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Teen Talk Agreements one mic
1) Respect
Welcome to Teen Talk!
no judging use inclusive language
3) Reporting
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2) Privacy 13 or younger with anyone older 14 or 15 with anyone 21 or older
parent(s), trusted adults peers, partner(s)
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4) Communication 5) Ask Questions!
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Pre-Test
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Trusted Adult Interview (HW) Choose an adult member of your family or another adult you trust (age 18 or older)
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Interview them – ask the questions, listen to their answers and write notes
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After completing the interview, ask your adult to sign the back
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This homework is due: _______________
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Public Places
Public vs. Private Places
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Can be inside or outside
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Places where people can see you
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Public Places
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Public Places
Classroom
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Public Places
School Hallway
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School Bathroom
School Bus
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Park
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Playground
Public Places
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Swimming Pool
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Grocery Store
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Restaurant
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Movie Theater
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Public Places
Private Places
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Concert
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Places where people can’t see you or what you are doing
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Private Places
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Private Places
House
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Apartment
Discussion Question
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Private Places
What are some things you can do privately in your bedroom?
Bedroom
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Sleep
Private Places
Read
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Private Places
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Private Places
Listen to Music
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Changing Clothes
Private Places
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Discussion Question
Where else is a private place you can take off or change your clothes?
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Bathroom
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Doctor’s Office
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Bathroom Stall
Private Places
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Private Places
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Public Body Parts
Public vs. Private Body Parts
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The parts of your body that can be shown in public places.
Everyone’s body is unique! Please do not compare your body to the drawings above.
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Public Body Parts 1
Public Body Parts
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Eyes
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Everyone’s body is unique! Please do not compare your body to the drawings above.
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Mouth
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Ears
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Public Body Parts
Public Body Parts Elbow
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Hands
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Public Body Parts
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Private Body Parts (front)
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Private Body Parts The parts of your body that must be covered in public places.
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Everyone’s body is unique! Please do not compare your body to the drawings above.
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Everyone’s body is unique! Please do not compare your body to the drawings above.
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Private Body Parts (back)
Private Body Parts
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Breasts
Everyone’s body is unique! Please do not compare your body to the drawings above.
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Private Body Parts
Private Body Parts
Penis and Scrotum
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Vulva
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Discussion Questions
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Private Body Parts
Buttocks
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Who can touch your body parts?
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Discussion Questions
Discussion Questions
When is it okay to take off your clothes and show private body parts?
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How do we keep these body parts private?
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Internal Male Anatomy
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Sexual and Reproductive Anatomy
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Internal Male Anatomy
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Internal Male Anatomy
testicle(s)
sperm cells
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Internal Male Anatomy
Internal Male Anatomy vas deferens
testicle(s)
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testicle(s) scrotum
scrotum
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Internal Male Anatomy
Internal Male Anatomy bladder
prostate gland
testicle(s)
testicle(s)
scrotum
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scrotum
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prostate gland
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Internal Male Anatomy
Internal Male Anatomy
urethra testicle(s)
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prostate gland
penis
urethra
testicle(s)
scrotum
scrotum
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prostate gland
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Internal Male Anatomy
penis
urethra
testicle(s)
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Internal Male Anatomy
prostate gland anus
penis urethra testicle(s)
scrotum
prostate gland anus scrotum
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Circumcision
Internal Female Anatomy
= removing the foreskin from a penis
no foreskin, tip of penis is uncovered
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foreskin covers tip of penis
Circumcised penis
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Uncircumcised penis
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Internal Female Anatomy
Internal Female Anatomy
ovary
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Internal Female Anatomy Fallopian tube(s)
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ova (eggs)
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ova (eggs)
Internal Female Anatomy Fallopian tube(s)
ova (eggs) ovary
uterus
ova (eggs) ovary
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Fallopian tube(s)
Internal Female Anatomy Fallopian tube(s)
ova (eggs) ovary
uterus
uterus
ova (eggs) ovary
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Internal Female Anatomy
cervix
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endometrium (blood tissue)
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Internal Female Anatomy Fallopian tube(s)
vagina
ovary
cervix
uterus vagina
ova (eggs)
ovary cervix
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uterus
Internal Female Anatomy
Hymen
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= a thin piece of skin partially covering the opening to the vagina
Vulva = outer female anatomy
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Hygiene Taking care of our body is very important so we can keep ourselves healthy! How do you keep your body clean?
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Taking Care of Me: Personal Hygiene
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Brushing your Teeth Use a toothbrush and toothpaste
Washing your Body
Caring for your Hair
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Washing your Hair Wash your hair in the shower to get rid of dirt and oil
Use a brush or comb to keep your hair neat and untangled
Shampoo and conditioner help clean and make hair smell nice
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Wash your body every day (with soap!) in the shower to get rid of dirt and germs
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Brush 2 times every day (morning and before bed)
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Smelling Nice
Getting Dressed Put on clean clothes (shirt, underwear, socks) every day
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Wash hands with soap after coughing, sneezing, or using the bathroom
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Put on deodorant every day to help underarms stay dry and smell nice
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Sexual Behaviors Tree
Sexual Behaviors
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Sexual Behaviors Tree
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CONSENT
Sexual Behaviors Tree
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Sexual Behaviors Tree
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CONSENT
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Sexual Behaviors Tree
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Sexual Behaviors Tree
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CONSENT
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Sexual Behaviors Tree
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CONSENT
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CONSENT
CONSENT
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In a healthy relationship, each person’s body and boundaries should be respected.
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Think About It…
Think About It… 3A) Think of at least 2 reasons why SOME teens have sex:
1. The ONLY 100% effective way to prevent pregnant AND the best way to lower your risk of getting an STI is by not engaging in…
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4) What is “consent” and why is it important?
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2. List as many ways as you can think of to show love or affection to a partner without having any sexual contact:
3B) Think of at least 2 reasons why MOST teens WAIT to have sex:
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Be FIRM
What Would You Say?
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Figure out your boundaries I don’t want to…
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Make a suggestion
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Scenario
Be FIRM
Figure out your boundaries I don’t want to…
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You are going on a date with someone for the first time. You decide to meet them at a pizza restaurant at 7pm. When you get there, you say “hi” and sit down across from them. They ask how you are doing and they say they have already put in an order for a large pepperoni pizza. You are a vegetarian.
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Make a suggestion
Use the Be FIRM model to address this situation.
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“Thank you so much for ordering already. I am
“Thank you so much for ordering already. I am
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a vegetarian. I don’t want to eat pepperoni
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because I was raised a vegetarian, so why
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don’t I ask the server if we can change our
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pizza to be half pepperoni and half veggie?
That way we can both get what we want.”
That way we can both get what we want.”
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Example Response
Example Response “Thank you so much for ordering already. I am
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a vegetarian. I don’t want to eat pepperoni
because I was raised a vegetarian, so why
because I was raised a vegetarian, so why
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“Thank you so much for ordering already. I am
don’t I ask the server if we can change our
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That way we can both get what we want.”
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don’t I ask the server if we can change our pizza to be half pepperoni and half veggie?
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Figure out your boundaries I don’t want to…
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don’t I ask the server if we can change our
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Make a suggestion
That way we can both get what we want.”
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Relationship Spectrum
Abusive
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Affection
Public vs. Private Affection
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We can show affection to our family, friends, and partners
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Public Types of Affection
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Types of Affection
Depends on the situation (after getting consent)
Private
These types of affection can happen in public or private places
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Waving
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Handshake
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Private Types of Affection
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Other people are not around and cannot see you
Private Types of Affection
These types of affection can happen only in private places
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Touching Private Body Parts
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Being naked with a partner
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Depends on the Situation
Types of Affection
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Hugging
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These types of affection can happen in public or private places depending on your partner’s boundaries
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Talk to your partner about boundaries first
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Kissing
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Not Having Sex • 100% effective
All About Birth Control
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• No semen inside the vagina, anus, or near the vulva
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• Protects against STIs
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The IUD
The Implant
• Goes inside the uterus
• Goes inside the upper arm
• Works for 3-10+ years
• Works for 3-5 years
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• Over 99% effective
The Ring
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• 94-99% effective
• 91-99% effective
• Given by a healthcare provider
• Goes inside the vagina
• Works for 12 weeks
• Works for 3 weeks
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The Patch
The Pill • 91-99% effective
• 91-99% effective
• Take one pill every day at the same time
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• Goes on arm, torso, or buttocks
• Each pill pack lasts for one month
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• Works for 1 week
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Emergency Contraception • 75-89% effective
The Condom
• Up to 98% effective
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• Worn on erect penis
• Take ASAP, but can work up to 5 days after sex
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• Protects against STIs
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The Internal Condom • Up to 95% effective • Worn inside vagina or anus • Protects against STIs
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Parenting
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Condom Demonstration To participate you must…
Condom Demonstration
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1. Follow instructions (do NOT go ahead!) 2. Be careful and respectful with the materials
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Condom Demonstration
Condom Demonstration Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
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Condom Demonstration
Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
Step 2: Ask for consent!
Step 2: Ask for consent!
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Step 3: Check package & expiration date
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Condom Demonstration
Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
Step 2: Ask for consent!
Step 2: Ask for consent!
Step 3: Check package & expiration date
Step 3: Check package & expiration date
Step 4: Open carefully with hands
Step 4: Open carefully with hands
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Condom Demonstration Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
Condom Demonstration Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
Step 2: Ask for consent!
Step 3: Check package & expiration date
Step 3: Check package & expiration date
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Step 2: Ask for consent!
Step 4: Open carefully with hands
Step 4: Open carefully with hands
Step 5: Check direction of condom
Step 5: Check direction of condom
Step 6: Pinch the tip and roll to base
Step 6: Pinch the tip and roll to base
Step 7: Remove carefully without spilling
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Condom Demonstration
Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
Step 1: Store condoms in a cool, dry place
Step 2: Ask for consent!
Step 2: Ask for consent!
Step 3: Check package & expiration date
Step 3: Check package & expiration date
Step 4: Open carefully with hands
Step 4: Open carefully with hands
Step 5: Check direction of condom
Step 5: Check direction of condom
Step 6: Pinch the tip and roll to base
Step 6: Pinch the tip and roll to base
Step 7: Remove carefully without spilling
Step 7: Remove carefully without spilling
Step 8: Tie a knot and throw in trash
Step 8: Tie a knot and throw in trash
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Body Boundaries A boundary of space between you and another person’s body It must be a distance that you both feel comfortable with!
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Safe vs. Unsafe Touch
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Body Boundaries
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Consent
Ask before you enter someone’s personal space!
Consent – Let’s Practice!
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Ask for a hug, handshake or high-five
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Listen to their answer before you act
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Safe Touch
Unsafe Touch Touching that makes us feel unsafe or uncomfortable
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For example: touching private body parts without consent
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For example: hugs, high-fives, holding hands, pats on the back
y
Touching that makes us feel safe and cared for
8
Safe vs. Unsafe Touch
ew
Does everyone have the right to touch you?
Safe vs. Unsafe Touch
NO!
ASK!
10
vi
9
What should a person do before they touch you?
Re
Safe vs. Unsafe Touch
Safe vs. Unsafe Touch
What should you say if you don’t want another person to touch you?
11
What should you do if another person is touching you without your consent?
No!
No thank you.
Say “Stop!” or “No!”
Stop!
Please stop.
Tell a trusted adult like a parent or teacher
12
2
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Consent Permission or mutual agreement to do something
Consent and Sexual Crimes
y
• Must be 18 or older (in California)
• Must be sober (no drugs or alcohol)
O nl
• Must communicate with partner and agree without pressure
1
2
Sexual Crimes
Sexual Harassment
Doing or saying anything sexual that makes someone else feel uncomfortable
Sexual behaviors that are against the law because there is no consent
Sexual Assault
Name-calling
•
Starting rumors
•
Making sexual jokes or gestures
•
Unwanted communication (sexual comments, texts, messages on social media)
Rape Any type of sex without consent
Re
Any unwanted sexual contact
5
•
4
vi
3
Sexual harassment Sexual assault Rape Human trafficking Stalking Indecent exposure
ew
• • • • • •
•
Sexual touching
•
Kissing
•
Flashing
•
Showing or sending sexual pictures or movies
•
Taking photos or videos of someone naked
•
Making someone touch themself in a sexual way
Penetration of a vagina, anus, or mouth using a body part or an object
6
1
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Human Trafficking
Stalking
Forcing, tricking, or convincing someone to do manual labor or sex work
Any repeated behavior that makes someone else feel uncomfortable or scared
(doing sexual things for money, food, shelter, etc.)
y
• Standing too close to someone • Following someone
• Staring at someone
• Unwanted communication
7
8
Indecent Exposure Being naked in public
Re
vi
ew
It doesn’t matter whether someone meant for others to see them naked or not
9
O nl
• Verbal or written threats
2