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May | June 2013


Growing Families Through Adoption


Meet the Staff Publisher Mary Wynne Cox


8 | Greetings It's that time of year!

10 | On the Radar


2013 Arthritis Walk, Fishers Freedom Festival, Twins in Carmel & Lemonade Day

14 | DĂŠcor Next Door Furniture painting

Understanding the differences and the process

22 | What's Cool After School

Advertising Coordinator Karen Ring

Swimming and Tennis

24 | Party On! 26 | To Your Health

Editorial Assistant Wendy Schrepferman


Children's mental health

Business Manager | Accounting Roxanne Burns

28 | Exploring Indiana Day trips perfect for summer months

30 | Mommy Magic


Keeping calm, carrying on

32 | Summer Fun Guide

Karen Ring, Mike Berry, Lindsay Eckert, Liz Henderson, Carolyn Loub, Nicki Turner, Mary Susan Buhner, Susan Bryant

34 | Reci-please Herb grilled chicken

35 | Five Garage Sale Tricks of the Trade



Contact Us:

36 | Ask the Expert Landscaping and gardening professionals

38 | In Our Opinion Virtual violence

40 | To Do With Your Crew Family fun activities

42 | The Last Laugh Favorite funny family moments



Public Relations and Events Wendy Cox


Fun activities to keep you busy all summer long!

Hit the ground running as the season kicks off!

Associate Publisher Advertising Sales Jennica Zalewski Creative Director Katie Pfierman

16 | The Adoption Option

Birthday party tips and ideas for every age

Editor Susan Bryant


On The Cover The Stanley Family:

Gerald, Gretchen, Grant, Grady, Gillian & Gia Special thanks to Jones Nursery and Noelle Grace Designs for their participation in our cover shot!


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Greetings MAY/ JUNE 2013

It's that time of year! By the time May and June finally arrive, my family is ready to get outside! With spring taking so long to make its appearance this year, we are even more anxious to enjoy the warmer weather. (Darn ground hog!) The next couple of months will be filled with fun in Hamilton County , which is why we have compiled our Summer Fun Guide with lots of ongoing activities – summer concerts, movies, festivals and farmers markets, just to name a few. And if you are considering an in-state adventure this summer, check out Exploring Indiana for some great one tank trips! For an interesting and informative take on the process of adoption, check out Mike Berry’s The Adoption Option. This father of eight adopted children gives a firsthand experience of his family’s adoption journey. If you’ve been waiting for the garage sale season to begin, you will appreciate Five Garage Sale Tricks of the Trade – learn the strategies of scoring big with other people’s “junk!” Find out how to turn those inexpensive finds into new treasures with simple furniture painting techniques – detailed in Décor Next Door. Of course we’ve also got the kids covered with articles on birthday party ideas, tennis opportunities and swimming lessons in our area. As always, our staff is excited to bring each issue of this publication to you. And being residents of Hamilton County ourselves, we might just see you around town this summer! We welcome your feedback – please email me at with your thoughts and comments!

Jennica Zalewski Associate Publisher



On The Radar MAY/JUNE 2013

Mark Your Calendar

Get Involved


Fishers Teen Named Honoree for 2013 Arthritis Foundation Walk The Arthritis Foundation will host its 11th annual Arthritis Walk on Saturday, May 18th at Military Park in downtown Indianapolis. This year’s honoree is 14-year-old Emily Gebhardt, a freshman at Hamilton Southeastern High School. Emily was first diagnosed with arthritis when she was just eight years old. Although arthritis is often viewed as strictly an “old person’s disease,” there are, in fact, 6,400 children in Indiana who live with chronic joint pain – and 300,000 more nationwide. Join Emily for this year’s walk and help support the many efforts of the Arthritis Foundation to help people of all ages with this disease!

[To learn more visit [ Fishers Freedom Festival’s Annual 5K Walk/Run and Two Mile Family Walk Run, jog or walk in the 25th annual Fishers Freedom Festival’s 5K Event on Saturday, June 29th at Roy G. Holland Park. Activities include the 5K event, a non-competitive family fun two-mile walk and a Kiddie Run. There is no charge to participate in the Kiddie Run and all children will receive a special commemorative prize. Last year’s event attracted a crowd of nearly 1,400 participants – so come join in the fun!


For more information and to register online, visit the Fishers Freedom Festival’s website at




Think you’re seeing double in Carmel? You probably are! Carmel High School’s class of 2012 has 17 sets of twins! If you think that might be a record, you could be right. Guinness World Records states the current record is 16 for the number of twins in a high school class. In order to be the official new record holder, the twins at Carmel have to go through a rigorous process of paperwork with Guinness. Look for an announcement soon!

Support our youngest entrepreneurs on Lemonade Day Lemonade Day is a free, fun initiative designed to teach kids of all ages how to start, own and operate their own business: a lemonade stand! This year Lemonade Day is Saturday, May 18th – so be on the lookout for these smallest of businesses in your neighborhood and help them learn the basics of supply and demand while enjoying a refreshing glass of ice cold lemonade!

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New products make it fun to “play” with paint by: Carolyn Loub, mom of 4

Give your old furniture a new lease on life with paint! New products and techniques make it easy to add style and flair to any ordinary piece of furniture. From sleek and modern to rustic and shabby, furniture painting is faster, easier and more fun than ever.

Chalk Paint Not to be confused with chalkboard paint, chalk paint is a water-based, low VOC paint that can be used on virtually any surface and requires no sanding, priming or removing of old paint. How great is that? Chalk paint can be applied to wood, metal and plastic. I’ve used chalk paint on various items from dressers to chandeliers, and even a laminate countertop! Annie Sloan Chalk Paint (ASCP) is a British line of chalk paint available in 30 different colors that can be combined to create a larger palette. It’s easy to work with and dries quickly to a matte finish. Applying a soft wax to your finished piece protects the finish and adds sheen. ASCP is wonderful for creating furniture finishes reminiscent of French and Swedish antiques. ASCP is expensive at $40/quart, but a little goes a long way. You can make your own chalk paint using latex paint, water and unsanded grout. Recipes are available online. Restyled in Carmel sells ASCP and offers painting workshops, finished pieces and custom work. The Painted Cottage in Westfield sells chalkpainted furniture and takes custom orders.

VOCs, and was developed to be an earth and people-friendly product that could safely be used by anyone. It is self-priming, so a primer coat isn’t necessary. While the paint is “green,” it’s available in more than 30 colors inspired by America’s landscape. The paint colors can be combined to expand the palette and create various finishes. This paint lends itself well to a “distressed” look, as you can remove areas of paint with a damp cloth, rather than sandpaper. Their sealing wax, made from insect and plant sources, has very low odor. The Pauper’s Castle in Westfield sells CeCe Caldwell’s Paints and offers painting workshops, finished pieces and custom work.

Milk Paint Miss Mustard Seed’s Milk Paint is an all-natural paint that is environmentally friendly, nontoxic and contains no VOCs. Milk paint comes in powder form and must be mixed with water prior to use. Used with the Milk Paint Bonding Agent, the milk paint can be used on previously painted or varnished surfaces. Without the bonding agent, milk paint will resist some prefinished or pre-painted surfaces to achieve an authentic “chippy” look. If you want to give your furniture a primitive look, milk paint is the product for you. 530 Resale with locations in Noblesville, Zionsville and Indianapolis offers milk paint products and classes.

Eco-Friendly Natural Clay Paint CeCe Caldwell’s Paints is an American line of eco-friendly, 100% natural mineral paint, packaged in recycled containers. The paint has no


or Sherwin Williams ProClassic. Both are water based, alkyd enamel paints that provide a smooth, durable finish. This makes them an excellent choice for contemporary furniture or high-traffic pieces like kitchen and bathroom cabinetry. I’ve painted furniture and cabinets using these products, and the result is a hard acrylic finish that isn’t pliable like other latex paints. If you need more inspiration or want to purchase painted furniture, check out the unique pieces available at Bella Chic in Carmel. So, what are you waiting for? Break out that garage sale find or hand-me-down and get painting! All you need is some paint and a little creativity to turn drab furniture into something fabulous.

Alkyd Enamel Paint To give furniture a sleek look with paint, I recommend using Benjamin Moore Advance


For more great ideas, visit Carolyn’s blog at




Adoption OPTION Understanding the differences and the process by: Mike Berry, dad of 8

I didn’t want to adopt children. At least, that’s what I thought 15 years ago when I first met my wife. The year was 1998 and I was a 22-year old college kid with peach fuzz on my face, and a head full of dreams sitting on my shoulders. I remember very clearly the night my wife Kristin (then fiancé) told me, as we sat in my car in front of our college campus library, that, “We were going to adopt our children.” I disagreed sternly. It wasn’t that I was against adoption. I just didn’t understand it. I came from a family where every kid grew up, went to college, found a husband or wife and created little people who looked like them. Fortunately, my heart changed. My perspective did as well. Today, I love adoption. I’m a huge fan. We began the process in 2001, working first with Families Through International Adoption (, and then moving exclusively into domestic adoption, working with Adoption Support Center (www.adoptionsupportcenter. com) in Indianapolis. In April 2002 we brought our daughter Jaala home. Then, between June 2004 and May 2012, we adopted our other seven children; two through private adoptions and six through foster care. We have learned many lessons over the past 11 years of our adoption journey. The biggest realization is that the world really doesn’t understand adoption. Along with my heart change, I gained an understanding of what adoption really was. In my heart, that was a bigger issue than I would have The Stanley children. Grant and Grady are biological brothers, Gillian and Gia are adopted from Guatemala and Colombia, respectively.



acknowledged 15 years ago. I was resistant because I didn’t understand it.

That’s true for our culture as well. Up until a decade ago, the

This process is usually faster than international adoption

world saw adoption as something only couples with fertility

or foster-to-adopt, averaging anywhere from four to twelve

issues, or extremely wealthy couples did. It was not the sort of

months, from the beginning of the process to placement.

thing the average middle class family, with or without fertility

Children are usually placed at birth.

issues, or a normal bank account chose to do. Now, thanks to public adoptions by celebrities like Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt

International Adoption:

and Sandra Bullock, and movies like Juno and The Odd Life of

By definition, this is any adoption that takes place outside of

Timothy Green, it’s more of a cultural norm and the world is

the country you live in. The most well-known countries that

becoming familiar with it. But, familiarity and understanding

people adopt from are China, Russia and Ukraine. However,

are very different.

there are many other countries that are open to this process. The average cost is around $25,000-$50,000, which goes

So, what are the different types of adoption? What should a

toward travel expenses, various agency fees, specific country

couple know before they begin the process? How will they

expenses and home study costs. On average, this process can

know which option is right for them? What are the costs

take anywhere from twelve months to four years. Each country

associated with each? What emotions will couples experience

is different when it comes to the types and ages of children

through this process?

that are available for adoption.

Michele Tiek works with an organization called The Jeremiah


29:11 Project, which is a non-profit organization formed to

By definition this is any adoption that happens as a result

financially assist families with adoption. She shares, “Anytime

of working with the foster care system. Couples or families

a new child comes into a home, there is great joy! We are so

who choose this option must go through foster care training

thankful for the way that God brought each of our children into

and then indicate their desire to be a foster-to-adopt home.

our home and for their unique journey.” (Find out more about

This option can be a very long and drawn out process. On

The Jeremiah 29:11 Project by visiting www.Jeremiah29-11

average is takes anywhere from two to four years to finalize

an adoption. There are little to no costs associated with this option.

I would echo her words based on our own experience. There is great joy when your child arrives home. But, there are also trials. Couples or families can expect a healthy dose of both.

The Legal Side Along with understanding the options, it is important to be aware of the legal side of the adoption process. In all three

Understanding the Differences

options, couple or families will work with a lawyer or a legal team. Many adoption agencies have designated lawyers, or

Here are the three main options for adoption:

law firms, whom they work with regularly.

By definition, this is any adoption that takes places within the country you live in. The average cost for this option is $17,000-$25,000 if you work with an agency. This includes birth mother living expenses, home study fees, lawyer costs and a few other miscellaneous costs. It really comes down to which agency you work with or if you work with an agency at all. Couples or families may choose to do a private adoption with just a lawyer. This will save on cost but there is more risk. “Agencies will provide the adoptive families with known medical history of the birth mother, known medications taken, etc. Families often get ultrasounds of the baby and even get to attend doctor appointments with the birth mother,” Tiek stated.

Up until a decade ago, the world saw adoption as something only couples with fertility issues, or extremely wealthy couples did. It was not the sort of thing the average middle class family, with or without fertility issues, or a normal bank account chose to do... May/June 2013 | HAMILTON COUNTY FAMILY


Domestic Adoption:

in Carmel where she serves as Chair of the Adoption and Reproductive Law Practice Group and concentrates her law practice in adoption, surrogacy and international family law. She is also the founder and CEO of MLJ Adoptions, Inc. MLJ Adoptions is an international adoption agency based in Indianapolis. (Read more about Michele’s work at and When speaking of specific adoption law, as it relates to international adoption, Jackson shares, “Always use a licensed agency that is licensed in your state and has Hague Approval. Be patient – international adoption involves state, federal, foreign and international laws and typically four to seven different governmental agencies. It is a difficult and complicated process.” In terms of domestic adoption, she encourages prospective couples or families to trust their agency and follow the instructions they provide. “Know what type of relationship you may have with your

Know what type of relationship you may have with your child's birth family and be open to opportunities for connection, rather than being scared to connect.

Michele Jackson is the founder of Harden-Jackson LLC,

Taking The Next Step The biggest question that most couples or families

considering adoption ask is, “What are the next steps in this process?” The decision to choose one option over the other really comes down to family make up, lifestyle and financial ability. I recommend meeting with people who have gone through the specific process you are considering. Ask lots of questions and spend time researching everything online. Don’t rush into anything. Take your time. This is a life-long decision. But, it’s a decision with enormous blessing!

child’s birth family and be open to opportunities for connection, rather than being scared to connect,” Jackson said.



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Indy’s Child

Family Fair and

March for BABIES Come be a part of the Indy’s Child Family Fair with the March of Dimes!

Saturday, May 11th from 9am-1pm

at White River State Park This is a free and fun day for the whole family! Games and giveaways, education for mom and baby, wellness activities and shopping, bounce houses, live music and more!

Don’t miss out – visit to learn all about the day’s events!






AFTER SCHOOL by: Lindsay Eckert

SWIMMING and TENNIS As summer begins, parents are feeling the heat to get their children’s vacation off to a great start. The right activities for your kids can help them build character and learn about achieving goals. Tennis and swimming are fun ways to incorporate self-discipline and strategic thinking while making kids’ excitement for sports sizzle. Rick Witsken, Team Witsken Tennis owner, has a lengthy resume of success on the court and starting the sport as a 7-year-old built the foundation for more than an extraordinary swing. “Tennis players are very successful human beings; I benefited from tennis in my professional development because [it’s a sport] based on individual achievement. I relied on myself and knew I had to make my own way as a singles player. That mindset helped my entrepreneurial skills,” Witsken said. According to www. livestrong. com, tennis also boasts a host of life-long health benefits. The running and physical motion associated with the sport increases bone mass to prevent players from facing osteoporosis later in life. Tennis tones muscles while burning calories and increasing metabolism to maintain or achieve a healthy weight. Witsken says tennis is also a sport that pairs well with swimming. His club tennis teams meet on community courts next to pools – a coincidence parents should use to their advantage. “Skilled development in the pool is helpful for tennis. The cardiovascular training for swimming really helps on the court. When it’s 100 degrees, the swimmers’ tough training methods make


them more competitive in a three-set match,” Witsken said. “Being multi-sport oriented also prevents burn out.” Opening a child’s athletic horizons can start at an early age and the instructors at Carmel’s new Goldfish Swim School believe swimming is great for building enthusiasm for a sport and keeping kids’ minds well-rounded. Katie Lee, a former collegiate swimmer and mother of three, is the owner of the franchise’s newest location that’s home to teaching more than just the back stroke. “We love swimming here and we’re in the business of building confidence,” Lee said. “The kids are excited to be learning a new sport and they don’t even realize we’re teaching so many other things other than swimming; they’re also learning a passion.” Swimming provides some unique benefits as well, according to Discovery Health. The water’s capability to lighten the body’s weight makes it a low-impact sport with highlybeneficial results ranging from increased range of motion as all the major muscle groups are used, a deeper sleep at night and improved asthma symptoms as it increases lung capacity and teaches proper breathing skills. With so many benefits of these two activities, swimming and tennis are definitely the sports of the season.

Interested in learning more? Here’s a sample of the many swimming and tennis opportunities available in our area.

SWIMMING Carmel Swim Club

Southeastern Swim Club (SSC)

Fishers Area Swim Team (FAST)

Stony Creek Swim Center

Goldfish Swim School

Viper Aquatics

TENNIS Barbara S. Wynne Tennis Center Carmel Racquet Club Fishers YMCA Hamilton County Community Tennis Association Team Witsken Tennis




by: Susan Bryant, mom of 2

Birthday party tips and ideas for every age “What are we going to do for my birthday this year Mom?” If only adults had the same enthusiasm for their birthdays. A birthday party is a highlight in a kid’s year however, and thinking about the many ways it could be celebrated is half the fun. For some years, a low-key celebration with family at home is the right choice; other years a more elaborate party might be in order. If you have several children, you know what works for one age group won’t necessarily be appealing to another. Here’s some tips on how to approach your party planning this year and ideas for creative ways to celebrate.


Of course we all know that a one-year-old does not look forward to, understand or possibly even enjoy their first birthday. But – that doesn’t mean we can resist throwing a party anyway! That first birthday is a big deal. Along with celebrating a baby’s “big day,” it signifies for parents the often hard work of making it through a baby’s first year. Keep in mind Plan a day that does not diverge too far from your baby’s normal schedule. The hullabaloo of family and friends can quickly overwhelm this tiny guest of honor, making “It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to” the theme of the day. For the best results, save the blowout party ideas for when a child is a little older and can enjoy the effort.

enough, this approach won’t cut it, so enjoy the minimal effort it takes to make your baby happy now.

Toddlers & preschoolers

That blissful ignorance of babyhood is gone, and your little one knows exactly what a birthday party is all about now! In your child’s mind, his or her birthday party is the social event of the season so catch their enthusiasm and have fun planning a party with all the Spider Man/Princess/Hello Kitty/Elmo-themed madness you can take. Keep in mind Consider keeping the guest list to a minimum – no need to invite the entire preschool class if you feel this may overwhelm your child. It’s easy to have an event turn into a frenzy, so enlist the help of some other parents. Choose activities that don’t require elaborate instruction or too much time waiting for turns. Keep it short; a couple of hours is fine. Long parties stretch patience – better to end the celebration with everyone’s good moods still intact. Good options Gymboree – Recreation Unlimited – My Gym – Silly Safaris – Monkey Joe’s –

Good options A party at home works well. Grab the video camera and focus on the simple joys your baby delights in – the squish of cake through chubby fingers, helium balloons that magically float and the antics of everyone making a fuss over them. These simple (and inexpensive) thrills are all they need. Soon

Pony Ride Parties – Oogles and Googles – Divas, Dudes and Doodlebugs –

Elementary schoolers

The party-planning stakes can get pretty high with this crowd who seem to get invited to a birthday every weekend. Don’t compete for the title of “biggest bash.” Find something the birthday boy or girl would really enjoy, even if it’s something simple, and go with that. Keep in mind Older kids have the patience and interest now for crafts and games



and a bigger guest list is more easily managed. The sky is the limit on birthday party ideas, themes and places for this group. Decide your budget in advance so you can enjoy the day knowing you can afford next year’s party. Good options Pinheads – Ben and Ari’s Arcade, Miniature Golf & Mini Bowling – Rolling Video Games – Stony Creek Swim Center – Indy Dance Academy – Bounce U – Sharkey’s Cuts for Kids Glamour Girl Parties – The Sweet Life Cake Decorating Parties –

Tweens & teens

At this age, kids will have their own definite ideas for how they want to celebrate their birthday. Give them some parameters and let them take a bigger role in the planning process. Keep in mind Consider having a special day planned for your child with just one or two of his or her closest friends. A smaller guest list can bring down the cost from a big party, and let you splurge a bit on an activity meant for only the most special friends. Good options Hamilton County Sports Complex – Laser Flash – Climb Time Indy – Sky Zone – Carmel Ice Skadium – Kiln Creations – Beads Amore – Amanda Wood Event Design –

Whether your party is over-the-top or small and intimate, take the day to really celebrate what’s special about your son or daughter. Each birthday brings your child one year closer to growing up and moving on. As he or she blows out the candles on the cake this year, you might just find yourself wishing for more parties to plan.



to your HEALTH. by: Lindsay Eckert and Susan Bryant

Children’s Mental Health Kids face psychological challenges too

As any parent can attest, raising kids can be difficult. Moodiness, temper tantrums, impulsiveness – these are just a few of the challenges parents often face with children. But when a rough patch seems particularly long or worrisome, parents are left to wonder if a more serious issue is behind these behaviors. Children’s Mental Health Awareness Week is May 5 to May 11. Since mental health issues are often considered “adult” problems, the goal of this program is to shed light on the particular struggles children encounter when faced with psychological and behavioral problems. How do these problems reveal themselves? Susan Oxfurth, Clinical Social Worker at North Meridian Psychiatric Associates in Indianapo-

back on their child’s social, emotional and behavioral adjustment can

lis, said the initial red flags of a mental health issue are most visible to

provide more insight. A visit with the child’s pediatrician to rule out

the involved parent.

possible health concerns is also a good idea. If seeing a therapist is in order, finding a professional who specializes in the area of concern or

“Parents are the best gauge,” she said. A drop in grades, headaches

the age of the child is important.

without a medical problem, anxiety and loss of appetite can all be signs that something may be upsetting your child. “If problem solving

In fact, building a relationship early in life with a therapist can be a

isn’t working, an issue lasts a long time or there’s a sharp contrast in

source of support throughout one’s life. “I may see [kids] for a few

moods, that’s when parents typically seek us out,” said Oxfurth. (See

bumps that come up as a teenager, and they feel like we’re user

sidebar for more “red flags” parents should be aware of.)

friendly and come back in college,” says Oxfurth.

Unfortunately, a stigma around mental health disorders still exists,

With early intervention and the support of those around them, children

and can prevent even well-meaning parents from seeking help for

can develop the skills they need to tackle the mental health issues

their troubled child. According to a national survey by the Child Mind

that may arise for them now and in their future.

Institute, nearly one in four parents reported being concerned about a child's mental health. While the majority of concerned parents sought treatment (87%), almost half (43%) waited more than a year and

Parents should seek help if they see these behaviors in their children:

nearly a quarter (22%) waited more than two years to get help.

– Thoughts, threats or attempts to harm self or others (including animals)

Concerned parents are hardly alone however. The National Alliance

– Academic failure

on Mental Illness reports that 4 million children and adolescents in

– Sudden change in emotions, behavior, sleep patterns or appetite

America suffer from a serious mental illness that causes significant

– Angry outbursts with aggression

functional impairments at home, at school and with peers.

– Frequent sadness or tearfulness without seeming cause – Isolation, no apparent friend connections

What are the first steps a parent should take if they think their child

– Excessive fearfulness

needs help? Gloria Hood, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist,

– Low self esteem

Social Worker and Executive Director of the Indiana Center for Chil-

– Unusual sexual behavior, preoccupation or interest

dren and Families suggests that parents choose a safe, private place to talk with their child about any feelings, thoughts or events that have been bothering him or her. Contacting a child’s teachers for feed



Source: Gloria Hood, Executive Director, Indiana Center for Children and Families



Exploring Indiana by: Karen Ring, mom of 2

day trips perfect for the summer months If a summer vacation is not in the budget this year, never fear. With so many destinations just a short drive from Hamilton County, it is possible to get away without even crossing the state line. Below are just a few ideas for family getaways that can easily be managed in a single day.

north Mounds State Park ( htm), just outside of Anderson, features 10 unique earthworks built by the prehistoric Adena-Hopewell people and dating back as far as 200 B.C. An interpretive center brings the history of the mounds to life. You can also tour the historic Bronnenberg House, which tells the story of the family who discovered the mounds in the 1800s and fought to preserve them.

Further north you will find the Fort Wayne Children’s Zoo (, which earned the number one spot on the Indiana Tourism Office’s 2012 “Summer Gotta-Dos” list. Escape on an African Journey, head down under for an Australian Adventure, trek through an Indonesian Rain Forest…and still be home by bedtime.

south When temperatures heat up this summer, instead of escaping indoors, why not escape underground? At Blue Spring Caverns (, nestled in the rolling hills of Bedford, you can take an hour-long boat tour of America’s longest underground river and enjoy brisk temperatures that hover around 52º. Keep your eyes peeled for underground dwellers, such as the elusive blind cavefish. Above ground, a ½ mile hike leads to Indiana’s largest sinkhole covering over 15 acres.

If you prefer indoor exploration, head to downtown Columbus to explore kidscommons Children’s Museum ( Kidscommons offers three floors of interactive



exhibits that allow children to climb a 17-foot wall, create music on a laser harp, power a robotic arm and fulfill every child’s fantasy – hanging out in the museum’s world famous giant toilet.

east Baseball may be America’s pastime, but in Indiana, it is all about basketball, baby! And the Indiana Basketball Hall of Fame ( in New Castle is the place to celebrate the proud heritage of this sport from its origins in the 1890s to present day. After immersing yourself in the interactive exhibits housed in this 14,000 square foot museum, venture to nearby Knightstown and visit the Historic Hoosier Gym ( Although built over 90 years ago, this gym did not gain acclaim until it was chosen as the filming location for the movie “Hoosiers” in 1986. The gym remains virtually untouched since its last remodel in the 1950s allowing

visitors to step back in time and imagine their very own “Hoosier”-style game-winning shot.

For a trip of a different sort, take to the rails. On Saturdays and Sundays during the months of May through October, the Whitewater Valley Railroad ( in Connersville offers day trips to historic Metamora. Board the train for a scenic 90-minute ride and then spend the 2-hour layover exploring the restored canal town, complete with working gristmill and over 100 shops and restaurants. Themed train rides, such as Day out with Thomas™ and Dinosaur Train™, are also offered during the summer months.

west Visiting the Tippecanoe Battlefield (www. located in the aptly named town of Battle Ground, affords the opportunity to walk the grounds of the historic battle that pitted Tecumseh’s Indian Confederacy against United States forces led by Governor William Henry Harrison and served as a precursor to the War of 1812. A museum on the grounds relays events leading up to battle, as well as its aftermath.

Indiana Beach ( in Monticello offers three distinct areas of fun: Boardwalk Funway with an array of rides that suit toddlers to adults; Ideal Beach Waterpark, complete with sand beach and water rides galore; and Adventure Point, home to a zipline, rock wall and ropes course. Spectator admission is available for a mere $3.50 for those who prefer to watch the fun from the sidelines.

No matter which direction you head this summer, there is an Indiana adventure awaiting you. Let the road trip begin!



Mommy Magic Keeping Calm, Carrying On Kids take their emotional cues from parents

by: Mary Susan Buhner, mom of 3

It’s like the moment we have all experienced as a parents when your kiddo falls off their bike and you jump to your feet to dust them off with a happy voice to let them know that they are indeed okay, as they stand there with their lip quivering, trying to decide if they're going to cry or not. Our calm reaction helps reassure them that they are not seriously hurt. As a parent, you only have a few seconds to give them that reassurance before that lip quivering turns into a full on meltdown. Most times, how we react determines how our kids are going to react and handle a situation. I was recently thinking about a moment I had with my dad. He was fighting cancer and in the hospital undergoing a bone marrow transplant. When I arrived at his room, I had to scrub in and wear a gown, gloves and mask to stay sterile due to his extremely low blood count. He saw my face go scared when I walked in the room and he immediately smiled and made a joke. I was scared, contemplating if I was going to sob or not. He looked at me, smiled and gave me a thumbs up. Although I was 20 years old at the time, I was desperate for his reassurance. He gave me the confidence that I needed to handle the situation. I think about that day now that I am a parent myself – am I giving my One of my friends has a mom I admire for the fact that every time I see her she is calm, cool and collected. She raised five kids and I always wondered if she was this "together" when they were all young. I decided to ask her recently just that – was she always this calm when she was raising her children? She said, "My advice is never let them see you sweat. If you let on that you are freaking out on the inside, everything could fall apart." She went on to say, “If I reacted to every situation like it was the end of the world, eventually my kids would have expected for the world to end.” Her advice reminded me of the current popular saying that we see posted everywhere: "Keep Calm and Carry On." This is not to say that as parents we should “fake it,” but rather, to have the wisdom to know when to keep our emotions in check.



kids the confidence to keep calm and carry on? My dad did pass away a few days later, but the lasting moment I carry with me is his ability to reassure me and the wisdom to know that someday, my own children will be watching me to learn how to navigate difficult situations. One of the best gifts we can give our children is reassurance. It doesn’t have to be fancy, expensive or wrapped up in a grand moment. It can, in fact, be done with a simple smile and a thumbs up! Mary Susan Buhner is a Life Coach for Moms and author of “Mommy Magic: Tricks for Staying Sane in the Midst of Insanity.” Visit her Mommy Magic Fan Page on Facebook and her website at:



Movies in the Park Fishers Movies in the Park Fridays through May 31 (no movie May 17) Time: Dusk Price: Free More information: movies Phone: 317-595-3150 Location: Nickel Plate District Amphitheater, Fishers

Carmel Clay Parks Movies in the Park

Location: Rotates between West Park and River Heritage Park More information:

Fishers Summer Concert Series Tuesdays, June 4 through July 16 Time: 7pm-9pm Price: Free Location: Nickel Plate District Amphitheater, Fishers For more information:

Summer Concerts at the Carmel Gazebo

Fridays, June 7, July 12 and August 2 Time: 9:30PM Price: Free Location: Varies, see website More information:

Wednesdays, June 5 through August 7 (no concert July 3) Times: 7:30 PM (Ruditoonz children’s concerts at 6PM on June 5 and July 10) Price: Free Location: Gazebo in Civic Square, Carmel More information:

Summer Concerts

2013 Cool Creek Summer Concert Series

Noblesville Summer Concert Series Thursdays, May 30 through July 25 (no concert July 4) Times: 7:00 PM Price: Free Location: Dillon Park for May/June concerts; Forest Park for July concerts Website:

Carmel Clay Parks Kids Concerts Mondays, June 3 through August 5 (no concert July 1) Time: 10:00AM -11:00AM Price: Free



Fridays, June 14 through July 9 (no concert on July 5) Time: Gates open at 6pm and concerts begin at 7pm Price: $5 for adults; kids 12 and under, free Location: Cool Creek Park, Carmel More information: 317 770-4407

MarshÂŽ Symphony on the Prairie Fridays, June 21 through August 30 (with the exception of Wed., July 3) Price: See website for ticket pricing Phone: 317-776-6000 Location: Conner Prairie, Fishers More information:

GUIDE Farmers Markets


The Green Market

Civil War Days

Fridays, May 3 through October 25 Times: 4:00PM-8:00 PM Location: Trader’s Point Creamery, Zionsville For more information:

Saturday, May 18 and Sunday, May 19 Times: 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM Price: Included with general admission Location: Conner Prairie, Fishers For more information:

Carmel Farmers Market Saturdays, May 18 through October 5 Times: 8:00AM-11:30AM Location: Center Green, next to the Palladium For more information:

Nickel Plate Arts Weekend Friday, June 7 through Sunday, June 9 Times: See website for schedule of events Price: Free Location: There will be art-based events taking place throughout Hamilton Co. For more information:

Noblesville Farmers Market Saturdays, May 18 through October 12 Times: 8:00AM-12:30PM Location: Riverview Overflow Parking Lot For more information:

Fishers Freedom Festival Saturday, June 29 through Sunday, June 30 Price: Free Location: Roy G. Holland Memorial Park, Fishers For more information:

Fishers Farmers Market Saturdays, May 25 through September 28 Times: 8:00AM-noon Location: Fishers Amphitheater For more information: chamber/Farmers_Market.aspx

Westfield Farmers Market

CarmelFest Wednesday, July 3 and Thursday, July 4 Times: See website for schedule of events Price: Free Location: Carmel Civic Square For more information:

Fridays, June 7 through September 27 Times: 5:00PM-8:00PM Location: North Union Street, next to City Hall For more information: farmers-market



Reci Please by: Nicole Turner, Registered Dietician, mom of 2

A true sign that warmer weather is here? The aromas from outdoor grills filling up the senses! Catching a deep breath of food cooking on a grill makes a person’s mouth start to water – and the savory fragrance of herbs can magnify the experience. Whether fresh or dried, herbs are an excellent way to avoid higher sodium options for enhancing a food’s flavor. This recipe is also delicious with pork chops substituted for the chicken breasts.

HERB GRILLED CHICKEN Note: When using fresh herbs, use one tablespoon fresh herb for every teaspoon of dried herb.

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4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts 2 teaspoons dried rosemary 2 teaspoons minced garlic 2 teaspoons lemon pepper

• 4 teaspoons olive oil • 2 teaspoons dried thyme • 1 teaspoon red pepper flakes

STEPS: 1. Place chicken breasts in resealable bag. 2. In a small bowl combine spices and olive oil. Pour over chicken in resealable bag. 3. Marinate overnight. 4. Cook chicken on grill until fully cooked, with an internal temperature of 165°.



Side note: Looking for an easy side to accompany this recipe? Cut zucchini, yellow squash, and eggplant length-wise into 1/2-inch thick pieces and place in a resealable bag. Add quartered red onions and whole portabella mushrooms. Then, place 1/2 cup balsamic vinaigrette dressing over vegetables. Marinate overnight. Grill vegetables until golden and slightly firm. Remove from heat and cut into chunks.

Five Garage Sale Tricks of the Trade

by: Elizabeth Henderson

Hit the ground running as the season kicks off! The thrill of the hunt wakes me out of bed every Saturday morning and spurs me to hop in the car and start the garage sale chase. I would be lying if I didn’t say I get an adrenaline rush each time I snatch up the perfect item at a bargain price. The saying is true – ones man’s trash is another man’s treasure! Here are five helpful tips I’ve learned along the way:

Buy in piles.

Go early! It’s true – the early bird gets the worm. Plan to get to the sale a few

The more you buy, the better the bargain! After rummaging through

minutes before it starts. You’ll get first picks and won’t miss out on

and making a pile of the items you want to buy, add each individual

that special item you may discover.

item up and then offer the seller one amount. For example, if the items in the pile add up to $30, offer $25. Sellers are usually willing to

Map out your route.

cut you a deal when you buy multiple items.

Make a list of the garage sales you want to go to the night before. Craigslist is a great resource for finding sales in your neighborhood.

Don’t be afraid of dirt.

Make a list of where you plan to go and then find the best route to

Anything can look good with a fresh coat of paint! When looking for

save both on time and gas.

furniture, pay attention to the lines of the piece and the quality of the material. With a little soap, water and a fresh coat of paint – anything


can be made new!

People have garage sales to get rid of items they no longer want. Don’t hesitate to offer a lower price. The worst they can do is say no.



ask THE



“Do I still need to treat my ash trees for the ash borer? What types of trees do you suggest I use to replace the ones I had to remove?”

Landscaping & Gardening Professionals

Factors to consider for the treatment of Emerald Ash Borer need to include an assessment of the canopy of the tree to determine the extent of damage. Trees with more than 30% of canopy affected are probably not worth saving. Even where less than 30% of the canopy is affected, decline will continue even in trees that are treated and this must be taken into consideration. The direct injection method has proven very effective in providing control and should be considered based upon the extent of damage. Consultation with knowledgeable professionals who are aware of the effect of the progression of damage as the insect moves through the canopy and of the current geographical distribution of infestation should help the landowner determine if treatment is warranted. For more information, visit the Purdue University website at www.extension. The following is a list of trees that would be suitable for replacing Ash trees: Elm, Oak, Ginkgo, Maple, Linden and Honeylocust. – Submitted by Jeff Salsbery, President, Salsbery Brothers Landscaping in Carmel

“We have such dry summers in our area. What are some hearty plants that can survive an Indiana drought?” Since drought conditions may continue, the smart thing to do is to plan your garden around drought tolerant trees, shrubs and perennials. You can still have a pretty garden with a variety of colors and textures without spending lots of money or time watering. Remember though, that the first year these plants are in your garden they must be watered frequently to develop their root systems. Here is a sample list of drought tolerant plants for our Midwest gardens. Trees: American Beech, Black Oak, Bur Oak, Hackberry, Ginko (male only), Japanese Zelova, Washington Hawthorne Shrubs: Barberry, Beautyberry, Caryopteris (‘Blue Mist’, ‘Bluebeard’), Flowering Quince, Nine Bark, Spice Bush, Spirea. Perennials for shade: Columbine, Hermann’s Pride Lamium (not aggressive), Variegated Solomon’s Seal, Sweet Woodruff Perennials for sun: Amsonia, False Indigo, Cone Flower, Gallarida, Goldenrod (‘Fireworks’, ‘Golden Fleece’), Glove Thistle, ornamental grasses (‘Feather Reed’, ‘Fountain’, ‘Little Bluestem’, ‘Switch Grass’), Hens and Chickens, Russian Sage, Salvia (‘May Night’), Sea Holly, and Sedums Tip: proper mulching and efficient watering with drip irrigation or watering with a hose early in the morning will decrease water usage. – Submitted by Peggy Powers, Marion Co. Master Gardener Association since 1999, President: Friends Garden Club at Historic Ambassador House in Fishers



"I’m overwhelmed with how to start landscaping my yard. What should I consider first? And what will give me the most 'bang for my buck'?” Start by asking yourself a few questions. Are you a do-it-yourselfer, or would you like to hire a contractor? Are you in a new home with minimal landscape supplied by the builder? Or do you have an existing home with mature landscape? How long do you plan to stay in the home? What are your maintenance requirements? Answering these questions will get you started in the right direction. By contacting a professional, you can start with a good design which will save you from putting a lot of time and money into a project that doesn't look good in the end. Once you have some good design ideas, you can save by installing the project yourself if you are landscape savvy. If you are in a new construction home, you may have a great landscape in which case you just need to let it grow! Homeowners with mature landscapes may need to consider “rip and tear” projects leaving only key focal point elements and removing large overgrown plants. How long you plan to stay at the home will help guide the landscape investment. For short term homes you want to focus on projects that will enhance the curb appeal and resale value. For homes where you plan to stay long term, larger landscape projects with bigger budgets are more common. Finally, consider your maintenance needs. If you travel a lot or your schedule does not afford much free time for outdoor work, then you're like 99% of customers who request low maintenance. Never fear, you can still have color without all the work. There are plenty of dwarf and compact varieties of plants that offer tons of color. Happy planting! – Submitted by Kirk Pfiel, Landscape Designer, Allisonville Nursery in Fishers



In Our Opinion MAY/JUNE 2013

Virtual violence In the wake of tragic mass shootings that seem almost commonplace now, we’re left to wonder what spurs this type of unfathomable behavior in the young perpetrators committing these acts. Many point to a culture of violence in our country, where activities like violent video games are popular entertainment for kids. Some say that exposure to these games desensitizes children to violence, making it easier for them to tolerate and engage in actual aggressive behavior. Others argue that these types of games attract kids who already have violent tendencies, and don’t have a negative impact on well-adjusted children. Whatever the argument, it seems that surely we can think of a better way for kids to spend their free time than having them hunt down and kill something – even if it is done virtually. That’s my opinion. What’s yours? – Susan Bryant, Editor

“Do you think playing violent video games can translate to real-life aggressive behavior in kids?"

Not at all... parenting is the issue. – Tanaia M.

I agree with Laura. I have two sons who like to play these types of games. One it brings out the anger; one it has no effect on him at all. I believe it depends on the aggressive behavior tendency within the child. – Beth L.

I think it can, but do I think that it does? No, I honestly don't. Because if you've got an eye on your child, and you are sure that he is not aggressive or bottling up any anger, then it can be an okay activity. – Jenny V.

I think if the child has a tendency toward aggressive behavior, it can enhance that behavior. And waiting until your child is of an appropriate age to know the difference between reality and violent fiction is a good idea. – Laura L.

I think playing violent video games can result in aggressive behavior amongst some kids, but not all. I think these games could give kids ideas and thoughts that may result in inappropriate behavior when it's combined with the impulsiveness of this age group. – Donna W.

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To Do With Your Crew MAY/JUNE 2013

May | thurs 02 – sat 04

May | sat 04 – sun 05

Kid's Closet Connection - Indianapolis

Indiana Ballet Conservatory presents Cipollino

Come find fabulous new and gently used clothing, toys, equipment, maternity, baby gear, strollers, car seats, exer-saucers, high chairs, purses, diaper bags, bikes, bedding and much more.

With underlying themes of the struggle of the underclass against the powerful, good versus evil, and the importance of friendship during times of challenge, this humorous and enchanting story is perfect for both children and adults, and has rarely been staged in the U.S. With a musical score that will delight and classical choreography to challenge and impress, Cipollino is a "must see!"

Times: 9:00 AM - 7:00 PM Phone: 317-439-8922 Location: Fishers Banquet Center, Fishers Website:

May | fri 03 Pajama-Rama Put on your cutest pair of pajamas, grab your favorite teddy bear, pack up an old blanket, and join us for Pajama-Rama! Families looking for a fun program to enjoy with their toddlers and preschoolers will love the Music Educator from Moriah Music who will lead us in songs and stories about some of our favorite animals. Best for families with children ages 1-7. Times: 7:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-774-2500 Location: Cool Creek Park, Carmel Website:

May | sat 04 National Train Day The Indiana Transportation Museum celebrates National Train Day a week in advance of the official date in order for it to coincide with the opening date of the 2013 season. Come for caboose rides, speeder trips, and more! Times: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Price: $5.00 per person, ages 2 & up Location: Indiana Transportation Museum, Noblesville Website:


Times: Sat., 7:00 PM; Sun., 2:00PM Price: $25-$28 Location: Indianapolis Museum of Art’s Tobias Theater, Indianapolis Website:


May | sat 04 – sun 05 Storytime Express @ the Library: Let’s Race For children ages 2-5 & their caregivers. Join us for a book and craft – just what your family needs to kick-start a library visit. No registration is required. Date: Thursday, May 16, 2013 Times: 10:00 AM and 11:00 AM Location: Carmel Clay Public Library, Carmel Website:

May | sat 18 May | tues 07 Marvelous Moms For children ages 2-5 & their caregivers. Come join us for books celebrating Mom and a craft. No registration is required. Times: 10:00 AM and 11:00 AM Location: Carmel Clay Public Library Website:

May | sat 11 Indy's Child Family Fair @March for Babies The March for Babies walk is approximately 3.1 miles long. Registration opens at 9 a.m. along with the Indy's Child Family Fair. The walk will begin at 10 a.m. After the walk everyone will return to Celebration Plaza for the Indy's Child Family Fair, which will include booths, a kids' zone, entertainment, live music, food, and much much more! Times: 9:00 AM - 1:00 PM Price: Free Location: White River State Park, Indianapolis


Lemonade Day! Lemonade Day is a FREE, fun initiative designed to teach kids of all ages how to start, own and operate their own business - a lemonade stand! See website for more information on how to participate. Location: City Wide! Website:

May | tues 21 Swamp Things Roll up your sleeves and prepare to get a little dirty and a little wet as we dip for wildlife from the safety of the boardwalk. Appropriate for ages 9-13. Registration required by 5/14. Times: 5:00 PM Price: R$4/NR$6 Phone: 317-595-3458 Location: Ritchey Woods Nature Preserve, Fishers Website:

May | fri 31 Teen Summer Beach Party Summer's finally here so let's celebrate! The teens are taking over the library! Games, prizes, hot dogs, ice cream! Appropriate dress required (no bikinis please) but you may get a little wet. Space is limited so you must register by Wednesday May 29th. Times: 6:00 PM - 10:00 PM Price: Free Phone: (317) 773-1384 Location: Hamilton County East Library, Noblesville Website:

June | sat 01 Chocolate Fest at the Schoolhouse Join us for CHOCOLATE FEST. Chocolate plants, chocolate plant combinations, chocolate colored shrubs and different chocolate food tastings thru the day. Don't forget the chocolate covered crickets! It is Garden Thyme's ten-year anniversary in business! Times: 10:00 AM - 4:00 PM Price: Free Location: Garden Thyme at the Old Schoolhouse, Noblesville Website:

June | fri 07 – sat 08 Family Camp Out Pitch your tents, roll out your sleeping bags and join Carmel Clay Parks for a night of tye-dying tee shirts, roasting hot dogs, scavenger hunts and more. Preregistration by Wed., June 5. Times: 5:00 PM - 9:00 AM Price: $10 per person Location: River Heritage Park, Carmel Website:

June | sat 08 – sun 09 Bioblitz: Conner Prairie’s Wild Side Explore the biodiversity of our Hoosier landscape as you catch insects, identify wild animal tracks and droppings, use microscopes to study micro-organisms in

soil and water, and interact with local and exotic animals. Times: 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM Price: Included with general admission Phone: 317-776-6000 Location: Conner Prairie, Fishers Website:

June | sat 08 IU Health North Hospital Gallery Walk Join the monthly tradition of the Second Saturday Gallery Walk in the Carmel Arts & Design District. Enjoy the merchant events/activities, entertainment, culture and shopping of the Carmel Arts and Design District.

June | weds 19 Dad & Lad Fishing Fathers and children will enjoy a relaxing day outside trying to catch the big one! This program is open to dads with their lads or lasses and is a great opportunity to create memorable experiences. Appropriate for ages 6 & up. Registration required by 5/24. Times: 9:30 AM Price: R$2/NR$3 Location: Cheeney Creek Natural Area, Fishers Website:

June | fri 28 ‘Round the Campfire, Carle’s Chameleon

Times: 5:00 PM - 10:00 PM Price: Free admission Location: Main Street, Carmel Website: www.carmelartsanddesign. com/

We will read Mixed up Chameleon by Eric Carle and focus on animal adaptations and camouflage. This program is best suited for families with children in elementary or preschool. Parents are required to stay. Registration required by 6/24.

June | fri 14 – sun 16 The Center Presents: ERTH’s Dinosaur Petting Zoo The artists of Australian theater and visual arts company ERTH have created awesome prehistoric creatures, from cute baby dinos to teeth-gnashing giants that live in a petting zoo like no other. These life-like dinosaurs come to life in an eyepopping display that is fun, educational and imaginative for all ages.

Times: 7:00 PM Price: R$4/NR$6 Phone: 317-595-3458 Location: Ritchey Woods Nature Preserve, Fishers Website:

Price: See website for ticket pricing Phone: (317) 843-3800 Location: The Palladium, Carmel Website: thecenterfortheperformingarts. org

June | fri 14 – tues 18 Beanstalk! The Musical! Filled with hilarious characters, toetapping tunes, and more twists than a climbing vine, Beanstalk! The Musical! is guaranteed to grow… and grow… and grow right into your heart. Times: See website for times Price: Tickets start at $10 Location: The Tarkington, Carmel Website:

For more ideas, visit www.hamiltoncounty





Learning to talk is a major milestone for kids – and with so many words in the English language, a few are bound to get reinvented. Here’s a selection of the vocabulary words our readers hear from their little ones. lasterday = yesterday hanitizer = hand sanitizer torrible = terrible + horrible movie-ater = movie theater lellow = yellow nokay = no? okay. hosapill = hospital all my byself = all by myself pasketti = spaghetti kernola = granola

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