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the publisher perspective

As a small business owner, the lessons are endless. Recently, I’ve noticed how people express themselves differently online versus in person – a topic worth reflecting on. Before hitting send, consider whether your message aligns with your values when you are in a neutral emotional state. Remember, as someone once said, don’t send anything via email or text that you wouldn’t want on the front page of a newspaper. Tough conversations are better had face-to-face; emotions are hard to convey via email. Remember, perceived disrespect often stems from personal issues the other person may be going through. Leslie’s article on page 52 offers valuable insights into better communication – we can all benefit from it!

We’re thrilled to bring you the JUNE ISSUE of Forsyth Woman Magazine! As always, this issue is chock full of local, inspiring content. A few highlights:

- Queen Juneteenth (page 12)

- A BRAND NEW column: Hygge for Health (page 28)

- 11 Must-Visit Wineries in 2024 (page 32)

- A Day in the Life at Accent Prone (page 54)

- Women on the Move (page 60)

- Take Care of Yourself: Begin with Happiness (page 64)

And, of course, our cover story featuring Dr. Susanna Ringeman of Forsyth Eye Health & Surgery. Dr. Ringeman has been in WinstonSalem for a while, but she’s originally from Louisiana, and I couldn’t get enough of her incredible, colorful, fun style that covered nearly every square inch of her office! I don’t think I’ve ever seen a doctor’s office with so much personality!

Girls’ Night Out is coming on June 11th and you are NOT going to want to miss this one! It’s happening at Boutique Wines in downtown Winston-Salem. Learn more and find the QR code to purchase your ticket(s) on page 59.

We hope you find love, hope, inspiration and joy within the pages of this issue! Our team adores what we do, and we’re immensely grateful for the support of our amazing readers. If you visit a business that you learned about through any of our publications, I encourage you to tell them where you saw them! Your feedback ensures they know their marketing dollars are well spent.

Hope to see you at a GNO event soon, and in the meantime, keep up with all things Forsyth Mags-related on social media (@forsythmags on Facebook and Instagram).

All my best,

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Brooke Eagle

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Jane Burnette

Suzy Fielders

Amy Hill

Brandon James

Taryn Jerez

Jean Marie Johnson

Michael Johnson

Tanner Johnson

Debbie Lanier

Halleigh Milleson

Lauren Sephton

Renee Skudra

Leslie Speas

Sheridan Watkins

Rachel Zimmer

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JUNETEENTH

In 2022, Triad Cultural Arts partnered with Heritage 365 to initiate a scholarship pageant to acknowledge Juneteenth. After two successful years, we realized that this was more than a pageant; it is a collective journey of empowering women, especially young women of color. Thus, we have grown into the Queen Juneteenth Project.

Our mission is to empower, elevate and excel young women of color.

WE VALUE:

• Positive identity & self worth

• Leadership

• Service in the community

• Sisterhood

• Scholarship

• Arts & Culture

1. To access scholarships, we partner with the Winston-Salem/ Forsyth County School system and the United Negro College Fund by providing a renewable four-year scholarship to a pageant winner who will attend a Historically Black College or University in the amount of $30,000.

2. To develop leadership, we help ensure that participants are ready for their next chapters in life by attending a series of monthly workshops consisting of local black and women history, financial

wellness, education on scholarships and processes, the history and advantages of attending a historical black college or university, all aspects of becoming a strong, effective leader, as well as etiquette in dining, social media and public venues.

3. To build sisterly relationships, girls are chosen from a variety of WSFCS. They also receive training on how to become an emotional, intelligent leader who can use their emotions to communicate and relate to others effectively and constructively.

4. Finally, they master theatrical arts with poise and presence.

“Heavy is the head who wears the crown…”

WHO WILL BE THE NEXT QUEEN JUNETEENTH?

June 14th at 7pm Paisley Middle School Tickets can be purchased at givebutter.com/QJScholarshipPageant.

Contact: Queenjuneteenth@gmail.com Text only: 336.551.6972 Dr. Shai Woodbury

L to R: 2022 Queen Juneteenth, Zuri Sweat, and 2023 Queen Juneteenth, Tai Wade

2023 Queen Juneteenth Contestants

Keeping It Real

I KNOW WHAT YOU’RE THINKING

by DR. DEBBIE LANIER

That sounds presumptuous. But, it’s true.

I don’t claim to be psychic or any of that nonsense. I don’t pretend to know a person’s thoughts with vivid precision. BUT, I can discern what takes up much of your head space and what doesn’t.

Stay with me. I’ve got science to back me up.

The wisest man who ever lived wrote, “For as a person thinks within himself, so he is.” (Proverbs 23:7 NASB) In other words, whatever a person thinks about and dwells on spills out of them and becomes their reality.

Don’t believe me? Consider this. During the horrors of WWI, demand for morphine grew exponentially. Packed into medic halls, soldiers on stretchers suffered – wounded, mutilated bodies, missing limbs – and if they didn’t bleed to death, they screamed in excruciating pain. Only morphine shots gave relief. Yet, the staggering demand completely overwhelmed the limited supplies. Soldiers squalled in agony while doctors stood helpless to alleviate the suffering.

One physician wrestled so severely with this that he decided to administer sugar pills to the most tormented patients but acted as if he had dispensed morphine. It sounds crazy, but get this! Thirty percent of those who received sugar pills having NO pain-relieving effects whatsoever experienced the same relief as the men who received morphine. WHAT?!

I’m not kidding! These soldiers with open wounds and dismembered body parts BELIEVED they got morphine, so their pain eased. They fared as well as those who received one of the most powerful drugs on the planet!

Are you connecting the dots? Whatever you believe about a situation has the powerful potential to alter your reality!

The strength of belief works to either your advantage or your detriment. If you want to know where your life is headed, listen to the words coming out of your mouth. If you want to know where your words are coming from, think about the thoughts you keep rehearsing in your head!

I know you face real challenges, but listen, what you tell yourself about them has everything to do with your outcome!

Have you ever heard, “Everything you say can and will be used against you,” said to someone being arrested? It’s absolutely true!

Every time you hear yourself say something, you believe it in a deeper place.

If you say, “I’ll never be in shape like I used to be,” you’re right. You won’t.

If you say, “I’ll never get out of debt,” then you’ll probably never get out of debt. Why? The more you hear yourself say it, the more you believe it. If you believe it, it becomes your reality.

If you say, “Our family never gets along,” you’ll end up believing it so deeply that you’ll even unconsciously contribute to the division!

Friend, this is not new age mumbo jumbo, but Truth straight from God’s Word. “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit – you choose.” (Proverbs 18:21 MSG) It’s time to start replacing your self-sabotaging talk with words that take you where you want to go!

No matter what you feel right now or how disconnected your present reality seems from what you desire, speak words that infuse life and faith into your story anyway! Like this:

I’m choosing to honor God, walk in wisdom and live a long, healthy, significant life. (Proverbs 9:10-11)

God has given me the power to make wealth, (Deuteronomy 8:18) so I’m getting out of debt once and for all!

The economy may be challenging, but God will “fill until full” my every need according to His riches in Glory in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:19 AMP)

My family will walk in unity and love well. (Psalm 133:1)

Wherever you’re struggling most, THERE you must speak LIFE most! What you hear yourself say seeps into the deepest parts of you and becomes your experience.

Do it! What have you got to lose? I promise, you’ll lose MUCH if you don’t get your thoughts and your words working FOR you, not against you. Believe it! I’m cheering you on!

For comments or prayer, please contact Dr. Lanier at HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

When God Allows the Truth to Hurt

by AMY HILL

“See, the problem is that I am my own person and you are not,”

said the lying cheater with a substance abuse problem. Said the man who couldn’t be on time to save his life. Said the man who found delight in hurting the feelings of those around him when his lies were called out. I was the problem.

What simultaneously infuriated and stunned me was the unfortunate wisdom behind those words. For as many faults as he had, I couldn’t disagree.

I won’t give him too much credit. I highly doubt he’s a profound philosopher who saw deeply into my soul and wanted to enlighten me in order to help me change. The more likely scenario is that he wanted an excuse to leave me so he could move on to the new, unsuspecting blonde he had been chatting up at the bar behind all of his lovers’ backs. Unless he found it convenient to be cruelly honest, lying was his first language. Unbeknownst to him, God desperately needed me to hear those words, and his drunk mouth was the only effective vessel at the time.

This isn’t the only time God has allowed unsavory characters to speak sense into me.

If I didn’t require having my heart ripped out of my chest to learn most lessons in life, perhaps God wouldn’t feel the need to permit men from whom I desperately crave validation and acceptance to send harsh truths I need to hear. If only the work of a telegram or cute carrier pigeon would suffice.

As someone who often struggles with thinking in absolutes, I panic when nuggets of truth are spewed from the mouths of jerks. Does this mean I’m all bad and they’re better than me? Am I wrong about all of the red flags I see? While spending countless hours trying to discredit terrifying thoughts in order to self-soothe, I’m ashamed to admit that I stumbled

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upon a rather helpful Reddit post in which someone used the analogy of people being similar to broken clocks. A broken clock can sometimes be accurate at telling time, but it’s still very broken.

I once spent two years in my mid-twenties pining after a bartender whose values never aligned with mine. No red flag was left unseen or unspoken. No consistency was displayed. Did that stop me from hoping?

Frustratingly, no. We had a short-lived interaction not monumental enough to even be considered a fling, but the flirtation, mind games and very odd first kiss somehow had me hooked. I overlooked his unhealthy habits and masked insecurities because I saw potential, and his aloof attitude drew me in. After he decided I was too much emotional labor with not enough pay off, I spent every Saturday night sitting at the end of the bar where he worked, hoping for an ounce of attention or a change of heart.

One afternoon (yes, afternoon), he covered my small tab, since it was only one drink. I insisted that he run my card so I could leave a tip. “Worry about yourself for once,” he sighed. Those words haunted me; not only were they words no man had ever said to me, but it was almost as if he felt sorry for me. Pity rarely fosters attraction.

Heading into my 30th year, my therapist had been insisting that I wasn’t ready for a relationship due to my codependent tendencies and inability to value myself. She encouraged me to refrain from dating until I was kinder to myself in order to avoid running into more men who smelled my wounds and reopened them for their benefit. I took much offense to her opinion and urgings, because to my self-loathing brain, not being ready for a relationship was just another flaw on my resume of insufficiencies that already lived in the forefront of my mind. It was too painful to consider.

My latest emotional assassin’s words still plague me. My onesided, short-lived fling demolished by a poorly timed and highly intoxicated miscommunication between a very immature man and an overly emotional woman birthed criticisms that I can’t unhear.

I knew I was falling for him, but seeing as how he was only on the brink of 24, I thought it would be wise to ask about his intentions after a few too many cocktails on what I thought was an actual date. Since we had kissed five minutes before I seemingly ruined the evening with an innocent question, I didn’t anticipate the repulsion and sheer terror he displayed once the question was

asked. His tactless overreaction ripped open the wounds of the many times I found myself in the same situation in my 20s, and the tears began flowing. As a result, the guy who broke his neck at any reasonably attractive female walking by, laughed at crude humor and expressed excitement over strip clubs had the audacity to tell me I wasn’t ready for a relationship. If that wasn’t bad enough, he also suggested I try therapy.

Did he have any clue that, for months, my therapist had been telling me I wasn’t ready for a relationship? Absolutely not. In fact, after I had confided in him about an insecurity of mine an hour prior to our argument, he decided to throw that back at me as ammo. This was likely triggered by his realization that his attempt at no-stringsattached sex was not going to happen. If anything, his statements about my relationship readiness and need for therapy were likely projections. But, as the saying goes, what he meant for evil, God meant for good.

No more drunk dating. No more overlooking red flags and seeking out men whose priorities are not with God. No more attempts at forcing love because I lack the faith to believe that God has someone better in His timing.

By the way – the bartender eventually did come around, but not in the way I would have liked. A few months after I moved cities and stopped visiting his bar every weekend, I received a text message after midnight that read, “I still think about you sometimes.” My heart was pounding. Finally.

“I still think about you, too,” I quickly texted back.

“Well, my thoughts are a bit more salacious,” he replied.

After realizing I was nothing more than a toy and an ego stroke, I moved on to bigger but not better men for the next few years (after all, he was five feet tall). Today, however, I spend my Saturdays in God’s waiting room.

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by TARYN JEREZ

A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

Chantae Reynolds | JK Woodworked Creations –Woodworking and Laser Designs

This month’s featured artist, Chantae Reynolds, is a visionary in the way she blends innovation and heritage throughout every aspect of her work with an immense sense of detail.

How would you describe your work?

My work is a seamless fusion of technology and tradition, where laser design meets the warmth of woodworking. My passion for craftsmanship and innovation, blends intricate laser-cut elements with the natural beauty of wood and acrylic. I craft everything from elegant earrings and eye-catching signs to custom wood art and furnishings with a commitment to detail and quality.

What influences your art?

Nature serves as a boundless source of inspiration. I was born and raised here in Winston-Salem and living in this area has provided me with an amazing range of shapes, textures, and colors reflected in my designs. The intricate patterns found in leaves, the grain of wood, or the play of light on water—all of these elements Infuse my work with a sense of natural beauty. My work is a celebration of creativity, collaboration and community with the endless possibilities that arise when artistry and technology intersect.

How have you evolved, personally, as an artist?

Whether it’s attending workshops, collaborating with fellow artists and business owners, or immersing myself in various artistic disciplines, I embrace every opportunity for evolution. As a current teacher in the midst of pursuing my doctorate in education, I’ve always had a mindset of continuous growth and am deeply committed to expanding my knowledge and skills. My husband has actually been instrumental in my artistic journey, especially partnering for JK Woodworked Creations. Working alongside my husband and our son on numerous projects over the years has not only deepened our connection as a family but also enriched our understanding of the world around us.

How do you carve out time to be creative?

Creativity is ingrained in mine and my family’s lifestyle, with intentional time structured through our days. We spend all our free time engaging in various creative hobbies, and supporting friends and community who do the same. Whether it’s making things in the evening and having a late meal together, woodworking on weekends, or brainstorming new ideas over Sunday brunch, creative endeavors are woven into the fabric of our lives.

What is your favorite part of teaching art classes in the community?

One of the most rewarding aspects of my work has been the experience of hosting painting pop-ups. I love being able to collaborate with local businesses and offer a unique opportunity for individuals to unwind, socialize with friends, and tap into their creative side. It’s been truly fulfilling to highlight the positive impact that creativity can have in bringing people together. I love getting to witness people enjoying themselves and forging new connections!

What are you working on that excites you right now?

I recently took a Gelli Plate Printing class at Mixxer Makerspace and I’m hooked! Gelli Printing is a form of monoprinting - or single image printing of your original design. I have been learning how to use these plates with acrylic paints to create my own custom art. Here’s the twist: I’ve started merging Gelli plate printing with my laser-cut earrings! Using this technique on wood and acrylic is a gamechanger and unlike anything I’ve done before! It feels like the perfect fusion of creativity and craftsmanship, and I’m pumped to see how people react to these pieces!

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists?

Embrace your ups and downs and that your individuality is your greatest strength as an artist. Instead of trying to emulate someone else’s style or chase trends, focus on cultivating your own artistic identity. Your unique perspective is what will ultimately resonate with others and make your art truly compelling. Stay true to your vision; your voice matters, and the world is waiting to hear what you have to say through your art.

If you are interested in learning more about this month’s artist, Chantae Reynolds, you can find her work online at jkwoodworkedcreations.com as well as follow her on Facebook and Instagram @jkwoodworkedcreationsllc

Understanding and Managing Food Cravings vs. True Hunger

by JANE BURNETTE healthcoachjane.com IG @coachjanebb FB @coachjanebb

Ever find yourself at the fridge, door wide open, when you’re not even hungry? Welcome to the world of cravings – a place where your mind tries to convince you that you need that sweet or savory snack. Distinguishing between the essential signals of true hunger and the tempting whispers of cravings is a game changer for anyone looking to thrive in their health goals. Let’s explore the difference between these two and uncover effective strategies for managing cravings.

THE NATURE OF HUNGER AND CRAVINGS

True Hunger: Hunger is your body’s signal that it needs fuel. It arises from a physiological need for calories and nutrients and is characterized by general symptoms like an empty stomach, stomach growling and even irritability – often referred to as being “hangry.” Hunger can be satisfied with any type of food and is influenced by the hormone ghrelin, which is regulated by your eating schedule. Cravings: Unlike hunger, cravings are a specific and intense desire for certain types of foods, particularly those that are high in sugar, fats or both. These are not about filling an energy deficit but about satisfying a psychological need, often triggered by emotions like boredom, stress or anxiety. Cravings can occur even shortly after a meal and are not accompanied by physical signs of hunger.

STRATEGIES TO MANAGE CRAVINGS

Understand Your Body’s Signals:

Hunger vs. Craving Test: When unsure if you’re experiencing hunger or a craving, ask yourself if something simple and healthy like a bowl of vegetables or a grilled chicken salad would satisfy you. If not, it’s likely a craving.

Mindful Eating: Before indulging, pause to consider whether your desire to eat is driven by actual hunger or by other factors such as emotions or environment. Awareness is the first step to breaking bad habits.

Avoid Highly Palatable Foods:

Reducing exposure to highly processed and hyper-palatable foods can decrease cravings. These foods are designed to be almost irresistible and can create a cycle of dependency that’s hard to break. It’s hard to stop at a serving of foods that are both high in carbohydrates, which break down to sugar, and/or high in fats (i.e. chips and salsa, french fries). Reducing intake of foods that are in a box, package or bag with multiple ingredients can help with this.

Healthy Substitutions:

Swap out high-calorie cravings with healthier alternatives that align with your dietary goals. For instance, choose a protein bar instead of a chocolate bar or a low-calorie ice cream alternative.

Stay Prepared and Satiated:

Keep hunger at bay by eating balanced meals throughout the day that are rich in protein, fiber and healthy fats. This helps in preventing the intense peaks of hunger that can lead to cravings.

Manage Stress and Emotions:

Implement stress management techniques such as box breathing, a quick walk around the block, or calling that friend who you know will make you laugh. Emotional well-being is crucial in preventing cravings that stem from feelings of stress and anxiety.

Modify Your Environment:

Control your food environment by keeping tempting foods out of sight. Shop smart by sticking to the grocery store’s perimeter and avoiding aisles filled with processed foods.

THE ROLE OF MINDSET IN MANAGING CRAVINGS

Understanding the psychological triggers of cravings is as important as managing them through dietary choices. Often, cravings are not about the food itself but about what the food represents – an emotional relief or a reward. By recognizing this, you can begin to break the cycle.

Think about your long-term health goals and the person you aim to become. When faced with a craving, assess whether indulging aligns with these aspirations. Short-term discomfort can lead to long-term success!

Willpower alone is often insufficient to manage cravings sustainably. Instead, focus on creating healthy habits that become part of your lifestyle. This might mean preparing meals in advance, choosing restaurants that offer healthier options or practicing mindfulness to enhance your awareness of eating trigger foods.

Successfully managing food cravings requires a comprehensive approach that includes understanding the differences between hunger and cravings, making smart dietary choices and adjusting your emotional responses to food. By implementing these strategies, you not only curb cravings but also foster a healthier relationship with food, leading to improved well being and body composition. Remember, it’s not about denying yourself the pleasure of eating but about making informed choices that contribute to long-term health and happiness.

A little about me:

My name is Jane Burnette, and I’m passionate about health and wellness. As a holistic health coach with a degree from UNC Chapel Hill and numerous certifications, I specialize in lifestyle changes that empower people to achieve their health goals.

My mission is simple: guide clients to optimize their daily habits so their bodies’ natural healing processes can kick in. Rather than focus on diets or quick fixes, I teach sustainable strategies for nutrition, exercise, stress relief and more.

PEOPLE OF PROMINENCE SERIES

by MICHAEL JOHNSON

Chad Morris

Chad Morris is the founder and co-owner of Chad’s Chai. He has created myriad unique mixes for his own chai tea blends as well as a wide array of other teas that people have enjoyed for years in Winston-Salem. Chad spoke to Forsyth Woman as a local person of prominence and business owner.

WHERE DID YOU GROW UP?

I was born in Minnesota, but as a child, I lived in North Carolina, South Carolina and even Pennsylvania. A pivotal moment was when my family moved to Spain when I was seven. My parents were missionaries who wanted to serve overseas, and we lived in Valencia and, ultimately, in Barcelona. Both sets of grandparents lived in Winston-Salem, so I moved here after I finished high school.

I then went to college in Georgia with hopes of being a church youth director and serving others in that capacity. I never had any notion of being a businessman or an owner. I’ve always been more interested in people.

I always thought I would return to living abroad. I pursued a graduate school program in South Carolina and just figured I would be a mentor or leader of youth, potentially overseas.

WHAT WERE THE EARLY INCLINATIONS TOWARDS YOUR LINE OF BUSINESS WITH TEA?

During grad school, I had neighbors who had spent significant time in England where there is a large Indian population. My neighbors would make a huge pot of Indian-style chai and invite people over once a month. It was a beautiful communal occasion. I was hooked on chai and then decided I could create a blend using ingredients from a local Indian provision store –something of my own to share with others. Even to this day, it is our motto “Tea worth sharing.” Tea has always been about sharing for me.

WHAT WAS THE REAL SPARK THAT IGNITED THE BUSINESS?

If we fast-forward to about 2003, I moved to Winston-Salem after graduation instead of going abroad. One of my great friends here was someone with whom I would hang out with Friday mornings and we would enjoy chai. We would sit, talk about all sorts of topics and “solve” the world’s problems.

Eventually, he was planning his wedding, and he asked if I could help provide little satchels for guests filled with my chai blend. That’s really when I was forced to perfect my ratios of spices. During that time, we would also play poker with other friends where I met one of the original owners of the Irish pub known as Finnigan’s Wake. He wanted me to provide loose leaf teas to his place because it would be a great fit for the Irish fare. For the next seven months, as they were getting ready to open the restaurant, I worked tirelessly to create my first chai blends and to source other teas!

It was a slow build in those first few years, but it eventually grew into us providing tea to many coffee shops, bakeries and other restaurants here, and even in other cities and states.

THINK BACK TO THE BEGINNING OF YOUR BUSINESS AND WHAT YOUR VISION WAS.

It has always been about community. For me, good tea was a by-product of fellowship. It has been something to savor and share in good times and in challenging times. I wanted my tea to bring people together. We started out

connecting with people at Cobblestone Farmers Market and Black Mountain Chocolate, where we could promote our vision of tea worth sharing.

WHAT HAS MADE YOU MOST PROUD IN TERMS OF WHAT YOU HAVE BUILT?

Once we designed this tea house here on Liberty Street, I could see how impressive it would be, but that was just a computerized rendering. Once it was completed and we held our first soft openings, I was overwhelmed by how it felt to see so many enjoying what we had wanted to offer to others. It was a place where people from all walks of life were going to gather and experience some respite.

WITH ALL OF YOUR SUCCESS, WHAT PLEASANTLY SURPRISES YOU THE MOST?

That we have built this and are serving so many on a daily basis. I like to say that I started this business just so I could enjoy great tea with friends. But, honestly, I am always a bit astounded that this has blossomed into so many others sharing this experience with me. I am constantly reliving my joy when someone else enjoys our products.

WHO WOULD YOU NOMINATE AS A PERSON OF PROMINENCE, AND WHY HAVE YOU CHOSEN THIS PERSON?

I would nominate someone like Danny Narvaez. Danny is a person who thinks about others and how to serve them well. He currently works at the Rescue Mission. He is working on going to an undisclosed country in Asia to work with the locals by creating a coffee house outreach to the needy, serving this population with provisions of food and clothing. I love his passion to help bring hope to the parts of society that many of us try to act like they do not exist. I love that his plan is to empower the people that live in a particular area to do the work of seeing this vision come alive.

Chad’s Chai

617 N. Liberty Street Downtown Winston-Salem chadschai.com

Email is a great communication tool, but it can also lead to misunderstandings and other problems. Some of my greatest communication fails have involved email – things like replying to all when I didn’t mean to, sending an email to the wrong person and responding in anger when someone sent me a snarky email.

Here are 10 tips to make the most of your emails:

1. USE GOOD SUBJECT LINES.

Use a good subject line to entice people to read your email, providing key information about the content. If you are forwarding or talking about a new topic on a chain, rewrite the subject line for clarity and to avoid confusion.

2. KEEP IN MIND THAT EMAILS DON’T RELAY TONE.

People may read your tone differently than what you intend. A good opening to your email can be helpful. Something like, “Hi Kim. I hope you had a great weekend. Just touching base on the project we talked about last week…” Sounds better than, “Where are you with that project?” right?

3. DON’T TYPE IN ALL CAPS.

You’ve probably heard this before, but it makes people feel like you are yelling at them.

4. USE HEADINGS, BULLETS AND NUMBERS.

Use a heading, if appropriate, to break up the text and make it more readable. Use bullets or numbers instead of a long sentence with three or more items.

5. DON’T USE EMAIL AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR HUMAN INTERACTION.

Email has its place, but it doesn’t take the place of human interaction where you can share, ask questions, listen and get feedback. We’ve probably all dealt with the back-and-forth emails that could have been resolved much more rapidly had you just talked about it.

6. EMAILS SHOULDN’T BE A DISSERTATION.

Have you ever received an email that went on for four to five pages? No one is going to read all that! Keep your emails short and concise, taking extra words out of your sentences where possible.

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7. PUT THE MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION FIRST.

Have you noticed that people’s attention spans are short? Put the most important information first to make sure that it is read and include facts and explanations later in the message.

8. GIVE THEM SOME PERSONALITY.

Use power words in your emails such as great, captivate, lead, excellent, appreciate, create, brainstorm, productive, collaborate, connect, happy and together. Emojis can be included, but don’t overdo it – and make them appropriate for the message. Have you ever gotten a message that seemed like a personal attack with a smiley face at the end? Adding that smiley face doesn’t make it okay!

9. PAUSE BEFORE YOU SEND A NASTYGRAM. We have all been there where we want to fire off a nastygram email, but don’t do it! It’s best to step away and regain your composure.

10. MAKE IT PERSONAL.

Use their name in the email and show empathy where you can to make it more personal.

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for Health

Iby RACHEL ZIMMER hyggeabode.com

n the heart of Winston-Salem, where the hustle of city life meets the tranquility of southern charm, the Danish concept of hygge (pronounced “hoo-ga”) has found a welcoming home. Best described as the art of creating warmth and enjoying everyday moments, hygge is not just a design aesthetic but a pathway to a healthier and happier life. As a nurse researcher specializing in the intersection of lifestyle and health, I’ve observed firsthand the profound impact that embracing hygge can have on emotional and physical well-being.

THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF HYGGE

Hygge is more than just being cozy; it’s a mindful appreciation of simplicity, comfort and connection with others which significantly reduces stress and increases happiness. Research indicates that stress can lead to a host of health problems, including heart disease, diabetes and depression. By fostering a hygge lifestyle, individuals can create an environment that promotes relaxation and well-being.

The warmth and community that hygge encourages also plays a crucial role in emotional health. In Denmark, often cited as one of the happiest countries in the world, hygge is a way of life that emphasizes social connections. These connections are vital, as numerous studies show that strong social ties can increase lifespan and combat health issues like depression.

PRACTICAL WAYS TO HYGGE YOUR LIFE

Integrating hygge into your daily routine can be both delightful and simple. Here are some practical tips to get started:

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Create a Cozy Space: Focus on making your living space a sanctuary of comfort. In Winston-Salem, local shops offer a variety of soft lighting options, plush throws and comfortable pillows that can transform any room into a cozy retreat.

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Enjoy Simple Pleasures: Whether it’s a hot cup of coffee with friends or a focused breathing session, take the time to savor moments in your day. Hygge is about appreciating the small joys in life.

3Connect with Nature: Our region is home to so many beautiful parks and greenways. As the weather has gotten warmer, consider going outside for leisurely walks. Be mindful when you are walking outside, listening to the birds and feeling the air on your skin. Engaging with the natural world is a key aspect of hygge and promotes both physical activity and mental relaxation.

4Foster Relationships: Make time for family dinners or gatherings with friends on a regular basis. Consider going to some of the new community spaces at Bailey Park, which provides an ideal setting for picnics and casual get togethers. Studies have shown that having strong social ties can increase lifespan. Being in a community with others can provide emotional support, improve mental well-being and help to encourage healthier lifestyle choices.

5Unplug and Unwind: Set aside time to disconnect from digital devices on a regular basis. Instead of picking up your phone, pick up a book from a local bookstore or library, and spend the evening reading. Disconnecting from digital devices not only reduces stress but also helps in maintaining a healthy sleep cycle if you decrease the use of devices in the evening hours.

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Engage in Creative Activities: Hygge isn’t just passive relaxation –it’s also finding joy in active engagement. Attend a pottery class, start a new hobby or start a home craft project. These activities not only relax the mind but also provide a sense of accomplishment.

LOCAL RESOURCES TO EXPLORE Winston-Salem is ripe with opportunities to embrace hygge. Reynolda Gardens offers a tranquil environment to enjoy both art and serene gardens. For those looking to combine coziness with community, our local farmer’s markets are great places to meet local artisans and gather fresh, wholesome ingredients.

Incorporating hygge into your lifestyle doesn’t require a complete overhaul –simple changes can significantly enhance your well-being. As we continue to navigate the stresses of modern life, finding ways to implement the principles of hygge can offer a respite for both the mind and body. In Winston-Salem, the spirit of hygge can be a guiding force toward a happier, healthier life.

Dr. Rachel Zimmer, RN, DNP, NP-C, is an expert in the nexus of health, food and home environments and a dedicated nurse researcher at Wake Forest School of Medicine. She is the visionary founder of Hygge Abode, your go-to source for ethical and fair-trade home essentials. With a passion for education and community wellness, she spearheads Fresh Food Rx, a produce prescription initiative dedicated to tackling food insecurity and promoting nutritious living.

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A of Care

Introducing Dr. Katelyn Simmons

by MARTIE EMORY

With a caring and compassionate intention that has served generations of women in the Winston-Salem area, Hawthorne Obstetrics & Gynecology continues to thrive in the field of women’s wellness. Devoted to treating every patient like family, Hawthorne OB-GYN providers can deliver newborns at either Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist or Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center – convenient to everywhere in the Triad.

As the Hawthorne legacy of excellence continues to shine through the years, the practice grows with talented new providers, including Dr. Katelyn Simmons, who joined the group in September of 2022. Born and raised in Houma, Louisiana, Katie’s father was a nurse anesthetist, introducing her to the medical field at an early age. She earned an undergraduate degree in 2014 in biological sciences from Louisiana State University in Baton Rouge, and then attended LSU Medical School in Shreveport, LA, where she earned her medical degree in 2018, receiving an award for excellence in OB-GYN.

Katie went on to complete her obstetrics and gynecology residency at Ochsner Medical Center in New Orleans, LA, earning distinction in laparoscopic surgery in 2021. She met her now husband, Kyle, during their undergraduate studies, and they more recently found themselves making Winston-Salem their home after a series of fateful connections. Kyle is an attorney, and the two have a little girl, Amelia, who is nine-and-a-half months old, along with another outdoor companion, beloved dog Ozzy!

“The last hurricane in Louisiana made me think about where we wanted to raise a family,” Katie shares. “Winston-Salem is a great place for families, and we especially love all the outdoor activities. As cliché as it sounds, being close to the beach and mountains was a factor!”

Katie definitely views her job very differently as she’s now a new mother herself and is thoughtful about addressing the challenges of the life/work balance that many women face.

“I think what’s interesting about the OB-GYN field is realizing and focusing on the adaptability of women, from teenagers to menopause,” says Katie, who currently cares for patients of all ages. “Think about what all we go through as women.”

As part of the Hawthorne team, Katie enjoys educating patients and stressing preventive care, while collaborating with women to make important decisions about their personal care – a mantra that began back in 1983 when Dr. Richard E. Hedrick, Jr. opened the office as a solo practice. Dr. Hedrick wanted to provide women the absolute best care in the Triad, so he expanded his team to offer the same high-quality service to more teens and adults. Since then, Hawthorne OB-GYN has added board-certified physicians, nurse practitioners and sonographers to the team.

“Our focus has always been on providing top-quality care in obstetrics and gynecology, and we’ve invested in state-of-the-art technology and new services such as in-office ultrasounds for high-risk patients to deliver on that promise,” says Lisa Yokeley, practice administrator. “Services we provide include preventive care, well-woman exams, complete family planning, preconception, infertility services, ultrasounds, mammography and expert diagnosis and treatment of complex issues like pelvic organ prolapse, as well as maintaining optimal wellness during and after menopause.”

Hawthorne Obstetrics & Gynecology welcomes new patients of any age and is conveniently located at 4605 Country Club Road in Winston-Salem. Call them at 336.768.3632 for an appointment or schedule online at Hawthorneobgyn.com. Office hours are Monday through Thursday 8:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m. and Friday 8:00 a.m. - 3:00 p.m.

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Anthony L. Masciello MD, FACOG

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Must-Visit Wineries in 2024

by SUZY FIELDERS

As a kid, summer was always this wonderful time with no school, fun in the sun and carefree days. Granted, as adults we can’t exactly get out of work for an entire summer, but we can still have lots of fun in the sun with a carefree attitude. One way to capture that fun and carefreeness is by visiting wineries and mapping together a local winery tour. Luckily, Forsyth County is situated in the ideal

CHILDRESS VINEYARDS

This is a staple winery in the area and a must-visit one. Their sun-kissed fruit wines and wine slushies are refreshing treats on a hot, summer day. They offer tastings, tours and a bistro.

Location: 1000 Childress Vineyards Road, Lexington, NC 27295

DIVINE LLAMA VINEYARDS

What’s better than sipping on wine and enjoying an amazing view? Adding in some llamas! They often have food trucks on the weekends.

Location: 4126 Divine Llama Lane, East Bend, NC 27018

DYNAMIS ESTATE WINES

Located conveniently right off I-77, this winery provides stunning views and luxurious wines. Reservations are required at this winery, and you have the option to book a tasting or private seating area.

Location: 1004 Highland Road, Jonesville

JOLO WINERY & VINEYARDS

spot on the Yadkin River that places us within an easy drive to so many amazing wineries.

This summer, grab your friends or significant other and make a point to tour one, or more, amazing wineries. In fact, we encourage you to visit 11! Below are 11 wineries worth visiting this summer to create your very own winery tour. Salud!

SANDERS RIDGE VINEYARD

The wines here taste every bit award winning. Plus, the restaurant on site has absolutely scrumptious food. The views are also unforgettable. It’s the perfect spot for an adult summer day trip!

Location: 219 Jolo Winery Lane, Pilot Mountain, NC 27041

LAUREL GRAY VINEYARDS

This winery offers a fun atmosphere with sophisticated wine choices. It has so many beautiful outdoor sitting areas to sip on wine with friends, family or that special someone. Location: 5726 Old U.S. 421, Hamptonville, NC 27020

MCRITCHIE WINERY & CIDERWORKS

This cute and quaint destination has everything you’d hope for in a winery. It provides an intimate setting for wine tastings. Not only do they make and sell wine, but they have cider, as well.

Location: 315 Thurmond PO Road, Thurmond, NC 28683

MEDALONI CELLARS

You don’t even need to leave Forsyth County to visit this winery. This winery provides a rustic appeal and offers tons of fun events, like trivia nights and wine dinners.

Location: 9125 Shallowford Road, Lewisville, NC 27023

RAYSON WINERY & VINEYARDS

There’s a new kid on the winery block! You might recognize this location if you ever visited Raylen, but it’s been completely revamped to offer some great new wines and food.

Location: 322 Brix Lane, Mocksville, NC 27028

& WINERY

As if the indoor space isn’t beautiful enough, their patio and the gazebolike structure on the water are stunning. You can enjoy one of their wine flights with a view and have a wonderful lunch.

Location: 3200 Round Hill Road, Boonville, NC 27011

THISTLE MEADOW WINERY

Situated west of Stone Mountain, this quaint and beautiful winery is a fun and scenic stop. Escape the heat of the Triad this summer by enjoying this mountaintop winery!

Location: 102 Thistle Meadow, Laurel Springs, NC 28644

WEATHERVANE WINERY

This winery’s unique wines sell out often, especially their holiday inspired wines. During the summer, cool off from the Carolina heat with their wine slushies.

Location: 1452 Welcome-Arcadia Road, Lexington, NC 27295

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She brings with her more than 10 years of experience working in plastic & reconstructive surgery and aesthetics. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her husband and 2 children. Her must-have skincare product is Skin Medica's TNS. She will begin seeing patients for Botox, Juvederm, and RF Microneedling.

Why

Laughter Really

is the Best Medicine

by RENEE SKUDRA

On my first day in North Carolina, I went to Harris Teeter and grabbed a dozen eggs to purchase. As I removed them from the refrigerated case, I tripped on a rug by its border and fell forward, unable to catch the 12 perfect white globes which promptly hit the floor and broke. People around me howled with laughter and one lady said “Bless your heart!” In a moment, I was laughing, too, because how could I not see the humor in the situation as store clerks ran over and yelled “you’re fine” when I really wasn’t? I learned at that moment to take the high road of laughter, realizing in a moment of supreme embarrassment that “laughter is the best medicine.” That statement is sometimes attributed to American humorist Bennett Cerf, although it has been argued that its origins are earlier with the phrase actually deriving from Proverbs 17:22 in the Old Testament.

The reality is that laughter is good for all of us in numerous ways. Its short-term benefits, according to commentators on the Mayo Clinic website are that it “enhances your intake of oxygen-rich air, stimulates your heart, lungs and muscles and increases the endorphins that are released by your brain.” (“Healthy Lifestyle: Stress Management, 9/22/2023). Laughter can improve your cardiovascular health, lower levels of cortisol (the stress hormone) and thereby contribute to overall relaxation and well being. The long term effects of laughter include improving your immune system and producing psychological benefits; whereby positive thoughts spurred on by that response can actually release neuropeptides which help fight stress and potentially the future advent of serious illnesses. In her article “The Laughter Prescription” (6/23/2016) on the National Library of Medicine website, Dr. Karolina Brook reinforces the Mayo Clinics’ position that laughter indeed has quantifiable positive physiologic benefits.

In western medicine, however, laughter, while studied for many years, was not generally perceived to have any particular healing effect until 1979, when Norman Cousins published his book “Anatomy of an Illness.” In it, he described laughter as creating an analgesic effect for pain caused by his own medical condition of ankylosing spondylitis. According to him, 10 minutes of laughter resulted in two hours of pain-free sleep. Fortunately, since that time, interest and laughter as a potential therapeutic option has grown, both in popular culture and scientific research.

Then, too, are the clear social benefits of laughter. It makes you feel good and, since it is a rather contagious phenomenon, it makes others feel good as well. As a mood enhancer, it attracts people to us, contributes to the

betterment of effective teamwork and helps defuse conflict. It seems to lift everyone’s mood. Much has been written about laughter’s role as a bonding mechanism in society in that it serves to underwrite the commonality of our shared and often challenging human condition. In my own life, I have found that laughter lessens not only stress, but depression and anxiety, as well; and has the effect of making me happier and more optimistic and better able to cope with difficult situations, disappointments and loss.

Forward-thinking doctors in the UK are actually offering laughter yoga, a combination of breathing exercises and deliberate laughter in an effort to improve their patients’ well being. Classes in our country are popping up as therapists, and physicians realize that laughing can really benefit your health. Particularly at a time when the world seems embroiled in endless division, wars, struggling with climate change and fighting on numerous fronts where inflation, poverty and crime are growing exponentially, it becomes all the more important to vigorously pursue a regimen of self care. As a single parent with a special needs child, I confess to feeling overwhelmed every day with the responsibilities of parenthood and advocating fiercely for my boy. I see great wisdom in shifting the focus to a life which is gentler, kinder, less harsh and more habitable. I now make humor a priority, focusing on finding laughable moments in my life. One of my mentors said to me – make it a habit to laugh – don’t go a day without laughing. Make a conscious effort to find something which amuses you.

Part of my laughter-inspiring repertoire presently includes watching funny movies (“Throw Momma From The Train” and “Meet The Fockers”), comedy videos and listening to comedian podcasts. I have posted sayings about laughter around my home which I read daily. I like to think of Mark Twain’s quote “The human race has one really effective weapon, and that is laughter.” Furthermore, it is fun, free and easy to use with no known side effects. My son, his heart and soul clearly, fully engaged, is laughing right now while watching a funny cat video. I join in because it feels so gosh-darn good to laugh.

Thinking About a Kitchen Remodel?

When we start a project with our clients, we don’t know in what direction it is going to take us, or them. Recently, we installed the finishing touch in a client’s kitchen – beautiful baby blue linen panels. Amongst their refinished round table and painted chairs, the window treatment is the perfect accent to blend the space into the newly remodeled kitchen. While our design process is extensive, the steps we take ensure that our clients’ designs will be more beautiful than they could ever imagine.

The first step is getting to know our clients. We want to understand their space and what hopes they have for its potential. We measure each room, along with the windows, take pictures from multiple angles and write down notes outlining our client’s every desire of their dream design. These measurements are then used to create scaled drawings we use as a guide to select new furnishings and propose remodel ideas, if requested. After that, the real fun begins where we gather fabrics and other finishes from our plethora of options and brainstorm creative ideas with these materials at the center. It’s the materials that inspire our minds and feed the part of our souls that live and breathe design.

If you look at this home’s features, we handpicked a series of materials that create a French modern, timeless design atmosphere. Herringbone patterned wood floors and inset cabinets add a modern flare and are softened by the quartz countertop and light fixtures. The brushed brass curtain rods allow the breakfast area to bleed into the newly remodeled kitchen. The painted chairs with a subtle animal print detail add a modern touch that is matched by the hand painted china cabinet that features a subtle wallpaper detail on the back panel for a unique and refined look. The mixed metals adorning the custom hood (not pictured) were curated to fit the client’s style – a mixture of two that, when brought together, create a harmonious and beautiful space that we promise will be loved for years to come.

Simple elegance is more of a statement these days. Visit us at junedelugasinteriors.com, and click “Projects” at the top of the page to see additional homes we have done. More project photos will be available in the coming months. Keep browsing our website for the latest photos of homes soon to come.

Blessings,

June

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by LAUREN SEPHTON

Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer and a food blogger with a passion for food that tastes good and is good for you! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

The Fluffiest Cottage Cheese Pancakes

Are you tired of flat pancakes? Because, same. After weeks of recipe testing, here are THE Fluffiest Cottage Cheese Pancakes that are high in protein, made in a blender and will keep you fueled through your morning!

Servings: 3 Prep Time: 5 minutes

Cook Time: 10 minutes Total Time: 15 minutes

INGREDIENTS

1 ½ cups Cottage Cheese

1 cup All Purpose Flour

2 large Eggs

¼ cup Granulated Cane Sugar

1 tsp. Baking Powder

¼ tsp. Fine Sea Salt

Unsalted Butter, for cooking

Maple Syrup, for serving

INSTRUCTIONS

1. In a high-speed blender, combine the cottage cheese, flour, eggs, sugar, baking powder and salt. Pulse until very smooth.

2. Place a griddle pan over medium heat. Once hot, grease with the butter.

3. Use a large ice cream scooper to add ¼ cup batter per pancake onto the greased griddle.

4. Cook for two to three minutes until you see air bubbles and edges are set, then flip. Cook for another two to three minutes, until golden and fluffy.

5. Enjoy warm with fresh fruits and maple syrup!

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DYNAMIS ESTATE WINES’

SUNDAY SUPPER: A CULINARY JOURNEY

by KATHARINE ROSENTHAL photography by PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

THE DYNAMIS EXPERIENCE

Nestled atop the highest vineyards in Yadkin County and sprawled across a vast 1,500-acre estate is Dynamis Estate Wines. Dynamis isn’t just your average winery – it’s a lavish escape. As you pass through the gates, a sense of anticipation builds. A scenic 2.5-mile private drive winds its way up the mountain, offering glimpses of the stunning natural landscape and the undulating contours of the vineyards. Once you arrive at the Tasting Lodge, you sense the ambiance of intimate, yet refined, the perfect setting for an unforgettable tasting experience.

Whether you’re a seasoned wine aficionado or a curious novice, Dynamis offers something for everyone. Welcome to Dynamis Estate Wines, where luxury meets vineyard perfection.

SUNDAY SUPPER SERIES

Dynamis is excited to start offering the Sunday Supper Series, a monthly culinary experience to foster community while gathering around the table with a chef-cooked meal and a glass of wine. A Sunday Supper host greets you by name, you are kindly given a welcome glass of wine, and you settle in with other guests for an unforgettable dining experience.

Chef Peter’s culinary style is rooted in comfort and nostalgia. His dishes evoke memories of cherished family meals, each bite a reminder of the simple pleasures in life. In his kitchen, simplicity is key, and each ingredient is allowed to shine in its own way. With Chef Peter at the helm, you’re in for a dining experience that’s as comforting as it is delicious.

The Sunday Supper Series transcends the realm of simply

enjoying delectable cuisine and exquisite wine. It serves as a means to cultivate a sense of community. Dynamis recognizes the significance of individuals coming together around a table to forge connections. A tightly woven community holds great importance for various reasons, as it enriches the sense of belonging and nurtures personal growth among its members.

During Sunday Supper, guests will be seated alongside other groups in a communal fashion. You get to know other guests and hear about their life experiences and interests. People from all walks of life gather here, each with their own stories to share. While savoring your comforting one-course meal and desiring another glass of wine, your host will suggest a superb wine pairing, or you may select your preferred wine. After enjoying their supper, guests are offered to indulge in a Bobby Boy Bakeshop entremets for dessert.

READY TO EXPERIENCE SUNDAY SUPPERS?

Now is an exciting time to visit Dynamis Estate Wines. To book your spot at the table, head to their website, dynamisestatewines.com, or give them a call at 336.468.6702. To stay up-to-date on all their upcoming events, follow them on Instagram @dynamisestatewines.

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Elevating Patient Care: The Forsyth Eye Health & Surgery Difference

Having a consistent rapport with your doctor can be a challenge in today’s healthcare setting, but for one local private practice, things are refreshingly different. Dr. Susanna Ringeman is proud of the ethos and quality of care for those whom she attends at her private practice in Winston-Salem.

Dr. Ringeman opened Forsyth Eye Health and Surgery in August of 2019. Her ophthalmology practice offers medical and surgical care for a range of eye conditions including cataracts, macular degeneration, glaucoma, dry eye, blepharitis, thyroid eye disease, diabetic eye care, allergic conjunctivitis and many other systemic conditions that affect the eyes.

She and her staff are very attentive to each and every patient.

“We strive to maintain long-lasting relationships while offering high quality, personalized, state-ofthe-art eye care,” she said.

“We are a small, private practice intent on treating patients and their families as individuals. Due to the complexity of our healthcare system today, getting personalized medical care can be a daunting process to navigate.

In addition to Dr. Ringeman and an amazing support staff of six women, Dr. Carol Ziel joined the team last October and

specializes in medical ophthalmology and glaucoma care. After a long and successful career in the Winston-Salem area, Dr. Ziel retired in 2021. She realized she missed ophthalmology and direct patient care. She says, “working with Dr. Ringeman’s practice is a good fit to continue practicing in the field I so enjoy.” A frequent speaker at ophthalmology meetings across the country, she was instrumental in showing how cataract surgery could be the best treatment for angle closure glaucoma.

“The number one goal at Forsyth Eye is for patients to feel like they can get in touch with us directly and be able to get the highest quality care they need right away, when they need it. Our staff prioritizes each patient by providing a prompt response to address their specific concerns right away.” Additionally, Forsyth Eye Health and Surgery strives for optimized scheduling efficiency with minimal wait times. Dr. Ringeman’s website says it all: “Experienced, Compassionate, Eye Care.”

Dr. Ringeman comments, “I opened the practice to provide a setting where people felt like their voice and medical needs were heard, while still getting the most up-to-date care. I also wanted to be able to have flexibility to raise my young family”.

Originally from Covington, Louisiana, Dr. Ringeman completed medical school at LSU School of Medicine in Shreveport,

Louisiana in 2007. She stayed in Shreveport to complete her ophthalmology residency and graduated in 2011. Since moving to Winston-Salem in 2012, she’s worked in both private practice and as an assistant professor at Wake Forest Ophthalmology.

Dr. Ringeman is Board Certified by the American Board of Ophthalmology, a member of the American Academy of Ophthalmology, a member of the American Society of Cataract & Refractive Surgeons, and is the Chairman of Ophthalmology for Forsyth Medical Center.

“Ophthalmology is a fascinating field because there are so many health conditions that involve the eyes, which often are first detected during a routine eye exam,” adds Dr. Ringeman.

“Screening for glaucoma and macular degeneration are especially important because there are often no symptoms, yet with preventative care, we can slow – and at times prevent –devastating vision loss.”

It’s important for everyone over the age of 40 to have a dilated eye exam every one to two years to screen for these conditions. The dilated exam is an important tool whereby the entire visual system is evaluated; though having your eyes dilated is time consuming, it may help prevent vision loss down the road.

Within her field, Dr. Ringeman has a passion for performing cataract surgery and working with patients to optimize their vision and maintain their quality of life. “We primarily see aging adults and, for many patients, this means cataract surgery to

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Bingo, the office mascot, is a calming presence around the back office of the Forsyth Eye Health and Surgery team.

maintain vision. Cataract surgery helps maintain independence, quality of life and can also help slow the progression of dementia.

“Our goal is customized vision so that patients can continue living their life independently and to the fullest. It’s gratifying to know we are able to make a direct impact by helping patients enjoy life in their later years with better vision.”

Uneke Okori, a patient who had cataract surgery this spring reported this about his recent experience: “Since February 2024, I’m able, for the first time in 35 years, to read a computer screen, watch TV and drive without eye glasses, courtesy of Dr Susanna Ringeman. And, that’s the miracle of ophthalmology! The patient care and professionalism of Dr Ringeman and her team is, and has been, extraordinarily outstanding. I’m grateful to Dr Ringeman and team.”

Linda Cole is a long time patient who still regularly travels to WinstonSalem from near Virginia to see Dr. Ringeman comments, “Dr. Ringeman restored my confidence in being able to see so clearly in

order to once again drive at night and in bad weather. My driving gives me freedom and enjoyment in my everyday life. The procedures, treatments and yearly exams are off the charts! Dr. Ringeman and the staff are so kind and understanding. She is simply THE BEST!”

Another longtime patient, Jerry Tilley, says he “cannot thank Dr. Ringeman and her staff enough for how they helped improve my quality of life. My cataracts were so bad in both eyes that it was difficult to drive at night and impossible to follow my golf ball after hitting it. My vision in my right eye improved from 20/60 to 20/15 and my left eye from 20/50 to 20/20. Dr. Ringeman is extremely knowledgeable and has exceptional bedside manner. She eliminated my fear of surgery by thoroughly explaining the procedure and what I should expect. I give Dr. Ringeman my highest recommendation!”

Forsyth Eye Health & Surgery is located at 2827 Lyndhurst Ave, Suite 204, WinstonSalem, NC, 336.842.5477. Visit them online at forsytheyehealth.com for more information on their services or to schedule your first consultation!

Dr. Carol Ziel

When planning for retirement, we often focus on the accumulation phase – saving diligently and investing wisely. We spend 40 or more years of our lives focused on building the proverbial “nest egg,” but, after retirement, things change and so should our financial focus.

There are a variety of questions that must be answered. How much should you be withdrawing annually? Should you go with your IRA first or your brokerage account? Should you withdraw a fixed percentage or fixed amount? How much will you leave behind?

Having a well planned withdrawal strategy is important:

• It helps prolong the lifespan of your retirement savings.

• It may reduce your overall tax burden.

• It can provide a more balanced income stream.

• It can help in preserving your wealth for legacy purposes.

Retirees, What’s Your Withdrawal Strategy? Making Dollars, Making $ense

BY BRANDON JAMES, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

FOUR COMMON WITHDRAWAL STRATEGIES

There are a number of ways you can go about withdrawing money in retirement. As always, it helps to get advice from a valued financial advisor, but it never hurts to educate yourself on some options beforehand. We’ve compiled a list of four below that are commonly used. Which one sounds like the suitable fit for you?

1. The 4% Rule

You’ve probably heard of the 4% rule, a guideline suggesting that you withdraw 4% of your retirement savings in the first year of retirement, adjusting for inflation in subsequent years. For instance, if you have $3 million in retirement savings, you withdraw $120,000 in the first year.

This rule aims to provide a steady income while keeping the principal balance largely intact. However, it’s not onesize-fits-all. The rule doesn’t account for market volatility, interest rate trends, tax implications, unexpected expenses or changing personal circumstances.

2. Fixed-Dollar Withdrawals

Some retirees choose to withdraw a set amount of money each year for a certain number of years. For instance, you might opt to take out $100,000 every year and then check if this amount still works for you after five years. This approach gives you a steady income to plan your budget around, but it doesn’t consider the rising cost of living due to inflation. Also, if you set the amount too high, you might start eating too far into the money you have invested. Plus, if the market is down and your investments are worth less, you might have to sell more than you’d like to get the cash you need.

3. Fixed-Percentage

Withdrawals

Another withdrawal strategy is to take out a certain percentage of your total investments each year. How much money you’ll get can change since it depends on how much your portfolio is worth at the time. This can make your annual income a bit unpredictable, but if you withdraw a

smaller percentage than what your investments are expected to earn, your income and the value of your account could actually go up over time. But, be careful – if you take out too much, you might run out of money sooner than you think.

For example, if you have $3 million saved up for retirement, and you decide to withdraw 3% per year, you’ll have $90,000 to use that year.

4. Systematic Withdrawals

With a systematic withdrawal strategy, you only withdraw the income (such as dividends or interest) created by the underlying investments in your portfolio. Because your principal remains intact, this is designed to prevent you from running out of money and may afford you the potential to grow your investments over time, while still providing retirement income. However, the amount of income you receive in any given year will vary, since it depends on market performance. There’s also the risk that the amount you’re able to withdraw won’t keep pace with inflation.

Are there other withdrawal strategies? Certainly. Which strategy is suitable for you? That really depends on your unique situation. If you’re approaching retirement or lack confidence in your current strategy, we’re here to help.

“What Are Retirement Withdrawal Strategies?” BlackRock, 2023, www.blackrock.com/us/ individual/education/retirement/withdrawalrules-and-strategies. Accessed 7 Dec. 2023.

“What Are Retirement Withdrawal Strategies?” BlackRock, 2023, www.blackrock.com/us/ individual/education/retirement/withdrawalrules-and-strategies. Accessed 7 Dec. 2023.

“What Are Retirement Withdrawal Strategies?” BlackRock, 2023, www.blackrock.com/us/ individual/education/retirement/withdrawalrules-and-strategies. Accessed 7 Dec. 2023.

“What Are Retirement Withdrawal Strategies?” BlackRock, 2023, www.blackrock.com/us/ individual/education/retirement/withdrawalrules-and-strategies. Accessed 7 Dec. 2023.

Shopping local consignment, thrift and vintage stores helps reduce waste, support small business owners and sparks new hobbies among those who get a thrill out of rummaging through pre-owned goods on a Saturday afternoon. With mass consumerism running rampant with the ease of online shopping and next-day delivery options at major retailers, it’s easy to settle for convenience over quality. However, the Triad hosts a handful of locations that provide high-quality, pre-owned goods at an affordable price that benefits the environment and local economy. Before checking Amazon or “fast fashion” websites for the media, art or clothing items you need, shop secondhand in the Winston-Salem area to keep the environment healthy and local businesses happy. Below are just a few of the fabulous thrift and consignment joints in the area that offer unique, pre-owned products with storefronts just as charming.

OFF THE RACK

Downtown Winston-Salem shoppers can stop in at Trade Street’s Off The Rack to find 80s, 90s and other vintage fashion finds. Having opened in 2022, Off The Rack is newer to the Triad, but older in its sense of style. With a colorful and vibrant interior, Off The Rack houses hats, sweatshirts, shoes, T-shirts and more styles suited to your sports team, musical artist, television show or logo of choice. The store’s racks and shelves are carefully curated and organized to help shoppers find what they need at hard-to-beat prices for classic items. Toby and Ansom Lemley also recently opened a Boone location of Off The Rack at 681 West King Street to bring the Trade Street location’s success to the Watauga County residents and students at Appalachian State University. Open Wednesday through Sunday, check out the latest inventory at 619 N. Trade Street, or follow the shop on Instagram at @offtherackvtg.

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ETC. CONSIGNMENT SHOPPE

From accessories, art and apparel to room décor and gifts, etc. Consignment Shoppe at 690 Jonestown Road in Winston-Salem has enough in store for the entire family. While many consignment shops focus primarily on adult clothing, etc. sells clothing, shoes, books, toys and room décor for babies and children. Owned by Debbie Shough, etc. was opened in 1995 and has since added 12,000 square feet to its original retail space. With international mission work near and dear to the hearts of Debbie and her husband Steve, etc. partners with organizations to donate clothing and resources to children such as On Wings Like a Dove and Good Neighbor Center, as well as organizations like greeNest and The Dream Center to help provide support, housing and furnishings to families in need. The Shoppe also supports The Parenting Path, a non-profit organization dedicated to educating families, improving relationships between parents and children, and striving to create a community less impacted by trauma and abuse. Interested in consigning with etc.? Check out informational videos, consignment guidelines and FAQs at etcconsignmentshoppe.com to find out how to get involved, browse inventory and learn more about the team. For additional questions, reach a team member at 336.659.7786. Shop the storefront on Mondays through Saturdays from 10:00 a.m. until 5:00 p.m.

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HIBACHI CHICKEN & FRIED RICE

by TANNER JOHNSON

For June, I wanted to share a summertime classic meal that we make almost weekly at the house. It’s great for a crowd, fairly simple and a pretty quick cook – hibachi chicken and fried rice on the griddle.

Ingredients:

• 1 pack (6) Boneless/Skinless Chicken thighs – sliced into ½-1 inch cubes

• Marinade: S&P, 2 T olive oil, 2 T soy sauce, 2 T sesame oil, 1 T rice vinegar, couple squirts of sriracha (if you want some spice) and ½ cup of Bachans Japanese BBQ Sauce (or any kind of teriyaki sauce)

• Jasmine Rice (1-1½ cups for serving 2 people) – I usually like to make around 2-2½ cups to have some leftover fried rice with the chicken for the next day

• 2-3 eggs

• Some kind of green – zucchini or broccoli (or both) work well for this dish

Instructions:

1. First, you’ll want to cook the jasmine rice the day before – or at least a few hours before you’re cooking the rest. I always cook it in a rice maker, then let it sit in the fridge for a day before. I also like to go ahead and marinate the chicken with the above ingredients the day before, so when you’re ready to cook the next day, there’s a lot less prep!

2. Note: You could cook all of this on a couple of large skillets or one of those indoor breakfast griddles, but I always love using the blackstone for this. You have so much room and different heat zones for a smooth, easy cook.

3. When you’re ready to get to cooking, preheat the griddle to medium heat, add on your chicken and veggies and keep stirring frequently. Cook until everything looks nice and done. (Chicken thighs this way usually take around 10-12 minutes on medium heat.)

4. While the greens and chicken are cooking, melt a couple pats of butter

and lay down your previously cooked rice on the griddle top, creating a square-ish shape that isn’t too thick so it can get crisped up nicely.

5. Add your eggs to the griddle, scramble them up and, once done, stir the egg into the rice.

6. Next, add a good amount of soy sauce and a few dashes of sesame oil.

7. Keep stirring the rice around and add more soy sauce or sesame oil, as needed.

8. The fried rice should also take around 10-12 minutes. Once it starts to look darker brown and crispy, give it a quick taste test.

9. Pull everything off and combine for a delicious hibachi at home!

For more recipes and demos, follow Tanner on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook @919backyardbbq

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3 Easy Tips

for Being a Better Communicator

by LESLIE SPEAS

Communication is key for success at work no matter what your position, but especially if you are a leader. In today’s busy world, we are all overloaded with information, and it is hard to get other’s attention. People are consuming content and communication quickly. In fact, it has been said that humans’ attention spans are now less than that of a goldfish (goldfish eight seconds, human seven seconds). You have to get others’ attention quickly, or they have moved on to something else.

HERE ARE THREE EASY TIPS TO ELEVATE YOUR COMMUNICATION

#1 KEEP IT SHORT AND SIMPLE

• K.I.S.S. (keep it simple, stupid) K.I.S.S. is a good guideline to use when it comes to being clear in your communication. Long, complicated messages with big words can be hard to understand, so try to replace long words and sentences with shorter ones. Keep your messages as clear, simple and straightforward as possible. You don’t have to use big, fancy words to show how smart you are. Keep it at a level that everyone can understand.

• Watch the acronyms and corporate jargon! Businesses seem to love acronyms, and some people, particularly new employees, often don’t know what they mean and are afraid to ask. Corporate jargon includes using words or phrases like deep dive, bandwidth, synergy, blue sky thinking, ducks in a row and lowhanging fruit. In a recent study from LinkedIn, almost half of Gen Z and Millennial workers reported that workplace jargon is confusing and is making them feel left out.

• Keep emails and other written communications short and to-the-point. Don’t even get me started on emails! If you send a two-page email, I can assure you that no one is going to read it. Keep your written communications short, use headers and bullets, and eliminate unnecessary words and phrases.

#2 OVERCOMMUNICATE

• Did you know that people typically need to hear something seven times before it sticks? Do you know what that means? You need to do what probably feels like overcommunication! In his book, The Advantage, Patrick Lencioni said that one of the roles of the leader is to be the chief reminding officer.

• It may feel awkward to relay the same message multiple times, but it’s necessary for it to take root and for employees to understand that it’s important. Also, keep in mind that it’s good to use different mediums as what works for one employee won’t work for all.

#3 LISTEN

• I believe that listening is the most important communication skill. Being a good listener will improve your ability to influence others and help in avoiding conflict and misunderstandings. In addition, it validates the other person and makes him or her feel valued.

• Most of us know what to do to be a good listener. We just don’t always do it! Minimizing distractions to give the other person your full attention; not formulating your response in your head as you are “listening,” and using your body language are all things that can help in the quest to actively listen.

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by MARTIE EMORY

Ask Co-owner Justin Lingafelt about the real magic behind the success of Accent Prone, and he’ll assure you it’s the well-assembled “Super Team” that backs the business every single day.

Side-by-side with his wife and co-founder, Cheri, this equally super duo of entrepreneurs is leading their Accent Prone family into a celebration of 12 years of defining eclectic style.

Cheri and Justin opened the store in 2012 in their hometown of Kernersville, NC, and since then, their family has grown – both personally (the addition of adorable sons, Brooks and Beckett) and professionally with a team that nurtures clients looking to elevate their personal spaces.

“Everyone deserves a pretty, relaxing home to return to at the end of the day,” says Cheri. “Our store functions dually as a showroom and shopping destination – but also as a point of inspiration for shoppers.”

A lover of both rustic and modern design, Cheri takes pride in the store’s fully styled vignettes that beautifully showcase the product. Justin’s creative eye leans towards casual and contemporary, but he’s all about mixing in traditional elements. Both favor a hands-on approach to coordinating ideas with clients. “For example, when helping a customer

CHERI AND JUSTIN

SARAH AND ERICA

create an arrangement of greenery, we not only help choose the pieces, but put it together in-store so the customer can see the finished result, as well. It gives us an opportunity to make adjustments so they leave with something that speaks to them and fits their home,” adds Cheri.

Commemorating their Kernersville location milestone in 2024 and recently launching a new store in Huntersville, NC, also means shining the spotlight on the dream team that keeps Cheri and Justin’s shared passion for furniture and the art of interior design going strong. Ask these talented folks what’s going on behind the scenes at the store on any given day, and you’ll hear words like creativity, growing, evolving and adaptability. No two days are the same, and if there’s a midday plot twist, you can bet the creative juices are flowing!

The personal inspirations they share here vary, but the end goal for this savvy team is always the same – collaborating with clients to accent their lives.

For MADISON – fashion buyer and assistant manager – inspiration flows from introducing the newest fashion and jewelry finds on social media and encouraging customers to try something on if it catches their eye! Noting her own style as “old soul” meets new and trendy, she loves the camaraderie within the store. “Even though we each have our niche, being part of a team that grows together is something you don’t find everywhere!”

JULIE – interior designer – is equally inspired to take on a big job such as a model home or a smaller-scale one-room renovation and loves that she can be as creative as she wants to be! “My personal style has evolved over the years, but what has stayed the same is my eclecticism – that common Accent Prone theme.” She enjoys guiding customers towards repurposing items from one space to another, giving an old object new life.

DEXTER, the store’s master of warehousing and deliveries, has his own secret formula to stay inspired – always approaching the day with positivity while ensuring everyone is on the same page, prioritizing duties and continuing to always offer each other positive reinforcement.

GINA and SARAH, both visual merchandisers, discover inspiration in the constantly changing rhythm of the store itself – switching things up on a daily basis and having fun with new styles! Fellow visual merchandisers, Makenzie and Regan, find their creative push through collaboration with clients and each other. Based at the new Lake Norman location, Regan is ready to introduce new clients to the Accent Prone life!

While describing her own style as a mix of boho and traditional with a heavy dose of vintage, Store Manager and Visual Merchandiser ERICA shows customers a product’s “suggested use” but explains it’s fun to use pieces in a new way and make it their own. Emma, social media and marketing guru, feels inspired watching customers style Accent Prone’s furniture and décor to reflect their own personal tastes and loves how the team nudges them to think boldly! “Collaboration is always at the root of a typical day. Whether I’m lending a hand in the store or editing a reel for Instagram, there’s teamwork – and that’s my favorite part.”

All agree the ever-changing workflow means they could spend a morning painting the front wall a fabulous new color or staging a new corner to perfection. “Busy doing all the things!” says Erica, but working with customers always comes first.

EMMA shares words of wisdom that may be the best of all: “Don’t be afraid to not be ‘on trend’ – if you love it, it will always be in style!”

Accent Prone is located at 1022-F South Main Street in Kernersville, NC, 336.310.4753. Store hours are Monday through Saturday 10:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m., and the warehouse is open to customers on select Saturdays or by appointment. Learn about their interior design services at accentprone.com, email info@accentprone.com and follow them on Instagram @accentprone for glimpses of new products and upcoming events! Accent Prone’s newest store in Lake Norman is now open at 15435 NC-73, Huntersville, NC, 980.987.9394.

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Hustle & Heart

Embracing Competition for Brand Growth

by TARYN JEREZ , OF GOFORITCREATIVE.COM

This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Maybe it’s growing up in the Mean Girls generation where “friendly competition” wasn’t an accurate description for the cutthroat rivalry found among hallowed high school halls, but competition was rarely seen as friendly. If you’re a business owner who can relate to this, let me introduce you to a new side of competition; the helpful one.

I’d like to imagine a world where more business owners stopped fearing their competitors and, instead, embraced the ways they can make their business even better. Keep reading as I share a few simple mindset shifts to help you ditch that “competition” feeling, so you can lean in and learn from your competitors to create brand growth.

PICK UP TOOLS, TIPS & TRICKS

It’s time to pull up a chair and take a look at what your competitors –both big and small, both better and worse. Analyze their products, services, pricing strategies, marketing campaigns, social media engagement, customer service and even their messaging! This can help you gather important intel on what areas you feel like you’re doing better than the competition or find room for improvement. Take notes and refine the aspects of your brand that you know can reach higher to improve in order to meet your customers’ needs. Refine your offerings, strategies and tools to better meet the needs and desires of your target audience while honing in on what your key differentiators are.

IDENTIFY YOUR MARKET ADVANTAGE

As you begin getting a clearer image of who your competitors really are and what they are doing differently, it gives you an opportunity to gauge where you fall in the marketplace. Think about your industry and where you picture your business among the competition. Are your competitors positioning themselves above, below or even with you? Maybe there’s an underserved element of your ideal audience or a niche service or product you know you’re meant to offer that nobody else is? When you stay up to date on your competition, you can make sure your brand is carving out a unique identity in the market. You can also stay ahead of market trends you start to see taking over and how customers and followers are reacting to different approaches. Be open to evolving past your competitors and pivoting where it feels right.

CAN’T BEAT THEM? JOIN THEM

While not every competitor makes a great collaboration partner, there are absolutely brands that are practically made for a partnership! Open your eyes to the power of building relationships

to open doors to partnerships, joint ventures, co-produced products and mutually beneficial initiatives that feel aligned on both sides. Complementary businesses that serve the same target audience and values are perfect for this! Just think how you can amplify your reach and visibility, allowing you to tap into new audiences in the market and attract new customers.

It’s easy to feel like you’re growing your business in an oversaturated market sometimes. When you turn the tables and embrace your competition as the perfect place for market research and unexpected teamwork, amazing growth can happen!

HUSTLE & HEART CHALLENGE

This month, get up close and personal with your top competitors in the industry. Review what you admire most about these brands and where you see opportunities to best them. Create a list of 1-3 specific strategies you’d like to incorporate into your business this quarter.

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LEISHA PATTERSON

Leisha “Lei Lei” Patterson is the owner of My Butterfly Rose and Lei Lei’s Cuisine. “We created My Butterfly Rose to provide inspirational statement graphic t-shirts and tumblers,” said Lei Lei. She started the positive graphic t-shirt business due to mental health hitting home with one of her kids. Lei Lei is also a registered nurse, bakery shop owner, wife, mom and grandmother. She strongly believes in the power of words and speaking greatness over herself and others. “Our name comes from the nickname I call my only daughter “Butterfly” because she is always running around the house! Lei Lei’s maiden name is Roseboro hence the “rose” part of the name. She has a degree in nursing from Winston-Salem State University. In her spare time, Lei Lei enjoys giving back to the community, especially with the SaySo Organization which helps youth in the foster care system.

The American Heart Association is proud to announce Evelyn Perrott as the Go Red for Women 2024 Teen of Impact winner for her efforts to raise funds and spread awareness in the fight against heart disease and stroke in women. A Lewisville resident, Evelyn is a freshman at Forsyth Country Day School. She plays field hockey and lacrosse. She also loves tumbling. With two parents who are physicians, Evelyn has heard a lot about cardiovascular disease. She is passionate about the idea that heart disease and stroke are largely preventable and that a healthy lifestyle, regardless of your age, keeps a lot of health problems from arising. The Teen of Impact initiative supports the American Heart Association’s mission to be a relentless force for a world of longer, healthier lives. For too long, cardiovascular disease has been thought to only affect older generations. But the reality is that heart disease and stroke can affect anyone at any age, and shockingly, heart attacks are on the rise in younger populations. For more information about local programs and events, visit heart.org/Triad.

TRISH DAVIS

The American Heart Association is proud to recognize Trish Davis of AkzoNobel as the Go Red for Women 2024 Woman of Impact winner in the Triad. In the United States, cardiovascular disease is the leading cause of death in women, claiming more lives than all forms of cancer combined. At the young age of 53, Davis suffered a major heart attack in 2018. With a 100% blockage, time was critical to save her life. “Taking part in the Woman of Impact campaign was personal for me because I am a survivor. I want other women to have a platform where they can find out about this devastating disease and learn ways to combat this disease, if not eradicate it,” said Trish. Davis, along with a team of family, friends and colleagues, competed for the Woman of Impact title by participating in various community awareness and fundraising activities. “I am honored to have received this recognition, but most importantly, I am so proud of what we as women in the Triad have accomplished together to support the future of women’s heart health in our community.” For local programs and events, visit heart.org/triad.

THE MOVE

MEREDITH MILLER

Meredith Shaw Miller joined Pest-X, her family’s pest control business in 2023 after working at Workwave, the pest control industry’s leading software company as an enterprise account manager. “I managed Workwave’s largest clients and won the 2023 Chairman’s Award and earned the 2023 President’s Club,” said Meredith. “In my new role at Pest-X, I oversee the marketing, inbound sales department and human resources. I helped Pest-X grow 20% year over year in my first year. I also just won the 2024 NPMA Impact Awards for Women in Pest Management, which is awarded by the National Pest Management Association which honors and celebrates exceptional women within the pest management industry.” Meredith has a degree in business administration from Meredith College. In her spare time, she enjoys spending time with her young son and husband, reading, playing mahjong and volunteering with the Junior League of Winston-Salem.

DANIELLE KATTAN

Danielle Kattan is the creative force and owner behind The Canvas Cake Studio, where she brings a unique blend of artistry and culinary skills to the world of cake decorating. With a rich background as a fashion designer, she transitioned into the culinary field 20 years ago, driven by a passion for transforming ordinary ingredients into extraordinary edible art. At her studio, Danielle not only creates stunning, bespoke cakes for every occasion but also imparts her knowledge through teaching, offering classes that cater to enthusiasts and aspiring decorators at all skill levels. Her approach is hands-on, encouraging students to explore their creativity while mastering the technical aspects of cake design. Outside the studio, Danielle is a true connoisseur of life’s simple pleasures. She finds joy in listening to a diverse range of podcasts, from business to personal growth, which inspire her both personally and professionally. Gardening offers her a peaceful retreat, connecting her with nature and providing a source of inspiration for her designs. Staying active is also a priority for Danielle, as she believes in the balance of a healthy body and a creative mind. Through her work at The Canvas Cake Studio, Danielle continues to inspire and empower others, spreading love and beauty through the art of cake decorating.

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The Parenting PATH recently celebrated its annual Pinwheel Gala on April 20th at the Annunciation Greek Orthodox Church in Winston-Salem. It was a night to remember with record crowds of 400+ all coming together to celebrate and support The Parenting PATH and it’s mission to prevent child abuse and neglect. The event raised an astounding $128,000+ to help fund the programs and services that support local families.

Working to prevent and treat child abuse and neglect by strengthening families, enhancing parent/child relationships and creating safer, more stable communities.

Special guests and former participant Jayla and mom Jessica sharing their experience with The Parenting PATH

Board Chair Beth Winters and Parent Support Director Karen Flynt presenting this year’s Community Hero Awards to Daughters of Penelope & Greek Orthodox Ladies Philoptochos Society for their service to the community

Board member Caitlin Dorsch and friends enjoying the event

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take care of yourself: Begin with Happiness

CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY

You know who they are. You admire them and sometimes feel a twinge of envy for them, too. They are “the happy ones,” people who seem to float through their days with effortless grace and a genuinely positive attitude. You may wonder how they do it, puzzled by their apparent joy, baffled by its seeming constancy. You may even know that they, like you, have their burdens to bear and yet, they are “happy.”

WHAT’S IN IT FOR YOU

But, guess what? Being “happy” isn’t reserved for a chosen few. Okay, you’re feeling skeptical and maybe thinking: “they must have been born that way” or “it’s their personality.” Well, there is something to that. But, just as real is the fact that happy, as a state of being and a frame of mind, is available to everyone, if we choose it. Stay with me on this, please, because there is a great deal in it for you.

Happy isn’t simply a “nice to have.” Research shows an indisputable link between a happy, positive attitude and:

• a stronger immune system that allows you to ward off illness and disease.

• better health habits rooted in being motivated to take care of yourself.

• increased longevity; a longer life. Besides these major benefits, studies also reveal what we already intuitively know – happy people generally have better relationships, do well at work and are just plain easier to be around.

THE SCIENCE OF HAPPY

But, back to the premise that we are born with our happiness quotient signed, sealed and delivered. Well, according to Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, each of us does indeed have a “happiness set point.” She suggests that this genetic component may account for 50% of our happiness; 10% can be attributed to our life circumstances; and a full 40% is – you guessed it – up for grabs. Dr. Richard Davidson, who specializes in “happy brains” couldn’t agree more: “Our brains are just waiting to be transformed, and they’re always being transformed. But, we can take responsibility and change the brain in more positive ways.”

If happiness is largely within our control, then isn’t the pursuit of it – or more of it – worth a shot?

Don’t most of us deeply crave this thing called “happy?” Harvard University thought so highly of the merits of happy that they began offering a course on it in 2006. However, we don’t have to attend a prestigious university to explore the underpinnings of happiness; we simply need to be willing to learn from “The Happy.”

LEARNING FROM THE HAPPY

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Lyubomirsky has identified 12, yes 12 things that “happy people” do differently – some of which may come as a bit of a surprise. Take a look and consider which of these “happy habits” you already practice and which you might consider exploring.

1. Gratitude: Appreciating all the good things you already have.

2. Optimism: Learning from hard knocks and remaining focused on the positive.

3. Avoid over-thinking and social comparison: a win-lose game, at best.

4. Random acts of kindness: Kindness makes you feel good and tends to be contagious.

5. Social relationships: Relationship and connection.

6. Coping strategies: Developed and at the ready for when stuff happens.

7. Forgiveness: To heal your own immune system.

8. “Flow” experiences: Where you are completely engaged, in the zone.

9. Savoring joy: Appreciating the magic in the moment.

10. Working your goals: Experiencing what you can be and do!

11. Spirituality: Feeling connected to meaning beyond ourselves.

12. Take care of your body: Physical well being contributes to overall well being.

Personally, I found several strengths and two “really big” opportunities. I need to sit with this for a spell, to think about how my happy habits have served me, and how I have undermined my experience of happy in specific ways. But, there are two things I know for sure – my happiness is within my control and, yes, within my reach. I believe the same for you, too. Go ahead, start taking better care of yourself. Begin with happy.

UNDERSTANDING begins with Two Good Ears and a Zipped Mouth

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

We’re all familiar with the phrase “the road to hell is paved with good intentions.” We’ve headed down that path more than a few times – especially in our conversations with others. We mean well and lean strongly on what we know and what we think we know, but that’s where the disconnects take root. Instead, we need to acknowledge our ignorance. I know that word is loaded. Who wants to call himself or herself ignorant? But, when it comes to understanding someone else, that is the best and most honest place to start.

THE POSITIVE SIDE OF IGNORANCE

While ignorance generally gets a bad rap, it’s helpful to understand its neutral meaning: “a lack of knowledge or information.” That’s it. It’s not a bad or negative thing; it’s more like a blank slate waiting to be filled in.

A friend recounted a recent sales experience at a brick and mortar beauty products store: “I went in looking for a little pick-me-up...a new shade of lipstick that would – I admit – detract attention from my undeniably aging skin. As I entered, I was greeted by a very friendly sales associate who I thought was eager to help, who would understand the nagging self-doubt that lay just below the surface of my innocuous ‘I’m looking for a new lipstick…’ I was wrong. That girl wanted to sell, big time. Faster than I could bat a wimpy eyelash, she was parading every nuanced option available on the color palette. My head was spinning, and I walked out of there sans lipstick.”

My friend speaks the truth. In all likelihood, she might have purchased three lipsticks had the sales associate taken the time to approach her with the self-discipline that would suggest she knows a thing or two about customers, about human beings. Imagine how this could have gone if she had reeled in her ego and cooled her jets on getting a quick sale. She might have approached my friend with the awareness that she doesn’t know this customer’s needs and certainly hasn’t a clue about her wants.

IGNORANCE IS COURAGE, PLAIN AND SIMPLE

I’ll grant you, this takes courage. But, isn’t that what understanding someone is really all about? I’m sure you can think of a slew of questions this sales associate might have asked my friend, questions that would have built rapport, trust and insight into what she was really looking for – a little ego boost in the form of a lipstick tube and a sales associate who gets it. What was lost here was the opportunity to build a relationship upon which countless future wants and needs might have been fulfilled.

Okay, I don’t mean to rag on sales associates; I’m using this real-life example to illustrate how we sometimes lunge headlong into assuming we understand another person before we’ve really listened to them. That “other person” of course, could be our partner, our child, even our BFF.

PUTTING IGNORANCE INTO PRACTICE

My stepson called the other day. I thought it might be about a pressing matter that had been unfolding for a couple of months. While that turned out to be accurate, I sensed that this wasn’t the time to share my “helpful” ideas with him. Instead, I needed to:

• Zip it

• Listen First

• Ask Some Exploratory Questions

This would help me to understand where he was and how I could help based on that understanding. I’m glad that I caught myself, because at the end of our 40-minute call, he said: “Thanks, Jean. I just needed to hear myself talk to get clear on this. All I could think of was ‘Thank you, God, for allowing me to embrace ignorance, to suspend my knowing and to remember the power of two good listening ears and a zipped mouth!’ Maybe ignorance is indeed bliss after all.

On the Road Again

CHANNEL ISLANDS NATIONAL

PARK

by AMY HILL

Channel Islands National Park is one of America’s only parks that you can’t access by car, but that shouldn’t stop you from taking in its beauty. Commonly referred to as the “Galapagos Islands of North America,” here’s how to plan a trip to park.

TRANSPORTATION

PARK OVERVIEW

Channel Islands National Park consists of five small islands within a one- to four-hour boat ride off the coast of mainland southern California, with visitor centers located in Ventura and Santa Barbara. Santa Cruz Island is the most frequented island by day trippers and campers with hiking trails, camping facilities and stunning scenery along the way. Santa Rosa Island is more remote, requiring a lengthier boat ride, but offering the secluded, breathtaking Water Canyon Beach to spend the day. Bird lovers will flock to rocky Anacapa Island with a historic lighthouse and sea caves, while adventure campers will set their sights on the rugged islands of San Miguel and Santa Barbara with opportunities to see sea lions, harbor seals and escape civilization.

Islands are accessible via boat rides through Island Packers Cruises with harbor locations in Oxnard and Ventura, California. Onboard are refreshments and restrooms with chances to see whale sightings and dolphins along the way. However, not every island is accessible daily, so it is important to book your boat tickets well in advance (in some cases, months ahead) to ensure you get to visit each island you desire. Daily departures are available to popular Santa Cruz Island, but Santa Rosa Island only offers limited departures per week, varying depending on weather and season. San Miguel Island has very limited openings for day trippers, as it is a four-hour boat ride away and ideal for campers looking to spend more time in the right weather conditions. To avoid being stranded on an island overnight (or longer), it is extremely important to be back at the harbor on time before heading back to the mainland as boats leave promptly on schedule. To see pricing and trip schedules, visit islandpackers.com.

HOW TO PREPARE

The Channel Islands are popular among visitors who desire uninterrupted time in nature. There are no restaurants, shopping, lodging, etc. on the islands. It is crucial to pack more than enough food, water and gear to make it through a day of hiking and constant sun exposure as the islands don’t always offer tons of shade. There are pit toilets and drinking water found on the islands’ campgrounds, and ranger stations are also present. I highly recommend bringing a portable battery pack to recharge your phone or other mobile devices when needed.

ISLAND HIGHLIGHTS

Popular hikes on Santa Cruz Island are trails to Potato Harbor Overlook, Smugglers Cove and Cavern Point from boats arriving at Scorpion Anchorage. For arrivals at Prisoners Harbor, most visitors embark on the Pelican Bay trail which requires signing a waiver due to its more strenuous

nature than the rest of the island’s hikes. Keep an eye out for small, friendly island foxes which are only found on the Channel Islands.

Santa Rosa Island’s sandy Water Canyon Beach is great for a picnic and sunbathing, although the water is chillier than you would expect. A visit during the months of August through mid-October would be ideal for swimming and calm ocean conditions. Just a short hike away from where the Island Packers boat arrives and departs, this is the main draw to Santa Rosa.

It is possible to take organized sea cave kayaking tours around Anacapa and Santa Cruz Islands. Visit the Island Packers website to learn more about options for kayaking Santa Cruz, or visit explorechannelislands.com for Anacapa kayaking options.

My anxiety is high just thinking about the dirty floors, loads of laundry, and dust that lines my fans. It taunts me when I turn them on, the dust hanging on by a thread, threatening to come sailing down to the ground, adding to the floors that are most certainly not clean enough to eat off of.

Okay. Okay. It wasn’t that bad but with my high anxiety, cleanliness is something that always added to my worry. With a house full of people, one of them a toddler, clean was always a relative term. No matter how prepared I made sure we were on the weekends, Monday came and it looked like I didn’t own a broom.

Then someone suggested I hire a cleaning service. Someone to come weekly, biweekly, whatever I wanted to help out and ease a bit of my worry. I felt odd even reaching out for quotes because why couldn’t I keep up with the mess? Why couldn’t I put aside my anxiety for two seconds to let my house just be.

Why I Hired A

But my husband put it into perspective for me. We both have busy schedules, and work from home. Our home is more than a place we are occasionally at after a long day, it’s our main focal point. Our work space, playground, a place we meet for lunch dates as we both leave our respective corners where we work. A playground for our toddler who we somehow manage to keep home as we both work full-time. And a

teenage hangout for when my daughter has friends over.

Our home is so much more than it used to be. The cleanliness helps focus, productivity, and enjoyment. So the cleaning service, while initially I felt defeated reaching out for help, has been a game changer.

While I do still need to keep things tidy, I don’t see dust bunnies taunting me as I try to watch a movie after a hard day (and promptly feel compelled to get on my hands and knees and remove them all) or the toddler handprints strategically

by GENEVIEVE CONDON

placed right across the TV screen so you can’t see what’s going on. I see a home, my place of work, my solitude.

I hired a cleaning service for my sanity and to relieve any little bit I could on my increasing anxiety. Things right now aren’t easy for many and anything we can do to relieve ourselves of stress, worry, and anxiety should be welcomed with open arms.

So hire that cleaning service or dog walker, order groceries online and pick them up. Do whatever it takes to help yourself because you deserve it.

Helpfulness

in the Workplace

by JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Whether we work with others in real time or virtually, most would agree that giving and receiving help from others is essential to our individual and team success. In fact, McKinsey researcher Adam Grant found that:

“The amount of help a group’s members give one another is among the strongest predictors of group effectiveness.” Consider for example:

After 9/11, a team of Harvard psychologists studied what makes intelligence units effective and found:

“The single strongest predictor of group effectiveness was the amount of help that analysts gave to each other. In the highest performing teams, analysts invested extensive time and energy in coaching, teaching and consulting with their colleagues. These contributions helped analysts question their own assumptions, fill gaps in their knowledge, gain access to novel perspectives and recognize patterns in seemingly disconnected threads of information.”

Studies led by Indiana University’s Philip Podsakoff revealed that:

“The frequency with which employees help one another predicts sales revenues in pharmaceutical units and retail stores; profits, costs and customer service in banks; creativity in consulting and engineering firms; productivity in paper mills; and revenues, operating efficiency, customer satisfaction and performance quality in restaurants...organizations benefit when employees freely contribute their knowledge and skills to others.”

Psychologists Stella Anderson and Larry Williams further discovered that:

“Direct requests for help between colleagues drive 75 to 90 percent of all the help exchanged within organizations.”

That’s right: When in need at work and on the job, we turn to one another. What makes us do so?

WHY WE HELP

• The social exchange theory suggests we help others so that we can maximize our own rewards.

• The arousal-cost theory suggests we help others when they are in need to reduce our own unpleasant or anxious feelings.

• The empathy-altruism theory suggests that we identify with the person in need and so are therefore motivated to help.

• The evolutionary theory suggests if I help you, I am also protecting myself and expect the “favor” to be returned.

• The reciprocity theory which suggests that others will help us if we have helped them.

• The social responsibility theory suggests we help because we think we’re supposed to.

What motivates your desire to be helpful?

WHY DON’T WE ASK FOR HELP?

But, there is a problem. While we may be more than ready to provide help, asking for it may be more of a challenge because we don’t know who to ask or we don’t want to take advantage of our busy co-workers. Even more commonly, we are reluctant to ask for help because we fear it will be seen as a sign of weakness and will make us look foolish or incompetent.

RETHINKING A REQUEST FOR HELP

Here’s how we can break down the barriers that get in the way of asking for help:

• Information and expertise are everywhere, so begin to consciously identify each person’s strengths. Hmm… Carlos is great with the new processing software. Jenna has nailed the problem resolution protocol. And nobody generates sales leads like Cherise. Exactly! Think of the strengths that your co-workers possess as a pool of wisdom, talent and expertise that they are almost always willing to share, to help with. Just be sure to reciprocate when they need your help.

• Your co-workers have a lot on their plate. So, be respectful of their time. Hey, Cherise…I know you are awesome at generating sales leads. Do you think I can pick your brain for a few minutes on a Zoom call? Or, if time is of the essence, I’m in a pinch. Can you spare just a few minutes?

• Our beliefs are the hardest to change. Consider what you know about the power of giving and receiving help at work. Imagine help as a network of information, support and goodwill that operates nonstop between people all the time. You can participate in this exchange when you begin to see that doing so is a sign of strength, professionalism and your personal commitment to growth and development.

Help given and help received is powerful. It is key to expanding expertise, solving difficult problems, sharing the load and reinforcing our sense of team. Step boldly: Offer your help and ask for it when you need it.

GOD’S HUGS

by AMY HILL

In my recent article titled The Harvest of Heartbreak, I addressed one of the most painful periods of my life over the last year. To the naked eye, the circumstances don’t seem to warrant the anguish I found myself in for months (and counting). Truthfully, I’m not even certain why a measly failed attempt at love has decimated me to this extent. Regardless of whether my pain seems appropriate or not, it is present. Throughout my numerous laments to God, He has found touching ways to signal small hugs when I have feared that my prayers were falling on deaf ears.

STRANGER AT THE GYM

I had just sent a text to the (unfortunate) object of my affection shortly after things went south in hopes of repair. I was almost certain I wouldn’t receive a response. My therapist encouraged me to be patient and not jump to conclusions. With it being so soon after my initial heartbreak, I was already an emotional wreck daily. I had been binge-watching sermons on YouTube and pleading with God for this guy to change his mind. In an attempt to distract myself, I headed to the gym for a workout at a time of day that I had never gone before. As I was trying to focus on my exercises, I felt a wave of tears coming on and decided to grab my things from the locker room and head out before I embarrassed myself by having a massive cry in public. In the locker room, an older lady found me and told me that God put it on her heart to pray for me and asked if I would be okay with that. In disbelief, I hastily accepted. I told her that I was actually going through a really tough time and we prayed together. It was just the little “nudge” of comfort I needed in order to see for myself that God was with me in my pain. As for the text back? I finally received it at around 11:00 p.m. that night after I had gone to sleep. It was a kind response, but just that.

GHOST FROM THE PAST

As I entered the summer months with a continuous aching heart, an old fling messaged me out of the blue to apologize for how he handled our romantic entanglement nearly a decade prior. With him now being in his mid30s and happily engaged, there were ironically many parallels in his behavior and mannerisms

in the Midst of

Heartbreak

that led to the deterioration of our budding relationship back then that aligned with the unfortunate situation that had crumbled for me earlier in the year. Strangely enough, the old fling was the exact same age a decade ago as the “man” who recently broke my heart (23 on the cusp of 24, to be exact). The old fling explained that his seeming fear of commitment and sudden decision to cut me out of his life had nothing to do with his lack of feelings for me; quite the opposite, actually. He had experienced a job loss while we were dating and feared that I would decide I could do better. He avoided making our relationship official but was unable to communicate why. One day, after a brief argument, he cut me off cold turkey and didn’t speak to me for six months. While he was forgiven years ago, and we had even chatted as friends many times before he reached out over the summer, a strong part of me feels God inspired him to reach out. Although I’m not sure of the exact reason behind God’s inspiration, I believe it provided me with perspective that a man’s actions or seeming rejection of me aren’t always directly related to my lack of value or attractiveness in his eyes, and that it is capable for a man to see the error of his ways years down the road with growth and maturity. Do I know if that will happen with the most recent man to crush my heart? Sadly, no. But this gifted act from God provides a silver lining of hope to get me through until the day that I no longer feel the pressing need for validation from the man who hurt me.

ROAD SIGNS

As the waves of my sadness recur in slower increments than before, I still struggle deeply at times. Out of desperation, my prayers for a change of heart, emotional healing and a breakthrough have gotten louder and more persistent, sometimes even combined with fasting. Recently, as I was driving down the road, I was listening to a sermon on how to hear God’s voice. There was no traffic, and I basically had the highway to myself. I became stunned, however, when at the exact same time,

the pastor preaching the sermon said, “Slow down,” a digital message sign for construction standing on the side of the road flashed, “Slow down” and “Follow the signs.” I felt a jolt through my body in disbelief. The timing of encountering the sign and the words of the sermon were in complete sync. Needless to say, message received. Frustratingly, patience is not my strong suit, so I am still trying to learn how to slow down and wait on God. More puzzlingly, slow down and wait for what exactly?

Not too long ago, I was yet again driving on I-40 and listening to a sermon (by the same pastor). I paused the sermon when I felt the need to talk to God about what I was feeling. I started to cry as I prayed, feeling defeated that I was still so desperately craving reassurance that I wasn’t undesirable and feeling an embarrassingly strong desire for this man to one day circle back around, even though I highly doubt that’s God’s will. I had been ugly crying for about five or 10 minutes and wiping my nose and eyes with a Bojangles napkin. Suddenly, I heard a few small honks. I looked over and saw a man in the car next to me waving at me and trying to get my attention. Initially, I was annoyed and startled. Was my tire flat? Is there something wrong with my car? Is he just being a pervert? He rolled down his window and held his phone out for me to read a message, all while trying not to have an accident. In giant letters on his phone, he had written “JESUS LOVES YOU.” I flashed an enormous smile, gave him a thumbs up and he sped away. Astonishingly, God had sent another reminder to me that He hears my prayers (which only prolonged my crying spell, just for a much better reason).

How to Feel Content in a Season of Singleness

by HALLEIGH MILLESON

“Are you dating anybody?” is a common question that I get asked as I have gotten older.

Honestly, I have never had a boyfriend before which often makes me wonder if I will ever have one. It is easy for me to get in my head and fixate on whether or not I will meet the “one” for me someday. Especially in today’s world of social media posts, it can be easy to feel lonely and discouraged if you are walking through a season of singleness. It can often feel like every person you know or follow on social media is dating, getting engaged or getting married. Even though I am open to being in a relationship, I am also content in my single life as I have had time to grow, mature and discover myself during this time. I have found ways to be content in my singleness which I share below.

• USE THIS TIME TO FOCUS ON YOURSELF.

Being single gives you time to learn more about yourself before you commit to dating someone. In my time being single, I have had the opportunity to grow in my Christian faith, exercise more, spend time baking in the kitchen and dedicate time to managing my anxiety. I believe that being single has allowed me to grow into a more mature, confident woman which will help me to be a better girlfriend one day. In this past season of my life, I have been working on managing my Crohn’s disease, applying for full time jobs and completing my schoolwork for my upcoming graduation. Being single has given me more time to focus on each of these important tasks in my life, and I feel more prepared to dedicate time to a relationship in this upcoming season after graduation. If you are single, I would encourage you to spend time focusing on growing as an individual while also looking for the positives that have come out of your time being single.

• TAKE A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA.

While I do enjoy spending time on Instagram and connecting with people on this platform, I do find it helpful to take short breaks from social media. Seeing pictures of couples on Instagram has caused me to feel lonely, doubt myself and wonder if I will ever have a boyfriend. Of course, I am happy for the people in my life who are in healthy relationships, but I have found it emotionally helpful to spend some time away from social media. Typically, I will delete the Instagram app for a few days at a time to help myself feel less lonely and anxious. Then, when I get back on Instagram, I am not as anxious or discouraged.

• SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE YOU LOVE.

Being able to spend time with my family and friends has helped me to feel encouraged in my singleness. I feel happier, less stressed and supported by the people I trust and love. I have found that putting myself in other social settings such as church and the gym has helped create a sense of community in my life. By being in a community, I have met other people who are walking through a season of singleness, too. We can encourage one another and give each other advice on what has helped us to manage feelings of loneliness, etc. If I did not surround myself with people that love me, support me and encourage me, then I know that I would not be as content in my singleness as I am today.

If you are single and reading this article, I hope that this article will bring you hope and encouragement during this season in your life while knowing that you are not alone.

Purpose Push:

Which Fear Will You Choose?

Fear is an experience that happens in your mind but triggers a physical reaction in your body.

We won’t know the true reason we were chosen to have an earthly experience until we meet our Creator, but we know we were born into a sinful world. Once the pureness of God’s creation was met with sin, we experienced all kinds of setbacks. A big setback that plagues many entrepreneurs today is fear. Fear of failure, success, judgment, ridicule and loneliness are the first words that come to my mind. But the Bible has shown us that we’ve always had a choice – fear this world or fear God. One leads to bondage and one leads to victory.

God knew we would battle with the evil forces of fear, so it’s addressed a lot in The Word to give us confidence to keep fighting when we want to hide.

Fear is deeply rooted in our human experience; from the moment we entered this world, we learned how to fear the world from our earliest interactions. It usually takes just one time to touch a hot stove to know that’s a feeling we don’t want to experience again. Our parents taught us how to look both ways before crossing the street, and school taught us the buddy system so no friend gets lost. Survival instincts, societal pressures and past experiences all contribute to the complex web of fears we carry. And, while some fears are rational and protect us from harm, we develop many irrational fears that hold us back from reaching our full potential.

When fear begins to keep us from completing tasks that do not affect our overall health, that is a sign we are encountering a spiritual attack. This is the time to grab a Bible and meditate on God’s Word. One of the most popular scriptures addressing fear is Psalm 23:4, which says, “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil…”

The problem is it’s become so customary to recite, it seems to have lost its effectiveness with God’s children. Do we truly believe He will comfort and be with us?

Sheridan C. Watkins is a journalist and the owner of Perennial Peaces, a jewelry and gifts brand focused on transcending self-worth to all women. Her true work began after climbing out of a dark place with the help of God and therapy and her life mission is to provide tangible peace through her Divine gifts to help women heal and transform their life. Follow the mission on Instagram and Facebook: @perennialpeaces

by SHERIDAN C. WATKINS

Scriptures remind us of our power through Christ, but we must believe we can conquer and move mountains for our faith to activate the blessings that await.

Psalm 111:10 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom…” God takes the word “fear” and flips the meaning of what most associate it with. When we fear God, we’re not afraid but marvel at His authority and joyfully put His Will and knowledge above ours. This is when He will give us wise business decisions that keep us afloat and competitive in our niche.

So, how can we ensure that we are fearing the Lord instead? With faith and force. I’ll admit that it may take time to truly believe certain scriptures when life doesn’t currently reflect it. The father of a possessed son felt the same

way when he said, “Help my unbelief,” in Mark 9:24. Oftentimes, I actively force myself to continue reciting His Word and believing in my heart He will transform my circumstances. I’ve chosen to fight worldly fear because God has saved me many times. I’m reminded when I look back in my journal and see the answered prayers. The more we reflect on God’s track record, the easier it becomes to believe scriptures like Psalm 91:5 which says, “You will not be afraid of the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day.”

God is with us each and every day! He gave us the business ideas and the power to execute them. Which fear will you lean into? I’m excited to see your journey as you trust God more with your life. Send me an email if you ever need prayer (sheridan@perennialpeaces. com). I have faith in you.

LOCAL EVENTS

*Event details are subject to change. Please check event websites & social media pages for updates as the dates draw near.*

JUNE

1

CLEMMONS SUMMER SHINDIG

5-8pm, Jerry Long YMCA. Groove to the tunes of Charlotte’s favorite, UNKNOWN ARTIST! This tribute to Classic & Modern Rock will have you dancing all night long. Named Charlotte’s “Favorite Local Band About to Hit it Big” by Elevate Lifestyle Magazine, they promise a high-energy performance you won’t want to miss. Kid Zone: Keep the little ones entertained with their very own kid zone featuring yard games, Mobile Arcade USA and Rockstar Bubbles –don’t forget to bring a towel! Food trucks will be on site. This free event, presented by the Village of Clemmons and sponsored by AM Erectors, promises to be a highlight of the summer! For more information, contact the Village at events@clemmons.org.

JUNE

1

CHASE THE DREAM 5K AND FUN RUN

8-10pm, Bailey Park. The Dream Center of Forsyth County is excited to share that it will host its 2nd annual 5K and Fun Run to provide much-needed support for The Dream Center. Our Chase the Dream 5K and Fun Run is a family friendly GLOW IN THE DARK event that is open to the entire community. All funds raised will support the Dream Center of Forsyth County.

JUNE 7

BEACH PARTY: SHAG DANCIN’ & SHRIMP BOILIN’

6-10pm, Join the Robert Hall Secret Supper Society for a night of Shag Dancin’ & Shrimp Boilin’. Society members will get to enjoy a low country boil by Chef Charley Smith. Then, The Holiday Band will be performing Carolina Beach music for guests to enjoy and shag dance to. Tickets for this event will be available for purchase for all Secret Supper Society members. Not a member, but interested in learning more? Visit our website at RobertHallSecretSupperSociety.com.

JUNE

8

THE BIG RUN 5K

8-10am, Fleet Feet Clemmons, 6339 Jessie Lane in Clemmons. A new race is coming to Clemmons! Timed 5K and one-mile fun run. runsignup.com/Race/Info/NC/Clemmons/ thebigrunclemmons

JUNE 8

KALEIDEUM AFTER DARK: RAISE THE ROOF

We’re Raising the Roof with drinks, live music, laser tag, and the most spectacular rooftop view in the city! “Hold Tone,” a Raleigh band with Winston-Salem natives will play an eclectic mix of party music on our brand-new Rooftop Adventure.

6:30-9:30pm. $20 for members; $25 for non-members. Ticket price includes two drink vouchers for beer or wine. Cash bar available for more drinks, and you can buy your dinner at a food truck out front! Purchase your ticket(s) at kaleideum.org.

JUNE 10-14

INTO THE WILD TOTALLY KIDS CAMP

Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Join the fun this summer as we jump into the wild. We will explore the depth of the oceans, the peak of the mountains, famous caves and our most popular National Parks. Campers will learn some basic survival skills and even get to create their own shelters. Totally Kids Camp is from 9am-2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-year-olds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

JUNE 15

JUNETEENTH FESTIVALS

Hosted at Bailey Park in downtown Winston-Salem, this celebration of African American traditions and freedom features music, dance, food, panel discussions, as well as arts and crafts, from 1 to 8 p.m.

JUNE 17-21 & JULY 15-19

NINJA TOTALLY KIDS CAMP

Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Salem Ninjas will train and race through several different obstacle courses and stages throughout the week. They will be climbing, leaping, jumping, and crawling their way to the big event to be held the last day of camp where everyone walks away a winner with a medal of their very own. Totally Kids Camp is from 9am-2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-year-olds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

JUNE 22

GOAT YOGA

8:30-10am, The Farm at Henley Hill, 6890 Henley Hill Drive in Pfafftown. What is goat yoga? Well, you will get an amazing hour of yoga led by our certified instructor, Fontaine Gervasi, while the goats enjoy grazing and hanging out with you. Yoga is for all levels and most ages. The goats are very gentle and completely adorable. All you need to bring is a water bottle, a yoga mat or towel and an open mind.

JUNE 23

SUNDAY SUPPER SERIES

Dynamis Estate Wines. A monthly culinary experience to foster community while gathering around the table with a chef-cooked meal and a glass of wine. Chef Peter’s culinary style is rooted in comfort and nostalgia; his dishes evoke memories of cherished family meals, each bite a reminder of the simple pleasures in life. After enjoying supper, guests are offered to indulge in a Bobby Boy Bakeshop dessert! For more information, visit dynamisestatewines.com, or call 336.468.6702

JUNE 24-28

SECRET AGENT TOTALLY KIDS CAMP

Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Calling all future secret agents! Join us as we learn how to evaluate a crime scene, collect and compare fingerprints and decode secret messages. The hit of the week is sure to be our secret agent field training obstacle course and our end of week escape room. Totally Kids Camp is from 9am-2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-year-olds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

FUTURE

JULY

8-12

AROUND THE WORLD TOTALLY KIDS CAMP

Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Receive a passport and spend the week traveling to different countries around the world like France, Italy, England and many more. Participate in theme related obstacle courses, games, crafts and activities as we bring each one of our “visited” countries to life. Totally Kids Camp is from 9am-2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-year-olds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

JULY 14

BEAUTIFUL BEADS WORKSHOP

2-4pm, Lam Museum of Anthropology. Beads are worn by people around the world as personal adornment and are also used as decoration on clothing, masks and many other objects. In this workshop, participants will see many types of beads from the museum’s collections and learn about how they were made and used by a variety of cultures. Participants will make their own beads out of polymer clay, paper and tin. This workshop is designed for ages 8 to 99. The fee is $20 per participant ($15 for Lam Museum members). Space is limited, and advanced registration is required.

JULY 21

NATIONAL THEATRE LIVE: DEAR ENGLAND

2-5pm, a/perture cinema. The country that gave the world football has since delivered a painful pattern of loss. Why can’t England’s men win at their own game? With the worst track record for penalties in the world, Gareth Southgate knows he needs to open his mind and face up to the years of hurt to take team and country back to the promised land.

JULY 22-26

WIZARDS & MAGICAL CREATURES

TOTALLY KIDS CAMP

Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Calling all witches and wizards to a fun-filled week at Salem Gymnastics & Swim! Campers will be sorted into their houses, play magical games, make their own wands and participate in our very own Tri-Wizard Tournament. It is sure to be a magical experience! Totally Kids Camp is from 9am2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-yearolds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

JULY 29-AUGUST 2 & AUGUST 5-9

OLYMPICS TOTALLY KIDS CAMP

Salem Gymnastics & Swim. Go for Olympic gold at Salem Gymnastics! Join us as we follow (Salem Style) Team USA this summer in Paris. Participate in individual and team sports, play theme related games, make crafts and learn about Paris: the “City of Lights.” Totally Kids Camp is from 9am2pm with an optional add-on until 5pm. Camp Imagination is offered for 3-5-yearolds every week from 9am-12pm with the option to stay for lunch bunch.

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We all know selfish people, and maybe you are one, but usually that’s a trait that you don’t detect in yourself. In general, selfish people are those who only think about their own wants and needs, disregarding the feelings or wishes of others. This can lead to a lack of empathy and create tension and unhappiness in relationships where it is present. But, is there a way to detect selfish tendencies in people before they take advantage of you? I am so glad you asked!

DECISIONS WITHOUT CONSIDERING CONSEQUENCES

Selfish people often make decisions without considering how their choices affect others. They prioritize their wants, needs, goals and outcomes with no thought to others. Most of us learn to weigh how our choices in life not only affect us, but may bear consequences to others, as well. Very few of the decisions we make in life don’t have ripple effects in the lives of others. That’s not to say that you have to do what is best for your growth as a person, but to blatantly never consider others, well, my friend, that is being selfish!

COMPROMISE IS SOMETHING OTHERS DO, NOT ME!

Mutually beneficial outcomes are usually not what a selfish person is interested in seeking. To look for a resolution that benefits both parties takes introspection and agreement on both sides to work toward something with which both people can live. When you’re selfish, thinking about another person’s perspective is not on your radar.

DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU’D HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU…YEAH, RIGHT?

If you are expecting a selfish person to return a favor, you might not want to hold your breath on that one! Now, I don’t suggest doing things for others in expectation of it being reciprocated, but you don’t want to constantly be

“What Are the Red Flags of a Selfish Person?”

by REBECCA COOPER

reaching out and using up your time and energy if you know you would never get the same. There is a level of appreciation and respect that selfish people lack, and if you choose to help someone you know is focused on themselves, just don’t expect anything and you won’t be disappointed.

DO THEY CHECK ON YOU AS MUCH AS YOU CHECK ON THEM?

We all like it when our friends check on us, especially when we are going through a hard time. A quick text, a call, an email or a handwritten note or card can change a person’s day. Just knowing that you crossed someone’s mind means so much. If you continually check on someone, and when you need them, connecting rarely happens, you are dealing with a selfish person. For some reason, it’s just not in their DNA to check on others, but you can be sure if you don’t keep in touch

with them, they will not be happy. If you are going to have a selfish person in your life, you just have to accept that you are not going to be a priority in their life.

SAYING “THANK YOU” AND BEING THANKFUL AREN’T PRIORITIES

Most of us can find at least one thing to be thankful for every day, but selfish people base their thankfulness on how situations turn out or how people respond to their needs. Anything outside of what benefits them just isn’t on the radar of what to be grateful for.

If someone in your life has any of these red flags of displaying selfish tendencies, it may be best to end the relationship with them unless you can truly turn a blind eye to their behavior. Being dismissed over and over can take a toll on you and eventually ruin the relationship anyway.