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26 WHAT’S ON CALENDAR The Kids on the Coast guide to November/December

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11 CHECK THIS OUT ew and innovative ideas in N parenting

12 NEW TO THE COAST 14 THE “P” FILES Negotiating step-parenting

20 EDUCATION Choosing a school Like many of us, when I reflect on my past I can identify many crossroads.

The decision chosen while standing at those junctions has shaped the person I have subsequently become. I find myself at one of those junctures right now: publishing my first guidebook was the realisation of a dream, and building on its success (while giving the magazine the time it deserves) is stretching the 24 hour clock beyond recognition.

It is time to finish writing my NEXT book.

It is with sadness (and a little trepidation) therefore, that I bid farewell to my role as editor of Kids on the Coast. What a wonderful couple of years this has been!

I have enjoyed sharing your stories and a few of my own. I have enjoyed learning from inspirational people from all walks of life and being a small part of a wonderful team of dedicated women.

I won’t be gone completely… I hope you will be seeing my name on an article every now and again... so, it’s not goodbye… but just adieu!

Sarah Pye, Editor www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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28 BABIES ON THE COAST Planning your family

44 LET’S CELEBRATE Graduation from primary school Christmas with Santa

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48 BOOK REVIEWS

33 HEALTH The truth about circumcision Snack for success

Dannielle Miller: a mother on a mission

46 HAPPY HOLIDAYS

32 PARENTVILLE

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40 PARENT PROFILE

49 M OVIE and web reviews AND COMPETITIONS 50 K IDS ON THE COAST DIRECTORY

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The tuckshop at Peregian’s St Andrew’s Anglican College has recently been awarded Nutrition Australia’s coveted Gold Pyramid Award for its healthy options menu, which is proving a hit with parents and students. St Andrew’s is the first school in Australia to receive this award in 2010 and is credit to the hard work of canteen manager, Australian triathlete and Grade 4 parent, Dmitri Simons.

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As winter wraps up and the weather thaws out, thousands of underprivileged Sunshine Coast kids are thanking a local organisation for providing them with PJs to keep them warm over winter. Local Brooke Neylan established the Sunshine Coast Pyjama Program last year to keep disadvantaged children warm over winter. “After seeing the concept on Oprah, I thought it was a great idea and decided to create something similar here on the Coast,” Brooke said. Strong community support meant nearly 1,000 items including pyjamas, socks, beanies, jumpsuits, jumpers, slippers and singlets were delivered to needy kids via local Salvation Army offices. Well done everyone!

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Despite pool safety education and law changes, the number of child drownings in Australia has increased for the second year in a row, with the backyard swimming pool again the biggest killer for children under the age of five. Queensland recorded the second highest number of drownings behind New South Wales, and is now making it mandatory for all pool fences to comply with safety requirements within five years. Pools will also be subject to safety inspections. The Royal Life Saving Society says parental supervision is the key to preventing drowning, and urges parents to familiarise their children with water and have up-to-date resuscitation skills.

AWARD-WINNING PRIMARY SCHOOL PROGRAM HELPS KIDS AT RISK Local children’s charity Sunnykids’ program ‘Supporting Children in Primary Schools’ (SCIPS) helps students experiencing social and emotional barriers to their education. SCIPS connects families with relevant community resources and professional advice. The initial trial in Maroochydore State School attracted local and national attention, and won $100,000 through the inaugural School’s First Awards which, along with donations, has enabled SCIPS to roll out its program to nine other schools on the Sunshine Coast.

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by Maxine Arthur If you like to see the sparks fly occasionally, ask the parents around the table (though not in front of the children) who is their favourite child. It’s an uncomfortable topic for some. Be prepared for an adamant denial of any family favouritism, followed by a chorus of “I treat all my children equally”. While horrified friends are still looking at you as if you have betrayed a basic tenet of parenthood, ask if their parents had a favourite child. You will likely be met with a different response. Most will identify the favourite sibling, perhaps themselves, and most can tell you why they were favoured.

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The first born child Golden child or black sheep?

Melbourne clinical psychologist and hypnotherapist Dr Janet Hall is the author of six books on parenting including Fight-free Families (Finch 2001). She describes a ‘family favourite’ as “The child who is seen as the golden one – the family sees their good points and exaggerates them and doesn’t see their bad points. They are favoured with positive attention, quality time and indulged in economically and given special opportunities.”

Unpalatable as the idea is to parents, Australian and American research indicates that a majority of children can name the family favourite or the family ‘black sheep’.

Macquarie University associate professor of psychology Dr Julie Fitness surveyed 70 university students on the topic of family favourites.

“In line with the findings from other, larger-scale studies, nearly 69% of respondents reported there was a family favourite, with 48% reporting it was themselves, 35% reporting a brother, and 17% reporting a sister,” she says.

“The most frequently reported reasons for favouritism were birth order (33% first or last born, never the middle); sex (23% being the only boy or girl in the family); goodness (21% talent, attractiveness, likeability) and similarity to a parent (19%).”

On the other hand, 80% of respondents could also identify the family ‘black sheep’, sometimes in the extended family. Students who identified themselves in this category believed it was because they were different to the rest of the family – in looks, personality, talents or interests. They felt they did not belong.

Single dad Andrew Thomas says his family is his world. He has two daughters aged 13 and 11 and a new partner who shares in the girls’ upbringing. Andrew frankly admits that his older daughter is his favourite because they just seem to get along better.

“We just have a better rapport. She is a self-reliant kid,” he says.

“She goes out of her way to help other people. She has earned my respect and I give it. She knows what she wants and knows how to get it.

“She’s a very good organiser. We don’t make many plans in our family without her having a say.”

Unlike many parents who have a favourite who is similar in many ways to themselves, Andrew says his younger child is more like him. He tends to push her hard to achieve because he feels he didn’t strive hard enough as he was growing up. Andrew tries hard not to show favouritism, but he suspects both daughters know who the favourite is. However, he believes they communicate well and can talk through any perceived ‘unfairness’. Andrew says his mum spoils the older girl sometimes with expensive presents, saying that she is more responsible and has earned it. Andrew then tries to make up the difference by giving the younger daughter a similar gift when she reaches the same age.

Is it possible to treat children equally?

Why do parents have difficulty with the idea of a family favourite? In my own family, we used to catch my mum offering the youngest of four the last piece of cheesecake and chorus loudly, “Well, you always were the favourite”! Mum would immediately launch into denial. It was a joke with a kernel of truth from adult children who felt comfortable acknowledging the fact. She loved us equally but treated us differently.

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Of course, parental favouritism is only a problem when one child receives preferential treatment consistently to the detriment of other children in the family.

Most parents, quite rightly, don’t want to play favourites. They don’t want to show partiality. But they don’t necessarily treat all their children the same. Each child has a different personality and different needs, therefore different responses from their parents are called for. If parents explain the reasons why a new-born is receiving

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“There are dangers inherent in being the favourite child,” she says.

“Since no one can fill the void created by parental neglect or oversight, these unfavoured children often grow up insecure and not believing themselves lovable.”

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There are positives and negatives to being the favoured child. Favourites can develop more confidence, determination and effectiveness, and achieve well in their careers. But Dr Libby warns of the downside.

“Children who have never felt this affirmation …often live their lives looking for this validation. They look to others to choose them as they had hoped their parents would,” Dr Libby says.

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Parental favouritism may have negative consequences for the siblings of the favoured child.

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“As children grow-up, a major task to be accomplished, necessary for their healthy functioning, is to learn to feel secure in the world without requiring ongoing parental affirmation,” she says.

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Washington DC clinical psychologist Dr Ellen Libby wrote The Favorite Child. She believes that most parents favour one child over another and that in itself is not a bad thing. It is just a fact.

Dr Libby also points to the possibility that the favoured child may live their lives trying to maintain favoured status and, ultimately, come to resent it. They may crack under the pressure of living up to parental expectations.

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of character that applied to others did not apply to him. He believed that he could do what he wanted without being held accountable for his behaviour. He gave no thought to the consequences of his actions on the people around him.”

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And now, as a mum, I understand her problem with the word ‘favourite’. My two girls have my unconditional love and support but they are two very different individuals. If I have avoided the pitfalls of rampant favouritism, I have certainly had times when one of them was least favoured because of her behaviour. The two-year-old who turned into a terrorist when the new baby arrived didn’t win any brownie points, but she did when she turned into a kid who never had to be nagged about homework. The chronically messy one still isn’t my favourite when I am in housekeeping mode, but she is when she makes us all laugh at the dinner table.

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more attention, and another allowed a privilege at a certain age, children may well accept that it is fair. With no explanation, children may believe it is because they are unworthy or unloved.

Dr Libby says children can appreciate and accept special bonds in the family.

“They easily accept that the athletic parent and sibling have a unique bond; or the specialness that may exist between a parent and difficult sibling,” she says.

“When the favourite child status is rotated among children, all children are likely to feel the security of their parents’ love and not feel damaging resentment when other siblings are favoured.”

So favouritism may be a transient thing. Mum may favour the teenage daughter because they enjoy shopping together. Dad clicks with the ten-year-old soccer player and the daughter who is a computer whiz like him.

Minnesota mother of three Sue Wilson hit upon an idea that worked for her young family. She started a ‘Child of the Day’ rotation when her kids were in preschool.

She found it stopped every argument over who gets the best seat, the last sweet, the first turn. She simply asked, “Who is Child of the Day?”

Relatives who play favourites Perhaps you have mastered the art of making each of your children feel special at different times and for different reasons. They feel secure in your love and aren’t upset when it is a sibling’s turn in the limelight. But along come the grandparents with a different preference. What can you do when THEIR favourite receives too many expensive presents, too much attention and can do no wrong? It’s a problem faced in many Australian households at Christmas in particular.

Of course, unguarded favouritism in the form of unflattering comparisons, hurtful remarks and put downs are cruel and damaging to self-esteem. For the sake of your child, a calm but firm line needs to be taken.

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But let’s assume that the relative loves all your children and would not intentionally hurt any of them. They may just enjoy the company of one over the other, feel more comfortable with a particular age group, or see a ‘carbon copy’ of a much-loved son or daughter. They may be unaware that others feel neglected or not have considered the possibility of spoiling the favoured child.

Budget well and plan ahead Try to work together as a team, rather than aim to be the ‘Masterchef’ yourself Have realistic expectations of yourself and of others Find time each day to ‘chill out’ Spread your family visits out over a few days

If you are generally on good terms, and feel you can remain calm and positive, you may wish to talk to them about the issue. Ask why they have developed a special bond with the child. Point out the positive things you see in this relationship.

Then ask if they have noticed that the others are feeling a bit left out. Encourage them to talk about ways to improve the situation. Try to find opportunities for the grandparents to get to know the other children better. Agree on some guidelines for presents and maybe even suggest time spent doing something together like cooking with gran, or working in the garden with pop as an alternative to buying presents. Encourage your children to make things for their grandparents and talk to them on the phone, so the giving is not all one way.

If you feel a child is suffering and the situation does not improve despite your efforts it may be time to consider the professional help of a psychologist or family therapist.

Dr Libby sees no problem in having favourites – just make sure each child is made to feel special often. “If all children believed they were the favourite, we’d have a nation of confident, successful people,” she says.

Practice forgiveness – it will make you feel better Limit your intake of alcohol – behaviour can get out of hand Listen and show respect Agree to disagree on issues Say thank you often

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By clinical psychologist Ellen Weber Libby Dr Libby explores why parents, consciously or unconsciously, choose a favourite child as well as the long-term pros and cons of being the golden child. She also discusses how parents can make each of their children feel favoured and maintain a healthy emotional balance for all family members.

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THE ‘P’ Files

One step at a time

Negotiating a step-parenting relationship

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A time of transition

“We’ve found that just by being flexible and taking turns, it’s worked out okay,” she says.

One in every five Australian families is now a stepfamily, as the traditional nuclear family changes and, for some, becoming a step-parent is a transition that evolves naturally after a new relationship begins. Queensland stepmum Julie says she started out as a friend to her new partner’s two children, aged four and six, and her relationship with the children gradually evolved over time.

Having different parenting styles can create conflict, and Julie relies on her husband to be the “conduit of communication” between her and the kids’ biological mum, so they can “work things out”.

“I was easily accepted because I was someone fun to be around and we had a good time together,” she says.

However, after Julie and her new partner had biological children of their own, she says the family dynamics changed and she had to “find a place for the stepchildren in that picture”.

“Like any family when a new sibling is born, you have all those issues around rivalry and jealousy, and the risk of over-indulging one over the other,” she explains. “It’s just constantly evolving.”

Julie admits that she doesn’t have the same bond with her stepchildren as she does with her three biological children, though she does love and respect them.

“I have a special, different, other relationship with them,” she says. “I am not their parent and I am not their friend. I am somewhere in between, and that’s a really nice place to be.”

It hasn’t all been plain sailing for Julie’s family, and special occasions like Christmas have been challenging, but she says they have created new family traditions that don’t focus on traditional celebrations.

They now enjoy an annual family camping trip at Easter when there is less pressure and expectation than Christmas (and therefore less likelihood of disappointment on other special occasions).

“I’ve always been really careful to not overstep my boundaries and to never, ever offer parenting advice or criticise them in any way,” she says.

Julie says her family is far from perfect, but she believes that their issues are all very normal. Life is good for Julie and she embraces her large stepfamily and the chaos that it brings.

“With five kids and all the craziness and noise and mayhem and all the exciting stories and dramas that unfold, there’s never a dull moment,” she laughs.

When stepfamilies fall apart When stepfamily relationships break down, vulnerable children are often caught in the middle of the conflict.

Queensland dad Simon says his parents divorced when he was two years old and he grew up with multiple step-parents, step-siblings and half-siblings.

“I had a lot of step-parents to juggle and changes in my life that I had no control over,” he says. “As a child you may appear to be coping with that, but it leaves a big mark that doesn’t go away.”

Simon acknowledges that some people do a great job of step-parenting, but his own childhood was a battlefield and he recalls that he had to grow up too fast.

“Managing all those relationships did become very complex,” he remembers.

“My experiences as a stepchild have coloured my world view.”

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THE ‘P’ Files Although he was never physically or emotionally abused, Simon felt that he became a pawn in the adult relationships, as their issues were projected onto him.

“They had a lot of growing up to do themselves,” he says. “Stepkids can become symbolic of other problems in the relationship, and it’s very easy for the people to get hung up on stepkid issues because they make a great scapegoat.”

He says that adults believe their children’s resilience will protect them, but he warns that residual problems don’t just “go away” and children are affected for many years in the future.

“It’s really, really easy for parents to look at their kids’ outward appearances and assume that because those things all look okay, everything is okay,” he says. “The cracks in the relationships didn’t appear when we were little, it was more as we got older.”

Now happily married with children, Simon says his unstable childhood has motivated him to work hard on his own marriage, so it will stand the test of time.

Nurture relationships Relationship dynamics are complex for most stepfamilies, as they navigate a confusing array of ex-partners and new partners, biological children and stepchildren, and extended families. This places a lot of stress on step-parents, and often leaves children feeling overwhelmed and stressed.

Try to accommodate and communicate with all members of each household, and show respect for everyone. Remember that a close, loving relationship with your stepchildren may not happen for many years.

Steve Martin, executive officer of Stepfamilies Australia, says that developing healthy relationships takes time, so new stepsiblings should receive support and understanding, not pressure to feel as though they have to love or like each other.

Be flexible Christmas and special occasions can be a stressful time for stepfamilies, because problems are compounded by divided loyalties, competition and emotional upheaval. Add in extra complications like ex-spouses, custody agreements, multiple grandparents and financial strain, and it makes for a turbulent time, with children all too often caught in the middle.

“It makes you realise at a very early age that adults can be fallible and relationships are hard work and complex,” he says. “My wife has seen, through me, the damage that it causes. It certainly helps us to stay very committed in our relationship, so hopefully it’s not being dragged through another generation.”

Negotiate and create a shared vision. You can’t please everyone, but with flexibility, careful planning and realistic expectations, a compromise can be found. Maintain a strong couple bond and make joint decisions with your new partner.

Getting it right

Have realistic expectations

The step-parent role comes without a job description, and there is often a melting pot of emotions and complex family relationships to deal with. So, how can stepparents get it right? The first step is to seek out information and develop a set of guidelines that will work for you and your stepfamily.

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Don’t expect too much too soon, and don’t feel like a failure if the stepfamily is going through a rough patch. Your new stepfamily won’t be the same as any other family you’ve been in. Take a long-term view to problem-solving, because issues will continue to arise and evolve as children grow and the family changes.

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Be sensitive to children’s feelings Show sensitivity to children and their differing needs. Adolescents look for ‘space’, while younger children need reassurance and security. Remember that the children did not choose to be members of the new household, and they may feel a range of emotions, including sadness, jealousy and anger, when biological parents re-partner.

Find support Ask for help along the way when you need it, from your partner, trusted friends and support networks. Learn more about stepfamilies by reading books, visiting websites and talking to other step-parents. Attend workshops and find out how other people have travelled this road.

Step-parents often don’t reach out for help, due to a fear of failure and family unit breakdown. They find that the dilemmas they face are difficult for friends and family to understand, and this can lead to lowered self-confidence and high levels of depression and anxiety.

Families Relationship Services Australia (FRSA) executive director Samantha Page says that stepfamilies can experience strong and sometimes unexpected emotions.

“Some family members may be struggling to work out strategies, rules and roles for getting along together,” she says. “Others may be resisting the change and struggling with feelings of dislocation.”

Stepchildren may also need support, as emotions that occurred during a marriage breakdown or the loss of a parent often resurface. Samantha says children’s feelings of dislocation or sadness may not be readily expressed and adults can be slower to recognise or respond to them.

“Children need space to talk about their feelings, concerns, fears and hopes,” she says. “Sometimes they might feel comfortable talking to their parents and stepparents, and other times they need to access other supports.”

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THE ‘P’ Files

The Do’s and Don’ts of Step-parenting

Evolving as a family Despite the challenges, many stepfamilies survive and evolve into strong, nurturing families where the children thrive. Over time, the initial confusion and fear of change is replaced by stability, acceptance and commitment, as each family member grows and adapts in his or her own unique way to the stepfamily dynamics.

Forming bonds with the stepchildren and finding new ways to parent won’t happen overnight, but the good news is that within five years many stepfamilies have resolved their early problems and have settled into a constructive rhythm.

Sources: Stepfamilies Australia, Family Relationship Services Australia, and Margaret Howden’s Stepfamilies: Understanding and responding effectively a briefing paper developed for the Australian Family Relationships Clearing House.

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• Push children into new family relationships – give them time and space

• Work as a team and make joint decisions with your new partner • Create physical space for children, even if they are part-time members of the household • Show sensitivity to all the children and their differing needs

• Assume everyone will get along well in the new stepfamily • Ignore children’s emotions • Be a silent martyr if the stepchildren are behaving badly

• Make separate time for original family members

• Try to do it alone – seek out counselling and support when you need it

• Be prepared to share your new partner with his or her biological children

• Disengage or lose contact with your biological children when difficulties arise

• Plan rather than ‘let things happen’

• Resent the biological parent’s disciplinary style

• Take a long-term view and accept that solutions will evolve over time • Show respect, gratitude and appreciation for all family members

• Expect the stepchildren to call you Mum or Dad • Exclude children from planning • Neglect your new partner

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by Kim Robins and Katharine Bogard

The task of choosing a school for your child can be quite time consuming and overwhelming, not to mention nerve-racking. Even the most calm and relaxed parents out there have been known to worry and lose sleep over choosing the ‘right’ school for their kids.

Most parents tend to use their own experiences as a starting point when making a decision about their child’s education and schooling. For many though, the process can very quickly become involved, stressful and exhausting! By arming yourself with a little knowledge and a basic plan you can prevent the exercise from being an awful experience.

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Exposing the Montessori myth Unfortunately, there is an abundance of myths connected to Montessori education.

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A Montessori school is not simply a place for information transfer but rather a response to the natural unfolding of human development from birth to adulthood.

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Montessori schools offer comprehensive parent education programs designed to assist, support, inspire and honour parents as they navigate this new territory of parenting.

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When do I actually start sending my child to school?

The first time parents are faced with choosing a school is when their little one is due to enrol in Prep or an early childhood education program.

Kindergarten, also known as Kindy or Pre-Prep, isn’t an official part of school education and it’s not compulsory. Kindy is only part-time and is available for children who turn four by June 30 the year they enrol. Early Childhood Management Services’ Cathy Tighe explains that Kindy is a play-based program and can help to stimulate children’s social, intellectual, physical and emotional development which helps prepare them for school.

who will educate them but, just as importantly, who will be the best influence during their younger years and as they approach their adult life. Kids spend a large majority of their waking hours in the school environment so it’s understandable that you would like them to be attending a school where the influences are positive and the aspirations you have for your child are mirrored through school curriculum and policies.

Considerations for you…

If you are unsure whether this is right for your child, Education Queensland’s website offers advice on the process, locations and benefits.

Existing family circumstances and special factors such as convenience, time, care arrangements and financial circumstances are all things that need to be considered when choosing a school. Finances can also be an issue, not just with the outlay of fees and other school costs. Fuel, bus fares and after school care arrangements can dip into the family budget as well.

If you forego Kindy, Education Queensland explains the preparatory year (prep) is the first year of school for children in Queensland.

It’s as important that YOU feel at home in the school as your children and that the school’s philosophies match your own.

Although prep is non-compulsory, children are legally required to attend school when they are six years and six months old, so they should be enrolled in grade one when they reach this age. In the year that the child is enrolled for grade one, they must turn six by June 30. The enrolment dates at various schools differ.

Teachers’ aide Di Feeney’s children have attended both private and public schools.

She says there are “great teachers in both systems and in the end it comes down to the quality of teaching and the general feeling and communication within the school”.

Tammy Mitchell was previously a secondary public school teacher, and has recently made the decision to send her child to a private school to begin prep next year. “A lucky thing for us was that the private schools interview a lot earlier than the public schools start recruiting... so I hadn’t put all my eggs in the one basket,” Tammy says.

“Better funding in the private schools allows more flexibility with resources, facilities, opportunities,” Di says.

Where to start…

Thinking about, and making a list of, your specific needs and the needs of your child is a good way to eliminate options that don’t fit the family’s ‘mould’. It can also save you time and energy.

When it comes to choosing a school for your child you are basically deciding not only

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“However, how a school works depends on the staff and families involved within the school.

“Nikki [daughter] is thriving at public school but I think her three years at private school was also a very positive experience.

“Every time the girls have changed schools they have just gained greater acceptance and tolerance to different experiences with different teachers, classmates and styles of learning,” Di says.

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use guidelines and/or syllabuses set out by the Queensland Studies Authority to develop their own objectives, curriculum and school charter. Outside of the basic subjects, specialist subjects are considered based on the school’s philosophy, its community, whether it has a strong sports ethic, strengths in art or music, religion or a purely academic focus.

Considerations for your child…

No-one knows your child better than you, so when you are choosing a school for them consider their particular needs and abilities and whether the school has the appropriate support available.

Independent Schools Queensland executive director David Robertson says factors “…such as a school’s curriculum, its discipline policies, its facilities, what extracurricular offerings are available, class sizes and pastoral care support” are important considerations.

Mother of two Raelene Eves agrees that (for primary school children) other factors are more important than the curriculum.

“Predominantly, I wanted to ensure the school I chose was interested in my child,” she says.

“The school I have chosen (about 220 children) has a good curriculum and good policies, including a mentoring program to help new children adjust.

“With the smaller numbers of children, the principal, teachers and staff know my child and me personally, and I believe that this helps stop my child getting ‘lost in the system’.”

Education Queensland says other issues or considerations you may want to pursue are school size, assessment and reporting procedures, student and parental involvement, homework and assignment expectations, teaching methods and classroom environment, as well as out-of-school-hours care, fees and levies and appropriate class placement for your child.

Regardless of whether you choose the public or independent system, most schools

However, in some cases it’s the teaching philosophy that’s different. Montessori International principal Chiray Fitton says the Montessori system focuses on developing the character and personality of the child rather than academia.

“Everything is interrelated so Montessori tries not to fragment education into separate maths or science lessons,” she says.

What are my options?

Knowing your options is a key factor in helping to decide on the best education environment for your child. Queensland has 1,760 schools comprising 1,300 public primary and high schools, 286 Catholic schools and 174 independent (or private) schools. Approximately 70% of students use the public system and 30% attend non-government or private schools. Home schooling is also an option that is slowly becoming more popular.

Types of schools State Education Queensland is responsible for providing education to all Queensland kids. Although the Department of Education and Training says school principals and parents and citizens associations may charge fees or ask for donations to fund resources, state school are generally regarded as free to Australian citizens.

Catholic The National Catholic Education Commission (NCEC) explains that Catholic schools provide education for Australian students with a religious foundation.

“Like all Australian schools, Catholic schools are accountable to governments and their local communities for meeting all the teaching and learning requirements of the state,” NCEC says.

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“They also have distinctive goals and features which derive from a core of philosophical and theological truths.”

Independent Independent Schools Queensland (ISQ) explains that nongovernment schools are also called independent schools. “Independent schools in receipt of Commonwealth and state funding are incorporated non-profit organisations,” ISQ explains.

Where am I? Queensland public schools have zoning restrictions which means if you live outside the school’s catchment area you are usually put on a waiting list in order of application. Particular criteria such as whether siblings attend the school and whether there is a child protection order in place are two of the main factors used to consider admissions.

Zoning rules do not apply to independent schools but Independent Schools Queensland executive director David Robertson says it’s important to contact the school and find out about enrolment procedures. Like public schools, independent schools often give preference “…to siblings of enrolled children, children who live in the local area and children who attend the local affiliated church if it’s a religious school.”

Research…

Once you have considered your specific needs it’s time to look at your options.

“By researching school options and seeking as much information as possible parents can be more confident they will enrol their child in a school that best meets their needs,” David Robertson says.

Research doesn’t necessarily mean countless boring hours scouring through piles of thick school prospectuses, brochures and reports (although they do have heaps of valuable and helpful information). Researching a school for your child can be interesting and fun. Websites are a fantastic source of information and you can even get a ‘feel’ for the school simply by browsing the different pages within their site.

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Questions you may want to ask…

• How available are teachers and staff to parents?

• What’s the staff/student ratio?

The Australian Curriculum, Assessment and Reporting Authority (ACARA) has developed the My School website to enable parents to browse both private and public school profiles.

My School provides information about the socio-economic status of the student body, student attendance rates, staff numbers, national literacy and numeracy testing results and contrasts these results with other schools.

Open days and interviews…

• What are the behaviour management policies?

• How is bullying handled?

• What is the homework policy?

• How many children per class?

• How does the school support students with specific learning, language and/or cultural needs?

• What are the schools reporting and assessment policies?

Open days are fantastic because you can walk around the school, look at the facilities and meet the staff and other parents. You can observe the students and how they interact with each other, whether they appear happy and whether they act appropriately towards visitors and teachers.

Other things to consider…

Coast mum Sharlene Latcham was faced with having to choose a new school for her son recently. “I attended several schools to look at the grounds and to meet teachers and staff so I could get a feel for how each school would suit our needs,” she says.

• Are there special arrangements to help you pay fees?

“I was also really impressed with the interview process. This allowed us to meet the head of Middle School personally and questions were directed to both of us so my son felt he had a say…the research was definitely worth the effort,” she says.

• What are the school’s values?

Mum Kim Timms also met with the school before making the decision to enrol her son.

“The deputy principal who interviewed me volunteered heaps of information on their teachers... their commitment to building infrastructure, their commitment to all curriculum subjects, additional projects, and their sustainability projects. We also discussed fees and levies and explained how the levies get distributed across the many projects they had going and will be starting,” Kim says.

• Does the school offer scholarships or bursaries?

• Is the school single sex or coeducational?

• Do you want a separate primary school, secondary school or combined?

• What is the school’s reputation?

• Does the school have a sense of community?

• Were you made to feel welcome?

• Are the staff and students happy?

• Is the school well maintained?

• Does it have air conditioning?

• Are there plenty of undercover areas for play?

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Ask your friends…

Word of mouth can also be helpful. If you have trusted friends and family who send their children to a particular school, ask them why they are happy with the school and their opinion on other aspects such as the curriculum, the teachers, communication with parents. Ask if they have had any negative experiences, and how they were handled by the school administration. Kim Timms did just that.

“Reputation was key to my decision,” she says. “I spoke to a lot of local people to gain a feeling about the school.

“I asked what they had heard and… if they believed it was a good school.”

Last but not least…

Once you’ve got things a little clearer in your head, where practical, it’s a good idea to include your child in the decision-making process. Talk to them about your ideas and ask for their opinion and input. Listen to their concerns and you will almost certainly find they will be more accepting of the change and more likely to embrace the new environment when they get there.

It may be time consuming initially but the hard work and research pays off. Not only will you feel confident in your decision but, when they bound through the door after the first day, throw their bag on the floor and announce that they’re ‘starving’, you will know they are happy too!

For more information Queensland Studies Authority: www.qsa.edu.au Education Queensland: Sunshine Coast South District Office: 3881 9600 or visit: www.education.qld.gov.au Independent Schools Queensland: www.aisq.qld.edu.au Aussie Educator: www.aussieeducator.org.au National Catholic Education Commission: www.ncec.catholic.edu.au My School: www.myschool.edu.au

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Special Events CalendaR Until December 10

November-December

Where/when: Aussie World, Bruce Highway, Palmview Aussie World, home of the largest wooden roller coaster in this hemisphere, is extending a reduced price for toddlers, so get in before the big kids take over!

Cost: $10 for children five and under Mon-Fri, individual day pass unlimited rides $25, four person day pass unlimited rides $80, children two years and under, free Details: www.aussieworld.com.au

Where/when: Eumundi Showgrounds, Memorial Drive, gates open 5pm Eumundi’s very own outdoor cinema is back for a new summer season. Check out the website for upcoming movies.

Cost: $8, kids under three free Details: www.flicksinthesticks.org

November 7

November 13

November 13

Where/when: The Edge, Ground Floor East, 10 Lake Kawana Blvd, 10am-2pm Celebrate the centre’s opening with a blessing by a Tibetan Lama Monk, 4 Ingredients author Kim Cosker, live dance intro classes, free health assessments, yummy and healthy food and drinks, certified organic skincare and natural makeup trials. Loads of fun activities for the kids and lots of prizes.

Cost: Free Details: www.yinhealth.com.au

Where/when: Cotton Tree Park, the Esplanade, Cotton Tree, 1-4pm Parents Without Partners is a not-for-profit social group that offers friendship and support.

Create great memories in an environment where the kids are welcome. Clowns, balloons, organised games and free refreshments are included.

Cost: Call for details Details: call 5449 6365 or 0408 996 365

Where/when: Nambour High School, 6.309.30pm Junior Disco for Year 9 and below (under 14).

ID needed for entry.

Cost: $8 Details: www.maroochydorebluelight.com

November 15

November 20

AUSSIE WORLD SPECIAL

YIN HEALTH GRAND OPENING FAMILY DAY

STEVE IRWIN DAY Where/when: Australia Zoo, Beerwah This event celebrates the life of Steve Irwin.

The day will feature many things Steve was passionate about: family, wildlife, conservation and fun. It’s a day where people around the world join together to raise money for Australia Zoo Wildlife Warriors and there will be stacks of fun and activities.

Cost: See websites for details Details: www.australiazoo.com.au and www.steveirwinday.org

EUMUNDI FLICKS IN THE STICKS

SOLE PARENT FAMILY FUN DAY

November 2

LIVE SNAKES CHILDREN’S WORKSHOP Where/when: The Events Centre, Caloundra, 10.30am The Events Centre’s first children’s workshop for 2010 will feature Jill Zimmerman and her live snakes. The children will be introduced to a few different pet pythons and learn all about a snake’s body and how it moves. Children will also learn what to do if they see a snake.

Cost: $6 including fruit platter and morning tea Details: www.theeventscentre.com

R e B M NOVE November 4

November 6

Where/when: Lake Kawana Community Centre, 8.30am-1pm The launch of a new market space with boutique products for women, children and babies. Includes a dedicated area for kids with workshops, activities and face painting.

Cost: Free Details: www.kaleidoscopeevents.com.au

Where/when: Coolum Sports Fields, 2-10pm The festival’s opening headliner will be Ash Grunwald with full band, Troubadour. Also in the line-up: The John Steel Singers, Jamaican rhythms band Kingfisha, Paul Greene, a massive feast of Latin/funk gypsy groove music and Ashleigh Mannix, a fresh face to the Australian music scene.

Cost: Adult $35, 13-17 years $22, 5-12 years $5, under five free Details: www.goldendaysfestival.com

KALEIDOSCOPE MARKET LAUNCH

NAMBOUR BLUE LIGHT DISCO

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GOLDEN DAZE MUSIC FESTIVAL

November 8-14

PLANET ARK NATIONAL RECYCLING WEEK Where/when: various activities and locations Check out the website for ideas for recycling at home, or look out for activities at school or local libraries. Organise a ‘Swap Party’ at your playgroup or school.

Cost: Free Details: www.recyclingweek.planetark.org

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November 27

SUNCOAST GEM AND FOSSICKING CLUB GEM SHOW

November 25 to December 24

MOOLOOLABA MARINA CHRISTMAS BOAT PARADE

Where/when: Buderim Mountain State School 8.30am-4.30pm This 23rd annual gem show includes demonstrations, jewellery and a kids’ corner.

Take the whole family along to learn more about fossicking.

Cost: Adults $3, children $1 Details: 5445 3932 or 5445 2734

Where/when: The Ginger Factory, Yandina from 9.30am Sneak a peek and see how Santa and his elves get everything ready for the big day. Experience the walk-through collection of fully animated windows. This wonderland will delight all ages.

Cost: $6 Details: 5446 7100 or www.gingerfactory.com.au

Where/when: Various viewing locations 6.458.00pm, see website for details Watch the Mooloolah and Kawana waterways come alive with boats decorated with sparkling lights, Christmas decorations and festive music. Boat owners from around the area put hours into whimsical creations to spread the holiday cheer.

Cost: Free Details: www.christmasboatparade.net

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December 1-31

Where/when: The Workshops Rail Museum, Ipswich Meet Santa when he makes a special stop at the Rail Museum. Make festive artworks at the Christmas Creation Station and sing along to your favourite Aussie Christmas songs at the Bush Galah Christmas Show. Make a wooden toy train in the workshops and enjoy the free bouncy train and land train rides.

Cost: Museum admission: Adults $19, children aged 3-15: $11, family pass: $57, extra fees for some activities Details: www.theworkshops.qm.qld.gov.au

Where/when: Queensland Museum, South Bank An awesome array of hundreds of prehistoric and modern animals. Stare into the eye of a tiger and stand beneath a great white shark in the thrilling animal parade. From dung beetles to dinosaurs, see the relationship between creatures great and small, past and present, and the dramatic effect size has on survival.

Cost: Free Details: www.southbank.qm.qld.gov.au

December 4

December 11-17

December 11-24

SANTA CELEBRATION

CHRISTMAS CAROLS December 4: Brisbane Riverstage from 5pm.

Visit: www.carolsinthecity.com.au December 5: Eumundi Ampitheatre, 5.30pm.

Details: 0409 578 624 December 19: Carols at Cotton Tree, 5.30-9.30pm. Details 5441 8363 December 20: Carols on Kings, Caloundra, 5.30-9.30pm.

Details: 5441 8363 December 12

THE BUTTERFLY TREE MARKET When/where: The Events Centre, Caloundra Handle all your Christmas shopping at once at this Christmas Extravaganza market with over 65 boutique stalls in an indoor venue.

Cost: Free entry and parking Details: www.thebutterflytree.com.au

Compiled by: Frances Maguire

A calendar of regular weekly events is available online. For details of playgroups, library activities, weekly sporting events, craft classes, Australian Breastfeeding Association meeting times and much more, visit www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

ANIMALS, SIZE AND ME

SUMMER DOWN UNDER AT AUSTRALIA ZOO Where/when: Australia Zoo, Beerwah, 9am-5pm Enjoy action and free entertainment during the school holidays. Beaut activities for everyone with free face painting and amazing animal encounters. Get ready for a fun-filled day with Brekkie with the Characters.

Cost: Family 5-ticket $187, Family 4-ticket $170, adult $57, student $46, child $34 Details: www.australiazoo.com.au

December 19

CHRISTMAS IN COOROY Where/when: Cooroy, 4-10pm Start your festive fun in Cooroy with free rides, entertainment, a street parade, the Great Santa Race, competitions, market, food stall and fireworks.

Cost: Free Details: www.christmasincooroy.com.au

THE WONDER OF CHRISTMAS Where/when: Maroochy Baptist Church, Wises Road, North Buderim The Christmas lights and story come alive every evening.

Cost: Free Details: 5476 6773

MERRY CHRISTMAS! December 27 – January 1

MAMMA’S MARKET

WOODFORD FOLK FESTIVAL

Where/when: Buderim War Memorial Hall, 9am-1pm This indoor market showcases gourmet food, unique products, kids activities and live music in a cool environment. This first event includes Christmas products and is sure to draw the crowds.

Cost: Free Details: www.mammasmarket.com

Where/when: Woodford, Sunshine Coast Woodford comes alive with six days and nights of more than 2000 performers and 580 events featuring local, national and international guests. The program includes music, dance, street theatre and an entire children’s festival as well as circus performances and parades. Treefilled campgrounds, butterfly walks and wildlife complete the festival site.

Cost: Ticket prices vary. See website for details Details: www.woodfordfolkfestival.com

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NEW YEAR’S EVE AT KINGS BEACH Where/when: Lions Park, Kings Beach Celebrate New Year with family and friends.

Enjoy entertainment with Humphrey B Bear, singing and dancing from The Silly Billies and a movie under the stars at 7pm, with a grand finale of fireworks at 8.45pm. Roving artists, sideshow alley and games round off the evening.

Cost: Free Details: 0405 123 417

WE LOVE SANTA’S PRESENCE Santa will be at Noosa Civic from November 21 and we’ve got a Centre full of Christmas presents. With over 100 specialty stores plus Woolworths and Big W you’re sure to find gifts for all the family..... we’ve got the lot.

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the coast Planning your

by Kim Robins

Contraception after birth

When you have just had a baby, usually, the last thing on your mind is immediately having another one! So, to be sure this doesn’t happen again until you and your partner are ready, it’s important to consider the safe contraception options available to you, especially while you are breastfeeding.

Some of you may be thinking “What? Sex in the first few weeks or months after giving birth? Are you kidding?” For many women, intimacy is definitely not high (or even existent!) on their ‘to do’ list once their new baby arrives. A recovering body, sleep deprivation and juggling the needs of other family members usually means most new mums don’t have the time, desire or energy for postnatal sex.

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          Dr Petra Ladwig from Suncoast Women’s Centre understands the problems       most women face after giving birth. One of the most embarrassing side effects      is often incontinence which can occur due to weakened pelvic floor muscles.      A lot of women simply put up with this as the natural course of  being a       woman after child birth but this need not be the case. If addressed early these     problems can be managed, improved and even cured by something as simple     and painless as sitting in a chair, fully clothed for 20 minutes!      The pelvic floor controls your urinary, bowel and sexual functions yet these   

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 muscles are your most neglected. The new ‘Wave Brilliance’ Magnetic Pelvic  Floor Stimulation chair (magnetic chair) uses magnetic fields to stimulate nerve  impulses which rapidly flex and tighten your pelvic floor muscles. This is the  equivalent of approximately 200 pelvic floor contractions every minute at 20 times greater the intensity than the patient can do themselves! It is the ideal way to kick start or regenerate the pelvic floor and surrounding muscles to restore strength, endurance and continence.

Treatments are tailored to individual patients but a typical therapy program consists of two 20 minute treatments per week for eight weeks. Of course children are most welcome to attend with you and can simply sit and play whilst you undergo your treatment.

For more information about the new Wave Brilliance magnetic chair treatment phone the Suncoast Women’s Centre on 5437 7244 or visit Suite 5, 5 Innovation Parkway, Birtinya (Kawana). Medicare rebates available.

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But, for just as many new mums who don’t feel ‘in the mood’ there are many who do. There’s no right or wrong, but for mums who are ready to ‘take the plunge’ but aren’t keen on falling pregnant so soon after giving birth, it’s important to understand that even while you are breastfeeding it is possible to conceive.

Thankfully, there are several methods of contraception that are not only effective, but are also considered safe for both mum and baby.

Continuous breastfeeding, or the Lactational Amenorrhea Method (LAM), is a popular choice for new mums who want to avoid pregnancy in the immediate months following childbirth. This is mainly because it’s convenient, natural, free, has no side effects and allows for greater sexual spontaneity.

The tricky or important thing to remember is there is an actual method and criteria to fulfil if you want to use breastfeeding as a form of birth control – it’s not, as many have believed, a matter of simply breastfeeding. Continuous and frequent feeding is the key to the likelihood of success.

What does this mean?

For LAM to be successful it’s important to exclusively breastfeed your baby on demand both day and night. This usually means a minimum of six long feeds every 24 hours and not leaving a gap of more than four hours during the day or six hours at night between feeds.

How effective is LAM? The Australian Breastfeeding Association (ABA) says that exclusive breastfeeding is 9899.5% effective in preventing pregnancy as long as the following conditions are met: • Your baby is less than six months old • Your menstrual periods have not yet returned • Baby is breastfeeding on cue (both day and night), and gets nothing but breast milk or only token amounts of other food

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How does it work?

Your baby’s suckling stimulates the hormones that suppress ovulation and, because during ovulation is your most fertile phase, your chances of becoming pregnant are significantly reduced. It’s not foolproof though…

The ABA adds that although breastfeeding is an excellent natural method of birth control, it’s not always enough on its own to prevent pregnancy, as was discovered by Coast mum of three, Jenny Manton.

When Jenny’s second child was four months old she discovered she was pregnant with number three, and although she wouldn’t change the circumstances it was definitely a shock to her and her husband.

“I think I was under a misconception because when my first was born, I didn’t take a mini pill and relied on breastfeeding as contraception…I didn’t fall pregnant with number two until later,” she says.

“Not falling pregnant so soon after my first I just assumed I wouldn’t conceive number three while I was breastfeeding.

“I knew there was a slight chance I could [fall pregnant while I was breastfeeding] but didn’t think it would happen because I followed the same breastfeeding routine after the birth of number two as I did for number one.”

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the coast Advantages of LAM… • No side effects

The condom is Australia’s most popula r form of contraceptio n, with 52% using it as th eir main contraceptiv e method

• It’s convenient and free • You don’t need a prescription • It’s natural – doesn’t affect your hormone balance • Breastfeeding has many benefits for mum and baby

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Disadvantages of LAM… • No protection from STDs • Can only be relied upon for six months from baby’s birth • Exclusive breastfeeding may be difficult to achieve – especially if mum goes back to work or has other commitments Although breastfeeding, or LAM, can be an excellent natural method of birth control when implemented correctly, fertility times for women vary greatly. The baby’s feeding pattern and how sensitive mum’s body is to the hormones involved in lactation can impact on how effective LAM can be. The ABA recommends if you wish to avoid pregnancy in the first six months, or if menstruation has recommenced, it’s advisable to use some additional form of contraception.

If you like the idea of using your body’s natural rhythms and cycles to prevent pregnancy, another option is the Natural Family Planning (NFP) method. In this method, you track and record your body’s monthly cycle to determine when you are most fertile and when intercourse should be avoided.

It is possible to predict or calculate your fertile phase by a number of methods including the: • Calendar method • Temperature method • Billing’s ovulation method or • Symptothermal method.

Family Planning Queensland (FPQ) explains that NFP methods require a woman to calculate and record their fertile days by “counting cycle length over a period of time or observing signs that ovulation (egg release) is about to or has occurred”.

“During the fertile days a couple need to abstain from sexual intercourse or use a barrier method,” the organisation says.

“Depending on the individual, sex may need to be avoided for 7-14 days during each menstrual cycle.”

How effective is NFP? FPQ goes on to say that the effectiveness of NFP relies on motivation, length of time using the method and the type of method used to prevent a pregnancy.

“If used correctly every time, these methods are 75-99% effective,” it says.

“This means if 100 women used these methods, between 1 and 25 could become pregnant in a year. It is more successful for couples who have undertaken training with NFP educators.”

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Advantages of NFP… It’s cost effective. You may have an initial outlay for medical consultations or devices – but once the method is learnt there are no ongoing expenses It doesn’t interfere with your body’s hormones or menstrual cycle Knowing your body and understanding when you are most fertile can be used to both prevent and achieve a pregnancy Coast mum Kristy Guest says she has used NFP in the past to achieve pregnancy rather than avoid it, but now that she knows her cycles and is confident when her most fertile times are she feels she can use the same method to prevent another pregnancy.

“At first there was a lot of information to take in and terminology to understand but my GP and friends were really helpful,” she says.

“Once I got the hang of it, it was quite simple and worked really well for us.

“But now, (after baby number five!) I can confidently use the method to prevent another pregnancy…for now. It also means I don’t have to take any medication which is great.”

Other choices…

If the LAM or NFP methods don’t appeal to you there are still other options available. Some methods are more effective than others depending on your personal circumstances and health.

If you are considering any hormone based methods of contraception you need to be aware that some hormones will pass into the breast milk. Although the amount is minute, Queensland Health recommends that you discuss the risks and benefits with your doctor prior to implantation. The methods to consider are:

The contraceptive pill…

The combined contraceptive pill (contains both oestrogen and progestin) isn’t usually recommended to breastfeeding mums because it can decrease milk supply.

However progesterone-only pills or mini pills are usually safe to use.

Condoms and diaphragms…

Are safe regardless of whether or not you are breastfeeding. They both act as barriers to prevent sperm from entering the cervix. An intra-uterine device (IUD) is another possibility but requires a minor procedure and works by changing the intrauterine environment and prevents eggs from implanting.

Depo Provera injection…

Is an intramuscular injection that lasts for three months. It is recommended you receive this injection six weeks post delivery to reduce bleeding.

Implanon…

Is a progesterone only implant and is about the size of a matchstick. It’s usually inserted into the inner upper arm and works by slowly releasing progesterone for up to three years, and can be removed sooner if required.

For a more permanent option…

If this was your last planned baby, you may wish to consider a more permanent solution. You can have a tubal ligation (or commonly known as having your ‘tubes tied’) or your partner can opt for a vasectomy.

If you are unsure about the right choice for you and would like to know more about any method of contraception be sure to seek advice from your regular doctor or qualified health professional.

For more information Australian Breastfeeding Association: www.breastfeeding.asn.au Family Planning Queensland: www.fpq.com.au Queensland Health: www.health.qld.gov.au Medication Helpline: 13 HEALTH (13 432 584)

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I have always explored the art world and the work of James Wood comes to mind. The image of a farmer and his wife standing bibbed in overalls has an austere yet inspirational tone and is familiar to many.

It conjures up days of hard labour, old-fashioned values and a less complicated time.

This painting, or the fact that I grew up in the country, may have prompted me to dress my children in this well-worn fashion from a very young age and I have been thankful for the many virtues of this versatile garment on many occasions.

I remember the first time my husband, Rex, dressed my son, Josh, in the bib-clad tiny piece of denim cloth. He was ever so proud and completely appalled that I sat in fits of laughter as I approached. “Where are the buckles?” I choked. A little dejected, he stated that they were in the back (as though this was common knowledge) and he couldn’t figure out why I was overcome with fits of the giggles!

After a little instruction in the proper way to dress an infant in overalls I thought the matter, was done… however, I was wrong.

Months later, as Josh began walking and we took frequent trips to the park, my husband met me once again with a backwards dressed child in overalls! Second time around was just too much and I was rolling with laughter, as were a few other mums at the park. I re-dressed Josh and off he went to shyly play with the other children while we chatted.

Then, out of the corner of my eye, my husband ran full speed towards the slide where Josh teetered. He grabbed those backwards straps just in time and my chuckles died in my throat. That was a close call…

Years later, and after the birth of our second child, Rachel, once again the overalls (this time right side around) became a blessing in disguise. We were meandering along a well-known pier and a huge flock of pelicans surrounded a fisherman at the end. My bold and dangerous daughter didn’t hesitate. She ran full pelt into the midst of these feisty birds! A hand from above once again used that fishhook effect and plucked the ‘catch’ of the day into midair by the straps of those trusty overalls before she was attacked by toothless bills.

Backwards, sideways or upside down, overalls take a beating, save their ‘good clothes’ and are even attributed with saving a life. Perhaps these adorable garments should be as much a staple for toddlers as strollers and sunhats!

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Over the last decade there has been some slight but definite medical evidence supporting circumcision. This has re-ignited a debate that has raged for centuries. But the interesting aspect of this is that, for most parents, the decision to circumcise has more to do with personal preference, religious or cultural reasons than anything medical.

Circumcision was first practiced by tribes in Africa, as a rite of adolescence. The Egyptians got into the act, as they were obsessed with cleanliness, believing that hygiene and bad ‘vapours’ were responsible for disease. Over the centuries circumcision became practised by many religions, particularly Judaism and Islam, and became an infant procedure. It was not a part of Catholic or Anglican religion, but it became popular in 19th century England due to a belief it cured or prevented illnesses such as epilepsy or blindness. So our Anglophile ancestors are to blame for circumcision rates hitting up to 90% in Australia during the 1950s and ’60s.

But during the 1970s, circumcision rates plummeted as the practice became questionable. Rates have now dropped to around 10%-15%.

Doctors are usually not consulted when parents decide on the procedure. I can remember being asked by parents on only half a dozen occasions whether I thought it was a good idea. For most, the decision is non medical.

So what are the latest medical arguments supporting circumcision? It is thought that the foreskin increases the chances of infection. So the circumcised male has a lower chance of urinary tract infection as an infant, and appears to have less chance of catching and passing on sexually transmitted diseases. Those supporters of circumcision cite evidence showing higher rates of HIV and HPV (Human Papilloma Virus) in uncircumcised males, particularly in parts of the world where heterosexual HIV is common (such as Africa). HPV is the main cause of cervical cancer and penile cancer (rare).

Many Asian cultures, including Japanese, do not circumcise. Many European countries have also never considered it. The Italians and Greeks, for instance, have never had circumcision as a part of their culture and are probably horrified at the thought.

The opinion of the Royal Australasian College of Physicians (and the equivalent in the USA and England) does not support routine circumcision from a medical point of view. The risks of complications of the procedure, trauma to the infant and anesthetic concerns do not justify the perceived benefits.

In September 2010, the college re-stated its position: “Circumcision provides some benefit in preventing UTI in boys, particularly in those with underlying anatomical anomalies of the urogenital tract. In low prevalence populations such as Australia and New Zealand circumcision does not provide significant protection against STIs and HIV, and is less effective than safe sex practices.

Circumcision decreases the risk of penile cancer probably by preventing phimosis.

Male circumcision may offer protection against the development of cervical cancer in high risk populations, but is overshadowed as a protective measure by HPV vaccines.

Circumcision has not been demonstrated to decrease the risks of prostate cancer…”

(Source: http://www.racp.edu.au/page/policy-and-advocacy/paediatrics-and-child-health)

Looking at this from another point of view, the most common operations in Australia performed on children are a tonsillectomy or adenoidectomy (5-10% of children). If we use the circumcision argument does this mean that all toddlers should have their tonsils and adenoids removed in the interest of population health?

I don’t think this campaign would get off the ground. The idea of surgery to remove something healthy, such as a foreskin, to lessen risks is not what Hippocrates had in mind when he gave doctors his oath of “first do no harm”.

In 99% of cases, the foreskin is fine if left alone. There is no need for retraction or special care. It sorts itself out through middle childhood. If there is phimosis (a condition where the foreskin has become stuck) and there are urinary problems (such as a poor stream) then this can be treated non-surgically as a first option.

The information contained in this article is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for individual professional medical advice from your physician or qualified health care provider. www.kidsonthecoast.com.au

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I have 3 children aged 2, 5 & 8. We have our Christmas holidays planned to visit Grandma in Cairns and will be driving! Can you please give me some tips to keep the kids entertained and me sane on this journey!

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Oh dear me! This is a colossal challenge. I put out the emergency help line (Facebook) and asked for advice from those who do regular road trips with their little ones. Jo reckons you need lots of kids Nurofen.

Rosie says earplugs. For you - not the kids! Otherwise you are going to be forced to listen to Dora The Explorer sixty five times. The best tips were to hire a heap of kids DVDs, take a box of their favourite toys, pack some colouring pencils and colouring books and stop at McDonalds playground for a breather every few hours. You should be at least at Bundaberg by now! Then jump back in the car and do counting and spelling games ... count how many white cars pass. Do some competitive games such as who can spot the first blue truck or car towing a caravan. Phew! Maybe by now after some singing and car karaoke you will have hit Townsville.

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Most importantly after this marathon and most valiant effort, ensure you have packed a bottle of wine for you to open at night time when you have reached your mum’s home and the kids are all asleep. Savour every drop as you have earned it! And Grandma better buy the kids a really good present after your gold star effort.

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There’s a very good chance you’ll end up nuttier than Mad Mel Gibson but if you make it, believe me you’ll go down in the annals of history as one of the bravest pioneers of our time.

Now a good way to ensure you survive the trip is to have a fully stocked inventory of games, anecdotes and most importantly dvd’s for the kids to feast on. From my own experience with my 4 kids, as far as games go, “Eye-Spy” will only get you to the Eumundi turn-off while “Punch Buggy” when used properly could see you through to Glenwood just north of Gympie. Try to avoid at all costs the vintage “Dad’s Jokes” or you’ll have a mutiny on your hands. The main offenders to look out for in particular are as follows...When driving past a sign that says “DIP AHEAD” “Hey I hope youse have got your Jatz bikkies ready coz there’s Dip ahead!!!” or when driving past a cemetery, “Geez that place is pretty popular, people are dying to get in there!!!” Seriously if you want the least amount of drama on the trip, invest in some portable dvd players and load ‘em up with classic kiddy fodder...and if you want the kids to learn a little history, whirl on that Nicole Kidman movie Australia...if nothing else it’ll send them into a deep sleep and you should have peace and quiet well past Childers and beyond!

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Here is a few ideas for trips by veteran family travellers: Plan to stop every 1 ½ hours.

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Increasing dairy consumption A survey by the Commonwealth Scientific and Industrial Research Organisation (CSIRO) found children across all ages are not eating enough dairy foods. It reports that calcium is the only nutrient for which the majority of children, across all age groups, are not meeting the EER. Wesley Weight Management Clinic’s accredited practising dietician Catherine Fallon agrees that children have not been consuming the recommended levels of dairy foods, and this has been the basis of advertisements for calcium-rich snacks for kids.

“The recent media attention surrounding calcium in the afternoon as a snack arose in response to recent research that found that up to 84% of school-aged children were not getting the recommended daily serves of dairy,” she says.“Protein-rich foods do provide a number of key nutrients for children, including calcium, iron and magnesium.

“If incorporating dairy-based snacks, low-fat options are the healthier choice.”

A Queensland Health dietician/nutritionists’ consensus document suggests considering breakfast cereal with milk as a snack at any time. Queensland Health suggests kids between 1-8 eat 3-6 dried apricots for afternoon tea, and kids 9-13 consume a banana. Both these fruits provide 20mg of their daily calcium intake. For children 14 years and above, a banana smoothie in the afternoon can provide more than 20% of their recommended daily calcium.

The Dieticians Association of Australia (DAA) says calcium ensures children grow to have strong bones and teeth.

“Children need three serves of dairy foods each day, with a cup of milk being one serve,” the association explains. “Reduced fat milks are not suitable for young children under two years of age, because of their high energy needs. However reduced fat varieties should be encouraged for older children and adolescents.”

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Queensland Health says if cow’s milk is not your preference, a 200ml glass of soy milk will contribute the same amount of calcium. Eating snacks as a source of calcium doesn’t have to be boring either… Catherine points out that two scoops of low fat ice cream are just as beneficial as milk.

The way kids snack The CSIRO regards snacks as part of a structured diet and reminds parents to remember these little extras. The DAA agrees. “Children are very good at responding to their appetites and therefore may eat most of their food as snacks rather than at meal-times.”

“Aim for your family to eat breakfast, lunch and dinner with scheduled morning and afternoon snacks... Without a meal structure it is easy to eat for the wrong reasons, like boredom, or when you are in a hurry. These situations can lead to unhealthy food choices and over-eating.

“Children need to eat appropriately sized main meals and may also have a healthy between-meal snack. The between-meal snack needs to be eaten at about the same time every day to avoid children ‘grazing’ ...”

Catherine agrees that snacks are part of a child’s diet and schedule. “Snacks are an important part of a child’s day... The key to ensuring appetites are not spoilt in children in particular, is to eat snacks at least two hours before main meals,” she says.

“There’s no single ‘magic’ snack that every child should be eating.

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Hidden surprises in packaged goods The DAA advises checking the labels when buying packaged snack foods, to ensure they are low in saturated fat, salt and kilojoules.

Catherine says ideally a snack should be less than 600kJ. “Check for added sugars by looking at the ingredients list,” she explains. “Some sugars are naturally occurring (those found in milk and fruit) but a food is likely to be high in added sugar if sugar is one of the first two ingredients listed.

“More important than the amount of fat is the type of fat a food contains – aim for less than 2g saturated fat per serve… and target less than 100mg sodium (salt) per serve.”

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“In Australian children, a fifth of their fat consumption comes from foods like sweet biscuits, cakes and pastries... These factors lead to high kilojoule intake, which can cause unhealthy weight gain,” it says.

Vegetables and fruit as the perfect snack While children 14-16 eat the least amount of fruit, the survey found kids 2-3 commonly eat the most. However, older kids consume about double the portion of vegetables that younger children do. “After-school snacks are a great opportunity to increase fruit and vegetable intake,” says Catherine.

The DAA has found many people incorrectly think drinking juice is healthy.

Unfortunately, too much juice can diminish kids’ appetites and increase kilojoule intake considerably, posing a health risk. Fresh fruit is preferred.

“Fresh fruit provides a range of vitamins and minerals and adds fibre to the diet.

Children are much more likely to eat small pieces of fruit or fruit that is cut into pieces,” the DAA explains.

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Dannielle’s mission is to empower girls so they can become “bright, shiny adults”. As well as running workshops, blogging and making media appearances to talk about teen issues, Dannielle has written The Butterfly Effect, a guide to raising teenage girls. Dannielle says her love and empathy for all children is “large and hard to contain”, however her own family holds a special place in her heart.

Tell us about your family I have a daughter Teyah, aged 11, and a son Kye, aged 9. I have been separated for about 18 months. I have a good relationship with my ex-husband, and we share custody of the children. My new partner, Gary, has a 15-year-old daughter Jazmine, who has lived with him full-time since she was around two years old. Gary and Jazmine will be moving in with my children and me in December. We are all very excited and counting the sleeps, particularly Jazmine, who is very close to me and thrilled to have a ‘Mum’ in her life. There are also two dogs, two rabbits and a turtle.

What do you love most about each of your children?

My children are all fine young people. They are not perfect, nor do I expect them to be. And they smell like heaven! There is nothing better than sneaking into your kids’ rooms late at night to inhale them. They are all incredibly funny, as is Gary, and laughter is a huge part of our household. We are all quite ridiculous really, and frankly, it is often a madhouse.

They also all have individual qualities I truly admire. Teyah is such a reliable, sensible girl. She always does her homework without even being asked, she never squabbles with her friends and she takes life’s dramas in her stride. She has met the Prime Minister, been on 60 Minutes with me, and hung with The Wiggles in the green

room at Channel Nine. She never even looks in the least daunted and is always incredibly humble about all she has experienced and achieved.

Kye is a very affectionate little boy and would love nothing better than to hang in my bed every night getting snuggles until he is middle-aged. He is the kind of kid who, rather than spend his canteen money on an ice block, will save it all up and give it to the “poor kids who need it more”. I love his capacity to give.

Jaz is also a very affectionate girl and since the first time I met her, she has truly embraced me as part of her life and shows me how much she appreciates me every day.

She will call me late at night just to tell me how much she enjoys having me in her life.

How wonderful and rare is that? I admire Jaz’s capacity to actively seek and embrace joy.

Why is it important to be a good role model for your children?

Many parents need to look more closely at the example they might be setting for their kids. This is a huge opportunity rather than a huge burden, and we don’t have to pretend we are perfect, nor that we know everything. Rather, we can honestly try to work things out alongside our children and travel the road as partners in some respects.

Our children watch and listen, more than we realise. I make a conscious effort never to lament the ageing process or put my body down, nor do I engage in toxic talk about others. I also stopped drinking alcohol completely about five years ago. I had been a big drinker since my teens, and I stopped and thought about why I was choosing to wipe myself out, and what messages that might send to my children about managing stress and celebrating. In Australia, it seems to be wine with everything.

What’s been your biggest parenting challenge?

Separating from their father 18 months ago. My ex-husband and I had tried very hard to make things work and had sought counselling over the 13 years we were together. But ultimately, despite liking each other, we just could not get it together.

Sitting the children down to tell them was heart-wrenching, but the fact that we

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As parents, we must remember we are not there to be our child’s best friend – they have plenty. We are there to set limits and provide consistency and safety. I don’t tolerate meanness towards each other. All kids will squabble and that is part of growing up, but if they step over the line and say something really nasty to each other, I step in every time. I explain that we all have the power to choose the words we use and they in turn have the power to shape others. Words can, and do, hurt.

were both calm and seemed united helped considerably. Initially the children seemed to cope very well, yet after about six months the novelty of changing homes and having to coordinate where books and clothes were, really got my son down, in particular. I am not sure we have really finished helping our children adjust, although we have certainly learned some lessons.

How did you resolve a recent family conflict?

Creating a blended family with my new partner and his daughter was initially tricky, as my daughter in particular seemed to see Jaz as a possible threat. I bought pet rabbits for the children and this really helped, as it gave them all, despite gender and age differences, something in common they had to work together to care for. Sadly, puppy Lucy chased the girls’ rabbits away, but this tragedy in itself was important for bonding, as the girls really shared their grief and consoled each other. There was much talk of how cruel life can be, and how loving something, or someone, involves risking losing them. I spoke to both girls about whether they really wanted to ‘risk their hearts’ and get new bunnies, as there would be no guarantees things would work out, and they both solemnly declared they did. I think all love is a risk, isn’t it? In hindsight, this was a hugely valuable lesson for them both.

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Dannielle’s favourite things Rainy day activity Videos, rabbit cuddling and reading. Teyah, Kye and I are all complete book worms and we would happily read 24/7.

Fine day activity I’d love to say a picnic or a walk along the beach, but the kids often want to stay indoors and I am dragging them away from computer screens and iPads all day. We do all like the pool.

Holiday destination My children and I did Disneyworld just before I separated from their father. It was an incredible experience for us all and I am truly grateful we had that time together. We still talk about it often.

Food My cooking, which is truly average. My family is the most appreciate crew ever and to hear them rave, you’d think I was the next Masterchef.

Movie Up, Finding Nemo.

Why are teenage girls in crisis and what are some of the challenges facing girls in the 21st century?

The research on teenage girls paints a fairly dark picture in many respects. They are performing academically and on the sporting field, yet behind closed doors girls are in trouble. One in 10 girls self-harm as a response to stress and anxiety, and teen girls are the biggest binge-drinking demographic in the country. About 94% of girls think they are less beautiful than the average girl, and 25% would like to change everything about their bodies. Up to 70% of adolescent girls will be on a diet at any one point in time, and girls as young as seven are being hospitalised for eating disorders. It is easy to feel powerless as a parent to make a difference, yet we are incredibly powerful and able to be powerful alternative voices.

How do you help your daughters with difficult issues?

I help the girls navigate the media and talk back to it. We discuss how images are manipulated through air brushing, lighting and so on, and I help them see past snazzy slogans. I encourage them to understand how advertising strives to manipulate us and creates an emotional response that will make us buy. The diet, fashion and beauty industries can all only exist if they make us feel inadequate. My little boy made us all laugh recently at Darling Harbour, when he stood in front of a billboard of a naked woman covered in chocolate (it was an ad for a hotel, believe it or not) and yelled out, “That is such an example of exploiting women and objectification!”

I also make a point of always recognising the girls as whole beings. If I tell them they are beautiful, for example, I will also add, “and funny, smart, kind” etc. It is okay to be physically attractive and to take pride in our appearance, but we must realise that is not the whole story nor is it really what will make us attractive to others long-term.

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Behind the excitement, your child is sure to be feeling a little trepidation. When they enter high school, not only will they become the ‘little’ kid again, but they are facing a new routine and environment, most likely with more students. There are new friends to make and maybe old friends going on to different high schools or moving away.

For the summer break between schools, why not make the family holiday or day trips part of your child’s transition and take them a step closer to independence?

Ask them to plan the trip, choosing somewhere they really want to visit and aim to do something special there.

The graduation ceremony is a way to mark this milestone, as are the break-up events and swapping keepsakes with friends. It’s a time that will not come again, so how can you make it extra-special for your child and give them a lasting memory they can look back on in years to come?

Christmas is a great opportunity to create a family heirloom to celebrate the momentous occasion that you can bring out each year. Maybe a Christmas plate (your child could design it) or a tree decoration proudly supporting their year of graduation.

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Friends may be moving to different schools or away, so recording memories with them before they go is especially important. A photo collage can be a wonderful way to cement their friendship. Purchase a large canvas then gather you child’s friends together for a ‘play date’. Give them plenty of floor space and toss a stack of magazines and school images between them. Together they can choose images that encapsulate their experience and stick them on the canvas. Make sure they all sign it and you hang it on your child’s bedroom wall together!

The ‘tween’ and teen years are often a time when social awareness grows and this stepping stone might be a good time for your child to count their blessings. Making a graduation gift through an organisation such as World Vision or The Smith Family not only helps a disadvantaged child but draws attention to the greater community your child is entering.

For animal lovers, the adoption program at Australia Zoo gives the opportunity to make a favourite animal part of the family and funds from adoptions go towards breeding and vital rehabilitation programs. Alma Park Zoo also runs an adoption scheme where fees go towards keeping the chosen animal (including veterinary costs, habitat upgrades, food and enrichment programs). If your child prefers an animal in the wild they can adopt a Mary River turtle, a dolphin or whale.

Whatever your and your child’s choice, what is certain is it is a very special moment in their life, and a precious memento or a lasting celebration of their primary years will be treasured as they find their way through high school and into adult life.

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4 Talk together about feelings your child might experience 5 Organise the new uniform well before the first day of school

6 Learn about school routines and timetables 7 Help your child to develop good study habits 8 Rearrange their bedroom if they need more space, a desk and bookcases

9 Practise organisational skills in preparation for more independence

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Christmas Eve snack of chicken paella, dessert rice pudding with berry juice soup and hot drinks with gingerbread cookies. A personal letter from Santa promises them that if they help feed his forest friends of birds and other animals, he will pay them a special visit in the evening.

ARCTIC CIRCLE HUSKYPARK Huskies just love to run, and the sensation of gliding through this winter wonderland behind a team of eager huskies is a highlight for young and old. Children ride sitting with a parent, whilst grown-ups can all take a turn at actually ‘driving’ their own sled on this thrilling 15-minute adventure.

Other highlights include joining Santa’s helpers searching for and decorating Christmas trees, obtaining an ‘International Reindeer Driver’s Licence’ and partaking in a special Lapp ceremony of crossing the Arctic Circle. During the tour children will also meet Santa and receive a present as well as visit the Snowfun site for awesome activities such as mini-snowmobiles, four-wheeled forest scooters, kick sledges, tobogganing, ice fishing, ice golf, snow hockey and more – all washed down with hot drinks served by the campfire throughout the day.

JOULUKKA ADVENTURE FOREST This reindeer sleigh ride is an ideal way to move around the area, and you can hop on and off as needed within the park.

Experience the wonders of snow and ice at Lake Lehtojärvi, Rovaniemi! Arctic SnowHotel offers you an exotic opportunity to spend a night sheltered by snow and surrounded by picturesque and placid Lappish nature.

The SnowHotel (as the name suggests) is made of snow and ice. You can sleep in a warm sleeping bag safe from the cold and dark winter night. Frost will not spoil the enchanting peace and quiet of the rooms because the temperature always stays between 0 and −5ºC, even in extremely cold weather. Live the dream with your family before they grow up, and have a white Christmas in Santa’s hometown.

Kid-friendly activities in SANTA’S hometown SANTA CLAUS VILLAGE There are many souvenir shops, cafés and restaurants here as well as Santa’s Main Post Office where all the mail is sorted. And of course, Santa is there too, in his chamber every day of the year.

CHRISTMAS EXHIBITION – CHRISTMAS HOUSE This exhibition covers today’s Christmas customs as well as centuries-old Finnish and foreign Christmas traditions.

SANTAPARK Santa Claus’s Office is in a mysterious grotto in the depths of the earth. Meet Santa’s little elf helpers at work, study at the Elf School or decorate gingerbread figures with Mrs Claus.

JOULUKKA ELF SCHOOL Warm up with a fun lesson at the Joulukka Elf School, where children can join in a session of learning all about elfin tricks, songs and traditions. They also get to decorate their own tasty gingerbread.

ARCTICE – WINTER WONDERLAND The icy ambience of Arctice’s large igloo literally reaches from the floor to the ceiling. The art gallery is filled with animal figures and story characters that are carved out of ice in stunning detail. The ice bar and café serve kids with raspberry red beverages and adults with icy clear drinks – and the drinking glasses are made out of ice, of course!

100% SLIDE This fierce but safe ride is one of the greatest achievements of the art and science of slide-making. The speedy ride will tickle your toes and tug at the bottom of your belly. Settle into the snowtube – and brace yourself! A large slide has been built for grown-ups, while kids can race down a slightly smaller one.

RANUA WILDLIFE PARK There are about 60 species of arctic and northern wild animals at Ranua Zoo, including the only polar bears in Finland, lynx, wolf, wolverine, moose and many, many more.

SEARCH FOR SANTA The highlight of the day is setting off by snowmobile-sled on your family’s own search for Santa! Tucked away in the woods you will find his little log-cabin home, and meet Santa Claus himself in an exclusive, private family meeting, with his helpers on hand to ensure there is magic in the air.

ARKTIKUM Arktikum is a science centre and a museum. The exhibition of the Arktikum leads you through Arctic and Finnish Lapland’s human and natural history.

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By Chuck Fischer This is a charming pop-up book depicting scenes from various countries at Christmas. There are also pull-outs and booklets to help describe the differences between cultures. There are scenes such as a snowy German village and even a 3-D sleigh to pull-out and erect. Suitable for all ages. RRP: $40.

SOMETIMES LIFE SUCKS

By Molly Carlisle This is a very significant book for teenagers dealing with the pain of loss. It includes practical tips and stories to assist in coming to terms with death and the struggles it brings. This book is written with sensitivity and expertise. Suitable for ages over 13. RRP: $20.

MR BANDICOOT AND OTHER TALES

By Anne Lawson When Anne’s kids were small she used to make up songs for them.

Years later, she has collaborated with illustrators Hugo Moline and Heidi Axelsen, and singer Kate Rowe to create this delightful collection of songs and accompanying CD. The style is charmingly old-fashioned. This would make a lovely Christmas gift for a new parent and is suitable for preschool children. Available at www.ribandicoot. com. RRP $40 which includes postage.

THE ABC BOOK OF GREAT AUSSIE STORIES FOR YOUNG PEOPLE

By Bill ‘Swampy’ Marsh A sometimes far-fetched, but always entertaining collection of yarns from the bush. There are stories about shearers, railways, flying doctors and drovers.

A good experience for those more familiar with cities and the coast than the Australian outback. Suitable for ages over 13. RRP: $15.

THE VEGETABLE ARK THE SONG OF THE WINNS: THE GERANDER TRILOGY. BOOK 1

By Frances Watts This is the first book in a really wellwritten adventure. It follows a group of brave mice who need to overcome prejudice and peril while unravelling a mystery. Along the way they meet all sorts of interesting characters, some more pleasant than others. Suitable for ages 8-12. RRP: $15.

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By Kim Kane This quirky picture book tells the tale of Noah and his very different brother, Neil.

While Noah does very well at everything, Neil is a bit of a loner who doesn’t do so well at school. As they grow, Noah becomes a rather large and wealthy show-off and Neil becomes a peaceful hippie with a vegetable garden. When the rain comes, the story unfolds and they both have their own means of survival. Suitable for ages 4-6 with very interesting illustrations. RRP: $30.

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Open Monday-Friday 9.30-3.00pm 186 Wises Road, North Buderim

5443 1582

Creche Available (Bookings required)

Natasha 0449 69 7161 www.stylemarshall.com.au

Suite 1B, Ground Floor, The Edge East, 10 Lake Kawana Blvd, Birtinya, QLD 4575 Phone 07 5438 8387 www.yinhealth.com.au

Kids’ Haircuts Child Care Centres

Massage

Gift Services

We come to you Gold Coast to Hervey Bay. Lay-by terms available

3D impressions of loved ones great or small, young or old.

www.scgs.qld.edu.au/newleaf

Ph: (0407) 196 231 or (07) 5443 1352 www.fmni.com.au

Chiropractors • Care for Pregnancy, Babies & Children • Allergy/Nutritional Testing • Family Rates Available • 13 Years on the Coast!

Dr Gray Moritz Dr Monique Damon

5444 0711

Suite 8, 126-130 Golf Links Road Mountain Creek Medical Centre

Contact Suzel to make an appointment

Includes FREE professional photographic session and FREE photo for frame

Ph: 5439 7000 www.impressionablekids.com.au

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