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Your child’s personality

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Your child’s personality

Learn about your child’s unique personality

14 Family physical activity

Jackie Cowan and Nick Draper help you plan a family tramp

15 Managing a toddler and a new baby

Teaching kids the value of money

Tips on how to survive with a toddler and new baby

Boost your kids’ financial literacy

Cool science experiments at home See the stars with this fun, at-home science experiment

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understanding each other – and ourselves – we’ve got a better chance at a harmonious family life. In this edition of Family Times, our main feature focuses on personality types, and helping to identify your children’s and your own unique make-up. We talk with Nonen Titi, an author and specialist in the field of personality psychology, who offers some great practical tips and advice for parenting. Of course we’ve got lots of other goodies this issue, including a new-look kids’ page with games and reviews, as well as competitions and giveaways galore. Enjoy!

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ne of the most exciting things for any parent is to see their children’s little personalities develop. Are they going to be shy and thoughtful, exuberant and excited, placid and easy-going, or perhaps deliberate and forceful? Then comes the crunch: as they grow into who they are, how can you parent them in a way that will help their unique personality grow into a confident and grounded young person? I grew up in a family of very different personalities – like most families. Each of us siblings would approach a situation in a different way, from our own perception, and each of us would wonder why the other would react in a completely different fashion – one emotionally, one logically, and the other as a peacemaker. Each of us would approach chores differently: one would flat out refuse and stage a big drama; one would just get on and do the job in order to avoid drama, and the other would do it but on their own terms and time schedule. If you’re reading this Racheal and Gary, you know which one you are! As we’ve grown up, I’ve learned to recognise the strengths of each of our personality types; for example, one’s ability to express how they feel and appreciate the feelings of others; one’s ability to deconstruct any problem and offer practical solutions, and one’s capacity for staying calm in a crisis. Simply put, as people, we need other personality types around us to balance us out: sometimes the life of the party needs to learn a little from a deep thinker, and a placid personality can learn from a more exuberant and emotional person. There are strengths and weaknesses in all of us, but by better

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Know your kids' personality type Ever wondered why one of your kids is the life of the party and the other one a day dreamer? Understanding your kids’ – and your own – personality type can help family harmony. Ever since the Greek physician Hippocrates incorporated his theory of four main temperament types into his medical hypotheses back in 460-370 BC, the human race has been postulating ways to understand each other better. As parents, understanding why your children act the way they do – and why you react the way you do – can go great lengths toward building your relationship says Wellingtonbased author Nonen Titi. Titi, a registered nurse with a degree in philosophy, has spent more than 15-years researching the works of Carl Jung and Myers-Briggs on temperament, and written a book on “inner composition.” “Jung devised that people have different personality types because the functions in their personality work differently,” said Titi. “Myers took it from there and devised a test – an indicator of which personality type you are.”

Basic personality types

Myers-Briggs suggests that our psychological differences can be divided into four opposite pairs (dichotomies) resulting in 16 possible psychological types.

There’s extraversion and introversion, sensing and intuition, thinking and feeling, judging and perception. Each person leans more to one side of each of the dichotomies, i.e. extraversion rather than introversion, thinking rather than feeling, and this determines their personality make-up. Although Myers-Briggs suggests that environmental factors can impact on a person’s unique personality, Titi says that a person’s basic personality make-up is innate. “I believe that these type differences are inborn, and it has to be so because if it were not, all people would end up doing the same thing, and as a human group we would lose out. “It also explains why do some children that grow up in a dysfunctional family turn out fine, and why do others not.”

Personality type – is one better than another?

Preferences toward one dichotomy or the other don’t determine a person’s nature, as such, but more how they perceive the world and make decisions. A good example, says Titi, is that Adolph Hitler and Martin Luther King Jnr had the same basic personality type according to Myers-Briggs- but the outworking of their preferences led to very different outcomes due to their own experiences and belief systems. Titi describes personalities as being like music. “Every musician uses four different aspects that make their music – rhythm, melody, theoretical aspect of music, and an instrument to create the mood. But a jazz

musician puts more emphasis on the rhythm, for example, than an opera composer would. So what emphasis they put, it makes for a different sound. It’s the same with personalities.”

Understanding your child’s personality

As a parent, understanding how your child is hard-wired to view the world, and their basic thoughtprocesses around making decisions, can lead to better understanding. Some indicators, says Titi, are easy to recognise from a very early age, for example, introversion and extraversion. “Introverted children are more reluctant to take to a new toy, or to approach something they don’t know. They need to get to know it first. They keep their distance from it, whereas, an extroverted child feels quite comfortable in a world of objects. They leave all their stuff all over the house when an introverted child would control it all in their room. It’s how comfortable they feel in the world around them.” However, introversion and extroversion can

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be confused. It’s not just whether your child talks a lot or wants to go out a lot. It has more to do with their motivation and how they reenergise themselves, says Titi. That becomes more apparent with age. “If an introverted child has been at school all day, they’re exhausted, and they might walk past everybody, go to their room and slam the door, and they don’t want to talk. A parent might feel rejected by that, but it has only to

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do with the need to be alone for a while. “Extroverts are the exact opposite. They come home and they won’t stop talking, because they need to re-energise, they need to get that out somehow, particularly if they’ve been alone for a while.” Hence, telling an introverted child to “go out and make friends,” is not always helpful, Titi said. They would do that when they were

“Introversion and extroversion can be confused. It’s not just whether your child talks a lot or wants to go out a lot. It has more to do with their motivation and how they re-energise themselves.” ready and re-energised from time alone, not on demand.

Disciplining your children one rule for all?

Given the differences in personality types, each child will respond differently to different forms of discipline. A simple harsh word might completely devastate a sensitive, introverted child, and leave them feeling rejected. Whereas a child that leads with their feelings may actually understand and respond better to a parent who gets angry and emotional, because it’s something that they can relate to. That doesn’t make one personality type better or worse – just different, explains Titi. “There are children that are by nature

obedient, that heed authority. They do that naturally, but they are also the same children who, for example, would follow their peers. Other children, who are naturally more independent, they follow the rules by definition only when they feel like it. But they are also the children who will stand strong against bullies and not be pushed into peer pressure.” That doesn’t mean that you should try to change yourself to relate better to your children though. Titi says that the best thing that parents can do is to be themselves. “Every parent also has a personality type and if you’re going to try to force your child or yourself in one way or another, it doesn’t work. I think the best thing a parent can do is to be aware that not every child is the same, and that it’s okay, and that they understand where they come from.” Titi is concerned that a lack of understanding around personalities at times leads to misdiagnosis of conditions in kids – particularly kids that appear hyperactive. “Many kids are getting labelled with things such as ADHD, for behaviour that is a normal personality trait.” That’s not to take away from genuine cases of hyperactivity, said Titi, but a greater understanding and knowledge around personality types would help parents and teachers bring out the best in their kids. “A child that doesn’t like sitting still at school and writing but prefers to be out on its bike, or learns better by walking around or touching things, is not necessarily hyperactive. The school system is hypoactive. It’s not suited for these children. These children need a different way to express themselves.”

How do you know your child’s personality? The first step is to work out what makes you as a parent tick. Search online for a Myers-Briggs personality test, complete the questions, and then educate yourself as much as you can about your personality type. It’s a bit trickier to complete the test for your kids, but you can give it a go. Even a bit more study around the eight dichotomies will help you to better recognise what motivates your child’s decisions and perception of the world.

Extraversion and introversion

With Myers-Briggs, extraversion means “outward-turning” and introversion means “inward-turning.” • Extraverts are “action” oriented, while introverts are “thought” oriented. • Extraverts seek “breadth” of knowledge and influence, while introverts seek “depth” of knowledge and influence. • Extraverts often prefer more “frequent” interaction, while introverts prefer more “substantial” interaction. • Extraverts recharge and get their energy from spending time with people, while introverts recharge and get their energy from spending time alone.

Sensing and intuition

Sensing and intuition describe how new information is understood and interpreted. Individuals who prefer sensing are more

likely to trust information that is in the present, tangible, and concrete. They prefer to look for details and facts. Those who prefer intuition tend to trust information that is more abstract or theoretical. They may be more interested in future possibilities. For them, the meaning is in the underlying theory and principles that are in the data.

Thinking and feeling

Thinking and feeling are the decision making (judging) functions. Those who prefer thinking tend to measure a decision by what seems reasonable, logical, causal, consistent, and matching a given set of rules. Those who prefer feeling tend to come to decisions by associating or empathising with the situation, looking at it “from the inside” and weighing the situation to achieve the greatest harmony.

Judging and perception

Myers and Briggs identified that people also have a preference for using either the judging function (thinking or feeling) or their perceiving function (sensing or intuition) when relating to the outside world. Those with a preference for judging show the world their preferred judging function (thinking or feeling). Those types who prefer perception show the world their preferred perceiving function (sensing or intuition). For more information visit www.myersbriggs.org.

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Getting wise with financial literacy for kids Some kids say their families are just not good with money, or unlucky, but ASB Get Wise programme manager Linda Hodgson says it’s all about making the right decisions. Whilst reading, writing and arithmetic have always been key focuses in education, financial literacy has not. It’s just in the past five years that the Get Wise programme has set out to change the way kids think about money in an increasingly consumer-driven world. “Really, the biggest difference is that money has become largely invisible. A lot of kids don’t get the experience of dealing with money. Swipe that card, that’s all it takes,” said Hodgson. In fact, one child that Hodgson knows of believed that her mother actually earned money by grocery shopping – after all, her mother would go around the grocery store, put all the groceries in the shopping trolley, and at the end, get money out of the machine in the store. The Get Wise programme reaches about 450 schools around New Zealand each year, with specialised workshops for years 1 – 8 that

are delivered by trained facilitators. Then the schools are given resources so that teachers can continue to make financial literacy part off the curriculum throughout a chosen school term. It’s even beginning to change the way that teachers think, said Hodgson. “My favourite story is a teacher going away and saying after class, “I really need to reconsider a pair of hot red boots I wanted to buy.”” The focus of Get Wise is around determining needs from wants in a “consume now, worry later,” world, in which even malls and stores are scientifically designed to entice shoppers to spend more, and advertising pervades all of our spaces. Identifying things such as shelter, food, water and warmth as needs, and toys and games as wants is essential, says Hodgson. “We teach kids that they can speed to their needs, and wait for their wants, because by intermediate school age, they are starting to make decisions that really matter.” Hodgson admits that it sounds a bit boring – especially with terms such as budget planning. But Get Wise aims to make it fun by turning what seems like chore into an inspirational goal, such as planning and saving for a family holiday. With wants, Get Wise helps kids to identify ways to get their wants as well as their needs. If there is a gap between what they want and the money they have, how can they earn

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extra money? Are there perhaps some extra chores that they could pick up that would have some value for the family, and would help them to earn a few dollars extra that they can save toward their goal? Different parents teach their kids about money in different ways, says Hodgson. Some parents are hugely passionate about showing their kids how to manage money, but in a lot of households – affluent and struggling – there is an attitude of “we don’t talk about money.” In past times, when pay packets would come home with Dad on a Friday night and it was split up into different envelopes for different bills and savings goals, it was at least visible. But today, kids are not as well schooled on

managing money because they don’t see where it goes, and hence, don’t understand its value or how hard people work for it. “One of the schools asked if we could hold a workshop for parents. It’s extraordinarily hard to get parents to come along though, because money is a very emotional topic for people,” said Hodgson. “People who have it don’t think they have problems with managing it, and people who don’t have it don’t believe they have anything to talk about.” The New Zealand Council of Educations has independently evaluated the Get Wise programme, and has found that it is being successful in changing knowledge, attitudes and behaviour around money.

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Calendar of Events and dancing live concerts and the Apples and Wrap the family up nice and Come and join the fun and get a prize! Bananas tour promises to be one of the best! warm and head out to enjoy 11 July Regent Theatre, 10-11am. Visit premier.ticketek.co.nz. some fantastic winter, family- Ukulele Workshop. Come along to this easy-peasy ukulele workshop designed just friendly events. For more for kids! Bring your own ukulele or borrow 18 July one at the workshop. Bookings essential. event and entertainment Freddo’s Family Story Time. Hop to the coin donation per child. Toitu Otago library with your family for a story session. ideas, visit www.familytimes. Gold Settlers Museum, 10.30-11.30am. Visit www. Meet Freddo Frog and enjoy a chocolate co.nz and enjoy our large, toituosm.com treat! From 10.30am-12.30pm. Visit www. family-friendly resource. dunedinlibraries.govt.nz for locations. 12 July BioBlitz. As part of the 2014 NZ 27 June 26 July International Science Festival, join an expert team of some of New Zealand’s finest scientists at the Dunedin Botanic Garden. Dunedin Botanic Garden, 10am-4pm. Visit www.dunedinbotanicgarden.co.nz.

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Entertainment Winter is upon us, and with it, the temptation to hibernate in the warmth of home. But with so many exciting things to do around the city, you’re going to want to put on winter woollies and head out for some entertainment. Here are a few ideas to get you started, and we’ve got heaps more at www.familytimes.co.nz.

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Teaching kids respect Sometimes it’s important to sweat the small stuff!

t’s not good to growl at every little thing, but there are small battles worth winning to cancel out the bigger ones. When you ignore poor manners, back chat and rudeness, you allow your child to become disrespectful and even angry. Nip the small things in the bud and win those battles. How your child speaks to you is important! Taking ground over a small area will give you success in bigger areas. Go for it - be firm. Parents often drop their guard over little things like how their child speaks to them. They ignore the whining, moaning, grizzling, taunting and cheek, in favour of keeping their energy and big guns for the major battles. Children often see this drop in attention to respect as a doorway to act in more challenging ways, and this is where parenting gets hard. You, as a parent, feel you have been generous in ignoring the little things, and yet confused as to why your child is becoming harder to manage, not easier. Pay attention to how they speak to you and start real early; like the correct way of asking for their drink or thanking you for their treat. Energy and focus on respectful speaking serves to curb harder more intense behaviors like tantrums, swearing, lying and anger outbursts. A similar thing was shown to be effective in New York City. Rudy Gullianne tackled petty crime and tagging and took out a lot of major crime in the process. The motivation behind what a child is doing can be your key to deciding whether to tackle it or not. A parent is often making the quick decision. Is this simply playfulness, an accident, an over tired child, forgetfulness, a lack of concentration or is it a lack of respect?

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ness - introduce it as your bottom line. Your children will appreciate knowing why you are insisting that everyone in the family speaks with respect to one another. Model it daily in your own interactions. Your children are looking for what respect really looks like. They will watch you and learn from you all the time: the way you address the waiter in the restaurant, the way you speak to the person you disagree with, the way you pass messages on and probably most importantly, the way you treat family members. If you yell, show disdain, complain and show a low tolerance level for people with different ideas, it is what your children will copy. Have simple consequences for disrespect. It is easy to rant and rave about something you want to see happen. Kids get used to it and decide that they can endure the lecture. If you really want their behavior to change, let your consequences do the shouting for you. Follow up on unkind words, taunting and ridicule. Let your children know that it will not be talked about – it will be acted upon. Give your children another chance to show you they can speak respectfully. Everyone slips up from time to time. When children do something disrespectful, like shout at you from one end of the house, go to them and calmly and firmly

Respect is not an optional extra. It really is a vital ingredient to prioritise and foster. Treating people respectfully is totally achievable and totally worth the effort. By Jenny Hale, senior family coach at The Parenting Place

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Family physical activity Building up to an overnight tramp In a special series of articles for Family Times, Jackie Cowan and Nick Draper – primary school and physical activity specialists from the University of Canterbury –highlight some activities, family games and resources that can help families add more fun physical activity into their lives.

with physical activity and games with them. Another great research finding is that walking represents a great form of physical activity that can help elevate our metabolism. We don’t need to go to the gym or for a run to get our heart and lungs working to promote our health and wellbeing. Walking is a great way to increase our physical activity. Walking is therefore the focus of our editorial this season. As well as breaks during our working days, we can make walking and tramping part of family activity time. The suggestions in the rest of the article provide some steps towards taking an overnight tramp as a family, and in doing so, taking advantage of the great huts that our regional and national parks have to offer. s we uncover a greater understanding of Most kids love camping and an overnight the importance of regular physical activity family trip could be a great highlight of the in our lives, this highlights the importance summer season. So now, through the autumn for all the family to be out and about playing and winter, it’s a great time to build up your games and getting regular – daily – exercise. walking skills and to start planning such a trip. Our bodies are designed to move, so to Getting out as a family and walking locally promote continued health and wellbeing we is a great start – walk to the park, take the need to be physically active. dog and use local maps with children to help Yet here we are sitting at a computer typing them find the way en route. To get used this, and you are sitting reading this article for to carrying a backpack you could pack your Family Times – all is not lost for us though! lunches and water bottles into your daypacks. Although physically inactivity has become a Encourage children to carry their own small big part of many of our working lives, such as daypacks where possible. Once you are sitting in an office for work, research shows happy with these walking experiences and us that if we take regular breaks and get up sense that your family is ready for the next and move, we can keep our metabolism – our step, look for your first walking adventures in bodies, heart and lungs – at a healthier level. the outdoors. For children in schools, the embedded breaks It’s great to begin with a visit to a local DOC for morning and afternoon tea and lunch Centre, where they can help identify good provide natural opportunities to be active. introduction walks. It’s also great to get off Teachers can help further by bringing physical flat or tar-sealed roads and to walk in the activity breaks into the classroom on top of hills and smaller footpaths near to home – any scheduled PE lessons. building up the distances as you go. Then In addition, teachers, and we as parents, can after another trip to DOC you can locate an promote physical activity options for children accessible hut for a first overnight trip – it and get involved as well. There is no stronger doesn’t need to be a long tramp – it’s the fun message for children than when we get involved of the trip and experience that are the key.

With a tent and a camping stove and some simple recipes you can also do some great overnight camping trips in the back garden. Find some lightweight meals that you can cook easily. With a bit of help from an adult, children can also be involved in the cooking – this can make a great change from home.

Foods that work well for an overnight camp include, pasta and sauces, wraps, instant soups and of course jellybeans to keep the troops moving during the walk to the hut. Leave lots of time to reach the hut and take some games (a ball and some cards etc) for the evening and a great time can be had by all!

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It can seem overwhelming, the thought of managing your active toddler and bringing home a new baby.

f course, there are the sleepless nights and managing breastfeeding, but many times too your toddler may take time adjusting to the introduction of a new family member, given that they have been the sole sum of your world for the past few years. “Key ideas to consider here are that our easy or flexible children may adjust more easily to change, and because they do, we need to be more mindful to connect with them compared to the child who may need more support with change - we are very aware of their needs,” says Strategies with Kids, Information for Parents (SKIP) national leader Regan Mayo. Here are some tips from Plunket and Skip to help you broach this trying time.

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Prepare your older child by talking with them during your pregnancy. Explain who will look after them while you have the baby. Include your older child in getting ready for the new baby. Make any major changes before the baby comes, such as moving the older child out of the cot or bedroom. Involve your older children in the preparation. Ask them for their ideas on names and things you need to buy. Show your older child they are loved and special by talking with them and telling them you love them. Giving your older child a present from the new baby is a good idea too.

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