal • Reduce sensory input, such as noise or light • Read something motivating or enjoyable • Intentionally release the tension in your body • Meditate • Enjoy the arts • Do something you enjoy just for pleasure
Louise loves to help mums rewrite the beliefs that create perfectionistic thinking and behaviours, uncover their truth, strength, and grace, and rediscover themselves so they can live with more intention, freedom, ease, confidence, and self-love. She supports mums in understanding their unique matrescence journey (the complete transformation of a woman that commences when she becomes a mother) and how their mothering experience is profoundly impacted by the society and culture they live within. With nearly 20 years of experience in adult learning and a Masters in Adult Education, Louise also loves to teach through her blog, speaking engagements, courses, and workshops. Louise is mum to a little boy and step mum to 3 young adults. Photography: Francois W
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2020 AUSTRALIAN OF THE YEAR SA LOCAL HERO, GLOBAL CYSTIC ADVOCATE, AUTHOR, EMPOWERMENT SPEAKER, CYSTIC FIBROSIS FIGHTER AND A MOTHER OF TWO.
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mmah Money wanted to create a platform to raise awareness for Cystic Fibrosis and find “gaps” in the community and work out how to fill those to implement positive change.
Mumpreneur Movement: How have you been able to grow your business to what it is today?
As her social media platform grows, this has broadened her audience to beyond the CF Community.
Making sure I am authentic to my brand and my community is a key component as I remain relatable to others and discuss/share what people are interested in.
Her motivational speaking presentations have a key focus on resilience, disability and diversity which allow her to cover a range of relatable topics to many. Providing inspiration, which keeps her motivated to positively impact the community. Being a woman of influence to other girls/women has allowed her to use her goals and turn them into business ventures to help many. She is passionate in creating positive change and bringing the best out of others, through different channels of her business, this allows her to do this. Here are some really valuable tips from her: Mumpreneur Movement: What are some of the challenges you have overcome since starting a business and having children? Emmah: You have to be flexible and adapt to change.
Emmah: Being relatable to my audience is important.
To ensure this happens, I need to remain clear on my goals and the key messages I am relaying to others. For example, through having an invisible illness I need to show this does not define me, so I show the behind the scenes management of my illness which can be quite demanding but remaining positive with this. Keeping this relatable to my audience not only keeps them engaged but adds to my overall message of resilience and positivity. I also keep it simple for myself. Remember by What, Who and Why!! Stay focused. Mumpreneur Movement: How many hours do you work on your business personally each week? Emmah: Every day!!!
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The StartUp
Checklist By Naida Nuñez
IT’S HAPPENING! AFTER CAREFUL CONSIDERATION AND SOUL-SEARCHING, YOU ARE NOW READY TO TAKE THE LEAP. YOU TRUST IN YOURSELF AND YOUR ABILITIES, AND THAT’S THE ALL-IMPORTANT BEGINNING.
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ou’ve got this brilliant idea in mind. You’ve been daydreaming about it. It may be the next BIG thing. How does one turn these ideas and intentions into an actual business? When I first started working from home, I was told that we all just need a plan and go from there. But to be honest, that is like taking a leap into the unknown with a blindfold on. Back to you. Now that you’ve chosen to take the leap, deciding your first step is often the trickiest part. You can see yourself happy and successful in this new business idea, but the space between that and your current situation looks a bit blank at the moment. So, where exactly does one begin? Great question. See, you’re already thinking like an entrepreneur! So, let’s start with 3 of most important must-haves in starting a business:
Finances Ignorance is bliss… except when it involves your finances. Most businesses require that you have the correct tools, gadgets, and equipment to run your business, man-power, etc. So, YES, you’ll need funds. Also, ensure that you set concrete goals for exactly how much you wish to earn and save, as well as how much expenses you have per month in total. 42
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Suitability Starting and running a business requires specific skills so it’s essential that you identify the skills that you have, and also the ones you need to improve or learn. Ask yourself if you have the right skills, knowledge and mindset to run your own business. It’s also best to settle on a business that supports your passion, skills and interests. But it’s also important that you assess whether your passion has a profit center before you start that business.
Time We’ve all had those days where we ask ourselves ‘Where did the time go? I’ve got deadlines approaching!’
This happened to me plenty of times when I first started. I’m sure other mums in business can relate. If you are not treating your business just like the investment it should be, start to think about budgeting your time in the same way you budget your cash. “How can I manage my time better?” is a question that crops up with alarming regularity. So, let me throw in this one tip that actually worked for me: PLAN AHEAD.
I like this quote from Loyal “Jack” Lewman, “Never stop learning, for when we stop learning, we stop growing.” In my life, I’ve learned everything that I know now the hard way. Life shouldn’t be difficult, but it is since we don’t have a manual on how we should live our lives. Not everything is taught in school. Businesses shouldn’t have to suffer the same way. Since we live in a digital age, we can create a manual, a workflow, a calendar, basically, we have something that we can organise and control. Don’t let excuses and fear—fear of the unknown, fear of taking risks, fear of failure—stop you from even trying. The world is your oyster so move out there and grab it. Good Luck!
Starting your own business may be a rewarding and challenging career option. Are you ready? Here’s a simple checklist to get you started:
☑ Put your brilliant ideas and plans on paper ? If ☑ Are you able to do everything on your owneone to som or hire an additional pair of eyes not, delegate small, tedious tasks to ☑ Assign responsibilities
gnise ☑ Do some marketing research but if you reco your market, move on! ☑ Brand your business and make it LEGAL
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for you (and your target customer!) es, ☑ Consider your contents (blogs, videos, imag podcasts, etc.) or ☑ Don’t just set it to forget it, find analytics hts insig thly mon get platforms that will help you
☑ Prepare for growth!
Naida Nunez̃ Organised and calm while having an uncanny ability to thrive under pressure, Naida is a Systems and Processes Intuitive Guru. She has been working with digital magazines, marketing companies, influencers, and e-Commerce businesses since 2016. Her passion is to help other female entrepreneurs build a stable workflow by creating systems and processes for a more organised business. As a business owner, building relationships isn’t optional, Naida loves helping promote women empowerment and co-creation, through collaboration and PR, helping shape her client’s overall business strategy.
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