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FAMILY VALUES THROUGH THE LENS OF AUDREY THOMAS

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Table of

Contents Family Values Through the Lens of Audrey Thomas

Being a Blessing to Others During the Holiday Season

by Gabrielle J. Williams Just Leadership by Dr. Rolanda Horn 44 Moving Beyond Resolutions: A Vision Board for the New Year

by Dr. Christine C. Thomas Family Values Around the World 56

Graves Disease Awareness by Rumonda D. Adams

It’s Always the Season to be Grateful by Dr. Ashley C. Thomas

Making a Conscious Choice to “Bump Dots” in the New Year

by Dr. Herb Thomas, Jr. The Tech Coach: An In-Depth Guide to Choosing Between

M1 Finance, Webull, and Robinhood

THE TEAM

Christine C. Thomas

Rumonda D. Adams

Raymond Green

Editor-In-Chief

Staff Writer

Rolanda Horn

Ashley C. Thomas

Herb Thomas, Jr.

Staff Writer

Staff Writer & Editor

Staff Writer

Kimberly L. Thomas

Gabrielle J. Williams

Staff Writer

H a p p y N e w Ye a r L E G A C Y Tr i b e !

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Dr. Christine C. Thomas Editor-In-Chief

Dear LEGACY Tribe, As we wrap up 2023 with our final issue, I’m filled with gratitude and excitement. This winter edition, themed around family values, features an enlightening interview with Ms. Audrey Thomas from Houston, Texas, whose life story epitomizes the essence of familial bonds and legacy. “Family Values through the Lens of Audrey Thomas” is a conversation with me, delving deep into the heart of what makes our families the bedrock of our lives. Join us in exploring thought-provoking articles like “Just Leadership” by Dr. Rolanda Horn. I’ve also shared my insights in “Moving Beyond Resolutions: A Vision Board for the New Year.” Additionally, the issue includes “Being a Blessing to Others During the Holiday Season” by Gabrielle J. Williams, “Graves Disease Awareness” by Rumonda Adams, “It’s Always the Season to be Grateful” by Dr. Ashley C. Thomas, “Making a Conscious Choice to Bump Dots in the New Year” by Dr. Herb Thomas, Jr., and “An In-Depth Guide to Choosing Between M1 Finance, Webull, and Robinhood” by Raymond Green. Each piece in this issue is curated to inspire and uplift you as we step into a New Year. Our goal is to offer you a blend of guidance, inspiration, and reflection. Happy reading and Happy New Year! Christine C. Thomas, Ph.D. Editor-in-Chief

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I was fortunate to connect with Audrey Thomas last year. Her poignant story and the family values that shaped her path left a profound mark. Audrey spoke affectionately about her parents instilling core principles in her and her siblings—values woven into the fabric of who they are. Hearing her journey of love, discipline, and wisdom, I felt compelled to share her narrative. In this issue, we explore how family values become enduring legacies, forming the heritage that passes between generations. We encourage self-reflection on the principles you aim to transmit to future generations. Consider the values that serve as guiding lights for your family. Is it compassion, forgiveness, generosity, humility, gratitude, and dedication? Defining these values provides clarity when passing them on to future generations. Audrey’s tale offers rare insight into family virtues in action. Her story gives testament to how core values build character, inform decisions, and nurture belonging. We glimpse her parents’ lasting influence through her eyes. We witness Audrey passing lessons to her children. Her narrative reveals the flexibility of family traditions while retaining their essence. Join me now as we step into Audrey’s world—one woman shaped by values that steer and sustain. Discover how enduring principles plant seeds lead to unexpected harvests years beyond. “Audrey, thank you for joining us for this interview. Could you please introduce yourself and provide some background about your family and its values?”

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Introduction Background:

Your

Family

and

Our household mirrored the traditional African American family structure, with my father as the

I am Audrey Arletta Claudette Thomas, a

decisive head and my mother as the nurturing

dedicated nurse with over four decades of

soul, skillfully managing the family’s finances

experience in the healthcare field. I am blessed

and emotional well-being. Both my sisters and I

with two amazing daughters: my eldest, Alyssa

relished the unique experience of attending the

Smith (along with my grandsons Isaiah and

same high school where our mother worked, a

Asaiah), and my youngest, Rhiana Boatwright.

connection that brought a special dimension to our adolescent years.

My story is deeply rooted in the values and heritage of my parents, Anthony Oliver Thomas

Raised in an environment filled with discipline,

from Gulfport, Mississippi, and Ernestine Troy

love, and a strong focus on education, I have

Thomas from Jacksonville, Florida. They settled

grown and flourished. The principles and life

in Seattle, Washington, from 1959 to 2022,

stories of my parents have deeply shaped my

creating a home rich in tradition and ambition

identity.

for my sisters, Jennifer Thomas and Jacquelyn

parents. Spirituality played a significant role in

Thomas, and me.

our upbringing. My mother’s Christian faith was

We absorbed life’s lessons from our

a steady presence in our home, contrasted with Their journey began at Howard University,

my father’s more private spiritual journey. This

where they crossed paths in a chemistry lab

dynamic made for an interesting childhood,

during the late 1950s. My mother, majoring in

where Sundays were reserved for church, a

French, and my father, focusing on Electrical

non-negotiable family ritual.

Engineering, both came from African American

forthcoming in explaining things we wanted to

families that deeply valued education and self-

know, leaving no topic off-limits. His approach

improvement. This legacy of perseverance and

combined strictness with ensuring we were

academic pursuit was a cornerstone of our

well-prepared for life. Unlike our parents, my

family ethos.

sisters and I didn’t attend HBCUs. My mother’s

My father was

family attended Florida A&M University and Post-graduation, they moved to Seattle. My

Tuskegee University, while my father’s siblings

father embarked on a successful career as an

mostly went to Prairie View A&M University

Aerospace Engineer with Boeing, while my

and Howard University. My father consistently

mother, a lifelong educator, initially taught

emphasized the importance of financial literacy,

French and later served as a Counselor at Garfield

teaching us the value of a dollar and the

High School – a school that boasts alumni

significance of saving and investing.

such as Quincy Jones and Jimi Hendrix. Her educational journey continued as she attained

“Family traditions play a crucial role in shaping

her master’s degree from Seattle University.

our values and creating lasting memories.

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Parents of Audrey Thomas Anthony Oliver and Enestine Troy Thomas 50th Wedding Anniversary 2008 Seattle Washington

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Sisters left to right (Jennifer, J 1965 - Seattle

Jacquelyn and Audrey Thomas) e, Washington

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Audrey with her Mother 1960 - Mt. Rainier, Washington 15

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Parents: Anthony & Ernestine Thomas 16 Audrey’s 2016 Birthday Visit to Seattle, WA

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Could you share some of your family’s most

Relatives from all over the country would visit

cherished traditions and explain how they

us in Seattle, Washington, often expressing

have influenced your family’s values?”

surprise with the question, “Do Black people really live in Seattle?” As I grew older, I began

The Significance of Family Traditions:

to understand why this question persisted and

Family

why it is still asked today.

traditions

are

indeed

pivotal

shaping our values and creating unforgettable memories. One cherished tradition in our

While the deep Southern traditions my parents

household centers around Christmas Eve. We

instilled in us may not be immediately apparent

would go to bed early, filled with anticipation,

in my day-to-day life, especially now that I live

still nurturing the magical thought of Santa

in Houston, Texas, surrounded by Southern

Claus. The excitement of waking up early in the

culture, my Pacific Northwest upbringing means

morning to open gifts was always tinged with

my Southern roots might not be immediately

curiosity about who helped Mom and Dad place

obvious.

those presents under the tree. Of course, Christmas Day was another highlight. A significant part of our celebration involved

Cousins would gather to choreograph a dance

helping, or at least observing, Mom as she

and put on a show for our elders. We did this

prepared the meal for Christmas Day. Then

every Christmas, always looking forward to it.

came

“The Thomas girls really knew how to put on a

the

highlight:

sitting

down

the

Christmas table, which my sisters and I had set,

show!”

and sharing the many stories we were eager to tell. This time of year, was always my favorite,

“Christmas is a time when families come

a period I eagerly awaited. I often found myself

together to celebrate. How has Christmas

wondering what it would be like when I grew

been significant in your family, and how do

older and had a family of my own.

you believe it contributes to strengthening family bonds and values?”

Christmas Eve was also a time for fellowship. After attending church, my mom, her friends, and family would gather for a seafood gumbo

The Role of Christmas in Your Family:

meal, a quintessential Southern dish. During

The bond within the Thomas family has always

these

overhearing

been remarkably strong, regardless of the

discussions about religion and politics among

occasion or time of year. Our parents imparted

the adults. My mother would often remind

their strong beliefs to my sisters and me, and

me that these were grown-up conversations,

these values also resonated with many of our

indicating that a child’s place was with other

friends. My parents often engaged in discussions

children, not around adults.

about the significance of family, which fueled

gatherings,

remember

my ongoing thirst for knowledge about our 17

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family traditions. This curiosity continues to

powerful influence. There was simply no other

this day.

way.

often

reminisce

about

our

Christmas

We lived in a beautiful home and never seemed to

celebrations, comparing notes with family

want or need anything, and naturally, we desired

members who couldn’t join us in Seattle. These

the same for ourselves as we entered adulthood.

shared experiences span from our childhood

Today, among the three sisters, we have five

to adulthood, forming a tapestry of family

granddaughters, all of whom are educated, with

memories. Despite living somewhat isolated in

one being a successful entrepreneur. Mom and

the Pacific Northwest, with many relatives in the

Dad, your teachings have served us well.

Midwest, South, and East Coast, our family unit remained one of the strongest in the Thomas

“Preserving family stories and traditions is

clan. My father, in particular, was revered as a

essential for future generations. Can you tell us

patriarchal figure among his siblings.

about the methods your family uses to document

Hearing stories about my father’s upbringing and

its legacy and ensure it’s passed on?”

learning intriguing details about our family tree always led to captivating conversations. I truly

Documenting Family Legacy:

miss those days of being a child, enveloped in

The Thomas family once had a website, now

the warmth and wisdom of our family’s stories.

defunct,

named

“Thomas

Family

Fixins.”

Additionally, our family tree was developed “The transmission of family values from one

almost 30 years ago by a first cousin. She was

generation to the next is a beautiful aspect of

able to trace our lineage back to the early 1800s

family life. Can you share examples of how

and first shared it during one of our annual

your family has successfully passed down its

family reunions. She continues to provide

values through the years?”

updated information via social media. Even today, I am still learning more about our family’s

Passing Down Generations:

Values

Through

beginnings and heritage.

When we were very young, our parents would

“As times change, families often adapt their

sit us down at the dinner table to discuss several

traditions to stay relevant. How does your

important topics: the value of a dollar, the

family strike a balance between honoring

importance of maintaining family connections,

longstanding traditions and embracing new

and why pursuing a college education is

values and customs?”

essential for success in this world. Considering both of my parents were college graduates from

Balancing Tradition with Modernity:

the Deep South, and most of their siblings also

Balancing tradition with modernity is now a task

attended college, my sister and I knew that

for the younger generation, which I like to call

compliance was expected under my father’s

the millennials. With many of our elders having

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Audrey and Daughters Rhiana (youngest) and Alyssa (eldest)

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passed on, these younger family members have

to Seattle, they would see that everyone like

taken the reins of our family traditions. They

me speaks the way I do, which they considered

are continuing the legacy of our family reunions

unusual. But I was determined not to let them

and preserving information via social media.

deny me my blackness. These encounters left

We have encouraged our offspring to carry on

me feeling extremely uncomfortable, and there

these traditions by any means necessary.

were several times when I nearly gave up on nursing school. My father, however, encouraged

“Could you share a specific family story or

me to persevere and not to surrender. He firmly

experience that vividly illustrates the importance

believed that no one, regardless of their skin

of your family’s values and how they’ve guided

color, should influence me to abandon my

your actions in your life and others in your

dreams. My dad was a significant influence and

family?”

did everything within his power to shield us from overt racism, or at least he believed he could.

Family Values in Action:

To cope with the pressures and challenges, my

When I decided to go to nursing school in

mother consistently advised the same solution:

Florida, I had never personally experienced

pray, read the scriptures, and trust that God

racism. Although my parents were from the

will guide you through every circumstance. I

Deep South and we visited my mother’s parents

am grateful for having encouraging parents and

in Jacksonville every summer, my sisters and I

family members who were supportive and eager

had somehow been shielded from it. We studied

to see me succeed.

African American history, a required course for high school graduation in Seattle, but we

I finished nursing school at the top of my class

had never witnessed anything akin to it before

and decided to move back to Seattle, where I

I left to pursue my pre-nursing education in

continued my career. The question lingered:

Jacksonville, Florida.

was I less Black because I came from a different place? Moving back home, my parents helped

Before I left, both my parents sat me down at the

me feel much better about who I was. And that

dinner table and explained that not everyone

reassurance was all I needed to continue on.

would want to be my friend. They warned me that despite growing up in a multi-ethnic

“What advice do you have for other families

cocoon, not everyone would be so accepting of

looking to strengthen their bonds and uphold

me. And they were right. I remember, in nursing

meaningful values, especially during the holiday

school, being teased not only by classmates, who

season?”

looked nothing like me, but also by professors who would taunt me and make me speak in

Advice for Other Families:

front of the class. They pointed out that I didn’t

Hold your loved ones dear and keep forgiveness

speak the way they did because I wasn’t from

in your heart. A praying family has the power

there. I remember telling them that if they came

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at bay. The younger generation should stay

“Before we conclude, is there a final message or

in touch with their elders and communicate

insight you’d like to share with our readers about

regularly. It’s crucial to never lose touch, as

the importance of family values and preserving

maintaining these connections is vital for

the legacy of family traditions?”

continuing the legacy, despite any differences of opinion. Often, offering just a listening ear can

Closing Thoughts:

be enlightening, as you might learn something

The foundation of a strong family begins with

new.

how members interact with each other. It’s important to cherish loved ones, establish new

“Looking ahead, how do you envision your

traditions when you see fit, pray and share

family’s legacy evolving in the future, and

together, understanding that no question is

what steps are you taking to ensure that your

too difficult to answer. . Family is everything.

family values continue to be a guiding force for

Anything you can do to keep the torch lit is

generations to come?”

all that matters. Never forget where you come from. My hope is that the values I’ve inherited from my parents will be embraced by future

Legacy and Future Generations:

generations, as they embody the essence of my

Legacy and future generations are crucial; our

family and provide a blueprint for nurturing

young ones must be informed that the torch is

a rich, interconnected legacy. These values

being passed to them. They are to continue the

include:

journey, carrying life’s lessons and values at the forefront. They are the essential link to our past

•

and future.

Education

and

Self-Improvement:

commitment to learning and personal growth.

“Are there any books, articles, or resources that

•

Strong Family Connections: Keeping

have inspired your family in shaping its values

family ties strong and communication

and traditions, which you’d like to recommend

open, especially with elders.

to our readers?”

•

Spiritual

Foundation:

Incorporating

spirituality and faith into everyday life.

Inspirational Resources:

•

The primary resource that comes to mind is the Bible. My mother devoted more than 10 years

Cultural Heritage and Legacy: Preserving and sharing family traditions and history.

•

Resilience and Adaptability: Balancing

to Bible study, so for me, that book holds the

tradition with changing times while

utmost importance. She instilled in us such love

staying true to core values.

and grace, emphasizing the power of God and the power of prayer.

•

Empathy and Understanding: Practicing active

listening

and

compassion

appreciate diverse perspectives. 24

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“Young people, you need to think about your future and where you are going in life.” Words of Wisdom from

ANTHONY OLIVER THOMAS January 13, 1929 – June 11, 2016

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LIMITLESS LOVE POEM

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In the world's vast expanse, love flourishes wide and unbound, Enveloping every being, from peaks tall to ocean's sound. Not only for the joyful, or those who walk our path, But love for the neglected, the complex, the ones we often pass. To those who oppose us, with views that starkly contrast, We give love, not bitterness, in life's grand and varied cast. In the gaze of every adversary, a narrative yet untold, A life pulsing with stories, brave and bold. For those who slight us, whether unaware or deliberate in their aim, We radiate love, dousing the flames of blame. In their harsh words, in deeds that sting, We find an opportunity for love, an offering. To those who challenge us, straining our patience and resolve, Love emerges as our response, our commitment to evolve. In the

face of hardship, we see not an enemy, But a reflection of our shared journey. To the ones who disrespect, through ignorance or in jest, We meet them with love, a heart's unyielding test. In each act of dishonor, an unspoken call, For compassion, for understanding, for empathy to befall. In the act of loving those deemed difficult, our greatest strength is revealed,A binding, healing force, in love's field. In each gesture of kindness, each moment of forgiveness we brave, Rests the formidable power of love, vast and deep as the wave. Let's love limitlessly, embracing each and every one, From adversary to ally, until the setting of the sun. For within every soul, there's a spark that deserves light, Worthy of love, glowing eternally bright.

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BEING A BLESSING TO OTHERS DURING THE HOLIDAY SEASON by Gabrielle J. Williams

It is officially the holiday season! The homes and streets are decked with beautiful Christmas trees and bright lights. There are gorgeous wreaths hanging from every sight. We wait in line and search the internet for the perfect gift to wrap in lovely wrapping paper. A time for baking cookies and singing carols with your loved ones. It is a time of spreading cheer and joy to those we love so dear. We prepare to make sure everything is to our liking and to our perfection. However, we can become so wrapped up in our own prepping and planning, that we can easily forget about those who are less fortunate than us or those who are just not in the Christmas spirit. We pass by them daily. The ones who are laying outside of the concert hall that just let out after a Christmas concert. The ones who are on the side of the road not far from the parking lot of the store where we are planning to buy Christmas gifts. The person that we would easily become labeled a grinch because they are not in the Christmas spirit. The ones who are just looking for a meal or a blanket to survive the cold, winter night. How can we bring the holiday cheer to them? How can we be a blessing to others? As a Christian, it is very important that we help others. It’s built in our DNA. Jesus is our example to look up to when it comes to giving a helping hand. 30

He spent a lot of his life teaching and helping others. He even gave us examples of how to be a good Samaritan in the book of Luke and we will circle back around to that. The book of Proverbs in the bible speaks a lot about helping others. In Matthew 22:39, Jesus commanded that we should love our neighbors as ourselves. That is a commandment so no negotiations there. God blessed us to be a blessing to others. What exactly does that mean? It means we are living and working out our faith in a way that makes a positive impact on the people around us. We are letting the light inside of us shine for people to see Christ. It is easy to say that we love others, but it is the actions of that love that puts the proof in the pudding. 1 John 3:18 says, “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” God blessed us with gifts, talents, and resources so that we can turn around and be a blessing to others. When we give to others, we are sharing the love of Jesus. He blesses us and meets our needs so we can turn these into opportunities to give back to others. Jesus does not want us to keep all our blessings to ourselves. If you leave a store and have a little extra change, bless someone who may be struggling or even a little kid who may need change for the soda machine. If your meal is not as high, donate an extra dollar or so to the children’s hospital. You can purchase and do-

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nate new toys for children in need with charities such as Toys for Tots. If you have it, use it as an opportunity to bless others. Blessing others is not limited to a monetary resource. You can also use the gift of encouragement to help those who are having a hard time emotionally during this season. During the holiday season, many people deal with grief. There are people who have lost family members either recently or years prior and are having a tough time right now. Memories start to become clear causing emotions to rise, and the empty presence is ever so strong. Some are just not in the spirit to celebrate. How can you be a blessing in these situations? One can start with just a smile. You never know how many bad days you can brighten with just a smile and kindness. I know you have heard the saying, “Be kind, you never know how heavy a load someone is carrying.” It cost nothing to show kindness. You never know what people are dealing with. Another way to be a blessing in this area is to be a good listener and be present. Also, pray with and pray for those who are emotionally having a hard time this season. Grieving is not just limited to death. It can be grieving a breakup, a friendship, a job, sickness, or any major detour in life. Be gentle, caring, and kind. I remember having a co-worker who was going through a hard time. I decided to burn a cd full of gospel songs and write encouraging scriptures in a letter and reminding them of how much God loves them. You know what was interesting? We were not on good terms and always bumped heads. But I had empathy and compassion for their situation. This is another thing about being a blessing to others. It may not be someone you always get along with. God will put you in a position to bless those that you may not favor too much or vice versa. Matthew 5:44 says, “But I say, love your enemies. Pray for those who persecute you. (45) In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. No matter what, we must walk what we preach and believe. The ones we see and label as the “Christmas grinch” are the ones who need that extra kindness and compassion.

Did you know that by lending a helping hand, it can affect how you see yourself as well as your life? Here are three ways how helping others can positively affect your life:

DISTRACTION FROM SELF AND HOLIDAY STRESS With the holiday season being such a stressful time, it has been proven that helping others can distract you from that stress and replace it with compassion and gratitude. It puts your life in perspective. You start to understand what really matters during this season and how blessed you really are. The complaining starts to die down and cease because you know that life could be worse and that you are thankful for your portion that God has blessed you with. God wants us to always operate in a spirit of thankfulness. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, “Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” Helping others benefits our mental health and wellbeing. It improves our mood, self-esteem, and happiness. So, when you feel the urge to complain about your life, remember to count your blessings instead of your problems. There are people out there that would rather have your problems, than the ones they are faced with now.

SENSE OF PURPOSE AND CONNECTION WITH YOUR COMMUNITY I would have to say I connect with this one very well. I joined the mission’s ministry at my church earlier this year. I wanted a way to be able to help those who are less fortunate than myself. Being able to give away clothes and chat with people, understanding their stories, have been quite a blessing to my life. It is something that I can get excited about as well as enhancing my overall sense of purpose and identity. I feel like my purpose on this earth is to help people with the gifts and talents He has blessed me with. Some projects I have been able to do lately is collect 31

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blankets for the homeless for the cold, winter months. I have been able to use my resources to purchase 50 blankets this month as well as collect donated blankets from family, friends, and co-workers. It’s a cause dear to my heart because I struggle with the winter weather and my mind immediately goes to the homeless and I pray that there are warming shelters open for them. I just could not imagine having to sleep in this gruesome weather. So being able to finally have the resources to do this makes me feel good on the inside. Helping others connects us with our community and leads us to meet others who have the same mindset about the cause. It reduces loneliness, isolation, and an idle mind. It is very important that we find a way to volunteer. It causes us to be more physically active as well as socially active creating an overall positive well-being.

compassion towards the Jew. He pretty much nursed him back to health by soothing his wounds, even getting him a hotel to stay in while offering to pay the bill if his stay was extended. The Samaritan not only showed compassion, but he showed mercy. In vs. 37, Jesus said, “Yes, now go and do the same.” Many times, people will turn their noses up to people who need help and walk right past them. We saw that in the parable. Proverbs 22:2 is a reminder of why we should not. It says, “The rich and poor have this in common: The Lord made them both.” Everyone is created by God. We should not look down on others. We should have compassion and humility because we never know when the tables may turn. He wants us to emulate that type of mercy that was shown by the good Samaritan. He wants us to extend our hand and show the love that He gives daily.

HAVING EMPATHY AND COMPASSION FOR OTHERS

It is important that we understand the true meaning of the Christmas season. While the holiday gatherings and presents are nice, we must remember those that will not be able to enjoy these things. There are so many ways you can make a positive impact in someone’s life during the holidays. Here are some ideas:

We must admit it. This world can be very self-centered, and self-absorbed especially during the holiday season. We’ve seen the various Black Friday shopping videos of people pushing others over to get the deals and steals. Snatching toys from the hands of kids and the various fights that occur. Seems like no one has any empathy or compassion towards anyone. It seems to be all about self. Compassion and empathy are very similar words. Compassion is defined as sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings and misfortunes of others. Empathy is defined as the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Jesus wants us to show compassion for others just as He did. There are several examples in the bible where Jesus showed compassion towards others whether he was feeding the 5,000, weeping with those who wept at Lazarus’ grave, or healing the sick. He also taught an example in Luke 10, where a Jew was robbed and attacked by bandits and left on the side of the road. Various people passed by him offering no help at all. It was not until a Samaritan came along and showed 32

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Volunteer at a local shelter or soup kitchen. Greet people with cheer as a bell ringer for the Salvation Army. Help a busy mother by helping clean and/or cook a meal. Visit a nursing home and spend time talking to the residents. Donate your old clothing to someone in need Sponsor a family. Send holiday cards to veterans. Write encouraging notes to those who need it.

Remember, Jesus is the reason for the season! So, let’s spread His love to everyone far and near.

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BAKING BLISS Discovering Inspiration with

Caked Up by Bri and FoodieBoy By Christine C. Thomas, Ph.D.

Baking videos have quickly become a delightful and inspiring part of my daily routine, especially those by bakers whose work I’ve been following on YouTube. Their innovative approaches to baking, combined with their creative presentation styles, make their channels a treasure trove for anyone interested in the culinary arts. I’ve been particularly captivated by the channel “Caked Up By Bri,” where the baker’s skill in cake decorating is nothing short of artistic genius. The intricate icing techniques and the unique designs featured in each video are a visual feast. Additionally, “FoodieBoy” offers a delightful variety of content, ranging from mouth-watering pastries to beautifully crafted bread. The creativity and passion of these bakers shine through in every video they produce. I thought it would be wonderful to share some of these videos with you, hoping they might inspire you as much as they have inspired me. Watching these bakers at work is not only entertaining but also a joyous learning experience for anyone interested in baking. You can easily find these bakers and their exceptional work on YouTube. For a taste of creative cake designs and decoration tips, visit Caked Up By Bri at https://www.youtube.com/@cakedupbybri. For those interested in a broader range of baked goods and pastry techniques, FoodieBoy’s YouTube is a fantastic resource for a variety of cooking escapades at https://www. foodieboy.co.kr Their channels are a testament to the joy and artistry of baking, and I highly recommend them to fellow baking enthusiasts.

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Happy Birthday!!! DECEMBER BABIES! By Ashley C. Thomas

Do you celebrate your birthday in December and find it overshadowed by the Christmas season? December birthdays often get overlooked amid holiday travels, party preparations, and the season’s overall frenzy. Recognizing this, I’ve crafted a special YouTube video titled ‘December Babies’, highlighting the unique experiences and challenges of those born in this festive month. This video is amusing yet insightful depiction of the quintessential challenges faced by those celebrating birthdays in December!

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For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. John 3:16-18, KJV

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MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR. American religious leader and civil-rights activist

January 15, 1929 – April 4, 1968

In commemorating the life and legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., a visionary leader, and an unwavering advocate for justice, we are reminded of the profound impact he had not only on the Civil Rights Movement but on the course of history. Dr. King's philosophy of nonviolence and his passionate pursuit of equality have become beacons of hope and inspiration for generations. His eloquent speeches, most notably the iconic "I Have a Dream" address, resonate as powerfully today as they did over half a century ago, reminding us of the enduring struggle for civil rights and social justice. Dr. King's dedication to creating a world where people are judged not by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character, has left an indelible mark on society. His courage in the face of adversity, his unwavering commitment to peace, and his tireless efforts to bring about change through love and understanding continue to guide us. As we honor his memory, we reaffirm our commitment to the ideals he championed and recognize the journey that still lies ahead in achieving true equality and justice for all. Dr. King's dream remains a guiding light in our quest for a more equitable and just society. His legacy is not just a reflection of the past, but a living, breathing inspiration that urges us forward, reminding us of the power of unity, the strength of nonviolent resistance, and the enduring importance of fighting for what is right. Today, we honor Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., not only as a historic figure but as a continuing source of inspiration and a reminder of our collective responsibility to uphold the values of justice, equality, and peace.

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R E C O G N I Z I NG C E AWA R E N E S

As we step into January, we are not just welcoming a new year, but also embracing an opportunity to focus on an essential aspect of women's health. January is Cervical Health Awareness Month, symbolized by the teal ribbon, a powerful reminder for us all to engage in conversations and actions regarding cervical health. Cervical cancer, once one of the most common causes of cancer death for American women, has seen a significant decrease in mortality rates, thanks to the increased use of the Pap test. This remarkable progress demonstrates the power of awareness and early detection. However, the battle is far from over. Cervical cancer is still a critical issue worldwide, often caused by the Human Papillomavirus (HPV). The good news? Cervical cancer is one of the most preventable types of cancer. Here’s what you can do: 1. Get Regular Screenings: Pap tests (or Pap smears) are crucial for detecting cervical changes before they turn into cancer. Women should start getting regular Pap tests from age 21. 2. Know about HPV Vaccines: HPV vaccines can prevent the majority of cases of cervical cancer if given before girls or women are exposed to the virus. 3. Stay Informed: Knowledge is power. Learn about the risk factors, symptoms, and pre-

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vention methods for cervical cancer. 4. Spread the Word: Use your voice and platforms to educate others. Share resources and encourage the women in your life to get regular screenings. 5. Support Research and Survivors: Contribute to organizations that fund cervical cancer research and support survivors and their families.

This Cervical Health Awareness Month let's commit to taking proactive steps for our health and encourage our loved ones to do the same. Early detection and prevention are key. Wear your teal ribbon proudly, not just as a symbol of awareness, but as a badge of responsibility to care for and educate ourselves and others about cervical health. Remember, your health is in your hands, and together, we can make a significant impact in the fight against cervical cancer. Let’s make this month count! Visit the following Website for more information: https://www.nccc-online.org/

JUST LEADE

You’ve earned your doctoral degree and climbed the ladder from manager to coordinator, then director, and now vice president. You’re at the top, thinking, “I’ve made it. I can come and go as I please, and others must obey me. I’m an expert in my field; I am the leader.” But, is this the essence of leadership? Is it really about exerting authority and distancing yourself from those who work “for you” daily? My brother, my sister, we need to delve into the Word of God, which unveils His truths and expectations for leaders. It’s just not leadership. It’s just leadership. The Bible refers to leaders as “rulers,” highlighting the responsibility of governing or managing people. As God’s people, we should strive to lead in His name, free from selfish motives. Colossians 3:23-24 instructs, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, knowing that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.” Paul urges us to work as if for the Lord, not for ourselves or others. Leadership isn’t meant to be self-centered; it’s a divine opportunity to use our gifts to honor God while serving and influencing others. Leaders must be willing to submit to authority and exemplify the attitudes and practices they expect of others.

ERSHIP By Rolanda Horn, Ph.D.

What does God say about ruling others? Deuteronomy 16:18-20 instructs, “You shall appoint judges and officers in all your gates, which the Lord your God gives you, according to your tribes, and they shall judge the people with just judgment. You shall not pervert justice; you shall not show partiality, nor take a bribe, for a bribe blinds the eyes of the wise and twists the words of the righteous. You shall follow what is altogether just, that you may live and inherit the land which the Lord your God is giving you”. The scripture emphasizes the significance of appointing leaders, known in Biblical times as judges and officers. God explicitly outlines the practices and behaviors expected of those in leadership positions, guiding how they should conduct themselves while fulfilling their roles. Warning Against Perverting Justice Firstly, God cautions us against the perversion of justice. The fact that this admonition comes first in the scripture highlights its profound importance to Him, in His roles as Father, King, and the ultimate leader of humanity. ‘Per-

vert’ here refers to misusing or distorting the meaning, as defined by Merriam-Webster. In today’s world, and even in the workplace, we witness leaders manipulating laws, policies, and procedures to justify their wrongdoings. However, God expressly forbids such actions. His warning implies an awareness of the dangers that such behavior poses to us, the people, and the organizations we serve. This kind of conduct can lead to further self-justifying habits that are harmful both to those under our leadership and to our professional standing. The story of Saul illustrates this well; his journey from humility to a disposition marked by selfishness, pride, greed, and disobedience. Proverbs 28:16 (Amplified) states, “A leader who is a great oppressor lacks understanding and common sense [and his wickedness shortens his days], but he who hates unjust gain will [be blessed and] prolong his days.” As leaders, God has positioned us in various sectors of the marketplace to represent Him in ways that attract others to Him, fostering growth, development, and holistic healing while we strive to achieve organizational goals. Leaders Should Avoid Partiality God’s guidance includes a directive against showing partiality. As defined by Webster’s, partiality is a state of bias. This principle speaks directly to the need for equality and equity in the workplace. As leaders, it’s our responsibility not only to advocate for equality but also to dismantle barriers that might hinder equal opportunities within our organizations. This necessitates a self-examination to recognize and address any implicit biases we may harbor. Often, we might unknowingly make decisions influenced by someone’s appearance, socio-economic background, associations, or other underlying factors. John 7:24 (Amplified) advises, “Do not judge by appearance [superficially and arrogantly], but judge fairly and righteously.” This scripture challenges us to scrutinize our hidden motives and intentions. Although it may be instinctive to favor those, we are familiar with, the Word urges us to base our judgments on fair and righteous principles, ensuring our leadership reflects integrity and justice.

Avoid Taking Bribes Lastly, God cautions leaders against accepting bribes. In Hebrew, ‘shochad’ refers to a bribe, which Merriam-Webster defines as a favor given or promised to influence others. Although typically associated with money, bribes can vary from promises of positions to other forms of advantages and rewards. These exchanges, whether active or passive, always result in some kind of benefit and are almost invariably unethical. Bribes are perilous as they pave the way for additional sins, leading to a cascade of negative consequences and ultimately destruction. Exodus 23:8 (Amplified) states, “You shall not accept a bribe, for a bribe blinds the clear-sighted and subverts the testimony and the cause of the righteous.” This injunction was given to Israel to prevent the distortion of judgment and the failure to maintain righteousness. Accepting bribes is not just sinful; in a professional context, it is tantamount to stealing or engaging in unethical conduct. Concluding Reflections God’s selection of us as leaders goes beyond our skills; it’s rooted in His trust in us to care for the souls and hearts of those under our stewardship. Therefore, our leadership approach and practices ought to honor Him and uplift those we are tasked to serve. The Bible clearly outlines the blessings bestowed upon those who govern justly, following God’s commands. Deuteronomy 16:20 states, “You shall follow what is altogether just, that you may live and inherit the land which the Lord your God is giving you.” This promise of an inheritance linked to how we conduct ourselves in leadership roles underscores the importance God places on the well-being of others. This principle is echoed in Colossians, the initial scripture referenced here, where Paul reminds us that in serving the Lord through our work, we can anticipate a reward. Leadership, therefore, is more than a title or position; it’s a profound responsibility and a profound vocation. It’s just not leadership. It’s just leadership.

FINANCIAL PLANNING IN THE NEW YEAR

With the arrival of the new year, it's an opportune time for families to take a closer look at their financial situation and plan for the upcoming year. Effective financial planning involves careful consideration of spending, saving, and managing various household expenses. This guide offers practical advice to help families achieve financial stability and success. Creating a budget is a fundamental step in understanding and managing your family’s finances. It should account for all income sources and expenses, including necessities like housing, utilities, groceries, and transportation, as well as discretionary spending such as dining out, entertainment, or vacations. Utilize free online budgeting tools to track and analyze your spending patterns. The goal is to ensure that your essential expenses do not exceed your income, and to identify areas where adjustments can be made. Given the rising costs of education, starting a college savings plan, even for young children, is crucial. One effective way to do this is by setting up a 529 plan, which offers tax benefits and allows your savings to grow over time. Commit to regular contributions to this fund and explore additional options like scholarships and financial aid to complement your savings. Unlike fixed expenses, variable expenses such as groceries and utilities can fluctuate. Implement strategies like meal planning to reduce food costs and dining out expenses. Adopt energy-saving measures to lower utility bills. Additionally, consider shopping at discount retailers for children’s clothing and activities. Managing these variable expenses effectively can create significant savings over time. Begin the new year by aligning your family on financial priorities. Discuss and agree on practical spending plans, focusing on areas that require more strict budgeting. Consistently tracking your finances, adopting smart saving strategies, and controlling expenses are key practices that will help your family stay on track to meet your financial goals for the year. Financial planning is a continuous process that requires diligence and commitment. By following these guidelines, families can navigate their financial journey more confidently, ensuring a stable and prosperous year ahead. Remember, the key to successful financial management lies in regular review, open communication about financial goals, and making informed decisions that align with your family's long-term objectives.

As the New Year dawns, many of us find ourselves engaging in the annual tradition of setting resolutions. However, this year, let’s shift our focus from mere resolutions to something more meaningful and enduring: cultivating a vision for the year ahead. A vision, unlike a resolution, is not just a goal to be checked off a list; it is a guiding star that directs our journey throughout the year. Resolutions often fall into the trap of being overly specific and rigid, such as losing a certain amount of weight or saving a specific amount of money. While these goals are admirable, they often lack the flexibility and depth needed to accommodate the unpredictable nature of life. Moreover, resolutions tend to focus on what we lack or need to fix, which can become demotivating over time. As the New Year unfolds, it presents an opportunity not just for self-improvement but for spiritual alignment. Creating a vision board focused on fulfilling God's purpose for your life can be a deeply meaningful exercise. This vision board is more than just a collection of personal goals; it is a visual representation and commitment to aligning your life's journey with God's plan, as guided by scripture. Typical New Year's resolutions may focus on material or personal achievements, but a vision board centered on God's purpose goes deeper. It aims to harmonize your personal ambitions with spiritual growth and service, in line with Proverbs 16:3: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans." This verse underscores the importance of entrusting your endeavors and aspirations to God’s wisdom. Steps to Create a God-Centered Vision Board 1. Start with Prayer and Scripture: Begin your vision board process with prayer, seeking guidance and clarity about His plan for you. Reflect on impactful scriptures, such as Jeremiah 29:11, "For I know the plans I have for

you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." This verse can serve as a powerful reminder of God’s benevolent vision for your life. Gather Inspirational Elements: Collect images, quotes, and other items that resonate with your spiritual goals. Incorporate Bible verses and Christian symbols that reflect values such as faith, love, and service. Assemble Your Vision Board: Create a collage that visually represents your understanding of God’s purpose for your life. This could include your faith journey, your role in your community or church, and any other areas where you feel God’s calling. Incorporate Personal Prayers and Scripture: Embed your vision board with personal prayers and specific scripture verses, like Proverbs 16:3 and Jeremiah 29:11, to continually remind you of your commitment to aligning your life with God’s will. Display in a Meaningful Space: Place your vision board in a space where it will be a daily reminder, such as a home altar or your Bible study area. Let it serve as a focal point for meditation and prayer.

Creating a vision board with a focus on aligning with God's purpose for your life, as reflected in scriptures like Proverbs 16:3 and Jeremiah 29:11, involves deep spiritual reflection. Here are some guided questions to help you in this reflective process: 1. How do I interpret God's plan for me in light of Jeremiah 29:11? • Reflect on what "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" means in your life. How do you see this manifesting in your personal, professional, and spiritual journey? 2. In what ways can I commit my actions to the Lord as advised in Proverbs 16:3?

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Think about your daily activities and long-term goals. How can you align these with God's will and guidance?

3. What spiritual gifts or talents have I been given and how can I use them to serve God’s purpose? • Identify your unique abilities and consider how they can be used to glorify God and serve others in your community and beyond. 4. How have I seen God's hand in my life over the past year? • Reflect on instances where you felt God’s presence, guidance, or intervention. How have these experiences shaped your faith and life path? 5. What scripture verses inspire me to live according to God’s will? • Think about the Bible verses that resonate with you deeply. How do these scriptures guide your decisions and actions?

6. In what areas of my life do I need to trust God more? • Consider aspects of your life where you may be struggling with trust or faith. How can you surrender these areas to God and rely on His guidance? 7. What does a life lived in alignment with God's purpose look like for me? • Visualize how embodying God’s purpose would manifest in your day-to-day life. What changes or growth would you see in yourself? 8. How can I incorporate prayer and meditation into my daily routine to stay aligned with God's plan? • Plan practical ways to integrate spiritual practices into your daily life to maintain a close connection with God. 9. What are my spiritual goals for the year, and how do they relate to my overall vision for my life?

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Define clear spiritual objectives that align with your broader life vision. How do these goals reflect your desire to live according to God’s purpose?

10. How can I actively seek God’s guidance as I make plans for the future? • Contemplate ways to consistently seek divine direction in your decision-making process, ensuring that your plans are in harmony with God’s will. Reflecting on these questions can help ensure that your vision board is not just a map of your aspirations but a testament to your faith and commitment to living a life aligned with God's purpose. Creating a digital vision board offers a blend of modern convenience and traditional physical presence. By designing your vision board digitally and then printing it for display, you get the best of both worlds – the ease and versatility of digital tools along with the

tangible inspiration of a physical board. Here’s how to create, print, and assess your digital vision board: Creating and Printing Your Digital Vision Board 1. Design Your Vision Board: Use a digital platform like Canva or Adobe Spark to create your vision board. These platforms offer a range of templates, images, and text options to help bring your vision to life. 2. Print at a Local Store: Once your design is complete, save it as a high-resolution image or PDF. You can then print it at a local office supply store like Office Depot, Staples, or a pharmacy with printing services like Walgreens. Consider the size of your board and the print quality you desire. For a more detailed and vibrant vision board, opt for a higher-quality print. 3. Choose Your Board: Purchase a physical board from a store like Walmart. This could be a corkboard, a foam board, or even a framed canvas, depending on how you want

to display your vision board. 4. Organize and Mount Your Print: Cut out your printed elements if necessary and arrange them on your board. You can use pins, tape, or adhesive to secure them. This step allows you to add a three-dimensional aspect to your vision board, like attaching real objects, notes, or additional images. Steps to Assess Progress Throughout the Year 1. Regular Reviews: Set aside time each month to review your vision board. This could be a quiet moment of reflection or a structured review process. 2. Journaling: Keep a journal to track your progress. Write down any steps you’ve taken towards your goals, challenges you’ve faced, and how you’ve overcome them. 3. Adjust as Needed: If you find certain goals have changed or evolved, it’s okay to update your vision board. This could involve reprinting certain sections or adding new elements to your physical board. 4. Celebrate Achievements: Whenever you accomplish a goal or make significant progress, celebrate it. This could be as simple as placing a checkmark or sticker on that part of your vision board. 5. Reflect on Growth: At the end of the year, reflect on your personal growth and how your vision board has guided you. Consider what worked well and what could be improved for the next year. Updating Your Board in 2025 1. Reassess Your Goals: At the beginning of 2025, take time to reassess your goals. Are

they still in alignment with your aspirations and life’s purpose? 2. Redesign Digitally: Based on your reassessment, redesign your vision board digitally to reflect your updated goals and aspirations. 3. Print and Reorganize: Follow the same process of printing your updated board and organizing it on a physical board. This refresh will reinvigorate your motivation and focus for the new year. By combining digital creation with physical display and incorporating regular reviews and updates, your vision board can become a living part of your journey, continually inspiring and guiding you towards your aspirations. The Impact of a God-Focused Vision Board By centering your vision board on God's purpose, it becomes more than just a tool for goal setting; it transforms into a visual prayer and a map of spiritual aspiration. It helps align your daily actions with your faith and deepens your connection with God’s plan for your life. This approach can bring a profound sense of fulfillment and direction, knowing you are walking a path illuminated by divine guidance. A vision board centered on fulfilling God's purpose for your life is a unique and powerful way to start the New Year. It stands as a visual testament to your faith and a guiding light on your path to living a life in harmony with God’s plan. This year, let your vision board be a bridge between your aspirations and God's promises, leading you towards a future filled with hope, purpose, and spiritual fulfillment.

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FAMILY VALUES AROUND THE WORLD B y C h r i s t i n e C . T h o m a s , P h . D.

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The word family conjures up images of home-cooked meals,

In contrast, Western cultures often emphasize the nuclear

inside jokes told around the dinner table, and uncondition-

family and individualism, with a focus on encouraging in-

al support during difficult times. Our families shape us

dependence and self-reliance in children from a young age.

in profound ways, even as our individual values continue

However, even within this framework, the underlying value

evolving throughout our lifetimes. Cultural differences in

of providing emotional and psychological support to family

prioritizing certain family relationships or traditions are

members remains a common thread.

fascinating to compare, yet core pillars of family life prove strikingly similar across borders.

Rituals reinforce bonds through shared stories and serve as cultural touchstones. Open communication enables

Most families cherish time spent together; especially trea-

households to weather external storms or internal conflicts.

sured rituals passed down generations. For example, in

Whether discussing school pressures or airing grievances

Japanese culture, the Omisoka tradition on New Year’s

after an argument, families that cultivate environments for

Eve brings families together to share toshikoshi soba

honest expression equip members to resolve differences

(year-crossing noodle), symbolizing the transition from the

through compromise. Unspoken rules barring certain top-

old year to the new. This tradition, rooted in reflection and

ics do more harm than good.

togetherness, highlights the importance of family bonds. In contrast, Western cultures often emphasize the nuclear

Undergirding it all is familial support during triumphs as

family and individualism, with a focus on encouraging in-

well as hardships - cheering at graduations, shedding tears

dependence and self-reliance in children from a young age.

together at funerals. While friends may come and go, fam-

However, even within this framework, the underlying value

ily constitutes the scaffolding to get back on our feet after

of providing emotional and psychological support to family

setbacks. In sickness and health, our home team fans an-

members remains a common thread.

chor us.

In Italian families, Sunday dinners are sacrosanct – a day

Navigating modern life poses challenges to preserving fa-

dedicated to family gathering, where multiple generations

milial closeness, from packed work schedules to smart-

sit around the table for hours, enjoying traditional dish-

phones that isolate. Yet well-functioning family units who

es and engaging in lively conversations. These traditions,

eat, talk, and spend leisure time together reap rewards sur-

whether they are daily, weekly, or annual, serve more than

passing convenience or personal freedom. Prioritizing fam-

just a ritualistic purpose; they are vital in reinforcing fam-

ily ultimately nurtures bonds that sustain, unite, and inspire

ily bonds and imparting values from one generation to the

growth - the true measures of lasting value.

next. As we conclude this exploration of family values around the In Hispanic families, open and frequent communication

world, our interview with Audrey Thomas reminds us of

is encouraged, and family members are deeply involved in

the universality of these values. Audrey’s life story, marked

each other’s lives, often including extended family mem-

by discipline, love, and a strong focus on education, mirrors

bers. This close-knit structure fosters a strong sense of com-

the cultural practices and traditions we’ve explored. Her ex-

munity and belonging.

periences highlight the significance of open communication, financial literacy, and preparation for life’s challenges.

In many African societies, the extended family plays a

Audrey’s narrative demonstrates that, irrespective of geo-

crucial role, with aunts, uncles, and grandparents actively

graphical or cultural boundaries, family values are a cor-

participating in the upbringing of children. This commu-

nerstone in shaping resilient, compassionate individuals.

nal approach to child-rearing and family support is encap-

Her journey is a testament to the enduring power of these

sulated in the proverb “It takes a village to raise a child.”

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G R AV E S D I S E A S E

A W A R E N E S S by Rumonda D. Adams

Graves' disease is an autoimmune condition in which your immune system mistakenly attacks the thyroid cells. This leads to the overproduction of thyroid hormones, a condition medically known as hyperthyroidism. Common signs and symptoms of Graves’ disease include: • • • • • • • • • • • • •

Anxiety and irritability A fine tremor of the hands or fingers Heat sensitivity and an increase in perspiration or warm, moist skin Weight loss, despite normal eating habits Enlargement of the thyroid gland (goiter) Changes in menstrual cycles Erectile dysfunction or reduced libido Frequent bowel movements Bulging eyes (Graves' ophthalmopathy) Fatigue Thick, red skin usually on the shins or tops of the feet (Graves' dermopathy) Rapid or irregular heartbeat (palpitations) Sleep disturbances

When Graves' disease is untreated or not well-controlled, some people may experience complications like arrhythmia, heart failure,

or stroke. This condition may also increase the risk of osteoporosis and broken bones. Many people today have no idea what Graves' disease or hyperthyroidism is. I had never heard of the two terms until I was diagnosed with them in 2005. I was pregnant at the time, and my daughter was already considered my miracle child because my tubes had been tied for 12 years before she enabled me to conceive. Being diagnosed with Graves' during the pregnancy, I knew she was heaven-sent. Who knew this would be the way I found out about the illness? For many years, I always wondered why I struggled so much to maintain my weight, stayed fatigued, and had signs of depression. I had no idea what a thyroid gland was, why it was needed, or where it was located in the body. But through the years, I educated myself because this had become a part of my life. The thyroid gland is needed to produce hormones that regulate the body's metabolic rate, growth, and development. The thyroid gland is situated in the front of the throat, below the larynx (Adam's apple), and comprises two lobes that lie on either side of the windpipe. We need our thyroid gland because it plays a major role in controlling heart, muscle, and digestive function, brain development, and bone maintenance. Graves' disease symptoms can often go

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undiagnosed due to some of their commonplace nature. You can feel tired all the time because you’re a productive citizen and have to get out and make a living, or perhaps you're experiencing anxiety or panic attacks. This too may be normal for some because everyone goes through life’s trials and tribulations, and it gets the best of some of us. Fluctuating weight due to stress and depression are all normal patterns of life’s ups and downs for some of us, and we don’t consider anything to be medically wrong. For example, my doctor at the time of my concerns told me to just relax because he didn’t see anything wrong. He suggested maybe I was just stressed and overworked, which explained why I was tired. He then offered to prescribe medication for some of my concerns. At this point, I’m sure he viewed me as some type of hypochondriac, because I saw him more than normal. But I knew I didn't need any of the medication he prescribed; I honestly knew something else was going on with my body that, again, no one could tell me what it was. I started drinking Ensure Plus (a dietary supplement) as a result of the constant weight loss. The Ensure Plus gave me an appetite and helped maintain some of my weight. I actually still drink them often when needed. When Graves' disease is untreated or not well-controlled, some people may experience complications like arrhythmia, heart failure, or stroke. This condition may also increase the risk of osteoporosis and broken bones. If you’ve experienced a few of the symptoms listed above for Graves', tell your doctor that you have some concerns and you would like to discuss them. The earlier the diagnosis, the better. We have to advocate for ourselves to get the results needed and to bring awareness to others. No one knows your body better than you, so don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself, no matter how it makes you look. Be well and stay blessed.

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IT’S ALWAYS THE SEASON TO BE GRATEFUL by Ashley C. Thomas, Ph.D. The holidays are a beautiful time of year, filled with fun, travels, laughter, presents and so much more. At the same time, as we know, it can also be a time filled with stress, grief, longings unfulfilled, and unmet expectations. So many people experience depression and sadness for various reasons also. How often we may take for granted the support we receive – whether financial, emotional, spiritual, etc. – when there are so many people right now wishing for the very things we have. While we worry about what meals to prepare, there are children going to sleep on empty stomachs. While we think about how to decorate our homes, there are families seeking shelter. While we complain about having to attend early morning or watch night church services, there are people with restricted access to the Bible who live in countries where it’s a crime to attend church as believers. I looked up the definition of gratitude because there are so many times when I think that I know what a word fully means until I study it more. According to Oxford Languages, gratitude is “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.” It is not simply about saying thank 76

you. Gratitude requires a constant state of thankfulness and a willingness and preparedness to express it. It’s not only about receiving well but also about being ready to give. Acts 20:35 says, “Remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He Himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’” One way to grow in gratitude and kindness is to practice with our family this holiday season. Truth is that the first place we serve is at home. While we may think twice before a snide remark or snappy comment to a stranger or colleague, sometimes it is our family and close friends who receive the brunt of our less than jolly moments. If we’re not careful, we can easily give into our own selfish desires – what I want to receive, how I want to be treated, where I want to go, what I want to do, etc. Galatians 5:22-23 (Amplified Version) states, “But the fruit of the Spirit [the result of His presence within us] is love [unselfish concern for others], joy, [inner] peace, patience [not the ability to wait, but how we act while waiting], kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law.” The reality is we are all going through our own unique challenges that life brings and can’t assume every-

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thing is okay with someone. Here are everyday examples of ways we can show gratitude and the fruit of the Spirit to those we encounter: •

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Think of a way you can put someone else’s needs or wants above your own. A way to put a smile on their face. Maybe it is spending a few extra moments with an elderly loved one or calling to check on a friend you haven’t spoken with in a while. Let a family member or friend know how much you appreciate them. Thank them, even if it’s for something you’re used to them doing like taking out the trash. Let us be intentional about adding patience, gentleness, kindness, and consideration to our words and delivery. ◊ Luke 6:31 (ESV) reminds us “And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.” ◊ Just because I can ask that relative or friend when they’re going to have kids or if they lost or gained weight, doesn’t mean that it is beneficial or edifying to do so. Let us not allow our curiosity to cause us to say things that are hurtful, even if we didn’t intend to offend anyone. Alternative questions to connect with someone could be “What is something that has brought you joy lately?” or “What are you looking forward to in 2024?” Give without expecting anything in return. Exhibit self-control by avoiding gossip, even within our families. Pay someone a heartfelt compliment or word of comfort. Note: If someone is grieving, phrases like “They’re in a better place” or “At least you didn’t experience ____” typically come off as insensitive. Bolston’s Hopsice (2020)

offers the alternative phrase “I don’t know what to say, I wish I had the right words to comfort you” or the advice to “sometimes just be with the person, you don’t have to say anything.” Here is a link to their article for what to say and what not to say to someone who is grieving. Although it’s written for those who have lost loved ones, the article’s recommendations apply to grief in general. https://www.boltonhospice.org. uk/news/2020/12/what-to-say-and-whatnot-to-say-to-someone-who-grieving What aspect of the fruit of the Spirit do you find yourself wanting to grow in? One way to be proactive in this area is to find specific scriptures related to that fruit and pray to God for strength, wisdom, discernment, and the power to live it out. Look for ways to outwardly express the fruit that God has produced in you inwardly. This all ties back to gratitude – a readiness to give thanks and appreciation— because we have so much to be grateful for, starting with the most beautiful gift of all Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior who died on the cross for our sins and was raised to life on the third day! Let the joy and gratitude we have for who God is and what He has done, is doing, and will do in our lives be evident in how we interact with everyone – not just this holiday season but every day of our lives. References •

Oxford University Press. (n.d.) Gratitude. Oxford Languages dictionary. Retrieved December 14, 2023.

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What to say and what not to say to someone who is grieving: Bolton Hospice. What to say and what not to say to someone who is grieving | Bolton Hospice. (2020, December 7). https://www.boltonhospice.org. uk/news/2020/12/what-to-say-and-what-not-to-say-tosomeone-who-grieving

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M A K I NG A C ON S C IOU S C HOIC E TO ' BUM P D OT S ' I N T H E N E W Y E A R As we welcome the New Year, it's a time often associated with transformation and new beginnings. This year, let's embrace a conscious choice that could significantly enhance our lives: the decision to actively engage in 'Bumping Dots.' This concept, centered around forging and nurturing connections, offers a fresh perspective on how we interact with others and the world around us. Understanding the Essence of 'Bumping Dots' 'Bumping Dots' is about recognizing the value in every encounter. It’s a mindset that sees every person we meet – whether by chance or intention – as an opportunity to enrich our lives and theirs. Embracing 'Bumping Dots' as a conscious choice in the New Year means deliberately seeking out these connections and nurturing them. Seeking New Connections The start of a new year is a perfect opportunity to expand our social horizons. This doesn’t only mean forming deep, lasting relationships – even fleeting interactions can add depth to our daily experiences. Challenge yourself to strike up a conversation with a neighbor, join a community group, or simply try to engage with someone new. Each interaction is a step toward a fresh connection, a new 'dot' in the fabric of your life. Deepening Existing Relationships The art of 'Bumping Dots' also involves deepening the connections we already have. Life’s busyness often leads us to overlook these valuable relationships. This year, make a deliberate effort to reconnect with old friends, spend quality time with family, or reach out to colleagues. Sometimes reigniting a connection can be as simple as a heartfelt conversation or a shared activity. Valuing Every Encounter A key tenet of 'Bumping Dots' is the belief that every encounter, no matter how brief, has potential. Approach each interaction with openness and the willingness to truly engage. The most mundane exchange can unexpectedly lead to meaningful insights or a lasting friendship.

Embracing Diversity in Connections One of the joys of 'Bumping Dots' is the diversity of perspectives it brings into our lives. Make it a point to connect with people from different backgrounds and cultures. Each new viewpoint you encounter can challenge and improve your understanding of the world. Being Proactive in Making Connections 'Bumping Dots' is an active process. Rather than waiting for opportunities to come to you, create them. Participate in social events, volunteer for causes you care about, and involve yourself in community activities. These actions place you in situations ripe for meeting new people. Strategies to Enhance Your‘ Bumping Dots’ Experience To fully embrace your journey of 'Bumping Dots' in the New Year, consider adopting these practical strategies. Each one is designed to guide you in your bumping dots’ experience: •

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The Importance of Listening: Effective communication is essential for 'Bumping Dots.' This year, strive to focus on becoming a better listener. Pay attention to others, show genuine interest, and engage in conversations that go beyond the surface. Listening is sometimes the most powerful way to connect. Maintaining a 'Bumping Dots' Journal: Consider maintaining a journal to document your 'Bumping Dots' experiences. Record the connections you make, memorable conversations, and lessons learned. This not only helps track your journey but also serves as a reminder of the positive encounters you’ve had. Reflecting and Adjusting: Regular reflection is crucial. Periodically assess your approach to 'Bumping Dots.' Determine what’s effective and identify areas for improvement. This reflection ensures your efforts are meaningful and align with your personal growth goals.

Choosing to actively engage in 'Bumping Dots' in the New Year is more than a resolution; it’s a commitment. It’s about discovering joy in every interaction and seeing the inherent value in every individual. As we step into this new chapter, let’s open our hearts and minds to the boundless possibilities to connect with others. 87

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AN IN-DEPTH GUIDE TO CHOOSING BETWEEN M1 FINANCE, WEBULL, AND ROBINHOOD by: Raymond Green

Greetings, LEGACY Tribe! As the Tech Coach, I’m here to assist you in navigating the world of technology. In this issue, I’m going to share personal finance apps. Managing money can be perplexing, but technology has made it easier than ever to take control of your finances.

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In this issue, we’ll delve into three of the most popular free investing and trading apps: M1 Finance, Webull, and Robinhood. I’ll provide an unbiased overview of the key features, pros, and cons of each app, so you can determine if they align with your financial goals. My aim is to educate, not to endorse any particular product or service. Whether you’re just starting out or looking to change how you manage your money, read on for the inside scoop on M1, Webull, and Robinhood!

M1 supports individual taxable investing accounts, IRAs, trusts, and more, functioning as a complete investing solution for simple to moderately complex needs. Pros • •

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How M1 Works M1 allows you to select a mix of stocks and funds to create a portfolio aligned with your investing goals. Key features include: • Automated dividend reinvesting and fraction-

al share trading to continuously invest in your choices. Simple rebalancing with the click of a button to maintain your portfolio’s target allocations. No trading commissions or account minimums. A visually pleasing pie chart design for easy viewing of asset allocations.

Automated investing simplifies long-term strategies. Intuitive visual design for clear portfolio insights. Fractional share trading maximizes every invested dollar. No account fees or commissions save money compared to traditional brokers.

Cons • Limited screening and research tools. • Requires depositing money into a connected bank account before trading. • Not suited for short-term traders. • Limited customer service support. 89

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Best For Long-term investors who prefer an automated, handsoff approach, and small investors due to the availability of fractional shares. Bottom Line M1 Finance offers automated, commission-free investing, ideal for a customized buy-and-hold strategy, but with limited trading tools and customer support. Webull - Powerful Trading App with Extensive Market Data Webull offers free stock trading with advanced analytical research tools, suited for advanced traders who need desktop-level functionality in a mobile app. How Webull Works Webull provides full extended hours trading across all major U.S. exchanges. Notable features include: • An advanced trading platform with technical and fundamental analysis tools. • Virtual paper trading accounts. • Full access to pre-market and after-hours trading sessions. • No account fees or trading commissions. • Support for individual taxable, IRA, and trust accounts. The app includes extensive screeners, heat maps, historical visualizations, and more for informed trading decisions, offering more market data and risk analysis than competitors. Pros • • • • •

A desktop-quality mobile trading platform. Virtual accounts for risk-free skill refinement. Nearly 24-hour trading access. No commissions or account fees. Excellent charting, screening, and tracking tools.

Cons • Somewhat complex navigation due to redundant menus. • Limited beginner guidance. • Allows margin trading, potentially leading to risky investments. • Limited customer service support. Best For Active traders who want robust analytics or investors supplementing research from other sources. It’s also great for those who appreciate extended trading hours. Bottom Line For self-directed traders and investors, Webull offers a customizable platform comparable to traditional brokerages, but be cautious of the temptation to overtrade.

Robinhood - Barebones Trading App with Controversial History Robinhood is known for pioneering free stock trading and fractional share investing. However, its frequent technical issues and controversial business practices have raised skepticism. How Robinhood Works The app focuses on basic trading mechanics over research tools or guidance. Highlights include: • Commission-free trading with no account minimums or fees. • Fractional share trading. • Support for individual taxable accounts, trusts, and various IRAs. • Minimal screeners and visualization tools. • A cash management account with debit card access.

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Robinhood supports basic stock, ETF, options, and crypto trading. Its interface is simple but lacks depth. Pros • Truly commission-free trading without account minimums. • Access to high-priced stocks through fractional shares. • An intuitive interface for newcomers. • Cash management account with a debit card option. Cons • Frequent technical issues and outages. • Lack of transparency in order execution practices.

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Best For Casual investors or beginners seeking an easy entry into basic stock trading, but be aware of potential technical problems. Bottom Line While Robinhood has democratized investing with its free trading model, its execution missteps and lack of transparency warrant caution.

COMPARING M1 FINANCE, WEBULL AND ROBINHOOD

Each app offers a unique approach to personal investing and trading, catering to different types of users with their balance of features, tools, and support.

wealth-building needs. Feel free to reach out with any questions at thetechcoach08@gmail.com - I'm here to provide unbiased guidance on your financial journey!

I hope this comparison helps you confidently choose a free investing app that aligns with your

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