B6 THE DAVIS ENTERPRISE
What I love the most... Dear Readers: I asked you to share what you love most about your partners. And, boy, did you deliver! My inbox was overflowing with touching tributes. It’s been such a pleasure sifting through the sweetness, and I’m thankful to each and every one of you who wrote. Below is just a small sampling of some wonderful letters that I received on this topic. Dear Annie: The easiest question for me to answer is what I love about my husband, Tom. They say the devil is in the details, but I say true love is in the details. Many years ago, my husband bought me the DVD boxed set of the original “Planet of the Apes” movies. Missing was “Beneath the Planet of the Apes.” An oversight? No. I had mentioned once that is the one I don’t like, so he took it out. He buys me apples, but only Gala and Fuji, because that’s what I like. He hollers, “Don’t look at the TV!” if there’s a spider or something creepy. I could go on and on. It’s the details, the little things. He’s given me fancy gifts over the years, but what I cherish most is that he listens and he remembers. — Erma S. Dear Annie: I have been with my partner, Joann, for 41 years. Although we broke up twice earlier on in our relationship, we have been living together for the past 24 years and are very happy, even as she’s battled cancer these last three years. What I love most about her is that she helps me be the best version of myself. — Bob K. Dear Annie: My partner is my hero! There are so many things that I could tell you I love about him, but his generous spirit is definitely key. We met later in life, and only one year after we met, I developed HIV-associated dementia, which became very severe, very fast. By all rights, Chris should have left. My health devastated his life and destroyed us financially. But he stood by me, fought to get me the necessary medical care and helped me through the worst time of my life. And to this day, he has never once complained. It brings me to tears just writing this. I am so eternally grateful for that man, and it is a huge juxtaposition to my previous relationship experiences, which were pretty awful. I would give that man anything if I could, but being disabled, all I can give him is my love and care. Fortunately, he thinks that’s the greatest gift he could have. — Chase A. Dear Annie: I knew I loved my husband the moment I met him when I was 19. His blue eyes melted my heart. I told him I was going to marry him then. We’ll have been married 20 years this year. He works so hard for us, even though he has painful physical ailments that would send most people to the emergency room. He’s my soulmate. — Anita C. Dear Annie: My husband and I met in college, almost 50 years ago. He played on the golf team. Twenty years ago, at the age of 49, he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s. It was a stunning blow. My wonder boy continues to play golf four or five times a week, though it is a struggle mentally and physically. The sense of humor that drew me to him is still there, and I’m constantly reminded why I married this sweet man, as I witness the grace, courage and positivity that he works so hard on. — Phyllis K.
Mixing religion & politics Dear Annie: My sister and I don’t speak anymore after a falling out with our nowdeceased mother. It was a bad falling out, as she talked my mother into making her the sole heir of her estate because I am a lesbian. We recently had to speak because of our father’s declining health. My niece, her daughter, is getting married, and I suspect I will not be invited, as I was not invited to her high school or college graduation. We once were very close, but now she doesn’t want to appear a traitor to her mother, I guess. They did both friend me on Facebook, where they are discussing wedding plans and invitations. I have said nothing except, “Congratulations!” My falling out with my sister is bad enough, but my mother and sister hurt me deeply by keeping me away from my two nieces, especially after I helped raise them. I have not said anything in years about it and don’t care to.
Legals@DavisEnterprise.net It’s done and over with. I think I need to walk away. Is this childish of me? Can I give myself permission to save my self-respect and dignity by unfriending them? I don’t want to seem petty, but my mother and sister schemed to hurt me as badly as they could, all because l’m a lesbian and they don’t approve. — Disapproving Family in Texas Dear Disapproving Family: In a perfect world, our parents and siblings would support us unconditionally and never judge us. In your case, their disapproval sounds extreme. I’m really sorry that they shut you out of their lives. It must be very painful. While we can’t control others’ actions toward us, we can control how we respond. If you want to unfriend them on Facebook, that sounds like a fine idea. In fact, social media never really makes people feel better about themselves, so why not just deactivate your account altogether? You might want to seek the help of a professional therapist to process this rejection. Work on forgiving your mother and sister for yourself, not for them. After all, forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. As for your nieces, let them know how much you love them and that you wish them well. Best of luck to you. ——— Dear Annie: What is your take on the church getting involved with politics? The pastor of the church I attended posts on social media and preaches his political views from the pulpit. I don’t share these views, so I have chosen to leave the church. Thus, I’ve lost my church family. Most of the attendees are of the same political beliefs and go along with the pastor. The situation was just too uncomfortable. Some of the attendees have unfriended those who aren’t in agreement. I’m beyond disappointed. — Keep Politics out of Church Dear Keep Politics out of Church: Overt political campaigning should be kept out of church. Any person who unfriends those who are not in agreement is not acting very kind, loving or tolerant — all qualities that I hope your church preaches. Part of what makes for an interesting world is that we can have different beliefs and still respect one another. My guess is that you are not alone in being annoyed about this issue.
Christmas party drama Dear Annie: My family had a lot of heartbreak in 2020. Our daughter was diagnosed with a neurological disease, and our son passed away. And then the COVID-19 pandemic struck.
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Later that year, we decided to decline an invitation to a family Christmas party. I gave a month’s notice to the host and explained that, because of everything we’ve gone through this year, we were going to stay home. My husband and I didn’t try to dissuade our other family members from attending, though we did invite a few of them to come over for dinner instead if they decided not to go. My two nephews decided to come over rather than go to the traditional gathering, and my sister stopped by after the family gathering. My nephew posted a photo taken at our house and captioned it “Family Christmas.” Well, this upset a relative and her mom so much that they both stopped talking to all of us. I didn’t feel that we did anything wrong. I apologized to the host that her feelings were hurt and explained that it wasn’t intentional. She has refused to accept my apology. She thinks we planned our own party to exclude them. I’ve tried to get past this, but it’s constantly on my mind. I deleted all social media because I felt like she was using social media to shame me. I thought we would skip one year and then all be back together, but alas, I don’t believe our Christmas gathering will ever be the same. Our family has never fought before. What is your advice? — Heartbroken Dear Heartbroken: I am very sorry for your loss. You had every right to say no to the Christmas party this year. In fact, I’m surprised they had a large party, given the pandemic, but that is a topic for another letter. Your family deserves time and space to grieve. If you want to celebrate with only your immediate family, you should do just that. You politely declined a month in advance and were very gracious. If the host won’t accept your apology — I don’t think the apology was necessary — and the other relative won’t talk to you, I say good riddance to them. You need family and friends in your life who support, love and accept you no matter what, especially after suffering the loss of your son and your daughter’s challenging illness. They are being cruel to you on social media and incredibly insensitive. Don’t give them another thought. It’s their problem, not yours. ——— Dear Annie: I sent three baby shower gifts last year via Amazon because of the pandemic. The parents are either working at home or not working at all. Six months later, I have yet to receive any thank-you cards, or even an
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and only makes them resent you. — Mother of 2 Independent Adults Dear Mother of Two: Congratulations on cracking the code to raising independent children. What a gift you have given them. ——— Dear Annie: I loved the answer from “Great Grandma.” Its the truth! None of my three kids ever acted up like I hear so many other adults complain about. Why? Because I paid attention to them. We could go anywhere knowing my kids were well-behaved. Love and show interest in your children and grandchildren. Running wild kids are seeking attention, bad or good. — Kids Need Attention Dear Kids Need Attention: I am printing your letter because it has some truths to it — namely, that kids need attention paid to them. I have to respectfully disagree that all running wild kids are just seeking attention. Some children are wired differently than others. Just like some adults are wired differently. And some adults and children like to run wild and free. The important thing for both is that it is done in a safe and respectful place. ——— Dear Annie: I am 60 and share an office with a 20-something. Both of us are women. She is an assistant director of the department we work in, which means she is in upper management. She used to ask my advice but usually chose not to take it, so I stopped responding to her questions and instead referred her to the director of our department. I’m trying to set the scene for you. The problem is that she burps and belches often. She says, “Excuse me.” I’ve stopped responding. I have tried to tell her it’s not acceptable to burp like that at work. She said it’s her office, which I understand. I asked if she has some sort of problem with her stomach. She said no. Is it me? I was raised to believe that such things as burping are kind of rude and not good office etiquette. Are younger kids not taught this? The option of getting a different office is not feasible. Is my only option just to accept? — Annoyed Dear Annoyed: Most people would find this behavior disgusting. Hopefully, for the sake of society, younger kids are taught that burping or passing gas should be done in the bathroom. Just because she says “excuse me” makes it no less gross. One time, fine, maybe even two, but belching often is unprofessional. Is it possible that she is doing this to get on your nerves — a passive-aggressive move of using her bodily functions to bully you? Go to your supervisor and say enough is enough. Either she stops belching, or you move offices. No one should have to work in a toxic environment.
acknowledgement that they received the gifts. I checked Amazon, and they definitely received them. I am on a fixed income. Is this the wave of the future? Because, if so, I really don’t want to participate! — Gift-Giver in New Hampshire Dear Gift-Giver: Not acknowledging a gift is not the wave of the future. It is rude behavior and never good manners.
Avoid pandemic fatigue Dear Annie: I am an RN who does COVID-19 swabs in a tent outside my hospital for people who have been exposed or are symptomatic. When I read the dilemma of “Quarantined and Stressed,” a couple who are worried about playing cards again with friends, I was reminded of a sick man who came recently in with 101+ fever and problems breathing. He stated he had played cards with friends a week earlier and now two of his friends were hospitalized. I asked if they wore masks and used hand sanitizer, and he said no. Let me tell you, he was really regretting that bad decision. People are getting pandemic fatigue and letting their guard down. COVID-19 is still here, folks, and all over. Keep being safe until we can get herd immunity, please! Health care workers are overwhelmed and will thank you to be one less patient. — Tired RN in FL Dear Tired RN in FL: Thank you for your letter and service during this pandemic. Your letter was both touching and informative. I hope it saves other people as well. ——— Dear Annie: For the bridge players who want to play again: we have found a reasonably satisfying alternative to in-person games by playing on Trickster. com. It is a way to play bridge online. And it includes video so that you can see and talk to each other. The site offers a tutorial that can be tried without committing to anything. I look forward to our weekly bridge game as a high spot, while sequestered at home. — Found a Safe Way to Play Dear Safe: It’s a great suggestion to play online together. While it is not ideal, it is temporary and certainly better than nothing. I applaud you for your creativity. ——— Dear Annie: I echo “Saw It Before’s” remarks about making children independent. I had my children in my late 30s and immediately fell in love with them. I wanted to do everything for them. When one of them was in high school, a classmate was orphaned and it completely changed my view. I realized it could just as easily have been me and my husband and set about making them as independent as possible. Making them dependent on you may feel good at the time but it cripples them
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