I Can Be

I CAN BE ISSUE 5| NOVEMBER 2019

The Gift Of Giving

TAKING THE LEAD

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ISSUE:4 Mary Keogh Tinsel Tea Party Pictures

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Behind The Scenes With; Sharon Mc Nulty

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Pat Slattery

Success & Goals

I am going to assume something here: You have goals and dreams that you want to turn them into reality.

Maybe you want to start a business from home, or get a promotion in your company, Perhaps you want to lose weight and get fit, Or even write a book - or speak from stage.

It doesn’t matter what your dream is, What is important is that you have one.

One of the best `definitions of success can be found in Earl Nightingale’s seminal classic – The Strangest Secret In it he defines success as ‘the gradual realisation of a worthy goal.’

Initially this definition may surprise people, as it did me, as it seems to put more emphasis on the ‘gradual realisation’ than the worthy goal.

And one key myth about success is that once you find it you’ll be happy.

(Ultimately isn’t that why we all want to be successful?)

Often success driven people are driven by goals but I have personally learnt that much of life’s happiness, much of our feelings of fulfilment comes from the realisation that we are ‘walking the path’ rather than reaching our destination.

It’s who you become on the way to getting what you want.

While success by its own nature is not something the majority of people realise.

I want you to know that there is good news about success as well.

Success is a skill, and something you can learn.

its

Here

is

Something

worth

remembering.

Failure

is

part

of

the

success

By learning and mastering the skill

formula, so it’s better to accept that

of

sooner if you want to succeed.

becoming

achieve

successful

several

you

wonderful

will side

Be

open

to

mistakes

and

even

benefits:

welcome them in your life.

• You will grow in confidence.

They are your greatest teachers and make you more experienced.

Confidence is the secret sauce of

Just don’t give up and always try one

all successful people.

more time.

Remember this:

•

You

will

inspire

others

to

follow

their dreams.

It doesn’t matter what your dream is, what is important that you have one.

Do This:

By

simply

realising

following your

and

dreams

steadily

you

give

Find someone you admire and who has the success you want, look at

people implicit permission to follow

what they did to get there.

theirs.

Know This: Success is a skill you can, and must

•

You

will

person

become

attracting

an

interesting

learn if you want to achieve success.

other

interesting

I

want

you

to

know

people which provides your life with

because you are here!

richness

I

as

well

as

purpose

meaning and direction.

admire

create

a

your vision

something

determination of

a

better

–

to

future

and I hope I can or have played a • You will feel like you have control

small part in helping that become a

over your life.

reality for you.

Have an Outstanding day • You will be able to achieve any goal

you

want

simply

through

the

confidence and belief of achieving previous goals.

• You will be able to design a life rather than just live one.

(I Know I will)

😊

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Pete Lonton

Does my bum look big in this? If it does or doesn’t, what does it mean. Can you tell the difference between the ‘facts’ and the‘story’ in what you say?

Storytelling

has

been

happening

as

long as human have roamed the earth.

It

is

used

as

communicating

a

method

thefacts

along

of with

feelings, fears and perhaps a little bit of

egotalk

manipulate

to

impress,

others.

With

persuade each

or

version

of the story the wild animal can get bigger, the battlegets greater, and the victory

even

significant.

more Indeed

magnificent stories

can

and be

A fact (noun) is defined as ‘a thing that is known or proved to be true’, and by example

‘the

opposed

to

(noun)

on

definitions imaginary told

for

truth

events

interpretation’.

the

other

such or

about

as

real

hand, ‘an

people

A

story

has

many

account and

entertainment’,

as

of

events

and

may

contain all, some or no truth.

great, that is until they cause feelings of

insecurity,

make

you

prevent

believe

and

progress then

and

become

something that you are not based on something that is maybe not true.

In the words of Mark Twain, “Never let the

truth

get

in

the

way

of

a

good

story,” however it is vital to recognise the difference between fact or truth and our story. As soon as you notice yourself using the words ‘I think’ or ‘I believe’

you

may

recognise

not

everything that follows will be a story under version of their truth.

I believe that maybe as much as 95%

So what's your story? How much of your

of what we say, and the voice in our

story is actually true?When say ‘I am

head says, could be a fictional story.

who I am’, Because of my past / where

What if 95% of that noise in your head,

I live / my upbringing etc, is this is true

that inner critic went away? What if we

right

decided to only accept facts into your

dreamt-up story?

decision

making

and

how

you

or

is

an

excuse

based

upon

a

lived

your life.There would be no need for

When

rumours,

gossip,

opinions,

other

generalistic. Below is an example of a

peoples

beliefs

or

You

potential statement that you may hear

wouldn’t need to lie, there would be

people use; “I failed at maths, I’m not

less misunderstanding and you would

very good at numbers, and that's also

be

why I'm not good with money”. In this

able

to

speak

and

judgments.

the

real

truth

and

we

tell

stories

we

are

being

statement the only part that may be a

what you really meant.

fact is that once they failed a maths Here’s

an

example

that

you

may

examfor whatever reason.

recognise; ‘I could never [insert limiting or

What story do you tell yourself and do

part truth], and therefore [insert reason

you believe? Do you hear and believe

or excuse]’. In this example a factthat

the little voice in your head that tells

happened

you

belief],

because

once

once

[insert

becomes

fact

the

reason

what

you

like,

don't

like,

are

why you change the way you do things,

capable of, and what you're afraid of.

create a story and a belief and change

Thatinner ciritc that can exaggerate

your

behaviour.

further

adds

to

This the

magnification

fear

of

all

the

and blow things out of all proportions. I am

here

today

tell

is

creating stories from the moment you

we

wake to the moment you go back to

possible.

By

telling

the

what

story

unconsciously hold ourselves back for

sleep

fear

everything

of

all

the

things

that

could

go

wrong or all the things that we cannot

with

just else

a

your

the

the

beautyof

in

that

incessant

and

voice

you

things that could go wrong an override potential

little

to

few

built

on

head

is

facts

and

fear

and

anxiety.

do. What if we were to let go of our beliefs today to make way for a whole

My wish for you today, is to only hear

new new dream life full or ideas and

and accept facts. Always question of

goal.

the voice in your head. All you need to know and recognise is you are the most amazing

thinking,

doing,

human and that’s a fact mightiest version of you!

and

being

😊. Just be the

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Katrina Crilly

Helping

our

underpins

every

experience. who

children

set

Just goals

achievement,

like

set

goals

success

they

adults,

are

those

children

focussed

who

don’t

on

float.

The size of the goal does not matter but ownership is key and this is often where

parents

can

be

mistaken.

Children can achieve goals that they have

the

desire

to

achieve

and

can

identify the benefit in achieving, not, the goals that adults think they should

Achieving a short term goal, no matter how small it may appear to others can the

starting

greatness.

Every

point little

for

achieving

experience

of

success builds self-esteem which leads a child to self-belief and the desire to set

more

ambitious

goals

for

themselves. When we get on that train of success we tend not to get off but continue

without action they are mere hope or wish. Children need to understand that whilst

all

goals

don’t

come

are

about

achievable unless

they

action

is

taken to achieve them. “I wish” and “I

achieve.

be

The important aspect of goals is that

on

aspirations.

our

journey

of

greater

hope” will not achieve goals.

So

how

do

we

help

our

children

become goal achievers?

The

learning

and

development

doesn’t actually come in achieving •

Set

small

–

the goal but in the steps they take

especially for younger children long

along the way. When children work

term

towards goals, they are focussed,

goals

short

are

term

too

far

goals

away

for

them to visualise the reward at the

their

end. It can create frustration and

increases and they gain self-belief.

temptation to give up.

It is likely at some point they will

•

Ensure

goals

have

a

reward

–

confidence

and

self-esteem

get stuck and want to give up, but

decide on the reward together, for

this

example

growth, and the exact point when

result

if

in

they

school

achieve they

a

good

achieve

a

treat.

•

is

the

they

in

their

Recusing

children

in

their

times of difficulty, whilst the caring

take to achieve the goal, the steps

and innate thing to do, will actually

should

disempower

clear

and

need

point

to

be

steps

critical

parent want to jump in and recuse them.

Identify

a

simple.

them.

Instead,

guide,

Something that they can manage

support and prompt them, but they

every day, for example practicing

must find the solution, this will lead

piano every night for ten minutes or

to

making their bed every day for a

development

week.

attributes

• Celebrate the achievement when

achievers.

they achieve the goal.

• Visualising the goal and feeling as if the goal has been achieved will keep them on track.

• Set a goal along with your child or set a goal for the family, so you can encourage each other.

empowerment, of of

a

resilience strong success

and

will

all

goal

I ran through fire and brick walls to feel needed I tried

to

fix

others

in

order

to

be

liked

and

I

allowed my heart to be continually broken just to be needed and liked.

I

couldn’t

stop

others

from

tramping

over

my

heart because I felt I deserved it all.

I have stood frozen by fear while I struggled with battles in my mind, heart and soul.

Mary Keogh

I’ve screwed up so many times because I didn’t think I was worthy of self-love or the love from other people.

I have a stubborn side, and quick tongue but I also have deep scars because of my past.

Some people love me, some don’t really care for me, I know I’ve done good in my life and I know I’ve messed up.

The Woman In The Mirror

This is me the woman in the mirror I am perfectly imperfect

I

didn’t

care

much

for

the

woman

who

looked back at me in the mirror in fact I didn’t

even

see

her

all

I

seen

was

You see I haven’t really liked that woman

won’t turn her back on me she will never kick me

will hold me up when I crumble and she will be my biggest supporter.

for a long time. actually

at me. you see she is my biggest supporter she

when I’m down she will hold me when I’m lost she

blackness.

I

But today I embrace that woman who looks back

didn’t

acknowledge

her

at

all

because all I did was feed her lies and told her she was worthless, that she didn’t add

I not longer run and try to find myself in someone else’s mirror. The piece of the jigsaw that was missing in my life was the woman in the mirror.

up to much that I was a lonely, insecure This woman is strong and

and was afraid of everything.

Beautifully broken .

I allowed other people to disrespect her to belittle her and to use and abuse me.

SHE IS GRACE SHE IS COMPASSION

I didn’t see any value in that woman in the mirror she was just a reminder of all that I

SHE IS FORGIVENESS SHE IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

was not.

I

allowed

her

to

crumble

and

I

allowed

AND TODAY SHE IS ENOUGH

others to take part in the breaking of down of the very fibre of her being.

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IS GREG T FLETCHER The Power Of Choice It is only when we make choices that Have you ever wondered about choice, thought what it means and really felt whether you have it? Unfortunately not many of us do, and so we tend to live lives that we do not want, because we feel that we did not choose them!

Examining

our

life

can

be

that not only do we have choices, but that we actually make choices, even if make

habitual

them

through

thinking

patterns.

It

is

or

only

default behaviour

then

able to feel free. When our decisions are based on what we believe to be the choices of others, we often find that we feel bound by those choices, perhaps out of duty, perhaps out of

rather

interesting, especially when we realise

we

bring us peace and joy that we are

that

we

discover that a lot of the time we may, by default, be choosing what we do not want.

fear. Neither provide peace, joy or freedom which are fundamental to living

our

abstract

lives.

concept

available choose

best

to to

Choice

that

us,

is

even

believe

is

an

always

when

we

not,

for

it’s

believing so is a choice in itself.

Choice is the starting point of the everyday reality we experience and is the seed which dictates the future we step into, for it is a tool that is

Choice is not something that is only available to the healthy, the able, the wealthy, the intellectual or any other group

or

individuals.

Rather,

it

is

an

inherently free portion of who each of us are and fundamental to the life we experience. None of us have had an experience

that

we

did

not

choose.

Sometimes we may not like the options that are presented to us, but we are always in control of what choice we make.

For

freedom

choice

that

exists

is

linked

within

to

our

the lives,

whether we believe it to exist or not.

Choice is the easiest activity that we practice in our daily lives and also the one that is most abundant. If it seems hard, it is only because we chose to see it that way

only

available

moment.

It

in

is

the

the

present

basis

of

our

ambitions, our successes, our goals and

our

achievements.

through

choosing

another

that

ambitions only

support

we

and

through our

one

set

can

achieve success.

is

only

desire

over

experience

goals,

choosing goals

It

and

actions

that

we

it

is

that can

It may seem a very simple word, a simple concept, but it is the most powerful tool we have access to as human beings. It is, generally, not something that is available to the rest of the animal kingdom, especially in the form it is available to us.

Choice is something that is compounded and build upon, for not only do we have the ability to choose between many different options within each moment, but we also have to ability to change those choices in each moment. We do not need to wed ourselves to a choice and stay with it from the start to the end of our lives. We not only have the ability to make new choices in each moment, but to let go of past choices that no longer serve who we have grown to become, or who we want to experience being.

THE POWER OF CHOICE Choosing a career, choosing a relationship, choosing a way of being are only permanent if we make the choice for them to be so.

When we keep experiencing life situations that no longer serve us, it is an indication, a sign, that we should make a new choice and to choose something that will serve us, that will empower us. We are not meant to live unhappy, hard and unpleasant lives, but rather to live long, happy, joyful and fulfilling lives. The choice is ours and the lives we experience are entirely regulated and built upon the choices we make in each moment.

Always choose what brings you joy, delivers you freedom and allows you to physically experience your dreams.

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