Midtown Magazine

you

pick‘em M AY / J U N E

mm 001 cover.indd 1

2010

4/27/10 12:46:49 PM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 1

4/27/10 11:08:28 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 2

4/27/10 11:08:35 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 3

4/27/10 11:08:53 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 4

4/27/10 11:08:59 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 5

4/27/10 11:09:06 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 6

4/27/10 11:09:14 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 7

4/27/10 11:09:24 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 8

4/27/10 11:09:29 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 9

4/27/10 11:09:37 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 10

4/27/10 11:09:41 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 11

4/27/10 11:09:48 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 12

4/27/10 11:09:53 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 13

4/27/10 11:09:58 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 14

4/27/10 11:10:03 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 15

4/27/10 11:10:11 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 16

4/27/10 11:10:19 AM

a note FROM THE

PUBLISHER

Three Years and Counting...

Each passing birthday or anniversary presents us with the opportunity to take stock of our strengths and, of course, our weaknesses – a chance to look at where we’ve been and where we’re going.

Three years ago this month we launched Midtown. We started with the simple premise of creating a local magazine that covered “life in Midtown.” We wanted to do stories that were inspiring and uplifting, stories that made managing busy lives easier. Stories relevant to you. Over the past three years, sometimes we’ve hit the mark, and sometimes we haven’t! The normal course of thinking would be for us to work on our weaknesses (and we are) but a new school of thought says “Don’t bother! Forget your weaknesses and build on your strengths.” See what you think of this idea in “Grow Your Strengths” (p.24) and how you can apply the strategy to your life.

Do you own a charm bracelet? I do, I have a bracelet full of charms representing the important moments in my life – the places I’ve visited, the birth of my children and my hobbies. But boy have charm bracelets changed! The options are endless and colorful. Discover the history of charms and find something to fit your style in “Charmed, I’m Sure” (p.46) as local jewelers show us what’s popular and explain why.

Outdoor entertaining goes rooftop! We worked with Ladyfingers Caterers to create a beautiful setting and menu for an elegant dinner party on the roof of The Residences as well as a fun pool party on the roof of Midtown’s newest apartments, Park & Market. Check out “Dinner with a View” (p.30) and get inspired for your next party – I did.

Plus help your teenager find the right summer job, learn about “Band Together” and how you can make difference listening to some great music. And get the scoop on why beach music is hotter than ever this summer.

I hope you will help us celebrate our third anniversary.

Let us know what you think. What are we doing right?

What could we be doing better? And please keep the story ideas coming; we get the best ideas from our readers.

Gina Pearce Stephens Publisher/Partner gstephens@midtownmag.com

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 17

M AY / J U N E

2010

publisher/partner

gina stephens

advertising sales

sarah oglesby myra gammon

creative director graphic design

contributing writers

photography

travis aptt heath murray jennifer casey christa gala kate turgeon dan bain illyse lane susan ely jenni hart page legget april maness darcy brennan-huante patrick fitzgerald fiquet bailey kristy stevenson dr. jeff roberts carter & laura dalton boris cvetkovski, MD jennifer robertson photography april maness photography

subscription inquiries call 919.782.4710 or visit midtownmag.com

Printed on 100% Recycled Paper

Midtown Magazine is published six times annually. Any reproduction in part or in whole of any part of this publication is prohibited without the express written consent of the publisher.

4818 Six Forks Road, Suite 204 Raleigh, NC 27609 Phone 919.782.4710, Fax 919.782.4763 www.midtownmag.com Midtown Magazine is not responsible for unsolicited manuscripts, photography or art. Unsolicited material is welcome and is considered intended for publication. Such material will become the property of the magazine and will be subject to editing. Material will be returned if accompanied by a self-addressed stamped envelope. Midtown Magazine will not knowingly accept any real estate advertising in violation of U.S. equal opportunity law.

4/27/10 11:10:25 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 18

4/27/10 11:10:32 AM

contents M AY / J U N E

2010

features 24 groW YoUr StrengthS

Put your energy into growing your strengths, instead of improving your weaknesses.

38 PatrIotIC hoLIdaYS MerIt CLoSer attentIon

break out your best red, white and blue and prepare to celebrate as we unveil the stories behind the upcoming holidays.

46 CharMed, I’M SUre

old, new, gold, silver. why we keep coming back to charms.

52 get dreSSed For SUMMer hot, new trends for the season.

60 WorK It

Summer jobs for teens.

64 SeCond tIMe aroUnd

get the inside scoop on the consignment and resale of everything from clothing to home furnishings and jewelry.

74 beaUtY & the booSt

Midtown women get swept away, salon-style!.

82 do I Want MY bodY?

Any women out there willing to accept themselves just the way they are?

88 MarKed For SUCCeSS

the benefit of reading to children early on is clear.

92 the MUSIC oF SUMMer

be young, be foolish, be happy.

98 the FIeLdS are rIPe For PICKIn’ Don’t you think it’s time to remind yourself what fresh really tastes like?

118 ChanCeS are

Duke Raleigh’s Adam buchanan arms patients with potentially life-saving information about their likelihood of getting cancer.

30

dInner WIth a VIeW Rooftop recipes and views galore!

20 | midtownmag.com

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 19

4/27/10 11:10:45 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 20

4/27/10 11:10:49 AM

contents M AY / J U N E

2010

departments 36 wine review 44 chef mario 58 bain’s beat 70 talk of the town 72 calendar 86 beauty Midtown meets Downtown 108 It’s a Beautiful Day in the

Neighborhood

116 running more than a tab 124 healthy you 131 mingles

112

band together

22 | midtownmag.com

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 21

4/27/10 11:10:56 AM

mm 002-023 toc_letter.indd 22

4/27/10 11:11:03 AM

GROW YOUR

24 | midtownmag.com

mm 024-029 strengths.indd 1

4/27/10 11:13:17 AM

Research shows you’ll be happier and more productive if you put your energy into growing your strengths, instead of improving your weaknesses.

W

BY CHRISTA GALA

What a difference a few years makes. In 2007, the Triangle’s unemployment rate was a little more than 3 percent; today it’s 9.6 percent. Although our rate is lower than the state average, the competition is stiff for the jobs available.

How will you stand out? Whether your goal is to find a new job or shine in the one you’ve got, the key is to grow your strengths. Quit trying so hard to improve your weaknesses. Today, there’s a school of thought in both business and popular culture that says, “If you’re not good at it, why bother?”

It’s called “strengths psychology” and it focuses on harnessing an individual’s strength and resilience and consistently improving those areas. It runs somewhat contrary to the way most Americans have operated over the past few decades.

For example, if you work outside the home, think about your most recent performance review. Typically, your reviewer will spend five to fifteen minutes talking about your strengths. The rest of the hour is focused on areas that need improvement – your weaknesses.

Psychologists have been embracing this concept for a while now. “It’s basically this idea of living authentically, living true to your values, having integrity and accessing that when you’re having problems,” says Dr. Lisa Sacco, Psy.D, a licensed psychologist in private practice.

R STRENGTHS

midtownmag.com | 25

mm 024-029 strengths.indd 2

4/27/10 11:13:20 AM

Are you engaged?

The strengths-based psychology concept has gained momentum in the business world as well. In 2001, Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton wrote Now, Discover Your Strengths, a management book utilizing a 40-year study of human strengths, conducted by scientists at The Gallup Organization. That book received such acclaim that in 2007 Gallup published a follow-up book, StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath, which became a #1 Wall Street Journal Bestseller.

According to Rath and the Gallup research, most of us take the path of most resistance. Of more than 10 million people interviewed during the 40-year span, seven million didn’t have the opportunity to work in a field that utilized their strengths.

Those who did have the opportunity to focus on their strengths every day were more than six times as likely to be “engaged” in their jobs and more than three times as likely to report having an “excellent” quality of life in general.

What’s important to you?

That sounds great, right? So what’s the best way to find your strengths? There is an assessment program built around the books and research with specific tests and ideas for action. Of course, it will cost you.

But you don’t necessarily have to pony up cash to find out where you excel and how you operate best. You just need to delve deep and answer some pretty personal questions.

First, think about what’s important to you. “People have to recognize when they’re doing something because they are getting something out of it,” says Dr. Sacco. For example, there are plenty of people who choose careers simply to make money. However, for some personality types the diminishment in personal satisfaction is balanced against the fact that the person makes a lot of money or has good health insurance.

“If people are consciously making that decision, they can’t sit and whine about their job if it’s more important to them to do what they want to be able to do in terms of money; they need to accept certain things about their satisfaction level at their work,” says Dr. Sacco. “If it goes against their grain, it’s not a natural fit.”

So what’s important to you; what are your core values? Some people value security and wealth. For others it’s time, family, flexibility, creativity, philanthropy – the categories are many.

But let’s go back to money. We all want to be financially stable. But this goes beyond that.

“Once people get past their basic needs in terms of money – food, shelter, safety – there’s really an almost inverse relationship between how much money people have and their satisfaction in life,” says Dr. Sacco. In other words, money can’t buy happiness.

So ask yourself what’s important to you once you’ve paid the mortgage and other requisite bills.

What are you really good at?

You’d be surprised how many people don’t know their strengths.

Here’s a hint: think about the times when you’re so engaged in what you’re doing that hours will pass before you realize it.

26 | midtownmag.com

mm 024-029 strengths.indd 3

4/27/10 11:13:24 AM

Linda Hill utilizes her strengths every day as an instructor at Wake Tech. She loves a challenge and finds unique ways to keep her students’ interest.

overrides – attributes assigned to you by people (usually your parents) that are often not part of your authentic self. In other words, whatever you put in that column is likely trying to override your authentic strengths, talents and hopes.

“You’re in the moment and really just getting an immense amount of satisfaction from what you’re doing,” says Dr. Sacco.

“There are people who get that swimming; there are people who get that gardening; there are people who get that solving a hard physics problem. You’re living right in that moment and really enjoying it.”

That’s how Linda Hill feels every day as a humanities instructor at Wake Tech Community College. She recently received the Outstanding Faculty Award for the arts, humanities and social sciences division.

“When I learn about something interesting, I can’t wait to share it with others,” she says. “I love a challenge. At the beginning of every semester, I ask my students, ‘How many of you do not like history?’ To those that raise their hands, I tell them, ‘By the end of the semester, you will.’

“Then I start to dig – to find the fun, gory, romantic, ironic, exciting nuggets of information that will make the subject come to life for them,” Hill continues. “When you love what you do, that enthusiasm becomes contagious. By the end of every semester, sure enough, many of my students have caught the history bug.”

To figure out what lights up her clients, Raether conducts a simple exercise: “The questions I ask clients all the time are: Who are you? and Who do you pretend to be?”

Raether asks people to label two columns with these headings and start free-writing.

Raether refer to the items listed under “Who do you pretend to be?” as cultural

“Happy” can be misleading Be careful not to confuse what you’re good at with what makes you “happy.” Happy is a slippery slope in strengths psychology because answering the question “What makes me happy?” can lead to over-indulgment and irresponsibility. For example, shopping, drinking or smoking might make you happy, but those aren’t strengths or skills.

“Positive psychology focuses on living an authentic life,” says Dr. Sacco. “There are different principles to it, but one of the main virtues and values is self-control and self-restraint. You have to walk that line between having enough control and restraint not to drive 80mph because you might hurt yourself or somebody else, but still follow that path of what’s meaningful to you. That’s very tricky. It’s a much more Eastern than Western philosophy.”

To discover this authenticity, ask yourself how you feel after you’ve done the activity in which you’re engaged and enjoying. Are you content, truly? Do you feel like you did something constructive and meaningful for yourself or were you destructive to yourself?

“Do you have respect for yourself and other people when you’re done?” asks Dr. Sacco. “If you’re involved in an activity in a truly genuine way, the likelihood that you’re hurting yourself or someone else is very unlikely.”

Personal Responsibility Another important tenet of strengths psychology is personal responsibility. You can’t blame anyone or anything else for your unhappiness.

And that can be scary.

“If people fully step into the idea of personal responsibility, many find it intimidating,” says Dr. Sacco. “You and only you are responsible for the current state of your life.

You can be an agent of change and competence directing your own life instead of saying, ‘I am the way I am because of this.’”

The idea is that whatever the circumstance, you can choose to be a survivor rather than a victim. You can choose to draw on your strengths versus being stuck in a self-defeating pattern. midtownmag.com | 27

mm 024-029 strengths.indd 4

4/27/10 11:13:31 AM

Brian Bunn, a local finance and accounting professional, is pro-active about building his strengths professionally.

“I develop relationships with my colleagues to keep me grounded,” says Bunn. “I hitch my wagon to mentors who will help me grow and develop as I am, not give me a list of things I need to fix in order to be just like them.

“I’ve been more successful operating this way,” Bunn continues. “There is a lot of support for this from the coaching side as well. The best coaches will tell you that great teams and players are made the same way. The classic case study of this is Phil Jackson’s championship Chicago Bulls. He didn’t require everyone to master all the same skills and play identically by working on their respective weaknesses – everyone had a role built around their strengths. Rodman ruled the boards, Jordan ruled the air, Pippin was always at the ready for the second look – you know the rest.”

What to do with your weaknesses?

While strengths psychology may not promote investing a ton of time in your weaknesses, you can’t ignore them completely. That would be violating the tenet of responsibility, not to mention maturity. “It is definitely not an approach that lets people off the hook,” says Dr. Sacco. “It’s not to absolve oneself of the responsibility of getting something done; it’s that you need to find another way to do it.”

People will meet other people’s demands when it’s meaningful to them, says Dr. Sacco. So if your job is meaningful to you, and you’re looking forward to your day, it stands to reason tardiness won’t be a challenge. If you dread your job and are continually running late because you can’t stand the thought of slogging away another day in that office; well, you may want to slowly start thinking about a reinvention of yourself.

Dr. Lisa Sacco, a licensed psychologist, utilizes strengths-based psychology in her private practice.

Engaging in life We’re all likely to feel at some point that we’ve wandered off the path that suits us best. Dr. Sacco sees it a lot in her practice. Honest questions and introspection can often give you a start on finding the way back.

“People find themselves anxious and depressed when there’s a gap between how they see themselves and how they want their lives to be and how they are,” says Dr. Sacco. “You’ve got to close that gap. Usually closing that gap means asking, ‘What turns have you taken that led you away from yourself and away from what was important and meaningful to you?’

“One of the main things that positive psychology and strengthsbased psychology does is to help people to feel engaged in life – their life – whatever it is.”

For more information on strengths-based psychology, visit www.ppc.sas.upenn.edu.

28 | midtownmag.com

mm 024-029 strengths.indd 5

4/27/10 11:13:37 AM

Julia Matson, 24, left a career in criminal justice to pursue a passion she’s had since she was 10 years old.

Finding her passion (again!)

From the time she was 10, Julia Matson was passionate about exotic animals, and even volunteering at a local animal preserve. “My very first day they sat me down on the floor, and a baby ocelot came running out from the other room and just rolled into my lap. I feel like that was the day my fate was sealed,” says Matson.

Soon after, Matson’s parents took her to the Amazon; at age 12 the family went on a Russian Arctic expedition. “My whole life I’d been fascinated by animals; it was almost obsessive. My parents were basically looking for opportunities for me to do something with it,” says Matson.

In her teens, Matson took a different path. Three years ago she graduated from one of the most renowned criminal justice schools in the nation. Ambitious and intense, she took 24 credit hours per semester, earning both her bachelor’s and master’s degrees by age 21.

Matson was working as a research assistant for the CIA, getting ready to enter the military and hoping for a future career in federal law enforcement. Suddenly, she got cold feet. “I started to get an inkling of what my life was going to look like,” says Matson, now 24. “When you sign up for the military, you can’t undo it.”

Matson came home to visit her parents and paid a visit to old friends Doug Evans and Mindy Stinner, founders of The Conservators’ Center in Mebane, NC.

“We got to talking, and it turned out they needed help,” says Matson. “I made the decision that I needed to spend a little time here to make sure I wasn’t doing something I would later regret. I like being a person with no regrets, and part of that is feeling out your options.

“Within three weeks it was evident I was not going to leave,” she continues. “When you’re responsible for caring for animals like this, you take the responsibility seriously. I knew if I left them I would regret it.”

Today, Matson is the director of fundraising and outreach for The Conservator’s Center, a certified animal rescue and education center which houses 19 animal species, including tigers, lions, leopards, servals and wolves. Her decision had tradeoffs; namely, she had to get another job to support herself. She splits her time between the center and as a contract proofreader for GlaxoSmithKline. She works about 70 hours a week.

Any regrets? “I do have curiosities,” she says. “But I’m terrible with authority and in retrospect it’s probably very good I didn’t go into the military. For me, not having that overbearing manager is critical. Here, nobody micromanages me. When I look at the trajectory my life is on, I would not want to change anything. This is where I want to be.”

To learn more about The Conservators’ Center or to schedule a tour, visit www.conservatorscenter.org.

midtownmag.com | 29

mm 024-029 strengths.indd 6

4/27/10 11:13:44 AM

U

ntil recently, the idea of rooftop entertaining was reserved for metropolitan cities – certainly not Midtown or Downtown – but all that has changed! The Residences at Quorum Center in Downtown and Park & Market in Midtown offer wonderful homes with many amenities, but the crème de la crème is that each of these buildings offer incredible rooftop spaces for entertaining.

We asked Ladyfingers Caterers to help us create a menu and setting for an elegant rooftop garden party showcasing the stunning views of Raleigh’s skyline.

mm 030-035 rooftop party.indd 1

4/27/10 11:18:09 AM

Dinner view with a

photography By jennifer robertson photography | recipes by ladyfingers catering rentals by classic party rental | Flowers by english garden

Baby Lamb Chops (Serves 4) 12 4oz lamb chops ¼ tsp cumin ½ tsp salt ½ tsp pepper

Mix cumin, salt and pepper together; rub into the lamb chops. Grill chops for 2 ½ minutes per side for medium-rare chops.

Layered Fruit & Arugula Salad (Serves 4) 32 oz baby arugula 6 radishes, thinly sliced 6 Mandarin oranges; peeled, rinsed and separated 24 oz blueberries 12 oz sunflower seeds Parmesan crisps (recipe online at midtownmag.com) Fresh orange-soy vinaigrette (recipe online at midtownmag.com)

Layer the arugula, radishes, and oranges. Drizzle with the vinaigrette and top with a parmesan crisp. Repeat the process, and top with blueberries and sunflower seeds

Strawberry Tiramisu

(Serves 4) 6 Tbsp strawberry preserves 2 Tbsp orange liquor 6 oz cream cheese, softened ½ cup sugar 1 cup heavy cream 6 ladyfingers, softened and cut in half crosswise 4 strawberries Fresh mint for garnish Heat preserves in a pot, and add in the orange liquor. Beat cream cheese and sugar until smooth. In a separate mixing bowl, beat the heavy cream until soft peaks form. Fold the whipped cream into the cream cheese mixture. Place ½ of a ladyfinger in the bottom of an 8oz glass, and layer the strawberry mixture and the cream cheese mixture. Repeat this process, beginning with the ladyfinger. Top with the strawberry and mint garnish. Chill for 2 hours before serving. midtownmag.com | 31

mm 030-035 rooftop party.indd 2

4/27/10 11:18:21 AM

Layered Fruit & Arugula Salad

(Serves 4) 32 oz. baby arugula 6 radishes, thinly sliced 6 Mandarin oranges; peeled, rinsed and separated 24 oz. blueberries 12 oz. sunflower seeds Parmesan crisps (recipe online at midtownmag.com) Fresh orange-soy vinaigrette (recipe online at midtownmag.com) Layer the arugula, radishes, and oranges. Drizzle with the vinaigrette and top with a parmesan crisp. Repeat the process, and top with blueberries and sunflower seeds.

I

t’s summertime, and what could be more refreshing than a rooftop pool party? Nothing. And it’s easy, just add a splash of color! Begin with bold linens add beautiful spring flowers and finally, a delicious menu, and you’ve got the perfect party.

32 | midtownmag.com

mm 030-035 rooftop party.indd 3

4/27/10 11:18:43 AM

Broccoli Salad

(Serves 4) 1 bunch broccoli florets, trimmed 1 red onion, diced ½ lb bacon, cooked & chopped ¾ cup mayonnaise ¼ cup sugar 3 Tbsp vinegar

Find more recipes online at midtownmag.com

Whisk together mayonnaise, sugar, and vinegar. Toss broccoli, bacon, and onion in dressing and serve.

Black Bean & Corn Salsa 2 cups black beans, cooked and rinsed 1 cup corn kernels, cooked 2 Tbsp red bell pepper, diced 2 Tbsp green onion, diced 1 Tbsp vegetable oil 1 Tbsp balsamic Vinegar 1 Tbsp sugar

Mix all ingredients and chill, covered, for 4 hours. Serve with tortilla chips.

Steak Salad

(Serves 4) ½ lb ziti 32 oz baby spinach or arugula 1 zucchini, chopped into bite-sized chunks 1 yellow squash, chopped into bite-sized chunks 2 cups button mushrooms, cut in half 1 red onion, chopped into bite-sized chunks 2 12 oz New York strip steaks Salt & pepper to taste 8 oz balsamic vinaigrette Cook ziti according to package directions and strain. While still warm, toss with 4oz of the vinaigrette, and set aside. In a 10-inch skillet, sauté vegetables until golden brown but slightly al dente. Set aside. Season the steaks with salt and pepper. Grill the steaks on a pre-heated grill or grill pan until desired doneness, 3 minutes per side for medium-rare. Allow steaks to cool for about 35 minutes, then slice. Toss together steak, pasta and vegetables. Add the spinach and the remaining vinaigrette, and serve.

If you’re thinking about taking a dip in the inviting pool pictured in these photos, you don’t have to venture far.

The heated, saltwater, resort-style pool is located on the roof of the new Park and Market apartments, located in North Hills East, at the center of Midtown.

Midtown residents have discovered the allure of city living as they settle in and make their home at Park & Market. Located upstairs from everything, Park & Market offers studio, one and two bedroom apartments, along with a fitness center, covered parking, concierge services and an in-building, ground floor Harris Teeter grocery store. With shopping and restaurants outside your front door, city living has never been better.

mm 030-035 rooftop party.indd 4

midtownmag.com | 33

4/27/10 11:18:53 AM

THE VERTICAL HORIZON By illyse lane

While our suburbs continue to expand horizontally around the center of Raleigh, the landscapes of Midtown and Downtown are evolving in a slightly different direction: up. And our photo shoot setting gives you a glimpse of what is offered high above the ground at The Residences at Quorum Center.

At first glance, the Quorum Center, a 15-story, mixed-use project located in Downtown Raleigh, may fool you. Sure, you’ll notice a newer, timeless building that stands out with its distinct architectural flair.

But you may not realize that after you get past the first six floors of office space, you’ll enter The Residences at Quorum Center, a haven of stylish, contemporary one, two and three bedroom luxury condominiums offering top-notch amenities, designer kitchens and baths, state-of-the-art security, and floor-to-ceiling windows with outstanding city views.

You also may not realize that The Residences at Quorum Center offers Downtown Raleigh’s premier rooftop garden, designed to encourage residents to kick back and relax while not forgetting they have chosen to live in Downtown.

“When designing this building, I knew I didn’t want to end up with a large, blacktop roof with air conditioning units,” says Ted Reynolds of Reynolds Companies. “We wanted to be sensitive to the environment while giving residents something they could use all year; something they could look down on and enjoy.”

Located on the seventh floor, the terrace is home to the only Hydrotech roof with a planted garden in Downtown Raleigh. It runs nearly three feet deep, complete with a filtering, drainage and sprinkler system. And the careful design extends beyond functionality to aesthetics, as it mimics the landscape of North Carolina.

“The garden reflects our state rivers running from west to east, into the ocean,” says Reynolds. “The small details, from the indigenous plants to the color of the rocks found in the river beds, all hold meaning.”

Whether they’re cooking out, holding a wedding or just hanging out, residents have embraced the quiet, serene setting and convenience factor the rooftop terrace and garden offer by expanding their outdoor living space without having to leave home. They are also proud to live in a building that is making an effort to be environmentally conscious, recognizing the benefits that come with a rooftop garden, such as improved energy efficiency and air quality.

This community area is part of the total package of quality construction and design offered throughout the entire building, adding value to the living experience at The Residences at Quorum Center. Throw in the urban setting and it’s no wonder people are choosing to move up.

34 | midtownmag.com

mm 030-035 rooftop party.indd 5

4/27/10 11:19:11 AM

mm 030-035 rooftop party.indd 6

4/27/10 11:19:16 AM

wine review

8

TOP

WINES for Gazela Vinho Verde | $6.99 Vinho Verde, Portugal – Here’s a zesty, light and crisp white offering bright lime and pear flavors with subtle spicy notes of ginger and even a hint of tangerine on the lively palate. Pure and clean, this is a truly refreshing wine.

Angeline Pinot Noir California 2008 | $11.99 California – A great value Pinot Noir from California, that tastes like Pinot! A blend of vineyards from Mendocino, Sonoma Coast, the Russian River Valley and Santa Barbara. The palate is full with flavors of strawberries, raspberries and cherry cola, finishing with tea and spice.

Montresor Soave Classico 2008 | $9.99 Soave, Veneto, Italy – Made with 80% Garganega and 20% Trebbiano grown in the hills surrounding the town of Soave. The palate is dry and appealing with delicate flavors of apple, pear and acacia. The taste is very refined with a pleasant note of almond on the finish.

Sauvion Muscadet AOC 2007 | $11.99 Muscadet, Loire, France – This has a slightly savory edge, with notes of apple, sweet corn and yellow bell pepper. It finishes with a hint of cassis. A great value from Jean Sauvion, one of the top producers of fine Muscadet.

Anakena Sauvignon Blanc 2008 | $7.99 Casablanca Valley, Chile – Very pale yellow. Intensely perfumed bouquet of lime, peach, flowers, and anise. Bright and sharply focused, with lightbodied citrus and pit fruit flavors complicated by dusty mineral and herbal notes. Finishes with lime and tangy persistence.

Kingsley Brut North Coast | $12.99 North Coast, CA – Fruit from vineyards in Napa, Sonoma and Mendocino Counties combine to give this California Sparkler a crisp green apples and stone fruit flavor, layered with a creamy texture with small hints of vanilla.

Anakena Cabernet Rose 2007 | $7.99 Rapel Valley, Chile – A delicious, crisp and refreshing dry Cabernet Sauvignon Rosé, with cherry and strawberry aromas. Smooth and lush on the palate, with excellent balance and good persistence. Great as an aperitif and with a wide variety of salads and light fare.

36 | midtownmag.com

mm 036-037 wine review.indd 1

4/26/10 11:11:19 PM

summer time

By Patrick Fitzgerald, store manager, Total wine – north hills

With summer upon us it is the time of year for a cool, refreshing wine. Some wines that you might not have considered before are a Soave from Italy, a Vinho Verde from Portugal, a Muscadet from the Loire Valley of France, or dry Rosé from Chile or Argentina. Other summer favorites include an array of wines from California, a crisp Sauvignon Blanc, a sparking wine for romantic evenings or maybe a lighter unoaked Chardonnay.

All these wines and many others can be found at Total Wine, North Hills, where a knowledgeable staff is on hand to help you make your selection.

All year long the tasting bar is open on Friday evenings from 4pm-7pm and on Saturdays from 12pm-6pm.

Dominican Oak Chardonnay Unoaked | $11.99 California – Cold fermented in stainless steel to retain natural aromas and flavor components of crisp green apples, poached pears and apricots, intertwined with hints of lemon. A fresh and crisp California Chardonnay that will pair well with fish, poultry and lighter fare.

midtownmag.com| xx

mm 036-037 wine review.indd 2

4/26/10 11:11:21 PM

Patriotic Holidays Merit

Closer Attention

introduction By Dan Bain

The cold weather is finally over, and with it has gone the long, dry spell when the calendar shows almost no holidays on the horizon. Summer approaches; it’s time to dust off the grill, get outside and celebrate! We’re looking at three holidays in rapid-fire succession, right out of the gate. Memorial Day is generally acknowledged as the unofficial start of the summer season, and this year it’s followed within five weeks by Flag Day and Independence Day. Do you observe each of these holidays?

If so, how do you choose to celebrate? More importantly, how should they be observed? We took a closer look at these patriotic dates, their histories and the best ways to observe them – whether somber, fun, surprising or somewhere in between. So break out your best red, white and blue and prepare to celebrate as we unveil the stories behind this patriotic trio…

38 | midtownmag.com

mm 038-043 patriotic holidays.in1 1

4/27/10 11:21:18 AM

memorial

Keeping the

in Memorial Day

By Dan Bain

Several years ago, I was discussing Memorial Day plans with a veteran.

He told me he planned to raise his traditional toast at the Vietnam Memorial, pending his “permit.” When I looked puzzled, he grinned and explained – each year, he goes to the courthouse and tells a judge he’s planning to break the open container law. He pays the fine in advance and on Memorial Day, publicly lifts a bottle in honor of his fallen comrades-in-arms. While he does so, many of the rest of us will probably lift our bottles at cookouts or golf courses instead.

We’ve forgotten what Memorial Day is for – the solemn remembrance of those who died in service to our country. The tradition started just after the Civil War, when numerous towns independently observed a day to decorate soldiers’ graves with flowers and flags. In 1868, General John Logan declared via general order that May 30th would be designated for such activities. Some felt his wording was exclusive of Confederate soldiers, but on that first “Decoration Day” volunteers at Arlington National Cemetery decorated the graves of Confederate and Union dead alike.

In 1873, New York became the first state to officially recognize Decoration Day. Its name was changed to Memorial Day in 1882, and by the turn of the century it was recognized by every state in the north. The Southern states honored the Confederate dead on separate dates. Some still do, but the holiday became more widespread after World War I, expanding to honor all Americans who had died in any war.

In 1971, Congress declared Memorial Day a national holiday occurring on the last Monday in May. Some Americans feel this move trivialized the day, turning it into an excuse for a three-day weekend.

Indeed, many of us ignore the day’s intent and instead treat it as the unofficial start of summer and related fun activities. While there’s nothing wrong with having fun on Memorial

midtownmag.com| xx

mm 038-043 patriotic holidays.in2 2

4/27/10 11:21:21 AM

Day, it’s important to also take the time for solemn remembrance. Ways to do that include: • Fly the US flag at half-staff until noon.

• Participate in the National Moment of Remembrance, instituted by the White House in 2000, by pausing for one minute of reflection at 3pm.

• Visit war memorials such as Capitol Square in Raleigh or the USS North Carolina in Wilmington.

• Visit cemeteries and place flags or flowers on military graves.

• Attend a memorial service; American Legion Raleigh Post One will sponsor one at Raleigh National Cemetery (501 Rock Quarry Road) at 2pm on Sunday, May 30th.

Most of the above activities take little time or effort, but are great ways to honor – alone or as a family – those who made the ultimate sacrifice on our behalf. As General James Garfield said in 1868, “They summed up and perfected, by one supreme act, the highest virtues of men and citizens. For love of country they accepted death, and thus resolved all doubts, and made immortal their patriotism and virtue.”

That’s worth remembering.

glory

OLD

By susan ely

Planning anything for Flag Day this year? Is that a collective ‘huh?’ I hear out there?

Flag Day is June 14th, and the only reason I remember is because it’s my husband’s birthday. Flag Day is the most overlooked, under-celebrated of the patriotic holidays. When was the last time (if ever) you acknowledged this old-fashioned celebration?

History of Fl ag Day In case you’re not a vexiloligist (a person who studies the history of flags), here’s how our observance of Flag Day came about:

On June 14th, 1885, Bernard J. Cigrand, a 19-year-old teacher in a one-room school in Waubeka, Wisconsin, placed a 10-inch, 38-star flag in a bottle on his desk and then asked the students to write an essay on what the flag meant to them. He called June 14th the flag’s birthday, commemorating Congress’ adoption of the Stars and Stripes as the flag of the US on that same date in 1777.

Cigrand devoted his life to the national recognition and observance of Flag Day. He was rewarded at age 50 when President Wilson, on May 30th, 1916, issued a proclamation calling for a nationwide observance of the day. In I949, President Truman signed legislation making June 14th National Flag Day. The Colors of the Fl ag Speakers and writers suggest that red stands for blood shed fighting for our country; white symbolizes loyalty, and blue, unity. Not true, according to Our Flag, a book published in 1989 by the House of Representatives.

40 | midtownmag.com

mm 038-043 patriotic holidays.in3 3

4/27/10 11:21:23 AM

When the Stars and Stripes was adopted in 1777, the colors were without meaning, but were later implied by the design of The Great Seal. Referring to the Seal, the Secretary of the Continental Congress, Charles Thomson, stated: “The colors of the pales (the vertical stripes) are those used in the flag of the United States of America; white signifies purity and innocence, red, hardiness and valor, and blue signifies vigilance, perseverance and justice.”

Fl ag Etiquette

Sentiment about how the flag should be treated has always run high: Theodore Roosevelt once saw a man in a restaurant blowing his nose on a flag, walked over and whipped him with a stick only to discover afterwards that the “flag” was a handkerchief printed with stars!

The rules for handling the American flag are outlined in the Flag Code, passed by Congress in 1942. Many are familiar: when lowering the flag, it should not touch the ground or any other object; in the US, no other flag may be flown higher than the American flag; the flag should never be dipped, or bow for any reason.

Others are less familiar: The flag should not be used as a drapery, or for covering a speaker’s desk, draping a platform, or for any decoration in general.

The flag should never be used for any advertising purpose.

It should not be embroidered, printed or otherwise impressed on such articles as cushions, handkerchiefs, napkins, boxes or anything intended to be discarded after temporary use. You may want to rethink your fourth of July decorations.

Flag etiquette dictates proper folding of the flag. The end result resembles a tri-cornered hat, symbolic of hats worn by colonial soldiers during the war for Independence. On special days, like Memorial Day or Veterans Day, the military conducts elaborate flag folding ceremonies, meant to honor the flag in a dramatic and uplifting way. A special reading accompanies the exercise, attributing a special meaning, or tribute for each individual fold.

A Day Worth Observing Flag Day falls on a Monday this year, so unless you’re a citizen of Pennsylvania where it’s an official holiday, you’ll be working. But when you see that flag outside your workplace, pause

midtownmag.com | 41

mm 038-043 patriotic holidays.in4 4

4/27/10 11:21:27 AM

and reflect on what it symbolizes. Talk to your children about the history of our country and our flag. A quick Google search will direct you to tons of kid’s activities and dispel a few myths as well, like the legend of Betsy Ross designing the first Stars and Stripes. Turns out it wasn’t her.

Observing Flag Day seems especially appropriate in North Carolina, the “most military friendly state” in the nation, with nearly 120,000 service members stationed here. We’re home to more than 775,000 veterans and 25,000 members of the NC National Guard and Reserve Forces.

Today, more than ever, the observance of Flag Day is worth reviewing and reviving. As Franklin K. Lane, Secretary of the Interior said about the flag in a 1914 Flag Day address, “I am what you make me; nothing more. I swing before our eyes as a bright gleam of color, a symbol of yourself.”

independence day celebrates an era rather than an event

By dan bain

In early July 1776, John Adams sent his wife a letter about the previous day’s momentous event, predicting the date would be memorable in American History. He felt the date would be celebrated as a “great anniversary” and wrote, “It ought to be solemnized with Pomp and Parade, with Shews, Games, Sports, Guns, Bells, Bonfires and Illuminations from one End of this Continent to the other from this Time forward forever more.”

The date he was referring to was July…Second? Yep. That’s when our Continental Congress voted to break ties with England and declare the colonies to be “free and independent states.”

42 | midtownmag.com

mm 038-043 patriotic holidays.in5 5

4/27/10 11:21:32 AM

So, what happened on July 4th?

Was that when we declared war on England? Was it when the British surrendered, granting us our independence?

Or was it when the Declaration of Independence was signed? The answer is, “None of the above.”

Hostilities had been high for more than a decade and local skirmishes were not uncommon, but the incident regarded as the start of the American Revolution was “the shot heard ‘round the world” on April 19th, 1775 – the opening volley between American Minutemen and British soldiers in the Battle of Lexington and Concord.

Interestingly enough, there was no formal declaration of war against England. The colonists were prepared to defend their rights but the Continental Congress initially hoped for reconciliation, adopting the Olive Branch Petition on July 5th, 1775 to appeal to King George III for said reconciliation. The King himself was the one to declare the countries at war, answering the petition with a proclamation declaring Americans to be in a state of rebellion.

Nor did July 4th, 1776 mark the end of the war, which was to continue for another five years and three months before the British surrendered. As for signing the Declaration, most of the congressional delegates did so on or after August 2nd. Not one of them signed it on July 4th; rather, it was sent to a printer to be copied and distributed, above two “signatures” in type only – John Hancock’s and Charles Thomson’s.

Then what actually happened on July 4th? Think of it as Part Two of July 2nd, the date Adams wrote about. That’s when Congress voted to support Richard Henry Lee’s resolution for independence. The resolution officially declared our independence and absolved our ties with England, while Thomas Jefferson’s Declaration went into greater detail on our reasons for doing so. Congress didn’t officially adopt the longer document until two days later, preferring to edit it first. Adams incorrectly assumed the July 2nd vote would be remembered, while the adoption of the Declaration was a mere formality.

If this leaves you with the feeling that our national holiday is really just a celebration of congressional red tape, remind yourself that it was still a vital element in the birth of our nation. What we celebrate on Independence Day is the entire process of labor; July 4th just happened to be the date chosen for the birth certificate. Happy Birthday! midtownmag.com | 43

mm 038-043 patriotic holidays.in6 6

4/27/10 11:21:37 AM

chef mario

Coveted Covered Dishes What to bring when you’re “invited”! (And it’s not wine or the same dip or dish you are already infamous for bringing) Recipes by Chef Mario Copy by Darcy Brennan-Huante Photos by April Maness

I

If the thought of having to bring a covered dish to your next shindig strikes fear into your heart, join the club! After all, the moment you arrive, the best ice-breaker question at the watering hole is “what did you bring?” and some of us have even been known to practice our responses beforehand to avoid embarrassment. This is particularly uncomfortable if you, for whatever reason, didn’t have the time to create the intricate soufflé with spun sugar that your arch-nemesis (and bestest friend ever!) created last year, but you just can’t bring yourself to swing by Trader Joe’s for some jarred sauces and dips. What you bring needs to be impressive (as last years pre-cubed pepper jack cheese sampler and Ritz crackers just didn’t go over as well as expected); unique and easy, but also something you’ll eat. This is your chance to put yourself on a plate for all your friends to judge (I mean enjoy!), so get ready to be the envy of your next gathering!

Orange Glazed Salmon Serves 8 6 Tbsp super spice 16 - 3 oz salmon cakes ½ cup orange marmalade 3 Tbsp lime juice 2 Tbsp olive oil Super Spice Blend 8 Tbsp chili powder 8 Tbsp paprika 4 Tbsp ground coriander 4 Tbsp garlic powder 4 Tbsp kosher salt 8 tsp cumin (ground) 4 tsp cayenne 4 tsp crushed red pepper 4 tsp black pepper 4 tsp diced oregano

Mix the Super Spice well. Combine super spice in a small bowl. Rub over top of salmon fillets.

Sear salmon on hot griddle or sauté pan about 2 minutes per side, seasoned side first. Place on a foil-lined sheet pan. Mix together marmalade and lime juice. Spoon marmalade mixture over seasoned salmon. Place in a 350 degree oven for 7 minutes (give or take), or until an internal cooking temp of 145 degrees is reached. Great over a salad, served with rice or veggies!

Greek Salsa Lemon Chicken Over Greens Serves 12 For the Salsa Combine: 4 oz package crumbled feta cheese 1 pt grape or cherry tomatoes, cut in half ½ cup jar pitted kalamata olives, sliced

44 | midtownmag.com

mm 044-045 chef mario.indd 1

4/26/10 11:15:07 PM

½ cup fresh parsley, chopped 2 Tbsp fresh lemon juice 2 Tbsp olive oil 2 Tbsp chopped fresh oregano or basil Salt & pepper to taste For the Chicken 6 skinless, bone-in chicken breast halves, seasoned 2 lemons, cut into wedges Your favorite greens In a bowl, combine the feta, tomatoes, olives, parsley, lemon, olive oil, oregano, salt and pepper. Mix well and set aside in the fridge to let your flavors meld. Season your chicken breasts with salt and pepper if you haven’t already and grill the chicken on a lightly oiled grill for about 8 minutes each side, or until the internal temp reaches 165 degrees with a meat thermometer. You can also sauté the chicken in a pan to get a good sear and finish it in a 350 degree oven as well (about 15 minutes). Just watch your meat thermometer to know when it’s done! Squeeze your lemon wedges over the chicken and let it rest. Place greens in a serving bowl. Slice chicken and place over the greens. Sprinkle the salsa over the chicken and garnish with lemon slices and parsley sprigs.

Thai Spicy Beef Noodles Serves 8 Vibrant, Impressive and Simple!

Requires steak to marinade for 1-2 hours 1 flank steak, cut into quarters ¼ cup soy sauce 4 tsp garlic, fresh minced 2 Tbsp sugar 2 Tbsp sesame oil 2 Tbsp chili garlic ½ cup chicken stock 2 cups peppers, large dice/ bite-sized (multi-color preferred) 1 cup red onion, large dice 2 cups edamame (or soy beans) Salt & pepper to taste 1 pound linguini pasta, cooked to package directions 1 bundle of scallions, sliced Cut your steak into quarters (four reasonably equal chunks) and place in a plastic

bag. Combine soy, garlic, sugar, sesame & chili garlic. Mix well. Divide mixture in half. Put half of the mixture into the plastic bag with your steak to marinate for an hour or two. Take the other half of the mixture, add it to the chicken stock and set aside – this is your sauce.

In a large pot, boil 2 quarts of water and add a tablespoon of salt. Add the peppers to the boiling water and cook for 1 minute. Add the edamame to the water and cook for another minute. Add the onions and count to 20. Drain the veggies and rinse with cold water to stop the cooking processes. (This keeps your veggies bright and vibrantly colored! It is called “shocking”.) Set aside.

Onto the steak! Remove the steak from the marinade and pat dry. On a lightly oiled grill or sauté pan, place the steak on the grill/pan for about 3-4 minutes each side for medium rare. Let steak rest for 5 minutes or so. (Do not forget to let your steak rest! If you cut in right away, all your juices will run out and dry out your steak!)

Slice thin against the grain of the meat (slicing with the grain gives you tough, chewy meat). Place pasta in a serving bowl. If pasta is sticky, give it a quick rinse with water and drain. Sprinkle vegetables over the pasta. Arrange the steak over the vegetables. Drizzle with sauce and garnish with scallions. Serve and enjoy the kudos!

Prosciutto-Wrapped Shrimp Serves 8-12 as an appetizer 24 jumbo shrimp, raw peeled and deveined (easy peel are great!)

12 slices prosciutto, cut in half long ways Salt and pepper 1 lemon (for squeezing over your shrimp) 2 Tbsp honey 1 Tbsp fresh parsley, minced Make sure the shrimp are dry. Wrap each shrimp with a half slice of prosciutto and lay on a foil-lined sheet pan. Season with salt and pepper. Broil in the oven for 2-3 minutes or until shrimp are pink and cooked through and prosciutto is nice and crispy.

Lay shrimp on platter, zest your lemon and squeeze lemon juice over shrimp. Drizzle with honey and sprinkle with parsley. Enjoy! midtownmag.com| xx

mm 044-045 chef mario.indd 2

4/26/10 11:15:18 PM

charm e Old, new, gold, silver. Why we keep coming back to charms.

BY CHRISTA GALA

Charms go way back. i mean way, way back. in ancient egypt, charms were used for identification, luck and faith. Medieval knights used charms for protection in battle. and in the dark ages, folks wore charms to display family origin and religious and political convictions. wait. There’s more. Queen Victoria of england popularized decorative charms when she wore miniature photos of her children on a bracelet. soldiers coming home from wwii brought back charms for their sweeties. Through the 50s, 60s and 70s, many americans – from young girls to movie stars – wore charm bracelets. so it’s not that charm bracelets are back.

They never left. How have charm bracelets endured the scrutiny of time? Midtown uncovers the answer and also takes a peek at what folks are collecting today.

Monica Rich Kosann Available at Bailey’s Fine Jewelry

Pandora Available at Bailey’s Fine Jewelry or Pandora Store

46 | midtownmag.com

mm 046-051 charm bracelet.indd 1

4/27/10 11:23:44 AM

m ed, sure

I’m

Bailey’s FiNe Jewelry aNd PaNdora Marci Bailey, Fashion Buyer Cameron Village, greenville and rocky Mount Pandora locations: Crabtree Valley Mall, streets of southpoint www.baileybox.com

“We have been selling charm bracelets since we opened in 1948,” says Bailey. “But over the last year and a half, we have really seen a resurgence of women wanting to wear them more as a fashion piece.”

There are several reasons for that, Bailey says. “With yellow gold coming back into fashion, ladies are looking in their jewelry boxes for pieces they haven’t worn in 15 years, and their daughters have started wearing them too.”

Bailey’s sells gold vintage charms and also owns two Pandora concepts in the Triangle – one each at Crabtree and Streets of Southpoint.

Bailey says Pandora’s success has added a new dimension to the charm bracelet of past decades. There really is something for everyone.

“At Bailey’s, we carry Pandora, Rembrandt charms, Monica Rich Kosann and many vintage estate charms for a more traditional charm bracelet,” she says. “The great thing about estate charms is you really can have something no one else can get. It adds to the one-of-a-kind look of a bracelet.”

But collecting charms doesn’t have to be an expensive hobby.

“Sterling silver charms start at $25,” says Bailey. “The great thing about a charm bracelet is you build it over time. Most people only start with the bracelet and one charm.” giFT ideas: Tortoise shell-colored murano glass beads, engravable disk picture holder charms and Pandora’s “Queen Bee” charm. midtownmag.com| xx

mm 046-051 charm bracelet.indd 2

4/27/10 11:23:52 AM

CaroliNa silVer CoMPaNy Terri Couch Taylor, President Falls of Neuse road www.carolinasilver.com “A charm bracelet is a wearable scrapbook of your life,” Taylor says. “It’s telling a story, honoring events or people in a woman’s life that make those moments unforgettable. We have a customer from our Raleigh store that started a Pandora bracelet with the breast cancer awareness charm on the day she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Her beautiful bracelet adorned with silver and pink charms was completed on the last day of her chemotherapy.”

Carolina Silver specializes in both Pandora and Beyond Words charms and bracelets. The latter offers charms with quotes or feelings, including You are what you believe you are and Does wine count as a serving of fruit? “Bracelet prices start at $30 and charms start at $25,” says Taylor. “Purchasing charms one or two at a time for that special occasion helps keep the cost contained.”

Taylor’s own charm bracelets are very special to her. “I have a sterling silver charm bracelet my grandmother started for me when I was eight years old,” she says. “I received a charm for each birthday and Christmas. Then when we went on our family vacations I got a charm representing that special trip. It is still in my jewelry box and it brings back fond memories of my youth and family.

“In addition to the silver charm bracelet, my husband gave me

Beyond Words Available at Carolina Silver Co.

a gold charm bracelet on my first Mother’s Day with a boy charm initialed with my son’s initials and his birth date,” she continues.

“I also have two Pandora charm bracelets.” adViCe iF yoU’re THiNKiNg oF sTarTiNg a BraCeleT: “Think about what you would like to celebrate,” says Taylor. “We have a customer who has one bracelet about her children, another about her grandchildren, and she’s now building a bracelet with the charms she likes.”

48 | midtownmag.com

mm 046-051 charm bracelet.indd 3

4/27/10 11:23:59 AM

CHarloTTe’s, iNC. Charlotte Harris, co-owner Cameron Village, North Hills, wilmington www.charlottesinc.com “People have always been fascinated with collecting mementos, especially those that are sentimental,” says Harris. “It has become bigger most recently because of our economy; it’s not so expensive to buy a silver charm and you still satisfy that desire to have something new as a memento of something happy.”

Charlotte’s carries many sterling silver charms and some 14-karat gold charms as well as bracelets. “We do not represent a certain company but are able to get charms of every kind most of the time,” Harris says.

“Our prices for charms start at $10 and the smallest charm bracelet in sterling starts at $12. Gold is another story,” she continues.

“Our nice 14-karat gold link charm bracelet is about $500, and the charms for it range from $200 to $400 each. These are nice-sized and not too small.”

Harris herself has three charm bracelets – two in sterling and one in gold. She has no problem understanding why so many women are discovering or coming back to charm bracelets.

“Adding charms and collecting beads is one happy occasion after another, and you are achieving a completed look for not so much money,” Harris says. “For a young mom to have a new charm bracelet with a baby charm that is engraved with the name and the date, it makes her smile each time she looks at it.

This marks the date she had the baby and the joy the baby has brought since.” good idea: Consider repurposing old jewelry into bracelet charms. “A sorority or fraternity pin soldered onto a round disc becomes something you can still use.” The same goes for earrings that don’t have a match or an heirloom wedding ring.

14K Gold Charm Bracelet Available at Charlotte’s, Inc.

mm 046-051 charm bracelet.indd 4

midtownmag.com | 49

4/27/10 11:24:06 AM

El aine Miller Fine Jewelry Collection Elaine Miller, Owner The Lassiter at North Hills www.elainemillercollection.com For decades Elaine Miller has been selling vintage jewelry and one-of-a-kind pieces – first on Fifth Avenue in New York City and now in Midtown.

Miller’s charms are gold, three-dimensional and often have movable parts. “I have a typewriter with pearls in it for the keys,” she says. “I have an iron that I particularly love. Years ago they would take the iron and put hot coals in it. This opens up and you see little chips in there; they’re pieces of coral that resemble the coal.”

“Interestingly enough, I have always sold charms and charm bracelets,” continues Miller. “I’ve never had a time when it fell off.” Miller sees charm bracelets as a rite of passage for many generations – given to teens to signify they would soon be experiencing occasions worth marking. “When they were 14 or 15, they were given a charm bracelet; or for a birthday they were given their mother’s or grandmother’s bracelet.”

With both a good eye and good taste, Miller offers an impressive number of unique charms at her store. In addition to the typewriter and iron, she’s also got a gold

Jolly’s Jewelers Frank Jolly Ragsdale, owner The Lassiter at North Hills www.jollys.com When it comes to charms, it’s raining cats and dogs at Jolly’s.

Actually, they’re escaping in little bags, purchased by customers who marvel at the high quality and detail from its maker, Meche.

“They make a most unusual product,” says Ragsdale.

“It’s a three-dimensional charm with an awful lot of detail, and they are proportionally scaled. The work that has gone into making the original metal molds is just extremely good.”

Each 14-karat gold charm costs between $400 and $600 and can be partially customized if patrons bring in a photo of their pet. “With some degree of accuracy, we can put spots or markings on the dog that would resemble that particular animal,” says Ragsdale.

Ragsdale is also noticing an increasing number of customers who want to have charms made by hand – whether 50 | midtownmag.com

mm 046-051 charm bracelet.indd 5

4/27/10 11:24:11 AM

Antique & Vintage Charms Left to right: Circular good luck four leaf clover; 1940 VCA design; Tree of life; Calendar with date; Square good luck four leaf clover

champagne bucket and a high heel shoe flanked with rubies, sapphires and a big diamond.

Most recent find: A vintage charm bracelet she bought from a man who inherited it from his aunt. “It was started in Japan right after the war,” says Miller. “It must have 30 to 40 small charms from different countries.” Her favorites are the Bridge of Sighs from Venice, the Acropolis, and the Eiffel Tower. Although it’s a fantastic piece, Miller says she will consider selling the charms individually.

Meche Available at Jolly’s Jewelers

to convert an existing piece or to make something from scratch.

“Charms come in every conceivable shape and design that the human imagination can come up with. So if someone says, ‘I want this and I’d like for it to hang here,’ we’ll make it for them.”

Neat idea: “We made a large necklace for a lady about a year ago,” Ragsdale says. “It was an extremely interesting idea.” The customer took every piece of jewelry that she’d ever been given and displayed it from the necklace – like a giant charm bracelet.

She called it her memory necklace.

Sign of the times Although charm bracelets never went away, they’re back bigger than ever – and anything goes. Gold, silver, vintage, modern, movable, flat, heirloom and custom-made. It seems charms symbolize what we’ve done in our life, those who are most important to us and, quite possibly, what we still want to achieve.

Ragsdale puts it best: “People just want to get a hold of something that makes them happy.” midtownmag.com | 51

mm 046-051 charm bracelet.indd 6

4/27/10 11:24:17 AM

Sam Edleman Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $110

get dressed FOR SUMMER The best looks this summer are exploding with color from jewelry and shoes to cool summer dresses. Local boutiques share their best sundresses for summer’s hottest days.

Available at Goldbug Studio’s Folly Store

Chetta B Available at Tyler House, $130

Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree

Corso Como Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $89

52 | midtownmag.com

mm 052-057 summer dresses.indd 1

4/27/10 11:26:22 AM

Corso como Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $139

Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree

Tibi Available at Scout & Molly’s, $341

botkier Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $225

Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree

mm 052-057 summer dresses.indd 2

4/27/10 11:26:38 AM

Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree

525 America Available at Certain Things, $160

Mod-O-Doc Available at Coolsweats, $86

Mystique Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $155

54 | midtownmag.com

mm 052-057 summer dresses.indd 3

4/27/10 11:26:57 AM

Mystique Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $130

Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree

Available at Goldbug Studio’s Folly Store

Anya Hindmarch Available at Vermillion, $290

Kate Spade Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $225 Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree

midtownmag.com | 55

mm 052-057 summer dresses.indd 4

4/27/10 11:27:10 AM

Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree

Andre Assous Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $175

Available at Diamonds Direct Crabtree

maxandcleo Available at Hayley’s Boutique, $118

Available at Goldbug Studio’s Folly Store

xx | midtownmag.com

mm 052-057 summer dresses.indd 5

iD SENS Available at C.T. Weekends, $278

4/27/10 11:27:32 AM

t-bags Available at gena chandler, $216

Andre Assous Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $175

Patricia Green Available at Kristen’s Shoe Boutique, $135

midtownmag.com | 57

mm 052-057 summer dresses.indd 6

4/27/10 11:27:42 AM

bain’s beat

Parents, Pets and Pandemonium

BY DAN BAIN

W

ith Mother’s Day and Father’s Day approaching, my editor wanted me to share some tales of my parents. Instead, I’m sharing tails of my parents; blame homophones and sloppy note-taking.

My parents raised 27 animals – twelve cats, seven dogs and eight kids. This presented no small share of challenges. To be fair, it wasn’t so much the dogs. Apart from Moonie, who left a puddle on the floor every time a different person entered the room, the dogs generally behaved as expected. That’s more than I can say for the cats – or kids, for that matter (although we didn’t wet the floor nearly as much).

I love cats, but must admit they were the worst-behaved family members. Sometimes it was merely stupidity, like when Smokey skidded into a leg of Mom’s card table, sending all 5000 pieces of her nearly completed jigsaw puzzle to the floor. Or when Fuzzy rubbed affectionately against our advent wreath, catching her bushy tail on fire. If not for Dad’s quick reflexes, we might have spent Christmas sleeping in mangers.

Other times it was incongruity between feline and human behavior. Several of our cats repeatedly marked their territory; unfortunately, each considered our stovetop to be part of it. I remember many dinners terminated by a kitchen full of baneful fumes (leading to a yard full of fuming Bains).

The pets were subject to the same terms of evolution as the kids – adapt or perish.

For example, most of the cats learned to hide whenever Mom was watching her beloved Washington Redskins, lest they find themselves wearing her miniature helmet while we sang “Hail to the Redskins” and paraded them around the house.

Normally, the cats could fend for themselves. Just ask my brother, who thought it funny to pass gas on them. That habit ended the day he happened upon Minnie, our grumpiest cat, asleep on the couch. As he turned around to take aim, she reared up, raked her claws across the body part closest to her and uttered a growl of warning to never again attempt such a sophomoric assault on her dignity. He didn’t.

(Nor did he sit down for the rest of that day.)

But Minnie wasn’t the meanest cat in our family. That honor went to Dennis, aka The Shredder, aka Satan. Dennis terrorized my ailurophobic grandmother for two years until we moved her to a nursing home. He claimed a deertail as his evil totem, carrying it everywhere and growling at anybody who walked within five feet, daring them to come closer. I thought he was overcompensating for his luxuriant, long-haired tuxedo and falsely trying to prove he was no sissy. I changed my mind the night he cornered me in a bathroom and scratched my arm when I reached for the door, leaving a permanent scar.

Dennis’ biggest challenge was breaking Dad, who nightly ignored the cats and stretched out to read the newspaper. This wouldn’t do, as Dennis wanted that couch space. Once he realized Dad’s torso was warmer than the couch, though, he was willing to share. This resulted in the nightly mantra of, “Oof! Dennis, I’m trying to read…Okay, Denny, now just settle down…Dennis, stop burrowing, or you’re going to get airlifted!” Then the paper would rattle like firecrackers as Dad tossed it aside to get both hands on Dennis, followed by the soft thud of padded feet landing a few feet away. Next came a sharp hiss and Dad retorting, “Same to you!” Over the years, though, their tempers adapted and they became nightly snuggle buddies. Until bedtime.

The cats weren’t allowed to stay in the main part of the house after bedtime. We never learned why, since they had free reign by day, but each night they were banished one-by-one to the laundry room. As the last to retire, Dad was often stuck with this duty, which never ended well.

One night I was reading in the room I shared with my baby brother, while he slept in the bed across from mine. Distracted by motion, I looked up to see Muffin’s crooked tail on the other side of my brother’s bed, cruising along like the periscope of a submarine on patrol. But it had been detected by the U.S.S. Dad, who sailed into view moments later. He stopped short

58 | midtownmag.com

mm 058-059 bains beat.indd 1

4/26/10 11:16:52 PM

as the periscope turned; Muffin was onto him. I could almost hear their thoughts, each calculating his/her next move. They sprang into action simultaneously.

Muffin’s tail swooped under the bed just as Dad leapt downward, hand outstretched to grab any bit of fur he could reach. He found purchase on the tip of her tail just as she set her claws into the rug; a tug-of-war ensued.

Dad leaned backwards and pulled cat, rug and bed as one. Muffin gave a screech that sounded like Yoko Ono in a blender, which lasted for 30 seconds as the two struggled and I watched in horror. Somehow Dad overcame the laws of physics, snatching out the rug and cat without further moving the bed – like a magician with a tablecloth and vase. He pinned Muffin to himself and stormed downstairs, both yowling their protestations at the other until I heard the laundry room door slam. Mentally replaying a line from the Flintstones (“Someday, maybe Fred will win the fight. / Then that cat will stay out for the night!”), I grabbed a pillow to stifle my laughter, because my brother had miraculously slept through the ordeal.

There were plenty of other Yabba-Dabba-Doo times, but those days are over. The surviving animals have left home and my parents have moved into a smaller house with Mom’s last baby, Duchess, who dotes on her. Dad feeds, walks and otherwise cares for that dog, but her loyalty lies with Mom; if Dad even tries to kiss Mom’s cheek, Duchess barks at him furiously. Good thing she wasn’t their first pet, or the rest of us might never have come along.

But we did, and on behalf of all of us I wish a happy Mother’s Day and Father’s Day to two of the coolest cats I know.

Editor’s Note: If you enjoy reading Bain’s Beat, be sure to check out Bain’s book! Laugh your way through 28 life lessons in A “Nay” For Effort, available online only and benefitting schools in North Carolina. Please see www.danbain.net for details.

Dan Bain, Domesticated Descendant mail@danbain.net

midtownmag.com| xx

mm 058-059 bains beat.indd 2

4/26/10 11:16:54 PM

WORK

IT

Summer Jobs for Teens By jenni hart

60 | midtownmag.com

mm 060-063 summer jobs.indd 1

4/27/10 11:30:50 AM

L

Long, toasty days with no place to be, no papers to write, no projects to turn in. Clear starry nights with liberal curfews and no early-morning alarms to worry about. Let’s face it, summertime and teenagers were just made for each other. Have they earned a life of leisure for the next three months, or do you gently nudge them into the work force?

As enticing as it may be to indulge your teen’s tendency toward inertia as the summer days approach, it’s pretty easy to make the case that a little hard labor – or at least a few hours folding shirts at the mall – never hurt anyone, and in fact may lay the groundwork to your child’s future success. Studies show that part-time and summer jobs held by teenagers have long-term positive benefi ts in terms of overall earnings potential.

Also, when it comes to college applications, a student’s grades, SAT scores, and extracurricular activities don’t always paint the whole picture of a student’s likelihood of college success. According to the Princeton Review, a student’s employment history can demonstrate that a young person is capable of prioritizing competing activities and managing time wisely – two skills that are critical to college success. So as your teen steps off campus in late May or early June and begins planning the next 90 days or so, encouraging gainful employment as part of that plan may be the best advice you ever offer.

Besides learning responsibility and time management, a working teen is picking up skills without even realizing it. When it comes to the application, your son or daughter will be expected to write neatly – or at least legibly, and to provide accurate and detailed information. During the interview, they’ll be expected to be confi dent, as they present their strengths and abilities. You should prepare them in advance for that most-dreaded interview question – the one that asks them about their greatest weakness or shortcoming. Ugh, I still don’t know how to answer that one.

mm 060-063 summer jobs.indd 2

4/27/10 11:30:53 AM

Do you remember your first day at your first job? Employers still expect a clean, neat physical appearance, a friendly and positive attitude, and of course, dependability. By the time your teen has entered the work force, you’ve no doubt relinquished a great deal of control over your child’s behavior and choices. But there’s always room for a gentle and well-timed conversation about being responsible and prompt. Dazzling skill and intoxicating good looks get you only so far – sometimes that becomes the biggest lesson of the summer job.

If you’re convinced that for your teenager, a summer spent working beats sleeping until noon and marathon video gaming sessions, you may be able to help point them toward the perfect summer job. Take your child’s personality and interests into account, and consider these types of jobs for all they have to offer.

Recreation, Safety or Leadership If your teen enjoys being active, invest in a few gallons of sunscreen and send them outdoors to a job that offers physical activity and a chance to hone their leadership skills. Whether lifeguarding or serving as a camp counselor, many teens are well-suited to jobs at swimming pools, recreation centers, country clubs and camps. These types of jobs are ideal for energetic teens, and typically offer minimum wage with some flexibility for family vacations, as well as ample opportunity for fun and social interaction with other kids their age. Training often includes learning CPR and other life-saving techniques, which are valuable skills for anyone to know. One of the nice things about working at summer camps is that there is a beginning and an end, with no commitment or expectation that the employment continues past summer. This makes for a graceful exit around mid-August as your teenager looks forward to beginning the next school year.

Food Service or Retail I worked in retail and waited tables throughout high school and college, and to this day I’m convinced that these jobs taught me some of life’s greatest lessons. I’ve heard it said that motherhood is the toughest job you’ll ever love, but I’d have to say waiting tables ranks right up there. If your teen is outgoing and personable, doesn’t mind a little dirty work, and knows the difference between ranch and Thousand Island dressing, working in a restaurant may be just the ticket. I loved waiting tables because every day I met someone new and interesting, and I loved the challenge of remembering each order and trying to go the extra mile to make my customers happy. It was hard, physical work but at the end of each shift I left with a pocket full of tips and the satisfaction of a job well done. xx | midtownmag.com

mm 060-063 summer jobs.indd 3

4/27/10 11:30:57 AM

I also worked in several retail jobs, my favorite being in an art gallery. I was thrilled to earn the responsibility of carrying a key to the gallery and opened the store nearly every morning during the summer months. While retail rarely pays more than minimum wage, some stores offer employee discounts, which can be an enticing benefit for shopaholics in training.

Apprenticeships and Internships You may be the parent of a teen who knows exactly which profession they want to pursue when they get older. The opportunity to work as an apprentice in that field could offer insight into the profession that either reinforces their desire to work in that area, or inspires them to change their mind completely. Either outcome should be considered a triumph. Apprenticeships and internships are often hard to come by, and many offer experience but no pay, so a lot of planning and consideration should go into securing a job like this. Some places of employment most likely to offer apprenticeships include colleges and universities, marketing and media firms, and larger corporations. To get more information, talk to your school’s guidance counselor, contact an employment agency, or check out individual companies’ websites.

These are just some of the summer job opportunities that may interest your teen. Your challenge as a parent is to provide guidance and support, advice when it’s sought, and ideally some financial direction. Help your teen put together a budget that includes some savings, especially if you expect them to help with college expenses later on. The summer job also encourages independence and responsibility if you use it as an opportunity to let them begin paying for their own gas, clothing and other expenses.

Finally, before your teen flies the coop and leaves you with an empty nest, make sure you’ve given them the gift of financial literacy. Use the summer job income to help them open a joint checking account, which most banks offer to teens and their parents. Teach them how to balance the checkbook, and educate them about usage and overdraft fees. Also talk to them about credit – how it works, when to use it, and how to protect that ever-important credit score.

By the time your teen is old enough to get a job, your shared time under the same roof is dwindling. Encouraging summer employment gives them the chance to put some of your most treasured family values to practical use.

Don’t hold your breath, but some day they may even thank you for it. midtownmag.com | 63

mm 060-063 summer jobs.indd 4

4/27/10 11:31:00 AM

second

TIME around By kristy stevenson

Get the inside scoop on the consignment and resale of everything from clothing to home furnishings and jewelry.

Christian Louboutin heel: Original $500 | Now $98 Available at Revolver Consignment Boutique

64 | midtownmag.com

mm 064-069 second time around.in1 1

4/27/10 3:22:07 PM

P

Louis Vuitton luggage: Original $1,700 | Now $825 Louis Vuitton limited edition purse: Original $1,350 | Now $650 Available at Revolver Consignment Boutique

Peddling high quality goods at often drastically reduced prices, today’s resale and consignment shops have become more mainstream than ever. The resale market is blossoming thanks to value-conscious consumers. Shoppers love a bargain, and as disposable income is harder to come by these days, the public is keenly aware that resale shopping means higher quality for less money. With more than 25,000 resale, consignment and thrift shops across the United States, mammoth online markets such as eBay and Craigslist have made the idea of resale even more customary. And, of course, there are those who just enjoy the thrill of the hunt.

While many businesses have been forced to close their doors, resale remains healthy and continues to be one of the fastest-growing segments of retail. Is your home filled with the unworn and unwanted? With new stores entering the market and current establishments opening additional locations, the industry has experienced a growth of approximately 5% per year for the past three years.

According to the Association of Resale Professionals, “Resale shopping attracts consumers from all economic levels. There is no typical resale shopper, just as there is no typical resale shop. No one is immune to the excitement of finding a treasure and saving money. Shrewd shoppers take advantage of the opportunity resale offers to save money on apparel, furniture and other consumer goods.”

America’s Research Group, a consumer research firm, found that approximately 12-15% of Americans will shop at a consignment/resale store at least once a year. That is compared with 21.3% in major department stores, 19.6% in apparel stores, 16-18% in thrift stores, and 11.4% in factory outlet malls.

The Triangle is fortunate to have a growing number of consignment opportunities already favored by the savvy shopper. Whether you’re interested in buying or selling, take a look at who’s in your backyard: Jessica Simpson cocktail dress: Original $188 | Now $65.99 Available at ADORE midtownmag.com| xx

mm 064-069 second time around.in2 2

4/27/10 3:22:19 PM

Sterling handle cake knife: Original $75 | Now $22 Available at Affordable Chic

Affordable Chic “We are a small specialty mall with dealers who inspire homeowners to finish, accessorize, update, or add pizzazz to home and life,” says Sallie Jackson of Affordable Chic Shops. Showcasing an unusual mix of booths, they carry everything from new pieces to re-fashioned works – older items modernized to be new again. “With varied selections of re-purposed furniture, vintage jewelry, accessories, and great antiques, we strive to keep our prices competitive and affordable,” she says.

A period mirror tagged at $900 in the store would sell for $3,000 anywhere else. And collectible talio-chrome signed art, valued at $500-$600, gets snapped up for $150. Sallie and co-owners Dianne Thomson and Wright Jackson know that you don’t have to be a collector to uncover a treasure – you can find bold wood pieces with classic lines, or vintage jewelry that can be mixed and matched for everyday wear, even a signature Mottahedeh soup tureen from Chelsea House (marked at $225, but those versed in vintage know you wouldn’t be able to find a piece like that for under $700).

They also often stock antique, vintage and new chandelier lighting. To give folks a taste of their varied inventory, Affordable Chic’s website (www.affordablechicshops.com) displays a featured vendor each month. On the site you will also find a calendar of upcoming events, a link to their dealer blog, and even a recipe exchange incorporating items sold in their café.

Like most resale shops, inventory turnover makes every shopping experience different. From the convenience of appearances by on-site gold buyers to the before-and-after of furniture restoration, this mall has a blend of services and merchandise that both buyers and sellers can appreciate.

ADORE Designer Resale Boutique With an assortment of ladies’ and juniors’ designer clothing and accessories, ADORE Designer Resale Boutique brings samples, overstocks and resale to their own affordable and hip atmosphere. As the resale market continues to grow, ADORE is pleased to introduce “consignment virgins” to the wonders of fashion, quality and bargains.

“Our goal is to dress our customers in fabulous clothes and help them look

Waterford decanter Original $220 | Now $125 Available at Affordable Chic xx | midtownmag.com

mm 064-069 second time around.in3 3

4/27/10 3:22:25 PM

posh for less,” says owner Nancy Alinovi.

Receipts indicate that many higher-end shoppers are incorporating her store into their routine – whether it be shopping, consigning or both. The strained economy has taught people to be more conscious of what they spend, but consumers are learning that they don’t have to sacrifice style to do so.

Dresses are a hot item for the boutique – from funky to cocktail – as well as trendy tops and designer jeans. “We play up ‘glam’ in our store and the customers seem to really like it,” Alinovi says.

Treating yourself to a designer purchase, even a pre-owned one, is an indulgence to be enjoyed and celebrated. Designer handbags are also some of their very best sellers, from Coach, Michael Kors and Cole Haan up to Gucci and Louis Vuitton.

Top quality in designer duds is a bonus to customers and consignors, alike. Distinctive merchandise equals happy shoppers and more money in seller’s pockets. Most designer clothing holds its value, and couture’s value can actually go up. “The best bargains to be found are the designer tailored suits, jackets and dresses that have made it to mark down,” says Alinovi. “A bargain on timeless quality – now that is value for your money.”

ADORE gives you the option to consign, sell on the spot, or have them visit your home to determine salability of large lots.

Details can be found on their website, www.adoreboutiques.com.

“We love pristine vintage, the fashion forward and the unusual!” says Alinovi. They also host girls’ night out parties and other special events to make your shopping experience memorable and fun.

Revolver Consignment Boutique Revolver – a collection of clothing, jewelry, and art – features ladies’ and mens’ high-end designer clothing. From unique pieces, to accessories, shoes, handbags and local designer jewelry, they offer a good mix of trendy and classic.

“If a garment has a print on it and the consignor has worn it a couple times, they don’t want to be seen in it again – so they bring it to us,” says owner Liz Johnson. “Good condition

Lusterware in Korels Listed at $200 | Now $67 Available at Affordable Chic midtownmag.com | 67

mm 064-069 second time around.in4 4

4/27/10 3:22:33 PM

and good name brands equals cash in your pocket.” This is, of course, a big win for customers too.

Designer jeans are their number 1 seller. A good pair of jeans can be dressed up or down, and no one likes to pay full price. “If you drop a few pounds and your jeans no longer fit well, you can resell them and pick up another pair without breaking the bank,” says Johnson. Shopper alert! Designer handbags – Louis Vuitton, Prada, and Gucci – are another strong seller because they tend to hold their value. Sellers are sometimes hesitant to let them go because they are such a good investment.

“People are more willing to sell items to make money [in the current economy],” says Johnson, “and our customers don’t want to pay full price for a brand when they can come here and find what they need for half to a quarter of the price.”

When consignors bring in brand new items, Revolver marks them down fifty percent. So if you’re in the right place at the right time, you could conceivably pick up a designer dress – with original tags – for half price. How’s that for power shopping?

Visit their blog, revolverconsignmentboutique.blogspot.com, for more on special events, seasonal rotations and fashion picks.

Seller’s Guidelines If you’re new to the consignment regimen, we recommend visiting several stores to find one that works for you. Clothing items must be freshly laundered and pressed or dry-cleaned before being brought in for sale. The best sellers check the neck, cuffs and hem; no stains or tears, no cooking or smoke odors. Handbags and shoes should be cleaned on the inside and out, and all accessories should be bagged. Prep work is to your benefit as the sooner your items are put out on the sales floor, the quicker you get paid. Additionally, store owners have a lot of dealers or resellers to keep track of, so having your merchandise sorted and labeled correctly benefits your bottom line. A little elbow grease goes a long way – one merchant even likened it to staging your home for a real estate transaction.

68 | midtownmag.com

mm 064-069 second time around.in5 5

4/27/10 3:22:38 PM

Christian Louboutin wedge: Original: $580 Now: $198 Available at Revolver Consignment Boutique

When selling, just remember to look for the same quality you would expect in a purchase.

An appointment is often required, and price points are usually set by the store, although there are exceptions.

Please ask upfront exactly what kind of merchandise is accepted, what is expected of you as a seller, how long your items may be on the sales floor before they are marked down, and what happens if items don’t sell. A good reseller will walk you through the process and make every effort to move your merchandise so you will work with them again. A clean house, quiet mind and hearty check will make it all worth your while.

As a final thought, bear in mind that by joining the consignment revolution, you are re-purposing a number of assets. As a buyer, local purchases leave less of a carbon footprint on the planet and put more money back into your immediate community. And as a seller, you’ll learn that consigned items that do not sell are often donated to worthwhile charities and non-profit organizations.

That kind of deal is enough to put a smile on any shopper’s face.

Jimmy Choo bag: Original $1,000 | Now $219.99 Available at ADORE

midtownmag.com | 69

mm 064-069 second time around.in6 6

4/27/10 3:22:45 PM

talk of the town

HERE IS WHAT’S HAPPENING

around town

Midtown writer takes home several awards!

The NC Press Club recently recognized writer Christa Gala with five first place awards, one second and one third. Gala has been a professional freelance writer for 11 years and has been writing for Midtown since its inception in 2008. Congratulations!

Jennifer Robertson takes home 2nd place at PPNC in March.

The annual convention for the Professional Photographers of North Carolina was held at the beginning of March. Jennifer Robertson won second place in the groups category.

The portrait, entitled Triple Threat, was a painted portrait of the children of Darrell and Lisa Daigre of Raleigh.

Spring Soiree raises over $50,000 National Students of AMF were pleased to announce that their inaugural Spring Soiree on Friday, April 16th at Carolina Country Club raised more than $50,000. Proceeds from the event will go towards developing the current chapters of Students of AMF, creating new chapters, and offering programs and services to college students grieving the illness or death of a loved one.

St. Timothy’s Spring Sprint 2010 Take Steps for Crohn’s & Colitis The health of our economy has improved, but unfortunately, the health of Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis patients is uncertain. On June 5th, 2010, the Take Steps for Crohn’s & Colitis will be held at Lake Crabtree County Park in Raleigh. It is scheduled for a 5pm start. For more information, please contact Tracey Coppedge at tcoppedge@ccfa.org or 919.682.7023.

On April 17th, over 1,000 runners and walkers participated in the St. Timothy’s Spring Sprint benefiting Duke’s Comprehensive Cancer Center. The 5k, 1 mile fun run and 50 yard dash were in honor of the memory of Lisa Ham and in support of others battling cancer.

70 | midtownmag.com

mm 070-071 talk of the town.indd1 1

4/26/10 11:25:18 PM

coming up in the next

magnificent master

What is the last room you see at night and the first one you wake up in? If you don’t find being in your master bedroom relaxing, maybe it’s time for a makeover.

From small accessories to a complete renovation, Midtown will show you how to get a magnificent master.

Private schools

Considering public, private or homeschooling for your children? The options can seem overwhelming. Midtown gives you the ABCs on some of Wake County’s premier private schools. step-by-step flowers

A step-by-step guide to creating designer flower arrangements. We shop the North Hills Flower Market with a designer and learn what flowers to pick, which ones last the longest and finally, the secrets to getting a professional look yourself.

PLUS

It’s hot, hot, hot! Get cool & refreshing ideas for the long days of summer!

Iced tea recipes to spice up the South’s favorite drink.

Wine Review | Chef Mario Bain’s Beat | Calendar of Events Talk of the Town | Healthy You Midtown Mingles | and much more!

midtownmag.com| 71

mm 070-071 talk of the town.indd2 2

4/26/10 11:25:20 PM

calendar

MAY/JUNE

2010

Bowties for Bandaids Benefit May 1 | 7-11pm | Benefit for WakeMed Childrens Hospital | www.childrencantwait.org

Farmers Market May 4,11,18,25 | 4-7pm | 3rd Annual North Hills Farmers Market | www.northhillsraleigh.com

BrickMagic LEGO Festival May 8-9 | Hilton at North Hills | 919.449.0344 | www.brickmagic.org

20th Annual Historic Oakwood Garden Tour & Victorian Tea May 1-2 | 10am-2pm | Get a glimpse of the beautiful gardens in the city’s oldest neighborhood | www.historicoakwood.org

Rachel Pally Trunk Show May 6 | 10am-7pm | Trunk show at gena chandler. Call for appointmens | 919.881.9480

Mother’s Day May 9

Farmers Market May 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 | 8am-12pm | 3rd Annual North Hills Farmers Market | www.northhillsraleigh.com Open House at St. Timothy’s school May 2 | 3-5pm | 919.781.0531 | www.sttimothys.org Beyond Blue Interiors Grand “RE-Opening” Party in North Hills May 4 | 6-8pm | New showroom in North Hills is now open | 919.896.6630 | www.beyondblueinteriors.com

Midtown Music Concert Series May 6, 13, 20, 27 | 6:30-9pm | Beach music at The Commons at North Hills | 919.833.7755 | www.northhillsraleigh.com Charm Bracelet Clinic at Elaine Miller May 7 | Elaine Miller Collection at North Hills | 919.571.8888 | www.elainemillercollection.com Angelina Woehr’s Collection of Oils on Canvas May 7 | 7-9pm | Gallery A | 919.546.9011 | www.galerya-nc.com Pay it Forward Fertility Forum May 8 | 8:30am-3pm | Educational event to explore topics related to building families | www. payitfowardfertility.org

Mazza Trunk Show at Elaine Miller May 4, 5 | Elaine Miller Collection at North Hills | 919.571.8888 | www.elainemillercollection.com Acu-Yoga May 8 | 1-2:30pm | Free workshop at Calm and Preschoolers and Pets with the SPCA Sense | 919.787.1799 May 4, 19 | 11:15-11:45am | 919.532.2088 | www.spcawake.org

Mother’s Day Dinner at Saint-Jacques May 9 | 5-8pm | Saint-Jacques Restaurant | 919.862.2770 | www.saintjacquesfrenchcuisine.com Nia Demonstration Class May 10 | 7:30pm | Free demo class at Calm and Sense | 919.787.1799 Sushi Tasting at Mura May 13 | 9pm | Sushi kickoff party at Mura | 919.781.7887 Black, White and Read All Over Gala May 13 | 6-9pm | Celebrate the 40th anniversary of the Literacy Council of Wake County | 919.787.5559 | www.wakeliteracy.org “Layers & Textures” Artist’s Reception May 14 | 7-9pm | Opening reception at ArtSource North Hills | 919.787.9533 | www. artsource-raleigh.com

72 | midtownmag.com

mm 072-073 calendar.indd 1

4/26/10 11:27:05 PM

2nd Annual British Antique Car Show May 15 | 8:30am-3pm | North Hills | www.northhillsraleigh.com Artsplosure in Downtown Raleigh May 15-16 | 31st annual celebration of Artsplosure | 919.832.8699 | www.artsplosure.org

Farmers Market June 1, 8, 15, 22, 29 | 4-7pm | 3rd Annual North Hills Farmers Market | www.northhillsraleigh.com

Habitat for Humanity Benefit Concert May 16 | 5pm | Raleigh Boys Choir and HUMRingers at Highland United Methodist Church.

Midtown Music Concert Series June 3, 10, 17, 24 | 6:30-9pm | Beach music at the Commons at North Hills | 919.833.7755 | www.northhillsraleigh.com

Wine Dinner at Saint-Jacques May 19 | 6:30pm | Saint-Jacques Restaurant | 919.862.2770 | www.saintjacquesfrenchcuisine.com North Carolina Art Museum Summer Concert May 21 | 8pm | 919.715.5923 Goldbug Studio’s Mad Hatter’s Masked May Ball May 22 | 4-9:30pm | Come enjoy the champagne preview party from 4-6pm; ball begins at 6pm | 919.834.1523 | www.goldbugstudio.com Band Together Concert May 22 | 6-11pm | www.bandtogethernc.org Sainty Mary’s School Graduation May 23 | 10:30am | Class of 2010 graduation | ww.sms.edu French Cooking Class May 25 | 4:30-6:30pm | Saint-Jacques Restaurant | 919.862.2770 | www.saintjacquesfrenchcuisine.com Preschoolers and Pets with the SPCA June 1, 16 | 11:15-11:45am | 919.532.2088 | www.spcawake.org

Vitality and Aging Workshop at Duke Integrative Medicine June 5 | 9am-4:30pm | 919.684.7892 | www. dukeintegrativemedicine.org SPA Shag Competition June 5 | 2-6pm | Shag dancers from across the country will compete on the Commons at North Hills. Free lessons | www.northhillsraleigh.com North Carolina Art Museum Summer Concert June 5, 12 | 8pm | 919.715.5923 Farmers Market June 5,12, 19, 26 | 8am-12pm | 3rd Annual North Hills Farmers Market | www.northhillsraleigh.com Opera, Broadway & Zarzuela in the Park June 12 | 8pm | www.ncopera.org Vacation Bible School June 13-17 | 6-8pm | Trinity Baptist Church | 919.787.3740 | www.tbcraleigh.com

Flag day June 14 French Cooking Class June 16 | 4:30-6:30pm | Saint-Jacques Restaurant | 919.862.2770 | www.saintjacquesfrenchcuisine.com SAFE Haven for Cats Open House June 19,20 | 10am-4pm | 919.872.1128 | www.safehavenforcats.org Plein Air Arts Festival June 19, 20 | North Hills | www.northhillsraleigh.com father’s day June 20 Bringing Broadway Home June 21 | 8pm | Benefit concert at Raleigh Memorial Auditorium | 919.831.6941 | www.nctheatre.com Wine Dinner at Saint-Jacques June 22 | 6:30pm | Saint-Jacques Restaurant | 919.862.2770 | www.saintjacquesfrenchcuisine.com Have an important event? We would love to hear about it. Please send the details of your calendar events to: sarah@midtownmag.com.

midtownmag.com | 73

mm 072-073 calendar.indd 2

4/26/10 11:27:09 PM

beauty &

the boost

Midtown women get swept away, salon-style!

BY KATE TURGEON

What happens when Midtown Magazine puts together six gorgeous women with 12 beauty experts? When the mascara wand meets the lash and the scissors meet the split ends, women get “the boost.”

And all of a sudden eyes are popping, lips are looking full and cheeks have that eye-catching glow. And hair? It’s bouncy, shiny and ready for anything from work to a night out. But more than that, women are looking and feeling their best. And, as any busy woman will tell you, that’s the real gem.

Just ask Gina about her new look, which includes makeup and a haircut and style that she can replicate at home. “I’m totally blown away. It’s flattering, it’s smooth and it feels light,” she says with a smile. “I feel really great.”

Gina’s not alone, five other Raleigh women from their 20s to their 50s are here to show you that looking and feeling your best is easier and more fun than you may think. Read on for tips about everything from summer hair care to evening out skin tone. After all, sometimes a boost is exactly what we need!

74 | midtownmag.com

mm 074-081 makeover.indd 1

4/27/10 11:43:58 AM

A F T E R

BEFORE

Hair by Amy Marchisello, Modern Enhancement Salon & Spa Makeup by Abby Erickson with Glo Mineral products, Modern Enhancement Salon & Spa

Blair, 26

HAIR ISSUES: Some breakage, fine hair and orange-looking hair color.

THE BOOST: Amy gave Blair five colors of highlights and lowlights, with the darkest lowlight Blair’s natural color (golden blond). “It looks so much more natural than the bleach highlights…you can still have blond hair, it’s just more realistic this way,” explains Amy. She cut just a couple inches and popped in a few layers to give the hair movement, remove breakage and add volume.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Especially during summer months, sunscreen hair to protect scalp and color.

MAKEUP/SKIN ISSUES: Early signs of pigmentation (from years of lifeguarding) and some redness. “Blair has beautiful skin…with a nice warm tone,” says Abby. “I really wanted to even out her skin…[and] cover the redness also.”

THE BOOST: To start, Abby applied primer to keep makeup looking fresh and to smooth out imperfections. She added pressed base and under-eye concealer to lighten any darkness. For cheeks, she applied (nectar) blush on just the apples, shimmer for a soft glow, and a light sweep of sunlight bronzer.

For eyes, she began with a faint ivory, swept from lash line to brow bone. From the lash to the crease, she used a light brown shimmer shadow, with deep brown in the crease. Also for eyes – black liquid liner at the lash line and two coats of mascara. To frame the face, Abby lightly sculpted Blair’s brows with a dark blond brow pencil. Snapdragon lip gloss completed the look.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: For everyday, take out the crease color and use a pencil liner instead of liquid.

WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL? “When I’m comfortable and having fun.” ~ Blair midtownmag.com| xx

mm 074-081 makeover.indd 2

4/27/10 11:44:11 AM

BEFORE

A F T E R

Hair by Alison Lucarelli, Salon Blu Makeup by Tara Gardiner using Salon Blu products, Salon Blu

Tiska, 32

HAIR ISSUES: Needs dimension and warmth to bring out her eyes and give her skin a glow.

THE BOOST: Alison gave Tiska all-over color (warm brown), and two highlights in shades of caramel blond and honey. For the cut, she decided on medium length with layers and texture to take the weight out of Tiska’s thick hair. She added angles around her face to even out a square face shape, and gave her a slight, side-swept bang for softness.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Enjoy the easy upkeep! “She’s able to pull it up when she needs to, give it volume with curls or a soft, smooth look with a flat iron,” says Alison. “Or scrunch it with a beach/ texture spray for a wavy look.”

MAKEUP/SKIN ISSUES: Coming up with the right look for Tiska’s skin, which has an overall cool tone and some pink undertones.

THE BOOST: Tara started with a concealer, flawless finish foundation and mineral pressed powder. For Tiska’s cheeks, it was paparazzi blush, while her eyelids were treated to two colors (rusty nail and sweet pea) and liner, too. Tara also used lip liner (sand), lipstick (glam) and lip gloss (crystal clear).

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Always use a light color to highlight the eyes so they look more open. When using dark shades, be sure to follow the crease of the eyelid. “For a cost-effective makeover, use the rusty nail shadow as eye shadow, liner and to fill in the brows,” adds Tara.

WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL? “When my three-yearold says, ‘Mommy, you are pretty.’” ~ Tiska

xx | midtownmag.com

mm 074-081 makeover.indd 3

4/27/10 11:44:17 AM

A F T E R

BEFORE

Hair by Erin Reese, Lux Salon Makeup by Anna Porrazzo, Owner of Synergy Spa, using Jane Iredale Mineral products

Won-Jung, 33

HAIR ISSUES: An old perm that’s on the last three inches of hair and an awkward length.

THE BOOST: Erin added all-over color, as well as two colors of highlights (honey and caramel) to keep the color natural looking and bright for summer. For the cut, she chose a classic bob, modified with layers and fringe around the face. The length came up to remove the old perm and to avoid the ponytails Won-Jung is tired of. “The fringe will open up her face and show off her great features,” says Erin.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Maintain color about every eight weeks. Because hair is naturally straight, use a good volumizing product and hairspray. Use a medium-size curling iron for extra volume and texture.

MAKEUP/SKIN ISSUES: Finding the perfect look to complement her brown hair, brown eyes and warm/golden skin tone.

THE BOOST: To start, Anna applied tinted moisturizer and powder. For the cheeks, she used pale pink blush (whisper) and an autumn bronzer to contour Won-Jung’s face. And sweet hints of shimmer were everywhere – from her eye shadow (super nova and allure) to lip gloss (hazelnut). Also on the lips: natural lip liner (nude).

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Apply a thin line in the above lash line with a wet flat brush and powder/shadow. “Keep the liner tight against the lash line. When doing a smoky eye, try to keep the lips neutral and glossy to keep the look fresh and pretty instead of vamp-like,” says Anna.

WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL? “Feeling good about myself, internally and externally, makes me feel beautiful.

Compliments don’t hurt either!” ~ Won-Jung midtownmag.com| xx

mm 074-081 makeover.indd 4

4/27/10 11:44:24 AM

A F T E R

BEFORE

Hair by Kim Catalano, Geoffrey James Salon Makeup by Sahana SenGupta, Skin Sense

Gina, 48

HAIR ISSUES: Dry and lacking shape.

THE BOOST: “Instead of giving her something short and completely different, we decided to work with what was there because she has really good, healthy hair,” explains Kim, who cut two to three inches off the bottom of Gina’s hair. New, long layers open up and frame the face. To accomplish the mid-length masterpiece, Kim cut Gina’s hair using a freehand technique to remove bulkiness and blend layers together.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Flip it out for what Kim calls a “va-voom” look, apply scrunching mousse for a curly style or use a flat iron for a sleek look. And, of course, there’s always the ponytail option!

MAKEUP/SKIN ISSUES: Finding an attractive look to match Gina’s brown eyes and hair, as well as her olive skin with golden undertone.

THE BOOST: Sahana accentuated Gina’s eyes, while staying neutral with the lips by using only gloss. Highlighting Gina’s eyes included using the following products – shadows (coffee trio), gel liner (espresso) and lash lengthening mascara (by Glo). For the face, she chose pressed powder and concealer, as well as powder blush (innocent) on the cheeks.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Start mascara on top and brush lashes out, then come from the bottom and brush in an upward motion.

Lashes are fully covered this way. Always keep in mind, play up the lips or the eyes. It’s one or the other. Have fun with it!

WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL? “When my face is clean, my teeth are brushed and I have taken a good long shower…then putting some color on my face before I brave the world!” ~ Gina

xx | midtownmag.com

mm 074-081 makeover.indd 5

4/27/10 11:44:31 AM

BEFORE

A F T E R

Hair by Shawn Kekel, Von Kekel Aveda Lifestyle Salon Spa Makeup by M.J. Jamil, Von Kekel Aveda Lifestyle Salon Spa

Nan, 56

HAIR ISSUES: Needs additional softness, texture and shine.

THE BOOST: Shawn added natural highlighting, using Aveda color (daylight). Glossing brought added shine and luster to her dark hair. For the design cut, he removed length to give hair less weight and create bounce. Light layering created additional movement and texture.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Continue to use volumizing products (such as Pure Abundance shampoo and conditioner) and gel (such as Brilliant) for hold and shine. Other useful products include volumizing tonic and light-hold hair spray (Air Control).

MAKEUP/SKIN ISSUES: Finding an age-appropriate, but “nonfrumpy” look that Nan is hoping for.

THE BOOST: M.J. started with all-over foundation (sand) and powder (aster). She applied concealer under the eyes, around the nose and on other areas with uneven skin tone. M.J. used eye shadow shades copper and riverbed to accentuate Nan’s brown eyes, along with mascara and eyeliner. On the cheeks – rose blossom blush on apples, and bronzer for contouring. On the lips – berry lipstick and a dab of gloss (beet root) in center of lips.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: When applying concealer, use a damp makeup sponge and apply downward (upward opens up pores). For upper-lip fullness, apply lipstick from outer corner to inner corner. Wear more mascara toward the outer corner of lashes and use the wand’s tip in an upward, diagonal direction. (Remember to clean mascara wand.) And for softness, smudge eyeliner to avoid harsh lines.

WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL? “Working with preschoolers can make me feel absolutely beautiful when they look at me with adoration and compliment me on something I just threw on.” ~ Nan midtownmag.com| xx

mm 074-081 makeover.indd 6

4/27/10 11:44:38 AM

A F T E R

BEFORE

Hair by Joseph Ellis, Raleigh Hair Concepts Makeup by Jessica Jackson, Luxe Apothecary

Durema, 57

HAIR ISSUES: Like some 30 million women in the United States, Durema has experienced hair loss. When her hair started to thin and eventually fall out, she felt depleted and unsure of how to feel better.

THE BOOST: To start, Joseph took a mold of Durema’s head to get its contour and produce a custom, thin graft made out of skin-like material.

From that point, human hair was hand-tied (one by one) into the graft.

Finally, he bonded the custom, hair-filled graft to the base of her hairline.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Swim, shower and shampoo as if it were naturally growing hair. “She can do anything, roller coaster and all,” explains Joseph. Next appointment: four to five weeks for adjustment.

MAKEUP/SKIN ISSUES: Finding the right look for Durema’s fair skin, green eyes and brown hair THE BOOST: Jessica made Durema’s piercing green eyes the focus of the new look by using eye tint, a bronze/copper eye defining pencil (by Susan Posnick) and eyeliner at the root of her upper eyelash. “[It] instantly opens the eye and creates the appearance of a thicker, more defined lash line,” says Jessica. On her lips – Paula Dorf ’s lip slide in blaze.

On her cheeks – Becca’s crème blush. Durema is also wearing crème foundation, concealer and loose powder.

TAKE-HOME INSTRUCTIONS: Use this look every day. It’s balanced, neutral and appropriate for work. For an evening out, add more eyeliner and lip gloss for added sheen.

WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL? “Self-confidence.” ~ Durema

xx | midtownmag.com

mm 074-081 makeover.indd 7

4/27/10 11:44:45 AM

mm 074-081 makeover.indd 8

4/27/10 11:44:51 AM

A recent study found that women need an hour of moderate to intense exercise every day just to maintain their weight. Considering most of us are trying to lose weight, we’re left frustrated, questioning why we even bother. It also made us wonder if any women out

my I body there accept themselves just the way they are?

do

want

BY ILLYSE LANE

82 | midtownmag.com

mm 082-085 happy healthy.indd 1

4/27/10 11:46:09 AM

m

My email read like a want ad...

A few good women needed!

Must be content with your body.

Must be willing to eat a piece or two of birthday cake and not feel guilty.

Must accept yourself even if your abs aren’t flat or your thighs touch.

Must be able to walk by a scale and really believe the number doesn’t matter.

My response was those women don’t exist.

I refused to give up. There must be a few women left who eat carbohydrates and chocolate. Women who choose to live a life of moderation, without extreme diets. Women who run for mental health and strength, not to fit into a smaller size.

They exist. We found three.

Meet Linda Brechbiel, age 47, Hunter Buxton, age 41 and Sharon Lubbers, age 52. Three women who have muted the negative self-talk and instead respect who they are and how they look.

Don’t misunderstand. They’re quick to say they won’t be strutting their stuff down the streets of Midtown. “Of course, there are times I want longer, leaner legs and a flat belly,” says Linda Brechbiel, mother of three and a preschool music and movement teacher. “There are times I’m a little hard on myself, but overall, I accept myself.”

Lubbers, mother to one and owner of a medical supply business with her husband, admits she has occasionally longed for the abs of her twenties.

“Could I be better? Yes, and I strive for it every day,” says Lubbers. “But I think I’m in good shape.”

And if forced to think about it for too long, Buxton, mother of three with a volunteer resume that could fill pages, would put having a curvaceous shape as the top of her list of wants, admiring a women such as Lubbers, who stands tall at 5’11”. But instead, she tries to avoid thinking about what she’d like to change.

Is it that easy? Are they too good to be true? Three women who have uncovered a magical method to living a healthy lifestyle, void of fad diets and excessive exercise? easieR saiD Than DOne “What is different with these ladies is that they have figured out what works for them and made it a part of their lives,” says Katherine Broadway, a Midtown psychotherapist. “They know when it’s time to silence the critic and accept what their bodies are.”

That’s not easy to do. Of all subjects, body image is by far the most complicated. “There are so many dimensions. It’s personal to each woman and many don’t even realize they’re struggling,” says Broadway.

It is far too common for women not to feel good about themselves, yet not even recognize that, in and of itself, is a problem. They treat the constant, mindless chatter of self-criticism and self-evaluation as normal. Add to it that most of the issues we have with weight, food and body image began as children and have been reinforced through society’s obsession with weight loss and physical makeovers. We don’t stand a chance.

“Many women cannot remember a time when they weren’t on a diet,” says Broadway. midtownmag.com| xx

mm 082-085 happy healthy.indd 2

4/27/10 11:46:13 AM

The Obsession With Thin Let’s face it. It’s a world of immediate gratification. We’re sold quick fixes, extreme dieting and even medical procedures as a way to get thin and in turn, feel good. Who can forget last year’s controversy over rail-thin model Kate Moss stating, “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels?” As if when we’re finally thin, our problems will disappear and our confidence will be strong.

While we know this to be false, we buy into it. “Society has told us that skinny means you’re worthwhile and have esteem,” says Broadway. ‘We not only accept this, but strive to achieve it.”

Take Buxton, for example, a lean woman, who receives positive attention for being thin, especially when she unintentionally loses a few pounds due to stress. “I’m always surprised that women notice that I’ve lost weight, and then comment that I look great, when really, I look gaunt,” says Buxton.

Buxton has a body type that she comes by naturally, helped along by her good habits of moderate exercise and healthy eating; she’s been a vegetarian for 20 years. And since it’s likely that both of her daughters will inherit what we consider to be her good genes, Buxton works hard to instill a high level of confidence based on praise earned from hard work and effort, not based on beauty. “I love that my daughters see me eat a lot, including desserts, and see that I enjoy it,” she says.

Brechbiel also works hard to deflect attention from her fit physique, noting that

it’s more important for her to enjoy running a 5K or cooking and eating a meal made with fresh ingredients rather than focusing on the look of her body.

“I could get upset about the inevitable changes and challenges that come with time. But the bottom line is not everyone is cut out to be a size 2, 4, or even a 6,” she says. “I’ve learned you can still look good and feel great when you choose to live a healthy life. We just have to be realistic.”

Getting On the Right Path It can be hard to embrace reality and accept the limits that come with it, especially when the messages we get suggest that we should and can have it all. The truth is, we’re a mix of different heights, bone structures, muscles and unfortunately, fat.

Factor in age and we are who we are.

However, we can discover the healthy version of ourselves. It’s in all of us; it just needs to be uncovered. Broadway suggests we begin by asking ourselves why we dislike our body. “It takes hard work to figure out why we hear that critical voice,” she says.

Interestingly, while we’re willing to work hard at our jobs, relationships and raising our kids, and our relationships, we want easy when it comes to weight and appearance. Choosing to live a healthy life complete with healthy food and exercise is a choice that requires dedication and determination.

Quieting the Critic Katherine Broadway, a Midtown psychotherapist, offers tips to developing a positive relationship with our body. Once we respect our body, we will make better choices when it comes to fitness and food, resulting in a healthier life.

Practice kindness to yourself: Would you judge your dearest friends the way you judge yourself? What would you say to her if she were complaining about eating too much?

Silence the critic: Begin to notice how much you criticize and joke about your body.

Choose one little thing to change: If you want a cookie, have a cookie. Try to make a good choice or have just that one.

Have realistic expectations: Be honest about what kind of body you have.

Focus on health and contentment: If unhappy people surround you, find someone who is positive as a role model.

And of course, if you are having trouble finding contentment or overcoming self-criticism, you may need to seek professional help.

84 | midtownmag.com

mm 082-085 happy healthy.indd 3

4/27/10 11:46:16 AM

Hunter Buxton, Sharon Lubbers and Linda Brechbiel have found a way to silence the negative self-talk and instead, respect who they are and how they look.

Eliminate Extremes “Extreme dieting on your own can be counterproductive and downright dangerous. It can slow your metabolism for long periods of time and trigger episodes of depression and other mental health issues. It can also cause significant loss of muscle and heart rhythm abnormalities,” says Dr. George Bartels, of Bartels Medical Associates, a practice specializing in bariatric medicine. “There’s a lot of misinformation out there, so it’s best to consult an expert.”

If getting healthy involves losing more than 20 pounds, Dr. Bartels recommends doing so under the care of a physician who specializes in weight control to make sure you are doing it correctly.

Because there is a right way, void of extremes.

The same strategy goes for exercise. A commitment to exercise can result in the development of a positive, lifelong habit. Thirty years ago, Lubbers chose to make exercise part of her life. While her initial motivation was to lose a few pounds gained in college, her exercise routine quickly became a daily habit. And although she’s had to scale back as family priorities take precedence, she hits the gym five days a week. “Some people love tennis or golf; I love exercise,” says Lubbers. “It helps me relieve stress and keep up with my family’s active lifestyle.”

Just Imagine So how do you get started developing a healthy relationship with your body? Broadway offers a fun tip to get started. Imagine what you would be like if you achieved your goal. Now walk around for an hour as if you had. If that works, why not try it all of the time?

Does this mean the women we talked with close their eyes, imagine their own ideal body, and then, upon opening them, suddenly feel content? Yes, to some extent.

They’ve found balance, live without extremes and occasionally pat themselves on the back for doing the best they can. “I’m committed to my fitness routine; it helps me start my day right. But to me, a healthy lifestyle is about more than food and fitness – it includes taking care of my boys and my husband,” says Brechbiel.

“I think we should all learn to spin our lives more, like the politicians do. Put who you are in the best possible light no matter what the question is,” says Buxton. “You can choose to concentrate on what’s wrong or really dig what looks right.”

midtownmag.com | 85

mm 082-085 happy healthy.indd 4

4/27/10 11:46:18 AM

makeup

NO MAKEUP

Beauty tips courtesy of Fiquet Bailey, Luxe Apothecary Check out Fiquet’s blog at: thebeautyofitall.net

When heading outdoors to enjoy the season’s warm weather, the key to looking great is to keep things simple. Light, breezy sundresses and poolside fashion calls for natural-looking makeup. Nothing looks stranger than heavy makeup with casual clothes. Remember that your makeup is an extension of your wardrobe, so make sure the makeup you choose is appropriate for your outfit and the occasion.

Fool people into thinking that you just happen to have flawless skin and well-defined features by following this easy to create “no makeup” makeup how to.

If you are heading out into the heat, you may want to prep skin with a matifying primer before applying your foundation or set foundation with a light application of translucent or flesh-toned powder.

Makeup Forever HD Microfinish Powder $30; available at Sephora.com

Perfect skin by applying

foundation of your choice only in areas requiring coverage.

Try using a damp makeup sponge to apply or choose a sheer tinted moisturizer all over the face

Dr. Dennis Gross Skincare All-In-One Tinted Moisturizer $44; available at Luxe Apothecary

Tip! Braids are all the rage for spring and summer! Try braiding your hair for the day then take hair down for a wavy beach hair look at night!

Define eyes with a light taupe or

warm brown shadow. Apply a bone colored shadow all over lid, then apply a slightly darker shade into crease.

Mac eyeshadow in “Soba” $14.50; available at Mac counters

Highlight the tops of

cheekbones with a highlighter.

If you don’t have a highlighter you can use a white eye shadow for this.

Mac Cosmetics Iridescent Powder $22; available at Mac counters

86 | midtownmag.com

mm 086-087 beauty.indd 1

4/27/10 11:47:40 AM

p

Using a lash curler, curl

lashes to give eyes a more open appearance, then follow with your favorite mascara.

For more definition along the lash line, apply a cake liner along the inner rim of upper lid – working the liner into the roots of lashes.

Maybelline Great Lash Mascara $5.29; available at CVS

Skip the blush and

instead give cheeks a sculpted appearance by applying bronzer just below cheekbones. Use a fan brush and work in a back-to-front motion – starting just below the ear and pulling bronzer forward towards cheek Bobbi Brown Bronzing Powder $33; available at Bobbi Brown counters

Apply a sheer nude or peach lipstick or clear gloss to lips

JK Jemma Kidd Sheer Vanity Gloss & Glaze in “Belle de Jour” $16; available at Target

midtownmag.com | 87

mm 086-087 beauty.indd 2

4/27/10 11:47:45 AM

Nearly fifty years ago, young reporter Lucy Daniels reviewed children’s books for the News and Observer.

How fitting that today, the center that bears her name and is the product of her generous philanthropy is celebrating the first anniversary of its own Lucy’s Book Club with its Bookmarked! event.

w

While many parenting topics are hotly debated, the value of reading to your children is rarely one of them. Whether you’re looking at statistics, studies or success records in school, the benefit of reading to children early on is clear.

Not only is reading time an indicator of future literacy skills, but it also boosts an understanding of concepts and vocabulary. It is one of the ways children learn to express and label their emotions, resolve conflict and communicate.

So when the Lucy Daniels Center for Early Childhood, a center devoted to promoting the healthy emotional development of young children, was searching for a way to give a gift to the community, launching Lucy’s Book Club made sense.

marked

BY ILLYSE LANE

for success

88 | midtownmag.com

mm 088-091 lucy daniels.indd 1

4/27/10 11:48:58 AM

At the Lucy Daniels Center, teachers use reading as a fundamental tool in teaching children how to express and label their emotions, resolve conflict and communicate.

Teaching Through Reading Lucy’s Book Club encourages parents to read to their children to promote a lifelong love of reading and explore topics relevant to the challenges of everyday life. By providing parents with a list of recommended children’s books and related adult selections, the Lucy Daniels Center is able to reach beyond the children it serves through its programs and extend into the community, offering support to all parents.

“We’re sitting on so much incredible information that can help parents be proactive,” says Joyce Watkins King, Director of Development. “Lucy’s Book Club offers another avenue to reach parents whose children may never come here, but still want information about the typical challenges of raising kids.”

Simple Beginnings, Simple Mission Collecting all of this information started nearly 20 years ago, when the Center began as an offshoot of the Lucy Daniels Foundation. The Foundation was the vision of Raleigh native Lucy Daniels, Ph.D., a local writer and clinical psychologist interested in studying the intersection between creativity and psychology in adults.

Daniels and Dr. Donald Rosenblitt, current Clinical and Executive Director of the Center, worked together to develop a preschool that would support the emotional development of a wide range of children, including those with significant emotional difficulties, those with milder emotional challenges and those who were developing fairly typically.

“We were building upon a tradition that had demonstrated the power of working with children in an educationally based setting on a daily basis in close partnerships with their parents,” says Dr. Rosenblitt.

In 1991, the first Early Intervention classroom opened. Today, the Center is thriving, seeing over 500 children a year through three channels, making it the largest non-profit provider of mental health services in the Triangle exclusively for children.

And Dr. Rosenblitt is quick to dismiss the inaccurate stereotype that the Center assists only those children with severe emotional issues. “We work with children across the spectrum, from those whose parents need a little guidance with temporary issues to children whose development is being significantly impacted by their emotional challenge,” says Dr. Rosenblitt. midtownmag.com| xx

mm 088-091 lucy daniels.indd 2

4/27/10 11:49:04 AM

Through Lucy’s Book Club and its Bookmarked! event, parents in the community have access to a vast selection of books that are not only enjoyable for children, but also help guide their child’s social and emotional growth.

Reaching Out In Many Ways Today, the original Early Intervention Program (EIP) exists alongside the Child Enrichment Program (CEP), a model preschool for typically developing children. “It is extremely valuable to have these two tracks, offering our teachers opportunities for training,” says King.

Parents also see the value. One mother with a son in the EIP and a daughter in the CEP has been overwhelmed by the

support the Center provides as well as the way the teachers have encouraged independence and a feeling of security within both of her children. Additionally, knowing her son is helped on a daily basis has been priceless. “He’s alive again, he smiles more and he’s found positive coping mechanisms that help him when he’s anxious,” she says.

For Karen Taylor, the CEP was the closest NAEYC-accredited preschool in her area. Although it required a slightly longer drive for her daughter, Taylor felt it was well worth it. “With the help of her teachers, my daughter developed the ability to talk about positive and negative feelings, sort out misunderstandings and respect other’s wishes,” says Taylor.

The Center also offers SecurePath, a home-based program offered in conjunction with Wake County’s SmartStart initiative, and the Family Guidance Service, which began as the Center recognized the need to continue assisting those preschoolers transitioning to elementary school. This outpatient program also happens to be the Center’s largest, serving children up to age 11, and is an option for any child, regardless if they attended the EIP.

90 | midtownmag.com

mm 088-091 lucy daniels.indd 3

4/27/10 11:49:10 AM

“The Family Guidance Service made a significant difference for my son who was struggling with anger management issues,” says a father. Through therapy, his son learned strategies for dealing with his anger, while he and his wife learned how to avoid certain interactions that led their son to lose control of his temper.

“It was a complete collaborative effort,” he says. “It also taught us there’s no shame for us as parents or for our son as a patient to reach out and get help.”

Reading is Fundamental Regardless of the program, reading is a fundamental tool used for helping children learn. Enter Lucy’s Book Club, which reinforces the importance of reading to children to help guide their social and emotional growth.

Three times a year, a panel made up of teachers, mental health professionals and two Wake County librarians choose 10 children’s books and one related parenting book to be featured as book club selections. The chosen books relay a message and validate emotions, and have included topics such as healthy parent child attachment, imagination and exploring independence.

The book club has over 220 partners throughout the Triangle, including pediatricians, dentists, speech therapists and preschools, who participate by displaying the book club selections on oversized bookmarks – broken out by category and age – making it easy for parents to create their own library of enjoyable books that teach important life lessons while building confidence.

The Lucy’s Book Club website is also critical to this initiative, containing a wealth of information in an easy-touse format where articles about the featured topics can be downloaded. “The goal is to end up with a very rich site where parents can get information,” says King.

Bookmarked! A Celebration of Reading With Children To celebrate its first year, Lucy’s Book Club is hosting Bookmarked!, a two-week event beginning Saturday, May 22nd. The event will include celebrity book readings from local heroes such as mail carriers, firemen and policemen, held at various locations, and a Lucy’s Book Club selection book fair held at Quail Ridge Books. The event will wrap up with a special fundraising event with Judith Viorst, the best selling author of the beloved Alexander series on Sunday, June 6th. Viorst will also read from her Alexander books on Saturday and hold a book signing.

“We hope that Bookmarked! will make more parents aware of Lucy’s Book Club as an educational resource for them and their young children. We also hope it will raise awareness of the mental health and educational services provided by the Center and help us attract new partners, individuals and corporations in our community who feel passionate about supporting children and their emotional well-being,” says King.

For reading may be the most powerful vehicles we have in helping to raise emotional and mentally secure children. And the Lucy Daniels Center has made it easy for all of us to enjoy it.

Lucy’s Book Club presents

Bookmarked!

A celebration of reading with children.

Saturday, May 22nd through Sunday, June 6th.

Featuring activities for all ages, including a special evening with Judith Viorst, renowned author of books for children and adults.

Lucy’s Book Club Book Fair at Quail Ridge Books featuring all 44 of the Lucy’s Book Club titles. Select titles from Judith Viorst will also be available from Quail Ridge Books for special book-signing events.

Celebrity Heroes Book Readings for Children and Parents at venues such as public libraries, Quail Ridge Books, Girls and Boys Clubs, YMCAs, preschools, kindergartens and the Lucy Daniels Center to share stories and fun activities with children. On Saturday, May 29th, join us on the Commons at North Hills during the Farmer’s Market for two readings, one at 10am and one at 11am.

An Evening with Judith Viorst, a fundraising event, will be held Sunday, June 6th, in Kenan Recital Hall at Peace College in Raleigh. In addition to her lecture, “Loves, Losses, and Wicked Thoughts,” and a brief program, guests will have an opportunity to meet Ms. Viorst at a reception in her honor in the Main Hall parlor and adjacent courtyard.

Tickets start at $50 per person and include a $30 tax-deductible contribution to the Center.

For more information, please visit www.lucysbookclub.org.

For more information about Bookmarked! and Lucy’s Book Club, visit www.lucysbookclub.org. For more information on the Lucy Daniels Center, visit www.lucydanielscenter.org. midtownmag.com | 91

mm 088-091 lucy daniels.indd 4

4/27/10 11:49:11 AM

sum m

musicof the

92 | midtownmag.com

mm 092-095 beach music.indd 1

4/27/10 11:50:16 AM

mer BE YOUNG, BE FOOLISH, BE HAPPY

BY SUSAN ELY

There’s no music like the music of your youth; a certain beat, a lyric, and you’re 17 again, looking forward to a night out with your friends, sneakin’ a beer, dancing to “your song,” or praying you get a phone call from that cute girl (guy) you met last night at the pavilion.

If you’ve got even an ounce of Southern in you, the music that evokes those memories is beach music.

In response to the question “What is beach music?” posed by beachmusiconline.com, one writer called it a state of mind, another said “cruising at the Pavilion in Myrtle Beach, the smell of sea and suntan oil in the breeze, shell necklaces, halter tops and shorts...my childhood and youth. Beach music is HOME.” Some were humorous: “When you hear it, your mind, body, soul and liver immediately go into vacation mode.” the embers’ 1979 hit, “I Love Beach Music” says it best: “I love beach music I always have and I always will.

There ain’t no other kind of music in the world that gives me quite the thrill.”

Whether you first heard it “under the boardwalk,” or “up on the roof,” you know what we’re talking about. It’s as Southern as Krispy Kreme doughnuts and twice as addictive. Beach music is the music of summer and the music of the South.

midtownmag.com| xx

mm 092-095 beach music.indd 2

4/27/10 11:50:30 AM

Forever Young At 65 Beach music is considered 65 years old this year and historians of the genre describe its growth in terms of “waves,” the first wave hitting the jukeboxes of Carolina beaches in 1945, and rapidly spreading to boardwalk venues up and down the East Coast. Those who discovered it while vacationing at the beach in those early years went through withdrawal once they got back home, unless they happened to tune into the rare radio station that played it back then, such as WLAC out of Nashville. The phenomenon gradually drifted inland to weekend getaway spots near lakes, rivers and pools. Today, enthusiasts run the gamut from bankers to beach bums, to old-timers and college students who know all the lyrics because their parents played it when they were kids.

The Bands Of Summer The Catalinas from Charlotte, The Tams from Atlanta – everyone has their favorite band, but here in Raleigh, it has to be The Embers. They’re North Carolina’s official music ambassadors, and their most requested song, “I Love Beach Music” is considered the national anthem of beach music. Band leader Bobby Tomlinson can hardly remember a time when he wasn’t playing music; a Raleigh native, he formed the group in high school in 1958 and there’s been sand in his loafers ever since.

“We’d hear these great soul and R&B songs on WLAC, and then we’d order the 45s,” says Tomlinson. “The Drifters, the Clovers; back then, we were the only white group playing this kind of music.” It wasn’t until 1969 that he first heard the music referred to as beach music.

Tomlinson calls it “Music with a Memory,” and over the years he and his band members (there have been 35) have racked up plenty of memories, playing an average of 300 dates per year.

They’ve performed for princes and presidents, opened for The Rolling Stones, done commercials for Budweiser and recorded 17 albums, with plans to record a live album this summer.

“This Is Your Mama And Mine’s Favorite Song. We Fell In Love Dancing To It.”* Classic beach songs are the “best of ” from the early days, and include both regional and national artists. First wave songs such as “60 Minute Man,” by Billy Ward and the Dominoes, “Work With Me Annie,” by the Midnighters,” and “Lawdy Miss Clawdy,” by Lloyd Price were followed in the sixties by “Double Shot of My Baby’s Love,”

by The Swingin’ Medallions and “39-21-46” (aka 39-21-40 Shape)

by The Showmen, (1967) and “Ms Grace” by the Tymes in 1974.

Don’t forget “Summertime’s Callin’ Me,” by The Catalinas.

Are these songs new to you? How exactly do you expect to survive Carolina summers without being able to sing along to “Give Me Just a Little More Time?” Ok, we understand; you’re not from around here, are you? You can start by picking up a few beach music CD compilations and checking out the “Best of the Beach” lists online.

If The Music’s In Your Heart, The Beat’s In Your Feet Everybody knows that when you’re walkin’ on hot sand you gotta’ keep your feet movin’ and with beach music playing in the background, you might as well Shag, and yes, that is a capital “S.”

94 | midtownmag.com

mm 092-095 beach music.indd 3

4/27/10 11:50:32 AM

Technically, Carolina Shag is a slotted swing dance that shares characteristics with “jitterbug,” east coast swing and west coast swing. What beginners find challenging about the dance, according to David Cox, manager and instructor at Raleigh’s Arthur Murray Dance Studio, is that the lady and the man are attached by only one hand, rather than the typical embrace hold.

“Students think it’s the hardest adjustment until they understand the reason for it,” says Cox, explaining, only half-jokingly, that the one-handed hold means the other hand is free to hold their beverage of choice.

What differentiates the Shag from other dances is the emphasis on footwork, particularly the man’s, although, like the times, that too is changing.

Done correctly, it’s smooth and grounded; Don Bunn describes Shag as being danced “from the waist down.” A Shagger’s Hall of Fame member, Bunn placed second in The National Shag Dance Championship in 1990, and this spring he and his partner, Debbie Peterson, came in second in the Master’s Division. When he first learned it as a teen, it was called boppin’ or fast dancing.

The first signs of the Shag were seen in the early 30s on the coast of Carolina, but whether it was the North or South Carolina coast is widely disputed. Carolina Beach locals claim it as their own, while Myrtle Beach fans swear they have squatter’s rights.

Both states named the Shag as their official state dance.

“Shaggers,” says Bunn, “are a group of people who, when they get ready to plan something for Saturday night, it’s not ‘what are we doing Saturday night?’ it’s ‘Where are we going shagging?’”

Hot spots line the Carolina Beaches but there are plenty of inland options across the state and locally, with clubs such as TJ’s Night Life, where Bunn teaches lessons and Loafer’s Beach Club, which co-sponsors the annual North Hills Beach Shag Competition, being held this year on June 5th. Fans come out in droves for North Hills’ Thursday night Summer Beach Music Series; an estimated 200,000 people have attended over the past two seasons.

The concerts feature top bands such as The Embers, who open and close the season, The Tams, Liquid Pleasure, Craig Woolard Band and Band of Oz.

Sure, the dance floor gets crowded, but who needs a dance floor to Shag? All you really need is beach music, even if there’s not a grain of sand in sight. After all, “Carolina beach music……….is the holiest sound on earth.” *

Once the music gets in your heart, we’re sure you’ll agree. *from Beach Music, by Pat Conroy

BET YOU DIDN’T KNOW ARTHUR COULD SHAG Surprised that Arthur Murray teaches Shag? According to Faith Keith, owner of the Raleigh franchise, Shag has always been an in-demand class. “Worldwide, our studios teach dances that are popular regionally. We’re here to teach people how to do any type of partner dancing!”

Wedding receptions, class reunions or a night out on the town – in order to survive socially in the South, you have to be able to Shag. Otherwise, as instructor David Cox says, “You’ll be the one stuck holding drinks and pocketbooks.” So come on, grab a beer and stick your feet in the sand. If Arthur can do it, you can do it.

Suggestion for beginners: Wear shoes that will move easily on dance floor – guys, loafers are perfect. Ladies, choose flats unless you want to put yourself in harm’s way; the footwork gets pretty intricate! midtownmag.com | 95

mm 092-095 beach music.indd 4

4/27/10 11:50:35 AM

it’s

camp time!

IS YOUR CHILD READY? ARE YOU?

BY SUSAN ELY

C

amp Seagull and Seafarer are located just down the road from where my grandparents lived on the banks of the Pamlico Sound, but the only camp this Ohio girl ever attended was Brownie day camp – five glorious days the summer I was eight years old. I can still recall the damp picnic tables, feel the chill of the water and recall the fun we had making “sit-upons”. But, oh, how I longed to go to “real camp”. Even now, whenever I pull up to the ferry alongside a busload of campers, heads hanging out the windows, singing camp songs, I long to be one of them.

Why are we so drawn to camping? Experts say it’s because camp offers a change of pace, environment and context. “At camp, young people can shed their old reputations and feel free to be the person they know they are. At camp, young people can relax and learn life skills – such as making friends and playing fair – that will serve them and the people whose lives they touch,” says Dr. Christopher Turber, co-author of The Summer Camp Handbook: Everything You Need to Find, Choose and Get Ready for Overnight Camp – and Skip the Homesickness.

Summer camp can provide family members with a much-needed break and opportunity to recharge; it can also be a time of anxiety and homesickness for teary kids and sleeplessness for their worried mommies and daddies. The child’s individual needs and readiness are the keys to a positive experience.

The majority of children adjust quickly to camp, reveling in the thrill of independence that camp offers and relishing the long fun-filled days.

At age seven most children are ready to spend time away from home, but it’s not always about age; a five-year old who makes new friends easily and adjusts well to new environments may fare better at camp than an older sibling who prefers solo activities and is a homebody.

If you’re unsure about your child’s readiness for overnight camp, start small with overnights at grandma’s, or try mini-camping experiences in a backyard tent. Share positive stories with your child about your own first experiences away from home and let them talk about their fears. Nighttime is usually the hardest, so pack a favorite stuffed animal or pillow.

Preparation is the key to a successful experience.

96 | midtownmag.com

mm 096-097 summer camps.indd 1

4/27/10 11:52:10 AM

summer camp options RAVENSCROFT SUMMER PROGRAMS Raleigh • 861-2122 • www.ravenscroft.org/summer JOHNSTON COUNTY YMCA SPORTS CAMP Clayton • 359-9622 • www.ymcatriangle.com JOHNSTON COUNTY YMCA SUMMER DAY CAMP Clayton • 359-9622 • www.ymcatriangle.com CAMP MARBLES Raleigh • 857-1040 • www.marbleskidsmuseum.org SUMMER ARTS PROGRAM Raleigh • 821-2787 • www.artspacenc.org SUMMER EXPERIENCES, RALEIGH PARKS AND RECREATION DEPARTMENT Raleigh • 996-4800 • park.raleighnc.gov A.E. FINLEY YMCA – CAMP GRACE AND BUBEL/ AIKEN INCLUSION CAMP Raleigh • 848-9622 • www.ymcatriangle.org A.E. FINLEY YMCA – SUMMER DAY CAMPS Raleigh • 848-9622 • www.ymcatriangle.org ALEXANDER FAMILY YMCA – SUMMER CAMPS Raleigh • 832-6601 • www.ymcatriangle.org CARY FAMILY YMCA – SUMMER DAY CAMPS Cary • 469-9622 • www.ymcatriangle.org KERR FAMILY YMCA – SUMMER DAY CAMPS Raleigh • 562-9622 • www.ymcatriangle.org KRAFT FAMILY YMCA – CAMP GRACE Apex • 657-9622 • www.ymcatriangle.org KRAFT FAMILY YMCA – SUMMER DAY CAMPS Apex • 657-9622 • www.ymcatriangle.org SURF CAMP Wrightsville Beach • 866-844-7873 • www.wbsurfcamp.com YMCA OF GARNER SUMMER DAY CAMPS Garner • 773-3621 • www.ymcatriangle.org YMCA – CAMP KANATA DAY CAMP Wake Forest • 556-2661 • www.ymcatriangle.org

residential camps YMCA OF THE TRIANGLE – CAMP SEA GULL FOR BOYS Arapahoe • 252-249-1111 • www.seagull-seafarer.org YMCA OF THE TRIANGLE – CAMP SEAFARER FOR GIRLS Arapahoe • 252-249-1212 • www.seagull-seafarer.org YMCA – CAMP KANATA Wake Forest • 556-2661 • www.campkanata.org

midtownmag.com | 97

mm 096-097 summer camps.indd 2

4/27/10 11:52:14 AM

the

fields are for

ripe

pickin’

BY SUSAN ELY

98 | midtownmag.com

mm 098-105 around the state_dr r1 1

4/27/10 11:53:45 AM

n

North Carolinians are blessed with a rich agricultural heritage, and a fertile and diverse terrain ranging from the coastal plains westward to the mountains. Just how big is farming in our state? We are among the top 10 states in the country for 13 different crops, and our overall agricultural production is the third most diverse in the country It’s easy to take such abundance for granted when the closest most of us come to living off the land is harvesting a handful of basil leaves from the windowsill. When was the last time you tasted produce that was picked less than 24 hours ago? Have you ever walked a field and chomped on a fresh green bean right off the vine? Wanna’?

Around the state, the fields are ripe for picking – don’t you think it’s time to remind yourself what fresh really tastes like?

Hop in the car and join Midtown on a tour of North Carolina UPick farms. We’ll tell you what’s in season and where to find it. U-Pick farms are part of the agritourism industry and as such, many of the farms have educational and recreational activities for kids. Some even have homemade peach ice cream. Ready? Let’s hit the road!

may

strawberries They’ve been popping their little red heads out of the ground for the past month now, but May is officially strawberry month. North Carolina ranks third in the US in strawberry production, and unlike Florida and California, who grow for shipping, almost all of our berries are sold fresh to consumers as pick-your-own, at farm stands, or to local supermarket chains. Recipes abound, but is there really anything tastier than strawberry shortcake?

Coastal Indigo Farms 1542 Hickman Rd NW Calabash, NC 28467 910.287.6794

Piedmont Buckwheat Farm 2700 Holland Rd Apex, NC 27502 919.303.0339

Western Darnell Farms Highway 19 East, Bryson City, NC 28713 828.488.2376 midtownmag.com| xx

mm 098-105 around the state_dr r2 2

4/27/10 11:53:48 AM

june

blueberries

Blueberries are considered a “super fruit,” because of their high levels of antioxidants, but North Carolinians have considered them super ever since the 1930s, when the first cultivated blueberry production in North Carolina began in the Pender County area.

Harold Huntington of Cooperstown, New York bought 1,000 acres of “worthless swamp” for a dollar apiece, and the rest is history.

Today, Pender County ranks second in blueberry production for the entire state. Bladen County is the largest producer.

The gorgeous indigo orbs are at their most prolific in June (officially blueberry month), and are just begging to be transformed into pies, cobblers and preserves or decadently eaten out of hand.

Blueberry Trivia: Indians in the Northwest Territory smoked wild blueberries to preserve them for the winter. It takes about four cups of blueberries to make a pie.

Coastal Farmer Mac’s Berries 184 Berry Patch Rd Hampstead, NC 28443 910-270-4618

Piedmont Cedar Grove Blueberry Farm 8411 NC Hwy 86 North Cedar Grove, NC 27231 919.923.3137

Western Mountain Farm 125 Copperhead Bnd Burnsville, NC 28714 828.675.4856

july

peaches

The search for a perfect peach can be elusive; as D.G. Martin once said, “A perfectly delicious, fully ripe peach is right on the edge of disaster.” In other words, if you don’t have a tree in your own back yard, head for the Sandhills – the home of the perfect peach, if you know how and when to pick them.

Piedmont Auman Orchard 3140 NC Hwy 73 West End, NC 27376 910.673.4391

Bynum Farm & Nursery 123 Gallimore Rd Ellerbe, NC 28338 919.652.2204

100 | midtownmag.com

mm 098-105 around the state_dr r3 3

4/27/10 11:53:51 AM

august

take your pick, it’s all good!

U-Pickers – this is your month! All across the state you can pick tomatoes, green beans, butterbeans, cantaloupes, squash, okra – can you say abundance?

Be on the lookout for farms that advertise “picking in halves,” meaning they give you two buckets to fill up – one for them, one for you!

These websites will help you locate the appropriate farm: www.ncfarmfresh.com Includes a directory of U-Pick farms, by product, region or county. www.localharvest.org Local Harvest is America’s number 1 organic and local food website.

Includes lots of information on the farms. www.pickyourown.org Search by county or region, harvest schedules, listings of fruit and vegetable festivals, picking instructions and canning/freezing instructions and recipes.

midtownmag.com | 101

mm 098-105 around the state_dr r4 4

4/27/10 11:53:56 AM

apples

september The night air is getting crisp and so are the apples! You’ll find them growing in the Haywood, Henderson, Mt. Mitchell, Northwest and South Mountain areas of the state.

The four major varieties grown here are Red Delicious, Golden Delicious, Rome and Stayman.

Empire, Fuji, Gala, Ginger Gold, Jonagold and Mutzu are grown on a limited basis. Antique varieties such as Arkansas Black, Grimes, Limber Twig, Virginia Beauty and Wolf River can still be found as well.

Is there anything more wholesome than picking apples with your kids?

Western Coston Farm and Apple House 3748 Chimney Rock Rd Hendersonville, NC 28792 828.685.8352 Stepp’s Hillcrest Orchard 221 Stepp Orchard Dr Hendersonville, NC 28792 828.685-9083

102 | midtownmag.com

mm 098-105 around the state_dr r5 5

4/27/10 11:54:03 AM

october

pumpkins

Carve them, bake ‘em into pies or roast the seeds for a snack, but whatever you do, make sure you visit a pumpkin patch this month!

Pumpkin pie isn’t a modern invention; early Americans sliced off the top, removed the seeds, filled it with milk, spices and syrup, and baked it for hours in hot ashes. Voila! Pumpkin pie.

Coastal Mike’s Farm 1600 Haw Branch Rd Beulaville, NC 28518 910.324.3422 1.888.820.FARM

Piedmont The Maze at Hector’s Creek 274 Old Mill Rd Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526 919.552.0823

Western The Pumpkin Patch at Blue Mountain Farms 1038 Woodruff Rd. Glade Valley, NC 28627 336.909.0241

november

collards

North Carolinians take pride in their collards. You don’t know what you’re missing if you’ve never eaten a “mess o’ greens”, or slurped on pot likker. Grandma would say you’re crazy to pick ‘em yourself if you don’t have to, and yet the hard work celebrates her efforts in a way nothing else can.

If you ever see collard sandwiches listed on a menu (two crispy fried slices of cornbread filled with collards and a shot of pepper vinegar), order one. You won’t be sorry.

Coastal White’s Farm & Greenhouses 52000 US 17 N Vanceboro, NC 28586 252.244.2106 Piedmont The Collard Patch 7012 Pulley Town Rd Wake Forest, NC 27587 919.556.5135

midtownmag.com | 103

mm 098-105 around the state_dr r6 6

4/27/10 11:54:07 AM

december

christmas tree

It just wouldn’t be Christmas without a homegrown North Carolina tree. We know you’re busy, but making the effort to choose and cut your own is an experience you and the kids will remember forever. Make a weekend of it and head to the mountains for a Fraser Fir, or stay local and pick a Red Cedar or White Pine. Oh Christmas tree, oh Christmas tree, how lovely are thy branches!

Piedmont Mountain Branch Farm 1660 Cornwallis Rd Garner, NC 27529 919.553.2672

Helms Christmas Tree Farm 6345 Christmas Tree Ln Vale, NC 28168 704.276.1835 www.HelmsChristmasTreeFarm.com

Western Sugar Plum Farm 1263 Isaacs Branch Rd Plumtree, NC 28664 828.766.6272 www.SugarPlumFarm.com

Cornett-Deal Christmas Tree Farm 142 Tannenbaum Lane Vilas, NC 28692 828.964.6322 www.cdtreefarm.com

Whether you plan on doing some serious picking or just want to introduce your kids to life on a farm, we’ve come up with a list of suggestions to help you make the most out of your adventure.

Remember to always call the farm or orchard before you go – weather, heavy picking and business conditions can affect their hours and crops!

Find out whether the farm allows children, and if so, what ages. Ask about the farm rules and make sure everyone adheres to them, especially if there’s a sign that says ‘no sampling.’

Dress appropriately. Wear sturdy closed-toed shoes to protect your feet, and bring a wide-brimmed hat. Don’t forget sunscreen.

Pack some snacks and plenty of water and fluids to keep you hydrated.

Make sure you supervise your children at all times.

Leave the field immediately if thunder is heard.

Bring along your camera.

Have fun!

104 | midtownmag.com

mm 098-105 around the state_dr r7 7

4/27/10 11:54:11 AM

work is a gift

By Dr. Jeff Roberts, TRInity Baptist Church

I

t was Fredrick Buechner who wrote “God calls you where your deep joy meets the world’s deep hunger.” The past few years have left many in transition in regards to vocation. Some have taken the opportunity to rediscover their passion and examine their skills and strengths. Others have not had that opportunity but have had to take the best job available due to financial concerns. In these transitions there are questions which emerge for one to consider. What is the meaning of our work? Should our work consist of more meaning apart from the financial benefit?

Another question is regarding our giftedness.

Do we all have certain gifts or talents which are unique to us and should be utilized?

I have a friend named Ernest who is a church custodian. He has an enormous job that many would view as menial labor. His is one of those jobs which no one necessarily aspires too. His job is one that usually goes unnoticed unless it is undone. The fact that people overlook his importance is a sign of how well he performs his work. Earnest has many skills he has learned and developed over years of service. He knows how to make floors shine like they are new and he has the ability to fix almost anything. Ernest also is a person who gives attention to the smallest of

details. These are skills that he has developed but these are not his real gifts. His gifts are encouragement and the pure joy he demonstrates at work. Everyday he receives his work as a gift from God and presents it back to God as a gift. His joyful work inspires others to find joy in their work. There have been many days that I have found counsel and encouragement speaking with Ernest in a dark hallway in the recesses of the church. As we discuss topics from theology to politics or the demands of life, I have discovered a man who cannot be defined by the tasks he performs but has instead defined his work by his attitude. He has discovered his gift to encourage others. Ernest is a man whose deep joy has met his world’s deep need.

Although we all want to find work which is both fulfilling and meaningful many of us will spend our working days doing tasks which are more necessary than challenging and fulfilling. As a minister I am able to work at a job that supports my sense of calling and yet my day is filled with tasks which I must do in order to create the opportunity to pursue the work I feel called to do. I think that is true in every job. There are tasks we must do in order to do the work we want to do.

In most cases it is not the work or the tasks which bring fulfillment to our lives but it is our attitude toward our work. If work is a sacred gift then we will find meaning and purpose in work when we receive it as gift and offer

it back to God as a gift. Let me suggest that you reconsider your work. What would happen if you were to see your job as a gift from God? What would be your attitude toward work if you thought of yourself working to please God more than your employer or supervisor? Our attitude toward any job can reclaim our work as a gift.

The second question is regarding our unique giftedness. The Bible again reaffirms each person as a unique creation of God who has certain talents or gifts. Each of us has been given gifts from God that are to be used to build up others for the common good. It is true that sometimes our skills will include our gifts but not always. We can learn skills which will be strength at work but our giftedness is about our character and who we are as a person. Gifts can be evident in one’s ability to encourage, lead, and enable others. Our gifts from God are always more about others than about our self. Yet, when we discover them and use them we realize the deep joy of which Buechner writes.

I want to encourage us all whether we are in job transitions or not that our work can find purpose when we receive it from God and present it back to God. More so, let me encourage you to discover your gifts and to use them to the common good. If we will make these goals a part of our daily life then we will truly discover a deep joy and others will be blessed.

midtownmag.com | 105

mm 098-105 around the state_dr r8 8

4/27/10 11:54:13 AM

flying away: get ready for your summer vacation

BY ILLYSE LANE

The sunshine is beckoning and the temperature is rising, which can only mean one thing. Summer’s almost here. And with its arrival comes vacations.

While we count down the days until we get to take off, we start preparing. We make our lists, check them twice, throw some extra sunscreen in the pile and get ready to go.

But if our travel plans include taking to the friendly skies, some extra attention may be needed.

To help us with our planning, FastPark & Relax, a near-airport parking facility located by the RDU airport, has provided us with a travel checklist to make sure we get going with everything we need.

106 | midtownmag.com

mm 106-107 protecting your stuff1 1

4/27/10 11:55:31 AM

TOILETRIES: Having them with you will save time and money, but the travel rules regarding liquids are specific. While packing medication in carry on bags makes sense in case the airline misplaces your luggage, other toiletries such as shampoos and lotions should be packed in checked bags to help you get through security faster. To find the exact specifications, visit www.tsa.gov.

CONFIRMATIONS: With the convenience of electronic ticketing, it’s easy to forget to carry any flight information.

Print a copy of your itinerary before leaving home in case the airline has misplaced your confirmation. This includes not only flight information, but also hotel and rental car confirmations.

DRIVER’S LICENSE AND/OR PASSPORT: These days, you’re not getting through airport security without a US federal or state issued photo ID, including name, date of birth, gender and a tamper-resistant feature.

STOCK YOUR WALLET: It’s time to make sure your wallet is holding all the essentials you need to make your trip go smoothly. At the airport, single bills come in handy for tipping. Electronic ticketing kiosks require a credit card to retrieve your boarding passes.

MEDICAL AND HEALTH INSURANCE CARDS: An unplanned trip to a doctor while away from home can be stressful. Carry these important cards with you in case of an emergency.

CHARGERS FOR ALL PORTABLE DEVICES: Chances are, you probably own at least one portable electronic device.

But they can’t do their jobs if the batteries are exhausted. Pack your chargers. Additionally, make sure any important contact information is saved in your cell phone for quick and easy access.

Add a few books or magazines for yourself to relax and pass the time, a few quiet activities and snacks for your younger children – especially handy in case of delays – and you should be ready to go. Most importantly, once you get there, don’t forget to enjoy yourself.

It’s a vacation, after all. midtownmag.com | 107

mm 106-107 protecting your stuff2 2

4/27/10 11:55:38 AM

downtown

It’s a Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood With the help of the Downtown Living Advocates, Downtown Raleigh has become more than a destination. It’s become a neighborhood.

By ILLYSE LANE

A

year ago, three Downtown Raleigh residents sat together to talk about the neighborhood of downtown. And it was tricky.

Downtown has always been composed of distinct districts, each served by different Citizens Advisory Councils (CAC) as defined by the city.

And while these CACs continue to serve as an important link between the city and its citizens, for residents who called downtown home, there wasn’t one group dedicated to representing the neighborhood of Downtown Raleigh as a whole.

“We wanted to give one voice to those residents who lived close to each other and shared the same goal of shaping the growth and character of Downtown Raleigh,” says Ann Cabell Baum Andersen, owner of the Glenwood Agency Real Estate Company and one of the three sitting around the table that day.

Defining a Neighborhood And so began the conversation between Andersen, Jim Belt, a retired CFO for start-up and turn around companies and Brian Reece, Managing Partner at KARNES™.

All felt that nearly 15 years after the development of the Cotton Mill, one of the first industrial buildings converted to residential units, the time had come to recognize how the residential landscape of downtown had changed.

The time had come to address the opportunities and challenges that came with being a part of a developing neighborhood.

A few empty beer bottles or hot dog wrapBy Christa Gala pers outside your front door upon leaving for a morning run? Maybe more public trash cans were needed. A train whistle blowing in the early morn-

108 | midtownmag.com

mm 108-111 downtown comm. watch.1 1

4/27/10 3:34:13 PM

In addition to residents living in the well-known condos that sprinkle Glenwood South, the Downtown Living Advocates supports residents from all downtown districts, including Cameron Court Apartments (left) and Boylan Heights (above).

ing or smack in the middle of dinnertime? Perhaps the volume could be more neighborhood friendly. What about meeting the neighbors two blocks over? There needed to be a way to connect.

“We needed to start talking about Downtown Raleigh as a neighborhood, instead of the buildings that made up the different areas,” says Andersen.

Defining the Mission This simple discussion sparked the formation of the Downtown Living Advocates (DLA), a volunteer organization committed to making the neighborhood of downtown an attractive living environment for the people already living there and for future residents.

“Supporting the city’s investment in downtown has been very important to the DLA,” says Belt. “From the beginning, we didn’t want to give the impression that we’d be focused on taking grievances to the city.”

Instead, the DLA wanted to be an inclusive neighborhood group spanning across the residential diversity of downtown, attracting members willing to share their experience and expertise in order to bring a valuable perspective to the shaping of Downtown Raleigh.

“We wanted to proactively provide solutions and ideas to the city by being the voice of the downtown residents,” says Belt. And the city quickly figured out that if it wanted to ensure that the development of Downtown Raleigh was heading in the right direction, who better to ask than its residents who frequent it’s retail and restaurants and do businesses there?

Finding the Voices Initially, the three tapped into friends, neighbors and business owners residing downtown who possessed the skill sets that could help get the DLA off the ground. As the DLA begins its second year, membership continues to grow, reaching residents living in the five city-defined districts and beyond.

For Tracy Barnes, a Raleigh resident for over 13 years and a downtown resident for nearly two, getting involved was an opportunity she could not pass up. “As champion of the Glenwood South district, I inform the residents of changes that are coming and get ideas for changes that should come based on our experiences,” says Barnes.

Barnes also helps organize socials for the DLA, as encouraging residents to meet, mingle, and share is an essential component of any neighborhood. “I am proud of Raleigh,” says Barnes. “It’s exciting to be part of its development.”

Barnes’ enthusiasm is exactly what the core group was hoping for when they defined the DLA’s mission. “We enjoy being pioneers midtownmag.com| xx

mm 108-111 downtown comm. watch.2 2

4/27/10 3:34:19 PM

Newer residents to Downtown Raleigh, such as the ones that live in West, are committed to the development of the area.

of downtown and are enthusiastic in providing guidance to the city to help make our backyard environment a vibrant and enjoyable place,” says Reece.

Adding Value Through Solutions So what about the occasional empty beer bottle left behind? The overgrown shrub blocking a sidewalk? Or the train whistle blowing at odd hours? The DLA’s strategy depends on the situation. Sometimes, it can be as simple as a polite conversation, where suggestions are made to a resident in hopes that they’ll be well received.

If it’s something complex, the DLA does its homework, including considering the character of the area involved, before presenting any recommendations. While this process requires significant research and effort, it has proven to be worth it.

Recently, the DLA presented an attractive proposal to the city exploring how repositioning the train horn speakers downward at certain crossings would still serve as a warning for pedestrians and vehicles but not be disruptive to those located nowhere near the crossing. The city was impressed, and now a pilot program is being developed.

Welcomed by the City The DLA’s solution-oriented style has earned it spots on various advisory groups. And the DLA is thrilled that the City considers it an important customer.

“Because of our unique perspective as residents already experiencing downtown living, we can offer viable solutions.

We’re committed to working with city officials, urban planners, developers and local businesses to support balanced and sustainable growth for Raleigh’s urban center,” says Belt.

So whether you call Downtown Raleigh home or are just driving in to have dinner, your experience will be better because of the DLA. “We’re a pure volunteer organization that shares a passion for our city,” says Andersen. “It’s important to us that when you come to Downtown Raleigh, you have a good experience.”

And that dedication is what makes a great neighborhood.

For more information on Downtown Living Advocates, visit www.raleighdla.com.

110 | midtownmag.com

mm 108-111 downtown comm. watch.3 3

4/27/10 3:34:25 PM

check out

DOWNTOWN! May 2 | 10th Annual Second Empire 5K Classic www.second-empire.com/race/grand-prix-series-2010

May 20 | Sleeping Beauty by Carolina Ballet 919.719.0800 | www.carolinaballet.com

May 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 June 7, 14, 21, 28 | nOg Run 6/6:30 pm start | Come run, enjoy trivia and food and drink specials | 919.833.7795 | www.nogrunclub.com

May 22 | Band Together – Michael Franti & Spearhead 5-11pm | Fundraiser for StepUp | Lincoln Theatre | 919.824.4233 | www.bandtogethernc.org

May 4-9 | Riverdance at Memorial Auditorium 919.831.6060 | www.broadwayseriessouth.com May 5, 12, 19, 26 | Farmers Market 10-11am | City plaza on Fayetteville St | 919.821.6979 May 15-16 | Artsplosure 919.832.8699 | www.artsplosure.org May 17-23 | Triangle Restaurant Week 919.673.3974 | www.trirestaurantweek.com

June 2, 9, 16, 23, 30 | Farmers Market 10-11am | City plaza on Fayetteville St | 919.821.6979 June 4 | First Friday 7pm-12am | Enjoy art downtown!

June 5 | 9th Annual African American Cultural Celebration NC Museum of History | 919.807.7900 | www.ncmuseumofhistory.org

midtownmag.com | 111

mm 108-111 downtown comm. watch.4 4

4/27/10 3:34:27 PM

downtown

Band Together volunteers: Holding the guitar are two of the group’s co-founders, Tom Lyon and Danny Rosin.

BAND TOGETHER With nine years under their belts, these guys know how to throw a party – and give the money away.

BY christA gAlA

“

“

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day.

Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime ~ Chinese Proverb

I

n the days after September 11th, four guys in their early thirties gathered to watch the aftermath of the terrorist attacks. Like nearly every American, they wanted desperately to do something to help.

“We felt like there were other people who were feeling the same way in our circle of friends,” says Danny Rosin, 42. The group thought it would be a good idea to gather friends for a wine tasting, charge $100, and send the proceeds to the survivors’ fund.

They hoped to raise about $5,000. But the idea of a backyard wine tasting quickly turned into a fullfledged concert that raised a whopping $60,000 with more than 1,000 attendees. Several New York City firefighters

attended as guests of honor.

That first annual event was called “Band Together for Our Heroes.” The name stuck, and nine years later Band Together, a non-profit organization, is still going strong.

In addition to Danny Rosin, there are three other co-founders: Phil Gruber, Tom Lyon and Skip Mangum, all in their early forties. Four entrepreneurs and music lovers who, for a few months each year, put their own lives and businesses on hold to host what Rosin says is the largest charitable concert in the state of North Carolina.

It’s a pretty simple concept, really: an outdoor concert with great music BY from diverse bands, drinks and CHRISTA GALA dancing – all for a good cause.

112 | midtownmag.com

mm 112-115 band together.indd 1

4/27/10 12:01:03 PM

Left: Aerial view of more than 2,700 concertgoers; Center: Volunteers Catrina Robertson and Kristy Peluso sell tickets for the guitar raffle; Right: Drummer from Rusted Root works up a sweat.

A hand up, not a handout Each year, Band Together picks a different cause, going through a rigorous vetting process before making a selection. Past beneficiaries have included child-focused organizations such as Special Olympics North Carolina, Big Brothers Big Sisters and Operation Smile. Last year Band Together raised $141,000 for the Lucy Daniels Center for Childhood Development.

Because of its fundraising prowess, an increasing number of organizations apply each year to be the lucky beneficiary. This year, StepUp Ministry in Raleigh will receive the proceeds from Band Together’s May 22nd concert in downtown Raleigh.

White Memorial Presbyterian Church launched StepUp Ministry 21 years ago. For 15 years, the ministry purchased homes and worked to provide homeless individuals with temporary housing while teaching basic budgeting and goal setting skills.

Six years ago, a large gift allowed the ministry to rethink its process of ministering to the homeless and poor. “We realized we were band-aiding the problem; we weren’t really moving people forward,” says Steve Swayne, executive director of StepUp Ministry.“ The gift allowed StepUp to really re-focus its efforts in two areas.”

The first thing it did was create a Job Program. “You have to have a job,” says Swayne. “People can argue all sorts of different things. You can have all of these other issues going on in your life, but if you don’t have a job, these issues are magnified ten-fold.”

To date, StepUp Ministry has placed more than 1,000 people in jobs, about 200 people a year. The process is simple, but challenging. The “clients” must follow the rules.

If they’re late to the job class, they’re out, but can try again two weeks later.

“It’s pretty rigorous,” says Swayne. “You’re asking a homeless or unemployed individual to come in and spend 19 hours in class and two hours with an employment counselor. They’re graded on 39 different criteria. We grade people from one to four on everything – how they dress, how attentive they are, how they shake hands, how they communicate, how they listen, and how they respond in our different classes. We also do mock interviewing.”

Participants must receive at least a three to continue.

A clothes closet run by First Baptist Church of Raleigh downtown, where the class is held, provides two outfits to each participant. On Thursday and Friday, the last two

THE LEARNING CURVE The four guys who launched Band Together in 2001 have learned a few things over the years.

In 2005, the group stretched itself too thin when trying to do three events in one year.

“We all got burned out,” says Rosin.

“We lost some Board members.”

So Band Together refocused. Instead of trying to be everything to everyone, it decided to focus on one giant event each year. “With this one event since that change we have seen a 42 percent growth in net dollars to the charities that we’ve served over the past five years,” says Rosin. “Even last year, when it was probably the most difficult time to raise a penny for anything, we saw substantial growth. And this year it looks like we’re on track for continued growth based on the dollars that have been committed and tickets that have been sold.”

days of the class, participants must come to class dressed in their outfits.

“You’d be amazed,” says Swayne. “The self confidence that we see grow with individuals out of StepUp is mindboggling. We’re not a handout, we’re a hand up. We empower people, but we do it in a very compassionate way.”

“We’ll be there to support you” There are about 160 businesses that partner with StepUp Ministry, including Newcomb and Company, ACS Collection Services, Triangle Cleaning Service, McDonald’s, Taco Bell and K&W Cafeteria.

“Of the 300 people who passed the class last year, we found 185 people jobs, and another 50 found jobs on their own,” says Swayne. “About 75 percent of the people that pass we’ll find a job for or they’ll find a job on their own.”

If participants graduate without a job, they must touch base once a week with StepUp. “We ask ‘What are you doing to find a job?’ I love this model because we are not doing it for you. You better get out there and do it, and we’ll be there to support you,” says Swayne, noting the program was modeled after the DC program Jubilee Jobs.

Once a job is found, a nine-month-long life skills class is offered, meeting once a week and teaching everything from budgeting to reducing debt. Kids over age six are included in the class. Each week, participants must bring $10. That money is banked and then matched by StepUp. At the end of the nine-month period, the individual has roughly $1,200 to afford stable, permanent housing on his or her own.

“It’s about $500 for a security deposit, $500 for first month’s rent, $100 for utilities and $100 for moving expenses and food,” says Swayne.

The program works. “A majority of the people, we’re not dealing with again,” Swayne says.

Matching dollar for dollar Swayne was ecstatic when he learned StepUp would be Band Together’s 2010 beneficiary. “It’s just a huge honor,” he says.

But he wasn’t comfortable with waiting passively for the money.

“When we were applying last year I thought, ‘If they’re going to put all this time into something, I better put some time in too,’ so we said we’d match the money dollar for dollar.

We’re mirroring our own product.” StepUp will match what Band Together raises, up to $150,000. The May event has the potential to funnel $300,000 to the ministry coffers – and break the million-dollar-donation mark for Band Together. midtownmag.com | 113

mm 112-115 band together.indd 2

4/27/10 12:01:13 PM

if you go...

What: Band Together Outdoor Concert When: Saturday, May 22nd Where: Lincoln Theater, downtown Raleigh Who: Michael Franti & Spearhead Time: 6-11pm, followed by an indoor concert.

Doors open at five. All proceeds benefit: StepUp Ministry (www.step-up.us) Tickets: $22 in advance; $25 at the door.

For more information: www.bandtogethernc.org Alcohol will be served. This event is for those 21 and over.

xx | midtownmag.com

mm 112-115 band together.indd 3

4/27/10 12:01:25 PM

Rosin was thrilled. “Each year we try to pick a small to mid-size organization like StepUp that’s trying to grow and doing phenomenal work with very little overhead,” he says. “Eighty-five percent of each dollar raised goes directly to programming. That’s powerful stuff. All of a sudden you’ve got taxpaying citizens now that would have been on the street otherwise.”

An interesting fusion Michael Franti & Spearhead will be the concert headliner on Saturday, May 22nd. The band has received more than four million YouTube views and has made documentaries in both Iraq and Afghanistan.

“This is a guy who has played around the world, touching people in a way that is really powerful on a very socially minded level,” says Rosin. “He makes a lot of sense to us for a couple of reasons. He’s an interesting fusion of reggae, hip hop, rap and rock. A lot of his lyrics are about the world and changing it and making it a better place. Michael Franti & Spearhead are going to bring everybody – all ages, all colors – together in one venue to do something really good for StepUp Ministry.”

Pat Dickenson, owner of Lincoln Theater and a board member of Band Together, donates the use of Lincoln Theater for the event and also takes care of booking the bands each year.

“Typically we’re looking for a band that’s going to draw at least a thousand people ticketed on their own without this event surrounding them,” says Dickenson. “We shy away from heavier stuff; we want it to be uplifting and cross a wide demographic. We try to get the best rates we can, keeping in mind what we’re trying to do. I love to see that we pick a different charity every year, and we go through the process of who needs the money and who’s willing to partner with us the most.

It’s a really cool thing.”

Grassroots volunteering Rosin, who owns Brand Fuel Promotions in Midtown, thinks Franti’s message will resonate with Band Together corporate sponsors and volunteers as well.

“It provides an outlet for employers to get their employees together in a socially minded social way,” he says. “When you think about the birth of this, this was not going to be a stodgy event. From an employer standpoint, we get asked all the time for free stuff, donations and cash. “Instead of just writing a check and never seeing it or being a part of it, I would rather be the master of my own domain with the dollars that are raised. I would rather be involved at a grassroots level where my employees can get out there and get behind something.”

midtownmag.com | 115

mm 112-115 band together.indd 4

4/27/10 12:01:28 PM

downtown

Participants gather outside Tir na nÓg to warm up and socialize before a run begins.

Running More Than a Tab By dan bain

M

ost health care professionals agree that your heart can benefit from aerobic exercise. Many agree that it can benefit from moderate levels of alcohol consumption. Some believe friendship provides certain health benefits. Several local businesses organized an innovative way to combine all three – the nÓg Run Club!

The Club holds runs every Monday at 6pm, starting at Tir na nÓg and following several downtown routes from 3-6 miles in length. After meeting back at the pub, runners can eat from a $1 buffet, drink beer specials and hang out for socializing and other fun activities. “It started with my wife Elizabeth,” says Rick Florez, one of the Club’s coordinators and emcee for its frequent trivia contests.

“She read about a similar club out west and thought it was a good idea, so she mentioned it to her brother, who owns Tir na nÓg.”

Elizabeth Pagano, Florez’s wife and fellow chiropractor/co-owner at Chiropractic Café, kept the idea in the back of her mind until the day she went to Fleet Feet Sports to be fitted for a new pair of running shoes.

When she inquired about social runs, employee Eugene Wheeler told her about weekly runs from Fleet Feet. A partnership was born.

Fleet Feet employee Julie Stumpf handled the organizational logistics, Wheeler mapped out four looped routes of differing lengths and Tir na nÓg Owner Pete Pagano provided the food, towels and beer specials. The first run took place August 4th, 2008, co-sponsored

by the three businesses. It drew close to 70 participants, a number that doubled when they repeated the run the next month. When the runners stuck around to socialize afterward, the organizers knew they were onto something. “It started out as once a month and we found out there was lots of interest, so we switched to every two weeks,” Florez recalls. “As the numbers kept growing and growing, we said, ‘You know what? We should do this weekly.’”

The run draws runners of all ages and experience. “Anybody can come out and participate, from hardcore runners to someone just coming out for fresh air,” Florez relates. “It’s an opportunity to get moving and come back and enjoy some good company. We try to make this

By Christa Gala thing as fun as possible. Anybody’s welcome.”

116 | midtownmag.com

mm 116-117 tir na nog run.indd 1

4/27/10 12:05:33 PM

Florez stresses that it’s simple and free to enter – participants need only fill out and sign a short waiver – and says there are plenty of perks for those who do. Participants get a free running shirt after ten runs and a free mug after 25 runs.

On the first and third Mondays of each month, Florez emcees team trivia at the pub after the run, and says they’ve also enjoyed Bingo, Name That Tune and other games. The fourth Monday is reserved for a charity run. “We invite a local charity in – they’re responsible for the entertainment after the run, and the Club members make donations to their charity,” he explains.

Prior to a charity run, the coordinators ask the charity what it needs and how the Club can best be of service.

Donations take the form of items related to/needed by the charity. The May beneficiary will be Medals4Mettle, an organization that donates marathon and other medals to diseased/disabled individuals who might not be able to run a race, but who have exhibited similar mettle in their struggles.

The North Carolina Roadrunners Club plans to hold an ugly race shirt contest during the event and is urging members to donate their medals from past races.

Since the nÓg Run Club’s inception, Florez estimates that more than 1500 individuals have run with them on Monday nights, recently averaging about 300 participants each week. “We have a good set of regulars, plus a core group who stick around to play trivia,” he says.

So come on out on the next time you’re free on a Monday night, and personify the club’s motto: “Running more than a tab.”

Above: Following a run, club members return to the pub for drinks, a buffet and fun.

Right: Coordinator Stephanie Neal models the club’s official tee-shirt.

midtownmag.com | 117

mm 116-117 tir na nog run.indd 2

4/27/10 12:05:41 PM

are

chances

Duke Raleigh’s Adam Buchanan arms patients with potentially life-saving information about their likelihood of getting cancer By page leggett

118 | midtownmag.com

mm 118-121 duke raleigh.indd 1

4/27/10 12:07:30 PM

I

If knowledge is power, then Adam Buchanan’s patients are a robust lot.

Buchanan is the genetic counselor at Duke Raleigh Hospital. His job – and his passion – is to help patients make informed decisions about cancer treatment.

Some people come to Buchanan because of a family history of cancers. Others have recently been diagnosed with cancer and want to know about their genetic predisposition to that particular cancer. The knowledge helps them make an appropriate decision about treatment.

ALL in the FAMiLY Genetic testing for cancer screens for “hereditary cancer syndrome.” Not all cancers – melanoma and lung cancer, for instance – appear to have a hereditary component. But, testing can determine if people have an increased susceptibility to those cancers that can have a hereditary component – breast and colon cancer, for example.

“We typically see the onset of hereditary cancers at a younger age than other cancers,” said Buchanan. So, people with a family history of hereditary cancers might consider getting screened before the typical age of onset.

The test is not a definitive predictor of cancer. “It’s a diagnosis of susceptibility,” said Buchanan. “It tells us if a patient is more likely to develop a certain cancer than the general population – or just as likely.”

“Some people use their results as a guide to determine how aggressive their treatment will be,” said Buchanan. “For instance, a patient diagnosed with breast cancer who learns she has a genetic predisposition toward that cancer may opt for a mastectomy instead of a lumpectomy.”

Big deCision, sMALL pRoCeduRe The test is simple; its implications are enormous.

Buchanan explains how the procedure works: “After someone has made his appointment, our assistant calls to gather information on his personal and family history. We draw a family tree and look at the instances of cancer. So, before someone even walks in our door for a first appointment, we already know a lot about their history.”

“The initial appointment takes about 45 minutes to an hour,” he continued. “We talk through their family history and discuss if tests are available for the kinds of cancer we’ve seen in their backgrounds.”

“We discuss the pros and cons of the genetic test,” he said. “If the patient decides to proceed, we then do a simple blood test.”

The “if ” is a big one. Buchanan does not necessarily see his role as a proponent for genetic testing and counseling. He presents the facts – including the pros and cons – and offers his viewpoint, but the decision to be tested (or not) ultimately belongs to the patient.

“Genetic counseling was founded out of pre-natal medicine and the amniocentesis test,” Buchanan explains. Pre-natal genetic counselors have traditionally been very careful not to tell midtownmag.com| xx

mm 118-121 duke raleigh.indd 2

4/27/10 12:07:33 PM

Want to learn more?

Adam Buchanan, MS, MPH, CGC, sees patients at Duke Raleigh Hospital every other Friday.

To schedule an appointment, call 919.954.3096.

patients what to do. Each patient must decide for herself based on personal circumstances and her beliefs. Genetic counseling for cancer has followed that same path.

“We don’t feel that it’s our place to direct patients what to do,” he said. “We present the facts and can guide them on a decision, but ultimately, the decision is theirs to make. We try to make them comfortable with whichever path they choose.”

Overall, Buchanan said, 75 percent of all patients who consider genetic testing follow through with the test.

Weigh the options Buchanan presents the facts and helps patients weigh the benefits and drawbacks. The main benefit is easy enough to see. Having the test allows the patient to make an informed decision about his own health care. Some patients, however, fear the unknown. There can be anxiety and depression associated with this kind of knowledge, and not everyone is prepared for that.

When a patient does express fear, Buchanan said he may refer him to cancer patient support groups. There are many such communities online.

Another fear factor may involve worry about the implications of being tested on insurance coverage.

Buchanan counsels patients: “There are federal and state laws that protect against discrimination regarding health insurance and employment insurance.” He also cautions that there are no such protections with life insurance.

And, many insurance plans will cover the cost of genetic testing.

Buchanan explains that there are two parts to the process – the counseling session, which is billed just like a visit 120 | midtownmag.com

mm 118-121 duke raleigh.indd 3

4/27/10 12:07:36 PM

to a specialist is, and the test itself. Insurance carriers’ policies vary on whether testing is covered.

“Sometimes, we play a role in recommending to an insurance company that a test be covered for a certain patient,” said Buchanan.

He advises checking with your health care provider upfront.

Finding out The blood test results are back within about two weeks. Buchanan said patients have the option to come in for a face-to-face consultation to discuss the results or to discuss them over the phone.

(Since many people travel a great distance to come to Duke, they often opt for a phone consultation for the follow-up appointment.)

Buchanan’s advice to anyone considering being tested: “Meet with a health care provider who’s familiar with the test and all its implications.

There’s a psychological component to finding out this information, and it is has a bearing on – not just the individual – but the entire family. Your health care provider should be familiar with all the different ways this information can be used.”

We can reduce our risks of certain kinds of cancer by changing our behavior. For instance, we can all use sunscreen, stop smoking (or never start) and maintain a healthy diet. But, family histories cannot be overcome.

In this case, a little bit of knowledge is not a dangerous thing. This knowledge could, in fact, help save your life. midtownmag.com | 121

mm 118-121 duke raleigh.indd 4

4/27/10 12:07:39 PM

summer camps

hot

incitythe w with hot summer

nights

BY ILLYSE LANE

While a weekend escape to the beach is a summer staple for many, sometimes it’s more relaxing to unwind at home. If you’re looking for a reason to stay put, Hot Summer Nights at the Kennedy has four, as it prepares to kicks off its sixth season of professional theatre with four shows this summer.

“Hot Summer Nights wants to provide the community with a place to be entertained and enlightened; a place to take a two-hour vacation closer to home,” says Hilary Russo, Publicity and Media Relations Director.

This premise served as the motivation behind Hot Summer Nights at the Kennedy when it was born through the efforts of Raleigh businessman K. D. Kennedy, Jr. and his son, Michael, who wanted to bring a more intimate, professional theatre to Downtown Raleigh.

122 | midtownmag.com

mm 122-123 kenedy theatre.indd 1

4/27/10 12:09:19 PM

2010 Season Shows Barefoot In The Park June 9th-June 20th The Great American Trailer Park Musical June 30th-July 11th Death And The Maiden July 28th-August 8th Tell Me On A Sunday Starring Lauren Kennedy August 18th-August 29th Each show has ten performances.

Times are Wednesdays through Saturdays at 8pm and Sundays at 3pm.

For more information, please visit www.hotsummernightsatthekennedy.org or call (919) 633-6038.

After four seasons, the Kennedy men stepped down and handed the reigns to Russo, alongside Broadway star and Raleigh native Lauren Kennedy, her husband, Tony Award nominee Alan Campbell and fellow actors Adam Twiss and Andrea Schulz Twiss. Together, the “fab five” combine their extensive and diverse experience in the arts to serve as producers and in that role, help support the community and businesses located in Downtown Raleigh.

Theatre patrons have responded, being wooed by the high-energy performances presented in an intimate venue. The comfy Kennedy Theatre, located in the Progress Energy Center, only holds about 120, making the theatre experience a home run, with not a bad seat to be had in the whole house. And the variety of shows offered, ranging from tried and true productions such as Neil Simon’s Barefoot in the Park to original works, attract premier Broadway talent, in terms of both actors and directors, who are thrilled to be a part of the small, smart productions.

“We offer actors the chance to try new work in a new environment; to get out of New York and have a little creative licensing with their roles,” says Russo. And when this Broadway talent combines with the gifted actors within our community, the audience has the unique opportunity to enjoy first class productions that incorporate the perfect blend of talent.

This summer, four shows will be presented; each guaranteed to temporarily transport you away from the day-to-day grind. So stick around this summer.

Escape by staying home.

midtownmag.com| xx

mm 122-123 kenedy theatre.indd 2

4/27/10 12:09:22 PM

healthy you

2. Vitamin D (and calcium): You have to know by now that Vitamin D is crucial for your bones, mood and immune system.

We’re talking cancer, people! It used to be that folks took a lot of calcium with some D; not it’s almost reversed. Your bones may feel fine now, but they’ve got to hold you together for another 50 years or so!

3. Fish Oil: Inflammation, heart, memory, mood, eyes, skin...do I really need to continue? Everyone should be supplementing.

back to basics by carter & laura dalton, GNC at North Hills

Ever had a “motivational photo” on your fridge? I’ve had one of me in my 20s, standing proud in my halter top and long flowing dress, ready for a Saturday night out with friends.

This year, I took it down and replaced it with a photo of my family walking across the finish line with me at the 39-mile Avon Walk for Breast Cancer. For as you see, as I approach 40, my motivations particularly with respect to my body have changed.

I no longer have to strive to look like I did when I was 25, because at 39, I finally believe certain things just ain’t gonna sit the same way again! So I can let that pressure go, allowing me a certain freedom. To strive for a little LESS perfection.

Now I’d be lying if I said I didn’t care what I look like. I feel better when I’m eating well and staying active (even though I dread having to exercise many days). I’m just proposing that my choice to exercise is now equally for the heart benefits as it is for the calorie burn. So, with my 40s, 50s and beyond just ahead, it’s time to take health seriously. Your body is going to start to show signs (it may already be hinting with lack of energy, some “clicking” in the knees) of wear and tear.

“What do you take?”

Every day, people come in and talk about different health concerns, but the winner is

always “I have no energy”. Since my energy level is pretty high (with two small kids, a business and very little time), their next question is always, “What do you take?”. In truth, I take a sturdy handful most days, and yes, sometimes I get sick of taking them. My husband, who looks fabulous for his age (Now I’m in trouble here), takes an even bigger handful, and never complains. He’s in better health than he was 10 years ago (though he’s really slack on fruit), and he will tell you it’s all because of his “anti-aging” cocktail.

The Basics Yes, you can get a pillminder and start stacking up your am/pm vitamins, but you can also start with your “core” insurance policy. Best bang for your buck are the following:

1. Multivitamin (with a B-complex): Many folks say they take a multivitamin, but take a second and be a “label reader”. You want a strong multivitamin chock full. A good shot of B vitamins are important.

They are “stress vitamins” – don’t worry, you’ll flush out what you don’t need. ASK the store associate about the vitamin – he should be the expert. If he’s not, LEAVE and go to someone who knows. You’ll be more inclined to take something if you are confident of the health benefits of what’s inside.

That’s for starters. 3 main things. If you don’t like “pills”, then buy it in a powder, liquid or chewable. Ensure the quality. Nowadays there are “vitapaks” that contain all three, so those of you who use travel as an excuse – I’ve got you!

Food 1. Antioxidants: Put a lot of color in your mouth! Reds, yellows, greens, purples. Fruits, veggies and certain herbs (garlic, turmeric and cinnamon) are KEY to keeping toxins where they belong – in the trash! If you don’t come near the five to nine servings a day (yes, that’s AT LEAST and EVERY DAY), then supplements can help get you there (i.e. resveratrol, grape seed extract, turmeric, coenzyme q-10, alpha lipoic acid).

2. Fiber: Many of us don’t come near the recommended 25g-35g per day. It helps keep our arteries and colon clear and moving efficiently, which in turn, keeps our heart and metabolism up and running, too!

3. Protein: Keeps our muscles, small and large, working properly. Helps our stomachs stay full and our blood sugar stable.

4. Probiotics: It’s important as we get older to keep our “gut” happy. These good bacteria balance out the intestine and colon, keeping immune function stronger. Many folks choose to supplement with this one. Yogurt is the easiest way to get a decent dose of probiotics. Greek yogurt has lots more protein than regular, and a better consistency.

Add some blueberries. YUM.

Take the basics. Add here and there. You do have choices – choose what you’re most likely to follow through with. Swallow a pill. Eat lots of berries. Chew a calcium (with D). Or a combination. Take a few minutes and stop in a store to take a look and ask questions. We’re living longer than ever, so take a few steps to ensure you feel vibrant for your next 40 years!

124 | midtownmag.com

mm 124-126 healthy you.indd 1

4/27/10 12:10:35 PM

healthy you

Irritable bowel syndrome

by Boris Cvetkovski, MD, GastroIntestinal Healthcare

Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) is a very common disorder that affects and often disrupts the lives of many men and women. Some estimates suggest that up to one out of every seven Americans has at some time suffered with IBS. Typically, young women are the most likely to develop IBS. What is IBS? IBS is a gastrointestinal tract disorder that results in altered bowel habits and abdominal pain. The altered bowel habits can be diarrhea, constipation or both. The abdominal pain is typically intermittent, cramping and can be severe at times. IBS is often associated with other disorders such as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia and Depression.

How does IBS develop?

It is unclear how or why IBS develops. It is likely that certain people are born with a predisposition to develop IBS. A popular theory is that IBS often develops after acquiring a common gastrointestinal tract infection. Many people who were previously well develop IBS

symptoms after recovering from a gastrointestinal tract infection.

How is it diagnosed?

IBS is diagnosed based on symptoms present.

A diagnosis of IBS requires presence of abdominal pain at least three days per month in the last three months associated with a change in bowel habits. IBS is also considered a diagnosis of exclusion. This means that other disorders which may mimic IBS need to be excluded.

Celiac sprue is a disorder that has many symptoms similar to IBS. Celiac sprue develops as a result of an allergy to gluten. Gluten is a protein found in wheat products. When evaluating a patient with suspected IBS, usually bloodwork is sent off to rule out celiac sprue. Certain symptoms are typically not associated with IBS. If rectal bleeding, weight loss or fevers are present, then other testing, including colonoscopy, may be recommended.

How is it treated?

Unfortunately, there is no cure or “magic pill� for IBS. There are, however, treatment options.

These often include dietary modification. IBS patients will frequently have certain trigger foods that can set off their symptoms. A simple rule of thumb is following a low-fat, high-fiber diet. Certain substances such as caffeine, artificial sweeteners and alcohol may also trigger IBS symptoms. The use of probiotics (healthy bacteria) is gaining popularity lately.

Probiotics can either be consumed through yogurt or supplements in the form of capsules.

Treatment also frequently involves addressing specific symptoms. This may mean treating diarrhea or constipation with medications.

The good news IBS never develops into a life-threatening medical condition. It does not increase the risk or predispose to the formation of cancer. The chronic and intermittent nature of IBS can often lead to frustration. A complete history, physical and evaluation by a healthcare provider is often very effective in terms of reassurance. IBS is an area of active clinical research. Hopefully the future will bring a better understanding of its causes, which will ultimately lead to better treatment options.

Dr. Cvetkovski is co-owner of GastroIntestinal Healthcare. He attended Cornell University and New York University School of Medicine, and completed residency training in Internal Medicine at NYU Medical Center and fellowships at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center / Cornell University Medical Center. He is board certified in Internal Medicine and Gastroenterology and has been practicing medicine since 1998. He is a Diplomate of both the American Board of Internal Medicine, Gastroenterology and the American Board of Internal Medicine and is a member of the American Gastroenterological Association, American Society for Gastroenterological Endoscopy, and the American College of Gastroenterology.

midtownmag.com | 125

mm 124-126 healthy you.indd 2

4/27/10 12:10:39 PM

126 | midtownmag.com

mm 124-126 healthy you.indd 3

4/27/10 12:10:43 PM

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd1 1

4/27/10 12:13:40 PM

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd2 2

4/27/10 12:13:47 PM

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd3 3

4/27/10 12:13:53 PM

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd4 4

4/27/10 12:13:58 PM

midtown

mingles

BRIDAL EVENT

Charlotte’s held a Bridal Event on March 23rd. Guests enjoyed refreshments as they shopped and met with various designers throughout the store.

VERMILLION ANNIVERSARY PARTY Vermillion held their five-year anniversary party on March 19th at Flanders Art Gallery. Guests viewed a slideshow montage as they enjoyed cocktails and hors d’oeuvres.

LUXE holds special event

Luxe Apothecray held a special event featuring professional makeup artist Susan Posnick. Susan was on hand to demonstrate her beauty line including face, eyes and lip products. Guests enjoyed wine as they sampled the products and received makeovers.

book signing at eatman’s

Eatman’s Carpets held a book signing event on March 18th. Jean Coleman, author of, I Met Him in My Overalls, arranged flowers as she spoke about some of God’s lessons she learned through the cultivation of her garden.

art for haiti

The Art for Haiti Auction & Gala held on April 10th at the Raleigh Convention Center boasted a solid turnout and garnered significant donations on behalf of Habitat for Humanity. Event proceeds totaling $30,000 were contributed to Habitat’s humanitarian and earthquake relief efforts in Haiti. midtownmag.com | 131

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd5 5

4/27/10 12:14:47 PM

midtown

mingles

upward basketball at trinity baptist church

132 | midtownmag.com

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd6 6

4/27/10 12:15:07 PM

Upward Basketball was a huge success again this year at Trinity Baptist Church. Over 400 children from all over Wake County played on 36 basketball teams and three cheerleading squads. 200 volunteers including prayer partners, coaches, referees, directors, clock operators and score keepers made the 6th year of Upward possible.

midtownmag.com | 133

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd7 7

4/27/10 12:15:37 PM

midtown

mingles

134 | midtownmag.com

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd8 8

4/27/10 12:15:59 PM

midtownmag.com| midtownmag.com|121 xx

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd9 9

4/27/10 12:16:17 PM

midtown

mingles

136 | midtownmag.com

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd10 10

4/27/10 12:17:20 PM

midtownmag.com | 137

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd11 11

4/27/10 12:17:24 PM

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd12 12

4/27/10 12:17:33 PM

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd13 13

4/27/10 12:17:40 PM

mm 127-140 kane mingles ads.indd14 14

4/27/10 12:17:54 PM