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Fraudulent boyfriend Dear Annie: I have been talking with this gentleman for almost four years; we’ve been in a long-distance relationship online. He claims that he mailed me a large sum of money, and so he has nothing now. But I have not seen this box full of money that he supposedly sent. He keeps saying that it has to clear customs, and they need a large fee in order for it to go through. I don’t think that customs would be demanding large sums of money, and, anyway, it’s been months and months now. I told him if the box did not come within the 48 hours like he said that he and I were through. I am afraid it is fraud. What is your take on this? — Losing My Lover Dear Losing My Lover: I’m afraid you’re right. This is textbook fraud. He’s trying to play you for a fool. Don’t let him.
In love with a dancer Dear Annie: I am a 64-year-old truck driver from East Texas. I went to a gentlemen’s club and befriended a dancer there, “Renee,” and I have grown to love her dearly in my heart. I feel she is a good-hearted, loving, beautiful and special woman. She is a queen in my heart. She has a 3-year-old daughter, and I want to accept her in my heart as well. She needs to have a father figure in her life. I have asked to take Renee and her family out to eat sometime to show her how much I love her. I have shown my love with gifts for her and her daughter. I have bought flowers, cards and teddy bears. Yet, Renee won’t return my calls, and she rarely responds to my texts. It hurts me deeply. I haven’t been eating or sleeping much. I feel in my heart that she doesn’t really want to be in the job that she is now and that maybe I could take her away from that. She says I am different from other men who go there and that I have her heart. But she’s said that kind of thing only when in the club and drinking. I wonder whether it’s just the alcohol talking. I pray every day for her and her family to be OK. Will I ever be able to make her love me? — Aching Heart in East Texas Dear Aching: The best way to show your respect for this woman is to give her and her daughter some space. You’ve made it clear you’re interested, so trust that she’ll reach out to you one day if she feels the same. Rather than waiting around for that day to come, get busy opening other doors for yourself. First, meet more women. During the pandemic, I encourage you to do this from the safety of your own home. Websites such as Match. com and eHarmony are excellent resources and full of people who are looking for meaningful longterm relationships. Second, I’d recommend trying therapy, as it sounds like you might be battling with depression or feelings of isolation. This can be done remotely, too, through websites such as Talkspace, BetterHelp or Online-Therapy.com. Or you can call the SAMHSA helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357) to be referred to providers and resources in your area. ——— Dear Annie: Everyone enjoys seeing monarchs fly thousands of miles south on their annual journey to Mexico this time of year. Many people also enjoy guacamole or avocados. However, most people don’t realize the FDA requires that Haas avocados, the main type of avocado, be imported from Michoacan, Mexico, where thousands of monarchs, an endangered species, have migrated on the oyamel firs, the only trees they overwinter on, for 10,000 years. Farmers deforest the oyamel forests the monarchs depend on in order to produce Haas avocados. Everyone needs to do their part to support U.S. avocado farmers and monarchs so they will be able to migrate for another 10,000 years. — Monarch Watcher Dear Monarch Watcher: I was not aware of this before, but I know from now on I’ll be looking for U.S.-grown avocados. Thank
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you for the tip. Robyn Nola wrote, “Butterflies are nature’s angels. They remind us what a gift it is to be alive.”
Just a call away Dear Annie: I read your column every day. Of course, lately, the issues revolve around COVID-19 and the problem of being unable to gather for significant events, especially holidays. People seem to be going the extra mile to find alternative ways to “gather.” I would appreciate it if you could remind your readers that there are those who are alone on all the holidays, not just during this pandemic. I’ve been alone for many years on these holidays and have learned to make the best of it, stay busy and positive. I find ways to perhaps make others less lonely, which has helped me in return. However, there is always a bit of underlying sadness. I know I would love it if someone would reach out to me with a phone call to say happy holidays or that they were thinking of me. I do have distant family and friends, but everyone gets busy and doesn’t seem to understand how important that 10-minute conversation would be to anyone who is alone. For that matter, it doesn’t even need to be a holiday or birthday call. Please take 10 minutes of your time and make someone’s day brighter. Whenever someone takes the time to say they are thinking of me, I smile all day. — Appreciating Kindness Dear Appreciating Kindness: Your letter touched my heart, and I can just picture you smiling all day because someone took the time to call you. The holiday season is a wonderful reminder of how we can all help each other, especially people we know who are alone.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have adult children, ages 20 and 29, both of whom are girls. He refuses to make them grow up. The older one asks him to make calls to places such as the airport to check on parking or to arrange appointments. He goes to her house to help her make plane reservations and has always done her taxes. The younger one is living at home, and he calls her “the baby” all the time. He follows behind her, picking up after her, checking her school assignments, grades and school email, telling her what is due. I tell him we need to teach them to be independent, but he says he wants to help them as much as possible before he dies. He is 68. How do I deal with this? — Fed up with the Babying Dear Fed Up: Sadly, your husband is not doing his children any favors by continuing to make them dependent on him. The goal of parents should be to give their children good roots when they are young. Teaching them how to care for themselves and be polite and responsible members of society, with wings to fly away from the nest and create their own lives separate from their parents. Give a man a fish and he has one meal; teach him how to fish and he can feed himself for life. That is what your husband needs to do, and you know it. Sit him down and share the impact of his babying. Ask him about his concerns about trying to help them before he dies. If he still does not get it or if there are some deeprooted fears present, then it might be time to go to family counseling.
It’s your life Dear Annie: I am a highly successful professional single mother in my mid-40s. My ex-husband and I divorced 10 years ago, and we have two wonderful children. I am happily dating a colleague, and all of my friends and some of my family are happy for me and
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like my boyfriend. The problem is my parents, who live about half an hour away from me and come by my home to see my children two-three times each week. They have made it clear that they hate him, despite having only been around him twice for very brief periods of time. They refuse to accept anyone and have even made comments to my teenage children about what a mistake they think I am making. For the record, my children have told me repeatedly that they are happy with the situation and wish my parents would leave them alone. Their primary objections are that he is also divorced and that we work together. I think my father likes to believe that he is the man in charge and is not willing to accept another man in my life. My children just shrug their shoulders and say nothing when my parents say things to them because it makes them feel awkward and like they are being placed in the middle. My parents take my children’s responses (or lack thereof ) as meaning that my children are against the situation. In reality, my kids just want my parents to quit placing them in the middle of their beef with me. I don’t wish to cut my parents out of my life or the lives of my children, but I am at my wits’ end with them. I have tried to politely explain to my parents that we are just going to have to agree to disagree, but they won’t stop the daily barrage of criticism. Short of cutting off contact, what do I do? — Exasperated in Alabama Dear Exasperated in Alabama: You have every right to be at your wits’ end. Criticizing your choice of partner is not helpful to you, your children, your boyfriend or your parents. Sit your parents down again privately and ask them to stop their criticism. Tell them how it makes you feel when they put down your choice. Assuming your boyfriend makes you and your children happy, and it sounds as if he does, then your parents must accept him. As far as your father wanting to be the only man in charge of your life, remind him that you are the only person in charge of your life now. Your father looked after you and protected you for many years. In the future, you’re looking forward to caring for him in his advanced years. The only way that will happen is if there is mutual respect now. ——— Dear Annie: Your request to hear from readers on how we decided to “distance celebrate” the holidays caught my attention. We have been a military family for the past 25 years, so live family gatherings have been rare and intensely cherished. I’ve been a prolific letter writer, including notes and cards, all my
together. Luckily, all of the households had actual sets so we could rotate callers during the games. I know there’s virtual bingo, but we needed to keep it simple for the less tech-savvy. We have coordinated movie nights during which we have the same movie on our televisions and meet virtually on another device to watch together. That was great for grandparent/grandchildren time. Baking virtually will be different, but we’re looking forward to it. We happen to have fans of that activity in all four houses, but everyone can try to find their common ground and do that together. There are many other things you may want to try together. — Trying to Make the Best of It Dear Trying to Make the Best of It: Thank you for your suggestions. I love the idea of all family members watching a movie together — remotely.
life. There is truly something to be said about a thoughtful, handwritten letter. I continue doing that very thing during the pandemic, and I sent notes to my sons, their families and grandkids. In addition to heartfelt words, spend a little time sorting through your photos. Print some out, and slip a few hard copy photos into the envelope. These tangible reminders of fun days from the past will bring instant joy and laughter, fond memories and lifted spirits. It works every time. — Still Love a Handwritten Note Dear Handwritten Note: Love your positive approach to life and to challenging situations. And you are right about the power of a handwritten note. Thank you!
Disappointed with dishes Dear Annie: My son has been dating a girl for a little over three years. My husband and I really like her. Our son loves her. Here’s the problem: I have asked her before to help in the kitchen with meal preparation and cleanup, and she refuses. They come once a week for meals, and we eat in front of the TV while watching shows. Everyone brings their dishes to the kitchen, but I’m left with the cleanup. Once, when I asked her for help, she said that she is company and wouldn’t expect me to help at her house. They were here for Thanksgiving, and my mom asked her to join us at the table and visit, but she declined, saying she was OK where she was. My mom was hurt and upset. How can I get her to get involved in the kitchen work, both before and after, and to put her phone away and sit and visit with us? — Disappointed Dear Disappointed: Staring at your phone and texting while at your potential in-laws’ house is very rude. The polite thing to do is ask the host if he or she needs help, but it is also polite for the host not to expect the guests to do all the work. Have a talk with your son and ask him to help you out in the kitchen. Maybe his girlfriend will catch on and want to jump in. Her behavior toward your mother was also very rude, so address this with your son, too. Perhaps there is a reason he hasn’t married her yet. ——— Dear Annie: My immediate family is comprised of four households in different parts of eastern Pennsylvania, so we don’t get together in person. We met virtually during the holidays. We wanted to do something fun as a family. The age range of our group is 7 to 64. With that in mind, we decided it could be fun for us to all bake something together. We’ve already done bingo
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Dear Annie: My husband has a HUGE family. They gather every year in a hotel for at least three days. They are planning to do so this year, during the pandemic. So far, most of them plan on going, which would be almost 80 people. They are coming from Florida, Ohio, Massachusetts, Washington and Maryland. I, of course, will not be attending. I don’t think they will cancel their gathering, and I fear that my spouse or our child will contract COVID-19 and be contagious when they return. My spouse says he’s going no matter what and taking our child, too. I’ve told him I think it’s irresponsible, and he knows I have health issues that would make me vulnerable to the virus and probably not survive it. I take every precaution, including washing hands, wearing a mask, sanitizing and avoiding stores (I actually have groceries delivered). Could you give me advice on how to convince my spouse that going is irresponsible? It is putting not just our child’s health at risk but also other people’s and mine. If both of us get COVID-19, our daughter may end up with only one parent or no parents. — Not Willing to Risk It Dear Not Willing to Risk It: I don’t blame you one bit. A gettogether of 80 or more people from different states is not responsible right now. Your husband is being short-sighted, especially since the vaccine is already being shipped across America and will be available to all of us during the upcoming year. Promise him that you will attend the next family reunion with bells on. If he still insists on attending, then when he returns, he and your daughter must quarantine for 14 days and get tested.
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• E-mail your public notice to legals@davisenterprise.net • Be sure to include your name and phone number • View public notices at www.capublicnotice.com FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: December 8, 2020 FBN Number: F20200989 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) Manolitos Auto Detailing 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California. Business is located in Yolo County. 224 A Street, Apt. 13 Davis, CA 95616 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip Manolo Cirilo Santos 224 A Street, Apt. 13 Davis, CA 95616 4. Business Classification: Individual 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: December 7, 2020 “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.” (A registrant who declares as true information which he or she knows to be false is guilty of a crime.) 6. Signature of Registrant(s): Manolo Cirilo Santos 12/18, 12/25, 1/1, 1/8 1093
FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: December 22, 2020 FBN Number: F20201013 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) PHO TASTY 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California. Business is located in Yolo County. 301 G Street Davis, CA 95616 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip Allison Lo 7425 Bruno Way Sacramento, CA 95828 4. Business Classification: Individual 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: N/A “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.” (A registrant who declares as true information which he or she knows to be false is guilty of a crime.) 6. Signature of Registrant(s): Allison Lo 12/25, 1/1, 1/8, 1/15 1104
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FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME STATEMENT Filed: December 4, 2020 FBN Number: F20200976 1. Fictitious Business Name(s) EMBELLISH DECOR LLC 2. Street Address, City, State and Zip of Principal Place of Business in California. Business is located in Yolo County. 519 Main Street Woodland, CA 95695 Mailing address: 3 Rice Court Woodland, CA 95695 3. List Full Name(s) of Registrant(s), Residence Address, State, and Zip Embellish Decor LLC 3 Rice Court Woodland, CA 95695 4. Business Classification: Limited Liability Company 5. Beginning Date of Business: The Registrant(s) commenced to transact business under the fictitious business name or names listed above on: November 10, 2020 “I declare that all information in this statement is true and correct.” (A registrant who declares as true information which he or she knows to be false is guilty of a crime.) 6. Signature of Registrant(s): Rebecca L Roncoroni Officer, Embellish Decor LLC 12/18, 12/25, 1/1, 1/8 1094
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