LEGACY eMagazine Winter | Spring 2023 Issue

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Dear Women of All Ages,

We are excited to announce the Winter 2023 quarterly issue of LEGACY eMagazine, a publication dedicated to celebrating and empowering women of all ages. In this issue, we feature articles and stories that explore a wide range of topics, including building a healthy sister circle, leadership development, and self-identity, purpose and focus. We are also pleased to showcase the work and achievements of a diverse group of women, from established leaders and pioneers in their fields, to emerging talents and role models. We believe that by sharing the stories and experiences of women from different backgrounds and walks of life, we can encourage and empower our readers to pursue their own passions and dreams.

One of our featured authors, Dr. Rolanda Horn, is a leading advocate for women in leadership. In her article, she discusses the often-overlooked topic of jealousy in leadership and offers practical tips for dealing with it. The article is an absolute must-read for anyone looking to take their leadership to the next level. Additionally, we have an article on the power of sister circles in personal development. “Help, I need to check my sister circle” is a must-read if you’re looking for or building a support system. As this piece explores, the benefits of developing a support system among women who share similar values play an important role in building self-identity and purpose.

Our next article comes from Bishop Herbert H. Thomas Jr., who shares his insight on finding strength and guidance Bishop Herbert H. Thomas Jr. also shares his insight on finding strength and guidance in difficult times by trusting in Jesus. Our “30 Days of Courageous Prayers” feature is also sure to inspire you. This winter/spring issue of LEGACY eMagazine is the perfect resource for anyone looking to take their leadership to the next level. Finally, we are excited to present a series of articles on “Leading with Purpose,” which explore the role of purpose and values in effective leadership. These articles provide practical tips and advice for women looking to lead with integrity and meaning in their personal and professional lives.

Ladies, as we come to the close of this magazine, we encourage you to share the valuable information and inspiration within its pages with your loved ones, friends, and fellow sisters. Together, we can empower and uplift each other, creating a stronger and more united community.

Sisterly Love, Dr. Christine & The LEGACY eMagazine Team

Dealing with Difficult People: Jealousy in Leadership and by Dr. Rolanda Horn

Leadership Principle 1: Self-Identity

30 Days of Courageous Prayer

Leadership on Purpose

Help! I Need to Check My Sister Circle

I’m Just Saying: Focus on Your Purpose

Contributing Authors: Dr. Rolanda Horn, Dr. Christine C. Thomas, and Dr. Herbert H. Thomas, Jr.

Photos of Dr. Herbert H. Thomas, Jr. taken by Adrienne Quick, Owner of Dreamers Photography

Photos of Dr. Rolanda Horn taken by Fred Powell of Fredtography

Credits: This issue of LEGACY eMagazine utilized photos from Pexels and Unsplash

LEGACY eMagazine is a quarterly publication that showcases the influence of spirituality on the lives of women globally, and delves into current topics related to women’s leadership and strategies for achieving personal and professional goals. Each edition features accomplished leaders, entrepreneurs, and individuals engaged in outreach and service who have inspiring stories to share with readers. The magazine serves as a valuable tool to empower, motivate, uplift, and equip women and girls in leadership, entrepreneurship, and outreach to become bold and fearless leaders.

Greetings, Wonderful Reader!

My name is Christine C. Thomas, and I am the creator of LEGACY eMagazine.

I love the Lord and am passionate about pursuing my purpose and mentoring and guiding women as they navigate the world of leadership, whether as a minister, entrepreneur, or community servant. I am a pragmatic author, imaginative entrepreneur, and servant leader with a wealth of experiences, including some challenges, that have shaped my voice to empower other women. Connect with me on LinkedIn to stay in touch throughout the year.

Sisterly Love, Dr. Christine

Creator of LEGACY eMagazine

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Dealing with Difficult People: Jealousy in Leadership

by Rolanda Horn, Ph.D.

Since the beginning of time, women have struggled to gain respect in the workforce. Think about it. African American women (AAW) in particular, had the responsibility of taking care of their homes and children (Horn, 2019). They did not enter the workforce until after World War II and even then, had to face hardships assuming management and professional positions (Horn, 2019). The struggle was real… contending with their White female counterparts, White men, Black men and sadly, other Black women. I say sadly because it would seem that from one Black woman to other, we would understand the ruction we have when pushing through the glass ceiling in efforts to achieve professional goals. Right? This struggle is still real. This is an issue that persists in the workforce today. And in saying so, I think it is important to have a conversation about African American women in leadership roles in the workforce and what we can do to curtail the vie of power and influence.

Here in recent years, I begin to be introduced to the concept of envy and jealous. Well not to the concepts, per se, but to their effects. Jealousy operates through the emotions and can manifest as shame, resentment, mistrust, doubt, betrayal, fear, insecurity, selfishness, and control. According to Strong’s Hebrew Lexicon, the Hebrew word for jealousy is charah (Khaw-raw), which figuratively means to blaze up, of anger, zeal, or to be angry, burn, or be displeased. It is cancerous in nature and if not dealt with, will spread like wild fire consuming everything in its path. The spirit of jealousy is responsible for destroying family relationships (ex: siblings, cousins, etc.), marriages, business deals and congregations. There are references to these examples in the Bible. Remember, Paul had to address the Church at Corinth in 1 Corinthians about the quarreling of spiritual superiority related to spirit gifts. And let’s not forget about the story of Hannah and Peninnah (1 Samuel 1:2-20). This story has many lessons, but jealous shows up when Peninnah becomes jealous of Hannah for receiving an annual double portion of meat from her

husband Elkanah. Peninnah begins to taunt Hannah for inability to conceive a child.

There are several other stories in the Bible where we see jealous in action. If we go back to Genesis, we see read about the brothers Cain and Abel (Genesis 4:1-16) and later, Jacob and Esau (Genesis 25:19-34; 27:145). The most familiar is the story of Joseph (Genesis 37-50). After sharing a dream God gave him about his purpose and rise to leadership, Joseph’s brothers became jealous and sold him into slavery. The one thing that stands out to me in the story of Joseph is that he was not ambitious to seek out the role of a leader who would rule over nations. This was something that he was called to do by God. Though this is lending to an entirely separate article, it is noteworthy to mention that problem more often times than not, those who are on the receiving end of jealousy are minding their business and operating at a level that is comfortable without having to make much noise about their present or future success. However, because of the assignment, anointing or calling on their life, they become a target of the enemy. A target of jealousy. Joseph proved to be a man (leader) of character when he arose to power and did not seek revenge on his brothers.

I am aware of situations where jealousy and envious behaviors have destroyed friendships that had existed for years. As I stated earlier, I have myself been a victim of its sting. Yes, I have. Personally, I believe the spirit of jealousy has cost me opportunities of advancement in my career. So what does God say about jealousy. James 3:14-16 says, “But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.

The New American Standard Bible translates the word envy to jealousy: James 3:14-16 “But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be

arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes doen from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing.”

James, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, clearly illustrates the consequences of allowing jealousy to fester in our hearts. The Apostle goes on to say that it is not wise, does not come from God, and is characterized as demonic. But should jealousy be named among Godly women who call ourselves leaders? Why do we allow the behaviors of jealous and envy to exist in the workplace? Would it not seem as if we would do all we could to support each other in our professional endeavors? The world is big enough for us all to succeed. After all, isn’t that what leadership is all about? Developing others and helping them reach their full potential? Essentially, the presence of jealousy is evidence that one refuses to embrace altruism and does not have a true understanding of serving others.

Leadership is a role that requires us to have a level of self-denial and selflessness that ultimately is beneficial to those we are serving. When we are selfless, we are able to genuinely connect and identify with others, considering their needs, wants, and desires as it relates to the overall goal and mission of the organization.

We as women of God in leadership need to put the spirit of jealousy to death. AAW have a triple threat, formerly known as double jeopardy, when you consider how race, class, and gender intersect related to career progression and advancement (Horn, 2019). African American women need to find ways to support each other with the understanding that what God has for us, is for us and the more we give in efforts to promote the growth and development of others, will in turn be a seed for our next promotion and opportunity.

Here are some things we can do to guard our hearts against jealousy:

Cultivating Character: Character is the thing that makes something/someone distinct. Its defined as the internal marking of a person that manifests itself by moral and mental qualities and beliefs. Someone, once described like this: a diamond is a diamond because of its purity. Art is art because of its uniqueness and a person is who they are because of their character. We cultivate character by submitting ourselves to God and asking Him to place His finger on the things in our hearts that offend

Him and others. But, when He reveals these things to us, we need to be accepting and then willing to acknowledge their existence and consciously work on their removal from our lives relying on prayer and the power of the Holy Spirit. He says in our weakness He is made strong. He also says that if we confess our sins or faults, He is faithful and just to forgive us (1 John 1:19).

Looking at the scriptures we clearly see that the lack of gratitude, covetousness, and ability to see the blessings will breed a disposition of selfishness, greed and the mistreatment of others. If we cultivate a relationship with God that is founded in humility and gratitude, I believe that we will have the essential elements needed to guard our hearts from the spirit of jealousy.

On the other, what do we do when we are on the receiving end of jealousy? This goes back to character development. The most important thing not to do is lash out. John 14:30 says, I will no longer talk much with you, for the ruler of this world is coming, and he has nothing in Me. Some translations say that he has no power over me. Lashing out and going tit for tat with someone is a sign of immaturity and gives power to them. This does not mean you not should stand up for yourself or defend yourself when appropriate. However, exercising humility and self-control shows true character and strength. C.S. Lewis said it best when he said that humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less. Humility begins with total surrender to God and His spirit (1 Peter 5:6) and a disposition of the heart that is developed from the inside out. Remember, God

resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble (James 4:6). Secondly, put the fruit of the spirit into action (Galatians 5:22-23). Kindness, which is a fruit of the spirit, goes a long way when dealing with jealous people. Treating others the way you want to be treated is the safest thing to do to honor God and your reputation. Thirdly, do not internalize the negative words or actions that are a result of jealousy and envy. In other words, we need to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23). Though it is important to be self-reflective and to process things, do not allow those things to take root in your heart. If it does, you risk the chance of manifesting resentment, bitterness, and unforgiveness. These things ultimately hinder the hand of God in your life. Jesus said, “Whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses” (Mark 11:25-26). We want God to have a heart that smiles at us and to fight for us in confidence knowing that we honor Him and His word.

Things to remember whether you are displaying or receiving jealousy:

• Cultivate character through prayer and fasting.

• Acknowledge the areas in our heart that we need God to heal and restore.

• Walk in humility.

• Exercise the fruit of the spirit; be kind.

• Do not internalize the opposition you face; guard your heart.

Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by his good conduct that his deeds are done in gentleness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, don’t boast and don’t lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, sensual, and demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition are, there is confusion and every evil deed. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceful, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.

James 3:13-17, World English Bible

Dr. Rolanda Horn

Administrator, Researcher, Minister, Author, Mentor and Philanthropist

Dr. Rolanda Horn is an accomplished administrator in higher education, author, and speaker. Her most notable accomplishments include being selected to serve on the National Association of Student Personnel (NASPA) Center for Women Board; graduate of the Thomas Lakin Institute for Mentored Leadership presented by the President’s Round Table; and she has been recognized as a member of the 50 under 50 cohort by her alma mater, Alabama State University.

As a first-generation college student from Clarke County, Alabama, she knows firsthand the challenges of overcoming poverty to achieve success. She is an advocate for marginalized individuals, particularly women, and believes that they need both mentors and advocates to reach their full potential. She is deeply committed to education and mentorship and is passionate about helping women develop their leadership skills and reach their full potential, and she is always looking for new opportunities to make a positive impact in the lives of others. As a leader in higher education, Dr. Horn is dedicated to creating a positive and inclusive environment for all students. She is known for her ability to motivate and empower others, and she has a track record of successfully implementing innovative programs and initiatives.

On a more personal note, Dr. Horn was born in Grove Hill, Alabama. She is the eldest of four children and has seven (7) nephews and two (2) nieces. In 2010, she was ordained as a minister by Bishop Kyle Searcy of Fresh Anointing House of Worship located in Montgomery, Alabama. As a minister, she is dedicated to serving her community and spreading the message of love and acceptance. She believes that her calling is to provide spiritual guidance and support to those in need. She takes great joy in helping others find meaning and purpose in their lives and is honored to be able to serve as a minister. She believes working together and supporting one another, we can create a better world for all people.

Dr. Horn received her bachelor’s degree in Therapeutic Recreation from Alabama State University in 2000, and completed her Doctorate in Educational Leadership, Policy, and Law from the same institution in 2019. She also holds degrees from Auburn University-Montgomery and Troy University – Montgomery. Throughout her career, she has worked in the healthcare industry as a recreational therapist, social worker, and administrator, as well as in higher education in compliance, assessment, and evaluation.

Connect with Dr. Horn on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rolandahorn/

LEADERSHIP PRINCIPLE 1: SELF-IDENTITY

Each issue of LEGACY eMagazine will feature a leadership principle to assist women in assessing their professional and personal growth. By providing tools and resources, we hope to empower our global community of courageous women to succeed boldly, confidently, and with commitment. This issue focuses on the first principle, self-identity.

As you consider the self-identity principle, consider how it relates to your own journey. Examine your strengths and areas for improvement, and identify any skills you will need to acquire. In evaluating your development and growth, be honest with yourself. Remember, this magazine was created to help you grow and become the best you can be in your service to God and others. Keep in mind that you are not alone in this process. As a leader, we hope you find inspiration, direction, and resources in LEGACY eMagazine. With His help, we can make a positive impact on the world and bring honor to His name as we grow together.

As a concept, self-identity pertains to a person’s understanding of himself or herself and of the qualities and characteristics that make him or her unique. It gives individuals an understanding of their place in the world and forms the basis of their personality. Values, beliefs, goals, interests, and relationships all influence it. One’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are affected by these factors, and they can change as one matures and develops.

In order to understand oneself and one’s place in the world, one must have a strong sense of self-identity. It also enhances self-confidence and self-esteem, and it helps individuals make decisions and navigate life’s challenges with clarity. By understanding one’s own identity, one can better understand and appreciate the identities of others. This enables individuals to form and maintain healthy relationships.

In order to grow and develop, it is important to assess and reflect on one’s own capabilities. Setting goals for the

future is made easier when one does this. A self-analysis allows one to understand their thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and overall sense of self, as well as identify areas that may require improvement. Furthermore, it allows one to gain a deeper understanding of oneself and one’s place in the world. You can assess your own performance and reflect on it by following these steps:

1. Set aside some time to focus on yourself: Find a quiet, private place where you can take a few moments to focus on yourself. Who are you? What makes you unique?

2. Identify your values and beliefs: Understanding what is important to you and what you stand for can help you to be an authentic you. What is important to you and why? What do you believe in and why?

3. Consider your goals and aspirations: What do you want to achieve in life? What motivates you and drives you forward? What are your goals and aspirations?

4. Reflect on your strengths and weaknesses: It’s normal to have areas of weakness, but it’s important to identify and address them to become a more well-rounded leader. It can help you bring your best self to your leadership role. What are your strengths and opportunities for growth? What are you good at and what do you struggle with? How do your strengths and weaknesses impact your life and relationships? What are the factors that contribute to your success or failure?

5. Think about your interests and hobbies: What do you enjoy doing in your free time? How do these activities contribute to your overall well-being? How do you spend my time and energy?

6. Consider your relationships: How do you interact with others? What role do your relationships play in your life? How do you react to different situations and people?

7. Reflect on your overall sense of self: How do you see yourself and how do you fit into the world around you? How do others perceive you? How do you want to be perceived by others?

8. Seek feedback from others: Ask for honest feedback from others. This can help you identify blind spots and make necessary changes.

9. Embrace and learning and personal development: Stay open to learning and growing by taking on new challenges, seeking out new experiences and continuing your education (being a life-long learner). Invest in your personal growth and development daily. It can be a rewarding and enriching experience. Here are a few suggestions:

○ Take some time each day to reflect on your experiences and think about what you learned from them. What went well? What could you have done differently? How can you apply these lessons

moving forward? Look for ways to learn and grow daily, whether it’s through reading, taking a class, or trying a new activity.

○ Practice mindfulness by being present in the moment and paying attention to your thoughts and feelings can help you become more self-aware and better able to identify areas for personal growth.

○ Take care of yourself. Make sure to prioritize self-care daily. This can include things like getting enough sleep, eating well, and finding ways to manage stress.

In conclusion, self-identity plays a vital role in a person’s overall well-being and can significantly impact their experiences and relationships. Understanding and strengthening one’s self-identity can result in increased self-confidence, self-esteem, and a clearer sense of purpose and direction in life. Remember to always be true to yourself and not to compare your authenticity with others. Embrace your individuality, you are bold, beautiful, and brilliant.

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Prayer is a powerful weapon that we can use to bring us closer to God and help us grow in our courage to believe his will. This is our personal and intimate moment this prayers and issue we have prepared 30-days of courageous prayers. May you be guided by His will. May we all grow

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Lord God, I come to you today with trust and faith in your word. I know that you are the one who creates light and darkness, who brings prosperity and creates disaster. I ask that you would guide me, as you have promised in Isaiah 45:5, ‘I am the Lord, and there is no other, the One who forms light and creates darkness, who makes peace and creates disaster.’ I trust in your sovereignty and your goodness and pray that you would reveal your plans for me. Give me wisdom, guidance, and discernment as I navigate the challenges and opportunities that come my way. Give me your peace and the assurance that you are with me always. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

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Heavenly Father, I come before you today, remembering your promise in Deuteronomy 7:9, ‘Know that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commands.’ Lord, I thank you for your faithfulness and your love for me. I confess that I often struggle to fully trust in your goodness and your plan for my life. Today, I choose to love you and keep your commands, relying on your promise to be faithful to me. I ask that you give me the strength and the determination to love and obey you, even when it is difficult. Help me to trust in your goodness and to follow your plan for my life. Give me the grace to rely on your faithfulness, even when I don’t understand the path you have for me. I pray for your protection and guidance as I navigate this life, and for your wisdom and

discernment as I make decisions. I pray that I may always remember your faithfulness and your love for me, and that it would be reflected in my actions and my words. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come to you today in need of your strength and your peace. I lift up to you the words of Psalm 62:7, ‘My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge.’ Lord, I am weary and I am in need of your salvation and your honor. I am in need of your strength and your refuge. I ask that you would be my rock, my stronghold, my shelter in times of trouble. I put my trust in you and I know that you will provide for me and protect me. I pray that you would give me the wisdom to seek your refuge amid my struggles and that you would give me the courage to trust in your provision for my life. I pray for your peace to fill my heart and for your strength to fill my soul. I pray that in you I will find rest, comfort and a sense of security. Lord, I trust in your faithfulness and your love for me, and I know that you will be my refuge and my strength. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

LEADERSHIP ON PURPOSE

Leadership is a multi-faceted concept that involves the ability to influence and motivate others. Despite the various definitions and interpretations of leadership, one thing is clear: it is a process of guiding and inspiring individuals to reach their goals.

However, the complexities of leadership as both an art and science can make it difficult to master. The science of leadership encompasses the processes, styles, and techniques used to lead a team and create an inclusive culture that promotes collaboration and commitment. Meanwhile, the art of leadership deals with the human element of leading and involves understanding how to effectively engage and inspire individuals, taking into account their unique personalities, behaviors, beliefs, and emotions. This art of leadership is shaped by one’s life experiences and plays a significant role in shaping one’s leadership style and ability to influence others.

The Bible offers examples of individuals with leadership styles that can be related to and provides insight into the importance of self-awareness in leadership. One such example is found in the book of Nehemiah. He is a prime example of a great leader and his leadership characteristics and traits serve as a model for 21st century leaders. Unlike Ezra, who was a priest, or Malachi, who was a prophet, Nehemiah was a layman and held a secular position before leading a group of Jews to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem. He serves as a shining example that one does not require a specific position or background to be a successful leader, as anyone can come from any background and still excel in leadership.

“Nehemiah’s experience in the King’s court equipped him well for the political and rebuilding efforts that were crucial for the survival of the Jewish people” (Geisler, 2007). Nehemiah exemplifies the kind of powerful impact that one person can have on a nation. He leveraged his position to bring about order, stability, and a renewed focus on God among the Jewish people. Nehemiah’s life offers a valuable lesson in leadership. He was able to overcome obstacles from both external and internal sources. He demonstrated his strategic thinking by assigning half of the people to build the wall and the other half to stand guard against potential

attacks from the Samaritans (Nehemiah 4-7). As governor, he also effectively navigated the challenges of negotiating peace among the Jews who were discontent with Persian taxes. His unwavering determination to achieve his goals resulted in a people who were reinvigorated, encouraged, and optimistic about their future. He displayed a number of qualities that contributed to his success in achieving his goals. These include:

• Unquestionable Integrity

• Confidence

• Inspiration of others

• Commitment and Passion

• Good Communication Skills

• Decision-Making Ability

• Accountable to self and others

• Delegator who Empowered Others

• Anointed

• Innovative

• Empathetic

• Resilient

• Connected with all People

• Humble

• Transparent

• Visionary Leader Who Served with Purpose

• High Emotional Quotient

I am drawn to the book of Nehemiah because he provides a practical example of how one can use their ability to influence and lead others to achieve a common goal. Unlike many people who do not actively choose to become leaders, Nehemiah showed the importance of self-awareness, and personal development in leading. Many leaders may have knowledge of technical aspects of leadership, but they do not prioritize personal growth, skill development, or leading with a specific purpose to make a positive impact on themselves and others, Nehemiah’s example is a biblical standard for us to follow in our quest to effectively motivate and influence others.

If you have ever struggled with embracing your role as a leader or if you are ready to lead authentically, intentionally, and with purpose, know that, like Nehemiah, you too were created by God for a great purpose.

A key part of fulfilling that purpose is being your best self and being aware of your leadership purpose, which is rooted in your beliefs, values, and behaviors.

I have read many books on leadership and even pursued a master’s degree with a focus on leadership. I was also fortunate to present a paper on women in leadership at a conference at Harvard University. Despite all of my education and leadership experience, it wasn’t until I participated in the Truist Leadership Institute’s “Mastering Leadership Dynamics” program that I had a transformative understanding of leadership. Specifically, it was during the fourth session of this program that the science and art of leadership came alive for me. I believe that the program helped me understand how my beliefs, studies, and experiences all interconnected and how it related to my faith. The Word of God came alive for me in a new way and I believe the Lord used this program to help me fully understand myself, my leadership potential, and my leadership purpose.

I learned that how you lead is closely connected to your identity. Self-awareness is important for being an effective leader. It’s about understanding how you think of yourself and how you see yourself. If you don’t see yourself the way God does, you may believe negative perceptions of yourself from others. One of the key things I learned is that if you lead from your emotions, it affects how people perceive you and how you perceive yourself. A good example is Nehemiah, he was known for being compassionate, focused, purposeful, and obedient to God.

Leading with purpose is important, but when our emotions are out of balance, it can impact our thinking and emotions. Two scriptures to keep in mind are Philippians 4:6-7, which states to not be anxious, but to pray and give thanks, and 2 Timothy 1:7, which reminds us that God has given us a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind. These scriptures remind us to lead with purpose and to do so with peace, prayer, confidence, and boldness through Jesus Christ.

Now, let’s go back to the early part of the article. I believe many people have a difficult time leading others because of what they think, how they feel, and not to mention the impact on one’s body when emotions are out of control, and negative implications on one’s spiritual growth. If we desire to lead on purpose, with

purpose, we must first embrace the fact that God created us for a reason and that we were chosen to do something for his will and glory. We can’t let obstacles such as our emotions hinder us and keep us wrapped in ourselves and not knowing who we are. Nehemiah was self-aware. He was chosen by God, anointed by God, and knew how to treat people.

If you serve in a leadership role and can impact the lives of other women, be mindful that it should be done with grace, mercy, and love. I’ve hurt a lot of people in my quest to lead. Unfortunately, I led with my emotions and was not effective. A lot of it stemmed from not being aware and just not knowing any better, I followed wrong examples, and I didn’t have the right circle of sisters to help me, hold me accountable, and be honest with me about my errors. Let me say this, you need a tribe that will be honest with you and speak truth to you and help you to become your best self. Do know it will require being vulnerable and being open to the feedback about yourself. Know that it will initially be uncomfortable, but it will all work out for your good.

Whether we realize it or not, we are all leaders and becoming a better leader takes time and it is a life-long process. You may know your leadership style, purpose, your characteristics, and even your personality type. But if you fail to become self-aware with your inner self (the authentic you), you will never get to where God’s wants you to be in life. Start today with becoming aware of your emotions and what causes you to react the way you do (both positively and negatively). Remember, what got you where you are, won’t get you where God wants you to be. Let’s lead on purpose, Amen.

A QUICK REVIEW OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

How do you best understand your emotions, requires understanding the specifics on emotional intelligence, the benefits of knowing your emotional quotient (EQ), links to TEDx videos and links to access EQ assessments. Emotional intelligence involves being able to recognize and understand your own emotions and the emotions of others, and to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships effectively. And becoming self-aware will give you the ability to recognize your own emotions, thoughts, and values and how they influence your behavior. Developing emotional

intelligence can lead to:

• Greater self-awareness and understanding of yourself

• Better control of emotions and reactions

• Increased empathy and compassion towards others

• Stronger, more positive relationships

• Greater success in the workplace

• Improved ability to handle challenges

• A deeper sense of purpose and meaning in life

• Enhanced spiritual growth.

Improving one’s emotional intelligence and self-awareness can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and others, better control of emotions, stronger relationships, and greater success in various aspects of life. There are a variety of assessments and exercises that can aid in this process. Click on the link to watch the following TEDx videos on self-awareness and emotional intelligence:

VIDEO LINKS

• The Power of Emotional Intelligence, Travis Bradberry: https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=auXNnTmhHsk

• Increase Your Self-Awareness with One Simple Fix, Tasha Eurich: https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=tGdsOXZpyWE

• Brené Brown’s Life Advice on Emotions Will Leave You Speechless, https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=-aU6T-ed1eI

• 6 Steps to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence, Ramona Hacker: https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=D6_J7FfgWVc

ASSESSMENTS

• Test Your Emotional Intelligence: How Well Do Your Read Other People?, Greater Good Magazine: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/quizzes/ ei_quiz/take_quiz

• How Emotionally Intelligent Are You?, Mind Tools Content Team: https://www.mindtools.com/ axbwm3m/how-emotionally-intelligent-are-you

• My Emotions, Free Online Quizzes About Emotions and Emotional Intelligence, University of Central Florida, https://sciences.ucf.edu/psychology/myemotions-hxus/

In closing, I am wishing you the best in your ongoing discovery of self by being intentional and purposeful

in your journey for growth and transformation. Investing in self and celebrating yourself is a fantastic thing. I am wishing you all the best. Remember, if you have a question, need help along the way. I’m just a click away.

I love you and wish you the best!

Dr. Christine

The following page contains links to some of my spiritual leaders who have greatly impacted my growth and development through their wisdom and teachings. Bishop T.D. Jakes and his daughter, Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts, have delivered powerful and inspiring messages that have brought me comfort and empowerment. Their teachings, filled with spiritual insights, will inspire and motivate you to understand yourself better and strive to be your best self. I highly recommend taking the time to listen to these anointed messages and let them guide you in your own growth journey. Enjoy!

The Battle for the Soul: Imposter Syndrome

Genesis 32:22-32 (NIV)

Bishop T.D. Jakes, Sunday, October 30,2022 Message

Message Description: You don’t have to fight yourself anymore. You’ve been in this world too long as an “imposter,” and it’s time to take off the mask. When you hide behind the world and reduce God’s influence, you devalue your soul’s importance. It’s time for God’s calling to come to the forefront. Stop fighting your purpose and start clinging tight. You will be blessed if you hold on!

YouTube Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KH2-rL50CUY

Becoming a Partner, Judges

7:9-18 (NKJV)

Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts, Wednesday, November 9, 2022 Message

Message Description: When it comes to our purpose, we often wonder: “What am I supposed to do?” But the question we should be asking ourselves is: “Who am I supposed to become?” Before you collide with destiny, a process must take place, and it happens on the threshing floor. It’s where you become somebody. It’s where you recognize you and God want the same victory, and you make a decision to partner with Him. The moment you come into alignment with what He wants to do in your life, you’ll understand why it had to be YOU!

YouTube Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRgj9V-VGxU&t=152s

Outside of the System

Acts 4:24-31 (NKJV)

Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts, Sunday, June 5, 2022 Message

Message Description: Much like routines, we all have systems that impact who we are and how we live. Most systems we’ve designed protect our image and our hearts, but we can’t simultaneously depend on our systems and an all-knowing God. Are you willing to live outside your system? When you dare to break out from what’s familiar, that’s where you’ll find freedom, joy, and peace that surpasses all understanding. It doesn’t matter if it has worked for you in the past; decide today to live outside your system!

YouTube Link:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WmgeBlJVlMc

Proverbs 18:24 is all about the importance of being a good friend and valuing the friendships we have. It’s saying that if you want to have friends, you gotta be a good friend in return. Let’s examine the scripture again. The verse says “a man that hath friends must shew himself friendly,” which means if you have friends, you gotta be friendly back. Supportive, kind, and considerate. And the verse also says “there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother,” which means some friends can be even more dependable than siblings. It’s a testament to how strong and valuable true friendship is. It’s a good reminder to us that we should be grateful for our true friends and be a good friend in return. Personally, I have come to understand the importance of clear boundaries and specific goals for relationships, both professionally and personally.

By being mindful of the people I surround myself with, setting boundaries, and prioritizing my well-being, I have formed a supportive sister circle that provides a sense of connection, belonging, and love. I no longer fear rejection or judgement for being my authentic self, and I trust that the people

in my circle will accept and love me for who I am. I am committed to being a supportive and uplifting presence in my sister circle, and I am grateful to have such wonderful and loving women in my life. I believe that we all need a network of supportive individuals to help us navigate life’s challenges and celebrate its joys. I hope this article will inspire others to assess the value of their relationships and ensure they are reciprocal.

Every woman should have a circle of women in their lives who support them but may have a different purpose for being in the circle. This circle may consist of women who share similar values and who are committed to supporting and empowering each other. Your circle should provide you with a sense of connection and belonging, as well as a safe space to express yourself and receive guidance and support. It can be especially helpful to have a circle to help during difficult times or when facing challenges. The circle may even be helpful in helping you to becoming a better you! So, if you were to consider your current circle is it beneficial? Does it support your emotional well-being? When you

surround yourself with your circle do they uplift and encourage? Does the relationship help boost your confidence and self-esteem? Does the circle pray for you and others? Is the relationship reciprocal? Do you give what you are wanting to receive from the sister circle?

I am grateful to have learned some valuable tips that have helped me to make thoughtful and purposeful decisions about who I allow into my life and my personal space. These tips continue to guide me as I strive to maintain my sister circle. The following section has scenarios of friendships and lessons learned from each. Followed by ways to assess your friendships and how to establish a sister circle.

Parting Ways from a Friend Scenario:

Trina and LaTasha had been friends since college, but over the years, their friendship had become unhealthy and tenuous. Trina was very ambitious and always seemed to be focused on career success. She would frequently criticize LaTasha for not doing more with her life and for not being more ambitious. LaTasha tried to talk to Trina about how she was feeling, but Trina was dismissive and seemed to think that LaTasha was just being lazy.

As their friendship continued to deteriorate, Trina became more and more controlling. She would make plans and expect LaTasha to follow them and would get angry if LaTasha wanted to do something different. LaTasha felt like she had lost her independence and was always walking on eggshells around Trina.

One day, Trina and LaTasha had a big argument. Trina accused LaTasha of not being a good friend, and LaTasha finally snapped. She told Trina that she was tired of being treated poorly and that she needed some space. Trina was shocked and hurt, and the two women stopped speaking to each other.

Eventually, LaTasha realized that she needed to let go of the friendship and move on. She found a new circle of friends who were more supportive and respectful, and she began to rebuild her confidence and self-esteem. She learned that sometimes, even long-term friendships can end, and that it’s important to surround yourself with people who are positive and uplifting.

Lessons Learned from Trina and LaTasha:

• It’s important to be aware of the dynamics in a friendship: LaTasha realized that her friendship with Trina had become unhealthy and that she needed to let it go in order to protect her own well-being. It’s important to be aware of the

dynamics in our relationships and to be willing to address any issues or concerns in order to maintain healthy and positive friendships.

• Communication is key: LaTasha tried to communicate her feelings to Trina, but Trina was unwilling to listen and address her concerns. In a relationship, it’s important to be open and willing to listen to and address the concerns of others.

• It is okay to set boundaries: LaTasha had to set a boundary with Trina and tell her that she needed some space. It’s important to recognize when we need to set boundaries in our relationships in order to protect our own well-being and to maintain a sense of balance and control in our lives.

• Respect is crucial: Trina was disrespectful towards LaTasha, belittling her accomplishments and criticizing her choices. It’s important to have relationships with people who are respectful and considerate of our feelings and boundaries.

It’s important to surround ourselves with positive and uplifting people: LaTasha found a new circle of friends who were more supportive and respectful, and this helped her to rebuild her confidence and self-esteem. It’s important to surround ourselves with people who are positive and uplifting, as they can help us to feel more confident and supported.

Fragile Friendships Scenario:

Katie and Rachel had been friends for years, but their friendship had become fragile over time. Katie had always been very sensitive and prone to insecurity, and she often looked to Rachel for reassurance and validation. Rachel would try to be supportive, but she became increasingly frustrated by Katie’s constant need for reassurance. She tried to talk to Katie about how she was feeling, but Katie became defensive and didn’t seem to want to listen.

As their friendship continued to deteriorate, Katie became more and more reliant on Rachel. She would constantly seek her out for support and advice and would get upset if Rachel wasn’t available or didn’t agree with her. Rachel felt like she was walking on eggshells around Katie, and she started to feel overwhelmed and drained by the constant attention.

One day, Katie and Rachel had a big argument. Katie accused Rachel of not being a good friend, and Rachel finally snapped. She told Katie that she was tired of feeling like she had to constantly reassure her, and that she needed some space. Katie was shocked and hurt, and the two women stopped

speaking to each other for several months.

Eventually, Rachel decided to confront Katie and try to salvage the friendship. She explained how she had been feeling and listened as Katie shared her own feelings of insecurity and anxiety. They both realized that they had been struggling to communicate and support each other effectively, and they made a commitment to work on their friendship and be more understanding and patient with each other. With time and effort, they were able to rebuild their friendship and create a stronger, more supportive bond. Rachel learned that even longterm friendships can go through rough patches, but that with effort and understanding, it is often possible to strengthen and improve them.

Lessons Learned from Katie and Rachel:

• It’s important to be understanding and patient: Rachel and Katie were able to rebuild their friendship by being more understanding and patient with each other. It’s important to remember that people may struggle or make mistakes, and to approach conflicts with patience and understanding rather than anger or criticism.

• It is okay to ask for help: Katie struggled with insecurity and sought support and reassurance from Rachel. It’s important to recognize when we need help or support, and to be willing to reach out to others for assistance.

• Relationships take effort and work: Rachel and Katie had to put in effort and work on their friendship in order to strengthen and improve it. It’s important to remember that all relationships require effort and attention in order to thrive.

• It’s important to set boundaries: Rachel had to set a boundary with Katie and tell her that she needed some space. It’s important to recognize when we need to set boundaries in our relationships in order to protect our own well-being and to maintain a sense of balance and control in our lives.

• It’s important to be honest and open: Rachel was honest with Katie about her feelings, and this helped them to understand each other’s perspectives and work towards a resolution. It’s important to be open and honest in our relationships, as this can foster understanding and trust.

• It’s important to have a support system: Rachel and Katie had a strong friendship that provided them with support and encouragement. It’s important to have a support system of friends and loved ones who can provide us with emotional and practical support.

• Relationships can change and grow: Rachel and Katie’s friendship went through a rough patch, but they were able to work through it and rebuild their relationship. It’s important to re-

member that relationships can change and grow over time, and that it’s often possible to work through conflicts and challenges.

Sister Circle in the Workplace Gone Bad (Samantha, Taylor and Nina):

Samantha, Taylor, and Nina had formed a closeknit sister circle at their company. They supported each other through the challenges of working in a predominantly male industry and provided a sense of community and belonging. However, as the women’s careers advanced and they took on more responsibilities, tensions began to rise.

Samantha became increasingly competitive and focused on her own success, and she often belittled the accomplishments of Taylor and Nina. She would criticize their ideas and decisions and would frequently try to take credit for their work. Taylor and Nina tried to talk to Samantha about how they were feeling, but she became defensive and refused to listen.

As the sister circle became more strained, Taylor and Nina began to feel isolated and unsupported. They started to distance themselves from Samantha and formed closer bonds with other colleagues. However, they were still unable to escape the negativity and tension that Samantha brought to the group.

Eventually, the sister circle completely fell apart. Taylor and Nina left the company, feeling drained and unsupported by their former friend. Samantha was left alone and isolated, realizing too late the value of her friendships and the importance of being a supportive colleague. The outcome was the least desirable for all three women, as they lost the sense of community and support that the sister circle had provided.

Lessons Learned from Samantha, Taylor, and Nina:

• Success does not have to come at the expense of others: Samantha’s competitive and self-centered behavior ultimately led to the breakdown of the sister circle. It’s important to remember that success and achievement can be shared and celebrated, rather than being a source of conflict and competition.

• Communication is key: Taylor and Nina tried to communicate their feelings to Samantha, but she was unwilling to listen and address their concerns. In a relationship, it’s important to be open and willing to listen to and address the concerns of others.

• Support and encouragement are crucial: The sister circle provided Taylor and Nina with a sense

of support and encouragement, but as the group became more strained, they loss that sense of community. It’s important to have supportive and encouraging relationships in our lives, as they can provide a sense of belonging and help us to feel less alone.

• It is okay to let go of unhealthy relationships: Taylor and Nina ultimately had to let go of the sister circle and move on, as the relationship was causing them more stress and negativity than happiness. It’s important to recognize when a relationship is causing harm or is no longer healthy, and to be willing to let it go in order to protect our own well-being.

If you are engaging with women who have hurt you or don’t have your best interests at heart, it may be time to consider finding a new sister circle. If you feel like it’s time to take a closer look at your current sister circle, or if you are looking to establish one, the following points can serve as a helpful guide. Building and maintaining a supportive network of women can be incredibly beneficial for your emotional well-being and personal growth. A sister circle should provide you with a sense of connection, belonging, and support, and it can offer valuable advice, guidance, and different perspectives on any problems or challenges you may be facing. It’s important to carefully consider who you include in your sister circle. You may use the following points as a guide to help you evaluate your current sister circle or create a new one.

1. Determine your sister circle purpose. It’s important to remember that your sister circle must have a purpose, and it’s up to you to determine what that purpose is. Whether it is a professional partnership or a personal friendship. When building relationships, it is imperative to understand who, what, when, where, and why the connection exists.

2. Identify your sister circle goals and values. Having a clear understanding of what you want to achieve and the values that are important to you are equally important. This will help you choose the right people to include in your sister circle. Do you want to support one another professionally, or is the focus more on personal growth and development? Having clear goals will help you attract like-minded individuals and determine the direction of your group.

3. Seek out diversity. Building a diverse sister circle of women can bring a wide range of perspectives and experiences to the table, which can be invaluable in achieving your goals. Look for women from different backgrounds, experiences/expertise, and points of view can be more enriching for everyone involved.

4. Foster genuine relationships. Building a sister circle is about more than just exchanging business cards or LinkedIn connections. Take the time to get to know people and build real, meaningful relationships. Find ways to foster the connections and build trust. This could include regular meetings, social events, or mentorship programs.

5. Make sure there are clear lines of communication and a system for resolving conflicts. It’s important to have open and honest discussions and to have a process in place for addressing any issues that may arise. It’s important to remember communicating with your sister circle is an important factor. Having clear, open communication is essential to building a strong sister circle. This means being honest, straightforward, and open to feedback.

6. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Building your sister circle should be about mutual support and collaboration. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice when you need it and be willing to offer support in return. Also, you sister circle can mean hiring a life coach, who align with your goals and will support you along your journey. However, they should be selected based on your established.

7. Remember to have fun and celebrate your accomplishments along the way! Building a supportive sister circle can be rewarding and enjoyable, so make sure to carve out time to celebrate your successes and enjoy each other’s company.

8. Promote a safe and supportive environment. Make sure that everyone in your circle/sister circle feels comfortable and accepted, and that their contributions are valued.

9. Consider the use of technology to stay connected and facilitate communication. This could include using a group chat or video conferencing platform.

10. Foster a sense of community. Look for ways to bring the sister circle together and create a sense of belonging. This could include social events, volunteering, or other activities that allow members to bond and connect with one another. This will help everyone get to know each other and understand the connection between each other.

11. Encourage growth and development. Look for opportunities to support one another’s personal and professional growth. Share each other’s experiences and opportunities that have promoted growth and development in leadership, entrepreneurship, skill development. Personal and professional growth.

12. Be open to new ideas and perspectives. Encourage sister circle to share their thoughts and experiences and be open to learning from one

another. This can help the group grow and evolve over time.

13. Keep Your Circle Active. Building a circle is an ongoing process. Make every effort to stay in touch with your connections and keep the lines of communication open. This will help you build a strong supportive network that is mutually beneficial.

14. Assess your Circle. At least once or twice a year, you should examine your circle and make sure it is meeting your expectations. If it is continue to move forward and determine if there is a need to stretch your circle purpose. If you determine that your circle is not helping you to grow, do not be afraid to be transparent and honest with your circle and remove someone if necessary. Just remember to do it with love and compassion, and let them know why.

15. Help is Available. Consider adding LEGACY to your sister circle. We are a team available to help you develop a leader. Use the following link to let us know how we can help you to grow, pray for you, or even get you connected during one of our upcoming Courageous Conversations to share.

As a conclusion, we can build strong and supportive relationships through self-reflection, setting appropriate boundaries, prioritizing our well-being, and being authentic. Having a sister circle can provide a sense of belonging, connection, and love. It is important for every woman to surround herself with a group of women who support, encourage, and share the same values and goals as hers.

Prayer Days 4-7

Lord God, I come to you today in awe and gratitude for your goodness and your faithfulness. I lift to you the words of Nehemiah 9:6, ‘You alone are the Lord. You made the heavens, even the highest heavens, and all their starry host, the earth and all that is on it, the seas and all that is in them. You give life to everything, and the multitudes of heaven worship you.’ Lord, I thank you for creating me, for giving me life, and for the abundant blessings you have given me. I confess that I often take for granted all that you have done for me and all that you continue to do. Today, I choose to worship you, to give you the honor and the glory that you alone deserve. I ask that you would help me to see you in all things, to be mindful of your presence and your provision in my life. I pray for the wisdom and the discernment to recognize the blessings you have bestowed upon me. I pray that you would give me the strength to follow your will and to trust in your plan for my life. I pray for your guidance and your protection as I navigate this world. Help me to remember always that you alone are the Lord and that you deserve all of my worship and all of my praise. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen. 5

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Heavenly Father, I come before you today confessing my need for your love. I remind myself of your promise in 1 John 4:16, ‘And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.’ Lord, I confess that I often struggle to truly understand and rely on your love for me. Today, I choose to believe in your love and to live in it. I pray that you would fill me with your love and that it would be reflected in my thoughts, words, and actions. I ask that you would help me to love others as you have loved me. Give me the strength to forgive, to be kind, and to show compassion to those around me. I pray that I would not only know your love but also rely on it and let it guide me in my daily life. I pray for your guidance as I navigate the challenges of life, and that I would always remember that you are love and that you are with me always. I trust in your faithfulness and your love for me and I pray that it would be reflected in my life. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

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Almighty God, I come before you today confessing my need for your guidance and your strength. I remind myself of your promise in Isaiah 9:6, ‘For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.’ Lord, I confess that I often feel overwhelmed and unsure of the path ahead of me. Today, I choose to rely on your guidance and your strength as my Wonderful Counselor and Mighty God. I pray that you would give me wisdom and discernment in the decisions I make, and that you would guide me in the path you have for me. I ask for your strength to face the challenges that come my way and for your peace to calm my fears and doubts. I trust in your faithfulness and your love for me and I pray that it would be reflected in my life. I pray for your protection and guidance as I navigate this life, and pray that I may always remember your faithfulness and your love for me, and that it would be reflected in my actions and my words. I pray to be a reflection of your love to those around me and to be an instrument of your peace in the world. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come to you today lifting up Psalm 89:8 as a reminder of your faithfulness and love. “O Lord God Almighty, who is like you? You are mighty, O Lord, and your faithfulness surrounds you.” Lord, I thank you for your constant love and faithfulness in my life. I confess that sometimes I struggle to trust in your goodness reflected in my life. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

and plan for my life. Today I choose to trust in your faithfulness and to rely on your love to guide me in my daily life. I pray that you would give me the wisdom and discernment to recognize your hand in my life and to trust in your plan for me. I ask that you would give me the strength to follow your will and to trust in your provision for my life. I pray for your protection and guidance as I navigate this world, and for your peace to fill my heart and for your strength to fill my soul. I pray that in you I will find rest, comfort, and a sense of security. I pray that I would always remember your faithfulness and your love for me and that it would be reflected in my thoughts, words, and actions. I trust in your faithfulness and your love for me and I pray that it would be

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Prayer Days 8-12

Heavenly Father, I come to you today lifting up 2 Corinthians 2:14 as a reminder of your power and grace. “But thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in Christ’s triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of the knowledge of him everywhere.” Lord, I thank you for your constant leading and guidance in my life. I confess that sometimes I feel lost and unsure of the path ahead. Today, I choose to trust in your power and grace to lead me on the path you have for me. I pray that you would use me to spread the aroma of your knowledge and love to those around me, through my thoughts, words, and actions. I pray for your guidance and wisdom as I navigate my daily life, and for the strength to overcome any obstacle that comes my way. I trust in your faithfulness and your love for me and I pray that it would be reflected in my life. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

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the God who works wonders; you have made known your might among the peoples.”

Heavenly Father, as I begin this new day, I am reminded of your faithfulness and power as written Psalm 77:14, I in day.

your sovereignty and ask that you would guide me and give me wisdom as I go about my day. I pray that your love and presence would be evident in all that I do and say. I ask for your protection and provision throughout 9

trust in Jesus name, Amen.

Heavenly Father, as I start this day, I come to you with a heart full of gratitude and trust, as written in Psalm 70:15 “Let those who seek you rejoice and be glad in you; let those who love your salvation say continually, "God is great!” I give you thanks for your salvation, your goodness and your unfailing love. I ask that you guide me throughout this day, giving me wisdom, strength and direction. I trust in your protection and provision for me and my loved ones. I pray for your blessings and guidance in everything I do and say. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dear Lord, I come to you today with a heart full of gratitude and trust. As I meditate on Galatians 2:20, “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” I want to thank you for the sacrifice of your son Jesus and for the gift of eternal life that I have through him. I pray that you would help me to understand the depth of your love and grace and that I would live my life fully surrendered to you. I pray that your love would be evident in everything I do, say and think. I pray that the life you have given me would be lived by faith in you and that your presence would be with me always. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Heavenly Father, as I start this day, I come to you with a heart full of gratitude and trust, as written in Amen.

Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” I thank you for the gift of your wisdom and guidance, and I ask that you help me to fear you above all else. I pray that I would be guided by your word and your spirit in all that I do and say. Help me to be a woman of integrity, wisdom and kindness, and to be a reflection of your love to those around me. I pray that I would be praised for my fear of you, and that I would be a shining example of your love to others. In Jesus’ name,

The concept of purpose is a common theme in many religions and spiritual traditions. Many scriptures offer guidance and wisdom on how to discover and fulfill one’s purpose in life.

In the Bible, it is written in Jeremiah 29:11 that “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” This verse suggests that God has a specific plan and purpose for each individual and that this purpose is meant to bring prosperity and hope.

In the Quran, it is written in Surah Al-Baqarah 2:185 that “Every soul shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed is successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception.” This verse suggests that the ultimate purpose in life is to seek salvation and achieve success in the afterlife.

In Hinduism, the concept of dharma, or one’s righteous duty, is central to understanding one’s purpose in life. It is believed that each person has a unique dharma based on their nature, abilities, and circumstances, and that fulfilling this dharma brings happiness and fulfillment.

In Buddhism, the concept of purpose is tied to the idea of suffering and the path to enlightenment. The Four Noble Truths state that suffering is an inherent part of life, but that it can be overcome through the Eightfold Path, which includes right understanding, right intention, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness, and right concentration. Following this path is believed to lead to enlightenment and the end of suffering, and therefore serves as one’s ultimate purpose in life.

Ultimately, the concept of purpose is deeply personal and may vary from person to person. Many scriptures offer guidance on how to discover and fulfill one’s purpose, but it is up to each individual to seek out their own path and find meaning and fulfillment in life.

Jeremiah 29:11 is a well-known verse in the Bible that speaks to the concept of purpose. It reads, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” This verse suggests that God has a specific plan and purpose for each individual and that this purpose is meant to bring prosperity, hope, and a positive future.

Pursuing one’s purpose can be a fulfilling and rewarding journey, but it can also be challenging at times.

Here are a few ways to approach pursuing your purpose based on the guidance of Jeremiah 29:11:

1. Trust in God’s plan: The verse states that God has a specific plan for each individual, and trusting in this plan can bring a sense of peace and direction. It’s important to remember that God’s plan may not always be clear or easy to understand, but trusting in it can help you navigate challenges and stay focused on your purpose.

2. Seek guidance from God: The verse encourages seeking guidance from God in order to fulfill your purpose. This can be done through prayer, reading scripture, and seeking the counsel of trusted friends, mentors, or spiritual leaders.

3. Remember that your purpose is meant to bring prosperity and hope: It’s important to keep in mind that your purpose is meant to bring positivity and blessings into your life. This can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals, even when faced with challenges or setbacks.

4. Take action: While seeking guidance and trusting in God’s plan is important, it’s also necessary to take action in order to pursue your purpose. This may involve setting goals, making a plan, and working towards your dreams.

Consequently, pursuing your purpose is a journey that requires patience, trust, and hard work. By following the guidance of Jeremiah 29:11, you can find meaning and fulfillment in your life and make a positive impact in the world.

So, how do you focus on your purpose. Focus refers to the ability to direct and sustain attention on a particular task or activity. It involves filtering out distractions and remaining concentrated on a specific goal. Good focus can help improve our productivity and efficiency, as it allows you to engage with a task and make progress toward completing it. For example, if your God given purpose is to publish self-help books for children to inspire and encourage through your art and poems, you would dedicate your time, talent, and resources with a goal in mind. If you don’t focus, it leads to a lack of focus which leads to difficulty completing what

you set out to do because of distractions, lack of sleep, and an excess of competing tasks or responsibilities. Developing good focus and concentration skills can take time and effort, but it can greatly improve your overall well-being and fulfilling your purpose.

It is a common belief that focus is a muscle that can be developed and strengthened over time, much like muscles. This means that the more you practice focusing and sustaining attention on a task, the better you will become at it. There are several practical strategies you can use to improve your focus and concentration skills. They include the following:

1. Reflect on your values and passions: Identifying what is most important to you and what you are most passionate about can help you narrow down your focus and find your purpose.

2. Set goals: Setting specific, achievable goals can help you stay motivated and focused as you pursue your purpose.

3. Seek out opportunities: Look for opportunities to learn new skills, gain experience, and make connections that can help you pursue your purpose.

4. Take risks: Don’t be afraid to take calculated risks in order to pursue your purpose. This may involve stepping out of your comfort zone or making sacrifices in the short term.

5. Seek support: Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you as you pursue your purpose. This can include friends, family, mentors, or a community of like-minded individuals.

6. Stay flexible: It’s important to stay open to new ideas and opportunities as you pursue your purpose. Don’t be afraid to pivot or adjust your plans as you learn and grow.

7. Persevere: Pursuing your purpose will likely involve challenges and setbacks. It’s important to stay committed and persevere through these challenges in order to achieve your goals.

By following these strategies, you can stay focused and motivated as you pursue your purpose and make progress towards your goals.

Prayer Days 13-17

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beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in your sight.” I thank you for your love and grace and I pray that I would focus on

:Heavenly Father, as I start this day, I come to you in humility and gratitude, as written in 1 Peter 3:3-4 “Your developing my inner beauty rather than worrying about my outward appearance. I pray that my inner self would be gentle, quiet, and full of your peace and love. I ask that you help me to be content with who I am and to find my worth in you. I pray that my actions, words and thoughts would reflect my inner beauty and that I would be a reflection of your love to others. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Heavenly Father, as I start this day, I come to you with a heart full of gratitude and trust, as written in Proverbs 31:25 “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” I thank you for the gift of your strength and dignity and I pray that I would be clothed in both today. I ask that you help me to face the future with confidence, knowing that you are in control. I pray that your peace would fill my heart and that I would find joy in all circumstances. I pray that I would be a woman of strength and dignity, and that my laughter would be a reflection of my trust in you. I pray that I would be a light in this world, showing others the hope and peace that can only be found in you. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Almighty God, as I face the challenges and opportunities of this day, I come to you with Deuteronomy 31:6

Almighty God, as I face the challenges of this day, I come to you with Joshua 1:9 “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” I trust in your promise of being with me always and I pray for the strength and courage to face whatever this day brings. I ask that you give me the wisdom and discernment to make good decisions, and the ability to trust in you and your plan for my life. I pray that I would not be discouraged by the difficulties I may encounter, but that I would find my strength and hope in you. I pray that your presence would be evident in all that I do and say, and that I would glorify you in all things. In Jesus’ name, Amen. 14 16

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” I thank you for your promise to always be with me and I pray that I would have the strength and courage to face the challenges that come my way. I ask that you give me the wisdom and discernment to make good decisions, and the ability to trust in you and your plan for my life. I pray that I would not be afraid or intimidated by the obstacles or opposition that I may encounter, but that I would find my strength and hope in you. I pray that your presence would be evident in all that I do and say, and that I would glorify you in all things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Heavenly Father, as I start this day, I come to you with a heart full of gratitude and trust, as written in Philippians 4:6 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” I thank you for your love and grace and I pray that I would be able to trust in you and your plan for my life. I ask that you help me to let go of my worries and anxieties, and to bring them to you in prayer. I pray that I would be filled with thanksgiving, knowing that you are in control of all things. I pray that you would give me the wisdom and discernment to manage the situations that I may face today with grace and peace. I pray that your presence would be with me always and that I would glorify you in all things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Prayer Days 18-22

Almighty God, as I begin this new day, I come before you with a grateful heart, reminded of the truth in Psalm 139:14 “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” I thank you for your love and grace in creating me, and for the unique and special way you have made me. I praise you for your wonderful works and I pray that I would understand more deeply the depth of your love for me and see myself through your eyes. I pray that I would be guided by your word and your spirit in all that I do and say. Help me to be a reflection of your love to those around me, and to be a shining example of your grace To others. I pray that I would be a good steward of the body you have given me and that I would glorify you in all things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Almighty God, I come to you this morning with open heart and an open mind, trusting in your promises as stated in Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I thank you for your love, grace and guidance in my life and I pray for your wisdom and discernment to guide me in making good decisions today. I trust in your plan for my life and I pray that I would not be discouraged or defeated by the difficulties I may encounter today. I pray for your strength and hope to be my anchor, and for your presence to be evident in all that I do and say. I pray that I may glorify you in all things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Heavenly Father, as I start this day, I come to you with trust and confidence, as written in Deuteronomy 20:4

“For the Lord your God is the one who goes with you to fight for you against your enemies to give you victory.” I thank you for your promise to be with me and to fight for me, and I pray for your guidance and protection

throughout this day. I pray that I would have the strength and courage to face any challenges that come my way, and that I would have the wisdom and discernment to make good decisions. I trust in your plan for my life, and I pray that I would not be afraid or intimidated by obstacles or opposition that I may encounter, but that I would find my strength and hope in you. I pray that your presence would be evident in all that I do and say, and that I would glorify you in all things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Almighty God, as I begin this new day, I come to you with an open heart, remembering the truth in Isaiah 40:31 “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.” I thank you for your promise to renew my strength and give me hope, and I pray that I would put my trust in you and find my strength in you. I ask for your guidance and protection throughout this day, and for your wisdom and discernment to make good decisions. I pray that I would not grow weary or faint in the face of difficulties, but that I would soar on wings like eagles, and that I would always find my hope and strength in you. I pray that your presence would be clear in all that I do and say, and that I would glorify you in all things. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come before you today, with the words of Proverbs 14:1 in my heart, ‘Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.’ I ask that you give me the wisdom to build up my home and family. Help me to be strong and make wise choices that will bring stability and love to those I care for. Grant me the humility to admit when I make mistakes and the strength to learn from them, so that I do not tear down what I have built. I ask for your guidance and protection as I navigate the challenges that come with building and maintaining a home. I put my trust in you and ask for your blessings upon my family. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

Prayer Days 23-26

Heavenly Father, I come before you today, asking for your strength and protection as I put on the full armor of God, as it is written in Ephesians 6:11-18 “Put on the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints.” put on the belt of truth and the breastplate of righteousness, as I strive to live in a way that pleases you. I ask for your protection as I walk in the way of peace, holding the shield of faith high to quench all the fiery darts of the enemy. I put on the helmet of salvation and take up the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, as I stand firm in the faith. I pray always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, watching and persevering for all saints. I ask for your strength and guidance as I face the spiritual battles that come my way. I put my trust in you and pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come before you today, asking for your wisdom and understanding as I read the words of 1 Corinthians 2:9 which says, “But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.” I ask for your revelation and understanding as I seek to know the things you have prepared for me. I ask for your guidance and insight as I strive to love you more fully and to understand the depth of your love for me. Help me to trust in your plan and to know that the things you have prepared for me are far beyond what my mind can comprehend. I put my faith in you and ask that you continue to reveal yourself to me in new ways. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come before you today, with the words of Colossians 3:23-24 in my heart, “And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.” I ask for your strength and guidance as I strive to do all that I do, heartily as unto you. Help me to keep in mind that ultimately it is you that I am serving, and that the reward of my inheritance comes from you. I will put my all in every task, big or small, and I’ll do it with a willing heart, as if I’m doing it for you, my Lord and savior. I will keep my focus on you, rather than on pleasing others or receiving recognition from them. I trust that as I serve you, you will guide me and show me the path that leads to the reward of my inheritance in you. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come before you today, with the words of Proverbs 3:5-6 in my mind, “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Lord, I know that it is easy to rely on my own understanding, but I ask that you help me to acknowledge you in all my ways and to lean on you for guidance. I ask for the strength to let go of my need for control and to trust in your plan for my life. I ask for the courage to follow your lead, even when it may be difficult or uncertain. I pray that you will give me the grace to recognize and accept your will for my life, and the strength to obey your commands and walk in your ways. I ask for your protection and guidance as I journey through life, and for the wisdom to discern your will in every situation. I pray for the courage to trust in you, and to rely on your strength and guidance, in every moment of my life. I put my faith in you and pray that you will continue to direct my paths and lead me to a deeper understanding of your love and grace. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

Prayer Days 27-30

Heavenly Father, I come before you today with the words of Proverbs 18:24 in my heart, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” I thank you for the friends you have placed in my life and for the love and support they bring. I ask that I may be a good

friend in return, showing myself friendly and being there for them as they are for me. I also thank you for the friend that sticks closer than a brother, Jesus Christ. I ask that I may deepen my relationship with him, and that through him, I may always have the support, guidance, and love I need. I pray that I may always be open to his leading and that my friendship with him would grow stronger each day. I ask for your wisdom and guidance as I navigate the various relationships in my life, whether with friends, family, or acquaintances.

Help me to be a good friend, to be supportive and understanding, and to reflect your love and grace to those around me. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come before you today with the words of Matthew 6:33 in my mind, “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” I humbly ask for your guidance and wisdom as I strive to seek your kingdom and righteousness first in my life. I know that it is easy to get caught up in the worries and concerns of this world, but I ask that you help me to keep my focus on you and make wise choices that align with your will for my life, and to be obedient to your commands. I ask for your

to prioritize my relationship with you above all else. I pray for the strength and courage to put my trust in you, to let go of my fears, doubts, and anxieties and to put my focus on your kingdom and righteousness. Help me to provision for my needs, and for the wisdom to discern your will for my life. I trust that as I seek you first, all that I need will be added to me. I pray for the grace to be a light in this world, a reflection of your love and righteousness, and to be a good steward of the blessings you have given me. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come before you today with the words of John 10:10 in my mind, “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” I thank you for the gift of eternal life through your son Jesus Christ, and for the protection and guidance you provide me in this life. I am aware that the thief, Satan, is constantly seeking to steal, kill and destroy me, but I put my trust in you and the power of the life that you have given me through your son Jesus. I pray that I may live in the fullness of your life and that I may be filled with your Spirit. I ask that you help me to be aware of the thief’s tactics and to resist them with your truth and your power. I pray for the wisdom to be able to discern the thief’s lies and to be filled with your truth. I pray for the strength to follow your lead and to put my focus on your kingdom and righteousness, so that I may have an abundant life in you. I pray that I may be a light in this world, a reflection of your love and grace, and to be a good steward of the blessings you have given me. I pray that I may be a vessel of your love and grace to those around me. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

Heavenly Father, I come before you today with the words of Romans 12:1-2 in my heart, “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” I humbly ask for your guidance and wisdom as I strive to present my body as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to you. I ask for the strength to resist conforming to the ways of this world and to be transformed by the renewing of my mind. I pray for your wisdom to discern your will and to understand what is good, acceptable, and perfect in your eyes. I ask for your help to align my thoughts, words and actions with your will and to live a life that is pleasing to you. I ask for your grace to overcome any obstacle that may come my way and to have the courage to live differently than the world around me. Help me to be a light in this world, a reflection of your love and grace, and to be a good steward of the blessings you have given me. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

SOLIDARITY

With Bishop Herbert H. Thomas, Jr., Ph.D.

When All Others Fail, Trust in Jesus

In 2 Timothy 1:15, Paul writes to Timothy and says, “You know that everyone in the province of Asia has deserted me, including Phygelus and Hermogenes.” It’s clear that Paul was feeling abandoned and betrayed by those he had thought were his friends. But Paul doesn’t let this betrayal get him down. Instead, he turns to Jesus for strength and comfort. In 2 Timothy 4:9-11, he writes, “Do your best to come to me quickly, for Demas, because he loved this world, has deserted me and has gone to Thessalonica.” Paul goes on to say in verse 16, “At my first defense, no one came to my support, but everyone deserted me. May it not be held against them.” Here, Paul demonstrates his forgiveness and love for those who have abandoned him, even in the face of persecution. And in verse 18, Paul writes, “The Lord will rescue me from every evil attack and will bring me safely to his heavenly kingdom. To him be glory for ever and ever. Amen.”

Through all of his struggles and setbacks, Paul trusted in Jesus and knew that he would be rescued and brought safely into his heavenly kingdom. In times of betrayal and abandonment, it can be easy to feel alone and despair. But just as Paul trusted in Jesus, we too can find comfort and strength in him. When all others fail us, let us turn to Jesus and trust in his love and protection. He will never forsake us or abandon us, but will always be with us, guiding us through even the darkest of times. So, let us put our trust in Jesus and find hope and peace in him. We are not alone in our struggles. Jesus himself was betrayed by one of his closest friends, Judas, and yet he still chose to forgive and love him. If Jesus can extend forgiveness and love to those who have hurt him, surely, we can do the same for those who have hurt us.

As Paul wrote in 2 Timothy 4:17, “The Lord stood at my side and gave me strength, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed, and all the Gentiles might hear it. And I was delivered from the lion’s

mouth.” Paul was able to forgive others and move on from their failures because he trusted in God to empower him and sustain him. Forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. Sometimes, it’s important to distance ourselves from toxic relationships or situations that are harmful to us. In these cases, it’s okay to set boundaries and prioritize our own well-being.

Ultimately, the key is to trust in Jesus and let him be the anchor in our lives. When we put our faith and trust in him, we can find the strength and courage to overcome any obstacle or hurt that comes our way. So let us hold fast to Jesus and trust in his love and care for us, for he will never fail us. Now, trust takes time to build. Just as we must work to build trust in our human relationships, we must also work to build trust in our relationship with Jesus. This means taking time to pray, read the Bible, and seek out fellowship with other believers.

Trust in Jesus is a journey that takes time and effort. It is about gaining a deeper understanding of His teachings, learning to rely on His guidance, and actively incorporating His principles into our daily lives. Some additional ways to build trust in Jesus include reading and studying the Bible, prayer and meditation, attending church, and participating in fellowship with other believers. By dedicating ourselves to these practices, we can develop a stronger relationship with Jesus and increase our trust in Him. As our trust in Jesus grows, we will find that our lives become more fulfilling, meaningful, and peaceful. Here are some other ways to help strengthen our trust in Jesus:

1. One way we can strengthen our trust in Jesus is by meditating on his promises. For example, in Psalm 56:3, David writes, “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” This verse reminds us that no matter what fears or doubts we may have, we can always trust in Jesus.

2. Another way to build trust in Jesus is by seeking out the guidance and counsel of other believers. When we open ourselves up to accountability and community, we can find support and encouragement in our faith journey. So let us be bold in seeking out fellowship with other believers and let us trust in the guidance and direction of Jesus for our lives. When facing difficult times with family and friends, it can be easy to feel alone and abandoned. But just as Paul knew that the presence of the Lord would sustain him, we too can find comfort and strength in the Lord’s presence.

3. Like Paul, we can trust that God will never leave us or forsake us, as he promised in Hebrews 13:5. We can also trust that God will use even the toughest of times to accomplish his purposes in our lives and fulfill our calling. As Paul wrote in Philippians 2:13, “For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.” It’s important to remember that persecution and betrayal are unfortunately a part of the Christian journey. But as 1 Peter 5:10 reminds us, “After

you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, support, strengthen, and establish you.” And like Paul, we can have confidence that God will deliver us, whether in this life or the next. As Paul wrote in 2 Timothy 4:18, “The Lord will rescue me from every evil attack and will bring me safely to his heavenly kingdom. To him be glory for ever and ever. Amen.” Let us hold fast to this promise and trust in the Lord’s love and care for us, no matter what challenges we may face.

In conclusion, when all others fail us and we feel betrayed and abandoned, let us turn to Jesus and trust in his love and care for us. Through prayer, meditation on his promises, and fellowship with other believers, we can strengthen our trust in him and find the strength and courage to overcome any obstacle. May we all find comfort and hope in the love of Jesus. Amen.

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