P24N1 - Plus Living Nelson/Marlborough Issue #5

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Ageing

This issue of Plusliving offers some home truths and encourages readers to live with authenticity.

We start by looking at the psychology behind lying about our age and how liberating it can be to let go.

We also offer tips for staying savvy in our untrustworthy digital world and why we might hold ourselves back from saying no.

Another theme for this issue is money, with articles on the damage done by online gambling and how the closure of physical banks is impacting older adults.

You can also find pieces on managing embarrassment, 2023’s best books, recipes, and mind games.

Enjoy!

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Welcome to Plusliving – the magazine dedicated to living well and ageing gracefully in modern society. Aimed at the 50+ age group, you’ll find articles covering all aspects of contemporary life, including physical health and wellbeing, mental health and acuity, home life, working life and finances, technology, travel, self-improvement and more. Our aim is to provide information anyone can use, on any given day, so you can get more out of life.

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The psychology

Have you ever caught yourself hesitating when someone asks your age? Maybe you throw out a playful, "Oh, you know, ageless!" or deflect with a witty, "Old enough to know better, young enough to not care."

While these responses might gain a chuckle, the truth is that our relationship with age is often more complicated than we let on. There's a reason why some people shave years off their true number while others refuse to disclose it altogether.

So, what's the psychology behind birthdate denial? It turns out there's an interesting connection between self-perception, societal pressures, and the desire to control how the world sees us.

Teenagers, for example, might add on a couple of years in an attempt to seem cooler or to gain access to experiences deemed "adult." This desire to shed the perceived limitations of youth is perfectly normal. It's a part of the developmental push towards independence and a sense of grown-up identity.

However, as societies tend to place a premium on youth, particularly for women, some adults might feel compelled to downplay their age. This can stem from a fear of being seen as less desirable or competent. The pressure to maintain a youthful appearance can be overwhelming, leading to anxieties about aging.

There's also the cultural aspect to consider. In some professions, age can be a barrier to entry or advancement. A young lawyer might embellish their age to appear more experienced, while a seasoned artist might shave off a few years to fit in with a younger, trendier crowd. Age, in these cases, becomes a marker not just of time but of perceived ability.

However, lying about age has implications. There's the constant fear of being exposed, which can lead to anxiety and a strain on relationships.

behind lying about our age

The web of deceit, however small, can create a disconnect between our true selves and the persona we project. This can interfere with genuine connections and make it difficult to embrace the positive aspects of aging, like wisdom and experience.

The positive to this? Studies have shown that people who view themselves as younger than their true age tend to live longer! This suggests that a youthful outlook can have a powerful impact on our well-being. The key, however, lies in embracing a more holistic view of aging.

Instead of viewing age as a number to be hidden, we can focus on a sense of vitality and purpose that transcends the years. This means staying active, learning new things, and surrounding ourselves with positive and supportive people. It's about celebrating the experiences that have shaped us and the wisdom we've gained along the way.

So, the next time you're tempted to fake your age, take a moment to consider why. By focusing on the things that truly make us feel young – curiosity, connection, and a zest for life – we can embrace aging with grace and authenticity. After all, isn't the most beautiful part of life the journey itself, wrinkles and all?

There's something liberating about letting go of the need to control the narrative around our age. It allows us to be present in the moment and to connect with others on a deeper level. So, the next time someone asks your age, consider offering a genuine smile and saying, "I'm exactly where I'm meant to be."

Instead of viewing age as a number to be hidden, we can focus on a sense of vitality and purpose that transcends the years. This means staying active, learning new things, and surrounding ourselves with positive and supportive people.

“We

Let

Sue Prowse, General Manager

'Every year, bereaved New Zealand families are paying lawyers millions more than they need to, for basic paperwork, after a loved one dies' - says Kiwilaw lawyer, Cheryl Simes.

Spurred by a local client who needed letters of administration, Cheryl has developed a nationwide online service for bereaved families who need High Court approval ('probate') before they can uplift their loved one's financial assets or deal with their loved one's land. Although now based in North Canterbury, Cheryl's service is available anywhere in New Zealand or indeed overseas.

Probate is usually needed even if there is a valid will.

You do not have to use the lawyer who holds the will

'Bereavement is hard. But before agreeing to anything, ask your lawyer for a specific probate estimate.

'Most lawyers charge from $1,000 to $3,000 just for probate, not counting the rest of the estate administration.'

Check the fee, before you agree.

Why use Kiwilaw?

It really is straightforward. An initial no-obligation online screening checks the will and any complications. If extra fees are required, you are told at that point. To go ahead, you answer questions in a simple online interview. Court-ready documents then arrive at your door, complete with instructions on what needs to be signed, how, where, and by whom, and how to send everything to the High Court for processing.

Where there's a valid will, Kiwilaw's fee is usually just $490 and you pay the $200 High Court fee direct.

Habituation in relationships

Imagine you’re studying in a quiet library and hearing the constant hum of the air conditioner. You quickly habituate to this sound and stop noticing it. Suddenly, the air conditioner makes a loud bang.

This unexpected change disrupts your habituation, and you now pay attention to the air conditioner again.

Habituation is a natural process in which an organism gradually decreases its response to a repeated stimulus that is considered unimportant or irrelevant. However, if a change is introduced to a familiar stimulus, it can disrupt the habituation process and cause the organism to pay attention again. This change is called a dishabituation stimulus. That’s what this focus on habituation in relationships and life considers: taking breaks so you can pause and register just how good your life might actually be, just that you’ve grown to see it as normal.

Dishabituation plays a crucial role in our daily lives. It helps us stay alert to potential changes in our environment, even if we’ve become accustomed to certain stimuli. For instance, you might stop noticing traffic noise while driving, but a sudden loud honk would dishabituate you, making you pay attention to potential danger.

Habituation principles can help us reflect upon how good (or not) we’ve got it in relationships.

Studies in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology highlighted the give-and-take nature of appreciation within romantic relationships. The research found that people who feel more appreciated by their partners also exhibit a greater appreciation for them. Those who are more appreciative of their partners respond more to their partner’s needs, so they become more attuned and sensitive to their partner’s emotions over time. These people are also more likely to stay committed to their relationships.

When you’re showing gratitude to your partner, you should be sincere and specific. Habituation leads us to zone out and think less of comments like “Oh, thanks for doing the laundry” but a comment that speaks to how it intricately has impacted you, something about how it took a load off your emotional labour list when they put that load of washing on, will cut deeper and actually mean a lot more. Make your expressions of gratitude more heartfelt, and they’ll

Habituation is a natural process in which an organism gradually decreases its response to a repeated stimulus that is considered unimportant or irrelevant.

have more impact. It will prompt you to think deeper about what the person actually means to you, only helping you regulate your emotions and point of view in the long run.

A 2020 study in Cognition and Emotion found a link between the level of unexpectedness of a gift and people’s expressions of gratitude. Participants who perceived the gift as highly unexpected were more inclined to express gratitude. Small gestures matter! That’s the bottom line. They show you’re thinking of them and willing to do something about it. Relationship complacency is just the tip of the habituation iceberg, though…

When the initial spark of a relationship fades, a deeper and more meaningful love can come through. But if you sense complacency emerging, remember those butterflies you used to get. Reminisce about the early days of your relationship. Recreate some of those special moments or activities you enjoyed together. Further, routine is good, but too much can get stale, so try something new together.

When the initial spark of a relationship fades, a deeper and more meaningful love can come through. But if you sense complacency emerging, remember those butterflies you used to get.

Explore a new hobby, take a weekend trip, or have a surprise date night. New experiences can reignite excitement and help you see each other in a fresh light.

Harvard law professor Cass R. Sunstein has a new book, Look Again: The Power of Noticing What Was Always There. One major reflection from the book is the flip side of habituation: what to do regarding negative tasks. With habituation rules in mind, positive tasks can have greater happiness attributed to them if a short break is taken. It’s why we enjoy a show more if we watch one episode a week instead of binge-watching it.

So, despite it seeming smart to take a break from something bad, it’s actually best to take the grim times all in one go. The suffering associated with negative tasks decreases over time as people habituate to them. There’s truth to ripping the bandage off. Combining these two reflections – those being that positive tasks should have breaks taken among them and that negative tasks should be done in one go – we also are better at identifying aspects of our lives we simply aren’t happy with. Unhappiness isn’t inherently bad; it drives people to change their lives.

And so, absence does make the heart grow fonder. This new research has deep-dived habituation, and with it, we can stop taking the great things in our lives for granted.

The age of

unretiring

Returning to work after retirement is not something people consider when they initially hang up their work boots.

However, with the current state of the world, more and more retirees are finding themselves re-entering the workforce, a trend that is becoming increasingly common for several reasons. While traditionally, retirement marked an end to one’s working life, current global economic pressures are reshaping this norm.

Unretiring means returning to the workforce after having previously retired. This is different from choosing to never retire or transitioning to a different type of work post-retirement. The reasons for unretiring are as diverse as the individuals themselves but generally fall into two categories: the need for additional

financial security due to rising costs or the desire for continued activity or social interactions to maintain a sense of purpose and community.

The financial benefits of unretiring are clear. Returning to work can provide a much-needed boost to a retiree’s income, helping to manage unexpected expenses or achieve financial goals that were previously out of reach. From a social perspective, work can offer a structured routine, social interactions, and a sense of achievement— all things that might be lacking during retirement. Engaging in work can also keep the mind sharp and help ward off cognitive decline.

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The

financial benefits of

unretiring

are clear. Returning to work can provide a much-needed boost

to a

retiree’s income, helping to manage unexpected expenses or achieve financial goals that were previously out of reach.

However, unretiring also involves trade-offs. It often means sacrificing the leisure and flexibility that retirement affords. Adjusting to a work schedule again can be challenging, especially for those who have grown accustomed to the freedom of their post-work years.

Re-entering the workforce can also reintroduce work-related stresses, such as navigating office politics or managing relationships with superiors and colleagues.

Physically, unretiring can be demanding, particularly for those returning to more labour-intensive roles. The realisation that one’s physical capabilities might not be what they once were can be tough to accept.

Part-time or flexible work arrangements may offer a gentler transition back into the workforce than a full-time, high-demand job. Ultimately, whether unretiring is a positive move depends on personal health, financial needs, and lifestyle preferences.

Fortunately, the modern work environment is increasingly accepting of remote and flexible work arrangements, which supports this shift. This is particularly beneficial in a world where people are living longer and healthier lives, allowing them to

contribute their experience and skills well beyond the traditional retirement age.

For businesses, the reintegration of retired professionals addresses skill shortages and adds valuable experience to the workforce. This can stimulate economic growth by boosting labour force participation rates. The evolving idea of unretirement not only benefits individuals and businesses but also has the potential to enhance financial stability on a broader scale.

Navigating unretirement comes with its challenges, such as potential workplace ageism and the need for companies to adapt to a multi-generational workforce. However, with thoughtful planning and a clear understanding of one's motivations and capabilities, unretiring can be a positive experience.

Those considering unretirement should carefully think about their financial situations, reassess their skills and relevance in the job market, and explore opportunities that align with their current capabilities and lifestyle needs. Consulting with financial advisors, updating skills through courses or training, and leveraging networks for job opportunities can all facilitate a successful transition back into the workforce.

Other things to do:

• Te Anau Historic Lake Cruise

• Fiordland Jet Boating

• Lake to Lake Cycle Track

• Guided Day Walks

• Fishing (Fly & Boat)

Just an example of what else you can do so come stay and enjoy our lovely town.

Bank closuresconcern seniors

Many physical banks have closed or are slated to close, leaving older members of our communities without vital and accessible financial services.

Some Kiwi communities have been left with no local banking branches, forcing our most vulnerable to use electronic services.

Society is more Internet-reliant than ever before, especially since the coronavirus pandemic forced our lives to go no contact. Per a KPMG report, from September 2019 to 2020, the entire banking sector, including smaller banks like TSB and SBS, went from 934 retail bank branches to 850 and from 2465 ATMs to 2216. Consumer NZ reported that 366 bank branches closed their doors from 2010 to 2020.

The story is the same post-pandemic. BNZ closed its new Kaikohe branch in 2021 despite an earlier promise not to axe any more regional branches until 2022. ASB closed a handful of its branches in early 2024 and announced its Willis St Wellington branch would not reopen. On June 25, 2024, HSBC closed its banking business in New Zealand completely.

Age Concern Chief Executive Karen Billings-Jensen is unsurprised at the new wave of physical bank closures, the sector in transition for quite a few years now. After pandemic-related service digitalisation and the phasing out of cheques, these electronic banking effects were not unexpected. But organisations like Age Concern question what the moves mean for those not confident online, and how banks will deal with the needs of everyone they serve.

Adam Boyd, ASB’s executive general manager of personal banking, said that customers are banking less in person.

As per the March 2024 press statement, one of ASB’s quietest branches sees an average of just 14 customers through the door each day.

“Closing a branch isn’t a straightforward decision, and we know there will be some customers, who still visit these branches, disappointed by this news,” he said. “We’re committed to supporting them and ensuring they continue to receive the level of service they require going forward.

“Members of our business banking and community banking teams will be on the ground in these branches to help support the transition, and we will work closely with customers who may need extra support, including engaging with Age Concern to offer workshops to its members.”

Digital literacy education, including scam and fraud awareness, is vital, and many local Age Concerns offer classes. These can be from a one-on-one session to get to know your device or an eightweek classroom-style course working through modules. SeniorNet specialise in training for seniors, the 2022 Budget saw $1.3 million allocated to the Office for Seniors to expand its digital literacy training programme, and Digital Inclusion Alliance Aotearoa advocates for all, seniors included. And this just scrapes the surface of New Zealand’s digital literacy focus; it’s an important education for all ages.

Karen doesn’t want to demonise banks. The reality is that banks must meet changing service needs. Key government services and insurance companies, the health and shopping sectors, among countless other realms, exist online now. However, in understanding the needs of these customers, the needs of the cohort of people who don’t use digital banking cannot be forgotten.

Digitalisation impacts us in strange ways. Karen remembers her late father, who had a great relationship with his bank, never walking by without popping in to say hello. Thanks to what Karen calls the “underlying Internetness of life today”, our lives move online. Unfortunately for those who enjoy the journey, visiting the bank is an increasingly unviable event on one’s calendar.

Karen notes that everybody has different needs. Some people are unbanked, meaning they have no accounts, and some people don’t have regular Internet access. In the wake of banking digitalisation, some people took all of their money out, forcing themselves into a cash economy. Older adults are just as vulnerable to scams and financial exploitation, but when all of their money is in note form or someone other than them controls their accounts, another scenario, the risk grows.

If you’re having trouble adapting to digital banking, don’t hesitate to seek help. Many banks offer customer service and support to

assist with the transition, as do community groups. Adapting to new technologies can take time. It’s important to be patient and give yourself time to understand and use digital banking services effectively.

Digital banking aims to provide a more convenient, efficient, and secure way to manage your finances. While the clock is ticking on wholesome in-person visits and advice, there are silver linings to be found. Just as society must hold them accountable, banks must continue to strive for equity of access for all.

Closing a branch isn’t a straightforward decision, and we know there will be some customers, who still visit these branches, disappointed by this news

We’re committed to supporting them and ensuring they continue to receive the level of service they require going forward.

Bad life advice

Understanding and identifying fake news

Fake news is almost as old as the news itself. However, the nature of fake news has shifted in recent years due to the growth of social media.

The internet has changed how easy it is to publish and access news, meaning that anyone can publish misinformation or disinformation and anybody can access it and be misled by that false information.

Being a savvy news consumer means being a critical thinker. This is why it is important to know how to identify, check and report fake news online.

How to spot fake news

1. Check the facts: Often, fake news includes incorrect details, uses unreliable sources, or has altered timelines. A quick web search can help you cross-reference key facts.

2. Understand the Context: Information is everywhere. Before sharing, investigate where the story originally appeared and who is promoting it. Determine if the source is credible.

3. Assess the Subtletly: Be wary of real information that is distorted into fake news. This is especially common with misleading descriptions of images or videos.

4. Compare Other Sources: Every news source has its limitations. If a story seems significant but appears only in one place, proceed with caution. Comparing different news reports can help clarify the facts.

5. Recognise Your Biases: We often believe the news that aligns with our beliefs and ignore what doesn't. Before sharing it with others, reflect on how the news makes you feel first.

6. Prevent the Spread: Help minimise misinformation by reporting fake accounts or domains that consistently share false content through the ‘Help Centre’ on your social media platform.

Fake news is very diverse; it can be about anything from lifestyle to sport to politics. There are many different forms of fake news from sensational headlines to subtle biases that can colour our perceptions.

Types of fake news

1. Sensational Headlines: Articles that employ dramatic phrases to exaggerate a story and are aimed at attracting clicks and grabbing people's attention.

2. Parody or Satire: Some platforms and accounts are created purely for humour and parody, not intended to be taken as factual.

3. Factual errors: Misinformation can often be spotted through inaccuracies such as incorrect dates, misnamed locations, or citation of unreliable sources, leading to reader confusion.

4. Altered Imagery: In line with the saying that a picture is worth a thousand words, digitally modified images in articles are frequently used to mislead.

5. Inherent Bias: Natural biases inspire us to accept news that supports our viewpoints and reject conflicting information, which can skew perception and increase susceptibility to fake news.

Fake news is a long-standing issue in today’s digital world, which means critical thinking is essential. By understanding the different types of fake news and how to spot them, you can become a more informed and responsible news consumer. Don’t let deceptive headlines and misleading information control your beliefs and actions. Be a savvy news consumer and share only trustworthy information.

Unplug and reconnect A guide to reducing screen time

In our hyperconnected world, the average person spends a significant portion of their day staring at screens, whether for work, entertainment, or social interaction.

This near-constant connectivity can lead to digital fatigue, strained eyesight, and a noticeable drop in real-world interactions. Reducing screen time is not just about avoiding these negative effects; it is about reclaiming our time and mental space. By consciously choosing to unplug, we give ourselves the opportunity to enhance our mental health, improve our physical well-being and deepen our personal relationships.

Outdoor Escapes - Imagine a quiet afternoon in a bustling park, where you can sit back and observe the countless number of stories unfolding around you. Such simple pleasures allow us to reconnect with the peace of nature and the complexity of human life beyond our screens. Also, gardening offers a chance to engage with the earth, where tending to plants and watching them grow can be both therapeutic and grounding.

Productive Endeavors - While many of us are governed by instant notifications and continuous distractions, setting aside time to plan your week or outline new goals can alter your productivity. These tasks demand thoughtful reflection, which is often disrupted by the constant buzz of our devices. Engaging in activities like these provides a structured break from the digital chaos and helps focus your intentions for the days ahead.

Social Connections - Why not replace screen time with face-to-face interactions? Hosting a family dinner or baking treats for neighbours can strengthen bonds and foster a sense of community that virtual connections often lack. These acts of sharing and caring create memorable experiences and more lasting relationships.

Creative Pursuits - Creative projects like DIY crafts or scrapbooking offer a hands-on approach to creativity that screens can’t compare to. Whether you’re upcycling a piece of furniture or compiling cherished memories in a scrapbook, these activities provide a tactile satisfaction that builds up your creative spirit.

Health and Wellness - Introducing new recipes into your diet or incorporating stretches into your daily routine can have great health benefits. Cooking is a multi-sensory experience that engages you in a way scrolling never could, while stretching helps counteract the physical toll of a lot of screen use.

Self-Care and Learning - Dedicating time to reading a book or indulging in a home spa night can be a form of self-care that screens often disrupt. Similarly, educational hobbies like origami or language learning stimulate the mind and offer intellectual fulfilment that is rarely achieved through screen consumption.

Planning future gifts, solving puzzles, or visiting cultural and historical places such as museums and art galleries can enrich your life in diverse ways. These activities encourage us to think deeply, question, and appreciate the vastness of human achievement and creativity.

By engaging in some of these activities, we not only reduce our screen time but also enhance our lives with deeper experiences and connections. The key is to find activities that you truly enjoy and make them a part of your regular routine. In doing so, you create a balanced life where technology serves you, not the other way around.

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Sudoku

RULES: Sudoku rules are simple. A 9×9 square must be filled in with numbers from 1-9 with no repeated numbers in each line, horizontally or vertically. To challenge you more, there are 3×3 squares marked out in the grid, and each of these squares can't have any repeat numbers either.

ANSWERS:

Crossword

Across:

1. Stage lamp

8. Starting point in reasoning

9. Makes a ties less tight

10. Concept

12. Item on a belt

13. UFO pilots

13. Wet period in the tropics

16. Bog fruit

Down:

2. Piece of office gear

2. Small spade

4. You look through it

5. Salon stylist

6. Fruit pastry

7. By the way

11. Lining fabric

14. Spiritual song

ANSWERS:

ANSWER:

Mind Games

The old saying ‘use it or lose it’ applies as equally to mental acuity as it does to physical wellbeing, and more so as we age.

With

people progressively living longer lives, it is increasingly important to look after our mental health.
So here are some activities for the mind… brain food for improving your state of mind.

Yoga for beginners

Child’s pose

Start on your knees:

Sit on your heels with your knees either together for a more intense stretch in the thighs or spread them slightly apart for a gentler stretch.

Lower your torso:

Bend forward, extending your arms in front of you or letting them rest alongside your body, palms facing up.

Rest your forehead on the ground:

Try to make your forehead touch the mat, deepening the stretch in your spine. If this is uncomfortable, you can also rest your forehead on a block or pillow.

Breathe deeply:

Stay in the pose for a few deep breaths, ideally for a minute or more, allowing your spine to lengthen and your hips to sink closer to your heels.

Release the pose:

To come out, gently use your hands to push yourself back up to a seated position on your heels.

Warrior pose

Start in a standing position:

Stand with your feet hip-width apart and your arms at your sides.

Step back:

Step your left foot back about 3 to 4 feet, depending on your height. Angle your left foot at about a 45-degree angle.

Bend your front knee:

Align your right knee over your right ankle, bending the knee until the thigh is parallel to the ground. Keep your left leg straight and strong with your heel firmly planted on the mat.

Square your hips:

Turn your hips forward as if they are facing the front of your mat. This may require pulling the right hip back and the left hip forward.

Raise your arms:

Extend your arms above your head, palms facing each other or touching, and stretch upward while keeping your shoulders down, away from your ears

Look up:

Optionally, tilt your head back slightly and look up towards your hands.

Hold and breathe:

Maintain this pose for several breaths, feeling the stretch and maintaining balance.

Release and repeat:

To release, lower your arms and step your left foot forward to meet your right. Repeat on the opposite side with the left leg forward and the right leg back.

Downward facing dog

Start on your hands and knees:

Position your knees directly below your hips and your hands slightly forward of your shoulders. Spread your palms, index fingers parallel or slightly turned out, and press firmly into the mat

Lift your hips:

Exhale as you tuck your toes under, lift your knees off the floor, and lift your hips toward the ceiling. Your body should form an inverted "V" shape

Straighten your legs:

Gradually straighten your legs, but do not lock your knees. Bring your body into the shape of an "A".

Ground your heels:

Attempt to lower your heels to the ground, though they do not need to touch the mat

Align your head:

Keep your head between your arms, facing your knees, and your back straight

Hold the pose:

Stay in this position for a few breaths, aiming for deep, steady breathing.

Release the pose:

To release, exhale as you gently lower your knees to the floor and transition back to a seated position.

Good reads

Bel from Scorpio Books picks some of the best reads of last year. Scorpio Books is an independent bookstore in the BNZ Centre with the best range of carefully curated books in Otautahi Christchurch.

Birnam Wood by Eleanor Catton

A gripping psychological thriller from the Booker Prize-winning author of The Luminaries, Birnam Wood is Shakespearean in its wit, drama, and immersion in character. A brilliantly constructed consideration of intentions, actions, and consequences, it is an unflinching examination of the human impulse to ensure our own survival.

The Deck by Fiona Farrell

The Deck borrows the motifs of Giovanni Boccaccio’s 14th-century masterpiece, The Decameron, in which another small group gathered to avoid contagion and passed the time telling stories. But what is the role of fiction, this novel asks, as civilisation falters? Oamaru-born Fiona Farrell dares to answer.

A Better Place by Stephen Daisley

The new novel of brothers at war comes from award-winning author Stephen Daisley, winner of the Prime Minister's Literary Award (Australia) for Traitor and New Zealand's Ockham Prize for Coming Rain. Beautifully written, brutal, tender and visceral, A Better Place is about art, violence, and love in its many forms.

Did I Ever Tell You This? by Sam

Neill

In this warm, unexpected memoir, written in a creative burst of just a few months in 2022, Sam Neill tells the story of how he became one of the world’s most celebrated actors, who has worked with everyone from Meryl Streep to Jeff Goldblum, from Steven Spielberg to Jane Campion.

Great-Uncle Harry by Michael Palin

An utterly compelling account of an ordinary man who led an extraordinary life, Palin recreates the extraordinary life and tragic death of his great-uncle Harry, a First World War soldier. A blend of biography, history, travelogue, and personal memoir, this is Michael Palin at his very finest,

Wandering Through Life by Donna Leon

The internationally bestselling author tells her own adventurous life story as she enters her ninth decade and confronts the dual challenges and pleasures of aging. Donna Leon was named by The Times as one of the 50 Greatest Crime Writers and is celebrated for her Brunetti series.

Tavern with a view

The Collingwood Tavern is located in one of the South Island’s most beautiful places, sunny Golden Bay.

Collingwood Tavern is built on a peninsula with the Aorere River estuary as a back boundary, it has stupendous views out over Golden Bay and to the mountains in the south. This is the place for relaxed living by day and glorious sunsets most evenings.

With a spacious main bar, two garden-bar areas, and a restaurant with indoor and outdoor dining areas, Collingwood Tavern is well positioned to capture much of the passing tourist trade. Enjoy exquisite views from their sunset balcony and two beer gardens. The dining area seats about 100 people and has folding doors that open right out to give an inside-outside eating experience. Specialities include delicious seafood and tasty roasts, and they also have vegetarian meals available. The tavern has a main bar and it has a separate gaming room with pokies, a garden bar and kitchen services. The garden bar is covered with canvas in the summer for sun protection. There is a second garden area close to the estuary for those who want to sit in the sun.

Enjoy exquisite views from their sunset balcony and two beer gardens.

With Golden Bay being a popular tourist destination, year round, it is known as a famous departure point for tours to Farewell Spit, and for trampers walking the Heaphy Track. This means the Collingwood Tavern opens early until late with indoor and outdoor dining available, and takeaway available.

If you’re after a drink at the bar and/or a delicious feed, hit up the Collingwood Tavern today! You can find the tavern on Tasman street in Golden Bay, or to book in advance call the team now on 036 524 8160. Check out their menus online at www.tinkystavern.co.nz.

COLLINGWOOD TAVERN

Ensuring a smooth first-time selling experience

Article by Jen Baird, chief executive at REINZ.
Selling a first home can be an exciting yet daunting prospect with several factors to consider — and its normal to not be entirely sure about the process.
The best way to start is to get clear about what you want to achieve from your selling journey.

Understanding the ‘why’

Everyone’s circumstances are different — there are many reasons for selling a house, from family circumstances or lifestyle changes to downsizing or upsizing. You may need to move for a new job or want to live closer to your family. Or perhaps you are thinking about financial goals and would like to cash in your property and fund a new venture.

Figuring out your selling needs and goals will help form a better idea of the timeframe you’ll need to get your house market ready.

Do you need extensive renovations or minor touch ups? A simple marketing campaign, or a more extensive one? Your why will also help your real estate profession deliver in a way that works for you.

What is your property worth?

A home is as much an emotional asset as it is a capital one, and it can be difficult to see it objectively, let alone put a price on it.

There are several ways to get a precise idea of your property’s market value. You can pay for a registered valuation or get a current market

appraisal from a licensed real estate agent. Free online tools can give you a rough estimate, largely based on clever calculations using recent sale comparisons.

It is vital you have in depth conversations with your real estate professional. Automated tools and valuations are a great starting point, but your agent will know what’s happening in the market right now, what is impacting market values and the best approach to take to get a sale.

Consider any changes you can make to increase your property’s value, such as landscaping or fixing a broken fence.

Look at your property through a critical eye. First impressions can make a big difference in real estate: from curb appeal through to repainting the walls, some cosmetic changes inside and out may go a long way to attracting buyers and increasing the sale price.

For more targeted renovations, kitchens and bathrooms are usually key rooms to focus on. Although the most expensive rooms to remodel, if you have the time and budget, a well-planned renovation tends to add the most value.

The magic of marketing

Marketing is fundamental to reaching and attracting buyers and making your property stand out from the rest. Experienced real estate agents know the impact continuous and omnichannel promotion can have on a property’s sale.

High-quality imagery and videos are more important than ever for online listings that enable potential buyers to get a feel for the property and decide whether they are interested in taking their buying journey to the next step.

In the dynamic world of real estate, Glyn Delany and Callum Gilchrist stand as the powerhouse duo behind Team Delany, the number one team at Summit in the Top of the South. Their remarkable success in 2024 reflects not only their dedication but also the perfect blend of experience, energy, proven results, processes, and passion.

WHAT'S THE TEAM'S ULTIMATE GOAL? TO CREATE CLIENTS FOR LIFE.

Glyn Delany: A Visionary Leader in Real Estate A force to be reckoned with in the industry. Passionate about helping people achieve their dreams and ultimate success, Glyn's commitment is evident in his consistent dedication to clients. With a plethora of 5-star reviews, he clinched the Agent of the Year award for Top Salesperson in the Tasman Region and ranks 16th in New Zealand for 2022 on RateMyAgent. Known for breaking records and maintaining the top spot at Summit, Glyn draws parallels between successful athletes and real estate agents, emphasizing the shared need for motivation, self-belief, integrity, and relentless effort. Applying a structured approach to his real estate career, Glyn's proactive planning and commitment contribute to his success, offering clients professionally researched value and credible advice.

Callum Gilchrist: A Rising Star with a Community Heart Proud partner and father, Callum embodies the essence of Nelson/Tasman living. Deeply involved in community endeavors, including leading the Celtic Pipe Band in Stoke, Callum is passionate about the exceptional lifestyle offered in the region. Teaming up with Glyn, the duo has forged an impressive track record, selling over 100 properties annually. Callum's joy lies in creating a superior selling system that outshines competitors, consistently improving the selling experience for vendors and buyers alike. His success is not only attributed to personal dedication but also Summit's unwavering support, from induction programs to mentorship, training, and an inclusive culture .

Contact one of the team today to start your Real Estate journey.

FIND OUT MORE gdrealestate.co.nz

Whether navigating the real estate market or contemplating a career change, Team Delany invites you to explore the possibilities. With Glyn and Callum at the helm, your next exciting chapter in real estate awaits. Contact them today to initiate a conversation and experience excellence in every transaction. Trust in Team Delany-your pathway to real estate success.

Glyn & Callum

Licensee Salespeople REAA 2008 027 200 9989 I 027 332 2689 I 03 544 2900 teamdelany@summit.co.nz

Excellent experience with Glyn, Callum and team Delany. We found that they have excellent market knowledge and are hard working with clear and consistent communication. They were always available to answer any questions and work very hard. We are impressed by them and the wider team at Summit, who are friendly, professional and passionate about what they do.

— Vendor

Very professional, we had confidence in Glyn & Callum from Day 1. They both demonstrated excellent market knowledge from the beginning of the process to it's successful conclusion. As a team their organisation and communication skills were professional giving us confidence in our decision to list with Team Delany.

— Vendor

Team Delany; Rach, Georgia, Glyn, Callum, Ayla, Kate.

DN Civil is a local family owned civil construction company based in Nelson, serving the upper South Island.

PLANT & EQUIPMENT

We can supply a wide variety of plant and equipment to complete any of your projects.

AGGREGATE SUPPLY

DN Civil is able to source and deliver to your site a wide range of locally sourced aggregates from around the top of the south.

SERVICES

Certifying Drainlayer

House Drains

Water Leak Repairs

Septic Tank Installs

Effluent Disposal Fields

Water Tanks & Pumps

Drainage

Civil Construction

Earthworks

Retaining Walls

Water Reticulation

Tip Truck Hire

Excellence in every build

Harper Builders Ltd, where your construction dreams take shape with unmatched precision and quality.

For over two decades, our family-operated company in Nelson has been the cornerstone of innovative building solutions, delivering both residential and commercial projects with a commitment to excellence and customer satisfaction.

Our philosophy

At Harper Builders, we believe in a hands-on approach to every project. Our founders, deeply rooted in Nelson’s building community, ensure each client’s vision is brought to life with the utmost care and professionalism. We not only build structures; we forge lasting relationships with our clients through trust and transparency.

Unparalleled

expertise

With a team boasting over 50 years of combined experience, Harper Builders is at the forefront of the construction industry. Our skilled craftsmen are dedicated to precision and well-versed in the latest building techniques and sustainability practices. This expertise allows us to tackle any project, big or small, with confidence and finesse.

Tailored building solutions

Understanding that each client has unique needs, we specialise in custom solutions. Whether it is crafting your dream home, renovating your current space, or developing functional commercial properties, our projects are designed to reflect your personal style and requirements. Our services include:

• Residential Building: Construct your ideal home with designs that blend innovation and comfort

• Commercial Construction: Build commercial spaces that stand out for their functionality and design

• Renovations: Transform your existing spaces into modern, efficient areas that meet your evolving needs

• Speciality Constructions: Enhance your property with custom decks, unique staircases, and robust retaining walls

• Units: Add extra space for your extended family with a granny flat.

Quality you can trust

As proud members of the New Zealand Certified Builders Association, we adhere to the highest standards of construction. Our commitment to quality ensures that every project not only meets but exceeds expectations. Each build comes with thorough coverage, including a 10-year Homefirst Builders Guarantee, providing you with peace of mind.

Whether it is crafting your dream home, renovating your current space, or developing functional commercial properties, our projects are designed to reflect your personal style and requirements.

Sustainability at the core

We are committed to reducing our environmental footprint through sustainable building practices. From utilising ecofriendly materials to implementing energy-efficient systems, our projects are designed with the future in mind, ensuring they are as sustainable as they are beautiful.

Client-centric approach

Your satisfaction is our priority. We strive to make the building process as smooth and transparent as possible. From initial consultation to project completion, our team ensures you are wellinformed and involved every step of the way. Our detailed project management and personalised service mean that you are not just a client but a partner in the building journey.

Let’s build together

Choose Harper Builders Ltd. for a building experience as rewarding as the final outcome. Contact us today to discuss how we can turn your building dreams into a reality.

Rolling the dice

The damage done by online gambling

Gambling harm poses a significant health concern in New Zealand, adversely affecting individuals, families (whānau), and communities.

It encompasses social, economic, and health dimensions, impacting approximately one in five New Zealanders either directly or indirectly through someone else's gambling.

Certain demographics, including Māori, Pacific Islanders, Asians, young people, and those with lower incomes, are disproportionately affected by gambling-related harm. The widespread availability of online gambling platforms due to New Zealand's high internet penetration has exacerbated this issue.

In response to increased online gambling during the COVID-19 lockdowns, Kiwibank pioneered a credit and debit card gambling block in 2020. This initiative prevented problem gamblers from collectively spending an estimated $25 million, highlighting its effectiveness in curtailing gambling-related expenditures.

However, regulatory gaps persist, as while it's illegal for overseas-based companies to offer online gambling services to New Zealanders, local laws do not prevent Kiwis from gambling on offshore websites. This regulatory void has contributed to the proliferation of online gambling activities.

Furthermore, aggressive marketing by online gambling operators has fueled the growth of this sector. To address these challenges, Westpac NZ introduced account blocks to support customers struggling with online gambling issues. During a recent period, Westpac customers spent significantly more on online gambling than at physical gambling locations, underscoring the scale of the issue.

Te Whatu Ora reports that around 186,000 New Zealanders are affected by gambling harm, with 61,000 experiencing moderate to serious harm. Westpac's initiative allows customers to request a gambling block that applies to all their cards, preventing transactions with online gambling businesses.

While these measures are helpful, they do not completely solve New Zealand's gambling problem. Louisa Brock, Westpac NZ's manager of Financial Inclusion and Vulnerability, acknowledges the block's positive impact but emphasises the ongoing need for support and interventions to address gambling-related issues comprehensively.

In conclusion, while banking blocks represent a step forward, addressing the broader challenges of online and physical gambling in New Zealand requires continued regulatory scrutiny, community support, and individual awareness.

LOCALS GARY AND CHRISSY OPERATE MOTUEKA TAXIS LTD TRADING AS DESTINATION TASMAN.

We operate a local, 7 day, metered or set fare Taxis service which includes local Tasman transport, Airport Transfers to any location within the Nelson-Tasman area.

Group, luggage, cycle and Event Transport using our comfy 12 seater Toyota Van and our Smart Toyota Hybrid wagon for your comfort.

As well as offering transport or luggage transfers around”The Great Taste Trail” we have the ability to transport up to 11 bikes, passengers and luggage to and from The Heaphy track, Kohaihai, The Ghost Trail and Seddonville.

We also offer Local Wine Tours, a Golden Bay Tour taking in the amazing sites the Bay has to offer, or phone us with an idea of what you would like to see and do, we charge by the hour and can customize a trip for you, your group of up to 11 or just a cosy two-some.

We recommend bookings for evening, group and event transport.

No Scheduled runs, no set timetable, you choose the date, time, location and destination.

info@destinationtasman.co.nz

Door & Window experts

Exceed, located in the Nelson and Marlborough region, are here to fix any damaged windows and doors you may have. They are also specialists in insect screen installations.

The professional experienced team at Nelson Exceed are fully qualified in tackling any window or doors repairs you may have in Nelson, Golden Bay, Marlborough, and surrounding areas. Exceed customers can be assured of consistent applications of work to all window and door repair and security problems.

Services that Exceed can provide are:

● Broken or old window latches, handles, deadlocks, security stays, window catches that need to be replaced

● Wet, damp & leaking window & door repairs

● Damaged or broken hinged doors, sliding doors and bi-fold doors

● Stiff, jamming sliding doors and rollers that are heavy and don’t like to slide

● Bi-folding doors that don’t slide

● Leaking conservatory leak repair, roof panels, doors and louvres

● Draughty homes where heat escapes from gaps around doors and windows

● Old locks on windows or doors that stick and jam

● Retractable insect & fly screens installation.

“Professional, understanding my needs and the work done at a time that suited me, with perfect results.” - Tina.

Contact the Exceed Nelson team today on 0800 25 25 00 to request a quote or book online by visiting Exceed.co.nz!

SERVICES WE CAN PROVIDE:

Window repairs & accessories

Aluminium joinery repairs

Repairs to hinged doors, sliding doors & bi-fold doors

Replacement of window handles, deadlocks, security stays & window catches

Sliding windows & doors

Leaking window & door repairs

Conservatory leak repair, roof panels, doors & louvres

Retractable insect & fly screens installation

In a mobile van fully equipped with all the parts and tools we need to complete most jobs. That means you get fast & efficient service at a fair rate, every-time.

deicious Simply

Cheesy corn fritters

These corn fritters are crispy on the edges and soft in the middle.

Great to serve at brunch, with a salad, or as an appetiser for dinners.

Ingredients

• 2 Cups Corn

• ¼ Cup Cornmeal

• ¼ Cup All-purpose flour

• 1 Teaspoon Smoked paprika

• 1 Large egg

• ½ Cup Grated cheese of your choice

• 1 Green onion

• 1 Handful cilantro

• 1 Tablespoon Lime juice

• Salt and pepper to taste

• 1 Tablespoon oil for frying

• Sour cream to serve

Method

1. Mix the corn, cornmeal, flour, paprika, egg, cheese, green onion, cilantro, and lime juice in a large bowl. Add some water if the mixture is too dry.

2. Heat oil in a pan. Spoon the corn mixture into the pan to form patties and cook until golden brown on both sides, about 4 minutes per side.

Serving suggestion:

Serve with a dollop of sour cream.

Enjoy!

Easy one bowl fudgy brownies

These fudgy chocolate brownies are gooey on the inside, and are made with just six ingredients!

The only brownie recipe you will ever need.

Ingredients

• ½ Cup Melted butter

• ½ Cup Unsweetened cocoa powder

• 1 Cup Sugar

• 2 Large eggs

Method

• 1 Teaspoon Vanilla

• ½ Cup Flour

• ¼ Teaspoon Salt (leave out if using salted butter)

1. Preheat oven to 170 degrees Celsius. Grease an 8x8 square pan or line with baking paper and set aside.

2. In a medium bowl, combine melted butter, cocoa and sugar. Stir until fully dissolved.

3. Add eggs one at a time, then vanilla, and stir until well combined.

4. Stir in flour and salt until the flour is fully combined. Be careful not to overmix.

5. Spread in pan and bake for approximately 20-22 minutes or until the centre is slightly set. Be careful not to over-bake!

Serving suggestion:

Cool completely then cut into 9 large squares or 16 small squares.

Enjoy!

Greek olive pasta salad

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This easy greek olive pasta salad with creamy honey dijon dressing is almost no-cook.

Comes together quickly, and with very little effort.

Ingredients - greek dressing

• 4 Tablespoons Extra virgin olive oil

• 3 Tablespoons Lemon juice

• 3 Tablespoons Red wine vinegar

• 2 Tablespoons Mayo

• 2 Teaspoons Dijon mustard

• 2 Teaspoons Honey

• Salt and pepper to taste

Ingredients - salad

• 2 Shallots, thinly sliced

• 30 g mixed fresh herbs

• 2 Tablespoons Pine nuts

• Chilli flakes to taste

• 4 Tablespoons Extra virgin olive oil

• 450g Short cut pasta

• 100g Olives, pitted

• 2 Bell peppers, chopped

• 1 Cucumber, chopped

• 150g Cherry tomatoes, halved

• 165g Canned chickpeas, drained

• 30g Sliced pepperoni

• 200g Feta cheese

Method

1. To make the dressing. Combine all ingredients in a glass jar and whisk until smooth. Taste and adjust the salt and pepper.

2. To make the salad. Combine the shallots, pine nuts, herbs, and chilli flakes in a large bowl. Heat the olive oil in a small skillet over medium heat until it begins to sizzle. Pour the hot oil over the shallots.

3. Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Boil the pasta to al dente, according to package directions. Drain. Add the pasta to the bowl with the oil. Add the olives, peppers, tomatoes, chickpeas, and pepperoncini. Pour over the dressing and toss well. Add the feta.

Serving suggestion:

Serve the salad warm or cold.

Enjoy!

Easy minestrone soup

Serves 4

Minestrone is a hearty Italian vegetable soup made with tomato-y broth and pasta or rice.

There is no set recipe for minestrone, which can usually be made with whatever vegetables you have on hand.and is a great winter warmer, perfect for the cooler months.

Ingredients

• ¾ cup (135g) pasta spirals or shells

• 1 large onion, peeled and chopped

• 6 cups chicken stock

• 1 x 500ml jar tomato pasta sauce

• ½ tsp dried oregano

• 1 tbsp sugar

• 1 cup pumpkin, peeled and chopped

• 1 large potato, peeled and chopped

• 1 large carrot, scrubbed and chopped

• 1 cup frozen peas, thawed

• 1 x 425g 4 bean mix, or red kidney beans (drained)

• 2 tbsp fresh parsley, chopped.

Method

1. Combine pasta, onion, chicken stock, pasta sauce, oregano, sugar, pumpkin, potato and carrot in a saucepan.

2. Boil uncovered for 15 minutes.

3. Add peas and 4 bean mix and cook uncovered for 10 minutes. Add parsley, stir until hot.

Serving suggestion:

Serve sprinkled with parmesan or grated tasty cheese and bread.

Enjoy!

The power of saying no

Protecting your peace with healthy boundaries

We all know the feeling. That sinking feeling in your gut when someone asks you for something, and a little voice whispers, "This is too much." But instead of a polite decline, a mumbled "sure" escapes your lips. You've just become another victim of the "people-pleasing plague."

The truth is, saying no isn't selfish; it's a superpower for your mental health. It's about setting healthy boundaries, invisible lines that protect your well-being. Imagine your boundaries like a personal force field – they keep the good stuff in (your energy, time, and sanity) and deflect the things that drain you.

The first step is self-awareness. What are your limits? What activities leave you energised, and what zap your energy? Maybe it's working late, attending social events on weekdays, or being bombarded with constant texts. Identifying your needs is like identifying the vulnerabilities in your force field – the areas that need the most protection.

There's a misconception that saying no needs to be dramatic. It doesn't. Develop a handful of polite but firm responses. A simple "I appreciate you asking, but I can't take that on right now" works wonders. You don't need elaborate explanations; a clear and concise statement is all it takes. Ah, guilt. That sneaky emotion that tries to turn your "no" into a yes. Remember, your boundaries are non-negotiable. You are not responsible for managing other people's feelings. If someone gets upset by your polite decline, that's on them. Don't let guilt chip away at you.

Sometimes, an immediate "no" isn't the answer. Maybe you're open to the request, but not at that specific moment. Try a "Maybe later" or "I'd love to help, but I'm swamped right now. Can we revisit this in [timeframe]?" This shows flexibility without making a commitment you can't keep.

Think of boundaries as a two-way street. While saying no is important, sometimes suggesting an alternative can be helpful. Maybe a friend wants to vent, but you're not up for it. Suggest a different activity, like grabbing coffee or watching a movie – it shows you care without compromising your peace.

Healthy boundaries are good for your relationships, not the other way around. When you prioritise your well-being, you become a more present, patient, and supportive friend, family member, or partner. Think of it as filling your own cup before pouring for others. A full cup overflows with positivity, benefiting everyone around you.

Boundaries are like muscles; they need regular exercise to become strong. Don't be surprised if people initially push back when you start establishing boundaries. Stick to your guns, and with time, they'll adjust. Consistency is key!

There might be times when boundaries require a more drastic step. Sometimes, a relationship simply doesn't respect your well-being. In these cases, a healthy "breakup" might be necessary. It's okay to distance yourself from people who consistently drain your energy.

Boundaries aren't just about external requests; they're about setting healthy limits with yourself, too. Learn to say no to negative self-talk, social media overwhelm, or unhealthy habits. Setting boundaries and saying no can feel daunting at first. But remember, it's not about being cold or argumentative; it's about self-care and respect. By prioritising your well-being, you create a space where you can thrive, recharge, and become the best possible version of yourself. And that, my friend, is a superpower worth having.

Top tips for staying

8 entrepreneurial

The entrepreneurial spirit. It’s that fire that drives innovation and keeps you hustling. It’s what keeps you up at night. It’s the cutting edge. It’s the confused yet excited stare that says, “Are you for real?” It’s always looking for a way to do things differently, in your way, better.

1. Maintaining this spirit can be complicated. Being the oldest person in the room, it can be easy to feel intimidated and separate from young people in the workforce. Sure, there can be challenges. Ageism exists, but it doesn't have to define you. If everyone realised how universal imposter syndrome is, maybe it wouldn’t exist. You are more than good enough. You don’t just belong in the room; the room more than wants you there.

2. Entrepreneurs share many traits, one of which is passion. Provided you remain passionate and eager to tackle challenges, learn from setbacks, and find solutions with limited resources, you will still have that entrepreneurial spirit. A growth mindset is key. It’s entrepreneurship 101 to actively seek feedback and analyse what went wrong to improve your approach in the future. It’s a healthy headspace beyond a business context, too: change is inevitable and a chance to learn and grow.

3. Rome wasn’t built in a decade. Thomas Edison didn’t see his 10,000 light bulb failures as failures but as steps towards success.

Successful entrepreneurial ventures take time and effort. This is where senior leaders have an edge. They can capitalise on their experiences and envision meaningful pathways forward based on past chapters of their life. Take that online course, attend that workshop, mentor that young person: do whatever you need to stay sharp. You’re also more likely to know your generation’s needs, tricks of the trade, and worthwhile connections.

4. No entrepreneur is an island. A network of mentors, advisors, and fellow changemakers translates to invaluable support and guidance during tough times. Sharing experiences

and challenges with others who understand the entrepreneurial journey can boost morale and resilience, keeping you focused on achieving your goals. Leverage your past to create the future you desire.

5. Adaptability is a ten-dollar word, but it could make you millions. Entrepreneurship inherently involves risk. If you have a clear vision and are determined to get there – wherever your where might be – you’re on the right track. Whether it’s a flexible business model like consulting or part-time freelancing, embracing technology, or finding a partner who complements your skillset, being willing and able to adapt lies at the heart of the entrepreneurial spirit.

6. The business world is constantly adapting, and so should you. Can you tweak your product offering, target a different market segment, or implement a new marketing approach? Research successful businesses in your industry and adapt best practices. Companies like Instagram and Netflix started with completely different purposes before evolving into what we know today. Sometimes, the initial idea needs a significant change to find success.

7. Passion, experience, and adaptability are important, but perhaps above them all is your motivation; identifying your ‘why’. Reconnect with what drives you, whether it’s financial security, a creative outlet, leaving a legacy, or something else entirely. Having a clear purpose will hone your passion and energise you. Following this, surround yourself with positive and encouraging people who believe in your ideas, and take the time to acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small.

8. Being a business and thought leader is a journey, no matter when you start. There’s no better time than now to use your wisdom and experience to turn your ideas into reality. Reach out to business mentorship communities and embrace the journey! Everyone has an inner entrepreneur.

Do you dare to unlock yours?

Aluminium window and door specialists

The team at Window Works are committed to providing our clients with innovative and highquality solutions and products.

Whether it is a dream home, renovation, or commercial project our team can create a solution for all building projects.

We offer an extensive range of window and door designs fabricated by our experienced team using high quality products. In conjunction with our suppliers, we provide a wide range of highquality entry door options.

Window Works is locally owned and operated and has over 35 years’ experience in fabricating and supplying aluminium joinery across the Nelson Region.

Doors can add a sense of privacy or divide a space into distinct zones. They can bring in extra light when it’s needed, an keep out the cold when it’s not.

Windows function in different ways - some slide, some tilt, some fold back on themselves. By understanding the different types available and how they work, you can better match windows to your needs, and your lifestyle.

From classic to contemporary, the style you choose creates a visual impact on your home.

Window Works offers a number of different frame options and aesthetics. The right one for your home will depend on: Your home’s location and wind zone, the height of your doors and large windows, the aesthetics you prefer and your budget.

Choosing the right glass for your windows and doors is as important as choosing the frames. The right glass can maximise light, reduce heat loss, provide sound protection and minimise fading of your furnishings.

Secure your belongings with confidence

Do you need extra room for your belongings in either Richmond or Motueka?

Tasman Storage Ltd has you covered!

Life can get cluttered, from home renovations to seasonal items or even storing vehicles. That’s why we offer various storage unit sizes tailored to your needs.

At Tasman Storage, we prioritise your convenience. Our secure facilities are accessible every day, so you can drop by anytime. Weatherproof units ensure your valuables stay protected from the elements, giving you one less thing to worry about.

We take security seriously, with advanced surveillance and

well-maintained, fully enclosed facilities. Competitive pricing and flexible rental options make storing with us a smart choice, no matter how long you need the space.

Ready to clear out some clutter? Get in touch with Tasman Storage Ltd for a free quote and see how we can help you manage your space more effectively. For more information, visit our website at www.tasmanstorage.nz

Window Works

We provide quality joinery and advice to homeowners and builders, working with our clients to deliver practical solutions to the building process.

We offer the full service starting with the design, colour selection, glass type and hardware, right through to the fabrication and installation.

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Beyond the blush

The science of embarrassment

Psychological Roots: Embarrassment primarily arises from a perceived breach of social norms or expectations. Psychologists believe that this emotion serves an important evolutionary function: maintaining social order and cohesion. When we feel embarrassed, it is a signal that we have potentially jeopardised our social standing or relationships. This feeling prompts us to act in ways that restore our social image, such as apologising, overcompromising or correcting our behaviours.

Biological Mechanisms: Biologically, embarrassment is linked to the activation of the autonomic nervous system, particularly the sympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for the “fight-orflight” response. This can lead to physical indications such as blushing, sweating, or an increased heart rate. These responses are thought to be ways of non-verbally communicating regret and appeasement to others and, in a way, helping to mend social bonds.

Strategies to overcome embarrassment:

Reframe the Experience: One effective way to manage embarrassment is to reframe the situation. Instead of viewing an embarrassing moment as a catastrophic social error, consider it a minor hiccup. Most people are more forgiving and less judgmental than we might assume. Also, they are more likely to forget about the incident a lot sooner than we do.

Practice Mindfulness and Self-compassion: Mindfulness helps by anchoring you in the present moment and reducing the tendency to overthink embarrassing incidents. Practising self-compassion is equally

important. Remind yourself that everyone experiences embarrassment and that it’s a part of being human. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend in a similar situation.

Exposure Therapy: Gradual exposure to potentially embarrassing situations can also be helpful. Start with low-risk scenarios and progressively work your way up to more challenging ones. This practice can desensitise you to the feelings of embarrassment, reducing their intensity over time.

Develop a Sense of Humor: Learning to laugh at yourself is a valuable skill. A sense of humour can lessen tension and make you seem charming to others. It shows that you are human and can handle life’s awkward moments with grace.

Prepare and Practice: For situations where you feel particularly vulnerable to embarrassment, such as public speaking or attending a social event, preparation and can boost your confidence. Knowing your material well or having conversation starters ready can practice prevent many embarrassing moments.

Understanding the science behind embarrassment can empower you to handle this uncomfortable emotion more effectively. By using strategies like reframing the situation, practising mindfulness, and gradually exposing yourself to embarrassing situations, you can reduce the impact of embarrassment on your life. Remember, embarrassment is a universal experience, and learning to navigate it is a part of personal and social development.

I don’t want a fuss

Shortly after I began in this role I spoke to my parents about their wishes for a funeral.

“I don’t want a fuss,” said my mum. “And it’s so expensive,” dad added.

It’s a common refrain and as a newcomer to the industry was one I was initially challenged to respond to. But over the last few months I’ve come to understand why some kind of farewell is essential to those of us left behind.

Some of the early healing can help when you’re preparing for a funeral

Going through old photos and reminiscing and sharing stories can be a powerful way to remember the significance of the life of your loved one. There will be laughter as well as tears and it can be an important bonding time for your family.

An ‘event’ helps a family move through the grief process

The funeral ‘event’ can help you begin to acknowledge the reality that someone in your life has died. Grief is a biological reaction, and it can be externalised though the event –something that will help with your immediate and future mental wellbeing.

Funerals help us recall and remember – and even learn about a loved one

How many times have you sat through a funeral eulogy and realised you didn’t know a certain fact about someone? Sharing unique memories and stories helps provide support to all those who attend.

They can involve people near and far

Many funeral homes now offer livestreaming of services reducing the cost and burden on physically attending.

Traditional, scripted services are no longer the norm

Modern funerals are personalised and can encompass whatever a family needs to help them farewell their loved one in a meaningful way. Venues these days, for instance, range from churches and chapels to sports clubs, theatres, or the local club. And families are encouraged to add their own touches and tributes – both to save money but to also make it meaningful for them.

Your needs are just as important as those of the person who died

Finally, people often think they must ‘respect a person’s wishes’. But what about your own? You’re the one left behind so it’s important for you and your own wellbeing that you get that chance to say goodbye, and to have support around you.

If you genuinely fear disrespecting their wishes, have ‘that’ conversation. It doesn’t have to be morbid or difficult – after all you’ll be talking to the person you love most, and they’ll understand you will need help to carry on without them.

Luckily, my parents were already planning to use a Funeral Directors Association member so I don’t have to have that conversation. But with my new found knowledge I’ve also been able to talk to them about what I need from the funeral itself. And at least a little bit of fuss is what’s right for me.

Tasman Monuments and Headstones is a privately owned company that continues to be at the forefront of providing customized monuments, granite signage, glass work and memorials for Nelson families since the mid 1800’s.

We achieve this by combining old world craftsmanship with modern technology.

Sowmans funerals

Geoffrey T Sowman Funeral Directors services cover the Blenheim and Marlborough area, from Kaikoura to Rai Valley and surrounds. They have a team of warm and caring professionals who consider what they do to be a calling, not a job.

Organising a funeral can be daunting, with many decisions to make. You may be feeling a kaleidoscope of emotions, or nothing at all. Everyone reacts differently to news of a death, and Sowmans understand.

Sowmans will organise the personalised funeral service you want, when you want it, within your budget. Marlborough-wide. Dealing with death can be overwhelming; the team are here to support you and care for the person being farewelled. By focusing on the small, personal important details, they believe there’s room for joyful memories in sorrowful times. Let their team of local professionals help you create a memorable funeral to say a special goodbye.

Their facilities include an air-conditioned chapel, reception lounge, private family room for before or after the service, and refreshments

venue. There is plenty of parking, with reserved family spaces next to the chapel. They were at the forefront of having a cremation facility in Marlborough, with their monumental showroom and workshop onsite. If you want to be 100 percent sure about your funeral venue, the team is happy to show you their facilities.

If you cannot attend a funeral you can send a tribute online through their website. Another valued service is they can organise repatriation, arranging transportation of your loved one back to New Zealand or overseas, to their final resting place. Sowmans can also help organise documentation for compassionate airfare applications for immediate family needing to travel to a funeral. Other services include assisting with funeral grant applications, keepsake jewellery, caskets and urns, and aftercare.

The team at Sowmans are able to help you with funeral pre-planning, ensuring your final wishes are carried out and lessening any potential family worries about the arrangements and costs, providing peace of mind knowing your affairs are in order.

Sowmans know a loved one may pass at any time and are here to care for them and support you 24/7 every day of the year. They offer free funeral planning kits, are always happy to answer any questions you may have about funerals and their services.

If you are needing funeral guidance, contact Geoffrey T Sowman Funeral Directors, on 03 578 4719 or their website www.sowmans.co.nz.

Unique funerals, arranged with love

Caring for Marlborough families since 1869

Situated on the corner of Hutcheson and Parker Streets, Sowmans is a peaceful green space on the edge of the Blenheim CBD, with their cremation facility and extensive monumental showroom on site.

A team of warm and caring professionals who consider what they do is a calling, not a job. As people living and working in Blenheim, they are continually supporting their community.

Don’t carry it all yourself

Let us help. Phone Sowmans today to discuss the best way to farewell your loved one.

Unique funerals, arranged with love

Caring for Marlborough families since 1869

Situated on the corner of Hutcheson and Parker Streets, Sowmans is a peaceful, green space on the edge of the Blenheim CBD. We also have our own cremation facility on site along with an extensive monumental showroom.

We are a team of warm, caring professionals who consider what we do to be a calling, not a job. And as people living and working in Blenheim, we look for ways to support our community.

Let us help. Phone Sowmans today to discuss the best way to farewell your loved one. Don’t carry it all yourself

A taste of the Upper Moutere Valley

Explore local delights at Moutere Hills Restaurant

Nestled amidst the beauty of the Moutere Valley, Moutere Hills Restaurant offers an unmatched dining experience that caters to all senses.

As you step into the charming restaurant, the rustic elegance and warmth of the decor invite you to relax and indulge, overlooking the vineyard with beautiful views of the Kahurangi mountain range in the background. Jeremy and Imogen took over in late 2023 and have continued to grow the restaurant with creative new dishes and drinks, also adding exciting events such as wine makers dinners and our winter festival.

Our menu, crafted from the freshest local ingredients, promises a journey through the region’s seasonal flavours. Each dish is artfully prepared, balancing traditional techniques with modern culinary creativity. From tasty meats grilled to perfection to vibrant salads bursting with colour, our chef’s creations leave nothing to be desired.

We use local produce throughout the entire menu including fish, milk, cheese, eggs, lamb, black garlic, microgreens, fruit and vegetables

to name a few. Our soft drinks, beers and ciders are also locally made and our coffee is roasted less than 15kms away. Local produce and ingredients are very important especially when we have an abundance. These are showcased on our ‘Long Board’ which is five daily changing tapas dishes of local goodies designed as an entree to share or as a main to devour.

At the heart of our offering is our remarkable wine selection. Grown in the soils of our vineyard, our wines capture the unique characteristics of the region. Whether you prefer a robust red or a crisp white, each bottle complements our meals and lifts your dining experience to new heights.

We also cater to private events and special celebrations, providing a picturesque setting that turns every gathering into a memorable event. Our staff are dedicated to impeccable service, ensuring that every detail is taken care of so you can fully enjoy your time with us.

Join us at Moutere Hills Restaurant, where every dish tells a story of passion, and every sip brings you closer to nature. Experience dining at its finest, where ambience, food, and wine create perfect harmony. Make your reservation today and enjoy a memorable experience at the Moutere Hills Restaurant and cellar door.

543 2288

mhrestaurant@outlook.co.nz

Pakawau Beach Camp sits on the sea front enabling you to enjoy the sounds of waves meeting the shore, to amazing sunrise and sunsets over the ocean.

Come and pitch your tent, park your camper van or stay in one of our beach front cabins.

Less than a 20-minute drive from Pakawau you will discover an abundance of stunning scenery including, Cape Farewell, Farewell Spit, Puponga Farm and Wharariki Beach.

After a fun day out, enjoy casual dining at the Old School Café Restaurant, right across the road.

Pakawau Beach Camp 03 524 8308 accompakawaubeachpark@gmail.com

Super savings with SuperGold

SuperGold helps you stretch your money further, offering instant discounts, special offers on everyday essentials and more. Explore the many ways you could save locally and nationwide.

What is the SuperGold Card?

SuperGold - or the ‘gold card’ as some people know it - gives you golden opportunities to stretch your money further. There are thousands of instant discounts and special offers. You will find all sorts of ways to make instant savings every day near you across New Zealand and in Australia. The card gives you:

• Instant savings on everyday essentials like electricity, insurance, food and healthcare

• Discounts on entertainment, travel and in retail stores

• High value special offers

• Free off-peak public transport.

Getting the SuperGold Card

Getting

an automatic SuperGold Card

Once your New Zealand Superannuation or Veteran’s Pension has been granted, the Ministry of Social Development (MSD) will automatically send your SuperGold Card in the mail.

This usually only takes a few weeks, but you may have to wait a month or two if you apply for New Zealand Superannuation prior to your 65th birthday.

SuperGold is one way the New Zealand government and business communities can say ‘thank you’ or ‘tēnā rawa atu koe’ to older New Zealanders for the work they have done raising families, supporting communities and contributing to Aotearoa.

Applying for a SuperGold Card

If you do not receive or are not eligible to receive New Zealand Superannuation, you can still apply for a SuperGold Card. You must be 65+ years old and be a New Zealand resident. Simply fill in the SuperGold Card application and return it to us.

Call: 0800 25 45 65 (Monday – Friday, 8am-5pm)

Email: information@supergold.govt.nz

SuperGold Centre PO Box 5054

Wellington 6145 www.supergold.govt.nz

Veteran SuperGold

Veteran SuperGold is a specially branded SuperGold Card to recognise service to our country in the Armed Forces.

Once your Veteran’s Pension has been granted, the Ministry of Social Development (MSD) will automatically send your SuperGold Card in the mail. This usually only takes a few weeks, but you may have to wait a month or two if you apply for New Zealand Superannuation prior to your 65th birthday.

Get the SuperGold app

The fast and easy way to find discounts and offers when you’re out and about is to use the SuperGold app. If you have a smartphone or tablet, download the SuperGold app from the Apple Store or Google Play.

Office for Seniors

The Office for Seniors is working to improve the lives of older people across New Zealand. Their website and regular email newsletter provide helpful information, news, and stories for older people.

Visit: www.officeforseniors.govt.nz

Call: 0800 25 45 65 (Mon-Fri, 8am-5pm)

Email: information@supergold.govt.nz

Frequently asked questions about SuperGold

Can I use my SuperGold Card to travel free on public transport?

Yes. Most areas off-peak is usually 9am to 3pm and from 6.30pm to the end of service on weekdays, and any time on weekends and public holidays. In most areas you will also need a smart card from the Regional Council to access free off-peak travel.

How do I order a replacement card?

If your SuperGold Card is lost, stolen, damaged or if you change your name, call or email us to order a replacement card. You will need to let us know your full name, date of birth, current residential and postal address and SuperGold Card client number if you have one (found on the back of your SuperGold Card). You should receive a replacement card within three weeks – free of charge.

When will I receive my SuperGold Card?

You will be automatically issued a SuperGold Card when you’re granted New Zealand Superannuation or a Veteran’s Pension or a main benefit at age 65 or over.

Your New Zealand Superannuation will need to be approved at least three weeks before turning age 65 if you wish to receive your SuperGold Card by your 65th birthday.

Is SuperGold connected to my New Zealand Superannuation?

Once your New Zealand Superannuation or Veteran’s Pension has been granted, the Ministry of Social Development (MSD) will automatically send your SuperGold Card in the mail.

If you do not receive or are not eligible to receive New Zealand Superannuation, you can still apply for a SuperGold Card.

What if I am already receiving a main benefit?

If you are turning 65 and receiving a main benefit from the Ministry of Social Development, your SuperGold Card will arrive at least three weeks after you are granted New Zealand Superannuation on your 65th birthday.

If you are not applying for New Zealand Superannuation then you will need to call or email us to advise you have turned 65 so the MSD can send you a new SuperGold Card.

How does the Community Services Card work with SuperGold?

If you have a current Community Services Card at the time you are granted New Zealand Superannuation, and you may continue to qualify for a Community Services Card, you will need to complete a Community Services Card application form to get a new SuperGold/Community Services Combo Card. It will have the initials CSC on the back and an expiry date.

Your new combo card’ replaces your Community Services Card. You can use this card for both health subsidies and SuperGold discounts.

Does my SuperGold Card have an expiry date?

Since May 2010, the only SuperGold cards with an expiry date are those which double as both a Community Services Card and SuperGold Card. These ‘combo cards’ have an expiry date because entitlement to a Community Services Card can change over time.

If the back of your card includes an expiry date (EXP) and this date has expired, call 0800 25 45 65 or email information@ supergold.govt.nz to arrange a replacement card.

Can I still get SuperGold if I am not a resident?

If you are not normally a resident in New Zealand and do not intend to stay here, you will not qualify to receive a SuperGold Card.

CLUB WAIMEA PRIDES ITSELF

ON ITS FRIENDLY, SOCIABLE AND COMMUNITY MINDED SPIRIT

CLUB WAIMEA is a friendly place for members to meet up with friends and family & guests. Affiliated Clubs NZ Members are also welcome to use our facilities.

With over 14 sporting sections, various entertainment each week, weddings, workplace training etc.

Gaming Room

18 Machines

Functions Hall with full Bar facilities

Heaps of Parking

Restaurant, Buffet and À la carte

Squash Courts

House Bar with Regular Entertainment

Caravan Park (with ablution block – full facilities)

All Year Round Outdoor Bowling Green

Rooms for Functions, Great Catering

Various Sporting Sections (Pool, Darts, Fishing etc.)

TAB and ATM

Timely, Patient-Centred Healthcare

The facility & our specialists can provide a wide range of medical and surgical services including:

• Endoscopy – Colonoscopy & Gastroscopy

• General Surgery

• Gynaecology

• Skin Surgery

• Ear Nose and Throat Surgery

• Infusion Service

• Orthopaedics

341 Lower Queen Street, Richmond, Tasman

Partnered with local firm Opritech, we have developed a leading surgical theatre system, allowing a wide range of procedures to be undertaken in the day stay hospital setting.

The entire team of medical and administrative staff work together to make your experience as comfortable and stress-free as possible.

Why have an advance care plan?

An advance care plan lets you make choices about any treatment or care you want in the future and for the end of your life.

Advance care planning can give you the chance to say what treatment you would or would not want particularly for end-of-life care.

Writing down your thoughts and wishes gives you a voice if you are no longer able to speak. This Advanced Care Plan can assist families and health care providers to know what you want.

You have some control of your health care, often reducing stress and anxiety for you and your whanau.

Your whanau, although grieving, may get some comfort, knowing that they were able to carry out your wishes.

Ask about an advance care plan at your general practice. A doctor, nurse or other health professional can help you with this.

Marlborough Primary Health connects communities for wellbeing. We work alongside community organisations and health professionals to deliver quality primary health services to over 48,500 people. Services are located in Blenheim, Picton, Renwick, Seddon and Havelock.

info@marlboroughpho.org.nz www.marlboroughpho.org.nz

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