WALKING
WITH
Just me!!
Hello. I am FlordeLiz, the mother of three beautiful girls They are 13, 11, and 7 years old, my life has been chaotically beautiful for 13 y with them I learned and continue to learn it means to live at a thousand an hour
I am a normal woman, like YOU, with hop and dreams to fulfill, with failures and mis that helped me make decisions
I am a fan of order and cleanliness, some difficult to achieve when there are childre home but not impossible. I'm a big fan of Kondo and Clea Shearer and Joanna Tep Home Edit when it comes to home declut and planning.
A sedentary lifestyle makes me sad, move is my best ally to feel happy The injustices make me angry. I hate that people take advantage of the weakest a neediest
I ´ m a lover of nature, and I learned to valu more when I studied in depth about the environmental problems caused by man
Typing on the computer makes me feel go don't consider myself a writer but it does h me relax, I feel like my emotions and my w seeing life cannot be repressed when I wr My lifestyle is minimalist, less is More! I like have pieces or objects that are useful and fill me with joy when I see them.
I discovered that I love designing with the of CANVA and my next long-term goal w to study Graphic Design. I would love to enter the world of project and generate my own income as a freela writer.
Although my English is not yet fluent, I will soon achieve excellent results.
My 3 Caesarean section
I perfectly remember that they questioned the way I brought my daughters into the world, and I will never forget that they told me that just because I didn't give birth the traditional way, that is, vaginal birth, I do not know what it means to give birth to a baby.
Maybe I don't know what labor contractions, dilation, and pushing hard are, but I do know what it feels like when they give you spinal anesthesia, I do know what it feels like after the effect of the anesthesia wears off, and I do know perfectly well what it's like to walk with a cut approximately 6 inches long, yes I know what it feels like not to be able to stand up and walk normally to take care of your daughter, clearly I do know the meaning of the word PAIN, but all that pain is insignificant when you look at your baby next to you.
Just like that, now I am a happy woman who wears her scar with great pride
Does it make you happy to have brought your son into the world through a cesarean section?
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My first baby and Me
How can I forget what my mother told me... First, you must study a career, so if your husband is a bad man, you kick
him in the butt and raise your children alone. So, I did it, I studied a degree, I worked, I had several boyfiends, then I met the man who is now my husband, we got married and God blessed us quickly because after a month I was already pregnant I was 27 years old, and nerves took over my mind, I started crying because I felt that a child is a lot of responsibility and that I was not going to be able to fulfill that mission. I knew that it required a lot of dedication, sacrifice, I felt that I was going to lose my freedom to go out dancing, travel, go for a walk, go out with friends. Instead of being happy I got scared!! And look, I was already 27 years old, but I thought that all my plans to be the Great Professional with a master's degree, executive positions and diplomas stuck on my wall would be truncated. Perhaps many women think the same Maybe!!!
One day I had a very serious conversation with myself and I said, enough is enough! Change your attitude and start enjoying your baby. Then I asked myself: Do you want me to be born happy or sad? Do you want him to be born healthy or sick? Do you want him to enjoy the love of your family? and so on thousands more questions
When one receives this divine gift, one must take the bull by the horns and think twice from that moment on. My bad thoughts changed when I watched my belly grow and my ultrasounds
I breathe and remember, it was such a wonderful and indescribable stage. Those 9 months are definitely something magical and I thank God for giving me the joy of being a mother, thanks to that I now receive cards and kisses from my little ones for Mother's Day and the other 364 days.
I know motherhood firsthand, it is not easy and I repeat not easy, but whoever said that life is easy, maybe if I had been born in a cradle of gold, but most of us do not have that star, on the contrary, we are born with stars. Famous phrases from grandma! Still, I'm happy to have them, because they make me laugh, cry, love, deny, shout ¡oops! Remember that nothing is easy! How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant?
Pure love
Is love a risk? Probably yes. Don't know! Nobody knows what can happen over the years in a relationship When you think everything is fine, something unexpected happens and changes the entire direction of your life. But if I'm sure of one thing, it's that I'm very lucky. And being a mother allowed me to know the purest love, a love that is capable of giving even my life I cannot feel happier and prouder of my gender, we are definitely blessed. I remember perfectly the day my first daughter was born. After 8 months, the girl who developed in my womb came to light, that baby who absorbed everything from me during my pregnancy. I hope she has been very selective during that process and has not picked up bad things about me
At that moment I forgot that they had given me anesthesia before and that I was afraid of that needle, but my inner voice only told me Be brave, be brave... and I was brave! I deserved a little star or a happy face on my hand as an incentive for my bravery and the fact is that one becomes so strong in that moment that later one does not know oneself. Finally, I just have to tell you that it was beautiful to see it for the first time, her little hands, her tiny and innocent body, I can ´ t continue because tears are falling from the emotion I feel when I remember that moment!
Write me if you think having a child is the best thing that has happened to you.
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Children are the reflection of parents
It has never happened to you that when your children do or say something, you say... Oh my God, that's ME!!!
Many times I have seen my attitudes in my daughters and they are not always the best (don't judge me, but I am an imperfect mother) So, that is when I pause to analyze myself. Is not difficult!! Believe me!! The main idea is to think about its possible corrections. If I have always been aware of something, it is that being a mother implies a lot of responsibility, but that does not rule out having my own family from my mind. I have seen how my mother fought for us to move forward and I have never heard that she regretted having fertilized 4 children. Never! That's why she is the woman I admire the most in the world.
Throughout my life, I have had successes and also many mistakes, but is part of my personal experience. I know that the world has become very competitive and we want to stand out from others, whether it is having a nice and luxurious house, modern car, fashionable clothes, titles to show, and being accepted by society, but what matters is how you feel about how little or how much you achieved in your life journey. And if my advice is useful to you at all, enjoy your adolescence, and youth so that later you are not complaining to your children that because of them you did not enjoy all those stages to their fullest, because since we assumed the role of parents, It is necessary to pause to think if we are really good educators of our little ones. Have you seen yourself reflected in your children's attitudes?
My strength
Early maturity
As the years go by, one sees the changes in our children and I can even affirm that each child is born with their personality. Do you remember that I have 3 girls? Well, now I want to talk to you about the one in
the middle, as she says.
Paola Arevalo
Maybe she should be called «Sweet», «Kindness» or «Tenderness»; she was born with many abilities; She has an amazing reasoning capacity, which any adult person cannot or will not do. Early maturity? Childhood maturity? Don't know
I could guide the disoriented and advise an adult who does not know what to do with her life who still does not find the light in her path and who does not know why she came to this world. I'm not exaggerating!!
This is how focused my little girl is, the surprising thing is that she is 9 years old, she likes art, drawing, and creating, she has in mind to be a great artist, and she gets along well with scissors, colors, paints, erasers, and tape. She can turn a piece of recycled paper into works of art, she is authentic because she doesn't like other people's creations She relates very well with her classmates, but she also loves to play alone at home with her inventions. I look at her and wonder, will she still be sensible? Will her skill remain her art? Will she keep telling me that she wants to go to art school when she finishes school? Many questions for someone who lives in the present and does not know what may happen tomorrow.
At 9 years old, I didn't think about what I would like to do when I grew up; In fact, I only asked myself that question when I was 16 years old and I did it because I had to apply to university that year. Something embarrassing to say but it's my reality. I never asked myself what my ability was, the dancing accompanied me during my time as a schoolgirl, I liked it like you have no idea, but I knew that I had to leave it afterwards, because in my country that is not a career that allows you to live. Here comes the most important thing, now in my stage as a mother, I try to guide my little ones and support them in what I see that they are passionate about. Passionate!!! Yes, I see how my daughter enjoys painting, cutting out, making sculptures, inventing stories, and creating weird drawings
I don't consider myself the perfect mom, but I try and I will keep trying!!!!! You have a child with early maturity?
SCAN ME
Less is more
Failed in math! I know. But really this phrase LESS IS MORE, I love putting it into practice in my home
You remember that I said that I am a fan of order and cleanliness. Well, yes! Not only that, everything must be organized; As I tell my girls, each object has its own little house I love that the objects that surround me or are part of me, whether due to color, design, or shape, brighten my life and make me look optimistically in my days.
I consider that objects that have no function in my home only absorb my energy and boy do I need them! That's why those objects are quickly expelled from my space.
Since I started earning my own money my eyes only focused on the pretty things, I looked at it and looked at it again to see if it would be useful to me, if it matched my space, and if it was in perfect condition to take with me. A little exaggerated, right? but I never bought just to buy, maybe because I never had any money left over or because I preferred to spend it on other activities with my friends or family
Now as a mom, I still do the same!
I don't like to fill my house with unnecessary things because I say that the problem will be for me if I don't have anywhere to store it, and the truth is that it is tiring to organize every day.
My daughters are still small and do not think in order, negative energy, they only think about disordering, I will say play; I deny it because it goes against my way of being, but what calms me down is that when they grow up they will be organized and orderly like ME, I hope so!, the children are the reflection of the parents!! This is not always the case, but children should be the best version of their parents.
Do you like this phrase LESS IS MORE?
My computer and me!
When I met you I knew you were for me. Plop!
This phrase is from a song but it fits very well with my computer, and it has been my best anti-stress for many years
Nobody teaches us to be parents, we can read many books, analyze them, and be clear about what we want for them, but everyday life is completely different Emotions often play a very important role in us being able to be an excellent guide for our children, therefore, we must ask ourselves... What can I do to let my emotions flow and not interfere with my personal and family goals?
I found in Word a friend to whom I could talk about my emotions until I was tired, without hearing reproaches or questioning of my decisions, and even worse that phrase “I told you so ” I don't consider myself introverted, but I do consider myself realistic and I knew that if I wanted one of my friends to listen to me I had to accommodate myself to her time. You know, all people go about their business and even more so when they have children, time is golden. Writing while listening to my favorite sounds relaxes me
Another way I relax is dancing at home. I often do it alone, and sometimes, my youngest daughter joins me.
Being active really brightens my day Getting rid of clothes or things I don't use at home is probably another way I relax. You can't imagine how happy it makes me to get rid of things I no longer need or that have reached the end of their useful life I feel free!
What relaxes you?
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My favorite thing "Dining table"
Proclaim that the dining room table is the most important object in the home. It sounds very daring! Others will say that the most important thing is the bed where we sleep or perhaps the sofa We may disagree, but this oval, round, rectangular, or square object is the one that unites all family members during breakfast, lunch, dinner, between meals, and family and friend gatherings Yes or no?
I could say that many have forgotten that it is a family breakfast and lunch during weekdays, that is the reality! If a normal person doesn't work, they don't eat, it's that simple! But at dinner, there is no valid excuse not to sit together. It is the right time to put aside electronic devices and make the most of seeing each other's faces, giving each other advice, talking, laughing, asking each other questions and answers, or maybe praising Mom for the delicious dinner, I don't know!! The important thing is to promote communication and maintain healthy habits that encourage family unity Let's always listen to each other!!!And for you What is the most important object in your home?
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How to win money
24 hours a day, 7 days a week we are pursued by online advertisements of all kinds So I started thinking about how to make money quickly
1st option: Do crazy things on social media.
2nd option: Dance almost naked to earn likes.
3rd option: Dress extravagantly and post photos on social media
4th option: Participate with my entire family making videos that cause laughter and making myself look ridiculous in front of thousands of people.
5th option: Promote stupid challenges that can harm my life and the lives of others.
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Unfortunately, I don't like any option and there are things that money can't buy, such as my INTERIOR PEACE.
Contributing good things to humanity is my first and only option, perhaps I will not have the intelligence of Albert Einstein, but I have every desire to do good for my neighbor.
I miss those times of my childhood, when you greeted people without knowing them, simply because greeting was the first thing our parents taught us and they never saw it with other eyes, on the contrary, they praised your good behavior and education, I observe with sadness that now children and young people do not know how to say hello, something so simple that they do not want to learn or they simply find it difficult to do it.
Our priority as parents should be to foster values in each of our children It is in our hands that the world turns for the better!!
What do you thi
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Self destruction
If I know that too much cigarette smoking could cause me many illnesses, then why do I consume a box a day?
If I know that excess drugs cause addiction to me, then why do I use them? If I know that excess junk food affects my health then why do I consume it daily?
If I know that excessive video games cause addiction, then why don't I set limits?
If I know that surrounding myself with toxic people causes me stress then why don't I avoid them?
Don't I have control of myself?
We can achieve a change in our bad habits and customs if and only if we have the WILL to achieve it.
Sometimes we make so many excuses to keep falling into the same thing, knowing that we are self-destructing but that's just how human beings are, some weaker than others.
If you can't achieve for yourself, then you can seek help, not necessarily a professional, because you will use the excuse that you don't have money But in this world, there are also good and kind people, those vitamin people who with a single smile will make all your discomfort disappear. Take care of your health, your emotional stability, and your interior peace The change begins with oneself!! It's just a matter of deciding!!
Do you have a vitamin person?
Sweet 40!
Day 10/11/23
Thank you for reminding me that in a couple of days I will turn 40 years old and the spontaneous appearance of 2 gray hairs on my head made me step on the ground and say WOW! SWEET 40. I almost ran out of the bathroom, literally! And it is not normal for me to see white hair, I love the natural color of my hair, but I am aware that soon gray hair will be another friend. Although I have a young spirit, I know that it is not enough, because the law of gravity constantly reminds you that you must take drastic measures in your appearance, pain will be your ally from now on and without wanting to, you are already beginning to delve into natural medicine.
Little by little, you distance yourself from the consumption of salt and sugar, and start using creams for your face, neck, and, if possible, all over your body.
The truth, the truth, I'm not afraid of death, but what does terrify me just thinking about it is being old, infirm, old, however you want to put it I'm afraid of reaching SWEET 50, 60, 70, 80 years. But you might wonder why? In recent years I have seen how older adults are forgotten, many times abandoned by their own children in a nursing home and that mortifies me because I cannot imagine that, being a MOTHER, I would give my love, my time, and my youth to my daughters so that later they can abandon me to my fate
Clear!!! They didn't ask to come into this world, but you don't believe that life is reciprocal. Give love and receive love? It is a very nice phrase, but not everyone puts it into practice and I am not saying that that will happen to me either. For now, the mother-and-daughter relationship is good, but sometimes life is full of surprises for better or worse.
You think I'm exaggerating?
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