Love is Learned
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Relationships of all kinds should make us feel good about ourselves!
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9/27/2023 3 Remember to BREATHE breathe in breathe out Healthy Relationships How does someone know if a relationship is healthy? One Love’s “10 Signs” Source: The One Love Foundation – www.joinonelove.org/lms “10 Signs” Worksheet Source: Adapted with permission from The One Love Foundation One Love’s “Couplets” Source: The One Love Foundation – www.joinonelove.org/lms One Love’s “Couplets” Source: The One Love Foundation (“anger”) 13 14 15 16 17 18 ReviewOnly
One Love’s “Couplets”
One Love’s “Couplets”
What are some healthy ways to deal with emotions like anger or frustration?
How can friends or partners approach conflict in a healthy way?
One Love’s “Couplets”
One Love’s “Couplets”
What can someone do if a person is behaving intensely toward them?
One Love’s “Couplets”
One Love’s “Couplets”
Why is independence important in a friendship or relationship?
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Source: The One Love Foundation (“obsession”)
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Source: The One Love Foundation (“disrespect”)
One Love’s “Couplets”
How can peer pressure play an unhealthy role in relationships or friendships?
What are some healthy strategies to handle peer pressure?
One Love’s “Couplets”
What is loyalty? Is loyalty an important part of trust in a relationship?
One Love’s “Couplets”
One Love’s “Couplets”
How is kindness related to respect?
One Love’s “Couplets”
Healthy Relationships
Where can a person get support if a friend or partner is belittling them?
The 10 healthy signs create a strong foundation for a relationship
They help to establish safety and security in the relationship to support the normal ups and downs that ALL relationships go through.
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Source: The One Love Foundation (“put downs”)
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Healthy Relationships
The 10 healthy signs create a strong foundation for a relationship
A healthy relationship does not mean a “perfect” relationship… but these are behaviors we can strive for in all of our relationships.
Let’s Take a Moment to…
breathe in breathe out
Unhealthy Relationships
The 10 unhealthy signs do not always indicate an abusive relationship
…but they can become a pattern or ESCALATE to abuse over time.
There are also certain behaviors that are considered abusive even if they only happen once…
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Types of Relationship Abuse
Physical Emotional
harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone
Types of Relationship Abuse
Physical harming or attempting to harm someone’s body
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Types of Relationship Abuse
Physical
Emotional Psychological
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harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone threatening, intimidating, or isolating someone
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Types of Relationship Abuse
Physical
Emotional Psychological Financial
harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone threatening, intimidating, or isolating someone controlling someone’s money or access to resources
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Types of Relationship Abuse
Physical
Emotional Psychological Financial Sexual
harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone threatening, intimidating, or isolating someone controlling someone’s money or access to resources any sexual contact without affirmative consent
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Taking Action
What can someone do if they realize they are in an unhealthy or unsafe relationship?
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Types of Relationship Abuse
Physical
Emotional Psychological Financial Sexual
harming or attempting to harm someone’s body put-downs, name-calling, or humiliating someone threatening, intimidating, or isolating someone controlling someone’s money or access to resources
any sexual contact without affirmative consent
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Abusive Relationships
Abuse can happen in any type of relationship
It affects people of ALL ages, cultures, and genders
Abuse is never OK.
Once a relationship becomes abusive, it usually cannot become healthy again…
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Taking Action
What can someone do if they realize they are in an unhealthy or unsafe relationship?
• Safely seek assistance (instead of handling it alone)
• Tell a trusted adult, family member, or friend about what is going on
• Meet with a counselor or therapist to process difficult emotions
• Call/text a hotline to get support and suggestions
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Taking Action
What can someone do if they realize they are in an unhealthy or unsafe relationship?
• Create a plan to safely end the relationship
• Consider whether it’s safer to talk in-person or digitally (via text)
• Practice communicating in firm, direct language
• Meet in a public place or bring a friend along in case the situation escalates
• After a break-up, stay distracted with friends, family, school, work, hobbies, etc.
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Victim Blaming
There can be lots of complex reasons why people don’t “just leave” an abusive partner
Blaming someone for staying in an abusive relationship further damages their self-esteem
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How to Help a Friend
• Remind them that it’s not their fault
• Listen without judgment and mirror their language
• Ask if they feel safe and how you can help
• Encourage them to report by telling a trusted adult, visiting a local hospital, or calling 911
• Empower then to make their own decisions
The choice belongs to the survivor.
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Remember…
Everyone
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Health Gender & Sexual Identities Relationships & Sexual Safety Pregnancy & Parenting Bodies, Puberty, Birth Control & STIs
Mental
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to have healthy, loving relationships in their life.
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Health & Body Image
Teen Talk Resources
Mental
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Source: The One Love Foundation – www.joinonelove.org/student-leadership
Relationship Spectrum
Relationship Spectrum
Some behaviors are clearly healthy or unhealthy
…and some can vary depending on the context, frequency, or other factors
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Relationship Spectrum
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE
Relationship Spectrum
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE
when a person feels safe and respected by one another
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Relationship Spectrum
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE
when a person feels uncomfortable or disrespected by their partner
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Relationship Spectrum
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE
when a person is hurt or controlled by their partner
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Relationship Spectrum
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY ABUSIVE
Remember…
Everyone deserves healthy and safe relationships
A person who has experienced abuse is not at fault and not alone
To learn more or get support, check out: www.loveisrespect.org
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Lesson 9 Wrap-Up
Let’s Review!
• What are some signs of a healthy relationship?
• What are some signs of an unhealthy relationship?
• What are some online resources to learn more about relationships?
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Looking Forward
Next class…
Media & Body Image
(content warning)
• Explore how media affects all aspects of culture – people, relationships, and society
• Discuss sexually explicit media (pornography), body image, and self-acceptance
Self-Care Ideas: Go for a bike ride
Journal
Pick some flowers
Visit someone you haven’t seen in a while
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