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Pentaèdre

ArtSpring has welcomed many chamber ensembles over its 22 year history, and lots of amazing artists from the province of Quebec. And we have another one for you this month, albeit with a twist.

Pentaèdre is a quintet of woodwind players, occupying a unique place in Quebec’s musical landscape. The Montreal-based ensemble aims to bring to the fore the repertoire of chamber music written purely for wind instruments – flute, oboe, clarinet, horn, and bassoon.

But they also are well- known for creative arrangements of pieces originally written for strings.

The group was originally founded in 1985, and has seen several personnel changes over the years. The five talented performers who’ll be with us this month are as unanimously acclaimed as the original lineup. Ariane Brisson (flute) is the current artistic director, and was first invited to join the ensemble in 2016. Only a couple of years ago she was selected as one of the CBC’s “30 Hot Classical Musicians Under 30”, and regularly performs all over the world in orchestras and as a soloist. Élise Poulin is the oboe player in this group, and with orchestras throughout Quebec, as well as being an English horn player. Clarinetist Martin Carpentier is another highly sought-after music throughout the province – and was in the Pentaèdre line-up that first came to ArtSpring in January 2012. Horn player Louis-Philippe Marsolais has a particular interest in contemporary music, and often premieres new works by international composers. Mathieu Lussier – the bassoonist – was also

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here in 2012. Since then he’s undertaken artistic director positions of orchestras and music festivals, and travels throughout north and south America, and Europe, passionately introducing audiences to the beauty of the bassoon.

Live musicians, recording artists, and now competition hosts – Pentaèdre also presents a competition to support wind players, showcase their repertoire, and celebrate the grand tradition of musical performance for wind instruments. The Pentaèdre-Youkali Competition was previously won by current members Élise Poulin and Ariane Brisson.

The program the ensemble is bringing to ArtSpring centres around the Bach, and will demonstrate not only the virtuosity of its five brilliant musicians, but also the great variety of colours and atmospheres that the flute, the oboe, clarinet, horn and bassoon can create together. And completing this accessible and lively program will be famous arias from Mozart’s Magic Flute universe of Johann Sebastian opera and David Maslanka’s Quintet no. 3, directly inspired by a Bach choral.

The beauty and the diversity of wind instruments will be on breathtaking display at ArtSpring on Monday November 21, at 7:30pm.

We hope you’ll come and see why we can’t wait to welcome back this exciting ensemble.

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The holiday season is right around the corner, and Salt Spring Arts is already busy getting ready for Artcraft Winter’s return at the end of this month.

The annual winter show opens for the season at Mahon Hall on Nov. 25 and runs every day through to Dec. 22, showcasing high quality arts and crafts by up to 100 local creators from Salt Spring and the Gulf Islands.

Island shoppers can be proud to “shop local” here: supporting individual makers in the community helps support Salt Spring Arts’ year-round community arts programming at the same time. Visitors will find the historic hall decked inside and out with festive lights and greenery, with a special Christmas installation to be featured on the stage this year. The beautiful and unique handcrafted pieces for sale — all with their special story to tell – range from earthy pottery and woodwork to contemporary jewelry, and from fine textiles to apothecary products made from wildcrafted and locally grown botanicals. With the addition of locally created toy kits, books and CDs, original paintings, sculpture and photography, plus a wide range of cards, there is a special gift for everyone.

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Salt Spring Literacy Society is excited to announce it will be holding its 7th Annual Books and Bling Sale on November 25th, 26th and 27th at the Farmers’ Institute. This popular island event will feature more than 10,000 donated, gently used books— across more than 30 different genres – for sale to the public. You can also purchase items from the large display of new and gently used designer, vintage, and costume jewelry. If you want to donate books, contributions can be dropped off at the Farmers’ Institute Thursday, November 17 through Sunday November 20 from 10 am to 2 pm. Jewellery donations can be dropped off in the collection bin at Islands Savings from 9:30 to 5 pm. For more information on volunteering at this event, please visit https://saltspringliteracy. org/books-and-bling/. All proceeds go to the Salt Spring Literacy Society, which provides free literacy support to youth, adults & seniors. Don’t miss one of Salt Spring’s most popular events!

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Live on stage in November Joshua Beamish Thu Nov 3 Axis Theatre Wed Nov 9 Pentaèdre Mon Nov 21 Michael Weiss Quartet Thu Nov 24 Makana Youth Choir fall term concert Sun Nov 27 Constantinople and Cappella Mariana Wed Nov 30

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live on stage in November

Jen’ll Tell Ya Featuring Jen Redpath & Jessica Terezakis

Hey Salty,

There’s a dazzling array of on-stage events in the ArtSpring Presents season this month. From veteran performers, to young singers taking to the stage for the first time, there’s music, dance, theatre, plus another Met Opera live broadcast.

We love seeing audience favourites returning to ArtSpring, and November starts with one of the best. BC contemporary dance artist Joshua Beamish was last here five years ago (with the beautiful Saudade and Concerto). He returns on Thursday November 3, at 7:30pm, with a collection of five thrilling new pieces, some solo, and others danced with another star of the Canadian contemporary dance world, Renée Sigouin.

Another returning company – this one a favourite with younger audiences – is here on Wednesday November 9. Axis Theatre brings us Th’owxiya: the Hungry Feast Dish, by Joseph A. Dandurand, a Kwantlen First Nations tale about an old hungry spirit that inhabits a feast dish full of delicious foods. The company is performing a schoolsonly show that morning, but the lunchtime 1pm performance is for theatre-lovers of all ages.

This month’s cover stars, Pentaèdre, the wind quintet from Quebec, have been to ArtSpring before, but many years ago and in a different ensemble make-up. The five talented performers on flute, oboe, clarinet, horn, and bassoon, will be playing a varied chamber music repertoire on Monday November 21, at 7:30pm.

Legendary New York-based jazz pianist Michael Weiss makes a first trip to Salt Spring on Thursday November 24, at 7:30pm. In a city that is full of brilliant jazz musicians, Weiss is one of the busiest.

And he’s here with local BC jazz players, saxophonist Cory Weeds, bassist John Lee, and drummer Jesse Cahill.

ArtSpring’s Makana Youth Choir has got off to a flying start in its fifth year. The program was expanded to include young singers grades 6-9 (as well as 2-5) – and there have been close to 30 signups this year. Come and see what they’ve been learning for their end of fall term concert, on Sunday November 25, at 2:30pm.

There are more vocal harmonies at the end of the month when Constantinople return with Prague- based Cappella Mariana on Wednesday November 30, at 7:30pm. Odyssey of Kryštof Harant tells the story of the Czech composer and humanist through a stunning blend of eastern and western instrument and vocal traditions.

And don’t miss November’s Met: Live in HD broadcast, Saturday November 5 at 10am - La Traviata, Verdi’s beloved tragedy centred around one of opera’s ultimate heroines.

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Did you know that the most powerful sex organ is in fact the brain? It controls arousal, our sexual response cycle, hormones, and also what we think about sex. This greatly affects our relationship to our sexuality, bodies, and personal sexual preferences. Come and expand those beautiful brains of yours and check out our new community-based library focused on the wonderful world of sexual health. Our library is open to take a look or borrow any of our titles on Tuesdays 4:30pm - 6:30pm.

For this next series, we will be reviewing the books in our library - stay tuned for some of our faves!

Starting us off is PUSSY PEDIA: A Comprehensive Guide written

by Zoe Mendelson, with illustrations by Maria Conejo. This book is about sexual empowerment, is designed for all adults, and covers a plethora of contemporary issues related to sexual health. With Conejo’s art illuminating myths and subtle differences in anatomy through illustrations, visual learners will also benefit from this book!

The take-home messages are: what is most important is what is normal for you; when to seek professional advice; and how systems of oppression (like the patriarchy) guide and influence how we related to our genitals.

Information about how to prevent infections (such as not using scented tampons), as well as genital mutilation and its impact on health, are a few examples of topics that Mendelson covers in the book with care, compassion and humour.

Working in medicine I also appreciated Mendleson’s encouragement for anyone needing medical advice or treatment not to use this book as a substitute. For those concerns please make an appointment at Options for Sexual Health or see your primary care provider.

Topics include: Sex and Masturbation; S*** the Patriarchy Tries to Sell You, and Pussy Parts, amongst others. From the exploration of various bodily fluids, the range of ‘normal’ and crucially identifying cues for when to seek professional advice; to the more nuanced realm of orgasms, sex and disabilities, sex and the pornography industry - including the relationship of plastic surgery and sex.

For other books about sexual health or information about birth control options please call the SEX SENSE line at 1800 SEX SENSE or come and see us at Options for Sexual Health by making an appointment at (250) 537-8786.

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All’s Well

Health with

by Mona Awad

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with Mishka Campbell This novel is billed as literary fiction, magical realism, thriller, and horror. How could one book fit into so many genres? First off, let’s make it clear that the title is referencing Shakespeare’s “All’s Well That Ends Well” -a play that’s known as one of the “problem” ones. Neither drama, nor comedy; with characters that are somewhat unlikeable, it might be understating it to say that the theatre students of our main character, college professor/ director Miranda, are up in arms that she’s chosen it as this year’s Shakespearian production. They were looking for something with a little more oomph, with sharper monologues and more drama with a capital D. They wanted to present the Scottish Play and stage an outright revolt when Miranda insists on All’s Well. Miranda is a once talented actress, whose career has been spiralling since she fell off the stage while in the role of a lifetime, Lady M. Since the accident, Miranda suffers chronic, excruciating pain, for which she’s had many treatments, including a failed surgery, and is now in the humiliating position of being told that at this point perhaps her pain won’t be getting better, as it appears to be “all in her head”. Isolated, miserable, unhappy and alone, Miranda is unsure where to turn, as her last shot at redemption (taking this teaching position and staging her beloved All’s Well) has crashed and burned. The students have now gone to the Dean with their insistence on performing Macbeth.

Then, one night at her local, as she drowns her sorrows in Scotch and copious amounts of painkillers, she meets three strange men, who wish to be her benefactors, who recognize her pain as real and encourage her efforts to manifest a future in which she gets what she wants, nay deserves. As surreal as this nighttime encounter is (obviously something witchy is afoot), it’s nothing compared to what comes next. Miranda miraculously recovers but it’s clearly at the expense of others. As she gains vitality and vigour, those around her, including students, therapists, and friends, seem to be withering away. Channelling her power leads down a mad, manic path as Miranda continues to put her need to stage the perfect All’s Well first, and people she cares about suffer the consequences. This story is darkly comedic; meant for lovers of Shakespeare and anyone who just wants to see a good show.

High-dose nutrient IV therapy One of the fundamental philosophies I bring to my practice is a deep belief in the body’s capacity to heal itself. Organic systems in nature are wise and complex, far more so than our minds can grasp and technology can emulate (at least at this time). Given the proper support and conditions, the body can heal. Of course, healing is a process not an endpoint, and what healing is and achieves looks different for each person.

Nutrients are the essential building blocks for ALL your physiologic functions, including overall metabolism and energy production, hormone synthesis, immune functioning, and neurotransmitter production. One of the unique therapies I offer in my naturopathic practice is nutrient IV therapy. This treatment involves delivering a mixture of vitamins, minerals, and amino acids intravenously, meaning this solution goes directly into the bloodstream.

We give your body plenty of what it needs, and it knows what to do.

This allows us to bypass the digestive system which, even when functioning optimally, has a limited capacity for absorbing nutrients. Higher doses of vitamins, minerals and amino acids can be delivered to your body via an IV than can be absorbed by your digestive system. This allows us to have a potent therapeutic effect that can’t be achieved through oral supplementation alone.

I see my role as a doctor as facilitator – I don’t heal your body, your body heals your body. I just help you create the right conditions. And IV therapy is a potent way to do this. Through an IV we can deliver a large quantity of building blocks (aka vitamins and minerals) needed for tissue repair and function.

I offer a variety of types of IVs, customized to each patient and their particular needs. I find this therapy particularly helpful for patients who have low resiliency, anyone with a chronic disease, and for support following any surgery or physical injury. It is helpful for acute and chronic infections, and those who are susceptible to frequent colds and flus. I also do glutathione IVs, which are a potent way to support your body’s detoxification pathways. Glutathione is the primary antioxidant produced by your liver, and an unstable molecule that cannot be taken orally in a capsule so must be delivered via IV. Book an appointment or visit my website if you are interested in finding out more about how IV therapy may be helpful as part of your overall approach to health!

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Every Wednesday

Meditation Programme

6:30 to 8:00 pm at St. Mary’s Church, 2600 Fulford-Ganges Road Star of the Sea is offering a weekly meditation programme with Nicola Bishop, on Wednesday evenings 7:00 to 8:30 pm, at St. Mary’s Church. Registration is not required.

We all experience difficult mind states. Anxiety, stress, depression, trauma....and others. In this weekly group, Nicola shares ways to be with what’s difficult, to find that still point in our beings that can “hold” the choppy emotional energy. When we’re embodied and present with what is, very little is needed to be “done”. The body becomes a safe container for a gentle release. For some people trusting the body takes patience and care, as it did for her. It’s a process and not a destination. There isn’t anyone who doesn’t have this “still point”. It can’t be taken away, or improved upon. It just is. Whether we see ourselves as damaged, wounded, or broken, the still-ness is always there, untouched, our true home.

A bit about Nicola and what she offers: “I came to meditation 27 years ago due to a good deal of suffering.

I have mostly practiced in the Thai Forest Tradition of Theravada Buddhism, and I have a wonderful teacher who’s a monk in the UK. Three years ago, I gravitated to a few Non-Dual teachers, and took up the practice of Inquiry. The combination of meditation and Inquiry is a powerful duo, and is simple and profound. In the last year, and presently, I am participating in one-on-one training with a Non-Dual teacher on a weekly basis. After taking a variety of different modalities, including counselling and coaching, I realized that it was the full potential of meditation and Inquiry that I wanted to offer. It has, and is, transforming my life, and it does so for others, too.”

Tuesday, November 1

Gospel, Kirtan, and Vespers — Devotional Music from East and West

7:00 to 8:30 pm at St. Mary’s Church, 2600 Fulford-Ganges RoadThis group has been playing and performing devotional music for some years now: Marilyn (Em) Walker on guitar, percussion, vocals; Edgar Hann on button accordion; Adam Huber on Guitar, vocals; Michael Aronoff on bass guitar; Ojima Clarke on keyboard; and a table player/drummer.

They draw on various spiritual and cultural traditions and faiths — Christian, Tibetan, Hindu, gospel, Celtic and folk — and from various artists both traditional and contemporary — Krishna Das, Emmy Lou Harris, Dolly Parton and others. An evening might include Amazing Grace, Drifting Too Far From The Shore, Krishna Das’ My Foolish Heart, and so on while kirtan such as Sri Radhe Shyam can be sung as call and response.

The blend combines the musicians’ personal backgrounds in spirituality and religion while opening up new venues of devotion for the participants.

Tuesday, November 8

SPIRITUAL CONVERSATION — Faith and Doubt in Our Spiritual Lives

7:00 to 8:30 pm at St. Mary’s Church Star of the Sea hosts an evening discussing the roles of faith and doubt in our spiritual lives.

What is faith? How does it relate to trust, devotion, and surrender? What is doubt, and what is its role in a spiritual life? Is it to be avoided or to be listened to closely for what it can teach? How in our spiritual lives do we negotiate the poles of faith and doubt, trust and mistrust, devotion and skepticism, surrender and resistance? Join us for an open and respectful discussion where participants share their own views and experiences and listen attentively to the words of others. Welcome to followers of all paths or none. The evening will be facilitated by Heather Martin and Brian Day.

November Offerings Please register at staroftheseassi@gmail.com for all events EXCEPT the weekly Meditation.

Donations for participation in these events are welcome.

Visit website www.staroftheseassi.ca.

Wednesday, November 9

PILGRIMAGE OF THE HEART — Labyrinth

1 to 4:00 pm — ALL SAINTS by-the-SEA, 110 Park Drive The labyrinth serves as profound metaphor for pilgrimage and spiritual journey. There are myriad ways The Sacred breaks through the world’s resistance and shines forth into our lives. One way is pilgrimage. Another is the labyrinth. As a doorway, pilgrimage on the labyrinth invites you to journey into your personal encounter with the sacred. During this workshop we will ground into that sacred invitation, be inspired by stories of pilgrimage, become pilgrims on the labyrinth, and journal and share our discoveries. As we share our experiences with each other, new illuminations will emerge. Come and walk your unique roadmap into the deeper realms of the sacred.

No experience necessary. All are welcome! Participants are asked to bring slippers or socks to wear while walking the (indoor) labyrinth.

Led by Gyllian Davies, Veriditas Facilitator.

Cost: $30.00

Tuesday, November 15

Letting Go — A Conversation About Relinquishment

2:00 to 4:00 p.m. — St. Mary’s Church There are times in life when we need to let go of something. It may be something material: a valued object - up to and including a place where we have lived. At other times it is an emotion: bitterness or resentment or grief; a hope that is no longer appropriate or realistic; an ambition that can no longer be fulfilled. Sometimes it is a relationship that has exhausted its life-giving possibilities. Timing can be important. How can we know that the time has come to let go?

We will have a conversation about some of these things and learn, perhaps, from one another’s experience. Facilitated by Clark Saunders, a retired United Church minister who has led events and courses on various aspects of theology and spirituality.

Tuesday, November 15 Sacred Poetry

7:00 to 8:30 p.m. — St. Mary’s Church The sacred, broadly defined, is expressed in many poems about a wide range of topics. Join us for an evening where participants share and respond to poems that speak to them of the sacred. Come with a poem to share or just come to listen and respond to poems brought by others. This is the first in-person poetry event presented by Star of the Sea in some time and will be facilitated by Brian Day.

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the

Sweet Spot

with Seth Shugar

Beware the Ziegarnik Effect In 1922, a recently-married 21-year-old student named Bluma Ziegarnik sat in a café in Vienna and watched as waiters memorized long and complex orders from large groups of people. When she interviewed the waiters afterward, she discovered that they remembered the orders flawlessly until the meals were delivered and the bills were paid. Then they forgot them completely.

After Ziegarnik published her findings on this phenomenon, it came to be known as “the Ziegarnik effect”: we have better recall for events we have not completed than for those we have. In fact, subsequent studies have shown that we are almost twice as likely to remember “unfinished issues” compared to those we’ve processed or in some way put to rest.

The implications of the Ziegarnik effect are massive. A chorus of psychologists have argued that it is not only the catalyst for dreaming and the hidden driver of the parenting styles of insecurely-attached children, but the process that perpetuates PTSD, unresolved grief, general anxiety, OCD and a host of other challenges that revolve around “unfinished business” and a strong tendency toward completion.

Another domain where the Ziegarnik effect can wreak havoc is in our close relationships. A significant body of research has shown that regrettable incidents are inevitable in intimate relationships. John Gottman, for instance, estimates that couples only pay full attention to one another 9% of their time together, leaving the remaining 91% of the time ripe for miscommunication.

If, however, we process our unfortunate miscommunications when they occur, like Ziegarnik’s Viennese waiters we barely remember them afterward. We address them, learn from them and move on.

If, on the other hand, we avoid processing our regrettable incidents, thanks to the Ziegarnik effect they not only stick in our craw and irritate us like a stone in the shoe but they trigger three other unfortunate phenomena.

First, because the Ziegarnik effect increases our tendency to ruminate, it creates a perceptual filter relationship scientists call “negative sentiment override” because when we are experiencing it our negative sentiments (thoughts and feelings) about our partners override (or filter out) many of the good things they continue to do. In a now-famous study, for example, researchers trained couples to keep a tally of their positive interactions. Then they trained observers to go into these couples’ homes and do the same thing. When the couples

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were getting along, their tallies were the same as the observers. When the couples were unhappy, however, they missed fully 50% of the positive events the observers recorded.

Second, with time, negative sentiment override triggers the “fundamental attribution error” which is our tendency, when distressed, to attribute our partner’s behaviours not to situational causes (“They were late because of traffic”) but to enduring negative character traits (“They’re selfish!”).

Third, when combined, the Ziegarnik effect, negative sentiment override and the fundamental attribution error create a potent cocktail that researchers call an “absorbing state” because it basically makes our negative thoughts and feelings about our relationship feel like “The Hotel California” – “You can check out any time you want, but you can never leave.”

In short, the Ziegarnik effect triggers a chain-reaction that can suddenly make a relationship seem like one of those absurd “cumulative” folktales like “A Taste of Honey” where a king refuses to clean up a tiny drop of honey, so a fly eats the honey, a lizard eats the fly, a cat eats the lizard, a dog attacks the cat, the pet-owners quarrel, their friends join in, a civil war erupts and the royal palace is destroyed.

This, in a nutshell, is what dignifies engaging in the sometimes uncomfortable task of processing regrettable incidents. It is also what underlies a recommendation that is made by most of the world’s leading couples counsellors: that couples set aside at least one hour a week for a “state of the union” meeting. While these meetings may initially seem awkward or tedious, anyone who has spent a few days or weeks in the clutches of the Ziegarnik effect certainly won’t need to be convinced of their relative efficiency.

Seth is a Registered Clinical Counsellor, Marital and Family Therapist and Board Certified Life Coach. He works with individuals and couples in private practice. You can reach him at sethshugar@me.com or book a session at www.sethshugar.com

Scopes Brought to you by our own in-house astrologer who now goes by her numerologically correct name of “Ya Righta”

 Aries

 Libra

This year may seem to have

Get out there and get

started as you intended, but

something sorted!

what’s happened since, eh?

Nothing. You haven’t done anything.

 Scorpio Any satisfaction you had about

 Taurus

not having a police record, may

Beaver Point Road guide you.

 Sagittarius

Go with the flow and let the

 Gemini You do a lot of good work, make people pay for it!

 Cancer

be undone today.

I give you permission to do what you want to, today.

 Capricorn A hairy back may trouble you this

Assume everyone’s an idiot

week, especially if it’s not your

today and you may find

hairy back that’s in question.

yourself being patronising and brilliantly witty.

 Leo

Your mother is proud of you.

 Virgo

 Aquarius Ignore those who laugh at your sense of style. WE see you!

 Pisces

Massaging figures is something

This week will go well, except

that both Accountants and

for the bits that don’t. And

Masseurs do. But they are NOT

not only will those bits go

the same thing. Honestly.

badly, but they’ll go BADLY.

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