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Positivity in the Unpredictable
If there’s one universal truth about parenting, it’s that nothing ever goes exactly as planned. From the moment you see those two pink lines, your life becomes a whirlwind of lists, logistics and late-night Googling.
There are registries to build, bottles to sterilize, diapers to buy, schedules to follow—and just when you think you’ve got it all figured out, life throws in a surprise.
Maybe it’s a mid-commute diaper explosion that sends you racing to the nearest store, a carefully organized sleepover derailed by a sudden case of the sniffles or a teen who suddenly “hates you” and “is never leaving their room again!”
Parenthood, for all its planning, is a masterclass in adapting on the fly. Something that comes as a hard lesson for Type A parents like me who like to feel that they are in control.
As kids grow, calendars fill up: baby classes give way to preschool, elementary school, sports, music lessons, summer camps and the ever-growing list of social commitments. Add in holidays, family events and the occasional cross-country trip to visit loved ones, and it’s clear—parenting is a full-time juggling act.
And that’s before you factor in the unexpected worldwide events we’ve all endured—a pandemic, global instability, unprecedented inflation…. It’s enough to make anyone feel like they’re just barely holding it together.
So, what do we do, as the grown-ups who are supposedly steering the ship? How do we provide our kids with a safe, secure environment to grow up in when we feel completely lost at sea?
We adapt. We find joy in the mess. We teach our children resilience not by talking about it, but by living it. We take the sad detours and turn them into adventures. We turn our pain into poetry. We speak honestly about burnout, caregiving and the hard work of breaking cycles and forging new ones.
We learn to laugh, to breathe, to embrace the unpredictability—we ride the waves. Because maybe the point isn’t to have everything under control—but to find meaning, connection and even a little fun in the unpredictable chaos of parenting.
– Stacie Gaetz
Quinsam River Hatchery
The Quinsam River Hatchery in Campbell River has recently undergone a major renovation to modernize and improve their facilities to make it one of Canada’s most energy-efficient hatcheries. The visitor centre has some incredible displays to discuss the salmon life cycle as well as interesting information about the hatchery. pac.dfo-mpo.gc.ca
ArtisTREE
The ArtisTREE Festival allows families to experience art, nature and so much more on the fields of Government House in Victoria from July 26 to 27. Food trucks, art vendors, creative exhibitions and amazing musicians ensure you have a memorable day. artistreefestival.com
A Whole New World
Sound the Alarm Productions presents A Whole New World—an amazing concert tour celebrating some of Hollywood’s famous musical memories—at The Port Theatre in Nanaimo on June 15. Featuring a live band and professional singers, revisiting music from Mamma Mia, Grease, Moulin Rouge, The Sound of Music and a variety of Disney hits—the entire family will be singing along. soundthealarm.ca
Gulf Islands National Park Reserve
The Gulf Islands National Park Reserve offers a variety of fun free programs and outdoor adventures for all ages during their visit to the various national parks throughout the Gulf Islands. Plan to camp on the islands or catch the Sidney Spit Ferry or BC Ferries to get to the parks. parks.canada.ca
LEAP
The Leadership Ecology Adventure Program (LEAP) provides kids from BC—and all over the world—a unique outdoor learning experience. Located in scenic Powell River, this eight-day outdoor living and learning camp runs year ’round and invites kids to interact with themselves, each other and nature. integralearning.org
Crabfest
BC Crab Co. is proud to present another year of an Island favourite—Crabfest! Book your fresh crab bucket pick-up time during the day or purchase a VIP pass for an incredible long-table feast in the evening on June 29 at Ship Point in Victoria. Enjoy the Seaside Family Zone and a variety of other entertainment including chef demos using freshly caught crab and other seafood. bccrabco.ca
Vancouver Island Reptile Expo
If you’re a reptile or amphibian enthusiast, you’ll want to visit the Vancouver Island Reptile Expo at the Beban Park Rec Centre in Nanaimo on July 5 and 6. It’s not just reptiles—you’ll get to see a variety of arachnids and invertebrates, as well as options to decorate your tank or pick up some reptile-inspired jewelry or other art featuring amphibians. junglejewelexotics.com
Lake Days
Head to Cowichan Lake between June 9 and 15 for the annual tradition of Lake Days! Starting with the Strawberry Tea and followed with a week full of events celebrating Cowichan Lake such as breakfast, kids’ bike events, barbecues, parades, contests, a fair and more. This is a yearly tradition beloved by both locals and visitors. cowichanlake.ca
Comox Summer Fest
Comox Business in Action (BIA) presents the Comox Summer Fest on June 28 in downtown Comox. Enjoy family activities, bouncy castles, face painting, exploring more than 50 artisan vendors, entertainment throughout the day and checking out limited-time specials from local businesses in the area. downtowncomox.com
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Located at Loudon Park, Long Lake, NCKC offers diverse paddling opportunities to people of all ages and abilities. As a not-for-profit sport organization, NCKC promotes healthy, active living and offers quality programming focused on sport skill development, water safety, and outdoor recreation.
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• Come learn the ‘FUN’damental paddling skills on Long Lake! Spend time in a variety of different boats, learn about the sport, practice new strokes, try some rescues, develop balance, boat control and play games on and off the water. Participants must be able to swim 25m with a PFD or be at Swim Kids Level 4.
What Would Betty Do?
Discovering and diffusing ‘systems feelings’
In my work as an educator, counsellor and author, I refer to the unconscious overreactions we have as systems feelings. We use this term because our nervous system holds on to unresolved patterns or pain from childhood and beyond. When we find ourselves reacting in a way that feels out of proportion to the situation, chances are we’ve got one foot in the past.
The good news? Awareness can help. It’s not easy but just knowing this is “a thing” can make a difference. Why? Because when we have big emotions and we don’t realize they’re rooted in the past, we tend to pin them on the person in front of us and this is usually someone we deeply care about, like our child or partner. Intimate relationships are where our unconscious reactions get stirred up.
These reactions don’t always stem from major trauma. Often, they’re tied to subtle childhood experiences such as
how your feelings were handled when you were upset, or your parent’s expectations of you. If you were an obedient child, you might get triggered when your child is defiant. If you were nagged growing up, you may overreact when your partner asks you to take out the garbage.
Personally, when I feel triggered, it’s often rooted in a sense of being left out or alone. I was a latchkey kid at a young age, my parents had to work. I was also sensitive and shy. Although these triggers arise less often now, they can still catch me off guard. When they do, I feel like a helpless child again. The feelings are powerful even though I intellectually know what’s happening, the emotional weight remains.
Just now, as I’m writing this, I heard my mother’s voice in my head saying, “She’s in a huff again.” When these systems feelings come up, I feel paralyzed... stuck in that moody,
hurt place my parents used to label as a “huff.” It felt sinful to be sad or upset. The British, stiff upper lip.
It’s always a little embarrassing to talk about these reactions because they can feel so immature, they come from our younger parts. But when I feel that helpless mood creeping in, the first thing I do is recognize it. Knowing it has history helps take the intensity out of the present moment.
One phrase I’ve come to love is: observe rather than be absorbed. You can do this when you start to notice those younger parts living inside of you, the ones people simply bump into.
When I can recognize a familiar pattern, I’m less likely to be fully swept up in it. Sometimes, when that childish feeling hits, I ask myself, “What would Betty do?” I’ve never actually met Betty, but in my mind, she’s a wise, well-put-together woman who does the right thing. She brings me back to
myself. While recovering in the moment isn’t always easy, this kind of awareness can really help.
Why? Because if I don’t know I’m being triggered by my past, I’m going to make it all about the person in front of me. And that can be dangerous. That’s why it’s so important to do a little exploring to recognize what’s yours, what’s old and what just needs a little compassion and awareness.
Helpful Strategies:
• Notice the things that get to you. Using a journal can help you identify your feelings and trace not only their triggers but their origins. As you write, you can discover a lot about what they are attached to.
• If you recognize patterns, think about what the opposite or different response would be. Pre-plan your response so it can be accessed in the heat of the moment when you might feel three years old.
• Notice when you feel defensive or shutdown and ask for a “chill time” if possible. Okay, not if you have young children, but it’s more doable with older kids or a partner.
• Remember, urgency is the enemy, breath is your friend. Breathe!
• If you find a conversation starting to feel like a game of ping pong, slow it down.
Systems feelings happen between people and bring out immature, overreactions. They don’t make a lot of sense, so it is difficult to know exactly what we need in those moments. It’s important to pay attention to the physical signals, that may be the first indication that we’ve lost the plot.
Finally, our nervous system picks up quickly on body language. A facial expression can send us into fight, flight, fawning, fix or freeze in seconds.
When I think about Betty, she is quite aware of what her face is saying. She’s aware of the dangers of rolling eyes, a look of contempt and disgust. While borrowing Betty’s maturity, my nervous system slowly recovers, and I get to show up as a genuine, mature adult again. Not quite Betty, a messier version, but loving, nonetheless.
Dr. Allison Rees is an educator, counsellor and author of Sidestepping the Power Struggle and The Parent Child Connection. To see her course online, go to lifeseminars.com
The Ultimate Team Sport Parenting
If you’ve ever watched classic TV sitcoms from the ’50s through the ’80s, you’d think parenting was a oneperson job—and that person was always “mom.”
Dad was the breadwinner, maybe the discipline enforcer when he got home, but mostly he just ruffled hair and read the newspaper. Mom handled everything else: cleaning, cooking and raising the kids, all while wearing heels and smiling through it.
Thankfully, a lot has changed since then. In many modern families—including ours—both of us work, both parents cook (some better than others) and both parents handle school pickups, appointments and bedtime stories.
Still, the old language creeps in occasionally. I’ve lost count of how many times an older person or store employee exclaimed “Giving mom a break
today?” or “You’re on kid duty, huh?” when I was out with our daughter. No. I’m not babysitting. I’m doing what parents do: Parenting.
Calling it “babysitting” when a dad takes care of his own child reinforces the idea that he’s filling in, and therefore not fully responsible. It makes fatherhood sound like an optional role—a backup plan if mom’s busy.
It Takes Two
My wife and I both work from home, which means our days are a nonstop relay race of meetings, laundry and snack requests. We attempt to split the work based on who has a lighter day, who remembered to stop at the store or defrost something, or who’s already halfway to the car with the sports equipment and the water bottle.
There are no “his” and “her” duties— there’s just life. Breakfast gets made by
whoever’s awake first. Homework help is done by whoever our kid asks first. If the garbage needs to go out or the cat barfs on the stairs, it’s handled by whoever saw it first. And if we both saw it? Well, we negotiate like grown-ups (most of the time anyway!). It’s not a perfect system—there are still some arguments and times when one or both of us drops the ball—but it all works out in the end.
More Dads Are Stepping Up— and It Shows
In the past few years, it’s been awesome to see more and more dads showing up—not just at sports practices, but at school events, PAC meetings, science fairs and yes, even in the dance studio lobby, patiently holding sparkly shoes and water bottles. I didn’t actually notice at first since it seemed normal to me—but my wife was quick to point it out!
Most dads aren’t just watching from the sidelines anymore. They’re coaching, volunteering on class trips, reading in classrooms and planning bake sales (or at least buying most of the cookies). It’s not always easy, in fact it very rarely is. We juggle work deadlines, volunteer commitments at our kid’s school and all these new tween emotions (which are intense, dramatic and highly snackdependent).
The Joys of Being All-In
Being all-in means I get to see the highs and lows of my daughter’s day. I know what she’s excited about, what’s stressing her out and which person she thinks is “literally the most annoying person on Earth” today (sometimes it’s me and may likely be one of her school friends again by Thursday).
It’s messy. It’s exhausting. It’s full of laundry and logistics. But it’s also joyful in all the little ways that matter most.
Let’s Just Call It Parenting
Being an active, involved parent—dad or mom—isn’t a chore, it’s a privilege. Let’s normalize parenting as a shared gig—one where both adults are in the trenches, doing their best, messing up sometimes and high-fiving when bedtime is miraculously achieved by 9 pm.
Brandon White is a busy dad. When he isn’t driving his daughter to and from school and her many activities, you will find him repairing and restoring electronics and listening to good tunes.
Benefits of Exploring Creativity with our Children
Exploring quiet moments with our children can sometimes be hard for parents as we tend to have our brains full of worries and responsibilities of life. However, when we make the time to just “be” with our children, both the parent’s and child’s nervous systems regulate to a more balanced state.
Children learn to regulate their own systems by the adults around them, which is called co-regulation. Children are watching adults all the time. They are learning how to deal with their emotions and understand what behaviours are appropriate in the societies they grow up in.
Sometimes my daughter and I practice this by crafting together. Recently, on a pro-d day, my daughter and I had to wait for her brother to finish his outdoor program with
the Human-Nature Counseling Society. To keep her engaged for two hours, I asked her if she wanted to spend time being creative with me. The idea I had was a muddled version of scribble art combined with colouring pages, and she loved it.
Scribble art is a style of art that is used in art therapy for adults and children to help focus on the present while they are drawing. It is often used as a relaxing technique as individuals learn to play in an unlimited way with colour and random lines. The idea is to doodle free-flowing lines on the page, and then after they are drawn, to colour them in. You can also use paints or another medium like felt pens.
I had a plan for the project to copy a printed image with carbon paper into a sketch book. I gave her a few horse images to choose from and then I added the one she chose on
to the blank page. We both drew lines from the horse and then spent two hours colouring it in.
By being creative with them, we are allowing our children to learn to relax. And this relaxation is felt by parents as we remember what it was like to play. Adults often think that they are not artistic enough to do creative activities with their children but when we let ourselves be silly, we teach them it’s okay not to be perfect.
Countless articles online discuss why art and crafts are important for children but reading all of them can feel overwhelming. The articles often share how bringing creativity into our children’s lives gives them better skills such as fine motor skills. Each of these articles are trying to help you build stronger connections with your kids, while highlighting the benefits. Even reading just one can inspire new ideas. Similarly, articles that delve into the act of doodling share that it is more than a simple pastime. Doodling nurtures calmness and encourages reflection as lines flow freely on the page.
Being creative isn’t just about making some type of art or playing a musical instrument. A person can be creative with
cooking, with 3D coding on a computer or designing garden patterns with flowers. When a child has a parent participating in whatever creative field they enjoy, it allows them to feel supported and loved.
By taking time to be creative with our children, it allows us all to enjoy the present. There’s more to it than just art. By allowing ourselves to play in art, we are teaching them other skills such as problem solving. It opens their eyes to the rainbows of life. By being creative with my daughter, it allowed us to have a fun and joyful moment together. Art can transform minds as it is healing to explore with colour.
Melissa Phillips is a neurodiverse creator with a Fine Arts degree from the University of Victoria. Two of her children have autism diagnoses, and her youngest self-identifies on the spectrum. As a volunteer facilitator at Esquimalt Neighborhood House, she fosters a relaxing space for adults to rediscover creativity.
Music, Magic & Memory-Making
Vancouver Island’s FamilyFriendly Festival Scene
Outdoor concerts and festivals are a delightful way for families to connect, celebrate community and enjoy the arts. These events offer more than just music—they’re opportunities to create lasting memories together.
Here are just a few reasons to experience an outdoor concert or festival this summer.
Community Connection
Outdoor concerts bring together people from all walks of life, fostering a sense of unity and shared experience. Gathering in parks and public spaces to enjoy live performances strengthens community bonds and encourages local pride.
Discovering New Music & Culture
These events often showcase a variety of musical genres and cultural expressions. Families can introduce children to different styles of music, instruments and performances, broadening their horizons and appreciation for the arts.
Affordable Entertainment
Many outdoor concerts are free or low-cost, making them accessible options for family outings. They provide high-quality entertainment without financial strain, allowing families to enjoy cultural experiences together.
Creating Lasting Memories
The relaxed atmosphere of outdoor concerts—picnicking on the grass, dancing under the stars or simply enjoying music in the open air—creates cherished memories. These shared experiences become stories that families recount for years to come.
There are some fantastic outdoor concerts and festivals happening across Vancouver Island and the Gulf Islands this summer:
PRISMA Festival
June 16 to 28, Various venues in Powell River
A special celebration of classical music with symphony and chamber concerts, masterclasses and student recitals. Some events require tickets while others are offered for free. prismafestival.com
Cultivate Festival
July 12 to 13, Gabriola Island Festival Site
A free two-day festival of music, theatre and performing arts
on Gabriola Island, presented in approximately 14 performances and roving acts, suitable for all ages. artsgabriola.ca
Islands Folk Festival
July 25 to 27, Providence Farm in Duncan
A family-friendly folk music festival featuring a diverse lineup of artists, workshops and activities in a picturesque farm setting. Kids under 15 are free with a ticketed adult. islandsfolkfestival.ca
Filberg Festival
August 1 to 3, Filberg Heritage Lodge and Park in Comox
An awesome arts and crafts festival with live music, artisan vendors and children’s activities in a beautiful garden setting. Get your tickets soon—and remember children under 12 are free. filberg.com
Wonderment Festival
August 1 to 10, Various parks across Victoria
Enjoy the 10th anniversary celebration of this vibrant ambient music and arts festival with performances in scenic public parks. Enjoy free daily events suitable for families, and evening ticketed events for adults. wonderment.ca
Symphony Splash
August 2 to 3, Victoria Inner Harbour
This iconic free event features the Victoria Symphony performing from a floating stage in the Inner Harbour. The weekend includes performances by the National Youth Orchestra of
Canada and culminates in a spectacular evening concert. victoriasymphony.ca
Five Acre Shaker
August 9 to 10, Port Alberni Fall Fair Grounds
An energetic music festival celebrating its 10th anniversary, featuring live performances and community spirit in a coastal setting. Don’t miss the yummy food and the exciting kids zone. Kids under 12 are free with a ticketed adult. fiveacreshaker.ca
i-Land Fest
August 29 to 31, Ship Point in Victoria
A fun, festive Caribbean cultural festival featuring music, dance, food and family-friendly activities celebrating island heritage. Please note that the day events at Ship Point are free and family friendly; however, most of the evening activities require tickets and are 19-plus events. ilandfest.com
Outdoor concerts and festivals across Vancouver Island and the Gulf Islands offer something magical for every member of the family. These events aren’t just about the music—they’re about coming together as a community, supporting local talent and embracing the rich cultural tapestry of the island. With many events offering free or low-cost admission, they’re a fantastic way to enjoy summer without breaking the bank. So, pack a picnic, grab a blanket and set out on a summer adventure.
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Pregnancy Progress
The Middle Months
Congratulations on your pregnancy! You have made it through the first trimester.
The second trimester (weeks 13 to 28) is the best part of pregnancy for most women. You may feel more comfortable and have more energy that you did in the first trimester.
In this second part of a five-part series about the trimesters of pregnancy, we will talk about the information, tasks and ideas you should be considering over the next 15 weeks.
What to Expect
If you are going to “glow” during your pregnancy, this is when that will happen.
If you were worried about the possibility of a miscarriage, that fear is waning now. You probably heard your baby’s heartbeat at your last doctor or midwife visit.
For many parents, the growing baby bump is a source of satisfaction and pride. Others feel less positive about these body changes. You may start to have some challenges relating to the enlarging of your uterus—back pain, round ligament pain. Other discomforts like leg cramps or constipation may show up now.
Having a good pregnancy book where
you can look things up will help. Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn by Penny Simkin is excellent. Avoid Googling symptoms as this can overwhelm you with information. Choose a trusted website like healthlinkbc.ca.
What to Do
The tasks of the second trimester are about keeping you and your baby healthy and growing.
• Keep a list of questions to ask at your monthly appointments.
• Your care-provider will:
– offer you the option of having an ultrasound scan around 18 to 20 weeks.
– offer you a test for gestational diabetes around week 25.
– screen you for Rh negative blood type and offer you a RhoGam shot at week 28 if you are Rh negative.
• Register for Prenatal Childbirth Preparation Classes. It’s best to take these in the third trimester, but you must schedule them now or the class you want may not be available. You can find an in-person class in Victoria at motheringtouch.ca or an online class from shefoundhealth.ca
• Consider having a doula at your birth. A doula is a non-clinical professional experienced in childbirth who provides physical, informational and
emotional support and helps parents to have an easier and more positive childbirth experience. You can read more about doulas at bcdoula.org. You can find a doula in Victoria through doulasofvictoria.ca, the Doulas for Aboriginal Families Grant Program, bcaafc.com or Nesting Doulas for BIPOC families at nestingdoulacollective.com.
• Plan for your maternity and parental leave:
– Tell your employer about your pregnancy, when you are ready. Remember that you must give your employer four weeks’ notice before you start your maternity leave.
– Find out about Employment Insurance coverage for your maternity and parental leave
– Discuss with your partner about how much time you will take off work and how the two of you will share parental leave.
• Keep up with regular physical activity. As you get bigger around the middle, you may feel a little awkward in your regular classes and decide to join a pregnancy yoga, fitness or aquafit class. Or not! The best way to get exercise is to do what you love in an environment you feel comfortable with. Don’t let anyone else tell you where that should be.
What to Learn
• Pregnant parents tend to spend a lot of time in the second trimester thinking about the baby; wondering what they will be like and how it will feel to be a parent. Use that motivation to learn about baby care, infant development and breast/chestfeeding. Some good books that can help with this include:
– The Mother of all Baby Books by Ann Douglas
– The Baby Book by William and Martha Sears
– Breastfeeding Made Simple by Kathleen Kendall-Tackett and Nancy Mohrbacher
• Many parents in the second trimester are not yet ready to think about or plan for the baby’s birth and that is fine. In a few weeks, when the baby gets bigger and your tummy gets more awkward, you will find yourself thinking more about how to get your kiddo out of there!
• As the nausea starts to go away, experiment with new, nutritious foods. You may feel hungry in a way you have not experienced before.
• Enjoy some time together with your life-partner or future co-parent. Build a strong relationship in preparation for caring for your little family together.
Check the next edition of Island Parent for more about how to thrive through your third trimester of pregnancy and early parenting experience.
Eva Bild is a childbirth and lactation educator and grandmother. She is the founder of Mothering Touch, where she facilitates Baby Groups on Tuesday and Thursday mornings. Come and join her. Learn more at motheringtouch.ca
Running as a Family Why it Matters
Iwas ten years old the first time I ran with my dad. He laced up every day, like clockwork, for his regular 7km. One evening, I asked if I could join. We didn’t talk much on that first run, just the sound of feet hitting pavement and the occasional breathy exchange. I made it three kilometres before I had to stop.
“That’s okay,” he said, without missing a beat. “Go at your own pace. Run the distance you can now. One day, you’ll be able to run marathons.”
It wasn’t about speed or distance. It was about showing up, side by side, and moving forward.
Fast forward 45 years. I’m now the one tying my shoes as the sun rises, heading out to run another marathon, this time with my children: Maria and Emma. After years of jogging through parks, tackling trails and sharing rainy runs where we all just wanted hot chocolate after.
And there it was—full circle. I run to stay healthy, yes, but more than that, I run as a quiet homage to the years with my father and the moments I now share with my kids.
Why Run as a Family?
In a world full of screens, packed schedules and growing disconnect between parents and kids (especially teens) running together is a simple, powerful way to bond. It’s one of the few activities that asks almost nothing of you other than time, presence and a pair of running shoes.
You don’t need to talk about feelings. You don’t need a plan or a lesson. You just move together. And in that shared motion, something happens: the walls come down. Conversations
start to flow, sometimes light and silly, sometimes unexpectedly deep. Or maybe no words at all, just the steady rhythm of breath and feet and the understanding that we’re in this together.
Physical & Mental Wins
The health benefits of running are well-documented: better cardiovascular function, stronger bones, improved endurance. But what matters most, especially for kids and teens, is how it supports mental health.
Running helps reduce anxiety and stress, improves sleep and boosts mood-regulating chemicals like dopamine and serotonin. It builds confidence, not just the confidence to run farther or faster, but the deeper kind that comes from mastering your body and calming your mind.
It also builds resilience. Anyone who runs learns to push through discomfort. Kids begin to understand the value of persistence and discipline, lessons that carry into school, friendships and future challenges.
Lessons Passed Down
Running as a family teaches more than just fitness. It teaches patience, self-awareness and respect for others’ limits. My dad taught me that going at my own pace was enough. I tried to teach that to my children. Now they reflect it back to me with compassion and confidence.
And those moments, when your child recognizes your humanity, and you see your younger self in their stride, those are the moments that stay with you.
How to Get Started
1. Start slow. Don’t aim for distance or speed. Just aim to move together, even if it’s for 10 minutes.
2. Make it routine. A weekly run can become a ritual that grounds your family, even through busy seasons.
3. Let everyone lead sometimes. Give your kids a say in where and how you run. Empower them to take ownership.
4. Celebrate effort, not performance. Whether someone walks more than runs or crushes a new personal best, all of it counts.
5. Keep it light. Some runs will feel magical. Others will be a mess. Keep showing up, that’s what matters.
One Foot in Front of the Other
Running has never just been about fitness for me. It’s been about connection, first with my dad, now with my family and friends, and even with myself.
We don’t run in perfect synchrony. Sometimes one of us is faster, sometimes one is struggling. But we’re always together in the effort. That’s what sticks.
If you’ve never run with your kids, consider this your gentle push: lace up and head out. You don’t need a plan. You don’t need a pace. You just need to begin. One day, they might tell you to slow down, and when they do, you’ll know you’ve given them something that lasts far beyond the miles.
Top 5 Family-Friendly Running Spots on Vancouver Island
1. Elk/Beaver Lake Regional Park (Saanich): 10km loop with gentle terrain, wide trails and beautiful water views. Ideal for beginner runners or longer weekend jogs.
2. Galloping Goose Trail (Victoria to Sooke): A versatile, multi-use trail. Choose your own distance—perfect for building up mileage or casual run-walks with teens.
3. Rathtrevor Beach Provincial Park (Parksville): Run along the beach at low tide or take to the forested trails for a cooler, shaded route.
4. Thetis Lake Trails (View Royal): A little more challenging, with rolling terrain and scenic forest paths. Great for families looking to mix hiking and running.
5. Dallas Road Waterfront Trail (Victoria): Flat, open and right along the ocean—catch sea breeze, city views and sometimes even orcas in the distance.
Alexis Santacruz is a lifelong learner, runner and father who believes in the power of resilience, curiosity and purpose. Guided by a deep commitment to help others grow, he shares his experiences to inspire and empower people to reach their full potential, creating meaningful connections and opening doors to opportunity, one story and one step at a time.
Sass & Small Talk
Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood Beyond Burnout
Deb Balino was in the height of “mom burnout” in January of 2024 when she applied for the TELUS STORYHIVE Video Podcast Program.
Balino is a mother of two, homeschool teacher to a child with unique needs, caregiver to her elderly parents and on a journey to navigate her own neurodivergence. She was looking for somewhere to turn for advice, help and a sense of community when it occurred to her that she couldn’t be the only one who felt so overwhelmed and lost.
“I was at the height of my burnout,” she says. “I used to be this fun, dynamic person and then I had my ‘smalls’ (as I call them) and now I am a burnt-out, tired mom. I know I can do better, and I know I am not the only one feeling like this. I lost my sass, and I wanted to find a way to get it back!”
Her video podcast Sass & Small Talk takes a deep dive into the realities of
modern parenting—particularly the challenges of playing an active role in the sandwich generation, navigating neurodivergence and juggling the emotional weight of caregiving. The series features diverse voices, including mental health professionals, late-diagnosed neurodivergent parents, caregivers and community advocates, all sharing their personal stories and expertise.
Balino started the Sass & Smalls blog in 2022 to “let it all hang out” and sees the video podcast as a natural extension of her website.
“I was dealing with a child with high needs, taking care of my parents, homeschooling, managing the aftermath of the pandemic, trying to cope with a history of pregnancy loss and infertility and figuring out everything else life throws at you,” she says.
“I created the blog because I wanted to use my gift of gab to help people find resources and get help.”
Sass & Small Talk
Sass & Small Talk season 1 premiered on April 8 on TELUS Optik TV, Stream+, and STORYHIVE’s Youtube Channel.
Since 2013, TELUS STORYHIVE has supported a community of thousands of local content creators across BC and Alberta, providing over $66.9 million in production funding and creating a safe space for storytellers to hone their skills and bring the projects they care about to life.
Produced with the support of the TELUS STORYHIVE Video Podcast Program for emerging podcasters in BC and Alberta, this series brings raw, insightful conversations to the forefront. It highlights how families in Victoria navigate the complexities of caregiving, career demands and personal fulfillment, while managing the mental load of modern life and parenthood.
“I wanted to bring people together and share their authentic lived experiences,” says Balino.
“By sharing these stories, we are providing hope.”
She brings personal experience and deep empathy to the conversations in her podcast.
“This is who I am supposed to be,” she adds. “It brings me such happiness to know I am helping but also to feel validated. The fact that the professionals at STORYHIVE thought I have what it takes to be a storyteller and a guide in this way means something.
“I think many people—women in particular—are critical of what they put out there in the world but what we have to say has value and owning that is how we get our sass back!”
With a focus on real, locally reflective stories, Sass & Small Talk offers genuine inspiration for parents, caregivers and individuals struggling to balance multiple roles. Through candid
conversations, the podcast explores strategies for overcoming burnout, redefining purpose and rediscovering joy in parenthood.
“In a world where burnout feels inevitable, I wanted to create a space for honest, unfiltered conversations about the struggles of parenthood—especially the challenge of maintaining our sense of self and purpose while caring for others,” says Balino.
“This podcast is about finding humour in the chaos, self-compassion, building community and redefining what it means to thrive—not just survive. Ultimately, it’s about reclaiming joy in parenthood, and getting that ‘sass’ back.”
Sass & Small Talk has been picked up for a second season that will focus on The Many Faces of Parenthood and explore the diverse parenting journeys in Victoria and beyond.
For more information, visit storyhive.com.
Stacie Gaetz is the managing editor of Island Parent Magazine and the proud mama of a delightful daughter and silly son who fill her days with love and chaos. She thoroughly enjoys supporting, connecting with and informing parents through interesting articles like this one. Reach her at editor@islandparent.ca.
Books to Inspire Adventure
Our kids recently asked if we could bike everywhere this summer instead of driving. We told them our plan was to do as much cycling as possible because we love it, they love it, we all get fresh air and there are so many things to see when you’re on a bike. Many of which you wouldn’t be able to see from a car.
On our last bike ride, we saw a bunch of pelicans, ducks and tons of baby geese and their hissing parents. Fortunately, we missed the bear that was wandering around the waters. If you’re looking for some inspiration for adventures with your family, here are a few books to get you moving.
If cycling isn’t your thing and you’re trying to convince your children to go on a road trip this summer, you might consider getting them Summer of Rocks by Jenna Greene. Fair warning, this story, which is about a family with three daughters who go on a road trip through Western Canada to look at potential sites for mines, made me cry. My son did not have the same reaction, so maybe it’s a mother thing, but there is an off-page death in this book to a side character that deeply impacts the six-year-old sister. My son read it in one day and he liked how the chapters were written in the different sisters’ perspectives. Ages 9 to 12.
If your children aren’t at the age where a road trip is feasible, you could explore your own yard or a local park like the young kiddo does in Giant Steps by Anaïs Lambert. In this story, a child steps out of their house to see what they can see: from an epic bug battle, to a train of ants, to bear paws and even a giant! This story is delightful, and in my experience, it’s an accurate portrayal of the way little kids see the world around them. For ages 2 to 5. Another story that features a walk, well hike, is Huxley’s Island Adventure by Haley Healey and illustrated by Kimiko Fraser. This story is about a cat who gets lost on a camping trip and crosses the island to find his way home. It’s like a modern Canadian version of Homeward Bound, and I love it. I love learning about the different flora and fauna on the west coast (both in the story, and in the guide at the end of the book). Fraser’s illustrations are absolutely stunning; it feels like you could walk across Huxley’s island and see all the same
things he saw on his journey. Once you finish reading the story, you can bring it with you to a beach or a forest path and use it to identify the plants and animals you see. For ages 4 to 7.
Maybe your kids feel like the world in your yard and neighbourhood isn’t as exciting as exploring far off places. In that case, you might like reading Earhart: The Incredible Flight of a Field Mouse Around the World written and illustrated by Torben Kuhlmann and translated from German by David Henry Wilson. This book, which is inspired by Amelia Earhart ’round the world flight, follows a young maker mouse who discovers airplanes and sets off on her own world trip. You and your children could stare at the images for hours and still see something new. If your children are curious to learn more about Earhart, the book has several fact sheets at the end. For ages 8 to 12.
Perhaps your kids are into true stories. In that case, you might like Adventure Starts at Bedtime: 30 Real-Life
Christina Van Starkenburg lives with her husband, children and cat. She is the author of One Tiny Turtle: A Story You Can Colour and many articles. To read more of her work and learn about her upcoming books visit christinavanstarkenburg.com. Facebook: facebook.com/christinavanstarkenburg and X: @Christina_VanS.
Stories of Daring and Danger by Ness Knight and illustrated by Qu Lan. Like the title suggests, this book is filled with true stories about adventurers who have come face-to-face with charging rhinos, climbed into active volcanos for science and trekked solo around the world. Each story is filled with beautiful illustrations to bring the tales to life and help your children visualize the different areas of adventure. For ages 8 to 12.
I hope these stories inspire you to get out and explore the world around you. Maybe you could even pop some books in a backpack, fill a basket with food and have a picnic at Clover Point, Swan Lake or Esquimalt Lagoon.
Freshly Harvested
for Your Table Flavours
Afew summers ago, I was pulling up carrots in my garden when an eight-year-old neighbour came up and declared, “I don’t like carrots. They’re gross.” I convinced him to try one of my carrots and had to stop him from eating the whole carrot patch! Why? Because fresh, local carrots taste different from mass-grown carrots from California. They are sweeter and more flavourful.
We did this same demonstration when I ran a school gardening program at six schools in my region using strawberries. All the kids were given a locally grown strawberry and one that came in a plastic clamshell box from the grocery store for a taste test. The fresh local strawberries won every time. They are redder, riper, sweeter and bursting with strawberry flavours. The imported ones are bland in comparison.
There are many farm-ripened, freshly picked crops that taste better—tomatoes, peas, green beans and corn. And if you haven’t tried freshly harvested potatoes, I can assure you, they are nothing like new potatoes that are already a few days old.
Farmers’ markets and local green grocers are a great way to make the most of farm fresh vegetables. Most of these vegetables are also easy to grow in our region. If you don’t have a garden, you can grow strawberries, cherry tomatoes, sweet peas and carrots in a pot!
Here are three recipes that make local produce the star ingredient.
Pasta with Fresh Vegetables
(Prep time: 15 minutes, Cook time 15 minutes)
This pasta is designed to feature whatever vegetables are fresh and available at your local farm stand. I’ve included a list of vegetables below, but feel free to replace them with sweet peppers, zucchini, eggplant, Swiss chard or spinach. However, I don’t recommend replacing farm fresh carrots and peas with their less sweet, mass-grown varieties. It just won’t taste as good.
1 bag of pasta (454g)
3 cups chopped tomatoes
2 cups chopped green beans
1 cup sliced carrots
1 cup of shelled sweet peas
4 cloves of garlic
2 Tbsp olive oil
2 Tbsp butter (or margarine)
1 tsp salt, to taste
1⁄2 tsp freshly ground black pepper, to taste
Bring the pasta water to a boil and cook the pasta while you prepare the vegetables.
The vegetables are measured in cups to make things easy. But it’s fine to have a bit more or a bit less of any vegetable. Chop the tomatoes and green beans into bite-sized pieces. Thinly slice the carrots into rounds and shell the peas. Finely dice the garlic.
Heat the olive oil and butter in a large frying pan. Add the carrots and green beans once the garlic has melted. Sauté for five minutes, then add the rest of the vegetables including the garlic. Cook until the carrots are soft.
Toss the vegetables with the pasta. Add the salt and pepper, taste and add more seasoning if needed. Serve with freshly grated Parmesan cheese.
Apple Bean Salad
(Prep Time: 15 minutes)
This veggie-packed salad turns into a delicious meal when served with a slice of bread.
Salad Dressing
3⁄4 cup olive oil
1⁄2 cup apple cider vinegar
1 tsp mustard powder
2 tsp oregano
1 tsp salt
1⁄8 tsp black pepper
2 cans of chickpeas
2 cans of red kidney beans
1 lb green beans
2 sweet red peppers
2 medium-sized carrots
2 apples
Mix the salad dressing in the bottom of a large bowl.
Rinse the canned beans to remove any excess brine.
Dice the green beans and peppers into bite-sized pieces. Coarsely grate the carrots. Peel and chop the apples into bitesized pieces.
Toss the beans, vegetables and apples in the salad dressing. Taste and add more salt and pepper, if necessary.
This salad can be eaten right away; however, it is best if made in advance so the flavours can mix.
Strawberry Salad Dressing
(Prep Time: 2 minutes)
This salad dressing is simple and delicious. It’s not particularly sweet, which means it’s perfect with all your usual
savoury salad toppings. Buy a big bag of mixed greens from the farmer’s market along with your favourite salad ingredients!
1 cup of sliced strawberries
1⁄4 cup olive oil
2 Tbsp balsamic vinegar (or apple cider vinegar)
1⁄4 tsp salt
Slice the strawberries. Toss in the bottom of the salad bowl or in a jar with the olive oil, vinegar and salt.
Leave to marinate for at least five minutes or up to an hour before serving. If mixed in advance, this salad dressing will last for up to five days in the fridge.
Emillie Parrish loves having adventures with her two busy children. You can find more of her recipes in her cookbook Fermenting Made Simple. fermentingforfoodies.com
A Different Kind of Grandparenting
Ilearned with great happiness that I was going to be a firsttime grandma over three years ago. But then I got nervous.
I was no ordinary grandma. How would I do it with a chronic illness? Surrounded by “assistive devices” like a walker, scooter, cane and leg brace, it was going to be tricky, challenging and downright awkward… maybe.
There are many kinds of grandparents out there and a myriad of ways to get to know our grandkids. What if you live far away? We have choices like never before. Phone calls, Skype, FaceTime, videos, texts, email, snail mail and more. Even though I live in the same city as my grandson, I occasionally send him a photo or short video clip of some activity he might like. This age of technology is keeping us close.
My “unusual” style began the day after he was born. I sat comfortably in a chair while this little bundle of joy was brought to me. I was grinning ear-to-ear looking down at this baby, and suddenly I knew it would be all right. It was going
to be a bit like being a first-time mom, learning and adapting along the way. My grown children wanted me in their child’s life. Yes, there were times when I wished I could scoop him up and walk around like everybody else, and felt sorry for myself because I would never get to hold his little hand and walk beside him. Little did I know, the fun was soon to begin.
At about nine months old, he had the strength, dexterity and willingness to sit in my walker basket and be pushed around. I marched him down the halls of my condo, knocking on doors and introducing him to my friends. People in my 55-plus building loved seeing him, and his parents got a short break to sit and relax. When he got bigger, the walker seat worked just as well, backward or forward facing. We checked out the Halloween decorations on residents’ doors, pictures on the walls and Christmas décor in December. His curiosity was boundless as he began talking and naming things.
My favourite memory is from last summer. My son-inlaw and grandson met me at Mr. Tubs for ice cream. I saw this place from new eyes, that of a child, as the one-anda-half-year-old watched in fascination at all the activity: a games room, plenty of interactive play and excited kids. Beside the shop, there was a busy construction site with backhoes, dump trucks and a giant crane. My grandson’s eyes lit up as we went out the door, action surrounding us. I was on my scooter, and we meandered over to Hampton Park to find the kid’s playground. On the way back, to the thrill of this grandma, Benny rode on my scooter with me, first in my lap and then standing up.
Now I send him short video clips of construction equipment in action. He is two-and-a-half, and the first time I heard “Hi Grandma” it was another thrill. The connection is there, as strong as a heartbeat.
I have plenty of treasured memories with this little guy and can’t wait for his baby brother to be born. I’m so grateful for my family, and that my kids have made it possible for me to be the best grandma I can be. Don’t be shy, there’s always a work-around for every situation.
Kathy McWhirter lives in beautiful Victoria with her partner and family close by. She loves her sassy calico and is currently writing a cat story on her blog. To learn more about her books and writing, visit her website at kathymcwhirter.com.
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PRESCHOOL & CHILDCARE SPOTLIGHT
Even When You Mess Up, It’s
Good
for Your Kids
You read that headline right. This quote from Tina Payne Bryson got my attention.
I was recently invited to a presentation titled Parenting with the Brain in Mind by Payne Bryson, PhD, clinician, consultant and internationally recognized coauthor of The Whole Brain Child.
As she walked across the stage and said these 10 unusual words, you could see every parent in the room snap to attention.
She followed this innovative thinking with another impactful quote, “When we ‘flip our lid,’ it is actually beneficial to our kids.”
“When I flip my lid, I force myself to look into my children’s faces,” says Payne Bryson.
“I remind myself that I am their safe place, and what I did was not okay. Then I can choose to encourage them to make fun of me, ‘Wow! That wasn’t okay, was it? Let’s reenact what I looked like!”
“And I can model putting my hand on my chest and one on my belly and taking a longer exhale than inhale. I can apologize and ask for a do-over.”
The concept that we can and should repair our bonds with our kids when we make a mistake should be more talked about and celebrated. Parents today are the first generation that is actively working on repairing ourselves so we can be better for our kids.
“When we reflect and find meaning in our own history, we can move forward,” says Payne Bryson.
We are reading books, watching videos and webinars, listening to audiobooks and podcasts to do everything in our power to make sure our children feel safe. When you are putting that much time and energy into something you care about so deeply, you need to hear that it is okay if you don’t get it right every time.
We want our children to know that our love and attention doesn’t depend on them never making a mistake. In fact, making mistakes is the most effective way for their brain to learn.
We want them to apologize when they have wronged someone, and we want them to work to make it right. How do we ever expect them to do that if we don’t model that behaviour? The old adage “do what I say, not what I do” just doesn’t fly anymore. So, if we want them to take ownership when they have done something wrong, we must do the same—over and over again.
This works the other way too. We need to model forgiveness and empathy as well.
Payne Bryson mentioned something else that really hit home for me during a story she told about her son when he was younger. She said she picked him up from school and told him she was taking him to the movie theatre, but his initial excitement melted away and he acted out when she told him they couldn’t get popcorn.
“At that moment, I was thinking, ‘If he is this spoiled, no one is ever going to give him a job and he is going to be all alone and live in a van by the river and…’ Does anyone else catastrophize like this?”
Her point was that she was tempted to scold him for acting “spoiled” but her reaction would have been in response to how she was feeling about the situation, not the real reason behind his behaviour. See our story about systems feelings by Dr. Allison Rees on page 10 for more on this.
We can ask our kids why something is upsetting them and get to the root of the problem. We can be there for them. We
can show up. We can teach them that relationships are messy but that doesn’t mean they are over.
That way, even when they are watching us freak out, they know it is going to be over soon, and we will come to them and make it okay. Allowing us to still be their safe place, even on our hardest day.
This is such a refreshing take for me and something I think many parents need to hear.
Our kids need to know that it is okay if they make mistakes and that we will be there for them no matter what. Many of us did not have that (or apologies) from our parents when we were growing up, so we are all learning how to open this line of communication together. And it’s expected to make mistakes when you are learning something new.
Payne Bryson ended her presentation by saying, “What your children need most from you is you; flawed you, imperfect you, freaked out you… You are the key to helping them feel safe, seen, soothed and secure.”
Now take a moment and read that quote again.
Stacie Gaetz is the managing editor of Island Parent Magazine and the proud mama of a delightful daughter and silly son who fill her days with love and chaos. She thoroughly enjoys supporting, connecting with and informing parents through interesting articles like this one. Reach her at editor@islandparent.ca.
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Youth Poet Laureate Sheds Light on Indigenous Connections
Victoria’s Youth Poet Laureate is shining a light on intergenerational trauma and the connections of Indigenous people through her poems.
Shauntelle (Huupʔaqsa, TSAYŁE) Dick-Charleson, 23, has been writing poetry for seven years. She started writing in Grade 10 English class at Reynolds Secondary School but didn’t truly connect with her writing until she wrote a poem called “I Was There.”
“That poem was about being present—in spirit—when my grandparents were in residential school. It touched on intergenerational trauma and the deep connections we carry as Indigenous people,” says Dick-Charleson.
“Writing became something I needed to do—a way to educate others, to process my own experiences and to share what it’s like to be an Indigenous woman in this world.”
Her poetry explores a wide range of topics: the impacts of residential schools, Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women (MMIW), intergenerational trauma and heartbreak, mixed with some lighthearted pieces (like the one about being a lonely pinecone).
Dick-Charleson was named Victoria’s Youth Poet Laureate in March, along with the Poet Laureate Kyeren Regehr.
“(It) is such an honour—and being the first Indigenous person to receive the title means even more,” she says.
“I hope it shows younger Indigenous generations that their voices matter, and that they can express themselves in powerful ways outside of sports or traditional expectations. My grandfather, Skip Dick, once told me he wrote poetry during his time in residential school and hearing him say he’s proud of what I’m doing now means the world to me.”
Poet Laureates serve as literary ambassadors, sparking creativity and meaningful conversation across the city. As Youth Poet Laureate, Dick-Charleson’s role involves attending City Hall meetings where she performs poems, creates her own events and connects with the community through the arts.
“It’s a position that allows me to both represent youth voices and bring poetry into civic spaces in a meaningful way,” she says.
The chance to use poetry to make an impact, especially as an Indigenous youth, was something she says she couldn’t pass up.
“We’re delighted to have the talents of Kyeren and Shauntelle
representing the City as Poet Laureates,” said Victoria Mayor Marianne Alto.
“I look forward to seeing their work inspire and connect residents of all ages through the power of poetry.”
Dick-Charleson shares her poetry through spoken-word events, poetry slams, school performances and online. She’s also been hired to perform at community gatherings and cultural events.
“For me, poetry—especially as an Indigenous poet—is about keeping storytelling alive,” she says.
“It’s about creating space for truth, for emotion and for people to speak openly and honestly. It’s not just about performance; it’s about connection. And while I focus on Indigenous identity and struggle, I also emphasize the beauty of being Indigenous. After many performances, I’ve had people tell me, ‘I didn’t know that about Indigenous people.’ That’s why I keep going—because awareness starts with stories.”
She says if someone is thinking about trying poetry but isn’t sure where to start, she encourages them to be open to it.
“Try some writing prompts, give yourself time and don’t worry about perfection,” she adds.
“It takes time to find your voice and to feel confident performing. I’ve had so many mentors along the way who helped guide me, and I wouldn’t be where I am without them.
“There’s so much in life you can explore—and poetry is just one way to understand yourself and others better. There are so many different voices and styles out there—poetry really does mean something different to everyone, and that’s what makes it powerful.”
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Choosing Adventure Amid Crisis
For as long as I can remember, I’ve believed in the transformative power of travel. In my younger, itinerary-free days of backpacking and wander-lusting, I chased experiences and collected stories. But I never imagined one of the most meaningful journeys I’d ever take would begin not with a passport stamp, but with a frantic call, a heavy heart and a two-day scramble to leave Vancouver Island.
When a family emergency pulled us across the country with little notice, logic (and today’s economy) told us to send just one person: my husband. Flights off the island are notoriously expensive, especially last minute. But something deeper made us pause. My father-inlaw needed us. And while the details of his declining health are too tender
to share, we knew this trip was about more than just being there. It was about our children immersing in the everyday moments with their grandfather—staring contests, magic tricks, knock-knock jokes, a sweet prayer of gratitude. It was about holding onto their special connection while the chance was still there.
What followed was a 48-hour whirlwind of canceled appointments, arranging care for my own elderly parents and coordinating homeschool and therapies. It meant missing my son’s spring concert, clearing out the fridge, setting up plant watering and transferring files to work remotely—with no return date in sight. It was costly, chaotic and it was absolutely the right thing to do.
What we didn’t expect was how this unplanned journey—laced with grief and
uncertainty—would become a chance to reconnect as a family. Amidst the emotional weight, we found something surprisingly grounding. A reminder that even in crisis, travel can bring us closer.
We chose to see the journey to our destination as an adventure. Especially since the destination—a hospital room— would be as heavy as one would expect. That shift in mindset made all the difference, even for my husband, whose heart was especially burdened.
We made choices that helped ease the process. Travelling light (a miracle for us!) made a difference. Rather than packing for every “what if,” we chose only the essentials. We walked onto the ferry instead of driving, then used rideshares to reach the airport. After an awkward standoff between a taxi and a standby Uber (a definite no-no, apparently), we were finally enroute—booster seat in tow.
The biggest shock of all? We were six hours early for our flight. We are not early people. But those quiet hours before takeoff felt like a gift. In a life filled with caregiving and appointments, the absence of rushing was profoundly calming.
We chose a red-eye flight, and I won’t pretend it was easy. But the kids managed to find a few fetal-like positions that got them four solid hours of rest. There was even a minor monorail mishap (one too many loops before realizing we were heading the wrong way), but that only added to the memories— and the “I told you so’s.”
After landing, we found ourselves in the city where my husband and I began our life together. Showing our kids the skyline that shaped our younger years felt like a full-circle moment. Their little faces pressed against the window, watching the web of highways, will stay with me forever.
Eventually, we boarded the VIA Rail for the final stretch of our 25hour journey: a train ride through the countryside. We sat face-to-face at a table—playing games, sharing snacks
and actually talking. We laughed. We napped. The kids argued, then made up. Real connection—the kind that gets buried in the daily grind—rose to the surface.
This wasn’t a vacation. It was a mission. Fueled by urgency, love and sacrifice, sprinkled with worry. But our kids didn’t just survive it. They found wonder in it. They were resilient. And through the discomfort, exhaustion and unpredictability, they grew. They learned to pivot.
For those of us in the sandwich generation, the weight of caregiving on both ends can feel relentless. There’s often guilt in choosing one side over the other. But sometimes, there’s a way to blend both—to bring generations together, to model presence and compassion even in chaos.
And yes, we leaned hard on our village back home to pick up the pieces we left behind (there were plenty). But this journey reminded us that not all adventures are about escape. Some are about arrival—arriving in the hard moments, fully present. And in doing so, we discover that even the heaviest of journeys can carry moments of light.
Deb Balino is Vancouver Islandbased writer, sandwich-gen mom of two and host of Sass & Small Talk, a podcast created with TELUS STORYHIVE. She shares real, raw stories about parenting, caregiving, burnout and raising a neurodivergent family—while juggling homeschool, chaos and a whole lotta sass. @sassandsmalls. sassandsmalls.com.
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Helping Your Teen Land a Summer Job
Iknow how hard it is for teens to get their first summer job. For one thing, they don’t have much experience to put on their resume.
However, the hardest part is putting themselves out there. In the world of texts and emails, most teens barely know how to talk on the phone, let alone walk up to a stranger and hand them a resume.
Last season, my teen got his first summer job bussing tables and washing dishes at an extremely busy tea shop in downtown Victoria. (If you’ve sat in that historic tea shop, you know the one I mean!)
The benefits of landing that first job were huge. We wanted him to get a job so his entire summer wouldn’t be spent waffling between screen time and boredom. We wanted him to learn the value of money and how to balance saving with spending.
However, the most important benefits were unexpected. Max’s self-confidence and maturity grew tremendously with the responsibility. Suddenly, he was working with university students who were thinking about the cost of rent and food, which made him think more seriously about his future. He learned to pace himself through a very busy day. And we got to enjoy some delicious leftover pastries—every job has its perks!
Rules
There are government employment rules that limit how much teens can work and what they are allowed to do. It is much easier to get a job for teens that are over the age of 16. There are strict employment rules for teens younger than that. However, many people, including my son, get their first job before they’re 16. Here are a few of the rules for hiring teens aged 13 to 15:
• There are limits on how much they can work. For example, they cannot work more than four hours on a school day or more than seven hours on a non-school day.
• They can only do light work.
• Teens must be under the direct supervision of someone who is at least 19 years old.
• Once the teens turn 16, they have all the same employment rules as adults.
For more details, check out the BC rules for hiring young people at gov.bc.ca.
First Steps
It’s hard for your teen to fill out a resume if they haven’t had a job but no one expects teens to have long resumes. A single page is sufficient. They can share where they go to school, what grade they’re in and any school-based achievements or activities.
Extracurriculars and volunteer activities all count as experi-
ence. If they don’t have a lot of extracurricular activities, make a section titled “Interests” instead. This is another way for teens to show potential employers they are engaged and interested in their community.
Here are a few ways for teens to gain experience for their re sume:
• Volunteer: There are many places to volunteer in our com munity, so let them choose something they are interested in. Vol unteer positions are also a great way to get references.
• Junior camp counsellor: Many larger summer camp organi zations have a junior counsellor program. These can be volun teer-based (like Science Ventures) or paid programs.
• Training programs and certificates: gram that students can do online. Community centres often offer babysitting programs. High schools sometimes offer low-cost or free programs like basic First Aid and Food Safe.
Take The Plunge
Probably the biggest challenge for most teens is the actual application process. It’s hard to put yourself out there with strangers. Some companies, like McDonalds and grocery stores, offer online applications.
However, teens who haven’t already got a work-based reference on their resume will do better with in-person applications. This allows potential employers to assess the maturity of a 15-year-old applicant prior to the interview process.
Here are some tips for getting a reluctant teen to hand out their resume:
• Print off four resumes to hand out every Saturday until they start getting interviews.
• Walk with them to the stores and wait outside while they hand in their resume. Then ask them how it went and help them refine their process.
• The first few resumes will be the hardest, so don’t hand out a resume at their favourite locations until they’ve practiced a few times elsewhere.
• If they are reluctant, add a financial incentive. In my son’s case, he wanted to go on a school trip. We agreed to sign him up, only if he paid for half of the cost by getting a summer job.
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