Murray Life Magazine Homecoming 2011

L

What’s Inside

Call Me Jerry Robert Valentine

22

Publisher Robert Valentine

‘Til Daddy Comes Marching Home Ben Morrow

VOLUME 17 - NUMBER 4 - HOMECOMING 2011 P r i n t ed i n t h e U S A www.mymurraylife.com

28

Managing Editor Logan Abbitt Art Director Justin B. Kimbro, K-Squared Designs, LLC

Stone Soup 10

Logan Abbitt

Assistant Art Director Amanda G. Newman Assistant Artists Kyle Smith | Libby Files

Editorial . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Robert A. Valentine Notes N’ Neighbors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Murray Life Staff Rodney to the Rescue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Kathy Hodge Ask the Doctor . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Jamie Lober Count On It . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Murray Life Staff The Same Old Trails. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16 Daniel Van Thomas Laughing Matter. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20 Murray Life Staff All Bones Be White . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37 Leigh Landini Wright Leave It To Beaver . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 Aviva Yasgur Dining Guide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 From Fast to Fabulous Money Pages . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 Ron Arant Scrapbooking 101 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48 Bonnie Raspberry Calendar of Events. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50 What’s Happening & Where In Our Next Issue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54 What’s Happening Next Last Words . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56 Robert Valentine

Sales & Marketing Andrew Dundee | VJ Stevens Editorial Staff Logan Abbitt | Kim Cottingham Internet Consultant Justin B. Kimbro, K-Squared Designs, LLC Staff Photography Wm. Gross Magee | Justin B. Kimbro Contributing Writers Ron Arant | Leigh Wright Michael Cohen | Ben Morrow | Logan Abbitt Bonnie Raspberry | Aviva Yasgur | Kim Cottingham Daniel Van Thomas | Kathy Hodge | Jamie Lober Printing Image Graphics, Paducah, Kentucky

Murray Life is published five times annually for the Murray area. All contents copyright 2011 by Murray Life Productions. Reproduction or use of the contents without written permission is prohibited. Comments written in this magazine are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the opinion of the ownership or management of Murray Life.

Subscription rate is $15.00 per year, two years $25.00. Subscription inquiries and all remittances should be made to Murray Life: 105 N. 6th Street, Murray, KY 42071.

Subscriptions may also be made through the Web site, www.murraylifemagazine.com. All advertising inquiries should be directed to the Managing Editor at: Murray Life, or by calling 270-753-5225.

E-mail us at: murraylife@aol.com This magazine accepts no responsibility for unsolicited manuscripts, photography or artwork. All submissions may be edited for length, clarity and style.

2

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

4

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

!

Editorial

Family “A family is a unit composed not only of children but of men, women, an occasional animal, and the common cold.” – Ogden Nash e are approaching a series of family-centered holidays in our part of the country. Of course, that assumes and there are some non-family-centered holidays somewhere, and, at the moment, we cannot imagine one. Nevertheless, the kids will bring us through Halloween, Mom and Grandma (and, occasionally, Dad and Uncle Carl) will fill the Thanksgiving table, and you know what comes after that.

W

However, most of us will celebrate “family” with rakes in hand, or when Junior helps bring in the first load of wood for the fire. Sissy will cheer at her first homecoming game, and Mom will supervise the mothballing of summer clothes and the depressing survey that proves last winter’s wardrobe is no longer suitable. Family is constant, and it’s not always composed of people who are related to you by blood. Blood may be thicker than water, but so are work, neighborliness, fond memory and a common purpose.

That’s why we are pleased to offer you some observations of family in its many forms as you prepare to celebrate your own little unit of men, women, animals, friends, and germs, as Mr. Nash observes.

We start with a look at a new family in Murray. Jerry and Jamie Penner are settling in with their two boys as Jerome E. Penner III (“Call me Jerry”) takes over the reins at Murray-Calloway County Hospital. Jerry believes in family in a big way, as you’ll learn in this issue. And don’t think of them as newcomers to town; the Penners are just coming home.

Then, Ben Morrow will introduce you to a family who, as so many have lately, experienced the separation of military service. Everyone serves in such an instance, and everyone in the family gets the chance to be a hero.

Daniel Van Thomas returns to Murray to tell us about a family formed – not by marriage – but by dreams and hard work as they create a feature film right here in west Kentucky where they met.

Leigh Wright turns her pen to the story of Judy Shearer’s search for justice and closure for families broken and separated long ago. Aviva Yasgur has extended her family with new husband John, and brings her skills as an LBL Naturalist to the story of the family-centered beaver clan.

Bonnie Raspberry will show you how to save family memories and Ron Arant will suggest how to protect its future. Kathy Hodge joins us again to tell the story of an adopted puppy who saved a life in his new family.

There’s much more, of course. It’s our hope that our little family of writers, editors, designers, photographers and “graphic geniuses” (as Uncle David prefers to be called) will share something that’s fun, useful or thought-provoking.

So pull up closer to the fire, scratch the dog behind the ear, and turn the page. Welcome home.

v

Robert A. Valentine, Publisher

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

5

Notes ‘n Neighbors

2

Oops! Thanks, Brad

I

n our last issue (Vol. 18, No. 3, “Back to School”) we featured the Evans home in Murray called “Lyonsgate.” The article was made all the more enjoyable by photographs of the home and designer Kenn Grey’s work.

Through an editing error, photo credits for Paducah’s Brad Rankin were not included, and we thought you should know who was responsible for those terrific shots.

If you would like to see more of Brad’s photography, we suggest you visit his website at www.bradrankin.com. Be prepared for an eye-popping experience. v

Cantaloupes, Mushmelons and Moonshine ou learn a great deal when you write for a magazine. In our “Back to School” issue, Logan Abbitt wrote about that delightful seasonal treat: melons. As we go to press the local melon season is fading into memory, but not before we clarify for the ardent local farmers who love the “fruit of the rind.”

Y

Not long after the magazine hit the streets, Neta Smotherman called to tell us that mushmelons and cantaloupes are not the same thing. “Mushmelons are larger and sweeter,” and the two should not be planted close together to prevent crosspollination.

She’s right.

Just to clarify: MUSKmelon is a whole family of fruit. As Logan wrote of the cantaloupe, “Actually called a muskmelon, the family of fruit with orange flesh and khaki netted colored skin . . .” You’ll find Santa Claus melons, Crenshaw, Casabas and Persians among the many varieties available. And you will also find MUSHmelons, but not in many dictionaries where “mushmelon” is usually identified as an older folk term for “muskmelon.”

We talked with Tom Wilcox, known to many Murray residents who visit Kroger ’s as the friendly, information-filled and ready-to-chat gentleman in the produce department. Tom tells us that Mushmelons are much sweeter, with a color tending more to light green than the tan-orange of the cantaloupe. Mushmelons are also ribbed (think of a pumpkin’s outer skin) and not heavily netted like the cantaloupe. Tom says there is a much shorter 6

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

window of opportunity to enjoy the sweeter mushmelon because of the higher sugar content.

They ripen faster and start to decay so fast that, if you’re slow, you will cut into a melon full of . . . mush.

Kroger produce specialist Alex Sherman also tells us that mushmelons were favored “in the olden days” as fodder for the moonshine still. Their natural sweetness eliminated the need for expensive cane sugar, so into the vat they went, regardless of whether they were at the peak of ripeness or not.

Perhaps that is why folks from Wisconsin or professors who write dictionaries may not be as familiar with the truth behind the mushmelon – sill alive and as sweet as ever.

Our thanks to Neta, Tom and Alex for expanding on the subject of melons. Now, if someone could only explain to us how to pick one that’s perfectly ripe! v

2

Notes ‘n Neighbors

Heartfelt Thank You recently had the unfortunate experience of being hospitalized for three weeks with a merciless mystery illness. I was forced to neglect my magazine duties for a time. I'm still in the recovery phase, but I'm at home now and back at work.

I

very moved by their compassion and their affability.

Many different nurses and aides worked to make me as comfortable as possible. I have been in hospitals where this wasn't the policy, so I was incredibly impressed by the care I received. I never felt ignored or disrespected.

For fear of committing the sin of omission, I won't try to list names, but you know who you are. I thank all of you from the very bottom of my heart. v

At this time, I want to extend my gratitude to the staff of the Murray CallowayCounty Hospital that took such excellent care of me over my extended stay. I was

–Logan Abbitt, Editor

Grumpy Old Ambassadors his September, Murray played host to the Kentucky Senior Games. Erin Carrico of the Convention and Visitor's Bureau and her legion of volunteers brought off the whole thing with class and calm (although an event of that

T

size is always fraught with the unexpected and the unnerving).

One of the highlights of the Games gave Murray a chance to show off one of its most delightful resources.

At the Dessert and Dance, held at the Miller Conference Center, the music was provided by the affable four-man combo, Grumpy Old Men. With a song list running into the hundreds of titles and a group of skilled musicians capable of faking "anything but the invasion of Europe," they were a hit.

Showing their not-so-grumpy side they are (from the left): Donny Howard on keyboards, Scott Theile on bass, Dean Hughes on percussion, and Roger Reichmuth on reeds and vocals. Always in great demand, you might want to move quickly if you need music for a holiday bash. You can contact their agent Swifty Lazar, at 270293-8742 (but don't be surprised if Roger answers). The website forthe Agitated Ancients is www.grumpyjazz.com. Anda-one-and-a-two . . . . v

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

7

Pet Paws

Rodney to the Rescue By: Kathy Hodge hen Linda Harlan attended “Fashion 4 Paws” in February of 2011, it was to assist with the annual fundraiser for the Humane Society of Calloway County – it was not to fall in love with a puppy. But when she saw Rodney for the first time, she did just that.

W

Rodney (who was called Ronnie then) attended the event with his Humane Society foster mom.

Throughout the day he cuddled with attendees and made lots of fans, and then he met his new mom.

There was absolutely no question he would be joining their family forever.

“It was Rodney’s eyes that won me over,” explained Linda Harlan. “And he was so docile! Then my daughter, who was with me that day, suggested that a small house dog might be a comfort to my 91-year-old mother who lives with us.”

Linda’s mom, Mrs. Brown, has Alzheimer’s disease. She must have supervision at all times and isn’t able to enjoy a lot of activities other than working puzzles and playing basic card games. At first the Harlans were concerned a puppy would be too much for Mrs. Brown. They were worried he’d trip her or become too rough as he grew through his puppy stage, but Rodney turned out to be the perfect addition to their family. From the first day, he treated Mrs. Brown with love and respect and she, in turn, enjoys his company.

Like most families with indoor dogs, the Harlans crate trained Rodney. Linda recalls: “From the first day we brought him home, Rodney slept in a crate in

8

Murray Life Magazine |

h o m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

our bedroom. Even when he was little, he slept straight through the night and never made a sound until he was ready for his morning trip outdoors.”

But on July 25, 2011, around four o’clock in the morning, Rodney barked the most unusual bark – one the Harlans had never heard before. “It woke me up,” Linda said, “and, thinking he just heard a noise outside, I told him to ‘hush’ and went back to sleep. But Rodney continued to growl, although a bit softer than his first loud bark. Finally my husband (Joe) got out of bed and opened the crate.”

Instead of going out the front door to take care of business that night, Rodney passed the front door, ran straight through the living room and down the hallway to Mrs. Brown’s bathroom. He waited at the door until Joe could catch up. That’s when Joe heard Mrs. Brown calling. She had fallen. “Rodney had heard Mom fall or had heard her calling for me, when we had not heard a thing. We credit him for potentially saving her life that night,” Linda says.

Mrs. Brown had awakened in the night, made her way to her bathroom, lost her balance and fallen backwards into her bath-

Pet Paws

“From the first day we brought him home, Rodney slept in a crate in our bedroom. Even when he was little, he slept straight through the night and never made a sound until...” tub. Miraculously, she had only three cuts on her elbow. A doctor ’s visit the next day confirmed there were no other injuries.

After putting Mrs. Brown back to bed that night, they spent some time with Rodney, giving him lots of love.

“Without his warning, Mom could have suffered much more blood loss or had other problems from having lain in the tub in an awkward position for several hours. At her age, she could have even died.”

Because of Mrs. Brown’s disease, she remembers nothing of her fall, but the Harlans say Rodney certainly paid his own adoption fee that night. “It gives us such peace of mind that we can count on him in the future.

He is definitely our hero.” v To find your next furry family member, to make pet food or monetary donations or to ask questions regarding animal issues, contact the Humane Society of Calloway County, a United Way agency, at 270-759-1884 or humanesociety@murray-ky.net.Visit our website atwww.forthepets.org or stop by the office at 607 Poplar Street.

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

9

Food

Stone Soup By: Logan Abbitt ccording to legend, once in the middle ages there were two soldiers returning from war.

"How I would like a good dinner tonight," said the first. "And a soft bed to sleep in," added the second. The two men continued walking in silence when they noticed the lights of a village ahead of them.

A

When they arrived in the little village, they began to inquire about food and lodging. "We have no food for ourselves! In fact, there's not a bite to eat in the whole village," the peasants lied. "You’d better keep on moving."

The first soldier declared, "Good people! We’ve asked you for food and you have none. I suppose we will have to make stone soup." The peasants just stared. The soldier added mysteriously, "Our king gave me a very special gift when I saved his life in battle." He then asked for a big cauldron and water to fill it. When the villagers brought the cauldron, the two soldiers placed it in the middle of the square and built a huge fire underneath. Then the first soldier took out an ornate bag from a secret pocket of his cape, removed three very ordinary-looking stones from the bag, and with great ceremony dropped them into the water. A crowd started gathering in the square to see what all the commotion was about.

"A good soup needs salt and pepper," the first soldier said, so one of the peasants sent his children to fetch some salt and pepper.

As the soldiers sniffed the soup and licked their lips in anticipation, hunger began to overcome the skepticism of the villagers. "Oh!" the soldier said to himself rather loudly, "I do love stone soup. Of course, stone soup with carrots, that's hard to beat."

Hearing this, one of villagers sent his son home to fetch 10

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

some carrots hidden in the cellar. Soon the son returned and they ceremoniously added the carrots to the pot.

"Magnificent!" exclaimed the soldier. "You know, I once had stone soup with carrots and some salt beef as well, and it was fit for the king!" The village butcher managed to find some salt beef. And so it went, until soon there were onions, potatoes, barley, cabbage, and milk added to the cauldron.

"It’s soup," yelled the cooks, "but first we must prepare the square for a feast." Tables, chairs, torches, and banners were arranged in the square, and the soldiers and villagers sat down together to eat. One of the villagers said, "A great soup would be better with bread and cider," so he brought out these last two items. The village peasants had never before tasted anything so good that was made of stones, and soon they began singing, dancing, and making merry well into the night.

The next morning the villagers gathered to say goodbye to the soldiers and offered them a great sum of money for the "magic" stones. The soldiers said the stones were not for sale, politely refused the offer, and then traveled on.

This popular folk tale is very old and has a variation in nearly every culture. The fable is also known as button soup, nail soup, and even axe soup. There are several children’s books based upon the tale, with Marcia Brown’s version from 1947 (still available on Amazon.com and other booksellers) being considered the essential classic. There are also stage plays, TV adaptations, and rock songs. Poet Shel Silverstein wrote the lyrics for "The Wonderful Soup Stone" which was recorded by Bobby Bare and by Dr. Hook in the 1970s.

When we look at the tale from a culinary perspective, we have to wonder what exactly was in that famous

Food

recipe? There are many, many versions of the recipe for stone soup. It is easy to get overwhelmed by all of the choices out there. How do you choose the right one?

The thing to remember is that stone soup isn’t about the food; it’s about the experience of creating it. This is one recipe that is meant to include as many chefs as possible.

Stone soup is often created in classrooms as a lesson after reading the story. Bring the entire family in to add their contribution to the big pot. You could even have a stone soup dinner party with all of the guests coming to contribute their own ingredients. "Hobo stew" is another variant on the idea created by campers where everyone in the campground brings something to the central fire for the bubbling cauldron.

Still, sometimes you just want a written recipe to guide you along. This is a very nice variation.

• • • • • • • • • • • • • •

1 stone, big enough that it won't get lost in the soup (quartz is a good choice because it won't break down in cooking) 1 tbsp. butter or vegetable oil 1 medium onion, chopped 2 celery stalks, trimmed and chopped fine 1 large carrot, cut into coins 3 medium red-skinned potatoes (unpeeled, and cut into halves) 1/2 sweet red pepper, chopped 1 large garlic clove, pressed 6 cups chicken broth (or a combination of broth and water) 1 medium zucchini, diced large 1 medium yellow squash, diced large 1/2 cup corn kernels, fresh or frozen Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste Grated Parmesan cheese Croutons

INSTRUCTIONS •

•

•

Heat some water in a pot.

Add some stones you've scrubbed a lot.

Sprinkle pepper, salt and herbs.

Let it boil undisturbed.

Drop in carrots, onions, too.

Let the soup heat through and through.

Stir in milk to make it sweet.

Add potatoes for a treat.

Toss in meat cubes. Let it stew.

Let it bubble, let it brew.

Taste the soup and when it's done, Share Stone Soup with everyone!

..........................................

INGREDIENTS •

Recipe in Rhyme

The first step is to scrub and wash the stone thoroughly. Then, for an extra cleaning, drop it in a pot of water to boil while you prepare the rest of the soup.

In another large pot, melt the butter or heat the oil, then sauté the onion on medium-high for 2 to 4 minutes. Stir in the celery, carrot, potatoes and red pepper, sautéing for 6 to 8 minutes. Add the garlic and sauté for about 30 seconds. Then add in the broth.

Using a spoon, fish the stone out of the other pot,

Oft Overlooked Ingredients Part of the fun of stone soup is adding things to your pot that you normally would keep out.

Here are a few that you may want to try if you’re feeling adventurous.

•Water chestnuts •Cranberries •Walnuts •Baby corn •Apricots

•Brussel sprouts •Tortellini •Pickle slices •Rutabagas •Okra

add it to the soup and bring to a boil. Add the zucchini, squash, and corn, cooking another 8 minutes or until the zucchini is the desired softness. Season to taste with the salt and pepper.

• Before serving, sprinkle on the cheese and croutons, then ladle—minus the stone—into individual bowls. Serves 6 to 8.

The phrase "stone soup" has come to mean many things today. It alludes to trickery, cooperation, something from nothing, a hodgepodge creation, and ancient folk tales. There’s a popular comic strip called Stone Soup by Jan Eliot that’s about a modern family.

We encourage you to create a new tradition for your family and friends. The experience adds a wonderful flavor that goes beyond the sum of the ingredients. v

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

11

i

Ask the Doctor

Immunizations By: Jamie Lober

hen it comes to childhood illnesses and other chronic diseases, science has made some strides – but it will never be enough.

“The complications from illnesses like meningitis and chicken pox are getting more in depth and severe so with immunizations, we are trying to put an end to those childhood illnesses,” said Vicki Williams, Calloway County school health coordinator and nurse. If you feel uncertain about vaccines, be sure to get all of your facts from a healthcare professional that you can trust. You should not make decisions based on stories from friends or things you see or hear on the television or internet.

W

Our state is doing an excellent job at promoting healthy kids. “As a child enters sixth grade this year, for the first year, there is a new law that they are required to have a second chicken pox vaccination and a meningococcal vaccination,” said Williams. Part of the rationale for the second chicken pox vaccination is that it seems that it has an ability to wear off after awhile and kids may catch it a second time. Their susceptibility increases as the immunization wears off which has led to giving more shots.

The meningococcal vaccine covers meningitis.

“Meningitis has increased through the years and is common in teens and early twenties,” said Williams. A lot of colleges have made it mandatory. “It takes time for the body to start building immunity toward it so they are trying to make it mandatory for middle school entry,” said Williams.

School nurses care. “Many of these diseases are here but would be more prevalent if we were not strict on our immunization policies,” said Williams. Most parents comply but there are two ways you can get out of it. “You can get a medical exemption if a child happens to be on chemotherapy, has shown a severe allergy to a specific vaccination

or the physician can write the medical exemption,” said Williams. You cannot personally excuse your child. “The other way to get out is a religious exemption meaning that it is against the religious belief of your family,” said Williams. That is rare. “Most every child has their immunizations up to date,” said Williams.

If you have a school-aged child, you should find out what the requirements are for each grade. “We tend to watch closely because we do not want an epidemic happening,” said Williams. Most parents are doing a good job because

“...we are trying to put an end to those childhood illnessess.” they realize that most childhood vaccines are 9099% effective at preventing disease. The consequences of failing to get immunizations are serious. “There has been a nationwide increase in whooping cough or pertusis,” said Williams. The side effects of the shots are minimal.

“Pertusis, diphtheria and tetanus is mixed and a lot of times they have caused fever but recently, they have fixed the pertusis to make it acellular pertusis so it does not cause severe side effects,” said Williams. Sometimes with the measles, mumps and rubella, approximately seven to fourteen days after, you can break out in a light rash with a low grade fever.

There are some myths surrounding immunizations. “A lot of people blame autism on certain immunizations but there is no proof to this point,” said Williams. It would be far more dangerous to opt not to give immunizations.

Kids recover quickly. “Sometimes they are a little sore and the tetanus shot comes to mind as the one that makes your arm the sorest,” said Williams. Shots have changed over the years to be considerate of the kids’ feelings. “A lot of kids do not like shots so they are combining a lot of them now,” said Williams.

Sometimes rumors go around about the safety of vaccinations. The truth is that all vaccines must be tested by the FDA and they will not let the vaccine be given unless it has proven to be safe and work well. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention also checks vaccine safety by studying information

12

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

i about side effects collected from eight large insurance companies in addition to other reviews that are done by other medical bodies. Since disease can be brought to the United States by people who travel abroad or people from visiting areas with current disease outbreaks, it is important that children are vaccinated.

Ask the Doctor

The information included here is for educational purposes only. It is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. The reader should always consult his or her healthcare provider to determine the appropriateness of the information for their own situation or if they have any questions regarding a medical condition or treatment plan.

Most kids just want to know if it will hurt. “Since it is a needle, it will hurt a little bit but usually kids say ‘oh, you are already finished’ and do not realize it is done even after it is over,” said Williams. It seems to be more of the anticipation of the shot than the shot itself. There are things you can do to make the shot easier. “Sometimes we recommend Tylenol after a tetanus booster because it tends to make their arm sore, give a low grade fever and make you ache but usually there are no side effects and we do not restrict their activity at all,” said Williams.

Immunizations do not end after childhood. “They recommend adults get the tetanus shot every ten years which is new,” said Williams. If you step on a dirty nail or get cut, it is recommended to get the tetanus shot if you have not had it in five years rather than waiting the ten.

Last but not least, you should get the flu shot. “Each year the flu shot changes,” said Williams. This is based on what is going around that year. It cannot be underscored enough that vaccines are one of the greatest medical advances of all time. If you decide against getting vaccinated, you put yourself at risk. Getting vaccinated is much better than gettingthe disease. v Jamie Lober is a nationally known speaker and writer with a passion for providing information on health topics A-Z. She is president of Talk Health with Jamie and can be reached at talkhealthwithjamie@gmail.com.

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

13

This is hard level puzzle #17...Good Luck!

Instructions: Place the numbers 1 through 9 in each blank field.

Each column (down), row (across) and 3x3 region must contain each of the numerals only one time.

Again, good luck!

Where is the Solution?

Not sure of your answers?

Visit our Web site to check your solution.

Go to www.murraylifemagazine.com and click the “Puzzle Solution” symbol.

We’ll see you next issue with another great puzzle!

14

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

Count On It

Family Facts Compiled by: Murray Life Staff

3.5: 1.86:

7:

$168 million:

59:

7.8 Years: 9:

83 Years:

55:

69:

86 Years:

28:

*in the U.S. w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

15

Community

v

The Same Old Trails By: Daniel Van Thomas

They met when there were both students at Murray State. John Gibson worked at Murray Electric in their cable TV office and Daniel Trump (as we was then known) was a soughtafter acting student at Murray State’s Theatre department. Although John called upon Daniel whenever he had a video project that wanted a good actor, any talk of “doing a film” together in later years would have been just youthful dreaming. Now, however, the film is being made using locations and people in west Kentucky. It’s a “western,” of sorts, but the story is from the horror film genre featuring the “undead,” or as you may know the popular fright device, “zombies.” Much of it is already “in the can” and the rest will be filmed in the next few months. We asked Daniel Van Thomas to reflect on this unlikely adventure and to reflect on how it got this far during a down economy, using volunteers and friends. here is a certain sort of unspoken dedication, a kind of sticktogetherness, in the southern and midwestern regions of this country.

Maybe it's in the air, maybe it's a product of upbringing, maybe it's an imagined thing that only those biased people from the region claim to experience. Regardless, it sometimes takes a big collective undertaking to bring these little human interactions into focus; that is what filming a western has done for us, a few kids from Kentucky and our new family of gypsies from all over the country.

T

When we were students at Murray State University, John Gibson – now a film professor at Northern

Kentucky University – and myself – now a selfemployed charlatan in Los Angeles – made movies together. Lots of kids did this, and lots of kids talked.

We talked about the “real” movies we'd make someday, never taking time to define “real.” We made more movies, we grew older, we migrated to realms of bigger talk (academia and California). There was a spark, a simple idea to blend the horror and western genres, shared by John and his friend Blake Armstrong of Metropolis, Illinois. This was five years ago. John spun a story around it over the next year or two. I had been his actor before, so – though I was employed on a fishing boat in Alaska some 4,000 miles away – I was to be his actor this time, playing a frontier preacher in the 1880s who struggles with his faith as much as he struggles with a mysterious outbreak of the undead. It was called something else back then, but now it's a feature film in the making and it's called Revelation Trail.

That was the first time we'd reach back to move forward.

John could've had his pick of someone more available, but he went with the person he knew; he made past into present reality. Forward to today, we've shot the bulk of a western in much the same fashion. We've built an

16

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

v

Community

“We are making the film this way not because we're revolutionaries. We're making it this way because this is the only way we know how.” accidental family. Local actors like Donald Fleming came out to lie in ponds and play villains, past and present Murray State students like Collin Buckingham, A.J. Casey, Aaron Carpenter, Matt Markgraf, Asia Burnett and Andrew Wiggins showed up to hold boom mics, run cables and get doused in gallons of corn syrup “blood.” John collected new friends: talented cameramen, makeup artists, sound technicians and others from Northern Kentucky and Cincinnati. Others from as far away as North Carolina and California took our hands, all folks who had one thing in common: in some fashion, they had chipped in to this foolhardy dream before it was a real thing. When the thing became real, we asked them to be there. I reached back to Bob Valentine who, at Murray State, had given me one my first chances as an actor some seven years ago. Now he's joining us to play Samuel Beard, a tyrannical villain of sorts.

We set out to make a film just as good as any multi-million-dollar blockbuster you'd see for about the price you'd pay for a new car. We reached back to what movies were before they became toy commercials requiring 3-D glasses to watch. We dug up that original impulse – the desire to tell a story – and made that impulse possible by relying on the people who had been there for us. Still others appeared, from Berry, Hopkinsville and Fort Campbell, Kentucky and from southern Illinois. We were offered more than we can count; land, food, props, horses, labor, dedication, a place to rest. We traveled over 2,000 miles this summer to contend with 100-degree heat, family losses, 19-hour days and just as many things broken as there were things overcome. When Fort Massac, an integral location in our film, suffered structural damage early this year, people from around the world – some friends and some strangers -- opened their wallets to give us the funds we needed to build our own fort. As I write, construction is ongoing in Draffenville. w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

On location at Copper Canyon Ranch near Hopkinsville

Murray State grads Aaron Carpenter, Asia Burnett and Matthew Markgraf as undead gouls kill time between takes in Hopkinsville

Murray actor and director Donald Fleming as Jacob Bannon

Shooting a scene at the Mullins Log Cabin in Berry, Kentucky

| Murray Life Magazine

17

Community

v salaries. We haven't exported our ideas to Hollywood. We came home to the places where we got ideas in the first place and we found a new home in a crew that will be around for the long haul. The end, though unclear, is getting less blurry as one constant remains: this story couldn't have been told anyplace else.

We are making the film this way not because we're revolutionaries. We're making it this way because this is the only way we know how. Somewhere in us, we know the world doesn't need $250 million movies, but people still want stories. We haven't hired our story out to some other crew with bigger names and higher

If you want to follow the progress of the film, the best plan is to visit Facebook.com/RevelationTrail. There you can find information bout extras casting for the planned winter shoot in west Kentucky and “there's still plenty of time for people to get involved.” There is also information at RevelationTrail.com are Twitter fans can see them listed @revelationtrail. The company is still collecting badly-needed donations from fans and friends, so if you’ve never “backed a movie” before, you may visit them on the donation site, Kickstarter.com under "Revelation Trail." Like the monsters in the film, Revelations Trail is still alive and kickin’. v

Image GFX to drop in their ad

18

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

19

A Laughing Matter

U Fun with the Family Compiled by: Murray Life Staff

From Thanksgiving through Christmas, people come together in families. Most of the memories are good ones, and many of those are funny. Here are something thoughts and tales of the family. ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° A mother was slaving over the kitchen sink one morning when her daughter climbed up onto the stool beside her and said, “Mama, do you know that you have some grey hairs on the side of your head?”

The mother was a bit sensitive about her age, and she said, “Yes, and do you know where those grey hairs come from? Every time you do something naughty it distresses me and it causes a grey hair to grow.”

The little girl thought about that for a minute, and then said, “Is that why Grandma’s hair is all grey?” ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does.

That's his. – Oscar Wilde ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° Roger came running into the house with his mouth full of sand, crying and frightened. As mother washed the boy’s mouth and tried to soothe his nerves, the father sternly walked into the back yard and approached the sandbox where Rex was happily building a sand castle.

“Did you put sand in your brother’s mouth?” asked the dad.

“Yes, Sir,” said Rex. “Why did you do such a thing?” father queried.

The boy said, “It was open.” ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° Insanity is hereditary; you can get it from your children. – Anonymous ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° Home is the place where, when you go there, they have to take you in. – Robert Frost ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° ° A Dad in Murray called his son in New York and said, “I thought I’d tell you before you heard it somewhere else: your mother and I are divorcing. We’re both fed up with it. This weekend will be our last one in this house.” He hung up. The son called his sister and his two brothers, one in Los Angeles, and the others in Chicago. They were all distressed and agreed to head home immediately to talk the folks out of it.

The eldest son called his dad to let him know. Dad said, simply, “OK, if that’s what you want.”

When he hung up, the dad told his wife, “Good news, dear. The kids are coming for Thanksgiving and they’re paying their own way!”

20

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

Call Me

Jerry

Jerry Penner has come home.

That may seem to be an odd way to describe someone who just starting working in Murray last April, but a few minutes’ conversation with the new CEO of the Murray-Calloway County Hospital will confirm it. The Murray State grad started his distinguished military career on campus, met his wife, Jamie, at MSU, and is entranced by the lure of the LBL and local outdoor recreation opportunities. Perhaps that’s why he told us, “When we drove into Murray for our first interview, it felt like home.”

22

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

The trip from the Murray of the 1980s to today’s modern health care facility in a rapidly-growing city was a 29-year odysseyå filled with learning. Penner’s vigor and ready smile make you doubt the official claim that he’s in his 50s. We sat down for a short interview with the man who heads the second-largest employer in Murray; we stayed for nearly two hours. When you sit down with Jerry Penner, you’re going to hear a story or two. Now, it’s your turn.

The son of a career military man, Jerry was born in Germany but grew up in Radcliff, Kentucky, where his parents retired after a last duty posting at Fort Knox.

In high school, Jerry took an after-school job with Hardin Memorial Hospital in nearby Elizabethtown.

“I did everything they asked, and saw everything I could,” he recalls. The interest in medicine probably grew from that seed.

A few years later, as a biology student at Murray State University, he was a member of the Army’s Reserve Officer Training Corps (ROTC) and a Resident Advisor and Dorm Director at MSU’s Richmond Hall. He joined the Pi Kappa Alpha fraternity where he met Murray’s Dr. Hal Houston, MSU’s Dr. Bob McGaughey and fellow Pike Tab Brockman.

He also met a young lady from Gideon, Missouri, who was studying for a career in education. Jamie Cay Shelton must have been impressed with the goodlooking athletic Jerry, but she could not possibly have known about the adventure that was to follow.

In 1988, Jerry took his first active duty assignment at Fort Campbell; the he was off on assignment. “We had been married for 10 days when I had to leave for 8 weeks of training.”

What began then was a journey of 24 years from posting to posting; from Carlisle Barracks, Pennsylvania to Joint Base Lewis McChord in Washington; from as far north as Fort Drum in New York, to Fort Huachuca in Arizona. He received his Masters of Healthcare Administration from the Army-Baylor program in Texas, and the masters in Strategic Studies from the U.S Army War College. At the end of it all, having risen to the rank of “full bird” Colonel, and commanding the second largest medical center in the Army, he was obviously on track for a general’s star and a very high command position with the Army Medical Department.

But the other stars, moons and planets lined up in a different direction.

“That’s the way is seemed,” he says with a smile. He was being posted to Fort Campbell, which took him back both geographically and in memory. Perhaps it was a sign. He noticed in a professional newsletter that Keith Bailey, then CEO of Murray-Calloway County Hospital, was retiring on the same day as Jerry’s birthday. Another sign. After refection, he “cleared it with Jamie,” and began preparing his résumé and making inquiries.

Many people may claim to “ believe in the concept of “team,”

Jerry Penner actually talks but

the walk,

perhaps without even realizing it.

”

The mail was quiet for three or four months, and Jerry thought the idea may have met an end. Coincidentally, his son, Jason, came to him with a spontaneous idea: he had decided to attend Murray State University.

Murray lay at the center of the Penner-Shelton family distribution. “It was a sign,” says Jerry, with a smile.

Another planet had clicked into place.

Then came the call that he was still being considered for the Murray position, but there were questions about whether an Army administrator could work with a civilian staff. “Most of the physicians and the vast majority of staff where I worked were civilian,” he recalls. “The big difference between the military hospital and Murray is the budgeting process.”

Then he made the final ten, then final three, and the final interviews. “We interviewed with the Board, of course,” he recalls, “and with the employees, then medical staff, and the community. I think the Board’s process – including all the hospital stakeholders – was outstanding.”

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

23

He called his old friend Tab Brockman who had just taken a new post himself as director of Parks. Tab was enthusiastically supportive of the possibilities.

“The fact that Jerry was at least willing to look outside the military at a career option was astounding in itself, given the success he enjoyed,” Brockman remembers.

It is our (Murray’s) good fortune that we were looking for new leadership at MCCH at the same time.” Tab remembered the cordial, goal-oriented, easy-going Penner of college years. “Jerry’s unique background and experience seemed to fit perfectly for our hospital’s needs – at least from an outsider’s perspective.”

Of course, Murray had changed from the much smaller community of the 1980s. “What brought us back was the warm feeling we got when we first drove into town,” Jerry recalls. “From the realtors, like Bill Kopperud and his people, to the hospital employees and the whole community, it just felt right. It felt like coming home.”

Now, of course, the work begins. The first thing that strikes you about Jerry Penner on the job is the absence of the usual signs of authority. Confidence exudes from his every pore, of course, and he is friendly, relaxed and cordial. However, the normal trappings

24

Murray Life Magaziane |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

of a man who turned down a shot at a general’s star to run a civilian hospital much smaller than many of the institutions he had already commanded are missing.

His office is spare and his dress, while appropriate, is not designed to make up for any deficiencies of the man inside the suit. “Call me Jerry,” he says when you meet him. It is an invitation to cordiality that extends to everyone, from the latest hire at MCCH to the highest authority he might encounter.

“ It felt like coming home.”

Make no mistake: he’s not trying to “fit in” or “be your buddy.” He simply has a belief in the concept of “team” and the need for everyone on that team to understand and trust one another. It’s not a slogan; it’s not a public relations device: it’s a way of life for Jerry Penner.

One of the things you notice is his use of pronouns.

Commanders and CEOs often pepper conversations with “I” statements, but Penner only uses the first-person singular to describe how he feels: “I had to tell Jamie . . .” or “I knew we had to do something differently, but . . . .” When he talks about the list of achieve-

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

25

The Penner Family: Jason, Jamie, Jerry, and Jerome IV

ments on his record, however, it is always with the plural pronoun: “We improved patient satisfaction ratings by . . . ,” or “We were able to turn things around so quickly that . . . .” Many people may claim to believe in

His first effort was to discover the strategic plan for the hospital. Facilities had grown during the last several years, and the medical community had grown with it. However, the direction and meaning of the building expansions and program advances was not clear.

“We have to know where we want to be in 20 years,” he says with conviction. “Then, everything we do should move us closer to that vision.” So, what’s in store for Murray now that Jerry is heading the team?

“Leaders find ways to connect with people.” the concept of “team,” but Jerry Penner actually talks the walk, perhaps without even realizing it.

“This is a people business,” he says with an earnest conviction in his voice. “Leaders find ways to connect with people.”

26

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

First, there is now a strategic plan in place. Meetings with the Board of the hospital, with employees and with members of the community helped reveal needs, desires, and challenges that either existed or were going to exist in the future.

“The people told us exactly what to do,” Jerry recalls. “Now, we have to get it done.

Among the goals is the plan to become an “employer of choice” in the region. “People should want to work here; they should get up every morning and want to be part of this team.” It’s not just a matter of wages and

salaries, vacation schedules and employee lounge appointments; Jerry Penner believes that you have to want to make a difference in the lives of others, and that you understand that you are doing that very thing every day.

His persuasive energy goes where his convictions go.

“We have a large number of our employee force that didn’t have health benefits. Can you imagine that?

We’re a healthcare facility! Well, in January, that will change.” Team members should have a sense of being appreciated and the hospital is now extending health benefits to the employed physician staff offices.

You will see him in the community over the coming years. There will be surveys and focus group meetings, but Penner will be visible and listening at sports venues, service club lunches and speaking opportunities throughout the region. “You’ll see me,” he promises. “I didn’t come to Murray just to run a hospital. I’m with the Chamber of Commerce, the American Legion, and my kids go to Murray State. I’m home and I want to be involved.”

He obviously likes his job. Ask him about competition from nearby medical centers like Paducah, Nashville and Memphis, and you’ll get a common sense response. “If you want a heart transplant, you should go where they do five operations a week.” However, he

is both proud and impressed by the state of medical care in Murray. He points to the hospital’s newest facility, the “South Tower,” but just as quickly notes the several practicing physicians who are using stateof-the-art techniques to reduce pain and discomfort, reduce the risk of surgery, and return patients to normal life faster and fully healed. “As good as you’ll find anywhere” is the phrase he uses. He should know: in 2004 he ran the world’s fourth-largest trauma center in Baghdad. He has seen the best at work under the worst of conditions.

Perhaps because of such experiences, he has great faith in himself but even more faith in the people with whom he works. “Let people understand what we’re working toward,” he told us, “and they will help us get there.” You can clearly see that this kind of cooperative, community-wide effort is, in his mind, the only way to “get there.”

You’re going to hear the name from time to time over the next several years. His family loves the town and the region; he enjoys the challenge; he hopes to retire in Murray, but probably not too soon. He’ll be looking for you, because he wants to hear what you think about what healthcare is and what it should be in Murray.

When you meet him, call him “Jerry.”

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

v

27

‘Til Daddy Comes hen a soldier is activated for oversees duty, he or she often leaves behind many anxieties for the family at home. Families of deployed husbands, wives, or parents deal with more than the emotional stresses of a loved one far away and in potential danger. They must also adjust to the practical matters that come with the temporary absence of a central figure of the home.

W

For some families, this type of change is especially difficult to manage. Soldiers often leave spouses behind who must deal with issues they never before had to address. Some have never performed ordinary tasks like paying the

28

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

Marching Home By: Ben Morrow

bills or balancing the checkbook. When a water pipe breaks or the gutters need cleaning, Dad is not there to help.

When a child needs help with her homework or has a bad day at school, Mom is away on assignment.

Other situations can be even more difficult to maneuver. Single parents, for example, are not exempt from deployment.

When one enters the military, the new soldier must sign paperwork giving someone else – usually a family member – full legal custody of the children for the duration of active duty. Although this may seem strict on the surface, the military considers it necessary for the purpose of flexibility. A soldier is not deemed usable if he or she is not deployable.

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

29

So how do families navigate such a difficult time? Soldiers and their families often find support through friends, other family members, local churches, and military programs designed to help sustain families through times of separation.

Tom Simpson, a Paducah native and a sergeant in the Army Reserves, was activated for duty in Iraq from November, 2003 to March, 2005. “I was stationed at LSA Anaconda,” he said. “We delivered fuel all over Iraq. We traveled the most dangerous roads in Iraq and saw plenty of action. It is difficult to describe what we saw and experienced because it is a whole different world.”

Tom’s wife Kathy explained how the Army reaches out to families of deployed soldiers. “Each Reserve Unit has a Family Readiness Group (FRG) that is put in place to support the family while the soldier is away,” she said. “It is made up of other spouses and parents of soldiers as well as a military representative. There is also a caseworker who periodically calls to check on the family and who is available should the family have a need while the soldier is deployed.

If there is a family emergency and the soldier needs to be contacted quickly, the family can contact the Red Cross.”

Tom said his family received their greatest support through members of their local church. He said other military options are in place as well for families in need. “I actually did not have to worry as much about my family being taken care of because we had such a good family and church network,” he said. “I do know that there are programs available for the families (through the military); they work hard to take care of the soldier’s family so we don’t have to worry.

You can get anything from finding a plumber to getting counseling for family members from the Army OneSource program. There is also a program called Fort Family who will call and check on the family during a deployment.”

Kathy was quick to compliment the benevolence of church ministries geared toward the troops. “Many churches get involved, especially when a group from one area is deployed,” she said. “Churches near military bases are par-

30

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

ticularly involved with helping families. Many churches write letters, pray for the troops regularly, and send packages. Tom received many packages from churches that he did not know. My church family was very supportive and helpful during Tom’s deployment. I think it is a great ministry for churches to reach out to military families.”

that because others have said that about me. I am very good at sharing my feelings and dealing with conflict so I may not be like the average person in this area. I prayed a lot and put the whole situation in Gods hands.”

[]

Kathy said her main sources of comfort during Tom’s tour of duty were her family, her friends, and her faith. “Our family is very close, and I have a great network of extended family and friends as well,” she said.

“We kind of clung to each other and took one day at a time. I did not watch any news during Tom's deployment because I think it would have caused more anxiety. I prayed and had many people praying daily. We tried to go about our lives as normally as possible.”

Kathy said the children coped differently depending on the age group. She found her greatest difficulty as a mother was to address the individual needs of the children while remaining strong for them. Even though Dad was gone for a while, life still moved forward.

“Every morning when I woke up I wondered if my father was still alive.”

Even with the support of organized programs, ministries, family, and friends, the families of dispatched soldiers still have to make the emotional adjustment to their time apart from their loved ones. Kathy said she felt that she was able to handle her husband’s deployment better than many.

“I am an unusually strong person,” she said. “I say

“The challenges vary,” she said.

“With preschool-aged kids you have general training, caring for and nurturing. Adolescent through high school age means all the duties related to school and extra curricular activities (sports, dance, music, church, etc.), as well as the challenges of nurturing your teenager and dealing with hormones and attitudes. I had both: two preschoolers and two high schoolers. You are also responsible for their spiritual guidance and development.”

Tom and Kathy have four children – Christopher, Emily, James and John. Emily, who graduated from

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

31

Murray State with a degree in Organizational Communication in 2010, spoke of how the anxiety and adjustment of roles within the family took time to accept.

“Every morning when I woke up I wondered if my father was still alive,” she said. “That was probably my biggest stress. Of course, a lot more chores were added to my list and I pretty much took on a parental role for my little brothers. They called me ‘Momily’ instead of ‘Emily’. My youngest brother was just three years old, so by the time my dad came home my brother barely remembered him. He didn’t feel comfortable sitting on my dad’s lap for the first few days he was home.”

Emily’s mom was the family’s stabilizer while Tom was away.

“I feel like the biggest change in our family was going from my father being the main disciplinarian to my mother being completely in charge of the family,” she said. “Of course, a lot of responsibility was placed on me since I was in high school and I had little brothers who were three and five years old. Making the switch of who disciplined us wasn’t all that difficult; the hard part came when my father returned and my mom was used to having all the say so. She had to give up some power so that they could begin to function as a healthy couple again. Luckily, my mom is a strong woman and she didn’t place her burden of my father being away on her children. She was our support system. I cried a lot and she was able to comfort me without breaking down.”

32

Murray Life Magazine |

B a c k to S c ho ol 2 0 1 1

Emily said the family was able to speak to Tom “maybe three times a week” during his deployment.

“It was never a quality conversation,” she said. “He had a set amount of time that he was allowed to talk.

We would basically get to say, ‘Hey dad, I love you. I miss you. I made an A on that paper I mentioned last week. I hope you’re safe. I am praying for you. I love you. Bye’.”

Despite the difficulty of time apart during wartime, Tom faithfully served out his tour in Iraq and returned home safely. He hopes to retire from the Army Reserves in a few years. He, Kathy, James and John are completing a move to Wisconsin, where Tom has taken a new job. The Simpson family looks back on the difficulty of Tom’s stint abroad with more pride than regret.

“Tom was very proud to serve our country and he would do it again,” Kathy said. “He felt that it was worthwhile and that it did make a difference. He was very affected by the children in Iraq. He also saw how rich we are in America, how wasteful we are, and how much we take for granted.”

Tom agreed that his sacrifice to serve his country was beneficial. “No matter what some people say, it was not a waste of time and money to be there,” he said. “We did make a difference in many lives. I am thankful for all those who took care of my family while I was away. God definitely took care of me and my family.”

Thank you, Tom, for helping take care of us.

v

2623 Wayne Sullivan Drive Paducah, KY 42003 Phone: 270-442-9726 Fax: 270-442-5058 www.computer-source.com

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

33

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

35

36

Murray Life Magazine |

Ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1



Uncommon Mystery

All Bones be White By: Leigh Landini Wright

In resurrecting the history of a slain slave, Judith Shearer discovered a bit about her own story. hearer stumbled upon the history of Cassy, a slave accused of murder, about the same time she began her studies toward a master's of fine arts in creative writing from Spalding University. She remembered reading a newspaper account about the hanging of a slave, but as she began researching and trying to find that person, she found an accused slave named Cassy instead. That name kept turning up on lists, and Shearer began looking for the threads that made up Cassy's life.

S

other characters in the story, such as the lawyer's great-great granddaughter. But the most jarring part of the research came when she discovered something that her family never mentioned.

“I didn't know my family had slaves,” said Shearer, an administrative assistant in the art department at Murray State University. “I feel like I found my history. I totally believe had I known at the beginning that I would have written it differently.”

Her family, the Gaines family, owned Margaret Garner, the slave who inspired Toni Morrison's Pulitzer Prizewinning novel Beloved.

Garner’s owner, Archibald Gaines, followed her and found her at a house in Cincinnati. Shearer wrote that Garner cut her 3-yearold daughter Mary's throat and was arrested on a charge of murder for the act. A United States Commissioner ruled that Garner was property and would not stand trial but she would lose her family.

The result is Shearer's first creative nonfiction book, All Bones Be White, and a new project in which she hopes to identify unmarked slave graves.

Cassy, a slave owned by a Revolutionary War hero living in Christian County, was arrested on a charge of murdering Phenaty Miller, her owner's youngest daughter, in May 1833. She waived arraignment because of illness and was convicted on Aug. 8 along with her husband, Squire. The two implicated Miller's husband, John, in the murder.

Threads of Cassy's life unraveled as Shearer researched archives and long-forgotten court documents. She spent hours locked away with dusty books and records in hopes of finding more information about Cassy. The book consumed four years with research and writing and portions of it made up her creative thesis for her MFA. As she researched, she stumbled into side stories and found descendents of

Newspaper articles from the time described Gaines' appearance and demeanor, and something clicked with Shearer. “When I read his description, it was the same as the uncles whom I dearly loved … the small build, the hands,” she said. “It explained a lot why the family lived in Maysville. Nobody knew anything.”

And yet, though much of her writing process, Shearer tried to exclude herself and her family from

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

37

Profile



the story. It was Cassy's story, period. But yet, it wasn't. It was the story of three women – Shearer, Cassy and Mrs. Miller – woven together. “It is quirkily written that way for a reason,” Shearer said of the shifts of point-of-view. “This is my way of bringing Cassy back to life.”

Besides court records and histories, Shearer read slave narratives to learn as much as possible about their lives. In reading their histories, she learned how to use their dialect effectively as she wrote dialogue for Cassy.

“I think of Cassy as walking around and having muscle on her bones,” Shearer said. “Because people said it was so personal, it felt as if I was giving her a voice. I had people say that they didn't like the dialect and publishers who said it got in the way.”

After finishing her research for Cassy's story, Shearer tried to find Cassy's burial site. These threads of research led her to another endeavor – the Same Stars Project. She hopes to locate unmarked slave graves and bring dignity and respect to their gravesites.

Shearer turned to a quote from Sojourner Truth in naming the project. “Those are the same stars and that is the same moon that look down upon your

38

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

“There are those experiences where the people are there for the love of the craft, not for the paycheck.

That’s why you do this.” brothers and sisters (in slavery), and which they see as they look up to them.”

Shearer hopes that people will visit her website (www.judyshearer.com) and help identify unmarked slave graves. She has already discovered one off U.S. 641 near Dexter.

“I learned from the History Channel that it was illegal to mark slave gravesites in the 1800s,” she said.

“Someone asked, 'Why, why now?' and is it better to never talk about her history? I gave her a voice. I let her have a voice. I let people understand. We can learn from that.

“It's a way to recognize and give them the respect that they never had in life.” v Shearer's book is published by Hamilton Books and is available at the Murray State University bookstore, Amazon.com, and BarnesandNoble.com. The book retails for $24.95, and just $9.99 for the e-book.

Profile

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

39

Nature

Leave it to Beaver By: Aviva Yasgur

or most people, our lives revolve around our families. From growing up in our parents’ homes to becoming grandparents in our older years, family remains important throughout our lives. It is a universal part of the human experience. But did you realize that family plays a central role in the lives of many animals too? Of course, you are probably familiar with some animals that live in family groups, such as wolves, gorillas, and lions. But it might surprise you to learn that one of our most familyoriented animals is the beaver.

F

Beavers live in multigenerational family groups called colonies. A typical colony consists of a breeding male and female, their babies, and several of their children from previous years. These older children help their parents care for the kits. This busy beaver family lives together in very close quarters in their lodge, which is the den-like structure that they build for

40

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

shelter. Imagine living with a family of eight or so packed into one small, dark room!

Like people, the beaver family focuses most of its activities around the kids.

Or, in the beavers’ case, specifically the kits, which are the babies of the current year. Beaver moms typically have about four kits per year, although they can have as many as nine! Both parents invest a lot of time in raising their young, a behavior that is very unusual among rodents. Most other rodents, such as mice, squirrels, and rats spend much less time raising their young before they set off on their own. Beavers, however, often spend two or more years with their childependent.

For young beavers, it is not just instinct that provides them with their survival skills. They rely on a long period of learning from their parents and siblings. For example, kits learn what foods to eat by copying what they see their older family members eating. In this respect, beavers and humans have a lot in common.

Nature

In fact, the more you learn about beaver families, the more you will notice similarities between our two species. To illustrate a few of these, here is a brief comparison for you to enjoy:

HUMANS

BEAVERS

Kids complain about doing chores such as washing dishes and raking leaves

Kits complain about doing chores such as building the house and foraging

Parents childproof their home by covering electrical outlets, putting breakables on high shelves, and removing sharp objects

Colony members “kit-proof” their lodge bycovering the inside with mud and gnawing off the ends of any protruding sticks

Mothers nurse their babies, which are born with no teeth

Mothers nurse their babies, which are born with incisors (the “buck-teeth”)

“Buck-toothed” is a schoolyard insult

“Buck-toothed” is beautiful

75 pounds would be oddly huge for a 1-year-old

1-year-olds usually weigh 25 pounds, half their complete adult body weight

Family members can recognize each other by ringtone

Family members can recognize each other by the unique smells of their urine and scent oil

Family members often go crazy after 8 hours in the same car together

Family members live in one small dark room together all the time

Parents take their kids to soccer practice in minivans equipped with seatbelts and car seats

Parents let their kits ride piggyback while swimming and have them hold on with their paws and teeth

Popular kid entertainment: the Wii

Popular kit entertainment: tug-of-war with a stick

Family disputes are often worked out through lawyers

Family disputes often worked out through wrestling matches in shallow water

Teenagers often leave home to find their own identities

Teenagers often leave home to find their own supply of willow trees

Older siblings often complain that their parents make them babysit

Older siblings often complain that their parents make them babysit

So, there you have it! Besides the scaly tails, orange buck teeth, and greasy fur, beavers have a lot in common with people. Their families are similar to ours in many ways. But we differ in a few key areas. So the next time you feel cramped in the car on a family road trip, think about a beaver family packed like sardines in their mud-walled lodge by the lake, and be thankful to be human! v

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

41

Seen Around Town

42

Murray Life Magazine |

✆

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

Murray Dining Guide ith each issue we are including a comprehensive list of the wonderful places where you can eat in Calloway County and the surrounding area. We’re hoping this will serve as a reminder to our residents that you don’t have to go far for a great meal, and will offer some help to visitors and newcomers.

W

We think you’ll find pleasure in the wide variety of styles and locations available to you. Our listing is organized by categories of style so you can easily choose the dining that suits your taste. If your favorite restaurant isn’t listed, please let us know.

We’ll do our best to keep up. Enjoy!

Los Portales

Cypress Springs Resort

506 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . ...(270) 767-0315

Applebee’s Neighborhood Bar & Grill 816 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-5551

Asian Buffet 638 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-3788

August Moon 1550 Lowe’s Dr. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-4653

Baldy’s Grill 901 Coldwater Rd. . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 762-0441

Big Apple Café 1005 Arcadia Circle . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-8866

El Mariachi Loco 406 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-9000

El Tequila 716 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 767-0026

Gloria’s World Village Food

2740 Cypress Trail . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 436-5496 New Concord, KY

Quarters 200 N. 15th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-3406

Eagle Nest Marina & Dockside Bar and Grill 500 Eagle Nest Rd. . . . . . . . . . .(731) 642-6192 Buchanan, TN

Olive Pit 905 Mineral Wells Ave. . . . . . .(731) 642-5030 Paris, TN

Kentucky Dam Village 166 Upper Village Dr. . . . . . . . .(270) 362-4271 Gilbertsville, KY

Ruby Renee’s Restaurant 1196 State Route 121 North . .(270) 761-7829

Largo Bar & Grill Shogun

4645 Hwy. 119 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(731) 232-8323 Buchanan, TN

706 N 12th St., Suite 9 . . . . . . .(270) 761-7486

The Keg

Willow Pond Catfish Restaurant

1051 N 16th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 762-0040

16814 Hwy. 68 E. . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 474-2202 Aurora, KY

Tom’s Grille 501 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-4521

Tumbleweed Southwest Grill 807 Walmart Dr. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 873-2300

Ann’s Country Kitchen 318 Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 492-8195 Hazel, KY

124 N. 15th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-3233

HRH Dumplin’s 305B S. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-0000

Jasmine Restaurant - Thai & Asian Cuisine 506 N. 12th St. Suite E . . . . . . .(270) 761-8424

Magnolia Tea Room 306 Gilbert St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 492-6284 Hazel, KY

La Cocina Mexicana 501 S. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 767-1627 Murray

La Cocina Mexicana 314 Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (270) 492-6392 Hazel, KY

Aurora Landing Restaurant 542 Kenlake Rd. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 474-2211 Aurora, KY

Bad Bob’s Bar-B-Que 806 Chestnut St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 767-0054

Coldwater Bar-B-Que & Catering 8284 Hwy. 121 N. . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 489-2199

Belew’s Dairy Bar US Highway 62 East . . . . . . . . .(270) 354-8549 Aurora, KY

Brass Lantern 16593 Hwy. 68 E. . . . . . . . . . . . . 270-474-2773.

Aurora, KY

Cindy’s on the Barge 888 Kenlake Marina Ln. . . . . . .(270) 474-2245 Hardin, KY

Cracker Barrel 650 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 762-0081

Crossland Diner 3034 Stateline Rd. W. . . . . . . . .(270) 492-6424 Hazel, KY

Domino’s Pizza

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

117 S. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-3030

| Murray Life Magazine

43

Seen Around Town

44

Murray Life Magazine |

✆

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

Murray Dining Guide Happiness Restaurant 412 Main Street . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 293-4952

Spanky’s

Holmes Family Restaurant 1901 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 767-0662

Quizno’s Subs

9505 Hwy. 641 N. . . . . . . . . . .(731) 247-5527 Puryear, TN

1203 Chestnut St. . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-8880

Sammon’s Bakery T & J’s Diner

974 Chestnut St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-5434

2667 St. Rt. 94 E.. . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-4826

Hungry Bear 1310 Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-7641

Sonic Drive-In Tom’s Pizza

217 S. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-9885

506-A N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-9411

Laird’s Bar-B-Que

Subway

77 W. Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(731) 247-3060 Puryear, TN

622 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-7827

Taco Bell Lynn Grove Country Corner 7010 Hwy. 94 W. . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 435-4500

Martha’s Restaurant 1407 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-1648

Mary’s Kitchen 11205 Stadium View Dr.. . . . . .(270) 759-2036

Matt B’s Main Street Pizza 1411 Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-1234

Mr. Gatti’s Pizza 804 Chestnut St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-6656

Mugsy’s Hideout 410 Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 767-0020

Nick’s Family Sports Pub 614 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 762-0012

Pagliai’s Pizza 970 Chestnut St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-2975

Papa John’s Pizza 656 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-6666

Pizza Hut 1113 Chestnut St. . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-4646

Pizza Pro 605-C S. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 767-1199

Renfro’s Hih Burger Inn 413 S. 4th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-1155

Rudy’s, “On the Square” 104 S. 5th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-1632

Ryan’s Steakhouse 801 Walmart Dr. . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-3809

Sirloin Stockade 922 S. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-0440

Snappy Tomato Pizza 1550 Lowes Dr. . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-7627

402 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-8758

Backyard Burgers 801 Paramount Dr. . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-2480

Taco John’s 604 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-9697

Boulders 317 Chestnut St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-9727

Victor’s Sandwiches 1301 W. Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-7715

Brother’s Barbeque 401 Sycamore St. . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-7675

Vietnamese Cuisine 1407 Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-7655

Burger King 814 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-8266

Wendy’s Old Fashioned Hamburgers 1111 Chestnut St. . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-4695

Burrito Shack 214 North 15th St. . . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-4444

Zaxby’s

Captain D’s

N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 792-2375

700 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-9383

Culver’s 818 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-2858

Dairy Queen 1303 Main St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-4925

Dinh’s Vietnamese Eggrolls 715 S. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-7655

Doughnut Hole, The 404 S. 12th Street . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-4900

Fidalgo Bay Coffee Shop 1201 Payne St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-4800

Hardee’s 505 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-3246

KFC 205 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-7101

Vitello’s Deli 216 N. 15th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 759-3663

McDonald’s 107 N. 12th St. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(270) 753-5548

Murray Donuts 506 B North 12th St. . . . . . . . . . .(270) 761-1818

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

45

The Money Pages

$

Investment Insight: Talking with Your Parents about Their Finances By: Ron Arant, a Financial Consultant for Hilliard & Lyons

dult children sometimes find it hard to talk with their parents about finances. And parents may often find it just as tough. But it’s a conversation you’ve got to have.

A

Even before talking with your parents, talk with your brothers and sisters. Agree on who will approach your parents and what questions to ask, such as: • Do they have an up-to-date will?

• Do they have any life insurance policies, and are the beneficiaries up-to-date?

• Do they have a living will, revealing what lifesaving efforts they may want made on their behalf?

• Do they have health insurance policies, including long-term care insurance?

• Do they have a lawyer, an accountant, and a financial advisor, and what are their names and addresses?

Inquiring about your parents’ long-term care policies is a good opening, especially if you, the children, offer to pay for it. Not many older people have such policies, and without them a serious illness could consume all of a parent’s assets, leaving little or nothing for an inheritance.

Someone should get your parents’ permission to monitor their finances, including their canceled checks and credit card statements. You might open a joint account with your parents, allowing you to pay everyday bills; when possible, arrange for recurring bills like mortgage or utility bills to be paid automatically.

46

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

“Do you have a key to your mom and dad’s home and car?”

Some other tips include: • Ask your parents for a complete list of all of their assets and where they are located. Some of their savings might be in a shoebox under the bed or in the garage.

• Ask them for the location of their legal documents and insurance policies, and verify that what is at that location are the originals and not copies, which might not be as useful. And make sure the documents are up-to-date.

• Do you have a key to your mom and dad’s home and car? If you live somewhere else and one of your parents becomes ill, you will need a place to stay and a vehicle to get around in.

• Consider having your parents consult with a financial planner so the burden of watching over their finances falls to a neutral third party instead of to an emotionally involved adult child.

Power of Attorney A member of the family should obtain a power of attorney for either or both of your parents, enabling

$ that person to act on your parents’ behalf when the parent is incapacitated. That person also should have guardianship papers, signed before the parent became incapacitated. Financial institutions that your parents deal with should honor a properly executed power-ofattorney form, but the process will be smoother if you make use of that institution’s own form.

The Money Pages

Share the Wealth The complexities of building, preserving and passing along wealth have never been greater. Affluent investors are increasingly seeking guidance and comprehensive solutions that consider their unique circumstances and long-term goals. It’s my pleasure to work with such individuals to offer insight, advice and solutions in helping them reach their goals.

If the power of attorney was obtained more than a few years ago, have your parents update it or it may also slow down the process with their financial institutions. And if they spend time in more than one state, make sure that the forms meet the requirements of each state, or have a separate form for each state.

Avoid a “springing” power of attorney, which goes into effect when someone is found to be disabled. A ready-to-go version is more efficient. With a springing power of attorney, there may be problems proving that someone was actually disabled on a certain day. v Hilliard Lyons does not offer tax or legal advice. Please consult your tax advisor or attorney before making any decision that may affect your tax or legal situation.

Securities offered through J.J.B. Hilliard W.L. Lyons, LLC. | Member NYSE, FINRA & SIPC. ©2007-2009 All rights reserved.

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

47

Home & Garden

@

Scrapbooking 101 By: Bonnie Raspberry

reating a scrapbook is a great way to preserve all your family memories on a page. It’s a great way to be creative and have some fun at the same time. But, as a beginner, the hobby can be overwhelming if you don’t know where to start, so here are a few basic steps to help you get started.

C

One of the very first steps in beginning scrapbooking is organizing your photos. This is a big task. Actually, the more photos you have stored, the bigger the job.

There are different methods of organizing your photos.

Over time you will find a method you prefer.

The first piece of advice I would give beginners is to keep it simple. Many times the most impressive scrapbook pages are those which are simplistic – they are uncluttered and, in my opinion, those are much more appealing. Your main goal with scrapbooking should be to preserve your memories.

Next, you will need to shop for all your scrapbooking supplies. Albums, papers, scrapbooking glue, paper trimmer,

48

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

scissors, pen and some stickers are essentials for making a nice scrapbook.

For your first album, you will need to decide which album best suits your needs. Consider factors such as color, size and fabric. Make sure all your paper, glue, ribbons and other embellishments are acid-free and will not deteriorate over time.

Having a pair of good, sharp scissors is a definite must.

You may want to consider buying a new small pair just for scrapbooking. A paper trimmer is also a must in scrapbooking in order for you to be able to cut a perfect straight line. Once you have these tools, you will need something to make your photos stick to your page. There is a large variety of options out there and you will have to decide what works best for you. To start, you might want to try a glue stick. Just make sure whatever type you use is acid-free. An acid-free, archival quality pen for journaling is also needed. To start off, buy a basic black pen.

Find layout ideas from scrapbooking magazines, which can be found in you local craft store, or you can check the local craft store to see their made up samples.

Draft a sketch of your layout on a scrap piece of paper so that you know how much space is available on the page. This will give you an idea of where to place your pictures and where to journal. Arrange your photos and embellishments first before adhering them to the

@

Home & Garden

“There is a large variety of options out there and you will have to decide what works best for you.” scrapbook page. You can move the photos around like a puzzle until you create the look that you like. Crop the photos if necessary to remove any unwanted things or persons. Once you have decided on a layout, glue your photos and embellishments onto the page. Make sure you leave room for journaling. Begin your journal entries. Write about the details of the pictures on the page, including who, what, when and where.

Tips and Warn ings • Feel free to d evelop your ow n unique style w hen scrapbooki ng.

• There is no ri ght or wrong w ay to create your scrapbook pag e.

• You can alw ays redo a pag e if you are not sa tisfied.

Sheet and page protectors are a necessity. If you are preparing your own pages to be inserted into a binder, the page protector must be acid-free and I recommend those that are “top-loading.” Don’t skip the page protector--this is excellent “insurance” against finger prints, dust and other materials.

Happy scrapping!

Bonnie Raspberry is the owner of Wild Raspberry, Downtown Murray's most unique gift and scrapbook shop for all those one-of-a-kind items. v

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

49

Calendar of Events

$

he Murray Life Calendar of Events is graciously provided by the Murray Convention and Visitors Bureau. The CVB is your source for information on everything from dining, shopping, recreation and fun in the community to relocation. Learn more at www.tourmurray.com.

T

Downtown Saturday Market

Wait Until Dark The Playhouse presents their Halloween play, Wait Until Dark. Tickets are available online at playhouseinthepark.net. The shows are performed on Friday and Saturday start at 7 p.m. and Sunday shows are at 2:30 p.m. For more information, please call 270.759.1752.

October 21 Playhouse in the Park

Downtown Murray comes to life early Saturday mornings when farmers, artisans, and craftsman line the Court Square with their finest. Locals and visitors arrive early to get the best picks consisting of fresh produce, baked goods, crafts and art. The Saturday market is hosted by Murray Main Street, to learn more, call 270.759.9474.

Snap Apple Festival Experience Pryor Creek as the early Scots-Irish settlers did by joining us at the bonfires for warmth, companionship, and some of the finest storytelling around! During intermission, experience the candle lit double pen house for an old-time snap apple play party, but be prepared for the unexplained as you follow the lighted trail beyond the security of the fires. The event will be held rain or shine, so be prepared for the weather. Chairs and blankets are welcome on the farm. For more information, call 270.924.2000

Land Between the Lakes Homeplace October 21

$5 adults/$3 children. Cost covers evening program only. Ticket sales begin at 6 p.m.

Murray Highland Games

The West Kentucky Highland Games have become the Murray Highland Festival. There will be the traditional Scottish Heavy Athletic Competition, music by Highland Reign and the Birdsong Harpists, Scottish vendors, bagpipers and more. See the famous Highland Cattle, and sheep herding demonstrations.

Meet your relatives at the clan tents and take the kids to the Wee Bairns games. At the end of the day, it’s the Ceilidh at 7 p.m. at the Big Apple. Visit www.wkyhighlandfestival.com for details.

Central Park October 22 50

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

Prairie Home Companion in Concert Today, Garrison Keeler and A Prairie Home Companion is heard by more than 4 million listeners each week on some 590 public radio stations. For more information about tickets, please visit Ticketmaster.

November 5 CFSB Center

Casting Crowns in Concert Grammy Award winning band Casting Crowns will be in concert. The chart-topping band remains focused on discipleship though music. Come out and enjoy the wonderful atmosphere, and listen to some great Christian songs. For information about tickets, visit Ticketmaster.

November 10 CFSB Center

Orpheus in the Underworld

$

The first of Offenbach's outrageously funny 'send-ups' of Greek mythology is present by Murray State University’s Theatre Department. Orpheus in the Underworld is a lively and highly enjoyable show for both performers and audience, with many worldfamous tunes. For more information, call 270.809.4421.

November 17-20 Robert E. Johnson Theatre

Calendar of Events

EVERY DAY IN MURRAY

THE WEST KENTUCKY/WRATHER MUSEUM Preserving the visual and emotional traditions of the Jackson Purchase Area. Located at North 16th Street and University Drive on the campus of Murray State University, the museum is open Monday through Friday, 8:30 a.m. to 4 p.m., and Saturday, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Handicap access. For more info, call (270) 809-4771.

THE CHERI THEATER Murray’s seven-screen movie theater. For a list of current movies and times, please call (270) 753-3314 or visit www.moviesinmurray.com.

MURRAY STATE UNIVERSITY’S FINE ARTS Presenting a variety of performances from dance to plays, from symphonies to choir concerts. For current information, call (270) 809-ARTS.

Christmas in the Park

Enjoy the wonderful display of lights located at Central Park. Drive thru the park, and feel the holiday spirit.

For more information, call 270.762.0325.

November 21-December31

THE CLARA M. EAGLE GALLERY AT MURRAY STATE UNIVERSITY Offering a variety of exhibitions throughout the year, from student artwork to national tours. Art ranges from drawing to sculpture, from photography to multimedia. For more information, please call (270) 809-6734.

PLAYHOUSE IN THE PARK Calloway County’s 30-year-old community theatre.

Playhouse presents a variety of plays throughout the year. For detailed information, please call (270) 759-1752.

THE MURRAY ART GUILD A nonprofit organization that offers workshops and exhibitions for children and adults. Stop by and see some of the area artists at work. The Guild is located in downtown Murray at 500 N. 4th St. For additional information, please call (270) 753-4059.

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

51

Calendar of Events

The Sound of Music

$

Come out and watch The Sound of Music, it is Playhouse in the Park’s most requested show! The final collaboration between Rodgers & Hammerstein was destined to become the world’s most beloved musical.

For more information, please call 270.759.1752.

December 2-18 Playhouse in the Park

Main Street Merriment and Dickens' Alley Get into the Christmas spirit by visiting Main Street Merriment Dickens’ Alley. This decorated ally will open at 5p.m. for everyone to walk through and enjoy.

For more information contact Murray Main Street at 270.759.9474.

December 2

H. Thomas Rushing Ham Breakfast The Thomas Rushing Ham Breakfast is sponsored by the Rotary Club of Murray. The breakfast will be located at Pagliai’s from 6am-9am. Don't miss the Christmas Parade right after the breakfast. For more information, call 270.809.4771.

December 3 Pagliai’s

Rotary Christmas Parade

The Carson Four Rivers Center Events ImaginOcean A one-of-a-kind live black-light puppet show, John Tartaglia's ImaginOcean is a magical undersea adventure for kids of all ages. Tank, Bubbles and Dorsel and three best friends who just happen to be fish, and they're about to set out on a remarkable journey of discovery. And it all starts with a treasure map. As they swim off in search of clues, they'll sing, they'll dance, and they'll make new friends, including everyone in the audience. Ultimately they discover the greatest treasure of all: friendship.Jam-packed with music ranging from swing to R&B to Big Band, John Tartaglia's ImaginOcean is a blast from the first big splash to the last wave goodbye.

Friday, October 21, 2011 - 6:00pm Saturday, October 22, 2011 - 10:00am

My Fair Lady Big League Productions Inc. presents a sparkling new production of the musical by which all others are measured. Based on Shaw’s play and Pascal’s movie “Pygmalion,” with book music and lyrics by Lerner and Loewe, My Fair Lady is triumphant. With Wouldn’t It Be Loverly?, With a Little Bit of Luck, The Rain in Spain, I Could Have Danced All Night, On the Street Where You Live, Get Me to the Church on Time and I’ve Grown Accustomed to Her Face, it’s no wonder everyone – not just Henry Higgins – falls in love with Eliza Doolittle. The show’s 1956 Broadway production was a smash hit, setting a new record for the longest run of any major theatre production in history.

It was followed by a hit London production, a popular film version starring Audrey Hepburn-which won eight Academy Awards, and numerous revivals. It has been called “the perfect musical.”

Come out and watch the annual Christmas Parade, and enjoy the holiday spirit. The parade will begin at 10a.m. and is located in downtown Murray.

Wednesday, Nov. 2, 2011 - 7:30pm Thursday, Nov. 3, 2011 - 7:30pm

Reindeer Run 5K

Visit our Website: www.thecarsoncenter.org Paducah’s world-class entertainment venue. Please call (270)4504444 for tickets or more information on any of these events. For group sales, call (270)443-9932, ext. 2242. Box office hours are Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.

Closed Saturday and Sunday. Note: Open two hours prior to each performance.

December 3

The Trigg Co Middle School in Cadiz, Kentucky is sponsoring the Reindeer Run 5K. The race beings at 4p.m. and is located at Trigg Co. Middle School. For more information, visit www.runsignup.com.

December 3 52

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

53

Advertiser’s Directory Advertiser

Page #

(

Advertiser

Page #

Advertiser

Page #

Animal Health & Wellness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .42

K-Squared Designs, LLC . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .52

NewWave Communications . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .55

BB&T Bank . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .44

Kentucky Farm Bureau . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .44

Northwood Storage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .35

Briggs & Stratton . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .44

Kopperud Realty . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .42

Playhouse in the Park . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .44

Cagle and Bailey Adult Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .36

Loft, The . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13

Primary Care Medical Center (Urgent Care) . . . .21

Computer Source . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .31

Marsha’s of Murray . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .42

Primary Care OBGYN . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .3

Der Dutch Merchant . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .44

MidSouth Vinyl . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .39

Randy Thornton Heating & Air . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .27

Elements . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .34

Murray Animal Hospital . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .33

Roof Brothers Wine & Spirits . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .4

Froggyland Sports . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .42

Murray Auto Spa . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .35

SBG Real Property Professionals . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .33

Glisson Building . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13

Murray Bank, The . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .47

University Book and Bean . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .34

Gold Rush . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .25

Murray-Calloway Co. Chamber of Commerce . . .44

Urology Associates, H.S. Jackson, MD . . . . . . . . . .53

Grey's Properties . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .42

Murray-Calloway Co. Republican Party . . . . . . . . .39

Vintage Rose Emporium . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .34

Heritage Funeral Home . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .53

Murray-Calloway Co. Hospital . . . . . . . . .Back Cover

Wall Appeals . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Hilliard-Lyons . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .42

Murray Electric System . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26

WENK/WTPR . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .41

Houston Security Company . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .36

Murray Insurance Agency . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .42

Western Baptist Hospital . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .1

Image Graphics Printing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .18

Murray Life Magazine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41

WKMS FM . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .35

Imes-Miller Funeral Home . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .55

Murray Woman's Clinic . . . . . . . . . .14 & Inside Front

WNBS-1340 AM . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .45

Our Holiday edition is a celebration of the holidays, the season, and the hopeful joy of “Starting Over” in 2012.

Look for features on …

“Playing with your Food” – The perfect sugar cookie “The Perfect Campfire” – Inside or out: the fire’s warm glow is a joy in the winter “Bonfires, Haggis and Black-eyed Peas” – Observing New Year around the world “What men really want” – shopping tips for the him, from Christmas to Valentine’s Day “A Shoppers’ Guide for a Murray Christmas” – What is it, where is it, and why go elsewhere?

Puzzle fans: expect more Sudoku, with answers tucked away in the magazine . . . And that’s just the start! Count on Murray Life for humor, shopping tips, dining guides, nature stories, Sudoku and more.

Share the fun of Murray Life: A two-year gift subscription anywhere in the U.S. is only $25.00. Call 753-5225 or e-mail us at murraylife@aol.com and we’ll arrange to share Murray Life with your personalized gift card included.

Get the latest at www.mymurraylife.com. The WebMag, archives, comments and columns – more than ever before.

54

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1

w w w. m u r r ay l if e m a g a z ine . c o m

| Murray Life Magazine

55

Opinion

v

The Season of Stories By: Bob Valentine

As the days grow short and we huddle closer to the fire in the evening, stories will be told. Whether we group around a fire or savor one of the last few warm evenings on the porch or patio, the feeling is the same: the seasons are changing; tell us a tale.

Among the tales of mystery and bravery are the mundane and the commonplace. From the nobility of the hardy Pilgrims to the good-natured legends of ghosts and changelings, this is surely a season of stories that can change lives. But, to me, the most important are the stories of your own family. As people gather from different cities, or even different nations, we have a chance to hear their stories and to make them ours. We shouldn’t miss the opportunity.

If you are of my generation (the one which remembers Eisenhower and Ozzie and Harriet), ask yourself: How many times did I long to leave the Thanksgiving dinner table, but was forced to sit and listen as Grandpa retold the tale of the day he came home from France? How badly did I wish to escape another reliving of the trip to Louisville (“and there were no four-lane highways back then, I can tell you”) that took four days, or of the Blizzard of ’32 and all its tangential legends of survival (“and we had to melt snow for drinking water!”).

Boring? Certainly, or so they seemed then. Relevant? No, not at all to a generation which believes in its omniscience and the power of its youthful wisdom.

Essential? Absolutely. If you can remember the Jack Benny Show, or when Johnny Carson took over for Jack Paar, then you are old enough to realize that all those stories make up your life. Grandma’s stories of loneliness during the absences of war give you the courage to go on; Uncle Bill’s tales of making hard decisions for the good of family give you the wisdom you now have.

Our family’s stories, so often told at seasonal gatherings, are the stuff of our very beings, and should not be ignored. They should not be missed so that we can play a video game, go to a mall, or watch a football game. Those things are not your family; those things do not know your story.

If you doubt me, ask yourself: Is there someone whose story you would wish to hear again, but cannot? What would you give to hear once more that story of Dad’s proposal to Mom, or of Great Aunt Amelia’s first job as a riveter in an armored tank factory? You can’t hear those voices any more, except in memory. Now, you realize that hearing the story every year at Homecoming was not enough, even though you thought you knew it by heart. Now, you realize it is a precious part of your being and you want more of it, but it is far too late to do anything about that desire.

As the fire dies down, tell the story. Don’t worry about fidgeting feet or bored expressions, and don’t wait until you think you can tell that story so that it will be better than anything on TV. Just tell the story.

Someday, years from now, some memory will open that gift and a life will change.

v

Well, that’s my story. Now, it’s your turn.

56

Murray Life Magazine |

ho m e c o m ing 2 0 1 1