TTMS - Lesson 9 - Relationships

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This lesson may be activating. Be gentle with yourself and each other...

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Agenda

✓ Opening Routine

❑ Intro to Relationships

❑ Love is Learned

❑ Relationship Spectrum

❑ Closing Routine

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9: Relationships
Welcome to Teen Talk Lesson
Welcome Question
1.Respect 2.Communication 3.Curiosity 4.Privacy 5.Well-being
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Intro to Relationships

sexual partner(s)

Intro to Relationships

With whom might we have RELATIONSHIPS now or in the future?

friends teachers

romantic partner(s) sibling(s)

spouse or life partner

classmates teammates co-workers neighbors mentors

medical providers

sexual partner(s)

parent(s) family

Intro to Relationships

Why might a person might want to have a partner or an intimate relationship?

Intro to Relationships

Everyone deserves healthy and safe relationships

Being mistreated can feel very isolating but know that you are not alone.

We can all learn to love better by recognizing unhealthy signs and shifting to healthy behaviors

spouse or life partner

Today we will primarily focus on intimate partnerships but most of what we discuss can apply to all types of relationships

friends teachers

romantic partner(s) sibling(s)

classmates teammates co-workers neighbors mentors

parent(s) family

Intro to Relationships

medical providers

Love is Learned

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Relationships of all kinds should make us feel good about ourselves!
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9/27/2023 3 Remember to BREATHE breathe in breathe out Healthy Relationships How does someone know if a relationship is healthy? One Love’s “10 Signs” Source: The One Love Foundation – www.joinonelove.org/lms “10 Signs” Worksheet Source: Adapted with permission from The One Love Foundation One Love’s “Couplets” Source: The One Love Foundation – www.joinonelove.org/lms One Love’s “Couplets” Source: The One Love Foundation (“anger”) 13 14 15 16 17 18 ReviewOnly

One Love’s “Couplets”

One Love’s “Couplets”

What are some healthy ways to deal with emotions like anger or frustration?

How can friends or partners approach conflict in a healthy way?

One Love’s “Couplets”

One Love’s “Couplets”

What can someone do if a person is behaving intensely toward them?

One Love’s “Couplets”

One Love’s “Couplets”

Why is independence important in a friendship or relationship?

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Source: The One Love Foundation (“obsession”)
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Source: The One Love Foundation (“disrespect”)

One Love’s “Couplets”

How can peer pressure play an unhealthy role in relationships or friendships?

What are some healthy strategies to handle peer pressure?

One Love’s “Couplets”

What is loyalty? Is loyalty an important part of trust in a relationship?

One Love’s “Couplets”

One Love’s “Couplets”

How is kindness related to respect?

One Love’s “Couplets”

Healthy Relationships

Where can a person get support if a friend or partner is belittling them?

The 10 healthy signs create a strong foundation for a relationship

They help to establish safety and security in the relationship to support the normal ups and downs that ALL relationships go through.

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Healthy Relationships

The 10 healthy signs create a strong foundation for a relationship

A healthy relationship does not mean a “perfect” relationship… but these are behaviors we can strive for in all of our relationships.

Let’s Take a Moment to…

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Unhealthy Relationships

The 10 unhealthy signs do not always indicate an abusive relationship

…but they can become a pattern or ESCALATE to abuse over time.

There are also certain behaviors that are considered abusive even if they only happen once…

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Types of Relationship Abuse

Physical Emotional

harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone

Types of Relationship Abuse

Physical harming or attempting to harm someone’s body

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Types of Relationship Abuse

Physical

Emotional Psychological

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone threatening, intimidating, or isolating someone

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

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Types of Relationship Abuse

Physical

Emotional Psychological Financial

harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone threatening, intimidating, or isolating someone controlling someone’s money or access to resources

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Types of Relationship Abuse

Physical

Emotional Psychological Financial Sexual

harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone threatening, intimidating, or isolating someone controlling someone’s money or access to resources any sexual contact without affirmative consent

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Taking Action

What can someone do if they realize they are in an unhealthy or unsafe relationship?

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Types of Relationship Abuse

Physical

Emotional Psychological Financial Sexual

harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone threatening, intimidating, or isolating someone controlling someone’s money or access to resources

any sexual contact without affirmative consent

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Abusive Relationships

Abuse can happen in any type of relationship

It affects people of ALL ages, cultures, and genders

Abuse is never OK.

Once a relationship becomes abusive, it usually cannot become healthy again…

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Taking Action

What can someone do if they realize they are in an unhealthy or unsafe relationship?

• Safely seek assistance (instead of handling it alone)

• Tell a trusted adult, family member, or friend about what is going on

• Meet with a counselor or therapist to process difficult emotions

• Call/text a hotline to get support and suggestions

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

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Taking Action

What can someone do if they realize they are in an unhealthy or unsafe relationship?

• Create a plan to safely end the relationship

• Consider whether it’s safer to talk in-person or digitally (via text)

• Practice communicating in firm, direct language

• Meet in a public place or bring a friend along in case the situation escalates

• After a break-up, stay distracted with friends, family, school, work, hobbies, etc.

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Victim Blaming

There can be lots of complex reasons why people don’t “just leave” an abusive partner

Blaming someone for staying in an abusive relationship further damages their self-esteem

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

How to Help a Friend

• Remind them that it’s not their fault

• Listen without judgment and mirror their language

• Ask if they feel safe and how you can help

• Encourage them to report by telling a trusted adult, visiting a local hospital, or calling 911

• Empower then to make their own decisions

The choice belongs to the survivor.

LoveisRespect.org

Remember…

Everyone

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Health Gender & Sexual Identities Relationships & Sexual Safety Pregnancy & Parenting Bodies, Puberty, Birth Control & STIs

Mental

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to have healthy, loving relationships in their life.
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Health & Body Image
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Source: The One Love Foundation – www.joinonelove.org/student-leadership

Relationship Spectrum

Relationship Spectrum

Some behaviors are clearly healthy or unhealthy

…and some can vary depending on the context, frequency, or other factors

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Relationship Spectrum

HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE

Relationship Spectrum

HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE

when a person feels safe and respected by one another

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

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Relationship Spectrum

HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE

when a person feels uncomfortable or disrespected by their partner

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Relationship Spectrum

HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE

when a person is hurt or controlled by their partner

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Relationship Spectrum

HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE

Remember…

Everyone deserves healthy and safe relationships

A person who has experienced abuse is not at fault and not alone

To learn more or get support, check out: www.loveisrespect.org

Love Is Respect: Text ‘LOVEIS’ to 22522

Lesson 9 Wrap-Up

Let’s Review!

• What are some signs of a healthy relationship?

• What are some signs of an unhealthy relationship?

• What are some online resources to learn more about relationships?

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Looking Forward

Next class…

Media & Body Image

(content warning)

• Explore how media affects all aspects of culture – people, relationships, and society

• Discuss sexually explicit media (pornography), body image, and self-acceptance

Self-Care Ideas: Go for a bike ride

Journal

Pick some flowers

Visit someone you haven’t seen in a while

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