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Contents APRIL 2020
FEATURES 50
BURL MOSELEY Talks upcoming roles and advice
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SERGIO LANE Takes us on his journey to creative happiness
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CASEA ROSE & EMILY BRENNAN Wellbeing and breathwork
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SHANNON HUNT Talks music
106 SHIRA LAZAR Shares comforting words 118
RACHEL KYLIAN 7 Questions
BEAUTY 79
Beauty Scope - DEBBIE SAVAGE
RELATIONSHIPS & LOVE 103
LOA (Ask Becca) - REBECCA SCHUSTER
FASHION 36
SS20 Trends and outfit ideas (March/April)
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Style and Sass - TIFFANY GIANNATO
EXTRAS 9
Letter from the Editor
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ANNIE MORCOS Instagram - audience engagement
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Self-Care During Isolation REBECCA SCHUSTER
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Words of Wisdom- Editor-in-Chief
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Andrea’s Angle - ANDREA RAPPAPORT
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Life Style Buzz - NAZA HOLLIMAN
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Horoscopes - KYLE THOMAS
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Our Cover Star JUSTIN KLOSKY
Talks Mental Health and shares his top tips for DIGITAL CLEANING
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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF CHERYL DE MARCO @cherylandmore
ON THE COVER JUSTIN KLOSKY
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CONTRIBUTORS AND FEATURES Andrea Rappaport @theandrearappaport Annie Morcos @anniesartstudio Burl Moseley @burlmoseley Casea Rose @casea.rose Emily Brennan @emilyelizabeth.me Debbie Savage @debbiessavage Kyle Thomas @mrkylethomas Naza Holliman @sweet.p.and.sky Rachel Kylian @rachelkylian Rebecca Schuster @lovebecca26 Sergio Lane @sergiodarcylane Shannon Hunt @shannonhuntmusic Shira Lazar @shiralazar Tiffany Giannato @tiffyg77
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e all started March with Spring in mind, Easter holidays, vacation planning, and the desire to get out and about now that the weather was beginning to warm. But as I write this, the expectations of the months ahead have changed dramatically, and the challenges we all currently face as a human race are both unexpected and devastating. I want to thank everyone who is currently putting their life on the line to help save others during this pandemic. April’s publication marks our 5th month, and the first month we have decided to maintain a subject throughout the magazine. Given the uncertainty we are faced with daily, we have put mental health at the top of our list. Our cover star, the talented and inspirational entrepreneur Justin Klosky goes in-depth about his struggles with OCD and the importance of mental health. During this time of chaos and uncertainty, where we are all suffering, and our beautiful world is crumbling beneath us. We need to come together, be mindful of those around us. Show kindness and compassion towards others who are struggling. Be thoughtful and caring, and together we will get through this. WE ALL NEED HOPE
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ON THE COVER Justin Klosky
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Justin
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Edited by Cheryl De Marco www.ocdexperience.com @theocdexperience @justklosky @ocdwallet
Part organizer, part innovator, creative artist and entrepreneur Justin Klosky talks the importance of mental health, and goes into detail about his journey and struggles with OCD, which led to the creation of his very successful business O.C.D. Experience®
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ur cover star Justin Klosky took time out of his busy schedule to sit down (virtually) with our Editorin-Chief to discuss the importance of mental health, especially during this time of uncertainty where the world is struggling, and people are forced to self isolate and practice social distancing during this global lockdown period. An organizational expert to the stars, and Fortune 500 companies, Justin has helped organize and implement efficient practices, which has changed the lives of many.
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As well as giving advice on various media outlets such as TV Appearances, Radio Stations, and Print Media, Justin also wrote the book ‘Organize & Create Discipline: An A-Z Guide to an Organized Existence’, as well as the creator of the O.C.D. RFID Wallet, and holds numerous design patents on organizational and lifestyle products. Just when we thought he couldn’t be any more fantastic, this handsome and successful entrepreneur has also decided to share his top five tips for digital organization that we can all do from the comfort of our homes or offices, and benefit from.
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C: So, tell me a bit about your company, and what inspired you to start it? J: The O.C.D. Experience was started in 2008, with Organize & Create Discipline branching off to be a professional organizing business, that I started out of a need for an interim job as an actor. As someone who struggled with OCD, in between roles coming off from a show and auditioning, it was really hard for me to not have some sort of semblance of ownership over my life. As a result, I created for myself my business, which is the closest thing that enables me to breathe a little bit in my life. C: I Imagine the sense of achievement after helping any client must be amazing; are there any clients which you’ve just been like, oh my, that was terrible? J: We all at some point in our lives experience terrible times, and what you have to remember is that regardless of who the client is, or where they are coming from in their lives, a terrible experience can just be someone not being able to handle or deal with whatever’s going on in their life at that time. However, those experiences are more of a growth experience that needs to be figured out and understood, which then in turn, helps the client to be able to carry on in their life, whether in a moment with me, or any of the consultants that are working with me. I do recall however, when I first started my business in New York, there was a female client who was so abusive. As someone who has been in abusive relationships, taken abuse, and also given abuse in the past, due to how I felt at certain points in my life, it was hard for me to disconnect. It was the first year of my business and they paid me really good money. I was in their home, and they were a very strict family, so I didn’t know how to thoroughly deal with it myself, but as with any client, the time comes for the consultations to end; so that ended up being a really good learning experience of where I never wanted to be again in my life. C: As well as O.C.D. Experience, author of the book Organize & Create Discipline, and creator of the O.C.D. RFID wallet. What’s next? What do you foresee in the future, and what would you like to do? J: For the last three years I have been working on an app that is an Inventory Management System. This will enable private O.C.D. clients, estates and very busy people to track, organize and know everything that is coming in and out of their lives. So, I’m curious to take that part of my business to the next level and really make that digital organization the focus of what O.C.D. is in the next ten years. C: So you see it going digital? J: Yes, I do. A big part of my business now is digital organization. Helping clients understand their footprint in their own lives with their digital assets, their emails, how they’re organizing their calendar, even including their family in this, photos, papers, and really trying to understand the depth of papers that people have and why. Then trying to take those digital assets and make them usable for people, functional, tangible, not only for the clients in the ownership that they have, but the support staff that some people might have in their lives to help them keep their lives organized or in clarity. C: Oh, that’s exciting. I’m starting to feel a little embarrassed about my inbox now.
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J: That’s a big thing, inbox organization. I think I have eight emails in my inbox as we speak and eager to move them into their rightful home. C: Oh my goodness, this is so embarrassing, I have 658. I think I should get a consultation; do you offer discounts for friends? [Laughter] J: Oh, that’s not bad, it could be worse. C: You have worked with some very high-profile public figures; how do you balance your private life and your public life? J: I don’t have a public life. [Laughter] I don’t find it difficult to manage my private life and my public life. As I become more established in what I do, I find that my public life is really just my private life. I have to treat them with equal value, because being responsible for my actions should carry through all over. I don’t masquerade as anyone at this point in my life, which feels really good. I just try to keep other people’s private lives who might be engaged in my private life – private, which, I think, is the best way to handle that. I’m genuinely myself at this point in my life. There’s not much that could turn up on the internet tomorrow that would blow people’s minds about who I am or what’s going on in my life. Sorry to disappoint. I’ve lived, and am grateful for those experiences. C: The O.C.D. Experience is based in LA, New York, and Florida, do you personally travel for each client? J: O.C.D. primarily services clients in those areas, but we’re all over the place. Me and my team have been very grateful to be able to travel all around the world to talk about O.C.D. Experience and help people find clarity in their lives. C: Good to know, I may know someone that needs your services. [Winks] C: You often work from home; do you ever get to shut off or does it creep into your personal time? J: Yeah, work is always work; if there is something to attend to, especially with some of the clients that I work with. I was working on Christmas Day dealing with a client. I might get a text message at 10pm on a Saturday night because a client is in need of something that we have control over, or could help them with. We are always available to our clients, especially since they are the backbone of our business. It’s like working in the entertainment industry, you know it never stops, and that’s just part of being a full-service company and why our clients work with us. C: You have made regular appearances on talk shows giving advice on how to organize various aspects of life and home, are you still doing that, and would you consider creating your own channel? J: I am always up for working with shows, brands and like-minded individuals. I am happy to spread information that people might not be aware of, especially to an audience that’s not just face-toface but broadcasted. I have a background in acting that covers a considerably long time, so it was very easy for me to make that transition from being a paid television actor memorizing lines, to a paid spokesperson, or a paid expert coming on to a show to talk about things; I’m just very comfortable in that medium. I am glad people also resonate with me, and respond well to me in that space. I’m constantly always up for (continued on page 18)
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new experiences like that; and as for my own channel, there is an O.C.D. Experience Channel on Youtube that has some of my videos that have been broadcast. I’m not currently interested in creating content on YouTube to teach people how to get organized on a daily basis; I would much rather have face-to-face contact with people. If there is a need for me to be in that space, and people want to capture my advice digitally to broadcast, I will always be open to it. But that’s not something that I want to do on an everyday basis. There are so many things going on in the world right now, and there is so much content, especially in the organizing space,
therefore my philosophy on it is, unless there is something so unique and so interesting to share, there is no need for me to be making content about how to organize someone’s closet at this point, or how to fold their clothes properly. If you want to watch it, you can probably find it online, and nine times out of ten it’s the basic home organizing stuff. No one is reinventing the wheel at this point, at least in the ‘home” space. Digital, well that is a new evolving space and I am happy to invent and create solutions for this new medium. C: Your video on how to fold a fitted sheet did help me though, I’m now a pro at folding sheets, and it’s awesome! 18 UPLOADER MAGAZINE
J: [Laughter] Thank you. I appreciate that. There are videos every now and then that do resonate with people. It’s fun, and it’s different. There’s no real proper way to fold a fitted sheet, but if you can tie something up in a little bow and make people feel like they’re accomplishing something in an efficient and clear way, It’s good. One thing about that video, I got a lot of criticism on was the “way” the sheet ended up being folded. I can’t believe it’s even a conversation, as it was pointed out by someone much more critical than my own self, and as someone who deals with OCD, there would be no way I would be ok with how the sheet was folded in the end. Sometimes, accepting things as they are can be a relief, and although my OCD creeps in sometimes telling
me otherwise, it is easier to let things be, than to constantly fixate on them. We all have a choice how much we move into that space, it is just learning how to recognize when we are moving to that space, and most importantly why. Let’s be real... I’ve worked in the film and TV business, and if I wanted a clean shot of the sheet, I could have taken it. We want to be authentic. Nothing in your life should take so much time and energy out of you when it comes to these simple mundane tasks of organizing, and that’s really my goal when presenting any kind of content, or any kind of advice to people in the world. It must be what is the simplest, most efficient, most effective way to tackle something
that really shouldn’t be taking up too much of your time and energy. It also has to vibrate with you in some way that feels good. You just have to figure out what that is for you. C: Your business helps you manage your OCD, are there other things not related to your company which you find helpful? J: Mental health, my OCD, yeah, a lot of the things that I started to create for myself, that I now share with our clients, which directly stemmed from me needing to find a way to deal with some of the OCD tendencies that popped up in my life. I don’t know if people, or your audience is aware of
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Mine relates to incidents that happened when I was first aged 8 and then 11; I had a lot of childhood trauma dragging behind those experiences with two separate instructors in my life, and at such a young age without anyone to guide or set boundaries for me. I always had OCD tendencies, but they were set on fire after that; and I think there is usually some kind of traumatic event that sets it off, spirals it off, and then leaves most people in this place of just dumbfoundedness.
I’ve done a lot of self-help, and a lot of work with therapists in and out of recovery, and it has allowed me to move through what those things were, in order to become a whole person again, and not let my OCD run my life. At this point, most of my life is pretty much in order, and those habits that some people who have OCD form around them, become just part of their life, and it doesn’t run their life; however, for others, their OCD does run their life. But at this point, most of my OCD tendencies are now just habits that are a part of my daily life; I’ve recognized what those are, and I don’t really let them affect me or my relationships any longer. In the past, my OCD did get in the way of some of my relationships, both personally and professionally.
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Giving up to a higher power can be humbling and also really healthy and satisfying for that OCD mind
Most of these OCD tendencies arise in people who are diagnosed with OCD, that originated from something that happened in their lives. Some people know what those things are, and some people have repressed those things so much, that they might not ever know what they are. But I figured out what mine were.
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this, but there are five different types of OCD Contamination, Harm Obsessions/Checking, Intrusive Thoughts, Counting/ Symmetry/Orderliness and Hoarding. I had pretty much most of those when I was younger, but as I got older, some of those tendencies started to curb themselves as I became more cognizant of who I was and what was setting my OCD off.
Being aware and practicing meditation, or attending meetings of some kind, whether it’s with a men’s group or recovery groups, or reading other people’s journeys of what recovery looks like with OCD, it’s important to understand the medical parts of OCD because there is a lot of truth to the medical side of it. Having said that, there is also a lot of truth to the spiritual side of it, and trying to combine physical, mental and spiritual, in order to find some sort of balance and semblance in my life is a daily practice. If I didn’t attend to that on a daily basis, my life would be chaos, but it’s constant and a lot of breathing. Not just the traditional meditating through breath, but being present in life with breath and taking that extra breath; sometimes admitting that I am powerless over things, rather than thinking that I am all this grateful, powerful person, that can handle it all alone. Giving up to a higher power can be humbling and also really healthy and satisfying for that OCD mind. C: With everything that’s going on in the world right now, how are you coping and what advice would you give to others? J: I had a couple of friends over here last night during the self isolation time, where we shouldn’t be around people, and I’ve realized most of my life I’ve been preparing for something like this. I’m pretty self sufficient in terms of how I live my life, how I operate, and how I shop, so it hasn’t been too (continued on page 21)
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much of a change for me. For example, I was already stocked up on toilet paper and paper towels, foods, coconut water, almond milk, frozen strawberries and bananas, frozen waffles and peanut butter. I almost live my life like I’m in the army, although I’m a Jew from Florida, which had no army upbringing. So for me, it’s been pretty easy to just be in my own space, breathe, and understand that there’s a whole world going on outside that is probably quiet. There are some days during the week where I don’t ever leave my home at all, just given the nature of what I do as an entrepreneur and running my own business.
My friend Scott was over last night, and he said to me “Justin, I don’t know what to do, I’m working from home; it’s crazy, I’m alone all day and it’s self isolating”. I’m like, THIS IS WHAT I’VE BEEN DOING FOR 12 YEARS. [Laughter] He looked at me like what? And so for me, it hasn’t been much of a change; but for the people that have been affected, it is a change for them. It’s hard because we live in a society where we are all used to constant attention, constant bombardment on our phones, the need for this misplaced interaction, and just energy from things that really don’t give us energy back. I think this is the time that everyone’s going to remember because we’re being forced to self reflect, and be in a place that’s uncomfortable. I’ve been in uncomfortable situations in places my whole life, and that is also another reason why my OCD spun out of control is because people have put me in uncomfortable situations when I was younger, where I didn’t have the verbiage to say no or understand what the word no meant.
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We live in a society where we are all used to constant attention, constant bombardment on our phones, the need for this misplaced interaction, and just energy from things that really don’t give us energy back
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I think people are going to look back at this time that we are in, and really reflect on where they were, who they were, and who they want to come out of this experience, as relationships can and will grow. Unfortunately, some relationships will diminish during this time, because it’s forcing people to really recognize what’s important to them; we live in a world where we put so much value on things that really aren’t important in the long run, like social media, digital social interaction, engagement from strangers. You know, I think this is really forcing people to dig deeper inside, and for people like myself and a lot of the creatives in my life and friends of mine, that’s a daily practice for us; but for a lot of people it’s not. I really hope that people are using this time to just self reflect and understand their place in the world, and what’s important to them when they move out of this, because it will pass, and the world will forever be changed. Hopefully, people will come out of this, much wiser, much stronger, and much more rooted in who they are and who they want to be; outside of all of these things that usually define us, like our career, our social circle, our Instagram followers, and maybe, be better from it. (continued on page 22)
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There are so many people in the world that have a career; sadly, some forget who they were when they were younger, and what they wanted to focus on creatively. I urge people, anyone out there, that when they are building their own business, regardless of if they have a nine to five, or they’re running a magazine, or they’re a doctor, to not forget those little pieces of life, that flips the switch and lights the fire in them, that makes them want to get up a little quicker in the morning, because they are that much more excited about life. They’re allowing themselves the freedom to explore something that may or may, not be correct in what the map of their life looks like, but everyone has it; everyone has at least one of those things. For me, the constant need for creative expression will always be in my life; I’m not currently acting, but people do ask me to come back and do things sometimes. At this moment, it is not the right time for me, so instead I’m producing, I’m writing more, I’m building things around myself daily. I’m still finding ways to creatively express myself in my work, personal life, and romantic life. The (O.C.D.) Organized, Create, Discipline is one of my ways of creatively expressing who I am to help other people, allowing them to find some sort of order or balance, or semblance in their life, as for some that gets lost sometimes; including myself. This is why it’s so important to make time for those little things, and that brings us back to where we are right now as a society, hopefully people are making more time for those things now.
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C: I don’t know, don’t you scratch your face? J: Sure, but I do it very delicately and very softly, unless I am agitated about something else. C: I guess they’ve got to get through all the fur. J: Yeah, I’m like I’m a young Larry David in the making. [Laughter] C: [Laughter] C: Tell me something people don’t know about you. J: Wow… Something that most people don’t know about me, is that I went into recovery for sex and love addiction about two years ago, and it changed my life. That was a game changer for me as an adult, and as a human, and also as a Jew who was brought up with very little God in his life; probably not even believing that there was any kind of God until a couple of years ago, or some higher power. Finding that higher power for me was also a game changer, because I used to believe that I could handle anything, and that I was powerful enough to take care of everything that came at me; but I learned that there are some things in life that you need to turn over to something greater than you. Once I realized what that was for me, because it’s different for everybody again, what God is, it allowed me the freedom to step away from certain things instead of reacting or engaging; it gives you perspective and that breath that I was talking about. So yeah, not a lot of people know that about me.
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For example the young girl, who, in high school dreamed of being a writer ended up being a dentist, is now at home because she can’t practice on her patients, but writing about it is feasible. Who knows. So, don’t give up self expression and creation, because you feel like you don’t have enough time or you’re tired at the end of the day from your nine to five. Constantly explore what that is for you, because in my opinion, that will keep you young, that will keep you alive, and that will allow you to communicate with younger generations, because through creativity and self expression there’s no definition to what that looks like. There’s no rules to what, where, how or when you can play in those arenas; and there’s no direct path to what success looks like with any of those things. So now more than anything, I think people need to grasp on some level what that is for them, and how that affects not only their lives, but the people around them. C: Wow… That’s some insight and advice. J: So here is something completely different... I have never understood this, why do dogs scratch their faces. Like with their 22 UPLOADER MAGAZINE
claws they get right in there. I never understood it. I feel so bad for them because that must hurt. These are the things I think about Cheryl.
There are a lot of people who are public about their recovery and what that looks like for them. I’ve read books which I’ve learned from and grown from, and I think every person, every man, at least in this world, should look into what recovery looks like on some level, because we have so much trauma and so many things that we’re forced to repress or deal with, because it’s not okay or you don’t feel safe to talk about it. But the moment you can come to terms with what those things are for you, I think the healthier person you can be, not only for yourself, but for someone else if you’re in a relationship. I’m hoping that anyone out there who has OCD, or ADHD or any of the D’s, (the disorders), can understand that yes, it is a medical issue, but we are much stronger than we give ourselves credit for, and our brain is just an energy ball of synapses that has been trained to fire in certain ways over and over again, to pattern us; but we can break that pattern anytime we want. As long as we can understand why we’re choosing to fire the synapses, and the way we think and act, actions can be broken in seconds, and thoughts can be stopped with breath. We have the power, regardless of what medicines we’re on or how we’re self medicating, or how we’re distracting ourselves to pause and be; rather than just continue to act the way that we’ve trained ourselves to act. It’s delicate. I’ve learned in these interviews, when I talk about OCD, I get a lot of pushback, and I get a lot of comments from people who don’t believe that their disorder is curable. That’s just not true to me, and people can argue and get upset all they want about what that looks like for them; but for me, I know that there are ways to deal with it, and I want to share and try to empower people as much as I can to move through whatever that looks like for themselves.
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FUN QUESTIONS So I like to end with some fun and slightly different questions, we are almost there I promise...
C: Which music decade is your favorite?
J: 50’s. I’m a sucker for the feels and the songwriters and the music that emerged during the 50’s. Bobby Darian, The Fifth Dimension, Fats Domino, Van Morrison and of course queen Aretha Franklin. It was a time where love was different, where connection engaged mind, body and spirit much more, and music was rocking really hard. There are a lot of songs that I love to sing that are from the 50’s and jam out to anytime they come on in the car. C: If you could have any superpower what would it be and why? J: I’d enjoy the superpower of the ability to bend, shape and alter time, like the character Doctor Strange. I believe in multi dimensions and find it fascinating how and why we’re all here. I love exploring how time could be nonlinear. If I had the ability to stop it, it would be much easier to explore, understand, and venture deeper into space, maybe even spaces that we can’t see because of how time moves in our dimension. Yep. Time Bender. C: Who would win a fight between Batman and Superman? J: This is really hard because I am a huge Batman and Superman fan, in their own ways and Bruce Wayne is a total badass on so many levels, but I’m gonna have to pick Superman. He has a
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I like finding the lines in things and the perspective that has yet to be seen good moral compass, knows how to open his heart and how to love gently and patiently, is kind, generous, on time, and yet he has the ability to dismantle almost anything in his sight. That’s a master of superpowers. Having integrity while having other forms of power at the same time. Basically the ability to be able to crush anything in your site. And yet he still always manages to make the right decision and save everyone. I think our current government could use a little bit of that right now. C: If you ever needed to change your name, what would you change it to? J: Billy Bob Thorton (the second) because honestly I think he just had a really badass name and I don’t think I’d really ever need to change my name, but if I did, I bet the people that come looking for Billy Bob are pretty cool. Also, I feel like if I had to make up a name it would be pretty absurd and I would call myself Jester January. I don’t know, it’s the first thing that came from my mind and I’m trying not to judge myself at the moment. Kids probably would make fun of me if we were in middle school. In fact all lower grade schools before college, but after going back to question number two I realize that my new name would be Tyme Bender. He’d be a fun character to explore. C: Your favorite joke? J: My top two would be from one of my favorite comedians, Mitch Hedberg... ‘I’m against picketing, but I don’t know how to show it.’ ‘A waffle is like a pancake with a syrup trap.’
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Justin’s
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What does digital organization mean to you? What does your digital life look like to you? Are you aware of all the digital assets you have and where they are stored? Digital organization can be overwhelming, but not if you see it from a physical perspective first.
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When I created the O.C.D. Experience and Organize & Create Discipline 13 years ago, my main goal was to use the organizational systems that helped me cope with my own traumas which showed up in my OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) to help people find clarity with simple organizational systems. Today I’m grateful to help others all over the world find balance, simplicity, and order by creating solutions in their spaces with their tangible belongings while helping them understand their digital spaces as well.
1. Simply, Understand Your Space We all deal with, and own the same items in the physical world that we do in the digital world. The difference is that in the digital world our items can become much more overwhelming and out of sight. Look at the desktop of your physical desk, and then look at the desktop of your computer. Do they resemble one another? A clear desktop is a clear mind and a messy desktop is chaos. Period. Find a balance for yourself. Identify what you are using your space for, and what could be improved so you can function more optimally. Start by going through each item on your physical desktop and deal with anything you have been putting off. Once those items are dealt with, what do you have left and where do those items go? Can they be digitized? If they can’t, are they important enough to keep? This same process applies to the desktop of your computer. The only items that should be on your computer’s desktop should be items you need to deal with
or are dealing with currently. Once you’ve dealt with them, file them away on your computer. We can get deeper into this, but baby steps if this seems new for you.
2. Create a Digital Filing System / Email Organization Once you determine how you want to use your physical desk and apply that system to your digital desktop, start creating a filing system that works for you. Create general folders for every type of file or email you have. Everyone is different, but with the system I have, and what my clients create, end up being fool proof because of consistency. If you stay consistent with your system and labeling from the beginning, not only will you improve your system as you proceed, but you will learn how to maintain your system by habit and excitement. When you have a proper digital filing system in place you will be able to process new files or emails easily, because you take the time to see it, name it and file it in an organized manner. This helps you become more efficient in communication with loved ones and clients, it reduces stress and you can find that file or email you’re looking for in no time.
3. Paper Pollution It amazes me when someone wants to print something when they could save paper by viewing it electronically. I am not against all paper, I just created a photograph book with 160 pictures across 30 pages for my best friend Phil who just turned 40, but these new paper concoctions must have emotional depth or be made for larger life purposes. Let go of as much paper as you can from your life. By letting it go, you’ll cut back on paper waste and have a tidier area, as paper takes up tons of space, and space is very valuable.
4. Scan/Shred
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Remove ALL paper from all drawers, cabinets, boxes. If you can find it, bring it out! Then start splitting it all into piles: SCAN AND SHRED: these could be report cards from your childhood, yearbooks, newspaper clippings, tax documents (if you even have the physical copies anymore), birthday/greeting cards. SCAN AND SAVE: passport, deeds, titles, any documents with seals on them, social security card, drivers license, need I say more. There might be items listed above that you want to scan and then save not shred, like special greeting cards or yearbooks, fine. First ask yourself “what will I be needing these items for?” but be careful as this is a slippery slope. If you can justify an honest reason then keep them. Once the items are scanned and on your computer, file them in the appropriate folders within your documents folder. Folder creation is a dense topic that I can’t get into here, but my book (Organize and Create Discipline: An A-to-Z Guide to an Organized Existence) breaks it down pretty simply. You can also always DM @TheOCDExperience for tips on Instagram.
5. Back It Up Most of the things you care about in your digital world should be backed-up and most of us have access to software to back things up. Apple has Time Machine, Windows has Windows Backup, and then of course all of the 3rd party software to make this process specific to user choice, rather than full system backups. We have such fast internet speeds that even cloud backup is fast and moderately secure, depending on who you are backing your data up with. I also recommend having a physical backup of your data, so buy a hard drive, I recommend this one for beginners. Let your computer recognize the drive and do all the work. Once you feel secure in the process you can do this. Like anything related to organization, it’s the discipline that will keep you on track. Stick to the simple systems and make sure you aren’t going backward with your process, let alone anything in your life. You will be better for it.
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Annie’s
SOCIAL
How To Keep Your
Audience
Engaged Instagram. The platform where all of our beautiful food, hiking, travel, fashion, and artsy photographs live. A place where everyone can share their passions, creations, and experiences. Even become an influencer. Have you ever noticed how bloggers and brand pages are clean, consistent, and beautiful? Well, that’s not a coincidence. There is so much that goes into these accounts. There is a thought process, procedures, rules, and lots of work. I’ve learned a lot in my art career about social media. Instagram was my first platform, where my artwork thrived and flourished. However, it didn’t happen overnight, and it was definitely a struggle to learn how to keep a clean and interesting page. I first started posting in 2014. I really didn’t see much growth or a following for a few years. This was when I decided to follow similar artists and take a few social media growth classes. Both of these things were the smartest business decision I’ve ever made. Do you want to grow your Instagram audience? Do you have ideas you want to put into the world, influence people? Show and educate people things you are passionate about? I want to share with you six simple categories of posts that will help your Instagram account thrive. Following this model will not only help you organize and beautify your page, it will bring in a following that is actually interested in what you have to say. That is the most important thing to remember. There are a lot of scam businesses that you can purchase followers from. Please, do not do that. Those accounts get cleaned out
By Annie Morcos @AnniesArtStudio Edited by: Cheryl De Marco
and deleted yearly by Instagram, and also they are fake accounts. They will not get you any interaction. Now there is something even worse about that. Have you ever seen an account with thousands of followers but get only a few likes? That is not a credible page, and you don’t want that happening to you; you want your audience to engage with your content daily. Now let’s grow that audience organically and have an incredible and beautiful Instagram page. No matter what your passion or page theme, these categories apply to all. 1- Informative Content: people will want to ask general questions. So to avoid having to answer people individually, give them information beforehand. Tell people where your products in your image or video are from; list these items and make sure to tag the company they are from. If there is a website, they can purchase things from affiliate codes, partners, your other channels, and any digital information you can list. If you have events or ticketing for sale, direct them to the correct website along with dates and times. In the same topic idea, let’s quickly touch on the topic of hashtags. When was the last time you looked up a hashtag? The answer is usually almost never. Have your post look professional and have only informative hashtags. Use hashtags that make sense with your brand. I’m a resin artist, so I use hashtags like #ResinArt #Resin #Epoxy #FluidArt. It wouldn’t make sense to use a hashtag like #LOVE, #Saturday, or (continued on page 32) UPLOADER MAGAZINE 31
SOCIAL #GoodMorning. These are generic, and no one looks them up. You want to use ones that people will actually look up to see similar content. When someone looks up #ResinArt they are looking for inspiration, which is precisely like what my posts are. So take some time and research. Look up other accounts like yours that are popular and see what hashtags they use, think about specific words that are directly connected to your brand, and use those. 2- Educational Posts: people will want to learn from you. So let’s educate them! Whether you are a DIY artist, a photographer, or a cook. Have posts where you show step by step what you do to create. Give them instructions. Some of you may not be videographers. That’s ok! Have some images be mid-process or action posts, and in your caption, you can talk about your entire process. People will want to learn and create like you and be like you. This is the greatest form of flattery! That’s what influencers do! Influence! So take time and make some educational posts where you give people some insight and maybe a few secrets about your process. 3- Behind The Scenes: Instagram is a place where people always post their best selves. However, people like connection. They want to know you are real and not just this perfect company with a fancy face. So it’s very, very important to show behind the scenes. Show an imperfect workspace, what goes into making your brand, prep time, or even just talking about ideas of what’s to come! A little bit of vulnerability to show you are real. This will build a genuine connection to your audience. This shows them you are just like them. This might be one of the most important steps we are talking about. 4- Giveaways: give back to your audience and followers. Reward them. Now you might think how do you gain from giving away. Make this a little game that’s interactive. Be creative and make your post a way to gain while you give. For example, part of your giveaway criteria can be that they must be following you and to comment and tag a friend and name their favorite fruit or TV show! The friend they tag probably doesn’t follow you. They will want to join this giveaway as well! So now, per the rules, they will follow you and tag other friends. See what happened there? We are gaining followers! The followers now feel loved and know you are thinking of them as well and rewarding them for their daily interactions with you. 32 UPLOADER MAGAZINE
5- Entertainment: you want people to enjoy what they are seeing. People like fun! So depending on your brand, make sure some of your posts are entertaining, whether it’s fun selfies, creative art, fun outfits, an interesting photography angle, or cooking something silly. Get creative and do something a little bit out of the ordinary! These kinds of posts are usually the ones people will send to their friends DM. Your post now is being shared within friends, and you’re getting more views! This is great because once again, it adds to new followers! 6- Community: this step does not necessarily work for everyone’s brand. So if this doesn’t work for you, don’t worry! You aren’t losing anything. Your community is important. Can you offer workshops? Meet and greets? Even visual classes? A pop-up store! It’s important to engage your community. Something they can actually be involved in, something for them to come to. Why is this so important? First of all, you become real to your followers. They can actually physically or digitally meet you and communicate with you. This is huge. This makes them feel like they are a part of your life, a friend. A connection like this lasts forever. They will become an avid follower and supporter and will want to meet you at every event you have! Now, these steps might seem like a lot. They are. But good news! You don’t have to have all six steps in every single post. Each post should be within one to two categories. These are ways for your posts to first of all be different from each other and secondly engage with your audience in different ways, keeping it interesting. You always want to keep one of these six categories in mind. Make your posts meaningful, thought out, and make sure they fit in with your brand. Don’t post just to post! It’s better to skip a day of posting and work on the next day’s beautiful, intentful, informative, educational post. Your audience follows you for a reason. It’s the brand and kind of content. Stay within your brand and give your following what they want and are used to seeing. Remember, this is all about your passion and something you love! Use these steps, but don’t take your social platforms too seriously. Keep them light, loving, and kind! Enjoy creating, and I hope these steps help you all grow your accounts.
Annie Xo
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Model: Len Parent - Blogger Photography: Vanessa Osoyos Garvin
Orange Belted Dress: New Look £25.99 Pool Slides: Zara $22.90
ORANGE Shiatzy Chen SS20 High Neck Blouse: Glamorous £30.00 Pencil Skirt: Pure Collection £75.00
Knee High Boots: Dune London £130 Camel Shopper: Zara $39.90
is the new
BLACK
And we don’t mean the television series! Fashion Week saw the streets lined with bright orange attire, and we are on the fence with this one, but a pop of color goes a long way.
Nehera SS20
Trousers: Roman Originals £28.00 Halterneck Bodysuit: Zara $19.90
Contrasting Sneakers: Zara $69.90
Mashama SS20
Nehera SS20
Liu Yong x Rishikensh SS20
Dress: Miss Selfridge £160.00 Vinyl Mules: Zara $49.90
BARELY
Eitan Broude SS20
Tran Hung SS20 Dress: Miss Selfridge
Heels: Dune London £75.00
Shiatzy Chen SS20
THERE
The SS20 runways were dominated by the “barely there” trend and we love it! Clean, simple but with a hint of sexiness. There is no need to clutter your look with too many accessories, when you can look this good with next to nothing.
Eitan Broude SS20
Cong Tri SS20
Satin Effect Skirt: Zara $49.90 Lace Bralette: Zara $17.90
Merrige by eLSi SS20
Jessica Chang Studio SS20
Textured Top: Zara $29.90
Pink Shorts: Miss Selfridge £35.00 Animal Print Sneakers: Zara $29.90
FRILLS and
FRINGE Frills, feathers and fringes (we dare you to try to say that 5 times). It’s different, but it’s fiece and fabulous and our closets are stocking up.
Genny SS20
Tweed Fringe Dress: Zara $89.90 White Boots: Head Over Heels £70.00
Drop Earrings: Oliver Bonus £19.50
Midi Skirt: Zara $49.90
Dot Ruffle Blouse: Zara $39.90 Black Heels: Zara $59.90
Julien x Gabriela SS20
Chanel SS20
Reveries Enivtéès Lysandre G.L SS20
Mashama SS20
Embroidered Dress: Zara $49.90
Silver Heels: Dune London £75.90
GREEK
Dignified Women’s Apparel SS20
GODDESS
Pruella Dress: Chi Chi London £50.00 Block Heels: Zara $39.90
Drop Earrings: Oliver Bonus £19 50
Shiatzy Chen SS20
Tadashi Shoji SS20
OK, who doesn’t want to look like a Greek Goddess! White is wonderful. It’s clean and pretty but sensual. Channel your inner goddess, and rock those whites. Ruffled Skort: Zara $35.90 Ballooned Crop Top: Zara $39.90 Heels: Dune London £75.00 Hoop Earrings: Zara $19.90
Chanel SS20
Merrige by eLSi SS20
Cong Tri SS20
Mashama SS20
Hot Pink Blazer: Miss Selfridge £59.99 Hot Pink Shorts: Miss Selfridge: £35
Neon Drop Earrings: Accessorize £8 Doriaa Pink Heels: Dune London £85
BRIGHT and
THISNORTHAT SS20
Neon Yellow Blazer: Roman Originals £40.00 Crushed Pleated Skirt: Oliver Bonus: £59, 50 Neon Yellow Sandles: Shoeaholics £89
Dynasty SS20
BOLD
The 90’s are back! It’s bold, it’s bright and it’s energetic! If you are looking to make a statement this spring, then the color options are endless. More is... well in this case, more; but the good thing is that if you can’t decide on a color, just throw them all together.
Liu Yong x Rishikensh SS20
Deborah Lyons’ SS20
Voluminous Sleeve Dress: Zara $39.90 Yellow Kitten Heels: Zara $49.90 Yellow Bag: Zara $129.00
Iceberg SS20
Style & Sass
FASHION
The Fab Four
By Tiffany Giannato Blog: thethrillofthehuntbytiffyg.com @tiffyg77
1. Bright Scarves
A printed or bright colored scarf adds a bright and playful look to your outfit. It jazzes up both casual and formal looks. A scarf can be worn in the head, around the neck, as a belt, or even tied on your wrist as a bracelet. I am loving scarves with neon brights right now. Scarves are a great option for someone who is intimidated by adding some boldness to their neutral palette. It adds just enough of a “pop.�
About the Author...
Tiffany is a 40-something year old mom, special education teacher, stylist, blogger, petite model, columnist, Italian-American Bostonian who thrives in organized chaos. Tiffany believes that style is a way to allow your personality to shine through and she loves building confidence and self-esteem in women of all ages. follow Tiffany for the latest style looks and top trends.
Photography: Gabby Baglieri
Accessories complete a look. They have this amazing ability to pull it all together, even if you are wearing a white, t-shirt and jeans. The right accessory can make it look as though you have spent hundreds of dollars on a $20 outfit. I wanted to share with you four accessory trends that are hot for Spring 2020.
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2. Embellished Headbands
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This hair accessory is a lady’s best friend. It solves all of the frustrating hair problems that contribute to what women call “a bad hair day.” Headbands emerged on the runways last year and they continue to become more and more popular. They look amazing on all hair lengths and hair textures, and they can be worn on low key days with a tracksuit or with a gown to a black-tie event. They are super easy to use if you have trouble styling your own hair, and they save a lot of money too by not having to always go to the salon
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3. Mini Belt Bags
Belt bags have stuck around as a popular trend for yet another season. However, they tend to be smaller, brighter, and more embellished. Mini, belt bags are practical and lightweight. They allow you to be “hands-free�, and they also help update a minimalist look.
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4. Ponytail Extension
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This hairstyle has been spotted recently on all of the celebrities. It is super easy to use because you either tie it on like an elastic, or you clip it on (which takes two seconds by the way.) It helps change your look by adding length and volume to your hair. A ponytail is a youthful look, and wearing one up high on your head is an anti-ager as it makes the skin appear tighter and lifted around the eyes and cheekbones. Ponytail extensions are inexpensive. They can be found in a variety of colors, with curls, or straight hair.
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FEATURE
Burl
Moseley
Our Editor-in-Chief ‘virtually’ met with the incredibly talented American Actor Burl Moseley and asked a few questions about upcoming roles, his performance in “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” and also what advice he would give to aspiring actors
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url Moseley is an American actor. He is known for playing Jim Kittsworth on the Emmy-winning series CRAZY EX-GIRLFRIEND and his numerous television and stage roles. A graduate of the prestigious Tisch School, Moseley currently resides in Los Angeles. He can next be seen on Showtime’s BLACK MONDAY, and starring alongside Kristen Stewart in Sony/TriStar’s HAPPIEST SEASON in theaters this November. He is repped by O’Neill Talent Group and Lara Rosenstock Management. Not only is Burl an incredible and talented actor, but he has some serious dance moves and a voice that can belt out a tune to a packed arena. As well as performing, Burl is also a trained martial artist; we are inspired and impressed.
FEATURE
QUESTIONS andANSWERS WITH
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Moseley C: Did you always know you wanted to be an Actor?
B: It’s funny... I think I always knew that I wanted to perform in some way. I started performing at a young age as a way to channel my energy. I was very rambunctious as a child and my parents probably said to one another, “We gotta do something about this wild little kid!” So, I guess it’s always been in my DNA. Acting was definitely my favorite type of performance art, so I’m very excited that I’ve been able to make a living doing something that I really enjoy! C: I love your performance and song “Don’t Be A Lawyer”, in “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend”, which you also got to perform at Radio City Music Hall. I imagine it must have been incredible to perform that live? B: It was incredible! It was insane! We performed to sold-out houses each night and it was a very new experience for me. Six thousand screaming fans at each performance who knew all the words to the songs... it felt like we were The Beatles or something! Very surreal, but also SO much fun. Definitely a highlight of my life thus far. C: You star in the upcoming romantic comedy “Happiest Season”, can you tell us anything about your character? B: I can’t say very much, but what I can tell you is that he’s part of a husband and wife entrepreneurial team just trying to survive the holidays while visiting with family. It’s a fantastic script and a fantastic cast. I’m very excited to be involved. C: Many of the roles you play tend to lean towards comedy based, would you consider working in another genre? B: So far in my career I’ve done drama, action, thriller, and yes, comedy. Do I have a preference? Um, not particularly! As long as whatever piece I’m involved in is well written, I’m pretty much all in. Action and thriller projects are my absolute favorites though!! They can be very exciting to watch come together, especially when explosions are involved. I’m a sucker for watching things blow up! C: Since we are on the topic of comedy, what do you think of British humor? I promise I won’t take offense. B: British humor is tops. It’s so good. I remember one of the first things that I ever watched that had me laughing so hard that my stomach hurt was “MONTY PYTHON AND THE HOLY GRAIL”. I had no idea what I was getting into and wasn’t given much prep, but it was incredibly funny. Just unreal. (continued on page 54) UPLOADER MAGAZINE 53
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C: Do you have any favorite actors or people that you look up to within the industry? B: Absolutely! I’m a big fan of both Jackie Chan and Tom Cruise. Those guys really know how to pull out all the stops to entertain an audience. Very creative when it comes to all things action and storytelling. C: Who would you most like to work with? B: I would love to do a picture with Cruise! Honestly, even a scene or two in a “MISSION IMPOSSIBLE” would make my day. C: What would be your dream role and why? B: Probably either a superhero film or an action/martial arts opus. Those are the mediums that I think are really pushing the limits of what’s possible right now (both visually and physically) and I would love to be a part of that conversation. C: If you didn’t go into acting, what career would you have chosen? B: This is a good question and I honestly don’t know. Perhaps visual arts? Comic book artist? Classical pianist? Martial arts instructor? The sky’s the limit, really. C: What is the one piece of advice you would give to aspiring actors?
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If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus. And you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. — Bruce Lee —
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FEATURE
Sergio Lane
Actor, model, artist and clothes designer, Sergio Lane takes us on his journey to finding happiness within the creative industry
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ran to see if my name was printed on the casting list. My mind was racing with insecurity and confusion, wondering if I was good enough and if the theatre teacher had actually meant all the kind things she’d said. But there it was: “Tin Man - Sergio Lane.” Finally, I was relaxed and beaming with happiness. Earlier that year, I had been singing the tunes of the Chicago musical with my bus buddy and imagining what it would be like to perform in front of an audience. In the few months to follow, I would come to understand all of the hard work and hours of memorizing it would take to put on a 2-hour production. On opening night, I sat backstage applying my make-up and running lines with my friends. The anxiety was back, but this time along with a newfound confidence. I rehearsed over and over and knew everyone’s lines, so there was nothing to worry about. I was going to go out on that stage and enjoy myself, and hopefully the audience would appreciate it. When the play was over, I felt so much pride in my hard work and validated by the audience’s applause. I wanted to work
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on perfecting my skill and did so the next year in theater class. My teacher taught me a lot that year, like the importance of improv and how to break down scenes and characters. However, as classes finished and senior year came to an end, I had to think about how I would financially support myself. Acting felt too risky as a career. It didn’t seem like the “adult” choice. I decided acting was something I could do as a hobby instead, but after graduation, that ambition faded. Fast forward 6 years, and I was applying to dental schools. The diploma my mom had happily framed for me was hanging in my room. I had attained my B.S. in Biology from Texas Tech, but along the way, I realized something was missing. I had made it this far, but my heart wasn’t there. This goal of mine was making my parents very proud, but it was becoming harder to pretend I was happy. After constantly being told “your future profession has the highest suicide rate,” reality was beginning to settle in. Would I actually be content when I crossed that stage to receive my doctorate? I had known for some time that things needed to change, but I was afraid to make the jump. (continued on page 63)
Photography: Sasha Rodionov
Photography: Sasha Rodionov
I had been saving to move to Los Angeles and begin a new life, but every time I got the urge to jump, I would stand in my own way. The anxiety of not being good enough and wondering if I would be able to support myself financially was eating away at me. ‘Just give up. Find another way. So many people move to California to pursue acting or modeling, so what makes you so special? Do you really want to be a loser?’ These thoughts echoed in my head, but if I was going to make it, I knew I needed to believe in myself. One weekend after drowning in self-doubt, I took mushrooms with my two best friends and quickly began writing my plan. In two months, I would take my savings and make the move! February 7, 2017, my friend and I pull up to my sister’s apartment with a trunk full of all my necessities. My bed that first year was a foldable chair so as to not take up too much space in my sister’s tiny studio apartment. I had enough clothes for about a week and nothing more. Although my situation seemed sad, I was the happiest I had been in a long time. I finally felt my dreams could become a reality, but this was just the beginning.
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The yellow brick road has had many twists and turns, but ultimately, I think I have found my niche
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I was given the opportunity to shoot a short film (Burst, Directed by Amanda Esquilin) in New York and a feature in Paris (Violent Delights, Directed by Taylor Laughlin). I enjoyed working with creatives to produce emotionally moving and fun content to share with others. I was proving to myself that I had the skill to make this career path work for me. However, even with the jobs coming in, I compared my success to others around me, even my own sister. Although I was doing great and making my dreams come true, I wasn’t making enough. Money became my main drive, and the funds were quickly drying up. This is when I started taking Postmates deliveries and Wag walks to just get by financially and make ends meet. I felt as though I was going down and depression began to set in. Work was turning into just that, “work”. I wasn’t where I thought I should be in life. I felt like things weren’t happening quickly enough and I needed to address this problem, my mentality. Over the last year, I have improved so much in terms of my mind and career. I have signed with two modeling agencies for commercial and print and continue to act whenever I get the chance. I have modeled for MeUndies, Uber Eats, and The Glam App to produce content for my newfound passion in the creative industry, beauty. In the past year, I have rediscovered my happiness for art and choose now to express that in many ways. Acting is the main priority, but modeling, painting, and designing clothing have kept me sane in the limbo periods between acting jobs. When I look back now, I have seen how far I have come. The yellow brick road has had many twists and turns, but ultimately, I think I have found my niche. I am a creative and should not be limited to one outlet. This industry brings with it lots of emotion and unknowns at every corner. I think the biggest take away so far has been to trust the process and be confident in my skills. I have luckily been able to support myself and will continue to perfect my craft as an artist.
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Over that next year, I attended movie screenings, LA parties, and traveled a lot with my sister, all while working a full-time job in retail. I was now in the city of my dreams, but I still wasn’t moving towards my goal. I told myself that I would save more money, but in the end, I was always going to want a bigger cushion to make the actual jump and start seeing managers and agents. In order to make it onto billboards and in movie theaters, I was going to have to devote all my attention to the goal. The next week, I put in my notice at my retail job and started focusing on my career. My first opportunity came to me when a friend reached out about a music video that he was putting together for an artist named J-hart. I would play a boyfriend, to J-hart, who had been sleeping with other people behind his back. The butterflies set in. Would I be good enough? “Action,” my friend calls out, and immediately my imagination takes over as I begin to play out the scene. “Cut!” I take a deep breath in because it’s over, “Alright. Great job Sergio! Let’s try it again, but we are going to get a different angle.” I think to myself, ‘Damn!.’ We continue for about 12 hours until they call, “That’s a wrap!” My first day as an actor. I felt so many emotions flood my body as I walked out of the studio doors. I had finally done it! From there, I began to book more jobs with my friend and the artist. Eventually, I had people reaching out to me for more music videos, modeling, and even films. I began to get campaigns with big brands like Moschino, H&M, and UGG.
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Although my situation seemed sad, I was the happiest I had been in a long time. I finally felt my dreams could become a reality, but this was just the beginning.
Photography: Sasha Rodionov
Photography: Sasha Rodionov
Sergio QA Lane &
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S: The same dentist that got me into the field of dentistry got me out of it. After being away in college for a few years, I remember walking into her office and being asked, “Is this something you actually want to do?” She was planning on retiring and explained to me all the hardships that had accompanied her dream. She said that if I was in it for the money or cushioned lifestyle, then my passion would fade. That’s the moment I began thinking of other routes that would make me happy in those later years, even if the profession barely made money. Acting came to mind immediately, but I also began to think about all the clothing ideas and painting I wanted to do. I even thought of my choir years and how great I felt standing up on the risers and singing to an audience. That day in her office was the turning point for me. C: What has been the highlight of your career so far? S: I have been fortunate to work with great people within the film and fashion industry, but I would have to say being in a campaign with my sister has been the highlight of it all. I cried when she called me to say that UGG wanted to have both of us featured in their winter campaign. My sister and I are really close and have always been two peas in a pod. That whole day on set was like us as kids blasting music and dancing. It didn’t feel like work at all. We had giant posters all over the world of us together squatting in our boots and friends were sending in messages of us posted in the stores. C: As a creative, where do you get your inspiration from? S: My inspiration is always pulled from many different outlets such as fashion, film/ TV, art, and even just people in my life. I’ve always been fascinated with the “why” and that has been applied to all my creative outlets. If there isn’t heart, feeling, and experience behind the lines I speak or a reason for using certain colors in my clothes, then I feel that it will show. I believe in keeping your happiness in mind while staying in touch with your inner child so that your imagination naturally flows. C: What advice would you give to other creatives just starting out? S: Stay true to who you are. It sounds cliché but it’s very true. Since moving to Los Angeles and starting my career, I’ve seen many lose themselves, myself included, by following the crowd and getting frustrated. Everyone’s path is different, and it takes a strong mind to understand patience. Even with the accomplishments that I have made in my life, I have still wondered “what’s next?” Take the time to appreciate the things you have done and focus on smaller goals. Things work out in time. C: Tell us a bit about your clothing brand Slane, and the
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S: Slane is a brand that started in the early stages of my life in Los Angeles. The name comes from the first initial of our first names (Sergio/Sasha) and our last name, Lane. My sister and I have always enjoyed sharing each other’s closets, then the idea hit for unisex clothing. I had the idea to start making clothes that were androgynous and would look good on anybody, no matter their frame. I drew the original logo design and transferred it to a screen print that I had made at home, using a kit. Since the release of the OG Slane shirt, I have changed my view of producing large quantities to making smaller batches using recycled clothing. Again, taking the money aspect out of the equation and producing environmentally sustainable art pieces. I am excited to see how the brand grows. C: Who do you most admire? S: I would say without a doubt my sister, Sasha. Only two years apart, my sister and I have gone through life together and remained each other’s rock. That girl has supported me even though I was terrible to her when we were younger, because of anger issues I faced with being gay. It’s amazing to have someone who tries to understand my motives and continues to boost me along the way. I admire my sister because she continues to check my ego and pushes everyone in our family to treat each other with compassion. Not only do I admire my sister’s compassion, but I’m also impressed at the way she continues to overcome her fears in the film/tv industry. Sasha is not the most social person, but when she steps in front of a camera she shines. She has already won several awards and chooses to only go for roles that she can truly relate to. I wish everyone had someone in their family they could look up to. Or in this case, “down to” because she is younger than me. C: What is next for you? S: Always hard to answer that one. I am so creatively open to many things and with that comes the unknown. I am consistently going to castings for modeling and working to continue to build my reel for film. Slane is getting a slight makeover in terms of collaborations that I would like to produce. So, I would like to say the next step for me is only UP. I am going to perfect my craft and the rest will come. C: If you could be any animal in the world, what would you be and why? I love this question! I would be an orca or killer whale. These creatures have always fascinated me. They are giant and playful mammals that aren’t afraid to protect their own. Spiritually, they symbolize romance, family, and longevity. When I was younger, I would always draw them all over my binder and hoped to one day see them in the wild. UPLOADER MAGAZINE 67
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IN TIMES OF ISOLATION Social distancing and isolation does not mean zero communication with the outside world. In fact, now is when it is essential to communicate with family, friends, and neighbors, and we are so blessed to have the tools to do so. We have the capability of using our phones, email, text, and social media to stay connected to one another. We just have to be careful with who we communicate with during this time. We want to stay connected with people who are calm and positive because what we all need now is good energy. The virus is not the enemy, so try not to look at it that way. We get to choose how this pandemic affects us. While it is normal to feel overwhelmed with all the news being thrown at us, it is the time to choose brave over fear. It’s okay to feel all the bad feelings, but then acknowledge why you’re feeling that way, and then let it go. See yourself healthy and happy. This is a life test and the best time to practice manifesting. Reality doesn’t change until we change our thoughts and feelings to match it. What’s the reality you want during this crisis? We cannot change what is happening on the outside until we change what’s happening on the inside. When things don’t go like we want them to go that’s a clue to us that we need to change our thoughts because what we focus on, we attract. Practice feeling better first (this is the most important tip I can give you). If you can master this, you will be ahead of most of the people in the world. It literally is my best advice to anyone, but it is also the hardest to do and needs to be continuously practiced. Most people either do not believe it to be true and don’t want to try, or they try and it works but then they forget that you need to practice it daily. How do we practice feeling better first? The following is a list to help you get started. • When incorporating self-care into your life, it is important to maintain your normal routine and slowly start adding new things to it. This helps you to not go into overwhelm. It also allows us to try new things and see what works and what doesn’t. • Find things that calm you down and bring enjoyment into your life because those are the tools you will need to drive away fear. • Here are some ideas you can add to your daily routine: exercising/yoga (there are free classes on YouTube), meditation (great for learning breathing techniques and reducing anxiety), journaling, reading, gardening, walking, cooking, taking a long break from the news, hot bath/shower, fostering a dog or cat, starting a hobby, decluttering, virtual museum tours, games/ puzzles, create a spa day at home, plan a vacation, watch funny movies, or write yourself a love letter.
• Create a Happiness Jar – Every day, write one thing that made you happy that day and place it in a jar or vase. If you don’t have either, you can place them in any type of container. Make sure you date each one. At the end of this pandemic, read them all and recognize if there’s a pattern on what things made you the happiest. I then challenge you to incorporate those things into your life going forward. We must all come out of this with a better understanding of what makes us happy and then start living it. Otherwise, we miss the whole point the universe is trying to teach us. • Create a Self-Care Tool Kit. One of the things I love to talk about is self-care, which actually begins with self-love. Why do I like to talk about it? Because self-love is the cornerstone of mental and physical health. Self-love is you realizing your needs, instead of your wants, which sometimes gets confused. What you want are things that once you have them still leave you wanting more. What you need, once met, is something that you will carry with you always and make assessable when you need them. Basically, wants go away eventually, but needs stay with you forever. Hence, the need for creating a Self-Care Toolkit that you will always have access to when you need it. While it is important to change unhealthy habits and environments, it is also important to have what I like to call, a rescue toolkit. A kit that has all you need to center yourself, even if it is just for a moment, to get yourself back to where you need to be. A Self-Care Toolkit is basically a few items that help you calm down, get creative, breathe (because we forget to do this when we need it most), take a break from the chaos, listen and learn, get back to what is important, be grateful, and watch what you put into your mind and body to name a few. I do not know about you, but those are all important things to me. I would like to say even a necessity. Your toolkit will contain things you need to find your center. I have created a visual with a list of supplies you will need, but keep in mind that you do not need everything on the list. These are the items that have worked for me and I want to share them with you. You will most likely create your toolkit with similar items and probably add some that I did not include. The visual is a jump start for you to create your own toolkit, or you can use exactly what I have on it. The point is to create something you can have access to when you need it most.
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elf-care is necessary in everyday life, but even more so in these trying times of a pandemic. In a time of uncertainty, it’s important to take the time to take care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually. How we cope during this time is entirely up to us.
By Rebecca Schuster lovebecca.com @lovebecca26
It has been proven now scientifically that an affirmative thought is hundreds of times more powerful than a negative thought. – Michael Bernard Beckwith –
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A Self-Care Toolkit is a necessity for mental wellness. Here are some things you will need for your toolkit...journal, colorful pens, favorite quotes, book, stress ball, soft blanket, favorite essential oil, favorite music, & magazines.
MIND Practice Gratitude Technology Break Affirmations/Quotes Listen to Audiobook or Podcast
BRAIN DUMP Say No Meditate To Do List Vision Journal
BODY Mindful Eating Sleep 7-8 Hours Walk Daily/Exercise Drink Water & Green Tea
BEAUTY Vitamins Skin Care Hair/Nails Deep Breaths
SOUL Bucket List What I Love About Myself Do Something Creative/Hobby Do What Makes You Happy
SPIRITUALITY Let Go of Ego Always Believe Show Kindness Be Still & Listen
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H During this time of chaos and uncertainty, where we are all suffering, and our beautiful world is crumbling beneath us. We need to come together, be mindful of those around us. Show kindness and compassion towards others who are struggling. Be thoughtful and caring, and together we will get through this.
WE ALL NEED HOPE Cheryl De Marco
“ God put us all on a giant time out, and during this time, it’s important for all of us to be grateful for the things that we have, remember the things and people we did wrong, and hopefully come out of this time as better humans.” Justin Klosky @justklosky
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In tough times like these we are currently living in, there has to be a greater amount of positivity to be spread. There are possibilities to grow, to learn, and to adapt. So my punchline is: “Don’t wait until it’s over - do something about it.” - Stefan Rötzer @stefanroetzer_ Now is the time to work on making your goals and dreams a reality. This is a great opportunity to focus without the usual distraction we have become accustomed to in our daily lives So instead of being consumed with social media or the latest show learn a new skill, or pick up a hobby so you can leave quarantine a better person. If you are able to help those struggling, consider donating food, money or your time during these uncertain times. Remember, that there is always something to be thankful for, and we have to look out for one another! Lola Obamehinti @ohthatslola
When flowers bloom after winter it shows us there is always hope. The world has been a challenging and stressful place to live in during recent times. Let’s try our best to remain hopeful and positive for a brighter future. - Tiffany Giannato @tiffyg77
In the beginning, people believed it was just the flu, and didn’t think there was anything more they had to do But the news became more frequent, and schools began to close, we started to wear face masks over our mouths and nose We’ve relied upon healthcare from all across the globe, while we work from home in our dressing robe. Then people started to panic buy toilet roll and pasta, The supermarkets had no choice but to restock faster, But all this bulk buying was a selfish act, We were never going to run out, and that’s a fact, No one should take more than they need, Is there no end to our incessant greed?
Social distancing, isolation and quarantine, And all because of Covid-19, We’ve been told we need to flatten the curve, But to some people this still seems absurd, When people didn’t listen, healthcare started to drown, So there was no other option but a lockdown. Friends and family we long to hug, We can’t put at risk of catching this bug, And although each day inside feels like forever, We thank you for bringing us closer together, I wonder when this is over, if the economy still thrives, But for now, stay home. Save lives. Rebecca @lady.rebecca.april
It is during the toughest times we come out stronger on the other end. The whole world is in this together. We must stand with one another and help the other out. There is no winning if you’re neighbors are suffering. Be kind to those around you. We will get through this as a human race, together with kindness. - Annie @anniesartstudio
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Friends This is not the time to panic, spread rumors, nor understate the serious of COVID-19 aka Coronavirus. When you consider going to public spaces with a large group of people that will be up close and personal to you, think about who you will be in contact with afterwards - parents, grandparents, children, babies, anyone with a compromised immune system such as a friend or family member who just received an organ transplant, cancer survivor, etc... Making smart, selfless decisions at this time will protect not only you but the people you care about. Now is the time to think not just about yourself but also your community. Let’s all take care of each other and make it thru this. Jesuorobo Enobakhare, Jr, ITIL® Dallas Community Police Oversight Board Chairman Instagram - jesuorobo_enobakhare Twitter - @jesuorobo
It’s a beautiful thing when we all come together. We have a beautiful world we live in, and I know we’re all tired and weary, and there is a lot of unknowns right now. One thing I do know is GOD is doing something good in the midst of our worry. And we are in this together. In a time where fear is abundant, staying calm is essential. It is important that we all do our part to keep ourselves and others safe. No one is immune, stay aware, keep up with the news. You can still go outside and enjoy nature or great weather. This is also a great time to read a good book or start a container garden, or even better, go on a hike in the mountains and get moving. There’s no time to be bored, Covid-19 or not. Cheers to HOPE and good health. Stay strong everyone! Len Parent @thelenparentstyle
This is the best opportunity for reset. Life is changing. Make sure everything is in alignment. You can do this by weighing options. Learn all that you can. Take the knowledge and fine-tune your action plan. You are here to thrive, not simply to survive. Cheers to a new you! Debbie Savage @debbiessavage
“I do not consider isolation having to stay at home with who I love. Isolation is what the seriously ill are experiencing. Stop saying that you are bored, upset that you can’t leave the house; while everyone in the hospital wants to go home. So, thank God if you have to stay at home, because despite everything, with money or without money, with a job or without a job, you are in the best place you could be, at home, surrounded by people that love you! Perhaps it is time to transform your house into a wonderful place to stay, a place of peace and not of war, of embrace and not of distance. Anyway, look with different eyes at the situation you are experiencing Make your house a party: listen to music, sing, dance... Make your house a temple: pray, meditate, ask, thank, praise, plead... Make your home a school: read, write, draw, paint, study, learn, teach... Make your house a store: clean, order, organize, decorate, label, move, sell, donate... Make your house a restaurant: cook, eat, try to create recipes, grow spices, plant a garden... Anyway... make your house, your family, a place of love. “ Anita Singh @anitapratapsingh
“In uncertain times, when the stakes are way up there, the best thing you can do is not to let fears paralyze your actions. Instead, keep calm, take control, and push hard to shape the story’s resolution around your goal.” - Shlomi Ron
CEO, Visual Storytelling Institute Website: www.visualstorytell.com Book: Total Acuity on Amazon Podcast: Visual Storytelling Today LinkedIn: Shlomi Ron Instagram: @visual_storytelling_institute
“Y’all, it’s times like these when social media influencers can be of the greatest value. People are looking for hope in content. They’re coming to us for relief and respite in the midst of chaos and uncertainty. Respect your influence. In doing so, you will create a loyal collection of followers. And they will stick around after all this is over because YOU gave them something to hope for. Use your voice to help calm the seas! Be well!” Mat Hayes @hayesonit
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“At this time, it is imperative that we all do our best to lift one another. We must stay vigilant and do our best to keep spirits high. Be smart, stay home, and be kind to one another.” Texas Dela Rosa @texasdelarosa
Maybe this is the wake-up call the human race needed to make us realize that we are not invincible in this world, and something so tiny can wipe us out. But, we are resealant, and together we can stand strong, but we need to remember the true treasures in life, and what really matters.
They are not the luxuries that we are missing, the coffees, or dinners out, day trips and holidays, shopping for the latest trend, they are in fact the hugs from family and friends, the kiss or caress from a loved one and time spent together. Words spoken face to face, and reassuring touches. After all, this is what makes us human.
In this time of uncertainty, take the time to reconnect with family and friends, even if its remotely. Read a book together and talk about it or watch a film. On your daily walk, if you aren’t with family, take them remotely with you, share a sunset or sunrise together, but mostly, be present, be open and reconnect. In this time of darkness, we will be the light at the end of the tunnel. Stay safe. Fiona
Cheryl’s portrait shoot was my last photographic job before everything changed. I was thankful for that evening in the studio with two fellow creators and “Midlands lasses”, (Cheryl, make up artist Alice Jackson, and myself), knowing that the UK would likely be briefed to socially distance the following day. Since then, I’ve been taking time to embrace the stillness, check-in with myself, check-in with loved ones, attempt to put my selfish wants aside, and have more compassion for the collective - allow things to unfold without trying to control them. Reading lots of great wisdom for navigating this time, but think my mama said it best: “Love casts out every trace of fear”. Hannah Bodsworth @hannahbodsworth
Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out. Caitlin Hellyer @asliceofcait
I see this Virus clearly as a call from Mother Earth who says: STOP! Hold still! Here is a time to question the values of your system. I have frozen the whole crazy race for profits, so that you have a moment to discover what really matters in your life.
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Good day from Cornwall. What is usually a quiet place but now, quieter than usual. So having been in isolation for 14 days and still feeling sane. All I can say is, don’t let being isolated get you down. We are more connected than ever. Try online learning. Pick up an instrument. Do something you would not have time to do. Don’t feel like you are alone. Reach out to friends online. Go outside if able. Together we can overcome this pandemic. Social distancing does not mean social isolation. Upload photos of what you are doing. I am one; together we are many. Stay safe. Stay strong. Stay awesome. James @that_gold_r50 UPLOADER MAGAZINE 75
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BEAUTIFUL BROWS
How to get the Best Eyebrows By Debbie Savage with Makeup Blog: tothineownstylebetrue.com
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It is time for you to get the best brows in your life. Because your eyes are the window to your soul, it’s so important to make your eyebrows a priority in your daily beauty routine. Eyebrows are like the curtains of your face. They frame your face and give it form and composition. Eyebrows are more relevant than ever. Here are a few tips and tricks to beef up your eyebrow game. Are you ready?
Brow Beginnings Always start with clean and dry brows. Choose a brow color that closely resembles your natural brow color. If you choose one that is too dark, it will look overdone. Yet if you choose one that is too light, it will not be noticeable. To see how a color will look on your skin, you can take the eyebrow pencil and draw a small line on the inside of your forearm.
Brow Pencil vs. Brow Powder - An eyebrow pencil is great for creating a distinct outline and drawing additional hairs. - Brow pencils are perfect for precise application and fine lines. - Brow powder creates a more soft and natural brow look. - People with oiler skin find that brow powder applies and stays longer.
The Perfect Eyebrow Shape Step 1: Hold an eyebrow brush or pencil alongside your nose. Notice where the pencil meets the brow line — this is where your eyebrow should start. Step 2: Place the eyebrow pencil or brush at a 45-degree angle from the outside of your nose to the outer corner of your eye. This is where your eyebrow should ideally end. Step 3: Use a spoolie to brush your eyebrow hairs up to see the shape you prefer and to note which parts are uneven and sparse.
The Best Tips and Tricks The goal is to create tiny hair-like strokes by using a flicking motion with either an eyebrow pencil or angled brush dipped in eyebrow powder. Avoid an overdone eyebrow by buffing out any hard lines and brushing the hairs with a spoolie brush.
About the Author...
Debbie Savage is a Cambodian-American who resides in Orange County, CA. She is an editor for her own lifestyle blog To Thine Own Style Be True. Her passions are her family and helping women honor their inner beauty by sharing tips and tricks from the trade. Benefit Cosmetics: Precisely, My Brow Eyebrow Pencil (available in 12 colors) $24 European Wax Center: Browfection Brow Powder Duo (lightweight and smudge-proof) $22
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Steer clear of angry eyes by filling your brows with a light hand and intensifying your look as needed. Brighten up your brow area with a concealer, not a highlighter. Use a concealer on your brow bone to spotlight your arches. Set your eyebrow hairs in place with a brow gel. Use one with color for added depth and intensity.
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Casea Rose
Entrepreneur and Award winning creative producer Casea together with Emily Brennan talks the importance of wellbeing through breathwork, and breaks down the steps and technique of how to carry it out in the comfort of your own home Edited by Cheryl De Marco www.lionrituals.com @casea.rose
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asea Rose, or “Godiva” is an award-winning creative producer, humanitarian, DJ, and breathwork facilitator. After driving the creative and experiential vision for Hawaii’s first art and communitydriven hotel, she now resides in Los Angeles and is developing Lion Rituals and other initiatives that generate awareness around our relationships with each other, society, and the planet. Her clients and collaborators include Airbnb, Summit Series, The Surfjack Hotel + Swim Club, Amazon, Virgin America, Wanderlust Festival, and South by Southwest.
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Emily Brennan
Impact driven entrepreneur and founder of Lion Rituals Emily together with Casea Rose talks the importance of wellbeing through breathwork, and breaks down the steps and technique of how to carry it out in the comfort of your own home
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Edited by Cheryl De Marco www.lionrituals.com @emilyelizabeth.me
mily Brennan is an activated teacher, breathwork facilitator, meditation teacher and yoga 500 e-RYT. She is the founder of Lion Rituals, dedicated to sharing breathwork practices and transformational experiences with the global community. Emily has shared her teachings with Habitas, Sanctuary, Summit Series, South by Southwest -and many other special communities she holds in her heart. Her intention is to share practical breathing techniques to promote wellness and evolutionary potential.
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Lion Rituals creates and facilitates experiences that guide participants toward holistic wellbeing. We use powerful and practical healing modalities combined with our expertise in event design to curate meaningful and transformative spaces.
Breathwork The breath techniques that we are sharing are incredible tools for calming our autonomic nervous system. These techniques have roots in both ancient and modern traditions, and are used by everyone from Navy SEALs to yogis and entrepreneurs. These conscious breathing exercises are a powerful tool for boosting our immune system, strengthening the lungs, releasing emotional blockages, improving digestion, supporting restful sleep, releasing endorphins (the feel-good chemical) in the brain, and so much more! By harnessing the power of our breath, we can keep the body, mind, and spirit healthy and strong.
*Breath Practices* Before getting started, sit upright on a pillow or in a chair, or lie down comfortably. Keep your hands relaxed with the palms facing up. We invite you to close your eyes and focus on keeping a long spine.
4/7/8 Breath - Rest Having trouble getting to sleep at night? Use this breath pattern before bed to aid you in falling into a restful sleep. Or, if you’re feeling anxiety, anger, or stress, using this breath technique at any time of the day can help to calm the autonomic nervous system. Step 1: Inhale slowly through the nose, while mentally counting to 4 seconds. Feel the air slowly filling your lungs until your lungs feel full, and allow the breath to then fill your ribcage and abdomen. Step 2: Gently hold your breath in, while mentally counting to 7 seconds. Keep your shoulders, jaw, and back relaxed. Step 3: Exhale smoothly and completely through the nose, while mentally counting to 8 seconds. (Repeat for 1-10 minutes, or any time you would like to prepare for sleep or to calm the nervous system.) (continued on page 86)
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4/4/4/4 Breath, or “Box Breathing� - Focus and Tranquility This is another powerful stress reliever, because it can enhance mental clarity while simultaneously calming the body. Step 1: Inhale slowly through the nose, while mentally counting to 4 seconds. Feel the air slowly filling your lungs until your lungs feel full, and allow the breath to then fill your ribcage and abdomen. Step 2: Gently hold your breath in, while mentally counting to 4 seconds. Keep your shoulders, jaw, and back relaxed. Step 3: Exhale slowly through the nose, while mentally counting to 4 seconds. Exhale completely, allowing all of the air to exit your lungs and abdomen. Step 4: Hold the breath out, while mentally counting to 4 seconds. (Repeat for 1-10 minutes, or any time you would like to reduce feelings of stress or anxiety.)
8/2 Breath - Uplift and Energize This is a great technique for energizing the body and mind. *The inhale is 4x as long as the exhale Step 1: Inhale slowly through the nose, while mentally counting to 8 seconds. Feel the air slowly filling your lungs until your lungs feel full, and allow the breath to then fill your ribcage and abdomen. Step 2: Exhale through the nose, while mentally counting to 2 seconds (Repeat for 1-10 minutes, or any time you would like to promote feelings of focused energy, joy and creativity.)
We host virtual breathwork workshops and more at: Website: www.lionrituals.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/lionrituals 86 UPLOADER MAGAZINE
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MENTAL HEALTH
Andrea’s Angle
Let’s Talk Anxiety
By Andrea Rappaport www.theandrearappaport.com @theandrearappaport
I am sitting on my couch, watching the news coverage of the Coronavirus and scrolling through my social media feeds, dreaming of warmer weather and the cute graphic t-shirts I recently ordered. At this moment, I feel “fine”. I wasn’t “fine” last night.
Anxiety is, like, so trendy right now. All the cool kids have it. So many celebrities and public figures have recently spoken up about this evil little puppet who lives inside of us. For those of you who don’t suffer from anxiety, Mazel Tov, my dear. This is one club, in which you really don’t want to be a VIP. For those of you who do suffer from anxiety, “you can find me in da club, bottle full of bub..” (Actually, my bottles are full of Zoloft and Clonazepam.) BTW - that lyricist, Mr 50 cent, my Bubbe (Yiddish term for Grandmother) refers to him as, “50 cents”. Okay, anyway... My anxiety can be a real beast. It usually hits me in the middle of the night. I will wake up (usually between 12am-3am), feeling scared, sweaty, nervous, sick to my stomach, and extremely isolated. I immediately feel the need to “flee the scene of the crime”. So if I’m sleeping in my bed, I’m out. I usually go outside for a walk, regardless of the time or season. Yep, I have walked my block in rainstorms, muggy nights, freezing nights, snowy nights. I walk. And I try to breathe. There are some calming techniques that work for me, and I try to implement those. However, when an attack is really bad, you can find me on the floor of my bathroom, sobbing, shaking, and vomiting. I should sell tickets; it’s a real good time. I have had several panic attacks where a trip to the ER was necessary. The ER is a great place for an IV with fluids, anti-anxiety medication, and Zofran. The ER is not a great place if you don’t want to feel like a raging lunatic loser for needing to be in a hospital setting, yet again, because you can’t keep your life and guts together. And here comes the judgment and guilt. Why do so many of us judge our anxiety? Why do we feel guilty that we have anxiety? I’ll start. I judge my anxiety because I want it to be a short term thing. “Oh, it’s just postpartum anxiety.” NOPE. “Oh, it’s just when you’re really tired and overworked.” TRY AGAIN, BABE. It’s a part of me. It’s a part of my life. Hopefully, not forever. But, for now. So it’s time that I stop judging it because that’s probably making it worse. I feel guilty about having anxiety because (continued on page 91)
Photography: Jessie Hearn Photography
Ladies and Gentlemen, my name is Andrea Rappaport. I am a comedian, social media and television personality, podcaster, beauty guru, small business owner, and mom of two boys. My hobbies include: singing show tunes, shopping at TJ Maxx, wallpapering my new apartment, navigating my shitty divorce, and managing my anxiety.
About the Author...
Andrea Rappaport is a professional funny girl, TV and social media personality, podcaster, beauty guru, small business owner, content creator, and mother to 47 little boys. (Really, 2, but it feels like more). Known for her candor and tag line,“nailing imperfection”, Andrea speaks openly about her roller coaster ride with anxiety, the importance of comedy in her life, and her deep love for Marshall’s/TJ Maxx/Home Goods.
“Why strive for perfection when you could be NAILING IMPERFECTION.” Andrea
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ANDREA’S ANGLE
I feel like I’m a burden for those who care. WHOOP, THERE IT IS.
I’m actually starting to shake as I write this because I’m starting to feel vulnerable. This is normally when I stop talking and start making jokes or dancing (really poorly) to distract you... but you’re not sitting in front of me right now, so the dancing won’t do much. A few months ago, my son offered me a hug if I would stop dancing, so I’m guessing it’s a bit of an Elaine from Seinfeld situation. See that? Just did it. I couldn’t handle it, so I made a joke. Comedy has always been my coping mechanism. I have joked around about my anxiety for the last few years. I’ve even try to make the ER staff laugh while I’m there... because I feel more comfortable when people are laughing. Because I don’t want to be the girl with the “problems”. Because I feel more in control when I’m “on”. Because I’m scared. Because I’m afraid that I won’t be loved or accepted if I’m not funny. (Okay, now I’m crying) Thankfully, I’m a really pretty crier. My humor is a huge part of who I am, but there’s so much more. And there’s so much than my anxiety. There’s so much more than being a performer, than being a business owner, than being a mom. But being a mom is the most rewarding... even though it’s, like, way hard. Having children really brings your issues to the forefront, huh? Wow. Nobody tells you that. They should really tell you that. Put that in the What to Expect When You’re Expecting books. “Start therapy, now. You’re about to lose it.” Guys, we are all struggling. With something. Or someone. Or both. Let’s try not to judge ourselves for what we cannot control in this moment. We are all doing our best. And our best doesn’t look like someone else’s best. It’s not a competition (but if it were, you would, like, totally win) There is a lot of uncertainty in the world right now. We are witnessing something that’s playing out like a Hollywood blockbuster, except this is actually our reality. Our kids are home from school indefinitely; our businesses are tanking; people are scared and sick. Not a good combo, and it could give anyone anxiety. Be gentle with yourself. I know it’s hard. It’s really freaking hard for me. But it’s probably important. I mean, I don’t know, but I read that on a sign somewhere, and it felt like the right thing to say... that’s it. That’s all I got. I am such a good writer; this is fun. Not every day is gonna rock. And not every day is gonna suck. But we must find a way, a reason, to laugh and smile EVERY SINGLE DAY. Now, more than ever. Find something that brings you joy and embrace it, and share that tidbit of joy with your friends. Let’s spread joy and not germs people. (Wow, look at me, saving lives) Deep breaths. We aren’t trying to perfect. We are just trying to survive (bonus points if you thrive). UPLOADER MAGAZINE 91
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MUSIC
Singer: @shannonhuntmusic Photography: @catielaffoon
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Shannon Hunt
With a resume that many artists would dream of; singer, songwriter, and vocal coach Shannon Hunt gives us a glimpse of her life as a performer and artist, and took time to answer a couple of questions
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hannon Hunt grew up in Fayetteville, West Virginia. From a very young age, music was ingrained in her soul. With a unique love for both the arts and business she graduated from High Point University in 2006 with a BA in business and economics, but her love of music won in the end and steered her to LA to pursue a career as a singer/songwriter. Over the last 13 years, she’s recorded two solo albums, opened for acts such as The Zac Brown Band and Sheryl Crow, written jingles for Coca-Cola and Dasani, had original songs featured in various film and TV projects, and co-fronted two pop duos. When Shannon decided to add Vocal
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Coach to her resume it seemed like a no-brainer. She took her 30 years of singing experience and vocal study, 20 years of performance experience, a love of piano and theory, and her eagerness to learn how to heal the voice and got to work. She has certifications in both the “Sing With Power” Technique and the “Riggs Vocal Method” created by Kathleen Riggs: daughter of Seth Riggs (creator of Speech Level Singing). Shannon’s lessons focus on connecting the voice seamlessly from the bottom to the top and expanding the singer’s range to boost confidence and technique in any genre of music. She works with singers of all levels and prides herself on making the experience positive, supportive, and fun.
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C: You are incredibly talented and have quite a resume that many artists would dream of, what inspired you to become a singer/songwriter?
S: First of all, thank you so much For the huge compliment! Growing up, my favorite thing in the world was singing. I loved music from the very beginning. I watched Italian operas at the age of five mesmerized by the world created for me on the screen. The message of the piece was made clear through the voice and emotions of the singer; there was no need for me to understand the language. In our house, music was always playing, and there was a lot of dancing going on. It was fun growing up with music as a background for my daily life. I debuted my first solo at the age of five at a church Christmas concert, and I was off and running: musical theatre, church choirs, school choirs, not to mention performing on the stair step landing stage at my grandmother’s house, you name it, I was in it or wanted to be! The idea of a career in the arts was always in the back of my mind, but I didn’t have the confidence to pursue it. So, I enrolled in college, studied Business Administration, and four years later, armed with my degree and a silenced inner critic, I moved to Los Angeles to give it a shot. I was twenty-two years old had never written a song. Once I put pen to paper and started writing, I was in love. Here we are now, fourteen years later, and I am still doing what I love so much. C: What was the first-ever song you wrote? S: Oh my gosh, I wrote SO many terrible songs in the beginning, But the first song I was actually proud of was called “Breathe”. It told the story of the breakup of a relationship caused by my decision to leave to pursue my dreams in California. It was such a simple song, but it marked the beginning of my understanding of the transference from the heart and soul to the voice and the universality and emotion a song can bring to us. It can’t hold a candle to my current work, but I was excited about it, and it gave me enough hope and confidence to keep working and honing my skills. C: Do you have a particular sound or genre when writing or singing? S: Country music and soul music were my first two loves, so every time I sing, I feel the most at home in that genre and tend to bring it to every style of music that I cover. That is the point of artistry to bring your unique, heart, and soul into the music we all know and love. C: What has been the highlight of your career so far? S: I have to say there have been three big ones that stand out to me that I love. Getting to open for Sheryl Crowe and The Zac Brown Band at the Whiskey on Sunset Blvd was pretty freaking amazing. Getting my first placements in TV and film years ago that got me in the door and has continued me on that journey today, and thirdly, getting a chance to work in the vocal rehabilitation world. All three of those experiences have been life-changing. (continued on page 98) UPLOADER MAGAZINE 97
FEATURE C: What challenges have you faced, and how did you overcome them? S: One of my main challenges has been to quiet the voices inside my head that told me I could not make a living out of pursuing music. If you ask my friends or my family, I am a very confident person, but, when it came to making music my living, I was unsure if I could do it, and I think the real fear was knowing that it was my calling, and being scared to take that leap. So, my advice to anyone out there that wants to pursue their dream GO FOR IT! But, if you do, let the road lead you, have an open mind, say yes to all of your opportunities, do not let your failures define you, and be ok with your dream looking a little different than you originally thought it would. C: Tell us a little more about why you moved into vocal coaching? S: It was actually never part of my plan to become a vocal coach, which is so wild to say now because it is like a dream come true for me. About 4 years ago, my band of 6 years took a hiatus, and I was trying to figure out my next move. My husband had the idea of me becoming a teacher, and I thought the idea was crazy! But, when I started to think about it, I had 30 years of singing experience, 12 years of songwriting experience, thousands of hours of vocal training under my belt, and countless hours of studio experience. I decided I would try it, went out and found some training programs, and fell in love with the craft and the whole world of teaching. Now, every single day I get to help another creative person move toward their goals. I get to hear hundreds of voices a year, help my students mend from illness and injury, help them find the best version of their voice, and prepare them for absolutely anything that they need, and that is the largest gift. C: How do you approach each client’s singing abilities when giving them vocal lessons? S: First, I ask them to tell me a little bit about themselves, their singing and musical history; then, I ask them to tell me what their goals are. So, after establishing what they want to get out of a session, we do a diagnostic scale, and see what we are working with and then assess from there. Everyone is in a different starting place has different needs. A person’s voice is as unique as they are, and there is always a different plan of action to get them to where they need to go. My personal goal is to make all my students feel comfortable and feel like the best versions of themselves. I want everyone to leave feeling excited, and like they learned at least one new thing. C: In your opinion, can everyone can learn to sing? S: Yes! I think that each and every person has the ability to express themselves musically. It is actually a very small percentage of the population (around 2 percent) that are medically, tone-deaf. It does come more naturally to some than others, that is FOR SURE. But, in my opinion, everyone can get better from where they started out. Now, we all have different starting points, but we can all move towards a common goal of incorporating more music into our daily lives. C: What do you think to our new content creator magazine? S: I love it! The world is moving in such a direction where there are so many people operating independently, so many people creating this incredible content, so many people bringing their creativity to life. I love that there is finally a home to encompass all of those innovative souls on one platform. We as humans tend to stick to our daily routines, and this is a great source of new information to lead us in a different direction to expand our horizons.
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My advice to anyone out there that wants to pursue their dream GO FOR IT! But, if you do, let the road lead you, have an open mind, say yes to all of your opportunities, do not let your failures define you, and be ok with your dream looking a little different than you originally thought it would.
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SOCIAL DISTANCING SAVES LIFES
Ask Becca
LAW OF ATTRACTION
Your Questions Answered By Rebecca Schuster lovebecca.com @lovebecca26
Q. Why is it that I can manifest things for myself, but other people can’t? By Terri A. I love this question because it allows me to say that everyone is capable of manifesting. Everyone. The real question is, why aren’t more people using the law of attraction. The answer is simple. Manifesting and law of attraction only work one way, when you believe in it. You can ask the universe all you want, but if you do not believe that you are going to get it or that it’s going to happen, it won’t. And if for some reason it does, it will take a lot longer (sometimes years) to manifest. When people don’t believe in what they ask for, they confuse the universe, and it gets delayed.
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Believing seems to be the hardest part for people, but it doesn’t have to be. Anything can become true when you put enough attention on it. When people are trying to use the law of attraction to obtain something in their life like a new job, more money, travel, losing weight, or finding their person, they have to make sure they are in vibrational alignment with it. What does that mean? A person cannot create a new reality without first feeling it already happening. Most people want to obtain what they want to feel happiness from it. But unfortunately, the universe does not work that way. This is why so many people find themselves constantly searching and never finding, or worse settling. I am happy to hear that you have discovered the magic in manifesting. I hope that others discover it too. Q. What’s a tip for empty nesters to find themselves again? By Rose
About the Author...
Becca has many years experience as a certified Feng Shui consultant. Throughout her career, and being a single parent, she discovered the importance of living a happy and well-balanced life. “I believe you have to treat your mind, body, and soul with love to obtain true happiness.
“What you seek is seeking you.” - Rumi I love helping people discover the magic of manifesting through the Law of Attraction. If you have a question, in any area of your life, you can send it to hello@uploadermagazine.com, and I will respond in an upcoming issue. Happy Manifesting!
Love, Becca
A. So many of us have parents that are empty nesters (because of divorce or widowed) or know people whose kids have left for college and now do not know who they are without their children. Believe it or not, during this time is when a lot of marriages end, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Unless, of course, you’re in an unhealthy marriage then, by all means, get the heck out! I will never advise anyone to stay with someone if that person is toxic to their well-being. Life is too short for that. If you find yourself an empty nester, the following are some ideas to help you navigate through this time and find yourself in the meantime. 1) Make a list if you don’t already have one. Whether you are single or married, this list needs to be done individually. Your new journey is about how to find a way to live a happy life, whether you find yourself single or in a marriage that doesn’t know how to navigate without children in your home. When writing your list, ask yourself one question: What have I always wanted to do but haven’t? Write your answer down and anything else that comes to mind. More than likely, your list will be longer than you think. It could consist of starting a new project or hobby, starting a business, learn an instrument, draw/paint, plant a garden, take a class, join a book club, volunteer, or even just lose weight. Once you have your list, ask yourself, “why haven’t I done this yet?” Be honest with your answer, no excuses. Sometimes it’s simply because you haven’t had the time and if that’s the case, now you do, so start doing it. Other times, there are underlying issues, which have to do with your belief system, which is where manifesting and the law of attraction comes into play. If that’s the case, I wrote a long article in the UPLOADER Magazine February issue that can help you master it and change your life. 2) Plan a trip. Whether it’s a long trip or a weekend getaway taking a trip, I think it is crucial when trying to find yourself. (continued on page 105) UPLOADER MAGAZINE 103
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ASK BECCA I don’t know if it’s the change of scenery or simply the encounters of strangers, but it does something magical to our souls. If it’s with a partner, I recommend a romantic getaway to reconnect, and if you’re single, you can go alone (you never know who you’re going to meet), or take a trip with friends (just make sure they are like-minded, no drama needed). 3) Socialize. Plan lunch and dinner dates with friends or have them over and host a brunch or a dinner night. Go to the museum or see a play. It changes up your routine, and that change creates a shift in energy. 4) Change your look. Sometimes all it takes is a new hair cut, a new hair color, or a new wardrobe to make us feel better. When we feel good about ourselves, we are more open to trying new things. Remember, you get in life what you put into it. If you are looking for a change or trying to figure out what to do next with your life, it’s easier than you think. All you have to do is put in the effort. Q. I feel like I am not valued at work, how can I change that? By Greg C. A. To be valued at work, you must first value yourself. So ask yourself this question… Do you value who you are and what you have to offer? When we value ourselves and what we have to offer, it shows, people see it. The problem is people get so busy comparing themselves to other people that they fail to recognize the value in who they are, the gifts they possess, and the uniqueness they have to offer. They forget to value themselves. Because the truth is, the only person that has to value what you do is you. It’s a process to learn and not something you can do in a day, a week, a month, or a year. It is a life long journey of discovering the great value of who you are and the magic you possess. It isn’t until then that you will start to feel heard and seen at work and in other areas of your life too. • To start, I would write down all the qualities that you love about yourself. Think about all the things you are good at and write them down. • Next, validate your feelings on what you have written down and make sure you feel confident in them. If you don’t show confidence, it will show. • At work, start recognizing your co-worker’s contributions and acknowledging them. The more you show genuine appreciation, the more people are willing to help you. • If your boss is approachable, ask if there is anything you can do to improve. • Be optimistic about all your work tasks and complete them on time. • Know your strengths and weakness, and play up your strengths. • Get out your comfort zone and try a different approach. If you do value who you are, have tried everything, and are still unhappy at work, you might want to consider changing jobs. Sometimes, it isn’t you, and you need to recognize that and be open to making a change. I hope this helps, and if you have any follow up questions with more details for me, please feel free to ask. I am always happy to help if I can. UPLOADER MAGAZINE 105
FEATURE
Shira Lazar
Incredibly talented and successful entrepreneur Shira Lazar reflects on her time during quarantine, whilst sharing comforting words and how to better get through this uncertain period by showing compassion and support for one another Edited by Cheryl De Marco @shiralazar @whatstrending @lgtshow @wearechannelq
Shira Lazar is the Founder/CEO of the Emmy Nominated digital media brand, What’s Trending. In October 2018, she became the host of the afternoon drive show “Let’s Go There” weekdays on the first national LGBTQ+ station Channel Q syndicated and on Radio.com. You can also check out her lifestyle and travel series, Adventures In Curiosity, which inspires viewers to embrace curiosity and live their lives outside the box. This inspiring young entrepreneur is paving her own way to success, and we are blown away by what she has already 106 UPLOADER MAGAZINE
achieved. Her passion for her business shines bright daily, and it shows through her work and personality. If you aren’t following Shira or her channel, then we suggest you put down what you are doing, and check out this talented and incredibly driven woman. You won’t be disappointed.
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Shira’s COMFORTING WORDS during
These Uncertain Times It’s 9:21pm on a Wednesday night. I’m sitting at my kitchen table, my glass of wine pretty much empty. Lynyrd Skynyrd’s Free Bird is playing on Spotify on my laptop. This is the 6th day I’ve been stuck at home or as they say safe at home. Happy quarantine! For the first time ever, this is something that I’m pretty sure everyone gets. It has taken a pandemic to bring our world together to fight one cause, which is wild! The whole thing is surreal. I mean how many times have you said the word surreal at this point? The word itself is starting to lose meaning. But while we are going through a shared experience, each of our experiences are different. That’s why kindness and compassion for ourselves and others is so important right now. There’s no right or wrong way to feel. There’s no experience that is more or less important. It’s ok if you just want to cry and roll up in a ball. It’s ok if you are terrified, and don’t know what your future or let alone tomorrow will bring; and while this is something we can all grasp and understand, it hits us each differently. It also hits us out of nowhere. You can be completely fine one moment and then you snap and you’re like “Why am I feeling so emotional?” Reality check, this all isn’t “normal”. This is all unprecedented. Sorry, there are no self-help books or workshops for this one. But in all of that is the beauty of not knowing, and of also knowing that we are all figuring this out together. Still, my worry is that we won’t learn from this situation, this time, and while it seems almost impossible, it’s something I think about. Here’s what I’m processing right now and perhaps it can support you: Trust - part of dealing with this pandemic is to trust that we are all making the right decisions not only in front of others but behind closed doors. There also needs to be trust that even in loss there’s meaning. Accountability - now more than ever is a time to take inventory and look inwards at who you really want to be, and what that means to you. No one is going to hold you accountable, it’s up to you to make the life you want to happen and lead by example for others. Self-care - space and breaks to breathe and take time for you is vital. Just like we see our environment getting better with this slowdown of human activity, as humans who are part of nature we all need similar space to heal and grow. You should not feel bad for taking time to recalibrate, whether it be through yoga, meditation, walks in nature or just breathing. (continued on page 110) UPLOADER MAGAZINE 109
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Healthcare - focusing on your health (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) shouldn’t just come in times of urgency and need. Boosting your immune system and well being is a daily practice and not a trend or just what you do when you are getting sick. It’s a lifestyle! This is also why access to health care shouldn’t just be a privilege, but a human right. We are all better when we are all living better together! Making money with heart - I believe in a future where we can make money as corporations and individuals while caring about employers, the community, and the world. We have been taught we need to sacrifice one for the other, but what if both are possible? We won’t know until those who have the courage to do so, step up and change the system.
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Curiosity - Many of our jobs and how we typically make money are gone or are changing. I keep on reminding myself of the time when I was just starting out, and when I was willing to do anything to learn and open to all opportunities. Sometimes we forgot about this and that’s ok! I invite us all to be intentional but also look at what we love and how we can be of service in a different way. Stay humble while knowing your power. Don’t be afraid to start something new or experiment with that thing that you’ve been putting off. Move towards what feels good, but also put in the time needed to get it done. Gratitude - how many things have been taken from us do we realize we took for granted? Why does it take an extreme change to make us see that? Will we wait for something bad to happen again to realize that every moment is a gift, or will we start living that now? Every night and every time I’m stuck in my head and feeling out of control, I write down what I’m grateful for. It can include friends to colleagues, and even the simplest things like clean drinking water and a bed. It’s cliche, but it constantly puts things in perspective and creates an energy shift. Let yourself feel - allow yourself to feel all the feelings, accept that they are there and know that they aren’t you, they are an experience you’re having. Find spaces for you to process these feelings whether it be through a journal, working out, art, poetry, a safe community of friends and know this too shall pass. The key is that what you’re feeling isn’t wrong and the more you acknowledge and accept that, the more you will allow it to move through you v’s getting stuck and becoming a trigger in the future. These are things I personally think of daily. It can be overwhelming, but while I can’t control the world, I can at least start with me. Change and growth happens incrementally. Remember, we are all in the eye of the storm right now but small changes, create huge leaps. Finally, smile and laugh! You are here now! 110 UPLOADER MAGAZINE
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While I can’t control the world, I can at least start with me. Change and growth happens incrementally. Remember, we are all in the eye of the storm right now, but small changes, create huge leaps.
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LIFESTYLE
Achieving Happiness During Social Distancing
Life Style Buzz
By Naza Holliman www.sweetpandsky.com @sweet.p.and.sky
The world has changed exponentially in just a few short weeks, and our lives will very likely never be the same. Here in Los Angeles, California, less than two weeks ago, kids were in school, people were working, dining out, enjoying beach days, and snow days in the mountains. We are Californians, and we love to be out enjoying our unique climate, and all of the social activities available to us. As an Angelino, I am no exception. My family is one who loves to travel, to be out and about. My kid’s favorite question is, “what are we going to explore today, mama?” My husband and I love visiting the latest restaurants, and we enjoy visiting museums and going to some of LA’s hottest events. We love the beach, the mountains, and exploring. So, when schools and nonessential businesses shut down, people and families like my own, began to navigate an unfamiliar new life. Peoples worlds have been turned upside down. Parents are thrown into homeschooling their children with no previous experience. For a lot of folks, working from home has been a challenge, and for those people who have to work full time and homeschool their children, life has become increasingly impossible. It can all feel overwhelming and stressful. And for some, it can feel incredibly isolating and depressing. But there is so much you can do during this time of social distancing.
Video Chat First and foremost, remember, social distancing does not mean social isolation. Now more than any other time in history, we have the world at our fingertips. So, use FaceTime, Duo, Zoom, Skype, and any other video calling app to socialize with friends and family. If you have children, have them video chat with their friends, no matter how young they may be. Zoom playdates and storytimes are a great way to keep younger kids in touch with their friends and classmates.
Get outside Step outside at least once a day. Go for a walk in a remote area, have a picnic in the back yard or garden, have your morning coffee on the balcony, if you are lucky enough to have a pool, go for a swim. Go for a hike or a walk around your home, but make sure to keep your distance.
Take Online Courses Take this time as an opportunity to learn something new. Places like Coursera.com offer hundreds of free online courses to the public. You have the option of going at your own pace, and also paying for a certificate, should you want to be certified. Tip: Coursera is offering Yale’s most popular class ever, and the topic is how to be happier in your life. (continued on page 116)
About the Author...
Naza Holliman is a blogger, influencer and Founder of The Mommy Blogger Tribe (Los Angeles, Orange County, San Diego, and Columbia, South Carolina She is the creative force behind the Sweet P and Sky blog, a lifestyle blog about, family, adventures, travel, style, unbiased reviews, and beautiful features, helping her audience connect with brands. Naza is founder of all four Mommy Blogger Tribes, which are comprised of four incredible communities. From California to South Carolina, these Tribes consist of confident, open-minded, powerhouse Blogger Moms, entrepreneurs, who gather monthly for some of the hottest events in their towns. It is a space where bloggers can be seen and connected with brands, while creating real life friendships with likeminded women. Most of all, Naza is mother to two little boys, a wife to a loving husband, a world traveler, foodie, and a stylish an adventurer.
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Life Style Buzz Celebrities are teaching free dance classes, and chefs are hosting online cooking lessons. There are thousands of options for children. PBS Kids has fun educational games and videos to busy little hands and minds. Apps like ABC Mouse and Khan Academy Kids are specifically made to teach children of any age in fun and easy ways.
Read Take this amazing gift of time to catch up on your reading, and if you are a parent, read to your kids.
Binge-watch streaming shows Of course, there is always Netflix and Chill. To be honest, nothing takes my mind off of the stresses of life like binge watching seasons of my favorite shows. Netflix, Hulu, Amazon Prime, and for the kids, Disney +; these are great options for mind-numbing relaxation and mood-lifting.
Exercise There are literally thousands of virtual exercise classes popping from all of the brick and mortar businesses who have been forced to close temporarily. Gyms are teaching virtual group aerobics; boot camps are hosting 28-day virtual challenges; yoga instructors are holding virtual yoga. Some are paid, a lot are free. You can also find tons of prerecorded exercise videos on YouTube.
Take a Virtual Tour Take a tour of the Louver, the Guggenheim, or even NASA’s tour of Mars.
Redecorate I don’t mean go out and buy all new furniture. But rearrange. Move things around; make your home feel different and new. Cozy. Make it your “Quarantine Mecca”.
Arts, Crafts and Music Try your hand at painting, do adult coloring books, even doodle. Feel free to be creative. Listen to music, have a dance party. Studies have shown that there is a relationship between engagement with the creative arts and health outcomes, specifically the health effects of music, visual arts therapy, movement-based creative expression, and expressive writing.
Most of all, remember that this is all temporary.
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Questions with
Photography: Joshua M. Shelton. Hair: Liz Rexroat. Dress designer: Olena Dats
French-American Actress Rachel Kylian talks about upcoming projects, content creators and the ‘new media’ era. Get to learn more about Rachel as she answers our seven questions
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achel Kylian is a French-American actress. Her latest film credits include notably, Universal’s comedy “Almost Christmas”, the Lifetime drama “The Wrong Man” and Sony Pictures Classics’ bromance comedy “The Climb”. Her television credits include CBS drama series “FBI”, STARZ’s drama series “Counterpart”, CBS reboot of “MacGyver”, and HBO’s pot theme comedy “High Maintenance”. She will next be seen in Michael Ryan-directed action thriller “Interpreters”. Interpreters Trailer
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C: Can you tell us a little about the “The Climb”, and your character? R: “The Climb” is a Sony Pictures Classics’ bromance comedy. The picture follows Kyle and Mike, who are best friends and share a close bond until Mike sleeps with Kyle’s fiancée. The film follows their enduring relationship across many years of laughter, heartbreak and rage. “The Climb” has been awarded the “Un Certain Regard” prize Jury’s Coup de Coeur at the 2019 Cannes Film Festival and the “Jury Prize” at the 2019 Deauville Film Festival. Michael Angelo Covino stars alongside his co-writer and co-producer Kyle Marvin. It’s adapted from their Sundance short inspired by their real-life friendship.
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I have been cast as a French nurse who works at a French hospital. This role is my first time playing a French character in a movie.
I believe that a strong mindset and faith can help overcome any obstacle.
C: Did you always know you wanted to be an actress, and what advice would you give to aspiring actors?
R: Yes. I have always loved the arts. I didn’t know one could make a living as an actor until I become a SAG-AFTRA actor.
I encourage young actors to watch a lot of movies, TV shows and plays; get acting training; get a demo reel; get an agent; join the union SAG-AFTRA; and use IMDb pro. If your dream is to be an actor, go for it. It is the best job. C: What was your most memorable role, and what would be your dream role? R: My most memorable role was to play Young Grace in the “Almost Christmas” movie. My dream role would be to play Cleopatra in an action, sci-fi movie. Marvel’s “Black Panther” was a huge success in the box office, so there is a demand for Black King and Black Queen superhero movies.
R: The biggest challenge our industry is facing right now is the Covid-19 crisis that has put all TV series and movies in production on hold. It is unclear when work will resume. To overcome this crisis, we all have to stay home and be patient. The entertainment industry involves a lot of challenges: one of them is rejection. I have faced the challenge of being an immigrant. When I first moved to the United States, I did not have a green card, I had a permanent resident visa on my French passport, and no one would hire me (they would tell me “we don’t accept visas, only green card or U.S. citizens”). It took a few months before I received my green card and started working on productions, but I did not give up. I believe that a strong mindset and faith can help overcome any obstacle. 120 UPLOADER MAGAZINE
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C: I imagine working within the entertainment industry can be challenging, but equally rewarding, what challenges have you faced and how did you overcome them?
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FEATURE C: A lot of content creators are now turning to YouTube to start making and showcasing their work and short films, do you see this changing the future of the entertainment industry? R: The access to information has changed with technology, now most people have a smartphone, a tablet, and highspeed internet and can watch any content, anytime. The “new media” era has already changed the shape of our industry. Many projects are going online because there is also a higher demand for online content. The digital players Hulu, Netflix, Apple TV, Facebook want to offer the best content and therefore produce a lot of content and this results in more opportunities for actors.
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Content creators are taking advantage of this rising digital consumption to showcase their content. I think YouTube is a great global platform to promote any content.
R: I have landed a supporting role in the thriller “Number 14” directed by Gio Randazzo and we expect to resume shooting in the near future. I will next be seen in “Interpreters”, a sci-fi thriller directed by Michael Ryan. “The Climb” was meant to hit theaters March 20 but Sony Pictures Classics has postponed the release in the wake of city-wide closures of all cinemas. C: What do you think of our Content Creator magazine? R: It’s a nice fresh new magazine that promotes a large range of topics (fitness, fashion, beauty, photography, travel, film, music, lifestyle, books etc.) and shares the stories of content creators. It’s a great initiative and I am very excited to be part of it.
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Kyle Thomas Kyle is a globally recognized pop culture astrologer who has been featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine, Bustle, Elite Daily, House Beautiful, Marie Claire, YahooNews, MSN, and more. He is known for his cosmic guidance for celebrities, business executives, and prominent influencers. His work harnesses the power of the stars in regards to entertainment lifestyle and trends affecting people worldwide. His writing and horoscopes have been translated into multiple languages. Kyle has been astrologically gifted naturally from a very young age and teaches how to use the Universe to manifest the life you’ve always dreamt of. With over a decade of professional experience and clients all over the world, he currently resides in Los Angeles where he works as a professional astrologer, celebrity life coach, and author. Currently, he is the official astrologer for @Horoscopes and @Horo. ScopesDaily (4.6 million followers). Kyle received two Bachelor of Arts for Psychology and English from the University of Wisconsin-Madison and integrates these degrees into his growing research of psychology, personality, and the human condition.
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RIES (March 21st - April 19th)
April has arrived, bringing forth renewed energy as we begin another zodiac year. This is birthday season for you, Aries, and you are likely thinking not only about what you want ahead in the coming year, but certainly in the decade ahead, too. You’ve been focusing on new beginnings and what you are ready to embrace as you move forward. When the Sun is in your zodiac sign, like it will be until the 19th, you shine brighter than all others. This is an excellent time to make big moves. With Mars charging through your social sector, you are certainly feeling the social call or turning your attention to humanitarian ideals. This will continue throughout the month. A powerful moment will be when the Full Moon approaches near April 7th. This is a significant time for your relationships. Some Aries could become official, get engaged, or get married. However, if in a partnership whose time has passed, you could walk away now. If single and looking, you could align with someone who has LTR-potential. Whichever road you choose, you will clearly be making a significant choice about a relationship. Later in the month, though, your focus will shift to financial matters. The New Moon on the 22nd will open a door to you for increased wealth. You could find that you are paying off debts, too. Use the seven to ten days after the New Moon to assess your financial life and how you can make it grow.
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EMINI (May 21st - June 20th)
With Venus gracing your zodiac sign all month after the 3rd and the Sun lighting up your social sector the first several weeks, you are definitely in the mood to strut your stuff, Gemini. This is a time when you are seeking attention and may also have luck in love. Due to Venus smiling upon you, be sure to utilize this time to update your beauty regimen. Also, with a radiant Full Moon in your love and creativity sector lighting up near the 7th, you could have an important moment arriving that week. If seeing someone, you may realize you’re truly falling in love or if looking to conceive, news about a child may arrive. If an artist, this is a glorious time to show the world your craft or channel the muse. Last, if you have children already, this could be a time when they are demanding your total attention. However, as the month draws on, you’ll be ready to rest, recharge, and pull back. The New Moon on the 22nd is opening a doorway for you to heal anything that you need as well as start planning what you want to manifest once birthday season arrives. Listen to the rhythms of your soul and body.
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AURUS (April 20th - May 20th)
Throughout the first three weeks of April you are lying low and making plans for how you want your life to grow over the coming year. This is an excellent time to relax, rejuvenate, and recharge your batteries. However, with Mars powering through your career zone the entire month, you are certainly focused intensely on your ambitions. This is a great time to see how you can strategically climb the ladder or get stunning press. Money will be on your mind significantly over the next several months with your ruler, Venus, dancing through your income zone. It appears you could be seeing new streams of money coming in during this time, but be aware that the end of May and June may see some tightening up when Venus goes retrograde here. The Full Moon on the 7th sees that you are very busy and likely finishing up a major project. This could also be a joyous moment if you’ve been applying and looking for work. However, as the zodiac wheel turns and birthday season arrives starting on the 19th, get ready to feel reinvigorated. Since 2018, Uranus, the planet of surprise and change, has been shaking up your life and pushing you in vast new directions. Anything that hasn’t been working will be released over the next several years and you will find that the world appears to be radically shifting around you. You despise change more than any other zodiac sign, but the sooner you embrace it, the sooner you will activate your highest potential. The New Moon on the 22nd opens a door to a dream close to your heart, so be sure to know what you’re after and in the days following it, start to make it come to life.
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ANCER (June 21st - July 22nd)
Career matters are certainly on your mind at the beginning of April, Cancer. You could be eagerly awaiting the opportunity to rise in your industry or mapping out a plan to establish your name. Use the fiery power of the Sun during the first half of the month to make yourself glow. An important moment in relation to your home or family could be appearing in the week around the 7th, though. If one of your kindred needs you, be sure to extend your help. Other Cancers could be moving or fixing up their space. If you do so, you’ll enjoy the results. However, when the Sun dances on into your social sector after the 19th, you’re feeling the urge to connect to a greater community. For some Cancers, you could be eager for some socializing. Others, though, could feel their humanitarian ideals in focus and contemplating how to make a difference. The New Moon on the 22nd will allow you activate your plans and even possibly expand your network.
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EO (July 23rd - August 22nd)
April is here with lots of energy for you, Leo. Mars, planet of passion, resides within your sector of partnership throughout the month. This means that you will make more progress on your plans working as a team rather than trying to fly solo. Consider what kind of partnership will help you ultimately see the best results. However, this could also cause friction in some relationships if it has been cooking underneath. Hopefully you can quickly communicate whatever needs to be fixed. With the Sun in your sector of expansion throughout the first 19 days of the month, you’re likely spending time thinking about international connections, academics, or spirituality. All of these areas of life allow you to expand your mind and see new horizons. Some Leos could be putting themselves into the publishing or media world at this time, so if you have some downtime and always had a book you were hoping to write, this could be your window! Venus, planet of beauty and attraction, will be gracing your social sector for many months, and some Leos may notice that this is when you turn an acquaintance into a romantic option. For others, you may reconnect with longlost friends. This will primarily begin in May and June, but you should certain enjoy a more communal flow beginning now. Last to note this month, though, is that the Sun will be moving into your career sector in the last ten days of the month and a New Moon will be encouraging new beginnings for you after the 22nd. Your ability to make a statement in your industry or find a better job is very possible now. Court attention like you are a royal ready for the throne.
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Passion and love are certainly on your mind, Libra, with Mars firing up your romantic sector! Some Libras could be feeling the incredible urge to find their special someone, whereas committed ones could be excited to reignite the spark with their main partner. If creative, this is an excellent month to move forward on an artistic project. Last, if eager to have a child, this could be the sweet spot where you are in luck. However, the Full Moon on the 7th turns all eyes to you. An important goal should be coming to culmination in the week surrounding this Full Moon because it falls in your zodiac sign. This is a moment of personal power, so be sure to step forward and demand what you want. Partnerships—whether in business or love—are certainly on your mind throughout this month and will continue to be when the Sun and New Moon move into your intimacy sector in the last third of the month. You will be debating what you give and receive in your relationships and how you want more.
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IRGO (August 23rd - September 22nd)
With Mars, the planet of energy, heating up your productivity zone all month, many Virgos will realize that they’re ready to crush their work goals. Some Virgos could see success in starting a new job, so if looking, utilize this powerful energy. Your health will also be highlighted this month, so you must use it to create better habits and routines. Exercise as much as you can and begin a program that will bring you happy results. If you’ve been neglecting your physical health, you may notice that you feel drained. Use your focus to rapidly improve your diet and fitness going forward. Also important to note is that Venus, planet of grace, will be moving through your career sector starting now for several months ahead. You should be seeing favor when it comes to bosses or reputation matters. April 7th will bring an important money matter to culmination for you, and some Virgos could be getting a raise or paying off a bill. Be sure to watch your expenses in the days that surround this Full Moon so you don’t amass a debt. However, as the month moves forward, your attention begins to shift toward expanding in new ways. You could be paying attention to international situations or considering travel and immigration. Other ways this could manifest is through publishing, media, or academic interests. In the days following the 22nd, you should see new opportunities arrive.
CORPIO (October 23rd - November 21st)
With the Sun firing up your work and productivity zone, you appear to have a lot of things you seek to accomplish, Scorpio. This is a great time to do so with this energy on your side. However, you could also be feeling that your health is a major focus, too. Improving it or finding the best diet or fitness regimen could be excellent now. Another thing to note is that Mars, planet of drive, is heating up your home and family sector throughout the entire month. This means that some Scorpios could be very intensely focusing on moving, fixing up their space, or turning their attention completely upon their family. A Full Moon on the 7th will light up your sector of privacy and could have you feeling more exhausted and ready to take a step back. It appears you’ve been working quite hard and you deserve some relaxation. Enjoy a facial spa at home or schedule in that extra nap. However, when the Sun moves into your relationship zone in the very last week of April, your attention will surely be moving onto an important business or romantic partner or collaborator. You will go further in the coming month if you work as a team. The New Moon on the 22nd could see that your partner is acting a bit more erratic or you are craving to find someone new. Some Scorpios could be making important commitments at this time or walking away from arrangements that are only limiting them. If single, this could be a sweet time to find someone who has serious potential. Know what you want in a significant other and stand up for your worth.
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AGITTARIUS (November 22nd - December 21st)
With Mars firing up your communications sector, it appears you have a highly active mind now. You could be working on an important media, social media, writing, or speaking endeavor. Be sure to use this month to get as far as you can upon it. However, your mind is certainly feeling romantic and creative in the first weeks of this month, too. Single Sagittarius are lucky to align with someone who lights their heart on fire or if with someone already, you could use this fire to bring excitement and games back to your relationship! Some Sagittarius may hear news about a pregnancy during this time. If artistic, use the cosmos above to guide you to your next greatest masterpiece. However, when the Sun and Moon dart into your productivity zone, you will be seeing a bigger focus on your day-to-day routine. Some Sagittarius could start a new job or important projects at work in the days following the 22nd. If wanting to improve your daily health routine, too, you can pick up some wonderful habits and diet plans.
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QUARIUS (January 20th - February 18th)
April is here and you will feel a sweet vibration enter your life. Venus, planet of love and beauty, glides through your love and passion sector for the coming several months. While it will go retrograde in this same place from mid-May until June—bringing back exes or karmic flames— you have until the retrograde begins to attract someone new or bring magic back into your relationship if already dating. If you are looking to conceive, this is also an especially sweet time. If an artist, this is also a magnificent moment to create some of your most memorable work. Pick up a creative hobby at this time if you have some extra time. The Full Moon on the 7th will likely bring news regarding an important media, publishing, or academic matter. If seeking news about immigration or international business, this could pop up in the week surrounding this Full Moon. Also, with your mind especially agile throughout most of the month, you are likely active on a writing or speaking endeavor or especially talkative on social media. However, when the Sun and New Moon move into your domestic sector in the final week of the month, you’re going to be focused on your roots. The New Moon on the 22nd could bring up a sudden need to move to a new location or the opportunity to update your living space. If news regarding a parent pops up, attend to it rapidly. This is also a divinely blessed time to improve your day-to-day life at home, so find ways to make yourself happy if you’re spending more time here.
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Enter April 2020, Capricorn, because the stars have a lot of transformation in store. With Mars in your income sector throughout the month, you could notice your expenses are increasing. However, your moneymaking potential is also strong now, so if you’d like to up your wages—and what Capricorn isn’t looking to do that?—you can hustle harder to be creative in harnessing this extra advantage. However, another area of focus this month seems to be the stability in your life. Some of you could be moving, spending more time at home, or looking to improve your space. Family situations could come up during this time, too. If your family—such as a parent—requires help during this time, you certainly should step up to do so. You also are likely feeling more emotional these days and wondering what it will take for you to “get it all.” You have so many hopes and desires in your heart that you wish to manifest, and the stars above are telling you to dig deep inside to look at who you are and what you want as well as what you are going to have to sacrifice to get it. Also, prepare for a major moment in your career to take place in the week surrounding the 7th. You will likely see a powerful culmination, ending, or shift take place that has been building for some time. A promotion or favorable publicity could be coming your way. Use this star power to own your worth. Last, though, your focus shifts to love, fun, and creativity when the Sun moves into this sector on the 19th. The New Moon on the 22nd could bring you a shocking chance to meet someone new if single, or you could have some exciting or intense news delivered to you if you’re currently dating. Love could be coming at you from out of nowhere and if you are online dating, opportunities could abound. If your heart is singing for someone but you don’t know how they feel, use this New Moon to send a confession of your feelings. Some Capricorns could receive news about a surprise pregnancy at this time. If you are artistic, use this time to unleash the muse. The Universe is inspiring you everywhere you turn in the last week of the month, so harness your creative spark.
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ISCES (February 19th - March 20th)
As the Sun marches through your financial sector throughout most of the month, money is on your mind. You are very focused on how you can build more abundance and likely noticing important expenses taking place, too. Venus will be moving through your domestic sector throughout most of the month, as well. This means that you should be enjoying your time at home very much and feeling safer in your space. Find ways to update your home so it feels sacred. However, when the Sun moves into your communications sector in the last week of the month, you will realize that you have some extremely important messages to shout to the world. This would be an excellent time to begin a writing or speaking project or update your website and social media. The New Moon on the 22nd could open up a prized opportunity to use your mind and voice, so tell the world your thoughts then.
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