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features 10 | LIFE UNDER THE BIG TOP

commentary + parenting 28 | MOMMY MAGIC

An interview with the Lacey family

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Wife, mother and owner of Sarah Fisher Hartman racing


Stay-at-home dad, Pete Gilbert

health 14


around town

40 | COPING WITH CHILDHOOD CANCER Facing the diagnosis

46 | BOARDING SCHOOLS Making an informed decision about your child's education


POLITICALLY-SAVVY KIDS 10 tips for parents





Explore your child's creative side

Dealing with secondary infertility





A family tradition in Central Indiana


special needs 34 | BUILDING SOCIAL SKILLS IN KIDS WITH AUTISM Tips for parents

38 | GROWING THEIR NEST One couple's story of adoption

resources 34 42 51 57 58

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ON THE COVER Alexander, Elaine and Katrina Lacey of the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus

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Indy’s Child

[ publisher’s note ]

The Museum of Miniature Houses and Other Collections A real treasure for families in Central Indiana Twenty years ago, miniature furniture and Landshof and the late Nancy Lesh began to worry about the fate of smaller-than-life collectibles. They furniture, painstakingly built and collected by local artisans, were so precious that they should be


preserved for future generations. In 1993, these three women opened The Museum of Miniature Houses and Other Collections right here in


Carmel, Indiana. I first visited the Museum of Miniature Houses and

second visit to the museum just last month and

EDITOR Katie Wynne |


believed that dollhouses and miniature period

entire collection in under an hour. I paid my

PUBLISHER Mary Wynne Cox |


dollhouse enthusiasts Suzie Moffett, Suzanne

Other Collections in the 90s—you could see the


There is a “hands-on” dollhouse where children can use their own creative imagination and arrange the furnishings and move the family occupants and pets from room to room.

brought my friends from the Junior League of Indianapolis with me. We were overwhelmed at the 800+ square foot addition and the eight rooms displaying 12 magnificent


dollhouses and at least 30 elegant rooms filled with period furnishings—the museum was much larger than I had remembered. Over the years, the museum has gotten a reputation for meticulous and gentle care for all of its collectibles. Due to this sterling reputation, collectors from all over the United States are donating their miniatures to the Carmel museum so they can leave a family legacy that can truly be appreciated and cared for. The museum features one “hands-on” dollhouse (see picture). The rest of the exhibits are for visitors to enjoy and get an idea about what life was like for our ancestors. Among these exhibits is one that features the American Girls room boxes. The staff at the museum are all volunteers with the exception of one part-time staff member who helps coordinate activities and

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Barbara Wynne, Marge Eberts & Peggy Gisler, Katie Wynne, Carrie Bishop, Sarah McCosham, Brooke Reynolds, Katrina R. Holtmeier, Taylor Newell, Pete Gilbert, Mary Susan Buhner, St.Vincent Hospital, Denise Morrison Yearian, Cathy Southerland – Children’s Museum, Dr. Boaz Karmazyn – Riley Hospital for Children

volunteers. These dedicated volunteers are in short supply, however. In order to hold more workshops at the museum, more volunteers are needed! If you are interested in volunteering, please call 317-575-9466. The museum changes its displays often. Suzie Moffett says both the attic and basement are full of treasures that rotate through the museum. You can visit the museum between Wednesday and Sunday of each week. During January, the museum will be closed for three weeks for cleaning and inventory. Admission for adults is $5 and admission for children under 10 is $3. For families building dollhouses or scale-model miniatures, there is a gift shop with period furniture, accessories and even chandeliers.


CONTACT US 921 E. 86th Street., Suite 130 | Indianapolis, IN 46240 PHONE: 317.722.8500 | FAX: 317.722.8510 EMAIL:

Suzie Moffett’s late husband, Paul, was the electrician for many of the displays. He partnered in setting up the house and organizing the storage. In his memory are two period benches on Main Street by the main entrance of the museum. If you are looking for something new to do with your family this November, be sure to check out the Museum of Miniature Houses and Other Collections. There are many mediums of art, and building miniatures and dollhouses is one of them! Expose your children to some art and culture this month, and read our article “Introducing Your Child to the Arts” to find out why.

Barbara Wynne Founding Publisher 6 INDYSCHILD.COM

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the children's museum of indianapolis displays a gathering of glass from the collection of marilyn k. glick In celebration of the 50th anniversary of studio glass The world's largest children's museum joins the Indiana Glass Arts Alliance in celebrating the 50th Anniversary of Studio Glass with pieces from the collection of Marilyn K. Glick - A Gathering of Glass along with Dale Chihuly's Fireworks of Glass, his largest permanent installation. "Glass is one of many art forms the museum is proud to display while instilling the love of art and creating extraordinary learning opportunities in the arts regarding the creation of glass, its design and rising popularity," said Dr. Jeffrey H. Patchen, president and CEO, The Children's Museum of Indianapolis. The blown, cut, cast, metal-etched and vessels of glass from Glick's collection are a wonderful complement to the world's largest permanent installation of blown glass by artist Dale Chihuly. Fireworks of Glass was installed in 2006 as a permanent exhibit. The 43-foot-tall tower consists of more than 3,200 pieces of individually blown pieces of glass that rise above a "floating" pergola ceiling of 1,600 pieces of blown glass, which covers an innovative hands-on glassblowing exhibit. The museum will display a portion of Marilyn Glick's personal glass collection from now through December 2012, so be sure to check it out with your family. To learn more, visit

the hero project Turning ordinary kids into super heroes

the junior league of indianapolis holiday mart Coming to Indianapolis this November A favorite tradition in the Indianapolis area, the 2012 Holiday Mart brings more than 100 unique merchants from across the country to the Marsh Blue Ribbon Pavilion at the Indiana State Fairgrounds. The Junior League of Indianapolis Holiday Mart is one of the largest shows in the Midwest! The annual Holiday Mart has served as the primary fundraising activity for the League since 1970. The Junior League of Indianapolis is an organization of women committed to promoting voluntarism, developing the potential of women, and improving the community through the effective action and leadership of trained volunteers. Its purpose is exclusively educational and charitable. The 2012 Holiday Mart is going on Wednesday, November 14th through Sunday, November 18th at the Marsh Blue Ribbon Pavilion at the Indiana State Fairgrounds. Get your tickets in advance for $10 or $15 at the door. For more information, visit

a visit to the indiana state museum The “First Thanksgiving” was a three-day feast of local foods shared between the Pilgrims and the Native Americans. This holiday season, pay a visit to the Indiana State Museum where you can learn more about the Native Americans and how they influenced our country’s history.

Peyton Manning Children’s Hospital at St. Vincent and The Hero Project have teamed up to start building heroes – one cape at a time. Their powerful trio of community service, volunteer efforts, and fundraising opportunities work together to provide something special for each child who visits Peyton Manning Children’s Hospital – a super cape! Heroes come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. The Hero Project believes in all kinds of heroes (especially the really small ones), and hopes that you will too! There are many ways to become involved in this project. You have the amazing superhero ability to: — Order out of this world superhero gear, like Capes, Defender Cuffs, Bandit Masks or Tutus! — Create your own capes for the kids who spend the night at the hospital. The Hero Project offers “Sew” and “No Sew” tutorials to help you and your family, friends, sports team or service group to make the perfect cape. Starting November 1st, the Hero Project will also offer personalized Naughty List and Nice List certificates as well as super letters that you can send your little hero straight from the big man himself…Santa Claus!

Beginning approximately 14,000 years ago and spanning the millennia, the first inhabitants of Indiana developed diverse cultures, beliefs, arts and tools to suit their varied needs and environments. At the Indiana State Museum, The Native Americans exhibit uses archaeological discoveries to demonstrate these changing innovations and cultures. Through scenes that mix cast figures and artifacts, this gallery looks at spirituality, family life, political structures and art from this period of Indiana’s story. The Thanksgiving holiday is not just about good food, it’s about giving thanks, spending time with your family, and reflecting on your heritage. This Thanksgiving, teach your children the meaning of Thanksgiving and how it originally started with a trip to the Indiana State Museum. For more information, visit

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[ circus family profile ]


Under the Big Top An interview with the Lacey family Katie Wynne

adies and gentlemen, boys and girls, meet the one-and-only Lacey family of the Greatest Show on Earth, the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus. Alexander Lacey, the Big Cats Trainer and Presenter, and his wife, Elaine, travel with the circus year-round with their 8-year-old daughter, Katrina. This unconventional family has been with the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus for the past 10 months, but have been working with animals and circuses their whole lives. Alexander grew up with lion cubs as his playmates. His parents owned two zoos in England and got into the circus business when he was just 4-years-old. Having grown up in the circus life, Alexander can’t imagine doing anything else. “The circus isn’t a job, it’s a way of life, especially when you work with the animals. It’s not a job that starts at 9 in the morning and ends at 5. We’re here 24/7 all year round. I love it. We all love it,” said Alexander. Elaine had a similar upbringing – her family owned a circus in Ireland. Since Elaine was 6-years-old, she has been performing. She started as a trapeze artist, and now works with Alexander in his act with the big cats. Elaine and Alexander met when he came to work for her family’s circus in Ireland about 14 years ago, and the rest is history. They both accepted contracts to work for a circus in Germany before accepting a spot with Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey in America. 10 INDYSCHILD.COM

At first, the Lacey family was nervous about their move from Europe to America. Katrina, who had never lived outside of Germany, was scared that she wouldn’t like her new home in the U.S. Since the move, however, the Lacey family couldn’t be happier. For Katrina, the best part about her new life in America is the travelling school. The Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus has two teachers that travel with the troupe. The teachers hold classes for all of the children who travel with the circus, following the same curriculum and grade levels as regular schools do. “When we finally came to America, [Katrina] was very nervous about it. I told her she would be going to school and she said she didn’t want to go. I told her: ‘Well you can go for an hour, and if you don’t like it, then we will come and pick you up.’ And of course, when we went to pick her up after an hour she didn’t want to leave. There are so many kids on this show that Katrina has her choice of friends, just like in regular life! She absolutely loves it.,” said Elaine. Along with school, Katrina also takes gymnastics classes and ballet lessons. Education and enrichment are very important to Alexander and Elaine, so they are thrilled to see Katrina enjoying her classes and getting involved. For Elaine, the best part of working with Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey is that she gets to spend time with her daughter every single day.

“For many circus performers in Europe, their dream is to one day work for Ringling Bros. in America, the Greatest Show on Earth. They really look out for you here. When you have kids, they have a great school and a great nursery. It’s great because I work in the same place that my daughter goes to school. For a lot of people that aren’t in Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus, they have to send their kids to boarding school or leave them with relatives. That’s just not an option for Alex and I. We eat dinner as a family every night and I think that’s the way it should be. You should be with your child every single day and have input in their life,” said Elaine.

The circus isn’t a job, it’s a way of life, especially when you work with the animals. It’s not a job that starts at 9 in the morning and ends at 5. We’re here 24/7 all year round. I love it. We all love it.

For Alexander, working with the big cats in an environment where his family is happy as well is the best part of working with Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey. Alexander’s family has been breeding lions and tigers for the past 45 years, and currently Alexander cares for 14 lions and tigers and one leopard. The cats range in age from 2-years-old to 18-years-old and all have their own personalities.

family’s long history of breeding and caring for the majestic animals and hopes to work with them for the rest of his life. “Even if I wasn’t in the circus I would still be working with lions and tigers because I love it. I love big cats and that’s why I dedicate so much of my time to them. It’s a lot of hard work to care for animals properly, and you have to sacrifice a lot of your own time for the animals. I do what I do because of the animals,” said Alexander. In the past 10 months, the Lacey family has traveled all around the United States performing in a new city every week. On their days off, they try and visit as many places as they can.

“With the circus, we are traveling all over the country and get to see so many different parts of it. We’ve only been here 10 months, and I think we’ve seen more of the country than a lot of Americans have,” said Alexander.

“They are all very different – much like people. What’s important is that when people come to see the show, they have to go away realizing what a great relationship I have with the animals and how happy and content they are and what great condition they are in. It’s more important for me to present my animals than to present myself.”

This November, the Lacey family and the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus are making their way to Indianapolis. From November 29 to December 2, come one, come all to see the Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey's newest show, Dragons, at the Banker’s Life Fieldhouse. Tickets to the show start at $20, and include a “behindthe-scenes” look at the circus animals and performers.

Alexander loves his animals and often finds himself spending more time with the big cats than his own family, as Elaine playfully reminds him. He plans to continue his

“There’s something for everyone at the circus, people really do love the show,” said Alexander.

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[ pediatric health ]

From Dark Days to Hope Dr. David Schwartz donates time to save a spine, and a life.

Salma Suleiman walked on tiptoe—just one—to accommodate the 170-degree curve in her spine. Her right hip and right shoulder blade nearly met where the tips of the C-curve of her backbone ended. The deformity was shocking. And if left untreated, it would eventually kill her. Salma’s lungs and heart had no room to function, which meant that the 12-year-old was winded after only a few steps. Worse, her organs could withstand the constant pressure for only so long. Resources were scarce in Salma’s hometown of Nairobi, Kenya, and surgeons at the National Spine Injury Hospital there were unable to tackle her complicated case. A mission trip to Kenya brought NuVasive Spine Foundation doctors to Salma, and thus began the search for a U.S. physician who could tackle her surgery. It was OrthoIndy Orthopedic Surgeon Dr. David Schwartz and Peyton Manning Children’s Hospital at St.Vincent that stepped up and provided Salma’s medical services free of charge. After that thrilling development but before she could travel to the United States, Salma lost her mother to complications from childbirth. Two months later, distraught and in physical pain, Salma flew to Indianapolis with her guardian and a Kenyan physician. Her situation seemed to go from bad to worse when Dr. Schwartz, during his initial consultation, explained that the surgery could leave Salma paralyzed. He estimated a 20-30 percent chance of paralysis. Salma’s tears flowed, but she moved forward, heading into the 12-hour surgery on the morning of January 4, 2012. Dr. Joseph Riina, an Orthopedic Spine Surgeon at OrthoIndy, assisted Dr. Schwartz with a posterior spinal fusion with instrumentation—not the original plan but one necessitated by the extremity of Salma’s condition. “Initially, we were going to try and do an osteotomy, where we cut through, remove some bone, and then realign the spine,” said Dr. Schwartz. “But once we saw her spine, we realized that her spinal cord was in such bad condition that she could become paralyzed if we proceeded with the procedure.”


The surgery reduced the curvature of Salma’s spine from 170 degrees to 70 degrees. She grew an instant ten inches overnight from the procedure and was able to walk the length of the hospital hallways just a week later. After rehabilitation at NuVasive’s San Diego headquarters, Salma headed back home to Kenya. But first she made a call to Dr. Schwartz from the airport, letting him know that she was in no pain and full of optimism. The young girl has left an indelible mark on the surgeon who came to her aid. “I can’t tell you how excited and happy I am for Salma,” Dr. Schwartz said. “She has touched my life in ways I can’t even tell you. My hope is that I can give her a good life in the future. I think we’ve saved her—we’ve really saved her.” Salma seems to agree: “I was losing my hope,” she said, “and Dr. Schwartz brought my hope back.” To learn more about Salma’s story and watch the video, visit

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[ pediatric health ]

Children and CT Scans What parents should know Dr. Boaz Karmazyn Dr. Boaz Karmazyn is the Medical Director of Pediatric Radiology at Riley Hospital for Children at Indiana University Health.

Every year, more than 4 million children undergo computed tomography or CT scans. Recently, media headlines have highlighted a new study that reviewed the potential increased risk of cancer in children who have these tests. If your doctor has ordered a CT scan for your child, what do you need to know before the test is performed?

What is a CT scan? A CT or computed tomography scan is a series of X-rays that are taken from different angles and combined to create cross-sectional images. A CT scan is the best way to evaluate many head and body injuries as well as abnormalities.

What did the study find? A recent study published in the medical journal, The Lancet*, concluded that children who undergo several CT scans may have an increased risk of leukemia or brain tumors. The study showed that children under 15 years old who had two or three scans that delivered a certain level of radiation tripled their risk of cancer. This translates roughly to one excess case of leukemia and one excess brain tumor per 10,000 children undergoing a CT scan. However, cancer is very common and 40 percent of all people will be diagnosed with it during their lifetime. The potential added risk from CT scan is therefore very small.

What does this mean for my child? CT scans are an incredibly valuable tool which can be lifesaving and help diagnose and manage many childhood disorders and injuries. The benefits of a CT scan, when indicated and performed appropriately, far outweigh the risks or potential risks.


At Riley Hospital for Children at Indiana University Health, pediatric radiologists review every request for a CT scan and, when appropriate, advise physicians to perform a different test that can just as accurately determine a health condition, injury, or disorder.

Are all CT scans the same? No. Riley at IU Health is one of the few sites in the country that uses techniques to tailor the CT scan settings according to a child’s size. CT scans administered at Riley at IU Health use radiation doses that are markedly lower than those reviewed in the study published in The Lancet.

What can I do to limit my child’s radiation exposure? The American College of Radiology (ACR) recommends that you keep a record of your child’s X-ray history. Before your child receives any test, ask your physician the following questions: >

How will this exam improve my child’s healthcare?


Are there alternatives that do not use radiation which are equally as good?


Will my child receive a “kid-size” radiation dose?


Is this facility ACR-accredited?

For more information, visit

*Pearce, MS, Salotti, JA, Little, MP, et al. Radiation exposure from CT scans in childhood and subsequent risk of leukemia and brain tumours: A retrospective cohort study. Lancet, early online publication, June 7, 2012: doi:10.1016/SO1406736(12)60815-0

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Circle of Lights

Celebrates 50 Years

A family tradition in Central Indiana On November 23, the evening after Thanksgiving, 100,000 Hoosiers will come together on Monument Circle to celebrate the 50th anniversary of the Circle of Lights presented by the contractors of Quality Connection and electrical workers of IBEW 481. Taylor Newell

The annual event will feature a live show by performers

member organization representatives, will

selected through a statewide talent search audition. The

each receive a $1,000 college savings

show begins at 6 p.m. and is broadcast live at 7 p.m. on


RTV-6, and the lights will be flipped on at around 7:45 p.m. While this year’s celebration will bring back many of

But the fun and creativity leading up to the

its popular features from years past, its sponsors are also

historic 50th anniversary celebration isn’t

introducing an array of new programs and attractions in

limited to just kids – adults will also have

celebration of the community event’s 50th anniversary.

the opportunity to contribute. A usergenerated content web page, an open

Beginning November 1, the Circle of Lights Coloring

forum for community input, will be available

Contest returns, which has been a family-favorite part of

through Jan. 12 on Quality Connection’s

the event for more than two decades. Kids 12 and

website, allowing anyone to submit their

younger are invited to draw and color their own design

own experiences from past Circle of Lights celebrations.

on an official coloring sheet depicting a large blank

Visitors are encouraged to share their first-hand

Christmas light bulb. One young artist will be

experiences or stories from their parents and relatives,

selected to “flip the switch” on the 4,784 lights

and will even be able to upload photographs. The page

strung from the Soldiers and Sailors Monument

will remain accessible until the décor is taken down in

during this year’s Circle of Lights. On top of that

January so that stories and photographs from this year’s

privilege, he or she will get to meet Santa, have their

event can be posted as well. The web page can be

winning artwork framed and receive a free t-shirt.

accessed at

As a new feature this year, a Circle of Lights Essay

To ensure that the very special 50th celebration of the

greatest holiday tradition. This outstanding annual event

Contest will be offered in celebration of the 50th

Circle of Lights is remembered by future generations, a

would not exist today without the dedication and

anniversary. Teens aged 13 – 18 have the opportunity

collection of mementos from the event will be enclosed

generosity of the contractors of Quality Connection and

to enter the contest, challenging them to write in 500

in a 50th anniversary Circle of Lights time capsule,

electrical workers of IBEW 481, who now not only install

words or less about the value of community tradition.

including Coloring/Essay contest entries plus photos and

the famous décor, but continue to partner in sponsoring

The top three essays, as determined by a panel of

memories pulled from the online forum. Other items to be

the event so that it remains free to the community.

sealed inside include a light bulb from the decor, tools used by volunteer IBEW 481 electrical workers, a signed script from the evening’s show and a congressional proclamation honoring the Circle of Lights. The capsule will be stored at the Indiana Historical Society. People attending the 50th anniversary Circle of Lights celebration the day after Thanksgiving this year will have the chance to be a part of the history of Central Indiana’s


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Q & A with

Sarah Fisher

Wife, mother and owner of Sarah Fisher Hartman Racing Wife, mother, and racecar driver: three words you don’t often see together. For national celebrity Sarah Fisher, however, these three words describe her perfectly. Born in Columbus, Ohio, Fisher first became involved in racing when she was just five years old. Since then, Fisher has competed in hundreds of races all over the United States. In 2008, Fisher started her own racing team, Sarah Fisher Hartman Racing, and became the first and only female team co-owner and youngest owner in the IZOD IndyCar Series. When she and her husband, Andy O’Gara, had their first child, Zoey, 1 year ago, Fisher took some time away from racing to embrace her newfound motherhood. Today, Fisher is back on track with her racing career and has been nominated as the 2012 Honoree for the March of Dimes Mom of the Year event.

Q: Tell us about Sarah Fisher Hartman Racing. A: The 2008 Indy 500 was the first race for Sarah Fisher Hartman Racing. Three years of being both the athlete and the owner was more challenging than anything I’ve ever faced. Today, it’s almost just as busy with the growth we have seen and the future we look towards. Winning our first event in 2011 helped remind us why we are all so dedicated to this sport.


Is it difficult to juggle a full-time career and family at the same time?


Absolutely! Moms always see to the “team captains,” when it comes to family. The key is having a great family to support you and to have patience with what you are blessed with.

Q: What advice would you give to other mothers trying to juggle a busy schedule? A:

Buy a smart phone! Where were we before that technology? Beyond the obvious, the best advice I can give is patience and priority. When you are rushing around trying to squeeze in everything you can, prioritize what is going to make or break it and then try your best to be patient at achieving that while you accommodate others during the process.

Q: Did you take time off from your racing career when you had your baby?

Q: Are you enjoying motherhood?


Very much so! Motherhood has made me a much better person. Now, I can’t imagine life without Zoey.

Q: What are some of the ups and downs of being a mother?


The best ups are when she learns something new and I know its something I’ve taught her. She’s a cuddle baby, so that always warms my heart to come home to. The other day, she kissed my cheek on her own and I pretty much melted. The downs are when she is sick or isn’t feeling well and you just have this helpless feeling.

Q: A:

Outside of racecars, what are some of your interests?

Q: A:

What do you like to do in your free time?

No time for anything else, really. If I’m not at the IndyCar track, I am helping Kyle O’Gara, my brother-in-law, with his racing endeavors.

If I had an afternoon all to myself, I would probably catch up around the house, laundry, cleaning, you know the drill. If that was all done, which it never seems to be, I’d probably go for a pedicure or the mall!

Q: How did you first get involved with March of Dimes? A: My husband’s sister, Megan Delaney, had a baby who continues to be affected with respiratory issues. She started with campaigning at the annual March of Dimes walk as a team captain, raising thousands of dollars. Her passion sparked my interest in being further involved and after learning more about it, has kept my support.

Q: How do you feel about being chosen as the 2012 Honoree for the March of Dimes Mom of the Year event? A:

It was certainly a surprise. I feel like there are so many Moms out there that deserve this award, so it certainly feels like I am a representative of all of them.


I decided to stop driving to start a family, and that was the end of the 2010 season, but I still remained very involved on the ownership and business side. I took a couple weeks off when she was born. I have been very fortunate that Zoey can travel with us in the racing season, so most of the time she is with us. But, when she does have to stay home, I miss her tremendously. 18 INDYSCHILD.COM

Q: What do you see for your future career and family life? A: Well, I love racing, but I also know that family is important. So, as long as I can continue to merge them, then it will stay the same as it has been for the next 10 years or so.

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around town

[ museum note ]

The Most Wonderful Time of the Year! Engaging multiple generations in story sharing Cathy Southerland Preschool Program Manager at The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis

The holidays are almost here which sometimes can add extra stress to our already busy lives. But let’s remember that one of the most important parts about the holiday season is celebrating families and sharing experiences with them. The mission of The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis is to create extraordinary learning experiences for families. Let us help you take advantage of the holiday season to allow your children to learn more about your family members, especially grandparents and other family members who grew up in a very different era. One way to do this is to plan an “interview” session when multiple generations are gathered together for a holiday celebration. Even very young children love hearing about what life was like when their grandparents were growing up. However, your child may not be sure how to ask questions that will lead to a rich


discussion. The Children’s Museum has a perfect vehicle to help those conversations evolve: “The 100 Toys (& their Stories) that Define Our Childhood.” Located on The Children’s Museum website ( toys), you will find a list of photos of 100 iconic toys from 1910 to the present. These photos will provide a framework when your child asks a grandparent to tell about his/her childhood. Your child may ask, “Did you have one of these toys? How did you play with this toy?” and so on. You may want to ask another family member to videotape the interview so that you have a lasting memento of these special memories. You will be very glad you did.

Want to learn more?

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introducing your child


to the

E xplore your child's creative side Brooke Reynolds

This summer, 6-year-old Uma Manning and her brother, 10-year-old Jackson, took a week-long art camp at the Indianapolis Museum of Art. Uma's teacher was so impressed with Uma’s work that she pulled her parents aside to tell them. “We were very pleased with the news, but initially we thought that's what is said to every parent,” Uma’s dad, Scott, said. “However, when we saw Uma's work at the end of the week, we knew that Uma had a gift. We were aware of her talents as she is always drawing at home, but this was the first time she was able to explore with acrylic paints, and she took to it very well.”

Even if your child isn’t the next Monet, introducing them to the arts is still so important. It allows children to flourish, both mentally and emotionally. “Allow your child the freedom to experiment and the ability to express themselves without the pressure to be perfect or to fit into a mold,” Carole Eney, preschool mixed media instructor at the Indianapolis Art Center, said.

Visiting museums or other venues that offer arts programs, visual or otherwise, can stimulate creativity and curiosity by encouraging young people to wonder and discover. According to Preston Bautista, Director of Audience Engagement at the Indianapolis Museum of Art, these 22 INDYSCHILD.COM

experiences can provide an early foundation for understanding how the arts and creativity can be a lifelong resource for learning and inspiration. “I believe that listening to music, attending a play or going to an art museum can inspire children in a way that few other things can,” said Hillary Blake, Director of Education at Meridian Music, whose arts specialty is in musical training and performance. “When I ask parents why their child chose to learn a specific instrument, parents will often say it is because the child became fascinated when they saw and heard it being played well live.” There are also ways to introduce children to the arts and express creativity at home. All children have a creative side, so parents should expose them to whatever is available – even if it is dancing around the house or singing in the car. Then observe what children enjoy doing at home so you know which arts-related activities to focus on, suggested Dr. E. J. Choe, director of IUPUI Music Academy and Assistant Professor of music and piano. Do they sing or dance to a beat they hear on a TV commercial? Do they show interest in an instrument by banging on a piano or beating on pots and pans? These are all indicators of potential performingarts interest! Stephanie C. Fuhrmann, President of Central Indiana Dance Ensemble Board of Directors, said to expose kids to as many different artistic areas as early as possible. These could be art classes (playing with Play-Doh, clay, paint), music classes (singing, rhythm, instruments like bells or shaker eggs that are easy to use and grasp), dance and theatre. “You will find that your child will naturally navigate toward and repeat those items that interest them, even at a very early age,” Fuhrmann said. Andy Nathan, father to 4-year-old Jesse and 9-month-old Ian, said he always keeps instruments out at home just so his kids can get their hands on them at anytime. “When our sons see an instrument, they are more inclined to play with it and engage with music,” Nathan said. Lesley Semo, mom of 3-year-old Claire, agrees that it is never too early to start your kids in the arts. “I was still taking ballet class until about a month before I had Claire, so even though she was in the womb, she could hear the music and feel how I moved to it,” Semo said. “My friend, who was my ballet teacher during my pregnancy, is convinced that is why Claire just loves to dance. Claire dances in grocery stores, at restaurants, anywhere she hears music. I truly believe it is her first love.” “Having access to art education both in school and at the Indianapolis Art Center has given my children so much joy and helped to build their own confidence,” Patrick Flaherty, parent to 6-year-old Emma and 3-year-old Claire, said. “Whether or not they choose to work in the arts or become artists is entirely up to them, but wherever their stories take them, their experiences with art will serve as one of the many foundations on which to build a successful and healthy life.” NOVEMBER 2012 [ indy’s child ] 23

Trying [and Trying] Again Dealing with Secondary Infertility In February of 2011, I gave birth to my first baby, a beautiful boy named Julian. I instantly took to being a mom, and quickly forgot about a difficult pregnancy as I looked forward to growing my family. I had easily conceived the first time, and completely took for granted that I’d be able to do so again. 24 INDYSCHILD.COM

Sarah McCosham

However, six months after having Julian, my period had not returned, so I went to my OB/GYN. I had recently stopped breastfeeding, so he said to wait a few weeks to see if it would return naturally. It did not, so my doctor prescribed Provera to get it started. That didn’t work, and we spent several more months trying other

I’m now 30 weeks along with my second child, and couldn’t be happier. I realize that, despite how frustrating my experience was, I had it relatively easy. I am grateful that everything worked out the way it did, and recognize that many families have to go through so much more to get pregnant again. And, for some couples, the second baby just never comes.

Treating Secondary Infertility Secondary infertility, or when a couple tries for more than a year without conceiving despite having successfully conceived once, is just as common as infertility, and in many ways, can be more frustrating. According to statistics from the Center for Disease Control, roughly 11% of couples that already have a child experience secondary infertility. That represents approximately 4 million families, or roughly half of all infertility cases. What would change to prevent pregnancy the second time around? A lot, says Dr. Leo Bonaventura of American Health Network-reproductive medicine, Carmel Indiana. “Getting pregnant is a very complex process which can break down without any rhyme or reason. Some of these break downs can be egg maturity issues, tubal dysfunction, sperm issues, uterine problems, and cyclic center problems, and age.”

If you’re having trouble getting pregnant again, Dr. Bonaventura says it’s imperative to talk to your doctor right away. He says that a complete physical exam of both partners will likely be the initial step, followed by a variety of exams, including semen analysis, evaluation of the uterus and/or fallopian tubes, and hormonal/ blood tests. Sometimes, says Dr. Bonaventure, the solution can be as simple as timing intercourse on the right days up to taking certain medications to help with egg maturity. Alternatively, if the problem is low sperm count, doctors may opt for Intra-Uterine Insemination (IUI), which helps increase the number of sperm that reach the fallopian tubes and thereby boosts the chance of fertilization. Finally, Dr. Bonaventure explains that more extensive procedures, such as In Vitro Fertilization (IVF), are done when the problem is delineated. “No one therapy is successful for all patients—every woman is slightly different and that is why the

Secondary infertility, or when a couple tries for more than a year without conceiving despite having successfully conceived once, is just as common as infertility, and in many ways, can be more frustrating.

treatments, before realizing that I wasn’t ovulating, either. I was prescribed Clomid, a medicine used to induce ovulation. It took three cycles, each increasing in dosage, to get me ovulating, and then another two to get pregnant.

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appropriate tests need to be performed before any course of treatment is considered. However, age can certainly factor into the decision to proceed with IVF, as a woman’s fertility drops off significantly with age."

Expanding Your Family

Moving On

If you are experiencing secondary infertility, the first thing to recognize is that you are not alone, and there are several options to explore in order to successfully grow your family. Whether you decide to seek out hormonal therapies, medical treatments, or decide to choose adoption, rest assured that you’ll find your next child when the time is right.

Treating secondary infertility is often a long and frustrating process – not to mention financially draining. With each cycle that passes by, it’s easy to become more desperate – or hopeless. At some point, the couple needs to be able to step back, reevaluate their options, and perhaps move on.

In fact, when you embrace your child for the first time, it won’t matter how they got into your arms. “Having both given birth and adopted a child, I can say there is no difference in how much I love them,” says Craft. “I believe that you get the child you were meant to raise."

In fact, once a couple is able to move forward from this process, they’ll be open to other avenues for creating a family, such as adoption. Julie Craft experienced secondary infertility following the normal pregnancy and birth of her daughter Lindsey. After two miscarriages and a tubal pregnancy, she and her husband decided to look into adoption. “I adopted my second daughter, Lauren, in a private adoption back in 1984 when they were relatively new,” she says. Wanting to help others in similar situations, Craft founded The Adoption Support Center in Indianapolis to help couples have the same success. Craft says that while she enjoys making couples first-time parents, she especially loves helping families experiencing secondary infertility to “continue to grow through adoption.”


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commentary and parenting

[ mommy magic ]

No Spectators Being a participant in your own life Mary Susan Buhner My church has been encouraging the congregation to become more involved and engaged within the community. Recently, the head pastor wore a t-shirt that read: "No Spectators." I thought to myself, “Wow... direct and to the point... I like it!" That t-shirt was a reminder that you can come to church two different ways each Sunday. The first option is to come to church and hear the message and leave each Sunday like a spectator at a sporting event. You can support the cause during the timeframe given and then you leave and go home. We are very used to doing this at football games, basketball games, or whatever sporting event we enjoy watching. The point my church was trying to make, and that I took away, was don't just be a spectator, but rather, choose to be a participant. Get involved, be engaged and choose to make a difference. Obviously, when it comes to professional sports very few of us have the opportunity to be a participant. We all are, in fact, in the spectator category. This got me thinking about motherhood and if I categorize myself as a spectator or participant in my very own life. Do I sit back and watch other people pursue goals or do I pursue, engage and try to be involved and make a difference? Personally, I like to think of myself as a participant and not a spectator when it comes to friendships, motherhood, my marriage and life overall. When I think of a spectator, I visualize someone who typically will cheer on the players or team depending on whether or not they agree with the "play" being made. Many people say that they could have done it better, but don’t ever really try. They prefer to sit on the bench, still having a say in what and how others "should be doing." My family recently experienced sitting near this type of person at a sporting event. He yelled and literally almost had a heart attack screaming at the players and coach the entire game on how awful they were playing that day. He declared himself the official critic of each play and ranted about how he could of done each play better. It was exhausting and even stressful listening to his spectator tantrum the whole game. My daughter leaned over and asked my husband, "Does he think all his mean yelling is helping the team?" The second option is to be a participant - engage in what you are doing, commit to the cause, and make a difference. When I think of a participant, I think of someone who is actively pursuing a goal. They don't like sitting on the bench. Instead, they would rather be "in" the game trying to be a part of it. Win or lose, they enjoy pushing themselves to reach their personal best. They encourage their teammates because they know how hard they are working. They don't like excuses or criticism that is not helpful because that doesn't help the team reach their goals. No matter how busy and hectic life becomes, I hope we all see the potential we each 28 INDYSCHILD.COM

have to engage and make a difference each day. It is easy to sit on the bench and criticize, but the real joy comes from getting involved, being in the game and committing to it. Remember – it’s not about whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game that counts. Join the Mommy Magic’s Fan Page on Facebook and visit to be a part of the mom community that supports and encourages moms in Indy with helpful tips for motherhood!

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Building Social Skills in Kids with Autism Tips for parents

Social deficits are a defining characteristic of autism. Kids with the disorder are not able to read social cues. They often cannot share space effectively nor adapt across different environments and different people. Some are nonverbal or aggressive. Building social skills is important so these kids can function successfully in society. The trick is every child with autism is unique and requires individualized treatment of some kind. There are a few rules of thumb, however, that may help parents better help their child develop social skills. Develop language. Janine Shapiro, speech language pathologist and board certified behavior analyst at the Applied Behavior Center for Autism, believes if a child is nonverbal or has poor verbal skills then developing language should be priority. “It’s hard to have good social skills without good language,” she said. Target problem behaviors. If the child is aggressive toward peers, throws tantrums, or has a behavior that makes other kids not want to be in his presence, Shapiro advises parents to work on those with a behavior plan. Mock situations. Look at the skill deficit and break that skill down. If the child does not know how to ask a peer to play, then set up a situation in which the child can practice asking their sibling or a family friend to play. The parent can explain the activity, set the rules, model what 32 INDYSCHILD.COM

Carrie Bishop to do, help practice the skill, and provide feedback. “It takes lots and lots of repetition of a skill in a contrived setting,” said Leah McKenzie, board certified behavior analyst and clinical director at BACA Prep. Recruit family. Improving social skills in a child with autism is a group effort. “It’s something the entire family needs to be involved in,” McKenzie said. Reward good work. Tim Courtney, board certified behavior analyst and research and training director at Little Star Center, says parents or others working with the child initially have to make it worth it for the child to interact with others. If the child wants to watch a DVD, require he get it from someone who will interact with him and offer the movie as reward for the social exchange. Set the child up for success. Courtney advises parents to support their child. “Do not put kids in a situation if they do not have the skills. Don’t set them up to fail socially. Often we put kids in front of a relative and want them to interact in some way and we know they don’t have those skills,” he said. If the child talks about dinosaurs a lot, tell the relative so the two can speak about a topic more natural to the child. Teach age-appropriate social skills. “Look around at kids the child’s age and see what they are really doing. I often go to social skills treatment sessions and the kids are 5 years old and going around shaking each others’

hands. You can’t teach social skills from the perspective of a 40-year-old business person,” said Shapiro. Help generalize skills. Teach the targeted skill in several settings, yet understand generalizing is hard for kids with autism. “Generalization is often difficult. Social situations are often difficult. Research shows that huge gains are not the norm. The problem is social demands and expectations are constantly changing. As soon as you have a child engaging appropriately and caught up then suddenly the rules change and there are new social norms you need to know how to do,” said Shapiro. Be realistic. Social skills are difficult for many people. “Many people with typical intelligence and without a diagnosis have difficulty in social situations. To expect a child who we are assuming has different neural makeup to quickly compensate for these deficits with a little therapy is unfair and unrealistic,” Shapiro said. Find good help. Find a talented therapist who is patient, understanding, knows what’s developmentally appropriate for the child, and has a passion for kids with autism. Applied Behavior Analysis is the most proven method, there are teachers who are effective at using its procedures and principles. Autism centers also offer help in various program styles. Some, like BACA, Little Star Center, and the Applied Behavior Center for Autism locally, even offer programs that provide children opportunities to work on social skills in more natural settings.

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special needs GUIDEGUIDE resources

[ special needs listings ]

Applied Behavior Center for Autism

To provide the highest quality ABA and Verbal Behavior therapy and consulting services to children and their families affected by Autism Spectrum Disorders and Down Syndrome. We do this by providing proven researched based ABA methodologies delivered by highly qualified and certified professionals. Our programs focus on increasing language skills, social skills, academic skills, and reducing problematic behavior. 450 S. State Road 135, Greenwood, IN 46142, Contact: Jane Grimes, Phone: 317-889-KIDS, Email:,

Applied Behavior Center for Autism

The mission of the Applied Behavior Center for Autism is to provide high quality ABA and Verbal Behavior therapy and consulting services to children and their families affected by Autism Spectrum Disorders by using researched based ABA methodology delivered by highly qualified and certified professionals to increase language skills, social skills, academic skills, and reduce problematic behavior. 7901 E. 88th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Jane Grimes, Phone: 317-849-5437, ext 112, Email:,

Applied Behavior Center for Autism

The mission of the Applied Behavior Center for Autism is to provide high quality ABA and Verbal Behavior therapy and consulting services to children and their families affected by Autism Spectrum Disorders by using researched based ABA methodology delivered by highly qualified and certified professionals to increase language skills, social skills, academic skills, and reduce problematic behavior. 6865 Parkdale Place, Indianapolis, IN 46254, Contact: Jane Grimes, Phone: 317-849-5437, ext 112, Email:,

Applied Behavior Center for Autism Transition to L.I.F.E House

Recognizing the importance of developing real-world life skills in children and teens with autism, the Applied Behavior Center for Autism has launched a new program called Transition to Learning in Functional Environments (L.I.F.E.). The initiative aims to promote independence, quality of life and happiness through an intensive full-day program that takes place in an actual home, complete with kitchen, gym, pool and garden. The Transition to L.I.F.E. program is open to children ages 10-18, and uses the scientific principles of applied behavior analysis (ABA). It will emphasize community involvement through volunteer opportunities tailored to the clients’ interests and healthy living through nutritional meal preparation and daily exercise regimens. 7901 E. 88th St., Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Jane Grimes, Enrollment Director, 317-849-5437, ext. 112, jane@,

Autism Consultation

Individually designed behavior and academic support and intervention strategies for families and children dealing with Autism Spectrum Disorders. With 35+ years experience in special education in public schools I am comfortable attending IEP meetings to advocate for the family and child. Introductory meeting at no charge. Providing service to central Indiana, Contact: Mika Adams, Phone: 866-968-3698, Email:,

Autism Society of Indiana

We strive to improve the lives of everyone affected by autism in Indiana. We provide information and support, referral to


resources, policy and educational advocacy, training, awareness, family programs, Spanish-speaking support group, summer camp programs, and oversight on the Indiana Comprehensive Plan of Lifetime Supports for Individuals with Autism 13295 Illinois Street, Suite 110, Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Dana Renay, Phone: 800-6098449, Email:,

Behavior Analysis Center for Autism BACA 1

The Behavior Analysis Center for Autism (BACA) was established by Dr. Carl Sundberg and a group of highly-trained Behavior Analysts who have worked with Dr. Sundberg for years. BACA uses Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) to teach language, social, academic and life skills to children with autism and other related disabilities. 11902 Lakeside Drive, Fishers, IN 46038, Contact: Devon Sundberg, Phone: 317-288-5232, Email:,

Behavior Analysis Center for Autism BACA Prep BACA Prep is a facility that utilizes the principles of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) to teach essential living skills to young adults with autism ages 8-20. BACA Prep helps strengthen each individual's life by addressing the areas of employment, leisure and living skills, hygiene, self-help and sexuality while decreasing and replacing maladaptive behavior. BACA Prep is under the direction of Dr. Carl Sundberg, Dr. John Esch, Dr. Pat McGreevy and Dr. Peter Gerhardt. 9929 E. 126th St., Fishers, IN 46038. Contact: Devon Sundberg. Phone: 317-436-8961. Email:

Behavior Analysis Center for Autism BACA-Z

The Behavior Analysis Center for Autism (BACA) was established by Dr. Carl Sundberg and a group of highly-trained Behavior Analysts who have worked with Dr. Sundberg for years. BACA uses Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) to teach language, social, academic and life skills to children with autism and other related disabilities. 6704 Central Blvd., Whitestown, IN 46075. Contact: Sheila Habarad. Phone: 317-769-4335. Email:

Brain Balance Achievement Center Indianapolis

Brain Balance Achievement Centers work with children who suffer from Developmental Disorders such as Autism Spectrum , Asperger’s, ADD/ADHD, Dyslexia, Tourette’s and other neurological disorders. The Brain Balance Program is unique in that it utilizes a comprehensive, multi-faceted approach designed specifically to address the various difficulties exhibited or experienced by each child. 9510 N. Meridian St. Suite D, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Julie Peterson, Phone: 317-843-9200, Email:,

Hopebridge Pediatric Specialists

Hopebridge Pediatric Specialists is an Occupational, Speech, Physical and Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy provider servicing Indianapolis and the surrounding areas. Hopebridge Pediatric Specialists offers both in-clinic and in-home therapy for children diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and other special needs. Locations in Kokomo, Lafayette, Marion and Fort Wayne, Contact: Kim Strunk, Phone:, 855-324-0885, Email: kstrunk@,

Indiana Autism Scholarship Foundation

The Indiana Autism Scholarship Foundation’s mission is to provide scholarship funding to individuals in efforts to help offset costs for employment or college assistance for those affected with autism. 7987 Oakbay Dr., Noblesvillle, IN 46062, Contact: Jane Grimes, 317-403-6705,,

Indianapolis Pediatric Dentistry

Our goal at Indianapolis Pediatric Dentistry is to have a lasting, positive impact on our young patients. We pay special attention to each patient’s needs and we take the time to make sure they’re comfortable. We go to great lengths to make sure that both the patient and parents understand what we’re doing, why we’re doing it and the long-term benefits. 8433 Harcourt Road, Suite 307, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Dr. Erin Phillips and Dr. Kira Stockton, Phone: 317-872-7272, Email:,

Little Star Center

Little Star provides intensive applied behavior analytic services to maximize each child’s potential and empower their family. Children in the 5 to 10 age range present with a unique set of needs. These learners often come from other settings in which they were not successful. After careful assessment, individualized programs are developed to ensure progress and growth. 100% not-for-profit, 10 years of service. Serving children 5 – 10 years old. 12726 Hamilton Crossing Blvd, Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Mary Rosswurm, Executive Director, Phone: 317-249-2242, Email: maryr@,

Little Star Center--Early Learner Program (ELP)

The Early Learner Program focuses on intensive intervention for very young children diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. The ELP applies the principles of behavior analysis in a warm, nurturing environment. The focus of the ELP is to develop a foundation of skills for the best possible outcome. Individualized programming is geared toward developing language, social, and pre-academic skills for learners as they prepare for the classroom. 100% not-for-profit. Serving children 5 and younger. 12726 Hamilton Crossing Blvd, Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Mary Rosswurm, Phone: 317-249-2242, Email:,

Middle Star Center

Indiana’s original applied behavior analytic center based program that focuses on the distinctive needs of tweens, teens and young adults affected by autism spectrum disorder. Started in 2008, Middle Star is an age appropriate environment that allows each learner to practice and learn the skills essential to be as successful and independent as possible at home, in the community, at school and at work. 100% not-for-profit. Serving learners 10 and up. 12726 Hamilton Crossing Blvd, Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Mary Rosswurm, Phone: 317-249-2242, Email: maryr@,

Unlocking the Spectrum

Unlocking The Spectrum was created with the mission of making ABA Therapy accessible to ALL children with autism by providing high quality ABA Therapy services throughout Indiana. Unlocking The Spectrum specializes in bringing the therapy to the client--in their home and in their community. Client's receive services in a wide variety of settings including their home, school, Unlocking The Spectrum's clinic, and the community to ensure that skills are generalized across all environments. Intensive parent training and collaboration with all members of a client's team are an essential part of every individualized program developed. Contact us for a free initial consultation. 3901 W. 86th St. Suite 397, Indianapolis, IN 46268. Contact: Ilana Hernandez, Director. Phone: 317-334-7331. Email:

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special needs calendar 11.12 tues | 06

Parent Support Group for Dyslexia Times: 6:30 PM - 8:00 PM Price: FREE LeeAnn Bricker: talktoleeann@comcastnet Melodie Hornickel: mhor Location: Dyslexia Institute of Indiana, Indianapolis

fri | 09

Karaoke Night Times: 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: $8 Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel

sat | 10

Bingo Bonanza Times: 5:00 PM - 7:00 PM Price: $10 Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: The Monon Center, Carmel All ages.


sat | 17

Timmy Takedown Wrestling, Co-hosted with Champ Camp and Timmy Global Health Times: 2:30 PM - 5:00 PM Price: $10 per ticket, $25 for families 3 or more Location: Park Tudor School (Track Gym), Indianapolis “Timmy Takedown” is a unique, innovative, and heartening fundraiser where local kids with special needs enter a fullscale wrestling ring to “takedown” Dr. “Doom” Dietzen – founder and President of Timmy Global Health.

Friends and Family Epilepsy Education Event Peyton Manning Children's Hospital at St.Vincent Times: 8:00 AM Location: Renaissance Indianapolis North Hotel, Carmel Join us for our Friends and Family Epilepsy Education event to learn

more about the evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment of epilepsy in children. Register by Nov. 9 by going to http:// For more information, call (2273).

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Teen Night Out Times: 5:30 PM - 9:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel Ages 13-17

parent’s night out

North location Trinity Wesleyan Church (Kids Kastle)11552 Fishers Landing Drive, Fishers, IN 46038. 3rd Friday of every month. West location Speedway United Methodist- 5065 West 16th Street, Speedway, IN 46224. 4th Friday of every month.

lectures/open houses

thurs | 01

Brain Balance Open House Times: 2:00 PM - 4:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-843-9200 Location: Brain Balance Center, Indianapolis


Easter Seals Crossroads Parents’ Night Out

East location Easter Seals Crossroads- 4740 Kingsway Drive, Indianapolis, IN 46205. 1st, 2nd, 3rd, & 4th Friday of every month.

South location Indian Creek Christian Church- 6430 S. Franklin Road, Indianapolis, IN 46259. 1st Friday of every month.

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Brain Balance Parent Lecture Times: 6:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-843-9200 Location: Brain Balance Center, Indianapolis

growing their nest One couple's story of adoption

Carrie Bishop

You know the story: A couple thinks they are done having children, then surprise! It’s a boy. In the case of Karen and Donald Crane, make that three boys. meet the Cranes In 2010 the Cranes were a content family of four living in Greenfield. Donald a minister at Park Chapel Christian Church. Karen a stay at home mom. Their oldest child, Matthew, was born with Down syndrome. Alice was born a typically developing girl. Life was moving along at a comfortable pace. Then they hear about a baby in Chicago in need of a home. Hmmm. Like their oldest, the child was born with Down syndrome. While the couple had talked loosely about adoption, it was not something they were actively pursuing. No matter. They went for it. In the back of their minds they knew if they were to adopt, they wanted a baby boy with Down syndrome. “We felt that is what God was calling us to do,” said Donald. As anyone who has gone through an adoption will tell you, there’s a lot of preparation and paperwork that goes into the process. The Cranes didn’t have the necessary documents done in time, so they lost the child to another family. Three months later they had fallen in love with another baby boy, and once again the child went to another family. Then it happened a third time. Their hearts were broken but not their spirits. “We prayed about it. We felt like God put this on our hearts. It was like having an empty seat at the dinner table,” Karen said. A week after the third boy’s case fell through the Cranes got a call from New York. An infant named Nicholas needed a home. The Cranes were thrilled. At five days old, he joined their family. Like others with Down syndrome, Nicholas had a weak heart that required surgery. He underwent surgery in January 2011. The 2 1/2 hour operation turned into seven hours. Two hours later he died in the Cranes’ arms. “That was Nicholas. He’s a treasure waiting for us in heaven,” said Donald. They had been through so much to finally meet and adopt Nicholas and then to have him taken away so soon was heart wrenching. The couple wondered if they should continue their search for a child to adopt. “Lord, if you want us to do this make it very clear,” Karen remembers thinking. Sometimes you get what you ask for. 38 INDYSCHILD.COM

a stork at the door Later that year a stork of sorts arrived. The Villages adoption services called with news of a Ukrainian toddler who had been with his adoptive family for two weeks and it was not working out. Would the Cranes like to meet him? “We met him knowing we’d fall in love but thought the parents just needed some help. So we met with the parents first. We were trying to give them help. We thought we could give them the encouragement to keep him home,” said Karen. They tried talking to the adoptive parents about different resources and ways to help, but it became apparent they weren’t willing to look at ways to make it work. Soon thereafter, The Villages called and could bring the child to their front door within the week.

situation, their resources and say ‘We can’t raise this child.’ It’s not a limitation on their part, it’s just the situation in which they live,” he said. In fact, the couple keeps in contact with both Nathan’s biological family and Kendyll’s first adoptive parents. They also speak with families considering adoption to help them better understand from their perspective what it’s like to go through the process and then become an adoptive parent to a child with special needs.

living a good life Today the Cranes feel blessed to have four children ages 9, 6, 3 and 1. Are more adoptions in the plans? For now the answer is no.

On Oct. 28, 2011, the child, Kendyll, arrived at his new and permanent home with the Cranes.

“We are done adopting. There’s no more room in the van,” Karen said with a smile.

Of course when it rains, it pours. A month prior to adopting Kendyll, the Cranes received a phone call from another adoption agency about a boy born on Nicholas’ first birthday. Perhaps it was a sign. Eight days after Kendyll’s adoption, Nathan joined the family.

It Takes a Village to Raise a Child...

special needs adoption Through their six attempts at adopting boys with Down syndrome, the Cranes have come to know a lot about the process and have compassion for families on both ends of the process. They know raising a child with special needs is not easy and requires resources that can strain some families. They’ve seen it in both Kendyll’s and Nathan’s situations. “To look at the situation and say ‘This is more than I have resources for or than I can be a parent for,’ that takes tremendous courage. I have tremendous respect for them to look at their

The Cranes, who have adopted three boys with Down syndrome, tell families considering adopting a child with special needs to go for it. “Don’t be afraid of it. You can do it,” said Don. Both he and Karen also know it takes a village to raise a child with special needs. Area resources they say have made a difference in their lives are: Children’s TherAplay; D.A.D.S. (Dads Appreciating Down Syndrome); Indiana First Steps Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) International; National Down Syndrome Adoption Network National Down Syndrome Congress; Down Syndrome Indiana; Pediatric International Adoption Clinic at St. Vincent Pediatric Rehabilitation Center; Reeces’ Rainbows Down Syndrome Adoption Ministry; The Villages foster care, adoption and family services organization

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Childhood Cancer facing the diagnosis Sarah McCosham

As parents, we’d do anything for our children. When our kids are experiencing something painful or traumatic, most parents would agree they’d gladly take on their child’s pain. This is perhaps most true for parents of kids with serious illnesses. Parents are often

Rick Chaloupka faced all of the above conflicts when it came to his now-12-year-old

unsure of what to say to their affected child, how much to tell their other children, what

son, Kyle. When Kyle was diagnosed with cancer two years ago, Chaloupka says he felt

types of emotions are okay to show, and how to cope with the diagnosis themselves.

overwhelmed and unprepared:


“Telling your child they have cancer – where’s that in the

Regardless of age, one factor that stays constant is the

‘Parenting 101’ guidebook? Yes, there are lots of books,

need for normalcy. Adds Chaloupka, “Just because your

pamphlets, and websites with information, but there’s no

child has cancer, doesn’t mean they turn in to a piece of

time to do your research. Things are moving 1,000 miles

fragile crystal. Let them play and be a kid. Their doctors

an hour starting the minute the diagnosis comes in. It’s

will tell you what they can and can’t do and if you aren’t

extremely difficult for a parent to try to explain cancer to

sure – ask.“



your child because you don’t know how to explain it to


yourself. I tried running through it in my head, but it


‘How am I going to stay strong for my child?’”

Connecting with Your Child


When it comes to talking to your child, parents should


Unfortunately, many parents and families must go

be direct and honest. At Riley Hospital, Licensed Clinical

through this scenario. According to the National Cancer

Social Worker (LCSW) Andrew Harner and Licensed

Institute, approximately 1-2 children out of every 10,000

Social Worker (LSW) Stacey Koleszar, explain that

are affected by cancer, representing over 10,000 kids

parents should be as truthful as possible when it comes

– and exponentially more parents and families – each

to talking to their children, while also considering their

year. In other words, a lot of people are affected by

age. “The depth of information should be determined by

childhood cancer; and hopefully, this article will provide

their development,” say Harner and Kolezar. “Answer the

some information, advice, and coping strategies for

question to the level of understanding, but don’t give

anyone going through this difficult process.

more information than what they ask for. Always be honest.”

always ended with me bawling my eyes out wondering,

Tips for Family, Siblings, and Friends Having a strong support system is crucial for families facing a cancer diagnosis, so friends and family should be prepared to help out. For example, having Grandma pick up the siblings from soccer practice, or friends prepare easy meals, can really help out a family who’s spending all of their time at a hospital.

Cancer: Your Child’s Perspective It’s important to understand what your child is likely experiencing once cancer has been diagnosed – because it’s probably not what you’d think. According to Lucy Paskus, a Pediatric Nurse Practitioner at the Children's Center for Cancer and Blood Diseases at Peyton Manning Children's Hospital at St. Vincent, kids

In fact, your child likely has an edge when it comes to

From an emotional perspective, simply “being there” can

taking the news. Paskus explains that kids are able to

mean so much for parents. Says Chaloupka: “[As a

“hang in there” when a lot is being thrown at them. “I

parent] you need to stay as strong as you can for your

don't think I have ever seen a kid cry, even when their

child -- but remember to let it out. Have friends and

parents start crying. They take things one day at a time.”

family you can count on for one thing: a shoulder to cry

And that, she says, is what parents should strive to do.

on and an ear to bend. Just ten minutes of that will provide so much relief.”

are resilient, and generally don't feel sorry for themselves or don't get into the "sick" role once they’ve been

Additionally, your child’s response to the news will be


defined by how you respond, says Shamika Morales, a LCSW at Peyton Manning Children's Hospital at St.

“You tell them they have cancer and they say ‘Okay,

Vincent. While it’s natural for parents to be angry by their

what’s next?’” she says. “Most kids are concerned about

child’s diagnoses, Morales says they must remain

missing their day-to-day activities, like school, or if they

positive. “Parents must maintain the expectations, hopes,

can still visit their friends—simple stuff.”

and aspirations for their child,” she says.

In terms of siblings, Chaloupka explains that it’s important to get them involved in something proactive, like charity work. That process will give siblings a feeling of control and accomplishment during a time when so little is in their control.

In fact, charity work can prove to be one of the most Dr. Robert Fallon, a Professor of Pediatrics at the Indiana

effective therapeutic and bonding experiences for

University School of Medicine, adds that age plays a key

Keeping it together might be easier than you’d think. In

dealing with a cancer diagnosis. Chaloupka says that,

role in how children respond to the news. He explains, “a

fact, Chaloupka says that, despite battling intense

two years after the diagnosis, his whole family has gotten

young child tends to focus on the procedures, and what

emotional turmoil about how to talk to his son, he was

involved in charity work, which has been both a

they might perceive to be painful. They just need a

able to pull himself together for the important talks.

therapeutic and bonding experience. “I felt a need to do

playroom, toys, a calming family. Older children want to

“Somehow that ‘magic parent gene’ kicked in and I was

something as a thank you for all that everyone did to

know if they will get through this, and what it will mean to

able to just say, ‘Hey buddy, you have a problem that is

make sure my child was ok. We may not have all the Bill

their life and schedule. Will they miss school and

making you sick, but everything will be ok and we’ll be

Gates money to donate, but a couple of hours here and

sports? Will their hair fall out?”

right here the whole time.”

there is priceless.” NOVEMBER 2012 [ indy’s child ] 41


[ school listings ]

education +childcare GUIDE schools & education carmel

staff, and a caring Christian environment with low student to teacher ratios. 7551 Oaklandon Road, Indianapolis, IN 46236, Contact: Marcia Ramage, (317) 823-0123, Email:,

Carmel Montessori Schools, Inc. Carmel Montessori School is located on the beautiful campus at St. Christopher’s Church on the NE corner of Main St. and Meridian in Carmel. Our directress is American Montessori Certified with 13 years headteaching experience. We offer a beautiful, peaceful and positive Montessori learning environment. Extended days available. 1402 W. Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Emily & Scott Rudicel, 317-580-0699,,

Clay Montessori A Montessori school offering morning, afternoon, and full-day programs. Available for ages 3-6 years old. Call for more information. (Affiliated with Fisher’s Montessori) 463 East Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Peggy White, 317-849-9519 or 317-580-1850

Starting Line Preschool The Right Start for A Lifelong Love of Learning! Our strong academic-based curriculum prepares and encourages your child to succeed in school while discoving learning is fun! * Develop Social Awareness & Friendships, Build Confidence and Master Academic Skills for Kindergarten. All of our classes focus on an introduction to colors, number and letters with exciting art and science projects. Math, social studies and sight words are taught in the older classes. 110 Third Ave NE, Carmel, IN 46032. Contact: Diane Atkins. Phone: 317-753-9397. Email: dkatkins22@msn. com.

The Montessori Learning Center The Montessori Learning Center offers a Montessori elementary program for grades 1-5. We focus on developing the whole child through interaction with an interdisciplinary curriculum. Our program specifically meets the needs of each child and is aligned with Indiana State Standards. 1402 W. Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Elizabeth Williams, 317-846-8182, elizabeth@,

fishers Fall Creek Montessori Academy Fall Creek Montessori Academy is a culturally diverse environment where children grow and develop their unique talents and gifts. Through child-centered learning, children excel physically, academically and emotionally. Conveniently located one mile east of I-69 on 96th St. FCMA serves children at all levels. Programs are available two to five days per week. 8888 Fitness Ln, Fishers, IN 46037, Contact: Diana Brugh, (317) 436-8606,,

Fishers Montessori A quality learning environment offering preschool, kindergarten and elementary. Certification through American Montessori Society. 12806 Ford Rd and 131st and Allisonville Rd., Fishers, IN 46038, Contact: Peggy White, 317-849-9519 or 317-580-1850

indianapolis - downtown Todd Academy, Inc. A fun, creative, challenging environment for highly intelligent students age 8 or grade 3 thru grade 12. High-ability, gifted and talented education with earlycollege options and rolling enrollment offers mid-year transfers. Extra-curricular activities, community service involvement, financial aid and vouchers are all offered. State accredited. 855 N. East Street, Indianapolis, IN 46202, Contact: Sharon Todd, 317-636-3100, Fax: 317-636-3103, Email:,

indianapolis - north Arthur M. Glick JCC

geist Sunrise Early Childhood Center The Sunrise Early Childhood Center offers preschool classes for 2 - 5 year olds, as well as an exceptional Kindergarten program. Classes meet from 9am - 1pm, with a variety of optional afternoon activities available. The Sunrise ECC offers reasonable rates, exceptional 42 INDYSCHILD.COM

Our loving caregivers and teachers demonstrate by example and encourage children to behave according to these values as the children are learning, playing and socializing with one another. The JCC embraces a learning-through-play teaching method to engage children in activities that promote creativity, accelerate learning and stimulate social interaction, all at each child’s individual pace. 6701 Hoover Road, Indianapolis, IN 46260, 317-251-9467,,

Beth-El Zedeck Early Childhood Center OPEN TO THE PUBLIC. Full Academic Curriculum and Innovative Arts’ Enrichment. Our Program recognizes that intellectual, social, emotional and physical developmentare interwoven. Our children will thrive on exploration, creativity, curiosity, discovery, spontaneity and more important, lots of love! Type of School: Early Childhood, Full Time/Part-Time/Flexible Hours, Ages: 12 months old+, 18 months old+, 2’s+, 3’s+, 4’s/PreK (3 day or 5 day program) and Full Day Kindergarten (5 full-day program) (8:50 am to 3:00 pm) Before School/After School Care available daily as needed for all ages: Early drop off as early as 7:30 am and late pick up anytime up until 6:00 pm/5:30 pm on Fridays. Call or email for brochure. 600 W. 70th St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Joanie Waldman, Phone: 317-259-6854, Fax: 317-259-6849, Email: jwaldman@,

Brebeuf Jesuit Preparatory School Brebeuf Jesuit’s Mission Statement: Brebeuf Jesuit, a Catholic and Jesuit school, provides an excellent college preparatory education for a lifetime of service by forming leaders who are intellectually competent, open to growth, loving, religious and committed to promoting justice. Fostering a culture of understanding and dialogue, Brebeuf Jesuit seeks and welcomes students from diverse religious, ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds. Students at Brebeuf Jesuit are called to discover and cultivate the fullness of their God-given talents as a responsibility and as an act of worship. CORE VALUES: Education of the Whole Person, A Caring and Diverse Community, The Greater Glory of God. 2801 W 86th St, Indianapolis, IN 46268. Contact: Liz Otteson, Director of Admissions. Phone: 317-5247090. Email: Ages/Grades: All ages and grades welcome.

Children’s Day In Nursery School and Traditional Preschool The Children’s Day In traditional preschool and nursery school program provides a fully inclusive early childhood program with an emphasis on Christian values in a play based setting. It is designed to offer children ages 9 months to 5 years a positive and developmentally appropriate experience in the care of experienced teachers and caregivers. We play and learn! Classes are offered weekdays from 9 am to 2:30 pm. Children June attend up to 3 days a week. 5500 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Christy Whaley, 317-253-0472, cwhaley@,

Children’s Circle Preschool at Second Presbyterian Church Children’s Circle Preschool is a developmentally appropriate, activity based, Christian preschool. We offer classes for children ages 9 months to 5 years old. We meet the needs of the whole child in a creative and loving environment. Our experienced staff embraces excellence in education by nurturing the whole child- physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Please call for more information or to set up a tour. 7700 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Cara Paul, Director, 317-2525517,,

Early Childhood Center, The Church at the Crossing Our Mothers Day Out (12-35 mos) and Preschool (3 yrs-PreK’s) programs provide relaxed, playful, secure environments that nurture creativity and encourage the exploration of God’s world, a wide variety of learning materials, & friendships, with readiness activities woven through each study unit. Need longer hours? Try our child care ministry, The Neighborhood designed for 2-PreK.

9111 N. Haverstick Rd., Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: John Drake or Kelly Belt, 317-575-6508, Fax: 317-575-6509, jdrake@ or

Heritage Christian School Established in 1965, accredited through ACSI and NCA. HCS is the choice in college preparatory discipleship Christian education for 1,400 students each year grades Prep K – 12. Advanced, Honors and AP classes. Full Fine Arts and 2A IHSAA Athletics. HCS is training up the next generation of Christian leaders through challenging, Biblically taught curriculum including internships and service to others. Bus transportation available. Schedule a tour today! 6401 E. 75th Street, Indianapolis, In 46250, Contact: Emily Iglendza, Director of Enrollment Management, 317-849-3441,,

Meridian Hills Cooperative Nursery School

art, and computer labs. 563 Westfield Blvd. W. Dr., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Lynn Boone, Director, Phone: 317-257-2224, Fax: 317-254-3034, Email:

The Orchard School

Curriculum, Leadership, Civic Responsibility, and Global Readiness. Pre-Kindergarten (3) through Grade 8. 33 E. 33rd Street, Indianapolis, IN 46205, Contact: Melinda W. Fisher, 317-926-0425 x134, Fax: 317-921-3367, mfisher@,

The Orchard School, an independent, non-sectarian, progressive school, emphasized experiential learning. Sycamore School Orchard teachers engage the natural curiosity of children, develop academic excellence, and provide leadership At Sycamore, teachers trained in gifted education deliver a experience through well-rounded education. Orchard’s curriculum designed to challenge and engage gifted diverse community and commitment to multicultural learners. Art, music, Spanish, PE and technology are taught education inspires responsible, global citizenship. Founded at all levels. Extensive field trips, athletics, child care, in 1922. NAIS, ISACS, NAEYS accredited. 615 W. 64th St., financial aid, and a wide variety of after school activities are Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Kristen Hein, Director of offered. 1750 W. 64th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Dr. Admissions, Phone: 317-713-5705, Fax: 317-254-8454, Email: Susan Karpicke, Director of Admissions. 317-202-2500, Fax:, 317-202-2501,.,

Park Tudor School

Park Tudor School’s exceptional educators and extraordinary opportunities prepare students to become confident and resourceful lifelong learners. The school community creates an inspiring college-preparatory learning environment for highly motivated young people. Polly Panda Preschool and Bridgford Two-year Global Scholars program for juniors and seniors; 19 AP classes; full-day kindergarten; Spanish beginning at Kindergarten age 3. 7200 N. College Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: Polly Panda provides a safe and healthy environment which David Amstutz, 317-415-2777,, www. enhances each child’s total growth. Our theme-based hands-on preschool program provides a wide-range experiences that foster learning, creativity and problem Montessori Centres solving in all areas. A child’s sense of self-worth, St. Richard’s Episcopal School Stressing peace and respect for all, we’ve worked with independence and growth in social skills are developed children to develop critical-thinking and time-management Independent Episcopal day school offering a diverse through positive interaction with peers and our wellskills since 1966. Montessori-certified lead teachers serve community filled with academic rigor, faith based qualified and loving staff. 2944 E. 56th Street, Indianapolis, IN children aged 3-3rd grade. Our classroom structure and ecumenism and long-standing traditions. Its mission is to 46220, Contact: Gail Hacker and Tammy Clark, Phone: 317-257materials allow children to be self-directed and self-paced. instill knowledge and values for a lifetime through the 9127, Email:, Our well-rounded curriculum includes French and Spanish, implementation of five Pillars for Success: Faith, Classic Share your love of learning with your children. Founded in 1960 by involved parents like you, Meridian Hills Cooperative provides a positive, nurturing environment wherein children explore and learn by doing. Spacious classrooms. Beautiful, wooded playground. Caring, experienced staff. Adult/child ratios 1:4 - 1:6. Find us on Facebook. 7171 N. Pennsylvania, Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: See �Admissions/Tours� Info Online, Phone: 317-255-0831,

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indianapolis - northwest

indianapolis - south

International School of Indiana

Busy Bee Childcare Ministry

At the International School of Indiana, we share your wish to prepare your children for the future we cannot imagine, and to give them the foundation and attitude to thrive in a changing world. An education that combines internationally respected academic standards with a truly international outlook. 4330 N. Michigan Road, Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Sarah Harrison or Kate Lock, 923-1951 Ext. 369,,

St. Luke’s Early Childhood Programs St Luke’s Community Preschool is a weekday, developmentally appropriate and experience based program. Two well-trained, degreed teachers are in each classroom. Parents’ Day Out is a structured play experience that provides parents some time for themselves on a regular basis on M, Th, F. We provide a warm and loving Christian environment in which children can learn and grow. Tours available upon request. Visitors welcome. 100 West 86th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Bobbi Main-Jackson, Dir., 317-844-3399,,

Traders Point Christian Academy Fully accredited by ACSI and AdvancEd, Traders Point is a nondenominational Christian college prep school serving 600 students age 18 months to 12th grade. Offering Fine Arts, Spanish, Technology, Honors, AP and dual-credit options within a Biblical viewpoint. Interscholastic athletics in grade 2 - HS varsity. Preparing students for high school and college, for a world without borders, and for a life of significance. Located at I-65 North/SR 334, Zionsville exit. Visit us - for more information contact Mrs. Toni Kanzler, tkanzler@tpcs. org, at 317-769-2450.

We offer quality care to ages 6wks and up in a Christian environment. Providing Diapers, Wipes, meals, Formula and all preschool curriculum using Abeka lessons daily. 4002 Southport Road, Indianapolis, IN 46237, Maggie Sumner, 317-605-4145,

multiple locations Indiana Council of Preschool Cooperatives: ICPC Indianapolis Area Preschool and Kindergarten Cooperatives Preschools: great for your child, great for you! Children and parents learn and grow together in the classroom with caring, experienced teachers. Multiple Locations in Indianapolis Area, ICPC Line: 317-767-7596

St. Mary’s Child Center We are Reggio inspired preschool with 2 locations (Downtown and Ft. Harrison). We are Level 4 on the Path’s to Quality scale and accredited by NAEYC. We focus on inquiry based, authentic learning in small groups within beautiful environments. We accept tuition and CCDF vouchers along with offering scholarships. 901 Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. St., Indianapolis, IN 46202, Contact: Sharon Stuhldreher, 317-635-1491, Hours: 7:00 am - 5:30 pm,,

noblesville Legacy Christian School Legacy Christian School is celebrating it's 10th year of providing affordable Christian education in Hamilton County. We are equipping and inspiring students to forge a

godly legacy in today's world. State accredited, we combine excellence in academics with Christ-centered teaching. Our full-day Kindergarten is 25-66% less costly than other area programs. Music, art, library, P.E., and computer class offered to K-5th students weekly. Join us in leaving a Legacy! 470 Lakeview Drive, Noblesville, IN 46060. Contact: Lana Thompson. Phone: 317-776-4186. Fax: 317-7764189. Email: Ages/Grades: Preschool - 8th Grade. Before/After School Care: Available.

Primrose School of Noblesville Primrose School of Noblesville distinguishes itself by creating a safe and nurturing environment where children will take their first steps toward a lifetime of achievement. You will find certified, professional staff and many programs such as spanish, technology, music and physical fitness that will consistently challenge your child. 15707 North Point Blvd., Noblesville, IN 46060, Contact: Jackie Bell, 317-773-4900, Fax: 317-773-4433,

westfield Christ UMC Preschool The CUMC Preschool program offers a child-centered developmental curriculum consistent with the highest levels of early childhood education. We provide an atmosphere in which children can experience enriched play and guided development; indiviudal and group activities; and a better understanding of the world around them. Our philosophy: Learning is Fun! 318 North Union Street, Westfield, IN 46074, Contact: Barbara Sampson, Director, Phone: 317 867-0582, Email: sampsonb@,

Montessori School of Westfield, Inc.

Located on 3 wooded acres in Central Indiana, the Montessori School of Westfield adheres to the academic traditions of Montessori while serving the present day child. The Montessori School of Westfield serves children from Indianapolis, Fishers, Carmel, Zionsville, Westfield, Sheridan, Noblesville, Cicero and Tipton. We serve children ages 18 months to 15 years, and we are adding a new Toddler room for the 2012-2012 year. 800 E. Sycamore Street, Westfield, IN 46074, Contact: Mary Lyman, Directress, 317-867-0158,,

accepting children ages 6 weeks to 12 years; we provide before and after school care. We have a very strong educational program that prepares your little one for first grade and beyond. From infancy through kindergarten we have proper age curriculum and teaching. We teach through play and creativity so the children learn and have fun doing it. We are dedicated to the love, education and safety of your child. Learning Starts At Birth! * Now enrolling infants and toddlers. * Free Piano Lessons. * Free Violin Lessons. * Free Dance Lessons. 2626 Ruth Drive, Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: Jody Teipen-Holbrook, Phone: 317-205-9264, Fax: 317-205-9263, Email: admin@,

zionsville Zionsville Community Schools Universal Preschool

Universal Preschool at Boone Meadow provides a hands-on learning experience, focused on the whole child, in an inclusive and supportive environment that ensures maximum child growth, for life-long learning. We will provide a quality program through: Organizing the environment so it is conducive to success, providing specific directions and instructions, acknowledging and encouraging each child’s efforts, creating challenges and supporting children in extending their capabilities. The Indiana Foundations for Young Children will be a resource/framework for UP. 5555 S. 650 E., Zionsville, IN 46075, Contact: Donna Hudson, Phone: 317-873-2226, Email:, us/?q=node/123

childcare Compassionate Angels Child Care Ministry We are a Christian ministry, using the Bible to teach values. We have over 30 years of experience and are

Peanut Butter and Jelly 24/7 Childcare PB&J is a childcare that is a safe, nurturing environment where your child will get the attention and care that he or she needs. We are licensed and always working to meet and exceed all health and safety guidelines. You can rest assured that your child will be cared for with the utmost kindness, love and respect . Open late for lots of flexiblity. Stop in for more info. Follow us on twitter @pbj247childcare. 5501 E. 71st Street #7B, Indianapolis, IN 46220. Contact: Anita Beck. Phone: 317-2059211. Email:

Wee Folk Childcare Quality in-home child care serving caring families for 20 years. (CPR, 1st aid certified, and state licensed). Two meals and one snack provided daily along with baby food and regular formula. We provide quality learning through play in a non-smoking Christian environment. Preschool program providing Kindergarten prep is available. Meridian Kessler Neighborhood, 317-926-3640

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Making an Informed Decision About Your Child's Education

Katrina R. Holtmeier

s a parent, at some point you’ll have to make a decision about the education of your child. You will have many options, including, but not limited to, public, private, Parochial, boarding, and home school. The type of education you choose will be based on many factors, such as family income, a school’s reputation, family characteristics, school policy and philosophy, and much more. 46 INDYSCHILD.COM

For many families, a boarding school offers the best education option. Some students need more structure, more attention from faculty and staff, and more discipline. But, what is boarding school and how do you know if it is the best option for your family?

A boarding school is a type of private school where students live, eat, study, and socialize at and around the school. There are more than 250 boarding schools in the United States. According to a 2007 article from, nearly 36,000 American children and young adults attend boarding schools each year.

Cindy Schalk of St. Charles, Illinois, was faced with a common dilemma. Her daughter, Anna, has a learning disability and was not performing well in the classroom of her local

public school. Schalk took it upon herself to figure out another way for her daughter to

“Our relationship became better,” Schalk said. “There were no longer battles over

be educated. After a lot of research and a few campus visits, Schalk decided that a

homework, missed assignments, etc. When she was home, we were able to enjoy each

boarding school would be the best educational environment for Anna.

other's company and could celebrate the successes she was having.”

Schalk enrolled her daughter in Brehm Preparatory School in Carbondale, Illinois. Brehm, which is approximately four hours from Indianapolis, specializes in empowering students with complex learning disabilities and helping them to deal with and overcome

While Brehm specializes in learning issues, there are other types of boarding schools including those which focus on the arts, social issues, Autism or Asperger syndrome, behavioral issues, religion, and military, to name a few.

their challenges. For Schalk, Brehm was the place where she felt her daughter could succeed and earn the education she deserved.

The Howe School, located in Howe, Indiana, is approximately three hours from Indianapolis. The school focuses on helping cadets develop self-discipline, strong moral

As with most types of schools, there are pros and cons. For Schalk, the biggest con for a boarding school was the distance from home. Dealing with her daughter’s absence from home was difficult, but the benefits of a smaller class size and more personal attention for Anna at a boarding school outweighed any negatives.

“Brehm taught my child in a method where she was able to learn information, and that is

character, communication skills, and leadership, through a military-based platform. Alumni and Director of Admissions at The Howe School, Major Tam Haas, said there are many significant things a cadet will gain at The Howe School, but the most important, in his opinion, is to become a productive leader and citizen.

“By gaining confidence in their abilities they can become leaders in society,” he said.

powerful for self-esteem. Along with learning comes a better sense of self worth and self confidence,” said Schalk.

Whether you choose a boarding school for your child or a more traditional education route, the most important thing is your child’s success and happiness. Boarding school

Although Anna has since graduated and is currently attending college, Schalk said she

may or may not be the right choice for your child’s needs, so be sure to do research,

doesn’t regret her decision to send her daughter to a boarding school. Her bond with

talk to other parents, visit the schools you are considering, and make an informed

her daughter has only become stronger.

decision with the input of your child.

NOVEMBER 2012 [ indy’s child ] 47

commentary and parenting

[ pete gilbert...stay-at-home dad ]

Adventures in Grocery Shopping True confessions of stay-at-home dad Pete Gilbert

It’s time for my kids and I to make our weekly trip to the grocery store. I have my usual list. This week for added excitement my wife tacked on a few mystery ingredients too. Queso Fresco anyone? There are also veggies on the list that I can’t identify. Shallots? And what’s the difference between scallions and green onions?

stealth approach. He quietly grabs things from the shelf and sneaks them into the cart, like a ninja.

Upon arrival, I buckle my baby into the shopping cart. Once secured, she does the following: Licks the grocery cart handle, pulls whatever she can off shelves, crumples, rips and eats a portion of grocery list, then finally tries to escape.

The checker gives me a strange look as she rings up a box of granola bars with half them already eaten. Next, she rings up a box of pasta with the corner chewed off. My baby decided to get her recommended daily allowance of fiber from a cardboard pasta box.

My two oldest kids usually hang off the sides of the cart like garbage men in training. This makes my cart as wide as an entire grocery aisle, and adds an extra 80 pounds to navigate through the store. I’m not making hairpin turns in this thing. It’s more like the first time I drove my Jeep Cherokee after years of driving a Geo Prism. My daughter spends her time convincing me she “needs” certain foods for her school lunch, or it would be “really special” if we bought princess curly straws. My son takes a


After close to an hour, it’s time to check out.

After surviving our trip to the store, it’s time to unload the car at home, but that sure seems like a lot of work, and I’m exhausted. I think I’ll order a pizza for dinner. Happy Parenting! – Pete

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raising politically-savvy kids Denise Morrison Yearian

Denise Morrison Yearian is a former educator and editor of two parenting magazines, as well as the mother of three politically-minded adult children.

10 tips for parents November is election month: the perfect time to teach children about political affairs and influence the next generation of voters. Even young children can cultivate an interest in politics if parents include them in conversations and engage them in everyday activities. Why not start a grassroots effort to foster political awareness in your children? Here are 10 tips to help:


Start simple. Introduce concepts that can be built upon over time. Discuss what responsibility is and what they may be learning in history class. Talk about leaders and authority figures in your home and community.

Show your child pictures of those in the political spotlight and discuss what form of leadership he/she holds or is campaigning for.

2. 3.

Reason with relevance. Talk about how government affects your child’s life right now through everyday things – regulations on items they use or money needed for places they frequent such as parks and libraries.

Challenge to change. Teach your child that when things happen, they have the ability to affect change. For example, identify a neighborhood problem, such as a littered park, and talk about what they can do to change

it. Encourage them to write a letter to a local, state and national politician about the issue of concern. Children usually receive a letter in return, particularly from local and state officials, and this will encourage them to continue their efforts.


opportunities throughout the year and during campaign time. Parents and children can help with neighborhood mailings, drop off literature, distribute

buttons or put up campaign signs.


Encourage early election encounters. Encourage your child to run for school or class office. This will give him a jump start on leadership roles and is a tangible way to teach them about the campaigning process. Suggest

school and extracurricular groups hold mini debates to introduce political concepts.


Design day trips. Take trips to state and national historical and governmental sites. If possible, make prior arrangements to meet with representatives. Have your child make a list of questions to ask officials before

leaving home.


Model and mentor. Let your child see you reading the newspaper, watching the news, being active in civic volunteering and voting. Take them with you to vote and familiarize them with voting processes. Unspoken

modeling has a lasting effect.


Be consistent. Studies show that parents who regularly discuss political issues with their kids have a better chance of raising politically-minded children.

Reach for resources. Use juvenile literature such as biographies and historical and fiction works as a springboard for discussions and to focus their understanding of governmental affairs. Kid-friendly political and

civic-oriented websites, such as, have information and activities to teach children about government and current affairs.



Value volunteering. Participate in community family volunteer

Political Reads for Kids — America Votes: How Our President is Elected by Linda Granfield — As If Being 12 3/4 Isn't Bad Enough, My Mother Is Running for President! by Donna Gephart — Class President by Johanna Hurwitz

Take news you can use. Watch the news and political debates and

— Dork on the Run by Carol Gorman

read the newspaper aloud then discuss it together. Explain political

— Duck for President by Doreen Cronin

cartoons and encourage your child to create their own cartoons based

— If I Ran for President by Catherine Stier

on issues important to them. 50 INDYSCHILD.COM

— Vote for Me: All About the Civics by Kirsten Hall


‘Tis the season of giving. This holiday season, give back to the community with your family. Family volunteering can impact a legacy of community service, and create life-long volunteers out of younger generations. It also offers an opportunity to forge lasting bonds with fellow family members, while simultaneously making important contributions to the community. Check out these family volunteering opportunities in the Greater Indianapolis area and start giving back today.

Gleaner’s Food Bank of Indiana

Ronald McDonald House of Indiana

Gleaner’s Food Bank: 3737 Waldemere Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46241

Ronald McDonald House of Indiana: 435 Limestone St., Indianapolis, IN 46202

(317) 925-0191 |

(317) 269-2247 |

HOW: Visit to fill out a volunteer form. No cost.

HOW: Contact Volunteer Resource Manager, Mary Friend, at to find out how you can help.

WHEN: Volunteer shifts available daily, see website for details.

WHEN: Shifts vary, see website for details.

At Gleaner’s Food Bank of Indiana, they believe that nobody should ever go to bed hungry. During this holiday season, your family can help in a variety of different ways at Gleaner’s and make a real difference in your fellow Hoosiers’ lives.

The Ronald McDonald House of Indiana works to provide a supportive home-away-from-home for families of seriously ill or injured children receiving medical care at Riley Hospital for Children and other Indianapolis hospitals. Families can donate meals, help prepare the homes, or conduct a food or wish list drive.

Holy Family Shelter of Indianapolis

Holy Family Shelter: 1400 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46202

Salvation Army of Indianapolis

(317) 635-7830 ext. 19 |

Salvation Army Indiana Division: 3100 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46208

HOW: Contact Volunteer & Donations Coordinator Amber Hiss to find out how you can help. Kids 18 and under must be accompanied by an adult.

(800) 589-1037 |

WHEN: Volunteer shifts vary, contact the Holy Family Shelter for details.

WHEN: Shifts vary, see website for details.

Serving more than 1,000 people each year, Holy Family Shelter addresses the increasing demand for emergency shelter in Indianapolis and the Central Indiana area by providing residential services designed to move homeless families to self-sufficiency.

The Salvation Army of Indianapolis is dedicated to helping those in need. Your family can lend a hand by volunteering or making a donation.

Horizon House Volunteer Program

Second Helpings

HOW: Contact Volunteer Coordinator Brian Smith for more information on how you can help.

Horizon House: 1033 E. Washington St., Indianapolis, IN 46202

Second Helpings: 1121 Southeastern Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46202

(317) 423-8909 ext. 326 |

(317) 632-2664 |

HOW: Contact Scott Brannon for more information on how you can help.

HOW: Contact the Manager of Volunteer Services, Mary, at, to find out how your family can get involved.

WHEN: M – F, 7:00a.m. – 5:00p.m.

WHEN: Shifts vary, see website for details.

The Horizon House Volunteer Program is dedicated to educating and engaging individuals to become life-long community advocates for the homeless.

At Second Helpings, they rescue prepared and perishable food, prepare it into nutritious meals and distribute those meals to over 60 social services organization that feed hungry people.

Humane Society of Indianapolis Parent & Me Days

Special Olympics Indiana

IndyHumane: 7929 Michigan Road, Indianapolis, IN 46268 (317) 872-5650 | HOW: Cost is $15 to volunteer. Each child (8 years and older) must be accompanied by an adult.

Special Olympics Indiana: 6100 W. 96th St., Suite 270, Indianapolis, IN 46278 (317) 328-2000 |

WHEN: Pairs must commit to a weekly 2-hour shift. Tu – F, 12:00p.m. – 7:00p.m. Sa 2:00p.m – 6:00p.m.

HOW: Contact Volunteer Coordinator Tracy Miller to find out how you can get involved. WHEN: Shifts vary, see website for details.

Parent & Me Days give families the opportunity to volunteer their time and love to the animals at IndyHumane. Volunteering at the Humane Society of Indianapolis will help you and your child nurture a sense of compassion and respect for living beings through enriching activities and hands-on experience.

Special Olympics Indiana provides year-round sports training and athletic competition in more than 20 Olympic-type sports for children and adults with intellectual disabilities. Find out how your family can get involved by visiting their website.

The Julian Center

United Way of Central Indiana

Julian Center: 2011 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46202

United Way of Central Indiana: 3901 N. Meridian St., P.O. Box 88409Indianapolis, IN 46208

(317) 941-2200 |

(317) 923-1466 |

HOW: Visit their website to find volunteering opportunities for your family. The Julian Center also runs a food pantry drive, a cell phone drive, and an adopt-a-family program.

HOW: Visit their website to find volunteering opportunities near you.

WHEN: Shifts vary, see website for details. The Julian Center provides counseling, safe shelter, case management, advocacy, and education for survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and other life crises in the Indianapolis area.

WHEN: Shifts vary, see website for details. The United Way of Central Indiana Volunteer Center is a place where volunteers and opportunities connect. Find volunteer opportunities for your family this holiday season.

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calendar thurs | 01

Target Free Family Night: Making a Difference Times: 4:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-334-3322 Location: The Children's Museum, Indianapolis Explore the lives of Ruby Bridges, Ryan White, and Anne Frank and discover ways to give back to your community. Sponsored generously by Target, the first Thursday of each month The Children’s Museum opens free of charge from 4-8 p.m.

fri | 02

Family Pool Challenge Times: 6:00 PM - 9:00 PM Price: $10/family Phone: 317-848-7275 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel Prepare for an evening of excitement, challenge, and family-friendly competition. Join us as we build cardboard boats to race and compete in fun relays and games. Finish with open swim while enjoying the water slides and more with your family. Don't miss out on this perfect family team-building night that you'll remember forever.

sat | 03

Chemistry Day Times: 10:00 AM - 3:00 PM Price: Free with museum admission Phone: 317-334-3322 Location: The Children's Museum, Indianapolis

Find out what makes chemistry so cool with demonstrations, hands-on activities, and displays at The Children's Museum of Indianapolis. Programs will intrigue young minds while emphasizing basic chemistry principles and safety.

Power Recycling Weekend presented by BrightPoint Saturday, November 3 — Sunday, November 4 Times: 9:00 AM - 3:00 PM Phone: 3176302001 Location: Indianapolis Zoo, Indianapolis For two days, you can bring us your old electronics, phone books and papers ready for shredding. Our recycling partners will take it from there. We'll even have volunteers available to help you unload big, heavy items. You can do something good for the planet and you'll get something good in return – a $2.00 discount coupon for Zoo admission.

mon | 05

Monday Madness: Election Excitement Times: 4:00 PM and 6:00 PM Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel If it’s Monday, madness usually follows – hurrying, scurrying, getting back into the groove. We know what Mondays are like, so here’s a way to shake off the day: Join us for Monday Madness at the library! Feel free to bring a friend and meet new ones too. You’ll laugh together, do on-your-feet activities, hear funny stories, and get creative with crafts. For children in grades 1-5.

sun | 04

Teen Mystery Dinner Times: 4:00 PM - 7:00 PM Price: $20/person + tax & gratuity Phone: 317-638-7881 Location: The Indianapolis Propylaeum, Indianapolis Detective TMD is on the job...Teen Mystery Dinner. Grab a group of friends and try to solve the Mystery of the Lost Tea Cup. You will be treated to a three course dinner and then you will try to solve the mystery. Each teen at the table will have a part and prizes will be awarded. For 1218 year olds. Reservations required, 638-7881.


tues | 06

Election Day: live From Delaware Street Times: 10:00 AM - 3:00 PM Price: $10.00 member adults; $12.00 adults; $5.00 students (ages 5 to 17) Phone: 317-631-1888 Location: Benjamin Harrison

Presidential Site, Indianapolis How would Benjamin Harrison have kept track of the election results without 24-hour news television? Visit the President Benjamin Harrison Home and be transported to the year 1888 as household staff and family members, recreated by exceptional actors, discuss their preparations for their move to Washington.

tues | 07

The Thanksgiving Show Times: 7:00 PM Price: FREE Phone: 317-838-3801 Location: Plainfield-Guilford Township Public Library, Plainfield Are you ready for Thanksgiving? Bring the entire family to this fun, interactive show featuring Tom the Turkey and the magical entertainment of Don Miller to get in the spirit of the season. All ages are welcome at this free family program. Registration is required at www.plainfieldlibrary. net or by calling (317) 838-3801.

thurs | 08

National Adoption Day Celebration Times: 11:30 AM - 4:00 PM Price: FREE Phone: 545-5281 x 271 Location: City-County Building, Indianapolis The IN Adoption Program is hosting an event to increase awareness of the need for adoptive families. This is a public event to celebrate adoption.

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fri | 09

Storytime Express @ the Monon Center: Jungle Safari Times: 11:00 AM Phone: 317-848-7275 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel For children ages 2-5 & their caregivers, this fastpaced interactive mix of fun-filled stories, rhymes, and songs paired with a simple craft is designed to introduce and practice critical early literacy skills. Registration for this free program is required through Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation, either online at, in person at the Monon Community Center, by calling 848-7275.

sat | 10

American Girl Fashion Show Saturday, November 10 — Sunday, November 11 Times: Sat., 6:30 PM; Sun., 1:00 PM and 4:30 PM Price: $40 & $30 Phone: (812) 342-0446 Location: Clarion Hotel & Conference Center, Columbus, IN Celebrate the experience of being a girl, whether yesterday or today, through a colorful presentation of historical and contemporary fashions. Enjoy elegant refreshments, enter to win door prizes, and learn how clothing has changed over the years to reflect history, culture, and girls’ individual styles. Recommended for children 6 and Hosted byAmerican Cancer Society to benefit Camp Catch-A-Rainbow.

PlayFit: Indoor Fitness Times: 10:00 AM - 3:00 PM Price: Free with museum admission Phone: 317-334-3322 Location: The Children's Museum, Indianapolis Join The Children's Museum of Indianapolis for an indoor fitness extravaganza Celebrate healthy choices and active play with special performances and activities. PlayFit at The


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Children’s Museum of Indianapolis is presented by the Anthem Blue Cross and Blue Shield Foundation and supported by Peyton Manning Children's Hospital at St.Vincent.

2nd Annual Pre-Holiday Shopping Times: 5:30 PM - 8:30 PM Price: Complimentary Phone: 317-517-9920 Location: Ritz Charles, Carmel Enjoy a posh and chic night of 'Pre-Holiday' Shopping from local vendors. Stroll through the amazing assortment of items to kick off the holiday season. An assortment of drinks and appetizers will be served. We will also have a cooking demonstration and chocolate and wine tasting.

A Beginner's Guide to Zombie Apocalyptic Survival Times: 2:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4100 Location: Central Library, Indianapolis After teens survive the zombie apocalypse, they'll want to document their frightful experience. Teens ages 13 - 17 are invited to learn about the writing process from Mike Mullin, author of the critically acclaimed novel, "Ashfall." A book signing will follow.

sun | 11

Friends of the Library Used Book Sale Times: 9:00 AM - 9:00 PM Price: prices vary Phone: 317-885-1330 Location: JCPL White River Branch, Greenwood Shop for great bargains on books while supporting your local library!

mon | 12 Monday Madness: Turkey Tales Times: 4:00 PM and 6:30 PM Price: Free Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel For children in grades 1-5. If it’s Monday, madness usually follows – hurrying, scurrying, getting back into the groove. We know what Mondays are like, so here’s a way to shake off the day: Join us for Monday Madness at the library! Feel free to bring a friend and meet new ones too. You’ll laugh together, do on-your-feet activities, hear funny stories, and get creative with crafts.

fri | 16 tues | 13 The True Story of the Three Little Pigs Times: 10:00 AM - 12:00 PM Price: $15 Phone: 317-940-6444 Location: Clowes Memorial Hall, Indianapolis Adapted from the hilariously popular book by Jon Scieszka and Lane Smith, the play begins where the book leaves off in which Alexander T. Wolf is on trial for the murder of two of the three little pigs. What really happened? YOU decide!

weds | 14 Sing and Sign With Express Kids Times: 10:30 AM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4100 Location: Central Library, Indianapolis Children up to age 5 and an adult are invited to sign and sing along with Miss Elaine. They will use music, sign language, puppets and wholebody learning in this special interactive program. This program will be held in the Learning Curve.

36th Annual Indy International Festival Friday, November 16 — Sunday, November 18 Times: 10:00 AM - 6:00 PM Price: ADULTS: 8.00 Advance / $10.00 At the door; CHILDREN (6-12) $6.00 Phone: 317-236-6515 Location: Indiana State Fairgrounds, Indianapolis This annual festival features exhibits from the 50 + ethnic groups represented in Central Indiana as they gather to share their rich cultural histories and traditions.

sat | 17

Whale of a Sale Saturday, November 17 — Sunday, November 18 Phone: 317-927-7500 Location: Indiana State Fairgrounds, Indianapolis Indy’s premier upscale children’s consignment event featuring 25,000 square feet of clothing, toys, equipment, bedding, furniture, boutique, maternity, fabulous vendors and more... at a fraction of retail price! See website for schedule.

weds | 21 Preschool Art Workshop presented by Art With a Heart

Indy Kids Consignment Holiday Sale Times: 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM Location: Hamilton County Fairgrounds, Noblesville Shop Indy Kids Consignment's first Holiday sale You'll find new and gently used dressy holiday children's clothing, toys, books, games, movies and more at 50-90% off retail prices.

sun | 18

Times: 11:00 AM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4310 Location: Brightwood Library, Indianapolis Preschoolers ages 3 - 6 are invited to join the Library and Art With a Heart for a story time and art workshop. They'll listen to "Ten Little Sleepyheads" by Elizabeth Provost and create a work of art inspired by the story and illustrations in the book.

thurs | 22

Happy Thanksgiving!

Holliday Park Meet the Nature Center Animals Times: 1:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-327-7180 Location: Holliday Park Nature Center, Indianapolis Get up close and personal with the animals who call the nature center home. We'll learn about what makes each animal unique as well as how our naturalists keep them happy and healthy. All ages, no registration required.

mon | 19 Paws to Read at Eagle Times: 4:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4340 Location: Eagle Library, Indianapolis School-age children who are reluctant readers are invited to read to a registered therapy dog who loves to listen to stories! It's a great way to improve a child's reading skills and self-confidence.

tues | 20 Pajama Time Times: 6:30 PM - 7:30 PM Price: FREE Phone: 317-838-3801 Location: Plainfield-Guilford Township Public Library, Plainfield A puppet story will be featured and children will take home a memento from one of the stories. Children may wear their pajamas and bring their teddy bear. Free program for all ages, no registration is required.

fri | 23

Santa Arrives! Times: 11:00 AM Price: Included with museum admission Phone: 317-232-1637 Location: Indiana State Museum, Indianapolis Enjoy the Indianapolis Children's Choir then gather on the museum's front lawn to watch Santa and Mrs. Claus' arrival by helicopter. Once safely on the ground, they will greet the crowd and move to their home in Celebration Crossing. The day's festivities include the unveiling of the 92 County ornament tree.

sat | 24

IMA Community Day: A Feast for the Eyes Times: 11:00 AM - 4:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-920-2659 Location: IMA, Indianapolis Celebrate the Season of Giving Thanks! Enjoy activities and tours highlighting works of art depicting food, objects created for serving food, making art that looks like food, and hearing a taste of spicy music. Bring donations of unopened, labeled canned goods and help "CANstruct' a cityscape.

Santa's Arrival at the Indianapolis Airport

Times: 11:00 AM - 2:00 PM Price: Free Location: Indianapolis Airport, Indianapolis Santa heads up the free, family-friendly activities, including decorating cookies, making ornaments, creating cards for our U.S. servicemen and women, and offering photos taken with him! Adults can browse the retail kiosks to get a jump-start on their holiday shopping. Parking is free for those who register on-site the day of the event.

sun | 25 Santa’s Holiday Breakfast Times: 9:00, 9:30, and 10:00 AM seatings Price: See website for pricing Phone: 317-232-1637 Location: Indiana State Museum, Indianapolis Families are invited to share a festive breakfast with Mrs. Claus, Raggedy Ann, and other characters. Once you’ve enjoyed your buffet meal, visit Santa at his holiday home and ride the Santa Claus Express train in Celebration Crossing. The breakfast also includes gift bags for children and museum admission. Other dates: Nov. 24 and Dec. 1, 2, 9, 15, 16, 22 and 23.

weds | 28 DIY Holiday Gifts Times: 3:30 PM - 5:00 PM Phone: 317-814-3983 Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel Spend less this holiday season by making your own gifts for family and friends! Learn how to upcycle ordinary materials into thrifty, handcrafted treasures. No registration is required and there is no charge for this event. For teens in middle school or high school.

thurs | 29 Butler Ballet's The Nutcracker Thursday, November 29 — Friday, November 30 Times: 7:30 PM - 10:00 PM Price: See website for pricing Phone: 317-940-6444 Location: Clowes Memorial Hall, Indianapolis A holiday family tradition, Butler Ballet is proud to present Tchaikovsky’s The Nutcracker, choreographed by Butler University Department of Dance faculty members; performed by Butler Ballet dancers and children from Indianapolis area dance community; music performed by the Butler Symphony Orchestra under the direction of Richard Auldon Clark, and featuring the Indianapolis Children’s Choir.

mon | 26 Do-It-Yourself and Save: Tasty Treats Times: 4:30 PM and 6:30 PM Phone: 317-844-3363 Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel For children in grades 4-5. If you like tasty treats, come to the Storytime Room to learn how to make your favorite treats at home for a fraction of the cost at a restaurant. Savings add up quickly when you make these treats yourself. Registration is required and begins Monday, November 19, online, in person, or by calling 844-3363.

tues | 27 Fishers Parks and Recreation: Holiday Card Making Workshop Times: 5:30 PM - 7:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-595-3150 Location: Billericay Park Building, Fishers Take this opportunity to share some holiday spirit Create greeting cards that will bedistributed to local senior communities. All supplies are provided. For all ages. Register by 11/21.

Early Childhood Music Class Times: 9:30 AM Price: Free Phone: 573-0080 Location: The Music Playhouse, Carmel Children ages birth to five and their caregiver are welcome to come sing, dance and play instruments at our very fun and high energy class with their caregiver. Please register on-line on our website through the "Events" function or by calling our office at 573-0080.

fri | 30 Friday Family Fun: Holiday Ornament Workshop Times: 4:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-535-6206 Location: JCPL Clark Pleasant Branch, New Whiteland It’s that time of year…time to decorate the tree! We’re making fun holiday ornaments here at the library so we can do just that! Join us as we create colorful ornaments out of a variety of materials. Then, you can even help decorate the library’s tree with one of the ornaments you made! NOVEMBER 2012 [ indy’s child ] 55

ongoing events 11.12

14th Annual Ann Katz Festival of Books & Arts

63rd annual Christmas Gift & Hobby Show

Select days October 24 — November 17

Wednesday, November 7 — Sunday, November 11

Price: $5 general public / $3 JCC members Phone: (317) 251-9467

Price: $10 per person; children 12 and under are free; $7 seniors 65+ (Wed & Thurs only)

Location: Jewish Community Center, Indianapolis

Phone: 317-927-7500

Location: Indiana State Fairgrounds, Indianapolis

This festival continues to grow by adding a broad range of events


to appeal to an increasingly more varied audience. Fiction lovers

More than 65,000 visitors are expected to attend one of the

can look forward to opening night, October 24, with best-selling

Midwest’s largest shows to shop for holiday and home décor,

author and screenwriter Delia Ephron. Kids can explore, learn

specialty foods, crafts, jewelry and other gift items that 350

and move at the many engaging activities planned for the "Day of

exhibitors sell. Also on hand in the West Pavilion: FREE antique

Play" on October 28. And much more. Festival Fast-Pass good

appraisals by Discovery channel Auction Kings’ Dr. Lori (Wed-

for all programs: $50 general public / $40 JCC members.

Fri only), $10,000 in Merry Money giveaways for guests best portraying the holiday spirit, art fair, visits with


Santa, a Christmas Café and much more!

Select days through November 17 Price: $14

> find more


at Celebration Crossing Friday, November 23 through Monday, December 31 Times: During museum hours Price: Included with museum admission Phone: 317-232-1637 Location: Indiana State Museum, Indianapolis Visitors can ride the Santa Claus Express, visit with Santa and get their photo taken, and participate in holiday and winter-themed activities on all levels of the museum.

Location: Beef & Boards, Indianapolis

Away in the Basement, A Church Basement Ladies’ Christmas

Select days through Sunday, November 25

Each musical is one hour long with no intermission. Price includes

Times: See website for schedule

juice and snack. Fridays at 10 and Saturdays at 10 & 1

Price: $37 to $60

Jolly Days

Phone: 317-872-9664

Friday, November 23 — Sunday, January 6 Price: Included with museum admission Phone: (317) 334-3322 Location: The Children’s Museum, Indianapolis Enjoy favorites such as the Yule Slide, Jingles the Jolly Bear, and visits with Santa. Have fun with Jingles and his friends! Explore “outdoor” fun at the Snow Castle and Ice Fishing holes. Warm up your imagination with lots of cookie fun in the kitchen, and help Santa’s reindeer prepare for their flight!

Phone: 317-872-9664

St.Vincent Health presents A Christmas Carol Friday, November 23 through Monday, December 24 Times: See website for schedule Price: Ticket prices vary Phone: 317-635-5252 Location: IRT, Indianapolis The IRT celebrates the bicentennial of Charles Dickens’ birth with the return of his most beloved tale. The holidays aren’t complete until you’ve treated the family to a tradition that has spanned the decades-- A

Location: Beef & Boards, Indianapolis The third installment in the enormously popular Church Basement Ladies musical comedy series, Away in the Basement is set in 1959 on the day of the Sunday School Christmas Program. In the midst of holiday preparations and sprinklings of love in the air, the ladies in their witty, down-to-earth style are creating their own memories from Christmases past and present. Content to do things the way they have always been done yet pondering new ideas, the reality of everyday life hits home as they plan the Sunday School Christmas Program.

Christmas Carol at IRT, the season’s most heartfelt gift.

Jingle Rails: The Great Western Adventure

Christmas at the Zoo Wednesdays — Sundays, November 23 through December 30

Saturday, November 3 — Sunday, January 6

Times: 5:00 PM - 9:00 PM

Times: During museum hours Price: Included with general admission Phone: 317-636-WEST Location: Eiteljorg, Indianapolis

Price: Included with general admission

Enter a locomotive wonderland, a network of trestles, bridges

Sip a hot beverage, visit the animals, and enjoy exhibits and

and tunnels with chugging trains and detailed replicas of

special activities throughout the Zoo. As with any Zoo event, the

national treasures, all made of natural materials like twigs,

animals play a special role for the holidays. Special dolphin

moss and nuts and wrapped up in holiday trimming.

shows and keeper chats help put a wild spin on this most

Jingle Rails is a journey to the Great American West –

wonderful time of the year. You can also decorate cookies, write

the real West and the West of the imagination.

letters to Santa, listen to carolers and warm up at the campfire.


Phone: 317-630-2001 Location: Indianapolis Zoo, Indianapolis

Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey®: DRAGONS! Thursday, November 29 — Sunday, December 2 Times: See website for schedule Price: see website for ticket pricing Phone: 317-917-2500 Location: Bankers Life FieldHouse, Indianapolis Experience circus spectacles so incredible that once again you will believe in the unbelievable! Dragon tribes from the far reaches of the earth are brought together in a single performance, displaying their breathtaking skills in a circus tournament of champions. Each tribe must prove that they have virtues of Courage, Strength, Wisdom and Heart to arouse dragons that appear right before your very eyes! Don't miss this once-in-a-lifetime family event when The Greatest Show On Earth brings the world together… to bring your family together!










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fun+wacky INDY'S CHILD





thurs 1

11.12 fri 2


on this day

daylight savings time ends


donut day

election day



how to celebrate: save some room for dessert and make your favorite sundae after dinner



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19 peanut 20 play butter fudge monopoly day day how to celebrate:


A FREE health event for women at St.Vincent Carmel Hospital, from 8 a.m. - 1 p.m. Call 317-338-CARE or visit to learn more.




domino day

on this day the X-ray was discovered in 1895



cake day how to celebrate: make your favorite flavor for dessert!

how to celebrate: sit down with your family and listen to how everyone else's day went


french toast day how to celebrate: ask your mom or dad to make french toast for breakfast!

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homemade bread day

how to celebrate: put on your apron and make some homemade banana bread!



celebrate your 24 black friday unique talent day

world "hello" day


national day of listening


button day

how to celebrate: if you dare, take your family out to take advantage of some great deals!

how to celebrate: say "hello" to someone new today



Please join us for an indoor fitness extravaganza at PlayFit, from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., at The Children's Museum.

throw out all of those old leftovers!



happy birthday cookie monster!

13 14 15 young readers day clean out your pack your mom on this day how to celebrate: lunch the first balloon read your favorite book refrigerator day day how to celebrate: before crosses the Pacific bed


the electric light bulb was patented by Thomas Edison in 1879


get your whole family together and have a game night


hug a bear day 7 how to celebrate: give all your teddy bears a great big hug!

how to celebrate: try your hand at some homemade donuts for breakfast!

sundae day




this day 29 on

King Tut's Tomb Opened In 1922


stay at home because you're well day

how to celebrate: get your friends together and put on a talent show for your family

(good luck!)

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