Women of Influence


















The word ‘influencer’ is becoming a common term in this day and age. What does it mean to be an influencer? Having a large following on social media? Being a brand ambassador successfully encouraging potential buyers? While there are a lot of positive things happening in the world of digital connection, I would like us to reconsider the term ‘influencer’ for a moment.
Influence is defined as the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something. How many women in your life quickly came to mind as you read that definition? I was immediately filled with sweet and endearing thoughts of my beloved grandmother who is no longer with us, my mother, my sisters (by blood and otherwise), my aunts, friends, mentors, coaches and the list goes on. These women have truly shaped who I am and who I am becoming. They are my influencers who have invested immeasurable time, energy, resources and love. I look up to them and recognize how much of a positive impact their influence has on my life.
While one day of the year seems highly insufficient to properly honor and celebrate mothers and influential women in our lives, let’s use it as a reminder to make the practice more regular. To all you overachievers out there, it doesn’t have to be grand. Send a text, write a note, rally your kids, spouse or furry child and jump on FaceTime. Show the love!
There is not enough space here to share my full excitement for what awaits you on the pages ahead. Frederick has no shortage of influential women who are showing up daily and leading the way forward. Movers, shakers, builders and makers. In the spotlight and behind the scenes. Overcomers. Care-givers. Unforgettable and irreplaceable. We highlighted a handful but we salute you ALL!
This edition would not be the beautiful visual experience it is without our gracious hosts. A huge thank you to The Delaplaine Arts Center for hosting our mega photoshoot for numerous spotlights in this edition and Ceresville Mansion for the lovely Women’s Giving Circle article.
Shoutout to Anne Marie and Breann of Family Heritage Trust pictured with me above at Clutch who embody what this edition is all about. Putting others first and paying it forward! (Six-time Presenting Sponsor at Womanto-Woman Mentoring’s Annual Clutch the Future Purse Auction.)
Onward and upward, Frederick County!
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Amber Smith | Amber.Smith@CityLifestyle.com
EDITOR
Kristen Wojdan | Kristen.Wojdan@CityLifestyle.com
ADMINISTRATIVE DIRECTOR
Shannon Libby | Shannon.Libby@CityLifestyle.com
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Maddie Wojdan
CONTRIBUTING WRITER
Karen Justice
CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS
Dr. Laura Sherwood, T. Kowalsky Photography, Stadtkind Photography, Brad Barnwell Photography
CHIEF EXECUTIVE OFFICER Steven Schowengerdt
CHIEF SALES OFFICER Matthew Perry
CHIEF FINANCIAL OFFICER DeLand Shore
DIRECTOR OF SOCIAL MEDIA Mindy Hargesheimer
ART DIRECTOR Sara Minor
OPERATIONS DIRECTOR Janeane Thompson
WEB APPLICATIONS Michael O’Connell
AD DESIGNER Matthew Endersbe
LAYOUT DESIGNER Kirstan Lanier
neighbors can see and be seen.
1: Frederick Lifestyle smiles with food artist, Gina O’Rourke, who blew everyone away with her spectacular grazing table display. 2: Ashton Jeffrey, the woman behind Frederick’s favorite custom woodworking business—Lumber JAKKSS—poses next to their newest facility.
(Photography: Empire Photography) 3: The women of Dream House are as stylish as the homes they design. (Photography: Spence Photo) 4: The powerhouse ladies of the Frederick County Chamber posing with Governor Wes Moore. 5: It’s always a good time at Jerk N’ Jive!
(Photography: Empire Photography) 6: Dani Adams & Sarah Harne spearheaded FCBIA’s Annual Home Show in March and it was a smashing success! 7: Thank you to Jennifer Minnick of HeartFields—Collector Level Sponsor of the African Americans of Excellence Preview Event!
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Colonial Jewelers celebrates its “Diamond Jubilee” 75 year anniversary in Frederick on May 24th at the Weinberg Center! Humbled and proud to have served the Frederick community for 75 years with the best selection of Diamond engagement rings, wedding bands, Diamond jewelry and more, Sarah Hurwitz Robey officially becomes the President in 2023, and Jeff and Patty Hurwitz remain as advisors. This makes Sarah the 4th generation to lead the store. Sarah's grandfather Will and Grandmother Marilyn opened the first Frederick store in 1948. ColonialJewelers.com Scan
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The National Day of PrayerFrederick encourages community members to participate in the National Day of Prayer on May 4th. Events include a prayer breakfast, noontime prayers, a youth rally, and benefit concert. It exists to mobilize unified public and personal prayer and to intercede for local and national leaders. The Prayer Breakfast is a local observance of the 72nd National Day of Prayer, which was signed into law in 1952. In 1988, the first Thursday in May was officially designated as the National Day of Prayer. NationalDayOfPrayer-Frederick.org
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Magnolia Home Renovations is a one-stop design shop, specializing in kitchen renovations, bathroom renovations, cabinets, countertops, tile back splash, basement finishing, design, concept and product selections. Originally from Mumbai, India, CEO and Designer, Manisha Agisgekar, has a background in architecture and interior design. She and her husband of 22 years moved their family to New Market in 2016. Manisha provides experienced, custom designs with quality and honest renovations. MagnoliaHomeRenovations.com
Pools, Patios and Porches is a family-owned and operated business that has been serving the Frederick community for over 20 years. While they offer a seamless online ordering process, you can also visit the store to see what you’re getting and make sure it works with your space. Their employees are experts in outdoor equipment and provide excellent customer service. Find everything you need to make your home’s outdoor space spectacular at Maryland’s largest pool, patio and porch equipment retailer! PPPpool.com
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Registered Nurse Jennifer Zamora and her team of talented and experienced aesthetic spa professionals combine advances in medical technology and the expertise of an artist's eye. They provide a variety of services to boost self-confidence and leave you feeling your best. Urbana Advanced Aesthetics believes that everyone is naturally beautiful and unique in their own way. Their main purpose is to enhance your natural beauty and to give you the confidence that you need and deserve. UrbanaAesthetics.com
Photography: Dr. Laura Sherwood
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Freesia and Vine Flowers, located in Downtown Frederick, is the one-stop-shop for all of your floral needs. They specialize in bouquets, arrangements, subscriptions, flowers by the stem and more. The owners, Jackie Gambill and Liz Gillison, find joy in creating floral arrangements that will enhance and complete any special occasion. They provide breath-taking floral designs for weddings and events—big or small—with a personalized and unique approach to complement your celebration. FAVflowers.com
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AWARD-WINNING REALTOR, LORI ROGERS SHARES ABOUT THE JOURNEY THAT BROUGHT HER TO FREDERICK
Lori Rogers now calls Frederick County home, but it’s a long way from where she began. Her family originated in Scotland; however, she was born and grew up in South Africa. After college, she worked for a health and exercise company, but not in the way one would expect upon hearing that statement. Lori sold debentures, a type of financial instrument that provided operational funding for the company. She became enthralled with business and went back to school to earn an M.B.A. While there, she met an irresistible man from England who is now her husband. With a new degree and a husband, her world was about to change.
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After graduation, they moved to the beautiful seaside city of Cape Town. A few years later, international professionalism called and they were off to London. Ever the ambitious one, Lori applied for a more expansive opportunity while living in London. What she achieved was a job with Bechtel in corporate strategic marketing and business development. That job required a move to Denver, Colorado.
Lori’s father had worked for a mining company and, in a way, Lori followed in his footsteps. “I focused on the business development of mining properties for Bechtel, traveling to Peru, Argentina, Brazil and Canada,” she said.
Eventually, that corporate job brought Lori and her husband to Frederick. “When Bechtel left town, we decided to stay,” she said. “Our daughters were in high school and stability was important for them.” However, that meant transition was necessary for Lori.
In addition to the mining industry, Lori’s father influenced her with his belief that one should own properties. “After doing so much buying and selling of properties for myself, I decided to apply both my sales and strategic management expertise to a different profession—real estate sales,” she said and then shared, “That change also satisfied my desire to have my own business.”
Lori has been in real estate for fourteen years now. She’s on the board of Keller Williams in Frederick and an investor in a title company. As a member of Keller Williams International, when the company expanded to Great Britain eight years ago, Lori invested in their office in Leeds, Yorkshire, England. “I was too late for the office in London,” she recalled.
It’s all a part of the international life Lori loves. She has family in South Africa, England and Australia. Her youngest daughter now attends college in Scotland. “Frederick’s location enables us to have our whole world available with a one-hour trip to three airports,” she said. “We’re connected to the world, but living in a very caring community.”
Lori does her share of caring. Having achieved many goals in her life, she believes giving back is extremely important. She’s a member of the Women’s Giving Circle and morning Rotary Club. With every real estate closing, Lori donates $100 to the Good Samaritan Capital Development Campaign for Frederick Health.
Life is full of fun, too. Any holiday is an excuse to entertain or, at least, Lori makes it an excuse. Robert Burns’ birthday? Sure, it’s a haggis party. Memorial Day? Let’s make it international. “I live on Lake Linganore with lots of other swimmers,” she said. “We divide up the docks by country with a ‘national’ cocktail on each dock. Starting with Bud Lights on our dock, we all swim from dock to dock for the delightful refreshments to be found there.”
This warm-hearted woman can sometimes be a cold fish, however. For the last four years Lori has participated in ice-swimming . This “fun” endeavor takes part on Lake Memphremagog in northern Vermont. After workers cut through the ice to expose a swimming channel, bubblers are used to keep the ice from re-freezing. Lori and more than 100 other adventurous humans then jump into the slushy water and swim races and laps.
In late February 2023, the temperature was minus three degrees! The event started with swimmers racing
“Frederick has a unique character. It’s small enough for amazing connections, yet large enough for great evenings enjoying our diverse restaurants and growing arts opportunities. It’s a vibrant community and the people here are committed to its success.”
down the length of the channel wearing silly hats that varied from a bird’s nest to a Statue of Liberty with an actual flame. Does laughing keep you warmer? Is there logic in goosebumps and near hypothermia? It’s all about the fun challenge. And, what may be most notable about this icy competition is the opportunity to challenge cancer with dedicated donations.
Lori’s been a swimmer all her life, so swimming for progressive dockside cocktails is just another event. The ice swimming? Well, that’s hard to explain, but challenges are her style. She also runs half marathons and has climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro. Part of her generosity extends to financial help for their Kilimanjaro guide and his family.
Lori’s favorite country is beautiful Botswana, yet she also loves Tanzania. But, after multiple moves across three continents, Frederick is home. “Frederick has a unique character,” she said. “It’s small enough for amazing connections, yet large enough for great evenings enjoying our diverse restaurants and growing arts opportunities. It’s a vibrant community and the people here are committed to its success.”
LoriRogersHomes.com“Frederick’s location enables us to have our whole world available...We’re connected to the world, but living in a very caring community.”
Often called the “Balloon Installation Magician”, Jolena Simoneau is a passionate solopreneur on a mission to strike a balance between her business and family life. She is a coffee-fueled mother of two wild toddlers—her “sun and moon”—who are the inspiration behind her business. Most of her days begin at 5 a.m. alongside a latte, a book and static-filled hair as she prepares for her full day ahead.
While most balloon artists begin their career as a side hustle and slowly start a business, Jolena chose a seemingly opposite path. Starting with a business plan and an LLC, Jolena dove in head-first to launch Sun & Moon Balloon Design. She credits most of her immediate success to her husband, quality child care, healthcare and a therapist. While balancing work and family can be a challenge, Jolena has learned to identify and prioritize the most important things first.
Jolena specializes in creating bespoke installations for all occasions ranging from corporate events and non-profit events to upscale galas. And, expect a simple and efficient process. Jolena has developed a convenient system—from price transparency to the booking and design process—in order to provide a seamless, VIP experience when scheduling a balloon installation. Why? Because easy is beautiful. SunMoonBalloon.com
ARTICLE BY SHANNON LIBBY PHOTOGRAPHY BY STADTKIND PHOTOGRAPHYIn 2002, Karlys Kline was faced with a severe health issue. She recalls, “I was in the best possible situation a single female could be in. My house and car were paid for. I had a great job and insurance. I knew people would help take care of me.” Even with what seemed to be the perfect scenario to make it through this health hardship, she admits she was still scared and stressed.
Once the issue was resolved, Karlys thought about other women experiencing similar circumstances. She asked, “What if I had not had health care or paid vacation or time off? And, how many women are in that position, where they really need to be elevated in their careers and nurtured and supported?” So, she wanted to figure out a way to help women in need.
Her first thought was to open a fund at the Frederick Community Foundation and just write checks. But after a lot of research, she discovered the concept of Giving Circles. (A giving circle is a form of participatory philanthropy by a group of individuals who form a voluntary association to donate their money or time.) Karlys worked with Betsy Day and the Community Foundation to create by-laws and open a fund; and in 2006, the Women’s Giving Circle of Frederick (WGC) was founded.
Karlys had hoped that one day 50 women would participate by pulling their money together to give to different organizations that help women. What started with 10 women
grew to 50 women within just 18 months. And, today the WGC has exceeded expectations with over 450 members!
The leadership team is made up of ten women who volunteer to lead various committees that help to manage and grow the organization. Bonnie Swanson, the current Chair of the WGC, explains, “The money stays in Frederick…Frederick is a very giving, caring community. There are a lot of nonprofits and there are a lot of people who work towards funding them and volunteering!”
The WGC provides opportunities for donor members to promote and support programs that enable and empower women in challenging situations to improve the quality of their lives and the lives of those for whom they are responsible. Through an annual grant application and award cycle, funding is provided to local organizations in Frederick County.
The 2022 grant awards totaled $260,000 and $2,404,607 has been awarded to 63 local nonprofit organizations since the founding of WGC.
When asked about a specific story that had impacted her, Karlys shared, “There is an organization called Second Chances Garage. Founder Rick Trawick spoke and then invited a participant to speak…I’ll never forget the woman who talked about how she had to live and work near a bus stop. Her kids couldn’t do things after school because she couldn’t pick them up. If she had to go to the doctor she
had to take a day off from work in order to travel there. And, when she received the car from Second Chances Garage, she got a better apartment, a better job, and her kids could do things after school. It totally changed her life and her kids’ lives. Something as simple as a car is all it took.”
The 2023 grant recipients will be announced at the WGC Annual Grant Awards Program on June 14th. When selecting beneficiaries to receive grants, the WGC filters applications through their mission statement.
Angela Chase, Membership Chair, explains, “There are a lot of really fantastic nonprofits out there already doing the hard work. They know the community. They know how to properly give hands-on support to the people who need it. We just want to provide more tools to help them…We look
for a program within an organization or an entire organization. It’s always program directed. We need to see the need and make sure it’s aligned with our mission.”
“It’s a simple concept,” Karlys continues, “We review the organizations that are helping women and we give the money to the programs that seem to make the biggest impact. Together you make a bigger impact than with individual checks.”
Bonnie added, “If you are new to the Frederick community and want to get connected in a positive way and make a difference where you live, then the WGC is a great way to do this!”
Everyone (men and women) is welcome to join! According to Karlys, “We always encourage and welcome new people. You don’t have to be proposed as a member. And, I think one of the best things about the WGC is the energy of the gatherings we have, where connections are made...that the ripple effect of people doing good connecting with other people doing good…You feel great about what you’re doing and hear about the wonderful impact. It’s a great feeling!” FrederickWGC.org
“If you are new to the Frederick community and want to get connected in a positive way and make a difference where you live, then the WGC is a great way to do this!”
- Bonnie Swanson, Chair of WGC
Living between California and Hawaii for most of her life, Dr. Laura Sherwood has found Frederick to feel most like home as she sets out to create spaces for healing through the arts. At the age of nine, Laura lost her brother to a motorcycle accident. The shock and trauma of this great loss led her family to move to Waipio Valley (The Valley of the Kings) in Hawaii, known for its dramatic tropical beauty and important Hawaiian history and culture. This move to Hawaii proved to be another layer of trauma for Laura at a young age.
Laura recalls, “This was a beautiful place. At that time, it was very ‘Hippy.’ We didn’t have electricity and we used outhouses. During this time I really connected with nature.”
But this new life in Hawaii was not as beautiful as it appeared. Being from the mainland, she was teased for being an outsider and called ‘Haole’ (the Hawaiian term for individuals who are not Native Hawaiian). Laura remembers being hypervigilant, shy and aware of the culture there, “I loved to sit and watch the hula dancers after school. They would be practicing and it was so beautiful. I wished I could do that.”
Fast forward many years, Laura’s daughter became an accomplished hula dancer. She joined the hula team and traveled with the Hawaii Club. Laura said, “It was so beautiful seeing her do what I had wished I could do.”
When her daughter graduated in 2018, Laura moved to Baltimore County with her brother as she was working on her dissertation. She left her belongings and traveled to India to do her research.
This was not the first time Laura had traveled to India. She recalled, “I had a photography studio in Hawaii and served local businesses and celebrities. Then the recession hit in 2008...I traveled to India for the first time in 2009, and it changed my life. The people were so kind and loving. I felt my heart open as I had many human experiences with the people of India…For example, I met a Tibetan monk. He shared his story of being in prison and beaten. It changed my perspective from wanting to just
focus on pretty pictures to wanting to do more humanitarian photography.”
Upon returning to the U.S., Laura pursued higher education all the way to earning a Ph.D. in Human Development with a Focus on Leadership Studies at Fielding Graduate University. Her dissertation was titled, “Why Art Matters: Dismantling Dominant Narratives through Art and Digital Feminist Activism.”
“I feel that the arts are a way to bridge communities and help people to understand differences,” Laura explained.
Using the Photovoice research method, Laura put cameras in the hands of community members to share their own stories. Laura said, “I got to work with women and young girls in the Dalit (the lowest caste in India) and see their lives...They were using art. They were using storytelling to elevate their voices and get their stories to the community to get support and raise awareness and create social change.”
Laura moved to Frederick in 2020. She said, “When I explored Frederick it reminded me of Hilo, where I am from. Hilo is a very small, historic community—a friendly small town that felt like home to me.”
Laura has wasted no time getting involved in the Frederick community. During the pandemic, Laura and her friend from India, Kalki, met online daily for about six months to do art together. They invited others from across the globe to join them.
“When Kalki and I were meeting daily, we saw the benefits of art,” Laura elaborated, “I began
“I love creating a space for people to see their own light. That is what I think my gift to the world is.
I love to create opportunities for people to reflect on themselves and see how great they are.”
to see the healing power of just playing with the arts, just having the experience. I knew that sharing that with different communities is such a healing experience...especially for women who have experienced any kind of trauma.”
Laura is passionate about working with vulnerable communities. She wants to help them to have their voices at the forefront. Laura said, “When I first started, I reached out to the Community Foundation. Then, I started working with the Housing Authority and different non-profits.
As Founder and Executive Director of the Transformative Arts Project, Laura has received funding from the Delaplaine Foundation, the Frederick Community Foundation and the Maryland Arts Council to do more programming.
Laura shared, “We have the Photovoice project where I’m working with different non-profits to create a new exhibit that will be displayed at The Delaplaine Arts Center thoughout the month of May. The big kickoff event is scheduled for May 4th. I hope to raise more awareness.”
“Another project that we’ve been doing is bringing the youth and seniors together,” Laura said. “This co-generational work gives youth the chance to act as mentors for the seniors and to help them use and access technology. It’s a co-learning experience because they are learning from each other.” The funding for the program is through the AmeriCorps Seniors Program at the Asian American Center of Frederick.
When asked, “What do you want people to know about you?”, Laura replied, “I’ve got so many different hats and interests. I love creating a space for people to see their own light. That is what I think my gift to the world is. I love to create opportunities for people to reflect on themselves and see how great they are.”
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Author John Maxwell says, “Great leaders know that leadership is not about authority or a title. Leadership is influence, nothing more and nothing less.” We spent some time with six influential women who love and serve Frederick County in a myriad of ways. Their influence is far-reaching with intention and impact that is nothing less than inspiring. We hope you enjoy getting to know them in their own words.
(Special thanks to The Delaplaine Arts Center for opening its doors for us to collaborate with Dr. Laura Sherwood to capture these inspiring women with her camera throughout the galleries, hallways and Gardiner Hall. The Delaplaine Arts Center provides the Frederick region with educational opportunities and experiences in the visual arts through classes, exhibits and programs because “Everyone Deserves Art!”) Delaplaine.org
to accomplish outcomes that add value to organizations, lives and communities. It is the ability to ask the tough questions, have courageous conversations, set a vision, establish strategic goals and work to make a positive difference. It’s about embracing that which unites us, welcoming diverse perspectives and backgrounds. It is governed by the values of accountability, integrity, transparency and decision making through the lens of inclusive, equitable treatment of all people as stakeholders in the commitment to preserving public trust. “Leadership is influence” is about playing a critical role in shaping a brighter tomorrow in an ever-changing world and being grounded in gratitude for the opportunity and privilege to make positive and lasting differences as a community changer and champion.
It means putting the welfare of others above self for a greater good. Influence in leadership holds the potential to affect positive change and impact the lives and careers of others. That influence belongs to those who lead by example in the pursuit of shared goals with unwavering conviction, courage, confidence and humility in the steadfast pursuit of excellence. It means understanding the dynamics and needs of the community by being keenly connected, listening and observing intently, inviting input and collaboration, thinking critically, planning strategically and mobilizing resources to meet goals. It’s being able to passionately, purposefully build and nurture relationships while being respectful of the inherent dignity of all. It sees challenges as opportunities that refine us with the resolve to work hard, inspire and empower others
George B. Delaplaine, Jr. is a person of influence in my life as an exceptional, career-long mentor. He has afforded me great opportunities in professional development and by extending trusted autonomy to me in accomplishing meaningful outcomes throughout my career. He consistently set a high standard for excellence and community service, instilling values that helped shape my career. One example is the guiding principle that an influential leader is vigilant and devoted to building not only the financial bottom line, but also in building up humankind through service to others.
WHAT WORDS OF ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOUNG WOMEN WHO ASPIRE TO BE LEADERS?
Be intentional and persistent in building your network! Relationships are the foundation of learning, growing and advancing. Seek out those who are worthy role models and emulate their qualities, inviting their wisdom, guidance and critique. Be committed to lifelong learning. Become a servant leader so that as you help others, you earn respect and trust. Invest your time in the lives of others. In so doing, you infuse joy into life and add purpose to what you do personally and professionally. DelaplaineFoundation.org
Ashleigh Kiggans
Vice President, MacRo Commercial Real Estate President of the Board, Mental Health Association
Committee Chair of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion for Frederick County Association of Realtors
Committee Member on DEI at Maryland Realtors
Trustee at Community Foundation of Frederick County
Board Member at Frederick County Chamber
Board Member at Soul Street
Frederick County resident for 12 years
In reading this quote, “Leadership is influence” means the literal words—leadership IS influence. A strong leader to me, is someone who can give a little piece of themselves to those they encounter. Whether it’s knowledge in your profession or a small piece of personal advice, the hope of a leader is to leave a small mark on everyone and everything they encounter.
Professionally, I would consider Rocky Mackintosh to be an influential person in my life. Personally, my mother. She raised my brother and I as a single parent, with no child support, on a teacher’s salary. She gives me my drive in life.
I would tell young women who aspire to be leaders that every negative comment you receive on your way up is just another building block toward the top. Always try to find the positive in the good and the bad. Your experiences are what will help to build you as a strong leader. MacroLTD.com
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Born and proudly raised in Frederick County!
“Leadership is Influence” means leading from the front. Set the example and don’t let the naysayers and the doubters control the culture you want to create in your team/organization. In order to get your team to reach their full potential, YOU have to maximize your full potential. If your house isn’t in order, your team isn’t in order. Get your proverbial house in order! (Heck, get your real house in order, too!) You gotta get right to do right! If you don’t have a routine, your team isn’t going to have a routine. If you aren’t organized, your team isn’t organized. If your team isn’t seeing you at maximum performance, they won’t maximally perform. If your fear is driving you away from success, you’re driving your team away from success. You must connect with your team and exhibit healthy vulnerability. Talk with them, not at them. Organize with them, not for them. Perform with them, not them performing for you. If you don’t lead from the front, someone else (or something else) is controlling your organization.
My husband, Will. He steadies my world when it shakes and he throws me toward every fear from which I would otherwise run. When I doubt what can be done, he shows me it can be done. When I feel like I am unqualified, he highlights my qualifications. When I lack the confidence, he brings it back to me. He is my influencer and motivator.
You don’t have to drag others down in your race to get to the front. Healthy competition is good; destructive competition is not. Lead from the front and allow others to run alongside or trail. Your elevation of others will force you to elevate. Besides, if you drag others down in your race to get to the front, who will be there to pick you up when you fall? DelawterLaw.com
I believe that true leadership influence is the ability to change people’s fundamental beliefs or their overarching view. Gaining influence as a leader can be a solitary experience, especially when you are advocating for change, offering different perspectives or disclosing crucial details about your teams’ future plans. I have served in a number of various capacities on boards, task forces and commissions, each of which has its own unique dynamics. Yet, regardless of the group’s composition, the leader’s empathy for and ability to steer the group toward its goals is always a constant. Each day, and oftentimes each hour, I face fresh tests. Both internal and external forces have a continuous impact on our teams, workplaces and individual lives. It’s crucial that I exhibit empathy for my teammates and for myself in light of the possible impact of all these circumstances. I make an effort to empathize with others since doing so strengthens our team’s capacity to overcome obstacles. Compassion and influence are two of the most powerful leadership traits, and it often takes the form of small gestures. An affirmative nod, a change in the tenor
President of the Board, African American Resources and Cultural Heritage Society (AARCH Society)
Frederick County Art Circle, Member
Air Force Art Society, Member and Contributor
Jack and Jill of America, Inc., Western Maryland Chartering Member
Frederick Civil Air Patrol, Maryland Wing 003, Parent Volunteer
Mount Airy resident for 23 years
of a conversation or something equally inconspicuous might spark a major shift in the way someone behaves.
In addition to my parents, Dorothy-Ruth RuffinMabry and Oscar Lewis Mabry, Sr., many other persons have had a significant impact on my development. I have eleven siblings, all of whom are influential members of their communities; and if I could wave a magic wand, my parents would both still be alive and guiding me today. My Dad was in the Air Force’s 17th Motor Transportation Squadron and was also a fantastic farmer. In the sixties, there was just one black doctor and one black-owned hospital in my hometown of Tarboro, North Carolina. My mother was a private duty nurse for the doctor and his family. All the extra effort put in by my parents made a world of a difference, and they supported me and my siblings in all our extracurricular pursuits at home, at school and in the community. Their involvement as parents was crucial, and they were also highly inspirational to the other youngsters in the community.
Young women who are exceptional in a variety of ways share a few traits, such as a strong sense of self-assurance, the ability to persist through challenging circumstances and an unbreakable spirit. If you have these traits—which are the things that make successful people stand out—you can be sure that no one will ever question how smart you are. If you do not possess these traits, feed off what you can and never give up or in. No cloud lasts forever, so don’t choose to stay in it. Learn more about who you are at your core. AARCHSociety.org
CEO, Boys and Girls Club of Frederick County
Co-Owner, Thrashers Cleaning Service
Frederick County resident for almost 30 years
WHAT DOES “LEADERSHIP IS INFLUENCE” MEAN TO YOU?
Be a fearless leader. Leading by example. Be a supportive leader. Be compassionate. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
WHO DO YOU CONSIDER A PERSON OF INFLUENCE IN YOUR LIFE AND WHY?
I would have to say, my children. I’m learning from them every day. They are teaching me to be a bolder, but better person from the inside out. Having to parent in this world today is different. My kids remind me daily of why my family is everything to me!
WHAT WORDS OF ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOUNG WOMEN WHO ASPIRE TO BE LEADERS?
Believe in yourself first. Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. Keep your eye on “your own prize,” whatever that looks like. Find your people who support you and lift you up; keep them close! BGCFC.org
Frederick County resident for 20 years
“At the end of the day people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” — Maya
AngelouTo me, “Leadership is Influence,” represents the energy a leader embodies and how that energy affects others. All energy, both good and bad, is contagious. As a leader, it is important to authentically lead by example while harnessing positive and optimistic energy when serving or influencing others. A great leader can balance out a stressful situation by remaining calm. A great leader can energize others by showing enthusiasm. A great leader can change the world by leading with kindness. A great leader is self-aware and understands the impact their energy has on others.
Leading with influence is also understanding that cultivating leaders is more important than cultivating followers. A great leader leaves others feeling inspired to do more and builds others up rather than leaving them discouraged or feeling belittled.
The advice I would give to younger women who aspire to be leaders is to always be authentic. Each person has something that the world can benefit from, and you can only access that gift through being your true, original self. Learn to love who you are and show up as her—boldly and unapologetically!
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Celebrating the 20th anniversary of Mjach Designs this year, founder Melissa Lentz began her business with a dream, a computer and a lot of support from mentors and friends. Today her passion for others and her team is also evident in her community involvement. We spent some time getting to know more about how and why Melissa does it all, from her passion for fitness and real estate to mentoring, teaching, serving and supporting others.
I am originally from Reno, Nevada. My dad was a pilot in the U.S. Air Force and my mom worked for the city. When I was around six years old, my parents divorced and we eventually moved to Hartford County (my mom was hired by Aberdeen Proving Ground.) I lived in Aberdeen and went to high school. I started working around 14 years old. My mom worked several jobs to support us, and got married a few times. I grew up in domestic violence. So, it made me a worker, a fighter and a very strong person.
When I was 17, I got two jobs, and worked my way through community college. I was in college for seven years. It was a safe place. All the teachers and counselors knew me and helped me. I
ended up earning two degrees because I didn’t want to leave. Then, one of my teachers told me that it was time to go.
I ended up working for Business and Economic Development for the State of Maryland. They saw potential in me and gave me a lot of confidence...I launched the marketing team and rebranded the State of Maryland...While working for the State, I envisioned owning my own full-service firm, giving each client the customer service and care they deserve, while simultaneously building a team of young talent that would thrive in a creative and nurturing environment. ...I could always see myself starting my business. It was inside of me. I had a strong vision for what I’m doing today. I followed my gut...I had my computer, my clothes and $1200. I rented a room from a woman I didn’t know for $500/month...She ended up being a mentor. I quit my job at the State and started Mjach Designs in Baltimore...I lived on canned soup for about a year because I couldn’t afford to buy food...I always mentored and supported college students. My mentee helped me get my paperwork together to get certified as a minority
ARTICLEwoman-owned business with the State of Maryland. Since I had worked with the State, I knew the benefits of it...That’s when people started finding Mjach and we started getting contracts.
That’s a great question because when I was in community college, I went to school for Fine Arts. Computers weren’t in the schools yet. So, when I got halfway through, the computers came in. (That’s why I said when I could see myself doing what I am doing today—today really didn’t exist with graphics.) My teachers supported me and said, “You can do it! Keep your vision and your dream in front of you!”
I graduated with a Fine Art and Graphics Degree. I started Mjach as a graphic design firm. Then, in 2007-2008, when I opened my first office (the economy was going down), we earned our first contract with Veolia (now Transdev), the largest private sector operator of multiple modes of transit in North America... They asked Mjach to help launch the first clean energy, hybrid service in the nation in Baltimore: The Charm City Circulator and The Water Taxi Harbor Connectors. Mjach went from one to thirteen people within a year...We created and deployed a naming campaign. We worked with the Mayor’s office and the Downtown Partnership in Baltimore. We created all of the logos, graphics, branding and wayfinding signage. We also launched the second social media app in Maryland.
The industry is always evolving and changing. We went from a graphic design firm to a marketing firm...helping Transdev privatize transportation with business versus government...which led us to Long Island, New York. [Transdev] was starting a corporate program and asked us to spearhead the project and figure it out. So, we did. It was successful and launched across the United States and Canada.
Mjach still creates marketing needs for businesses, including logos, brochures and overall B2B and consumer marketing. We like to help small businesses, churches and non-profits to do that work affordably. Our core work is specializing in customer service and mystery traveling/shopping. Having excellent customer service is what keeps businesses thriving.
I was in Baltimore for over 20 years. The first time I visited Frederick was for a business meeting at La Paz. I fell in love with Frederick and decided I wanted to move here. I’ve been here 16 years.
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My heart has always been focused on people. Even the tagline for Mjach is “People First.” I never focused on the money...I always focused on the people first—the clients and the employees. And everything else comes from that positive place.
So, I decided to teach Zumba. I had never wanted to be in front of anybody, but I saw how people loved the music and the air. It wasn’t just working out, but it was releasing and having a good time...I got my initial certification to teach Zumba over ten years ago.
...WISH was founded in early 2010 by Kathy Schultze of State Farm Insurance and Meghan Butler of Ceresville Mansion. It started as a networking group...Only one person from each industry could join the group...I was lucky to be the marketing person...I was tasked to create the logo and name the group...I went through everything that we enjoyed as a group and it was about the people: Women Inspiring Supporting and Helping (WISH)...We believe that when women support each other, there is no limit to what we can accomplish.
...100% of the dues for WISH go to donations. Last year, part of the WISH dues money collected was donated to Soles of Love. We are a big fan of Julie Gaver and her spirit of giving back...Through a “walk and talk,” she asked for WISH to help with the fall event in 2023...there are kids in Frederick County who do not have warm shoes or boots to wear. In the spirit of inspiring, supporting and helping and taking care of people...it is an obvious thing to do!
During the pandemic—with all of our lives changing so much—I saw a need for myself to get outside. And, so many people were going through struggles because there wasn’t anyone there that they could talk to. So, we started walking and talking. We’ve continued even today. If I get a sense that someone is having a hard time, I’ll text them and invite them to walk and talk. It’s a great way to communicate with people, to breathe fresh air, to look at nature and think things through...So if we leave here and someone texts me, I’ll be there to walk!
I would say to follow your heart and passion and vision and that will lead you to where you’re supposed to be...Get up every day and be grateful and follow your passion. Work hard. Everything else will come...And, don’t give up! Literally! I think the reason for my success was several failures. So many times I have failed and I learned. Take that failure and learn from it and grow. And, don’t give up!
“I never focused on the money...I always focused on the people first—the clients and the employees. And everything else comes from that positive place.”
Vanessa Durrant’s pace is a DC city pace. “I grew up in Northern Virginia and it has influenced every realm of my life till this day,” she said. Her realm is Kindred Tree Healing Center, a trusted holistic mental health practice for children and adults using an attachment, integrative and holistic approach to mental health and parenting. One of the issues they address is trauma, a condition
familiar to Vanessa from childhood. She founded Kindred Tree in 2016.
As a child, Vanessa’s family had to flee from the dangers of civil war. Her father held a high position within the school systems in El Salvador and anyone in the education field became a target for the guerrilla soldiers.
She remembers her whole neighborhood being held hostage. For several days, the family hid between two upright mattresses hoping to be shielded from bullets.
Because of her father’s position, the family acquired visas and plane tickets to leave the country for a few months to ride out the war; however, the war didn’t end. They had run from danger, yet now they had nothing. Living with relatives in Texas and then Los Angeles, they sought new opportunities. Finally, they settled in Northern Virginia, a greener place that reminded them of home and rebuilt their lives from scratch. Vanessa’s story is one of strength, survival and resilience. Like others who flee their native countries, she has had to reclaim healing and joy in a country that was not her own.
As a three-year-old, Vanessa had told her aunts she wanted to be a psychiatrist. As she matured, she realized the career she meant was a therapist. She was hungry for knowledge and information about psychology, reading college texts in high school and garnering internships as an undergrad.
After earning her Master’s degree, Vanessa became deeply rooted in the non-profit world in Virginia as a therapist and clinical director. In 2015, her family relocated to Frederick. New to the county and without a network of any kind, Vanessa decided to start her own business.
“One day I was out walking when the name Kindred Tree Healing Center came to me intuitively. I have no idea where it came from, but I knew that was the name of my new business. When I returned home, I sat and pondered, ‘Why?’
“I had no history with trees or thoughts about the name of my business. Having had that inspiration, I started researching trees and learning about how they live. I fell in love with the Herman Hesse piece about trees that’s on our home page,” she said. Vanessa then paused in a moment of reflection. “Maybe I do know where the name came from,” she realized. She went on to tell of how former clients had a shared love of a Tree of Life tapestry Vanessa had barely been able to afford as a new college graduate. Reflection is a part of her work.
“Although I used ‘Center’ in the name when I started my business in 2016, I was a ‘solopreneur.’ The business name
attracts clients with kindred healing journeys, those who will work hard and go deep into the root of issues. It also attracted prospective staff members as the business grew. During the pandemic, our services were all delivered via telehealth, but the business grew tremendously. I now have nine other therapists working with me. Being able to work in person again is so gratifying,” she said. She defines their work as meaningful healing relationships. “We work with others, but we walk our talk as therapists, too. Although we are all different, we grow, just like trees,” she emphasized.
Like trees growing together, Kindred Tree Healing Center serves families and individuals. Their practice is holistic in many ways, from the clinical tools they use to the challenges they address. They provide therapies like EMDR, Brainspotting, Neurofeedback, Play Therapy, Expressive Arts and Nature based therapy. Additionally they offer Yoga, Reiki and Ayurveda. Their clients come from all walks of life, from trauma to anxiety, depression, divorce or grief, they thoughtfully support everyone they serve.
Asked about Mothers’ Day, Vanessa shared a few thoughts. “Sometimes you just need to pause and stand back,” she said. “On hard days, know that you’re doing the best you can. Pay attention to your intuition. Trust your gut. Don’t get overwhelmed by the books, people’s advice and social media. No one knows your child like you know your child.”
Vanessa strongly advises also doing some self-reflection about why you are doing and saying what you are as a parent. It’s to society’s advantage when we operate on auto-pilot “When we know better, we do better,” she said.
In 2022, Vanessa opened a second office in Alexandria, Virginia. Kindred Tree Healing Center now serves Maryland, Virginia and Washington, D.C. She’s currently working on yet another exciting project that she will be ready to reveal in a few more months.
With all the work in her life, it’s a wonder she finds time to balance life. “I work hard, but I relax hard, too,” Vanessa confessed. “I live with nature. I can spend thirty minutes wrapped in a blanket on the couch just staring at the birds.
“We work with others, but we walk our talk as therapists, too. Although we are all different, we grow, just like trees.”
“I love painting and am a professional photographer. I spent time teaching my son to photograph birds when homeschooling. I share painting and other artistic interests with my daughter.”
Vanessa works hard for work life balance. The staff also work three-four days a week. “Of course, a business owner never really stops,” she then admitted. “I balance my high pace with R&R for a sound mind.”
“Summer is the “pitta” season in Ayurveda. It’s a season of doing, heat and fire. Vanessa advises balancing the fire and the doing with opposing energies. “Find time in water. Go slower. Do less intense workouts.
Avoid heavy foods. Eat fresh.” She then added, “Summer goes so fast. Find ways to have fun, but don’t over-schedule. Cool your mind, body and your spirit.”
Vanessa envisioned retiring to Charlottesville’s farms, mountains, wineries and green spaces.
She has grown to really appreciate Frederick County and all its access to nature. “It’s great for personal relaxation and for parenting. Hiking the trails or picking berries, peaches and apples is so much fun. My family used to travel long distances to get to trails or outdoor activities. Now it’s all around us. It’s in our backyard.”
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“I live with nature. I can spend thirty minutes wrapped in a blanket on the couch just staring at the birds.”
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The moms and the mother figures in our lives mean everything to us. They deserve the best every day, of course. But at least one day out of the year, we get to shower them with the same love and thoughtfulness they give to us so selflessly.
This year, we hope you’ll consider some memorable ways to make lasting memories with the mom or mother figure in your life. If you haven’t already planned something special, take a look at our list of ideas and circle your favorites. If you have kids, let them join in the fun too!
Whether you decide to spend a day at home or enjoy a day on the town, these innovative celebration ideas will include fun for the whole family and make Mom feel loved. Whatever activity or surprise you land on to show your mom, wife, sister or maternal figure your appreciation for all they do, the most important thing is that you all get to spend some quality time together.
Whether you make the brews and treats yourself or head out to an official tea house, Mom will love sipping her beverage out of fancy china and snacking on tea sandwiches.
This activity is especially fun if you have a lot of kids who want to get in on the action. Then, when you all get home, you can whip up a treat for Mom with your selections. (Maybe give her a strawberry in a Champagne glass while she waits.)
There’s no day like Mother’s Day to be impulsive! Book a weekend trip for the two of you at a cute B&B in a city Mom has always wanted to visit.
Find a puzzle with an image you know your mom will love (or make a custom one using a photo of the two of you) and put it together over wine and snacks. You’ll be amazed at how much chatting you can get done while puzzling.
Take a Flower Arranging Class
Mother’s Day arrives just as spring is in full bloom. Take advantage of the season by going to a flower arranging class with mom.
A curated selection of the most intriguing upcoming events in our area.
MAY 3RD
BAKER PARK BANDSHELL, FREDERICK, MD | 5:30 PM
The 10th Annual Frederick Youth Prayer Rally is where youth gather together and pray publicly for all levels of government and its leaders. The rally was born out of a vision to provide a platform for student-led events to encourage area youth to gather together and publicly pray for our local, state and national government and its leaders. NationalDayOfPrayer-Frederick. org/youth-rally
MAY 6TH & 7TH
The Frederick Running Festival Presented by Frederick Foot & Ankle
FREDERICK FAIRGROUNDS, 97 E. PATRICK ST., FREDERICK, MD
The Frederick Running Festival features both a 5k and Kids Fun Run on Saturday and half marathon and 2-person team relay on Sunday. All events start and end at the Frederick Fairgrounds. Runners can experience a big-time race with smalltown charm. FrederickRunFest.com
MAY 6TH
MAIN STREET MIDDLETOWN, 31 W. MAIN ST., MIDDLETOWN, MD | 10:00 AM
The Maryland House and Garden Pilgrimage is a beloved Maryland tradition to tour the state’s finest samples of architectural gems. Pilgrims will have access to tour the interiors of ten historic properties downtown, all within walking distance. Properties range in age, from the late 1700s to the early 20th century, and include notable Federal
style homes, elegant Victorian homes, one-of-a-kind commercial structures and the rarely seen interior of a turn-of-the-century operating room. Purchase tickets online: MainstreetMiddletown.org
MAY 12TH
NEW SPIRE ARTS, 5 W. PATRICK ST., FREDERICK, MD | 8:00 PM
The Ladies of Laughter Funny & Fabulous tour includes winners and the best talent from its heralded international competition. See three past winners: the suburban mom (Jane Condon), the lawyer turned comedian from Singapore (Jocelyn Chia) and the urban philosopher (Leighann Lord). Women's comedy programming has the sole purpose of highlighting, celebrating and furthering the careers of women in stand-up comedy. WeinbergCenter.org
MAY 13TH & 20TH
HARRY GROVE STADIUM, 21 STADIUM DRIVE, FREDERICK, MD
Introducing a NEW Atlantic League Professional Baseball (ALPB) team to Frederick! In 2016, ALPB became the first independent professional baseball league to sign a working agreement with Major League Baseball. In 2020, ALPB became the first professional partner league of MLB. Come to the game to support the new team and stay for fireworks after the game. FrederickAtlanticLeague.com
MAY 20TH
22 SOUTH MARKET ST., FREDERICK, MD | 1:00 PM
Federated Charities will host a Bonus-Garden Tour station in the heart of Downtown Frederick. Sit in the lovely vintage garden space and enjoy refreshments. Everyone is invited to attend, whether or not you’ve purchased tour tickets. Enjoy the tour for the entire weekend, but be sure to stop by on Saturday for a quick respite.
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Does your mom love baseball and sporting events? Did you know that Frederick is welcoming a new baseball team this spring? As the Atlantic League of Professional Baseball is celebrating its 24th season, Frederick is introducing a new team to the league. This is the hottest ticket in town!
The Atlantic League of Professional Baseball (ALPB) offers the highest level of professional baseball other than Major League Baseball. Atlantic League players are highly experienced professionals, having progressed through professional baseball developmental levels (A, AA, AAA). More than 40% of ALPB players have major league service time.
Over 1,000 of the league’s players have signed contracts with MLB organizations and over 100 players have been transferred to MLB. The league averages more than 50 player contracts to MLB organizations annually. Over 70 former Atlantic League players and coaches are managers or coaches in MLB organizations.
Frederick’s Manager, Mark Minicozzi, is currently recruiting for the new team. Among those who have already signed include Jimmy Paredes (played for the Orioles and other MLB teams for six years) and Dovydas Neverauskas (pitched for the Pittsburg Pirates for four years). Press releases will continue to share updates as the team is formed.
The name of Frederick’s new team will be unveiled on Friday, June 23rd as the players run onto Nymeo Field. Following over 1500 submissions from the community for the “Name the Team” promotion, the following five finalist names were presented for a vote: Bone Shakers (referring to penny-farthing bicycles), Ghost Hounds (referring to an urban legend), Rail Frogs (a railroad reference), Sawbones (a reference to Civil War medicine) and Screaming Alpacas (noises the animals make).
The season starts May 2nd and extends through September 10th. Player uniforms will display question marks as we eagerly await the announcement of the team name!
(SPECIAL NOTE: The Frederick Keys MLB Draft League will be back at Harry Grove Stadium for its third season beginning on June 1st. The first home game is on Friday, June 3rd. Yes, expect fireworks!)
Sunday, May 14, 2023 12:00PM - 2:30PM
Carving Station
Scrambled Eggs
Bacon
Sausage
Chicken
Roasted Potatoes
Salad
Fruit
The exclusive tickets for Mother’s Day Brunch at Harry Grove Stadium may be pre-purchased online or at the ticket office on game day for $47. Each ticket includes seating in The Mattress Warehouse Club level, Fun Zone wrist band and the special all-you-can-eat brunch from 12:00PM - 2:30PM. Limited space is available for the Mother’s Day Brunch ticket package. FrederickAtlanticLeague.com
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