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features 16 | IT'S GETTING SPOOKY IN THE CIRCLE CITY 22 | COMBATING CHILDHOOD OBESITY Simple tips for raising healthy kids





around town



Local learning programs

Lights-On or Lights-Off?



Talking to your kids about divorce

47 | MAKING THE MOST OF COLLEGE TOURS A guide for parents

48 | I SURVIVED. The inspiring stories of two local mothers who beat breast cancer

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special needs


34 | BULLYING KIDS ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM Why they are bullied and what to do about it

41 | GET THE PICTURE How to capture your child with special needs in a professional photograph





28 | education/childcare GUIDE



36 | Special Needs GUIDE







63 | FUN + WACKY

commentary + parenting 27 | MOMMY MAGIC The golden rule

50 | DAD SHOT MY LAPTOP Stay-at-home dad, Pete Gilbert


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Indy’s Child

[ publisher’s note ]


Reach Out and Read

PUBLISHER Mary Wynne Cox |

Reading to your child(ren) at a young age is one of the greatest gifts that you can give them. Research shows that babies as young as 6 months old can benefit from being read to. At a very young age, your child(ren) are reaching developmental milestones of early literacy. These milestones reflect the motor and cognitive stages of early literacy that your child has achieved.

EDITOR Katie Wynne | SALES & BUSINESS DEVELOPMENT Jennica Zalewski |

Reach Out and Read is a nation-wide program that partners with pediatric clinics to encourage reading at home and help develop children with both healthy bodies and healthy minds. Reach Out and Read works primarily with low-income communities – hoping to prepare children for school and encourage at-home learning.


Through this program, age-appropriate books are purchased for children ages six months to six years. These books are given to the children at every visit to their doctor. Dr. Patricia Bradshaw, a pediatrician at Eskenazi Health, greets all of her patients and their siblings with a new book. Dr. Bradshaw has children’s books in both English and Spanish and tells families that reading aloud daily is best for their children.


Lisa Robertson, Regional Director of Reach Out and Read Indiana, networks with foundations and companies who support their mission. MDwise supports the program by donating office space, financial support and outreach services. The Kiwanis Service Clubs create reading corners in Pediatric Clinics where gently used books can be read. Other local organizations that have helped grow the services of Reach Out and Read Indiana include the Jr. League of Indianapolis, Indianapolis Foundation and the Hoover Family Foundation. You can help by providing gently used books for waiting rooms by contacting Robertson at To learn more about how reading can benefit your child, visit the Reach Out and Read website: Some tips that I would like to pass on to Indy’s Child parents: • Hold your infants and toddlers on your lap as you read to them so they can see your expression and watch your lips and truly engage with you. •

Make reading an interactive experience where children finish sentences—children love to hear the same book over and over.

Praise them for bringing you a book to read.

Surveys show that only 48% of parents in the United States read to their young children daily. I am certain that 100% of Indy’s Child readers will read to their children today. Don’t forget the Indianapolis Public Library has two wonderful resources for young children: Baby Bunny Book Bags, with 12 board books in each bag, and the Bunny Book Bag, with 20 picture books in a bag. Each bag can be kept for up to 21 days. These bags are prepacked and books carefully selected by library staff, so start reading today!

Barbara Wynne Founding Publisher 6 INDYSCHILD.COM

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Barbara Wynne, Marge Eberts & Peggy Gisler, Katie Wynne, Carrie Bishop, Sarah McCosham, Brooke Reynolds, Katrina R. Holtmeier, Taylor Newell, Pete Gilbert, Mary Susan Buhner, Dr. Kara Borcherding – St.Vincent Hospital, Kelli Agnew – Indianapolis Zoo, Allison Steck & Kate Orme – Children’s Museum, Shelly King – Riley Hospital for Children CALENDAR OF EVENTS

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[ community spotlight ]

community S POT L IGH T

a day of play: featuring rick recht in concert! Presented by the Indianapolis Hebrew Congregation Who doesn't love to play? Play with movement. Play with art. Play with food. Playing facilitates learning and socializing. On Sunday, October 28 from noon until 4 p.m., come explore, move, discover and then take in a concert by Rick Recht at 3 pm. This event is FREE to JCC members and the public. • Play with Paint – use adaptive art tools, bookmarks and fabric with VSA Indiana artists and staff. Children are welcome to try the Zot Artz adaptive tool that transforms a wheelchair into an oversize paintbrush to see how creativity has no bounds. • Creative Movement Play – learn creative ways to play through dance, movement and imagination with JCC dance instructor, Melli Hoppe. Focus on inclusivity for both mobile and non-mobile children and their families. • Play with Your Food/Part 2 - interactivity workshop focusing on ways to introduce children to tasty, yet healthy foods.

kellogg’s tour of gymnastics champions Coming to Indianapolis this November Scheduled for November 2nd at 7:00pm at the Bankers Life Fieldhouse, the 2012 Kellogg’s Tour of Gymnastics Champions will feature nine of the ten U.S. Gymnastics Team members that competed in the 2012 Olympic Games in London. The women’s team members are Gabrielle Douglas, McKayla Maroney, Alexandra Raisman, Kyla Ross, and Jordyn Wieber, and the men’s team members are Jake Dalton, Jonathon Horton, Sam Mikulak, and John Orozco. The Tour will also include 2008 Olympic all-around champion Nastia Liukin, 2008 Olympic team silver-medalist Chellsie Memmel, members of the men’s and women’s 2011 World Championship team, along with past Olympians and U.S. medalists in men’s, women’s, rhythmic, and acrobatic gymnastics, and trampoline and tumbling. Local area gymnasts will also have the chance to participate in this Tour stop’s performance. These athletes are an inspiration to us all. Make it a family evening and inspire your children to go for the gold. To get tickets to this exciting event, visit

• Enjoy lunch at some of Indy’s favorite food trucks! • Support our friends at Popsie’s Pantry by bringing boxed or canned food and household goods.

6th annual oktoberfest On Saturday, October 13th, dust off your lederhosen and head to Traders Point Creamery! Come celebrate in the German tradition with authentic German fare and toe-tapping music from PolkaBoy, a rollicking 13-piece polka band. This year, Oktoberfest will be featuring their first whole hog roast with Gunthorp Farms, along with farm-style organic sides. There are fun activities the kids will enjoy, too, like hayrides, a pumpkin patch, and cow milking! And while you’re having fun, you’ll be helping the farm raise money for the Traders Point Rural Historic District, a nonprofit organization that protects more than 7,000 acres of green space around Eagle Creek for the enjoyment of generations to come. Tickets are $10, $8 in advance. Visit for more information or to purchase tickets.


march of dimes mom of the year announces sarah fisher as honoree March of Dimes Mom of the Year celebrates all moms with a dinner and dance on November 10th at the Indianapolis Downtown Marriot Hotel. March of Dimes has announced Indiana mother Sarah Fisher as the Mom of the Year corporate Honoree for this year’s Mom of the Year Celebration. Fisher’s leadership in the corporate world, in her personal life and in the community, is deserving of special recognition. Also honored at the event are 10 moms selected for special recognition from online submissions made by the public at These 10 Mom of the Year Honorees will be chosen from hundreds of online nominations by a group of March of Dimes volunteers. It’s not too late to nominate a deserving mom you know! Visit and find the link to Mom of the Year at the top of the home page to submit your nomination.

on the cover carter chapman

AGE 2 1/2

favs when I grow up...

I wanna be a race car driver!

candy: Marshmallows color: Blue ice cream: Cookie Dough sport: Bastketball tv show: Mickey Mouse Club House subject: Recess to Play Outside toy: Cars movie: Cars 1 & 2 restaurant: I don't like going out to eat food: Cheetos book: Arthur Goes to School super hero: Spiderman

[ Photos by Hannah Hilliard Photography ] Carter is at the Indianapolis Zoo for ZooBoo!

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“Do you allow your kids to have a TV in their bedroom? Why or why not? Yes, however it has no Cable connected to the TV. It allows them to watch movies or to play video games when our family TV is in use. They are not allowed to sleep with it on. – Carrie L. No. The bedroom is for sleeping. TV watching and sleeping don't go hand in hand. I also want to know what my kids are watching. – Christy W. Our kids have old TV's in their rooms. They only have a DVD player hooked up to them. That way they can watch a movie in their rooms if there is something else going on in the family room. – Jenny D. Yes, but it is only able to be used to watch a video and that's only on the weekend nights. – Shauna W. No, there is no reason for a child to have a TV in the bedroom. For our kids, their room is a place to play, read or sleep. We encouage other activities and keep TV use to an absolute minimum. When we do watch TV or movies, we do it as a family. – Curt D.

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[ pediatric health ]

Solutions for a Common Problem: Bedwetting Tips and advice Shelly King Shelly King is the Manager of Pediatric Urology at Riley Hospital for Children at Indiana University Health. About 10 percent of children under age 7 and 5 percent who are age 10 still wet the bed, even if they don’t have wetting accidents or show symptoms during the day. Bedwetting is a normal part of a child’s bladder development, but it can be stressful and embarrassing—especially as a child grows older. Children may feel that bedwetting is their fault, even though that’s not the case. As a parent, you can approach this issue with patience, sensitivity, and a few recommendations to help your child achieve a sound and dry sleep.

What are the most common causes of bedwetting? Sometimes, your child may have an infection or constipation that causes both daytime and nighttime accidents. Your doctor can determine if either one of these is the cause and provide treatment.


Hereditary conditions – if there is a family history of those with the condition.

> Encourage urination on a regular schedule (every two to three hours) during the day. Before bedtime, encourage double voiding. If bedtime is at 8 p.m., have your child empty his or her bladder at 7:30 p.m. and again at 8 p.m.


Heavy sleeping – not waking up when bladder is full.


Monitor your child for any signs of constipation and treat accordingly.

> Hormonal imbalance – not producing enough of an anti-diuretic hormone to reduce urine production at night.


If these steps don’t stop the bedwetting, talk to your child’s healthcare professional.


Stressful events – such as a move, new school or bullying.

What are other options?


Secondhand smoke can be a potential cause.

If there are no daytime symptoms, other factors include:

What can I do? > Encourage your child to drink more fluids during the day and taper off fluid intake in the evening. If possible, stop fluids two hours before bedtime. However, don’t withhold fluids if your child is truly thirsty. > Eliminate bladder irritants such as caffeine, carbonation, citric acid, chocolate and red/purple dyes from your child’s diet, particularly in the late afternoon and evening. Dairy products also should be avoided in the evening.


> In some cases, a bedwetting alarm can be used to wake your child at the moment the alarm senses wetness. A bedwetting alarm works in about 60 to 70 percent of cases and requires a high level of commitment from you and your child. It may take three or four months before your child begins to wake on his or her own. There are several versions of the alarm available, all are equally effective. > Medications may be prescribed if your doctor determines that your child’s bedwetting may be caused by a hormonal imbalance, a small or overactive bladder, or when other treatments have failed. For more information, visit

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[ pediatric health ]

Fuel for Toddlers on the Go Healthy snacks for your growing child Kara Borcherding Kara Borcherding, R.D., is a pediatric dietitian at Peyton Manning Children's Hospital at St.Vincent.

Nutritious meals and snacks should be parts of everyone’s balanced diet. However, ensuring toddlers receive adequate nutrition can require strategy. Fighting off giant squids and playing princess can push eating well to the bottom of a toddler’s to-do list. Setting regular meal and snack times at the table can help toddlers get with the program. Because toddlers aren’t likely to eat much at one sitting, healthful snacks between meals and even after dinner can help prevent them from developing cranky moods and running out of gas. Allow toddlers a choice of several healthful food options to allow them to assert their growing independence. Good snacks for toddlers include: >

Applesauce (no sugar added)—1/4 cup


Cheese slices—1 ounce


Diced fruit—1/2 piece


Graham crackers—1 to 2


Whole-grain, low-sugar breakfast cereals—1/2 cup


Yogurt—1/3 cup

Rating the Pantry Parents can improve the overall nutrition of their toddlers and the whole family by only stocking healthful foods or keeping high-sugar, high-fat treats out of sight and reserved for special occasions. Stick to the perimeter of the grocery store when shopping and choose whole fruits and vegetables, lean meats to prepare at home and whole-grain bread. When shopping down the aisles, let nutrition labels be your guide to foods low in fat, sodium and added sugar. Nutrition labels carry recommended daily values for certain nutrients based on a 2,000-calorie-per-day diet.


Toddlers require only half that number of calories daily, and of those, 30 to 40 percent should be fat. Good sources would be unsaturated fats that do not raise cholesterol levels, such as avocados, canola oil, nut butters, nuts and olive oil. Because the U.S. Food and Drug Administration does not require manufacturers to prove food label claims, parents should look closely at nutrition labels before serving them to toddlers or other family members. Products advertised to have less fat than the regular brand—“reduced fat,” 25 percent less, “light,” 50 percent less and “low-fat,” less than 3 grams of fat per serving—may still be high in sugar or low in nutrients, making them poor choices for good health. Looking for crowd-pleasing healthful meals? Search for “Menu Makeovers” to try recipes from the book developed for Project 18 at Peyton Manning Children’s Hospital at St.Vincent. Visit For more healthful tips for your child, sign-up for a free Kids’ Health Tip each weekday at

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A few family-friendly Halloween activities in Downtown Indianapolis this October It’s the beginning of October and you know what that means: kids across the nation are narrowing down their costume options, daydreaming of impending candy stashes and eyeballing pumpkins every trip to the grocery store to survey their potential as future jack-o-lanterns. Let’s face it – you need to get them out of the house to mellow the Halloween hype, and Downtown Indianapolis has some fantastic family-friendly options leading up to the 31st. Taylor Newell Fine-tune your costume and makeup skills at the Fountain Square Branch Library for A Beginner’s Guide to Zombie Apocalypse Survival: Zombie Stage Makeup on Saturday, Oct. 13 at 2 p.m. This FREE workshop offers the chance to learn some new costuming techniques. Register by calling 317.275.4390. Stop by the Central Library the next day on Oct. 14 at 2 p.m. for a FREE showing of “The Hunger Games” movie! Get more info at Also on Oct. 13, the Indiana State Museum will host Hoosier Hauntings, a slew of interactive events taking place all day that explore some of Indiana’s frightening features. Events include flashlight-led Behind-the-Scenes Tours and Mad Scientist Labs, featuring fun lessons on writing with invisible ink, creating fake flesh, blood and slime, and demonstrations of a self-carving pumpkin. Check out

It couldn’t hurt to get a little exercise in before the inevitable influx of bite-sized candy. The Child Advocates Superhero Run at White River State Park is a 5K run and family walk that takes off at 9:30 a.m. on Saturday, Oct. 27, and participants are encouraged to dress up like their favorite superhero, offering a chance to give your costume a “test-run” before the big night. The best part: proceeds from the race benefit Child Advocates. Registration is $15 for the walk, $25 for the 5K or $30 day-of. Visit for more information. How about a cultural experience? Check out the Day of 16 INDYSCHILD.COM

the Dead Festival at the Indiana State Museum and the Eiteljorg Museum of American Indians and Western Art that same Saturday, Oct. 27. For $12 for adults and $8 for children, you can see a variety of unique altars and exhibits at either museum from 11 a.m. – 4 p.m. This is a great opportunity to learn about this ancient Mexican holiday and why it’s not as scary as you might think!

Some ongoing spooky events: “Wicked Workshop,” The 49th Annual Haunted House at the Children’s Museum kicks off Oct. 13 and runs through Halloween, open all day Tuesday through Sunday. Tickets are $7 at the door and there are two levels of spookiness: kids who might be easily scared should arrive before 3 p.m. most days, and older kids can put their bravery to the test Wednesday through Saturday evenings between 3 and 9 p.m. Visit ZooBoo returns to the Indianapolis Zoo Oct. 12 – 14, 19 – 21 and 26 – 28 from 2 – 7 p.m. with pumpkin bowling, a bounce house, obstacle course, trick-ortreating through the plains area, kids craft workshop, a Halloween train ride and “Roller Ghoster.” The zoo grounds will be decorated for the season, and the zookeepers say the animals love to be out and active this time of year! Go to for more information. Peewinkle’s Puppet Studio hosts “The Slightly Haunted Puppet Studio” Oct. 13 – 28, where Gertrude

the Witch will have all of her spooky puppet friends on sight for a light-hearted Halloween show. Tickets are $10 and FREE for kids under two years old. Shows take place during the day Thursday through Saturday, and on Sunday, Oct. 28. Get tickets at For the braver souls (aged 13 and up): head to Indiana Landmarks for “From Dark Pages,” a progressive interactive mystery that walks guests through an 1865 house tracking Jack the Ripper. Shows begin at 7:30, 8:30 and 9:30 p.m. Thursday through Saturday, Oct. 18 – 27. Tickets are $15/person or $10 for Indiana Landmarks members. On Halloween night from 7 – 9:30 p.m., check out Silent Halloween: A Fun and Frightful Evening where you can see two classic silent horror films: The Haunted House (1921) and The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari 1920) for $10 or $8 for members. Find out more at

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[ museum note ]

Lights-On or Lights-Off? How to know which type of haunted house is right for your child Alison Steck and Kate Orme Alison Steck and Kate Orme are the "Head Witches" of the 2012 Haunted House at the Children's Museum of Indianapolis. By the beginning of October, many children are already excitedly telling their parents what they want to be for Halloween and looking forward to a trip through their neighborhood to gather as many sweet treats as their bags can hold. Often parties and other fun Halloween events are on the agenda for many families, but sometimes it can be hard to know how much holiday fun can be too much for your little one – particularly those children who are preschool-aged and younger.

Witch this year – as they move through the rooms of the house to help play up the fun of each room. > Each room also features a Halloween-related fun fact to ask your child such as “how many bones are in the human body?”. (A: 206!)

As members of The Children’s Museum Guild, this is a challenge we are all too familiar with since our biggest fundraiser is our annual Haunted House! Now in its 49th year, the Haunted House offers both a lights-on experience for children who scare easily and a lights-off experience for those who dare to be scared. Many parents ask us how to determine if their child is ready for our lights-off or lights-on hours. Although each child is different and there is no correct answer, we do offer the following ideas to help parents know:

> Includes spooky music and minimal lighting. > Haunters hide throughout the house to jump out and scare unsuspecting visitors. > Although visual effects are used to maximize the scare experience, the frightening-factor of the Haunted House focuses more on the “startle” rather than gore. > Many visitors will scream with surprise or fear as they move throughout the House.


If you are still questioning which version of the Haunted House to bring your child to, consider how they handle scary books, movies and TV shows. If they are often afraid of spooky things outside of Halloween, they might prefer a lights-on experience for at least another year.


Includes fun, upbeat music with all lights turned up.

> Friendly-faced greeters are in each room of the house passing out treats to visitors similar to trick-or-treating. >

Children can play seek-and-find with pictures of the annual Haunted House mascot – Winny the



Learn more about Wicked Workshop!

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around town

[ indianapolis zoo ]

There's No Place Like ZooBoo Family fun this Halloween

Kelli Agnew Photographs provided by Jason Wright.

Parents looking for a safe, family-friendly place to take their munchkins this fall can simply follow the Yellow Brick Road straight to the Indianapolis Zoo for Halloween ZooBoo presented by the Indianapolis Honda Dealers. This year’s theme is “The Wonderful World of ZooBoo,” which puts a Zoo spin on Frank Baum’s beloved children’s novel “The Wonderful World of Oz.” From 2 to 7pm for nine enchanted days — October 12-14, 19-21, and 26-28 — guests will enjoy decorations and characters pulled straight from the pages of Baum’s book along with all their favorite ZooBoo activities. Costumes are encouraged and children can bring a bag to trick-or-treat at five stations in the Plains area. The little ones will also love racing through an obstacle course at the Kroger Splash Park and visiting the ZooBoo Activity Center presented by Macy’s, which includes a howling-good time with Pumpkin Bowling presented by Indiana Members Credit Union as well as other fun games and crafts. Visitors can enjoy Halloween-themed dolphin shows and animal chats, and the animals will stay out late to let guests enjoy the Zoo until the sun sets. Even the elephant herd will get into the Halloween spirit with the pumpkin-gut splattering fun of elephant pumpkin smash.


Visitors won’t want to miss the Zoo’s rides, which have been tricked out for Halloween. The White River Junction Train presented by Marathon and 4-D Theater presented by YP will both receive a “The Wizard of Oz” theme. The Roller Ghoster and Round-Go-Merry — the Zoo’s carousel ride in reverse — are sure to give guests a thrill. With a few heel clicks of their ruby red slippers, guests can finish their spooktacular visit with fun photo opportunities and some Ghoulish Goodies! Best of all, ZooBoo activities are included with regular Zoo admission and free for Zoo members. Discount tickets are even available at area Marsh and Donatos locations.

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combating childhood OBESITY Sarah McCosham

It’s common knowledge that obesity is a serious problem in the U.S., affecting roughly one out of every three adults. However, what is perhaps most alarming about this trend is how it’s affecting children. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), roughly one in every six U.S. children is obese. In fact, since 1980, the rate of obesity among children and adolescents has almost tripled. As a result, these children are also being diagnosed with very serious – and, typically adult – problems, including sleep apnea, joint pain, heart disease, and Type 2 diabetes.

These are scary statistics – enough to make any parent feel overwhelmed and powerless. However, experts agree that by making just a few lifestyle changes, parents can help get their children’s weight under control – and set them up for life-long success.

Defining the Problem When it comes to raising a healthy kid, modern society sets parents up for failure. Suburbs aren’t generally walking or biking friendly, video games are touted as “educational” options for young children, and many parents are afraid to let their kids venture too far from home for safety reasons. As a result, today’s generation of kids is more sedentary than ever before, says Dr. Sandeep Gupta, a Pediatric Gastroenterologist at the Riley Hospital for Children. In addition, today’s unstable economy often requires that both parents work outside the home, which contributes to a rushed, too-few-hours-in-the-day tempo for the family. Because of this, Gupta explains that family time is often overlooked, home-cooked dinners are compromised for the convenience of fast food, and kids are left on their own to make healthy snacking decisions. It may seem like the odds are stacked against your family -- but as parents become more informed on how to live healthfully and set a positive example, this problem could be drastically lessened.

Get Moving Tod Esquivel, Youth Fitness Trainer and Owner of Indy Fit Kids, says that kids are naturally active; however, modern life is geared toward convenience and comfort. “All of the conveniences of today’s technology discourage [kids] from being active and essentially make them lazy,” he says. As counterintuitive as it may seem, Esquivel says that being active actually creates more energy.

Jenni Purcell, a Registered Dietician with the American Dairy Association of Indiana, seconds the importance of daily physical activity, recommending that kids get at least 60 minutes each day. Sound like a lot? “Every bit adds up,” she says, adding that it’s easy to keep kids moving if they’re doing different types of activities. “For example, kids can walk the dog for 20 minutes, play basketball for 30, and help wash the car for 10 minutes.” Purcell adds that this goal is easily 22 INDYSCHILD.COM

accomplished if parents limit the amount of television/video game time. However, both Purcell and Esquivel stress that parents must be active with their kids. “Exercise is something parents and kids have to do together,” Esquivel explains. “Parents must set good examples for their kids,” he says.

The Family that Cooks Together… While no one can dispute the value of physical exercise, instilling nutritious eating habits is arguably the most important factor in raising a healthy child. Elizabeth Blessing, co-founder and chief nutritionist for Green BEAN Delivery, says she firmly believes that diet is the biggest culprit in the current obesity epidemic. “The majority of food consumed in the country doesn’t provide the proper nutrients that help the body to be healthy.”

Adds Purcell, “there are several key food groups that kids need to eat from more often: low-fat and fat-free dairy; whole, fiber-rich grain foods; vibrantly colored vegetables; brightly colored fruits and 100 percent fruit juice; and lean proteins and nuts.” She suggests that parents develop grocery lists and menus based around these foods, and always keep these healthy staples in the house.

In fact, by having wholesome food readily available, Blessing believes that it’s easy for families to make healthy decisions. “Kids do not naturally have bad eating habits,” she explains. “They learn bad eating habits. Parents must set a good example for their children. Eat the same foods as your kids at meals -- if you are eating leafy greens at dinner and enjoying them, eventually, so will your kids.”

Proactive Parenting In addition to offering healthy foods at mealtime, it’s crucial to get kids involved in the cooking process. For starters, Gupta suggests that parents encourage their children to go shopping with them at the store. “This will help the child understand the process of getting the foods on the table and also increases the likelihood of them trying new foods,” she says.

On a similar note, Blessings reiterates that parents should get their kids in the garden and the kitchen. “When a child is able to see where their food comes from, and how it gets to the table, they’ll be more excited to try new things,” Blessing says.

Finally, parents should carve out time to incorporate exercise into the daily routine. Explains Gupta, “Children do not know that exercise is important to a healthy way of life. They need to learn this as they do anything else. Incorporate exercise into the days just like you would with their homework routine.”

There are only so many hours in the day, and no one is perfect. However, by making family time a priority and instilling healthy habits in your children, parents can set their kids up for success.

What’s more, all of the fresh eating and regular exercise will also help keep Mom and Dad healthy, which is truly one of the greatest gifts you can give to your kids.

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preschool enrichment Local learning programs

Stephanie Becher has the pleasure of listening to her two-year-old daughter sing songs she learned from her preschool enrichment class at The Music Playhouse. Her daughter’s sweet voice carries throughout their home as she dances around the house singing as if she were the teacher. “In class, she is really shy and likes to observe rather than participate, but I know that she is taking it all in because at home, she becomes the performer!” Becher said. “My daughter sings The Music Playhouse songs everywhere she goes – in her crib and in the car. She even makes up her own words and sings to her dolls!” Children like Becher’s daughter are never too young for enrichment opportunities such as this. Research has shown that the younger a child is exposed to learning and discovery, the more they’re set up for success in later years. If parents wait until the child goes to kindergarten to immerse them in learning environments, they’ve just lost the most important time to optimize their child’s development. In fact, this same research has shown that enrichment experiences in the early years not only make a difference, but are actually considered critical because the brain is developing so rapidly, according to Debbie Aikman, director and owner of The Music Playhouse. Enrolling children in preschool programs and enriching extracurricular classes will promote healthy child development through social, physical, emotional and cognitive growth experiences. Preschool and enrichment classes provide a different environment then what kids see at home. The programs let them become explorers and discoverers of the world. The classes shouldn’t push children but instead provide an environment rich with interaction

By engaging children in developmentally appropriate creative exploration, children gain confidence in their own ideas and independent thinking. – Erin Mills, director of early childhood education, JCC


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tools for what comes natural to them, according to Barbara L. Wolf, Ph.D., associate vice president of research and family learning evaluation and technical advisor to The Children's Museum Preschool. When choosing an enrichment program for your child, make sure the program is age-appropriate. Solicit program referrals from other parents or child healthcare providers. Visit the programs firsthand and ask lots of questions. “Choose activities that are developmentally appropriate and interesting to the child,” Erin Mills, director of early childhood education at the JCC, said. “Forced engagement in an activity at too young an age can be stressful for the child. Activities that are stimulating and fun engage children and support natural learning in a positive environment. By engaging children in developmentally appropriate creative exploration, children gain confidence in their own ideas and independent thinking.” Shannon Cohen, mom to 7-year-old Teagan and 4-year-old Finn, said she chose to send her kids to the JCC because it provided a comprehensive, diverse experience for her children. “I was drawn to the opportunity for ancillary enrichment programs in addition to the daily preschool schedule. I liked that my kids had exposure to music classes and physical education from the age of 1. The ability to send my kids directly to afterschool activities (soccer, karate, and basketball) was also another draw for me,” Cohen said. Preschool enrichment programs present benefits for the parents, too. Not only do they give adults some time for themselves, but the programs also offer interaction with other parents and the chance to see how other families interrelate with their children – a great way to pick up new parenting techniques. With enrichment classes, parents can set aside a specific time to be engaged and interactive with their children by either participating in the classroom or simply having a conversation with the children about what they learned. Through this, parents have the opportunity to learn more about their children’s skill levels, needs, successes and developments, according to Mistie Timmons, associate executive director of the Youth Enrichment Center at the YMCA of Greater Indianapolis.

Experts recommend continuing a child’s learning processes at home, too. Learning is a swirl of life around them; it shouldn’t stop when they leave preschool. Many preschools give individualized handouts to provide a strong home-school connection. These handouts are full of activity ideas to help families reinforce and extend their child’s learning at home, according to Linda Nelson, Senior Curriculum Developer of KinderCare. Families and enrichment teachers are encouraged to maintain an ongoing, open dialog about the children’s experience in the programs. To ensure that your child is getting the most out of their enrichment programs, try to join them every now and then so that you can learn new ways to interact with your child and know their world. “At The Music Playhouse, we have seen over and over that if the parent goes to a class with their child and the adult is having an awesome time and fully engaged, the child will be much more likely to have fun and be engaged, and therefore maximize their learning and get the full benefit of the enrichment program,” Aikman said. “Remember, they are watching and modeling you! This particular concept doesn't happen to change after early childhood either, so, lead by example throughout your child's life.” “My husband and I strongly feel that the opportunity to explore different aspects of life, beyond that which can be covered in a traditional classroom, is crucial to forming a well-rounded child,” Cohen said. “While they could have gotten similar classroom experiences at any number of programs, it was the enrichment, starting at a very young age, which made us choose the JCC. We want our kids to have a well-rounded understanding of sports, the arts, and, quite simply ‘how to do things.’ These experiences have given the kids confidence in their daily lives and encourages them to try new things.”

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[ mommy magic ]

commentary and parenting

The Golden Rule Teaching your children the importance of kindness Mary Susan Buhner

As parents, there is a long list of things that we feel important to teach our kids while they are still young and under our influence. For instance, learning to tie shoes, learning to set the dinner table, and learning to care for themselves - get dressed, comb hair and brush teeth. It’s also very important to teach your children how to care for others. This, however, can be easier said than done in today’s hectic world. In the midst of parenting and juggling all the different roles we play (chauffeur, lunch maker, disciplinarian, the list goes on...) sometimes we actually forget to teach our kids the most important principle they need to know in life - how to be nice! Sometimes I wonder in today's fast-paced world of Instagram and Facebook if our children are forgetting the Golden Rule. This, in my opinion, should be the most important principle my children learn before they are grown-ups. I recently saw a quote by John Cassis that read: “It is nice to be important, but it is more important to be nice.” I loved this quote so much that I cut it out and put it on our family bulletin board as a daily reminder to me and my entire family to be kind to those who surround us. It is easy to forget the value of kindness, especially when much of our communication nowadays occurs electronically. It can be difficult to convey appreciation, gratitude, or sentiment through a text or email. Recently, I experienced this very thing with a friend. She texted me and I was confused by her text. She sounded angry and frustrated with me. I am not a fan of drama, so I answered her with a brief text back. I got no real response, but an "Ughh" texted back at me instead. An “Ughh” to what, I thought. To me? My text? All I felt was frustration toward my dear friend based on a few short words typed in a small bar on my phone. What I realized was that there was no real basis to the miscommunication that was happening, just emotion between us that had been misplaced due to lack of communication and actually taking the time to be NICE before or after the information was exchanged. A quick phone call resolved the silly miscommunication between us via text. This hiccup between us make me stop and realize that being kind and nice to those around us is vital no matter what method of communication we are using at the moment. A lot is conveyed these days in many different methods of information-sharing - texting, Twitter, Facebook, email. I hope, as parents, that we slow down enough to insert kindness, gratitude and appreciation when we communicate with others.

With that, I am extremely aware that my children are watching me and taking copious notes. Our children learn from our example. We must continue to teach them that the Golden Rule is, in fact, one of the most important life lessons they will ever learn. Join the Mommy Magic’s Fan Page on Facebook and visit to be a part of the mom community that supports and encourages moms in Indy with helpful tips for motherhood!

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[ school listings ]

education +childcare GUIDE schools & education carmel

staff, and a caring Christian environment with low student to teacher ratios. 7551 Oaklandon Road, Indianapolis, IN 46236, Contact: Marcia Ramage, (317) 823-0123, Email:,

Carmel Montessori Schools, Inc. Carmel Montessori School is located on the beautiful campus at St. Christopher’s Church on the NE corner of Main St. and Meridian in Carmel. Our directress is American Montessori Certified with 13 years headteaching experience. We offer a beautiful, peaceful and positive Montessori learning environment. Extended days available. 1402 W. Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Emily & Scott Rudicel, 317-580-0699,,

Clay Montessori A Montessori school offering morning, afternoon, and full-day programs. Available for ages 3-6 years old. Call for more information. (Affiliated with Fisher’s Montessori) 463 East Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Peggy White, 317-849-9519 or 317-580-1850

Starting Line Preschool The Right Start for A Lifelong Love of Learning! Our strong academic-based curriculum prepares and encourages your child to succeed in school while discoving learning is fun! * Develop Social Awareness & Friendships, Build Confidence and Master Academic Skills for Kindergarten. All of our classes focus on an introduction to colors, number and letters with exciting art and science projects. Math, social studies and sight words are taught in the older classes. 110 Third Ave NE, Carmel, IN 46032. Contact: Diane Atkins. Phone: 317-753-9397. Email: dkatkins22@msn. com.

The Montessori Learning Center The Montessori Learning Center offers a Montessori elementary program for grades 1-5. We focus on developing the whole child through interaction with an interdisciplinary curriculum. Our program specifically meets the needs of each child and is aligned with Indiana State Standards. 1402 W. Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Elizabeth Williams, 317-846-8182, elizabeth@,

fishers Fall Creek Montessori Academy Fall Creek Montessori Academy is a culturally diverse environment where children grow and develop their unique talents and gifts. Through child-centered learning, children excel physically, academically and emotionally. Conveniently located one mile east of I-69 on 96th St. FCMA serves children at all levels. Programs are available two to five days per week. 8888 Fitness Ln, Fishers, IN 46037, Contact: Diana Brugh, (317) 436-8606,,

Fishers Montessori A quality learning environment offering preschool, kindergarten and elementary. Certification through American Montessori Society. 12806 Ford Rd and 131st and Allisonville Rd., Fishers, IN 46038, Contact: Peggy White, 317-849-9519 or 317-580-1850

indianapolis - downtown Todd Academy, Inc. A fun, creative, challenging environment for highly intelligent students age 8 or grade 3 thru grade 12. High-ability, gifted and talented education with earlycollege options and rolling enrollment offers mid-year transfers. Extra-curricular activities, community service involvement, financial aid and vouchers are all offered. State accredited. 855 N. East Street, Indianapolis, IN 46202, Contact: Sharon Todd, 317-636-3100, Fax: 317-636-3103, Email:,

indianapolis - north Arthur M. Glick JCC

geist Sunrise Early Childhood Center The Sunrise Early Childhood Center offers preschool classes for 2 - 5 year olds, as well as an exceptional Kindergarten program. Classes meet from 9am - 1pm, with a variety of optional afternoon activities available. The Sunrise ECC offers reasonable rates, exceptional 28 INDYSCHILD.COM

Our loving caregivers and teachers demonstrate by example and encourage children to behave according to these values as the children are learning, playing and socializing with one another. The JCC embraces a learning-through-play teaching method to engage children in activities that promote creativity, accelerate learning and stimulate social interaction, all at each child’s individual pace. 6701 Hoover Road, Indianapolis, IN 46260, 317-251-9467,,

Beth-El Zedeck Early Childhood Center OPEN TO THE PUBLIC. Full Academic Curriculum and Innovative Arts’ Enrichment. Our Program recognizes that intellectual, social, emotional and physical developmentare interwoven. Our children will thrive on exploration, creativity, curiosity, discovery, spontaneity and more important, lots of love! Type of School: Early Childhood, Full Time/Part-Time/Flexible Hours, Ages: 12 months old+, 18 months old+, 2’s+, 3’s+, 4’s/PreK (3 day or 5 day program) and Full Day Kindergarten (5 full-day program) (8:50 am to 3:00 pm) Before School/After School Care available daily as needed for all ages: Early drop off as early as 7:30 am and late pick up anytime up until 6:00 pm/5:30 pm on Fridays. Call or email for brochure. 600 W. 70th St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Joanie Waldman, Phone: 317-259-6854, Fax: 317-259-6849, Email: jwaldman@,

Brebeuf Jesuit Preparatory School Brebeuf Jesuit’s Mission Statement: Brebeuf Jesuit, a Catholic and Jesuit school, provides an excellent college preparatory education for a lifetime of service by forming leaders who are intellectually competent, open to growth, loving, religious and committed to promoting justice. Fostering a culture of understanding and dialogue, Brebeuf Jesuit seeks and welcomes students from diverse religious, ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds. Students at Brebeuf Jesuit are called to discover and cultivate the fullness of their God-given talents as a responsibility and as an act of worship. CORE VALUES: Education of the Whole Person, A Caring and Diverse Community, The Greater Glory of God. 2801 W 86th St, Indianapolis, IN 46268. Contact: Liz Otteson, Director of Admissions. Phone: 317-5247090. Email: Ages/Grades: All ages and grades welcome.

Children’s Day In Nursery School and Traditional Preschool The Children’s Day In traditional preschool and nursery school program provides a fully inclusive early childhood program with an emphasis on Christian values in a play based setting. It is designed to offer children ages 9 months to 5 years a positive and developmentally appropriate experience in the care of experienced teachers and caregivers. We play and learn! Classes are offered weekdays from 9 am to 2:30 pm. Children June attend up to 3 days a week. 5500 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Christy Whaley, 317-253-0472, cwhaley@,

Children’s Circle Preschool at Second Presbyterian Church Children’s Circle Preschool is a developmentally appropriate, activity based, Christian preschool. We offer classes for children ages 9 months to 5 years old. We meet the needs of the whole child in a creative and loving environment. Our experienced staff embraces excellence in education by nurturing the whole child- physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Please call for more information or to set up a tour. 7700 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Cara Paul, Director, 317-2525517,,

Early Childhood Center, The Church at the Crossing Our Mothers Day Out (12-35 mos) and Preschool (3 yrs-PreK’s) programs provide relaxed, playful, secure environments that nurture creativity and encourage the exploration of God’s world, a wide variety of learning materials, & friendships, with readiness activities woven through each study unit. Need longer hours? Try our child care ministry, The Neighborhood designed for 2-PreK. 9111 N. Haverstick Rd., Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: John

Drake or Kelly Belt, 317-575-6508, Fax: 317-575-6509, jdrake@ or

Heritage Christian School Established in 1965, accredited through ACSI and NCA. HCS is the choice in college preparatory discipleship Christian education for 1,400 students each year grades Prep K – 12. Advanced, Honors and AP classes. Full Fine Arts and 2A IHSAA Athletics. HCS is training up the next generation of Christian leaders through challenging, Biblically taught curriculum including internships and service to others. Bus transportation available. Schedule a tour today! 6401 E. 75th Street, Indianapolis, In 46250, Contact: Emily Iglendza, Director of Enrollment Management, 317-849-3441,,

Meridian Hills Cooperative Nursery School Share your love of learning with your children. Founded in 1960 by involved parents like you, Meridian Hills Cooperative provides a positive, nurturing environment wherein children explore and learn by doing. Spacious classrooms. Beautiful, wooded playground. Caring, experienced staff. Adult/child ratios 1:4 - 1:6. Find us on Facebook. 7171 N. Pennsylvania, Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: See �Admissions/Tours� Info Online, Phone: 317-255-0831,

Montessori Centres Stressing peace and respect for all, we’ve worked with children to develop critical-thinking and time-management skills since 1966. Montessori-certified lead teachers serve children aged 3-3rd grade. Our classroom structure and materials allow children to be self-directed and self-paced. Our well-rounded curriculum includes French and Spanish, art, and computer labs. 563 Westfield Blvd. W. Dr., Indianapolis,

IN 46208, Contact: Lynn Boone, Director, Phone: 317-257-2224, Fax: 317-254-3034, Email:

The Orchard School

Readiness. Pre-Kindergarten (3) through Grade 8. 33 E. 33rd Street, Indianapolis, IN 46205, Contact: Melinda W. Fisher, 317-926-0425 x134, Fax: 317-921-3367, mfisher@,

The Orchard School, an independent, non-sectarian, progressive school, emphasized experiential learning. Sycamore School Orchard teachers engage the natural curiosity of children, develop academic excellence, and provide leadership At Sycamore, teachers trained in gifted education deliver a experience through well-rounded education. Orchard’s curriculum designed to challenge and engage gifted diverse community and commitment to multicultural learners. Art, music, Spanish, PE and technology are taught education inspires responsible, global citizenship. Founded at all levels. Extensive field trips, athletics, child care, in 1922. NAIS, ISACS, NAEYS accredited. 615 W. 64th St., financial aid, and a wide variety of after school activities are Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Kristen Hein, Director of offered. 1750 W. 64th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Dr. Admissions, Phone: 317-713-5705, Fax: 317-254-8454, Email: Susan Karpicke, Director of Admissions. 317-202-2500, Fax:, 317-202-2501,.,

Park Tudor School Park Tudor School’s exceptional educators and extraordinary opportunities prepare students to become confident and resourceful lifelong learners. The school community creates an inspiring college-preparatory learning environment for highly motivated young people. Polly Panda Preschool and Bridgford Two-year Global Scholars program for juniors and seniors; 19 AP classes; full-day kindergarten; Spanish beginning at Kindergarten age 3. 7200 N. College Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: Polly Panda provides a safe and healthy environment which David Amstutz, 317-415-2777,, www. enhances each child’s total growth. Our theme-based hands-on preschool program provides a wide-range experiences that foster learning, creativity and problem St. Richard’s School solving in all areas. A child’s sense of self-worth, Independent Episcopal day school offering a diverse independence and growth in social skills are developed community filled with academic rigor, faith based through positive interaction with peers and our wellecumenism and long-standing traditions. Its mission is to qualified and loving staff. 2944 E. 56th Street, Indianapolis, IN instill knowledge and values for a lifetime through the 46220, Contact: Gail Hacker and Tammy Clark, Phone: 317-257implementation of five Pillars for Success: Faith, Classic 9127, Email:, Curriculum, Leadership, Civic Responsibility, and Global

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indianapolis - northwest International School of Indiana At the International School of Indiana, we share your wish to prepare your children for the future we cannot imagine, and to give them the foundation and attitude to thrive in a changing world. An education that combines internationally respected academic standards with a truly international outlook. 4330 N. Michigan Road, Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Sarah Harrison or Kate Lock, 923-1951 Ext. 369,,

St. Luke’s Early Childhood Programs St Luke’s Community Preschool is a weekday, developmentally appropriate and experience based program. Two well-trained, degreed teachers are in each classroom. Parents’ Day Out is a structured play experience that provides parents some time for themselves on a regular basis on M, Th, F. We provide a warm and loving Christian environment in which children can learn and grow. Tours available upon request. Visitors welcome. 100 West 86th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Bobbi Main-Jackson, Dir., 317-844-3399,,

Traders Point Christian Academy Fully accredited by ACSI and AdvancEd, Traders Point is a nondenominational Christian college prep school serving 600 students age 18 months to 12th grade. Offering Fine Arts, Spanish, Technology, Honors, AP and dual-credit options within a Biblical viewpoint. Interscholastic athletics in grade 2 - HS varsity. Preparing students for high school and college, for a world without borders, and for a life of significance. Located at I-65 North/SR 334, Zionsville exit. Visit us - for more information contact Mrs. Toni Kanzler, tkanzler@tpcs. org, at 317-769-2450.


indianapolis - south Busy Bee Childcare Ministry We offer quality care to ages 6wks and up in a Christian environment. Providing Diapers, Wipes, meals, Formula and all preschool curriculum using Abeka lessons daily. 4002 Southport Road, Indianapolis, IN 46237, Maggie Sumner, 317-605-4145,

multiple locations Indiana Council of Preschool Cooperatives: ICPC Indianapolis Area Preschool and Kindergarten Cooperatives Preschools: great for your child, great for you! Children and parents learn and grow together in the classroom with caring, experienced teachers. Multiple Locations in Indianapolis Area, ICPC Line: 317-767-7596

St. Mary’s Child Center We are Reggio inspired preschool with 2 locations (Downtown and Ft. Harrison). We are Level 4 on the Path’s to Quality scale and accredited by NAEYC. We focus on inquiry based, authentic learning in small groups within beautiful environments. We accept tuition and CCDF vouchers along with offering scholarships. 901 Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. St., Indianapolis, IN 46202, Contact: Sharon Stuhldreher, 317-635-1491, Hours: 7:00 am - 5:30 pm,,

noblesville Primrose School of Noblesville Primrose School of Noblesville distinguishes itself by creating a safe and nurturing environment where children will take their first steps toward a lifetime of

achievement. You will find certified, professional staff and many programs such as spanish, technology, music and physical fitness that will consistently challenge your child. 15707 North Point Blvd., Noblesville, IN 46060, Contact: Jackie Bell, 317-773-4900, Fax: 317-773-4433,

westfield Christ UMC Preschool The CUMC Preschool program offers a child-centered developmental curriculum consistent with the highest levels of early childhood education. We provide an atmosphere in which children can experience enriched play and guided development; indiviudal and group activities; and a better understanding of the world around them. Our philosophy: Learning is Fun! 318 North Union Street, Westfield, IN 46074, Contact: Barbara Sampson, Director, Phone: 317 867-0582, Email: sampsonb@,

Montessori School of Westfield, Inc. Located on 3 wooded acres in Central Indiana, the Montessori School of Westfield adheres to the academic traditions of Montessori while serving the present day child. The Montessori School of Westfield serves children from Indianapolis, Fishers, Carmel, Zionsville, Westfield, Sheridan, Noblesville, Cicero and Tipton. We serve children ages 18 months to 15 years, and we are adding a new Toddler room for the 2012-2012 year. 800 E. Sycamore Street, Westfield, IN 46074, Contact: Mary Lyman, Directress, 317-867-0158,,

zionsville Zionsville Community Schools Universal Preschool Universal Preschool at Boone Meadow provides a hands-on learning experience, focused on the whole child, in an inclusive and supportive environment that ensures maximum child growth, for life-long learning. We will provide a quality program through: Organizing the environment so it is conducive to success, providing specific directions and instructions, acknowledging and encouraging each child’s efforts, creating challenges and supporting children in extending their capabilities. The Indiana Foundations for Young Children will be a resource/framework for UP. 5555 S. 650 E., Zionsville, IN 46075, Contact: Donna Hudson, Phone: 317-873-2226, Email:,

childcare Compassionate Angels Child Care Ministry We are a Christian ministry, using the Bible to teach values. We have over 30 years of experience and are accepting children ages 6 weeks to 12 years; we provide before and after school care. We have a very strong educational program that prepares your little one for first grade and beyond. From infancy through kindergarten we have proper age curriculum and teaching. We teach through play and creativity so the children learn and have fun doing it. We are dedicated to the love, education and safety of your child. Learning Starts At Birth! * Now enrolling infants and toddlers. * Free Piano Lessons. * Free Violin Lessons. * Free Dance Lessons. 2626 Ruth Drive, Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: Jody Teipen-Holbrook, Phone: 317-205-9264, Fax: 317-2059263, Email:,

Wee Folk Childcare Quality in-home child care serving caring families for 20 years. (CPR, 1st aid certified, and state licensed). Two meals and one snack provided daily along with baby food and regular formula. We provide quality learning through play in a non-smoking Christian environment. Preschool program providing Kindergarten prep is available. Meridian Kessler Neighborhood, 317-926-3640

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BULLYING Kids on the Autism Spectrum Why they are bullied and what to do about it A national survey by the Interactive Autism Network (IAN) shows that 63 percent of children with autism spectrum disorders (ASD) have been bullied at some point in their lives. According to the IAN, kids with ASD are likely bullied at a rate three times higher than that of their typically developing peers. Intuitively, this is old news to parents of children on the autism spectrum. Why is that? Dr. Edy Stoughton, head of school for Midwest Academy in Carmel, has some understanding. “Most of our kids with Asperger’s who come to this school have had experiences with being bullied. It’s rampant. Part of the reason is because [autism spectrum disorder] is a little bit of a hidden disability. Young kids feel a little bad about bullying someone with an obvious disability like one that is physical. Children with Asperger’s just act differently and other students don’t understand. They just think they are odd,” Stoughton said. Parents tend to learn about a bully situation when their child or a bystander tells them, unless the abuse leaves a visible mark. Many kids are even ashamed and won’t tell, or don’t want to disappoint their parents. Further, can children with significant social deficits even know when they are being bullied? Not always, says Cathy Pratt, director of the Indiana Resource Center for Autism. Sometimes a child is blatantly bullied, yet is oblivious to it. Other times the child may think he or she is being bullied, when really that’s not the case. Typically developing kids, unlike 34 INDYSCHILD.COM

those with ASD, assess a social situation by listening to what people are saying and looking at facial expressions, body language and a host of things. “Folks on the autism spectrum don’t read social cues. They sometimes don’t understand the true intentions of what people are doing with them,” said Pratt. To help identify kids at risk of being bullied, the IAN attempted to see if any of the bullied kids with ASD had common behaviors. They found that children with repetitive behaviors like flapping or spinning were less likely to be bullied. Perhaps it’s because these behaviors make the disorder obvious so bullies are less likely to prey upon these kids. On the other hand, clumsiness, poor hygiene, rigid rule keeping, sticking too long to a favorite topic of conversation, frequent meltdowns, and inflexibility were all behaviors and traits associated with an increased likelihood of being bullied. Also, kids with ASD who want peer interaction but have a hard time making friends were more frequently bullied than those who preferred to play alone. If a child reports being bullied, Pratt advises parents to go to the school’s administration to check into it. She also recommends parents create a community of support around the child, which includes pinpointing a peer and/or school staff member who can act as a mentor and look out for the child. Sometimes the best thing is to simply remove the child from the situation, and yes, that can even require a school transfer. In fact, the IAN believes less bullying may

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occur in smaller school settings. Its survey finds that children who attend regular public schools are bullied more often than kids in other school settings, with special education private schools showing the least occurrences. Stoughton, who leads a small private school, firmly believes smaller environments are often better for kids on the autism spectrum, particularly if it’s a small and positive environment. “Research shows the most influential thing you can do to help a child learn is to just be in a smaller place. It’s harder to get away with stuff when everybody knows everybody else,” she said. Regardless of where the child attends school, creating a school culture where it is not acceptable to bully should be a priority. Pratt believes school leadership must have a clear message that bullying is not acceptable and get that the message through to students. She advises parents to ask their school about their anti-bullying program to learn the process a child who is being bullied should follow, and to see that the student body is being educated about ASD and other differences. While parents may have to wait to hear from someone else that their child is being bullied or harassed, the IAN survey makes clear that bullying is a real threat to kids with ASD. That is sound information parents can use to help schools bolster anti-bullying programs and potentially ward off a would-be bully.

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special needs GUIDEGUIDE resources

[ special needs listings ]

Applied Behavior Center for Autism

To provide the highest quality ABA and Verbal Behavior therapy and consulting services to children and their families affected by Autism Spectrum Disorders and Down Syndrome. We do this by providing proven researched based ABA methodologies delivered by highly qualified and certified professionals. Our programs focus on increasing language skills, social skills, academic skills, and reducing problematic behavior. 450 S. State Road 135, Greenwood, IN 46142, Contact: Jane Grimes, Phone: 317-889-KIDS, Email:,

Applied Behavior Center for Autism

The mission of the Applied Behavior Center for Autism is to provide high quality ABA and Verbal Behavior therapy and consulting services to children and their families affected by Autism Spectrum Disorders by using researched based ABA methodology delivered by highly qualified and certified professionals to increase language skills, social skills, academic skills, and reduce problematic behavior. 7901 E. 88th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Jane Grimes, Phone: 317-849-5437, ext 112, Email:,

Applied Behavior Center for Autism

The mission of the Applied Behavior Center for Autism is to provide high quality ABA and Verbal Behavior therapy and consulting services to children and their families affected by Autism Spectrum Disorders by using researched based ABA methodology delivered by highly qualified and certified professionals to increase language skills, social skills, academic skills, and reduce problematic behavior. 6865 Parkdale Place, Indianapolis, IN 46254, Contact: Jane Grimes, Phone: 317-849-5437, ext 112, Email:,

Applied Behavior Center for Autism Transition to L.I.F.E House

Recognizing the importance of developing real-world life skills in children and teens with autism, the Applied Behavior Center for Autism has launched a new program called Transition to Learning in Functional Environments (L.I.F.E.). The initiative aims to promote independence, quality of life and happiness through an intensive full-day program that takes place in an actual home, complete with kitchen, gym, pool and garden. The Transition to L.I.F.E. program is open to children ages 10-18, and uses the scientific principles of applied behavior analysis (ABA). It will emphasize community involvement through volunteer opportunities tailored to the clients’ interests and healthy living through nutritional meal preparation and daily exercise regimens. 7901 E. 88th St., Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Jane Grimes, Enrollment Director, 317-849-5437, ext. 112, jane@,

Autism Consultation

Individually designed behavior and academic support and intervention strategies for families and children dealing with Autism Spectrum Disorders. With 35+ years experience in special education in public schools I am comfortable attending IEP meetings to advocate for the family and child. Introductory meeting at no charge. Providing service to central Indiana, Contact: Mika Adams, Phone: 866-968-3698, Email:,

Autism Society of Indiana

We strive to improve the lives of everyone affected by autism in Indiana. We provide information and support, referral to


resources, policy and educational advocacy, training, awareness, family programs, Spanish-speaking support group, summer camp programs, and oversight on the Indiana Comprehensive Plan of Lifetime Supports for Individuals with Autism 13295 Illinois Street, Suite 110, Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Dana Renay, Phone: 800-6098449, Email:,

Behavior Analysis Center for Autism BACA 1

The Behavior Analysis Center for Autism (BACA) was established by Dr. Carl Sundberg and a group of highly-trained Behavior Analysts who have worked with Dr. Sundberg for years. BACA uses Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) to teach language, social, academic and life skills to children with autism and other related disabilities. 11902 Lakeside Drive, Fishers, IN 46038, Contact: Devon Sundberg, Phone: 317-288-5232, Email:,

Behavior Analysis Center for Autism BACA Prep BACA Prep is a facility that utilizes the principles of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) to teach essential living skills to young adults with autism ages 8-20. BACA Prep helps strengthen each individual’s life by addressing the areas of employment, leisure and living skills, hygiene, self-help and sexuality while decreasing and replacing maladaptive behavior. BACA Prep is under the direction of Dr. Carl Sundberg, Dr. John Esch, Dr. Pat McGreevy and Dr. Peter Gerhardt.9929 E. 126th St., Fishers, IN 46038, Contact: Devon Sundberg, Phone: 317-288-5232, Email:,

Behavior Analysis Center for Autism BACA-Z

The Behavior Analysis Center for Autism (BACA) was established by Dr. Carl Sundberg and a group of highly-trained Behavior Analysts who have worked with Dr. Sundberg for years. BACA uses Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) to teach language, social, academic and life skills to children with autism and other related disabilities. 5801 South 650 East, Whitestown, IN 46075, Contact: Devon Sundberg, Phone: 317-288-5232, Email: dsundberg@thebaca. com,

Brain Balance Achievement Center Indianapolis

Brain Balance Achievement Centers work with children who suffer from Developmental Disorders such as Autism Spectrum , Asperger’s, ADD/ADHD, Dyslexia, Tourette’s and other neurological disorders. The Brain Balance Program is unique in that it utilizes a comprehensive, multi-faceted approach designed specifically to address the various difficulties exhibited or experienced by each child. 9510 N. Meridian St. Suite D, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Julie Peterson, Phone: 317-843-9200, Email:,

Hopebridge Pediatric Specialists

Hopebridge Pediatric Specialists is an Occupational, Speech, Physical and Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy provider servicing Indianapolis and the surrounding areas. Hopebridge Pediatric Specialists offers both in-clinic and in-home therapy for children diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and other special needs. Locations in Kokomo, Lafayette, Marion and Fort Wayne, Contact: Kim Strunk, Phone:, 855-324-0885, Email: kstrunk@,

Indiana Autism Scholarship Foundation

The Indiana Autism Scholarship Foundation’s mission is to provide scholarship funding to individuals in efforts to help offset costs for employment or college assistance for those affected with autism. 7987 Oakbay Dr., Noblesvillle, IN 46062, Contact: Jane Grimes, 317-403-6705,,

Indianapolis Pediatric Dentistry

Our goal at Indianapolis Pediatric Dentistry is to have a lasting, positive impact on our young patients. We pay special attention to each patient’s needs and we take the time to make sure they’re comfortable. We go to great lengths to make sure that both the patient and parents understand what we’re doing, why we’re doing it and the long-term benefits. 8433 Harcourt Road, Suite 307, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Dr. Erin Phillips and Dr. Kira Stockton, Phone: 317-872-7272, Email:,

Little Star Center

Little Star provides intensive applied behavior analytic services to maximize each child’s potential and empower their family. Children in the 5 to 10 age range present with a unique set of needs. These learners often come from other settings in which they were not successful. After careful assessment, individualized programs are developed to ensure progress and growth. 100% not-for-profit, 10 years of service. Serving children 5 – 10 years old. 12726 Hamilton Crossing Blvd, Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Mary Rosswurm, Executive Director, Phone: 317-249-2242, Email: maryr@,

Little Star Center--Early Learner Program (ELP)

The Early Learner Program focuses on intensive intervention for very young children diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. The ELP applies the principles of behavior analysis in a warm, nurturing environment. The focus of the ELP is to develop a foundation of skills for the best possible outcome. Individualized programming is geared toward developing language, social, and pre-academic skills for learners as they prepare for the classroom. 100% not-for-profit. Serving children 5 and younger. 12726 Hamilton Crossing Blvd, Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Mary Rosswurm, Phone: 317-249-2242, Email:,

Middle Star Center

Indiana’s original applied behavior analytic center based program that focuses on the distinctive needs of tweens, teens and young adults affected by autism spectrum disorder. Started in 2008, Middle Star is an age appropriate environment that allows each learner to practice and learn the skills essential to be as successful and independent as possible at home, in the community, at school and at work. 100% not-for-profit. Serving learners 10 and up. 12726 Hamilton Crossing Blvd, Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Mary Rosswurm, Phone: 317-249-2242, Email: maryr@,

Unlocking the Spectrum

Unlocking The Spectrum was created with the mission of making ABA Therapy accessible to ALL children with autism by providing high quality ABA Therapy services throughout Indiana. Unlocking The Spectrum specializes in bringing the therapy to the client--in their home and in their community. Client's receive services in a wide variety of settings including their home, school, Unlocking The Spectrum's clinic, and the community to ensure that skills are generalized across all environments. Intensive parent training and collaboration with all members of a client's team are an essential part of every individualized program developed. Contact us for a free initial consultation. 3901 W. 86th St. Suite 397, Indianapolis, IN 46268. Contact: Ilana Hernandez, Director. Phone: 317-334-7331. Email:

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special needs calendar


Adaptive Sports

tues | 16

sun | 28

From cooking lessons to yoga to Flowrider® lessons, contact Carmel Clay Parks about their range of adaptive programming.

Times: 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-222-6635 Location: Dyslexia Institute, Indianapolis

Times: 6:00 PM - 7:00 PM Price: $30 Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel Sundays, October 28 - November 18

sun | 07

fri | 19

parent’s night out

Times: 6:00 PM - 7:00 PM Price: $5 per night Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: The Monon Center, Carmel Sundays, October 7-28, All ages

Times: 6:00 PM - 8:30 PM Price: $15 Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: The Monon Center, Carmel Ages 18+

Jack's Walk for Autism

fri | 26

Date: See website for schedule Price: Varies by activity Location: The Monon Center, Carmel

Family Open Gym

Times: 1:00 PM Price: $15 Location: Bordering streets of South Street, Branigin Boulevard, Main St, Franklin

tues | 09

Dyslexia Simulation hosted by the Dyslexia Institute of Indiana Times: 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-222-6635 Location: Dyslexia Institute, Indianapolis

fri | 12

Karaoke Night Times: 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: $8 Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: The Monon Center, Carmel Ages 13+

sat | 13

15th Annual Buddy Walk Times: 9:00 AM - 4:00 PM Price: No entry fee Phone: 317-925-7617 Location: Celebration Plaza of White River State Park, Indianapolis 38 INDYSCHILD.COM

Success Attributes of Children with Learning Disabilities

Fantastic Fridays

Teen Night Out Times: 5:30 PM - 8:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel Ages 13-17

sat | 27

Trunk-or-Treat hosted by St. Vincent Pediatric Therapy Times: Noon - 3:00 PM Phone: 317-338-CARE Location: St. Vincent Pediatric Therapy Center, Carmel

Masquerade Ball Times: 5:00 PM - 7:00 PM Price: $10 Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: The Monon Center, Carmel Ages 13+

Halloween Bounce-a-Thon Times: 6:30 PM - 8:00 PM Price: $15.00 suggested donation to the Autism Society of Indiana Location: Indiana Elite Cheer Dance and Tumbling, Noblesville Annual fundraiser for the Autism Society of Indiana Sponsored by PowerKids

You've Got Talent

Easter Seals Crossroads Parents’ Night Out East location

Phone: 317-466-1000 ext.2488 Location: Easter Seals Crossroads, Indianapolis

sat | 20

More Secure Future Times: 10:30 AM - 12:00 PM Price: $5 Phone: 317-573-5245 Location: The Monon Center, Carmel For parents

CALENDAR lectures/open houses

Easter Seals Crossroads- 4740 Kingsway Drive, Indianapolis, IN 46205 1st, 2nd, 3rd, & 4th Friday of every month.

South location Indian Creek Christian Church- 6430 S. Franklin Road, Indianapolis, IN 46259 1st Friday of every month. North location Trinity Wesleyan Church (Kids Kastle)- 11552 Fishers Landing Drive, Fishers, IN 46038 3rd Friday of every month. West location Speedway United Methodist- 5065 West 16th Street, Speedway, IN 46224 4th Friday of every month.

support groups

weds | 10

Autism Family Resource Center Grandparents' Support Group Times: 5:30 PM - 7:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-882-1914 Location: Easter Seals Crossroads, Indianapolis

weds | 17

Autism Family Resource Center Parents' Support Group Times: 5:30 PM - 7:00 PM Price: Free

tues | 02

Brain Balance Parent Lecture Times: 6:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-843-9200 Location: Brain Balance Center, Indianapolis

thurs | 11

Brain Balance Open House Times: 2:00 PM - 4:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-843-9200 Location: Brain Balance Center, Indianapolis

tues | 23

Dyslexia Open House hosted by the Dyslexia Institute of Indiana Times: 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-222-6635 Location: Dyslexia Institute, Indianapolis

fri | 26

30th Annual Listening and Spoken Language Conference Times: 8:00 AM - 5:00 PM Phone: 317-828-0211 Location: St. Luke's United Methodist Church, Indianapolis For more information about hearing loss.

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How to Capture Your Child with Special Needs in a Professional Photograph Carrie Bishop No, that is not your ear ringing. Rather, it’s the faint sound of holiday bells jingling in your subconscious. That’s right, you are one family photo shoot away from the holiday card parade. No doubt family photos are a custom for many, yet some parents forgo professional photos because they have a child with special needs and are overwhelmed thinking about how to create a pictureperfect moment without fuss. Heather Bruce, mom of three in Fairland, understands. In fact, she had lost hope of getting a picture of her daughter Anna who has Isodicentric 15. “We had given up. We didn’t even allow the school photographer to take her picture. We couldn’t go to JC Penny or Sears or other common places,” she said. Of course Bruce tried, but she says the experiences were horrible.

Photo by: Pathways Photography

“Even though I would tell them she has special needs and would not smile, they would still sit there and shake a tin of coins to get her to look. Generally we got pictures of her not looking at the camera and not smiling,” she said. Then she met area photographer Stacey Crawford, now owner of Pathways Photography in Greenwood. Crawford photographed Anna while walking around the child’s grandparents’ yard. Bruce describes the resulting pictures as breathtaking. “I know Anna has special needs, but you look at the photos and you can’t tell. They are very natural,” she said.

Hiring a Photographer This positive experience can happen for other area families too. It’s a matter of finding the right photographer for your child. After all, a good photographer, according to Karen Dorame, executive director of Special Kids Photography of America, has the power to create a beautiful portrait that people will want to stare at for all the right reasons.

Photo by: Adrienne Nichols Photography

Following are a few tips to note:

Personality. Parents should get along well with the photographer. You want to be on the same page in regards to what you want to get out of the photo session. Plus you don’t want any tension during the session, which can get hectic.

Prep. Some photographers like Cassandra Medley, owner of Medley Portraits in Noblesville, give parents a social story that serves as a step-by-step visual of the session to help the child better know what to expect. The goal is for parents or therapists to go over the social story with their child in advance of the photo session. With children who have autism, Medley tries to meet the family a few weeks in advance of the photo shoot to see how the child interacts with her and learn about his or her reinforcers. Price. Sometimes you get what you pay for. It may be worth paying a little more to hire a photographer who specializes in working with kids with special needs.

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Patience. A photo session can take 15 minutes or it can last two or more hours depending on the number of breaks your child needs. Some photographers like Medley are even prepared to reschedule at no cost should the child be having a bad day.

Passion. A photographer who is passionate about their art and

getting their picture taken,” said Crawford. For instance, one of her clients plays her daughter’s favorite Barney DVD to get the child excited and smiling.

Bring snacks. It’s important to take a break from the photo shoot to refuel with mess-free food like pretzels or goldfish.

work is more likely to capture a beautiful picture.

Getting the Picture Prepare the photographer. Adrienne Pfaffenberger of Adrienne Nicole Photography in Avon advises parents to be open and communicative with the photographer. Discuss the characteristics of your child and what you hope the camera will capture.

Keep clothing simple. Fussy clothing with material like tulle or taffeta can upset a child, and an upset child makes for an upset photo session. Invite therapists. Medley also recommends parents ask their child’s favorite therapist to attend the photo shoot.

Bring a favorite thing. Pfaffenberger recommends Prepare your child. Whether through social stories, meeting the photographer or just talking about the photo session, help your child understand what to expect at the appointment.

Allow time. Pfaffenberger also recommends parents allow ample time for the photo session to avoid a time-crunched photo shoot.

Engage the child. “Get them singing, dancing, jumping, playing with bubbles or balls, or doing things they like to do. Hone in on those things and make it fun for the child so they won’t think they are


parents bring a favorite toy or item to the photo session that may help the child in the event he or she gets upset. In short, Pfaffenberger sums it up for area photographers. “I want parents to know that it is possible to get a family photo or a single portrait of a child with special needs. There are people out there who have a passion for this type of work and are competent to do the work,” she said. It’s true. So get the picture.


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Talking to your kids about divorce Sarah McCosham

Divorce is a very real – and, unfortunately, common – part of life, but remains one of the most difficult and stressful life changes. This is true not just for adults, but also for kids. Divorce becomes even more complicated once children are involved, and many parents struggle with how to approach this process with their kids. All too often, children end up feeling confused, unloved, and as though they have to “pick a side.” However, when handled with care and sensitivity, parents can successfully separate while preserving their children’s emotions and sense of family. In fact, for many families, divorce can actually provide a greater sense of love and security for the kids, as their parents are able to co-parent in a healthier way.

Broaching the Subject Once parents have decided to divorce, they should call a family meeting to talk to everyone together. Explains Carol Hornbeck, a family therapist at Indianapolis’ CenterPoint Counseling, even if the children are different ages, parents should break the news to everyone at the same time. “Children will feel safest if parents can present the message together,” she says. Lanae Harden, attorney at Harden Jackson LLC, adds that parents should take care to avoid blaming each other, and instead address the divorce in a calm and mature manner. “Parents needs to resist the temptation to re-hash the emotional details of the divorce,” says Harden, adding, “they should state that their differences are adult matters and they are not going to burden their kids with them.” Above all, parents must make sure to emphasize one critical point: that the divorce is not their kids’ fault. “The parents should make it clear that the divorce has nothing to do with the kids, and that they will both continue to love and support the children,” concludes Harden.

Considering Your Child’s Age/Personality Divorce affects children differently, depending on where they are developmentally. Hornbeck explains that very young children will primarily be concerned with their own needs: where they will sleep, how they will get to school, who will make breakfast for them, etc. “It will be hard for them to imagine how their lives will change,” she says, “Parents can help by being calm and reassuring.” Older children will likely have a lot of questions about the reasons for the divorce. As a parent, you may be unsure of how much to share with your kids – but most experts agree that certain boundaries should be set from the beginning. In fact, while it may be tempting to have a frank discussion with an older child, Stephanie Lowe-Sagebiel, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with CenterPoint Counseling, stresses that parents should be very careful to not over-share. “Divorce can be confusing for adults, but it is especially difficult for children to understand because children do not yet have the emotional resources to process the information,” she explains. As a result, Lowe-Sagebiel advises that parents share the basic facts, and not get into the emotional details of the divorce.

Co-Parenting Basics For children to heal from their parents’ divorce, the parents need to commit to working on the issues that ended the marriage. This can be done through vehicles such as individual therapy, support groups, and co-parenting counseling. Hornbeck adds that co-parenting counseling is key to a successful divorce, as “parents need to do everything possible to help children maintain good relationships with each other and both sides of their families.” Children can also be helped through the transition of living in two homes by having a family calendar in each home that shows the schedule of time to be spent with each parent, as well as all of the children’s other activities, says Hornbeck. She suggests

kids have two sets of clothes and other important items at each residence to help ease the transition between parents. Jessie Fogle, a LCSW at Meridian Youth Psychiatric Center, adds that parents should keep as much consistency as possible between the two homes. “It’s helpful to keep routines and structure consistent with how life was prior to the separation,” she explains. “Parents should ask themselves, ‘How would we parent if we were still married?’ and parent that way -- as a united force.” Finally, divorce attorney Kena Hollingsworth of Hollingsworth & Zivitz says that parents should stay upbeat about the new living situation. “Emphasize how the new changes can be positive for the kids – they now have two bedrooms, two cool places to stay, friends at both places, and new opportunities to spend quality time with each parent,” she says.

Moving Forward With the necessary steps in place (being open with your kids, attending counseling, letting go of anger/resentment), a divorce can ultimately help make a family stronger. Opines Hollingsworth, “The silver lining to divorce is often simply peace. When both parties are in less contentious environments, they are usually happier people -- and most often better parents as a result.” She concludes, “In fact, as a result of the divorce, kids often get an opportunity (through their parents’ subsequent marriages) to see how marriage is really ‘supposed’ to be: two people loving and respecting one another.”

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Making the Most OF

College Tours A guide for parents

Katrina R. Holtmeier If you want to help your teen select the right college, it is important to ask the right questions, do your research, and make smart choices. But, how can you do all these things on a budget, without losing your mind or starting an argument in the process? Here are some tips to make the most out of college visits.

Set a Budget You want college visits to leave more than just a couple bucks left in your wallet, so choose a couple schools to visit which aren’t too far away from one another. If you have to stay in a hotel, choose one located in-between a couple schools and always double check if there’s a complimentary breakfast service with your room, or find a local bed and breakfast, which will help you feel a little closer to home. Nightly hotel rates tend to increase around college campuses and town epicenters. Some colleges help with travel costs and can offer a dormitory during your visit, so don’t be afraid to ask. It could end up saving you quite a bit of cash.

Asking the Right Questions According to Director of Admissions at Butler University, Aimée Scheuermann, asking plenty of questions gives you and your child a chance to talk to someone who is ‘in the trenches.’ “Often this is the first opportunity to directly interact with a current student who is living and breathing the experience; therefore, you can expect an authentic and informed answer,” she said. Here is a list of questions Scheuermann suggests asking while on a college visit: •

What are the majors offered?

What are the admission requirements?

Are there special admission requirements for certain majors?

What are the application and financial aid dates and deadlines?

Outcomes: What are the job and professional school placement rate averages?

• Finally, she said, don’t shy away from asking what the food is like, what happens on the weekends, and most importantly, the college or university considers as their core values.’

Letting Go You are helping your college-age teenager make a decision that will affect them for the rest of their life. According to the Director of College Advising at Brebeuf Jesuit Preparatory School, Kate McVey, you can be helpful without being bossy or overbearing, if you let your child take control. “One of the best pieces of advice I have heard is that parents and the student should schedule a time once a week that they are going to talk about colleges and other than that time, the parent should not bring it up,” she said. “If a student feels like they are being overwhelmed and not supported by their parents, they will most likely shut down and then everything will become much more stressful.”

After the Official Tour A college education is an investment in time and money. After the formal visit is over, sit on campus and observe how the students are interacting with one another. How are the faculty members interacting with students? Stop a random student and ask him or her about their experience. Here are a few questions to ask: •

What does he or she like or dislike about the college?

What is his or her favorite thing about the school?

Is he or she involved in any of the sports, clubs, or activities offered by the school?

What attracted him or her to that school?

Current faculty, staff, and students are the best resources for a perspective student so encourage your child to be bold and talk to someone. In the end, be prepared and don’t stress out about college visits. Enjoy this important time in your child’s life and use this opportunity to make memories.

There are many helpful resources online to help your child make the most of their college visits. Check out or for information on everything from hotels and traveling, to loans, finding the right college, maps, and discovering the college experience. OCTOBER 2012 [ indy’s child ] 47

I Survived.

Katie Wynne

The inspiring stories of two local mothers who beat breast cancer

In October of 2011, Maria Vasey found out that she had stage 2 invasive ductal carcinoma. She was only 48 years old, physically fit, and had received mammograms – all healthy – since she was 35. Her shocking diagnosis left her wondering “Why me?”

“I think that having hair is a big part of a women’s appearance – so losing mine was a very hard thing. I had to make the best of it – I wore a lot of fun wigs and hats and things like that to help,” said Vasey.

“At first, I was in a state of denial, not wanting to believe I had breast cancer. I was also very scared, being the mother of young children. I was fearful that I would not be around to take care of them and watch them grow up,” said Vasey.

Vasey’s greatest inspiration comes from her mother who, at 88 years of age, has survived two bouts with breast cancer. “Hopefully I have some good genes and will live as long as she has,” said Vasey.

While stage 2 breast cancer is treatable, the road to recovery is not an easy one. With 59 weeks of chemotherapy, a bilateral mastectomy, and almost 6 weeks of radiation therapy to undergo, Vasey had to rely on the help and support of her family and friends to get through. “I have a Type A personality and am very independent – probably the most difficult thing was for me to ask for and accept help when I needed it. It was hard for me to sit back and let people take care of me rather than me taking care of other people,” said Vasey. Once she learned to accept help from others, her experience with cancer became a rewarding one, enabling her to become closer not only with her supportive and loving friends, but also with her husband and children. “My son would rub my head and call me a porcupine. My daughter would always draw notes and pictures for me. Those kinds of things were what helped get me out of bed in the morning and what made the experience a positive one,” she said. With the “up” days also came an equal share of “down” days. The chemotherapy left Vasey weak, both physically and mentally, and unable to lead the active lifestyle she was accustomed to. The loss of her long blonde hair was also very difficult.

Meet Holly Cole


While she has been declared cancer-free, Vasey still has many weeks of treatment left in her battle. This experience has been extremely difficult, but Vasey finds herself focusing on the silver lining: “This experience has made me appreciate the things that I have and not worry about the things that I don’t have. I feel so fortunate to have my kids and be able to watch them grow up over the years,” said Vasey. Her thoughts are echoed by another local mother and breast cancer survivor, Holly Cole, who at age 52 was diagnosed with bilateral invasive ductal carcinoma. Cole and her children, Eddy, age 25, Tommy, age 15, and Kathy, age 12, grew closer through her battle against breast cancer. “We’ve had more family laughs and family together-times than we ever did before. We never did that kind of thing before. There is always a silver lining,” said Cole. When Cole was first diagnosed, she registered the same shock and fear that Vasey felt. Telling her family was the hardest part. “I think [my kids] had to grow up very fast. Eddy, my oldest, I think it scared him the most. In the back of his mind, he knew that if something would happen to me, he was going to take over and raise Tommy and Kathy,” said Cole.

Meet Maria Vasey

To Cole’s amazement, her children stepped up and took her diagnosis in stride. When Cole decided to shave her head before her hair could fall out, her son Tommy decided to shave his, too. He organized a charity event for their friends and family to mark the event. Over 50 people came out to support Cole, leaving with shaved heads or pink streaks in their hair. To Cole, this show of support was “truly amazing.” Cole underwent a bilateral mastectomy and months of chemotherapy before hearing those wonderful words from her doctor: “You are now cancer-free.” “The cancer-free part is absolutely wonderful; I’m just ready to have my life back right now. I’m still feeling the effects of chemo and I want it to end,” said Cole. Both women fought their cancer at St.Vincent Breast Center, one of several hospitals in the area that provides exceptional care for individuals battling breast cancer. “The treatment has been wonderful,” said Cole about her time at St.Vincent Breast Center. “It was as positive an experience as you can get.” Vasey also received treatment at both Community Health Network Breast Care and Indiana University Health Cancer Center and was amazed by the love and support she received from all of the doctors and nurses she encountered. The future is looking brighter for both mothers. Cole plans to continue her real estate career. Vasey has a few months of treatment left to go, but is already becoming involved in raising breast cancer awareness in Indiana. Both women have a new zest for life and a greater appreciation for their family and friends.

WORDS OF WISDOM A lot of people told me that it wasn’t just about accepting help, it’s also that people need to help you. People that love you or are part of your life – they need to help you just as much as you need to accept their help. I feel bad for people who don’t accept help and fight cancer on their own. You don’t need to. The whole entire world will help you if you let them. advises Cole.

I encourage women who are diagnosed to attend the support groups that are offered. St.Vincent has a great one. I wish I would have done that earlier in my journey, it really has been very helpful to talk to someone who has a better understanding of their emotions and feelings that had gone through the same thing I had. adds Vasey.

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commentary and parenting

[ pete gilbert...stay-at-home dad ]

Dad Shot My Laptop: Bullseye or Parenting Misfire? True confessions of stay-at-home dad Pete Gilbert

I just watched an episode of 20/20 called Extreme Parenting.

So what do you think? Is dad right to do this to his daughter's computer?

The segment I watched centered around one dad and daughter relationship in particular. The teenage daughter felt like her parents were bossing her around and making her do too many chores, so she wrote a Facebook post about how unfair she was being treated around her house.

To me, this seems like a pretty irresponsible solution to the problem. What lesson does this teach his daughter? Are breaking things, violence and shooting the answer? Isn't dad just as guilty of trying to "shock" the FB crowd by posting his video as his daughter was for posting her initial comments?

Here is a little bit of what she wrote, “I’m tired of picking up after you. You tell me at least once a day to get a job. I have no idea how I have a life. I’m gonna hate to see the day when you get too old to wipe your a**, and you call me asking for help. I won’t be there.”

I would love to hear your opinions on this topic. Please head over to my Facebook page at leave your comments there.

Dad saw the Facebook post. His response was a short You Tube video to his daughter that ended with him shooting her laptop eight times with a 45-caliber handgun. The video went viral, the last time I checked there were over 34,000,000 hits. Ten times the number of people that viewed the video liked it compared to those that disliked it.


By the way, 20/20 recorded how long it took the daughter to do a days worth of the chores she was complaining about, they took her 13 minutes. Happy Parenting! – Pete

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commentary and parenting

[ dear teacher ]

Dear Teacher Kindergarten readiness & junior high adjustments

Should this Child Drop Out of Kindergarten?


My daughter started kindergarten in late August. She is the youngest child in her class. At first she seemed to love going to school and

bringing home the papers that she did in class to hang on the fridge, but everything seemed to change overnight. About three weeks ago, she started crying and not

He is a great golfer. Should we demand that he quit the sport until he pulls up his

wanting to go to school in the morning. It is definitely a struggle to get her to school now.

grades? We want to emphasize the importance of academics. – Lack of Success

I talked to the teacher and she says that my daughter even cries in school. I wish I had waited another year to send her. I feel she is intimidated because the other children can write their names and color within the lines. What should I do now? – Pushy Mom


Admittedly, moving from elementary school to junior high can be a very difficult transition for many students. It certainly appears to have been

difficult for your son. He may not have figured out yet how to cope with so many


School has only been in session for a little more than a month. Don’t panic. You need to talk more with the teacher before doing anything. Find out if your daughter is really significantly behind the other children

academically. In fact, you should visit the classroom to get a better picture of what is going on and whether your hunch about academics is really the problem. The year has only just begun so your daughter has plenty of time to learn new things. The big question is about her readiness for the academic challenge of this kindergarten. Did the crying start when the work became more difficult? Is she handling some of the work without difficulty? Ask the teacher if your child needs an additional year of preparation for the kindergarten experience, or if she can easily catch up with the other children. An additional year in a pre-kindergarten class could be right for your child. You don’t want your daughter to always feel under pressure to keep up with the other children.

teachers and all their assignments. Learning how to do so could turn things around for him. Your attitude needs to be one of helping the child cope rather than punishing him. Be aware that there is absolutely no guarantee that forcing your child to quit something he loves will improve his academic skills. Praise your son for doing well in some of his classes. Then ask him if he can pinpoint exactly why he is having trouble in the others. This will give you an idea of what special help he needs. The people who can help him turn things around are his teachers at the junior high. Ask the counselor to schedule a meeting of all of his teachers, yourself and your son to see what can be done to get him on track. At the meeting, the question should be raised about whether he is taking too many classes. Also, ask if the classes are appropriate for his ability level. Would dropping a class and taking a study period be the correct move? Does he need a tutor to get the hang of how to handle the classes in which he is receiving D’s and F’s? Can individual

School needs to be a happy experience for young children. Do remember that having

teachers provide the help he needs? Would being in a resource room make a

her go back to a pre-kindergarten class does not automatically guarantee that she will

difference? Could he possibly have a learning disability holding him back from

handle the academics of kindergarten better next year.

academic success? Your son is probably very frustrated and unhappy about his lack of success in junior

Handling a Poor Adjustment to Junior High

high. Hopefully the teachers will be able to help him succeed in all of his classes by


building on what he is doing right in the classes where he is receiving A’s, B’s and C’s. My son is having a difficult time adjusting to junior high. He just received a terrible interim report: 1 A, 1 B, 2 C’s, 2 D’s and 2 F’s. While he never

failed in elementary school, he did have to work very hard to get C or better grades.


Parents should send questions and comments to dearteacher@dearteacher. com or ask them on the columnists’ website at

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FALL FUN Anderson Orchard Pleasant View Pumpkin Patch & Corn Maze

Fishers Renaissance Faire

Open daily October 1-31, 9:00am – 6:00pm

Price: Tickets are $10 for adults, $5 for kids ages 5-12, and FREE for kids under 4

Price: Admission to the farm is FREE. Prices for produce and attractions vary. Anderson Orchard - Pleasant View: 10721 N. 850 W., Fairland, IN 46126 | (317) 861-4025 Have some Fall fun with your family at the Anderson Orchard – Pleasant View this October. After visiting the U-Pick Pumpkin Patch to pick out your personal pumpkin, check out the 4-acre corn maze for a challenge and a good time.

Anderson Orchard U-Pick Produce Open daily October 1-31, 8:00am – closing time varies Price: Admission to the farm is FREE, cost of produce varies, see website for details

October 6th and 7th,10:00am – 6:00 pm Saxony Development: 13578 E. 131st Street, Fishers, IN 46037 Experience the Golden Age of Queen Elizabeth I at The Fishers Renaissance Faire. There will be over 250 costumed characters, jousting, period music and dance, parades, and over 70 artisans and merchants, many food vendors, and free kid’s games. Discounts available online.

German Fest Saturday, October 13, 2012, 12:00 PM–11:00 PM Price: $5 in advance, $10 at the door, 12 and under FREE

Anderson Orchard: 369 E. Greencastle Road, Mooresville, IN 46158 | (317) 831-4181

Athenaeum: 401 E. Michigan St, Indianapolis, IN 46204 | Phone: 317-630-4569

Picking your own produce is an experience that can shared by the entire family. With U-Pick apples, raspberries, pumpkins, plums, chestnuts, and over 100 beautiful acres to enjoy, Anderson Farms is a great place for a full day of family fun.

Discover your inner-German and party at the Athenaeum, for the Athenaeum . All proceeds from this event benefit the maintenance and care of the Historic Athenaeum. Celebrate German-American Day with this unique family event.

Cool Creek Park Haunted Trails

Headless Horseman at Connor Prairie

October 23-25, 7:00pm – 10:00pm

October 12 – 14, 18 – 21, & 25 – 27, 6:00pm – 9:00pm

Price: Tickets are $5 per person Cool Creek Park: 2000 E. 151st Street, Carmel, IN 46032 | (317) 774-2500

Price: Ticket prices vary, see website for details. Connor Prairie Interactive History Park: 13400 Allisonville Road, Fishers, IN 46038 | (317) 776-6006

Make your way through the "boo-tiful" woods of Cool Creek Park for their annual Haunted Trails Halloween event! After the horrifying experience, gather around the campfire for some story telling and music. Trail not recommended for kids under 12, but there will be lots of non-scary activities for the little ones - a campfire, free hayrides and more!

Gather family and friends close and prepare to be scared silly as the Headless Horseman of Sleepy Hollow rides again at Conner Prairie Interactive History Park. Families can also enjoy spooky stories, scary-o-ke, shocking science activities, the Legend of Sleepy Hollow puppet show and many more ghoulishly fun activities.

Country Market Pumpkinfest

Historic Irvington Halloween Festival

Saturdays & Sundays in October

October 20-27; See website for a complete list of events, dates, and times.

Price: Tickets are $9 for adults, $8 for children 12 and under, and FREE for kids under 2.

Prices vary, see website for details.

Country Market | (317) 716-6854

Indianapolis, IN | (317) 713-1100

Embrace the Fall every weekend in October at the Country Market Pumpkinfest. Enjoy a corn maze, hayrides, pumpkin decorating, live music, great food, and so much more.

At the Historic Irvington Halloween Festival, there is something for everyone. From spooky concerts to costume parties to zombie bike rides, there is an event for every member of your family, so don’t miss out!

Fishers Freedom Festival Craft Show

Holliday Park Fall Festival

October 13, 9:00am – 3:00pm

October 28, 12:00pm – 5:00pm

Price: Admission is $5 for adults, $2 for students and senior citizens, and FREE for kids under 12.

Price: FREE

Fishers High School: 13000 Promise Road, Fishers, IN 46038 | (317) 595-3195

Holliday Park: 6363 Spring Mill Road, Indianapolis, IN 46260 | (317) 327-7180

Support your local community at the Fishers Freedom Festival Craft Show. At the Craft Show, you can find one-of-a-kind treasures from the 150+ arts and crafts vendors attending the show and enjoy some tasty food provided by the Fishers High School PTO.

Celebrate autumn during the annual Holliday Park Fall Festival! Gather friends and family and visit Holliday Park for a campfire, crafts, refreshments and fun fall activities.


GUIDE Kelsay Farms

Stoneycreek Farm’s 40th Annual Pumpkin Harvest Festival

October 3 – 25; See website for opening and closing times.

September 29 – October 31, 10:00am – 5:00pm

Price: Tickets are $7 each, babies under 1 are FREE!

Price: There is a $5 parking fee for cars on Saturdays and Sundays

Kelsay Farms: 6848 N. County Road 250 E., Whiteland, IN | (317) 535-4136

Stoneycreek Farm: 11366 SR 38 E., Noblesville, IN 46060 | (317) 773-3344

Visit a real working dairy farm this Fall. This is a family-friendly place complete with a corn maze, snacks, games, pumpkins and the NEW Moo Choo Express!

At Stoneycreek Farm, hitch a hayride to the U-Pick Pumpkin Patch, food and vendors, as well as a variety of activities for kids of all ages, including their famous Jumping Pillow, Zipline, and Cave Slides. Most activities incur a separate fee.

Oktoberfest at Traders Point Creamery

Stuckey Farm Pumpkin Patch & Corn Maze

October 13, 12:00pm – 7:00pm Price: Tickets are $10 at the door and $8 in advance

Open daily October 1-31, Times vary, see website for details. Admission to the farm is FREE, although there is an additional charge for the corn maze.

Traders Point Creamery: 9101 Moore Road, Zionsville, IN 46077 | (317) 733-1700

Stuckey Farm: 19975 Hamilton Boone County Rd., Sheridan, IN 46069 | (317) 769-4172

It’s time to dust off your lederhosen and join Traders Point Creamery in celebrating their Sixth Annual Oktoberfest on the farm! This celebration offers plenty of tantalizing organic food, beer and wine, and toe-tapping music from PolkaBoy. There are plenty of activities the kids will enjoy too, like hayrides, a pumpkin patch, and cow milking demonstrations!

Take a wagon ride to the pumpkin patch, test your navigational skills in the James Whitcomb Riley – themed corn maze, and stop by the market for lots of fresh produce and some Stuckey apple cider. There will be special events all Fall long – check the website for updates.

Piney Acres Haunted Maze & Pumpkin Patch

Waterman’s Family Farm Fall Harvest Festival

September 26 – October 3; See website for a complete list of dates and times.

Open daily October 1 – 31, 8:00am – 8:00pm

Price: Admission to the farm is $7 for adults, $6 for kids 12 and under, and FREE for kids 5 and under. See website for attraction prices.

Price: Admission to the farm is FREE. Prices for produce and attractions vary.

Piney Acres: 1115 E. 1000 North, Fortville, IN 46040 | (317) 326-1700 For the fifth year in a row, Piney Acres Farm will have a corn maze – and part of it is haunted! During your visit, you can also check out their famous pumpkin patch, take a hayride, mine for gems, and enjoy some delicious food!

Russell Farms Country Fall Festival Saturdays & Sundays in October, 10:00am – 6:00pm Price: Tickets are $6 each, kids 2 and under are FREE Russell Farms Pumpkin Patch: 12290 E. 191st Street, Noblesville, IN 46060 | (317) 773-9078

Waterman’s Family Farm: 7010 E. Raymond, Indianapolis, IN 46239 | (317) 356-6995 Take a perfect autumn day, add some down-home music, a petting zoo, an abundance of yummy food, enough games and activities to keep you entertained for hour, and then top it all off with a bouncy guided hayride to a pumpkin patch…and there you have your visit to Waterman’s Fall Harvest Festival, an autumn tradition in Indianapolis!

Wicked Workshop Haunted House at the Children’s Museum of Indianapolis October 13-31; See website for a complete list of times for “Lights On Hours” & “Defender Direct’s Frightening Hours” Price: Tickets are $7 at the door

Celebrate the season at the Russell Farms Country Fall Festival, where you’ll find something fun for the whole family, including a corn maze with a scavenger hunt, hayrides, farm animals, bluegrass music, and, of course, delicious food.

Children’s Museum of Indianapolis: 3000 N. Meridian Street, Indianapolis, IN 46208 | (317) 334-3322 For a spooktacular time, join the Children’s Museum of Indianapolis for their 49th Annual Haunted House – the Wicked Workshop. Be prepared for a wild and whimsical experience with witches, witchkins, and more this Halloween!

Sheridan Harvest Moon Festival

ZooBoo at the Indianapolis Zoo

October 6th and 7th; See website for schedule.

October 12-14, 19-21, 26-28, 2:00pm – 7:00pm

Price: FREE

Price: Tickets are $16.50 for adults, $11.50 for kids, and FREE for children under 2 & members.

Biddle Memorial Park: 506 South Main Street, Sheridan, IN 46069 | (317) 758-2504

Indianapolis Zoo: 1200 W. Washington Street, Indianapolis, IN 46222 | (317) 630-2001

Visit Sheridan, Indiana for some good ol’ country fun! Check out the local arts and crafts, food vendors, and exciting events like the Great Pumpkin Check at this annual festival.

Celebrate this holiday season in a family-friendly setting with lots of fun activities for the kids. Enjoy crafts, an obstacle course, a live magic show, and more at this year’s Halloween ZooBoo presented by the Indianapolis Honda Dealers.

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calendar mon | 01

Preschool Art Workshop

Times: 10:30 AM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4470 Location: Nora Library, Indianapolis Preschoolers ages 3 - 6 are invited to join the Library and Art With a Heart for a story time and art workshop. They'll listen to a story and create a work of art inspired by the story and illustrations in the book. Call 275-4470 to register.

tues | 02

Community Tuesdays

Phone: 317-232-1637 Location: Indiana State Museum, Indianapolis On the first Tuesday of every month, receive half off general admission to the Indiana State Museum (does NOT include special exhibits) and $2 off tickets to the IMAX Theater.

weds | 03

Preschool Art Workshop

Times: 10:00 AM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4380 Location: Franklin Road Library, Indianapolis Preschoolers ages 3 - 6 are invited to join the Library and Art With a Heart for a story time and art workshop. Call 275-4380 to register.

thurs | 04

Target Free Family Night Times: 4:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: Free

Phone: 317-334-3322 Location: The Children's Museum, Indianapolis Join The Children's Museum of Indianapolis for a fall festival celebrating crisp weather, crunchy leaves, and fall traditions. Sponsored generously by Target, the first Thursday of each month The Children's Museum opens free of charge from 4-8 p.m.

fri | 05


13th Annual Potter’s Bridge

Times: 11:00 AM - 3:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-770-4400 Location: Potter's Bridge Park, Noblesville Listen to live music, visit the art and craft booths, take your little ones to the kids area, and enjoy the natural scenery of Noblesville’s most scenic park on the White River Greenway Trail.

Animal Tales: Raccoons and Ripe Corn

Times: 12:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-838-3800 Location: PlainfieldGuilford Township Public Library, Plainfield www. Join the park naturalist from McCloud Nature Park to learn about these masked creatures and make a raccoon craft to keep. Sponsored by Hendricks County Parks. Free for all ages, no registration is required.

sat | 06 Celebrate Science Indiana

Times: 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM Price: Admission free; parking $5.00 Phone: 317-278-1147 Location: Champions Pavilion, Indianapolis Celebrate Science Indiana (CSI) is a public event that is intended to demonstrate the importance of studying science and the joy of discovery, the economic value of science, and its significance to society.

Walk of Hope

Times: 8:00 AM - 4:00 PM Phone: 317-338-5092 Location: Lions Park, Zionsville The community is invited to participate in the 2012 Walk of Hope, benefitting St.Vincent Cancer Care. Those interested can sign up to participate in the 15, 3 or 1-mile walk. After the walk there will be a Community Fair with live entertainment, games, and so much more.

Fishers Renaissance Faire Saturday, October 6 and Sunday, October 7 Times: 10:00 AM - 6:00 PM Price: $10 for adults, $5 for kids ages 5-12, and Free for kids under 4 Location: Saxony Development, Fishers Experience the Golden Age of Queen Elizabeth

I at The Fishers Renaissance Faire. There will be over 250 costumed characters, jousting, period music and dance, parades, and over 70 artisans and merchants, many food vendors, and free kid’s games. Discounts available online.

sun | 07

Journey Through Eastern Europe: Russian Folk Dancing

Times: 3:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4410 Location: Glendale Library, Indianapolis As part of the Library's series celebrating the diversity of East European cultures, languages and people, individuals of all ages are invited to learn the different styles and interpretations of Russian and Cossack dances. Participants also will learn about Russian folk costumes and the history behind Russian folkdance and music.

mon | 08

Sing and Sign With Express Kids Times: 11:00 AM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4390 Location: Fountain Square Library, Indianapolis Children up to age 5 and an adult are invited to sign and sing along with Miss Elaine. They will use music, sign language, puppets and wholebody learning in this special interactive program.

tues | 09

Read, Feed, Draw Book Discussion: Bats in the Belfry Times: 4:30 PM - 5:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-878-9560

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Location: JCPL Trafalger Branch, Trafalgar Before the program, pick up a copy of Bernie Magruder & the Bats in the Belfry to read. Learn about bats, belfries and some Halloween fun – with snacks. Grades 2-5.

Come celebrate in the German tradition with authentic German fare and toe-tapping music from PolkaBoy. This year we are featuring our first whole hog roast with Gunthorp Farms, along with our farm-style organic sides. There are fun activities the kids will enjoy, too, like hayrides, a pumpkin patch, and cow milking!

what Mondays are like, so here’s a way to shake off the day: Join us for Monday Madness at the library! Feel free to bring a friend and meet new ones too. You’ll laugh together, do onyour-feet activities, hear funny stories, and get creative with crafts. For children in grades 1-5.

tues | 16

Pumpkin Decorating

weds | 10

Lego® Mania: Monster Challenge

Times: 7:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-579-0300 Location: Hamilton East Library, Fishers Do you love to build amazing Lego® creations? Bring your friends and join us for a Lego® mania monster challenge. Please bring your own Legos® to create your masterpiece. You may temporarily leave your creation at the library for display. For ages 5-12. Registration required.

thurs | 11

Knee-High Naturalist

Times: 9:00 AM Price: $5 Phone: 317-843-3869 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel Calling all tiny explorers Hike, dig in the dirt, and discover nature while parents/guardians gain knowledge and skills for teaching children about the natural world around them. Join us for an adventure each week at Central Park.

fri | 12

Storytime Express

Times: 11:00 AM - 11:30 AM Price: Free Phone: 317-843-3869 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel All aboard Jump on the literacy train for a fastpaced, interactive mix of stories, rhymes, and songs paired with a simple craft. Each week has a different theme and younger siblings are welcome. Ages 2-5.

sat | 13

6th Annual Oktoberfest

Price: $10, $8 in advance Phone: 317-733-1700 Location: Traders Point Creamery, Zionsville 58 INDYSCHILD.COM

German Fest

Times: 12:00 PM - 11:00 PM Price: $5 in advance, $10 at the door, 12 and under Free Phone: 317-630-4569 Location: Athenaeum, Indianapolis Discover Your Inner-German and party at the Athenaeum, for the Athenaeum . All proceeds from this event benefit the maintenance and care of the Historic Athenaeum. Celebrate German-American Day with this unique family event.

Hoosier Hauntings

Times: 11:00 AM - 4:00 PM Price: included with museum admission Phone: 317-232-1637 Location: Indiana State Museum, Indianapolis Take a flashlight tour of the dark corners of the museum on our behind the scenes tour, or breathe a sigh of relief and meet with the not-soscary creatures of Animalia. Take part in our Mad Science Lab or become a sleuth at our chilling crime scene. Roast s’mores, create a decorative pumpkin, or simply go batty with your own puppet.

sun | 14

Holliday Park Create and Decorate: Hiking Stick

Times: 1:30 PM - 3:30 PM Price: $8/hiking stick Phone: 317-327-7180 Location: Holliday Park Nature Center, Indianapolis Come anytime between 1:30 and 3:30 to create and decorate your own hiking stick. We will provide all materials and decorations All ages, pre-registration required.

mon | 15

Monday Madness: Captain Underpants

Times: 4:00 PM and 6:30 PM Price: Free Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel If it’s Monday, madness usually follows – hurrying, scurrying, getting back into the groove. We know

Times: 4:00 PM - 6:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-738-2833 Location: JCPL Franklin Branch, Franklin You bring the pumpkin, we’ll bring the decorations. Drop in between 4:00-6:00 to decorate your pumpkin. Once you are finished decorating your pumpkin, you may enter it into the Friends of the Library Pumpkin Contest on October 23rd. Ask for Friends entry form for more information.


Friday, October 19 through Sunday, October 21 Time: 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM Fri and Sat; 11:00 AM – 4:00 PM Sun Price: included with museum admission Phone: 317-232-1637 Location: Indiana State Museum, Indianapolis What's shakin' and rockin' at the Indiana State Museum? GeoFest, the museum's rock, fossil and mineral show! GeoFest rocks out with Ice Age fossils, minerals in everyday life, and colorful gemstones from Indiana and around the world. Shake it up inside the earthquake simulation trailer to experience different levels of earthquake activity.

weds | 17

It Came from the Library! This Teen Read Week Times: 4:00 PM - 5:00 PM Price: Free Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel Join us for a zombie invasion as we celebrate Teen Read Week in the Young Adult Lounge. No registration is required. All materials and refreshments will be provided at no cost by the Friends of the Carmel Clay Public Library. Also, check out the Teen Read Week book display behind the Young Adult desk.

thurs | 18

Holliday Park Hauntless Halloween Thursday, October 18 through Saturday, October 20 Time: Hikes run every 10 minutes from 5:50-8:00 PM Price: $8/adults, $6/children 12 and under, children 2 and under are free Phone: 317-327-7180 Location: Holliday Park Nature Center, Indianapolis Join Holliday Park and Indianapolis Civic Theater for an enchanted evening of family fun! Families will hike along candlelit trails to visit with some forest inhabitants who have come alive for these special evenings, then venture back to the nature center to enjoy a campfire, refreshments, crafts and more! All ages, pre-registration required.

fri | 19

Halloween Drop-In Craft

Times: 10:00 AM - 11:30 AM Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel For children ages 2-5 & their caregivers. Come to the library and make a fun (but not too scary) craft! Drop in anytime between 10:0011:30 a.m. No registration is required.

sat | 20

National Archaeology Day

Times: 10:00 AM - 3:00 PM Price: Free with museum admission Phone: 317-334-3322 Location: The Children’s Museum, Indianapolis Roll up your sleeves and get out your pointed trowel Join The Children's Museum of Indianapolis and over 100 locations across America as we celebrate National Archaeology Day with fun and educational archaeology activities.

sun | 21

Friendly Feast with the Witches

Times: 12:00 PM Price: $15/person Phone: 317-334-3322 Location: The Children’s Museum, Indianapolis Enjoy a breakfast, lunch, or dinner "boo-fet". This event features "fa-boo-lous" Halloween entertainment, a tour of Wicked Workshop during IPL's Lights-On Hours (for children who scare easily), and lots of happy, friendly witches. Space is limited, so make your reservations early!

mon | 22 Zombies and Mummies Times: 7:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-770-3242 Location: Hamilton East Library, Noblesville Listen to stories about zombies and mummies to celebrate Halloween. Do some zombie and mummy crafts or make a mask. For grades 3-6.

tues | 23 Haunted Trails

Tue, Wed & Thu October 23 through Thursday, October 25 Times: 7:00 PM Price: $5 Phone: 317-770-4400 Location: Cool Creek Park, Carmel Ghouls and goblins are lurking at every turn and waiting for you to arrive. After the horrifying experience, gather around the campfire for some storytelling and music. Trail not recommended for kids under 12, but there will be lots of non-scary activities for the little ones - a campfire, free hayrides and more.

weds | 24

Journey Through Eastern Europe: Folk Art Toys of the Czech & Slovak Republics Times: 2:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-275-4460 Location: Lawrence Library, Indianapolis As part of the Library's series celebrating the diversity of East European cultures, languages and people, children ages 5 and up and families are invited to use common household materials to create brightly colored painted toys to connect with the traditions of families from the Czech and Slovak Republics during this twohour program. Call 275-4460 to register.

thurs | 25

Trick-or-Treat at the Library Times: 5:30 PM - 7:30 PM Phone: 317-838-3800 Location: Plainfield Library, Plainfield Children and their families are invited to drop in and collect treats from each library department and local organizations. Stop by the tree in the Children’s Room to see Amazon John and his live animal. Wear your costume or just come for the fun. This is a free program for all ages.

Los Dias de los Muertos - The Day of the Dead - is a traditional Mexican holiday with ancient ties to the Aztecs. The museum gives visitors a chance to learn about the traditions and history behind Los Dias de los Muertos, and to participate in the celebration.

mon | 29

Monday Madness: Donuts

Time: 4:00 PM and 6:00 PM Price: Free Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel Join us for Monday Madness at the library! Feel free to bring a friend and meet new ones too. You’ll laugh together, do on-your-feet activities, hear funny stories, and get creative with crafts. For children in grades 1-5.

Monster Mash

sat | 27 Haunted Tea

Times: 1:00 PM - 4:00 PM Price: $18 adults; $9 youth (612); $6.00 children (2-5) Phone: 317-638-7881 Location: The Indianapolis Propylaeum, Indianapolis Spider webs and non-scary treats. Tea includes a mini etiquette lesson, a craft, finger sandwiches, and tea treats. Reservations required, 638-7881.

Day of the Dead Festival

Times: 11:00 AM - 4:00 PM Price: Included with museum admission Phone: 317-232-1637 Location: Indiana State Museum, Indianapolis



fri | 26

Times: 5:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-881-1953 Location: Greenwood Library, Greenwood The whole family is welcome to this familyfriendly Halloween Party. Businesses from all over Johnson County will be giving away "Treats" while the Library will be providing the "Tricks". Celebrate Halloween with this fun, safe, kid-friendly party! All profits from the evening will go to purchase materials for the Library.

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tues | 30 sun | 28 A Day of Play: Featuring Rick Recht in Concert

Times: 12:00 PM - 4:00 PM Price: Free Phone: (317) 251-9467 Location: Jewish Community Center, Indianapolis Play with movement. Play with art. Play with food. Playing facilitates learning and socializing. Explore, move, discover and then take in a concert by Rick Recht at 3 pm.

Holliday Park Fall Festival Times: 12:00 PM - 5:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-327-7180 Location: Holliday Park, Indianapolis Celebrate autumn during the annual Holliday Park Fall Festival! Join us between noon5:00 for a campfire, crafts, refreshments and fun fall activities. Visit for additional details and a schedule of events.

Story-time with Bubbe and Zayde Times: 12:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-715-9233 Location: JCC, Indianapolis This cozy, intergenerational lunch is a heartwarming annual event for children, their parents and grandparents. Everyone brings their own sack lunch and beverage and joins together to hear stories and sing along with the community’s favorite musical, guitar-playing, rabbis: Rabbi Benjamin and Rabbi Brett Krichiver.

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ongoing events 10.12

14th Annual Ann Katz Festival of Books & Arts Select days October 24 through November 17 Price: $5 general public / $3 JCC members Phone: (317) 251-9467 Location: Jewish Community Center, Indianapolis This festival continues to grow by adding a broad range of events to appeal to an increasingly more varied audience. Fiction lovers can look forward to opening night, October 24, with best-selling author and screenwriter Delia Ephron. Kids can explore, learn and move at the many engaging activities planned for the "Day of Play" on October 28. And much more. Festival Fast-Pass good for all programs: $50 general public / $40 JCC members.

Victorian Theatre by Candlelight's Haunted D.C. Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays, October 12 through October 21 Times: 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM, Fri and Sat; 3:30 PM – 6:00 PM Sun Price: $12.00 adults; $5.00 students (ages 6 to 17) Phone: 317-631-1888 Location: Benjamin Harrison Presidential Site, Indianapolis

Madison who are rumored to haunt D.C. to this day. This performance progresses through the President's mansion as guests encounter different spirits in the many rooms of the home.

Through January 27, 2013

Ongoing Every Saturday

Price: Included with museum admission Phone: (317) 334-3322 Location: The Children’s Museum, Indianapolis

Times: 12:00 PM - 4:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-920-2659 Location: Indianapolis Museum of Art, Indianapolis

Family fun revs up in Hot Wheels For Real at The Children’s Museum!

This all-new experience will feature rarely seen collectible Hot

Stop by the Star(lite) Art Cart to find art-making projects

Wheels cars and amazing life-size versions of iconic favorites.

inspired by works of art on view at the IMA. Projects are designed to be accessible and fun for museum visitors of all ages and all levels of art-making experience.

Summer Green Market

The vendors are on the front lawn with dinner being served on the desk from 5:00pm-dusk. Check out our Upcoming Events section on the website to find out this weeks menu. Look for the vendors inside the Red Barn and dinner in the Loft in case of inclement weather.

ZooBoo at the Indianapolis Zoo Select days October 12 through October 28 Times: 2:00 PM - 7:00 PM Price: $16.50 for adults, $11.50 for kids, and FREE for children under 2 and members Phone: 317-630-2001 Location: Indianapolis Zoo, Indianapolis Celebrate this holiday season in a family-friendly setting with lots of fun activities for the kids. Enjoy crafts, an obstacle course, a

Apple Store Daily Through Wednesday, October 31

live magic show, and more at this year’s Halloween ZooBoo presented by the Indianapolis Honda Dealers.

Times: 11:00 AM - 5:00 PM Price: Admission is free Phone: 317-776-6006


Location: Conner Prairie, Fishers

Select days October 20 through November 17, 2012

Price: $14

The Apple Store, operated by the Conner Prairie Alliance, features

Phone: 317-872-9664

many delicious items including gourmet, hand-dipped caramel

Location: Beef & Boards, Indianapolis

apples, classic apple cider, apple cider slushies and fun gift items.

There is something for every apple lover Get to the Apple Store

Each musical is one hour long with no intermission. Price includes

before it closes and sink your teeth into one of these fall treats.

juice and snack. Fridays at 10 and Saturdays at 10 & 1



Lincoln, William Henry Harrison, James Garfield and Dolley

Star(lite) Art Cart: Facilitated Art Making


Meet ghosts of such former political powerhouses as Abraham

Hot Wheels For Real!

Fridays through October 26 Times: 4:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: Admission is free Phone: 317-733-1700 Location: Traders Point Creamery, Zionsville

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The Children's Museum Guild's Haunted House: Wicked Workshop Select days October 13 through October 31 Times: 10:00 AM - 9:30 PM Price: Museum members: $6.50; General admission: $7 Phone: 317-334-3322 Location: The Children’s Museum, Indianapolis Get ready to explore the 49th annual Children's Museum Guild’s Haunted House: Wicked Workshop – a whimsical and spooky Halloween factory where Winny the Witch oversees her hard-working Witchkins as they make everything needed to celebrate Halloween. For a full listing of dates and times, visit

The Slightly Haunted Puppet Studio Select days October 13 through October 28 Price: $10, under two, free Phone: 317-917-9454 Location: Peewinkle's Puppet Studio, Indianapolis Once again Gertrude the Witch will delight the audiences with her crazy antics and classic Halloween friends. See website for schedule.

Headless Horseman at Connor Prairie Select days October 12 through October 27 Times: 6:00 PM - 9:00 PM Price: see website for ticket pricing Phone: 317-776-6000 Location: Conner Prairie, Fishers Gather family and friends close and prepare to be scared silly as the Headless Horseman of Sleepy Hollow rides again at Conner Prairie Interactive History Park. Families can also enjoy spooky stories, scary-o-ke, shocking science activities, the Legend of Sleepy Hollow puppet show and many more ghoulishly fun.

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Indy's Child // October 2012  
Indy's Child // October 2012  

Indy's Child is Indiana's #1 Parenting Publication! In this issue: the Importance of Preschool Enrichment, Fall Fun in Indy, Making the Most...