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Fly Your Flag

When it comes to the impression your home (and garden) make, all the little details matter: the font of your house numbers, whether the front door matches the front porch, whether you’ve had your roof replaced since that hail storm years ago. And that’s just the outside!

Although it may not be fair, humans are quick to make judgments. Whether just walking through a neighborhood or visiting the home of a friend for the first time, the appearance of the homes you’re walking past or into makes an impression.

One of the strongest, most intentional statements you can make on the outside of your home is flying a flag. They range from silly (the Nicki Minaj saluting American flag comes to mind) to sporty to serious. Your choice of flag might not say much about you, other than that you have a sense of humor or are very proud of Wisconsin sports. It could also say everything about you, or mean everything to someone who sees it.

Flags not only announce who lives inside a home but also signal who is or is not welcome in and around it. The flag of another nation could indicate the presence of an immigrant community, like the white stars on blue backgrounds dotting Cedar-Riverside. Or, in the case of a Ukrainian or Palestinian flag, it could signal solidarity with a nation at war, even if the person flying it doesn’t have a personal connection.

A neighbor’s POW/MIA flag could lead to a touching conversation about lost relatives. The American flag? Depends on who’s flying it — it could represent a dedication to the values of inclusion, acceptance and

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equal opportunity, often cited as our nation’s defining principles. It could also signal allegiance to other ideas from America’s past, possibly including definitions of American identity that leave out diverse communities and lead to discrimination against them.

A Pride flag, however, leaves no ambiguity. It signals that everyone is welcome, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation. And for someone struggling to come out, trying to find a safe space to pass the time or searching for a new neighborhood to make their home, that could mean everything. Whether joining a rainbow chorus of flags lining a street or standing alone, your Pride flag could make a difference. 

BY E.B. BOATNER

On Finding, then Living, One’s Self: Dwayne A. Ratleff

Dwayne A. Ratleff’s “Dancing to the Lyrics,” reviewed in Lavender in 2022, was told through the eyes of a 5-year-old self, aka Grant Cole, a small, fierce intelligence navigating 1960’s segregated Baltimore, and a home steeped in its own violence, dominated by a cruel stepfather.

Ratleff later commented, “The biggest problem was how to categorize the book. It is obviously a memoir, but I had to give the living plausible deniability. I also labeled it as fiction because a few of the characters were amalgams … [that] book is trans-genre. I think I will stick with that.”

Author Ratleff resides in the background, interpreting the boy’s perceptions without obscuring the observant youngster’s efforts to understand. Ignorance is not stupidity, but as its Latin “ignotus” indicates, means “not-knowing.” His lack of access to information, adequate vocabulary and historical context blinded others to the child’s keen, nuanced intelligence. Plucked from the Midwest and dropped into chaos, Grant’s naïve, “Do you have a day called Sunday in Baltimore?” could indeed seem imbecilic to some. Grant is black, (obvious to anyone), gay (there are hints), and throughout the book, given the sketchy educational system available, remains unable to read or write. Illiterate even at age 10 when he, his mother and sisters, and the unwanted step-father leave Baltimore for his maternal grandparents’ home in Connecticut. New England was not particularly welcoming to blacks, but death didn’t lurk around every corner as it did, literally, in their patch of Baltimore.

Humiliation did, however, for young Grant as well as for Ratleff himself, as he segues into his newest book, “See, What Had Happened Was…” In Connecticut, fear and embarrassment clouded every reading assignment.

“I had to repeat 4th grade and was put in Special Education along with my sisters. The class was in the basement/boiler room. Back then (1969) they didn’t have a dedicated classroom for Special Ed. As a matter fact, I believe Connecticut was the first state to address that issue … Special Ed. didn’t really help me at all. They weren’t addressing the main issue, which was why I didn’t want to read: I saw no point expending all that energy for something I didn’t think was useful.”

How could Ratleff or other children who never had access to books, or were forced to focus on avoiding domestic violence, ever have time

or energy to consider the printed word? “There were no books in our house until I was eleven. My grandfather worked for a wealthy man in Litchfield who gave us a bookcase full of books. It was put in my room. It was perfect timing.”

Fortunately, a sweltering Spring blanketed the Northeast that particular year. “Our teachers would make us put our heads down on our desks, then would turn off the light and read to us.” His teacher chose “Charlotte’s Web”; Ratleff was entranced, and couldn’t bear interruptions or delays.

“That’s when it dawned on me that I couldn’t be dependent on others to read for me. There were whole worlds in books and I wanted to explore those worlds. By the end of the 6th grade, I’d progressed enough to start reading ‘Hamlet,’ ‘Taras Bulba,’ ‘The Picture of Dorian Gray’ and ‘The Odyssey,’ that were in that donated book case.”

Books became the portal through which Ratleff stepped into a new life, as narrated in his second, purely autobiographical, “See, What Had Happened Was…” It opens March 20, 1980, two days before his 21st birthday. “I didn’t want to turn twenty-one in Connecticut.” He had graduated with honors but needed a change. It was time to move beyond, and his destination was San Francisco. He writes as one who has indeed passed through earlier stages, but like a caterpillar still in its chrysalis was still liquefying, changing and reshaping … he remained on the verge.

His main goal was to be true to himself as a gay individual. Before leaving the east, when grandfather asked, “Boy, why are you moving out to San Francisco?” Ratleff was caught off guard.

But, Ratleff replied, “Grandpa, I ain’t never lied to you, and I ain’t going to start now. I am moving there to sleep with men.”

His grandfather astounded him with, “Dwayne, whatever you do, don’t go home with a man you can’t best in a fight, in case he is not gay, because I love you and don’t want you to get hurt.”

There is a lot of living and learning packed in this second volume, but the conversation contains the meat of the contents. The whole might be considered a bildungsroman, typical maturing of a young man, but is unique in that the author is presenting himself not precisely as a nov-

ice, unformed, but one finally freed to embrace that life for which he had long yearned, for which he had been preparing and expressed through young Grant in “Dancing to the Lyrics.”

Ratleff faced new mountains to climb in this city of nine hills, but he set about it directly, undergoing a lack of funds, employment, enduring trials from leaping out a window in an apartment fire to a White gentleman’s lecture on green food choices at the grocery. “All my life White people had told me I couldn’t have this or that. Now that those things were within reach, I was being told it was bad for me.” He replied only, “You’re White, I’m wrong.”

Ratleff’s tone throughout is engaging. He doesn’t lecture but rather uses what he as his child-self Grant observed and integrated within “Dancing”to both guide his readers and remind himself. Yes, he came to San Francisco to “sleep with men,” and did, plenty, but he was also searching for the affection Grant so rarely received as well as being honest with one-offs. This lends an unusual immediacy to a text that could have simply been a “look at me!” kind of exposé but is more of a cerebral Damron Guide to one young man’s exploration and growth. He’s poor but frugal, saving for things he’s never had; his first travel abroad, where, exiting Amsterdam’s Van Gogh Museum, he learns of the attack on the Twin Towers. He finds partners, some suitable, some not, and admits the loss of a true love was his own fault. His openness is the center of his narrative; Ratleff is working to illuminate his own path, neither blaming others nor wallowing in his own mistakes, but acknowledging, adjusting and carrying on.

Then came the 1980s and the HIV/AIDS plague which swept away so many so cruelly. It’s best to read in his own words. Ratleff didn’t get tested right away but assisted others through to the end, and when he finally did, and he tested positive, there were medicines available to stave off the inevitable.

It was time to move once again, and author Ratleff now lives in Palm Desert, Calif., with husband Michael and pup Lizzy. His 40 years in San Francisco remain in his heart. Both his books (to date) are highly recommended. 

Lansing, Mich.

Lansing, Mich., the state’s vibrant capital, is a city brimming with cultural diversity, historical richness and a rapidly evolving urban landscape. From its renowned Lansing Pride festival to unique dining spots like Veg Head and the dynamic Lansing Shuffle, there is something for everyone in this bustling Midwestern city. Add to this a plethora of attractions such as the Broad Museum of Art, Potter Park Zoo, and the historically significant districts of Old Town Lansing and REO Town, and Lansing stands out as a must-visit destination.

One of Lansing’s most cherished events is the annual Lansing Pride festival. This celebration of LGBTQ+ culture and community has grown significantly over the years, drawing thousands of attendees from across the state and beyond. Lansing Pride features live performances, local vendors and family-friendly activities, all set against the backdrop of Lansing’s welcoming atmosphere in Old Town. The festival not only fosters a sense of community but also emphasizes Lansing’s commitment to inclusivity and equality.

While in Old Town, visit one of the area’s many locally owned boutiques, cafes and art galleries. This walkable neighborhood is full of charm and the perfect way to begin your Lansing adventure. The district also hosts a variety of events throughout the year, including festivals, art walks and live performances, which contribute to its lively and welcoming atmosphere.

For those seeking a unique culinary experience, Veg Head in Lansing is a standout choice. This LGBTQ-owned vegetarian and vegan-friendly eatery offers a diverse menu that caters to a variety of dietary preferences without compromising on flavor. Veg Head’s innovative dishes, made with fresh, locally sourced ingredients, have earned it a loyal following. Whether you’re a committed vegan or simply exploring plant-based options, Veg Head promises a delightful dining experience that showcases the best of Lansing’s culinary creativity. We ordered the Roasted Brussels for the table which came topped with Harissa sauce, crumbled cheese and pepitas. For our entrees, we tried the Signature Sweet Potato Burger as well as

State Capital, Old Town Lansing Art District, Veg Head Cauliflower Street Tacos, Strange Matter Coffee donuts, AC Hotel Lansing. Photos by Joey Amato

the Cauliflower Street Tacos which were prepared with roasted cauliflower, salsa verde, avocado puree, crumbled cheese, pickled onions, cilantro and corn tortillas. All the items were delicious and made me forget I was at a vegetarian restaurant. For those meat-eaters out there, a trip to Veg Head will make you change your mind about vegetarian cuisine.

Visitors seeking stylish and comfortable accommodation during their stay should check out AC Hotel Lansing. Situated within close proximity to downtown Lansing, this modern hotel combines contemporary design with top-notch amenities. The AC Hotel Lansing is also conveniently located near many of the city’s major attractions, making it an ideal base for exploring all that Lansing has to offer. Their king suite offers an additional seating area and of course, an extra-large room fit for any king … or queen.

After some rest, check out Lansing Shuffle, another jewel in the city’s crown, offering a dynamic space for entertainment and community engagement. This multi-purpose venue hosts a variety of events, from live music and drag performances to food festivals and markets. Lansing Shuffle is designed to be a flexible space that adapts to the diverse interests of Lansing’s residents and visitors. With its vibrant atmosphere and everchanging lineup of events, Lansing Shuffle is a testament to the city’s lively and inclusive spirit.

Swing by Soup Spoon for breakfast and be sure to order any one of their delicious omelets or scrambles before heading to REO Town, another historic district that has seen significant revitalization. Named after the REO Motor Car Company, which was once headquartered here, REO Town has undergone a remarkable transformation in recent years. Today, it is a thriving neighborhood known for its eclectic mix of businesses, including coffee shops, breweries and vintage stores. The area also features murals and public art installations that reflect its unique character and history. REO Town’s vibrant community spirit and creative energy make it an exciting place to explore and experience.

Art enthusiasts will find much to admire at the Eli and Edythe Broad Art Museum at Michigan State University. This contemporary art museum is renowned for its striking architecture, designed by the internationally acclaimed architect Zaha Hadid. The Broad Museum’s collection features an impressive array of modern and contemporary art, including works by both established and emerging artists. With its innovative exhibitions and educational programs, the museum is a cornerstone of Lansing’s cultural landscape, offering visitors a chance to engage with thought-provoking art from around the world.

Speaking of art, the Lansing Art Gallery & Education Center held the LGBTQ+ Artist in Michigan exhibition, a group exhibition of artists who identify as a member of the LGBTQ+ community. This exhibition was in partnership with Suits and the City, whose mission is to promote the interests of LGBTQ+ persons in the Mid-Michigan area through education and advocacy and increase the visibility and integration of LGBTQ+ persons in the broader community through networking events. Artists participating in the exhibition included Erin Brott, Gustavo Ayala and Jesse Amburgey. If you visit in the fall, there is no better way to celebrate the spirit of Lansing than with an MSU football game. Michigan State University’s team, known as the Spartans, has a storied tradition dating back to its inception in 1896. Competing in the Big Ten Conference, the team has a rich history of success, including multiple national championships and conference titles. The Spartans play their home games at Spartan Stadium in East Lansing, not too far from the AC Hotel and Broad Museum.

Lansing’s unique combination of cultural richness, historical significance and modern amenities makes it a standout destination in the Midwest. The city’s commitment to inclusivity all contributes to Lansing’s distinctive and welcoming character. Whether you’re exploring its historic neighborhoods, enjoying its vibrant festivals, or simply taking in the local culture, Lansing offers a truly memorable experience.

Enjoy the Journey! 

BY CARLA WALDEMAR

Altera — a New Alternative

Sometimes you wonder: What took so long? St. Paul’s Highland Village demographic of mid-to-upscale denizens is growing faster than the dandelion population of its boulevards. And yet ... where’s a person gonna eat?

There’s Cecil’s Deli. There’s tiny, foodie-centric Myriel. There’s the fallback Highland Grill.

And now, there’s Altera. On the weeknight of our recent visit, its cozy cache of tables was populated by pairs of blue hairs, girls’ night outers, families settling infants into their seats, and couples who knew a good thing when they saw one. Plus, a reviewer and her companion. And the menu’s just as wide-ranging as that audience. But we’ll get to that in a minute.

We settled into a comfy, sand-toned banquette with views of Cleveland Avenue’s passing foot parade, backed by glitzy wallpaper in black and gold favoring palms and jungle cats. It’s the site of the former Agra Culture, operated and updated by the same company, which now provides a menu one might label Far East Meets Italy, with Le Cheeseburger thrown in for good measure. In other words, it’s what America is eating right now.

The succinct and nicely curated list leads off with Shared Plates ($9-18) such as Hamachi crudo, pok pok chicken wings, a ball of arancini rice, a johnnycake with optional jalapeno maple syrup and our choice, gyoza: a handful of noodle-dough pockets bundling the usual mince of shrimp, pork and mushrooms livened with black vinegar, scallions and (hardly noticeable — this is Highland Park, after all) chili. Soy sauce served as the fallback dipper. Standard and fine.

From the ensuing Salads & Vegetables section, we settled upon the lola rosa salad, sharing a generous and lively toss of greens spangled with maple-saturated pecans, craisins and bits of bulgar wheat for crunch, all spritzed with a modest vinaigrette. Or choose a Caesar with bagna cauda crou-

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tons; a Cambodian beef number starring pepperand-lime-saturated meat joining the greens; a butternut squash a la plancha that I’ll return to gobble, egged on by its promise of sage-infused brown butter, Parmesan, lemon and chili; or the who-can-resist crispy Brussels sprouts dressed in mojo verde.

But it was time for noodles, and I craved all five that the kitchen favored. We settled on the hearty bucatini carbonara to assess the kitchen’s take on this Roman favorite, classically melding bacon-y sauteed pancetta with Gran Padano cheese, and the usual sunny egg to fork-spike and dress the greens, plus, here, a mini-jolt of serrano. Nice dish in a just-as-expected rendition, no surprises.

Next, our server’s recommendation of the gemelli verde — those husky green noodles laced with sweet, springy, pink shrimp, cherry tomatoes, a shower of Gran Padano and a spritz of lemon. Again, straight up: What you read is what you get — and that’s just what one should ask of a dish. Or opt for the pappardelle snuggling with tomato-braised lamb shoulder, paired with cumin and mint (okay, that’s a different pairing) and toasted hazelnuts. Or the dan dan noodles with Szechuan pork, bok choy, peanuts, sesame and chili, inserting an Asian slant to the otherwise Italian pasta list.

The generous servings proved our downfall, so we failed to make a dent in the choice of mains, ($19 for the cheeseburger to $34 for the grilled pork chop sided with jalapeno sweet potatoes and a ginger-orange sauce).

We were saving ourselves, you see, for a bite of dessert ($12). Two choices: a house-made carrot cake with mango lassi sorbet, pistachio and sumac, or our selection, a chocolate espresso cake. We guessed wrong. It proved dry and solid rather than providing the customary lift of limpid oomph. A tiny spoonful of roasted banana ice cream was nice but insufficient. C’mon, kitchen!

I nursed the Altera’s Old Fashioned throughout the meal, enjoying Maker’s Mark (well, who wouldn’t?) enhanced with pasilla pepper, cacao butter and smoked cardamom bitters, all suavely blended into pure mellowness. My companion’s order of House Red delivered a generous pour of Barbera ($10). The drinks list well suits the menu’s wide range of flavors — until one turns the page over to discover the by-the-bottle rundown with nada below $50. That’s not so Highland Park Nice.

Good wishes to a much-needed new gathering spot. 

Altera

721 Cleveland Ave. S. St. Paul, MN 55116 (651) 788-7009 www.alterarestaurant.com

Three LGBTQ+ Artists to Visit for NEMAA Art-a-Whirl’s 30th Year

The Northeast Minneapolis Arts Association is pulling out all the stops for their world-famous festival’s 30th year. Here are three LGBTQ+ Art-aWhirl veterans to visit.

From May 16-18, artists across Northeast Minneapolis will open their studios for the 30th year of NEMAA’s Art-a-Whirl.

Since 1995, Art-a-Whirl’s attendance has grown from a few hundred to more than 120,000, making it the largest event of its kind in the nation, according to NEMAA.

This year’s festival will have a host of special features, from a passport challenge app to a commemorative sculpture at Holland Arts East to a cobranded beer with Pryes Brewing Company.

Pryes’ Art-a-Whirl Gold is a special edition of Pryes’ craft golden ale, a light, refreshing beer that tastes similar to Hamm’s. Pryes’ events manager Nick Webley says it will be available at bars and restaurants throughout Northeast during Art-a-Whirl.

NEMAA is also commemorating Art-a-Whirl’s 30th year by featuring 30 NEMAA member artists from a variety of backgrounds and disciplines. Lavender spoke with three of these artists who identify as LGBTQ+ to learn more about their art and how it feels to be a part of this milestone for Northeast Minneapolis.

Alicia De La Cruz (she/her)

Two-spirit artist Alicia De La Cruz, 31, says she spends around 14 hours each day doing beadwork.

De La Cruz, an enrolled member of the Mille Lacs Band of Ojibwe, has been doing beadwork since she was seven years old, taught by her grandma and aunts.

Now, her traditional craft is her full-time job. De La Cruz will be participating in her fifth year of Art-a-Whirl with her beadwork business, Waabooz Beading (“waabooz” means “rabbit” in the Ojibwe language.)

“It’ll be nice to have a unique type of art people don’t get to see very often,” De La Cruz says of her beadwork.

De La Cruz, who will be exhibiting at Quincy Hall this year, grew up going to Art-a-Whirl and says it was an honor to be a featured artist for its 30th year.

“I love being a part of Art-a-Whirl every single year, but this year does feel special,” she says.

When you visit De La Cruz at Quincy, expect to find a variety of colorful, skillfully crafted beadwork accessories, from earrings to keychains to the brims of cowboy hats. You might catch a glimpse of a rainbow motif, a shout-out to her two-spirit identity.

De La Cruz’s skill as a beadworker has led to a collaboration with the Minnesota Vikings and a residency at the Bell Museum, but beadwork is just one of many ways she keeps herself busy. De La Cruz will also have products from her company Waabooz Cosmetics for sale during Art-a-

Whirl, and also uses painting, ink and mixed media in her artwork.

De La Cruz says non-Indigenous people often ask her if they can buy her beadwork, and they absolutely can.

“All of my designs are meant for everybody, and I wouldn’t sell them if they weren’t,” she says. “You’re supporting me. It’s the best thing you can do. I just want people to see more Indigenous artwork.”

Tim Chapp (he/him)

Despite its plain exterior, Tim Chapp’s house, better known as the Northeast Tree House, is a creative nexus of the neighborhood, complete with a green roof and a 16-foot rock climbing wall.

Though the rock wall will be closed for climbers during Art-a-Whirl, Chapp, 43, will be hosting 10 artists at his selfdescribed “Willy Wonka house.”

Alicia De La Cruz with rainbow beaded necklace and earrings. Photos courtesy of Alicia De La Cruz. Tim Chapp at the Tree House. Photos courtesy of Tim Chapp.

“What I’m doing with my house here is trying to bring artists together and give them an opportunity not only to showcase their work but also to collaborate,” he says.

Chapp will also be 3D-printing robot parts for kids to play with during Art-a-Whirl.

Surprisingly, the painter/piano player/origami artist did not go to art school, but his engineering expertise aided in building the Tree House in 2016, which he says is the main way art has stayed alive in his life.

“NEMAA is such a great organization and I never would’ve gotten this far in my artistic self if not for them,” Chapp says.

Chapp’s acrylic paintings are psychedelic floods that spill across the canvas. Chapp describes them as “free-flowing, whimsical and not serious,” though a natural theme is present throughout his work.

Chapp, a gay man, says his sexuality is not a focus in his artwork, but his experiences feeling “othered” have helped him build empathy for people who aren’t like him.

Most importantly, Chapp says, “Everybody’s an artist.”

Andy Jacobs (she/they)

Andy Jacobs, 32, recalls witnessing an older man who was visiting her studio examine one of her weavings, say “Huh, that’s weird,” and walk away.

The interdisciplinary artist will open her studio at the Casket Building for this year’s Art-aWhirl and says she enjoys being a fly on the wall to those interactions with her artwork.

“My practice is just an excuse to learn and connect, and that’s the M.O. of a Gemini,” she says.

Even though her work is “less commercial,” Jacob says she enjoys bringing an experience to Art-a-Whirl each year.

Though initially a printmaker, Jacobs is a self-taught weaver who found her artistic voice in textile arts and connection in the Twin Cities’ queer fiber arts community.

“When I started weaving and spinning, I just felt this instant ancestral connection, like my body knows how to do this,” Jacobs says.

Recently, Jacobs has been thinking through ecology while creating her organic, highly textural weavings, inspired by fiber arts as a global phenomenon that connects humans with nature. Oh, and she’s a tattoo artist, too, but that’s just her day job.

Her most recent artistic endeavor has been jewelry making. Her pieces are dainty yet consist of beads of a variety of colors, sizes and shapes.

Jacobs says it’s an honor to be a featured artist for Art-a-Whirl’s 30th, and that she loves the energy of the festival each year, even though it can be overwhelming.

“I always need to take a day or two off to just be away from people,” she says. “But it’s a lot of energy and a lot of fun.” 

JUNE 7TH, 2025

Andy Jacobs with Leaves Much to be Desired. Photos courtesy of Andy Jacobs

The Power of a Flower

In South Minneapolis, a pinstripe awning reads “Flowers” in bold white letters. The quaint brick-and-mortar shop is home to Floral Art by Tim, owned and operated by Twin Cities native Tim Boken. Boken boasts upwards of 25 years of experience with designs that are distinct from impersonal online retailers. Every arrangement that leaves Floral Art by Tim is from the heart.

The shop’s flower cooler dazzles with bright roses, tulips, hydrangeas, carnations and blossoms of every color. Many of the roses were in full bloom, petals stretching outward in spirals of velvet. Grocery store displays pale in comparison to Boken’s selection, with colors more vivid and petals so perfect they almost seem artificial.

Boken’s selection is curated to include only the utmost quality flowers. Multiple times a week, sometimes even daily, Boken makes his way to a temperature-controlled warehouse where pallets upon pallets of fresh flowers are stored. Boken considers the floral wholesaler his happy place, despite the frigid air.

“I’m very hands-on,” Boken explains. “I like to see what I’m buying.”

In going to the warehouse instead of ordering online, the designer can find the best the wholesaler has to offer, working within a color palette rather than a predetermined arrangement. His method lets him construct his work with the highest quality flowers instead of trying to make do with a flower that is not up to standard.

“Whenever I’m designing, I let the flowers I pull speak to me,” says Boken, emphasizing that each arrangement is singular and cannot be replicated. “When I pull out a dozen roses, sometimes they’ll be stick straight, sometimes there are bends in them. I work with that.”

But Boken didn’t start as a designer.

More than two decades ago, Boken was working as a flight attendant when a friend invited him to work as a driver. He delivered flowers, watched the designers work and began shaping a creative voice of his own.

“I started putzing around with them, and it went from there,” Boken says.

Since then, floristry has been Boken’s means for self-expression and connection. Floral Art by Tim is “creating floral art from the heart,” as per the business’s catchy slogan.

Florists play a quiet role in some of the most precious moments of our lives, bookending the beginning of a life or the end of one. Boken infuses the utmost intention into developing his designs.

Celebration-of-life work is fulfilling for Boken; his arrangements take care to honor the family and the deceased.

“I try to search through the obituary, to try to get to know the person who has passed,” Boken says. “It’s a visual for the family, and it’s the fragrance. It gets people to talk. When people call me up afterward, after they’ve been through something horrific, it is one of the greatest compliments.”

The phrase he dreads most? “In lieu of flowers.”

“People say, ‘I don’t want flowers, because they’re just gonna die,’” Boken explains. “Everything has a timeline. … You enjoy them while they’re with you.”

When his parents passed away, Boken channeled his grief into a spray of bright flowers for each of them — a final gesture of love. He honored his mother’s request: carnations. A shared favorite between them, the flower is often overlooked for its plainness, but they knew better. Carnations are known for their longevity and fragrance.

Flowers are woven into the fabric of Boken’s family, spanning three generations. Sometimes his daughter comes along to the flower warehouse. She heads straight for the stock, plants her face deep in the blooms and inhales deeply.

“She’s my right hand — and my left,” Boken says, with a soft, sentimental smile.

When his mom was alive, she would help out around the shop.

“If something broke off, she would start making a little vase,” he remembers affectionately. She would always insist that he might use the discarded flowers later. “I would take all these bits and pieces and make something for her.”

When his daughter got married, Boken didn’t have a shop at the time, but after being a part of so many others’ life events, Boken, of course, had to make his own daughter’s floral arrangement. Boken worked out of his basement.

“The fact that I made her bouquet was really special to me,” Boken says. “As a dad, not only being able to see her first look, but being able to pass off her bouquet was really neat.”

Now, Boken’s daughter has her own children who come into the shop. At just 11 years old, Boken’s grandson insists upon making his own creations.

As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, people seek Boken out, knowing his shop is a safe haven. Boken is a seasoned florist with more than two decades of experience, and he was working in the industry long before queer people were accepted in the mainstream. Boken reflected upon the cultural shift in the last five to 10 years. Now, Floral Art by Tim is outfitting young queer couples with boutonnieres and corsages, and they’re going to mainstream prom.

Boken recalled a particularly special moment when a mom reached out with a last-minute request:

“There’s somebody going to prom for the first time as a girl, and their parents weren’t supportive, so I need to get a corsage. They had prom just like everybody else.”

Boken’s flowers are fleetingly beautiful, but the heartfelt memories they hold remain steadfast long after their petals wilt and fall away. 

Tim 4751 Chicago Ave. Minneapolis, MN 55407 (612) 824-4526

www.floralartbytim.com

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Photos by William Thompson

Greg Storlie and Chris Hentges, sponsorship table at the Northfield Chamber of Commerce Business awards dinner. Photos courtesy of Storlie & Hentges Real Estate Group

What Makes Northfield a Great Place to Live

Looking for a place to settle down and start one’s life can be a difficult experience. There are many things to consider when determining the best place to own a home. It can quickly become overwhelming for someone to factor in all their wants and needs on their own. For those who desire an inclusive small town, Northfield, Minn., may just be the perfect place.

Located in southeastern Minnesota, Northfield is a small town that has big opportunities. Not only is there an abundance of natural landscapes to admire and explore, but there are also two colleges and a lively and inclusive community. Realtors Greg Storlie and Chris Hentges of Storlie & Hentges Real Estate Group both live in and love Northfield, Minn. They have found the community and environment to be the perfect place to call home, and they are very excited to dedicate their time, enthusiasm and experience in helping future homeowners find a place that suits them best.

To Storlie and Hentges, Northfield is more than just a city, it is a “lifestyle.” Being a small town, it offers a different lifestyle from that of a bigger city. There is a more connected community, a quieter and slower life, but still, many of the same resources and events.

“I wanted to live in a small town. And so, when we came here and I started looking around and really, you know, eyes wide open, I went, ‘Oh, wow.’ It really is an all-inclusive town,” Hentges says.

There is something special about the community that Northfield is home to. It draws people in from all backgrounds and ways of life. No one is turned away from calling Northfield their home. This is one of the primary reasons that Storlie and Hentges enjoy living there so much. Outside of the interesting events that the city hosts, they found the small town to be exceedingly welcoming, diverse and inclusive.

“We like to promote the fact that you can move to Northfield and be yourself and not have to be ashamed of who you are, or where you live. Because there are people, and we’ve had clients that we’ve moved to this town, that have left other states to come to Northfield for that specific reason,” Storlie says.

Being a part of the LGBTQ+ community, Storlie and Hentges understand the importance of finding non-discriminatory places and practices. They found comfort in knowing that Northfield offered a safe community to anybody and everybody. They translate their inclusivity to their work, helping people of any background find or sell their homes.

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“We’ve had clients all across the, what would you call it? The spectrum, social spectrum. Whether it be, you know, single dude, single woman, married, couple, queer couple, straight couple, you name it. We’ve worked with all of them. And with Chris and I, you know, it’s always gonna be equal representation of everyone. … We are an ally to a community, but we’re also an ally to everyone,” Storlie says.

Those who work with Storlie and Hengtes become more than just clients, they become family. Both Storlie and Hentges work with people before, during, and after the process of buying or selling a home. They take the time and effort to thoroughly explain all aspects of the process, and they make sure to let their clients know that they can reach out at any time for guidance and support. Nobody is left behind or forgotten by Storlie and Hentges Real Estate Group. Even after time passes, they make sure to keep in touch.

“For Greg and I, we just want to make sure that anybody that works with us knows that they can just be their authentic selves. Because we’re gonna be our authentic selves. … You know, when we first meet people, I’m very intuitive, you know, of their likes and their dislikes. I mean, every way from how a person presents themselves, I try to catch little words, and things that they may say that would like … have an idea of what they’re looking for or what they like and what they don’t like,” Hentges says.

While looking for a new home or trying to sell your home can be a difficult process, Storlie and Hentges Realtor Group is there to help make the process smooth and efficient. If Northfield, Minn., sounds like it would be the perfect place, consider reaching out to gain more insight about the community and all the amazing amenities the city has to offer at www.edinarealty.com/greg-storlie-realtor. 

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“When the Rubber Meets the Floor” – The Twin Cities’ Garage Floor Outfitters Provide Better Parking Through Chemistry

It’s often a place of contrasts: half of the time, it’s a place of exhausted relief, of turned keys and exhaust fumes swirling into nothing at the end of a journey that’s long or just long-seeming. Half of the time, it’s a place of beginnings, tense or exciting or dread-filling. It’s the last thing a homeowner sees when leaving a home, and it’s the first thing a homeowner sees when returning home.

It’s the interior of the car park, the car hole, the auto stable, the spencer, the parkade, the Chevy levy, the Ford fjord, the Batcave, the place where dad sleeps when mom has had enough of his shenanigans — in the Land of 10,000 Lakes, it’s usually called “the garage,” and it’s most often treated like an afterthought by its owner … but more and more, Minnesotans are moving their garages to their forebrains, upgrading from the bottom up.

Savage, Minn.-based, Twin Cities-serving Garage Floor Outfitters, as their name suggests, might serve as a dependable partner in such endeavors.

“We install custom, high-quality solutions for garage floors,” declares Bob Davis, the company’s owner. “People want to re-do their garage floors and get organized.”

The most basic, most obvious, most elemental of such solutions is a coating of the space’s lowest horizons. In years past, epoxy and polyaspartic resin have been, despite their giant-movie-monster-sounding names, the most popular options for such treatments. In recent times, however, a new colossus has established its dominance.

“Polyaspartic is a UV-stable resin that looks like epoxy but has a chemical makeup that allows it to set much more quickly,” elucidates a website dedicated to the topic. “When it contains 100% aliphatic material, a polyaspartic garage coating prevents the fading or yellowing that occurs over time with epoxy coatings.”

Translated from Madscientistese, this new product forms pleasing chemical compounds whose invisible chains solidify faster and last longer than its predecessors. Garage Floor Outfitters’ own website elaborates: “Our polyaspartic garage floor coatings can be installed and fully dried in as little as one day. With quick installation and drying times, your floors will look exceptional while standing up to heavy use.”

The floors having achieved such a dark and pristine condition, keeping non-cars off of them might be advisable. Happily, Garage Floor Outfitters outfits more than just garage floors. As their website promises, “We offer tailored solutions for residential or commercial use to meet your unique needs.”

Those unique needs might be addressed, at least in part, with the installation of cabinets.

“We carry both the plywood Classic series and the metal Tech series by [top brand] Slide-Lok Garage Interiors & Closet System,” the company’s website explains. “Other cabinets made of particle board don’t last in garage environments where moisture can lead to their early demise.”

The purpose of the treatment is the opposite of an early demise. As the website further assures, “Using floor coating products such as Slide-Lok’s polyaspartic, patch repair, moisture barrier, and joint filler solutions, we can improve and preserve your floor for a lifetime of demanding use.”

The vertical surfaces themselves might lend to the storage efforts of the thoroughly Bob Vila-esque in the form of slat walls. Say Garage Floor Outfitters, “[Slat walls] are built only from strong and durable material, feature hooks that can up to one hundred pounds, and are available in custom sizes and configurations.”

And, of course, the floor’s distant parallel needn’t be left out of the act — ceiling racks are also an option.

“Strong Racks is the manufacturer of the world’s strongest and safest ceiling storage racks for your garage,” the company website boasts. “These garage overhead storage racks are capable of holding the highest weight capacities in the entire industry of overhead storage systems.”

Although owner Bob Davis has noticed that the general public has, in recent years, gained an appreciation of the house’s carpark, one improbable demographic has loomed over all the rest.

“You’d be surprised — single women in their 40s most often want their garages decked out,” owner Davis observes thoughtfully. Then he adds with a wry laugh, “They’re the ones with the money — women in their forties rule the world!”

Once the work is done, the cupboard-covered walls might resemble a metal or wooden chessboard intended for giant monsters with unpronounceable names and long attention spans. However it’s processed, the end result can be a unified concept that changes a house’s garage into more than just the end of a journey or the beginning of a journey — the end result can tell the ultimate story of the ultimate destination … it can tell the story of home. 

An SUV For The Pampered Set

Genesis continues to rise as a luxury brand worth watching.

Look at the Korean luxury car brand’s current product portfolio. Their battery-electric vehicle lineup now numbers three — the GV60, Electrified GV70 and Electrified G80. The G90 has matured into a flagship sedan worth owning. The G70 is a true competitor to the likes of the BMW 3-Series.

That leaves us with the GV80 — the brand’s mid-sized SUV.

The 2025 edition of the GV80 received plenty of revisions inside and out, mostly to add design features to make it stand out further along with new technology. How did Genesis do with this revised GV80?

The 2025 revisions took this SUV to another level. The grille not only gets a double bar mesh design, but it also received a mild reshaping for better visualization of its identity. The entire front clip received some nips and tucks while retaining the signature double horizontal headlamp units.

Aside from new wheel designs, the GV80 SUV retains a lot of design. It is upright and has a nicely angled roofline. This 3.5T Prestige tester gets 22-inch alloy wheels with five sporty spokes.

Photos by Randy Stern

The biggest change to the 2025 GV80 is the new instrument panel. A thin 27-inch OLED screen integrates both the instrument cluster and infotainment touchscreen in a seamless fashion. Once you add smartphone integration, the screen splits up and the mirrored screen takes up almost half of the panel.

Also new to the GV80 is a new three-spoke steering wheel that is being integrated into the latest Genesis models. They also updated a few controls — the knob-type transmission shifter, for one. Our Vanilla Beige/Smoky interior color scheme also includes a nicely texture woodgrain trim to create a lovely atmosphere inside the GV80.

That includes the Vanilla Beige perforated Nappa leather upholstery adorning two rows of seating on this Prestige tester. All outboard seats get electric adjustments, but it is the driver’s seat that gets the full treatment. That includes adjust-

ments to the seatback bolsters, lumbar support, and a cushion extender. If the driver is fatigued, the Ergo Motion system kicks in to help recalibrate their position. Not to mention, the Driver Attention Warning system will also remind the driver to keep their eyes on the road.

Second-row passengers have ample space for up to three people. It is worth noting that a third row of seating is available only on the 3.5T Advanced model. Cargo space for our Prestige tester measures 36.5 cubic feet with the second row up. Fold down the second row of seats, and you get up to 71.7 cubic feet — just right to load up on some shopping for your garden or small projects at home.

Powering our tester is a twin-turbocharged 3.5-liter V6 engine. It is good for 375 horsepower and 391 pound-feet of torque. While premium gasoline is recommended, these power figures reflect the use of the higher-octane fuel. Power is transferred through an eight-speed automatic transmission sending power to all four wheels.

This driveline does very well in every situation we put it through. It shines extremely well on the highway with smooth power delivery and superb passing ability. We observed an average of 23.1 MPG for fuel consumption.

Along with its smooth power delivery is a luxurious driving experience. Ride quality is exactly what you expect from an SUV of its size class —

simply smooth and quiet. Handling tended to be softer when maneuvering around hazards and getting around curves.

The brake pedal feel is on the soft side. However, the system delivered solid stops in normal, panic, and wet situations. The steering system offered tight turns and is quite responsive. On-center feel was fine, with help from the Lane Keeping and Lane Following Assist enabled.

In the 2025 Genesis GV80, you have a choice of two drivelines and three packages for each engine option. Pricing starts from $58,700. Our 3.5T Prestige tester came with a sticker price of $81,300.

As a cool addition to the GV80 lineup, the Coupe SUV version is now available. With a fastback roofline, it adds more to the flair this model already exudes.

If you’re just looking for a luxury SUV with ample space for passengers and luggage, this might be the right choice for you. It is uniquely styled and definitely stands out in a crowd. It offers a heightened level of elegance and technology inside the cabin. Plus, it competes well in a segment that offers its own interpretation of what a luxury mid-size SUV should be in the eyes of its customers.

When it comes to your eyes — and your want of an elegant SUV — the 2025 Genesis GV80 should be the right choice for you. Be prepared to be pampered in this unique offering in its size class. 

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ANIMAL RESCUE

Second Chance Animal Rescue

Dedicated to rescuing, fostering, caring for, and adopting out dogs and cats into forever homes.

P.O. Box 10533 White Bear Lake, MN 55110 (651) 771-5662 www.secondchancerescue.org

BUSINESS ASSOCIATIONS

Quorum

Minnesota's LGBTQ+ and Allied Chamber of Commerce working to build, connect, and strengthen for a diverse business community. 2446 University Ave. W., Ste 112 St. Paul, MN 55114 (612) 460-8153 www.twincitiesquorum.com

ENVIRONMENT

The Nature Conservancy

TNC is an environmental nonprofit working to create a world where people and nature thrive. 1101 W. River Pkwy., Ste. 200 Minneapolis, MN 55415-1291 (612) 331-0700 minnesota@tnc.org www.nature.org/minnesota

EVENT VENUES

Landmark Center

A classic venue, with a grand cortile and beautiful courtrooms, accommodates celebrations of all sizes. 75 W. 5th St. St. Paul, MN 55102 (651) 292-3228 www.landmarkcenter.org

GRANTMAKERS/FUNDERS

PFund Foundation

PFund is the LGBTQ+ community foundation that provides grants to students and grants to non-profits. PO Box 3640 Minneapolis, MN 55403 (612) 870-1806 www.pfundfoundation.org

HEALTH & WELLNESS

Aliveness Project

Community Center for individuals living with HIV/AIDS – on-site meals, food shelf, and supportive service. 3808 Nicollet Ave. S. Minneapolis, MN 55102 (612) 824-LIFE (5433) www.aliveness.org

Family Tree Clinic

We're a sliding fee sexual health clinic and education center, now in Minneapolis. 1919 Nicollet Ave. Minneapolis MN 55403 (612) 473-0800 www.familytreeclinic.org

COMMUNITY CONNECTION

NAMI Minnesota

(National Alliance on Mental Illness) Providing free classes and peer support groups for people affected by mental illnesses.

1919 University Ave. W., Ste. 400 St. Paul, MN 55104 (651) 645-2948 www.namimn.org

Red Door Clinic

HIV and STI screening, treatment, education, and referrals. Doxy PEP, nPEP, PrEP, and Reproductive Health. 525 Portland Ave., 4th Fl. Minneapolis, MN 55415 (612) 543-5555 reddoor@hennepin.us www.reddoorclinic.org

LIBRARIES

Quatrefoil Library

Your LGBTQ+ library and community center. Free membership, events, and e-books/audiobooks. Check us out!

1220 E. Lake St. Minneapolis, MN 55407 (612) 729-2543 www.qlibrary.org

MEDIA & COMMUNICATIONS

Radio K

Radio K is the award-winning studentrun radio station of the University of Minnesota.

330 21st. Ave. S. Minneapolis, MN 55455 (612) 625-3500 www.radiok.org

MUSEUM

Minnesota Historical Society

Create your own adventure at MNHS historic sites and museums around Minnesota. www.mnhs.org

Minneapolis Institute of Art Enjoy masterpieces from all over the world & every period of human history.

Free admission daily!

2400 3rd Ave. S. Minneapolis, MN 55404 (612) 870-3000 www.artsmia.org

PERFORMING ARTS

Chanhassen Dinner Theatres

The nation's largest professional dinner theater and Minnesota's own entertainment destination.

501 W. 78th St. Chanhassen, MN 55317 (952) 934-1525 www.ChanhassenDT.com

Children’s Theatre Company

Children’s Theatre Company excites the imagination with world-class family-friendly theatre for kids, teens, and adults.

2400 3rd Ave. S. Minneapolis, MN 55404 (612) 874-0400 www.childrenstheatre.org

Guthrie Theater

Open to the public year-round, the Guthrie produces classic and contemporary plays on three stages. 818 S. 2nd St. Minneapolis, MN 55415 (612) 377-2224 www.guthrietheater.org

Minnesota Opera

World-class opera draws you into a synthesis of beauty; breathtaking music, stunning costumes & extraordinary sets. Performances at the Ordway Music Theater - 345 Washington St. St. Paul, MN 55102 (612) 333-6669 www.mnopera.org

Minnesota Orchestra

Led by Music Director Designate Thomas Søndergård, the Minnesota Orchestra, one of America’s leading symphony orchestras. 1111 Nicollet Mall Minneapolis, MN 55403 (612) 371-5656, (800) 292-4141 www.minnesotaorchestra.org

Ordway Center for the Performing Arts

Leading performing arts center with two stages presenting Broadway musicals, concerts & educational programs that enrich diverse audiences. 345 Washington St. St. Paul, MN 55102 (651) 224-4222 info@ordway.org www.ordway.org

Twin Cities Gay Men’s Chorus

An award-winning chorus building community through music and offers entertainment worth coming out for! 1430 W. 28th St., Ste. B Minneapolis, MN 55408 (612) 339-SONG (7664) chorus@tcgmc.org www.tcgmc.org

RELIGIOUS & SPIRITUAL

All God’s Children Metropolitan Community Church

A welcoming, inclusive, safe place to explore and discover God’s love for ALL God’s children. 3100 Park Ave. Minneapolis, MN 55407 (612) 824-2673 www.agcmcc.org

Hennepin Avenue United Methodist Church

Everyone is welcome at Hennepin Church! Vibrant Worship. Authentic Community. Bold Outreach. 511 Groveland Ave. Minneapolis, MN 55403 (612) 871-5303 www.hennepinchurch.org

Plymouth Congregational Church

Many Hearts, One Song; Many Hands, One Church. Find us on Facebook and Twitter. 1900 Nicollet Ave. Minneapolis, MN 55403 (612) 871-7400 www.plymouth.org

St. Philip's Lutheran Church

We invite and welcome those of every spiritual background, ethnicity, gender orientation, or economic situation. 6180 Hwy 65 Fridley, MN 55432 (763) 571-1500 www.splcmn.org

University Baptist Church

Creating safe and inclusive spaces for 175 years, UBC stands proudly with our LGBTQ+ family. 1219 University Ave. SE Minneapolis, MN 55414 (612) 331-1768 www.ubcmn.org

Westminster Presbyterian Church

An open and affirming congregation, welcoming persons of all sexual orientations, gender expressions and identities. 1200 Marquette Ave. Minneapolis, MN 55403 (612) 332-3421 www.westminstermpls.org

SENIOR LIVING

Lyngblomsten Community Services

Empowering older adults to live well at home through caregiver support, memory-loss enrichment, & wellness education. 1415 Almond Ave. St. Paul, MN 55108 (651) 632-5330 www.Lyngblomsten.org/CServices

Senior Community Services

Providing non-medical services that meet the changing needs of older adults & support their caregivers. 10201 Wayzata Blvd., Ste. 335 Minnetonka, MN 55305 (952) 541-1019 www.seniorcommunity.org/lav

SOCIAL SERVICES

Friends & Co

Fostering meaningful connections for older adults for 50+ years. Offering quick drop-in chat line, phone & visiting companionship services.

2550 University Ave. W., Ste. 260-S St. Paul, MN 55114 (612) 721-1400 www.friendsco.org

Lutheran Social Service of Minnesota Serving all Minnesotans with personcentered services that promote full and abundant lives.

lssmn.org | (651) 642-5990 | (800) 582-5260 Employment Opportunities | lssmn.org/careers PICS (Partners in Community Supports) | picsmn.org

Pooled Trust | (888) 806-6844

Supported Decision-Making | (888) 806-6844

TRAVEL DESTINATIONS

Westopolis Minnesota’s Sweet Spot! St. Louis Park & Golden Valley offer exceptional dining, attractions, shopping, hotels and event space.

1660 Hwy 100 S., Ste. 501 St. Louis Park, MN 55416 (952) 426-4047

www.westopolis.org

Books

“Rabbis of the Garden State”

If you grew up on “Catcher in the Rye,” but were Jewish, don’t miss this yeshiva twist on the age-old problems facing a young male growing up too smart, too clueless, too attracted to a handsome rabbi — and burdened with a mom suffering similar attractions — and acting out on them. Lest you suspect antiSemitism, author Meltz knows whereof he speaks, having been raised in “the low-rent reaches of Jersey,” and has lived in NYC for 50 years now with longtime partner, playwright Mike Rendino. We first meet Andy Baer as an 11-year-old along with his angry older sister and silent younger, each suffering their flamboyant single mom in their own fashion, all backgrounded in a seedy 1960s New Jersey ambience. Is there a way out?

“Queer Mythology: Epic Legends from Around the World”

These twenty tales, reaching around the globe and through the ages, colorfully illustrate how differently people have presented and behaved from earliest times. People have always responded to stories and storytellers. From tribes gathered around fires to the beginnings of civilizations to our own profusion of electronic devices, alone or projected to multitudes, humans crave a good tale. The best relate not only the simple ABCs of talking animals living by a riverside or a quest undertaken by small beings bearing a ring but also reveal emotions relevant to listeners, differences and sameness, and teach more than their narrative surface admits. Queerness is at the heart of many tales, from the Iliad’s Achilles and Patroclus to the Bible’s David and Jonathan to Hawaii’s Hi’iaka and Wahine-Omao.

“The Rarest Fruit”

A novelized biography of Creole slave Edmond, orphaned in 1829 on the island of La Réunion. Desolate after his wife’s death, owner/botanist Ferrérol Bellier-Beaumont took the child daily through his gardens while the boy memorized the plants’ Latin nomenclature, but never became literate. Edmond would have remained unknown had not the boy at 12 discovered the secret of hand-pollinating the orchids that produce the bean that makes vanilla. “Vanilla” today means “ordinary” but was once a rarity, the flower requiring pollination by a vanished Mexican bee — or Edmond. The book is a narrative of exploitation and chance. Edmond, finally freed, chooses the surname Albius (more white). His story, name and his method of pollination finally reached a vanilla-mad world. He died alone in 1880.

“The

Gender Binary is a Big Lie: Infinite Identities Around the World”

Second in the Queer History Project follows Wind’s “No Way, They Were Gay? Hidden Lives and Secret Loves” (2021) also suited for YA readers grades

6-12. Wind scours a wide range of humanity to show that while many people identify as men or women, there are far broader spectra of gender along which individuals over centuries have lived that are far more nuanced than are often acknowledged, and this wide range represents a natural human diversity. Wind circles the globe; for example, the Hijras, in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Nepal. This third gender was highly respected and acknowledged before British rule, and endures today. Mahu in Hawaii and Tahiti are a recognized third gender there. Consider Ru Paul’s “You’re born naked, the rest is drag.”

“See, What Had Happened Was…”

Ratleff follows “Dancing to the Lyrics” (2022), growing up a gay boy in violent 1960s Baltimore, with life following his 21st birthday, just arrived in the Shangri-La that was the then-affordable city of San Francisco, his home for the following four decades. While the pseudonymous Grant Cole told the story in the first book, Ratleff himself narrates here through adult eyes. New to the fabulous city but learning quickly, he strives as best he can to live true to himself; not easy when poor, black and gay. Through love and lust, the horror of the AIDS years and the death of friends, Ratleff’s inner voice assesses his own triumphs and failures, never blaming others or taking on unearned guilt, revealing the successful making of the man.

“Last

Dance Before Dawn”

With sadness, I report “Last Dance” is the fourth and final installment of Schellman’s Nightingale Mysteries. Vivian Kelly has found a comfortable nest in New York City’s glamorous 1920s speakeasy with its teeming dance floor and close-held secrets. Into this idyll now comes a stranger from Chicago, seeking vengeance for a missing girl — a cold case reheated that will doom some. There’s also a missing truckload of cash. For readers invested in Schellman’s characters, I can report some will rise, others fall, while protagonist Vivian has some words to say to

Nightingale’s owner, Honor Huxley; believe me, you’ll want to hear them. I’d like to announce what upcoming thrills author Schellman has in store for eager readers; sorry, that’s a mystery to me as well.

“Home Fires Burn”

Bidulka’s final novel in his Merry Bell trilogy has arrived. An unlikely demise, a prominent philanthropist on an isolated road, slumped outside his locked car, frozen to death. His son, country music star Evan Whately, hires PI Merry Bell to investigate. As often happens, answers can be found in the past, and often the answers open wounds in those examining. Not always Merry, she is forced to examine her own pre-transition past and confront her own family’s history while examining a death that reaches out beyond the grave. As Bidulka himself explains, in addition to presenting mystery, the trilogy (as is much of his writing) is infused with celebration: of things Saskatchewan, Indigenous, Transgender, Ukrainian, Gay, Elder, Crossdresser. And maybe, even for Merry Bell, romance? Maybe…

“Queer as Folklore: The Hidden Queer History of Myths and Monsters”

Folklore provides a rich field for stories and myths championing “others” and “outsiders”; from the Little Mermaid to more modern superheroes, humans since the first gatherings have spun tales that provide solace for those who tread more liminal paths, speaking of unicorns and fairies, superhumans that can fly or flame. Otherness, transformation, Coward’s studies reveal that queerness, however it may be termed in a given age, has been an explanation for some, an affirmation and a solace for others for whom queerness is their life’s path. Humans are drawn to symbolism; even modern popular entertainment highlights singularity in ways that define “otherness.” He points out, for one, the traditional portrayal of Peter Pan by a male impersonator — Mary Martin‘s live TV performance in 1956. 