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Editor’s Letter

who (and what) do you love?

Naturally February is all about showin’ the “love.” In fact, you get an entire day (Valentine’s Day) to give it all you’ve got!

Hopefully you have someone to love and others who love you back. Life’s better that way.

Love is a good thing. Whoever or whatever is the object of your affection adds something to your life.

People are the most worthy recipients of your love. And if you’re blessed with a spouse or friends and family you’re wealthy indeed. Most of love’s real estate is owned - rightly so - by human beings.

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contributing writers Louann Buhlinger, Brian Frere, Lisa Cooke Harrison, Diana Lambdin Meyer, Stacey Schifferdecker, Amanda Simcoe, Tracy Sullivan, Melissa Ebert

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Perhaps you’re of the opinion that saying you “love” something (other than a living, breathing person) cheapens the whole idea of love. And maybe that’s an over analysis.

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What matters is that you know the meaning of it. To love is to live.

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This month’s issue covers both perspectives.

chief financial officer | DeLand Shore

Perhaps you’re among those who’ve found the love-of-your-life. Now you’re planning your BIG day to celebrate it in front of family and friends (See page 24).

national editor | Lisa Cooke Harrison director of marketing | Brad Broockerd national art director | Carrie Julian

You might also be one who uses the word to describe your passion for technology. No one would fault you for that. In fact, you’re probably in good company (See page 22).

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However you express it--your love, that is--be sure you do.

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Good Times

Tulsa Lawyers for Children – Tinsel & Tuxes The second annual Tulsa Lawyers for Children Tinsel & Tuxes event took place December 13 at the Hyatt Regency Tulsa. The non-profit organization represents children in juvenile court matters where the family is in distress and under the court’s supervision.

Sponsors and long time supporters of Tulsa Lawyers for Children, Lance and Cindy Ruffel.

Tinsel & Tuxes Emcee, KC Lupp from Great Day Green Country, and his wife, Jennifer.

Chad McLain, TLC board member and his wife, Alicia McLain.

Silent Auction at Tinsel & Tuxes.

From left to right: Paul Naylor, Tulsa Lawyers for Children President of the Board, Sallie Naylor, Janna Watkins and Max Watkins.

Tinsel & Tuxes at the Hyatt Regency Tulsa.

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5th Annual Holiday Pearl Sale The Young Professionals Committee of the Tulsa Juliette Low Leadership Society hosted their annual Holiday Pearl Sale at Fleming’s in Utica Square. Sale of pearls provided by Fox Lane benefit Girl Scouts of Eastern Oklahoma.

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Around Town 86,000-square-foot hotel will open 120 rooms in 2016. According to Mike Neal, president and CEO of the Tulsa Regional Chamber, the hotel will add more than 50 new jobs in Tulsa’s downtown “renaissance.”

VISITTULSA JOINS AN ELITE GROUP The Destination Marketing Accreditation Program (DMAI) recently approved VisitTulsa for accreditation. The Tulsa Convention and Visitor’s Bureau (also known as VisitTulsa) joins just over 100 bureau’s across the country in the accomplishment.

“The VisitTulsa team is extremely honored to receive such a prestigious accreditation on the national level,” says Ray Hoyt, VisitTulsa and Tulsa Sports Commission senior vice president. “The application involved a lot of man hours from all divisions at the Chamber and I would like to thank everyone who helped make this happen.”

MORE THAN 1,500 JOBS COMING TO THE TULSA REGIONAL ECONOMY PUTTIN’ ON THE DOG LIFE Senior Services’ signature fund raising event is February 20th.

The Cox Business Center (100 Civic Center) in downtown Tulsa will host their annual Puttin’ on the Dog event. A gourmet dinner by Executive Chef Devin Levine, musical entertainment, live and silent auctions, and a wine cocktail hour will be featured. LIFE Senior Services, a Tulsa Area United Way organization, specializes in home and community-based services. Their work promotes healthy aging and aging-in-place for seniors. They also provide support services for family caregivers. Individual tickets for the event are $125. Event sponsorships are available. All proceeds benefit the mission of LIFE Senior Services.

Visit LifeSeniorServices.org for more information or to purchase tickets.

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It’s being called the “largest Tulsa-region jobs announcement in nearly a decade,” according to the Tulsa Regional Chamber. National retailer, Macy’s, has chosen Tulsa as home for its newest order fulfillment center. Completed construction will open the doors to 1,500 full-time and part-time employees. It’s estimated that the economic impact - over a 10 year period - will bring $800 million to the Tulsa region.

“We are extremely excited to welcome0 Macy’s Inc. to our Oklahoma family,” says Governor Mary Fallin. “Tulsa County is a thriving metropolitan community and an excellent choice to locate or expand a business.”

The Cherokee Nation is a major partner in the project through a half million dollars in financial incentives. Cherokee Nation Principal Chief Bill John Baker says, “A Macy’s fulfillment center in the Tulsa area will be an economic boon for the entire region.”

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Parent’s Corner it is electronic harassment like constant texting or embarrassing posts online. If you find that violent behaviors are growing in your relationship, it can be very dangerous. Especially for young people who deal with more peer pressure and are less experienced in relationships than the average adult.

Once you know what to look for, patterns of control are easy to spot. Sometimes it starts as simple teasing or name calling. Some of that might seem quite normal, but it can quickly become more serious, leading to more controlling or even violent behavior.

Warning Signs

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month Y

ou just have to turn on your TV set to know that domestic violence is everywhere. Unfortunately, teens are no exception.

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month—offering the opportunity to learn more on the subject and get advice about how to speak to teens about it. Educating kids about what teen dating violence is, how to spot it and what to do about it, can help to keep them safe and happy, as well as lay the groundwork for well-balanced, healthy relationships in the future. And, as teen dating violence is a growing problem, it’s important.

It may seem shocking to contemplate discussing a subject as dark as domestic violence with such a young audience, but unhealthy relationships often start early in life. And, sadly, they can last a lifetime. The numbers are painfully telling: • One in three adolescents in the U.S. is a victim of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse from a partner they are dating—a figure that far exceeds rates of other types of youth violence.

• One quarter of high school girls have been victims of physical or sexual abuse.

• Approximately 70 percent of college students say they have been sexually coerced.

What is Teen Dating Violence?

Dating violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors used to have control and power over a dating partner. It can be physical (hitting, pinching, shoving, etc.), emotional (threatening, shaming or bullying behavior or isolation of a partner—keeping them away from friends and/or family), sexual (forcing sex), or stalking.

Dating violence doesn’t always happen in person. Increasingly

As relationships vary so greatly, it’s sometimes difficult to know when a behavior crosses the line from healthy to unhealthy or when it becomes abusive. Be on the lookout for these warning signs: • Checking your cell phone or email without permission • Constantly putting you down • Extremely jealous or insecure • Explosive temper • Isolating you from family or friends • Mood swings • Physically hurting you in any way • Possessiveness • Telling you what to do • Repeatedly pressuring you to have sex • Pressuring you to send sexually suggestive texts or emails Why Concentrate on Young People?

• According to the Bureau of Justice, young women ages 16-24 are most vulnerable.

• Violent behavior typically begins between the ages of 12 and 18.

• The severity of domestic violence is often greater in cases where the pattern of abuse was established in adolescence.

• Violent relationships in adolescence can put victims at higher risk for substance abuse, eating disorders, risky sexual behavior and further domestic violence.

• Being physically or sexually abused makes teen girls six times more likely to become pregnant and twice as likely to get a STD. Not happening around you? Not true.

With one in three teens experiencing violence in their dating relationships, the need for awareness is strong. And with only 33 percent of teens in a violent relationship even telling anyone about the abuse, clearly we need to start the conversation. If your child isn’t experiencing it personally, chances are they know someone who is and can be of help given the right information.

Teaching teens what is healthy and what is not can go a long way in giving them the tools they need to create healthy relationships that can last them their lifetimes.

Learn more at LoveIsRespect.org.

Christine Urbanek is the director of communications and creative service director at Hope House.

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Star Students

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Sydney

Sara

The Love of the Dance Three siblings find perspective and discipline in dancing Article Stacey Schifferdecker

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artha Graham once wrote that “Dancers are the messengers of the gods.” If she is right, then the Massey household has been extra blessed, with three dancers in the family. Sara, Griffin, and Sidney Massey all spend from 10-12 hours a week in dance classes and have competed all over the United States. They are deep in the middle of competition season right now, and will attend five or six competitions between now and June, potentially ending with Nationals in the summer.

Sara, a sophomore at Booker T Washington High School, and Griffin, a 7th grader at Carver Middle School, can thank their mom Amy Jo and youngest sibling Sydney for their current interest in dance. Sydney, a fifth grader at Eisenhower International School, began dancing at age two.

“My mom did yoga at the dance studio and had to put me in classes so I didn’t have to go,” explains Sydney. Sydney loved dancing, and soon drew her siblings into the dancing world as well.

Griffin started dancing at age eight, after attending one of Sydney’s dance competitions. “I saw a guy dancing on stage and I wanted to be just like him,” he says.

For Sara, dancing was a return to an old love.

“I started dancing at the age of 2, and then stopped when I reached first grade,” she says. “I started again because I would go up to the studio with my mom to take my sister to class, and realized how much I missed it.” Sara began dancing again when she was in fifth grade, taking recreational classes, and started competing the following year.

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and even an outlet for feelings. As Sydney explains, “I get to express myself and let everything go when I get mad.”

“I am allowed to tell stories, express what I feel, and reach out to people through dance,” adds Griffin.

Dance competitions have taken the Massey family to local venues such as Claremore and Oklahoma City, as well as farther away to Kansas City, Dallas, Fort Worth, Branson, Little Rock, Bentonville, and even to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina for Nationals.

“At times competing is extremely stressful, but if anything, it’s fun,” says Sara. “You get to go out on stage and show people what you can do and what you love to do, with your best friends. Competition weekends are always my favorites.”

Sydney and Griffin agree with this perspective.

“I get pretty stressed out when I go to competitions but once I do my first dance on the stage I feel perfectly fine,” explains Sydney.

Griffin adds that, “Competitions make me personally feel competitive. I want to always do better than people. When I don’t, that’s fine. I just know that I will have to do better next time.”

All three siblings have won numerous championships and scholarships for their dancing. Sydney won the state championship for her solo in November, and has won multiple dance competitions with group dances and trios. Last year, her trio won a competition called “Co. Dance.” Griffin has also won group dance championships, and has received scholarships to attend the “Jump” and “Co. Dance” competitions. Last year, Sara’s senior large group won the overall teen/senior dance of the weekend at Showbiz OKC. “We have also taken other dances and won overalls at competitions

like KAR, Co. Dance, Starpower, Starquest, and many others,” she says.

The Massey siblings enjoy all types of dance: hip hop, jazz, lyrical, contemporary, tap, modern, ballroom, ballet, etc. In addition to dancing, they are involved in school and extracurricular activities. For example, Sydney speaks fluent French, and just returned from a three-week trip to France, while Griffin is active in student council at Carver. Sara is a football trainer at Booker T and runs rehearsals for their company, ICON DANCE PRODUCTIONS, when the director is out of town. In addition, she is Miss Green Country’s Outstanding Teen for 2014 and will compete for Miss Oklahoma’s Outstanding Teen 2014 in June.

This pageant program is the little sister to Miss America and is about rewarding young girls who are making a difference in their community, Sara explains. “That’s one of the things I love about it.

Not to mention being on stage in ‘the dress’ is pretty spectacular.”

The local pageant for Miss Green Country’s Outstanding Teen was Sara’s first pageant ever, although she had been watching the state-level competitions for years.

“I have always wanted to get up on that stage and do it myself, and so I finally did,” she says. “I don’t think there was anything I didn’t enjoy. This is not a Toddlers and Tiaras pageant in any way, shape, or form. We compete in five phases of competition: interview, which happens before the live pageant, then active wear, talent, evening gown, and onstage question at the live pageant. The girls that you compete with become a sisterhood.”

Dancing is likewise a community experience for the Masseys.

“What we do is not like what you see on TV. It is not Dance Moms, and there definitely is not a pyramid,” says Sara. “Just like any other sport, dance is as much a team sport as it is an individual sport. Your team becomes your family, and your director, a big sister, or a second mom. You invest so much time and effort into your team, and you get so much back in return.”

Dancing is not just a fun after-school activity for these students.

“Dancing becomes a part of your identity and who you are when you devote yourself as much as our company does,” says Sara. In fact, Sara, Griffin, and Sydney all hope to make dancing a career.

Sara plans to double major in dance and business in college, and hopes to own her own studio and have her own competitive team.

Sydney, meanwhile, wants to dance back up for a very popular singer, while Griffin hopes that “one day I will be known as a famous male dancer such as Travis Wall and Nick Lazzarini.”

But while Sara, Griffin, and Sydney love dancing, they admit it does create challenges in their lives.

“I have missed some important dates for my friends because of dance, but I know that they forgive me because I’m doing what I love,” says Griffin.

In addition, keeping up with homework can be a challenge.

“As soon as I get home from school, that’s what I do,” says Sara. “Going to the top school in the state, it is a huge strain on me to be able to keep up with it all, but nevertheless, somehow I do.”

Sydney adds that she often will do her homework in the car on the way to dance practice, but “If I don’t finish it I do it when I get home from dance.”

While dancing can make finding time for homework a challenge, it can also be helpful when it comes to schoolwork and life in general.

“Without us realizing it, dance teaches us some important life skills, and qualities that we will carry with us forever,” explains Sara. “It teaches perseverance, dedication, and teamwork. We have to quickly memorize steps and choreography, which makes us extremely visual learners, and also helps memorize things for school!”

Another challenge the Masseys, including mom Amy Jo, have faced is simple time management. Getting three children, none of whom can drive yet, where they need to be can be a challenge for any parent. Amy Jo takes the daunting schedule in stride, though.

“It’s actually really nice having them all do the same activity.

I’m blessed with only having to run kids to one place! Unlike most of my friends, I don’t spend all of my time on the road running kids.”

Injuries can also pose a challenge to these young dancers. While Griffin is one of those lucky dancers who have not been injured yet, Sydney broke an elbow while doing a back handspring a couple years ago, and had to wear a cast on her arm for a month and a half.

Sara has been injured multiple times, and is currently dealing with an injury with my knee. In seventh grade, she had a stress fracture on her left foot, and was forced to wear a boot for two months.

“Despite that, I still danced on it,” she says.

Recovering from injuries is always challenging too, both physically and mentally. “Physically because you’re afraid that you’ll do it again, or make it worse,” explains Sara. “And mentally because you don’t trust yourself as much to do different tricks, or to try new things.”

Griffin has also faced unique challenges his sisters do not.

“As a male dancer, yes, I get called gay. But I just know that no matter what, my family will always be there to support me.”

Despite the challenges, Sara, Griffin, and Sydney love dancing. “I get to do the thing I love with the people I love,” says Sara.

“Simple as that.”

“What makes it worthwhile is that we aren’t just dancing just to be able to say that we can do this many turns, or that we are more flexible than someone or that our team beat another team,” Sara explains. “We are doing it because we love it.”

Do you know any Star Students who should be featured in this column? Please send their names and contact information to EStephens@lifestylepubs.com.

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Home Matters more or less space. Your reason for selling can impact the negotiating process so it’s important to discuss your needs and desires in private with your Realtor.

The home-selling process typically starts before a property is made available for sale. It’s necessary to stop looking at the property as your home and look at it through the eyes of a prospective buyer to determine what needs to be cleaned, updated, painted, repaired and tossed out.

The goal is to show a home that looks good, maximizes space, and attracts as many buyers and as much demand as possible. Top Realtors will help you decide what should be done in and around your home to appeal to the masses.

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Sell Your Home without the Hassle Article Brian Frere

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he real estate market is “Hot!” Home sales are up and millions of existing homes are being sold nationwide each year.

While each transaction is different, every owner wants the same thing: the best possible deal with the least amount of hassle.

However, the home-sale has become a more complex business than it used to be. New seller disclosure statements, longer and more complex sale contracts in addition to tougher inspection, lending and appraisal requirements have all emerged in the past decade.

More importantly, the home-selling process has changed. A growing number of home buyers are utilizing buyer brokerage where Realtors represent the homebuyers. This is now very common nationwide and good buyer-brokers want the best for their clients.

While the result may be hundreds of thousands of existing homes sold each week, the process is not as easy for sellers as it was five or ten years ago. Surviving in today’s real estate world requires experience and training in such fields as real estate marketing, financing, negotiation and closing--the expertise available from local Realtors.

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Waiting to sell until spring or summer is a common myth. Many believe that school enrollment (in August typically) and how homes look during the spring and summer months are important considerations. However, the summer is also typically when more homes are likely to be available, thus more competition.

Generally speaking, markets tend to have some balance between buyers and sellers year-round. In any given community, for example, there may be fewer buyers in late December. But it is also likely that there will be fewer homes available for purchase, thus less competition.

Therefore home prices and closings tend to rise or fall because of general supply and demand patterns rather than the time of the year.

Owners are encouraged to sell when the property is ready for sale, there is a need or desire to sell, and the services of a local Realtor have been retained.

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The general rule in real estate is that buyers seek a nice and expensive home in the best neighborhood they can afford. In terms of improvements, this means you want a home that fits in the neighborhood but is not over-improved.

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Cosmetic improvements–updating kitchens, bathrooms, paint, flooring, fixtures and hardware and landscaping--help a home “show” better and are often good investments. Mechanical repairs to ensure that all systems and appliances are in good working condition are required to get a top price. This will also make the due diligence period between contract and closing much easier for all parties.

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Planning with Perfection Tips For Throwing a Drama-Free Anniversary Party article melissa ebert

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nniversary parties are one of the best times for families and friends to get together and celebrate that most special of human interactions: love.

Those who gather for these celebrations always seem to have certain expectations for what makes a great anniversary. Some say great music is essential for a great party, others are more interested in delicious food, and others find gift-giving to be an integral part of a successful get-together. These decisions can be stressful and at times costly for the husbands and wives who want only for their special day to be a perfect representation of the love they have and want to share with their inner circle of friends and family.

and close friends and family only. This worked great for my family, but each couple’s and families’ preferences are different.

2. Get your loved ones involved: it is the tendency of control

freaks like myself to take on too much in the interest of getting things done perfectly that is often our downfall. Odds are, if you are having an anniversary party, you have anywhere from a handful to a multitude of family members and friends who not only wouldn’t mind helping out, but would be honored to be asked for help. We actually had our party pot-luck style, which took away the financial stress of a caterer, and also added the personal touch of my parent’s friends and family bringing their favorite dishes.

1. Know your guests: Although these gatherings are more about

the couples being honored, the more respectful event planners are always aware of who is there, and what elements will either elate or alienate certain guests. Although couples should never sacrifice things that are very important to them personally, there is no harm in realizing that if your guests are largely in the older demographic, they might not respond well to a D.J. playing hip hop music, or that a mostly religious group might be uncomfortable with an open bar.

We threw a party for my parents’ 30th anniversary, and it was extremely low key: casual dress, with a funny renewing of the vows,

3. Relax: There is one inflexible fact about big events like these: something will go wrong. No matter how meticulously mapped out or perfectly planned, the flowers will be late or it will thunderstorm the day of your outdoor party. Things happen, and there is no planning for the chaos of life. The only thing to be done for this is to take a deep breath, smile, and enjoy the day. Unavoidable glitches in perfect planning are bound to happen, but it is how you handle the stresses of these that will set the tone for the day.

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Table for Two Valentine’s outside the box Article Amanda Simcoe | Photography Joe Price

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ach year, a few dates are notorious in the restaurant business for being the very definition of a madhouse. Mother’s Day brunch, Easter, New Year’s Eve, and of course; Valentine’s Day. Many in the hospitality industry consider it the “Black Friday” of food.

Every seat in nearly every restaurant in town will be spoken for, often for several turns of the table. Countless men have felt the panic that comes with the realization that they have failed to secure a reservation at their love’s favorite table before it becomes booked up.

At this point, options are limited. You can get on a wait list and pray for a cancellation, but those odds are about as good as your date enjoying the Big Mac that may be in your future. You can hope that your date loves your idea of a “rain check” for a night a bit less crowded.

My suggestion however, is to go with something a bit more intimate, and in my opinion, more romantic.

Cooking a meal together can be every bit as romantic as a meal out the finest restaurant. Even if only one of you is skilled in the kitchen, the time spent together during the process enjoying a glass of wine and some favorite music will likely be remembered long after you have forgotten what your favorite chef would have prepared.

For several years, I have taught an annual cooking class called “Dip Me in Chocolate” where couples learn to make a four course meal centered around Valentine’s Day’s most popular confection. This year I am sharing the recipes with you, our readers in the hopes that they will help you create delicious Valentine memories in your own kitchen.

For those looking for an alternative to the standard night out, but don’t want to tackle cooking dinner on your own, This year’s Valentine’s class at The Galley Sink Test Kitchen will feature a brand new four-course menu.

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The class will be demonstration style and include dinner and wine pairings. For details and menu information, visit The GalleySink. com. To make your reservations, call 918.494.0621.

Valentine’s Dinner Class with The Cheese Wench Friday, February 14 7 p.m.

Saturday, February 15 7 p.m. $150 per couple

“Dip Me in Chocolate” Menu Ahi Tuna Tartare

• 8-10 Wonton skins, fried in vegetable oil, or brushed with oil and baked • 1 Roma tomato, diced • 6 oz. Sushi-grade Ahi tuna, cut into small cubes • ½ ripe avocado, sliced • 2 tsp fresh-squeezed lime juice • ½ C fresh whipping cream • ¼ C Angostura soy sauce • 3 oz white chocolate (not chips) • Sriracha, for garnish • Cilantro leaves, for garnish Directions: In a small bowl, combine the cream and the soy.

In a separate bowl, combine the tomato, Ahi, lime juice, and 2 Tbsp of the soy cream. Divide among the wonton crisps. With a vegetable peeler, shave the white chocolate over the top. Garnish with an avocado slice, Sriracha and cilantro leaves. Serve with the remaining soy cream.

Mixed Greens Salad with Chocolate-Raspberry Vinaigrette

• 4 C mixed baby greens • ½ C candied almonds • 8 strawberries, sliced • ¼ C goji berries* • ¼ C cacao nibs* • Chocolate Raspberry Vinaigrette *Available at Whole Foods Chocolate-Raspberry Vinaigrette

• 1 C fresh or thawed frozen raspberries • 1 Tbsp lemon juice • 3 Tbsp cocoa powder • 2 Tbsp sugar • 3 Tbsp warm water • ¼ Tbsp sea salt • ¼ C olive oil Directions: In a bowl combine the water, lemon juice, sugar, salt and cocoa powder. Stir to dissolve. In a blender or food processor, combine the mixture with the raspberries and blend. Slowly drizzle in the oil.

loin 2-3 minutes on each side. Transfer the meat to a rack in a roasting pan, and roast in the oven until the internal temperature reaches 130 degrees. Remove from the oven and cover with foil. Allow to rest 10 minutes before slicing. Serve with Red Wine and Chocolate Sauce.

Red Wine & Chocolate Sauce

• 1/2 cup chopped shallots • 2 oz semi-sweet chocolate • 1/2 tsp freshly ground black pepper • 4 cups dry red wine • 2 cups beef broth • 2 Tbsp olive oil • 1 Tbsp chopped fresh rosemary leaves • 2 sprigs fresh thyme, picked • Sea salt, to taste Directions: In a skillet over medium heat, cook the shallots in the olive oil for 3 minutes, until they begin to soften. Add wine, broth and chocolate and cook over medium low heat 8-10 minutes. Add herbs, pepper and salt to taste, and cook 3 minutes more.

Chipotle Chocolate Cake

• 1 C mayo • 1 C buttermilk • 2 C flour • 1 C sugar • 1 1/2 tsp baking soda • ½ tsp salt • 1 Tbsp confectioners’ sugar • 1/4 C cocoa powder • 1/8 tsp ground chipotle • 2 Tbsp Grand Marnier • 2 C heavy cream

Cocoa Rubbed Tenderloin of Beef

• 1 whole beef tenderloin (4.5-5 lbs) • ¼ C olive oil • 3 Tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder • 1 tsp sea salt • Red Wine and Chocolate Sauce Directions: Preheat an oven to 425 degrees. In a small bowl, combine the cocoa powder and salt. Add the olive oil and stir to make a paste. Rub the tenderloin with the paste. In a large pan over high heat, sear the tender-

Directions: Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

In the bowl of an electric mixer, beat the sugar and mayonnaise until blended. Add the vanilla and blend. Sift together the flour, cocoa, baking soda and salt and add it to the mayonnaise mixture in 3 batches alternating with the buttermilk.

Pour into a greased and floured 9-by-9-by-2-inch baking pan.

Bake for 45 to 50 minutes or until a cake tester comes out clean.

Combine the cream, confectioner’s sugar and Grand Marnier, and beat until whipped.

Remove the cake from the oven. Let cool on a wire rack, and garnish with whipped cream before serving.

Amanda Simcoe is a Chef and food journalist. Also known as The Cheese Wench, she is passionate about culinary education, craft beer and all things dairy. She co-hosts OKfoodie on KRMG, and hosts Feed Tulsa Now on the TulsaFeed You Tube channel.

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Field Trip

Anguilla:

The Island Less Traveled Paradise is closer than you think

Article Diana Lambdin Meyer | photography Bruce N. Meyer

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ore than two million couples in the U.S. say “I do” and then take off on what is hopefully the honeymoon of their dreams. About one in three of those couples will head to the Caribbean in search of magnificent beaches, caressing tropical breezes and breath-taking sunsets.

Jamaica is the number one choice of U.S. honeymooners, followed by the Dominican Republic. But the Caribbean is a big place filled with lots of islands. So for a honeymoon destination that provides all of the above amenities but without the ho-hum “been-there, done-that” destination appeal, you deserve a place as unique and special as you and your beloved.

It’s easy. Start at the top of the Caribbean alphabet. The first island is Anguilla and there’s no need to go any farther – beautiful beaches, individualized service at reasonable prices and a sexy little destination that few of your contemporaries have experienced before you.

Finding Anguilla

Before we get there, let’s first learn how to pronounce it without making ourselves look silly. The wrong way is to offer a French flair and say something like “An-geya.” Anguilla is a British colony, so simply say "vanilla" and then say "an-gwilla."

Now let’s find it. Find Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands, out there east of Cuba, Haiti and the Dominican Republic. Then go a little farther east toward the 18 Tulsa Lifestyle | February 2014

Atlantic. You’ll first see St. Maarten and then look for a little dot three miles north. That’s Anguilla. For sailors, this is one of the most northerly of the Leeward Islands in the Lesser Antilles.

The good news, it’s not that hard to get there. Although Anguilla has an international airport, you’ll save a lot of money by flying into St. Maarten and taking the short 20-minute ferry ride to Anguilla. And that’s easier than ever before with a brand new ferry terminal right at the airport.

Why Anguilla?

The beaches are the reason most honeymooners choose the Caribbean. But all beaches are not the same, nor are all oceans for that matter.

Some sand is more like gravel and volcanic rock makes those long romantic walks at the water’s edge not so pleasant.

You won’t encounter any such unpleasantness on Anguilla’s beach. On an island just 17-miles long and three-miles wide, there are 33 perfect white-sand beaches, all open to the public. White sand is the best sand because it doesn’t hold the heat like beige and pink sand, thus not burning toes as you walk barefoot. The surf is gentle here, lapping in from the Atlantic. The Travel Channel recently named the beach at Shoal Bay the Best Beach in the World.

An ideal day on Anguilla includes choosing a new beach to explore and then selecting from one or two beachside restaurants for

lunch. Most places allow you to use their chairs and umbrellas at no charge as long as you buy lunch.

One of the least visited beaches of the 33 is Captain's Bay on the northeast end of the island. It's quite possible to have the place entirely to yourself all day. How romantic is that!

That Anguilla is not over-run with tourists is remarkable, but that is also one of the many appeals of the island. It’s low-key, quiet and whatever the antonym is for “in-your-face.”

What To Do

In fact, Anguilla is so laid back that at first glance, you may fear there’s not enough to keep you entertained. But hey, you’re on your honeymoon. Your entertainment will be your spouse.

Seriously, if you and your partner crave a wild, energetic nightlife, you might be disappointed here. However, people travel from around the world to spend an afternoon or evening listening to the reggae music of Bankie Banx. His Dune Preserve on Rendezvous Bay is an experience in itself – sort of a driftwood beach shack that grew into a tree house, creating odd little crevices and viewing spots to watch the performance below.

Bankie plays here on weekends and during the full moon. Yep, that’s right – the full moon. A number of celebrities from Kevin Bacon to Bruce Willis like to drop in for a set when they are on the island.

one of the least visited beaches of the 33 is captain's bay on the northeast end of the island. it's quite possible to have the place entirely to yourself all day. how romantic is that? anguilla, continued >

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A couple of hot spots near Sandy Ground also get hopping at night – The Pumphouse is where the locals go, along with Elvis’ Beach Bar nearby. Johnno’s Beach Stop also has live music every night, but schedule your travel dates to allow for a Sunday afternoon jazz session at Johnno’s.

Otherwise, Anguilla offers what can be found on many other Caribbean islands – scuba diving, snorkeling, windsurfing, horseback riding on the beach, spelunking – but it’s a low-key sell here, in an intimate, one-onone setting where you are calling the shots.

Where to Stay

Anguilla is renowned for the number of villas and boutique accommodations on the island. In general, you'll find more villas, thus more privacy, on the northeast side of the island. More hotels and related activities can be found on the west side of the island. None of the hotels are more than two stories high, most with less than 100 rooms, and all generously spaced from the next. Either The CuisinArt or the Viceroy offer an all-inclusive resort experience, but at a pretty hefty price. For

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classy intimacy, you’ll not be disappointed in the Frangipani or the Anacaona. With just 19 and 27 suites respectively, you’ll still find beautiful grounds, great beaches, a nice restaurant and excellent service. If you would like to prepare a few meals in the privacy of your room, both offer full kitchens and shopping services.

Where to Eat

American franchises have not yet invaded Anguilla, which makes every dining experience truly unique. Restaurants are all locally owned, serving homemade food that is elevated far beyond beach-shack cuisine. Chef Dale Carty at Tasty’s in South Hill Village was named “most innovative Caribbean chef” in 2011. Blanchard’s Beach Shack in Meade’s Bay and Smokey’s at Cove Bay Beach are great choices as well. For a romantic outing, consider lunch at the Restaurant on Scilly Cay. It’s open only on Wednesdays and Fridays, and there’s no electricity on the little island, so the menu is quite limited, but the experience is indeed exclusive. Brad Pitt and Jennifer Anniston ate here while on the island.

Fun Neighbors

You flew into St. Maarten, so you might want to explore there a bit. Half of the island is French; the other half is Dutch, but both are totally different than what you have come to Anguilla for. It’s considerably more crowded, you’ll find lots of McDonald’s and KFC’s, along with other influences of the American culture. But you’ll also find casinos, lots of shopping and one of the Caribbean’s most notorious nude beaches.

Another short ferry ride away is St. Barth’s.

Spend the day in Gustavius sampling local cuisine with a French-Creole flair and exploring the concentration of shops not found on Anguilla.

Still not convinced? Consider this: ABC’s “The Bachelor” found Anguilla so romantic that six episodes were shot here in February 2011. Traveling “The Bachelor Trail,” identified by red roses painted on buildings, is a particularly romantic way to explore the island.

For more information, visit IVisitAnguilla.com.

Saint Simeon’s Resident Izzy Levine and his wife Linda

I love everything about Saint Simeon’s. I’m a jazz enthusiast, so I really appreciate the regular outings to the Oklahoma Jazz Hall of Fame. My wife, daughters and I researched many places before deciding that Saint Simeon’s was the right fit for me. Since moving in a year ago, the staff and fellow Residents have become like a second family to me.

Sincerely, Izzy

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rEvolutionary dEvices Tech Gadgets for 2014

Article Louann Buhlinger | Photography Michael Hassan

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hen I step into the door of the electronics store, I feel like internet,” says Gina. “It is my absolute favorite and gives me aca kid stepping into a toy store. I always find two or three cess to movies and TV shows from Netflix, Amazon Instant Vidthings I didn’t know I needed or wanted. So, this year I’m turning eo, Hulu Plus, VUDU, HBO GO, plus live sports, music, news, to an expert for advice on the latest and and more, all for only $69.” Gina uses the most functional gadgets.

ROKU everyday and says that using it My e-guru is Gina Bradford, chosen by plus a high def antenna for local programthe The Tulsey Awards as Tulsa’s Entreming will replace her current use of cable preneur of the Year. As long as I’ve known for much less money.

Gina, she has been the go-to person for computers, programming and websites.

The ROKU is a little black box, about In fact, she’s been in the information tech6”x6”, that plugs into your television set nology industry for more than 20 years and an electrical outlet. After connecting including time spent at American Airlines it to your WIFI and selecting your proleading the team who created Travelocity. gramming, you can enjoy more than 1,000 com and working for other Fortune 500 channels. Now, this product is a true valcompanies including BP Amoco. In 2012, ue, something I am going to look into.

Gina opened Bradford Marketing in Tulsa, providing website design, internet marAnother pick by Gina is the Samsung keting and creative services for small to Galaxy Note Tablet she bought to replace medium-sized businesses. her iPad. Each year, Gina produces a “Favorite Marketing firm owner and Tulsa’s Entrepreneur of “I absolutely love this tablet,” says Gina. the Year, Gina Bradford.

Things: Gadget Edition” for her blog.

“I am always out meeting with clients and “I believe in buying devices that fit the application,” says Gina. taking notes. I tried using a number of apps on the iPad but none “I don’t look for one device that tries to serve all my needs because worked for me.” Gina says this product allows her to write in her each product has its own strengths.” own hand and draw pictures on the screen. It then saves the notes Gina’s absolute favorite product this year is the ROKU 2. and can email them. It even translates handwritten words to typed “It’s a device which streams content to your television over the notes. Videos and photos come to life on the large 10.1” HD dis-

Use this device and stream 1,000 plus channels to your television for free.

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The Samsung Galaxy Note 10 allows you to handwrite notes, draw pictures and edit photos.

play and Adobe Photoshop Touch is preloaded for editing images.

“I’m considering giving up my iPhone and moving to the Samsung Galaxy line of tablets like the Samsung Galaxy Note 3 because the feature list and apps are closing in on Apple, and I do like the larger screen.” The phone runs about $350 if your contract is up ($799 if it isn’t) and the tablet runs about $500.

several times. It fits right onto the back of your phone. “I leave my Mophie on my iPhone all the time so I never have to worry about running out of battery. The devise comes in handy when traveling.” The Mophie comes in multiple sizes with prices ranging from $80 to $130.

Now, how do we accessorize this favorites list? With a Samsung Galaxy Gear Watch, of course. In true Dick Tracy style, this cooler than cool wrist computer far surpasses the Pebble Watch according to our expert.

“The screen of the Gear Watch is in color and you can actually make and receive calls on the watch,” says Gina. The Gear Watch displays your texts, emails and phone calls. It also has a built in camera and it a great conversation starter which costs about $300 but you must have the Samsung Galaxy Note 3 Smartphone to make it work.

The Pebble Smartwatch which notifies you of texts, calls and email messages on your Smartphone. For a stepped-up version that allows you to make and receive calls from the watch, try the Samsung Galaxy Gear Watch.

This Mophie Juice Battery Pack will give three times the life to your iPhone.

Next on Gina’ list is SodaStream. You’ve seen the commercial feature the new, home soda maker. It turns tap water into sparkling water in under 30 seconds with no clean-up.

“I used to buy sparkling water all of the time,” says Gina. “Now, I just use SodaStream. It seems simple but it’s one of the most used gadgets at my house and I cannot live without it.” The benefit to soda stream is that pop lovers no longer need to carry heavy bottles home and have containers to recycle. The unit comes in a number of colors and shapes and offers an array of flavored soda mixes. Units run from $100 to $130.

And, if you’d like to add some technology to your home, Gina recommends the Nest Learning Thermostat.

“This is for the true gadget geek,” says Gina. “It’s a smart thermostat for home that you can control from your Smartphone.”

The Nest learns your schedule and adjusts your home’s temperature accordingly. In fact, the company claims you can reduce your heating and cooling bills by 20 percent. “I absolutely love this device and have two in our home - one for each zone. My favorite part is when I am in bed and too warm or cold, I just pick up my iPhone and adjust the temperature.” The Nest costs $249.

Looking for a gadget to add life to your iPhone? Gina recommends the Mophie Juice Battery Pack.

“This is another gadget I could not live without.” Gina says the Mophie is the size of an iPhone case but can recharge your iPhone

Cheers to an exciting 2014 and the new innovations that are hitting the marketplace. For more information on Gina’s favorite things, check out her website at BradfordMktg.com and click on the blog button at the bottom of the page.

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It Starts with a Question Wedding Planning Basics Begin at “Yes” Article Eddie Stephens

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t starts with a question. And everything hinges on the answer.

If it’s a “yes,” you’re in business. Well, not literally, but the “business” of planning a wedding will feel like running one for the time leading up to your big day.

Wedding planning is all-consuming. And with a date on your calendar, the time to begin is…now!

If you’re a bride-to-be you’ve probably been planning your wedding for years. You dreamed as a young girl about the perfect dress, the ring, the music, your first dance...oh, and the groom.

Wedding professionals agree. Start with the basics and plan around them.

the “bling”

Sure, you’ve heard where “he” went (aka. that commercial for a well known jeweler). It’s important to consider your 24 Tulsa Lifestyle | February 2014

options when shopping for the jewelry that symbolizes your marital commitment.

Jewelry professionals recommend that you keep the setting, shape and metal preference in the spotlight as you shop. Functionality is important, too (you plan to wear the ring for a number of years).

Consider ongoing maintenance and lifetime customer service also. Many jewelers have in-house repair services available.

Many couples opt for a custom designed wedding ring set. Remember also that rings can be unique to each person--they do not have to match.

And understand that your wedding rings are an investment. Because the amount you spend is often significant, it’s important to insure your purchase.

Many insurance carriers can add it to your home owner’s policy.

Or you can invest in a separate policy for your rings.

the list Wedding planners see common mistakes surrounding the guest list. There are effective ways to approach the formal invitation process.

Get an early start on your guest list. It’s a frequent mistake to send out invitations too late.

The now popular “save-the-date” approach helps to keep your wedding day front of mind. But remember that your family and friends are busy and overloaded with information.

Social media is another benefit. You’re talking about your event from the moment you said “yes.”

Even so, the formal, mailed invitation seals the invite. Your potential guests somewhat expect it.

Wedding professionals recommend mailing your formal invitations two months before the date of the event. Allow enough time ahead of the two month window to firm up your guest list and address the invitations.

And one more thing about the mailing: confirm the correct postage amount with the postal service. Wedding invitations often weigh more than standard postage. Take an exact sample, of what you’ll be mailing, to your local post office or mail center and have it weighed. This important step will save you the hassle of returned mail. And it will help you budget too.

your moments This is an image-centric era. Your wedding day is a snap shot of time that’s full of images to capture.

Select a photographer with a trusted portfolio of work. Your photos will be lasting documentation of your special day.

Do your research. Ask wedding planners and venue providers who they recommend.

Pastors and wedding officiates have perspective too. They officiate many weddings and have exposure to a variety of wedding photographers.

Set your expectations high. Do not cut costs or bargain shop in this area.

Moments matter. You want a professional wedding photographer with an eye for detail.

Spend time with you photographer before the wedding day.

Tour the venue together.

Suggest the moments you want captured. Review the order of ceremony and reception details together to confirm the time and location of special photographic moments.

the details (and everything in-between)

A wedding is an event, with a capital “E.” It could be the biggest event you’ll plan.

Be prepared. You WILL be overwhelmed.

But there’s a solution to the “overwhelm.” Choose a wedding planner to walk with you through all the details. Wedding and event planners specialize in the minutia.

Start with a budget. If you’re independent (on your own) there are different budget considerations than if you’re dependent on parental support to finance your wedding.

Many times a bride, groom, and the extended families of each will contribute to the costs. A wedding planner can help you sort out who’s responsible for what, expense etiquette, and other potentially awkward financial discussions.

Wedding planners are also a helpful buffer with the guest list.

It’s a common point of disagreement and one that requires open, strategic discussion.

Remember that each RSVP increases your costs. This is not a negative outcome but one you must be prepared to accommodate with adequate food, beverages, venue space, seating, etc.

A wedding planner’s presence on your big day is priceless. They and their team serve as an all-important coordinator of every detail from start to finish.

(Note: It’s recommended that you keep family separate from the strategic coordination of wedding details. A professional wedding planner can save you from unnecessary family “drama.”)

Your wedding day is your day. And it’s an event that a DIY (DoIt-Yourself ) approach is more hassle than it’s worth.

Plan accordingly. Professionals can help assure that your wedding day is memorable down to every detail.

Page Turners

Trapeze

By Simon Mawer | Reviewed by Tracy Sullivan

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et in the early 1940’s in Europe during World War II, Trapeze by Simon Mawer is a novel that is suspenseful, historical and romantic. Though it is a work of fiction, many aspects are based upon fact.

During the war, Britain’s Special Operations Executive (SOE), recruited citizens to work undercover in order to infiltrate the Axis powers and carry out dangerous missions involving reconnaissance, sabotage and espionage. Few people were aware of SOE’s existence. At the beginning of Trapeze, Mawer’s background about the agency says, “The French Section of the Special Operations Executive sent thirty-nine women into the field between May 1941 and September 1944. Of these, twelve were murdered following their capture by the Germans while one other died of meningitis during her mission.”

Trapeze tells the story from the perspective of one woman who worked in Paris and the French countryside. Marion Sutran is a young woman recruited by the secretive agency. It is not entirely clear if her character is based on one particular woman, or is a compilation from the stories of various agents. The “Inter-Services Research Bu26 Tulsa Lifestyle | February 2014

reau” (the name the secretive agency uses) are interested in Sutran because of her bilingualism and other qualities they feel she possesses. Her father was an English diplomat at the League of Nations in Geneva, and her mother is French. Although she resides in England, Sutran is excited by the opportunity to help her native country of France. She is also enticed by the prospect of adventure and danger, and eagerly signs on for assignments that are not entirely clear to her.

After months of intensive training, Sutran is sent into the field to begin her missions. She soon realizes there may have been underlying reasons why she has been recruited. Clement Pelletier, a romantic interest from her past, is a successful research physicist whose knowledge of atomic power is needed and coveted in England.

The organization hopes to use Sutran as a lure to convince Pelletier to move his studies from France to England.

I admired Sutran’s independent spirit and intelligence. There is a sub-plot involving a romantic suitor who is also an agent working for an undercover operation.

Though Sutran’s life is in constant jeopardy,

she comes to realize that the dangerous life she has willingly entered, and the priority of the love of her country over the love of a man, is what gives her life meaning.

This page turning novel held my interest throughout. The author does a wonderful job giving every character recognizable and likeable personalities. There are many twists and turns, and the romantic entanglements bring a sympathetic and humanizing aspect to Sutran’s story. I found it fascinating from a historical perspective, and also enjoyed the writing style and unique characters.

Simon Mawer is also the author of the New York Times best-selling novel The Glass Room.

People who enjoyed Trapeze also enjoyed: Sweet Tooth: A Novel by Ian McEwan A Foreign Country by Charles Cumming Jack 1939 by Francine Mathews Mission to Paris: A Novel by Alan Furst Waiting for Sunrise: A Novel

by William Boyd Ancient Light by John Banville

Healthy Lifestyle

7 Senseless Habits to Drop in 2014 M

otivational speaker and author Shawn Anderson takes the idea of “living a life you love” seriously. With a mission of empowering one million people to lead a more positive and purposeful life, Anderson shares seven senseless habits to let go of in 2014.

It may be February, but it is not too late to resolve to make 2014 a better year.

HABIT #1: Quit hanging out on Facebook.

“Facebook is a fun way to kill time,” Anderson says. “But that’s what it does: it kills time. Time that could be used to create, inspire and build.”

HABIT #2: Quit Keeping Up With the Kardashians.

“Filling our heads with unedifying TV doesn’t do a lot to help us achieve a better life,” Anderson comments. “Instead, exchange an hour of TV time to build your own dream rather than a celebrity’s dream.”

HABIT #3: Quit staying up late.

“The surest way to be unmotivated on a Monday is to stay up late on a Sunday. Want to feel energized? Watch a few more sunrises.”

HABIT #4: Quit spending money you don’t have.

“Having the freedom to do what you want in life starts with not being chained down by financial obligations. Give your credit card a rest.”

HABIT #6: Quit hanging out with negative people.

“If you have people in your life who drain you of all that is positive, ask yourself ‘Why in the world are they even in my life?’”

HABIT #7: Quit pointing fingers.

“Take a massive leap forward and take responsibility for where you are in your life. It’s not your boss’s fault...or your spouse’s...or the government’s that you’re not where you want to be. It’s your own causeand-effect decisions that have you sitting where you are.”

“Why would we ever want to live a life that makes us unhappy?”

Anderson says. “We read everywhere about what we need to do to be successful. But I believe if we just change a few of our habits, we’d be much closer to leading a life we love.” Anderson continues, “Sure, some of the seven items on the list may sound harsh, but if we don’t stop doing them, the lousy results we will produce later will feel a lot harsher.”

The author of six books, including A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose, Anderson is also the Founder of “Extra Mile Day.” On November 1, 2013, 444 cities in all 50 states made the declaration to recognize the capacity we each have to create positive change for ourselves, families, organizations and communities when we “go the extra mile.”

For more information about Shawn Anderson, go to ShawnAnderson.com.

HABIT #5: Quit working at a job you hate.

“Nothing saps the life out of you more than working at a job you hate. Find something else.”

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Sold Properties

Recently SOLD Tulsa Properties neighborhood

sales price

bdrms

f/h bath garage cap. year built

sq. ft.

lot sq. ft.

Bren-Rose

$1,240,000

3

3/2

2

1934

3,996

16,482

Featherstone

$1,291,000

5

5/1

5

2013

4,750

136,777

Woody Crest

$1,200,000

5

4/2

2

1925

5,178

34,749

Brook at Stone Bluff

$925,000

5

4/1

3

2012

6,889

18,134

The Estates of Graystone

$715,000

4

3/3

3

2000

4,750

27,594

The Estates of Forest Park $688,500

5

4/1

3

1994

5,818

28,082

Parramore

$680,000

3

3/2

3

2008

3,544

10,640

Slate Creek

$632,000

4

4/1

3

1998

5,621

26,024

Fairway Villas

$625,000

3

3/0

3

2001

3,750

19,806

Timbercrest

$600,000

5

4/2

3

2000

5,381

48,046

Legends

$592,250

5

4/2

3

2008

4,893

11,250

Olivers

$540,000

4

4/1

2

2013

3,209

*

Tradition

$539,000

5

4/1

3

2013

4,000

*

Wind River

$527,000

5

4/1

3

2008

4,000

8,668

Scissortail at Wind River

$525,000

4

3/1

3

2008

4,784

11,758

Sycamore Hill

$522,500

5

4/2

3

1974

5,212

76,899

Sunset Terrace

$505,000

3

3/0

2

1928

3,052

9,800

Legends

$500,000

5

4/1

3

2013

4,650

11,089

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February Lifestyle Calendar

FEBRUARY 7

HARLEM GLOBETROTTERS DOWNTOWN

The world-famous Harlem Globetrotters return to Tulsa as part of their “Fans Rule” World Tour. This team has been thrilling families and fans for 88 years, all the while introducing new innovations and leading the game of basketball in exciting new directions.

Again this year, fans can go online to harlemglobetrotters.com and help decide the rules for the game. BOKCenter.com

February 14-16 and 20-22 A Streetcar Named Desire DOWNTOWN

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PAC Trust Imagination Series presents the classic E.B. White tale of Wilbur, Charlotte, and an unlikely friendship. To help Wilbur avoid winding up as pork chops, Charlotte the spider, a fine writer and true friend, weaves a plan to make Wilbur a prize pig and ensure his place on the farm forever. This treasured tale explores bravery, selfless love, and the true meaning of friendship. PAC.com

Tulsa Symphony’s Audience Choice Concert for 2014 features twin sisters. Christina and Michelle Naughton performing Saint-Saens’s “Carnival of the Animals” and Mozart’s Symphony No. 3, also known as the “Organ” symphony. Sarah Ioannides will be the guest conductor for Saint-Saens and Mozart’s Concerto for Two Pianos. PAC.com.

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FEBRUARY 11

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The 28th annual Tulsa Women’s Living Expo returns to Expo Square, with more than 250 exhibits and special events including makeovers and beauty tips and a fashion show featuring Tulsa’s Metro Hottest Firefighters Calendar Men. Come and enjoy a day of fun, entertainment, community, and connection.

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The Second Annual Heart of Henry dinner and award ceremony will take place February 11 at the Hyatt Regency Hotel in downtown Tulsa. This year’s event will honor QuikTrip founder, Chester Cadieux with the Heart of Henry award. Named for Mr. Henry Zarrow, the Heart of Henry award honors the recipient’s compassion and dedication to making the Tulsa community better through helping others. Proceeds benefit the Tulsa Day Center for the Homeless.

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February 8 Lunar New Year Benefit Dinner DOWNTOWN

Dillon International’s Lunar New Year Celebration dinner this year celebrate the Year of the Horse at their 19th annual fundraising dinner. Held at the Hyatt Regency Downtown Tulsa, proceeds from the dinner benefit children served through the programs of Dillon International. DillonAdopt.com.

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women can rock, with hits like “Crazy on You,” “Magic Man,” “Barracuda,” “These Dreams,” and “What About Love.” The Wilson sisters were also the first women in rock to write their own songs and play the instruments too, making them the first women in rock to do so.

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February 13 Heart HARD ROCK

Heart, featuring sisters Ann and Nancy Wilson, perform at The Joint at the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino. Heart showed the world that

In Tennessee Williams’ classic drama, a streetcar named Desire brings fading Southern belle Blanche Dubois for a fateful visit to the New Orleans apartment of her sister, Stella and brother-in-law Stanley. “A Streetcar Named Desire” received the Pulitzer Prize for Drama in 1948.

The play’s original Broadway production ran for two years, and there have been numerous revivals and adaptations, including the famous 1951 film starring Marlon Brando and Vivien Leigh.

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February 14-16 Cinderella DOWNTOWN

Just in time for Valentine’s Day, Tulsa Ballet presents the fairytale romance of Cinderella and Prince Charming, helped along by a fairy godmother, a lost glass slipper, and a little magic. Choreography by Ben Stevenson is put to music by Sergei Prokofiev.

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February 15 Cooking Up Compassion DOWNTOWN

Bring your sweetheart for a special evening benefitting those served by Catholic Charities. The ninth annual dinner and live auction creates awareness of the work of Catholic Charities and raises funds for a mission of serving those who suffer. The evening will include delicious appetizers from local chefs, raffles, live entertainment, and a live auction.

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February 15 Sweetheart Run DOWNTOWN

Sign up for this run on your own or with your favorite Valentine. Events include a Fun Run and Walk and both individual and Couples 5K and 10K races. All race participants will received a long-sleeved event t-shirt.

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FEBRUARY 15 Buttercup Bash DOWNTOWN

The Tulsa Boys’ Home Junior Women’s Association presents the 6th Annual Buttercup Bash, a post-Valentine’s Day, casino-theme fundraiser at the amazing and historic Oklahoma Jazz Hall of Fame. Guests can expect a fun-filled night full of music, casino games, auctions, dancing, and delicious food and beverages. All proceeds benefit Tulsa Boys’ Home. TulsaBoysHome.org.

February 20 PUTTIN’ ON THE DOG DOWNTOWN

The 18th annual Puttin’ on the Dog is a gala evening featuring musical entertainment, silent and live auctions, and a plated gourmet dinner by Executive Chef Devin Levine.

As Life Senior Services’ premiere fundraising event, this evening has raised over $3,200,000 over the past seventeen years.

LifeSeniorServices.org

100% of their net proceeds from this performance to The Tyler Robinson Foundation, which provides financial assistance to families with children battling cancer.

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February 22-23 Post Oak Lodge Challenge POST OAK LODGE

Two days. Six races. 15 miles of trails. Over 900 runners. All of this adds up to a crazy weekend of running benefitting the Oklahoma Botanical Garden, the Tulsa Boys Home, and the Tulsa Running Club.

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February 27-March 2 Akdar Shrine Circus EXPO SQUARE

Let the magic of the circus take over your senses! In addition to breathtaking circus acts and hysterical clowns, families can enjoy face painting and elephant, camel, and pony rides.

AkdarShrine.org

February 28 Mardi Gras Magic DOWNTOWN

Join New Hope Oklahoma at the Oklahoma Jazz Hall of Fame. New Hope Oklahoma is a Tulsa non-profit working to end generational incarceration one child at a time.

NewHopeOklahoma.org

Holland Hall Book Fair

February 28 and March 2

HOLLAND HALL

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Holland Hall hosts Oklahoma’s largest and oldest used book sale to the community with the annual Book Fair. Tens of thousands of used, rare, and children’s books, games, toys and movies will be for sale.

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Parting Thoughts

The Art of the RSVP Words Lisa Cooke Harrison

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was walking down the aisle on the arm of my tuxedo-clad father, beaming from ear to ear, when it happened. I spotted a guest, a college friend standing tall above the rest at six and a half feet. But the problem was not my very tall college friend, nor the perfect organ music, flowing ivy and flowers or my Princess Diana-like dress.

It was the woman standing NEXT to my college friend.

You see, he had not included a ‘plus one’ on his RSVP. Hours had been spent putting the seating chart together for our sit-down dinner reception. Hours more had been spent on the menu.

Still more hours had been spent on the calligraphy for the place cards.

And here was a guest with no seat, no surf and turf dinner, and horror of horrors, no place card. She would KNOW her boyfriend hadn’t RSVP’d correctly. In fact, all of our college friends at the table of eight, which would magically need to be converted to a table of nine, would know that something was amiss. My mother would be appalled, but how to signal her that she needed to tell the reception manager? Surely I’d forget between now, the vows and the receiving line…

This is the memory I have of my walk down the aisle.

You laugh, but as someone who was raised with basic but strict entertaining etiquette, this was a faux paus of grand proportions.

And dare I say it’s not just weddings that matter when it comes to the art of the RSVP.

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Every few years, my beloved and I plan a party to coincide with a certain spring holiday, and every few years we work complicated math equations as we try to calculate what percentage of the ‘no calls’ will actually show up. How do you plan for food and drinks not knowing if you’ll have 45 or 65 guests? I love St. Patrick’s inspired appetizers as much as the next person, but certain foods just don’t make the best leftovers. And since I don’t drink beer or wine often, the thought of investing in cases of extra liquor just to be safe doesn’t appeal to my usual ‘stick it in the freezer, we’ll use it eventually’ sensibilities.

Come on people, it’s really very simple. If you are invited to a party, no matter how casual, let them know if you plan to attend or if you have other plans. Don’t be the thorn in every host and hostess’ side and leave them wondering. If your social calendar is especially busy and you have another commitment, but you might stop by late, let them know. They won’t mind knowing you have multiple obligations for one night. And a Mr. and Mrs. ‘definite maybe’ are worth planning for when it comes to prosciutto wrapped asparagus and puffed potato pastries, much more so than Mr. and Mrs. ‘I have no idea because they don’t know the definition of RSVP.’ It’s French, for “the favor of your response is kindly requested.”

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